@@itzeleno I think you’re absolutely right! Idk if Chris realizes how he comes off sometimes or maybe he does and doesn’t care. I can definitely come across similarly when I’m depressed and anxious as all get out so💕
Every time Jake tries to bring you up, it sucks knowing an immediate dismissal or shooting down of his positive spin is coming next. I deal with depression as well, but geesh. It’s been happening for a while and it sucks to always see. I hope you find whatever brings you happiness throughout all this change. Been watching you for years and it sucks to see the shift and hopelessness you feel.
I've felt this way for past podcasts too! It's a bit heartbreaking. I know Jake is close with Chris so it could be different for him but it definitely comes off a bit harsh whenever Chris immediately shoots him down. I deal with depression too and it is hard to accept positivity sometimes, but it's a bit hard to watch when Jake tries so hard to boost him up
27 and i still struggle. BUT therapy + ssri’s helped tremendously, saved my life. i know he says he is in therapy but it makes me think, find a new therapist? i know it’s hard and not one thing alone will cure your depression but whatever he’s doing doesn’t seem to be working. and i really hope he gets help. there is so much to be grateful for, it’s sad to see someone as wealthy (money/family/friends) as him be so pessimistic.
Wish that he wasn’t shut down immediately. Depression or not. Mental health does not give free pass to treat people who genuinely care for you and who are trying to help, like absolutely dog crap. Jake is truly a gem. Wish we could hear more of him. His energy is pure love.
@@CosmicEngimas my thoughts exactly! I’ve noticed every time Jake has something insightful or even just supportive to say to Chris, Chris immediately comes across as dismissive towards him and almost irked about anything he has to say. I get sarcasm is Chris’s brand but damn. Let the man speak. Maybe acknowledge how much he cares sometimes :(
@@amala.x i think its an avoidant attatchment thing and an association with father figures thing. kind of unintuitive, but sometimes the closer one is the more comfortable with being honest with them someone will feel. he feels comfortable expressing his depression to jake. i notice myself shutting down my therapist with the same mechanism sometimes
@@amala.x i a million percent agree that its a dysfunctional behaviour (reference unintended lol) but i feel like it can be understood as much less malicious/ worthy of scolding ect when framed with more nuance and context notice how chris even said he feels lonely but doesnt want new friends? peak avoidant attatchment shit
I have diagnosed depression and anxiety that I’m on medication for. The way Chris is so defensive of every little thing Jake says is so off putting to hear. I say that as someone who has done the same thing to people trying to help me. Seeing someone do it really is such a bummer. Bless Jakes heart for continuously offering advice and taking it like a champ when he gets a defensive answer each time.
This one was a little difficult to listen to. The support surrounding Chris is unbelievable and it’s hard to see everyone be dismissed- which I know Chris can’t help as he’s feeling depressed. But a little recognition of the circle he has would be amazing. Love you Chris ❤
Chris I feel you. I’m an almost-30 year old living in Delaware (I’ve lived here for my entire life) and my husband and I are gonna be moving to the Pacific Northwest in the spring. I’m excited but also questioning if it’s the right life decision. But the only way to know is to just do it, yanno. I think you made the right decision about buying your house. You’re not stuck there forever. You can always sell it, or temporarily move somewhere else, etc. Nothing is permanent, life is fleeting, just live it up while you can. Much love
Good luck! Sounds like an amazing adventure. I couldn't take it there after 3 yrs..but here are some things i wish my friends told me before moving in, in case it helps with the transition: look into yellow indoor lighting and start planning for what makes you feel good, maybe vitamins or some activity. I love rainy days and thought it'd be fine but spending 9/10 months without seeing the sun is hard
@@wawis231 thank you for the tips!!! My husband and I are huge into hiking so even tho we know the rain sucks we’re looking forward to being able to drive a couple hours or less to get to the mountains
I hope you're white. The PNW is a very different type of racism and if you aren't obviously white it's kinda isolating and sorta shitty. Also, if you get SAD get sun lights/lamps for sure
Jake, I just wanted you to know to that you are so respected and appreciated by many of us! Your support is awesome and genuine, that's not easy to find nowadays 💙
Chris, I wonder if cutting out alcohol would help. For me anyway, when I drink, I get the most severe depressions for days after. I overthink everything and want to just hide away. I wonder if you can correlate your feelings with after drinking heavily.
Thanks Jake for the wonderful advice. I know it was for chris but it actually helped me, as someone who has lived in Boston for 2 years now and haven’t really found a group of friends outside of coworkers I see occasionally. I didn’t go to college here or anything, so it’s been tough. But I think it really does help to enjoy being with yourself and finding new hobbies. I started reading recently and it’s given me something to look forward to
My friends always would laugh when I would say I want to go back to school and have a whole lecture begging them to stay in school and that being an adult is a complete scam. We all fucking hate it. I never been so serious in my life 🤔
Hey Chris. Love your podcast, and I just want to say I think you should listen to Jake more. He has a lot more life experience, and is sharing extremely valuable/parental information.. I think you should stop arguing with him, he is trying so hard to help you. He cares so much
chris, i love you but you need to sometimes stop and listen from the people who care. Jake is offering great advice and generally seems to care about you a lot. appreciate the people you have in your life a little more you can be very mean to him sometimes.
It's not uncommon for people to have a depressive episode triggered by a major life change. Even when it's not a bad thing... I was hype to go to college, and fall of senior year I was horribly depressed. Try to give yourself grace to feel how you feel, and give time a little time. Hang in there Chris ❤
i would do anything for jake at this point. it's so obvious he genuinley cares about your wellbeing n its so cute to catch him trying to kind of prod you in a positive direction while not being too invasive. is he taking adoption requests
The way he said “you have a mind that doesn’t stop and that’s pretty cool” made me feel better about my brain. I’ve always heard “just focus just think of one thing” I’ve never heard someone knowledge that it’s kinda cool🥰
I think I just have to stop listening to this podcast. I loved early episodes & even when things started getting more raw & honest I was into it. But I feel it has reached a point of inspiring hopelessness/despair in me. I also find it really hard just listening to someone be so unkind to others for an hour.
@@smashwelll couldn’t agree more. Mental health or not, it’s been an ongoing pattern of Chris shutting down Jake’s advice and it makes it kinda difficult to watch :/
I just want to say adulting IS hard af. But as a 32 turning 33 this month you and being severely mental ill with autoimmune issues, you motivate me!! Life is a lot but you are still doing your thing and showing the world shits real. Love you man. Just keep swimming. X
I just wanna say something i sadly realize and i dont mean to point it out if it isnt an issue but chris i feel u like clearly aggressively disagree with jake and i feeel soooo bad. I know he has a different perspective of things because no one thinks the same way but he actually has some points especially in this episode. idk😅
I'm 42, and I have no desire to try and make any new friends on my own. I used to love making new friends on my own. I just don't have the energy anymore. New friends now come through other friends I already have, that way they're already vetted. Also I can't wait for when Jake, Sam & Justin just show up on your doorstep one week, like Hi Bitch, we're here to podcast.
