@@Call_Upon_YAHsilly protestant, you cant tell the differencr between veneration and worship Can you tell me which of the 36000 denominations I should partake in, and which made up theological opinion I should believe? Whats that, you cant? Is it maybe because protestantism has called the fall of the west? Cmon man, protestants cherry pick everything and make up their own silly arguments, join The Catholic Church.
@@Call_Upon_YAH The Catholic Church was commissioned by Christ to teach all nations and to teach them infallibly-guided, as He promised, by the Holy Spirit until the end of the world (see John 14:25, 16:13). The Church teaching something definitely true is a guarantee it is true (see Luke 10:16).
I remember studying this verse at my catholic school and the teacher who was a Dominican sister explained it so beautifully that it was emphasizing for wives to *ALLOW* themselves to be loved and served by their husbands. Submit yourself to his care devotion and love and to the love of the father. It’s easy for women to grow a tough skin in this cruel world and then it can be difficult to let a man love us they way should and trust them fully. ❤💜 one of my fav verses ever since then
But in light of all other scriptures it means women submit to their husbands since the husband is the leader and head of the household. He has full authority over all and in scholastic society would be the patriarch where all heads of the family would rule society
@@JohnCenaFan6298 John do you want Jesus Christ to rule you like you just claimed men should rule woman? .......nope. Jesus wouldnt ,you and i have free will. Do it in love or don't do it.
Healthy marriages ✝️ 💗 Sadly there are toxic relationships 😓 It's so important to Pray for people struggling 🙏 As Fr Mike says, when husband loves their wives as Jesus Loves us & the Church, then wives will be willing to submit. So true💗
Love it ❤ The good leader serves, like how Jesus stooped to washing the Disciples' feet. Also, "The man may be the head of the household, but the woman is the heart of it."
it is interesting that men and women are not given the same mission. Men love your wives. Wives, submit to your husbands. A truly loving husband is easy to submit to, if he loves the one whose interest he holds, because it will be for her good, too. That does not mean the relationship is unequal. It means the marriage is mutually surrendering, first to God's will, then to one another. That brings harmony.
Ephesians chapter 5 is a great passage it also has a rather interesting verse about the nature of the Eucharist. Ephesians 5:29-30 KJV 29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: 30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
The problem is that most men are not like that. Some are crazy, some have ocpd, some are liars and tricksters, some are physically abusive. That system is set up for an ideal conditions. So what are women supposed to do if the guy turns out to be far from ideal? How ideal must a guy be for a woman to submit? The church sort of glosses over that and paints a picture that if a woman submits, then the guy will love her in return. Because of that abusers really go after catholic girls who they see as easy targets. The church really needs to find better ways of dealing with domestic abuse.
I'm not saying he is wrong or that wives should not submit. But we really need to talk about what to do when things go wrong. Too often the response I see if a woman is in a domestic abuse situation is that she is shamed for choosing poorly and looked down on_ even if everyone approved of the guy beforehand.
Agreed! 100% As a man, I find it shameful that people in positions of influence seem to always avoid difficult situations like this and default to what a man's duties are within marriage, not what a woman is supposed to do when they're not being fulfilled. Most just default to showing disrespect and dishonor towards their husbands because they don't know better, which leads to further complications and women filing over 70% of divorces because they're not taught how to deal with a less than optimal husband.
