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In this case, I don't think the question is whether he should send the money - a more prudent question is - why did he propose marriage after seeing her only twice over 3 years? The problem here is obvious - they're putting the cart before the horse. You don't even know her enough to have money problems! Older men sometimes act out of desperation when they feel time is running is out - and it never ends well.
This has nothing to do with the Philippines per se but it is actually world wide. The number one reason for divorce/separation is money/financial. The second reason is sex. That could be incompatibility, loss of interest, infidelity, etc. It does not mean only unfaithfulness. But financial problems of one kind or another is the number one reason of divorce. So I always have this conversation pretty much right from the get go if the relationship is a serious one. My policy may sound harsh but I won't give money. Period. I've been with a beautiful filipina now for over three and a half years and she has never asked me for a penny let alone accepted money if I have offered. I pay the rent, the food, going out, the occasional gifts, etc, but I don't believe in paying an allowance. Now that may not be a one size fits all situation for many people who are in real poverty etc. But if your filipina was doing fine before she met you then you have to ask yourself why does she need money now that you are on the scene and paying for things like rent, food that she would have had to pay for before. Great vlog Gio and thanks for sharing!
In my many years of trying to have a long distance relationship with different Filipinas, my conclusion is that if you are an older guy, it is all about money/financial security. Some Filipinas are more open about it than others. If you are a young guy, the relationship dynamic is different. If there is genuine physical attraction, she will want you because she wants to have beautiful babies with you. Women right here in my home country (USA) are just the same. If you are an older guy, American women just want you for your resources. Young attractive guys can get away with having less money because... yep, they want to have beautiful babies with you. Women are women, no matter where they are. The only difference is the amount of money required to keep them happy. It's kind of like shopping for a new car. I want to get the best deal I can find. And so is she.
Nailed it on the head. Some are just more open about it. I grew up in the Phils and a lot of the women would never admit this to their expat partner but would talk about it to fellow Filipinos.
My immediate response at the one minute mark. NO! Wow that guy dodged the bullet. My wife was working during our courtship and marriage until she came to the States. She told me a respectable Filipina would be insulted if her boyfriend were to offer her money.
I sent my Filipina fiancee money for a small apartment and for food and her needs. I was generous and gave more than she needed. I wanted her to have a good comfortable life until the paperwork was done and she could be in the USA with me. Long story short, is that when I went back almost a year later she had receipts for all the money spent and gave me the receipts and the money that she did not spend. I never asked her to do that but that was the way she was. She never asked for anything and never tried to scam me. She always appreciated what I did for her and never tried to take advantage of me or ask for things. I think that man dodged a bullet.
Do NOT financially support a woman OR her family, especially if she is already working, unless/until *AFTER* you have already been married for over 2 years. Financial support should only come after the literal & metaphorical honeymoon phase is over.
Huge red flags. I am glad he got out. I will only date one girl at a time. But I am not bothering about online from afar. I lived in the Philippines off and on before the plandemic. I just watched Maya's video, my suggestion is not to marry legally at all but to marry before God and enter into a domestic partnership. It's a much better option in the Philippines and requires no body to approve except a lawyer.
I can say it's situational. My GF at the time, I was 52 and she was 42, was working for a manpower company where she had some money coming in but it was getting worse because of the 2009 economic situation at the time. I remember having my wages cut at that time too. She needed about 300 dollars a month to just barely get by(two kids also). We were planning on getting married and in the process of our K1 visa. I sent $300 dollars a month(9 months) to help her out till she got to the states. To me, the $300 dollars(she actually never ask for it), if you love someone, was very important to her at that time. She eventually lost her job totally and when she got to the States told me how lucky she was to get that $300 a month to help her out. Married 14 years, retired in Cebu City. His story is a little different from mine and seems like there are "red flags" about their relationship.
Most people aren’t crooks. There are a lot of scammers though and I’m sure that they scam multiple people. Fortunately for you your wife wasn’t one of them. Sometimes, especially at first, it’s difficult to tell the good ones from the bad ones.
I have a Filipina that is not working she is 58 and I am 65. She lives with a teenage daughter and is a widow. We have been together for a year and a half. She had never ask me or her family for money. After a few months I sent her a monthly allowance to help her and her daughter. I met her and her family and they all work and support themselves six other sisters. I guess it depends on the situation, but if I had to help it would be my decision not hers.
These women are getting smarter so they play the long time card as well. They know it's very unlikely to get money from you until you meet in person. Once you return home and you think everything was good between you. Then she has you in that sweet zone and it's all about the money. They acted like the perfect family in person as sometimes the family is in on it. A similar situation happened to me and l ended it before it got out of control. It doesn't matter how much planning you do it's luck finding a decent one. I have an aunt who is a filipina so she knew the signs. These women are always thinking up new ways to get foreigners money
That’s what happened to my friend. He met the girl online and then once in Manila (she said that she was from Cebu). After they met all sort of catastrophes happened in her life. Hospitalizations for her and her family, life and death surgeries, a sight saving surgery for grandma, armed robbers that took their food and rent money, etc… He sent her at least $25k. He won’t tell me how much that he ended up sending her. It’s probably closer to $50k.
