I like how the mother in the beginning completely envelopes herself in the victim role. And within 4 minutes her daughter completely pulls the mask off of her sending her running. The mom sat there and acted like her daughter stole or gave away her things when in actuality the girl had no idea what bills were due and at 23 how can she pay for two households ?!
If the daughter love her mother, she would have helped her mother. It's not the daughters' responsibility, but love should have made her do it. What if it was you.
@@ursulaporche529 if there’s no money and she has one income. What is the daughter supposed to do ? Start prostituting to pay her moms bills ? Black folks need to get their life and retirement insurance game together like other cultures do. Insurance is the one thing that would have helped this family
@@carrotsandpotatoes5019 Exactly the daughter should've left her siblings homeless and went on to get a house and car. When you love your family your actions should show it.
I’m 20 years old and if I seen my mother like that something would kick in and make me a top hustler I’m not gon lie I would neverrrr leave my mama and siblings like that everrr
I believe that this is a generational thing. My mom is about her age, and she really does believe that she owed endless loyalty and no criticism. Her favorite thing to say is “honor your mother and father, it is a commandment”. Ridiculous-the dramatics, the victimhood, the learned helplessness, the gaslighting, blameshifting, and sweeping it all under the rug. It’s all so familiar.
You are soooo right sis! It's most definitely a generational curse which unfortunately a lot of us black daughters are dealing with when it comes to a narcissistic black mother! 🙄😒👎🏾
Preach. You're right. it's definitely a generational thing. Sadly, it's expected to run yourself into the ground. That generation of black mothers never knew the importance of self-preservation/selfcare. I watched my mother ignore her own health caring for everyone but herself.
Wow from this comment alone 😢...my mom used that scripture too...and I told her to keep reading where it says "Parents don't go bruising your children in the head" ...I remember I would explain to people how my mother was and everyone told me that I was lying and I was crazy cuz my mother is so sweet...I said yea she's sweet to everyone but me..it's just an act ..she treated me horribly and I'm still affected by it at 42 years old.... calling me evil...the Devi...a liar...I told her about being molested by my sister and her friends... I was ignored and married someone that treated me like how my mom treated me. Undiagnosed scoliosis living with extreme pain all of my life being told that nothing's wrong with me ..and just trying to force herself into my adult life when I no longer have a desire or need for her to be in it ..I accepted that she'll never be a real person...it's too much
As she should! Her mother sacrificed all her life for her, so now your mom is out of her death bed you need to PULL UP!!! That girl gone grow old one day and wish she never treated her mom that way, period!!!
I’m a 25, the eldest of 6 children. When Karamo said “you didn’t deserve that relationship with your mom”, I felt that. My mom will not acknowledge the physical or emotional pain she caused me. I practically raised and am still raising my siblings. It hurts. I lost my dad when I was 11. Im currently grieving that my mom will never be the mom I needed. 💔 but one thing I DO know is that I will be a better mother, partner and friend when it’s my turn.
Gorl, you seem like a strong woman that rly went throught some stuff. As an only child, i didn't have do that and and I respect you for being able to do that for your siblings, you really are a strong person.
No, but the daughter could have asked for help she is not 5 yrs old, parents need their children when their health fails them and get older, who else will help them. They just need to apologize to each other and move forward in love. I know it can be done I took care of both my parents I left my home and move in their house to maintain it and care for my disabled Dad while my Mom was hospitalized. Servanthood takes dropping your ego and thinking of someone else. When your selfish you say who cares I need to live my life
He’s shedding a lot of light on the pathology in the community! Your children are not your caregivers, and you are not endlessly entitled to everything that your children have simply by virtue of being their parent.
God gave this young lady a job to do which was, to honor her. Why? So that it will be well with her and that she would live long on the face of the earth. Reprobate ungrateful people in this comment is unbelievable. There is nothing that daughter can do for her mother that can compensate for her risking life to give birth to her. PERIOD!
@@1talldaddy these stupid words that the colonizers make up. Is not real!! Where in Africa did the word codependent come from before you all were brought here in chains?
@@ththim7785 well the mother needs to take a one way trip to Africa and let them deal with her bull.so the daughter can be at peace and be happy without her.
I grow up as the only girl in a family of 8 siblings in Africa. We were poor after my dad pass on. I had to take care of my mother and my siblings. My mother appreciated each and ever small things we did for her but she never demanded it. This mother need to appreciate what her 23 year old has done and is doing for her. She has to realize that her been in hospital for months, forced this young girl to grow up into an adult overnight. She need to appreciate her daughter regardless and let her be
These were my thoughts. I'm the oldest and I do a lot but my Mom is so grateful for everything I do and if she wasn't it would all stop right then and there.
@@rachelhouse9187 you do not have to be there for your parents tf we didn't ask to be here XD we don't owe our parents SHIT it would be nice to do that for our parents if they DESERVE it.
Yeah you right but as a parent we ain’t obligated to take care of a disrespectful grown ass child that lady raised her sheltered her she can’t get the same you know she had them kids you put them out that’s not right kids disrespectful period honor your mother and father
@@BrandieButler-g3f😂 yes you do, its the whole point of being family. I understand if you had toxic relationships with your parent but if they did right by you, then theres no reason you shouldn’t do right by them. Its plain selfishness atp
Out of all the episodes this one really hit home. As the oldest were always put on this weird pedestal that were replacement parents or co-parents and given so many expectations that aren't really reasonable. I'm so glad he doesn't justify the toxic cycle
@@kierradockery4958 Say that 🗣🗣🗣 for the dummies in the back.She(mom) opened her legs and had them.*She* needs to care after them.They are her children.Why unload all that responsibility on her daughter when she made those decisions and then get mad because the daughter chose to live her own life.Those mothers are selfish and self conseited.Thats really called emotional enslavement.It"s wrong.
That’s not all mothers. I admit when I’m wrong. I feel terrible when something I did hurt my child. Of course it wasn’t intentional. But we all make mistakes. Children don’t see their parents as humans who make mistakes. I did the same think when I was younger. Once I got older I could see my parents as just human. They didn’t have all the answers. They were just as lost as I was, just trying to figure things out as they went along. Now I give them grace. They still do things and I just have to separate them as a person from the behavior I didn’t like. I love them even when I don’t like something they do. I hope my daughter will give me the same grace because I love her no matter what. I’m not perfect. I’m gonna mess up or have quirks she doesn’t like. All I can do is try to be better. I’d like to apologize to you as a mom, for all the times your mother didn’t. I don’t know why she didn’t but it’s not all moms.
Thank god I’m not that mom. My kids know I apologize any time I am wrong. ❤ I learned from my moms mistakes. She never apologized for her wrongdoings so I make sure I do.
The mother was expecting waaaaaay too much from her oldest daughter. And her business affairs couldn’t have been in proper order before falling into a coma. You don’t just lose everything in 30 days unless you haven’t been paying your bills prior to then. The mother has a weird caretaker complex.
These people expect you to provide for them financially for the rest of their lives when they were never willing to do it for themselves. They require less from the men they lie with than their own children. It's sickening. I'm still trying to find a way to abandon my mother after all she's done.
Mom said she was helping everyone else. Probably giving her very last and sacrificing her own before she became ill. Woke up and folks didn't feel the same way about her back... that has to hurt!
The daughter is so adorable and I just want to hug her and let her know that I see her. She's a great daughter and did the best she could. Don't cry baby. Your wonderful and your enough just the way you are.
Damn this one broke my heart ! As the oldest girl in the family I totally understand how this young lady feels . Her mom has that old school mindset that your oldest is responsible for every thing ! It’s a draining bondage ! It’s so sad she can’t see all her daughter tried to do for her! And just because her mom did it to her, it doesn’t make the pattern a healthy one . Young lady protect your peace at all costs ! You can still live your mom form a distance . I’m at that Point with my family now
I had to distance myself from my family too, yet, if someone needs me, I will try to help the best I can. Just don't want the disrespect that comes with my decision to help or not. Sometimes prayer is all I can offer
JUST DO IT. LOVE THEM IF POSSIBLE FROM A DISTANCE. PEOPLE EXPECT YOU TO RAISE KIDS THEY LAY DOWN & HAVE. LEAVE YOU WITH THE RESPONSIBILITIES OF MOTHERHOOD WHILE THEY DRINK & PARTY "FAMILY" "FRIENDS" YA' WONT BE SORRY, THANK GOD YOU WE THERE TO "HELP" ONLY GOD KNOWS WHAT MAY HAVE HAPPENED IF YOU WEREN'T. YA' WONT REGRET THE BONDAGE & MENTAL HOLD THAT WILL BE CARRIED INTO GENERATIONS TO COME !
As the oldest I felt this also! I had a handicapped sister, I found my parents will and they had left everything to her. I was heartbroken and betrayed by them knowing that they raised me as “the caretaker”
Same here, never want to see or speak to anyone of them again. I surrounded myself with a solid foundation if friends who have become my family in every sense of the word. This woman will drain her daughter until she does not even recognize herself. Girl RUNNNNNN as fast as you can.
When she said I did this so you can be strong, I immediately felt my brain shut off. She didn't need you to make her strong, she needed to be protected. Period.
@@allaboutshanel6676 At 22, my daughter doesn’t make enough money to cover my rent. I make enough to cover rent for a 4 bedroom/3 bathroom house. My daughter makes enough to barely pay for a 1 bedroom. As a parent, we still helping to finance them at 22. I don’t expect my 22 year daughter to PAY my weekly child care fee of $300 for twins. After you have a kid, they ask you in the hospital, do you have a will, a power of attorney, financial power of attorney. You know this going into a hospital for the first time. Her mom has several kids. She knew legally what she was supposed to do. That’s not her daughter’s fault, that she didn’t handle that. They provide temporary disability insurance that you pay on monthly, in situations like this. So if my stuff isn’t together, it’s not my daughter fault. The only thing I expect for my daughters to do, is go to my closet, pull out my brown envelope & follow instructions because when I come home, I want to be comfortable, not angry!! It time to start taking accountability. However, I am sorry they are passing through this tough time. You can tell they love each other deeply, but she has to get off that babies back & let her help her the best way she can.❤️❤️I love black women and from a Black woman, it’s time for us to take accountability across the board & not when it benefits us….
