What Did I Get Myself Into?
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Freshly moved into his new house, Chris laments about homeownership, loses it about his leaky sinks, beams about Booger’s love of her new lawn, hears sweet appreciation from a listener, unloads on mental health issues, reveals the order in which he puts on his clothes, and settles caller disputes all while holding back and shedding some tears.
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No one absolutely no one will blame you for fixing up the house, renting it out and collecting ur bag, and moving back to a place where you feel like you belong and can thrive. You’ve learned so much about yourself through this. It is not a negative experience unless you allow it to be.
IT IS NOT A NEGATIVE EXPERIENCE UNLESS YOU ALLOW IT TO BE 👏🏼
Everyone needs a Jake in their life!!! He’s like a bonus dad, just sounds like he loves being a dad to his kids
🥹 seriously
He is so wonderful
Seriously he’s great more love to him he tried to hard to give advice and it really was good advice! But sometimes when you’re in that headspace it’s hard to listen and wanna make the positive change in the moment but shout out to him we love a bonus dad
no seriously, he had me tearing up!
We love a Disney dad❤
chris, I moved to Arizona this year by myself with no friends or family within 6 hours of me. To hear you talk about these things are something I wish I heard 9 months ago - someone who could relate. I felt like I was stranded on this island, drowning in quick sand unable to save myself. I’m not here to tell you things get better, im here to tell you to have some self compassion with yourself. Depression is an evil disease and very overpowering- just know you always win in the end. The feeling of being alone is very overwhelming so thank you for making me feel a little less alone today.
Much love from Arizona 🤎
advice?
You worded this beautifully ❤
This comment is beautiful and I hop things got better for you, I can't even imagine moving to somewhere new knowing noone 🥲🥲🥲 sending love to you
Just moved to az too!
Chris, I fell in love with your channel not because of your comedy.. i fell in love with it because how fucking real you are. You make me feel like whatever i’m going through is okay and i can fight through it. Please don’t be so hard on yourself, if you need to take a step back then do it. I’m sure all of your fans just want you to be okay! We will all support you no matter what ❤ I love you chris thank you for getting me through some of my toughest times.
Hey Chris, long time watcher here. I would like to start by thanking you for your contributions to the world. You create, inspire, and tickle us all with your DIY vids, your interviews, and all the content you create. You took on an entirely new life almost, you moved away from your friends, community, and even took on home ownership, including an intensive remodel. Those are hugeeeee changes, I can see how the mixture of all these things could leave ANYONE, not just you, but literally anyone feeling completely spun around and out of sorts. Idk if Delaware is a good fit, you will know what is right for you after some more time and settling in, the answers should become clearer. Sometimes I really have to remind myself, to be gracious towards myself, I can be very mean to me, I think you need to remember you too deserve graciousness, and to be supported right now, you’re vulnerable during this huge translational period in your life. It’s going to be ok, we love you, and support you. I know it’s going to come together become clearer for you in due time. I hope you feel better soon, thank you again for your contributions. Don’t second guess your success, just be yourself.
Much love always, from a longtime subscriber and fellow middle kid.
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Couldn’t have said it better myself ❤
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You’re allowed to feel how you’re feeling Chris, thank you for being yourself and brave enough to talk about how you’re feeling 💓
Right but go to a therapist. He's non stop always complaining to people who'd kill for a chance like he has. Years ago it wasn't like this. You can be transparent and stuff without always complaining to people who have less than you.
@@kayteebarga9694 oooooooooo here’s an idea! If it bothers you, just don’t watch?🤭 everyone’s entitled to their own feelings whether they’re “selfish” or not. If you say he shouldn’t be feeling depressed right now becusss he has it better than others, well then we should all just not be depressed then?? Because there’s always somebody “with it worse”
I for one, love his cynic comments, but hope he gets help if he feels he needs it 💖
@@kayteebarga9694 first of all he goes to a therapist. Secondly he’s always going in to a guilt cycle because he know exactly what you just said. He constantly says he shouldn’t be complaining and knows people have less than him. He obviously has a harder time validating his own emotions. you adding to it saying he shouldn’t say his feelings at all is not helping. I get what you mean sure but at the end of the day this is his platform. He can say anything he wants on it. And personally I love the mental health updates. I love seeing his good moments. I even love seeing his low moments because even though I can’t relate exactly it’s comforting for me to hear some one else going through something. It makes me feel less alone and I’m sure it does the same for a lot of people.
@@kayteebarga9694 Ur the exact kind of person Chris didn’t need in his comments
@@kayteebarga9694 have some compassion. money & success can’t buy good mental health. People are allowed to feel however they feel regardless of their circumstances
10 minutes in only and I relate SO much to everything. I left the city last year and moved to the country.. bought my first house and it was so chaotic and crazy. Especially the first 2 months. Spending SO much money on the house itself and not being able to focus on work.
I just want to say, your brain is mad at you for making a move. Our nervous system wants to protect us by driving us insane when we go through any drastic change. It will calm down very soon. I promise! And BTW you don't sound ungrateful at all. You are doing the right thing by opening up and not staying trapped in your thoughts. Better than to ignore them or push them away. YOUR FEELINGS ARE VALID. Process them the way that feels best for YOU.
