EVERYTHING STAYS | a Fil-Am short film about leaving family behind

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  • Опубліковано 21 сер 2022
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    Starring | Ryan Gatus, Sari Arambulo, & Nicole McCullough
    Writer & Director | Cole Bacani / cabacani
    Producers | Norrie Palmer, Lily Norris, Akshay Ravi & Cole Bacani
    Executive Producer | Jason Y. Lee & Jim Oesterreich
    Director of Photography | Brian Tang
    Production Designer | TJ Ryan
    Editor & COVID Compliance Officer | Joseph DeRose
    1st Assistant Director | Pierson Carlsen
    Production Sound & ADR Recordist | Reid Andersen
    Colorist | Joseph Yao
    Original Score | Maia Thomas & Cole Bacani
    Filmed on location in Illinois, August 2020
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 113

  • @itsJeaaan1
    @itsJeaaan1 Рік тому +60

    Immediately clicked after seeing Fil-Am in the title 🇵🇭🙈

    • @ChelyAmour
      @ChelyAmour Рік тому +1

      Agreed!! Here for more Fil-Am representation in these Asian Am communities

  • @JustineAprilJ
    @JustineAprilJ Рік тому +163

    "Don't we make you happy?" Signature toxic Filipino culture right thurrr
    Planning to move out within the next year. My family's like this, only much smaller. Happy ish on the outside, secretly dysfunctional and lots of emotional manipulation on the inside. Wish me luck.

    • @shojikagami3336
      @shojikagami3336 Рік тому +3

      Good job and good luck

    • @letechnicaljames
      @letechnicaljames Рік тому +3

      Emotional manipulation... I felt that.

    • @555kaiz
      @555kaiz Рік тому

      This is really true, as a Filipino, I love my family but there are limits to things man...... like dude we can still be all together but also its part of life that we all have to move but that doesn't mean that we can be apart...... family will always be part of our memories....no matter what.

    • @555kaiz
      @555kaiz Рік тому

      @The Devil is Giratina yeah I get that, but the way she said that to him and basically let the group know with practically doing the whole being shunned feel to it.....that's shitty dude.

    • @evanflredondo
      @evanflredondo Рік тому +1

      It’s very worth it. It sets you on your own path at your own pace. In my experience, my family tends to hold me back, which isn’t always a bad thing. I did learn some harsh lessons on the way, but I wouldn’t have learned them any other way. Once you build the life you wanted for yourself, you may end up being the one that set the bar for the rest of your family.

  • @tdot8146
    @tdot8146 Рік тому +114

    I feel like this hits home for a lot of us Asian Americans here. The family dynamics of Asian Americans is a unique one and I felt this to my core.

  • @robertyearling2170
    @robertyearling2170 Рік тому +59

    Im Filipino but I'm with Dave on this one. If he wants to go to school in a different state then that's cool. He's not forsaken his family.
    Plus being in the house with many people like in the Philippines is not practical. Dave has his own life to live too. His mom would be proud going to school.

  • @tasnimjackson5709
    @tasnimjackson5709 Рік тому +66

    This is terribly underwatched. The writing, acting, cinematography...this was so good. I'm not Asian, and I haven't really had direct experiences like what was portrayed. But I still felt like I fully understood the family and the emotions behind their story. Well done!

    • @jasn010
      @jasn010 Рік тому +2

      yeah i feel like youtube algorithm isnt showing wongfu stuff. I am a subscriber but I didnt even see this in my feed.

  • @Spitty95
    @Spitty95 Рік тому +20

    Paused a minute and half in to say that's one of the best opening shots I've seen in my life

  • @enak0e
    @enak0e Рік тому +54

    I can't quite place how many different ways this film was relatable to my life experience. Especially as a Fil-Can myself, that fight between the expected familial obligation vs. who you want to be breaks my heart.
    I'm still crying as I write this comment. Well done.

