What if the most narcissistic, toxic people in your life are called family?

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  • @atpeace006
    @atpeace006 7 годин тому +19

    One word sums this up...jealousy...

  • @lenoresmathers339
    @lenoresmathers339 9 годин тому +22

    My "family" never had a kind word and trash talk me to one another ... even when our parents have passed. In fact my siblings became even more vicious and hateful - even turning cousins and others against me.

    • @terayzea9240
      @terayzea9240 7 годин тому +7

      My sisters became more viscous after our mom died too. The judgement we get from other people when we finally cut ties is never ending.

    • @earthrooster1969
      @earthrooster1969 3 години тому +3

      I am already anticipating this outcome and cutting off ties with my siblings as my parents age and get weaker..

  • @gloriacoleman7012
    @gloriacoleman7012 9 годин тому +19

    No one has ownership over an other person that is inslavement, show love and honour by walking away and safe guard yourself.

  • @AdelaCho-gl4sx
    @AdelaCho-gl4sx 4 години тому +5

    Kevin, piszę w moim ojczystym (polskim) języku, aby dobrze się wyrazić. Jestem kobietą, nad którą mąż - narcyz znęcał się 15 lat. To było jak spirala, każdego roku coraz mocniej, aż do takiego poziomu, że stres zniszczył mnie także fizycznie (serce). Jestem w trakcie rozwodu i w drodze powrotu do siebie. Przy okazji tej sytuacji odkryłam inne toksyczne osoby w moim otoczeniu, które nigdy mnie nie wspierały, a wręcz wpychały w tą spiralę agresji. Tak, to było moje rodzeństwo.... z nimi też musiałam wziąć rozwód. Kevin masz rację, w 1000 %, ale zrozumie Cię tylko ten, kto sam przeżył spotkanie z narcyzem, bez różnicy czy to brat, matka, czy teściowa. Sama nie palę ani nie piję, ale cieszy mnie Twój dystans do siebie i do widzów, u mnie w Polsce mówimy w czasie toastu - na zdrowie!!!... pozdrawiam Cię, z Krakowa, Polska.

  • @PeterWhite-jz6np
    @PeterWhite-jz6np 8 годин тому +11

    This resonated right down to the core of my life. I am still feeling the pain to this day. They all ruined my life, tore my marriage apart. My father tried to trouble me when I started my degrees in theology from undergraduate to post graduate in theology, BaHons and Ma. All ruined my chances at some great employment.

  • @diannetimpson6885
    @diannetimpson6885 5 годин тому +7

    My N father was physically abusive towards me my entire life. When he decided to lay his hands on me again at age 46, (because of lies my N mother told him about me -per usual) I didn't call the police instead I walked away and went No Contact. That's all the "honor" he'll ever get from me again.

  • @PeterWhite-jz6np
    @PeterWhite-jz6np 7 годин тому +6

    You’re entitled to a cigar and a whisky if you want. All the hard work that you put in to help people who are troubled through tragedy. I believe that I will be face to face with my creator.

  • @angieeprice4514
    @angieeprice4514 10 годин тому +13

    Thank you 🙏🏻 for having the Balls lol 😂to say what WE ALL NEEDED TO HEAR 👂🏻 💯 STRAIGHT UP TRUTH TALK 🙌🏻🫶🏻 hugs 🫂

  • @nicolehayes6020
    @nicolehayes6020 Годину тому +1

    My story exactly! I’ll be 50 in April and just left my entire toxic family unit family behind on 11/14/2024. I will not live the second half of my life like the first. I had to lose myself to find myself. My life my journey. I’M FOREVER FREE ❤💪🙏✌️💯🤷🏻‍♀️

  • @kimberlyhoatlin9795
    @kimberlyhoatlin9795 6 годин тому +6

    My mother was narcissistic and she attacked myself and my youngest brother. My twin brother and my younger sister were golden children. She pitted my siblings against my youngest brother and myself, she spoke badly about us to other family members and embarrassed us at family functions, we were the ones who were physically hit as well and verbally abused…. she wished we’d never been born, etc. My father tried to cushion or run interference but then he’d be attacked as well and threatened with divorce, the dynamics were quite interesting. Back then I never heard the term narcissist or narcissistic personality disorder. This is something I learned about after I married a narcissist…. go figure. Now I know. After my mother died my sister thought it was her job to pick up and fill in for mom… so she began to repeat everything on my youngest brother and myself until I called her out on it and put her in her place. I also had to address this with my twin brother during a family function after our father passed. Today things between us have improved and we’ve gotten closer… but it interesting how everyone just fell into their rolls even though she was gone. Perhaps I should feel bad but I don’t… I have never cried since she died… I have prayed for her and I hope we never cross paths on the other side.

