That’s so sad that people believe deaf people are useless in food service. I have a friend that has been going deaf since childhood. She’s only partially deaf but she’s deaf enough wear she cant tell you are speaking to her unless you are facing her She was denied disability and tried to work when her kids were old enough but even McDonald’s didn’t want to hire her. It took her a very very long time for her to get hired someplace.
Wait. So, what about hearing aids? I am glad that she found herself a job and all that, but why not buy them. Are they that expensive, or she physically can't wear them due to the irritation or something like that?
@@Its_me_Stolas hearing aids are only good for those has minimal to moderate hearing loss. There is another option, cochlear implant, but they cost a lot (like a brand new car of the year) for just one side to be done. You want to have both sides to get full hearing effect as well but you're always going to be unable to hear everything since the CI cannot just get all the ranges of the sounds easily. Hell, I only have one side and I just barely managed to hear the same things on the low section of regular hearing. It takes decades to hear fully as well too since your brain need to adjust.
Story 3: those parents are trying to manipulate op. They are most likely planning that op would be his brothers caretaker at some point and all of this is about that, manipulating his road of life that leads in that conclusion. Op needs to go full no contact and concentrate on his own future, having a job, getting married, having his own kids and so on. He doesn't need his parent and he doesn't need his creepy brother in his life. He have his own life to live.
I think the brother learned being creepy from the parents. The son should have papers drawn up that when the parents pass away that he is in not reliable for this brother and they should have a home picked out for him and financially paid for. Maybe that'll wake up the parents
Ok so about the first story, I definitely can relate with the OP for feeling really annoyed with the entitled mother for yelling at their deaf employee. I have a deaf friend myself and I would be pissed if someone yelled at her if she didn’t have a hearing aid in. So yeah mad probs to the op for kicking that woman out
Too bad the food was already done. I would've given her a refund and kicked her out without any food. Let that B go be hangry in the car with her kids lol
Story 3: As a person with autism, I absolutely hate it when autistic people try to use their diagnosis to defend creepy actions and avoid consequences.
Exactly! Being autistic is not an excuse for the brother's behavior. Due to our social difficulties, we know, probably better than most neurotypicals, what behaviors are appropriate for each different situation
@@SabellaHalfdragon I am thankful for my parents to show me the rights and wrongs, I can’t believe they make use of turning someone into such a predictor, more thankful for good parents but scared of the bad ones out there.
THIS DOESNT MEAN OP IS WRONG. Story 3: as an autistic person, I feel that it is incredibly annoying when other autistics use how _THEIR _ autism that affects _THEM_ as a way to compare a _SPECTRUM_ of people and say “she can get a job etc. etc. and we’re similar so x should be able to do the same things as me” which is incorrect and ableist on so many levels. This annoys me too much. OP even said “even though we’re both on the “ _SPECTRUM_ “ “ SPECTRUM.” SPECTRUM.
I have met plenty of deaf people on my life, one in collage especially, and she (the poor sweet thing) was having a tough time, I am thankful to the collage that for one period we had a sat down and went through a mini seminar about the important of giving support and understanding to people are deaf, and like the deaf employyee in this story, this girl in collage was just the sweetest little thing, so it baffles me to know end that people would call people who are deaf "Useless" and just shows that Ignorence like this will lead to the downfall to humanity if more people dont open up their eyes.
People with Disabilities (Deaf, Blind, Etc.) Are people too! Sometimes there's just Jerks that Don't understand that we All are human beings! Race doesn't matter as long as we all work together in a community
the only disability around here is a bad attitude! im hearing impaired and im in charge of the drafting dept at work abd my boss is happy with my work even i am under a lot of pressure trying to clean up the frame drawings as half the drawings are badly updated!
I had a deaf uncle. At work coworkers laughed at him behind his back. My deaf uncle didn't know but word got around. Another uncle (his BIL) also worked there. He roughed the ring leader up. My dad also worked at the company. He heard what was going on and went to the scene. He asked the uncle if he needed help. My uncle was a truck driver and he said he could handle it.
The wife in the second story sounds very VERY insecure for thinking "she wants my man because they spend a lot of time at work as friends, and my insecurities is skyrocketing"
The guy of the third story has a great wife/girlfriend (because she is not toxic, mean, controlling and plus even tho she doesn't like his parents doesn't mind them coming just so his boyfriend can have a relation with his parents)
Man, karens can't live without harrasing employees or something? If they are not playing attention to you, they have a reason. People could be both deaf and blind or even muted aswell. Nobody needs to show you proof about it.
I can relate to this, it doesn't matter if the person has a Disability or not the main thing is to treat them with respect, Karen was way out of line and acted childish in the restaurant, I'm glad the manager kicked Karen and her kids out of his business also banned them.
Well as someone with disabilities myself it is very, very illegal to not hire or fire someone with a disability because of that disability. So, if that manager had fired her like that Karen had asked he would be in legal trouble himself
Story 3 - don’t keep reaching out to the parents. They’ll only continue hurting you. Just let them know they owe you a sincere apology. After that, it’s up to them to reach out to you. I agree with the commenter who said they probably intend for you to become brother’s caretaker. Don’t let them do that to you.
I worked in an electronic store and we had a short-term part time employee. We actually set a computer for them to use to talk with customers and they blossomed with this setup. My oldest niece is deaf and also works in retail. She does well too.
I don't often come across stories of managers who actually have their employees backs, and will put obnoxious customers in their place. But when I do, it is so refreshing.
