Awkward Guy Asks 100 Women Out To Overcome FEAR OF REJECTION
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Thank you so much for finally explaining the phone number thing!! so many guys think that you get a girl's number and you automatically entering the wardrobe of narnia or something!? most of the time when I gave guys my number is because they refuse to take no for an answer and I would even say "I'm giving you this but I will not respond to you" and again all they hear is "she's giving me her number I'm in I got it!" Then they never hear from me ever again. you are correct about that 19 dude got probably 2 who will follow through.
I know this cuz i've done this enough times. Fake or dead numbers are super common.
If he had built some chemistry that 19/100 wouldn't have been bad. In fact if he looked good or had game a lot of those women who were "in a relationship" would have been available. Still good for him but I highly doubt most of those women actually are interested
oh wow ma'am you really are special, they should be sooooooooooooo lucky to have gotten your number
Pin of knowledge
@@AbaNPreach if the objective was to "build up his confidence" he did great!
1 out of 5 is a good number; hopefully he'll acquire enough confidence to walk up to That Chick that he really likes. ☺️
Approaching women you don’t know is a nono 🤦♂️
If I had a dollar for every girl that rejected me, then ladies would eventually find me attractive.
🤣🤣🤣
You must be ugly as hell then
Bro 💀
Straight up facts.
lmao XD Very clever. Use that sense of humor, pal.
Mad respect to him for getting out of his comfort zone. I could literally see him becoming more natural and comfortable in asking women out and letting the rejection not get to him at all.
that is really the secret. the more you just ask people, the easier it gets
I once bought 100 red rose, and gave like 20 to my female co-workers, and the other 80 to random female customers, and well...nothing really came out of it, but a life lesson to never do that again. No number, just a few "Thank you for that time you gave me a rose.", and that was it.......I would still encouage some to do it...at least one time in your life. The failure is a lesson. So...fast foward years later, I bought a tremdill, but imagine if I bought another 100 roses....the money is better spent one something like....a tredmil.
@@makotonarukami7468 OR, or...hear me out, buy some Steam games on sale instead.
@@makotonarukami7468 seems lame af ngl , would rather just spend money one 1 rose and give it to my mom
@@tianolamas7832 Facts. Eventually, you'll get used to something. I've been pushing myself to be comfortable speaking to the camera and uploading it! 🎥🎯
Bravery isn't having no fear, it is having fear and not letting it stop you.
As the saying goes there is no courage without fear
"Then you will die braver than most"
That's the only time it counts.
Guess I'll never be brave then. Nothing scares me.
@@abstract5249 baddie
“The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear”. We can all learn something from this man. A true king 👑
This comment deserves to be the top one .
If asking a girl out is your fear, then you are no man
Stop using the word king pointlessly
@@BK-uf6xm that's why he asked them out in the first place?
@@adio8824 how unkingly of you my king 👑
The amount of numbers he got doesn’t matter. The point was to get past social anxiety. If he can do that now w/o being afraid then this was a success
Reason he even got sicial anxiety is cause of negative reinforcement he received from being ugly
I don’t think a guy who make UA-cam video and talk to 100 random strangers have real social anxiety.
@@dickiewongtk you are really underestimating the struggle of talking to a girl. I could be doing UA-cam aswell no problems but asking out is ugh.
@@eafesaf6934 no you can’t, y’all faking bruh lol
@@dickiewongtk it’s a spectrum. Some have more severe anxiety than others.
Some people have a fear of public speaking and become anxious over it. But some of those people sign up for speech classes like Toastmasters to get over it. Just because they were actually able to go through with socially engaging with people doesn’t mean they weren’t ever anxious about doing so.
Some people signed up for Omegle for virtually the same purpose.
That "Tuesday evening" joke is one of Preach's best jokes. 🤣🤣🤣
"Not quite Wednesday" nahhh 💀💀
I didnt get it
I swear it was tho! Damn
Asking them out is honestly the easy part. Actually linking up is the part that matters.
He might tell u a joke but he’ll never tell u a liee
Really? Oh damn
This is mostly a problem in the west
Yep
They can say YES
They can give you a number
But her hookup with pookie or chad later will trump any plans he makes
She'll get a 4 star meal out of you, at least
True
He's not awkward to me. He's got confidence and he's got good energy
Bro he's ugly, and he still pulled.
Yeah pretty much
He just doesn’t have game
He's unattractive, though. A terrible hairstyle, subpar fashion, skinny boy body, and blemished skin. I like his personality, but he needs to work on his physical traits. I like the guy, though.
Maybe because *he is a UA-camr recording himself as well*
I like him!! For a guy who’s never been a date, he just seems so comfortable with himself. Finding the confidence to ask out strangers is tough and yet his whole thought process was, let’s do this scary thing 100 times so I’ll get better at this. If this attitude is how he approaches his challenges in life, he’s going to make a great partner
He should go with the girl that's never been on a date too
I'm a shy guy but for work and college projects where I had to talk to people for the sake of the project or the job I never had a single issue talking to people. But approaching them when you only there to sell yourself... that what I can't do.
@@onederb71nln83 Im on the same boat
Bro got 19 out of 100? I'm genuinely impressed. Hell I would be surprised if I got 5 out of 100.
Stop thinking so low of yourself
Having a camera helps.
Better than 0 out of 100
i dont get how women are bigger hoes than ever before, but reject the most men
only thing that explains it is hypergamy....
@@RheemQ not really
19 out of 100 with the shotgun approach is actually kind of impressive.