Sending love Chris! ❤
I like Jake’s perspective on this. You can share who you are and how you’re feeling and you’re not always going to feel things the same way as others. You’re in a place where your environment has calmed down and you thrive in chaotic energy, it’s time to self care and just learn how to live in peace. You felt the excitement when you initially bought the home and now you’re coming to an end with no other major goal in sight yet, take a second to chill and not focus on the the negatives or the positives. Just be. You’ll find yourself again ❤
This comment section unexpectedly has me crying. The way everyone so quickly came together in vulnerability and support - that alone is enough good to keep me here another day and I hope someone else too.
I’m proud of this generation - and the Klementines for this type of outward empathy and openness.
Buying a house is one of the most stressful and scariest things to go through. It's been 3 years and I still feel stress from it and I still don't have everything organized and unpacked. This is also the first time you've lived alone in years it makes sense that you'd feel alone in your house. Something that has helped me is customizing it as much as I can, it almost feels like building a connection with my house because for the first year and a half my house didn't feel like my house.
You’re real authentic emotion is so comforting to me. I’m going through all the same emotions as a 29 year old who has quit what she thought was her dream job. If you see this I hope you, and anyone who feels the same that sees this comment knows, your aren’t alone.
Love you chris! It's okay to be stressed and feel weak and dead. You're probably burning out, its a very real thing, especially since you've been so stressed and overworking yourself for awhile. It's okay to take a break, budget out a way to skip work for a couple weeks and just rest. And tell yourself hopefully this time next year, you will be past all of this and be living in a fully finished house with new ideas and new inspirations.
Chris,
You're CHANGING AND MOURNING YOUR OLD SELF. And you know what? I'm right there too. Ugly crying every day, really angry and ashamed of myself for complaining about seemingly "privileged" things. It's all part of the messy process of life. You are actually healing and I'm so so proud of you for all the work you've done!!!
You will look back on this moment as one of the most pivotal times of your life. You are going through major life changes and you have to let go of who you thought you were. It's going to take some time but I believe in you. Complaining is the first step into progress.
You're doing amazing.
I love you
Thanks for posting this!
I know it’s intended for Chris but damn, it hit home for me too.
I just want to hug him so bad because none of us are disappointed with the content he posts and we all want him to know that it’s ok to feel this way and to TELL others you’re feeling shitty. It’s nice actually to hear someone voice something I’ve gone through and things everyone I can guess has felt.
I cried when I needed to move my stuff to an apartment right next door cause just moving and reorganizing my stuff makes me want to crawl in a hole. So moving across country into your first home which is getting remodeled would put me in the ground. I think its totally okay to be so fucking overwhelmed and unhappy with how much shit is going on. And your followers love you and your content whether it's interviews or you just talking about how stressed and unhappy you are. And also you and your health matters so much more than literally anything else
Hey Chris! I just wanted to comment and say that you’re not alone about feeling lonely. Even when you know you have people in your circle but you feel lonely, it’s difficult to explain but it’s worse to feel. I moved from Maryland to Texas (kill me) to be with my now wife, but left everything behind. It’s just..hard. We’re here for you and so thankful you can feel vulnerable with us.
Everyone needs someone like Jake, he's the father I never had
your feelings are valid Chris!! i would suggest focusing on making your bedroom super cozy and comfortable and just a safe place for you. you can start there and hopefully you’ll find comfort there at least as a safe haven
I would rather hear you vent over and over than to never see you post again. Take the time you need to feel and heal ❤
Chris , I’m going through my first move out of the house right now away from my family and it’s been such a hard time. Panic attacks, depressive episodes. The whole package lol - this podcast could not have come at a better time for me so thank you.
I read this the other day:
"What is my purpose in life?" I asked the void.
"What if I told you that you fulfilled it when you took an extra hour to talk to that kid about his life?" said the voice.
"Or when you paid for that young couple in the restaurant? Or when you saved that dog in traffic? Or when you tied your father's shoes for him?"
"Your problem is that you equate your purpose with goal-based achievement. The universe isn't interested in your achievements...just your heart. When you choose to act out of kindness, compassion and love, you are already aligned with your true purpose."
🥺
I love this. Thanks for sharing it.
When I tell you there is not a SINGLE creator out there that is as raw as you and I love nothing more than that from you. It’s hard living with mental illness and feeling alone is the worst part of it all. You can have the world in your hands and you’re still anxious and down. I cannot tell you how hard it has been to find someone that understands that about me. Chris I wouldn’t be able to feel at peace if it weren’t for yoo
I use to be a Realtor and it is VERY stressfull to go through. You will be so glad when it's done. You're not ungratefull. It is very common to be overwhelmed. I'm a creature of habit and I'm just going through a remodel and losing my mind....lol. Cyber hug and sending good vibes your way, Chris.
we moved out of our “dream” city basically at the same time, and i couldn’t have felt this harder. like this was supposed to be the best, happiest time of my life and feeling renewed etc and i’ve felt so alone, overwhelmed and depressed. it helps me knowing someone is experiencing the same things bc it makes me feel less crazy. love you ❤️
your feelings are so valid Chris. I moved to oregon from los angeles a couple years ago and it was the loneliest most stressful experience of my life and I can’t image all that stress and loneliness and having the stress of a home renovation, constant back and fourth between there and NY, and managing a career that has limited stability. You have every right to feel how you feel even if it might seem “bratty” or “ungrateful” stress is stress and no amount of money and no matter how “first world” your problems might be they are your problems and you’re allowed to be mad and sad and annoyed.
