1. Endless Apologies 2. Staying in Toxic Company 3. Phantom Phone Checks 4. Oversensitivity to Criticism 5. Self-Gaslighting 6. The Comparison Trap 7. Sleeping as Escapism 8. Agreeing to Everything For anyone that is in a hurry.
I don’t understand how I’m meant to like myself. It’s easy to love others because I don’t know every mistake they’ve made or every bad thought they’ve had. I don’t have that luxury with myself. I know all of my faults. I’m trapped in the mind and body of the person I hate the most
Sound like you don't have a realistic view of the negativity in other people's lives. Realize that there are evil people out there and that you aren't one of them.
honestly same, but I'm also regarded as one of those "smart students" so making mistakes hurts even more because any little mistake fails my standards, my parent's standards, and the possible standards of both my peers and teachers...
Im only 11 and I finally know how toxic I am to myself. I have many fake friends and enemys but I try to just to fix everything somehow. Thank you for the help ❤😊
Here’s how I describe that I’m being toxic to myself: 1. I don’t get plenty of sleep because my mind is racing constantly 2. I have mood swings that range between being gloomy at best and temperamental at worst. 3. I want help, but I’m afraid of asking for it because there are some people who will not care and instead will say things that will hurt or break me. 4. I don’t trust my family and other people who tell me that they can help me because their attempts at doing so is actually them helping themselves and not me. With all of that self-toxicity combined, I have come to believe that I am being denied proper help.
@@Psych2go I get really nervous when someone criticizes my work, I felt worthless at some point. I learned that I needed to be more of myself. Yes, I am better now thank you for asking :)
Over apologising is an habit I'm slowly trying to change; but I am genuinely proud that the others are less me now as these once were, removing myself from toxic influences has had a huge impact on how I tackle things internally and externally ☺
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes Steve_porss1, I share similar experiences with anxiety, depression, PTSD, and addiction. Psilocybin mushrooms have been a game-changer for me, aiding greatly in my recovery and sobriety."
I wish those were more easily accessible where I live. Microdosing was my next step for my husband. He's 59 & dealing with lots of mental health challenges, possible CTE & a TBI that put him in a coma for 8 days. Unfortunately, I had to get a TPO since he's 6'6, over 300 pounds, and showing violent behavior, constantly talking about harming others. He's aggressive. To anyone reading this, if you're familiar with BPD, is it common to have an obsession with violence?
I feel like I overthink way to much, I have anxiety that I get when I go to places I don't usually go to, and I also have social anxiety. I really hope I find my way and reasoning in life.
Yes. I am toxic to myself. I do a lot of the things mentioned in this video. Not all of them, but a lot of them. I expect myself to be like everyone else who is “normal.” I do have both special needs and mental illness. So yes, I do navigate and express myself differently than others. But I often listen to the judgment and criticism of those who say “don’t do it this way because it’s wrong, and everything else is the right way. Your way is the wrong way.” I’m working to not do this, and I’m working to gain back the freedom.
I struggle with this myself, holding myself to unrealistic standards and the worst part is, that it has gotten me much further than if I hadn't but it's been extreme enough it's taken quite the toll on me mentally so I'm really not sure what to think of it or what to do about it.
All I can say based on my own perspective and experiences is to not be hard on yourself (but I realize it's wayyy easier said than done sometimes) and to give yourself the clarity and mental space you need because I definitely need that sometimes even when I'm complemented or given credit which can be just as exhausting for me whenever I'm criticized or even judged harshly.
@@justoniascool9410 I'm glad I could give some reasonable insight and sometimes it just takes courage to understand why we feel the way we do and to realize that no one handles certain things exactly the same, but I suppose that can be up for debate depending on the situation.
Gaslighting is a sustained effort to make someone question their sanity. It not /just/ lying, exaggerating, downplaying or being wrong. Sometimes you ARE being overly sensitive, sometimes you ARE imagining things.
I think I am toxic to myself, I was acting strange today lately, I asked myself 'Why am I so different lately..' and I realized I was really toxic when I watched this video. I really want to learn about this.. and I like your videos though :>
Agreeing to everything relates to me It's hard seeing people disappointed because I said no to wanting to hang out and I mostly do this just to avoid conflict
Timestamps 1). Endless apologies 0:23 2). Staying in toxic company 1:10 3). Phantom phone checks 1:43 4). Oversensitivity to criticism 2:05 5). Self-gaslighting 3:10 6). The comparison trap 3:53 7). Sleeping as escapism 4:22 8). Agreeing to everything 5:08 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
It’s okay to not feel okay sometimes, and we’re really glad you clicked on this video. 💙 Hopefully, it can bring you a little bit of comfort or perspective-you’re not alone in this! How are you feeling now? 😊
Well based on my personal interpretation, there's plenty that gets me into an upheaval and upsets me a great deal; but lately I've been resorting to coping mechanisms such as listening to music or watching a favorite show which really helped me get through some tumultuous times whether it would be my father's illness or even loads of assignments in college....lol sometimes we all need to take time to reflect and wonder why we're not okay, but that gives me a stronger appreciation for moments of joy.