I think most people set themselves up for failure also I would say that translating into dates is a challenge of itself.
@@noblegalifreyan4551 I agree. Sometimes they say yes to get rid of the guy and then reject them later. That exp has def happened to me. That's usually how the numbers game works.
@REALAbaNPreach bruh
Some of the girls that said yes weren't bad looking.
That's becuase of camera
Those boyfriends that were next to the girls he asked who said "yes", props to you, the bro code is universal, homies make gay jokes with each other
Homiesexual
Proud of this dude. I’m sure 70% of the yes’ were because he was filming.
up to 85
Of the 30%, extremely doubtful any of them are gonna be a longer relationship and will probably fizzle out
Proud? Sounds like hatin to me
@@turtlemanist A person can be Proud of him and also be skeptical of why the women responded
@@qarahiyo Sure but when the bulk of a comment is about the negative, it's not so convincing. Seems more like a way to be negative while pretending to be a positive comment.
Regardless of all other factors, 19 out of 100 is actually REALLY good for cold approaching. It really doesn't matter how many women lied about having a boyfriend, they aren't interested enough to say yes, and that's fine, because you want to focus on finding women who are.
I think the fact that he was asking out girls to test himself rather than get a yes made him more confident.
Lowkey, good on him for not stopping the whole thing at the first "yes".
"I'm into women"
omg me too, we have so much in common.
Actually made me laugh bro gg
"You say that you're a lesbian, girl me too"
@@miguelpatino3856 🤣😂😂😂😂
@@miguelpatino3856 haha exact same thought, drake 😂
Based
It is one of the rare cases where I have watched the original video before your reaction. And you guys extending the explanation further to the grey area instead of the black & white of just getting a yes or number, will helps folks understand the important things.
This guy’s confidence has increased tenfold just from doing that. Give him time and he’ll be able to date anyone he likes.
He won't he's skinny and Asian I'm not being racist here but the data shows Asian males do the worst online dating on average for what ever reason people don't like facts apperently anyways he's skinny as well even barring his Asian facial features and his face is not striking his face is not like those kpop models.
So realistically no he can't not in this day and age and especially not if hes trying to date out side his ethnicity Asians with muscles and a Kpop look do well with women
Dat anyone he likes? You lack experience with women don't u!!?
lmao your in a for a rude awakening with women
Date anyone HE LIKES???
Look... having confidence does a lot but if youre not a girls type you can have all the confidence you want... that girl will not date you UNLESS theres something in it for her to gain. It is what it is bruh. That's why I date girls that show me GENUINE interest first.
@@d.speedy5083 all I’m saying is he has nothing to worry about when it comes time for him to start dating.
As a person who has auditioned for things if you went to 100 auditions and got 19 percent callbacks your friends would be telling you "your on fire" . And then if you went to those 19 callbacks and received 2 more callbacks for final audition your friends would be like "you got something going" and if you actually nailed one of those parts...you would be considered so lucky!
different scenerio tbh. If out of 100 girls I only got 2 dates id be depressed as fuck tbh.
@@loverofhumanity okay yeah I get what you are saying and tbh getting only 2 callbacks for final auditions after going for a hundred auditions would be depressing and the truth is even if you do get two call backs most likely you aren't going to get the part so that is depressing too...but it's the fact that you might get an audition that keeps you going so you can choose to be depressed and then get back up and go or you can choose to be depressed and stay there.
@@loverofhumanity scale that out to 1 million and you got yourself about 10.000 dates.
@@loverofhumanity You have one dick. If you aren't dating any women, getting 1 woman should be enough. You sound like the women who are never satisfied.
@@CeroAshura 10,000 or 10.000?
Confidence is knowing that you’ll be okay no matter the outcome. Stay Focused Guys!!
Like the saying goes, "you miss 100% of the shots you don't take"... rejection is like pain u feel after a good work out, eventually it's just normal and part of the process.
Or u could just wait till she gives u choosing signals 🤦🏿♂️
@@GameN3rdz what exactly are "choosing signals"?
@@HasanPikerIsADouche it normally is pretty obvious whenever someone likes you, they act different when they're with you. Im guessing that's the comment above ours means
@@AndresGarcia-qk3sj that's assuming u have some rapport with the person, not something that works out with cold approaches
@@GameN3rdz Excuse me sir! What are choosing signals!!!?
The dating game is a whole obstacle course. Get the number (hurdle #1), get a reply (hurdle #2), set a date (hurdle #3), don't get flaked on (Hurdle #4) and so on. This process is exhausting! Shout out my arranged marriage peoples 😂
@Jack Wrath Bruh, wtf!?
@JackWrath3 go to hell
@@warren010h I reported his comment.
Don't forget the texting game
@@warren010h Thats next level trolling right there😭
“Is there anything I can do to convince you”
No! Never EVER ask for conditions.
"I'm a lesbian" is another way of saying "I have a boyfriend." Its an easy way to get rid of someone without hurting them. Can't be used in every country though. I learned that when I went to Jamaica.
Because homophobia or really into it?
Y AH U GAE!?
lmao JM REPRESENT
It doesn't work in Jamaica because the men don't care, they still want you. Jamaican men are a different breed of men. As long as you have a Vj and you not a transfemale (i had to point that out because of you are trans and you try to fool a jamaican man into having sex with you, you body will never be found or they will leave your body to be found as a example for others. Jamaicans are great people just dont beg to see their crazy side. It's not fun) your sexual orientation don't not matter.
or they're actually a lesbian 😱😱
I instantly felt bad for young men when she said “I don’t like guys that approach me, it’s a red flag”…IMO it’s all about how they approach you…if they’re respectful, it should be fine…man young heterosexual males in the dating scene…woooo it’s rough…y’all are damned if you do and damned if you don’t
That's true about the "Damned if you do, damned if you don't" part.