Things will get easier and you are already so strong for making the leap in the first place so you can definitely make it through this. It will all be worth it in the end. You got this !! and we’re all here to support you along the way !
The thing about a house is not the decorations, size, location etc it's the memories you create within it. A house can be built in a day but a home takes years to create ❤️ hold out and appreciate the little things like those moments with booger, rediscovering your little trinkets and the moments you get to relax with a smoke and rest.
hi chris, interior designer here. with the marble, you can get a sealant (it will ease the stress a bit). but i usually tell my clients if they want to get marble - let go of the perfection of it and allow it to age, it ages beautifully. there’s no way you can ‘fuck it up’. if anything it will get more beautiful over time.
I have OCD too and I can't imagine the stress of owning a home. Hearing you talk about how you obsess over these "small tasks" is so fucking relatable - I always have a mental inventory of all the things I need to get done, and there's definitely a tipping point where I'm stretched too thin and get very overwhelmed. The best advice I can give is - write down EVERY thing that needs to be done that be sorted out in the next 30 days. Dumping it all out of my head is the only way I can move forward with solutions rather than ruminating on problems. Love you Chris, you got this 💖
I decided to move from the U.K. to my husbands country where I don’t speak the language (Portuguese) because it was always so fun when we visited but actually living here, his friends are single and don’t speak English and it’s really depressing. His family arnt as close as I thought. Lisbon got a wave of digital nomads move here and drove up the rental prices and now I feel lumped in with them, after covid hit I still don’t have friends here and feel really self conscious when I don’t speak perfect Portuguese. It’s hard!
A mental break down is often followed by a new awakening. You did SO much work and stressful ass work. You sharing this is helping so many people. Its helping me. To see that hey even Chris has problems and struggles with mental health. Give yourself grace because I wish I could give it to you
Buying a house is extremely overwhelming and mentally draining. It’s awesome that you are able to do this, but it’s SO much. Take care of yourself, go slow, and things will get better bit by bit. ❤
Chris I adore you. I love that you are so so open with us. You are not a brat at all and your feelings are so so valid. You are probably just exhausted mentally and physically to a point of just overwhelm. Feeling lonely is the absolute worst feeling ever too. Sending you healing energy & love your way.
You’re feelings are all so valid and I think what you’re struggling with is actually relatable to a lot of people especially since none of us we’re taught this shit you’re just doing it first !! sending love 🤍
Chris, this is the hardest part and not any emotional abuse because you’re finally getting what you deserve, when we get something good and something we deserve and our depression isn’t magically cured it hurts worse than when life is bad because it feels like there’s no reason for you to still be upset. Acknowledge that you deserve something good but you can still not feel fulfilled, I wish you the best.
I just moved so far away from my friends and family and feeling disconnected and overwhelmed is super hard. Not feeling happy doesn’t mean you’re ungrateful. I know my situation isn’t the same but it really resonates. Love you Chris 💖
Oh my god Chris, I feel the exact same about my house when I’m down, but my house needs the renovation. I don’t think you’re a brat or spoiled or anything. I think this notion that “having” means you have no problems is totally false especially if your mental health can be impacted by the stress of dealing with all that comes along with it. You sound so tired and exhausted and I honestly think you need to take care of yourself right now and do what you feel is necessary to feel better. What I’ve noticed is when I’m tired my mental heal takes an absolute nose-dive. To the floor. This soon shall pass and whilst I don’t think we should wish our lives away at all, it will and you’re going to be okay! It’s so fricking stressful dealing with anything so I can’t imagine a whole new house and everything that comes along with it. It’s going to be worth it.
Whilst it’s amazing and an awesome achievement, it doesn’t mean you’re not entitled to feel absolute run ragged.