Ima share my own story about a deaf employee and a Karen freak out I woke up and went to Dunkin’ Donuts to get some breakfast and a drink, I was in Line and Karen was infront of me. The employee was deaf who was working the register, so they had a notepad and pen for people to write their order. Karen being Karen ignored the notepad and started shouting at them and then the classic line came up “Let me speak to your MANAGER”. Then the employee wrote on the pad “Ma’am, I’m deaf” and Karen froze and then left right on the spot
I would like to know what the deaf employees role on the floor is bc it sounds interesting. And it's so stupid that the Karen tried to get the deaf employee fired.
story 1: I genuinely believe this woman thinks being deaf means you should be taken care of at home by your family and not taken out into public at all.
@@PapaZackYT I find it appalling that these individuals feel that people, with disabilities, shouldn't have jobs; because, they have a disability. What's next? Is it going to be acceptable to embrace Nazi ideology and exterminate people with shortcomings too; because, they don't meet status quo?
1st story: you should know that embarassing a Person with Disability has right to press charges... and put something or name tag to let others know that she's deaf
I’m a Supervisor in the medical field. Do you know how many times folks complained about how I was rude because I didn’t respond to their questions. Even having them seeing both of my hearing aids on. Crazy!!
As anyone who's planned a wedding can tell you, the guest list can be a nightmare. There are whole chains of relationships on both sides and you have to make cuts somewhere. Also who's paying for the wedding enters into it. For example, every wedding in my family includes an old neighbor from when they lived in Brooklyn. I was born after my family moved, but my mother still expected the neighbor to be invited. After having done it, unless it's a sibling or my children I'm of the mind that I'm never going to be bothered if someone doesn't invite me to their wedding. Just because mutual friends were invited, it doesn't necessarily mean much. For example, some could also be family friends.
Tbh, wedding are generally overblown and in many cases I think the it ends up becoming for the parents that the ppl getting married in a lot of situations
The wedding thing was a toss up. It could be that they were friends but not as close as the other people invited. Weddings are special places for family and close friends. It could be that they were just extremely close to others and the OP was a more casual relationship
But then would you let a casual friend help you with part of the wedding preparations and not invite them for their help? Like they didn’t have to help but they did, idk I’d feel bad if a friend helped out and I didn’t even offer an invite but that’s me
Story 1: as a deaf person I have had my own experiences like that :(, got yelled at by some rando teacher FROM BEHIND (I wear hearing aids literally can’t hear from behind not sure if this is the same for others but eh) apparently I wasn’t listening and was talking to my friend, I was helping tidy up, then it took my friend saying I was deaf for her to believe me 💀
I know the feeling of knowledge of having friends who are deaf and blind and the ways of getting to a Karen is to not respond to them in a negative way but ignore them right away from the jump or on the spot. That is the rudest thing to do to the deaf employee. I respect the world of the deaf and blind communities.
I hired a deaf woman years ago in a very busy retail food situation, she read lips. She turned out to be an excellent employee with great customer skills. She only left us to start her own family.
I'm autistic, and when that third story started I honestly wasn't sure what to expect- I just want to lead this out saying that the brother's behavior as well as the parents' is unacceptable and for the most part I stand with the OP and believe that he should cut all ties and be done with it, but I want to provide some information/observation that I feel might be relevant to the story. I have to note that the brother stopped following the gf into the bathroom once he realized that the reason the door is locked is because of him (if I'm to understand this correctly). I feel like this is a good example of an autistic person not being able to initially understand boundaries that aren't stated obviously but being able to follow them once they're established. Without question a lot of this stims from the parents not raising the brother right, teaching him proper respect and treatment of others would help with this, it goes without question that they're slacking and when OP talked to them about it they should've done significantly more. From what I've seen, more often than not autistic people are discriminated against and over oppressed for being the way they are but in this case it seems the severe opposite is true and the parents try too hard to conform to the way the brother is without teaching him what he needs to know, in this case it has bad results. I say none of this to excuse the brother or his behavior. In general though I can't help but feel uneasy about the fact that OP mentioned that him and his brother have similar symptoms, I've been in a similar spot of being compared to others for the sake of behavioral expectation and to be blunt that kind of comparison has had devastating effects. Society's expectations are harder for those of us who're autistic and it works out better for some than for others, and very rarely does "better" have much meaning outside of relation to the standards set by NTs. The presentation of symptoms being similar in the two of them doesn't really mean anything to be honest considering how different they turned out unless that difference is a result of a completely separate factor, in which case that factor is as relevant as the similarities. To be fair though OP doesn't state any level of expectation from him so it'd be unfair to assume that. That could've been specified for any number of reasons including just random habitual clarification (I do that quite often, see this entire comment). All of this being said, I just wanted to randomly bring this all up since it's just stuff I happened to know/notice, I stand with pretty much everyone else in that the behavior is unacceptable for obvious reasons and that OP should probably cut ties with that part of his family.
Ok, story 3 with the Autism. I have Autism( you don't know me so don't judge me). This is, in my opinion, inappropriate. Using someone's medical condition as an excuse to let them do what they like is wrong in every possible way.
As someone who is almost always watching youtube videos, I can tell you, that chick is just entirely self centered. And in that situation, the best course of action would be a serious conversation about the issue. And if it can't be resolved like that, follow up with marriage counseling. Ultimately, if it remains an issue, the relationship may need to end. It's an unfortunate truth, but sometimes, people need to be thrown out on their butts in order for it to sink in that their mentality and actions are wrong.