She had another sugar daddy for the first year of their "relationship" then once that ended, she turned to him. The fact it was basically a LDR and she wasn't changing her status.. come on man. It's not a real relationship unless you actually are together. Now of course if he had to go away for a few months or something, that's different. If you're with a women for 3 years and she needs mobey. I see no harm in it. IF it's a real relationship. Which this clearly never was.
It's pretty obvious that her heart is really not about him but the money....with that said I think each relationship and circumstance is different....so no definitive right or wrong answers in giving or not giving money. Back to him...his blinders were/are on. Glad he woke up....If anyone gets in this sitchie...you got to run away from the relationship...even though painful!! Thanks for sharing.
Yeah, same nonsense happened to me : she remained _Single_ upon Facebook, never posted any photos of us, and objected when I posted a photo of her. I would make an exception if one hasn't met her, but otherwise these are all red flags.
The decision to send money or not is up to the individual. Best advice I've seen is NEVER send more than you can afford to write off. Plenty of RED flags Asking for large amounts. Getting upset if he didn't send what she asked for. Relationship status on social media. Excuse about "cousins" asking for money. It's likely her family may have been pushing her to get more money from him. Ultimately I agree with you. He did the right thing. Yes he wasted a couple of years and some money. But had they married (probably in the Philippines) he could have lost much more.
I am from West Africa but I have been in the USA for a while. I met my Filipina in Grand Mall. In 2017 in Lapu Lapu . She was working as a sale girl in the mall. When I left her back to the USA, she didn't ask me for money. We chatted for six months and I made the decision to send her $50 and she even asked me why I sent her money and I told her to assist you to buy load to chat with me and she said wow. She never asked me for money. We are now married since 2019.
You're absolutely right that these are two major red flags. If she starts asking for money, tell her no. Mind you, I made that mistake too with my second Filipina. Love does strange things to a man, but with everything I know now I would never do it again.
RUN LIKE THE WIND. That is My Best advise for this Man. When I made my first trip to the Philippines to meet my Filipina, I would have left Her Island if She wasn't the one for Me. But Luckily for Me She was even more wonderful in Person. I am a very Lucky Man. Take care.
I've told my girlfriend that I'm concerned crust she just wants me for money. She insist s that money has nothing to do with it and she really loves me. I honestly dont believe that money has NOTHING to do with it, but I do believe she really loves me. Women in your own country want a man with some money also. Men want pretty girls; women want rich me. That's how the game is played. If ALL she wants is money, that's a problem. Just like, if all he wants is sex, that's a problem. But if its one of many things, I think that's ok.
“All foreigners send their filipinas money” … a bright fluorescent red flag. Any filipina who asks for money is a deal breaker. Full stop. Once you are there in a committed relationship you can discuss and choose to help the family if and when appropriate. My thought would e to give my filipina a weekly or monthly allowance for her personal/extended family needs. All family requests for money would go to her, never me, and if she thought it was warranted she could give them her weekly allowance and go without. Make her have the backbone to deal with them. Frankly, I would require that we move to a distant province or other island entirely if the family issue becomes a constant nuisance. On some levels, the filipina has to respect your culture, too. It’s not a one way street. Westerners need to get their brain out of their pants and into their head. Have some backbone for goodness sake.
I believe that if she has been working and supporting herself before he met her. Why the need for money now. I would have not send any money to her. And the fact that she didn’t want anyone see pictures of them together on social media, make’s me think that she had someone else or wants to scam someone else.
If there are fools out there that will send the PH scammers money, then the PH scammers keep asking for more money. The guy should not have sent her any money. That takes a lot of nerve for her to travel to Manila for holidaying and to ask him for money.
For me it depends on what you are getting for the money you send. If there is one excuse after another why you should send money is too much. The lack of her putting pictures on FB is the bigger issue for me. I haven't met a Filipina yet that wants to show that she is in a relationship unless she is trying to hide it from others ie: a local husband/boyfriend or multiple foreign guys in the west that she is milking.
Hi Gio, the subject of money in the Philippines is king. The huge red flag for me is that shes working and asking the equivalent of more than the average salary. Why? For me it was about the money for her, family whatever it was about money.
They gossp so much in the philipines they stay in your business i say come here and date several women until u find what your looking for or just stay single
Sounds like trouble on the surface and he made the right decision. In a way he went a bit too far but hind sight is always 20/20. On the other hand he'll never have to look back thinking he could have done more or that it would have made a difference.
i agree, can be hard to differentiate if woman is in love with you, or in love with being taken out of poverty and having everything provided for them month after month. hard to find one that appreciates it and isn't greedy for more and more
Definitely did the right thing blocking her. She was playing him. I didn’t send my wife more than $100 a month and that was for her rent. Only time I sent her more was when she was getting her paperwork ready to come to the states. Choose wisely gentlemen.
I would agree with sending her 5K monthly if he really wants to marry her. But the signs are bad if I hear this story. Their marriage will be full of issues about money..... For me, end the relationship and find a girl as soon as you arrive here... LDR is mostly about financial support
im in an exception to the LDR thing .. not a single peso ever requested or will ever be sent .. doesn't hurt that i spend 4 months a year there i guess too .. point is you have to vet women VERY carefully whether in a LDR or not .. too many men lack self esteem and hence lead with their wallets .. that's simply asking to be used for your $$$
Thanks Gio, an interesting topic for discussion. So many red flags here, the guy is well rid of her. First of all slow right down, meeting only a couple of times is far to soon to think about marriage. Secondly there were far too many and unhealthy discussions about money. The FB thing was a poor excuse, and could’ve been handled better. Long story short, he needs to keep looking, find a better girl….and slow himself down.
