I'm never buying Christmas gifts again | Mini vlog
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- Опубліковано 4 жов 2024
- You know how magical Christmas time is when you're a kid but as you grow and start to form your own beliefs sometimes it's like...eh, what's the point in this again?! For me, getting my finances in order and building generational wealth is super important. I want to not only give my kids more as a single mom but allow them to have the experiences I did not. So, I decided no more buying Christmas gifts. It just doesn't fit into my budget nor my lifestyle anymore.
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Hey I'm Dyana, single mom of 2. After becoming debt free, I now share my life on a budget!
Maybe I need to volunteer during the holidays as well...does anyone here do any volunteer work each year?!
Actually, I am on my way to volunteer with my church and serve dinner at a homeless shelter. ❤
@@TheSdcole60 this is something I’m looking into doing next year
We celebrate Kwanzaa now and one of the principles: Ujima, focuses on collective work and responsibility. Each year for that day, we focus on giving back to the community. Last year, we made blessing bags for a women’s shelter and this year we did a smaller donation.
This is what I said I’m doing next year
i promise you won't regret it. my son is 6 and has gotten to the point to where he's now excited about it. i think the key is to be creative when creating activities for each principle. @@quinnettsooreal3169
We volunteer during the holiday season and it absolutely brings you back to the core of what this season is about. In addition, I literally bought my kids one gift each under $50 and they loved the gifts. I am not buying all of that stuff and we try to focus on family, friends, love and Jesus!
Love this!
To all the parents who couldn’t afford for your children, it’s ok. Your kids still love you anyway. And for the future, if you want to buy gifts for your children start a savings fund for Christmas. Set a reasonable amount for you and save throughout the year.
Girl! I took all my Christmas stuff down today. My kids didn’t show much gratitude for the few gifts I got them. I’m over the Christmas shenanigans and won’t be gift giving next year. I’m all for family time and good food but the spending part…no ma’am!
I heard that!
we saw the globetrotters and got mcdonalds. got the youngest a spirograph, play and work on fine motor skills at the same time.
I have not done any Christmas gifts for four years now. Best decision ever.
I stopped buying Christmas gifts when my only child was 7 who is now 21 and our holiday season has always been relaxing and peaceful every since
I love that! I want peace!
What made you stop at 7?
@@dickersonr6172 my little at the time was a mature 7 yr old and she asked me why I was so sad about Christmas… in actuality I was stressed about trying to make it happen…when I told her that I just wanted to get her all of these things but couldn’t make it happen she looked at me and said mommy that’s ok. It was than I decided to have a conversation about time and memories together, rather having things of little to no value (she wasn’t big on toys) and she has always even heavy on spending time together. It just became our tradition to just relax when the rest of the world is so busy and stress out about the holiday season…now that she is older and I retired we just spend that time relaxing and seriously resetting
That’s scary to know someone is staring at you through your window of your home, which is suppose to be your safe space!
Please be safe 🙏🏾
Thank you! After thinking on it he was probably just shocked to see someone with their blinds up talking into a camera lol
@@DyanaMariie lol 😂 yea that could of been it lol 😂
Still very scary… I watched your other vid with the home tour and your thoughts on moving… I say move if you can! Can’t have people feeling comfortable to stare inside… so strange people are😮
You are not alone, long story short after this Christmas I told my kids (17 and 23 yr old) that going forward I will be doing $50 max on each person. I love the holidays but lately it's not the same as when they were younger.
I don’t do Xmas gifts. I do other things throughout the year. I haven’t celebrated Xmas in over 20 years now. It’s been such a relief and stress free!
I don't celebrate Christmas either.
Thank you for the video! I’m feeling the same way about Christmas. Also, I paid off my credit card debt today and thought about you 🎉🎉🎉. Thanks for your encouraging videos.
CONGRATS!!!!
Thank you 😀
Gift giving is my love language. I love to see my kids excitement, but I am thinking that I need to scale it down going forward as in my reality they only cling to a few items first and I end up feeling like i wasted money.
I think a few gifts going forward will be all that I do for future Christmas’s.
Love that! I've seen some people do the 1 want 1 need ratio too. It's the best feeling to see your kids full of excitement and half the time I'm probably the most excited lol
You are NOT the only one who feels this way. I'm all about experiences over gifts as I raise my daughter. Thanks for sharing 😊 ❤
Thank you for speaking my heart. This is the last Christmas that I will trade my peace of mind for gifts under a tree.
Oof! Yes, peace of mind is expensive and it's hard to get it back once it's gone.