....If they are her type thats what she means
Bruh its one bitch who has that opinion lol. Probably more but more likely a minority
We know. Its why a lot of us GAVE UP lmao.
Right so she wants him to be like me you now??? Wtf is wrong with these girls
I always say it like this "you will find someone to love you for who you are, but are you trying to be the best you, you can be"
The girl who doesn’t like approach probably means specifically “cold approaching”. She’d probably be down with someone she was already familiar with and I don’t blame her.
Exactly. I am a bit shocked to see the younger men in these comments confused over why “I don’t know you” is a reasonable answer to getting asked out, unprovoked, out-of-the-blue. I’ve never done that in my life. I was under the impression most relationships started out as friendships, so I may be out of touch, as well. Who knows
Ye maybe but that basically means she is out of reach for any guy she wasnt previously friends with and the thing is most guys dont really have any female friends
@@pawel322 I don't think you have to be friends per say, but it helps to have some kind of rapport with someone, which is how office relationships happen(I don't recommend dating coworkers, just using an example).
the reality is that excuse is just that, there's a random guy she never met before who is 100% her type, should he cold approach she is going on that date immediately. People can't help what they like.
"That's Tuesday Evening. Not quite Wednesday." Y'all get on my damn nerves! 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Got me good 😂
So proud of this kid...I did the same thing when I was young. I hate the feeling of insecurity in itself. And how it use to hold me back but once you get out here it ain't that bad. You gone get alot of no's but it's a numbers game fellas
One of the hardest parts is not being afraid of rejection. Good for that guy, wish him well.
Rejection stems from the childhood fear of abandonment which equals death for youngsters. Independent men couldn't care less about other peoples' approval because he can provide himself with anything and everything he needs.
His survival is contingent on himself and it reflects in his behavior. Most guys out there are boys pretending to be men which is why a random stranger's rejection influences their own self-esteem.
The hardest part is being afraid of rejection, but doing it anyway and this man conquered it 🤘🏻
Before I met my husband I went on many dates with guys who weren't necessarily my type. Because you never know who might surprise you with a great personality. I met some people who looked great but were boring, so I always gave guys who asked me out a fair chance. One guy was super handsome but gave me creepy vibes. Another guy wasn't very handsome and we went on two or three dates, because he was fun to be with. I went on date with a guy shorter than me (I'm 5'1 so that's pretty hard 😅), older, younger, different nationalities... My now husband is very handsome, but he actually wasn't the type of guy I was into at that time. He had game. He was smart, charming and confident. And most importantly gave me the feeling he was interested in who I was. After 7 years he still gives me butterflies.
Aww, that's awesome 😀👍
You dropped this 👑for giving everyone a fair chance
You weren't into very handsome, smart, charming, confident and caring men? Huh? 🤔
@@owlperformance2147 most women aren't
Interesting
I don’t know this guy but I’m proud of him🙏🏾 It takes a lot of bottle to put yourself out there and be open to any response.
I know it’s hard to create authenticity in these types of videos when people are being recorded but I prefer seeing this than seeing people split testing their dating profiles.
I respect this man for his dedication because in this day and age, it's just hard to go up and ask somebody or even somebody you know because of that fear of rejection.
It's not just rejection.
@Jack Wrath Get your pedo 🐻 butt out of here.
@Jack Wrath Bruhhhhhhhh
Lmao thats a whole load of BS it pretty easy to approach a woman cuz no guy has the balls to do it anymore so already u stand out by doing it
This is where you teach yourself game. Don't feel bad for him. I purposely pursued the teacher I had a crush on in high school not because I still wanted her but because I needed the practice at that age.
Dude the guy tries more than the 80% of your audience (me included) shout out to him hahaha
Hahaha I fuckn hate u for sayin that, where are places to do this? If u work a regular job and what not
@@moonknight4053 You might not believe but i know what you mean. I talk to the same 6 women every damn day at work and no chance no meet another one outside of that hajajaja
Hahahah yoo this is Peter Parker levels of relatability my brotha!! I guess bro, supermarkets, maybe ur neighbourhood, etc is where we gotta meet these women? I mean I can’t think of anything else tbh. I don’t drink so I don’t club nor party
right
i know right says me who works with a bunch of women but still can't talk to my crush
This s*** is exhausting. It ain't even worth it to go out of your way to talk to anyone anymore.
To be fair, he asked a 100 girls in order to make a viral video. He wasn't actually trying to find a girlfriend and his thought process was like "I can't possibly get rejected 100 times in a row."
Yeah idk how they read this one as if he was actually serious. You could tell dude wasn’t pressed by any of this forreal. Reading it that way is weird to me, it’s like did we watch the same video
I believe him that he’s always had anxiety talking to girls and he decided to do something to change. And why not make some money off it too?
@@rambojordan1 everyone has some anxiety when meeting strangers lol. He said “oh no how could I ask out a girl right after I asked out her friend”. He knows what he’s doing not having been on a date especially when he’s only 19 lol doesn’t mean he can’t pull. He just hasn’t made it a priority and now he’s putting himself out there.
Hurdle #1 for guys is bring able to handle rejection. No matter how attractive a guy is, he eventually gets a rejected. Knowing how to take it well is something all guys got to learn.