Great video and very common topic. I am in a LDR and I send my filipina a little support while she attends nursing college. I question every little thing about our relationship because I hear so many horror stories. I've already been to PH before when I was dating another Filipina and i'll be back there in a few months to meet the one I'm dating now. Its very situational, and the one i'm dating shows me reciepts for anything she buys with what I send her. Life is tough there, sure the people are getting by, a little extra money just makes their life a bit more comfortable is how I see it, but I get that most people aren't going to see it that way and you shouldn't send anything you don't don't see as disposable income.
this is a common story. she didn't change her FB status "red flag" she must have friends that told her bad advice. going on holiday with friends means foreigner paying the hole trip 💸. she has people telling her how to drain your pocket. another Filipina bite the dust.
I have a very simple philosophy which I go by: If you have an LDR with a woman, don't send them any money. If you marry and live with a woman in her country or have her move into your country, then you BOTH agree to pay portions of the bills, utilities, etc however your income generates. Obviously, if you bring her into your country, she will be unemployed until she gets that green card and starts working again. But after she starts working, you both put in what is necessary for your household bills and her money left is her money, and your money left is your money. Don't be a fool and pretend to win her love by showing off your money. My Thai Fiance has a career and is educated like I have and we each don't give ANY money to each other. When I'm in her country and we do go out together to a restaurant, attraction, etc, then I will pay the bill.
If your pics is not on her profile, then she is up to no good. There are too many beautiful women in the Philippines to be wasting your time with a scammer. Some of these Filipinas are becoming their own worst enemies. She would have left him as soon as she got her green card.
I wonder how many bloggers talking about foreigners sending money to pinays and Thai. Girls who asking, deserve local men. Many millions have never been with a foreigner, so how do they and their families survive without money from foreigners ? Majority who had local partner, age gap is small How can local girls go merry local man It's not free. It's not free to have kids but still many local couples have kids and stay together. 2+3 generation ago, barely any local girls didn't even see a foreigner. They didn't die They found out how to use naive and goodhearted foreigners for easy money. Same as Nigerians found out before them..
I 100% agree with you and he definitely did the right thing. I plan on moving to Dumaguete in February and I won't even consider meeting filipina girls on those dating sites. I'm going to wait until I get there and get set up.
He dodged a huge bullet. She’s 38, no kids, has a job; why does she need him to send her money every month? The no photo/relationship thing makes some sense as people often try to steal foreigner bfs. Friends and even family. But she could at least say she’s in a relationship on her status. Chances are she is talking to several foreigners and trying to pick one based on their income and how much they send. Or doesn’t want to pick one at all let them all send and enjoy it while she can. I’m not against sending money at all. A little bit for load, or to treat her to jolibee, or something small but thoughtful for her bday etc. but sending huge amount’s every month is just a terrible idea. Make them earn it with marriage. Meeting once or twice and chatting a year or two is nice but you never know for sure what they’re like the rest of the time. Takes a lot of time together to really know someone.
I’m thinking that she probably had multiple guys from outside of the Philippines sending her money. Her family might be aware of it, but are quiet because maybe they’re benefiting from it too. As it came closer for her to move to the USA she ramped up her demand for money (common for scammers right before the con ends) and then cut off communications. Why would she want to come to the USA and probably have to work when people are freely sending her money in the Philippines? I’ve seen all sorts of stuff. As stated in your videos and many other videos, most Filipinas are kind and honest. Not all though. I think that I commented on one of your other videos about my girlfriend’s Lola’s caregiver was chatting with multiple men outside of the Philippines AND she was married to a guy in the Philippines. She’s a province girl which are supposed to be safer, right? I had another friend that was scammed out of $25k+ usd as well. Another friend and I tried to warn him AND he was born and raised in the Philippines (he moved to the USA 40+ years ago) . Another guy that I knew paid to build an apartment building for his wife’s family so that they’d have income. She lived in the USA with him for 6 months and then went back to the Philippines for vacation. She never returned.
She got a taste of money and wanted more and more. I believe she had someone else on the side. From the videos I have seen a lot Filipinas don't know how to handle money.
Filipinas absolutely don't know how to handle money. If you're the type of guy that lets your women handle your money then a Filipina is a poor choice, you'll be broke in no time.
I think it was the right decision to block her. I'll gladly pay for things in my relationships, but repeated requests and any vibe of entitlement about money would be a big red flag. Personally I don't want a woman who is only with me for money.
I can agree in general what Reeckay (the other vlogger) is saying on this topic. Nevertheless, every situation is differetent, as situation of filipina/filipino and foreigner. If you are retired minister in Belgium with 7000 US reitirement money then you can give a few thousands.
I agree asking for money first red flag ,with my wife once her job was finished then I gave her money monthly to make up for income not coming in but I only gave her money once we were married and her not working anymore because he job had finished!
I believe this guy made the right choice. My thoughts: Filipino's, male and females, are good people. *They are "Survivors!"* They can figure out ways to make things work.They have been doing this for centuries. If this Filipina can not wait until they got married, something is wrong. I learned to say NO, many years ago. simple, to the point and it is understood. NO!