I'm partially deaf so i understand the hearing thing as i have worked with the hearing impaired. They're lovely people who don't understand how the world can be so cruel. I wished i didn't hear what i do with these morons!!! As for the girl and her phone - buy her several bluetooths so when 1 dies the other is ready to go - but tell her things have to be done while they're in. I do it all day and all night. I put a long video on and set the phone up and still handle what i do when I'm not sick. (Have bronchitis - can barely walk into the next room) but i still cook meals and clean up, laundry etc. She's just lazy!
2:42 if I wanted a proof about a person being deaf I would come to them from behind and clap my hand, honestly, if you don't expect the sound it scares the living crap out of you, but deaf people don't even know 🤷♀️
Story 1 It’s one thing to wander what being deaf is like, and how people get around that, heck even I wander that but I don’t dwell on it because I know they have their ways, and that’s all that’s needed to know at Thais point in my life. But to think that someone is faking such a disability as that, who raised you and what is there address? No reason (takes out shotgu-
THIS DOESNT MEAN OP IS WRONG. Story 3: as an autistic person, I feel that it is incredibly annoying when other autistics use how _THEIR _ autism that affects _THEM_ as a way to compare a _SPECTRUM_ of people and say “she can get a job etc. etc. and we’re similar so x should be able to do the same things as me” which is incorrect and ableist on so many levels. This annoys me too much. OP even said “even though we’re both on the “ _SPECTRUM_ “ “ SPECTRUM.” SPECTRUM.
I wonder with the 4th Story if something happened to her that made her go into depressions & that being on the Internet watching the videos is her way to detach from whatever is happening with her
The work one. That's what I was going to say. To distance herself far away from John and that if she needs to talk to him. To just talk to him about work stuff. Me personally I would take it a little more petty and do what the other co-workers are doing. Be silent, quite, and reserved. If you're walking by someone and they say "hi." Dont make eye contact and just be like "yeah hi." And continue walking. Eventually management will notice and will call her out. When management and let's say HR is there. Just sit there and say "After trying to be friendly to everyone and following some (insert social media here). Folks started thinking I'm a whore. So I'm just thinking that seeing as everybody thinks that. That I should be not friendly, more reserved, and more cold."
13:38 - How I see it is that there's just you and your girlfriend now. So long as your willing to listen to them, they'll keep going with the "you owe us/you are ungrateful" angle. Cut them off until they have realised that they miss you and express that they are sorry for what they have done. If in anyway they blame you for something in apology then they aren't sorry.
Third story: Being autistic is not an excuse for the brother's behavior. Due to our social difficulties, we know, probably better than most neurotypicals, what behaviors are appropriate for each different situation
As someone who has autism I can verify that it can be difficult for some of us to understand and recognize social boundaries. But it is not okay for OP’s parents to allow his brother to continue this behavior. When they die, he will have to live on his own and it will be extremely difficult if he doesn’t know how to interact with others
This: many people on the spectrum can learn how to behave in most social situations by telling them if they did something wrong. It has a lot more to do with difficulty recognizing when something is inappropriate, and it's the responsibility of those parents to try and help him learn. All they're doing is enabling him. I feel terrible for the brother since it really seems like he was never taught any better.
Story 2: Just listening to the first part of the story, I could tell the OP was a woman as guys wouldn't care if they weren't invited to a co-worker's party. Just be friendly with everyone and don't worry about what everyone else thinks about ya. Story 3: It really sounds like the brother finally got to the parents, manipulating their empathy towards him, to get revenge on the OP. Story 4: Tik Tok is actually designed to become addicted, lowering your attention span, and ruining your mental state. There is a reason why countries are actually starting to ban Tik Tok. It is a genuine assault from China to weaken generations of their opponents. The only thing that can even help her is to completely remove it from her. Be honest, not harsh, state plainly, and bring lots of evidence, both scientific facts as well as situational evidence of how it is affecting her. Story 5: I'm guessing another woman. You said it yourself, ya not owed anything. Ya need to get over yourself. There are lots of reasons for no invite and in the end, it was their wedding. If any friend of mine didn't invite me, it really wouldn't affect me much at all.
Sexist much? Men can feel the same emotions too. Story 2 yeah chances are that the op is a female because its highly unlikely a wife would worry about a man taking her husband but still there a chance that it could be a guy. But for the 5th story it could be a female or male.
Wow major sexist right here. That's absolutely a disgusting mindset to have, men are just as capable of having emotions. Men are humans too, jesus christ.
I’m not one of those people who get sanctimonious about other people’s age-gap relationships, but I’m willing to bet the social media use is causing friction because the OP is way older.