You are a star ⭐️
You bring so much joy to your audience and you deserve all the happiness I know you’re going to have once everything is settled 😊❤
Chris, you do not need to beat up on yourself for feeling this way. Feeling depressed after being consistently overwhelmed over a long period of time is normal, and what you’re feeling is all valid. No one is blaming you for being human. While this is a huge accomplishment and feat, it’s okay to feel unhappy and lonely right now. The excitement can come later, whenever you’re ready. Sending love and appreciation for your content ❤
8 months ago I adopted a dog, it was something not well thought out so you can imagine how overwhelmed I was. My unpreparedness sent me down a negative thinking spiral, even considered giving him back at one point, I didn’t have a clue what I got myself into at 20yrs old. Sometimes, you think you’re not ready, but once you get over that first hurdle you’ll be in the clear. It was an adjustment period for both me and my doggo, and I can see you are as well. You’ve gotta get comfortable in your new surroundings and be easy on yourself while you do. I’m so so proud of you and I love the raw and genuine version you share with us, please don’t feel bad about being authentic and vulnerable ❤❤❤
Your feelings towards everything are valid! It is legit such a stressful undertaking to reno any house, it's like one thing after another needs to get done and goes wrong and it can just feel like water overflowing a glass bc you can't stop it, it has to get done, but it's a lot of little things. AND on top of it, you're not settled in, which sucks. I just hope at the end of everything, you can feel like this is truly yours and "nest" knowing you don't have to move out in a year and maybe that will be grounding and helpful. It might not be, but it's okay to feel that way, even though you're extremely fortunate to have a house, life can still be overwhelming! Hoping that this gets better soon and genuinely love watching your vlogs about the process. Xx
You’re a literal human being. We go through things. Your life title isn’t just “comedian” people who love what you do are going to follow you no matter how you’re feeling or what you’re doing.
Exactly this. You said it better than I could, but Chris is a comedian making videos and podcasts about his life. THIS is what life looks like for many people, and he’s one of the only creators talking about it
I never comment, but I had to because I relate SO SO much. Single female, I moved into a house that needs major renovation in a city I didn't know. Hardest part 10000% is not having that network of people to help you. You don't know who to trust, I've been scammed twice out of thousands by roofers/contractors. I have no friends in the city I'm in and am away at school 50% of the time, so the renovations are barely started much less done. My house got broken into while I was away last time. I am away currently and when I return I'm going home to no heat or hot water because something must've happened. All this just to say we are not alone. It sucks, it's a never-ending list of projects and repairs. Sometime's it's hard to feel grateful and that's ok. First world problems are still YOUR problems and they are valid. You bring all of us so much joy, in the end I hope you know how much you are loved and appreciated. Wish I could come help you set up your beautiful home! Hardest part is starting, I know you can do this!
Chris you got this! I totally get you. Depression and the unknown make things so overwhelming and hard-it makes so much sense and you aren’t insane. It’s okay for you to feel all the things and you aren’t too stupid to own a house!! I think it just takes a ton of time, like becoming an adult, learning how to take care of yourself(which is hard enough). You got this Chris. Don’t compare your experiences and feelings to others, your experience is valid. It just sounds like a hard time and I believe you will figure these things out but you will learn and grow so much
Chris, I am so sorry you are feeling this way but you have to give yourself permission to take time to adjust. You JUST finished renovating and you have allow that house to feel like a home and it will take time. Just because you picked out every detail in renovating, you haven't had the chance to make memories there yet...THAT'S what will make it feel like your home.
Also, you are completely valid in feeling alone during all of this too. I think you're in a huge transition in your life and that would cause most people to feel very overwhelmed and overthink their decisions. You've made some HUGE decisions and commitments this year that would make a lot of people question if they made the right choices, but in the end, nothing is entirely forever right? Even these emotions.
Be kind to yourself and understand that sometimes mental illness doesn't LET you be grateful. We have to fight through a lot of layers to get to gratitude sometimes and that's not because we're brats. You know you're appreciative and grateful, you're coming off a lot of stress and that can all be really hard to do alone.
my favorite thing about you, chris, is how real you are and how you help destigmatize mental illness by being honest about your life experience and your thoughts. you are being so hard on yourself and im very hard on myself as well so i completely understand where youre coming from. youre in the midst of a big transition and very new experiences/responsibilities, so its completely valid that you dont know what ur doing yet and i hope you can be patient and loving to yourself in this process.
in the least "toxic positivity" way possible, i genuinely suggest you start your day thinking of all the things youre grateful for in your life. its so essential to remind yourself of those things, first thing in the morning, or when you feel overwhelmed by feelings of lack/guilt/fear. i start thinking of my family, friends, my health, my beautiful surroundings, my creativity, etc and in no time im brought to tears with how abundant and whole i feel. love you chris, i hope things keep getting better :)
Big life changes take time, and your feelings are valid no matter how people think you should feel. Let yourself feel your feelings and don’t let anyone minimize them. Most people telling you to just be grateful probably haven’t went through stressful renovations. Thank you for sharing how you really feel.
Im in the middle of a move right now and i feel so blessed but i showed up to my place to slowly move stuff and immediately was overwhelmed and upset and this video helped me because i am feeling the EXACT same way.
Hang in there it will be beautiful! (talking to myself also)
Hey Chris! I just bought my first house almost a year ago and honestly I’ve had some of those same feelings too. I know this doesn’t solve all of your problems, but you can buy a countertop seal so your marble doesn’t get ruined. Surprisingly when we got our house they told us we had to do it ourselves even though we got it brand new. It’s only like $15 ish a bottle and you just need an old rag to spread it on. You’re supposed to do it every 6 months but I’ve only done it the one time and we don’t have stains. Hope this helps :)
Hey chris, i'm also struggling with anxiety, ocd and depression... thank you for talking about your struggle, i feel like you're a distant friend, and i feel less alone in this...