@@karaloves5948 haha yesss back on you ;) but yea it's been a work in progress for me, and I've had so many ups and downs ..... though I appreciate the gesture 👍 and it just proves I'm not alone .... lol
Me, whos negative to myself all the time: “uhhh…..welll…sure i can watch this video I guess.” (I’m like my own toxic bully) Also me: *putting myself down AS I WATCH THIS*
It's introspective time 1. Endless apologies I do apologize often when I feel insecure or fragile, that's true. That's because I don't want to waste anybody's time, and I feel that, when I ask one of my friends to listen to my ventings, I feel like I'm wasting his time. We could be having a good time together, and instead he's just listening to me. 2. Staying in toxic company I'm forced to live with a toxic family, unfortunately. 3. Phantom phone checks I do check my phone often, but I don't feel anxious because I'm waiting for a notification that's not coming. I'm not looking for the notification, but just to check what time is it. Am I phantom phone checking unconsciously? 4. Oversensitivity to criticism When critisism is constructive or "I didn't like it", I'm completely fine with it. On the contrary, I like it a lot! There's critisism though that I can't stand because it's "thinking-assumption", like "you do this because you think that" when it's not true, and this is not critisism. For example, my sister says "you think that whoever doesn't think like you is stupid", but I never thought something like that. 5. Self-Gaslighting This one is tricky. Because I suffered bullying for many years and my family never gave me the possibility to open myself with them, and because I was taught not to hurt others' feelings, I tend to internalize everything, especially when it's abusive and/or absolutely wrong against me, because I don't want to hurt their feelings. For example, my parents not telling me about business regarding the whole family and telling them to me when it's too late (because of those behaviours I ended up losing my classmates when I was 8, cause we moved, and I ended up taking some bad grades in school because I wasn't given the possibility to study). Because of constant traumas I ended up closing in myself, and only recently I began exploding, unfortunately hurting their feelings, and I feel bad about it because I'm going against my moral. So... am I self-gaslithing myself? 6. The Comparison Trap This one is tricky too, because I'm not sure I'm doing it conciously. Maybe I'm doing it unconsciously? 7. Sleeping as escapism I don't do that. On the contrary, I tend to overthink. A LOT! I go for very long reasonings within myself, trying to understand things that happen around me, but always staying within the intel I've been told and always trying to be anchored to reality. I don't like sleeping because I feel like I'm wasting my time, but on the other hand if I don't sleep my mental sanity crumbles. So I sleep the necessary. 8. Agreeing to everything When talking with someone that has an easy trigger (because of past experiences) I tend to be more cautios with what I say. If I don't understand their point, I usually ask for clarification, but if I don't agree, I just don't agree and I present my counter-argument. I'm very stubborn, but I'm always open to change my mind if I'm proven wrong. So... am I toxic with myself?
1. saying sorry if i express my ideas, im not confident it would work. 2. staying with friends that i know are toxic but they are the only ones i have 3. yeah been doing this, i just read past conversation i have with other people 4. i hate criticism, i dont wanna hear my weakness but i know this is a weakness. 5. just like 4 instead of confronting my problems i gaslighting myself saying this is genuinely you. (being true with yourself is better right?) 6. I compare myself with other human because im a human too, So that would mean that i can do what they can do but somehow i cant 7. i convince myself that im just burnout 8. i have nothing in this world might as well help others.
It's healthy to be critical of your own actions, but doing it too much can cause well this. But I often phantom check my phone out of boredom rather because I like talking to people and well there isn't much I can do at home without any mode of transportation outside of it
you guys really help out. I mean It. Depression, even for me- an 11 year old. still it in depression. you guys make me smile. could I please see you guys upload a video of why parents yell at kids and how it affects kids.
4:23 What is even Worse though is when you just lie down but instead of sleeping, keep tormenting yourself over how much of a failure you are.. I really don't hope anyone finds this relatabe
It's 1:12 AM. It kinda hit me hard the fact i'm ALL of this... I've been in a harsh situation where my parents broke up last year, where my only friend left the city mid year, and in 3 weeks my crush is leaving too. I guess all of this mixed up made me be super toxic to myself, as the lack of friends made me kind of less sociable. In December i'm having my first time with the psychiatrist, so i hope i get better mentally 🙏 Thanks for helping again Psych2Go!
every time I watch a video like this, I see how much I relate to every single point. I can't really turn it around, though. I fear the change, I hate change or a break in schedule, and it makes it impossible to break the unhealthy behaviours :(
Thank you so much, I really hated myself when I couldn't think of something and I realized their criticisms and communications were never constructive.. all they did was "communicate" but "you're negative" has never changed in their "communications" even if I tried my best.
thank you, your videos are something I always look forward to before I go to sleep. Because knowing that other people feel the same way makes me feel less alone then I really am.