No offense but how does a deaf person work like not everyone knows the sign language right it would really be hard to communicate I'm genuinely curious 🙇
story 1: wasn't she taught by her parents? when I was a small kid, before I even learned to read, I saw a man with crutches from the window of our house and laughed at him, my father saw me and immediately scolded me. He told me that It's not his choice to walk with crutches and asked me what would I do if I was in his place
I don't really understand the no wedding invite heart breaking thingy. Wedding in my country is usually multiple events with 2-3 days long for each and ussually take a whole week just for one wedding. It can be tiring for somebody plus you have to give them moneys as a gift ( not forced but it will look awkward and impolite to not and usually get judge by it). So there are people who actually dont want to be invited. There are like hell lot of funny videos, shorts about too many wedding draining their whole month salary
Also the wdding is a big big event so it ussually block my path out of the house like it super weird to ride a bike through a wedding just because i want to go to school. And they're loud af. Ik it a happy event but it annoy me abit
Hello, so I'm in a wheelchair and quite honestly, this woman would talk to me like that, I'd punch you in the face and if she asks why then again and then I'll call the cops and explain everything
I can kinda relate to the third story not for the second half but the parts where the parents excuses were “he’s autistic” or something like that. During my freshman year in high school there was the autistic boy in my grade who would sometimes hang out with us. But over time he got really creepy, he would take pictures of me and my friends (who were all girls) and try to touch us a lot. (He knew that half of us girls had boyfriends too including me) we have reported it to the administrators a lot but they all just say that he’s autistic he doesn’t know any better. We just left it alone and tried our best to keep distance from him which didn’t work for awhile till he just stopped hanging out with us my sophomore year. To this day he still does the same thing to other girls but the school won’t do anything about it
If you love your girlfriend be with her you should not deal with what your parents put you through. Now they are pissed off right now but eventually they will come around and realize they made the worst mistake. Be with your girlfriend sometimes parents have to learn the hard way that they are sticking on the wrong side.
I really dislike how there's this culture split between those who are deaf and those who are not. Sure, there can be a language barrier when trying to communicate but there's a lot of things you can do where you don't need to talk with the average customer and don't need to hear anything at all. For something like cleaning or preperation you could maybe even make the argument that a deaf person would do a better job because they're more hyperaware of the things they see. That lady was just a two year old that wanted attention, and a deaf person couldn't give her the attention her toddler self wanted.
In the second story, it's obvious that the guy was talking about the OP to his wife, like a lot. If she wasn't trying to be a homewrecker, then it's likely the wife has gotten that opinion from how the guy described her. He probably used the OP as an example about how great she is and how terrible the wife is in some of the disputes and arguments they would have.
Story 3: Okay....both brothers have been diagnosed as being autistic, yet the OP managed to act like a normal human being, started working at age 17, and has been successful at being functional. But the "golden child" at age 32 was allowed to just lounge around their parents' house with no expectations because they used HIS mental disorder as an excuse when OP strived despite that. And when OP and girlfriend were moved into his parents' house, they did nothing to curve his brother's creepy behavior, only to somehow thinking that the girlfriend needed to be kicked of the house. The OP's parentscwent the extra mile on how much they preferred his lazy brother when they changed the locks after falsely reassuring that the OP has a place to come back to, and berated him for voicing his concerns about his brother being a peeping Tom to his girlfriend whom they made homeless because she rightfully didn't comfortable around his brother, as if they personally took offensive to it. At the very least this story didn't end up the girlfriend pairing up with the bad privileged brother for a change.
I think I know where you're coming from I wouldn't want to be around a girl who who thinks I'm supposed to be her everything and then she just doesn't care about me loving and caring you should be caring about each other not just one person
That’s so sad that people believe deaf people are useless in food service. I have a friend that has been going deaf since childhood. She’s only partially deaf but she’s deaf enough wear she cant tell you are speaking to her unless you are facing her She was denied disability and tried to work when her kids were old enough but even McDonald’s didn’t want to hire her. It took her a very very long time for her to get hired someplace.
Ablisim sucks
i definately agree and i know how hard it is to be deaf since my Mum ( I'm 11) is deaf and only has 14 percent left of hearing
Wait. So, what about hearing aids? I am glad that she found herself a job and all that, but why not buy them. Are they that expensive, or she physically can't wear them due to the irritation or something like that?
@@Its_me_Stolas hearing aids are only good for those has minimal to moderate hearing loss.
There is another option, cochlear implant, but they cost a lot (like a brand new car of the year) for just one side to be done. You want to have both sides to get full hearing effect as well but you're always going to be unable to hear everything since the CI cannot just get all the ranges of the sounds easily.
Hell, I only have one side and I just barely managed to hear the same things on the low section of regular hearing. It takes decades to hear fully as well too since your brain need to adjust.
@@Its_me_Stolas they only work on generation 1-2 (maybe 3.)
Story 3: those parents are trying to manipulate op. They are most likely planning that op would be his brothers caretaker at some point and all of this is about that, manipulating his road of life that leads in that conclusion. Op needs to go full no contact and concentrate on his own future, having a job, getting married, having his own kids and so on. He doesn't need his parent and he doesn't need his creepy brother in his life. He have his own life to live.
I think the brother learned being creepy from the parents.
The son should have papers drawn up that when the parents pass away that he is in not reliable for this brother and they should have a home picked out for him and financially paid for. Maybe that'll wake up the parents
Tontteman, I love gravity falls.
Ok so about the first story, I definitely can relate with the OP for feeling really annoyed with the entitled mother for yelling at their deaf employee. I have a deaf friend myself and I would be pissed if someone yelled at her if she didn’t have a hearing aid in. So yeah mad probs to the op for kicking that woman out
Agreed 100%
Too bad the food was already done. I would've given her a refund and kicked her out without any food. Let that B go be hangry in the car with her kids lol
I also have a deaf friend whose a female
1st story: I would have just kicked that "Karen" out of my restaurant.
Story 3: As a person with autism, I absolutely hate it when autistic people try to use their diagnosis to defend creepy actions and avoid consequences.
Exactly! Being autistic is not an excuse for the brother's behavior. Due to our social difficulties, we know, probably better than most neurotypicals, what behaviors are appropriate for each different situation
@@SabellaHalfdragon I am thankful for my parents to show me the rights and wrongs, I can’t believe they make use of turning someone into such a predictor, more thankful for good parents but scared of the bad ones out there.