Copying this here from a reply I made elsewhere: My understanding of “submitting to your husband” first assumes you took the time and trouble to discern and choose a husband whose faith and goals are the same as yours. The problem is we’ve grown up with a fairy tale understanding of marriage instead of the Church’s understanding of the Sacrament. Marriage is not supposed to be a fulfillment of whatever romantic notions or ambitions we’ve come up with for ourselves. Marriage and family are the vocations God intended for SOME of us (not ALL of us) to be able to make this pilgrim journey through life and get to heaven! Ok, so let’s say I made all the wrong choices in my youth, chose a husband who was NOT the perfect Christ-like bridegroom, but now I want him to be because THAT’s who I want to submit myself to. Now it becomes a question of discernment after the fact. Submission means not making decisions that affect your whole family without discussing with your husband how it will affect the whole family - like taking a job just because it fulfills MY ambition for my life/career without any thought for the consequences to my children, or buying property that would cripple the household, or pursuing any activity just because it makes ME and me alone feel good. Submission in this sense is NOT being a doormat or letting your husband make all the decisions because he’s in charge and you get no say. Leaving aside scenarios of actual abuse, most people find themselves in imperfect marriages and have to compromise. What we have to discern is whether the compromise is actually compromising our dignity, integrity, faith and morals or just compromising our personal desires and preferences. Husbands and wives are not always going to have the same desires and preferences. But if we keep in mind that the whole point is to help our partner in life and our children get to heaven, that’s the compass. To become a saint, and to help those around us become saints. That’s the goal. We’re not always going to be able to change our spouse’s mind or behavior, but we can pray and discern whether it’s really our own heart and mind or our behavior that should change.
I genuinely wonder why Paul used those words, submission and love. After all my years, I don’t see a difference between love and submission. I have to think Paul understood that as well. There are times when my husband leads, and times when I lead. It depends on the situation. But we both bend to the will of the other, because that’s what you do when you love.
the Church doesn't lead Christ just as a woman does not lead her husband. Likewise Christ doesn't obey the Church just as men don't obey their wives St. Paul was very clear. If you want, I can give you 7 or 8 other passages that make the role of man and wife perfectly clear
@@mathieuconklin3146ew. I definitely don’t obey my husband and he doesn’t obey me. Unless we’re talking sex, obeying each other sounds awful. He’s not my dad and I’m not his mother. No wonder Christian men expect their wife to cook and clean for them. Cus they can’t do it themselves and need a second mother.
That is probly one of the best interpretations I've ever heard. It paints a beautiful picture ... but ... I'm skeptical and don't think it will happen in today's world.
This is awesome. I never met that man. Probably because i was not dating a Godly ma If i had understood early in my life absolutely. I was thinking differently. Because most men wanted the submissive woman but not being a God fearing man.
The catholic view on marriage and their responsibilities despite being centuries old still is more progressive and inclusive that some protestant stances
Thank you Fr. Mike. It’s sometimes difficult but what is t. I didn’t marry till late do I was on my own for a while, but what about woman who never marry. What does the church say?
Yes,yes, and yes! If I had a husband who loves me like that, I definitely have no problem in being the most submitted wife. But sadly, they just want the submission and forgot the next line of the holy scripture. 😞
@BysoWills But they don't. My wife submits to me as the leader of my family, so I'm not talking about my marriage here. However, I see this problem all the time in my friends and family's marriages where the husband is pouring himself out for his family and the wife is dishonorable, disrespectful, undermines his authority over his children, and is frequently argumentative. I hate to see it and just wish people in positions of influence would acknowledge the problem that has been growing since 60s and stop telling men that their wives would submit to them if they were better husbands.
I know without a doubt my husband would lay down his life for me. I try to submit in most everything but sometimes I have trouble. It's everyday things. Example: We're building a deck and I have more experience building things, so I don't always submit when he wants to do something that will be crooked. Lol It sounds like a silly thing, but it's an everyday life thing. Sometimes, the woman is better at something or has more knowledge of something than her husband. How does that work?