    • @earthrooster1969
      @earthrooster1969 3 години тому

      My Narcissistic Mom nearly passed away a couple of years ago and i saw how my siblings (younger brother and sister) were getting ready to fill in her shoes. Both of them were close to Mom and they have learnt the most toxic ways to deal with life..
      I stay away as much as I can...and concentrate on my life..
      Strangely my current own poor health has given me a legit reason to stay far far away from those poisonous souls..
      My narcissistic Mom has created tornados and storms, been in the ICU multiple times, even enjoyed the attention she got there...and she continues to thrive but I can see my Dad fading away.. He has been my Mom's biggest support but as he grows weaker, her attention goes more towards my narcissistic bother who she did not like must either, but that is my Mom..she will change sides on a dime..
      And yes, tomorrow if I die, I know what my Mom would do. She would use it as a huge deal and a display platform for the world to see her loss! That's my Mom 😅

  • @suzismith9681
    @suzismith9681 8 годин тому +13

    I am in the process of ĺeaving family, all behind. I find myself in a place I have never wanted to be permanently, surrounded by ppl who only use me for their advancement, doing what I have never wanted to do, it was the only doors open to me. I'm retired now. I'm out of here. What time i have left, I'm doing it my way, no consideration for anyone else. 😊 I'm loving it!
    Jesus came to save that which was lost. He said pick up your cross and follow Me. That means leaving it behind grasp the tree of life(the cross) understand what Jesus did on the cross. He came to set captive free. Break out of your prison and fly. Xx😊❤

    • @CharlesBukowski-m1o
      @CharlesBukowski-m1o 7 годин тому +2

      "Pick up your cross and follow me."-Jesus. Thank you so much for quoting that. This is the 9th year I'm not welcome at my home of my upbringing 2300 mi away. Yet it's so much better this way. Aside from my parents I no longer talk to my 3 EX-siblings. Jesus trumps all anyways, and thanks for quoting what you did. 2 days away from Thanksgiving, I really needed it and I really appreciate what you just did there. Amen!!
      PS-after being a lifelong atheist I discovered Christianity around just over a few years ago or so. Hallelujah to Jesus and his fellow followers like me! Your comment warms me up during this holiday season. Thank you

    • @LovedbyGodalways
      @LovedbyGodalways 3 години тому

      Happy Thanksgiving! You are worthy! God loves you unconditionally! He will never hurt you like humans will. I'm currently leaving my narcissistic family. I wasn't invited to Thanksgiving. It's okay God is with me. We matter to Him❤​@@CharlesBukowski-m1o

    • @earthrooster1969
      @earthrooster1969 3 години тому +1

      Exactly on the same situation here. I never thought I would find myself bereft of family while they are still around. I knew it all along, but thought I was exaggerating it in my head...but no I was not! I truly move on with my head held high, my soul intact, I am coming to embrace each day by myself. Also our tired brains can only take in so much. The more I shun negative energy, the more I offer space for the positive..
      I realise I am not a super power to carry on entertaining both sides...

  • @thebower8027
    @thebower8027 10 годин тому +11

    My siblings are always insinuating that I'm 'retarded' and having a laugh about it. Happened the other day and this well of sadness filled my heart and tears welled up. I actually felt really stupid. I'm a 60 year old woman who has forever felt like a child yet I'm the one who has to primary caregive our mother because I live with her.

    • @salettamyers8845
      @salettamyers8845 10 годин тому +1

      Listen to this video on repeat beautiful one "till it sinks in" - you are not retarded! You are showing the love that Father alone has placed on your heart! Ephesians 6 beautiful one! Lace up those boots & polish that beautiful armor of yours- YOU GOT THIS!💪👊👊

  • @rhondabaldridge2583
    @rhondabaldridge2583 3 години тому +4

    Narcissist, like to control everybody else

  • @ErinP79
    @ErinP79 5 годин тому +2

    What a beautiful, Godly message! Thank you! 🙏🏼

  • @rturney6376
    @rturney6376 Годину тому +1

    Lack of Boundaries that they would never 👎 do to strangers

  • @benwil1715
    @benwil1715 2 години тому +1

    Just what I was thinking!!!.. a child growing up with a brood of monsters...ain't got a choice?..." Some narcperts don't get that!!!