My sister has autism and tries to use it as an excuse as to why she ditches me constantly for her friends or why she is just freeloading off my dad
I have ADHD also I use that as a excuse for bad social cues
THIS DOESNT MEAN OP IS WRONG. Story 3: as an autistic person, I feel that it is incredibly annoying when other autistics use how _THEIR _ autism that affects _THEM_ as a way to compare a _SPECTRUM_ of people and say “she can get a job etc. etc. and we’re similar so x should be able to do the same things as me” which is incorrect and ableist on so many levels. This annoys me too much. OP even said “even though we’re both on the “ _SPECTRUM_ “
“ SPECTRUM.” SPECTRUM.
"No use for a deaf person"? Seriously? Well, Earth has no use for a spiritually bankrupt narcissist.
I have met plenty of deaf people on my life, one in collage especially, and she (the poor sweet thing) was having a tough time, I am thankful to the collage that for one period we had a sat down and went through a mini seminar about the important of giving support and understanding to people are deaf, and like the deaf employyee in this story, this girl in collage was just the sweetest little thing, so it baffles me to know end that people would call people who are deaf "Useless" and just shows that Ignorence like this will lead to the downfall to humanity if more people dont open up their eyes.
People with Disabilities (Deaf, Blind, Etc.) Are people too! Sometimes there's just Jerks that Don't understand that we All are human beings! Race doesn't matter as long as we all work together in a community
the only disability around here is a bad attitude! im hearing impaired and im in charge of the drafting dept at work abd my boss is happy with my work even i am under a lot of pressure trying to clean up the frame drawings as half the drawings are badly updated!
What is this mean nasty woman teaching her children about people with a disability? So sad, sick, and disgusting.
I had a deaf uncle. At work coworkers laughed at him behind his back. My deaf uncle didn't know but word got around. Another uncle (his BIL) also worked there. He roughed the ring leader up. My dad also worked at the company. He heard what was going on and went to the scene. He asked the uncle if he needed help. My uncle was a truck driver and he said he could handle it.
As a single mom, I was dating a guy who didn't understand that my priority's were work, my health, my child then him,,,,,,
The wife in the second story sounds very VERY insecure for thinking "she wants my man because they spend a lot of time at work as friends, and my insecurities is skyrocketing"
The guy of the third story has a great wife/girlfriend (because she is not toxic, mean, controlling and plus even tho she doesn't like his parents doesn't mind them coming just so his boyfriend can have a relation with his parents)
Man, karens can't live without harrasing employees or something? If they are not playing attention to you, they have a reason. People could be both deaf and blind or even muted aswell. Nobody needs to show you proof about it.
Bruh Female Karen's Are Bad As well
@@ChewingGuy bro you're slow asf💀💀💀
@@ChewingGuy i forgot the comma 💀
@@blitzjgr3180 ohok
I can relate to this, it doesn't matter if the person has a Disability or not the main thing is to treat them with respect, Karen was way out of line and acted childish in the restaurant, I'm glad the manager kicked Karen and her kids out of his business also banned them.
I mean the children did nothing wrong
@@SeBa-xb3jn the mother's actions cause them to be kicked out and banned from the resturant
I feel Sorry for them.
They had to witness her mother throwing tantrum and being an awful biggoted brat.
@@KevRob yes I know
Well as someone with disabilities myself it is very, very illegal to not hire or fire someone with a disability because of that disability. So, if that manager had fired her like that Karen had asked he would be in legal trouble himself
Story 3 - don’t keep reaching out to the parents. They’ll only continue hurting you. Just let them know they owe you a sincere apology. After that, it’s up to them to reach out to you. I agree with the commenter who said they probably intend for you to become brother’s caretaker. Don’t let them do that to you.
Yea makes sense, especially cuz they tried to get him to ditch his gf
@@globaladdict what game is playing in the background
@@mehchocolate1257 pretty sure it's "gummy Bear run: endless runner"
I worked in an electronic store and we had a short-term part time employee. We actually set a computer for them to use to talk with customers and they blossomed with this setup. My oldest niece is deaf and also works in retail. She does well too.
The OP might not be owed an invite, but they're sure as heck owed an explanation.
I don't often come across stories of managers who actually have their employees backs, and will put obnoxious customers in their place. But when I do, it is so refreshing.
Ima share my own story about a deaf employee and a Karen freak out
I woke up and went to Dunkin’ Donuts to get some breakfast and a drink, I was in Line and Karen was infront of me. The employee was deaf who was working the register, so they had a notepad and pen for people to write their order. Karen being Karen ignored the notepad and started shouting at them and then the classic line came up “Let me speak to your MANAGER”. Then the employee wrote on the pad “Ma’am, I’m deaf” and Karen froze and then left right on the spot
I would like to know what the deaf employees role on the floor is bc it sounds interesting. And it's so stupid that the Karen tried to get the deaf employee fired.
story 1: I genuinely believe this woman thinks being deaf means you should be taken care of at home by your family and not taken out into public at all.
My brother is deaf and seeing someone act like that to another deaf person makes me worry for my brother...
@Papa Zack. If only a they made a pepper spray, for repelling the Karen's away.
@@sebastiancoar1991 should be more like a sunscreen that deflects Karen from harassing you.