Being very apologising is actually good avoiding conflicts knowing because you cannot win just like me. Having bad speaking and poor laungeage is just very worrying.
I love how in the video, the person and their self are just insecure. It's more like, well in my case, I would be that person standing in front of that mirror and the other me would be having their hands around my throat and just screaming how much of a failure that I am.
It's often that I describe myself as the saying "There is no harmful thing anyone can say to you that is worse than what you say to yourself." Which is me.
Wow..just watching this video gave me so many signs that I never recognised myself, I always thought about myself as being the problem in any bad situation, all of these signs are what I have and struggle with, I recently got out of a relationship that just enhanced all of these signs, I am working towards bettering myself, facing these signs and focusing on my own self-worth step by step, thank you Psych2go, your videos have helped me so much in the past, and they continue to do as well❤ I hope and wish the very best to those who are with me in this struggle of self-toxicity, we can do this!
I LOVE your channel!! I’ve spent 60 ish years saying ‘I’m sorry’ WAY too much!! Working on it!! Have a super week, Psych2go team!! You all ROCK!!! Big hugs!! 💕💕
I do #3 hoping someone will want to have a conversation or just ask how I’m doing and usually there’s nothing to see. Such a waste of time, but I can’t help myself.
I have noticed these in my own life due to trauma. Often, when I stare into blank space, I make a reentry, which makes things worse. So, I put up prints of positive art to fill up those blank spaces.
As it should be. If I have any positive thoughts towards myself that's when the guard is dropped and leaves me vulnerable to unwarranted actions without second thought. I must not allow myself to do anything other than my best of my ability. Or it would all be for nothing.
Bingo! I hit all these…. It has taken decades, and still I am struggling…. But at least I can impart on my children my difficulties in the hopes they would not have to end up like me.
The first one is already alerting me... Edit: I personally have all of these signs and this video helped me found what was wrong lately with me. I'm going to try and improve on these points on my side. I just wanted to thank all of the team behind this channel for helping me and others with our psychological probmems. You're heroes ✨
I've always been my own worse enemy. I have NO friends & I don't work anywhere. I almost always go out alone searching for someone to talk to so I don't feel so alone. I am very insecure in myself. I live with Severe mental illness with multiple Psychiatric diagnosis. I think & ask myself "Why would anyone want to be with me?" I do use sleep to waste my day away & I eat emotionally even if I'm not hungry or tired. 😢
I finally reached my breaking point after being toxic to myself, all I do now is just kind of lay around and play video games all day. I feel guilty for it because I’m just being lazy, I don’t feel the urge to get up or clean or get ready to go out or wanna talk and interact with or help anyone but I’m still not doing anything to change it even though I know what the problem is. I feel guilty if I think about doing certain things that I used to enjoy a lot but then I also feel guilty if I do or don’t them so I’m just stuck in this endless cycle of guilt no matter what. I really love going to church but I don’t feel the same urge to want to go like before then I feel guilty for feeling that way. I love helping out at my community work because it made me feel good helping but I don’t help out as much as I did anymore and have gone very quiet and of course, I feel guilty that I’m being lazy and not doing it. I’m just a lazy person now, I was doing so well in the beginning of the year but I feel like I’ve just fallen right back into my own ball of self hatred again
I’m always never sure about anything, or really about my confidence in winning things, because I never know for sure it’s not guaranteed, it might just be modest but really confidence to me, can be a big risk when you don’t know if it’s for sure, it’s always a letdown when you believe about winning but reality checks you the other way around
I definitely have some of these signs, but most especially the comparison trap. I have to constantly remind myself that everyone has their own path and social media doesn’t tell us everything. I should know the latter by now because a good friend of mine recently took her own life and it shocked many of us because she was always so positive and friendly (and she was about to get engaged to her partner). My goal for next year is to be a better version of myself!