As someone who is always trying to look at the bright side while things get harder and harder in my own life, I really appreciate Chris speaking his truth about his depression and having his whole team be there for him with words that can inspire/pertain to everyone. I hope things get better for you Chris, and you being honest about your feelings is appreciated by most.
Chris, you keep it so real. I enjoy that! As a 29 year old now currently - it is so relatable. Thank you, Chris for sharing! There's a part that wants the 30 year old experience to just come, and a part that doesn't want it yet.
I turn 31 next week and I'm still working with the same issues! When I was 29 I made a tight friend group then all at once we all transfered, got promoted, or moved. I chose a house and opportunity outside California but it was really hard to leave my friends. However, even if I had stayed, they all changed and moved too. I think this age is learning to be friends with yourself and figuring out what makes you happy and doing that more. In very low moments fighting sadness with gratitude is powerful, too- I'm grateful to have cool friends to miss, even though I hate being without them! Thanks for still showing up and making a great episode ❤️
I really feel like life doesn’t get easier, it gives you challenges all the time, BUT as you get older you really learn to ‘handle’ it better. As a person with a life-long neurological problems, being positive is hard.. but taking the challenge and LEARNING from it.. is a blessing!
I'm glad Jake doesn't give up when you're spiraling, it's not easy for either one of you I'm sure. Keep your head up Chris, the sun will find you again
this is frustrating to watch because I love Chris so much but it doesn’t seem like he wants to take the action to get better. No one will never wake up one day and magically be better and your problems will always feel there. But also knowing this pain just makes me notice and appreciate the happiness when it comes. I hope Chris finds the energy to pull himself up and experience new things, meet new people, and make the effort to make himself happy.
I just have to say, personally I’ve been really going through it in my life as well and I don’t mind chris talking about what he’s going through. It makes me feel like i’m not the only one and even people who have a lot can still go through a lot of course. but him just expressing his feelings but also trying to be grateful is how i’ve tried to be lately as well. it’s exhausting sometimes when you’re going through a lot and everyone else on social media looks like they’re having the best time. I just appreciate Chris being honest about where he’s at. he doesn’t have to fake anything. If you’re listening and can’t relate then you just have to stop listening to it! don’t leave mean comments or make him feel worse:(( LOVE YOU CHRIS
Chris can I be honest? As a long time viewer, an internet friend and someone who cares, I think not drinking is going to help you a lot. i’m no doctor and i’m just a rando on the internet and i have no say or business even saying this but it’s just cause i love your content and want to see you thrive. depression is a bitch and you are not alone. you will get through this ❤️
i smoked weed from ages 15-21, and had to quit last year after my anxiety suddenly worsened and I realized weed was a trigger. I had issues with depression pretty bad once I graduated high school, but realized that the winter I’d quit was the first winter in years that I wasn’t depressed. I had never considered weed a contribution to my depression over the years until after I quit and felt the difference. I know you’d prob never want to consider quitting bc of all the ways weed enhances you life, but idk it might be something to think about🖤
Ok I don’t know if I can listen anymore, I get your in a hard place right now but so am I and it doesn’t help me to hear this over and over every time.
I think it speaks to your character that you are brave and on the go! You are not stagnant, or afraid to take risks, and it’s very inspiring that you moved across the country and invested in an asset. Who knows in the future you could have family living there, have it rented out, maybe you meet your person and raise a family there, so many possibilities! LA is such an easy hole to get trapped in, it’s so disconnected from the real world, and now you have a challenge which will inevitably build you up for the future! You’re awesome and thank you for keeping it so real❤️
My fiance and I are in the process of selling our house to go off grid. I know the housing market is playing a role in it but we definitely think about whether or not we're doing the right thing every day. I've wanted to vlog the move but it's literally so stressful one day we love it the next we want to give up and go home. We are also 7+ hours away from family and have mental health struggles. We can get there, we made the decisions for a reason we will find them again ☺️💕
i’m about to turn twenty in a few days and i feel the exact same as you do at 29. i feel like the days are mixed with absolute dread and then the best days ! it’s a roller coaster! i found a lot of comfort in you talking about your twenties because i feel like i’m gonna have a mental breakdown on my birthday. thank you chris you did help!
Your videos make me feel a lot better, especially these podcasts. I relate a lot to how you feel. I also just turned 24 on October 28th and felt really alone. I just worked from home and didn't go anywhere. It was on a Friday and I did nothing all weekend. I don't really have friends, I was a commuter student and transferred from a community college so I struggled to make friends in college and have never been to a party. I've also never been in a relationship or even had my first kiss (I am extremely shy/nervous). And I also just started a new job in June where I'm the youngest by several years, I work in a windowless office, and I work alone because I do coding so it's hard to connect and it's extremely isolating; I often just cry in my office or car. But I too feel very privileged to complain about these things which makes me feel pathetic for being sad over these things. However, it's not pathetic, and it's okay to feel mentally unwell. I wish I had something to offer besides the cliche that you're not alone and your feelings are valid. I hear it all the time but I'm not sure it helps. I'm sorry. I hope things get better for both of us and thank you for sharing.❤
Chris thank you so much for this episode. I recently moved across the country away from all my friends and I’ve been feeling so lost lately. Your vulnerability showed me it’s okay to feel lost and that even when people appear to have their shit together (like you), you can still be struggling
depression is a heavy and seemingly impossible thing to deal with, regardless of what good things are happening in your life. thanks for being incredibly vulnerable with us, i think it gives listeners some solace knowing we're not alone in dealing with mental struggles & big shoutout to the whole team for being super open and helpful too!!! love u all
I am also depressed and dealing with life changes. I quit my job and have been unemployed for quite some time now. I struggle every day to see the positive. But I'm learning nothing is permanent. How I'm feeling, where I'm at in life, the good and the bad-- they're all not permanent. So you moved and are having a hard time adjusting to your new life which is normal, but you can always sell your house and move back. And Jake has such great advice and makes me feel safe unlike my father. I'm so thankful I have somewhat of a father figure through Jake lmao
Chris we are all you right now ❤ I’m 28. I sold my house two years ago after a bad breakup and now I’m back ti being broke and paying rent and feeling like a failure because I feel like I’m going backwards…. I think it’s just kind of part of leaving the 20s. It’s the next chapter and moving is also really hard… when I sold my house I moved back home where I had zero friends and isolated for basically a year. You’ll settle in and get into your groove. And your friends are still there and not too far away… feeling like you need some trips to go visit is always an option ❤️ You’re a bad bitch! Don’t fucking forget it! ❤
I just moved from CA to Vermont. I was born and raised in Los Angeles and moved here to be closer to my BFs family and I miss my family everyday. I relate to this so much. The ups are so good but the lows hit hard. Thank you for sharing this . Makes me realize other people feel lows when they go though such a big change
I’ve been going through the opposite feelings. I wish I could go back to 25 and decide to live a full life instead of sitting at home and never going out. I’m so desperate for a friend, but I have no idea how to make one. I’m so ready for a major life change.