@@allaboutshanel6676 this girl was 22 how was she going to pay rent, pay her car, be a mother to her siblings and provide food. This girl was barely an adult. She did the best she could an her mom is blaming her for everything
Have a dear friend that lost his mom, has to take care of his lil sister. Dude is depressed as fuck and he's mentally 40 from this but it comes with a cost.
Older daughters are forced to become mothers to children they DIDNT birth all while the mother having high expectations of them. The day they have the nerve to go out into the world and start saving money for themselves, and building their own future they become the family enemy and everyone claims they “changed”. Nothing changed about them they were never truly who they were SUPPOSED to be a CHILD, a SISTER, a DAUGHTER not the family’s backbone. Imagine how jealous she is of her siblings to be able to be so carefree of those type of responsibilities I def felt her pain.
I've been doing this for years and honestly it draining and exhausting, truth is I don't have the heart to look away, I just can't. I really feel for this girl and I am happy for her that she could make herself come first before everyone else,which must be difficult,but the mom is expecting too much.
That's what I said she must wasn't paying her bills before that all happen to her, the repo man not going to take your car after 1.month they Mail you letters an stalk your phone for months. She was already struggling to pay her bills
@@jahdestamuzik9145 she obviously is not being truthful even going through eviction you have 90 days to pay or get out . Bills can go delinquent for a month and be paid after with a few late fees at the most even internet stays on for two months without payment moms story is bogus
That part didn't make sense to me either. Most financial institutions give you a 10 day grace period monthly on your car loan, and then they simply add on a late fee. You normally have to be at least 3 months behind for them to consider a repo.
I can relate to this. Our mom is the same exact way. She expects my twin and I to take care of her!!! She’s the MOM! We have our own children that we’ve raised.
Fr this woman is acting like she’s 86, she was sick but she does seem capable she wants her daughter to be a mother to her and that’s not even fair being that she’s still very young and has a life of her own to live.
Alexi stated in other comments that her mother and siblings lived in Texas at that time and she lives in Kansas. Her mother was in the hospital in Louisiana while in a coma. Alexi did come get her family and they all lived with her. She said it was too much for her to bear. She did pay her mother's bills and gave her a car as well when she got out of the hospital. There's a lot missing out of the talk show and made it seem like the daughter just left after her mother was in the hospital. The daughter did the best she could. The mom was mad because she lost all she had because she didn't have a backup plan.
@@jahdestamuzik9145 your young children who don’t even have life figured out are not obligated to keep u in care yes it’s great to care for ur mother but their 22 still young she’s cared for her other kids and was there so please .
@@jahdestamuzik9145 she is the mother regardless. She should have taught her daughter the skills to keep the house going. She is 22. and in this economy things arent cheap. realistically she cant pay the car, house, and kid bills. The mom wanted a MAN not a daughter. Sad reality is that the mother failed before she even got sick and it is not the child responsibility regardless of the situation.
People shouldn’t have kids until they are ready to do 100% what it takes to be a parent to allowed to be a child until they’re not a child and even when they’re in adult the child as the parents nothing other than to create their own lives, all these people that have sex, and then expect their children to serve them is so evil
She is just selfish! Sad excuse of a mother.... She never asked to be born for fucks sake, her daughter had an accident also! Whose looking out for her daughter? Shameless woman.... Ungrateful to booth am vessed😡🤬
My mom loved me and took care of me when I was little and helpless and now that I am all grown, she is my number 1 priority. I call her my first born daughter. Nothing is too big to do for mom. Thankfully, she is very humble and thankful.
I agree with you guys. My mom has always looked out for me. The daughter clearly said it's not my job to take care of you. How is it not??? At 17 yrs old my mom was diagnosed with cancer and given 6 months to live. Being the oldest with 3 younger siblings it was hard but it was DEFINITELY my responsibility..
@@markeyshacarreker5651 you missed the part where she did go to the hospital and take care of her mother. In 30 days her mom lost her place to stay and her car. Things had to be out of order already. We have no idea what that young lady has gone through up until the coma. We shouldn't expect ourselves out of others. It doesn't make her wrong We don't know her life from this small snippet.
I totally get that.The life my mother had for me was not the life I wanted,I simply chose mines and that made me the Blacksheep.So be it.But I don"t do that to my own kids.I let them be free to live their lifes.Why is that so hard for people to get.I didn't put my own personal designs on them,and I didn't let her do that to me.Today my adult children and I have a beautiful relationship with mutual understanding.It"s actually healthy.I let them live their lifes without manipulation. Love my Grand kids.
Her losing her stuff is no one's fault but hers. Her 22 year old daughter did her best and the mother doesn't appreciate it at all. So sad to expect a 22 year old to be able to do all that.
I don’t feel like her big as worries it was the materialistic stuff. Her biggest worries was if anything happened to her would you be able to care for your sisters and brothers your siblings? and that was even proven not to be true based on the fact that her mother literally went to a traumatic situation, almost losing her life came out of the hospital and she didn’t have anywhere to turn to, but her daughter and her daughter shut her out my mother would never go through some stuff like that and I’m the only one to be financially able to help my siblings and my mother and I turned my back on them and then state the reason I did that was because I want it to go on and leave my regular life
@@holycannoli9744she should have had her bills paid. No one takes away your home and your car after 30 days or less. Her bills should have been in autopay like a responsible adult.
@@jessn5677if her lease had just ended like the daughter clearly said, then yes they would!!!! The mom is the only person who could resign that lease!!!
This breaks my heart. My mom had stage 4 breast cancer when I was in middle school and she was so sick that myself and my brother had to take on a parenting roll and help our mom as much as we could. My mom beat cancer but it was scary for a long time that she wouldn’t make it. My mom is the strongest woman I know and I couldn’t ask for a better mother
It’s not that she doesn’t love her daughter she does . She has that old school mindset that your child is supposed to do every thing for you and it’s just not healthy . She learned it from her mom and expected the same for her daughter. It’s not a lack of love .. it’s a lack of knowing how to parent differently than what’s been passed down.
Personality disorders 😢 my mother acts identical to her. Entitled and grandiose. She has to be loved, accepted, and respected and she's above us always. It's so damaging...
Typical narc mother . If the daughter has her own house and car as well how could the mom even think she could pay for HER rent and car as well as take care of her kids at only 22 ? Unrealistic expectations & just sounds like mom is looking for anyone to blame .
It’s so important that parents set themselves up so that their kids don’t have to bare the burden of something like this. It’s not kids responsibility to care for them. That’s a luxury and a privilege to have kids to care for you when you do right. Not an obligation.
Parents often do make their oldest child their emotional husbands especially when there is no father/fathers around to help provide and support. The daughter is still young and she did the best she could at the time. As a mother to be I understand from the mom pov however at the end of the day I am the adult and I am not my daughters responsibility, I should have all my affairs in order just in case if something happens everything will be okay. Life insurance policies/ living will/ assets/ savings/ have your bills paid ahead of time or paid off what you could.
At at the age of 23 my mom was placed on life support I am the youngest but she gave me power of attorney. My mom was on life support for 6 months. During that time I paid her bills and made her medical decisions. The difference of the situation is I had no younger siblings to look after and my mom always made sure I knew what business needed to be tended to. But my mom was constantly sick so she prepared us for whatever. She didn't make me feel obligated to do it but she did appreciate it tho. Mom needs to get her things in order in case something like this ever happens again and have someone who is willing and able to handle her affairs.
@@ms.p1969 yeah but I still don’t do that to your mother u only get one God said praise your mother and honor that wasn’t honor at all so u can say what u want u ain’t higher than God so why should I care about what U say I ain’t the only one who knows she’s is very selfish ass hell to her mother me and my siblings want let our mother lose her home with my little brothers and sisters living there nah not at all sorry
I hate to say it, Patsy took Alexus for granted when she lived in her home. She needs to realize that it's a lot of weight on Alexis' shoulders and she can't be there for her beck and call all the time. Alexus needs to live her own life and Patsy needs to appreciate her for everything she's done for her. This is a long road to repairing a troubled mother-daughter relationship.
Alexus need to look at who cared for her when she was in that car accident. Love is nowhere in this picture. Atleast the mother know what's going to happen to her other children when she die. This gives her time to make preparations. I wonder how Alexus siblings look at her now?
This young lady was 22 years old and it was a lot put on her at that age. The mom is angry at her because she expected her daughter to step up and act like she was 55 years old. I’m going to help my parents as much as I can but they raise me to a certain age and it was up to me to move forward. They gave me my foundation in life if it came down to my parents being old and needing help I’m 58 my parents are in the 80s I would do what I can to help them and to keep them safe, but this young lady was only 22 with siblings mothers car note everything and at least she put her mom things in storage so they wouldn’t end out on the street. She paid to make sure these kids ate and have the things they needed and I feel that she did enough for her age.
👏🏾👏🏾YESS and is why she has all kind of resentment! She was just able to start legally drinking and being an adult then boom instant mom and caretaker 🤯
@@neeta_jenks she was in coma what was the mom supposed to do but the mom.help her out with bbl that woman self and only thing of her self please dont it's mf taken care they parents at teenagers and the teenager was me please stop talking let this been on IG everybody would said that lady wrong
@@allaboutshanel6676📢 having a place to stay and a car don't make you a parent 🤷🏾♀️🤭. The girl didn't take her siblings simply cause she wasn't EQUIPPED to do so 🤦🏾♀️. You don't know the full circumstances and neither do I .. the girl was 22 years old! She did what she could do. She could have done nothing at all! The mom should have had a will drawn then proper decisions could have been made. 🤷🏾♀️
My own ppl NEVER prepaired but will to point the blame at ANYONE when things go down. 😩😑Self accountability is a MF! The sooner you acknowledge it, the better you will be🤞🏾
@@neeta_jenks shut up u don't know what u is talking bout she was obligated to do so cause she was in coma but mother just said she hellped her with her bbl please don't speaking I'm.not saying don't make her mom I said mom already had everything and she lost it probably on purpose had lie say lady pass so she would lose everything stop defending this lady that lady have. O kids it's no excuses barely a life u don't turn ur back on ur family idc what none y'all people are saying if u can leave ur mom after coma that's y'all omm
The question is “Where are her Children father’s”???? That’s a huge responsibility for a 22 yr old 😳 The Mother shouldn’t have anger toward the daughter. she should be rejoicing that she have a second chance at life! She made it out of ICU. I really hope they can forgive and move on with a positive family environment 🙏
If the daughter didn't care she wouldn't have put her things in storage and feed her kids. At 22 who can pay their bills and pay another person's rent and car note?? Many companies can work with you for 30 days. She can't blame her for losing things that sound like they were not up to date. Does the mom not have siblings, other older relatives that could have stepped in to help this young girl? She was in a car accident and who knows what else. The mom said the daughter was selfish, etc then ends up saying yes she did do things for me and my kids. They both need counseling. My heart broke whrn the daughter was afraid to say she was almost raped. She could not even say the word so that says she is still traumatized. Folks always think about themselves when they need help but never stop to think what others are going through or what their headspace is like. I pray for them all.