@@PapaZackYT I find it appalling that these individuals feel that people, with disabilities, shouldn't have jobs; because, they have a disability. What's next? Is it going to be acceptable to embrace Nazi ideology and exterminate people with shortcomings too; because, they don't meet status quo?
1st story: you should know that embarassing a Person with Disability has right to press charges... and put something or name tag to let others know that she's deaf
Unfortunately not in Australia yet. ADA needed here. I've seen VIP tags, a HIP tag?
Karens are awful to disabled employees. I read of one throwing a fit because their order taker had a seizure.
I’m a Supervisor in the medical field. Do you know how many times folks complained about how I was rude because I didn’t respond to their questions. Even having them seeing both of my hearing aids on. Crazy!!
I’m crying for the deaf employee
As anyone who's planned a wedding can tell you, the guest list can be a nightmare. There are whole chains of relationships on both sides and you have to make cuts somewhere. Also who's paying for the wedding enters into it. For example, every wedding in my family includes an old neighbor from when they lived in Brooklyn. I was born after my family moved, but my mother still expected the neighbor to be invited. After having done it, unless it's a sibling or my children I'm of the mind that I'm never going to be bothered if someone doesn't invite me to their wedding.
Just because mutual friends were invited, it doesn't necessarily mean much. For example, some could also be family friends.
Tbh, wedding are generally overblown and in many cases I think the it ends up becoming for the parents that the ppl getting married in a lot of situations
The wedding thing was a toss up. It could be that they were friends but not as close as the other people invited. Weddings are special places for family and close friends. It could be that they were just extremely close to others and the OP was a more casual relationship
But then would you let a casual friend help you with part of the wedding preparations and not invite them for their help? Like they didn’t have to help but they did, idk I’d feel bad if a friend helped out and I didn’t even offer an invite but that’s me
Story 1: as a deaf person I have had my own experiences like that :(, got yelled at by some rando teacher FROM BEHIND (I wear hearing aids literally can’t hear from behind not sure if this is the same for others but eh) apparently I wasn’t listening and was talking to my friend, I was helping tidy up, then it took my friend saying I was deaf for her to believe me 💀
why do Karens believe they have the right to demand the someone be fire becoz they want to? this puzzles me.
yes another karen!! definitely takes the cake, 10/10!
I know the feeling of knowledge of having friends who are deaf and blind and the ways of getting to a Karen is to not respond to them in a negative way but ignore them right away from the jump or on the spot. That is the rudest thing to do to the deaf employee. I respect the world of the deaf and blind communities.
My blood is boiling that Karen was going against disability people really just really
I honestly couldn't think of anything more thoughtful and considerate than NOT being invited to somebody's wedding. He has a good friend there.
You simply look in her face and say honey it’s either me or the Internet and then you just throw her out and don’t ever speak to her again
In story 3 even my dad thinks that autism has nothing to do with being a pervert
KUDOS to the OP in story 1 for standing up against the Karen and for being wonderful to their fellow coworker and being supportive 👏
I hired a deaf woman years ago in a very busy retail food situation, she read lips. She turned out to be an excellent employee with great customer skills. She only left us to start her own family.
Story 1 :As someone who was once blind for a period of time I can relate to the deaf employee
When the OPs parents cut him out, it was like the garbage taking itself out.
I'm autistic, and when that third story started I honestly wasn't sure what to expect- I just want to lead this out saying that the brother's behavior as well as the parents' is unacceptable and for the most part I stand with the OP and believe that he should cut all ties and be done with it, but I want to provide some information/observation that I feel might be relevant to the story.
I have to note that the brother stopped following the gf into the bathroom once he realized that the reason the door is locked is because of him (if I'm to understand this correctly). I feel like this is a good example of an autistic person not being able to initially understand boundaries that aren't stated obviously but being able to follow them once they're established.
Without question a lot of this stims from the parents not raising the brother right, teaching him proper respect and treatment of others would help with this, it goes without question that they're slacking and when OP talked to them about it they should've done significantly more. From what I've seen, more often than not autistic people are discriminated against and over oppressed for being the way they are but in this case it seems the severe opposite is true and the parents try too hard to conform to the way the brother is without teaching him what he needs to know, in this case it has bad results. I say none of this to excuse the brother or his behavior.
In general though I can't help but feel uneasy about the fact that OP mentioned that him and his brother have similar symptoms, I've been in a similar spot of being compared to others for the sake of behavioral expectation and to be blunt that kind of comparison has had devastating effects. Society's expectations are harder for those of us who're autistic and it works out better for some than for others, and very rarely does "better" have much meaning outside of relation to the standards set by NTs.
The presentation of symptoms being similar in the two of them doesn't really mean anything to be honest considering how different they turned out unless that difference is a result of a completely separate factor, in which case that factor is as relevant as the similarities. To be fair though OP doesn't state any level of expectation from him so it'd be unfair to assume that. That could've been specified for any number of reasons including just random habitual clarification (I do that quite often, see this entire comment).
All of this being said, I just wanted to randomly bring this all up since it's just stuff I happened to know/notice, I stand with pretty much everyone else in that the behavior is unacceptable for obvious reasons and that OP should probably cut ties with that part of his family.
Ok, story 3 with the Autism. I have Autism( you don't know me so don't judge me). This is, in my opinion, inappropriate. Using someone's medical condition as an excuse to let them do what they like is wrong in every possible way.
(story 1# ) OML! I would feel so embarrassed if I was those in titled karen's kids-
First story what a heartless, cold, cruel, Hiltler Karen. So glad she got kicked out.