I think how you’re feeling is normal. Not to play it down, but to make you not feel so alone. I’m turning 30 this year, couple of years ago I left my hometown to go somewhere new with my bf and the first 2 years felt brutal hard being lonely and unsure. Now I’ve bought a house and I still feel like I’m putting together the blocks. I just think a lot of people mask their issues , we’re all dealing with the same things. Keep looking for things that make you happy , it’s okay to not know what you’re doing x
I understand you 100% Chris. Ive been feeling all of this too. Your feelings are valid. You will find your way. Just stay focused on your health and emotional wellness and find what brings you joy
Chris, it’s scary how everytime I watch you podcast it relates WAY TOO MUCH! Lol I’m literally in an Emerging Infectious Disease class writing an assignment right now about misconceptions about vaccines. You talking about getting the flu from the flu shot is exactly what I was writing. The worlds weird.
It never gets easier to watch him shut down every thing Jake says.. at this point maybe don’t have Jake be a part/have a mic because it doesn’t seem like his comments and opinions are being received. It’s hard to watch
I mean do not overthink the whole moving out of LA and buying a house, you can always airbnb your house one day to make money out of it at least and rent a new place somewhere else 😄 everything is temporary at the end of the day. Gotta enjoy it while you can and that’s it
This has been a week, started a new job 2 weeks ago and found out today they are claiming bankruptcy and we are getting fired 🙃 I needed this episode today 🙌
Jake is the voice of reason and light in the darkness for you, Chris. It’s ok to not know what’s wrong, not pinpoint the issue. Your 20’s is rough - you’re figuring it out, things are going your way and exactly what you dreamed. It’s ok to feel like you don’t know where you place is in that and like you’re still lost. We don’t see you as complaining; true fans of yours appreciate your transparency and relate to being in this place and sitting with these feelings, even in times when everything is going right. Keep your chin up ❤
I’ve never related to anything more. I remember moving into my flat and being so excited to decorate and plan what every room would look like. Thinking I’d be hosting parties and brunches and all that fun stuff. Less than 2 years later it feels so empty…
CHRIS!! Your feelings are valid! you are allowed to feel the ways you feel and it doesn't matter if people think you sound ungrateful because they aren't living your life! You are valid, what you feel is valid!
Also 29 and I'm relating to this on several levels. Long story short, everytime I've moved in my life, I've moved far away. I completely get the whole rebuilding and feeling lost. Felt especially lost when I became 18 and moved back to my hometown. Spent 3 years trying to find my place, but nothing felt right. Ended up getting a Danish bf and moving 7 hours south to Copenhagen. It became my new home and I had a decent social and work life. Then two years ago we decided to move to the other side of Denmark, to be closer to my bf's family. Rebuilding once again. But it was the right choice. We have a much better apartment, we don't have to travel as much and we were finally able to get a cat. Obviously my family being 10 hours away is not ideal, but since there's less places we have to travel annually, we are more free to go visit them when we have time off. We might even have time to go on a non-family related holiday for once. I hope that you, like I, find light and comfort at the end of this transition. ❤️ Somehow I feel like this sums it up: When I was a kid, I wanted the superpower to control fire, because it was cool. Today I'd like the superpower to teleport, so that I can visit family and friends whenever I want. As a fellow millennial, perhaps you'll relate.
I’m sorry you’re experiencing this hard time. Everything you’re saying is relatable, personally. I’m 28 and just moved across the country too (AK-FL). FL is where Im from and it’s still a huge adjustment. I’ve spent the last decade trying to figure out what the hell I’m gonna do with my life. It’s hard and exhausting and lonely. There aren’t words that can fix what you’re feeling but i want to remind you that you’re doing better than you think, we’re all just figuring it out and you aren’t alone. I think our collective feeling of dissatisfaction is largely due to believing we SHOULD feel or think a certain way. Don’t should on yourself! Hang in there, I hope things get better for the both of us soon ❤️
Chris I totally get you. I'm a homeowner have been for 6 years and when I 1st moved to Philadelphia I was leaving all my friends from undergrad and basically my whole life and grad school and moving somewhere where I literally knew no one just for a job. so it was definitely difficult starting out. and you really have to give yourself some credit cause you lived with your mom at 1st. so you've only really been in your house for a month, like you said. and yeah for the folks saying that you should just get out of it or be happy or think things a different way like that's not how the f*** depression works. there's like being sad when sad things are happening. but for my personal experience there's also being depressed and when I'm depressed there's nothing that's going to get me out of it except for time. But yeah just do the things you enjoy even if they feel so so for a while. Praying for your Nana and Booger. And even when it seems like you have it together when you do get older and your life is more settled and you're used to things use it's still not gonna be perfect and you're still gonna be figuring it out but you definitely learn better coping skills as you get older I think but if you're truly truly depressed that's just a state of being. I am pretty sure you won't read this you just post cause it's super long but if you made it to the end love you love what you do thank you for your vulnerability this is actually my 1st time listening to your Podcast and I have been struggling today and just know that it's good to know you're not alone and I'm right here in Philadelphia so you're not the only one going through this s*** even though you have many things to be grateful for that doesn't mean that life can't be hard for you
People don’t realize that alcohol makes you depressed. Dopamine gets so low that u feel depressed and it can become chronic even if u just have a glass of wine a day. Not saying u can't still be depressed without drinking, but it definitely doesn't help.
I felt this im going to be 27 next month and im miserable with bills and my job 😭 Also a lot of my friends are married and having kids and im like uh lol
Josh, you are a true gem. Wow. I Chris, I so feel you. I moved to DE from NJ 4 years ago, making friends as an adult is HARD. Especially real, genuine, good people. You’re amazing, and you will get back to yourself! We all have faith in you. Hugs❤
Depression is a disease, it's so thick and suffocating. Theres dayd where you feel you wont be affected by anything and then theres days that's all you're affected by. I feel awful for Chris bc he going through a low low spot right now and I just hope so much that he gets better
As someone who just moved to be with family and left all their friends behind i understand how hard it is to feel like you should be grateful to be with family but still be so lonely. You're not crazy Chris, its not easy! You'll find a good balance eventually 💕
You knew where you were moving, so what exactly did you expect? Neighborhood street parties? Your friends to follow you? My questions aren’t meant to be harsh. Your videos are worrisome. The highs and lows are more intense now.
I think you need to find a hobby to do in Delaware, like a pottery class , yoga classes , tennis club , art classes , etc just something or a weekly routine to look forward to
I think moving was the right thing for you. It's just a lonely overwhelming process because even though you had help along the way, you essentially still did it alone. Maybe it's time to start exploring dating again. Sometimes all we need is a partner in crime to live life out with to make ends meet for ourselves. Still, be proud of how far you came. You're doing phenomenal, honey ❤️
When that guy said in your 20s ur partying and going out and then late 20s you get jobs and every nights not a party. Me and most people I know have had jobs since high school / college and we haven’t partied since college. I’m living my mid 20s feeling late 20s lol
I listen because you’re so real about how you feel. you don’t sound like you’re whining, you’re just describing your experience. just because things could be worse doesn’t mean what you find annoying or inconveniences you is less important
i feel like im goin thru something very similar to you rn. you’ve been going through some change, making new friends, losing some, making decisions then contemplating the result of your choice later on etc. (well this is me on the outside looking in obv i dont know everything you’re goin thru🤣) idk abt you but for me it gets to a point where i can genuinely never have just a blank thought, or just “daydream” ig u can say. like at ever second of every day you’re thinking abt all the things that bring u that stress theres never a break. thennnn😭 at that point its like ok dude id rather be an airhead w no thoughts just vibes.