Sounds like my younger self twenty years ago. I got myself over it by developing myself physically, intellectually and mentally. It was a long tough road, but in the end it was worth it. (I still check my phone too much, but that's mostly browsing for news and cute animal media)
One thing i almost always do is try not to take anything personal because i excuse everything like “oh they prob have a reason” or “i don’t blame them”
8 Timestamps 1. 0:24 Endless Apologies 2. 1:10 Staying in Toxic Company 3. 1:44 Phantom phone checks 4. 2:06 Oversensitivity to criticism 5. 3:11 Self-gaslighting 6. 3:54 The Comparison trap 7. 4:23 Sleeping as escapism 8. 5:10 Agreeing to everything Oh I'm a bit late
I dunno about you guys, but the comparison trap has done wonders for me. I like lifting weights. Seeing someone stronger than me makes me want to be stronger than them. There will always be a bigger fish, but I wanna be as big a fish as possible.
Well I guess I have all that was listed except for one but the moment I don’t want to help my Aunt or the moment I don’t agree with my cousin on something I’m always the bad guy if I stick up for myself. 😒🙄
Sleep as escaping is sometimes uncontrollable. I am currently not doing well and I am oversleeping a lot. I really don't want to, but it keeps happening and I can't wake up.
The fact i do every single one of these is crazy. I feel as if realizing these things are not normal or as if im pretending these things, but i know im not.
I could agree to most of it....even though i stay up late to hide myself in a digitale world which doesnt exist...i am often just go to bed when i feel really tired or i feel myelf fall asleep
I felt a few of these. Which yeah I try to be agreeable as possible with Others to avoid Conflict. Even if I don't personally agree with them. I try to view it as you have your own Beliefs/Views and I have mine. And I wish to respect that. And yeah when I'm sorry or scared I may say sorry alot. Like to the level of a Broken Record. But I genuinely do mean I am sorry. The last thing I want to do is offend anyone. There probably is more here I relate too.
It has been a while but how is everyone doing this month so far? Any November birthday babies?
Meee mines in 10 days
HERE
My online friend committed…
I'm doing alright, autism takes a toll on me lol
My life's been shit.
1. Endless Apologies
2. Staying in Toxic Company
3. Phantom Phone Checks
4. Oversensitivity to Criticism
5. Self-Gaslighting
6. The Comparison Trap
7. Sleeping as Escapism
8. Agreeing to Everything
For anyone that is in a hurry.
thank you.
MVP
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Thank you.
Bruh i do everything except 2
I don’t understand how I’m meant to like myself. It’s easy to love others because I don’t know every mistake they’ve made or every bad thought they’ve had. I don’t have that luxury with myself. I know all of my faults. I’m trapped in the mind and body of the person I hate the most
Sound like you don't have a realistic view of the negativity in other people's lives. Realize that there are evil people out there and that you aren't one of them.
honestly same, but I'm also regarded as one of those "smart students" so making mistakes hurts even more because any little mistake fails my standards, my parent's standards, and the possible standards of both my peers and teachers...
1. 0:22 Endless appologies
2. 1:11 Staying in toxic company
3. 1:43 Phantom phone checks
4. 2:04 Oversensitivity to critisism
5. 3:09 Self gaslighting
6. 3:53 The comparison trap
7. 4:20 Sleeping as escapism
8. 5:07 Agreeing to everything
Gosh i combine #3 and #7 😢
Same bro
Is it bad if I do 3-8😅
@@DJdaGamer77 Bro I was thinking the same thing
I do all of these lol
God I do 1, 3, 4, 5, 6 and 8
How did this guy just explain my entire life?
For real
We live the same life?
I can relate
usssssssssssssss😭
Im only 11 and I finally know how toxic I am to myself. I have many fake friends and enemys but I try to just to fix everything somehow. Thank you for the help ❤😊
Here’s how I describe that I’m being toxic to myself:
1. I don’t get plenty of sleep because my mind is racing constantly
2. I have mood swings that range between being gloomy at best and temperamental at worst.
3. I want help, but I’m afraid of asking for it because there are some people who will not care and instead will say things that will hurt or break me.
4. I don’t trust my family and other people who tell me that they can help me because their attempts at doing so is actually them helping themselves and not me.
With all of that self-toxicity combined, I have come to believe that I am being denied proper help.
Maybe ppl like us can help eachother 😅
@@June83964yeah... But believing stranger is not so good these days...😅 I am suffering from the same issue above mentioned
For me it's number 3 and 2
I felt unheathy a bit, thank you for posting this
Are you doing better now? What's going on?
@@Psych2go I get really nervous when someone criticizes my work, I felt worthless at some point. I learned that I needed to be more of myself. Yes, I am better now thank you for asking :)
Stay positive. :)
@@Trowel_Battler
@@Pie_Slicessame here
it is WILD that I've been reflecting all day on this exact thing I've realized about myself, then THIS pops up in my sub feed
It's a nice coincidence.
