Relationships in the Philippines/Will This Relationship Survive or Fail?

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  • Relationships in the Philippines/Will This Relationship Survive or Fail?‪@paulinthephilippinesolddog9234‬Welcome to our channel! In this thought-provoking video, we dive into the fascinating question: "Will my relationship last or fail?" Prepare yourself for a brutally honest analysis as we explore the factors that determine whether a relationship can withstand the test of time.## From compatibility to communication skills, we leave no stone unturned in this objective examination. Our goal is to equip you with valuable insights that can strengthen your own relationship or provide clarity if you're facing doubts. Join us as we delve into the complexities of long-term relationships, discussing the importance of trust, commitment, and individual growth. We bring you a well-rounded perspective that incorporates both the joys and challenges that come with navigating love's journey. Drawing from personal experiences as well as the wisdom of relationship experts, this video aims to offer guidance and support, regardless of where you currently stand in your own relationship. We firmly believe that self-reflection is vital for personal growth and relationship success, and we encourage you to engage with us in the comments section below. Whether you're in the honeymoon phase or facing relationship hurdles, this video provides valuable insights and strategies to help you build a solid foundation. Discover the key indicators that contribute to a lasting relationship, empowering you to make informed decisions about your own future. So, if you've ever wondered about the longevity of your relationship, this video is a must-watch! Prepare yourself for an eye-opening journey filled with valuable advice, relatable anecdotes, and the tools you need to assess and improve your own relationship. Don't forget to like and subscribe for more thought-provoking content on love, relationships, and personal growth. Hit that notification bell to stay updated with our latest videos! Thank you for tuning in, and now let's dive into the fascinating question of whether a relationship can truly stand the test of time.##

КОМЕНТАРІ • 631

  • @KenJohnsonMusic
    @KenJohnsonMusic 5 місяців тому +7

    Old guys abusing poor young women based on income. Sad.

    • @stephen25uk
      @stephen25uk 5 місяців тому +7

      Jealousy will get you nowhere. She is not abused.

    • @VOUSTUBER
      @VOUSTUBER 4 місяці тому +6

      You're crazy. These women are getting into relationships with foreigners that will help them to help themselves and their families...nothing wrong with that.

  • @papadougpapadougsadventures
    @papadougpapadougsadventures 11 місяців тому +23

    Paul, a great conversation with ordinary people about the REAL life of a couple in the Philippines. I’m 63 my Filipina is 35. It works well.

    • @youngandfree93
      @youngandfree93 11 місяців тому +2

      Lol I will be 35 later this year :D

    • @user-ue6pi6bm3f
      @user-ue6pi6bm3f 11 місяців тому +4

      Sugar daddy, she loves you not your money

  • @BadEinsteinReal
    @BadEinsteinReal 11 місяців тому +30

    She is amazing, in that she writes things down as to perfect the way she speaks during or after tampo. He seems to really have himself together… two very intelligent people.

    • @pw6748
      @pw6748 11 місяців тому

      Thanks Paul always good to hear your story from your heart 😊

    • @michaelcassidy1864
      @michaelcassidy1864 5 місяців тому +1

      Thanks for your generous comments. Vhie and I are still together and dong very well.

  • @eddale8325
    @eddale8325 11 місяців тому +70

    Paul probably one of the best interviews to date. The concept of "accept the culture and adjust" needs to be almost a mantra. So many couples I have known and seen, the foreigner not accepting and always complaining "oh she always helping her family", "I make her cook her food outside because it stinks" I could go on and on.

    • @eddale8325
      @eddale8325 11 місяців тому +7

      Sorry was trying to put a space there but as a side hearing her say "I don't like how foreigners curse" and he is an Irish man. Wonder how many times he has bitten his tongue lol.

    • @bradleymiller7375
      @bradleymiller7375 11 місяців тому +1

      ​@@eddale8325compromise again and again!

    • @Peter-td3yk
      @Peter-td3yk 11 місяців тому +6

      They have cookers outside for smell.

    • @michaelcassidy1864
      @michaelcassidy1864 11 місяців тому

      You are soooo correct! This is Michael the Irishman who was interviewed. Ive had 5 tongue transplants so far with another planned for October 12th @@eddale8325

    • @VerifiedVIPMember
      @VerifiedVIPMember 11 місяців тому +6

      Def The Odd Couple

  • @danielwarnes7231
    @danielwarnes7231 11 місяців тому +9

    Excellent. Very happy for them. I do not think I disagreed about anything.

  • @koufax174
    @koufax174 11 місяців тому +28

    Wake up call! No magical thinking. No idealizing. This was great video. This in combination with Mike in the Phillipines video this morning of man who sold everything and moved here for relationship and 10 months later couldn’t accept the Phillipines and his partner and went back home are wake up calls! More videos like this are extremely needed. Too many videos like Living Abroad and G glamorizing the Phillipines mislead men for the sake of views. Thank you Paul 🙏🏼. Please do another video with same couple of red flags 🙏🏼

    • @bradleymiller7375
      @bradleymiller7375 11 місяців тому +2

      @koufax, great interview with everything exposed, the Truth! From real people discussing life!
      Excellent!

    • @michaelcassidy1864
      @michaelcassidy1864 11 місяців тому +3

      Hello Sandy. The life I've lived with Vhie has sometimes been painfully real, but we've survived each other. We've grown to now share a deep mutual respect and. dare I say it, love. As you may have realized while viewing, I'm imperfect and sometimes difficult to be around. Fortunately, Vhie saw through my external mask and realized something decent was within me, waiting to be nurtured.

    • @koufax174
      @koufax174 11 місяців тому

      @@michaelcassidy1864Thank you very much for that. That helps me see more clearly what I didn’t see in the video. 🙏🏼.

  • @tedlasalvia9668
    @tedlasalvia9668 11 місяців тому +14

    Paul, to echo some of the previous comments, I consider this your best interview to date! Your guest is probably one of the most self-aware people I have heard on this channel. In addition, your direct questions didn't pull any punches. So, as always, I really appreciate your interview style. You don't shy away from the tough questions! Your guest's life is what I will one day strive for without being a burden to anyone. Thank you for this interview as it provide a reality touchpoint to what is possible out there!