@@kapasitorcpt9249 really got nothing to do with men though. Both sexes need to learn to take rejection, approach others, etc
"I'm too emotionally attached to fictional characters". That shit caught me off guard! XD
I guess all i can wish is fictional happiness to her...
Bet she’d still have a problem with men doing the same though
@@aerickmon3350 Cope, that chick is probably a weeb, and will probably end up in a happy relationship with another weeb.
@@SemiDoge doubt it... another weeb will be a simp and she´ll have no respect for him. There´ll be no hapiness there.
A girl that makes that type of excuse, is an immature bag of problems and I pitty anyone that ends up with her. I can only imagine the ammount of ridiculous stuff she´ll come up with in a relationship and make a living hell out of it.
@@SemiDoge If by "happy relationship" you mean a 5 year relationship until she loses all respect for him because he's weak and starts craving a bad boy that gives her butterflies and makes her feel small, sure.
@@butaudo1918 weird projecting you know nothing about her
The only missing thing is, when a lady says yes, you go on a date with them. You can pick up the project again after.
Scrub mfr=no dates
Scrub mfr+Lexus=1 date
Scrub mfr+camera=18 maybe dates
This sh*t=priceless
Lmfaooooo. Beautiful, classic, Mastercard comment. That camera changes everything and gave him a 12-15 ho bonus
Get a lexus & a camera. 💯
Aba's points at the end are spot on. The camera being involved influenced some of the women who said yes (as they would likely have been much different, possibly harsher, if no camera was there). How many of the yes's the guy got would have been actual "I'm interested", well, who knows, but it likely would not have been the same number as the yes's. And just getting the phone number wouldn't mean success.
In reality, it's a lot harsher. "One woman's flirting is another's friendly" and similar sayings make dating really difficult right now. How someone approaches, for instance, can be seen as confident by one gal, but not by another. It's tough to know what's genuine and what isn't, because some ruin it for everybody else.
This video is about him daring to actually walk up to girls and ignore the fear of rejection, which most guys on his level of attractivenss are so scared over.
He proves that you CAN get numbers to girls if you just put yourself out there, that there is a chance someone is interested in you.
We have so many guys today that are scared of approaching girls because of fear of rejection or being called a creep because they are insecure of their appearance.
Why is Aba so thick skulled? I thought he were suppose to be the smart guy lol
That phrase you mentioned "One woman's flirting is another's friendly" really blew my mind.
This is an issue I struggle with, both on the recieving end and with my own behaviour. I have always been shy when I was a kid, so now as a 22 year old I have come out my shell and I talk a lot. However, sometimes I worry that I might accidentally come off as flirting to certain girls.
Then on the flip side, I've recently found out this girl might like me according to her friends, when I thought she was just being friendly the entire time! Meanwhile, another girl I was hanging out with, I thought was being flirty, but when I made a move she wasn't interested. It can be very difficult reading people sometimes.
I think confirmation bias plays a role here. If we find someone very attractive, we might be looking for evidence they like us back. When we find someone unnatractive, we look for evidence they don't like us and it is all friendly behaviour.
@@vipr1142 You make good points. I think the point of the video was to overcome anxiety and fear of rejection. It doesnt really matter about what Aba said, the guys results dont matter. At the end of the day Aba was being pessimistic (perhaps realistic, but still not the most positive) and the dude was just trying to improve himself. I think Aba has been a bit bitter lately
Good success rate or not, I'm proud of him. He overcame the fear of rejection. I can talk to girls about pretty much anything but the fear of rejection doesn't let me ask them out.
I really wanna see this guy work on his style, physique and hygiene for a year and do this again.
Thank you, I was gonna say no one is gonna bring that up this guy is a plain Jane vanilla Asian dude cringe level is way over 100
@@JumpingAssninja right?? Dude has guts for doing the challenge though. I think he handled it quite well. I think getting that many rejections under your belt actually does a ton to boost confidence, because you’re not as afraid and uncomfortable approaching any more.
Very average looking, but is taller then 85+% of men, but also mind u Americans add a few cm to their height
Tiege Hanley send this young man your products to start his journey, his confidence is growing on the video. Which is what I'm noticing. Good luck to him.
Same. He'd probably do a lot better
"You got too high of a standards."
Literally my standards: "no quick hookups, love, physical affection, conversation, somewhat simular looks wise"
I feel like the world is super messed up. Either people want sex or are not interested at all. That is very intimidating to someone who never got anything long term out of dates just saying.
It's like I am in the wrong hemisphere where I am the crazy one
Edit: genuinely expected to be ripped apart in the replies but I am surprised many people feel simularly (maybe there is hope to meet a normal person after all)
Those seem like very fair and smart standards to have. You’ll get there
I feel the same. I’m not from the US and I came a year and a half ago. The dating scene here is fucking terrible. I’ve realized people only want sex. And they say they want relationships but when it dimes to putting effort, no one really puts effort
Look at your relationship snd sexual value. Not what you want.
you may be inflating how attractive you are
Exactlyyyyy
A 19% acceptance rate is actually really good considering it seems like for the most part he didn’t know any of these girls. That literally means for every 10 girls he randomly approaches 2 will say yes 12:29
the confidence this man has is what i aspire to highkey
Good, now go out and start approaching guys.
@Jack Wrath you're sick.
@JackWrath3 You sick bastard!
@@knuclestheechidna5406 exactly man😂 btw, did you watch sonic prime?