Hello , I am the daughter and I have been in counseling for years I actually want to do spoke out video on me and my moms relationship . My uncle passed away when I was younger so as for me im expected to step up to the plate and provide for my family at all costs and don’t get me wrong I’ve done so much but it never gets recognized . I told Karamo that I didn’t want to just down my mom I just felt like she been through trauma causing her to be like this .
@@jusstlexy I'm so glad to hear you are in counseling. Sounds like you did the best you could & that's all that can be expected. Hopefully your mom gets counseling, starts to heal and you all can be closer. Good luck to you.
She not just talking about only bills she talking about being there when she come home from the hospital a mother wanna see their oldest child to be there besides them the daughter is wrong I ain’t bias ima tell it like it is
This woman was in a coma, for a long time, her daughter is her family, who else must come into the space of her mom, if there is no other family, where is, the caring, and most of all the Love, Love covers multitude of many things , if her daughter had to be in a coma, this mother would have break her back to help her. The wheel turns. I hope the mother recover fully, so that she can become stronger to take care of herself and children. May God Bless her mightly.
The mom is under obligation to take care of her children. So is the father! She has more smoke for a young woman who is in college/university years, than the man/men she procreated with. 22yr olds across the world barely have anything to their name, especially in this climate. This girl had to raise her siblings, provide for them, take care of her mom & try to take care of herself. That is not something Alexis or any daughter should have to deal with, since they're always made deputy parent. The mom has a right to be upset about certain things, however none of them fall on her daughter who had to lose out on a childhood because her mother kept having more kids. Now she must lose out on doing being a self sufficient adult? When the siblings do well & Alexis has nothing, the same family will look down on her & she'll be resentful... Rightly so. You can't deprive your kids of a good/decent life & expect them to play the role of the men who left you & you don't hold accountable.
They always cry and say, I need you, I don't have anyone else. They suck you back in, then continue with these unattainable expectations. I'm not your husband, I'm your child. GET OUT!!!!!!
This is so hurtful....the oldest daughters get the worst expectations. I'm wondering if the other parent is still alive, and if so does she feel as upset with him. I would expect one of my siblings to step up more than my child.
Me personally , my mom down … I’m taking care of her . I know she will do it for me . I don’t care how old I am . That’s just my heart & if I’m stabled , my siblings coming with me ! I’ll help out until my mom shakes back cause one thing , I wouldn’t want to see my siblings get took by the state . I wouldn’t care if I was living in a 1 bedroom , they’re coming with me !! Got to stick together cause we all we got ‼️
Same. mother or sisters, ill do everything I can to make things happen. My sisters, nieces, or nephews not getting taken by the state. Lastly, she was only out for a month. that's a short amount of time to let everything go.
This is a hard one. I moved away at 16 to go to College. I tell people I ran away from home because it was so horrible. It took a lot to see my mom as a woman and not just my mother. I had to separate myself and I’m 49 now and just realized that I stayed away especially after having my daughter. We were allowed to be around her child molesting brother (they knew) but my sisters and I had to develop this tough exterior. He was afraid of us because we fight lol. I had survivors guilt as he molested or exposed himself to many of my girl cousins, our neighborhood girlfriends and daughters of the women he dated. We were never empowered to speak out because when we did no one did anything. I treated him like the scum he is. I wish I’d told a teacher or called the cops. It’s a shame that you stay in the situation because we knew foster care was worse.
@@jeannietimberger2556it’s their job and responsibility…. Why do y’all act like y’all kids owe y’all and it’s the other way around…. And do you understand that some parents do not take care of you and think they’re obligated to what u have when THE PARENT HAS THE OBLIGATION
I’ll never forget the moment my little brother and I at 16 and 15, watched as my grandmother and 21 year old sister at the time, fight about who was going to be our “guardian” after losing our mom. We just looked at each other and knew it was going to be me and for awhile 😔
Karamo, thank you. The spaces you create ("in the middle of a storm") are inspiring. I did not want you to bring the Mother back on stage at all. But I am happy you spoke to the Daughter and let her know what her choices are and suggested paths she can take to protect herself. I have a parent in this similar vein and I'm taking your advice too.
This is why it’s important to have that talk with your kids as soon as possible. Tell them where things are. What if she would have died? Daughter dosent know to look for the car registration to find out what company she is leasing her car from. She dosent know the pin to her moms cards etc. Teach your kids on how to handle certain affairs
I'm going through chemo and radiation treatment right now . My 3 kids have been there to take care of me , take me to appointments, cook,clean .. and I'm so very very grateful for them . THEY OWE ME NOTHING! I'm the mom and it's my job to care for them . Not the other way around .. this poor young lady . 😢
Bless you in recovery and moving toward remission and being cancer free! Thank you for your gracious perspective, and for showing appreciation for your children. They will thank you so much.
I honestly see where both of them are coming from. I have been taking care of my mom since 19 years old ( she has lupus and more health issues) ( also taking care of 3 other children) idk I love my mom more then anything so I would make sure she good at all times. I don’t think people understand but coming out of a coma can mess with you.
The love and respect you have for your mother is so beautiful and she is so blessed to have you for a daughter. That mother was sick and almost died but still apologized to her daughter and I think that daughter should have apologized as well. Young people today are lazy and inconsiderate.
@@maryj4595 The daughter did everything she could how was she supposed to support her and her mother, she knew she couldn’t so she what she could like the u-haul nd making sure her siblings were straight
She took advantage and looked out for herself. She's selfish, in this whole thing all she took care of was herself not even her siblings. They were left homeless while she had her own place? That makes no sense.
@@boobadee04 I feel what u saying for sure which why I get both sides cause I heard what the mother was saying I believe her truth as well wat was my biggest issue her not even having her siblings with her was a tell tell sign cuz I'm the oldest of 10 and I would've had every single sibling in my house but I can say some 22 year old aren't that mature enough
@@Drawingboredi They weren’t left homeless my mom choose to move in with one of her boyfriends even though I offered to take them in and let my family live with me they eventually came and instead of being grateful my mom routed back to her old ways drinking and coming home making me feel very much not appreciated she quickly turned my household to a toxic place where I no longer felt comfortable. I even offered to give her my entire crib and i move into a new one .
I have 5 brothers and sisters and not the oldest but I really feel for this young lady 😔 Growing up a lot of my fam and friends were helping with their younger siblings and I use to feel that it was so unfair because they didn't really get to be kids. I was raised with both parents in the home and they divorced when I was 22. My mom always had those conversations with us about if something ever happens to her, where her documentation is, had a list of people to contact, down to what she wanted us to wear to her funeral. And when she passed away, you couldn't tell us nothing about her wishes including from her siblings. We followed her orders to the T. And the same thing for when my father passes. These are tough conversations but you have to sit down with your children. Make sure those life insurance policies and everything is up to date! Sounds like the daughter did the best she could with the knowledge she had. The mother is trying to guilt her into something she herself wasn't even prepared for. Why place such a heavy load on her and expect her to save the world. If you lost er'thang in a month's time while you were in the hospital that means you were behind already and I guess that's her fault too smh
Something is not right in this mother daughter relationship. From experience mother might pay more attention to the other children left the older one to fend for herself but expect her to be there for everyone 🤷just saying. I did not get any support from parents and was left with my grandmother who did all she could for me and I returned the favour and was there for her until she died. My mother and father would want me to be there for them now, I will help IF I CAN, but not making any sacrifices.
I'm assuming the mom had probably relied too much on her oldest daughter all her life. Treated her like a partner instead of her kid. If the daughter wants to be at peace and happy she is going to have to keep putting down boundaries like she is now.
Unfortunately, there is this ethos in our community that the obligation between parent and child is mutual. But in reality, it's not. It's an inherently unilateral relationship. Your children only owe you basic respect and nothing more. The daughter didn't birth herself of her siblings, so her obligation isn't to take complete care of them. It's a parent's job to take care of his or her OWN creations, and the offspring should be living her OWN life and doing for her OWN kids when she has some. The mom expects a cookie for doing the minimum of what a mom is naturally supposed to do, even though the mom is not giving her daughter (who's barely NOT a kid) credit for going ABOVE AND BEYOND what she's obligated to do as a daughter. Why would she think it's her 22 year-old daughter's obligation to save her house and car AND play Mommy to her other kids...even though though the 22 year-old daughter has a future of her own to secure? Where are the fathers who helped her make all those babies that were left homeless? That's who the mom should be mad at because that's whose responsibility it is to do what she's expecting of her eldest child. The daughter has absolutely nothing to feel guilty about.
Have a mother just like her - always the victim and feels she needs to be taken care of bc she is only a mother by title... I pray she finds the strength to heal and if she deals with her mom, set healthy boundaries but also know when to walk away
And someone in the audience was ready to boo her!! I’m glad karamo shut that down! There are always 2 sides to every story. That mama is not accountable for anything and wants to push everything on the daughter. Despicable! SMDH
Went through something similar at 15. Only child. Shouted at, and accused for years that I didn't give her time to heal. Apparently asking if she felt better each day was selfish. Lord heal our hearts, distinguish our egos and love ourselves more than we require it from others. The apology was so contrived..... Lord have mercy
you can love someone without the expectation they will take care of you. She even says it at the end that she loves her but she is *all* she has, that she raised her to be independent to do for *herself*. I think she loves her, but she shouldn't be asking for her eldest to be her provider, that's not her job.
@@jahdestamuzik9145 Naw fam, but there is taking advantage of someone and genuinely needing their help. Her momma didn't *want* to do for herself, she put it all on her and that ain't fair. It's okay to help out but you should never be the sole provider when there are OTHER options and her momma clearly decided she was going to put the burden on her daughter instead of making moves herself to care for her OWN children. That's not sick, that's expecting another adult to do the RIGHT thing on their own. Sorry not sorry.