The algorithm is listening
Over apologising is an habit I'm slowly trying to change; but I am genuinely proud that the others are less me now as these once were, removing myself from toxic influences has had a huge impact on how I tackle things internally and externally ☺
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes Steve_porss1, I share similar experiences with anxiety, depression, PTSD, and addiction. Psilocybin mushrooms have been a game-changer for me, aiding greatly in my recovery and sobriety."
I wish those were more easily accessible where I live.
Microdosing was my next step for my husband. He's 59 & dealing with lots of mental health challenges, possible CTE & a TBI that put him in a coma for 8 days. Unfortunately, I had to get a TPO since he's 6'6, over 300 pounds, and showing violent behavior, constantly talking about harming others. He's aggressive. To anyone reading this, if you're familiar with BPD, is it common to have an obsession with violence?
Is he on instagram?
Steve_porss1 is the man
I feel like I overthink way to much, I have anxiety that I get when I go to places I don't usually go to, and I also have social anxiety. I really hope I find my way and reasoning in life.
I feel the same way yo and man this one felt so real like, I struggle with these a lot
Brute force your way out of it, I believe in your willpower!
@ I've been trying to. Thanks for the support!
Yes. I am toxic to myself. I do a lot of the things mentioned in this video. Not all of them, but a lot of them. I expect myself to be like everyone else who is “normal.” I do have both special needs and mental illness. So yes, I do navigate and express myself differently than others. But I often listen to the judgment and criticism of those who say “don’t do it this way because it’s wrong, and everything else is the right way. Your way is the wrong way.” I’m working to not do this, and I’m working to gain back the freedom.
I struggle with this myself, holding myself to unrealistic standards and the worst part is, that it has gotten me much further than if I hadn't but it's been extreme enough it's taken quite the toll on me mentally so I'm really not sure what to think of it or what to do about it.
I hope you're doing ok!
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All I can say based on my own perspective and experiences is to not be hard on yourself (but I realize it's wayyy easier said than done sometimes) and to give yourself the clarity and mental space you need because I definitely need that sometimes even when I'm complemented or given credit which can be just as exhausting for me whenever I'm criticized or even judged harshly.
@EmbraceTheStruggle24 Thankyou
@@justoniascool9410 I'm glad I could give some reasonable insight and sometimes it just takes courage to understand why we feel the way we do and to realize that no one handles certain things exactly the same, but I suppose that can be up for debate depending on the situation.
4:24 loved the omori reference there!
Gaslighting is a sustained effort to make someone question their sanity. It not /just/ lying, exaggerating, downplaying or being wrong.
Sometimes you ARE being overly sensitive, sometimes you ARE imagining things.
I think I am toxic to myself, I was acting strange today lately, I asked myself 'Why am I so different lately..' and I realized I was really toxic when I watched this video. I really want to learn about this.. and I like your videos though :>
I hope you are doing ok.
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Agreeing to everything relates to me
It's hard seeing people disappointed because I said no to wanting to hang out and I mostly do this just to avoid conflict
Timestamps
1). Endless apologies 0:23
2). Staying in toxic company 1:10
3). Phantom phone checks 1:43
4). Oversensitivity to criticism 2:05
5). Self-gaslighting 3:10
6). The comparison trap 3:53
7). Sleeping as escapism 4:22
8). Agreeing to everything 5:08
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
clicked this because I didn’t feel okay!!!:D
It’s okay to not feel okay sometimes, and we’re really glad you clicked on this video. 💙 Hopefully, it can bring you a little bit of comfort or perspective-you’re not alone in this! How are you feeling now? 😊
@@Psych2gostill same way for 2 weeks. Thank you for actually comforting me and telling stuff by the videos on your channels thanks :)!❤️
Well based on my personal interpretation, there's plenty that gets me into an upheaval and upsets me a great deal; but lately I've been resorting to coping mechanisms such as listening to music or watching a favorite show which really helped me get through some tumultuous times whether it would be my father's illness or even loads of assignments in college....lol
sometimes we all need to take time to reflect and wonder why we're not okay, but that gives me a stronger appreciation for moments of joy.
@@EmbraceTheStruggle24 thanks for telling us your comfort stuff^^ I hope your recovering well.
@@karaloves5948 haha yesss back on you ;) but yea it's been a work in progress for me, and I've had so many ups and downs ..... though I appreciate the gesture 👍 and it just proves I'm not alone .... lol
Me, whos negative to myself all the time: “uhhh…..welll…sure i can watch this video I guess.” (I’m like my own toxic bully)
Also me: *putting myself down AS I WATCH THIS*
Same
Me too
lol…you, me and a zillion other humans…😂
Fr me too-
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It's introspective time
1. Endless apologies
I do apologize often when I feel insecure or fragile, that's true. That's because I don't want to waste anybody's time, and I feel that, when I ask one of my friends to listen to my ventings, I feel like I'm wasting his time. We could be having a good time together, and instead he's just listening to me.