Love this. The older I get the more I lean into experience’s over gifts. This year we went up north to an indoor water park, and loved it.
I still do Christmas gifts, but I was able to save money by using gift cards I received from my job throughout the year to give to family and friends. This was my first year spending less than $200 on gifts and it felt so great! Each year we take clothes and toys to a single mom shelter or places like Goodwill.
YES. Somebody said it! If anything, experiences over things. I can't count the amount of times I've been gifted something and had no idea where to store it, when I'll use it, what to say if gift giver questions me about it.
I hear you!! I stopped giving gifts for Christmas several years ago. I informed my family members and close friends that Christmas had become too commercialized and I did not want to participate in it. Additionally, I used to stress so much about which gifts to select and affordability. Now, the freedom and peace of mind I experience during the holidays are priceless. Plus, I’m not spending unnecessarily. It was a wonderful decision. There are some people in my life who still choose to give me gifts, which can feel awkward because I then feel like I SHOULD give a gift in return. At times I do, but a ‘thank you’ card or another gesture of gratitude is my typical default. Praying for your journey & wishing you well!
I can totally relate to the weight of being a single mom. I only purchased two gifts each for my two children. They both were thrilled. Do what makes life easier for you. It doesn’t matter what others think. Being a single mom is tough and you gotta protect your peace and kids at all costs
Amen!
I had this same revelation back in 2014. We spend more time giving back to the community and spending time with family now.
at this time, i do not have any children. However, my husband's family is quite large with the expectation of buying each family member one gift. This year i just couldn't afford that, so i didn't buy anyone anything. It was disappointing for some, but i truly am happy with my decision. I am focusing on myself, my finacial goals, and paying off my debts. This 2024 year will be my first "no buy" year, and i am so excited. Go you! Saving for life experiences will mean so much more to your children than a toy off a shelf.
I have never celebrated Christmas. Throughout the year I do nice things for my family and others. Recently I started engaging in social activities with my granddaughter that are free. It’s amazing how much more she enjoys those activities than gifts that don’t even last. I am a firm believer of doing things throughout the year. We don’t need to wait on one day to be kind and loving. Actually, I don’t do holidays of any kind including Mother’s Day or birthdays 😂😂😂. No one expects anything from me on a holiday but they do know that throughout the year they will be blessed by me.
I love to give but hate feeling like it’s expected of me on certain days!
If you think about it, possibly you are also placing those expectations on yourself because you may feel others will be angry with you or not like you if you don't act according to societal norms. Determine what works best for you, set boundaries and stick to them. After a while no one will care.
Join the club. I stop doing all the Christmas shopping many years ago and it has been the best non stressful decision I’ve ever made. And will never go back. I do birthdays for my love ones and they all know not to expect anything from me on Christmas.
I always appreciate your videos because you always keep it real - the holidays were definitely stressful! I’m hoping to buy my first home in 2024 but I am so scared of it turning out to be the wrong choice. Sending good vibes for 2024 to everyone out there, it is tough these days.
Omg totally! The holidays don’t feel the same the older we get. It did not feel like Christmas this year. And it’s been like his for me for years but it gets less and less important to me the older I get.
I only got a tree for my kids and a few little gifts like journals and drawing notebooks water bottles etc (little things)for my kids, they only care about online games.
I got slippers for my mom stepdad and grandmother.
That’s it
I stopped buying gifts for everyone years ago!
I don’t think i even gave my immediate family anything last year.
I didn’t partake at the work secret Santa this year
I’m just exhausted
We have such similar lives. Single lady paying a house by myself, two kids, full time work, $10k cc debt from buying the house needing to fix things etc
I just started my own channel (trying to get that monetized status for extra income! It may take years but I won’t give up! This economy is not single mom friendly!)
Oh, and try Utah instead of aspen! Never been to either but I’ve been to Colorado and i heard from a lot of people that Utah is a great snowy skiing type place for vacation for way less
i love this! this has absolutely been my thought process as of late! i want to have more experiences with my children, but i feel like the gift giving is just an adrenaline rush of excitement that wears off so quickly! but experiences make memories, which potentially last forever! love your videos!
For the last few years, I just exchange gifts with my immediate family for Christmas (I don't have kids). We usually set a limit on gifts (e.g., max $50/gift or person) and the gifts we give are practical. For example, I got some socks and underwear along with some fun bedding. Much less stress and consumption.
I’ve been saying the same exact thing lately! I told my family on Christmas Eve that it would be my last year celebrating Christmas. I don’t like what it has become…over consumption and all about gifts.