As someone who is almost always watching youtube videos, I can tell you, that chick is just entirely self centered. And in that situation, the best course of action would be a serious conversation about the issue. And if it can't be resolved like that, follow up with marriage counseling. Ultimately, if it remains an issue, the relationship may need to end. It's an unfortunate truth, but sometimes, people need to be thrown out on their butts in order for it to sink in that their mentality and actions are wrong.
That game in the background 💀
I'm partially deaf so i understand the hearing thing as i have worked with the hearing impaired. They're lovely people who don't understand how the world can be so cruel. I wished i didn't hear what i do with these morons!!! As for the girl and her phone - buy her several bluetooths so when 1 dies the other is ready to go - but tell her things have to be done while they're in. I do it all day and all night. I put a long video on and set the phone up and still handle what i do when I'm not sick. (Have bronchitis - can barely walk into the next room) but i still cook meals and clean up, laundry etc. She's just lazy!
2:42 if I wanted a proof about a person being deaf I would come to them from behind and clap my hand, honestly, if you don't expect the sound it scares the living crap out of you, but deaf people don't even know 🤷♀️
I’m a deaf person with hearing aids. I understand what the girl was going through
Story 1
It’s one thing to wander what being deaf is like, and how people get around that, heck even I wander that but I don’t dwell on it because I know they have their ways, and that’s all that’s needed to know at Thais point in my life. But to think that someone is faking such a disability as that, who raised you and what is there address? No reason (takes out shotgu-
THIS DOESNT MEAN OP IS WRONG. Story 3: as an autistic person, I feel that it is incredibly annoying when other autistics use how _THEIR _ autism that affects _THEM_ as a way to compare a _SPECTRUM_ of people and say “she can get a job etc. etc. and we’re similar so x should be able to do the same things as me” which is incorrect and ableist on so many levels. This annoys me too much. OP even said “even though we’re both on the “ _SPECTRUM_ “
“ SPECTRUM.” SPECTRUM.
Finally a new Karen video
@@atoandalis ye but the last vids weren´t
Ik right
I wonder with the 4th Story if something happened to her that made her go into depressions & that being on the Internet watching the videos is her way to detach from whatever is happening with her
The work one. That's what I was going to say. To distance herself far away from John and that if she needs to talk to him. To just talk to him about work stuff. Me personally I would take it a little more petty and do what the other co-workers are doing. Be silent, quite, and reserved. If you're walking by someone and they say "hi." Dont make eye contact and just be like "yeah hi." And continue walking. Eventually management will notice and will call her out. When management and let's say HR is there. Just sit there and say "After trying to be friendly to everyone and following some (insert social media here). Folks started thinking I'm a whore. So I'm just thinking that seeing as everybody thinks that. That I should be not friendly, more reserved, and more cold."
13:38 - How I see it is that there's just you and your girlfriend now. So long as your willing to listen to them, they'll keep going with the "you owe us/you are ungrateful" angle. Cut them off until they have realised that they miss you and express that they are sorry for what they have done. If in anyway they blame you for something in apology then they aren't sorry.
Third story: Being autistic is not an excuse for the brother's behavior. Due to our social difficulties, we know, probably better than most neurotypicals, what behaviors are appropriate for each different situation
He's absolutely right punishing your girlfriend over what he did is like arresting a homeowner for what a burglar does
As someone who has autism I can verify that it can be difficult for some of us to understand and recognize social boundaries. But it is not okay for OP’s parents to allow his brother to continue this behavior. When they die, he will have to live on his own and it will be extremely difficult if he doesn’t know how to interact with others
This: many people on the spectrum can learn how to behave in most social situations by telling them if they did something wrong. It has a lot more to do with difficulty recognizing when something is inappropriate, and it's the responsibility of those parents to try and help him learn. All they're doing is enabling him. I feel terrible for the brother since it really seems like he was never taught any better.
That was just awful,people shouldn't be that entitled at the expense of other people's feelings ..
story 5 ask how good of friends you are
“im not sure what to do”
Story 2: Just listening to the first part of the story, I could tell the OP was a woman as guys wouldn't care if they weren't invited to a co-worker's party. Just be friendly with everyone and don't worry about what everyone else thinks about ya.
Story 3: It really sounds like the brother finally got to the parents, manipulating their empathy towards him, to get revenge on the OP.
Story 4: Tik Tok is actually designed to become addicted, lowering your attention span, and ruining your mental state. There is a reason why countries are actually starting to ban Tik Tok. It is a genuine assault from China to weaken generations of their opponents. The only thing that can even help her is to completely remove it from her. Be honest, not harsh, state plainly, and bring lots of evidence, both scientific facts as well as situational evidence of how it is affecting her.
Story 5: I'm guessing another woman. You said it yourself, ya not owed anything. Ya need to get over yourself. There are lots of reasons for no invite and in the end, it was their wedding. If any friend of mine didn't invite me, it really wouldn't affect me much at all.
Sexist much? Men can feel the same emotions too. Story 2 yeah chances are that the op is a female because its highly unlikely a wife would worry about a man taking her husband but still there a chance that it could be a guy. But for the 5th story it could be a female or male.
Wow major sexist right here. That's absolutely a disgusting mindset to have, men are just as capable of having emotions. Men are humans too, jesus christ.
@@XerXens Exactly what i was saying
Good morning everyone!
Story 3: This is a goddamn roller coaster!