2. Staying in toxic company
I'm forced to live with a toxic family, unfortunately.
3. Phantom phone checks
I do check my phone often, but I don't feel anxious because I'm waiting for a notification that's not coming. I'm not looking for the notification, but just to check what time is it. Am I phantom phone checking unconsciously?
4. Oversensitivity to criticism
When critisism is constructive or "I didn't like it", I'm completely fine with it. On the contrary, I like it a lot! There's critisism though that I can't stand because it's "thinking-assumption", like "you do this because you think that" when it's not true, and this is not critisism. For example, my sister says "you think that whoever doesn't think like you is stupid", but I never thought something like that.
5. Self-Gaslighting
This one is tricky. Because I suffered bullying for many years and my family never gave me the possibility to open myself with them, and because I was taught not to hurt others' feelings, I tend to internalize everything, especially when it's abusive and/or absolutely wrong against me, because I don't want to hurt their feelings. For example, my parents not telling me about business regarding the whole family and telling them to me when it's too late (because of those behaviours I ended up losing my classmates when I was 8, cause we moved, and I ended up taking some bad grades in school because I wasn't given the possibility to study). Because of constant traumas I ended up closing in myself, and only recently I began exploding, unfortunately hurting their feelings, and I feel bad about it because I'm going against my moral. So... am I self-gaslithing myself?
6. The Comparison Trap
This one is tricky too, because I'm not sure I'm doing it conciously. Maybe I'm doing it unconsciously?
7. Sleeping as escapism
I don't do that. On the contrary, I tend to overthink. A LOT! I go for very long reasonings within myself, trying to understand things that happen around me, but always staying within the intel I've been told and always trying to be anchored to reality. I don't like sleeping because I feel like I'm wasting my time, but on the other hand if I don't sleep my mental sanity crumbles. So I sleep the necessary.
8. Agreeing to everything
When talking with someone that has an easy trigger (because of past experiences) I tend to be more cautios with what I say. If I don't understand their point, I usually ask for clarification, but if I don't agree, I just don't agree and I present my counter-argument. I'm very stubborn, but I'm always open to change my mind if I'm proven wrong.
So... am I toxic with myself?
maybe, but i think that you should decide your own mind on that question
all of your videos click with the things I've been reading in the book 'Magnetic Aura', warm recommendation to everyone
Guess am toxic to myself... Thanks for making me realize it
Be kind to yourself. I hope you're doing ok.
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1. saying sorry if i express my ideas, im not confident it would work.
2. staying with friends that i know are toxic but they are the only ones i have
3. yeah been doing this, i just read past conversation i have with other people
4. i hate criticism, i dont wanna hear my weakness but i know this is a weakness.
5. just like 4 instead of confronting my problems i gaslighting myself saying this is genuinely you. (being true with yourself is better right?)
6. I compare myself with other human because im a human too, So that would mean that i can do what they can do but somehow i cant
7. i convince myself that im just burnout
8. i have nothing in this world might as well help others.
It's healthy to be critical of your own actions, but doing it too much can cause well this. But I often phantom check my phone out of boredom rather because I like talking to people and well there isn't much I can do at home without any mode of transportation outside of it
you guys really help out. I mean It. Depression, even for me- an 11 year old. still it in depression. you guys make me smile. could I please see you guys upload a video of why parents yell at kids and how it affects kids.
4:23 What is even Worse though is when you just lie down but instead of sleeping, keep tormenting yourself over how much of a failure you are..
I really don't hope anyone finds this relatabe
i know i’m being delusional when i put myself down but i just can’t stop. deep down i truly believe i don’t deserve living at all
It's 1:12 AM. It kinda hit me hard the fact i'm ALL of this...
I've been in a harsh situation where my parents broke up last year, where my only friend left the city mid year, and in 3 weeks my crush is leaving too.
I guess all of this mixed up made me be super toxic to myself, as the lack of friends made me kind of less sociable.
In December i'm having my first time with the psychiatrist, so i hope i get better mentally 🙏
Thanks for helping again Psych2Go!
every time I watch a video like this, I see how much I relate to every single point. I can't really turn it around, though. I fear the change, I hate change or a break in schedule, and it makes it impossible to break the unhealthy behaviours :(
Thank you so much, I really hated myself when I couldn't think of something and I realized their criticisms and communications were never constructive.. all they did was "communicate" but "you're negative" has never changed in their "communications" even if I tried my best.
thank you, your videos are something I always look forward to before I go to sleep. Because knowing that other people feel the same way makes me feel less alone then I really am.