  • @stuartberry5277
    @stuartberry5277 11 місяців тому +9

    Your comment 'Some of the best deals are the ones you don't make' is pure gold.
    Wordsmiths of your calibre on UA-cam are quite scarce, I love picking up on your nuggets! ;)

  • @jeremynewcastle
    @jeremynewcastle 7 місяців тому +4

    The fact that a simple act like “kissing in public” is considered sacred to Filipinas and should only be done in private is a breath of fresh air. That only means that intimacy is valued very much by the culture. Intimacy is sacred!

  • @MrSamSafari
    @MrSamSafari 11 місяців тому +50

    I met my wife in 2008 in Las Vegas at the age of 55. She was 21 at the time. We have been together since then living here in the Philippines now. She had a son that was 6 years old at the time and now he is doing his second year of college in computer science. The secret is love and caring for each other. A simple formula. 🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸

    • @rickbold9337
      @rickbold9337 11 місяців тому +5

      Wow, she had a child at 15? So was pregnant at 14?

    • @nala3038
      @nala3038 11 місяців тому +5

      She had a kid at 15???

    • @MrSamSafari
      @MrSamSafari 11 місяців тому +1

      @@rickbold9337 yes

    • @MrSamSafari
      @MrSamSafari 11 місяців тому

      @@nala3038 yes

    • @rickINcali1
      @rickINcali1 10 місяців тому +2

      Wow...glad it work out for both of you!...

  • @vhoy7899
    @vhoy7899 11 місяців тому +5

    She's is very mature and approaches her relationship in a mature way

  • @kimhozack5719
    @kimhozack5719 11 місяців тому +10

    I have been marrird to a Filipina for 34 years. I am older by 11 years. We still have some communication problems from time to time. I need her to watch this video lol. For me it's like being rebooted in the understanding Department. I will say Filipino women are truly awesome and many ways. Thank you.

  • @filipinamorena
    @filipinamorena 11 місяців тому +5

    I can relate on speaking slow. I always ask my boyfriend to speak slowly whenever I don't understand the things he's saying.

  • @1Chuck4U2C
    @1Chuck4U2C 11 місяців тому +7

    My Brother in-law was married to his Filipina wife with a 40 year age gap , he just died at 83 and she’s 43 , happily married for 18 years. She may not remarry. I see the heart felt loss.

  • @judekidder
    @judekidder 11 місяців тому +10

    Good interview. So true no need to change the philippines just embrace the philippines. ❤

  • @Keith-vq3ob
    @Keith-vq3ob 11 місяців тому +34

    I don't believe I have ever commented on your channel, but I must say it was refreshing to see this couple get along and be forthright about their viewpoints. She was composed in her thoughts and articulate in her explanations and answers. She is quite level headed and a realist in her thoughts and observations. I agree with her about the use of vulgarity and profanity in daily conversation. Growing up in the 1950's, 60's, 70's and early 80's or previous to that timeframe, you rarely, if at all, heard people curse in public. Men had respect for women and children in that regard and it was frowned upon. The last 25 years the F-bombs are openly used in public conversations to express contempt or pleasure. People no longer have integrity, dignity and respect toward others. Society has become a rude, crass, and vulgar cesspool of thoughts, ideologies and conversations, thanks to Hollywood, media, entertainment, porn, social media and the decline of the nuclear family and it's values. Show me a person that curses and you can be assured it is someone you likely cannot trust. One of your better interviews. I don't always agree with everything you do, say, and represent, however, I respect the freedom and liberty that allows you to express your opinions in a decent way. By the way, are they married, or just have a living together arrangement? Thank you.

    • @paulinthephilippinesolddog9234
      @paulinthephilippinesolddog9234  11 місяців тому +6

      Living together

    • @bradleymiller7375
      @bradleymiller7375 11 місяців тому +4

      Yes, sir i was raised that way. Now I'm potty mouth

    • @xavierkoolat6926
      @xavierkoolat6926 11 місяців тому +4

      @@paulinthephilippinesolddog9234 Nicely done, Paul. You picked a great couple for your interview. Kudos.

    • @debj5114
      @debj5114 11 місяців тому +2

      Yes, Paul, I thoroughly enjoyed this Vlog. I'm a silent fan.

    • @michaelcassidy1864
      @michaelcassidy1864 11 місяців тому +6

      Hello this is Michael who was interviewed. I respect all of your comments. Re Vhie and I being married, she still has some reservations about me. But Im almost fully house trained, We will probably do it in 2024

  • @WhenTheManComesAround
    @WhenTheManComesAround 11 місяців тому +21

    I absolutely tip my hat to this Gent. A man that realizes the impact he has on a child coming into a relationship with their mother is priceless. Obviously a man of high quality of character at this point in life. I know that his example inspires me to continue acting with honor in my future relationships and making sure I recognize what's at stake not only for myself but my future girlfriend/wife, her children & family. Our impact on a community can be vast, and ensuring it's an impact of positivity is golden. Thanks much for the video Paul, it made a great start to my day 😊👍❤️

    • @David_in_Michigan
      @David_in_Michigan 11 місяців тому +4

      I was impressed with his commitment as well..

    • @bradleymiller7375
      @bradleymiller7375 11 місяців тому +1

      @WhenTheMan, two of us!

    • @tombkk1322
      @tombkk1322 11 місяців тому +4

      Solid answer on taking parenting seriously.

    • @bradleymiller7375
      @bradleymiller7375 11 місяців тому +3

      @tombkk1322 yes sir I'm doing the same for my 8 year old Princess! Daughter, I never had!

    • @rickylee6129
      @rickylee6129 11 місяців тому +1

      I Agree 👍 😊

  • @junuc10
    @junuc10 11 місяців тому +13

    There are many conflicts in this type of relationship. In this particular one I only see material interests from her and perhaps the need of companionship from him.

