They say Vassopressin is the hormone men fall in love with. And it’s through food and stress. I’ve never had a man love me who I didn’t stress tf out first. Love your work
What you have taught me that it is okay to make men love you at a distance. Some men can only love you when you are NOT and ever ever around! Some people can only love you when you are never around again!
I do agree that there’s a lot of truth in what you’re saying. I’ve thought about this sort of thing a lot because I notice that what people say they want and what they actually desire tend to be completely different. Women say “I want a nice guy, not an asshole”. But they go back to their asshole ex because the nice guy bores them. Men say “I want a stable woman, not another crazy chick”. It’s the same phenomenon. Stable bores them. They can’t stop thinking about the “crazy ex” they claim to hate. They want the unpredictability, excitement, hot/cold and some of the emotional roller coaster that goes with “crazy”. There has to be a way to bridge this gap so we can have the best of both worlds without seeking out toxic relationships with people who can revert to abusive behaviour. I think one of the lessons to be learned is that cloying and people pleasing is a huge turn-off, and strong boundaries are an aphrodisiac.
What if you are just nice because you genuinely have no reason to be ‘not nice’. I am nice until I’m not and that is dependent on that persons behavior towards me. You can be nice and also flip on the person once they disrespect or cross your boundaries.
Girl i become a bitch totally after being nice kind christian girl for a long time! and these men totally do everything I want 😂! I swear it’s effective these men don’t like nice women! I make my heart cold as ice 😂! Im not putting my boundaries down for any man if they can’t deliver i say bye ! Without hesitation! I don’t care if i like them 😂or good looking! If they can provide and protect girl i say bye! 😂 next ! The man i attracted now is a man who falls in love with me head over heels ! Without even sleeping with them! 😂 it’s effective as heck
I hear you. Constantly having to have guardrails up is exhausting. This is why introvert prefer to be alone or with animals. No one is trying to take advantage
That is too much for me. 😮😢 I’m neither interested in receiving pain nor inflicting pain, I stayed safe and single for a very long time for this reason!
This can legitimately hurt somebody. Using a personal split for the sake of acceleration is a very bad idea. Have you ever had to heal that split later? We are trying to avoid splits at all costs. This just just a bad idea, really.
If your making someone break there rules doesn’t that mean u don’t respect them ?isnt tht how they would see it . Wouldn’t the results u get back be negative ?
Who taught you all these things?? Father Alex! Permit me to say you’re the most intelligent man in the world. People have reacted to this when I did it and I’ve also felt all of these when it was done to me. Jeeez!
It’s not gold digging. It’s by nature that men lead and women submit in order for the man to be a man to protect and provide. Many other none “gold digging” channels explain this.
"Boys only want love when it's torture, don't say I didn't say I didn't warn you..." Taylor Swift
Key word “Boys”.
But they will deny it😂😂😂😂
They say Vassopressin is the hormone men fall in love with. And it’s through food and stress. I’ve never had a man love me who I didn’t stress tf out first. Love your work
What you have taught me that it is okay to make men love you at a distance. Some men can only love you when you are NOT and ever ever around! Some people can only love you when you are never around again!
Absolutely they only love the delusion in their mind so dont make yourself so available on them 😂!
i dunno why but this resonated with me but it makes me feel really sad because its like a toxic love
They don't know what they got til it's gone. And they only learn when you leave them and never look back
That's not love, that's only possession and territorialism
I do agree that there’s a lot of truth in what you’re saying. I’ve thought about this sort of thing a lot because I notice that what people say they want and what they actually desire tend to be completely different.
Women say “I want a nice guy, not an asshole”. But they go back to their asshole ex because the nice guy bores them. Men say “I want a stable woman, not another crazy chick”. It’s the same phenomenon. Stable bores them. They can’t stop thinking about the “crazy ex” they claim to hate. They want the unpredictability, excitement, hot/cold and some of the emotional roller coaster that goes with “crazy”.
There has to be a way to bridge this gap so we can have the best of both worlds without seeking out toxic relationships with people who can revert to abusive behaviour. I think one of the lessons to be learned is that cloying and people pleasing is a huge turn-off, and strong boundaries are an aphrodisiac.