Awe, Chris! I feel the same way every time my best friend leaves or drops me off home. It feels lonely 😞 plus dealing with house stuff and adulting is really stressful. Birthdays are a landmark too, so I get why you’re depressed. Totally valid 💖 don’t feel complain-y!
omg when i saw you uploaded it was while i was coming down from a mental breakdown!!!! it was so bad i had to stop in a parking lot for 30 minutes because i was crying so hard and then started screaming. the past 2 days at work in combo with day light savings time and a few other things just made me break the fuccckkkk down. the worst i have had in my adult life i think. i work with kids and will feel guilty for quitting, but i also don't want to traumatize these kids by breaking and yelling in their faces or break down crying in the corner.
Okay Chris I’m sorry you’re not doing well mentally right now and I don’t ever want you to feel like just because you appear to have a very blessed life that you can’t also deal with depression. Regardless of your life depression has a way of taking all the joy and happiness out of life and that is your reality. Being depressed doesn’t mean your not grateful. You can be grateful for your life and also deal with depression. I appreciate you being honest about your struggles and I think a lot of people can relate. Also I think a lot of people are being really hard on you for not taking jakes advice which I think is good advice but at the same time when people are trying to put a positive spin on everything and it doesn’t match how you feel internally it can actually be quite invalidating. You’re feelings are valid and I hope you can find the things that give you life and make you feel whole again. And even if you don’t that’s okay too. Depression is difficult and it’s not always something people can overcome easily so just do your best.
Tip from someone who suffered from depression. Having the clearest mind possible helps so much to process things in the healthiest way. Maybe stop drinking or getting drunk and see if it helps your thought process at all. Sometimes substances can be the reason for depression without you even realizing it
This is one of those comments I’m reluctant to like because the hedonist in me calls you mom by this sentiment…but you’re not wrong. “Is the love? The drugs? The weed ? The 🐱ussy? Maybe it’s all the above? Maybe I don’t need a hug, maybe I’m just fcked up” that song got popular when I felt this the most. I still do. And I mean, I’m reading your comment with a thc vape pen at 6 am For chris which I heavily feel, I think when I feel I still need to marinate in my feelings so to speak so I like it when people ask me “do you want a solution or just an ear?” With this podcast OMG HE JUST ASKED WHERE HIS VAPE PEN WAS IN THIS VIDEO….
hey Chris, sending lots of love. i would totally be friends with you hypothetically speaking. also i think the pure and vulnerable way you express yourself is actually really helpful, i for one recognised myself in some of it and im pretty sure im not the only one. just a nice reminder that it is okay to not always be okay
Chris first off you are such a beautiful soul even depressed. Being vulnerable is so hard but you are 100% authentic and I appreciate that so much. You just seem to have a bitterness towards life rn and I 1000% get that because that’s what depression does to you. I go in and out of depression and have since I was young(I’d like to say since 18 but the trauma responses say otherwise😬) and it’s so incredibly overwhelming and even bitter because you get resentful for not being where you feel like you should be without the depression and trauma but you have a different voice, you just need to learn how to use it better. Your brains baby deering you a little and you are much stronger than that. Try and be more mindful about what you are doing. Make a list of basic “have to-do’s” in your day and don’t beat yourself up so much about life being life and things going wrong or things not thinging. Life is incredibly short but I believe it’s also slow for some people that have a different purpose than others so you have time to catch up to whatever your purpose is. You will find your person or better yet let them find you! 💓 but hold space for things. Look into how to change your brain chemistry and meditate and work out and do all the stupid things people say to do and that damn Jordan Peterson and make your bed lol. Seriously though all those little things help us so much. Take classes! You have money to spend on so many resources others can’t/don’t have. I know life gets exhausting and it’s okay to rest but also choose the life you want while still allowing bad days. Put photos up of memories that make you happy through out your house. Slowly you will start to feel better and think about not drinking so much. Drinking REALLY messes with me. Only recently have I stopped smoking too because that wasn’t cutting it either for me anymore. Working out and beating the shit out of battle ropes at the end of the day REALLY helps me de-stress. I hope you know how many people care about you and though they may not be your one to go home to at the end of the day, you have to go home to you, so learn to love you. 💓💗💕 I wish you all the happiness and room to breathe freely again. 😘 You bring me so much joy in my darkness and I hope you feel an ounce of that back soon! Go get em tiger 💓
im about to turn 28 next month and about to move to a new state because I have no more friends in my homestate since everyones moved. its so nice to hear someone else expericing this rn. im rightttttttt there with you guys, its so boring lol
Jakes positivity, optimism and good advice doesn’t get the recognition it deserves.
I really learn so much from him when he talks.
i feel like chris is kinda mean to him sometimes
@@oliviarose7779 maybe bc he’s depressed and everything annoys him idk maybe i’m trippen
@@itzeleno I think you’re absolutely right! Idk if Chris realizes how he comes off sometimes or maybe he does and doesn’t care. I can definitely come across similarly when I’m depressed and anxious as all get out so💕
He means well and u can tell
Every time Jake tries to bring you up, it sucks knowing an immediate dismissal or shooting down of his positive spin is coming next. I deal with depression as well, but geesh. It’s been happening for a while and it sucks to always see. I hope you find whatever brings you happiness throughout all this change. Been watching you for years and it sucks to see the shift and hopelessness you feel.
I've felt this way for past podcasts too! It's a bit heartbreaking. I know Jake is close with Chris so it could be different for him but it definitely comes off a bit harsh whenever Chris immediately shoots him down. I deal with depression too and it is hard to accept positivity sometimes, but it's a bit hard to watch when Jake tries so hard to boost him up
Could not agree more. This episode was honestly a little draining because of it, which I hate to say because I LOVE this podcast.
27 and i still struggle. BUT therapy + ssri’s helped tremendously, saved my life. i know he says he is in therapy but it makes me think, find a new therapist? i know it’s hard and not one thing alone will cure your depression but whatever he’s doing doesn’t seem to be working. and i really hope he gets help. there is so much to be grateful for, it’s sad to see someone as wealthy (money/family/friends) as him be so pessimistic.
it’s kind of funny
Chris can’t control it though. That’s depression. I noticed it too but it’s not his fault.
Can we protect jake at all costs. He’s so wise and insightful and caring and kind 🥺🥺
Jakes therapist needs a raise. He is so wise and has such great advice mental wellness 😂
He’s the best
Wish that he wasn’t shut down immediately. Depression or not. Mental health does not give free pass to treat people who genuinely care for you and who are trying to help, like absolutely dog crap. Jake is truly a gem. Wish we could hear more of him. His energy is pure love.