So how and why are wives supposed to submit to their husbands? Still looking for someone brave enough to answer the question and not default to what the husband is supposed to do😕
By relying on her husband and submitting to his lead, men take on the responsibility of facing the world, and women need to be his support, in genesis, Eve is called a "helpmate". Its a parallel relationship, the two opposites work very well together
I’m not sure what sort of “brave” answer you’re looking for here. My understanding of “submitting to your husband” first assumes you took the time and trouble to discern and choose a husband whose faith and goals are the same as yours. The problem is we’ve grown up with a fairy tale understanding of marriage instead of the Church’s understanding of the Sacrament. Marriage is not supposed to be a fulfillment of whatever romantic notions or ambitions we’ve come up with for ourselves. Marriage and family are the vocations God intended for SOME of us (not ALL of us) to be able to make this pilgrim journey through life and get to heaven! Ok, so let’s say I made all the wrong choices in my youth, chose a husband who was NOT the perfect Christ-like bridegroom, but now I want him to be because THAT’s who I want to submit myself to. Now it becomes a question of discernment after the fact. Submission means not making decisions that affect your whole family without discussing with your husband how it will affect the whole family - like taking a job just because it fulfills MY ambition for my life/career without any thought for the consequences to my children, or buying property that would cripple the household, or pursuing any activity just because it makes ME and me alone feel good. Submission in this sense is NOT being a doormat or letting your husband make all the decisions because he’s in charge and you get no say. Leaving aside scenarios of actual abuse, most people find themselves in imperfect marriages and have to compromise. What we have to discern is whether the compromise is actually compromising our dignity, integrity, faith and morals or just compromising our personal desires and preferences. Husbands and wives are not always going to have the same desires and preferences. But if we keep in mind that the whole point is to help our partner in life and our children get to heaven, that’s the compass. To become a saint, and to help those around us become saints. That’s the goal. We’re not always going to be able to change our spouse’s mind or behavior, but we can pray and discern whether it’s really our own heart and mind or our behavior that should change.
@@powerhouse8310 Yes, I agree! I just wish someone in a position of influence would say it instead of trying to modify the meaning of "submit" or avoiding the woman's responsibility in marriage entirely.
@@joe5959 I agree! I just wish people of influence within the Church would say this instead of making it more complicated than it is and confusing people.
it's quite amusing when you think about it. Jesus, being the ultimate figure in charge, ended up being crucified. So, if we're striving to be like him, does that mean we're in for some 'crucifixion' of our own? Food for thought, isn't it?
Yes, we're in for some crucifixion. We are not called to relax in our salvation, but to take up HIS CROSS and follow Him. Very explicit. Every time we suffer, we are contributing to the cross. The Cross paid for our sins overabundantly, but we pitch in every single time we suffer for following the Lord. "Offer it up" is often overused but it's very important
What happened you have given your whole self to your wife, but she does not return the same. And will not let you grow to be a better leader for your family and God.
Heresy! Christ alone is the head of the Church. The Pope is his representative, but is not infallible in all things. Therefore, the pope is capable and has led people astray in history. We must always be wary of those in power here on earth.
No I wouldn’t. My husband does not submit to me nor I to him. There is no hierarchy in our marriage. Zero submission. We are 100% a team. A partnership. We freely and totally support and love each other. Sometimes it’s a little give and take but never ever does one of us take decisions into our own hands, whether that’s spiritual, financial, or otherwise. Compromising and making decisions together is how we thrive. The only submission there is is that we cannot control everything but we can control ourselves.
The wife then has usurped that role and she must choose to be meek and submissive and not fill in that space. And pray to the Lord for any issues. Pray to the Lord that the husband will take that first spot. It is not until wives vacate that spot and yield to their husbands that the Lord then can move His hand. Wives must pray that their husbands become the spiritual head of house and physical head of house. God will answer your prayers if you earnestly seek His will. We just have to get out of our own way and let go and let God. 🙏🏾✝️💓
@@terrorists-are-among-us if you as a woman chose a weak man you have no one to blame but yourself. But God can change hearts and wives must pray but their husbands to become leaders. They can still take care of the children and take care of business but still submit to their husbands. Without action, humility and submission nothing will change.
@YHWHlovesyou it been 41 years and I have tried but he doesn’t do his role as God states that the male is the head and wives are to summit I have but I do all the household things I manage the bills,kids,everything am just tried I do pray but it goes beyond that .Believe me I would live a husband that takes charges of all I do it all it not only him bringing the $$$ but I do it all I can’t take it no more
@@priscillasantiago7970Your husband should manage the bills and bring in the income for the household, but the rest is really up to you. I'm sorry it seems overwhelming for you. Maybe you should seek help from a fellow mother who seems to be handling things better.
Now Mike present a message that will lead people to accept Jesus Christ as their personal Lord and Savior. And be born again. So they could have a personal relationship with God not religion. And by the way there is no such place as purgatory. And don't teach them man-made traditions.