  • @AsiatiqueMedia
    @AsiatiqueMedia Рік тому +19

    Yo that opening scene was GREAT! Have never seen anything like that before

  • @robinsarah113
    @robinsarah113 Рік тому +27

    Thank you for presenting something so cinematically and beautifully that a lot of us Filipino and Asian Americans are going through. It’s something I feel like we all relate to but are too scared to speak up on it/does not really come up as a topic of conversation because of the guilt and the taboo-ness surrounding the leaving of the family! Just because we leave, does not mean we do not love/are not grateful for what our family has done. I hope our culture and our families know this and it’s our responsibility to generate more honest and open conversation about it with our own families! Hoping that everyone going through a similar situation can get through it peacefully 🥰

  • @mariechaekyung3
    @mariechaekyung3 Рік тому +9

    This is relatable. I got married young in my early 20s. For a Filipino family, that is very young. I encountered a lot of comments from my family basically trying to discourage me or re-think my decision. I've always felt like I had so much input from family and I felt paralyzed trying to make my own decisions for fear of what they'll say or think. I've since learned to stand my ground respectfully. I still love my family and they're important to me, but there's also boundaries to be placed. I have other Filipino friends going through similar things and have asked me how I've made it through to the other side. Consistency, persistence, and just being confident in your own decision. Remember that you are an individual with your own goals and wants in life. You cannot be one big group doing everything and anything together. You need that space and time to develop yourself and learn who you are. Sooner or later your parents and family will come around and get used to your decisions. This is not to advocate decisions that are morally and ethically wrong, but decisions such as going away for college, who to date, who to marry, etc.

  • @maxwelltaylor1360
    @maxwelltaylor1360 Рік тому +72

    Unsupportive, emotionally manipulative Asian family. This is way too real and relatable. Such a great short film

  • @MikeBSalazar
    @MikeBSalazar Рік тому +20

    Feels man. Last six months of high school I spent a lot of time with a girlfriend more than brother and other close friends before leaving for nursing school in the Philippines (I’m from NJ).
    Girl isnt in my life anymore but I’m blessed to retain the relationships I have with my family and friends despite the poor internet connection and not so regular communication.

  • @ileestrate6486
    @ileestrate6486 Рік тому +6

    Soooo relatable. From Midwest to California as well. Left 3 years ago, climbed in my career, bought a house and now in the process of moving my siblings and parents in. “…you can always take them with you…”

  • @harmoniaSINGS05
    @harmoniaSINGS05 Рік тому +14

    I lived in Indianapolis during my adolescence and the shots of the Midwest hit home to me. I agree, the opening shot and the children playing on 4th of July got me emotional AF.

    • @edbrann5768
      @edbrann5768 Рік тому +1

      Awesome cinematography. This is an outstanding production.

  • @jacquelynchin5513
    @jacquelynchin5513 Рік тому +7

    This film really said "i will come at you and your entire existence"

  • @loismaepatin5783
    @loismaepatin5783 Рік тому +30

    Hello ! I'm about to move out to college in a week. I could relate to this movie a lot, and it made me feel better knowing that other people went through the same sadness as my family and I. Thank you so much for this very well made movie ! I wish you the best from France !

  • @johnnoahhoomanawanui7785
    @johnnoahhoomanawanui7785 Рік тому +11

    The creative use of the 4th entwined with Victor’s path of choice, along w/ the etymology of names such as Victor & Nicole. While others address her as Nikki only his grandmother (whose memory is corrected but w/in whose Wisdom opens Victor’s eyes) calls her Nicole.
    Intentional or not, the gift of the cooking utensil is used as a double edged sword is also clever. To prune/sever/cut certain parts in order to grow as well as to cut/clear a path toward a new journey or path less travelled.
    ___
    On a personal note, as one of twelve siblings w/ numerous nephews & nieces when iWent away for school before mobile phones & digital cameras. As the first to attend college & graduate far away fr home, iAm thankful iHad handwritten letters, photos & memories!💖

  • @tumbleweed9977
    @tumbleweed9977 Рік тому +5

    One of the most realistic depictions I have seen. Great job with this short film. There are definitely some Asian nuances but I think a lot of people of all different cultures can relate to this story. The age old question: What you want, what your family wants, and what happens when it does not perfectly align.

  • @anneminette
    @anneminette Рік тому +13

    Wow! This was filmed in my hometown!! As soon as I saw Deri Delite, I knew it’s Aurora! Cool! 🇵🇭

  • @CampGravatt123
    @CampGravatt123 Рік тому +14

    This acting is really great from Sophia, the main guy, and the gf- they killed it fr! Edit bc I just got to the gma part and my allergies decided to kick in I guess😢

  • @midorchimidorchi8104
    @midorchimidorchi8104 Рік тому +6

    Never have I ever sobbed so much while watching a short film. This hit so close and so hard to home.

  • @labellavlogs
    @labellavlogs Рік тому +9

    Beautifully done video. Hits home a lot. This is definitely why I’ve been following wongfu every since. Great job guys.