@@MaiBoricuaTai How did the momma "decide" to put it on her?? Did her mom "decide" to fall into a coma and almost die? In life there are unforeseen circumstances. Her mom didn't expect to come out and be homeless. She almost died and came out and her daughter let her and her siblings stay out of her home because "she wanted to be on her own" I pray to God the daughter or none of ya'll ever get deathly sick cause karma is a serious one. Turn my back on my momma, I could NEVERRR!!!! I don't care if I was working 3 jobs, mamma gone heal comfortably right in my home!!
@@jahdestamuzik9145 Sounds good for you but clearly we are not hearing the same situation in all of this. If my mother acted like this woman? We would have a problem. Period. But that's you and clearly having a *good* relationship with your mother. Not everyone else does and not everyone else will see eye to eye with another's plight. I will leave it at that cause arguing is silly. I respect your outlook and im glad to hear your moms can count on you and you guys have a good relationship. Keep being the good person to her you are.
Karamo saw right through her. The trye test was forgiveness & and to set the record straight publicly that her daughter didnt betray her. She failed when she couldn't do it and Karamo out her acting ass on blast. What a shame. This woman probably tells her sob story every person she comes around & tries to ruin her daughter's character. Unfit mother.
When my mom was sick she showed me how to pay all her bills. And I was the youngest. I wrote her checks out. But her mom stuff wasn’t together if she lost her stuff after a month and she put ur stuff in storage that’s good. Sounds like she needed to have taking better care of her stuff better. 22 taking care of all this I think she did the best she could
The mother isn’t upset that her daughter wasn’t in there, she was upset that she couldn’t save her house and car. EVEN THOUGH she was 22 dealing with the trauma of her mum in a coma and having to look after her siblings without knowing how to handle situations like that
i’ve been in a comma and i can’t remember a lot from the pass. she may think her daughter wasn’t there and just can’t remember we can only do so much as a person.
I think we are missing something here, this woman may have done so much for her own mum and expects more from her daughter. She has probably never known any other kind of relationship other than the one she had with her mum and expects same from her daughter. She needs to unlearn a whole lot. And as for her daughter, she must also learn to be patient with her mum. That woman looks like she's been through a lot... May God heal them both♥️🙏🙏
This is a good perspective. My mom treats my like crap and her mom treated her like crap. She was the only child that was there for her mom and I’m the only one that’s there for her. This perspective sheds a different light on things for me.
Chinyere God bless you Jare my sister All these small girls wey no understand wetin dia mama be to them. No matter wetin the mama talk or do Chai my own mama I go do anything for am. That girl no know anything wait make the woman die that time she go know say kaki no bi leather. Chukwu gozie gi
As I listened to this I was upset with the mother and I wanted to hug the daughter. I had so many questions. Her daughter started getting emotional and I felt like she needed to go hold her. She got up and walked away. That said a lot. I was wondering if she had sufficient savings and a way for her children to access her accounts in case of an emergency. In reality it’s her fault her children ended up homeless. Where’s the lock-box with the resources, documents, and instructions? If you want your daughter to handle things in an emergency did you have that conversation beforehand? Did you tell her where everything was and what to do? Clearly not! You should have 6 months of savings for emergencies. If you did she could have accessed it, paid your car and went month yo month on your apartment. Where was the rest of their family? Aunts? Uncles? Grandparents? That child did the best she could under the circumstances. I’m actually proud of her. She got the stuff in storage, made medical decisions that saved your life. Mom needs counseling for codependency and trauma.
My grandma literally sat up in my face and said she didn’t remember me having conversations with her about me being depressed and stuff after the fact I called her out on her bullshit . I swear these adults never admit to their wrongs
@@jusstlexy You did great and the best you could ! You were young with so many responsibilities!!! You have to live your life; your mother has her own. God bless you❤️
Mannn! This mother was expecting her daughter to be her mother at 23 years old..like...come on..this was heartbreaking...that mom needs to get it together. Very unfortunate situation.
My siblings and I will do WHATEVER NEEDS TO BE DONE for our Mother. With a Mother with multiple medical conditions, we are there for her and would NEVER see each other homeless or allow her to lose her home or car. At 22 she had to make decisions, but I'm 100% sure that there were others there and/or available to talk things through. Put yourself in mommas shoes, your in a coma for 1 month and come home to NOTHING... thats scary. Someone should have stepped up for Momma... I heard momma saying many times SHE DID WHATEVER SHE COULD FOR WHOEVER SHE COULD... HOWEVER SHE COULD... and she woke up to NOTHING! Praying for Momma - she just wanted someone to care for her the way she did others. :(
If the momma lost everything after one month that means she was already behind. But she expects her daughter to catch her up on all her bills. Crazy. You don’t lose a car or apartment after being behind after one month
This is a perfect example of why things should be written and notarized in the event something happens. We’re not promised the next millisecond let alone a month. Always have things in order for your children. I mean what does she really know at 22 with her siblings, her mom’s responsibilities and her own. She was a basket case most likely with no support. Her mother has a sense of entitlement, the daughter didn’t ask to be here don’t hold her to a i birth you standard so you owe me. I’m sorry she sounds crazy
At 22 I had to take care of my little sister and wasn’t allowed to date. Now in my 30s single and angry o gave up my youth for ungrateful people. Trust the daughter owed them nothing
What’s crazy is her daughter actually did good for 22. Most ppl around that age wouldn’t have known to do half the stuff she did.
I like how the mother in the beginning completely envelopes herself in the victim role. And within 4 minutes her daughter completely pulls the mask off of her sending her running. The mom sat there and acted like her daughter stole or gave away her things when in actuality the girl had no idea what bills were due and at 23 how can she pay for two households ?!
If the daughter love her mother, she would have helped her mother. It's not the daughters' responsibility, but love should have made her do it. What if it was you.
@@ursulaporche529 if there’s no money and she has one income. What is the daughter supposed to do ? Start prostituting to pay her moms bills ? Black folks need to get their life and retirement insurance game together like other cultures do. Insurance is the one thing that would have helped this family
@@lizf77 Ame LK Frazier, so true.
I could not deal with her trust me she is too much for a mother..
@@ursulaporche529 unrealistic and not loving on the money’s end to have illogical expectations thats she doesn’t even hold herself to.
It hit me when the mother said, “You all I got. I don’t have my husband no more.” She wanted a provider.
She wanted her husband she wants a man support if that man was alive her daughter wouldn’t even mean anything to her
I think she just wanted family. It's not uncommon for people to want support from the family they have when they are very sick.
@@carrotsandpotatoes5019 Exactly the daughter should've left her siblings homeless and went on to get a house and car. When you love your family your actions should show it.
for sure!! was expecting too much from her daughter
I’m 20 years old and if I seen my mother like that something would kick in and make me a top hustler I’m not gon lie I would neverrrr leave my mama and siblings like that everrr
I believe that this is a generational thing. My mom is about her age, and she really does believe that she owed endless loyalty and no criticism. Her favorite thing to say is “honor your mother and father, it is a commandment”. Ridiculous-the dramatics, the victimhood, the learned helplessness, the gaslighting, blameshifting, and sweeping it all under the rug. It’s all so familiar.
You are soooo right sis! It's most definitely a generational curse which unfortunately a lot of us black daughters are dealing with when it comes to a narcissistic black mother! 🙄😒👎🏾
This sounds like my mom
Preach. You're right. it's definitely a generational thing. Sadly, it's expected to run yourself into the ground. That generation of black mothers never knew the importance of self-preservation/selfcare. I watched my mother ignore her own health caring for everyone but herself.
You have hit the nail on the right spot babe😮I had to move away from AFRICA TO UK as I had to learn to love my own MOTHER from far.
Wow from this comment alone 😢...my mom used that scripture too...and I told her to keep reading where it says "Parents don't go bruising your children in the head" ...I remember I would explain to people how my mother was and everyone told me that I was lying and I was crazy cuz my mother is so sweet...I said yea she's sweet to everyone but me..it's just an act ..she treated me horribly and I'm still affected by it at 42 years old.... calling me evil...the Devi...a liar...I told her about being molested by my sister and her friends... I was ignored and married someone that treated me like how my mom treated me. Undiagnosed scoliosis living with extreme pain all of my life being told that nothing's wrong with me ..and just trying to force herself into my adult life when I no longer have a desire or need for her to be in it ..I accepted that she'll never be a real person...it's too much
I see exactly what this is. She made this girl grow up very young. And her mother wants her to be her savior.
I can relate 😢
absolutely the truth.
As she should! Her mother sacrificed all her life for her, so now your mom is out of her death bed you need to PULL UP!!! That girl gone grow old one day and wish she never treated her mom that way, period!!!
I’m a 25, the eldest of 6 children. When Karamo said “you didn’t deserve that relationship with your mom”, I felt that. My mom will not acknowledge the physical or emotional pain she caused me. I practically raised and am still raising my siblings. It hurts. I lost my dad when I was 11. Im currently grieving that my mom will never be the mom I needed. 💔 but one thing I DO know is that I will be a better mother, partner and friend when it’s my turn.
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Everyone's situation is not the same. She should have been there for her mom out of that hospital!
Gorl, you seem like a strong woman that rly went throught some stuff. As an only child, i didn't have do that and and I respect you for being able to do that for your siblings, you really are a strong person.
Okay, she did the best she could do! She is a 23 year old. This is a scary situation 🤷🏽♀️
Boooo is Rightfully owed to her cause her siblings come first
No, but the daughter could have asked for help she is not 5 yrs old, parents need their children when their health fails them and get older, who else will help them. They just need to apologize to each other and move forward in love. I know it can be done I took care of both my parents I left my home and move in their house to maintain it and care for my disabled Dad while my Mom was hospitalized. Servanthood takes dropping your ego and thinking of someone else. When your selfish you say who cares I need to live my life
Seek counsel @@mattmatthews3689
He’s shedding a lot of light on the pathology in the community! Your children are not your caregivers, and you are not endlessly entitled to everything that your children have simply by virtue of being their parent.
Her mom is a trip. She’s expecting her daughter to be a whole mother to her. That’s so codependent.
yeah and did you notice that the the mother and her mother had that same kind of codependent relationship.