Her trying to get a set amount from him per month in essence is paying for what she gives her family from her paycheck. She helps her family and basically he is reimbursing her that amount. Filipinos know how the game is played. They are beautiful and "most" will play good wifey IF the proper amount of payment is met per month. That's how it is with most all foreign women. Just to help the family.
if she has multiple dim wits in the US sending her $$$, no need to work at all. if you bring her to the states you just put your head in the guillotine, and handed her the pull cord.
In my personal opinion there were too many red flags! I have been married to my Filipina wife for 30 year. Within their culture the Filipina will still on "rare" ocassions stretch the truth 😁when it is felt necessary d/t feeling they have been put into an uncomfortable situation and it's just a fact. My point is with all due respect, Filipinas are very creative and crafty at coming up with deflective excuses as to why this and why that! Of course if you are not seasoned to know this then you can easily be taken advantage of. I never handed out any funds until after our marriage but even then it is only in then ocassional and in moderation. We all need help in our lives at some point.
It’s easier in Thailand. Mom and Dad put a price tag on the girl and you gotta pay to play. Money up front. (Seriously though this was a scammer with multiple marks…family in on it; but it is true that the neighbors and family in the filipines do put pressure on the girl to ask for money. The right girl will be patient if you are firm but fair. ) Nothing wrong with sending 5k to 10k a month if you have met and are engaged.
I have done my share of dumb things but this was not a relationship, it was a business arrangement at least from her point of view. I don't want to paint with too broad a brush but it seems to happen frequently, maybe these are the ones we hear of but there are too many red flags here.
There seems to be many red flags there. But I guess one legitimate reason is she currently looks after her family financially and this was all fine until moving to the USA became a reality, rather than just talk. Well obviously her income would stop so she couldn't provide for her family. So she is trying to get money so it can continue when she has moved. But rather than being honest (or logical ) and saying I currently give 11-16k of my 20k salary to my family for rent food ect and I won't be able to if I move to the USA she is trying to get the money flowing now. I guess it's also a test in a way but she has gone about it all the wrong way. With the relationship ending she can keep working and life goes on as normal for her. So I'm kind of on the fence on this one.
At 38 years old, it's shocking that she has no kids. He should have visited her without notice. Her pleas for money is to help pay for her husband and 3 kids...
Before even watching past the 1:30 minute mark I’ll give my opinion. Once you involve money or support of any kind your relationship has officially become about money. Even on the days that they don’t ask for money it’s still on their mind. Your future arguments will ALWAYS be about money or support. While she may “love” you in her own little way, the lust for money will always trump her feelings for you. If you don’t believe me do this one little test to see if she has true love for you. Give her help this one time, see her reaction. Then comes the important part, the next time she ask for money tell her no or not right now. See her reaction. This will tell you all you need to know. Also…… most importantly DO NOT BRING HER TO THE USA. 🇺🇸 it won’t get any better. TRUST ME!!!
He's been scammed. And is an absolute muppet. All of the information is out there on You Tube, explaining the dangers of hooking up with a Filipina ... but some just never listen or believe "my girl's different". That's why scams never go out of fashion, because there's always a next mug ready to fall for it.
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In this case, I don't think the question is whether he should send the money - a more prudent question is - why did he propose marriage after seeing her only twice over 3 years? The problem here is obvious - they're putting the cart before the horse. You don't even know her enough to have money problems! Older men sometimes act out of desperation when they feel time is running is out - and it never ends well.
This has nothing to do with the Philippines per se but it is actually world wide. The number one reason for divorce/separation is money/financial. The second reason is sex. That could be incompatibility, loss of interest, infidelity, etc. It does not mean only unfaithfulness. But financial problems of one kind or another is the number one reason of divorce. So I always have this conversation pretty much right from the get go if the relationship is a serious one. My policy may sound harsh but I won't give money. Period. I've been with a beautiful filipina now for over three and a half years and she has never asked me for a penny let alone accepted money if I have offered. I pay the rent, the food, going out, the occasional gifts, etc, but I don't believe in paying an allowance. Now that may not be a one size fits all situation for many people who are in real poverty etc. But if your filipina was doing fine before she met you then you have to ask yourself why does she need money now that you are on the scene and paying for things like rent, food that she would have had to pay for before. Great vlog Gio and thanks for sharing!
She had a good job, and she survived before meeting the Foreigner. She only wanted a personal ATM.
In my many years of trying to have a long distance relationship with different Filipinas, my conclusion is that if you are an older guy, it is all about money/financial security. Some Filipinas are more open about it than others. If you are a young guy, the relationship dynamic is different. If there is genuine physical attraction, she will want you because she wants to have beautiful babies with you. Women right here in my home country (USA) are just the same. If you are an older guy, American women just want you for your resources. Young attractive guys can get away with having less money because... yep, they want to have beautiful babies with you. Women are women, no matter where they are. The only difference is the amount of money required to keep them happy. It's kind of like shopping for a new car. I want to get the best deal I can find. And so is she.
Nailed it on the head. Some are just more open about it. I grew up in the Phils and a lot of the women would never admit this to their expat partner but would talk about it to fellow Filipinos.
My immediate response at the one minute mark. NO!