Being very apologising is actually good avoiding conflicts knowing because you cannot win just like me. Having bad speaking and poor laungeage is just very worrying.
I love how in the video, the person and their self are just insecure. It's more like, well in my case, I would be that person standing in front of that mirror and the other me would be having their hands around my throat and just screaming how much of a failure that I am.
Thank you now I can confidentaly say i am not toxic to my self. Love the videos!
It's often that I describe myself as the saying "There is no harmful thing anyone can say to you that is worse than what you say to yourself." Which is me.
Wow..just watching this video gave me so many signs that I never recognised myself, I always thought about myself as being the problem in any bad situation, all of these signs are what I have and struggle with, I recently got out of a relationship that just enhanced all of these signs, I am working towards bettering myself, facing these signs and focusing on my own self-worth step by step, thank you Psych2go, your videos have helped me so much in the past, and they continue to do as well❤ I hope and wish the very best to those who are with me in this struggle of self-toxicity, we can do this!
I do all of these. Thanks for pointing it out. I have never realized I did that
I LOVE your channel!! I’ve spent 60 ish years saying ‘I’m sorry’ WAY too much!! Working on it!! Have a super week, Psych2go team!! You all ROCK!!! Big hugs!! 💕💕
All of the above that I’m working on. Was having a discussion with my partner about our own self toxicities.
I do #3 hoping someone will want to have a conversation or just ask how I’m doing and usually there’s nothing to see. Such a waste of time, but I can’t help myself.
Same here
I have noticed these in my own life due to trauma. Often, when I stare into blank space, I make a reentry, which makes things worse. So, I put up prints of positive art to fill up those blank spaces.
This video is as comforting as a warm and cozy home
As it should be. If I have any positive thoughts towards myself that's when the guard is dropped and leaves me vulnerable to unwarranted actions without second thought. I must not allow myself to do anything other than my best of my ability. Or it would all be for nothing.
I am satisfied with myself, despite my "shadow-self" that regularly doesn't "celebrate parties"; it's just "liking" instead of "loving".
Bullying myself is my job but yes it's not good I know and thank for making me see that 😊
Bingo! I hit all these…. It has taken decades, and still I am struggling…. But at least I can impart on my children my difficulties in the hopes they would not have to end up like me.
.l chose not to have children because being like me would be a cruel punishment.
The first one is already alerting me...
Edit: I personally have all of these signs and this video helped me found what was wrong lately with me. I'm going to try and improve on these points on my side.
I just wanted to thank all of the team behind this channel for helping me and others with our psychological probmems.
You're heroes ✨
I’m taking notes and eating popcorn 🍿
I think it's important for others to be educated about this and think about it carefully.
New animator has such a nice style. Very cute!
I've definitely been guilty of all 8 signs at some point in my life!
Uhm… yea I can relate to this way too much. Good to know something I already knew ☠️☠️
Whenever i see psyc2go videos i feel calm and can relate to myself like dayumn bro thanks for being here
Watching this video and still being toxic to myself. It’s like I can’t stop. 🙁
"Wow, 2:45 gave me chills. 🕊💙 Your content makes such a difference for those struggling. Thank you! 🌱
I've always been my own worse enemy. I have NO friends & I don't work anywhere. I almost always go out alone searching for someone to talk to so I don't feel so alone. I am very insecure in myself. I live with
Severe mental illness with multiple Psychiatric diagnosis. I think & ask myself "Why would anyone want to be with me?" I do use sleep to waste my day away & I eat emotionally even if I'm not hungry or tired. 😢
Im sorry for you... but remember you're important,and if you ask why people wants to saty with you it's because you're a great person :3 ❤
@Ale_Jupiter thsnk you for your positive support. I know we'll never meet in person, but I feel you would have been a great friend to have. My loss.
@@lindaalvarez8855 thanks,I don't know you too but im 100% sure you're a kind-hearted person♡⚡️❤️
@Ale_Jupiter that meant so much to me! I wish we did know each other for real. I could really use a friend.
@Ale_Jupiter "Do you live in New York?"