Thirst story is awesome and the second it's not what the op has done but it's what John has said to his wife to make her jealous
If I was the owner I would’ve just Kicked her out for the rest of her life immediately
Story 1. Why doesn't KAREN understand this little thing called the Americans with DISABILITIES ACT?
I’m not one of those people who get sanctimonious about other people’s age-gap relationships, but I’m willing to bet the social media use is causing friction because the OP is way older.
that sounds like a particular city in a state that everything is backwards.
No offense but how does a deaf person work like not everyone knows the sign language right it would really be hard to communicate I'm genuinely curious 🙇
14:50 isn't that everyone on the internet?
story 1: wasn't she taught by her parents? when I was a small kid, before I even learned to read, I saw a man with crutches from the window of our house and laughed at him, my father saw me and immediately scolded me. He told me that It's not his choice to walk with crutches and asked me what would I do if I was in his place
Me thinking the deaf employee is for other deaf ppl to know : 😮
Story 2 solution: dont give a darn diddly dang
Does Karen know that people who aren’t deaf can learn sign language
you're right, she belongs in a calling agency
I don't really understand the no wedding invite heart breaking thingy. Wedding in my country is usually multiple events with 2-3 days long for each and ussually take a whole week just for one wedding. It can be tiring for somebody plus you have to give them moneys as a gift ( not forced but it will look awkward and impolite to not and usually get judge by it). So there are people who actually dont want to be invited. There are like hell lot of funny videos, shorts about too many wedding draining their whole month salary
Also the wdding is a big big event so it ussually block my path out of the house like it super weird to ride a bike through a wedding just because i want to go to school. And they're loud af. Ik it a happy event but it annoy me abit
Hello, so I'm in a wheelchair and quite honestly, this woman would talk to me like that, I'd punch you in the face and if she asks why then again and then I'll call the cops and explain everything
I can kinda relate to the third story not for the second half but the parts where the parents excuses were “he’s autistic” or something like that. During my freshman year in high school there was the autistic boy in my grade who would sometimes hang out with us. But over time he got really creepy, he would take pictures of me and my friends (who were all girls) and try to touch us a lot. (He knew that half of us girls had boyfriends too including me) we have reported it to the administrators a lot but they all just say that he’s autistic he doesn’t know any better. We just left it alone and tried our best to keep distance from him which didn’t work for awhile till he just stopped hanging out with us my sophomore year. To this day he still does the same thing to other girls but the school won’t do anything about it
I’m gonna be a junior in August and he somehow was able to join my bf’s choir class so I’m gonna see him a lot now which stresses me out.
Story 3 : what the f is wrong with the brother !? Get the f out of there
Dude was basically becoming a S O
Story 4 just smash the phone
The 4th story: i got devorced. I literally ruines my entire life trying to save my marrage, but it was a preset failure.
Let her keep her phone. Been there done that. Leave her. You can do better.
If you love your girlfriend be with her you should not deal with what your parents put you through. Now they are pissed off right now but eventually they will come around and realize they made the worst mistake. Be with your girlfriend sometimes parents have to learn the hard way that they are sticking on the wrong side.
I really dislike how there's this culture split between those who are deaf and those who are not. Sure, there can be a language barrier when trying to communicate but there's a lot of things you can do where you don't need to talk with the average customer and don't need to hear anything at all. For something like cleaning or preperation you could maybe even make the argument that a deaf person would do a better job because they're more hyperaware of the things they see.
That lady was just a two year old that wanted attention, and a deaf person couldn't give her the attention her toddler self wanted.
I like how he just use I alot and not even he or him and why I why you use I is like he work at that job
Yes good video
Story 2: its not ur business if sm1 doesnt invite u to a party unless ur close to thm so just bck off
Bro’s girl is chronically online 😭 😭
I wonder what the name of that restaurant is I want to eat there now out of curiosity also spite against the Karen who harassed that employee lol
*scoffs* no dog gone freaking heck sherlock
I would of just said to her are u that insecure that u can’t have a woman that doesn’t even like him like that around him 😂😂😂😂
There is a scale from 1 to 10
Of mad
I have gone to 12/10
The wife in the 2nd story she seems like she’s just insecure about you OP and the wife needs to learn to be friendly and nothing else like OP is
In the second story, it's obvious that the guy was talking about the OP to his wife, like a lot. If she wasn't trying to be a homewrecker, then it's likely the wife has gotten that opinion from how the guy described her. He probably used the OP as an example about how great she is and how terrible the wife is in some of the disputes and arguments they would have.
Story 3: Okay....both brothers have been diagnosed as being autistic, yet the OP managed to act like a normal human being, started working at age 17, and has been successful at being functional. But the "golden child" at age 32 was allowed to just lounge around their parents' house with no expectations because they used HIS mental disorder as an excuse when OP strived despite that. And when OP and girlfriend were moved into his parents' house, they did nothing to curve his brother's creepy behavior, only to somehow thinking that the girlfriend needed to be kicked of the house.
The OP's parentscwent the extra mile on how much they preferred his lazy brother when they changed the locks after falsely reassuring that the OP has a place to come back to, and berated him for voicing his concerns about his brother being a peeping Tom to his girlfriend whom they made homeless because she rightfully didn't comfortable around his brother, as if they personally took offensive to it. At the very least this story didn't end up the girlfriend pairing up with the bad privileged brother for a change.
I think I know where you're coming from I wouldn't want to be around a girl who who thinks I'm supposed to be her everything and then she just doesn't care about me loving and caring you should be caring about each other not just one person