Wow that guy dodged the bullet.
My wife was working during our courtship and marriage until she came to the States. She told me a respectable Filipina would be insulted if her boyfriend were to offer her money.
These guys never learn. He was played.
Don’t lead with money, this creates monsters. They survived before you, they will survive after you
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She played him. She dump him for better options. I would not have sent her any money.
She had 10 more of him at the same time already.
I sent my Filipina fiancee money for a small apartment and for food and her needs. I was generous and gave more than she needed. I wanted her to have a good comfortable life until the paperwork was done and she could be in the USA with me. Long story short, is that when I went back almost a year later she had receipts for all the money spent and gave me the receipts and the money that she did not spend. I never asked her to do that but that was the way she was. She never asked for anything and never tried to scam me. She always appreciated what I did for her and never tried to take advantage of me or ask for things. I think that man dodged a bullet.
If she didn’t post their photos together or change her status on FB, she is not serious about this relationship. He needs to drop her now.
Do NOT financially support a woman OR her family, especially if she is already working, unless/until *AFTER* you have already been married for over 2 years. Financial support should only come after the literal & metaphorical honeymoon phase is over.
i agree, even without a foriegn boyfriend they figure it out every month so why give them money if they were living ok before you met them.
@@miked9391this might be the dumbest reply on all of UTube
Huge red flags. I am glad he got out. I will only date one girl at a time. But I am not bothering about online from afar. I lived in the Philippines off and on before the plandemic. I just watched Maya's video, my suggestion is not to marry legally at all but to marry before God and enter into a domestic partnership. It's a much better option in the Philippines and requires no body to approve except a lawyer.
I can say it's situational. My GF at the time, I was 52 and she was 42, was working for a manpower company where she had some money coming in but it was getting worse because of the 2009 economic situation at the time. I remember having my wages cut at that time too. She needed about 300 dollars a month to just barely get by(two kids also). We were planning on getting married and in the process of our K1 visa. I sent $300 dollars a month(9 months) to help her out till she got to the states. To me, the $300 dollars(she actually never ask for it), if you love someone, was very important to her at that time. She eventually lost her job totally and when she got to the States told me how lucky she was to get that $300 a month to help her out. Married 14 years, retired in Cebu City.
His story is a little different from mine and seems like there are "red flags" about their relationship.
So true. You did the right thing.
I am in cebu city now. I would love to meet you and pick your brain. David.
What you did is fine, you were engaged, I send mine about the same after we got engaged and waiting for our K1 also.
Most people aren’t crooks. There are a lot of scammers though and I’m sure that they scam multiple people. Fortunately for you your wife wasn’t one of them. Sometimes, especially at first, it’s difficult to tell the good ones from the bad ones.
I have a Filipina that is not working she is 58 and I am 65. She lives with a teenage daughter and is a widow. We have been together for a year and a half. She had never ask me or her family for money. After a few months I sent her a monthly allowance to help her and her daughter. I met her and her family and they all work and support themselves six other sisters. I guess it depends on the situation, but if I had to help it would be my decision not hers.
These women are getting smarter so they play the long time card as well. They know it's very unlikely to get money from you until you meet in person. Once you return home and you think everything was good between you. Then she has you in that sweet zone and it's all about the money. They acted like the perfect family in person as sometimes the family is in on it. A similar situation happened to me and l ended it before it got out of control. It doesn't matter how much planning you do it's luck finding a decent one. I have an aunt who is a filipina so she knew the signs. These women are always thinking up new ways to get foreigners money
That’s what happened to my friend. He met the girl online and then once in Manila (she said that she was from Cebu). After they met all sort of catastrophes happened in her life. Hospitalizations for her and her family, life and death surgeries, a sight saving surgery for grandma, armed robbers that took their food and rent money, etc… He sent her at least $25k. He won’t tell me how much that he ended up sending her. It’s probably closer to $50k.
She had another sugar daddy for the first year of their "relationship" then once that ended, she turned to him.
The fact it was basically a LDR and she wasn't changing her status.. come on man.
It's not a real relationship unless you actually are together. Now of course if he had to go away for a few months or something, that's different.
If you're with a women for 3 years and she needs mobey. I see no harm in it. IF it's a real relationship. Which this clearly never was.
It's pretty obvious that her heart is really not about him but the money....with that said I think each relationship and circumstance is different....so no definitive right or wrong answers in giving or not giving money. Back to him...his blinders were/are on. Glad he woke up....If anyone gets in this sitchie...you got to run away from the relationship...even though painful!! Thanks for sharing.
Yeah, same nonsense happened to me : she remained _Single_ upon Facebook, never posted any photos of us, and objected when I posted a photo of her. I would make an exception if one hasn't met her, but otherwise these are all red flags.
Keeping one’s status as single is a big red flag for sure. 👍
@@oncall21Yup. Single status equals open for business.
It looks like she has been milking several foreigners😏
The decision to send money or not is up to the individual. Best advice I've seen is NEVER send more than you can afford to write off.
Plenty of RED flags
Asking for large amounts.
Getting upset if he didn't send what she asked for.
Relationship status on social media.
Excuse about "cousins" asking for money.
It's likely her family may have been pushing her to get more money from him.
Ultimately I agree with you. He did the right thing. Yes he wasted a couple of years and some money. But had they married (probably in the Philippines) he could have lost much more.