  • @lolaleighcoe5535
    @lolaleighcoe5535 10 годин тому +4

    I had revisit my family of origin and was saddened to come to some difficult findings. The truth hurts 💔 but it also is a great healer

  • @vitaveritas7654
    @vitaveritas7654 10 годин тому +7

    Thank you ❤

  • @sherricoffman
    @sherricoffman 8 годин тому +3

    GoodEvening Kevin N ALL!!! 💜 🕊 ⚜ 🌌 🕯 ThankYou 4SharingTRUTH!!! MuchLove

  • @kre8504
    @kre8504 3 години тому +1

    Anyone who’s toxic, gets turned into the dumpster: No more BS.

  • @Loris88Angels
    @Loris88Angels 3 години тому +1

    Love a wake up call & a swig of whiskey. I enjoyed this one.

  • @gloriacoleman7012
    @gloriacoleman7012 9 годин тому +6

    This goes on in churches to.

    • @diannetimpson6885
      @diannetimpson6885 6 годин тому

      My N parents thought because they showed up in church every Sunday they were superior to Everyone. For 1 hour a week they masked themselves as saints. The other 167 hours of the week they violated every moral code on the books. Appearing at church for a narcissist is merely a form of narcissistic supply.

  • @rhondabaldridge2583
    @rhondabaldridge2583 3 години тому +1

    My youngest sister is a sociopathic narcissist and my oldest sister is a mid to midrange type B narcissist. I haven’t spoken to my youngest sister in almost five years and I haven’t spoken to y oldest sister since October 6, 2023. My older sister almost cost me my life, and my youngest sister almost cost me my daughters life

  • @arianasha
    @arianasha 10 годин тому +2

    Well said Kevin! 💯

  • @sherricoffman
    @sherricoffman 8 годин тому +3

    I like Rum Myself Lol 😆 🤣 😂 😹 Have A Great Day!!!

    • @CharlesBukowski-m1o
      @CharlesBukowski-m1o 7 годин тому +3

      Bacardi 101, man! (Or WOMAN, I meant). That's the spirit!! I'm going to bed drinking a Voodoo Imperial Ranger IPA (9%)

    • @edwhite7475
      @edwhite7475 5 годин тому +2

      Im pretty sure he said it was whiskey cured and aged in rum barrels.
      Maybe im wrong.
      I like whiskey, 100° proof or higher-

    • @CharlesBukowski-m1o
      @CharlesBukowski-m1o 5 годин тому +2

      @@edwhite7475 I'm a whiskey man. I used to be a vodka guy. Rum is my last choice for alcohol straight basically.

    • @melissamorgan3803
      @melissamorgan3803 Годину тому +1

      Banana rum and root beer.

  • @fernandocaraballocintron1436
    @fernandocaraballocintron1436 Годину тому

    Thanks a lot for such relevant and importat video. Dedicated to all of us who feel trapped in a disfunctional family and all of us who feel hustage of sick people. That biblical reference that you presented says it all.

  • @vitaveritas7654
    @vitaveritas7654 11 годин тому +2

    Right on time brother 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢

  • @valleyrose2024
    @valleyrose2024 10 годин тому +1

    Thanks, Kevin! This video is for me!

  • @LindaStokes-ff2kv
    @LindaStokes-ff2kv 11 годин тому +2

    So very true ❤

  • @kathysanders5652
    @kathysanders5652 11 годин тому +4

    He leaves and never calls and lies never comes back that's a bad toxic narcissist person 😢😢😢😢😢

  • @kinGsaL1515
    @kinGsaL1515 9 годин тому +4

    What should I do if my mother is a narcissist? My entire life its been the same story and fighting, no contact, remending the relationship, she does it again, over and over.
    I dont want to cut ties permamnently for religious reasons because its a grave sin in my religion but I cant have a everyday relationshio with her and if I try to have a distant relationship she says Im neglecting her and she goes off on a tangent of rageful insults and blocks me.

  • @sharonrotenizer5646
    @sharonrotenizer5646 2 хвилини тому

    You don’t come from your parents, you come through them.