    • @michaelcassidy1864
      @michaelcassidy1864 11 місяців тому +6

      When you claim to "see material interests form her" what was your source for this incorrect conclusion? Certainly not in the video content. Was it perhaps an indirect reflection on bad experiences in your life? Vhie is a successful businesswoman and financially independent from me. Perhaps you were absent when those facts were confirmed. I wont comment of your ludicrous comment about the reason Im in the relationship "is the need for companionship."

    • @garyzies3486
      @garyzies3486 11 місяців тому

      @@michaelcassidy1864 Michael, she is worth her weight in gold!

    • @VOUSTUBER
      @VOUSTUBER 4 місяці тому

      Nothing wrong with those interests if it works for them. It's better than stupid butterflies in people's bellies.

  • @David_in_Michigan
    @David_in_Michigan 11 місяців тому +15

    Great interview!
    Always wondered what challenges the pinay had with foreigners… She was well spoken and hearing she still had issues with communication was wonderful information…

    • @jamesballard6564
      @jamesballard6564 10 місяців тому +1

      That never goes away. Communication will be limited. I had the same problem in the past. That's why it's important to have a trusted friend that speaks your same language.

  • @davidkaiser810
    @davidkaiser810 11 місяців тому +11

    Awesome video Paul, two imperfect people don't make a perfect relationship. All relationships have their challenges

  • @user-DrJoe-Future
    @user-DrJoe-Future 11 місяців тому +14

    Outstanding interview/video. I had similar experience. I met my wife on-line when I was in the U.S., and we talked for about 6-months before I moved to Cebu City, Philippines. She joined me there alone from Mindanao. She has two twin 14-year-old-daughters that joined us about 2 months later. I was 71, she was 36. I am in good physical shape. I felt like Paul, "I don't need more kids, been there, done that, etc." However, I never felt like a had a true "family" in a previous marriage. So I thought I could have a "redo" as a family and father, learning from my past mistakes. I do like kids, and truthfully, I could have never found two more perfect daughters anywhere on the planet. They keep me smiling and laughing every day, and I truly love and support them as if biological kids. They are highly responsible, smart, work hard, and like to sing. I put them in an International Private School for the first time, and they are doing great. We live in Cebu, and my wife's "family" lives in Mindanao and Manila, so we have little interference. I selectively help family members at her request and for good reasons like her father, brother, and a special pre-teen nephew who is "Einsteinian smart." He's in 5th grade, but belongs in a least junior or senior high school if not college. However, the Philippines holds these kids back and not let them skip grades regardless of how smart they are. Poor kid -- that's "educational abuse." After almost two years, my wife and I are doing very well together and having lots of fun. I fully support her, and she is now attending a special 1-year University degree program in Business. Yes, the Philippines expertise in inefficiency and ludicrous requirements can get very frustrating for Americans. Example: At a domestic adoption meeting with adoption officials, I was told I have to get a letter from my 32-year-old son in the U.S. giving his now 72-year-old father permission to adopt my two step daughters here in the Philippines. Wow. It gets worse from there.

    • @barrydanish6008
      @barrydanish6008 11 місяців тому

      Inspiring! I’m 71, and am chatting with two Filipinas age 31, and 26, both with one son. I’m not greedy, I just want one of them, but feel that I need to meet them both, before I decide.

    • @agent.86
      @agent.86 11 місяців тому +1

      She just a care taker.. better then going to Singapore..

    • @robinkelly1770
      @robinkelly1770 10 місяців тому

      It is good the Philippines holds smart kids back. By the time these children are 20 95% are burnt out and do nothing with their life. Just because you are educationally ready for university it doesn't mean you're emotionally ready. You needsocialising with other children, and time to learn to operate in society. Very very few accelarated children shine as adults and most cointries now do not allow this accelarated learning for the benefit of the children...

    • @user-DrJoe-Future
      @user-DrJoe-Future 10 місяців тому

      @@robinkelly1770 There are many factors that determine whether it is good or bad to hold kids back. A few are national culture, individual maturity, natural intelligence, and government policies of meritocracy vs equity, etc. In my U.S. experience in Elementary and High School, I've seen the good and bad of advancing students (Skipping a grade(s), or advancing normally to the next class (e.g., advancing from 6th grade to 7th grade after completing 6th grade. Overall, I found that by far, the majority of disruptive students and troublemakers in school were some of the smartest students -- perpetually in detention hall. They were bored to death. If they were permitted to advance and skip a grade or two, they might have been challenged. Unfortunately, some dropped out of High School. We have 14-year olds in college doing very well. In the U.S., we have over a million students age 14-17 in college. They advance by their academic and emotional readiness. We do not artificially hold them back, that can demoralize a kid. On the other hand, not passing a student to the next grade can equally demoralize and demotivate a kid. There was a kid in elementary school where the teachers, guidance counselors and Principal, year after year, had to decide whether or not to keep him in the same grade another year due to low grades. They decided to pass him to the next grades. He had no discipline problems. Decades later, the kid ended up being a successful doctor. I do not believe it is good for a smart and motivated student to be artificially kept down and prevented from advancing, and do consider it educational and personal abuse.

    • @user-DrJoe-Future
      @user-DrJoe-Future 10 місяців тому

      @@barrydanish6008 Be very careful in choosing. You really have to "learn" the girls and their family and kids. Who is better able and dedicated to help take care of YOU if something happens? Who is more mature and hones? I had a 26-year-old with a kid who drove me nuts for many reasons, and it didn't work out. Luckily I found a 35-year-old who was perfect. The Filipina Pea UA-cam channel is excellent for foreigners, and Pea has interviewed many classes and types of Philippine girls from the City and Province, all different age groups. Listen to those interviews on what the girls like, want, and what they have to offer you.

  • @davidkaiser810
    @davidkaiser810 11 місяців тому +10

    The first time I watched this video I was home alone and I was very impressed, it ticked a lot of boxes for me. When my wife got home we watched it together, it helped us both realize our communication problems. We now have a better understanding of each other

    • @michaelcassidy1864
      @michaelcassidy1864 11 місяців тому +6

      David, this is Michael who was interviewed with Vhie. Im very happy parts of our experience helped you. And why did it help you? Only because you were sufficiently open and willing to learn. Well done!