Worth repeating:
"A Fool And His Money Are Soon Parted."
It takes time living together to determine the truth of your relationship.
I am from West Africa but I have been in the USA for a while. I met my Filipina in Grand Mall. In 2017 in Lapu Lapu
. She was working as a sale girl in the mall. When I left her back to the USA, she didn't ask me for money. We chatted for six months and I made the decision to send her $50 and she even asked me why I sent her money and I told her to assist you to buy load to chat with me and she said wow. She never asked me for money. We are now married since 2019.
You're absolutely right that these are two major red flags. If she starts asking for money, tell her no. Mind you, I made that mistake too with my second Filipina. Love does strange things to a man, but with everything I know now I would never do it again.
RUN LIKE THE WIND. That is My Best advise for this Man. When I made my first trip to the Philippines to meet my Filipina, I would have left Her Island if She wasn't the one for Me. But Luckily for Me She was even more wonderful in Person. I am a very Lucky Man. Take care.
Send no money. Gio has good points. She is scamming.😮
I've told my girlfriend that I'm concerned crust she just wants me for money. She insist s that money has nothing to do with it and she really loves me. I honestly dont believe that money has NOTHING to do with it, but I do believe she really loves me. Women in your own country want a man with some money also. Men want pretty girls; women want rich me. That's how the game is played. If ALL she wants is money, that's a problem. Just like, if all he wants is sex, that's a problem. But if its one of many things, I think that's ok.
1,917. The number of times I've heard this story. LOL
Keep your calculator on with your finger on the + sign, cause I bet you will be adding alot more!
He was her ATM!!
Simple answer don't send any money
“All foreigners send their filipinas money” … a bright fluorescent red flag. Any filipina who asks for money is a deal breaker. Full stop. Once you are there in a committed relationship you can discuss and choose to help the family if and when appropriate. My thought would e to give my filipina a weekly or monthly allowance for her personal/extended family needs. All family requests for money would go to her, never me, and if she thought it was warranted she could give them her weekly allowance and go without. Make her have the backbone to deal with them. Frankly, I would require that we move to a distant province or other island entirely if the family issue becomes a constant nuisance. On some levels, the filipina has to respect your culture, too. It’s not a one way street. Westerners need to get their brain out of their pants and into their head. Have some backbone for goodness sake.
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I believe that if she has been working and supporting herself before he met her. Why the need for money now. I would have not send any money to her. And the fact that she didn’t want anyone see pictures of them together on social media, make’s me think that she had someone else or wants to scam someone else.
If there are fools out there that will send the PH scammers money, then the PH scammers keep asking for more money. The guy should not have sent her any money. That takes a lot of nerve for her to travel to Manila for holidaying and to ask him for money.
However, isn't that what a prostitute does? And she, more than likely, had several clients in that same area.
For me it depends on what you are getting for the money you send. If there is one excuse after another why you should send money is too much. The lack of her putting pictures on FB is the bigger issue for me. I haven't met a Filipina yet that wants to show that she is in a relationship unless she is trying to hide it from others ie: a local husband/boyfriend or multiple foreign guys in the west that she is milking.
These short 10-15 minute videos are pretty good. Keep it up.
Hi Gio, the subject of money in the Philippines is king. The huge red flag for me is that shes working and asking the equivalent of more than the average salary. Why? For me it was about the money for her, family whatever it was about money.
Money makes the Philippines go around
They gossp so much in the philipines they stay in your business i say come here and date several women until u find what your looking for or just stay single
Shes 38 single no kids, working as ES,L teacher she is hustler. She knows how to play the game.
Sounds like trouble on the surface and he made the right decision. In a way he went a bit too far but hind sight is always 20/20. On the other hand he'll never have to look back thinking he could have done more or that it would have made a difference.
Why is this even a discussion, her motivations are numerical. Dodged that bullet
Yes you have a point 😊
Set the bar low from the beginning because you can't lower it later 🤔
i agree, can be hard to differentiate if woman is in love with you, or in love with being taken out of poverty and having everything provided for them month after month. hard to find one that appreciates it and isn't greedy for more and more
Hi Gio I agree with you100%
Definitely did the right thing blocking her. She was playing him. I didn’t send my wife more than $100 a month and that was for her rent. Only time I sent her more was when she was getting her paperwork ready to come to the states. Choose wisely gentlemen.
As the song goes, you have to know when to hold 'em and you have to know when to fold'em.
I would agree with sending her 5K monthly if he really wants to marry her. But the signs are bad if I hear this story. Their marriage will be full of issues about money..... For me, end the relationship and find a girl as soon as you arrive here... LDR is mostly about financial support
im in an exception to the LDR thing .. not a single peso ever requested or will ever be sent .. doesn't hurt that i spend 4 months a year there i guess too .. point is you have to vet women VERY carefully whether in a LDR or not .. too many men lack self esteem and hence lead with their wallets .. that's simply asking to be used for your $$$
Thanks Gio, an interesting topic for discussion. So many red flags here, the guy is well rid of her. First of all slow right down, meeting only a couple of times is far to soon to think about marriage. Secondly there were far too many and unhealthy discussions about money. The FB thing was a poor excuse, and could’ve been handled better. Long story short, he needs to keep looking, find a better girl….and slow himself down.