The Church isn't a religion. It is the bride of Christ. Protestants follow a man made religion which ignores the words of Jesus to follow the words of man. God bless
This is beautiful ♥️ when I was married, neither of us were actually walking with the Lord. First I have to say, you can’t truly love until Jesus shows you how. Most people love from their wounded souls. I have been taking care of myself most of my life. So as a wife I was incredibly controlling and always had to have the last word. No honor or respect. There is a heavenly hierarchy…Jesus is the head, then the husband, then the wife, then the children. This has nothing to do with abuse, manipulation, control, the man being better than the wife…oh man, has the world got it twisted. Some don’t see it because they can’t see it or comprehend it through the eyes of their wounded hearts/souls. This veils the eyes of our heart ❤️ we must allow the Lord to deliver us, cleanse us and open our spiritual eyes. If I get married again, our house will serve the Lord ❤I believe this is why the divorce rate is so high, the Lords not it
Our King isn’t English, so why do you say King instead of “malka?” Maybe because the original name isn’t that important. Yeshua was transliterated to Greek as Iesus, then to English as Jesus. It’s not an error, just a different language. St. Paul wrote His name in Greek, so why can’t we?
@@madmech153 Proper names never change...shua means saves Yeh or Yah is short for God YHVHS name...God Saves... Jesus means nothing close. Paul and the deciples back then would have said who is Jesus? They spoke Hebrew and knew him as Yeshua. Paul was blinded on the road and heard Messiah speak in a Hebrew tongue. Coin Greek shows Johns revelation of 666....chezus... Jesus... beware this false name and false image
Father Mike, your coloring on the video looks orange like. Is this an outside suntan? I've noticed this on several videos. Maybe a bit of powder would even out your skin tone for close up videos. Your messages however, aren't spotty or colored.😊
The only false thing said is that the husband isn't in charge. The husband is definitely in charge, just like how Jesus is in charge of the church (head of the church)
The focus is the leadership not the charge. The husband is still the head but he's telling the husbands to not focus on being in charge but, rather, being the sacrificial head of the family.
@@patman_for_sureperhaps the focus today needs to be reminding the husband that he is in charge, since it's the aspect of himself he's most forgotten.
The husband is in charge and he should be submitted to Christ. That is key. And if he's not yet really submitted to Christ the wife must pray into his submission to Christ. God answers our prayers especially when wives submit and show humility. The devil hates humility.
@@patman_for_sure fair enough. I've no idea with that nuanced explanation. My concern is the people who mistakenly believe that the man also doesn't inherently hold the natural role of the leader of When both the man and the woman, the husband and the wife, understands their respective roles in the marriage - the outpouring of the self in a daily sacrifice for the husband, as well as for the wife, in their respective, complementary way, there is then no need to explain natural law to either of them, since it comes naturally to God-fearing couples.
The husband needs to take charge then through sacrifice. Not by acting as a leader, but by acting as a caretaker. Only then will the wife "submit" and then in turn take care of the husband. It's not a matter of having separate rolls, but one takes the role first and offers a reign to the other. When the other feels safe and secure enough to take it, then a balance is found and a team is formed.
Divorces are plentiful yes, but I also see beautiful thriving couples built on decades of mutual selflessness. It can work if it's two healthy individuals coming together to love and benefit each other.
Then you are calling God a liar. This does work but most people's ego and pride get in the way. And there are so much freedom in a wife giving up control and that first place in a marriage. It is amazingly freeing. And the wife ends up feeling secure in actuality.
@@sandstorm7768Agreed, but Fr. Mike makes no reference to how a wife is to serve and submit to her husband. He just talks about everything the man is supposed to do and basically avoids the topic like everyone else does in our time. St Paul doesn't write "wives should submit to their husbands (if said husband loves the wife perfectly in all things as Christ loves the Church)." It is the wife's duty within marriage to follow her husband's lead and do as he asks her "everything," finances, public relations, child rearing, homemaking, etc. And it is the husbands duty to tend to the wife's every NEED(not want), physically, emotionally, and spiritually. It is also a husband's duty to make their wives holy by educating her in the Christian faith, correcting her secular tendencies(which women are more prone to than men), and maintaining the faith within the family through family prayer, penance, and participation with the local faith community. Nobody will be able to fulfill their duties perfectly all the time, but the message Fr. Mike is giving here let's wives off the hook if they convince themselves that their husband is not loving them to the level they think they deserve.