  • @Wongsquared
    @Wongsquared Рік тому +7

    Damn that was absolutely beautiful. That ending scene and the looks the siblings gave eachother were perfect. It's subtle, yet clear and it really makes you feel what they feel. Even if you've never been in this situation it pulls on the heartstrings for a memory you never had.

  • @VictoriaDoose
    @VictoriaDoose Рік тому +7

    This is so well done. So so well done. Everyone in it felt so natural and authentic, the cinematography was beautiful, and even the emotionally fraught moments conveyed so much with body language and movement more than dialogue. I was in awe the whole time.

  • @pimsinghatiraj74
    @pimsinghatiraj74 Рік тому +6

    OMG! I saw this at a Chicago film fest! So exciting that it's made its way to Wong Fu!

  • @robd92
    @robd92 Рік тому +10

    This made me teary. I call my grandma mama, too. Haven't seen her in years 'cause of covid and its a bit risky to visit her because of her age (she's 92) and health.

  • @AlanChikinChow
    @AlanChikinChow Рік тому +12

    GO COLE NICOLE & SARI!!!!!!! 😍😍😍

  • @Takara8tt
    @Takara8tt Рік тому +7

    I was late to watch this, but wowww…this was beautifully filmed and written. My heart broke for Gabe so badly…that’s how I know y’all knocked it out off the park. My hearttttttttttttttttttttttttt 💔

  • @kimjulzillahful
    @kimjulzillahful Рік тому +3

    It never fails. I cry every single time I watch your videos. 😭

  • @jesscastaneda2006
    @jesscastaneda2006 Рік тому +9

    Wow that is such a powerful moving short film thank you so much for making it

  • @jennifernguyen9517
    @jennifernguyen9517 11 місяців тому +1

    Wow, this was a tear jerker- very relatable and well directed. The subtle moments caught said a thousand things. One of my favorite shorts so far, thank you for sharing!

  • @DC-sr7gu
    @DC-sr7gu Рік тому +4

    you guys make amazing videos. so thankful to have a channel like this. i agree this hits home alot!!!

  • @miXwui
    @miXwui Рік тому +2

    Thanks y'all for sharing such a beautiful message. I resonated with it and ugly cried, haha. I'm grateful Wong Fu is still putting out such wonderful shorts

  • @duskshadow25
    @duskshadow25 Рік тому +39

    It doesn't make sense to me that if Gab is going to a college he wants to go and pursue his own happiness but his family doesn't support that? You can't expect someone to stay with you because YOU want them to always be there 24/7. Not only is that selfish, but it's also very unsupportive and not understanding. If you actually care about their happiness, you should be supporting that person's decision and their dreams and goals in life. Most of all, give them the opportunity to discover and explore what more life has to offer, instead of just wanting them to stay in one place forever.
    The world is big out there. Every person you encounter has a story to tell. Just like certain places has limited access to a specific field, there are other places that are good for a particular field, you know? For example, if you grew up in a small town and want to pursue in music, but your home town doesn't really offer the growth you needed, then it makes sense to move to a bigger city for more growth and opportunities.
    We all have to leave our family one day. Ultimately, we are not going to live with them forever, because we all have our life to live. Just like when a bird grows old enough, that bird is going to eventually have to spread their wings and fly away and live their own life. We can't expect that bird to live as a kid forever. This is a natural way of life, and this is what makes life both beautiful and sad at the same time.
    A person only grows at their best when he is out of his comfort zone. If you're comfortable with where you're and not willing to go out of your comfort zone, then you are not really growing.

  • @shenadigans_
    @shenadigans_ Рік тому +5

    Beautifully done! 💛 Totally relatable for sure

  • @RibbidyJamGames
    @RibbidyJamGames Рік тому +2

    Nikki,Sophie and Gabe really did an amazing job on acting there characters. Really felt for each of them

  • @Flellz
    @Flellz Рік тому +4

    That was amazing. Well done!!

  • @nicholasgequillana2368
    @nicholasgequillana2368 Рік тому +3

    I am not going to lie. This feels like me right now. I have been away from home for a couple of years now but I feel like this a lot ever since I moved to my new city. Great video!

  • @fluffyandfez
    @fluffyandfez Рік тому +8

    damn this hits, thank you for this gift. (I recently lost my dad, and the feelings of family obligation weigh heavy on me too)

  • @filipinaaa
    @filipinaaa Рік тому +5

    i love this film.

  • @hatenotlove
    @hatenotlove Рік тому +2

    Ahhh the feels! And when run river north comes on at the end

  • @michellehsieh246
    @michellehsieh246 Рік тому +5

    WOO MIDWEST REPRESENT!!!