    • @michaelcassidy1864
      @michaelcassidy1864 11 місяців тому +3

      This is Michael. I was the man interviewed with Vhie, Im happy we were of some help to you and your wife. Please note both of you deserve credit for being willing and able to take action to improve your relationship. Well done!

  • @franciscabelanger7200
    @franciscabelanger7200 10 місяців тому +6

    I'm happy for you two! I have been married to an American husband for 37 years. I also have daughter from my previous relationship when I met my husband. She was five when we got married.. My husband and I have two daughters and three grandchildren. We're in our 60s and still happy and loving each other. Good luck to you both.

  • @RawContent
    @RawContent 11 місяців тому +4

    To add to the comment of Tampo. He's right...Interpretation is a huge factor in ending or NOT ending the tension. So so true!!

  • @fredvanarnam6080
    @fredvanarnam6080 11 місяців тому +3

    Must meet this couple next time I am in country. The common sense, the give and take, the understanding of each other not something you see every day. Married 10 years and still on honeymoon at 77 and 54. Great job, great interview Paul.

  • @kathiemathias212
    @kathiemathias212 11 місяців тому +1

    She is such a lucky woman to have met someone as understanding and moral like him.

  • @riffraff521
    @riffraff521 11 місяців тому +13

    It’s a huge decision to get involved with a Filipina. I’ve been here for a year. I am still not prepared for a relationship. I don’t know if I ever will be. This interview has provided me more food for thought. Never say never..

    • @michaelcassidy1864
      @michaelcassidy1864 11 місяців тому +1

      Hello Gerry, This is Michael, the crazy Irishman who was interviewed. You're not prepared for a Pinay relationship? That's fine. I wasn't either. You may want to consider keeping an open mind. It it's going to happen, fate will allow it. If not, get a puppy dog. Provided you keep on feeding it, you are guaranteed some form of love. Good luck!

    • @riffraff521
      @riffraff521 11 місяців тому

      @@michaelcassidy1864 Hi Michael, thanks

    • @michaelcassidy1864
      @michaelcassidy1864 11 місяців тому +1

      Hello Gerry. This is Michael, the man who was interviewed. Please give yourself some credit. You are conscious of potential issues. That in itself is critically important. And you are correct, it is a huge decision to get involved with a Pinay. But doesn't the same apply to women from any culture? I've lived all over the world and am convinced if one is fortunate enough to meet the "right" Pinay, there is no other culture that can equal the Pinay. Sincere best wishes on your journey.

    • @chrisellis9689
      @chrisellis9689 10 місяців тому

      ​@michaelcassidy1864 hi Micheal, hope you are well. This was a great interview you did. I'm wonder about some5seeing you have been romantically involved with your Filipina partner. Quick question about dating a Filipina, is it normal for a girl from over there (she is 35) is be so quickly to express that she is in love with you so quickly, especially when you haven't meet yet and after only a few weeks of talking together daily as I felt it was a red flag. She is very nice and seems very honest and level headed but just quickly to go down the I love you trach lol.

    • @b-41subject57
      @b-41subject57 6 місяців тому

      ​@@michaelcassidy1864good morning sir, I know you met your significant other online. A few questions. Would you recommend tinder to use in cebu? Also, where would you suggest a younger man in his 30s go in Cebu to potentially meet an educated and wonderful woman like your significant other? Thank you so much. I been to cebu once and stayed in IT park.

  • @rosetaisacan5420
    @rosetaisacan5420 11 місяців тому +4

    AS WE GET OLDER, WE GET WISER. ACCEPT THE FACT THAT WE DO GO DOWN HILL.

  • @islandhopper100
    @islandhopper100 11 місяців тому +3

    very perceptive girl...hope there are more like that when I get there.

  • @painrick
    @painrick 11 місяців тому +4

    Top Shelf interview with two of the nicest most normal and natural people, i enjoyed every moment. Another Awesomely amazing Filipina, articulate, smart and very real and truely attractive. And an Irish gentleman, self aware, respectful, I love him. Thanks Paul.

  • @TruthFinder7839
    @TruthFinder7839 11 місяців тому +8

    They seem great together. Communication is always a challenge, even with same cultured male and females living together. It takes time to melt together and smooth out the rough edges. I was married to a Persian for 23 years had the same problem and she spoke great English by the way.

  • @all4fitz
    @all4fitz 11 місяців тому +12

    Great video!
    My first impression of Michael was that he was angry and wanted nothing to do with this interview. Ha. He immediately turned out to be a fun character and eloquent speaker!
    (Even if the anger could not be interpreted as being against the Filipina, we should still eliminate it in public and at home. Don't be the uptight, overly dramatic, road raging, Karenesque American. That's what the Phils is supposed to fix!)

    • @michaelcassidy1864
      @michaelcassidy1864 11 місяців тому +2

      Hello this is Michael who was interviewed. Yes I initially did look uncomfortable didnt I. Ha ha But I wasnt. I believed this type of honest interview might help others who planned to come here or are living here to have a reality check on life here. After living in many countries all over the world I firmly believe the correct Pinay is a wonderful option for someone as nuts as Ive been and sometimes am.

    • @all4fitz
      @all4fitz 11 місяців тому

      ​@@michaelcassidy1864
      Heeey Michael! So nice that you commented.
      Yes, it absolutely helps so much to not only hear real experiences from people in the Philippines but even better from a couple who is fun, engaging and articulate like you and "Miss V". Later in the interview you mentioned spending time in other parts of the world and I was thinking you are fortunate to be so well-traveled. After 54 years, my first anticipated trip out of the US was to India a few months ago and now I know I have to stop chasing the dollar and start living by retiring soon instead of later. And your interview makes me realize I got some catching up to do. Hehe. I hope you're having the time of your life in the Philippines.
      Thanks for responding Michael!

    • @rickylee6129
      @rickylee6129 11 місяців тому

      ​@@michaelcassidy1864Hey Michael 👋. Excellent interview, you remind me of me. I will be moving to the Philippines 🇵🇭 this year. Hope to meet you when I get there. 😊

    • @garyzies3486
      @garyzies3486 11 місяців тому

      @@michaelcassidy1864 I enjoyed the interview. Living there with a Pinay can be challenging on many levels and requires a Westerner to adjust expectations. Wishing both of you a wonderful future together.