@@YHWHLovesYouI agree with you❤️ I don't like the modernist idea that Fr. Mike is espousing here that wives are to submit to their husbands IF the wife believes her husband is giving his all to her as Jesus did for the Church. It is reciprocal and both sides need to do their duty to the best of their ability, regardless of if they feel it's 50/50 or not. Everyone feels shortchanged in a relationship/ marriage sometimes, but that doesn't let you off the hook from your duties. If my wife shows me disrespect, I'm not going to falter on paying the power bill and make my wife freeze in the house, so why should she get to show me disrespect or dishonor if I'm not perfect in my duties as a husband at all times.
I heard a priest say once.. The English translation of scripture is sometimes, lacking... He went on to say that a better translation is, wives, relate to your husbands..
Heresy! Look at all the other language's translations and look up the words meaning. It is definitely a long the lines of submit/be subordinate/follow/be under.
@@traddydad1997 🤣 I relate to my relate comment. Husband and wife are equal in dignity.. their roles are different yet complement each other. I'll stick with my comment..
Well a King would also be bound by this same concept, and it’s epitomized by the ceremony of the washing of the feet. All true hierarchy is a hierarchy of service. That being said, their mission of service, in the case of the Pope, is to govern the Church and to protect the Church’s teaching and tradition, and in order to do that effectively, they have to wield the authority given to them by God for that purpose. It’s not for self glorification that they do this, though it’s a very easy temptation for us imperfect humans to fall into, but to show the dignity of the office which Christ Himself established and ultimately to give glory to God by making manifest the divine order and hierarchy that is part of God’s creation. Hope this helps brother
@@Jeff-fn2ww mere washing feet a day don't make a person servant. I've seen videos where people have to prostrate before Popes, that's not serving rather making someone serve. Roman Catholicism promotes that all regions lead to the same God. It cannot be Jesus Christ's Church.
Pope Francis is actually a great example of a humble pope. He wears simpler less flashy clothes, wishes to sit on wooden chairs instead of golden ones, lives in an appartment in Vatican City, etc. This question is one I wish to look into more. A friend of my pointed out the church loses approachability when it looks more like government than religion, and that struck me 👍
@@sandstorm7768 well, in that respect sort of, but I actually disagree with a lot of his reasoning for it. The office still needs to maintain a certain dignity, because people are by nature attracted to that and don’t respect authority without it. Francis tends to actually wield power very arbitrarily which isn’t a great look and seems to be forgetting that he is supposed to protect the Church’s doctrine, not form it.
@@sandstorm7768 no, Francis is a wolf in sheep's clothing. Just wearing simple clothes doesn't make a man simple. He is cunningly bending the truth like that of the bent cross. He even injected the idea into people mind that Jesus Christ's cross was a failure, all religions lead to the same God, muslim worship Jesus Christ's Father etc. Blasphemous!
Father.. no one can explain things better than you✝️🙏🏻🌹
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@@Call_Upon_YAHsilly protestant, you cant tell the differencr between veneration and worship
Can you tell me which of the 36000 denominations I should partake in, and which made up theological opinion I should believe?
Whats that, you cant?
Is it maybe because protestantism has called the fall of the west?
Cmon man, protestants cherry pick everything and make up their own silly arguments, join The Catholic Church.
@@Call_Upon_YAH
The Catholic Church was commissioned by Christ to teach all nations and to teach them infallibly-guided, as He promised, by the Holy Spirit until the end of the world (see John 14:25, 16:13). The Church teaching something definitely true is a guarantee it is true (see Luke 10:16).
A whole hearted 100% yes. I would happily submit to such Christ-like leadership.
Indeed, me as well. Gladly, cheerfully!