  • @sokhaychan7200
    @sokhaychan7200 Рік тому +2

    It has been three years since my last visit home back on 2019. And well, it is time to visit home again.

  • @TheHost345
    @TheHost345 Рік тому +11

    Being indifferent to the new girl/guy in the group. That's definitely Filipino lol

  • @kylerpolson4811
    @kylerpolson4811 Рік тому +4

    I love Sari from A.P. Bio!!!

  • @wishxjapxdrama
    @wishxjapxdrama Рік тому +2

    ahhhh run river north !! Love the story how I relate it so much 💛 I am still battling the decision of leaving home or not 😅

  • @shojikagami3336
    @shojikagami3336 Рік тому +2

    Great film indeed

  • @Crushest
    @Crushest Рік тому

    Love these short films! Very relatable on the manipulative family, at the moment some can't see beyond their own self reasoning. Hopefully that changed with time for the director. The scene with Mama was beautiful. Certainly emotions were stirred.

  • @LovelyMavi
    @LovelyMavi Рік тому +11

    is there a possibility of having a closed caption on for this film? I want to watch and understand what's going on as I am deaf.

    • @wongfupro
      @wongfupro  Рік тому +7

      Captions have been added! 🤓

  • @deepa6340
    @deepa6340 Рік тому +2

    This was excellent. ♡♡♡♡

  • @chelseaanne007
    @chelseaanne007 Рік тому +9

    Can there be a pt2 to this teleserye? I want to officially know what he says~

  • @jordannyboy4116
    @jordannyboy4116 Рік тому +5

    The beginning starts off soo strong to the point that I'm scared of watching the rest because of its accuracy

  • @wawawho18_adventures
    @wawawho18_adventures Рік тому +3

    this is a big family woooooooooooo

  • @He.theGoat
    @He.theGoat Рік тому +3

    This is so good

  • @thekristineway
    @thekristineway Рік тому +2

    this made me cry so much😭😭

  • @CobaltOnly1
    @CobaltOnly1 Рік тому +6

    But who ever is reading this Im literally going to be putting my whole soul into this writing…..
    I can relate to this film a lot a lot. I’m not going to lie I’m still going through this time to time. My dad wants to me to go to the military and I was suppose to leave right after I graduated high school but what made me stayed is my family and my best friends. I felt like the bonds and the memories that we made here is not going to be where ever I’m at. Don’t get me wrong starting a new chapter for my life is a good thing but starting all over, making new friends is mentally exhausting. Mentally I just don’t feel like trusting new people nor making new friends and that’s just me. It’s true, you can take the memories w/ you but once you leave, you start to naturally disconnect with your friends/families.

  • @OfficialCrystalSings
    @OfficialCrystalSings Рік тому +9

    Well if this doesn’t describe my life, I don’t know what does.

  • @mallickpriyanshu
    @mallickpriyanshu Рік тому +3

    ❤️

  • @kuroikittykat
    @kuroikittykat Рік тому +1

    So relatable. Family baggage.

  • @angelotigol7734
    @angelotigol7734 Рік тому +3

    Gabriel's family minus Lola were so cold to Nikki.

  • @blackdawg7361
    @blackdawg7361 Рік тому +1

    "It's So Hard to Say Goodbye to Yesterday" -- Boyz II Men (~ 1991) 😭
    Mom: "You can always take them with you if that's where you want to be." 😇

  • @Kevin-zl3ci
    @Kevin-zl3ci Рік тому +7

    Clicked faster than Usains bolt running record

    • @salazarf2
      @salazarf2 Рік тому

      Dain it took you 9 seconds. Boi you slow

  • @LouIse-ey7uq
    @LouIse-ey7uq Рік тому +1

    That dude is wearing “Iloilo” shirt. Cool, cool, cool

  • @tamvu2229
    @tamvu2229 Рік тому +2

    Bawling

  • @Jasmine-fu7qr
    @Jasmine-fu7qr Рік тому +4

    The opening scene is a nightmare for me.
    I have to brush alone it groses me out

  • @user-fl4mn4hy5f
    @user-fl4mn4hy5f Рік тому

    I don't see lumpia or palabok in this but it's well done

  • @user-fl4mn4hy5f
    @user-fl4mn4hy5f Рік тому

    Was this filmed in NY?I thought I heard Oswego during the shopping scene.. This has a Woodside Queens vibe..Too bad my family isn't close

  • @chrisleefox6420
    @chrisleefox6420 Рік тому +3

    I understand where guy is coming from, I have to live my life too. How they treat him is selfish, you can tell they don't even like he's girlfriend. But if shoe was on the other foot would they not do the same thing?