And narcissistic
God gave this young lady a job to do which was, to honor her. Why? So that it will be well with her and that she would live long on the face of the earth. Reprobate ungrateful people in this comment is unbelievable. There is nothing that daughter can do for her mother that can compensate for her risking life to give birth to her. PERIOD!
@@1talldaddy these stupid words that the colonizers make up. Is not real!! Where in Africa did the word codependent come from before you all were brought here in chains?
@@ththim7785 well the mother needs to take a one way trip to Africa and let them deal with her bull.so the daughter can be at peace and be happy without her.
I grow up as the only girl in a family of 8 siblings in Africa. We were poor after my dad pass on. I had to take care of my mother and my siblings. My mother appreciated each and ever small things we did for her but she never demanded it. This mother need to appreciate what her 23 year old has done and is doing for her. She has to realize that her been in hospital for months, forced this young girl to grow up into an adult overnight. She need to appreciate her daughter regardless and let her be
It’s hard to want to do something for someone that keeps insulting you and blaming you
These were my thoughts. I'm the oldest and I do a lot but my Mom is so grateful for everything I do and if she wasn't it would all stop right then and there.
Wow. THE AUDACITY the mother had to say all that towards her child
"I did everything for her." You're her mother! You should have. Its not a badge of honor or a transaction.
If your parents does everything for you and is there..your suppose to be there for them..PERIODT
@@rachelhouse9187ikr! The kids today are so entitled!
@@rachelhouse9187 you do not have to be there for your parents tf we didn't ask to be here XD we don't owe our parents SHIT it would be nice to do that for our parents if they DESERVE it.
Yeah you right but as a parent we ain’t obligated to take care of a disrespectful grown ass child that lady raised her sheltered her she can’t get the same you know she had them kids you put them out that’s not right kids disrespectful period honor your mother and father
@@BrandieButler-g3f😂 yes you do, its the whole point of being family. I understand if you had toxic relationships with your parent but if they did right by you, then theres no reason you shouldn’t do right by them. Its plain selfishness atp
Out of all the episodes this one really hit home. As the oldest were always put on this weird pedestal that were replacement parents or co-parents and given so many expectations that aren't really reasonable. I'm so glad he doesn't justify the toxic cycle
Because they’re ignorant to having children and ended up unloading the traumas of their own raising without even realizing
@@kierradockery4958 Say that 🗣🗣🗣 for the dummies in the back.She(mom) opened her legs and had them.*She* needs to care after them.They are her children.Why unload all that responsibility on her daughter when she made those decisions and then get mad because the daughter chose to live her own life.Those mothers are selfish and self conseited.Thats really called emotional enslavement.It"s wrong.
As the oldest this is definitely true. It's like we're supposed to carry the weight of the family on our shoulders.
Not just the eldest, even only child kids who have aged parents
@@AngelzBloomzWinx451 😢
Mothers can’t never admit their wrongs smh
That’s not all mothers. I admit when I’m wrong. I feel terrible when something I did hurt my child. Of course it wasn’t intentional. But we all make mistakes. Children don’t see their parents as humans who make mistakes. I did the same think when I was younger. Once I got older I could see my parents as just human. They didn’t have all the answers. They were just as lost as I was, just trying to figure things out as they went along. Now I give them grace. They still do things and I just have to separate them as a person from the behavior I didn’t like. I love them even when I don’t like something they do. I hope my daughter will give me the same grace because I love her no matter what. I’m not perfect. I’m gonna mess up or have quirks she doesn’t like. All I can do is try to be better.
I’d like to apologize to you as a mom, for all the times your mother didn’t. I don’t know why she didn’t but it’s not all moms.
Thank god I’m not that mom. My kids know I apologize any time I am wrong. ❤ I learned from my moms mistakes. She never apologized for her wrongdoings so I make sure I do.
@@ब्रह्मन-ष1स I feel like it’s common
Some mothers!
@@peacefreedom4930 ofc they don't mean all mothers big head
The mother was expecting waaaaaay too much from her oldest daughter. And her business affairs couldn’t have been in proper order before falling into a coma. You don’t just lose everything in 30 days unless you haven’t been paying your bills prior to then. The mother has a weird caretaker complex.
I was thinking the same thing.
The daughter has been with mom the longest which means she had a lot of responsibility forced upon her.
Yes she is still a child , I'm sure she didn't know what to do , oh my goodness God bless her for trying.
These people expect you to provide for them financially for the rest of their lives when they were never willing to do it for themselves. They require less from the men they lie with than their own children. It's sickening. I'm still trying to find a way to abandon my mother after all she's done.
Mom said she was helping everyone else. Probably giving her very last and sacrificing her own before she became ill. Woke up and folks didn't feel the same way about her back... that has to hurt!
@@2ndedition766 I'm too flabbergasted to find the words...but you summed up many people's lives with their moms. Hell, you nailed mine at least. Wow!
The daughter is so adorable and I just want to hug her and let her know that I see her. She's a great daughter and did the best she could. Don't cry baby. Your wonderful and your enough just the way you are.
Damn this one broke my heart ! As the oldest girl in the family I totally understand how this young lady feels . Her mom has that old school mindset that your oldest is responsible for every thing ! It’s a draining bondage ! It’s so sad she can’t see all her daughter tried to do for her! And just because her mom did it to her, it doesn’t make the pattern a healthy one . Young lady protect your peace at all costs ! You can still live your mom form a distance . I’m at that Point with my family now
I had to distance myself from my family too, yet, if someone needs me, I will try to help the best I can. Just don't want the disrespect that comes with my decision to help or not. Sometimes prayer is all I can offer
JUST DO IT. LOVE THEM IF POSSIBLE FROM A DISTANCE.
PEOPLE EXPECT YOU TO RAISE KIDS THEY LAY DOWN & HAVE.
LEAVE YOU WITH THE RESPONSIBILITIES OF MOTHERHOOD WHILE THEY DRINK & PARTY "FAMILY" "FRIENDS" YA' WONT BE SORRY, THANK GOD YOU WE THERE TO "HELP" ONLY GOD KNOWS WHAT MAY HAVE HAPPENED IF YOU WEREN'T.
YA' WONT REGRET THE BONDAGE & MENTAL HOLD THAT WILL BE CARRIED INTO GENERATIONS TO COME !
As the oldest I felt this also! I had a handicapped sister, I found my parents will and they had left everything to her. I was heartbroken and betrayed by them knowing that they raised me as “the caretaker”
Same here
Same here, never want to see or speak to anyone of them again. I surrounded myself with a solid foundation if friends who have become my family in every sense of the word. This woman will drain her daughter until she does not even recognize herself. Girl RUNNNNNN as fast as you can.
When she said I did this so you can be strong, I immediately felt my brain shut off. She didn't need you to make her strong, she needed to be protected. Period.
No...she was correct 💯 she did it to make her daughter strong n depend on herself is correct...
That was heavy on her. She was only 22. She was barely an adult herself. I feel sorry for her. Her mom is looking for someone to blame…
How and she was in coma for a month. Yall sick asf omm
@@allaboutshanel6676 At 22, my daughter doesn’t make enough money to cover my rent. I make enough to cover rent for a 4 bedroom/3 bathroom house. My daughter makes enough to barely pay for a 1 bedroom. As a parent, we still helping to finance them at 22. I don’t expect my 22 year daughter to PAY my weekly child care fee of $300 for twins. After you have a kid, they ask you in the hospital, do you have a will, a power of attorney, financial power of attorney. You know this going into a hospital for the first time. Her mom has several kids. She knew legally what she was supposed to do. That’s not her daughter’s fault, that she didn’t handle that. They provide temporary disability insurance that you pay on monthly, in situations like this. So if my stuff isn’t together, it’s not my daughter fault. The only thing I expect for my daughters to do, is go to my closet, pull out my brown envelope & follow instructions because when I come home, I want to be comfortable, not angry!! It time to start taking accountability.
However, I am sorry they are passing through this tough time. You can tell they love each other deeply, but she has to get off that babies back & let her help her the best way she can.❤️❤️I love black women and from a Black woman, it’s time for us to take accountability across the board & not when it benefits us….
@@TrinaWitDaRedLips very well said 👏🏽
@@allaboutshanel6676 this girl was 22 how was she going to pay rent, pay her car, be a mother to her siblings and provide food. This girl was barely an adult. She did the best she could an her mom is blaming her for everything
Have a dear friend that lost his mom, has to take care of his lil sister. Dude is depressed as fuck and he's mentally 40 from this but it comes with a cost.
the way the mom came back out and started the waterworks was crazy.... like it was a complete flip! i feel so deeply for the daughter. ☹️💗
Narcs gonna narc
Older daughters are forced to become mothers to children they DIDNT birth all while the mother having high expectations of them. The day they have the nerve to go out into the world and start saving money for themselves, and building their own future they become the family enemy and everyone claims they “changed”. Nothing changed about them they were never truly who they were SUPPOSED to be a CHILD, a SISTER, a DAUGHTER not the family’s backbone. Imagine how jealous she is of her siblings to be able to be so carefree of those type of responsibilities I def felt her pain.
Imagine being 4 years younger than your older sibling having to take care of them. So, it's not always the older sibling stepping up as the parent.
I've been doing this for years and honestly it draining and exhausting, truth is I don't have the heart to look away, I just can't.
I really feel for this girl and I am happy for her that she could make herself come first before everyone else,which must be difficult,but the mom is expecting too much.
I love his words at the end. Grieve the fact that your mother can’t give you what you deserve
She lost everything in only a month, one month, HOW...And the audacity to act as if that child owes her ANYTHING is mind boggling at best, I'm done.
That's what I said she must wasn't paying her bills before that all happen to her, the repo man not going to take your car after 1.month they Mail you letters an stalk your phone for months. She was already struggling to pay her bills
because her daughter didn't handle her financial affairs.
@@jahdestamuzik9145 she obviously is not being truthful even going through eviction you have 90 days to pay or get out . Bills can go delinquent for a month and be paid after with a few late fees at the most even internet stays on for two months without payment moms story is bogus
@@jaymemullins4760 exactly, she wasnt handling her own business even before that accident and expected her daughter to pickup the pieces
That part didn't make sense to me either. Most financial institutions give you a 10 day grace period monthly on your car loan, and then they simply add on a late fee. You normally have to be at least 3 months behind for them to consider a repo.