@@CosmicEngimas my thoughts exactly! I’ve noticed every time Jake has something insightful or even just supportive to say to Chris, Chris immediately comes across as dismissive towards him and almost irked about anything he has to say. I get sarcasm is Chris’s brand but damn. Let the man speak. Maybe acknowledge how much he cares sometimes :(
@@amala.x i think its an avoidant attatchment thing and an association with father figures thing. kind of unintuitive, but sometimes the closer one is the more comfortable with being honest with them someone will feel. he feels comfortable expressing his depression to jake. i notice myself shutting down my therapist with the same mechanism sometimes
@@amala.x i a million percent agree that its a dysfunctional behaviour (reference unintended lol) but i feel like it can be understood as much less malicious/ worthy of scolding ect
when framed with more nuance and context
notice how chris even said he feels lonely but doesnt want new friends? peak avoidant attatchment shit
Damn Jake gives really good life advice. His contribution to the podcast makes it all the more interesting to watch.
I agree and wish Chris would listen more & not argue with everything he says.
Ya I feel bad for Jake when Chris cuts him off/immediately shuts down right off the bat:/
Trully
I thought he was the therapist
It’s so upsetting hearing Jake trying his best and then Chris not even recognizing his help and just shutting it down with no remorse.
I have diagnosed depression and anxiety that I’m on medication for.
The way Chris is so defensive of every little thing Jake says is so off putting to hear.
I say that as someone who has done the same thing to people trying to help me.
Seeing someone do it really is such a bummer. Bless Jakes heart for continuously offering advice and taking it like a champ when he gets a defensive answer each time.
This one was a little difficult to listen to. The support surrounding Chris is unbelievable and it’s hard to see everyone be dismissed- which I know Chris can’t help as he’s feeling depressed. But a little recognition of the circle he has would be amazing. Love you Chris ❤
Chris I feel you. I’m an almost-30 year old living in Delaware (I’ve lived here for my entire life) and my husband and I are gonna be moving to the Pacific Northwest in the spring. I’m excited but also questioning if it’s the right life decision. But the only way to know is to just do it, yanno. I think you made the right decision about buying your house. You’re not stuck there forever. You can always sell it, or temporarily move somewhere else, etc. Nothing is permanent, life is fleeting, just live it up while you can. Much love
Good luck! Sounds like an amazing adventure. I couldn't take it there after 3 yrs..but here are some things i wish my friends told me before moving in, in case it helps with the transition: look into yellow indoor lighting and start planning for what makes you feel good, maybe vitamins or some activity. I love rainy days and thought it'd be fine but spending 9/10 months without seeing the sun is hard
@@wawis231 thank you for the tips!!! My husband and I are huge into hiking so even tho we know the rain sucks we’re looking forward to being able to drive a couple hours or less to get to the mountains
The PNW is the best!!
Moved to the PNW in 2019 and absolutely love all of the outdoor activities it has to offer, no regrets - grew up in MI
I hope you're white. The PNW is a very different type of racism and if you aren't obviously white it's kinda isolating and sorta shitty. Also, if you get SAD get sun lights/lamps for sure
Jake, I just wanted you to know to that you are so respected and appreciated by many of us! Your support is awesome and genuine, that's not easy to find nowadays 💙
Chris, I wonder if cutting out alcohol would help. For me anyway, when I drink, I get the most severe depressions for days after. I overthink everything and want to just hide away. I wonder if you can correlate your feelings with after drinking heavily.
I absolutely second this!!
alcohol IS a depressant. depressed people should stay away
Exactly! I noticed this during lockdowns! Having a few drinks would put me in a depressive episode for weeks.
Saaaame!! Alcohol is a depressant
@@thegotwos I was going to type this out! Alcohol is _literally_ a depressant. Like how adhd medication is a stimulant. Alcohol is a depressant.
Thanks Jake for the wonderful advice. I know it was for chris but it actually helped me, as someone who has lived in Boston for 2 years now and haven’t really found a group of friends outside of coworkers I see occasionally. I didn’t go to college here or anything, so it’s been tough. But I think it really does help to enjoy being with yourself and finding new hobbies. I started reading recently and it’s given me something to look forward to
I remember when I was a child and I was all like yeah I can't wait to grow up and be an adult and now I'm like HELP GET ME OUT OF THIS NIGHTMAREEEEE
THIS PART!!!!!
My friends always would laugh when I would say I want to go back to school and have a whole lecture begging them to stay in school and that being an adult is a complete scam. We all fucking hate it.
I never been so serious in my life 🤔
@@kingty6221 truly, we did not sign up for this!!!
Hey Chris. Love your podcast, and I just want to say I think you should listen to Jake more. He has a lot more life experience, and is sharing extremely valuable/parental information.. I think you should stop arguing with him, he is trying so hard to help you. He cares so much
Agreed!!! He could be little more nice and open towards him
chris, i love you but you need to sometimes stop and listen from the people who care. Jake is offering great advice and generally seems to care about you a lot. appreciate the people you have in your life a little more you can be very mean to him sometimes.
It's not uncommon for people to have a depressive episode triggered by a major life change. Even when it's not a bad thing... I was hype to go to college, and fall of senior year I was horribly depressed. Try to give yourself grace to feel how you feel, and give time a little time. Hang in there Chris ❤
i would do anything for jake at this point. it's so obvious he genuinley cares about your wellbeing n its so cute to catch him trying to kind of prod you in a positive direction while not being too invasive. is he taking adoption requests
The way he said “you have a mind that doesn’t stop and that’s pretty cool” made me feel better about my brain. I’ve always heard “just focus just think of one thing” I’ve never heard someone knowledge that it’s kinda cool🥰
I feel bad for jake. He tries to uplift but only gets put down or laughed at.
He’s our dad. He knows we love him lmao
I think I just have to stop listening to this podcast. I loved early episodes & even when things started getting more raw & honest I was into it. But I feel it has reached a point of inspiring hopelessness/despair in me. I also find it really hard just listening to someone be so unkind to others for an hour.
@@smashwelll couldn’t agree more. Mental health or not, it’s been an ongoing pattern of Chris shutting down Jake’s advice and it makes it kinda difficult to watch :/
Can u literally just listen to Jake like.
And I hate how no one backs him like like he’s literally right about most the things he says
justice for jake i love him
I just want to say adulting IS hard af. But as a 32 turning 33 this month you and being severely mental ill with autoimmune issues, you motivate me!! Life is a lot but you are still doing your thing and showing the world shits real. Love you man. Just keep swimming. X
“Showers should be pee temperature” thank you for that Justin lmao
The pure wisdom the crew spews 😭
I just wanna say something i sadly realize and i dont mean to point it out if it isnt an issue but chris i feel u like clearly aggressively disagree with jake and i feeel soooo bad. I know he has a different perspective of things because no one thinks the same way but he actually has some points especially in this episode. idk😅
So glad to have jake on the pod
I'm 42, and I have no desire to try and make any new friends on my own. I used to love making new friends on my own. I just don't have the energy anymore. New friends now come through other friends I already have, that way they're already vetted. Also I can't wait for when Jake, Sam & Justin just show up on your doorstep one week, like Hi Bitch, we're here to podcast.
I love how Jake, Justin, and Sam are so good at being supportive of Chris . I hope you get though this Chris.
jake and his wholesome dad energy he is a true gem
As someone who is always trying to look at the bright side while things get harder and harder in my own life, I really appreciate Chris speaking his truth about his depression and having his whole team be there for him with words that can inspire/pertain to everyone. I hope things get better for you Chris, and you being honest about your feelings is appreciated by most.