  • @MeggyPeggy
    @MeggyPeggy Рік тому

    🇵🇭

  • @noesuarez7940
    @noesuarez7940 Рік тому +1

    que los recuerdos no me pesen, que me impulsen😢

  • @AttyDara
    @AttyDara Рік тому

    If they use Kuya or Ate.. that would be more of a Fil drama 😊

  • @letechnicaljames
    @letechnicaljames Рік тому +1

    Aye I'm filipino

  • @Mainstream_bully_at_ur_service

    the guy moving to Cali looks like Keanu Reeves

  • @BloodiedJZ28
    @BloodiedJZ28 Рік тому

    I don't want to dissuade anyone from education but realize that nowadays traditional college is becoming less and less important while also becoming more and more of a burden, of course for some professions college is necessary, but alot of the time there are other paths you can take to get to your goal.

  • @Mstrickster2
    @Mstrickster2 Рік тому

    I felt so angry on Gabe's behalf midway through the film

  • @FiishLin
    @FiishLin Рік тому +2

    I kinda understand how Nicky felt. Not with his family though. With his friends. 😬

  • @yofoxjoke
    @yofoxjoke Рік тому +2

    why would they leave after hugging their grandma and not staying with her till the end? grandma looked way too energetic to be lying on the bed

  • @davidparnell1903
    @davidparnell1903 Рік тому

    Hi

  • @datruthmeowa5349
    @datruthmeowa5349 Рік тому +6

    wait a minute where nigahiga???/

  • @cuyaCT
    @cuyaCT Рік тому +7

    i think there’s a very compelling idea of wanting to stay when you need to leave, but i think the melodrama kind of drowned it out, in a very forced unnatural way.

  • @shadowblade19
    @shadowblade19 Рік тому

    Jesus, mom and dad needs a chastity belt.

  • @meng5495
    @meng5495 11 місяців тому

    So they brush their teeth and don’t wash their toothbrush or rinse

  • @lamingtond
    @lamingtond Рік тому

    wait so you don't need to rinse your mouth after you brush your teeth ??

    • @cookiesrock1999
      @cookiesrock1999 Рік тому

      Actually youre not supposed to wash your mouth out, you basically dont allow the toothpaste to do its job and kill bacteria.. you wait at least 30 minutes after brushing your teeth before drinking or eating :) have a lovely day dont wash your mouth out with water after you brush :)

  • @losangelos2
    @losangelos2 Рік тому +1

    I don't think this is an Asian theme exclusively. I know a lot of moms in other races who also guilt their kids into not leaving the family behind.

  • @helpmereach45ksubswithoutvideo

    Congrats to Everyone who is Early and Found this Comment 🏆

  • @BhoshuaBHOSH
    @BhoshuaBHOSH Рік тому +1

    I fell asleep mid way through what does the ending mean

  • @roye6961
    @roye6961 Рік тому

    4/10 for the effort

  • @sudiptochakma3351
    @sudiptochakma3351 Рік тому +4

    I missed old wongfu direction and script style

    • @saininj
      @saininj Рік тому +13

      The old stuff are definitely classics, but I'm glad they're giving new voices a chance to show their stuff. Representation is important.

    • @sudiptochakma3351
      @sudiptochakma3351 Рік тому +1

      @@saininj if they change their style that means they are not wongfu anymore.

    • @ChelyAmour
      @ChelyAmour Рік тому +11

      They’re not changing it they’re highlighting other creators lol. They still do their own scripted stuff

    • @jaocb178
      @jaocb178 Рік тому

      @@sudiptochakma3351 well this isn't even wong fu. This is wong fu sharing the work of others.

    • @mcCIDcombo
      @mcCIDcombo Рік тому +1

      @@sudiptochakma3351 It's so strange to read that this isn't "wong fu's style," when it is wong fu themselves presenting this content. It was uploaded here, and showcases are part of the channel's direction, so this IS wong fu style.

  • @07minsung
    @07minsung Рік тому +3

    All the Wong Fu videos are only all about sadness and touching. I am sick and tired of these stuff..

    • @saininj
      @saininj Рік тому +11

      Sadly, that's real life. 😢

    • @mr.q337
      @mr.q337 Рік тому +13

      Then you haven't seen hundreds of comedy bit they made???

  • @vivibanh7010
    @vivibanh7010 Рік тому +3

    Moving to the other side of the country in a few weeks 🥲 felt this