As I'm listening to this guys story, I'm hearing the red alert alarm from the deck of the Enterprise. Shields up! Evasive maneuvers!
Hi Gio! Where is this condominium where you video located? Thank you. Nick
I think it all depends, in this scenario no probably not. .....
She definitely had someone coaxing her.
Great video and very common topic. I am in a LDR and I send my filipina a little support while she attends nursing college. I question every little thing about our relationship because I hear so many horror stories. I've already been to PH before when I was dating another Filipina and i'll be back there in a few months to meet the one I'm dating now. Its very situational, and the one i'm dating shows me reciepts for anything she buys with what I send her. Life is tough there, sure the people are getting by, a little extra money just makes their life a bit more comfortable is how I see it, but I get that most people aren't going to see it that way and you shouldn't send anything you don't don't see as disposable income.
The long time standing joke Kasin, short for Kasintahan which means sweetheart in Filipino language.
Huh... No-brainer!
this is a common story. she didn't change her FB status "red flag" she must have friends that told her bad advice. going on holiday with friends means foreigner paying the hole trip 💸. she has people telling her how to drain your pocket. another Filipina bite the dust.
I have a very simple philosophy which I go by:
If you have an LDR with a woman, don't send them any money. If you marry and live with a woman in her country or have her move into your country, then you BOTH agree to pay portions of the bills, utilities, etc however your income generates.
Obviously, if you bring her into your country, she will be unemployed until she gets that green card and starts working again. But after she starts working, you both put in what is necessary for your household bills and her money left is her money, and your money left is your money.
Don't be a fool and pretend to win her love by showing off your money. My Thai Fiance has a career and is educated like I have and we each don't give ANY money to each other. When I'm in her country and we do go out together to a restaurant, attraction, etc, then I will pay the bill.
If your pics is not on her profile, then she is up to no good. There are too many beautiful women in the Philippines to be wasting your time with a scammer. Some of these Filipinas are becoming their own worst enemies. She would have left him as soon as she got her green card.
I wonder how many bloggers talking about foreigners sending money to pinays and Thai.
Girls who asking, deserve local men. Many millions have never been with a foreigner, so how do they and their families survive without money from foreigners ?
Majority who had local partner, age gap is small
How can local girls go merry local man
It's not free.
It's not free to have kids but still many local couples have kids and stay together.
2+3 generation ago, barely any local girls didn't even see a foreigner.
They didn't die
They found out how to use naive and goodhearted foreigners for easy money.
Same as Nigerians found out before them..
I 100% agree with you and he definitely did the right thing. I plan on moving to Dumaguete in February and I won't even consider meeting filipina girls on those dating sites. I'm going to wait until I get there and get set up.
from what I have seen and heard in 18 years here a "single" Filipina can't wait to show off her foreigner all over her social media
Gio,I'm coming to the Philippines in Nov,what you recommend for travel health insurance?
The links are in the description and pinned comment.
For special occasions birthdays holidays but monthly i not cash cow or desperate time to move on its only going to get worse
He dodged a huge bullet. She’s 38, no kids, has a job; why does she need him to send her money every month?
The no photo/relationship thing makes some sense as people often try to steal foreigner bfs. Friends and even family. But she could at least say she’s in a relationship on her status.
Chances are she is talking to several foreigners and trying to pick one based on their income and how much they send. Or doesn’t want to pick one at all let them all send and enjoy it while she can.
I’m not against sending money at all. A little bit for load, or to treat her to jolibee, or something small but thoughtful for her bday etc. but sending huge amount’s every month is just a terrible idea. Make them earn it with marriage. Meeting once or twice and chatting a year or two is nice but you never know for sure what they’re like the rest of the time. Takes a lot of time together to really know someone.
He did the right thing 👍
Makes little difference as long as both parties are satisfied.
I’m thinking that she probably had multiple guys from outside of the Philippines sending her money. Her family might be aware of it, but are quiet because maybe they’re benefiting from it too. As it came closer for her to move to the USA she ramped up her demand for money (common for scammers right before the con ends) and then cut off communications. Why would she want to come to the USA and probably have to work when people are freely sending her money in the Philippines? I’ve seen all sorts of stuff. As stated in your videos and many other videos, most Filipinas are kind and honest. Not all though. I think that I commented on one of your other videos about my girlfriend’s Lola’s caregiver was chatting with multiple men outside of the Philippines AND she was married to a guy in the Philippines. She’s a province girl which are supposed to be safer, right? I had another friend that was scammed out of $25k+ usd as well. Another friend and I tried to warn him AND he was born and raised in the Philippines (he moved to the USA 40+ years ago) . Another guy that I knew paid to build an apartment building for his wife’s family so that they’d have income. She lived in the USA with him for 6 months and then went back to the Philippines for vacation. She never returned.
She got a taste of money and wanted more and more. I believe she had someone else on the side. From the videos I have seen a lot Filipinas don't know how to handle money.
Filipinas absolutely don't know how to handle money. If you're the type of guy that lets your women handle your money then a Filipina is a poor choice, you'll be broke in no time.
I agree with you Gio Filipinas with Foreigners and money are sometimes a bad combination
I think it was the right decision to block her. I'll gladly pay for things in my relationships, but repeated requests and any vibe of entitlement about money would be a big red flag. Personally I don't want a woman who is only with me for money.
