He's wrong about one. Every happy couple I know has confirmed that sexual compatibility takes two things: communication and practice. If you care about someone, you'll be open to what they need. If it goes against your values, then that's something that should have been discussed before marriage.
I stopped listening at #2. ''sexual boundaries". Not only did I pursue my husband many years ago, I initiated sex with him the first time we met. We had almost 30 blissful years together. I know quite a few women who have gone after what they want and had beautiful relationships.
@@eierinjhoi Did I say that it's true for the majority? No. I guess I didn't. 🙄 I simply wanted to point out, particularly for younger, inexperienced women that they don't have to follow any "rules" or "criteria" that these so-called "relationship coaches" talk about because if they do... they may just miss out on the best relationship of their life!
@@sakura-rc3ed Did I say that, dear? No, I didn't. I'm responding to this guy's "criteria" for choosing a woman, which is B.S. So, just to make sure you understand my point, I'll explain once again: What *could* happen is that a woman may miss out on a blissful relationship with a good man IF she listens to this dude's questionable advice.
It's really off putting but they are hard wired to give him self for life to someone who has boundaries. It means they are looking for a long life commitment but with someone they can trust in life 💕
Being sexually aware and welcoming is quite important to cementing the relationship once you've decided that you want to take it further. If you do not get that electric charging effect going on when you meet or soon after then I don’t think it is going to stand the test of time. Take up knitting or car maintenance instead.😅
Sexual compatibility is fixable like kissing. There are ways to fix the sexual compatibility. If you’re not interested in a guy because you think you’re not sexually compatible you’re putting way too much emphasis on sex. Sex fades as we age.
I'm a little confused about the "feeling alive" one. What's the difference between feeling alive in someone's presence and feeling "chemistry" with someone (according to how you're using these terms)?
Chemistry is one of the components of feeling alive but feeling alive includes a sense of wellbeing, acceptance, groundedness, genuine joy. There is a more wholesome experience than simple excitement or sexual tension.
I absolutely disagree on one issue - sex before marriage - for Christians it is absolutely unacceptable! People are sexually compatible in 99%, and of course you can talk about it before marriage
Horrible advise to tell people waiting for marriage to test it out! Horrible! People can talk about their sexual preferences etc what they like dont like frequency etc all this can be talked about and should be. But also 2 ppl getting married should desire to please one anothers needs whatever they are as long as they are not sin in and of themselves like bringing a 3rd person in for example that would not be ok. That is why we talk about these things when we are in a relationship and date with the intent to marry or all your doung is preparing your mind for divorce. Simple as that. Everything else was great advise.
Hi Melissa, the cool thing is we can disagree on this one and I don't need to call your way of thinking horrible it's just different. Talking about chocolate is quite different from actually eating chocolate. And while I do agree that conversations around sex are extremely important they often DON'T reveal the full picture. I don't consider consensual sex under an exclusive relationship a "sin" but understand some people do and I'm ok with that. My advice is based on real life experiences of witnessing the suffering by many women who in an attempt to "do what they were told" by their book, religion, community ended up paying a HUGE price for a long time. Thanks for sharing
@@BernMendez we definitely disagree on this big time! Women are destroyed because of this! The reality is this earth will fade away and you guys will realize the only way was God's way. The creator knows more than the creation just saying.
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He's wrong about one. Every happy couple I know has confirmed that sexual compatibility takes two things: communication and practice. If you care about someone, you'll be open to what they need. If it goes against your values, then that's something that should have been discussed before marriage.
Straight up
I’m 53 and I have found that men want a mother, maid, room mate
Some men do but others want a partner : )
Don’t forget “sex pot”! 😂
You're choosing to date the wrong men.
They want your labour 😊yes
And a friends with benefits 🙄
I stopped listening at #2. ''sexual boundaries". Not only did I pursue my husband many years ago, I initiated sex with him the first time we met. We had almost 30 blissful years together. I know quite a few women who have gone after what they want and had beautiful relationships.
Well an a raccoon can find food in garbage on ocassion. You are exception not the rule.
Just because it worked for you doesn't mean it works for the majority
@@eierinjhoi Did I say that it's true for the majority? No. I guess I didn't. 🙄 I simply wanted to point out, particularly for younger, inexperienced women that they don't have to follow any "rules" or "criteria" that these so-called "relationship coaches" talk about because if they do... they may just miss out on the best relationship of their life!