I can relate to this. Our mom is the same exact way. She expects my twin and I to take care of her!!! She’s the MOM! We have our own children that we’ve raised.
So SHE EXPECTED HER DAUGHTER TO ACT LIKE A HUSBAND. THIS WAS A DISGRACE. TEARS FOR THIS DAUGHTER.
Exactly!
12:06…the comparison
You said it. A lot of single mothers can be toxic. They love to re- write history.
Fr this woman is acting like she’s 86, she was sick but she does seem capable she wants her daughter to be a mother to her and that’s not even fair being that she’s still very young and has a life of her own to live.
Daaaamn… you ain’t wrong. That’s spouse duties
Alexi stated in other comments that her mother and siblings lived in Texas at that time and she lives in Kansas. Her mother was in the hospital in Louisiana while in a coma. Alexi did come get her family and they all lived with her. She said it was too much for her to bear. She did pay her mother's bills and gave her a car as well when she got out of the hospital. There's a lot missing out of the talk show and made it seem like the daughter just left after her mother was in the hospital. The daughter did the best she could. The mom was mad because she lost all she had because she didn't have a backup plan.
If you lost all that after a month you were already in the red
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Maybe living check to check! Some car places take it after a week.
@@sweetismami28 all the more reason to stay on your ish and put that same pressure on the children’s father
@@altinawashington-key5211 I agree!
I know you didn't post this to be funny but sometimes the truth is hilarious 😂
I think mama's brain is still recovering from the coma. Poor Alexus 🌹
poor mama, your own kids will treat you like this , shameful!
@@jahdestamuzik9145 your young children who don’t even have life figured out are not obligated to keep u in care yes it’s great to care for ur mother but their 22 still young she’s cared for her other kids and was there so please .
@@sexcdoll I disagree, mom is on her dying bed, you do what you have to do period!
@@jahdestamuzik9145 she is the mother regardless. She should have taught her daughter the skills to keep the house going. She is 22. and in this economy things arent cheap. realistically she cant pay the car, house, and kid bills. The mom wanted a MAN not a daughter. Sad reality is that the mother failed before she even got sick and it is not the child responsibility regardless of the situation.
Oh, Alexus...poor baby! Being the oldest, I'm sure she caught it the worst.
This is just heartbreaking....
People shouldn’t have kids until they are ready to do 100% what it takes to be a parent to allowed to be a child until they’re not a child and even when they’re in adult the child as the parents nothing other than to create their own lives, all these people that have sex, and then expect their children to serve them is so evil
You know she did
She is just selfish!
Sad excuse of a mother....
She never asked to be born for fucks sake, her daughter had an accident also!
Whose looking out for her daughter?
Shameless woman....
Ungrateful to booth am vessed😡🤬
My mom loved me and took care of me when I was little and helpless and now that I am all grown, she is my number 1 priority. I call her my first born daughter. Nothing is too big to do for mom. Thankfully, she is very humble and thankful.
You are so right. They did for us, we should do for them
When needed🤷🏽♀️
I agree with you guys. My mom has always looked out for me. The daughter clearly said it's not my job to take care of you. How is it not??? At 17 yrs old my mom was diagnosed with cancer and given 6 months to live. Being the oldest with 3 younger siblings it was hard but it was DEFINITELY my responsibility..
@@markeyshacarreker5651 you missed the part where she did go to the hospital and take care of her mother. In 30 days her mom lost her place to stay and her car. Things had to be out of order already. We have no idea what that young lady has gone through up until the coma. We shouldn't expect ourselves out of others. It doesn't make her wrong We don't know her life from this small snippet.
Thank God finally someone who gets the hint! Keep up the great work and be blessed!
I agree. I gave up everything to care for my mom after she rendered paralyzed. I would do it again because of all she sacrificed for me.
I'm 45 and I had to set strong boundaries with my mother because I understand that she doesn't have the capacity to love me or see my value
Always be grateful for the life they contributed to you. Keep an ear out to make sure they're alive & healthy, whilst maintaining your SANITY SPACE 😇
I totally get that.The life my mother had for me was not the life I wanted,I simply chose mines and that made me the Blacksheep.So be it.But I don"t do that to my own kids.I let them be free to live their lifes.Why is that so hard for people to get.I didn't put my own personal designs on them,and I didn't let her do that to me.Today my adult children and I have a beautiful relationship with mutual understanding.It"s actually healthy.I let them live their lifes without manipulation. Love my Grand kids.
I love Karamo for this! He said don’t come back out here with no mess!
Her losing her stuff is no one's fault but hers. Her 22 year old daughter did her best and the mother doesn't appreciate it at all. So sad to expect a 22 year old to be able to do all that.
I don’t feel like her big as worries it was the materialistic stuff. Her biggest worries was if anything happened to her would you be able to care for your sisters and brothers your siblings? and that was even proven not to be true based on the fact that her mother literally went to a traumatic situation, almost losing her life came out of the hospital and she didn’t have anywhere to turn to, but her daughter and her daughter shut her out my mother would never go through some stuff like that and I’m the only one to be financially able to help my siblings and my mother and I turned my back on them and then state the reason I did that was because I want it to go on and leave my regular life
Exactly how is it someone's fault they were in a coma?!
@@holycannoli9744 that’s what I’m trying to figure out
@@holycannoli9744she should have had her bills paid. No one takes away your home and your car after 30 days or less. Her bills should have been in autopay like a responsible adult.
@@jessn5677if her lease had just ended like the daughter clearly said, then yes they would!!!! The mom is the only person who could resign that lease!!!
This breaks my heart. My mom had stage 4 breast cancer when I was in middle school and she was so sick that myself and my brother had to take on a parenting roll and help our mom as much as we could. My mom beat cancer but it was scary for a long time that she wouldn’t make it. My mom is the strongest woman I know and I couldn’t ask for a better mother
Something is seriously wrong with the mom. She doesn't seem to love her daughter or at the very least envies her.
It’s not that she doesn’t love her daughter she does . She has that old school mindset that your child is supposed to do every thing for you and it’s just not healthy . She learned it from her mom and expected the same for her daughter. It’s not a lack of love .. it’s a lack of knowing how to parent differently than what’s been passed down.
@@ramonahamm6292 exactly! generational trauma.
Personality disorders 😢 my mother acts identical to her. Entitled and grandiose. She has to be loved, accepted, and respected and she's above us always. It's so damaging...
Something is wrong with the daughter!
I just want to tell you young lady, I am so proud of you, and you deserve a better loving mother 🩵
Typical narc mother . If the daughter has her own house and car as well how could the mom even think she could pay for HER rent and car as well as take care of her kids at only 22 ? Unrealistic expectations & just sounds like mom is looking for anyone to blame .
Then still going on about it an running her in the mud
Bingo, Narc mom.
Same happend to me an still is
The mama should’ve had her moment saved, disability insurance etc! The hell shebthink
The comment I was looking for 👏🏽💯
It’s so important that parents set themselves up so that their kids don’t have to bare the burden of something like this. It’s not kids responsibility to care for them. That’s a luxury and a privilege to have kids to care for you when you do right. Not an obligation.
This show is phenomenal. I hope this sparks a change in her generational line.
Parents often do make their oldest child their emotional husbands especially when there is no father/fathers around to help provide and support. The daughter is still young and she did the best she could at the time. As a mother to be I understand from the mom pov however at the end of the day I am the adult and I am not my daughters responsibility, I should have all my affairs in order just in case if something happens everything will be okay. Life insurance policies/ living will/ assets/ savings/ have your bills paid ahead of time or paid off what you could.
Facts
At at the age of 23 my mom was placed on life support I am the youngest but she gave me power of attorney. My mom was on life support for 6 months. During that time I paid her bills and made her medical decisions. The difference of the situation is I had no younger siblings to look after and my mom always made sure I knew what business needed to be tended to. But my mom was constantly sick so she prepared us for whatever. She didn't make me feel obligated to do it but she did appreciate it tho. Mom needs to get her things in order in case something like this ever happens again and have someone who is willing and able to handle her affairs.
It takes money to pay bills she kept the kids feed her mom shouldn't have expect anything else
Exactly I agree with you 💯 the daughter is wrong she probably was worrying about these youngs mens she did her mom wrong
@@kingpete3160Pete go have several seats,she did the best she could at 22.
@@ms.p1969 yeah but I still don’t do that to your mother u only get one God said praise your mother and honor that wasn’t honor at all so u can say what u want u ain’t higher than God so why should I care about what U say I ain’t the only one who knows she’s is very selfish ass hell to her mother me and my siblings want let our mother lose her home with my little brothers and sisters living there nah not at all sorry
@@ms.p1969 she ain’t did no best she could’ve u can see the flaws right through her lol 😂
I hate to say it, Patsy took Alexus for granted when she lived in her home. She needs to realize that it's a lot of weight on Alexis' shoulders and she can't be there for her beck and call all the time. Alexus needs to live her own life and Patsy needs to appreciate her for everything she's done for her. This is a long road to repairing a troubled mother-daughter relationship.
Alexus need to look at who cared for her when she was in that car accident. Love is nowhere in this picture. Atleast the mother know what's going to happen to her other children when she die. This gives her time to make preparations. I wonder how Alexus siblings look at her now?
This young lady was 22 years old and it was a lot put on her at that age. The mom is angry at her because she expected her daughter to step up and act like she was 55 years old. I’m going to help my parents as much as I can but they raise me to a certain age and it was up to me to move forward. They gave me my foundation in life if it came down to my parents being old and needing help I’m 58 my parents are in the 80s I would do what I can to help them and to keep them safe, but this young lady was only 22 with siblings mothers car note everything and at least she put her mom things in storage so they wouldn’t end out on the street. She paid to make sure these kids ate and have the things they needed and I feel that she did enough for her age.
This seems like the type of mother that feels like the oldest child is obligated to watch her younger children while she works.