Go and approach men you find attractive
Ppl seem confused " how you get to know someone without going on a date?" Yall, the date is for after you get to know someone. It used to be you'd meet a person, yall would talk, hang out but not go on a date but as friends. That's how you see if yall compatible at all. At that point if yall want to move forward make it official you ask them on a date which signals the beginning of the relationship. Now, ppl skip the getting to know you part and go straight to the date. Tbh, I think that's why most relationships don't last. Yall skip the vetting process.
At that point your just splitting hairs “hangout” and “date” is the same thing depending on the person
u date someone u know from class or other gatherings
@SLiceofYOurLyfe Totally agree👍
So unless you happen to be in their class or go to the same group activity you're doomed, gotcha. But most people are too busy working.
And those ladies at work are off limits 9 times out of 10.
Nobody _spends time_ outside _doing things_ anymore and it's fucked the whole system.
People are avoiding the friend zone
The difference between “Yes, I would go on a date with you” and “Yes, let’s go on a date”…
I have so much respect for this man. Whenever I feel ugly or unmotivated to talk to women, I’ll watch this video. Half the battle is just starting the conversation.
The other half is actually finding women your own age. Since high school most women I've came across are old, taken or in their 30s or 40s. Dude had to go to college to find these ladies. Me? Dry bone out here man.
I mean if you prefer em abit younger that’s fine too, but I’m not talking like “Yes now go seek the nearest highschool my son” hahaha more like if ur 25 and go for a 20 year old then go buddy gooo!!
@@TheDeadlyBlueWolf AND THEY ALL GOT KIDS!! Finding a woman who doesn't have kids is absurdly hard nowadays.
@@sechabatheletsane9784 facts that’s the main reason why I go younger..like who tf is trying to deal with a single moms..and the baggage that comes with em
sorry Not sorry but i’m not interested in a “package deal”..but to hear goofy chicks in the US tell it. I got to go with chicks my own age or else “ped0/creep” Idgaf.. Baby moms are NOT for me. I refuse deal with that.
That’s why I typically go for younger. them being hotter tighter are benefits too but it’s mainly becuz your more likely to find em childless. Single guys with no kids aren’t really checking for women with children.
My bros (tall college athletes) were going to a bible study that met in a coffee shop. There was always a group of girls sitting in another part of the shop and one of them was always checking one of my bros out. So one day, he approaches her. "hello, My bro and I have been coming here alot and we noticed you checking me out so I thought I'd come introduce myself". her "aww thanks, you're really cute, but I have a boyfriend". My bro "I'm sorry I wouldn't have known since I see you in here a lot and he's never with you".
Some women can be weird 😆
Last second switch up, probably didn't approach right
@@popisolation not my dude lol
@@popisolation she is just weak
Ahh ha how make woman crazy in the end?
I respect the woman who said "You're not my type."
She was honest upfront. Half of the ones who are "in a relationship"... aren't.
"Would you go on a date with me?"
...
"I'm too emotionally attached to fictional characters right now"
BRUH
That one got me ahaha
imagine if a man said that... 🔥💀🔥
@@asd2640 no one would care
The correct response is, "you're in luck, legend has it I'm Clark Kent's little brother"
There's so many lesbians on all campuses, I think there's a term called LUG it means "Lesbian until graduation" lmao and you can guess what a TUG is
I can't. Help me out?
Trans untill graduation ?
Or twink?
Yeah , college is where chicks do all the debaucherous things then act like it never happened after graduation. Some girls get trains ran on them or they have a lick and strap party
@@pleasedontlookforme8036 lol
As a girl that’s crazy that girls said they would go out with him if he paid them a million dollars or if he drives a nice car. How embarrassing…
The Goal was to get OVER his fear of rejection. Rejection was expected, so I'm not gonna downplay him only getting 19 Numbers. #98 seemed genuinely intrigued, and was actually cute.
I think Aba was right in that the camera did have an influence on some of the women's responses,howvever,I do think that some of the women were sincere in wanting to go out him. Thing is,the guy himself at some points did seem to kinda lack in sincerity himself. Like when he asked out one girl,then immediately asked out the girl right next to her. He couldn't have been THAT dumb.
Or like when he approached a group of girls,asked out 2 or 3,then said they could all go on a group date. He didn't seem to be taking it seriously. But if his goal was to get over the fear of rejection and not a date itself,more power to him.
@@zanthonyhill8818 I mean, you kinda become apathetic after a certain number of rejections to the point that the yes doesn't even mean anything in a single day.
@@zanthonyhill8818 exactly. Also let's remember he didn't blur anybody's face that mean he had to ask their permission to be posted online. So he already preped them up before asking the question. So yea.. but yea if he feels happy with that. Then yea, all power to him. I don't think it really helped a lot, but possibly helped a little bit.
"If you see them on the grass, they might be lesbian." -Aba
Obvs absolute complete logic. 😂
A guy asked for my number when I was shopping for groceries and he would not leave me alone. I wasn’t wearing anything fancy just normal clothes. He was extremely creepy. I gave him a random number, I thought I was in the clear I just wanted to get my stuff and go. And he still wouldn’t leave me alone. He called the phone number in front of me. I told him I left my phone in my car. And he just kept staring at me throughout me shopping at the store every single aisle I would find him “randomly”. Don’t do this it’s so fucking bad. Even if you are desperate just please it felt like harassment at that point.. 😵💫
I think #53 helps my point. Some people see going out as "steady" and being in a relationship, while others just see a date as just that. I always viewed a date as just making arrangements to meet at a place at a specific point in time. Nothing more. If it goes well, cool, and if it flops? Whatever, move on. I think it's important and healthy to go on many dates, bad and good. You learn a lot about people and yourself from the experience of rejection, awkward moments, bad manners and habits you don't like, and even may find things you do. You cannot predict how things will go, and I think throwing yourself into the fire is how you can overcome some fears and anxiety you have about finding a connection with a person.