@@dmrd222they’re not gonna miss out on a good relationship by expressing sexual boundaries and having self restraint 😐.
@@sakura-rc3ed Did I say that, dear? No, I didn't. I'm responding to this guy's "criteria" for choosing a woman, which is B.S. So, just to make sure you understand my point, I'll explain once again: What *could* happen is that a woman may miss out on a blissful relationship with a good man IF she listens to this dude's questionable advice.
What annoys me about the psychology of if she has sex with me easily then she has sex with every man on earth and easily is it just isn’t true.
Truth
It's really off putting but they are hard wired to give him self for life to someone who has boundaries.
It means they are looking for a long life commitment but with someone they can trust in life 💕
Thank you for talking about our life force... This is something I have a lot of... wanting to meet someone with a matching energy. ❤
Thank you for such great insights 😊
You are so welcome, Tracey.
Being sexually aware and welcoming is quite important to cementing the relationship once you've decided that you want to take it further. If you do not get that electric charging effect going on when you meet or soon after then I don’t think it is going to stand the test of time. Take up knitting or car maintenance instead.😅
Hello Thank you for your great information 😊
Sexual compatibility is fixable like kissing. There are ways to fix the sexual compatibility. If you’re not interested in a guy because you think you’re not sexually compatible you’re putting way too much emphasis on sex. Sex fades as we age.
Sounds like you've never found a micro-D in real life
Excellent knowledge, advice, communicator, and presentation!
Thank you. 👏👏👏❤
Glad you enjoyed it, Anna. I appreciate your kindness.
Very good advice
Looove the last reason! 🙏🙏😌
Brilliant✨Bern, thank you 💙
You're very welcome.
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Glad you found this useful! : )
I'm a little confused about the "feeling alive" one. What's the difference between feeling alive in someone's presence and feeling "chemistry" with someone (according to how you're using these terms)?
Chemistry is one of the components of feeling alive but feeling alive includes a sense of wellbeing, acceptance, groundedness, genuine joy. There is a more wholesome experience than simple excitement or sexual tension.
According to the Bible , before marriage is sin.
I totally understand, many sacred texts say things I disagree with, but I respect that many people see it this way.
What if is a very sweet nice man and after i helped him with some money, disappeared?
I absolutely disagree on one issue - sex before marriage - for Christians it is absolutely unacceptable! People are sexually compatible in 99%, and of course you can talk about it before marriage
😂😂😂😂 this complete nonsense.
You can manifest the right partner and have sex after marriage. Thousands of people did it.
Sorry, but the sexual compatibility thing I totally get, but also I can’t see it and agree with it fully
Why they just can't communicate normal??
Not sure what you mean? : )
Because men and women are different! Study the basics dear.
Many are not confident and dont realise how sacred connection is to women.
Lol I’m sayin! 💯
I think it was a joke, people.
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Olga, thank you for watching.
Horrible advise to tell people waiting for marriage to test it out! Horrible! People can talk about their sexual preferences etc what they like dont like frequency etc all this can be talked about and should be. But also 2 ppl getting married should desire to please one anothers needs whatever they are as long as they are not sin in and of themselves like bringing a 3rd person in for example that would not be ok. That is why we talk about these things when we are in a relationship and date with the intent to marry or all your doung is preparing your mind for divorce. Simple as that. Everything else was great advise.
Hi Melissa, the cool thing is we can disagree on this one and I don't need to call your way of thinking horrible it's just different. Talking about chocolate is quite different from actually eating chocolate. And while I do agree that conversations around sex are extremely important they often DON'T reveal the full picture. I don't consider consensual sex under an exclusive relationship a "sin" but understand some people do and I'm ok with that. My advice is based on real life experiences of witnessing the suffering by many women who in an attempt to "do what they were told" by their book, religion, community ended up paying a HUGE price for a long time. Thanks for sharing
@@BernMendez we definitely disagree on this big time! Women are destroyed because of this! The reality is this earth will fade away and you guys will realize the only way was God's way. The creator knows more than the creation just saying.
He talks too much. Just get to the point. Can someone list them out?
It's not about the list. You need to feel his words 🩷