👏🏾👏🏾YESS and is why she has all kind of resentment! She was just able to start legally drinking and being an adult then boom instant mom and caretaker 🤯
@@neeta_jenks she was in coma what was the mom supposed to do but the mom.help her out with bbl that woman self and only thing of her self please dont it's mf taken care they parents at teenagers and the teenager was me please stop talking let this been on IG everybody would said that lady wrong
@@allaboutshanel6676📢 having a place to stay and a car don't make you a parent 🤷🏾♀️🤭. The girl didn't take her siblings simply cause she wasn't EQUIPPED to do so 🤦🏾♀️. You don't know the full circumstances and neither do I .. the girl was 22 years old! She did what she could do. She could have done nothing at all! The mom should have had a will drawn then proper decisions could have been made. 🤷🏾♀️
My own ppl NEVER prepaired but will to point the blame at ANYONE when things go down. 😩😑Self accountability is a MF! The sooner you acknowledge it, the better you will be🤞🏾
@@neeta_jenks shut up u don't know what u is talking bout she was obligated to do so cause she was in coma but mother just said she hellped her with her bbl please don't speaking I'm.not saying don't make her mom I said mom already had everything and she lost it probably on purpose had lie say lady pass so she would lose everything stop defending this lady that lady have. O kids it's no excuses barely a life u don't turn ur back on ur family idc what none y'all people are saying if u can leave ur mom after coma that's y'all omm
The question is “Where are her Children father’s”????
That’s a huge responsibility for a 22 yr old 😳
The Mother shouldn’t have anger toward the daughter.
she should be rejoicing that she have a second chance at life! She made it out of ICU.
I really hope they can forgive and move on with a positive family environment 🙏
If the daughter didn't care she wouldn't have put her things in storage and feed her kids. At 22 who can pay their bills and pay another person's rent and car note?? Many companies can work with you for 30 days. She can't blame her for losing things that sound like they were not up to date. Does the mom not have siblings, other older relatives that could have stepped in to help this young girl? She was in a car accident and who knows what else. The mom said the daughter was selfish, etc then ends up saying yes she did do things for me and my kids. They both need counseling. My heart broke whrn the daughter was afraid to say she was almost raped. She could not even say the word so that says she is still traumatized. Folks always think about themselves when they need help but never stop to think what others are going through or what their headspace is like. I pray for them all.
Hello , I am the daughter and I have been in counseling for years I actually want to do spoke out video on me and my moms relationship . My uncle passed away when I was younger so as for me im expected to step up to the plate and provide for my family at all costs and don’t get me wrong I’ve done so much but it never gets recognized . I told Karamo that I didn’t want to just down my mom I just felt like she been through trauma causing her to be like this .
@@jusstlexy I'm so glad to hear you are in counseling. Sounds like you did the best you could & that's all that can be expected. Hopefully your mom gets counseling, starts to heal and you all can be closer. Good luck to you.
She not just talking about only bills she talking about being there when she come home from the hospital a mother wanna see their oldest child to be there besides them the daughter is wrong I ain’t bias ima tell it like it is
This woman was in a coma, for a long time, her daughter is her family, who else must come into the space of her mom, if there is no other family, where is, the caring, and most of all the Love, Love covers multitude of many things , if her daughter had to be in a coma, this mother would have break her back to help her. The wheel turns. I hope the mother recover fully, so that she can become stronger to take care of herself and children. May God Bless her mightly.
The mom is under obligation to take care of her children. So is the father! She has more smoke for a young woman who is in college/university years, than the man/men she procreated with. 22yr olds across the world barely have anything to their name, especially in this climate. This girl had to raise her siblings, provide for them, take care of her mom & try to take care of herself. That is not something Alexis or any daughter should have to deal with, since they're always made deputy parent. The mom has a right to be upset about certain things, however none of them fall on her daughter who had to lose out on a childhood because her mother kept having more kids. Now she must lose out on doing being a self sufficient adult? When the siblings do well & Alexis has nothing, the same family will look down on her & she'll be resentful... Rightly so. You can't deprive your kids of a good/decent life & expect them to play the role of the men who left you & you don't hold accountable.
Lol you are putting daughter in to a mother role. That's wrong.
They always cry and say, I need you, I don't have anyone else. They suck you back in, then continue with these unattainable expectations. I'm not your husband, I'm your child. GET OUT!!!!!!
Went through a similar situation at 16, 10 years later nothing has changed. It does get better and people will see you for who you are.
This is so hurtful....the oldest daughters get the worst expectations. I'm wondering if the other parent is still alive, and if so does she feel as upset with him. I would expect one of my siblings to step up more than my child.
Sad is hell why her daughter disrespect her own mother you only got one mom that person bring you to the world and she can take you out
Me personally , my mom down … I’m taking care of her . I know she will do it for me . I don’t care how old I am . That’s just my heart & if I’m stabled , my siblings coming with me ! I’ll help out until my mom shakes back cause one thing , I wouldn’t want to see my siblings get took by the state . I wouldn’t care if I was living in a 1 bedroom , they’re coming with me !! Got to stick together cause we all we got ‼️
Same. mother or sisters, ill do everything I can to make things happen. My sisters, nieces, or nephews not getting taken by the state. Lastly, she was only out for a month. that's a short amount of time to let everything go.
That part
This is a hard one. I moved away at 16 to go to College. I tell people I ran away from home because it was so horrible. It took a lot to see my mom as a woman and not just my mother. I had to separate myself and I’m 49 now and just realized that I stayed away especially after having my daughter. We were allowed to be around her child molesting brother (they knew) but my sisters and I had to develop this tough exterior. He was afraid of us because we fight lol. I had survivors guilt as he molested or exposed himself to many of my girl cousins, our neighborhood girlfriends and daughters of the women he dated. We were never empowered to speak out because when we did no one did anything. I treated him like the scum he is. I wish I’d told a teacher or called the cops. It’s a shame that you stay in the situation because we knew foster care was worse.
@Tay Triggs❤️❤️❤️
So sorry 😞
I'm so sorry that,you had to endure this evilness. Blessings to you.
This totally reminds me of my mother. I feel for this young lady
It really does suck sometimes being the oldest. The responsibilities that are expected throughout life are hurtful.
This mentality has GOT to stop. That baby is 100% correct! None of that was her responsibility.
They wanna kick us out at 18 and give us a timeline and turn around and feel like we’re obligated …
she didn’t kick me out, i graduated and joined active duty army and left
Even though you know you were taking care of your whole life by your mom 🤦 Some love and loyalty right there.
@@jeannietimberger2556 how the fuck would she be able to pay 2 rents…… literally pay things with no paperwork no money 22 years old. you’re delusional
@@kaelchipz7252 no you've musta been sheltered. I'm being real AF 🤦 FOH
@@jeannietimberger2556it’s their job and responsibility…. Why do y’all act like y’all kids owe y’all and it’s the other way around…. And do you understand that some parents do not take care of you and think they’re obligated to what u have when THE PARENT HAS THE OBLIGATION
I’ll never forget the moment my little brother and I at 16 and 15, watched as my grandmother and 21 year old sister at the time, fight about who was going to be our “guardian” after losing our mom. We just looked at each other and knew it was going to be me and for awhile 😔
I hope the both of you are doing well
Karamo, thank you. The spaces you create ("in the middle of a storm") are inspiring. I did not want you to bring the Mother back on stage at all. But I am happy you spoke to the Daughter and let her know what her choices are and suggested paths she can take to protect herself. I have a parent in this similar vein and I'm taking your advice too.
This is why it’s important to have that talk with your kids as soon as possible. Tell them where things are. What if she would have died? Daughter dosent know to look for the car registration to find out what company she is leasing her car from. She dosent know the pin to her moms cards etc. Teach your kids on how to handle certain affairs
I'm going through chemo and radiation treatment right now . My 3 kids have been there to take care of me , take me to appointments, cook,clean .. and I'm so very very grateful for them . THEY OWE ME NOTHING! I'm the mom and it's my job to care for them . Not the other way around .. this poor young lady . 😢
Blessings to you mother and God speed for your recovery 💕💕💪
Bless you in recovery and moving toward remission and being cancer free! Thank you for your gracious perspective, and for showing appreciation for your children. They will thank you so much.
she just like my mom.. never thinks she wrong never take accountable never apologizes...
I honestly see where both of them are coming from. I have been taking care of my mom since 19 years old ( she has lupus and more health issues) ( also taking care of 3 other children) idk I love my mom more then anything so I would make sure she good at all times. I don’t think people understand but coming out of a coma can mess with you.
I never seen so many self people, so it’s okay for her siblings to be homeless too
The love and respect you have for your mother is so beautiful and she is so blessed to have you for a daughter. That mother was sick and almost died but still apologized to her daughter and I think that daughter should have apologized as well. Young people today are lazy and inconsiderate.
@@maryj4595 don't have kids expecting them to be your free caretakers then you won't have any problems 🤷♀️
@@maryj4595 The daughter did everything she could how was she supposed to support her and her mother, she knew she couldn’t so she what she could like the u-haul nd making sure her siblings were straight
Mom is a piece of work!! Girl go live your life and tell your mom to go kick rocks!!
She expected ppl to drag her daughter
I love this guy Karamo. He is very intelligent, makes fair decisions and doesn't allow any foolishness!
I actually feel both sides but truly feel sad for the daughter but like how can you at 22 even think she could handle those responsibilities
22 is old enough. She knew how to get her a place.
@@boobadee04 exactly!
She took advantage and looked out for herself. She's selfish, in this whole thing all she took care of was herself not even her siblings. They were left homeless while she had her own place? That makes no sense.
@@boobadee04 I feel what u saying for sure which why I get both sides cause I heard what the mother was saying I believe her truth as well wat was my biggest issue her not even having her siblings with her was a tell tell sign cuz I'm the oldest of 10 and I would've had every single sibling in my house but I can say some 22 year old aren't that mature enough
@@Drawingboredi They weren’t left homeless my mom choose to move in with one of her boyfriends even though I offered to take them in and let my family live with me they eventually came and instead of being grateful my mom routed back to her old ways drinking and coming home making me feel very much not appreciated she quickly turned my household to a toxic place where I no longer felt comfortable. I even offered to give her my entire crib and i move into a new one .
I took care of my mother when she was down and I was in my 20s as well when she declined. it lasted 15 years. God blessed me so much for it!!!