    • @garyzies3486
      @garyzies3486 11 місяців тому

      @@rickylee6129 You MUST love the country and adjust to their culture before you love any woman! Philippines can be extremely challenging for someone who is unwilling to change their western mindset.

  • @homebasebelgium359
    @homebasebelgium359 11 місяців тому +11

    Another great interview, Paul! Michael and Vhie seem to be two very level-headed people and Vhie is communicating much better in English than she gives herself credit for. Waiting a year before becoming exclusive may be a bit extreme, but it certainly beats moving in together after one week. I think they are in a win/win relationship. Vhie is so lucky that she found a man who is really willing to embrase this daughter he didn't father and Michael is lucky to become part of a family that doesn't treat him like an ATM machine. I wish them every luck in life and hope their relationship will continue to flourish as they age.

    • @dave_in_florida
      @dave_in_florida 10 місяців тому +2

      I am meeting a woman name Vhat, pronounced “Vi” and she has the most beautiful smile. She is stunning and single. Trying to make an impression on her to ask her out. Wish me luck.

    • @yolandagochenour6413
      @yolandagochenour6413 26 днів тому +1

      Very interesting and useful interview especially for American retirees choosing to retire in the Philippines.....one suggestion from me would be for the expat to try and learn some basic Philippine words and expressions used in the area where one lives....also it is quite misleading to expect Filipinas to understand what the Expat means just because her English is good. American English is different from Filipino English just like American English is different from British English or Australian English.

  • @kumaroadking1580
    @kumaroadking1580 11 місяців тому +1

    she's possibly the best articulate pinay,I have ever heard,.

  • @johndowns7536
    @johndowns7536 11 місяців тому +26

    Marrying a filipina and living with her in the USA is the best of both worlds, especially for an old guy like me. . In my case, she earns 10 times what she could at home, so I can just do part time. We live in a cheap place, Oklahoma, with a 3% mortgage and I have medicare. She loves shopping estate and garage sales, hunting for bargains. Our expenses would not be much less in the philippines. But you can't earn anything over there.

    • @Peter-td3yk
      @Peter-td3yk 11 місяців тому +8

      Mine is accountant from caloocan 130k usd a year income Its all hers I never touch it. She dont touch my millions.. We live humbly rent . worth close to 3 million combined. well over 200k income.. and over 100k rolled over yearly investments.. She doesnt want my wealth, she will earn her own. frugal sure is super smart. Treats me like gold great english.. They are out there..

    • @bradleymiller7375
      @bradleymiller7375 11 місяців тому +11

      @@Peter-td3yk tooooo much bragging for me.

    • @robcampbell18
      @robcampbell18 11 місяців тому

      Hows the Ego??@@Peter-td3yk

    • @brianandlynphilippines
      @brianandlynphilippines 11 місяців тому +1

      ​@bradleymiller7375 succeed in life and brag too, or be salty 😅

    • @romuloabasola8618
      @romuloabasola8618 11 місяців тому +5

      Lucky guy by marrying a Filipina.... you have wife.... you have maid...... you have housekeeper....soon when you old you have caregiver 😅😅😅😅😅😅

  • @yesno6098
    @yesno6098 5 місяців тому +1

    She is smart woman I salute her , my late husband is Irish from Boston , and His Man very nice to her and daughter ❤️😘👍👍👍👏👏👏

  • @danielhackney7806
    @danielhackney7806 11 місяців тому +4

    One very important point is age. I'm not talkin about age gap, but the age of the Filipina. She was 31 and he was 67 when they met 6 years ago. I think it's critical for a man in his late 50's or 60's to find a Filipina 30 or older. That might not guarantee a successful relationship, but it could definitely help avoid some of the pitfalls dating or marrying a more immature women. Increasing your odds of maintaining a long term relationship can save you a lot of stress, headache and heartache. As a retired guy I wish to avoid stress, headache and heartache. Peace, relaxation and harmony is my goal.

    • @celticwarrior777
      @celticwarrior777 11 місяців тому +2

      I agree

    • @danielhackney7806
      @danielhackney7806 11 місяців тому +1

      @@celticwarrior777 Thanks, but I think the sad fact is some of the guys in my age group just can't resist the younger 20 year old. Which could ultimately produce stress, headache and heartache. I did see one couple that made it work, she was 18 and he 56, but that's the exception not the rule.

  • @bentnickel7487
    @bentnickel7487 11 місяців тому +2

    Paul, your best video yet. Adjust, adapt and accept. That would sell 1 million t-shirts. 🤔😉😁

  • @jimbo3609
    @jimbo3609 11 місяців тому +2

    A Filipina not forcing her foreigner husband to support her entire family is a good Filipina.

  • @ThailandThomas
    @ThailandThomas 11 місяців тому +2

    Interesting discussion on relationship. I am a American expat in Thailand and would say every thing talked about is mostly is true for Thai relationships and family.

  • @glenpryce
    @glenpryce 11 місяців тому +1

    I've been here for 5 years already but I received a few pearls of wisdom from this interview tonight😊

  • @kentfonda8245
    @kentfonda8245 11 місяців тому +9

    Great interview... my wife and I have the exact same age difference. We are married and in the U.S. now, but we lived in Manila for 7 mo., near her family. Lots of the 'issues' they discussed are the same for us. It was refreshing to hear their perspectives. Mike's answer on their daughter is just true....love. If every dad had the same thought, what a better world we would have. Best of luck to them both.

    • @jeffrt3893
      @jeffrt3893 11 місяців тому

      Kent, may I ask, have you had any negative experiences from others judging you because of you and your wife's age gap? If so, what was the most memorial experience? I'm in the US and will soon be married to my filipina, and she is half my age.