I didn't realize these might be feelings someone could feel after doing up a house. I'm sorry you're feeling this way but this was useful for me to hear as I'm now aware this could be an outcome for me too!❤️ You're authenticity is refreshing but I understand the conflicts going on inside you, you've got this Chris!❤️❤️
Chris no matter what you do and where you go, your soul is rich, vibrant, and loving and you wouldn't have all of us following you if you didn't. You are so loved and worthy of any adjustments you need to make to care for YOU! ❤️
You jumped into a BRAND NEW situation by moving back home AT THE SAME TIME working on the house and it’s a lot of responsibility on your shoulders all at once. I’m so proud of you as someone who relates in a way. You maybe don’t feel good about yourself because you are depressed - it is huge as far as moving to Delaware from California - I don’t know for sure but I’d imagine there’s way less sunlight out there! And sunlight affects my depression SO VERY MUCH like seriously. Consider a therapy light box for real!!!!!
Call your realtor!! They will have the connections you're needing. If not them then someone they know.
Doing repairs- just start trying to do them. Use UA-cam and do your best. First 6 months we moved in, my in laws got us a dishwasher and promised to help install. We didn't have any dishwasher. But I got so sick of handwashing and looking at this brand new awesome machine that no one was coming over to install.... SO I decided to rip out cabinets and just figure it out. Lol Everyone starts at know nothing about something when they first start doing things. You got this. It will probably also alleviate some stress about not knowing how to do stuff.
Chris, thank you so much for coming on here and being brave enough to not only talk about this but let down your guard and let us cry with you. ❤️ as a 22 year old graduating college, going to grad school, trying to figure out everything all at the same time is so difficult. We will get through this together. ❤️
Ok so when i moved out i really wanted this dark couch. I had to wait 7 months for this couch and reaaaally wanted it bc i thought it was my dream couch. when i got it, i hated it. i was depressed over a fucking couch bc the dark colour literally felt like sucking joy out of me, so no chris. you are not beeing rediclious. I ended up selling that sucker and bought a fun new bright colour couch and i am thriiiiving lmao. i know it's not the same but just remember you have options. If you feel like missing out or beeing alone then just change it. you are so young and have so much time:) Sending you love babes
This video is so important, thank you for keeping it real! All your thoughts and feelings are sooo valid. You’re literally become a whole new self in a new environment. I think it feels so messy because you’re literally changing so much! The energy you put out in the past is no longer aligned with who you are now. The things that used to be funny, the things you used to value..it’s all evolving! And right now of course nothing feels stable. You are not only becoming so much, but you’re also grieving so much of your old identity. I’m sending you warmth and grace as you adapt to all these changes. Im so excited for you and can’t wait to follow along. The fact that you’re still being open and vulnerable is exactly why people like me are drawn to you. Authenticity is everything!
Also, ask yourself “what is my current measurement of success”?
Is it what you own? Where you live? Inner peace?
Sometimes our old self was so used to operating from our egos (what feels good, what we can control), and now you’re in a new environment that is SOOO opposite of LA. It’s inviting new sides of you to grow. Maybe spiritually, mentally, emotionally.
Always remember that this discomfort means you’re growing❤
You’re used to big cities. Going from New York and LA back to your small hometown would be jarring for anyone, it’ll take time to adjust. The plus is you can go to New York whenever you want, and can sell if you don’t grow to love it.
It’s really important that you showed this conversation. Thank you. I’ve been there. Eventually you get to know the house and make it more you and you’ll feel better. If not, you can always move again. You can.
Chris I feel you tbh. Since you’ve been talking about being depressed, I’ve been so depressed myself. It kind of brings me comfort being able to relate to you, although my reasons are different than yours. I hope that you get out of your funk soon ❤️🔥
Also, motivating story about diy’s. I moved in with my bf a year ago and we had painted the whole place and never put the closet doors in, it was leaning against the wall for 8 months lol one day my bf was at work I was so fed up I watched a UA-cam video on how to install it and did it by myself, I never knew I could be handy like that!! It took like 2 hrs but I got it done and I was so proud. Just try it, it’s frustrating but if u keep trying you will surprise yoursled
29:28 his little smile when he hears the caller’s voice my heart 🫶🏼 we love u man, take every day as it comes!
Take one thing at a time! I hear you on feeling overwhelmed. Literally just put your focus into ONE task at a time. All of this can be & WILL BE handled. You are so capable of doing this, Chris. Feel your feelings, be kind to yourself, and take your TIME. 💗💗
Chris, I completely understand you. I love your videos where you open up because I have a similar package (Depression, OCD, Panicdisorder) like you. I moved at the beginning of the year and it was just painful.
Getting people that fix things in your new home. Trying to rely on workers that 50% of the time don't do their job properly. There were many times when they even told me that they think it's too much effort to get something done the way that I want it. Even though I am paying them. And standing there knowing fully well, that you aren't able to get things done on your own, just makes you feel powerless.