  • @Chichimee
    @Chichimee 4 години тому +1

    You have excellent taste in drink and smoke sir 😎

  • @kathysanders5652
    @kathysanders5652 11 годин тому +3

    My boyfriend leaves never comes home lies he's gone a week never calls that's a toxic narcissist asss hole

  • @Indy__isnt_it
    @Indy__isnt_it 2 години тому

    My mom died in 2007, after my dad by 19 years. When she passed. So did my family as we moved on. They were above and beyond snobbery. Brother and wife alcoholics, I do not take part in alcoholics lives. My father's father beat him over his alcoholic issues, forcing my grandmother to divorce in the mid 1930's. My brother takes after the abusive grandfather we never met.

  • @bombsczech4338
    @bombsczech4338 3 години тому

    Thanks i watch Danish Bashir videos but your are more spontaneus and thats good

  • @marycampeau9378
    @marycampeau9378 11 годин тому +2

    it is my younger sister. she is the most toxic person i have ever met

  • @annejen5048
    @annejen5048 4 години тому +1

    How do you see your grandchildren when the most toxic person in my life is my son’s wife? She has her minion parents to help her with the toxic power games and weaponizes all my goodness towards their family, against me. I can no longer tolerate the abusiveness and do not attend holidays, birthdays, and am about to stop all together. I love my kind son and my young grandchildren and they love me. I don’t know how to do this. Why do they have so much power to ruin my relationships like this?

    • @Youwish34
      @Youwish34 44 хвилини тому

      You have other grandchildren

  • @benwil1715
    @benwil1715 2 години тому

    Haha...I like your style.... 😅.. my family nearly killed me over envy , jealousy,and nonconforming!!.. IT IS WHAT IT IS!!!.. THATS "MY STORY AND IM STICKING TO IT"!!!...😂

  • @pamelariley6694
    @pamelariley6694 45 хвилин тому

    Genius 💥

  • @christinetimmerman3924
    @christinetimmerman3924 10 годин тому +3

    🙏Amen

  • @benwil1715
    @benwil1715 Годину тому

    I had a "role" to play, COME HELL OR HIGH WATER!!

  • @rhondabaldridge2583
    @rhondabaldridge2583 3 години тому

    I understand your your point which is well taken. People who rejected Jesus Christ as their savior, will be judged for their actions and in action. People who accepted Jesus Christ as their savior, will not be judged

  • @benwil1715
    @benwil1715 Годину тому

    When your 12 years old your at a "CHECKMATE"!!!

    • @susancarter3864
      @susancarter3864 Годину тому

      You will not be 12 forever. Hold on to God he will get you through it. Start planning your future without them in it. Take care of yourself. Don’t let them drag you down.
      Jeremiah 29:11
      For I know the plans I have for you;
      Declares The Lord, Plans to give you hope and a future.
      Be strong in The Lord, this to will Pass. And you will come out of it stronger and wiser. I went through the same thing at your age. Hold on to the Lord, keep his promises and his words close to your heart, he will guide you through this and you will overcome. I pray you have love and peace and comfort through our Lord Jesus Christ. And may God bless and keep you under his wings always. I read and slept hugging my Bible every night. God helped me, and he can help you to.

    • @susancarter3864
      @susancarter3864 56 хвилин тому

      Not if you read Gods word and believe it and pray. God, Jesus can get you through this.

  • @earthrooster1969
    @earthrooster1969 3 години тому

    I am the 'chosen one'... scapegoat of my super Narcissistic family..
    But happy to be the 'scapegoat' than be part of the gang...

  • @kathysanders5652
    @kathysanders5652 11 годин тому +4

    My father was a narcissist person and then je sexually abused me and that's alot of control all my siblings are narcissist people I've been controlled buy my dad mom worked alot he never could hold a job allways taking about sex with his co workers mom told me she's 92 my dad died at 85 alzimers disease he gone now in 2013 I grow up in a Christian home dysfunctional Baptist home

    • @salettamyers8845
      @salettamyers8845 10 годин тому +1

      I'm sorry to say this but your mom was broken by the sins of your "earthy dad" - she was abused by a repulsive reprobate that hated her enough to try to destroy her children- You got this beautiful one! You were sold into slavery by your "earthly dad but not by The FATHER of The Most High- You got this!💪👊👊

  • @scottschmittmusic
    @scottschmittmusic 14 хвилин тому

    I haven't spoken to my parents.. 4 sisters or older brother in 11 years.. they Don't know how to be both sibling and children.. they choose Daughter instead of sister and son instead of brother.. Flying Monkeys For the Witch.. harsh but best analogy

  • @benwil1715
    @benwil1715 Годину тому

    Unless your a child prodigy ofcourse.....on toxic human behavior...( Rolling my eyes)....