I finally reached my breaking point after being toxic to myself, all I do now is just kind of lay around and play video games all day. I feel guilty for it because I’m just being lazy, I don’t feel the urge to get up or clean or get ready to go out or wanna talk and interact with or help anyone but I’m still not doing anything to change it even though I know what the problem is. I feel guilty if I think about doing certain things that I used to enjoy a lot but then I also feel guilty if I do or don’t them so I’m just stuck in this endless cycle of guilt no matter what. I really love going to church but I don’t feel the same urge to want to go like before then I feel guilty for feeling that way. I love helping out at my community work because it made me feel good helping but I don’t help out as much as I did anymore and have gone very quiet and of course, I feel guilty that I’m being lazy and not doing it. I’m just a lazy person now, I was doing so well in the beginning of the year but I feel like I’ve just fallen right back into my own ball of self hatred again
I’m always never sure about anything, or really about my confidence in winning things, because I never know for sure it’s not guaranteed, it might just be modest but really confidence to me, can be a big risk when you don’t know if it’s for sure, it’s always a letdown when you believe about winning but reality checks you the other way around
I definitely have some of these signs, but most especially the comparison trap. I have to constantly remind myself that everyone has their own path and social media doesn’t tell us everything. I should know the latter by now because a good friend of mine recently took her own life and it shocked many of us because she was always so positive and friendly (and she was about to get engaged to her partner). My goal for next year is to be a better version of myself!
2:30 What about destructive criticism?
2:50
@@SpherionYT Thanks
Ignorance
@ I say to the one who responded to me thank you, okay?
@@Bellarina-e4e 👍🏻
Man, the timing with these videos could just not be better!
Sounds like my younger self twenty years ago. I got myself over it by developing myself physically, intellectually and mentally. It was a long tough road, but in the end it was worth it. (I still check my phone too much, but that's mostly browsing for news and cute animal media)
One thing i almost always do is try not to take anything personal because i excuse everything like “oh they prob have a reason” or “i don’t blame them”
Your videos are teaching me so much about myself and helping me try to improve mentally. Im working my hardest to get better gonna keep hoping
The art style is awesome!
This is incredibly therapeutic, thank you so much ❤
3:33 I am way too invested in the damny phantom fandom dude, i see him in everything xddd
I feel unhealthy, I feel terrible :(.. thank you for making a video like that
8 Timestamps
1. 0:24 Endless Apologies
2. 1:10 Staying in Toxic Company
3. 1:44 Phantom phone checks
4. 2:06 Oversensitivity to criticism
5. 3:11 Self-gaslighting
6. 3:54 The Comparison trap
7. 4:23 Sleeping as escapism
8. 5:10 Agreeing to everything
Oh I'm a bit late
I’m criticizing myself way to much, but it all I know
i have self gaslighting oversensitivity to criticism the comparison trap and agreeing to everything
Don't be an option.
Become inevitable!
I've been waiting for this!
Yes, yes I am.
I dunno about you guys, but the comparison trap has done wonders for me. I like lifting weights. Seeing someone stronger than me makes me want to be stronger than them. There will always be a bigger fish, but I wanna be as big a fish as possible.
3:58 It really helped me I was in a bad mood because I got 3rd place and i was comparing myself to others
Well I guess I have all that was listed except for one but the moment I don’t want to help my Aunt or the moment I don’t agree with my cousin on something I’m always the bad guy if I stick up for myself. 😒🙄
Oh, so this is why I'm so critic for myself
Sleep as escaping is sometimes uncontrollable. I am currently not doing well and I am oversleeping a lot. I really don't want to, but it keeps happening and I can't wake up.
1, 6 and 7 are definitely things I'm guilty for.
i’m used to do/be all of these except sleeping as escapement but i don’t think i’m toxic to myself
I'm not sure if it's just me, but I find it easy to just hate yourself over everything, and it's hard to like yourself over the small things.
This video has explained me perfectly.
I liked the reference to Omori a lot !!
I saw u posted and I felt sad and this helped so much ty!!
This helped me a lot, thank you!
The fact i do every single one of these is crazy. I feel as if realizing these things are not normal or as if im pretending these things, but i know im not.
These are great and all but that’s impossible nowadays for me, when I live a life of disappointment and judgment I’m not ever gonna believe in myself
I literally just self-harmed I think I already know I am 😆
stay away from toxic people
so I quarantine I from me 🙂
Yeah, the sleeping... MAN I have to quit that! - It's not terrible but a bad habit I find myself falling into. 😢😢😢😢
the best decision I've made this year is reading the book 'Magnetic Aura'
I just saw the thumbnail and i just said YES
Notification squad 😊
I could agree to most of it....even though i stay up late to hide myself in a digitale world which doesnt exist...i am often just go to bed when i feel really tired or i feel myelf fall asleep
High respect for the Omori References
I felt a few of these. Which yeah I try to be agreeable as possible with Others to avoid Conflict. Even if I don't personally agree with them. I try to view it as you have your own Beliefs/Views and I have mine. And I wish to respect that. And yeah when I'm sorry or scared I may say sorry alot. Like to the level of a Broken Record. But I genuinely do mean I am sorry. The last thing I want to do is offend anyone. There probably is more here I relate too.
I should call my friends for more things that just to hang out. It didn't occur to me that I was being selfish.