I was also feeling like a zombie. At work I tried to not let others notice how I feel, cried myself to sleep every time. And always the thought: I just want to be done with all of this. I love to have my things in order, know my surroundings and every corner, especially at a place that I call ,,home''. And let me tell you: even if you get everything fixed, you need to sleep a couple of days in your house without having to think whether something is broken or not and just enjoy the quiet. It took me half a year to know that this new place is my HOME.
So don't be scared. It is not a joyful time. And no, you are not bragging. It is just hard work to create a place you can call home
I’m also a young-ish homeowner (30) and it can be SO overwhelming sometimes. You’re not alone, Chris! It sounds like you have a great support system, too. It’ll be okay ❤️
I’m neurodivergent and any kind of change is so very hard on me so, while I cannot sympathize with your situation, I can empathize with what your heart’s feeling. You’re adjusting to a major life change. Your traversing stormy waters that you’ve never traveled before. I hope the stormy waters calm for you soon.
I'm in an extremely low time in my life, with a lot of personal shit. I'm deeply thankful for you sharing your emotions and being raw because it reminds me I'm not alone. It doesn't matter where we are in life, there can always be something that gets us to that point, whether it be something that we "should" be happy about or something we "should" be upset by. Life isn't easy, but I think what really helps me get through, is good people like you. Please don't be too mean to yourself by feeling things, whether you feel privileged where you are at in life or not. I think it's safe to say we all feel closer to you by you sharing you're raw self.
Thank you for sharing how you feel. I moved across the country to what I thought was my dream city to live in… and I feel so disconnected. I keep waiting for it to feel like home, but instead I feel isolated, detached, and sad. Your video made me feel better because I can relate to some of what you said about feeling disconnected.
Thank you for expressing your journey through home ownership, I have laughed and cried with you through this. I moved into an apartment for the first time two weeks ago. I was feeling depressed, having emotionally breakdowns, alone, everything. Mine is more so financially, but I remember the reasons why I moved and it helps, but just got to take it day by day until the urgency list runs down. Its okay to feel how you're feeling, think its normal. I haven't related to a video more before, you have definitely helped me through my process, crying and laughing at the same time, knowing that the light will shine again. venting is great without a solution to every problem. Thank you for being here and living your life.
Chris, just wanted you to know I love your content because of how relatable you are and honest with your feelings. You are a great comedian and never fail to make me laugh, but I also really value your serious side as well. I also moved out of a city and had always rented, then into a house (inherited from grandparents) and felt very very isolated from my friends and all the fun and action of being in the city. It’s hard and the maintenance of a house was way more than I expected too. I had to get my whole main plumbing line replaced!! I don’t know where I’m going with this but I understand how you feel and hope you know it’s ok to feel overwhelmed. Everyone has their own set of problems and it’s easy to feel yours are silly because others have it worse. Your feelings are valid and I hope you get some relief from all the stress soon.
just take everything day by day love. that's all the advice I could give. you changed your life in such a MAJOR way, it's normal I think to be feeling the way you're feeling. all of your followers here who love you, understand that you and your life will eb and flow. we are here for you and aren't going anywhere. you sharing your raw emotions like this is heartbreaking and also super relatable. we love you Chris, take it all day by day. and if you're still having these regrets in a few months or years you can always sell, move wherever you want to, and live. you got this babe
You’ve worked very hard for your money. It’s completely valid to be upset over everything that’s happening. You’re not a spoiled brat for wanting what you paid for, for wanting things to work.
I didn't have the same experience as you, but I bought my house a year and a half ago and felt very depressed at the start. It is weird to live alone after living with people for so long. But after awhile I really came to love it and now I'm very happy and content. I've had issues with my house too and it's difficult to figure out, but lean on your supports and it's okay to feel stressed and disappointed through it, but it will resolve and things will turn out okay. I would say just give it some time!
I really appreciate Jake's perception in this episode. Here he is providing Chris some direction with his anxiety, people would kill for that direction. I admire the new property and all the renovations on top of the personal growth. We are here with you, Chris. Real fans arent going anywhere. love you.
Also, Boogz is gonna mirror your energy, just like my child does. If you are happy, she'll see that too. Fun, new, positive chapters also come with blood, sweat and so many many tears.
I'm only 9 minutes in, but you said "I'm a comedian, I'm supposed to be fuckin funny" ....personally, I think your channel is so much more than comedy. I love seeing creators give visibility to mental health struggles - which for many, last far longer than a week or 2. So yeah, you've voiced that you're struggling for more than an episode or 2.
You are fucking funny. And you are thought-provoking, deep, artistic, vulnerable... and I think your content is all the better for it. You are a whole ass person, not just the comedy that got you followers.
My heart goes out to you, Chris. Better days will come, and it's ok to not be ok.