    • @kentfonda8245
      @kentfonda8245 11 місяців тому +1

      @@jeffrt3893 Hi, great question. I can say no we have not experienced that so far. However we live in a liberal state (Colorado, our governor is gay). It may be different in say the bible belt states where people are more conservative? Hoping for the best for you both. If you're ever travelling through Colorado let me know, it would be fun to meet.

    • @jeffrt3893
      @jeffrt3893 11 місяців тому +1

      @kentfonda8245 Thanks, Kent! I live in Washington state, so hopefully, it will be the same here. Do you have an email address that I can reach out to you with? It would be nice to chat with someone like you and share experiences.

  • @LoveNanayArAr
    @LoveNanayArAr 11 місяців тому +4

    Public display of anger is always a NO NO because it spreads negativity and toxicity. It's like a bomb. Although you didn't threw it to a particular person, it feels as though that you have. It also speaks a lot about a persons EQ. Being able to control yourself is power. When you're angry, your goal is to hurt someone (although indirectly), hence, i believe it's strength when you're able to hold your feelings and reflect and be able to communicate without anger.

  • @MalluFilipino
    @MalluFilipino 10 місяців тому +2

    They hit on some really important points. Anybody in a cross cultural relationship should watch this, and learn from it.

  • @GeoffsPhilsInfo
    @GeoffsPhilsInfo 11 місяців тому +1

    Paul, this is probably your best ever video, I wish I could find a girl like your guest has, I also congratulate both of them, good luck for the future.

  • @retiredcryptohunter9031
    @retiredcryptohunter9031 11 місяців тому +8

    I’m 46 and married to my Filipina and she’s 28 and also has a daughter and I also accept her as my daughter. I grew up in the US and was taught that these age gaps was a bad thing BUT being here in the Philippines and seeing the different relationships of both same age and age gaps and one thing is standing out to me and that is that relationships with older men and a younger woman seems to work out much better than same age relationships. I thought I was going to have issues with my age gap with my wife but it turns out to be the best relationship I’ve ever been in.

    • @youngandfree93
      @youngandfree93 11 місяців тому +4

      It's not only a US thing it's all around the world. Even in Japan and South Korea age gaps are sort of frowned upon. Many are judgemental family and friends.

    • @simplelifeme2741
      @simplelifeme2741 11 місяців тому

      Mostly in the Visayas Regions. Not really in Luzon specially in the northern parts.

    • @retiredcryptohunter9031
      @retiredcryptohunter9031 11 місяців тому

      @@simplelifeme2741 that’s weird because I live in Ilocos Sur 🤷🏻‍♂️

    • @simplelifeme2741
      @simplelifeme2741 11 місяців тому +4

      @@retiredcryptohunter9031 You're 46 and your body built is still look beautiful compared to 70 years-old with a very young woman. I am from the high land (Cordillera) and I don't see a very young woman with the older guy. There might be but it's rare compared to the Visayas area.
      Ang if you have noticed. Mostly young Filipina marrying older foreign guy has a child/children. Mostly Filipinos doesn't want to take good care other man's children. Westerners are more open minded when it comes to marrying a woman with kids.

    • @bijanbayne3259
      @bijanbayne3259 11 місяців тому

      @featherfashion8065 The rare exceptions are Miami Beach and upscale L.A.

  • @justinmcintosh6554
    @justinmcintosh6554 11 місяців тому +2

    He is lucky to have her. He seems to still kid himself that she is the lucky one with all his body language. He is the lucky one/ I hope he treats her well

    • @debj5114
      @debj5114 11 місяців тому

      He is very entitled, although it works.

    • @TheUtuber999
      @TheUtuber999 7 місяців тому

      26:42 "No woman has impacted me sensually in any way as Lee does, and I'm talking about from a wide selection all over the world." This statement made me cringe.

  • @bryanr435
    @bryanr435 11 місяців тому +3

    Do you know Paul I have to say out of all the girls have you had on your channel this girl is the most attractive she seems very nice. Genuinely nice and I think this man is very lucky. She looks like a very beautiful nice woman.

  • @user-gv4cm9zo6o
    @user-gv4cm9zo6o 11 місяців тому +2

    That was a great interview I really enjoyed it. I think he is a lot like you. Very lucky to have a very beautiful philippine.

  • @debj5114
    @debj5114 11 місяців тому +4

    I don't understand why it should be taboo to Give her money when you are old enough to be her Grandpa. I'm an older woman who has a relationship with a much older guy while in University. But if I didn't have financial needs, Would Not have chosen someone so old as a partner. I'm 71 and feel that it's only a fair exchange, youth for money. None of you old guys wouldn't think it's fair in the states or Europe.

  • @wesleyestill7653
    @wesleyestill7653 11 місяців тому +3

    They’ll be fine, especially if the money holds out.

  • @k9companion231
    @k9companion231 11 місяців тому +2

    Hey Paul and friends. Great interview. Thank you for sharing. God bless

  • @GK-wx6xo
    @GK-wx6xo 11 місяців тому +3

    "I don't want to get too personal but".....can you still get it up? 😅

  • @patriot1182
    @patriot1182 11 місяців тому +1

    Wow Wow Wow! What a delightful young lady! And beautiful! You sir have hit the proverbial jackpot! Count your blessings! I am so jealous!

  • @juancarlosvaldes4538
    @juancarlosvaldes4538 11 місяців тому +2

    Good luck to both of them and thank you Paul. Have a blessed day!

  • @Booracay
    @Booracay 11 місяців тому +3

    Great interview!
    Paul, for you and your guest, dating someone about 30 yrs younger than you has worked out rather well. For me, in my 60's, I would not look for anyone under 40. I would play the probabilities that we would have more in common than with someone in their 20's. Someone in theirs 30's would also cause me some concern as well, but both of you have beaten the odds.
    I am surprised that I did not hear that us foreigners should learn the language. To some extent it is pointless due to the numbers of languages, but if you are living in a certain area it would be nice to learn some of the language.
    Thanks, good luck, and god bless.