It’s sad how bad it’s gotten!
I got presents every year for Xmas. And my bday, which is in December. My mother just told me that she started saving early for items and collecting it when a sale hit. So, I was very fortunate to enjoy the holidays as a kid.
You are doing great and although I don’t like that you have to do it alone, as a single mom you are just admirable in how you are beating all the odds! Continue on this path 💓
Experiences have always trumped gifts in my family. At least half of the presents under the tree were just empty wrapped boxes just for decoration/pictures lol! The important and most fun parts of the holiday were things like reading through Advent, baking cookies for Santa, decorating the tree with our childhood ornaments, and singing Christmas songs.
I honestly don't blame you.
What is the point of massive debt for people who don't care about you?
Buying all these useless things that will be quickly forgotten,regifted,or thrown away.
Yeah,no.
I see all sides!
I too prefer experiences and want to get into volunteering as it’s disappointing that Christmas has become too commercialized. So, I stopped giving gifts for the sake of and it’s been a breath of fresh air.
This definitely made giving enjoyable again.
i only spent 180 bucks on christmas this year between 3 kids. they were just fine
Wow that’s commendable❤
Hahaha I so connect w you in those braids… I do my own hair and this last set took me 3 days just for twists😅 it is a struggle sometimes❤ but we got this!
I was a single mom for several years and i budgeted for Christmas but kept it simple, i saved and a little each month, made things alot easier for me ❤. Skiing sounds wonderful!
I said the same thing!!! I didn’t even want to do it this year🤦🏽♀️ I tried to turn it into a holiday where we celebrate and play games and do activities instead of spending money but unfortunately IM the only one that thinks this way in my family
Don’t give up keep trying! Sometimes you just have to do it and take lead!
i been stopped buying all that stuff including christmas decor. i did get a gingerbread house to decorate, they had fun !
Love your hair and also msg to everyone in the comments: look into celebrating Kwanzaa! My family and are on year 3 of celebrating. No stress and it centers us with great principles.
The gifts that I got for loved ones were selective and based off the person’s interest. I got my boyfriend a FitBit watch because he loves to workout, etc. but I kept my list shorter this year. I agree with you on experiences. I created a sinking fund called “Fun Experiences” and I’m just allocating money there to plan fun things to do in 2024.. whether it’s a concert, comedy show, day trip, event, travel, etc. the memories are what matters most 🎉
I have cut down tremendously on christmas gifts. The consumerism is just too much for me
Yes this year, I didn't spend much my daughter got a few things from me. Lile $200 but $100 was a tablet that I was replacing bc it stopped working!! The last thing we need is more stuff!!
I don't do Christmas gifts as in gifting stuff (except for chocolate or some fancy foods you wouldn't normally buy yourself like pralines or cheese).
I gift experiences like going to the restaurant, visiting a cafe, going to a craft class etc...
Also I draw cards myself so it is more personalized.
I’m so tired of Christmas no lie, so I feel you. I buy and give all year long 🤦🏾♀️ I’m burnt out Lbvs.
Have that convo with yourself...how does the experience FEEL? Like an obligation or purely from the heart? Girl looking at lights and sipping hot cocoa will be as merry as we get over on my side lol.
We were always tight on money, so Christmas has always been campy and fun. I got a bunch of hand me down decorations from yard sales. Christmas cards are affordable for the adults, and gifts only for the kids. One or two $15 gifts for the kids of something they really want, plus a stocking with things like candy are enough, and it doesn't have to go on a credit card. Only for the kids, and that keeps it affordable. Christmas has become way too secular and commercial, but I still love the holiday and celebrate it my frugal way. Christmas music and specials are free, community events are free, and church services are beautiful. Getting together, watching the kids open their cheap gifts and sharing a meal is a good time without a huge bill!
Klar kaufe ich Weihnachtsgeschenke für meine Familie, habe ja ein Jahr lang Zeit,zum sparen um Sales zu kaufen.....ein frohes neues Jahr dir und deiner Familie
i’ve been a fan of yours for awhile now. you are very beautiful and i love your content. keep it up 🤎
Thank you!
Sadly (I Guess),I did not put a tree up this year! It felt WONDERFUL!!!
I’ve been feeling this way for years, and it’s a struggle because sometimes family doesn’t respect your view on Christmas and still get your kids gifts AFTER you clearly explained how u no longer want to celebrate it. Then, feel some type of way when you don’t give back😒
I absolutely love Hindzsight❤ it's definitely a vibe ting!!!!!