As an introvert meeting random strangers with no actual purpose is just wasting my energy. But to each their own.
@@dickiewongtk We are all different, so there is no one mindset for all. I am an introvert as well, and very much like to be on my own more than not, when the occasional spur of desire to socialize strikes up. You're of course free to choose what you want to do with your life. Dating and your purpose for it is entirely up to you. I no longer am dating, as I am married, but when I was in the dating scene, I had eventually learned to just go and ask, like this guy did, and eventually it worked out.
Being selective limited me and put pressure to making sure each date would be "perfect" because I had so few of them. When I started going out, meeting people, I learned to accept that some people I met and dated didn't work out, and that's okay. I grew comfortable with myself. I had bad dates, and we just weren't compatible, but I learned from those, and moved on. Eventually all that dating led me to the woman I'm married with and had been in a relationship with for 10 years.
@@dickiewongtk As an introvert I prefer meeting people to texting. It's just more fun I guess
Don’t get me wrong, many people of the current generation don’t really know how to approach people given how prominent internet interactions are, but I do wish it was easier to approach people. Especially females. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve approached a girl in my college class just for some notes and they look at me sideways. Dudes, never had a problem. Maybe it’s because of the fact most people are straight, but gah DAYUM it’s hard
No its actually not. Its all about the simple tone of voice and how you carry yourself. It literally disarms people instantly and lets them know you are cool. If you are nervous girls can sense that in a second. Talk to a girl like they have nothing you want just to talk.
@@krazzykracker2564 maybe but if you convince yourself they have nothing to offer then why even talk to them or put any effort into it
@@pawel322 You have to put effort without looking like you're trying. Also be attractive to the woman then it matter very little what you say and do just be normal and understand basic social cues and you're good.
Fr a girl came up to me and said my friend likes you and didn't say anything else like bro wtf do I say to that? Like why can't she come ask me and then we can talk she can sit down and we can learn more about each other. That "my friend over there likes you" line is goofy. If you like somebody just tell them so you don't have to worry and can move on or start dating
@@pawel322 I didn't say convince yourself that was your words. Communication is a skill you can get good at. It is easier for people with above average intelligence. Its necessity scales with your looks. Beautiful people are liked just for existing. The more ugly you are the more you need to communicate better. I have been overweight most my life and always was one of the cool kids because I was skilled at communicating. I was shy at first but just threw myself out there and learned how to make myself more appealing.
The thing about the chances decreasing with time is spot on. The time between you liking the guy and actually going for a date has questions, doubts and anxiety in between, which drops the odds of a date.
Back when I was in college, everyone naturally self-segregated and only inter-mingled through sports or frats and sororities. I really thought him being Asian would give him a leg up with the Asian women. Boy, was I wrong.
Asian women like white guys 😭
Attractiveness plays a part too.
I mean 😂😂
It’s a win/win if you date a an Asian guy because he is more culturally inclined. Meaning ur kids will know there culture more so then an American white person
Being attractive will give you a leg up no matter what your race or ethnicity is. Being unattractive will hinder you no matter what your background is. Race/ethnicity does matter of course, but they are still as secondary or tertiary factors in boosting success. Ultimately, the biggest factors are the individual's own attractiveness, charisma, etc.
This guy got more balls than me. I could never handle getting rejected this many times in one day but honestly the people saying Yes would probably weigh out all the people saying no.
Yall gotta try it I do about 3 a day you build up a calluses and get passed that fear
He is asking for fake date so it is just fake rejection.
1:05 “Girl me too!”
- Drake, probably.
As someone who doesn't have the courage do do this I respect this man.
I've always struggled with approaching women mostly due to lack of self confidence. I always think there are better looking dudes with more money or more interesting lifestyles so then I talk myself out of not doing the approach.
It's a terrible mindset I'm slowly trying to get rid of.
Approach women on your same scale in the looks department or even a little lower at first. Dress well no matter how much money you have. Use your personal style. Women like someone that takes care of themselves and doesn't look sloppy. Smell good, not too much cologne. Looks don't matter, money also doesn't matter. Some girls go for that stuff but some don't. You just need to find the ones who don't. Confidence, personality, strength and thoughtful interaction is super attractive.
@@TheMariemarie16 looks and money do play a part in your success with women. I agree with a lot of what you just said but that stuff definitely does matter.
@@TyroneBiggums2003 You misunderstood my meaning. We all fall short of some factors that matter to a large segment of the dating pool but spending time dwelling over what we don't have so that it paralyzes is a non starter. So it doesn't matter. If you look around you will see tons of broke guys with women, tons of ugly guys with women. I meantioned staying in your lane and capitalizing on what you do have. Anyone can do that and eventually you will be successful but you have to be in it to win it.
@@TheMariemarie16 I agree. However, you mentioned "you will see tons of broke guys with women, tons of ugly guys with women." Now you tell me what percentage of those relationships ending up lasting for a long time? Most likely, they don't. That's just the reality these days. Now I'm not saying all women do this but the vast majority do go after the top percentage of guys because they have more than not of what they look for. But that in itself is a whole other conversation to have.
didnt know guys got nervous over that i always see u and assume u dont care and do this to everyone
Props to the kid for approaching and getting SOMETHING even if it was just confidence. I'm Aba's age and have never approached or gotten a number. Naturally I've been forever single so I think it's important to get that mojo at a young age so it can grow.