  • @Indy__isnt_it
    @Indy__isnt_it 2 години тому

    Narcissists ARE DEMONIC BEINGS. I am appalled after 42 years he just decided we were done. I have been given no reason, over heard him tell a friend he fell out of love. It likely happened long before he announced it. Women know.... 42 years. Our retirement, shot down the tubes. We were to travel the country in the RV we already bought and used to visit NY kids and grandkids.

  • @Bea-wb9uk
    @Bea-wb9uk 3 години тому

    3:11 Yeah. Tell people that. They don't get that.

  • @rhondabaldridge2583
    @rhondabaldridge2583 3 години тому

    God creates us

  • @mas7241
    @mas7241 4 години тому

    A Psychology video sponsored by alcohol and tobacco hahaha. Had to.
    Great content though. Thanks for the vids - spot on!

  • @westaylor3315
    @westaylor3315 9 годин тому +2

    What about your Narcissistic children?

    • @paulineklostermann5877
      @paulineklostermann5877 8 годин тому +2

      That is a living hell, the most painful expierience in my life. I had to leave i could not take the abuse anymore. 😢

    • @PatBlack-sj7tg
      @PatBlack-sj7tg 7 годин тому +2

      Narc ex husband and now grown up son what a nightmare this is ..also grew up in a narc family..I tried to love them all never received it back.Im done with all this 😢

  • @elaine7327
    @elaine7327 4 години тому +1

    Jesus told John “behold your mother!” When he was on the cross. He knew his mom would need care after his death and designated John for that position. I do think we must be careful when claiming that a complete cut off from parents, especially when they are in need, is totally fine in the sight of God. Honoring our parents doesn’t mean we have to be best friends with them. But God was the one to decide who are parents would be. Not us.
    John 19: 26-27

  • @gloriacoleman7012
    @gloriacoleman7012 9 годин тому +1

    Winston Churchill back again, it is right God made each one of us he knew us in our mothers womb , your not liked and very often the scap goat for things going wrong in their lives.

  • @user-wu9oy1tp8p
    @user-wu9oy1tp8p 2 години тому

    💯🙏💙🕊✨️

  • @kathysanders5652
    @kathysanders5652 10 годин тому

    One of the 10 commandments says honor thy mother and thy father no matter what

    • @YousufAU
      @YousufAU 10 годин тому

      What would Kevin reply to this ? I'm eager to know his perspective, only curious not being judgemental.

    • @daynasmith4059
      @daynasmith4059 10 годин тому +2

      ​@@YousufAU he did a video on this some time ago...

    • @zsuzso7
      @zsuzso7 9 годин тому +5

      The answer is in this video,
      Who is actually your 'mother' and who is your 'father'? Jesus gives the answer

    • @CharlesBukowski-m1o
      @CharlesBukowski-m1o 6 годин тому +3

      "And DO NOT PROVOKE YOUR CHILDREN TO ANGER" is another part of the commandant that everyone likes to conveniently forget when playing Mr or Mrs Bossy
      Parent person. So you might as well go check yourself again!

    • @diannetimpson6885
      @diannetimpson6885 6 годин тому +1

      The parents have to be honorable people themselves for children to honor them. That commandment is the "go to" phrase for N parents to guilt their adult children to stay in control of them and their lives and Their children's lives. The Bible gives very clear accounts on what happens to those who abuse their children and cause strife in their own household:
      Ephesians 6:4 - And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.
      Psalms 27:10 - When my father and my mother forsake me, then the LORD will take me up.
      1 Timothy 5:8 - But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.
      Mark 9:42 -“Whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in me to sin, it would be better for him if a great millstone were hung around his neck and he were thrown into the sea.
      Titus 3:10-11 - As for a person who stirs up division, after warning him once and then twice, have nothing more to do with him, knowing that such a person is warped and sinful; he is self-condemned.

  • @charlybucket2691
    @charlybucket2691 2 години тому

    There is no "what if." They are.

  • @Bea-wb9uk
    @Bea-wb9uk 3 години тому

    The hand, the glass, the limbic system. I'd rather see you vape a delta 10 on camera.