As someone who has purchased a house what you’re feeling is totally normal. It sucks right now I know but you’re going to be okay. You’re coming off of a high. Also in my experience anytime someone says it’s the best time or you should enjoy it etc it’s high key always the most traumatizing things lol. Big hugs to you and scratches to Booger ❤
I’m so jealous of anyone who doesn’t struggle with mental health. You’re not alone. We’re here for a reason and you don’t need to apologize for anything. We have a purpose and you’re a light in so many peoples lives. 🫶🏻
Hey Chris, thank you for sharing! I just wanted to say, I don't know if you've ever lived alone before but if this is the first time you're roommate free that may have a bigger impact on how you feel than what you originally thought. That paired with you owning a home for the very first time, poured a shit ton of money into your new home with renovations, moved away from your social group, moved away where everything happens ( LA premiers, fashion shows, music performances ) PLUS compared to where you live now is probably like a culture shock probably makes you feel like you have whiplash over all these different emotions youre always feeling. Happy over being near your mom and how the home looks and then the sad feelings; missing friends, going outings, basically living what was a normal life for you. Now you live completely different. Its like a jekyll and hyde situation it sounds like. You are out of the world that you were so involved with and now you live among the 9-5 regular office type jobs. It seems like you piled ALOT on your plate at once coupled with completely changing your lifestyle and are now overwhelmed by it all. You can always reevaluate what you want. This doesn't have to be permanent forever. You're so young and can change your mind on what you want and where you want to be. Gotta ask yourself the tough questions on what you want. You have the power to overcome this. This can be a mistake, we all make them, and you can ultimately move back if that's what you want. You wouldn't be the first person to regret moving. I'm going to say something alil blunt now but i just want to be as real with you as youre being with us, it's hard to be apart of the "scene life" when you don't live in LA or New York. There's a reason why people and move there who want to work in the industry and so many companies are based out of there. Question, Is it possible to go visit for a bit? Maybe you'll remember what you hated about living there or youll realize that is where you want to be. No matter what you got this! I believe in you, I know many people do and you are not alone. You have the ability to to make life what you want. You can overcome this. I wish you the best Chris!! You're going to be ok ❤
after my breakup in may, I slowly switched my outlook on shitty things that happen to me from “oh poor me” to “I learned something from this”. GAME. CHANGER. I can’t tell you exactly how to flip that switch, but I think having as positive of an outlook as you can can change EVERYTHING. you absolutely have the right to feel the way you feel, you got to the finish line but your expectation wasn’t clear and defined I think so you couldn’t prepare yourself for how to think and react once you got there. i can’t speak on your feelings and point of view, but I can’t imagine it’s easy to define your own success. just know we’re proud of you and your accomplishments regardless of what your brain chemistry makes you think. we love you chris. ❤
Thanks for sharing this Chris. It may not help your circumstance but it’s helpful hearing that I’m not the only one in this same boat. I have been wrestling with a lot of these similar feelings lately. I bought my first place a little more than two years ago. And once I got done with doing my projects on the place, I felt so empty in it. It was as if I was buying a place to have the bragging rights that others don’t and it was unsettling. Fast forward, I sold that place this summer and moved to a totally new region of the country. I’m having major second guesses on if it was the right move and it’s only three months into living here. Oh and I totally imploded my career in attempts to pivot into another industry and debating grad school. You’re not alone and it’s helpful for some of us to hear this real type of conversations rather than just the status quo, “I’ve been good. Everything’s great.”
I’m literally reading a book about attachment and I think most of our issues surround that feeling of being around someone and it’s so lonely and overwhelming. I’m always here for you CHRIS
what's the book? do you recommend it?
@@sydandtaytum it’s called Attached. The new science of adult attachment and how it can help you find and keep love.
@@sydandtaytum I have enjoyed it so far and have realized a lot of my problem stem from attachment.
It's so easy to get overwhelmed when the tiny things mount up Chris, thankyou for sharing the real side to moving and reovating a home. The grass will always look 'greener' from the other side so please don't feel like you're being ungrateful or that it's just first world problems. Of course you will miss your friends and the big city life, especially with social media and only ever seeing the eventful parts of peoples lives. Keep moving forward and in no time the house will be finished, you will be unpacked and into a routine
Hey Chris. Not a therapist by any means but completely relate on feeling guilty for feeling bad. A theme I keep hearing is expectations. I thought it would be this.. I thought I would feel this way.. it seems you had a certain concept in your mind of how you should or shouldn't be and that might be something to think about. We are here now living in this moment. We (for most of us) cant predict the future or how certain life changes will make us feel. I think just accepting today as it is and living more in your moments inside your own world (disregarding the grander scheme of it all.. that is overwhelming) and just taking it each second and move on from there. Expectation tends to lead to disappointment so I would consider lowering yours in a sense where you should feel something that may have been to grand in the first place. Love you !! Sending you love.
Hi Chris 💜 I’m a fan and I discovered your channel earlier this year, then binged every episode from Day 1. And the transparency about your mental health has never affected my outlook on your hilarious channel. I also love your recent episodes. Just shows that what you’re feeling is a lot more common than we feel. You’ll always have my support🎉🙏🏽🥰
There’s nothing wrong with being more than just a comedian . You are more than a comedian. You are human. What I love about you is that you’re so relatable. You could post that you’re depressed everyday and id be like girl same at least I feel like I have a friend here on your channel .