Big time Red Flag’s!
Hello Geo and Maya Totally agree with you Geo to be careful and be smart. Enjoy life that is so precious.
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Hi Gio good talk you got my partner upset 😂
Oh no 😯
I can agree in general what Reeckay (the other vlogger) is saying on this topic. Nevertheless, every situation is differetent, as situation of filipina/filipino and foreigner. If you are retired minister in Belgium with 7000 US reitirement money then you can give a few thousands.
This has so many red flags. Run, run fast don't look back. Cut your losses.
When you are not prepared. You will be destroyed and despised. He had a pen pal. Not a real relationship.
I agree asking for money first red flag ,with my wife once her job was finished then I gave her money monthly to make up for income not coming in but I only gave her money once we were married and her not working anymore because he job had finished!
Happy Sunday 😊
Same to you!
Hi, Gio are beautiful women consider high value women? I want you to make video about this topic.
Hey Gio, my opinion if she is only my girlfriend I won't send her money cause she working but if she my wife I send her money ✌️
She already had a bf or husband
I believe this guy made the right choice.
My thoughts:
Filipino's, male and females, are good people. *They are "Survivors!"*
They can figure out ways to make things work.They have been doing this for centuries.
If this Filipina can not wait until they got married, something is wrong.
I learned to say NO, many years ago. simple, to the point and it is understood. NO!
Too many things don't add up, to me sounds like she and her family were all in on a scam and probably receiving money from more than one man.
Her trying to get a set amount from him per month in essence is paying for what she gives her family from her paycheck. She helps her family and basically he is reimbursing her that amount.
Filipinos know how the game is played. They are beautiful and "most" will play good wifey IF the proper amount of payment is met per month. That's how it is with most all foreign women. Just to help the family.
if she has multiple dim wits in the US sending her $$$, no need to work at all. if you bring her to the states you just put your head in the guillotine, and handed her the pull cord.
In my personal opinion there were too many red flags! I have been married to my Filipina wife for 30 year. Within their culture the Filipina will still on "rare" ocassions stretch the truth 😁when it is felt necessary d/t feeling they have been put into an uncomfortable situation and it's just a fact. My point is with all due respect, Filipinas are very creative and crafty at coming up with deflective excuses as to why this and why that! Of course if you are not seasoned to know this then you can easily be taken advantage of. I never handed out any funds until after our marriage but even then it is only in then ocassional and in moderation. We all need help in our lives at some point.
It’s easier in Thailand. Mom and Dad put a price tag on the girl and you gotta pay to play. Money up front.
(Seriously though this was a scammer with multiple marks…family in on it; but it is true that the neighbors and family in the filipines do put pressure on the girl to ask for money. The right girl will be patient if you are firm but fair. )
Nothing wrong with sending 5k to 10k a month if you have met and are engaged.
Unless there is a crisis every week or month … that’s a red flag you’re getting played
If your talking to anybody online don’t send money until your married
How is Small Province Girl?
If she doesn’t show you off leave boys. Major red flag for all woman.
Sunk coat fallacy. Don’t be afraid to walk away when you’re coldly disrespected.
I have done my share of dumb things but this was not a relationship, it was a business arrangement at least from her point of view. I don't want to paint with too broad a brush but it seems to happen frequently, maybe these are the ones we hear of but there are too many red flags here.
There seems to be many red flags there. But I guess one legitimate reason is she currently looks after her family financially and this was all fine until moving to the USA became a reality, rather than just talk. Well obviously her income would stop so she couldn't provide for her family.
So she is trying to get money so it can continue when she has moved. But rather than being honest (or logical ) and saying I currently give 11-16k of my 20k salary to my family for rent food ect and I won't be able to if I move to the USA she is trying to get the money flowing now. I guess it's also a test in a way but she has gone about it all the wrong way.
With the relationship ending she can keep working and life goes on as normal for her.
So I'm kind of on the fence on this one.
At 38 years old, it's shocking that she has no kids. He should have visited her without notice. Her pleas for money is to help pay for her husband and 3 kids...
Before even watching past the 1:30 minute mark I’ll give my opinion. Once you involve money or support of any kind your relationship has officially become about money. Even on the days that they don’t ask for money it’s still on their mind. Your future arguments will ALWAYS be about money or support. While she may “love” you in her own little way, the lust for money will always trump her feelings for you. If you don’t believe me do this one little test to see if she has true love for you. Give her help this one time, see her reaction. Then comes the important part, the next time she ask for money tell her no or not right now. See her reaction. This will tell you all you need to know. Also…… most importantly DO NOT BRING HER TO THE USA. 🇺🇸 it won’t get any better. TRUST ME!!!
Get out of that situation
@@GiointhePhilippines 100%
sounds like he dodged a money hungry bullet.
She dumped the person because she wanted money
Hell, no. No money 🤨
YOU WANT A FRIEND IN THE PHILIPPINES >>>>> GET A DOG ATM MACHINE
He's been scammed. And is an absolute muppet. All of the information is out there on You Tube, explaining the dangers of hooking up with a Filipina ... but some just never listen or believe "my girl's different". That's why scams never go out of fashion, because there's always a next mug ready to fall for it.
It's called a contract