  • @bobm7752
    @bobm7752 11 місяців тому +1

    This was the best video I have ever watched regarding relationships between foreigners and Filipinas. The reason I state this is that I was married to a beautiful and sweet Filipina and. …… I blew it. 😔, and I have to live with that the rest of my life. This video gives great insight into almost all aspects, positive and negative, involving a relationship with a filipina.
    Every aspect you discussed with this great couple made me reflect back on my own relationship and the mistakes I made. Even though my relationship failed, I remain friends with my ex wife and her entire family (including extended family), and I will love her forever. Great job Paul.

    • @user-ue6pi6bm3f
      @user-ue6pi6bm3f 11 місяців тому

      Poor thing, you were not lucky to be Sugar daddy

  • @maxbeeold6270
    @maxbeeold6270 11 місяців тому +1

    A very informative and helpful video. Thanks for Sharing.

  • @anothercomment-
    @anothercomment- 10 місяців тому +1

    I really enjoy and like BOTH of them

  • @Ray_Warren
    @Ray_Warren 11 місяців тому +2

    One of the best interviews I have seen on your channel. Nice👍

  • @ragjamrock
    @ragjamrock 11 місяців тому +8

    Great interview Paul.They both had some interesting perspectives on their relationship . Her point about speaking slowly and using simple words is well taken. What I believe is that many understand English better than they speak it. I have the same problem with Spanish so I can relate. Also cussing and shouting is not necessary but unfortunately many young people nowadays use the F word in normal conversation. I can tell she is making an effort to have a good grasp of the English language. I'm sure he has also helped her in this regard.👍🏼🏝️

    • @DavidSheridan-kt7hv
      @DavidSheridan-kt7hv 11 місяців тому +3

      Old unhappy guys also use "colorful" language quite often as well-LOL (Not talking about u Paul-HAHA). But i am sure many Filipinas here that from groups of grumpy expats in PH

  • @MyLifeThai371
    @MyLifeThai371 11 місяців тому +6

    I see on "every man has a story" that a woman was just murdered in Dumaguete, Philippines in broad daylight. A man asked for money from a Filipino woman and she just kept walking. He ran up behind her and stabbed her in the back of the neck and she died on the way to the hospital. Everyone else on the street called the police and arrested the man. Be safe Paul.

    • @paulinthephilippinesolddog9234
      @paulinthephilippinesolddog9234  11 місяців тому +4

      Yes, it was in the news

    • @cookiemurph8532
      @cookiemurph8532 11 місяців тому +2

      Accordingly that guy a street dweller is high on substance & he was saying he is very hungry😬

    • @David_in_Michigan
      @David_in_Michigan 11 місяців тому +3

      It’s everywhere humans are.

    • @David-gv7gf
      @David-gv7gf 11 місяців тому

      @@iluvmoney6767 believe what you want, but if you believe most of what UA-camrs say about the Philippines you'll learn the Hard Cold TRUTH from experience! Don't fall for the ( UA-camrs ) DECEPTION!

    • @garyzies3486
      @garyzies3486 11 місяців тому +1

      @@David-gv7gf Many youtubers paint the Philippines as a paradise because it earns them a lot of money. Walking into the Phillies with rose-colored glasses on is like stepping on a minefield.

  • @ingoditrust7784
    @ingoditrust7784 8 місяців тому +1

    What a wonderful woman!

  • @billharris3090
    @billharris3090 11 місяців тому +1

    Great interview and really good information thank you for sharing.

  • @TimBorggrenDenmark
    @TimBorggrenDenmark 10 місяців тому +2

    The raw and cold truth when talking about a relationship between the West/Europe and Asian women.
    For men:
    Wet dreams and hopes!
    For women:
    Necessity, freedom and opportunity!
    - So, can such a relationship, maybe/subsequently turn into love - Hmm, only time will tell.

  • @manuelreyes3588
    @manuelreyes3588 11 місяців тому +8

    As an American of Mexican descent (first generation) I find many of the customs of the Philippines familiar. To this include social customs.
    Of course, I wonder how out of place I would feel in the Philippines? Or will an easier transition for me versus someone outside of the Spanish/Mexican/Latin American culture?
    That would be something interesting to look into.
    Also, please follow up with a red flag episode. That would be very helpful.
    Thanks for all you do Paul, and the ever lovely Baby Mae as well, you are pretty much my go to on the subject of expat life on the Philippines.

  • @nohandleforme....
    @nohandleforme.... 6 місяців тому

    I think he hit the jackpot when he found her. She seems to be a wonderful lady. I wish I could be so lucky.

  • @Danno_A_Jyd
    @Danno_A_Jyd 11 місяців тому +3

    Very Good Interview! Many of your questions I found to be quite insightful.
    The biggest and bestest bit of advice I heard was to take things slowly. As a tradesman I've always pushed to get things done quickly, but for this dating experience I can see that slowly wins the race.
    Thank you again Paul for your efforts.

  • @lawrencer8673
    @lawrencer8673 11 місяців тому +2

    Another great video Paul,
    As always insightful. 🇬🇧

  • @cordovanbee
    @cordovanbee 10 місяців тому +1

    Wonderful couple!! Great interview! Thanks

  • @davidhancock91
    @davidhancock91 5 місяців тому

    What a lovely couple. Very well balanced relationship.
    As an Australian, I love Michaels gentle, priestly, Irish Accent.
    My wife and I have been together 3 years.
    It has been by far the Best three years of my life.
    She is 28 and I am 63.
    That sounds like a lot , but for us it isn’t.
    She has a 7 year old daughter who I treat as my own.
    We have improved each other’s lives immeasurably.

  • @jameswalsh2427
    @jameswalsh2427 9 місяців тому +1

    Wonderful couple thanks for sharing. Liked and subscribed. Greetings from James J Walsh in Limerick city Ireland 🇮🇪

  • @ChrisB-sv1gz
    @ChrisB-sv1gz 11 місяців тому +1

    Great last video to watch! I leave tonight from Texas arrive saturday for my first visit, staying two months! Thank you Paul!

  • @saulgoodman7221
    @saulgoodman7221 11 місяців тому +2

    Paul your a natural interviewer. Great questions and answers!!