Jake needs more love for real his insights are so sweet & true he doesn't get the recognition he deserves 🥺
Chris, you keep it so real. I enjoy that! As a 29 year old now currently - it is so relatable. Thank you, Chris for sharing! There's a part that wants the 30 year old experience to just come, and a part that doesn't want it yet.
I turn 31 next week and I'm still working with the same issues! When I was 29 I made a tight friend group then all at once we all transfered, got promoted, or moved. I chose a house and opportunity outside California but it was really hard to leave my friends. However, even if I had stayed, they all changed and moved too. I think this age is learning to be friends with yourself and figuring out what makes you happy and doing that more. In very low moments fighting sadness with gratitude is powerful, too- I'm grateful to have cool friends to miss, even though I hate being without them! Thanks for still showing up and making a great episode ❤️
I really feel like life doesn’t get easier, it gives you challenges all the time, BUT as you get older you really learn to ‘handle’ it better. As a person with a life-long neurological problems, being positive is hard.. but taking the challenge and LEARNING from it.. is a blessing!
I'm glad Jake doesn't give up when you're spiraling, it's not easy for either one of you I'm sure. Keep your head up Chris, the sun will find you again
this is frustrating to watch because I love Chris so much but it doesn’t seem like he wants to take the action to get better. No one will never wake up one day and magically be better and your problems will always feel there. But also knowing this pain just makes me notice and appreciate the happiness when it comes. I hope Chris finds the energy to pull himself up and experience new things, meet new people, and make the effort to make himself happy.
I just have to say, personally I’ve been really going through it in my life as well and I don’t mind chris talking about what he’s going through. It makes me feel like i’m not the only one and even people who have a lot can still go through a lot of course. but him just expressing his feelings but also trying to be grateful is how i’ve tried to be lately as well. it’s exhausting sometimes when you’re going through a lot and everyone else on social media looks like they’re having the best time. I just appreciate Chris being honest about where he’s at. he doesn’t have to fake anything. If you’re listening and can’t relate then you just have to stop listening to it! don’t leave mean comments or make him feel worse:(( LOVE YOU CHRIS
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I love and appreciate you so much. You have gotten through every single difficult moment in your entire life. Be proud of yourself babes
Chris can I be honest? As a long time viewer, an internet friend and someone who cares, I think not drinking is going to help you a lot. i’m no doctor and i’m just a rando on the internet and i have no say or business even saying this but it’s just cause i love your content and want to see you thrive. depression is a bitch and you are not alone. you will get through this ❤️
I agree with this so much!!! Drinking is awful for our mental health!!
i smoked weed from ages 15-21, and had to quit last year after my anxiety suddenly worsened and I realized weed was a trigger. I had issues with depression pretty bad once I graduated high school, but realized that the winter I’d quit was the first winter in years that I wasn’t depressed. I had never considered weed a contribution to my depression over the years until after I quit and felt the difference. I know you’d prob never want to consider quitting bc of all the ways weed enhances you life, but idk it might be something to think about🖤
Completely
jake is so wholesome
Ok I don’t know if I can listen anymore, I get your in a hard place right now but so am I and it doesn’t help me to hear this over and over every time.
Does Chris hate Jake Lol
I think it speaks to your character that you are brave and on the go! You are not stagnant, or afraid to take risks, and it’s very inspiring that you moved across the country and invested in an asset. Who knows in the future you could have family living there, have it rented out, maybe you meet your person and raise a family there, so many possibilities! LA is such an easy hole to get trapped in, it’s so disconnected from the real world, and now you have a challenge which will inevitably build you up for the future! You’re awesome and thank you for keeping it so real❤️
I remember wishing away time in my 20’s, and now I’m clinging onto every second of my 30’s. Life’s stages are beautiful but often difficult to endure.
Wow
My fiance and I are in the process of selling our house to go off grid. I know the housing market is playing a role in it but we definitely think about whether or not we're doing the right thing every day. I've wanted to vlog the move but it's literally so stressful one day we love it the next we want to give up and go home. We are also 7+ hours away from family and have mental health struggles. We can get there, we made the decisions for a reason we will find them again ☺️💕
Bro I’m over here at 15 asking myself if life gets easier
No. With the 'freedoms' of adulthood just brings the prison of bills and work.
oh honey just wait
I’m 25 and I must say.. absolutely not.
@@milkdud8300 should I just off myself?
i’m about to turn twenty in a few days and i feel the exact same as you do at 29. i feel like the days are mixed with absolute dread and then the best days ! it’s a roller coaster! i found a lot of comfort in you talking about your twenties because i feel like i’m gonna have a mental breakdown on my birthday. thank you chris you did help!
Your videos make me feel a lot better, especially these podcasts. I relate a lot to how you feel. I also just turned 24 on October 28th and felt really alone. I just worked from home and didn't go anywhere. It was on a Friday and I did nothing all weekend. I don't really have friends, I was a commuter student and transferred from a community college so I struggled to make friends in college and have never been to a party. I've also never been in a relationship or even had my first kiss (I am extremely shy/nervous). And I also just started a new job in June where I'm the youngest by several years, I work in a windowless office, and I work alone because I do coding so it's hard to connect and it's extremely isolating; I often just cry in my office or car. But I too feel very privileged to complain about these things which makes me feel pathetic for being sad over these things. However, it's not pathetic, and it's okay to feel mentally unwell. I wish I had something to offer besides the cliche that you're not alone and your feelings are valid. I hear it all the time but I'm not sure it helps. I'm sorry. I hope things get better for both of us and thank you for sharing.❤
“It doesn’t get easier, you get better.” It’s a cliche but it’s true.
I love this honestly
Chris thank you so much for this episode. I recently moved across the country away from all my friends and I’ve been feeling so lost lately. Your vulnerability showed me it’s okay to feel lost and that even when people appear to have their shit together (like you), you can still be struggling
depression is a heavy and seemingly impossible thing to deal with, regardless of what good things are happening in your life. thanks for being incredibly vulnerable with us, i think it gives listeners some solace knowing we're not alone in dealing with mental struggles & big shoutout to the whole team for being super open and helpful too!!! love u all
I am also depressed and dealing with life changes. I quit my job and have been unemployed for quite some time now. I struggle every day to see the positive. But I'm learning nothing is permanent. How I'm feeling, where I'm at in life, the good and the bad-- they're all not permanent. So you moved and are having a hard time adjusting to your new life which is normal, but you can always sell your house and move back. And Jake has such great advice and makes me feel safe unlike my father. I'm so thankful I have somewhat of a father figure through Jake lmao
Chris we are all you right now ❤ I’m 28. I sold my house two years ago after a bad breakup and now I’m back ti being broke and paying rent and feeling like a failure because I feel like I’m going backwards…. I think it’s just kind of part of leaving the 20s. It’s the next chapter and moving is also really hard… when I sold my house I moved back home where I had zero friends and isolated for basically a year. You’ll settle in and get into your groove.
And your friends are still there and not too far away… feeling like you need some trips to go visit is always an option ❤️
You’re a bad bitch! Don’t fucking forget it! ❤
You too!!!