I have 5 brothers and sisters and not the oldest but I really feel for this young lady 😔 Growing up a lot of my fam and friends were helping with their younger siblings and I use to feel that it was so unfair because they didn't really get to be kids. I was raised with both parents in the home and they divorced when I was 22. My mom always had those conversations with us about if something ever happens to her, where her documentation is, had a list of people to contact, down to what she wanted us to wear to her funeral. And when she passed away, you couldn't tell us nothing about her wishes including from her siblings. We followed her orders to the T. And the same thing for when my father passes. These are tough conversations but you have to sit down with your children. Make sure those life insurance policies and everything is up to date! Sounds like the daughter did the best she could with the knowledge she had. The mother is trying to guilt her into something she herself wasn't even prepared for. Why place such a heavy load on her and expect her to save the world. If you lost er'thang in a month's time while you were in the hospital that means you were behind already and I guess that's her fault too smh
Something is not right in this mother daughter relationship. From experience mother might pay more attention to the other children left the older one to fend for herself but expect her to be there for everyone 🤷just saying. I did not get any support from parents and was left with my grandmother who did all she could for me and I returned the favour and was there for her until she died. My mother and father would want me to be there for them now, I will help IF I CAN, but not making any sacrifices.
I’m proud of these people. They’re setting great healing foundations. God is great. Healing is so so so beautiful.
My prayers are with this young lady, this broke my heart.
My therapist told me to grieve my relationship with my mom and its the best advice ever - heart breaking but life changing!
He is such a good host! I love this show!!
I felt this ! & that apology made me feel like she made it about her
I'm assuming the mom had probably relied too much on her oldest daughter all her life. Treated her like a partner instead of her kid. If the daughter wants to be at peace and happy she is going to have to keep putting down boundaries like she is now.
Yo she’s like my mom 🤦🏽♂️😢 that self reflection will never come. Damn this hit
Unfortunately, there is this ethos in our community that the obligation between parent and child is mutual. But in reality, it's not. It's an inherently unilateral relationship. Your children only owe you basic respect and nothing more. The daughter didn't birth herself of her siblings, so her obligation isn't to take complete care of them. It's a parent's job to take care of his or her OWN creations, and the offspring should be living her OWN life and doing for her OWN kids when she has some. The mom expects a cookie for doing the minimum of what a mom is naturally supposed to do, even though the mom is not giving her daughter (who's barely NOT a kid) credit for going ABOVE AND BEYOND what she's obligated to do as a daughter. Why would she think it's her 22 year-old daughter's obligation to save her house and car AND play Mommy to her other kids...even though though the 22 year-old daughter has a future of her own to secure? Where are the fathers who helped her make all those babies that were left homeless? That's who the mom should be mad at because that's whose responsibility it is to do what she's expecting of her eldest child. The daughter has absolutely nothing to feel guilty about.
Have a mother just like her - always the victim and feels she needs to be taken care of bc she is only a mother by title... I pray she finds the strength to heal and if she deals with her mom, set healthy boundaries but also know when to walk away
This is the pure story of a older generation and a new generation. And mother not being held accountable
And someone in the audience was ready to boo her!! I’m glad karamo shut that down! There are always 2 sides to every story. That mama is not accountable for anything and wants to push everything on the daughter. Despicable! SMDH
Went through something similar at 15. Only child. Shouted at, and accused for years that I didn't give her time to heal. Apparently asking if she felt better each day was selfish. Lord heal our hearts, distinguish our egos and love ourselves more than we require it from others.
The apology was so contrived..... Lord have mercy
This mother might of expected a lot from her daughter but I really felt like she genuinely loved her child!
you can love someone without the expectation they will take care of you. She even says it at the end that she loves her but she is *all* she has, that she raised her to be independent to do for *herself*. I think she loves her, but she shouldn't be asking for her eldest to be her provider, that's not her job.
@@MaiBoricuaTai Sio she should leave her mom out in the streets coming from the darn hospital?? Ya'll are all sick!!
@@jahdestamuzik9145 Naw fam, but there is taking advantage of someone and genuinely needing their help. Her momma didn't *want* to do for herself, she put it all on her and that ain't fair. It's okay to help out but you should never be the sole provider when there are OTHER options and her momma clearly decided she was going to put the burden on her daughter instead of making moves herself to care for her OWN children. That's not sick, that's expecting another adult to do the RIGHT thing on their own. Sorry not sorry.
@@MaiBoricuaTai How did the momma "decide" to put it on her?? Did her mom "decide" to fall into a coma and almost die? In life there are unforeseen circumstances. Her mom didn't expect to come out and be homeless. She almost died and came out and her daughter let her and her siblings stay out of her home because "she wanted to be on her own" I pray to God the daughter or none of ya'll ever get deathly sick cause karma is a serious one. Turn my back on my momma, I could NEVERRR!!!! I don't care if I was working 3 jobs, mamma gone heal comfortably right in my home!!
@@jahdestamuzik9145 Sounds good for you but clearly we are not hearing the same situation in all of this. If my mother acted like this woman? We would have a problem. Period. But that's you and clearly having a *good* relationship with your mother. Not everyone else does and not everyone else will see eye to eye with another's plight. I will leave it at that cause arguing is silly. I respect your outlook and im glad to hear your moms can count on you and you guys have a good relationship. Keep being the good person to her you are.
Karamo saw right through her. The trye test was forgiveness & and to set the record straight publicly that her daughter didnt betray her. She failed when she couldn't do it and Karamo out her acting ass on blast. What a shame. This woman probably tells her sob story every person she comes around & tries to ruin her daughter's character. Unfit mother.
Poor baby. Where was the rest of the older relatives. 😮😢😢
Hey , I am the daughter and I am the oldest out of my mother children. Im 23 , my brother is 20, other brother is 18, and little sister is 16
poor sweet girl she’s got the world on her shoulders fr she did the best she could and she did awesome
Smh, I know this feeling all too well. As the eldest of five, so much was expected of me.
Literally I basically raised my little brother
Family must look after each other.
Exactly my thoughts im shocked with the comments!
Exactly
When my mom was sick she showed me how to pay all her bills. And I was the youngest. I wrote her checks out. But her mom stuff wasn’t together if she lost her stuff after a month and she put ur stuff in storage that’s good. Sounds like she needed to have taking better care of her stuff better. 22 taking care of all this I think she did the best she could
The mother isn’t upset that her daughter wasn’t in there, she was upset that she couldn’t save her house and car. EVEN THOUGH she was 22 dealing with the trauma of her mum in a coma and having to look after her siblings without knowing how to handle situations like that
i’ve been in a comma and i can’t remember a lot from the pass. she may think her daughter wasn’t there and just can’t remember we can only do so much as a person.
The oldest child always gets blamed for stuff
I think we are missing something here, this woman may have done so much for her own mum and expects more from her daughter. She has probably never known any other kind of relationship other than the one she had with her mum and expects same from her daughter. She needs to unlearn a whole lot. And as for her daughter, she must also learn to be patient with her mum. That woman looks like she's been through a lot... May God heal them both♥️🙏🙏
I agree with you chinyere 💯.
This is a good perspective. My mom treats my like crap and her mom treated her like crap. She was the only child that was there for her mom and I’m the only one that’s there for her. This perspective sheds a different light on things for me.
Chinyere God bless you Jare my sister
All these small girls wey no understand wetin dia mama be to them.
No matter wetin the mama talk or do Chai my own mama I go do anything for am.
That girl no know anything wait make the woman die that time she go know say kaki no bi leather.
Chukwu gozie gi
@@sandrabonsu5926 etisen
The best comment ever you'r very wise
As I listened to this I was upset with the mother and I wanted to hug the daughter. I had so many questions. Her daughter started getting emotional and I felt like she needed to go hold her. She got up and walked away. That said a lot.
I was wondering if she had sufficient savings and a way for her children to access her accounts in case of an emergency. In reality it’s her fault her children ended up homeless. Where’s the lock-box with the resources, documents, and instructions? If you want your daughter to handle things in an emergency did you have that conversation beforehand? Did you tell her where everything was and what to do? Clearly not! You should have 6 months of savings for emergencies. If you did she could have accessed it, paid your car and went month yo month on your apartment.
Where was the rest of their family? Aunts? Uncles? Grandparents?
That child did the best she could under the circumstances. I’m actually proud of her. She got the stuff in storage, made medical decisions that saved your life.
Mom needs counseling for codependency and trauma.
The Mother has some serious maturing to do
My grandma literally sat up in my face and said she didn’t remember me having conversations with her about me being depressed and stuff after the fact I called her out on her bullshit . I swear these adults never admit to their wrongs
I was in the army with Alexus 🫶🏽 I love you girl keep your head up!!
Thank you girl !!🤍
@@jusstlexy
You did great and the best you could ! You were young with so many responsibilities!!! You have to live your life; your mother has her own.
God bless you❤️
Mannn! This mother was expecting her daughter to be her mother at 23 years old..like...come on..this was heartbreaking...that mom needs to get it together. Very unfortunate situation.
My siblings and I will do WHATEVER NEEDS TO BE DONE for our Mother. With a Mother with multiple medical conditions, we are there for her and would NEVER see each other homeless or allow her to lose her home or car. At 22 she had to make decisions, but I'm 100% sure that there were others there and/or available to talk things through. Put yourself in mommas shoes, your in a coma for 1 month and come home to NOTHING... thats scary. Someone should have stepped up for Momma... I heard momma saying many times SHE DID WHATEVER SHE COULD FOR WHOEVER SHE COULD... HOWEVER SHE COULD... and she woke up to NOTHING! Praying for Momma - she just wanted someone to care for her the way she did others. :(
She was in a coma for one month…. But in the hospital for much longer, if I heard correctly about 7 months total.
I completely agree with you.
@@MrItza4malityno she said it took 7 months for her to find her own place
If the momma lost everything after one month that means she was already behind. But she expects her daughter to catch her up on all her bills. Crazy. You don’t lose a car or apartment after being behind after one month
The mother is a piece of work
This is a perfect example of why things should be written and notarized in the event something happens. We’re not promised the next millisecond let alone a month. Always have things in order for your children. I mean what does she really know at 22 with her siblings, her mom’s responsibilities and her own. She was a basket case most likely with no support. Her mother has a sense of entitlement, the daughter didn’t ask to be here don’t hold her to a i birth you standard so you owe me. I’m sorry she sounds crazy
At 22 I had to take care of my little sister and wasn’t allowed to date. Now in my 30s single and angry o gave up my youth for ungrateful people. Trust the daughter owed them nothing