    • @saulgoodman7221
      @saulgoodman7221 11 місяців тому

      You’re up early. Didn’t catch you this morning. I was working 😩. Can’t wait until April 10th 2030. Will be 59 1/2 and so ready. ✌🏻

  • @A-RHINO-IN-THE-PHILIPPINES
    @A-RHINO-IN-THE-PHILIPPINES 11 місяців тому +1

    Paul you get 5 gold stars for this ONE.

  • @magal55
    @magal55 6 місяців тому +1

    She is an optimist - patiently waiting to inherit him...

  • @garyxyz4400
    @garyxyz4400 11 місяців тому +1

    Very good and informative video. Thank you for sharing. I hope to remember no matter where I live in the world.

  • @freisein6554
    @freisein6554 8 місяців тому +1

    Great interview, Paul. I like the way you talk with your guests and the kind of questions you are asking. Great, interesting content and very helpful for someone who is considering the phillipines. Thank you so much ✨👍✨

  • @robcorbett7978
    @robcorbett7978 11 місяців тому +4

    Hi Paul , watch your videos for a while and loved this interview in context to all the subject matter is true. Being patient , open minded and being in the partnership to guide one another through the relationship. I'm in ldr although visit 3 or 4 times a year, each time growing the best partnership I've had these last 5 years with my pinoy girl and kids . . Congrats my friend on your videos and sharing the great people and country of the Philipines. Take care
    Aussie guy Rob.

  • @Connor_Dempsey
    @Connor_Dempsey 11 місяців тому +2

    Great episode. Thanks for sharing. 😀♥️

  • @novak4594
    @novak4594 10 місяців тому +1

    Nice couple. Best of luck to them

  • @marfethecatholic2217
    @marfethecatholic2217 8 місяців тому +1

    Hahaha!😂 She was late!😂
    Thank you for sharing your experience guys!❤❤❤

  • @jspice-kl2wc
    @jspice-kl2wc 11 місяців тому +1

    Great video and great question and a super great couple. Thank you. 👍👍👍

  • @mikelauersdorf2992
    @mikelauersdorf2992 11 місяців тому +2

    Excellent interview Paul, great couple

  • @dennishunt787
    @dennishunt787 11 місяців тому

    Such a blessing for his gal to take care of him no matter how old he gets

  • @myrnacoburn5366
    @myrnacoburn5366 10 місяців тому +1

    Good interview. 👍. The couple showed how and why their relationship lasted this long and why I think it may endure the test of time. I appreciate the fact that Michael didn’t get a younger partner just because he wanted her to take care of him when the time comes that he’ll be needing a caregiver . I also like the fact that when there’s an argument , she stays quite and would resort to writing her arguments so she can better express herself 😊 which may frustrate Michael but it appears to be not the case.

  • @gregdixon5848
    @gregdixon5848 11 місяців тому +1

    She is so cool. Deserves the best.

  • @thepassman
    @thepassman 11 місяців тому +2

    Great that their relationship appears genuine regardless of the age difference. It's amazing to me that the Filipinas who I have spoken with online, it is very difficult to guess their age as many appear much younger than they really are!👍

  • @whateverwhy
    @whateverwhy 11 місяців тому +1

    What a beautiful woman. And I mean that inside and out.

  • @WinstonLorde
    @WinstonLorde 6 місяців тому

    I loved listening to this couple. Both are insightful, engaging, and intelligent. Their discussion of their relationship explored universal themes that, to be sure, applies to ALL relationships. I wish you would host more intelligent couples like this rather than the whining, to say nothing of dull, men that is your standard fare.

  • @charlesholliday1050
    @charlesholliday1050 11 місяців тому +1

    Awesome couple great interview thank you for the great information God bless

  • @user-vq8ub7nq4y
    @user-vq8ub7nq4y 3 місяці тому

    30:41 "problems solutions" excellent point for tackling life from the rear-end may I say. You know life isn't always going to throw you a bone, but still enjoy the challenges anyway - best way for growth. And just a lovely couple and great interviewer! Cheers.

  • @tillthebreakofdawnyo
    @tillthebreakofdawnyo 11 місяців тому +2

    Great video Paul! That really helped me alot seen the dynamic and perspectives of those two. I actually have to admit I always find myself trying to change my Filipina to the way I want her to be and not just accepting the way it is in the culture in the difference in the ways. They gave me really great inside and I appreciate you my brother and thank them also for their time and sharing their story.

  • @martinpeacocke8968
    @martinpeacocke8968 11 місяців тому +1

    Great video! An honest couple that really care about each other.

  • @royrenelt6181
    @royrenelt6181 11 місяців тому +2

    Great interview Paul
    Your the new Oprah

  • @DogWalkerBill
    @DogWalkerBill 11 місяців тому +2

    The crowded room syndrome: I can see me having a problem with that. I've lived alone (with my cats) for over 20 years. But I think I would like to have family around. But I would also like some alone time.

  • @chrisk373
    @chrisk373 11 місяців тому

    I so enjoyed this conversation. Michael is one lucky guy! Vi is an amazing woman. I only wish one day to be as lucky as he is.

  • @DHcycling
    @DHcycling 11 місяців тому +5

    good loving couple. i wish them a long plentiful relationship. stay goofy michael

  • @truckerfromreno
    @truckerfromreno 11 місяців тому

    The words she speaks of are great Anglo/Saxon words and if used properly are very expressive.

  • @flybywir1
    @flybywir1 11 місяців тому +1

    I've been watching your chanel from the start Paul...and that is without doubt the best and most insightful interview on Foreigner/Filipina relationships that I've seen anywhere....It's easy to see why these two are still together after 6 years...they've overcome the two biggest problems....communication and understanding.....as a fellow Irishman of a certain age Michael and V have given me great hope that my own search will be successful 😊

    • @michaelcassidy1864
      @michaelcassidy1864 11 місяців тому +1

      In Ireland you are correct, we share a lot with Philippine culture. I certainly wasn't looking for the joys, pains, responsibilities, and challenges of a long term relationship when I first met Vhie. Until then, my idea of "long term" was dinner Friday evening to breakfast on Monday morning. Perhaps if you stop looking, love may come and sit gently on your shoulder before you're even aware of its mystical presence.