@@chrisklemens for you I’ll try ❤️😭
I just moved from CA to Vermont. I was born and raised in Los Angeles and moved here to be closer to my BFs family and I miss my family everyday. I relate to this so much. The ups are so good but the lows hit hard. Thank you for sharing this . Makes me realize other people feel lows when they go though such a big change
I’ve been going through the opposite feelings. I wish I could go back to 25 and decide to live a full life instead of sitting at home and never going out. I’m so desperate for a friend, but I have no idea how to make one. I’m so ready for a major life change.
i've been pretty down lately, but today has been an up day. thank you for making it even better :-) sending some sunshine your way, chris!
what the fuuuuuuck is in the air these days damn
@@chrisklemens fr turned on lucid dreams and got emo
I think how you’re feeling is normal. Not to play it down, but to make you not feel so alone. I’m turning 30 this year, couple of years ago I left my hometown to go somewhere new with my bf and the first 2 years felt brutal hard being lonely and unsure. Now I’ve bought a house and I still feel like I’m putting together the blocks. I just think a lot of people mask their issues , we’re all dealing with the same things. Keep looking for things that make you happy , it’s okay to not know what you’re doing x
that 29 year old guy who appears older than 29 has a lot of good advice, i appreciated listening to him and i'm now wondering what else he has to say
I understand you 100% Chris. Ive been feeling all of this too. Your feelings are valid. You will find your way. Just stay focused on your health and emotional wellness and find what brings you joy
Chris, it’s scary how everytime I watch you podcast it relates WAY TOO MUCH! Lol I’m literally in an Emerging Infectious Disease class writing an assignment right now about misconceptions about vaccines. You talking about getting the flu from the flu shot is exactly what I was writing. The worlds weird.
It never gets easier to watch him shut down every thing Jake says.. at this point maybe don’t have Jake be a part/have a mic because it doesn’t seem like his comments and opinions are being received. It’s hard to watch
I'm 24 with 2 kiddos and I feel the exact same way as you chris. Thank you for keeping it so real 💯
I've been feeling the same way, and this was very very helpful. Your honesty and openness along with your friend's advice is meaningful
This felt like a group therapy session and I’m here for it
I mean do not overthink the whole moving out of LA and buying a house, you can always airbnb your house one day to make money out of it at least and rent a new place somewhere else 😄 everything is temporary at the end of the day. Gotta enjoy it while you can and that’s it
This has been a week, started a new job 2 weeks ago and found out today they are claiming bankruptcy and we are getting fired 🙃 I needed this episode today 🙌
Onward and upward. Sending good vibes
Jake is the voice of reason and light in the darkness for you, Chris. It’s ok to not know what’s wrong, not pinpoint the issue. Your 20’s is rough - you’re figuring it out, things are going your way and exactly what you dreamed. It’s ok to feel like you don’t know where you place is in that and like you’re still lost. We don’t see you as complaining; true fans of yours appreciate your transparency and relate to being in this place and sitting with these feelings, even in times when everything is going right. Keep your chin up ❤
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I’ve never related to anything more. I remember moving into my flat and being so excited to decorate and plan what every room would look like. Thinking I’d be hosting parties and brunches and all that fun stuff. Less than 2 years later it feels so empty…
CHRIS!! Your feelings are valid! you are allowed to feel the ways you feel and it doesn't matter if people think you sound ungrateful because they aren't living your life! You are valid, what you feel is valid!
Also 29 and I'm relating to this on several levels. Long story short, everytime I've moved in my life, I've moved far away. I completely get the whole rebuilding and feeling lost. Felt especially lost when I became 18 and moved back to my hometown. Spent 3 years trying to find my place, but nothing felt right. Ended up getting a Danish bf and moving 7 hours south to Copenhagen. It became my new home and I had a decent social and work life. Then two years ago we decided to move to the other side of Denmark, to be closer to my bf's family. Rebuilding once again. But it was the right choice. We have a much better apartment, we don't have to travel as much and we were finally able to get a cat. Obviously my family being 10 hours away is not ideal, but since there's less places we have to travel annually, we are more free to go visit them when we have time off. We might even have time to go on a non-family related holiday for once. I hope that you, like I, find light and comfort at the end of this transition. ❤️ Somehow I feel like this sums it up: When I was a kid, I wanted the superpower to control fire, because it was cool. Today I'd like the superpower to teleport, so that I can visit family and friends whenever I want. As a fellow millennial, perhaps you'll relate.
I’m sorry you’re experiencing this hard time. Everything you’re saying is relatable, personally. I’m 28 and just moved across the country too (AK-FL). FL is where Im from and it’s still a huge adjustment. I’ve spent the last decade trying to figure out what the hell I’m gonna do with my life. It’s hard and exhausting and lonely. There aren’t words that can fix what you’re feeling but i want to remind you that you’re doing better than you think, we’re all just figuring it out and you aren’t alone. I think our collective feeling of dissatisfaction is largely due to believing we SHOULD feel or think a certain way. Don’t should on yourself! Hang in there, I hope things get better for the both of us soon ❤️
Chris I totally get you. I'm a homeowner have been for 6 years and when I 1st moved to Philadelphia I was leaving all my friends from undergrad and basically my whole life and grad school and moving somewhere where I literally knew no one just for a job. so it was definitely difficult starting out. and you really have to give yourself some credit cause you lived with your mom at 1st. so you've only really been in your house for a month, like you said. and yeah for the folks saying that you should just get out of it or be happy or think things a different way like that's not how the f*** depression works. there's like being sad when sad things are happening. but for my personal experience there's also being depressed and when I'm depressed there's nothing that's going to get me out of it except for time. But yeah just do the things you enjoy even if they feel so so for a while. Praying for your Nana and Booger. And even when it seems like you have it together when you do get older and your life is more settled and you're used to things use it's still not gonna be perfect and you're still gonna be figuring it out but you definitely learn better coping skills as you get older I think but if you're truly truly depressed that's just a state of being. I am pretty sure you won't read this you just post cause it's super long but if you made it to the end love you love what you do thank you for your vulnerability this is actually my 1st time listening to your Podcast and I have been struggling today and just know that it's good to know you're not alone and I'm right here in Philadelphia so you're not the only one going through this s*** even though you have many things to be grateful for that doesn't mean that life can't be hard for you
People don’t realize that alcohol makes you depressed. Dopamine gets so low that u feel depressed and it can become chronic even if u just have a glass of wine a day. Not saying u can't still be depressed without drinking, but it definitely doesn't help.
I felt this im going to be 27 next month and im miserable with bills and my job 😭 Also a lot of my friends are married and having kids and im like uh lol
Josh, you are a true gem. Wow. I Chris, I so feel you. I moved to DE from NJ 4 years ago, making friends as an adult is HARD. Especially real, genuine, good people. You’re amazing, and you will get back to yourself! We all have faith in you. Hugs❤
Depression is a disease, it's so thick and suffocating. Theres dayd where you feel you wont be affected by anything and then theres days that's all you're affected by. I feel awful for Chris bc he going through a low low spot right now and I just hope so much that he gets better
As someone who just moved to be with family and left all their friends behind i understand how hard it is to feel like you should be grateful to be with family but still be so lonely. You're not crazy Chris, its not easy! You'll find a good balance eventually 💕
Chris’ home is already looking so aesthetic!!