I agree taking of your household first and achieve your goals. Be safe 🇬🇧🇺🇸
We do Christmas gifts, but they're always "needs", like clothes. This year we also took a "big" trip for my son's 13th birthday, which we both enjoyed. I definitely agree with you about having more experiences over stuff. This year my son received new clothes and a backpack for Christmas. December 2023 was a tough month for me financially; I had my regular bills, plus my car registration was due ($224), and an unusually large water bill ($325), so I only spent $70 on my son's gifts.
I took my tree down Christmas night I was done with it. The older you get life gets to life and yes the magic is gone. Gift giving is not my love language at all. Also Christmas my son is two we bought hi one thing family bought the rest.
Who outside the window🥴😳
Someone was trying to get their pitbull😅
@@DyanaMariie lol oh
Your hair looks really good to me
The hair looks bomb. Well done.
I stopped Christmas shopping years ago for some reason last year, decided to shop again and went into debt. This year, no, only my immediate family and god the kids one thing and we are going snow tubing. I bought myself things. I’m not into the hustle bustle shopping
Be safe ❤️
It's unsettling that someone just stared at you through the window. Invest in cameras and an alarm system. Don't hesitate to call the police. Be safe and God Bless
I love giving gifts. However, if I can’t afford to I’m not going to stress about it. I didn’t give gifts this year and didn’t feel bad about it.
I think whenever I have kids I’ll do something they want, something they need, something to wear, and something to read every Christmas. I found that idea from another UA-camr a few years ago.
I felt the LIKE, EVER part😩
We did secret Santa $30 limit. I did give the kids $25 gift cards. I did spend down this time around
I can't stand... the commercialism of christmas. I am a recovering people pleaser and I feel that it is so triggering. my husband is big on traditional christmas gifting and i'm not. I feel experiences are more important because we go into small debts for nothing.
I’ve been over Christmas for years at this point. I take my tree down by the 26th every year. I’ve taken it down on Christmas night a couple times. If my son didn’t love Christmas so much, I wouldn’t put up the tree at all to be honest.
You answered your own question: you based it off your finances and what you able to afford. Y’all b ok
I love ur braids Im ready to see what the year is going to bring
I feel like this economy has EVERYONE reevaluating how they spend money. Im definitely not big on spending for Christmas. I enjoy spending time with people, and that is gift enough for me. 😊
I'm a giver but I stop buying gifts based on calendar dates a long, long time ago and I have no regrets. I'm able to give a lot more and it ends up being received more genuinely from the receiver. Not that I'm looking for accolades because I'm not. I'd rather be able to give anonymously all the time but that's not always plausible.
Great video!!!
🖤💯✌🏿
Listen you not the ONLY one thinking about what the heck is "christmas' really about; no need to stress; I even thought like you, why got broke-in debt to keep up with the joneses for 1 day; that's supposed to be about Jesus; but it's pagan anyways; I buy these kids things all year round; yeah nah; I too, am a single mother of 3; currently unemployed who haven't found her rich auntie yet LOL; keep doing what you're doing @dyanamarie; !!
I always buy what my kids need during Christmas and nothing extra
Moving!? Oh my gosh
I agree with the no gifts. I told people that i was not gift shopping this year so dont buy my daughter anything shes fine. Ya know they still bought and was expecting so I broke and went out and bought gifts. However I am very sorry for them in 2024. I am sticking to my guns and there is absoloutely no gift buying.
I have raised three girls as a single parent and I never did Christmas. My children father did but I didn’t .. I just Feeley that I can buy my kids what they without having a special day. And if it was a heavy bill month it then they wanted for a better budget month. Don’t get me wrong my daughters are very spoiled but I am a type of person that if I need to get you something because I know you would love it and it’s on my budget. I got it right then and be jumping up and down for you to open your gift… it might not be your birthday … it could be I had a good day that day or you are upset and I want you to smile
Sorry my grammar is bad today. I am trying to type with a puppy in my lap.
Yeah I got all the kids phones and tablets
I do give gifts , but is getting crazy kids are no happy anymore they only want the more expensive stuff the can think and if they no get them they mad
I hate Christmas. I'd rather pretend it doesn't exist period
I’d love to know what your kids response ways to not getting Christmas gifts?
They didn’t care too much honestly, as long as we were able to go to my dads where their cousins were
I think she said in a previous video she “cancel” Xmas before, maybe cuz of her son medical needs. Can’t remember Y. And she told them she wasn’t buying them nothing so it wasn’t a surprise.
That’s creepy as F be careful
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