I'm not sure if you still read comments several days after you posted a video but I completely relate to this. I have a Master's degree to be a mental health therapist and now I am doing the exact job that I went to school for 7 years to do. Yet, I can't help but feel unexcited about going to work, sometimes even dreadful even though I am doing exactly what I wanted to do. I think this is still something I want but I can't shake this feeling. At times, I think it is because I spent so long in this mindset of "I'll be happy when..." completely forgetting to be happy in the moment. I need to find my happiness again, I am wondering if you are missing the same thing. Finding joy and happiness in where you are is extremely difficult in today's society because spend so much time seeing other people's lives thinking we'd be happy in that life, and we end up forgetting to be happy in our current lives.
Chris, allow yourself to feel what you feel. I cried for a whole year after purchasing my childhood home (it came with my parents & 2 dogs). I also went through an almost year renovation while living there w/ 3 other adults (middle age sister & parents & 3 dogs). I’m in year 5 now and I do love it here and it gets better!!! Hugs to you!
Dude yyyeeesss I bought my house back in 2016… sometimes it still gets sooo overwhelming. But trust me when I say it gets sooooo much better when u have Ure own space to do whatever you want. You will enjoy it. Your dogo will love it. Once you get to have friends over it feels amazing!!! But no mater what being a single female in her 30s with her own house it does get a bit lonely and overwhelming but you start getting gardeners and a house cleaner eventually. Trust me it will always feel a bit too much but omg the comfort of Ure own home just makes it the best. I do not miss throwing my money away. Good luck. I enjoy watching you ❤
I love that you are yourself!! Regardless of how much you’ve been able to do, people still have down times! You’re allowed to still feel down, even when it seems everything is going right!!! Don’t feel stupid in your thoughts!! We love you!
We love you Chris. You are ok, praying for you healing. You will get through this. You are expanding, death/rebirth. You are a gift, this too shall pass, thank you for your honesty. Start turning every thought around to positive. It takes work, but you can do it you have a lot of power.
The feelings of loneliness can really cloud one’s perception and how we feel and want to feel. I understand you, Chris. This too shall pass. Love you darlin 💜
The thing about mental illnesses is that we get alot of the same feelings and thoughts and totally okay to express it even if its the same words over again. You feel what you feel and its valid. We know your heart. We know Youre a fantastic and caring person. And we know you struggle so much. Youre enough. And you have an entire army behind you, and I’m so so sorry you feel so alone. I hope you can start enjoying your house soon. Youre a great decorator/interior design person. We love you ❤️
Chris, I love the fact you are comfortable opening up to us like this. We are always gonna be here for you and yeah you may think “oh first world problems” but in reality like you said no one teaches this shit to us, I myself being only 23 just moved into my first apartment granted with my sister but it was hard realizing everything you do is for your apartment or in this case your house. It’s hard settling in and having a place feel like home, I’ve been moved into my new place for a couple of months now and still doesn’t truly feel like home…yet but it’s gonna take time and that’s the hardest part cause you just want it to be how in pictured it and it sucks but unfortunately that’s adulting and facing the real world, sucks that nothing prepares us for this ya know.
I just moved from NewYork to Texas 2 months ago all by myself and I felt the same way. It took Atleast a month for me to feel comfortable and at ease. It’s normal to feel like that because of the huge change, but you will adjust to it and I promise you will be so happy. ♥️♥️♥️♥️🤞🏼🤞🏼
I just wanted to say that I listened on apple podcasts while at work today and just came to speed through to the part with the puppy so I could see how cute it is. WORTH IT.
For your marble counters: I used to sell granite and we sold like a cleaning service where our guys went out and cleaned stone countertops- see if anyone around you offers something like that, and then once you know that insurance policy exists you might feel comfier cooking in your kitchen! Most things are fixable!
Awww Chris, don't feel so bad about feeling low. You're human, and it's hard to move away from a support system you built ground up. It's going to take time, but you and boogie will settle and things will feel lighter.
Chris, thank you for being vulnerable. You are allowed to feel all your feelings. There is no need to feel like a 'brat'. You are allowed to feel overwhelmed with all the big changes. All of your feelings and emotions are 100% valid. Just know that you are not alone, everyone feels these same feelings. 💜 Things will get easier with time!
You don't have to have the worst problems in the world to be allowed to feel bad for yourself and your struggles. You have just went through a massive change and there is a ton on your shoulders right now. Nothing is all bad or all good. You can be grateful but also fucking exhausted and feeling alone, take it one day at a time. I really enjoy what you make and excited to see what's next for you
Owning a home comes with so many more stresses than renting! Keep going, it will get better! Took me at least 2 years to get settled in my home! This is at the peak of home stresses! Give yourself time!
I think it’s normal, during a transitory period, with endless changes and challenges, to feel this overwhelmed. Trying to slow down and just focus on one day or one moment at time and remember that the transition and growing pains can hurt and be uncomfortable; but with time and adjustment it will be less hurtful and the pressure will ease
When I moved into my first apartment I went 3 months with the fire alarm battery going off before my neighbor so graciously wrote me a note offering to help guide me on how to change it if I needed a tutorial also just for the record I dont watch your content for the comedic relief but because I like your character, relatability, lifestyle and fashion so when you open up on your podcast or vlogs I always appreciate your transparency