This reminds me of the TEDTalk where a guy seeks rejection every day for a certain amount of days. If you’re a guy afraid of getting rejected by a women just focus on leaving a good impression like Aba and Preach have said and have a good time. As Aba has said in the past, if they’re not interested just have a good time and they might be interested later
I respect this young man. I was rejected so often growing up, that at some point I just stopped trying although I realized the more I worked on myself and the higher "quality" I became I didn't even need to chase women as much, they'd be pretty open with them being interested in me. It's kind of one of those things as a dude that if you get to a certain point in your life where you're attractive enough, successful enough, clean up nice enough...Women will naturally just want to be around you, now granted I still have gotten my fair share of rejections, but it's just something I noticed with time.
"I don't know you" and "I'm not prepared for dating" means "You're not my type".
Number 8 was like ………………
Yes
Number 9 was like “I like competing with my “friend”. I wanna win”.
Honestly
I loved that you guys reacted to Sam’s video it brings a new perspective to overcoming nervousness when approaching people which is something I think we can all learn from
He's a brave man to do this. He's on the right track. Looks like he's not too afraid of rejection. That's the first step
As a guy who struggles with social anxiety and is afraid of approaching women I respect this and should prolly attempt this myself to overcome that fear
Hey you got this!!! Make sure you have the skills to talk to other people in general before women, that really helped me. It’ll take a while but I believe in you
@@kaffeine.a8953 appreciate it bro 🫡💯
whenever I tell a man I have a boyfriend as rejection, their immediate response is “what’s wrong with having guy friends” or “we can still test the vibe”
I’ve had that happen to me and honestly I immediately lost respect for that man when he said, it’s okay we’re not flirting or we’re just friends
We know women cheat so take a shot.
So who do you want exactly?
@@HoldenMuhKnutz That's really gross tho
@@HoldenMuhKnutz lol you’re a disgusting fool. They already rejected you just leave them alone.
A couple of times a woman has told me that they have a boyfriend and not interested and right away gave her number to one of my homies🤣. It's just a code word for not interested.
"Tuesday evening" lol 8:20
This is the equivalent of Ego Swiping on Tinder lmaooo
I guess but it’s also not a bad way to get over the fear of rejection. It’s extremely effective
What is ego swiping?
@@wawis231 Swiping just to see who swiped back with no intent to actually act on it
You say that like we know wtf ego swiping is elaborate plz kind sir
Nah, this is actually productive
Somebody told me honesty and kindness was an imaginary standard, that person did not seem the type to appreciate simple things
I can relate to what this guy went through about trying to ask girls out. Back in High School I was literally nervous to talk to girls and pessimistic as well. But when I was with my friends, they taught me not only to be confident but how changing your perception about the world can drastically affect on how you view the world. I was in the position that all women are just shallow, and I will never be able to approach them. But now I don't feel as bitter as much as I did back in high school and realize that both men and women are all in the same boat and were just as nervous and terrified. Because were all human, and we all crave for the same thing, which is Love, Connection, and to be understood.
Granted we all experience this at a different point in our lives it's still nevertheless the same thing we all are going for. And yes, there are bad people out there and it sucks to go through that but there are also good people out there too. It's a matter of us trying to know our self-worth and to find the good people out there. The only minor thing that I don't like seeing in this generation is how we still retain some of these stupid and outdated rules about dating: For example: Guys need to approach women first; He needs to be the one paying for the meal all the time, Girls need to play to be hard to get, Women can't approach guys or else they might be seen as being "desperate".
I get the intention is good, but I feel as a society were all making it harder for ourselves when we don't need it to be. This is not 1823 it's 2023!!. Basically, you have to go through allot of BS just to tell the person you find them interesting. isn't that was dating for????. You get to know that person on several dates and see if you two are compatible and if not we both move on!. I think if we were just a little bit honest and straightforward in what we want from each other I think it would clear up allot of the drama and the misunderstandings that modern dating has to go through. But it's not going to change anytime soon and it's a part of the process that everyone has to go through, and it sucks but we have to go through it in the end. I applaud to this guy to face his fear of rejection. it's a good start. If he didn't have the camera and had a better interaction, I think things would've been better even if was rejected regardless it's still a victory for him just to overcome that fear of rejection.
Women aren’t shallow humans are men and women this idea that they people don’t value looks is stupid
“I’m into women” is how a lot of these girls try and get guys to back off IMO
Then they’ll wish they never said that when they’re on med and live with cats at 40.
@@HoldenMuhKnutzhonestly I’d rather hear that than the girl who laughed at him
@@HoldenMuhKnutz strike a nerve there buddy?
@@HoldenMuhKnutz Not every girl who doesn't want you will have a bad life. They just didn't want you.
@@HoldenMuhKnutz cope harder
This was pretty cool. Half of these guys can't deal with rejection. Most players I know only get about 10-15% of the chicks they hit on. Remember fellas, show interest in the women who show interest in you. Don't get too blinded by the chase and miss what's in front of you.
I love how he's getting more confident as he approaches more women. I feel like he wouldn't have said, "what?! Where's the ring?!" at the first 10 or so.
Also, 19% ain't bad lol. You woke up in the morning with no options and are going to bed that night with 19!
I don't know, in the past I've used the "I have a boyfriend" line...really DID have a boyfriend, then dudes would say, "Can you have a friend then?" Like...WHAT??? NO!