It’s definitely true. They won’t appreciate too much love
What if you are just nice because you genuinely have no reason to be ‘not nice’. I am nice until I’m not and that is dependent on that persons behavior towards me. You can be nice and also flip on the person once they disrespect or cross your boundaries.
Girl i become a bitch totally after being nice kind christian girl for a long time! and these men totally do everything I want 😂! I swear it’s effective these men don’t like nice women! I make my heart cold as ice 😂! Im not putting my boundaries down for any man if they can’t deliver i say bye ! Without hesitation! I don’t care if i like them 😂or good looking! If they can provide and protect girl i say bye! 😂 next ! The man i attracted now is a man who falls in love with me head over heels ! Without even sleeping with them! 😂 it’s effective as heck
Same but the problem is that we allowed their disrespect in the first place- we must have shown weakness
Hide your niceness darling, the world is cruel ❤❤❤
“Do not get mad at me , I did not make people.” 😂😂😂
I hope not all men are this high maintenance. I want to be with someone so bad, but having to constantly act like this isn't worth it
This should be your natural nature, as a women with boundaries.
I hear you. Constantly having to have guardrails up is exhausting.
This is why introvert prefer to be alone or with animals. No one is trying to take advantage
@@steph6109 I so agree with you
and trust me. i’m married ten years two kids and it’s still this fking game. its really exhausting
@@JordanTheFairy oh, okay. No thanks!
"is he really a personal trainer? is he really giving her discounts for the sake of the discounts?"😆i can't..🤣
That is too much for me. 😮😢 I’m neither interested in receiving pain nor inflicting pain, I stayed safe and single for a very long time for this reason!
Thanks!
Father Alex straight up spitting facts as always
I think what you're describing is unique to you bro! Personally, when I'm in love with a woman pain isn't any part of it!
Like a boss 😂😂😂
The Napoleon phenomenon you’re talking about intermittent reinforcement. It builds a trauma bond.
I’m from iran and I wanna say thank u for your videos u helping me alot 🙏🏼🌸
Love Iran sister 🎉❤
Please go more in depth on this topic. Super interesting!
This is true.
I dozed off and woke up at 4:20 wondering what in the heck Napoleon got to do with anything lmaooo I’m listening tho gotcha
can you give specific exemples in relationship pls
Napoleons troops: ooh the pleasure! the pain! the pleasure! the pain!....i get that from eating chili coated smoked applewood cheese
This is so true
This can legitimately hurt somebody. Using a personal split for the sake of acceleration is a very bad idea. Have you ever had to heal that split later? We are trying to avoid splits at all costs. This just just a bad idea, really.
Dont do it then. Others will do to you.
I loveeeee you!!!❤
Love it
Hey Alex
Hey Alex I always feel the same way about personal trainers.🤣🤣 Thanks again! Lol
If your making someone break there rules doesn’t that mean u don’t respect them ?isnt tht how they would see it . Wouldn’t the results u get back be negative ?
No. It just shows them that they really like you. Breaking rules is always a sign that there emotionally invested in you
Okkk I understand now . Thanks ! Love the videos !!
U are prefect 😂
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So just be bipolar 🤣
learning is pain bc a part of you dies literlaly. so when u speak up and be honest people learn smth, yada yada
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You’re dangerous 😂
Who taught you all these things?? Father Alex! Permit me to say you’re the most intelligent man in the world. People have reacted to this when I did it and I’ve also felt all of these when it was done to me. Jeeez!
This is a trauma bond not real love Alex
father Alex are you crying or are you sick
Did you delete my comment??(?😢
No but maybe I should have lol What did u say? Were you questioning father Alex?
UA-cam sometimes deleted comments.
Did you post a web link ... They often do this if you post a link in the comment (or for other reasons).
Why do the gold digger channels talk about submitting and letting the man lead then?? To get the ring lol
It’s not gold digging. It’s by nature that men lead and women submit in order for the man to be a man to protect and provide. Many other none “gold digging” channels explain this.
Those channels are for women who are into hypergamy. Women who want a man to take care of them financially.