You knew where you were moving, so what exactly did you expect? Neighborhood street parties? Your friends to follow you? My questions aren’t meant to be harsh.
Your videos are worrisome. The highs and lows are more intense now.
One depressed scorpio to another. This world is just too intense for us and change is our worst nightmare
Honestly, you laying on the couch like this is such a vibe.
I think you need to find a hobby to do in Delaware, like a pottery class , yoga classes , tennis club , art classes , etc just something or a weekly routine to look forward to
Love this hope you can watch this back and receive everything your friends gave you 💕
I think moving was the right thing for you. It's just a lonely overwhelming process because even though you had help along the way, you essentially still did it alone. Maybe it's time to start exploring dating again. Sometimes all we need is a partner in crime to live life out with to make ends meet for ourselves. Still, be proud of how far you came. You're doing phenomenal, honey ❤️
When that guy said in your 20s ur partying and going out and then late 20s you get jobs and every nights not a party. Me and most people I know have had jobs since high school / college and we haven’t partied since college. I’m living my mid 20s feeling late 20s lol
I listen because you’re so real about how you feel. you don’t sound like you’re whining, you’re just describing your experience. just because things could be worse doesn’t mean what you find annoying or inconveniences you is less important
I was having an anxiety attack (still am) but this is helping. thank you eternally.
Chris, you're one of my favorite humans and your videos always brighten my day. Stay strong and know you are so appreciated out here, fam! ✨
I love it here :) Thank you for making my favorite podcast ever
im so grateful :')
i feel like im goin thru something very similar to you rn. you’ve been going through some change, making new friends, losing some, making decisions then contemplating the result of your choice later on etc. (well this is me on the outside looking in obv i dont know everything you’re goin thru🤣) idk abt you but for me it gets to a point where i can genuinely never have just a blank thought, or just “daydream” ig u can say. like at ever second of every day you’re thinking abt all the things that bring u that stress theres never a break. thennnn😭 at that point its like ok dude id rather be an airhead w no thoughts just vibes.
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Awe, Chris! I feel the same way every time my best friend leaves or drops me off home. It feels lonely 😞 plus dealing with house stuff and adulting is really stressful. Birthdays are a landmark too, so I get why you’re depressed. Totally valid 💖 don’t feel complain-y!
omg when i saw you uploaded it was while i was coming down from a mental breakdown!!!! it was so bad i had to stop in a parking lot for 30 minutes because i was crying so hard and then started screaming. the past 2 days at work in combo with day light savings time and a few other things just made me break the fuccckkkk down. the worst i have had in my adult life i think. i work with kids and will feel guilty for quitting, but i also don't want to traumatize these kids by breaking and yelling in their faces or break down crying in the corner.
Swag and Shwag are two different words that can be used in the same context and with multiple meanings. Great Court!!! 🤣🤣🤣
Okay Chris I’m sorry you’re not doing well mentally right now and I don’t ever want you to feel like just because you appear to have a very blessed life that you can’t also deal with depression. Regardless of your life depression has a way of taking all the joy and happiness out of life and that is your reality. Being depressed doesn’t mean your not grateful. You can be grateful for your life and also deal with depression. I appreciate you being honest about your struggles and I think a lot of people can relate. Also I think a lot of people are being really hard on you for not taking jakes advice which I think is good advice but at the same time when people are trying to put a positive spin on everything and it doesn’t match how you feel internally it can actually be quite invalidating. You’re feelings are valid and I hope you can find the things that give you life and make you feel whole again. And even if you don’t that’s okay too. Depression is difficult and it’s not always something people can overcome easily so just do your best.
Tip from someone who suffered from depression. Having the clearest mind possible helps so much to process things in the healthiest way. Maybe stop drinking or getting drunk and see if it helps your thought process at all. Sometimes substances can be the reason for depression without you even realizing it
This is one of those comments I’m reluctant to like because the hedonist in me calls you mom by this sentiment…but you’re not wrong.
“Is the love? The drugs? The weed ? The 🐱ussy? Maybe it’s all the above? Maybe I don’t need a hug, maybe I’m just fcked up” that song got popular when I felt this the most. I still do. And I mean, I’m reading your comment with a thc vape pen at 6 am
For chris which I heavily feel, I think when I feel I still need to marinate in my feelings so to speak so I like it when people ask me “do you want a solution or just an ear?” With this podcast
OMG HE JUST ASKED WHERE HIS VAPE PEN WAS IN THIS VIDEO….
Yes I just commented something similar also mixing that stuff w prescriptions can’t be great either
I’m so appreciative of your vulnerability 💜
hey Chris, sending lots of love. i would totally be friends with you hypothetically speaking. also i think the pure and vulnerable way you express yourself is actually really helpful, i for one recognised myself in some of it and im pretty sure im not the only one. just a nice reminder that it is okay to not always be okay
Just wanted to say you have the best podcasts intro that I've seen. I turn it up all the way everytime.
Chris first off you are such a beautiful soul even depressed. Being vulnerable is so hard but you are 100% authentic and I appreciate that so much. You just seem to have a bitterness towards life rn and I 1000% get that because that’s what depression does to you. I go in and out of depression and have since I was young(I’d like to say since 18 but the trauma responses say otherwise😬) and it’s so incredibly overwhelming and even bitter because you get resentful for not being where you feel like you should be without the depression and trauma but you have a different voice, you just need to learn how to use it better. Your brains baby deering you a little and you are much stronger than that. Try and be more mindful about what you are doing. Make a list of basic “have to-do’s” in your day and don’t beat yourself up so much about life being life and things going wrong or things not thinging. Life is incredibly short but I believe it’s also slow for some people that have a different purpose than others so you have time to catch up to whatever your purpose is. You will find your person or better yet let them find you! 💓 but hold space for things. Look into how to change your brain chemistry and meditate and work out and do all the stupid things people say to do and that damn Jordan Peterson and make your bed lol. Seriously though all those little things help us so much. Take classes! You have money to spend on so many resources others can’t/don’t have. I know life gets exhausting and it’s okay to rest but also choose the life you want while still allowing bad days. Put photos up of memories that make you happy through out your house. Slowly you will start to feel better and think about not drinking so much. Drinking REALLY messes with me. Only recently have I stopped smoking too because that wasn’t cutting it either for me anymore. Working out and beating the shit out of battle ropes at the end of the day REALLY helps me de-stress. I hope you know how many people care about you and though they may not be your one to go home to at the end of the day, you have to go home to you, so learn to love you. 💓💗💕 I wish you all the happiness and room to breathe freely again. 😘 You bring me so much joy in my darkness and I hope you feel an ounce of that back soon! Go get em tiger 💓
Not me smoking my vape as I read this knowing subtly it’s not what I should be doing but I’m waiting until I’m fed up with myself enough😊
@@Alexcutspie keep smoking it so it doesn’t get clogged and you keep breathing 🤗 you’re welcome
im about to turn 28 next month and about to move to a new state because I have no more friends in my homestate since everyones moved. its so nice to hear someone else expericing this rn. im rightttttttt there with you guys, its so boring lol