Preach coming in and randomly attacking and roasting the man got me fucking dead lmaooo
Most guys will be surprised how much easier it will be to get a date if you just put yourself out there and build up the confidence to talk to random women. The first random girl i asked out was actually interested in me and liked the confidence i had to go up to her and liked how i tried to get to know her. Now we been dating for 6 months and its been great!
Edit: i saw this girl while was on vacation with friends and my friends convinced to asked her out and i couldn’t refuse at that point cause my friends would roast tf out of me if i didn’t. This girl is a 10/10 and i thought i had no chance but gave it a shot anyway. I went up to her and was like “hey, i think your really cute” something like that and asked for her instagram. At the time i didnt realize her mom was right next to her. I talked to her asking where she from and discovered she lived like an hour away from me and just talked to her for like 5-10 minutes. She followed me back on instagram and from their we talked and set up dates while we were both still on vacation. After my vacation we decided to meet up for a date and she ended up taking my virginity lmao. From there we started dating.
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You'd be surprised how extremely easier it would be if women just started doing the approaching.
What did you say with your approach?
@@knuclestheechidna5406 Nah, most guys are awkward af. It's not their fault, but guys being dogshit at talking to women is prevalent in the USA.
@@randommonacur2151 Yeah, but why are they awkward? Also it would be better and easier if women just did the approaching.
Preach hitting with the face wash promo was funny as Hell. Bruh did need to clear his acne a bit.
I think that his real objective wasn't precisely getting a date, but overcome that fear of women and being rejected, which he kinda did, so kudos to ma men for going out like that
What stands out to me is the fact that he's asking these girls if they'd go out with them and most of them are taking it as a literal statement - like right here right now!
Sure the reality is cruel but he made one hell of a wholesome video, love his attitude...
I've always laughed at the 'I would need to know you first before going on a date' Girl, that's what you do on a date is get to know the other person! I get it a date has more pressure or whatever, but it's not some magical thing, its just talking to someone
I actually decided to do the same, as him, when I was 17. I made some good friends, I got into some toxic romances, and I learned that "nah" is nowhere near the end of the world. Especially from a woman that I haven't been on the first date with.
I actually think this is a great exercise for people who don't date much, or have low self confidence. If you approach a dude who rakes in numbers and girls, and were to force them to speak the full honest truth about their success rate, they'd say something along the lines of "Yeah at first I got no dates. Plenty of yes's, plenty of numbers, but all ghosts. Eventually I watched some videos on how to have game, and also clever pickup lines, and refined myself and adapted. Eventually, the number of yes's grew, and the number of actual dates grew even more. I got better at approaching girls, and they picked up on that. So now although I STILL have maybe a 40% success rate (and a 10% date rate), it's MILES ahead of where I was a year or so ago. Keep up with it, you'll get good."
If they had the option of lying to you, that same dude would say "I just have what they want. Always had. It's natural." and lie through their teeth.
You need to go out and start asking for numbers. That's it.
It’s a great idea to be thrown in jail.
@@TheTiredhermit You ain’t gonna get thrown in jail but you can get that one women who is crazy making a big deal out of it
First girl I asked out said she can`t be bothered because she is too busy playing world of warcraft. Never went on a date,but had mutual friends and hanging out together with other people. We`ve been living together for 3 years now.
It’s not about getting the girl. Getting the girl is easy. KEEPING the girl is the hard part. Depends on how long you can actually keep her entertained and if she doesn’t get tired of you. That comes with an anxiety even worse than asking them out, because now you constantly have to keep them in mind and think about your approach to things.
But at the end of the day, not being afraid of her leaving you is the toughest of all. You need to understand that can and most likely will happen. When it does, simply start the process over again and shrug off the pain.
This needs more attention. Nothing but facts
Well said.
This is why you keep multiple women on rotation
If there is actual chemistry, one doesn't need to worry about things like that. Because that relationship will keep going deeper and deeper.
@@TheIsaacm1994 hard disagree, every part of the process is extremely challenging
This guys attitude and approach are AWESOME!!! Just being willing to approach and talk to people while employing a "who gives a fuck about the outcome" attitude is FREEING. This guy is great. ;)
This guys jokes and doesn’t take himself too seriously
Yes women, do the approaching. You won't believe the dudes you'll pull. Waiting for the hot guy to ask you out, well, it will happen eventually but not soon enough. Ladies, please start approaching men.
lol, not happening. They've got the leverage, so we approach them, it's how it is.
@@randommonacur2151 But women aren't necessarily into the guys who approach them. It should go both ways.
@@randommonacur2151 I wouldn’t even call it leverage, it’s just the man who is supposed to lead. The man asks her out, the man sets up the date, the man proposes, etc.
Women already know if they approached that they could easily get men. Fear of rejection and ego outweigh going after what they want though.
@@dudleysquibbles6366 Yea, but why? It's because women have options, men don't. Women have more friends, more fulfilling relationships, and more guys available.
It's like the marketplace, if the seller knows you're desperate, there will be no haggling.
I gotta give it up to my dude here. It takes a lot of confidence just to ask out one girl. My man’s here asked out 100 women and 19 of them said yes. Much respect bro.
This is necessary. You used to be able to go to the mall during middle/high school and just try to talk to girls. That’s where you get most of your rejection out of the way and gain experience on how to talk to women.
30 years old now, I’m glad I caught the very end of that era.
The chick that said no because she likes her men tall. Then he said he's 6'1" she's like oh okay maybe half a date. You see im standing in front of you!. Just be honest you already rejected him why lie blatantly lmao