But would you still submit if he slacks sometimes...as all humans do?
I remember studying this verse at my catholic school and the teacher who was a Dominican sister explained it so beautifully that it was emphasizing for wives to *ALLOW* themselves to be loved and served by their husbands. Submit yourself to his care devotion and love and to the love of the father. It’s easy for women to grow a tough skin in this cruel world and then it can be difficult to let a man love us they way should and trust them fully. ❤💜 one of my fav verses ever since then
Are there resources of sisters teaching on this verse?
But in light of all other scriptures it means women submit to their husbands since the husband is the leader and head of the household. He has full authority over all and in scholastic society would be the patriarch where all heads of the family would rule society
@@JohnCenaFan6298 John do you want Jesus Christ to rule you like you just claimed men should rule woman? .......nope. Jesus wouldnt ,you and i have free will. Do it in love or don't do it.
Thank you for this perspective! I love the balance found in a marriage.
Healthy marriages ✝️ 💗
Sadly there are toxic relationships 😓 It's so important to Pray for people struggling 🙏 As Fr Mike says, when husband loves their wives as Jesus Loves us & the Church, then wives will be willing to submit. So true💗
Beautiful!!!❤❤😊🎉
May God bless all of you people and your families and your closest ones!🙏♥♥ AMEN!🙏☺
Yes, yes and yes! I wish more priests would explain this. 🙏♥️
Based father
Amen❣️ Thank you so much Fr. Mike. God Bless you always 🙏🏻
That was BEAUTIFUL!
Thank you, Fr. Mike
Thank you Fr. Mike ❤
Lead like Jesus 👍 👌 🙏❤
Glory be to the Father,and to the Son,and to the Holy Spirit:As it was in the beginning, is now, and ever shall be, world without end. Amen.🙏♥♥♥☺
Love it ❤ The good leader serves, like how Jesus stooped to washing the Disciples' feet.
Also, "The man may be the head of the household, but the woman is the heart of it."
Amen, and God Bless you Father Mike!
Thank you Fr Mike. GBU.
Most people can't understand the true meaning of christian marriage. What he just said is actually the essence of Christian life ❤
it is interesting that men and women are not given the same mission. Men love your wives. Wives, submit to your husbands. A truly loving husband is easy to submit to, if he loves the one whose interest he holds, because it will be for her good, too. That does not mean the relationship is unequal. It means the marriage is mutually surrendering, first to God's will, then to one another. That brings harmony.
Submit another word is response if a husband hugs you respond to his love -of course that’s easy to submit to voluntarily ❤
May the Lord God give us strength and courage and may the Virgin Mary pray for us so that we take up and carry our cross every day!🙏🙏🙏♥☺
O glorious THRONE of GRACE, IMMACULATE HEART of MARY, Most Faithful Spouse of the Holy Spirit, TRIUMPH & REIGN in ALL hearts +
Almighty God, be merciful to us and bless us!🙏♥♥☺
Ephesians chapter 5 is a great passage it also has a rather interesting verse about the nature of the Eucharist.
Ephesians 5:29-30 KJV
29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:
30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
Great word.
Holy Mary Mother of God and all God's saints pray for us!🙏♥♥☺
Amen
The problem is that most men are not like that. Some are crazy, some have ocpd, some are liars and tricksters, some are physically abusive. That system is set up for an ideal conditions. So what are women supposed to do if the guy turns out to be far from ideal? How ideal must a guy be for a woman to submit? The church sort of glosses over that and paints a picture that if a woman submits, then the guy will love her in return. Because of that abusers really go after catholic girls who they see as easy targets. The church really needs to find better ways of dealing with domestic abuse.
I'm not saying he is wrong or that wives should not submit. But we really need to talk about what to do when things go wrong. Too often the response I see if a woman is in a domestic abuse situation is that she is shamed for choosing poorly and looked down on_ even if everyone approved of the guy beforehand.
And to be fair of the church- I don't think the secular world handles it very well either.
Men cant even find virgin wifes anymore and women have opinions now unlike the old times so it’s difficult for men to lead a manly wife with arguments
Agreed! 100%
As a man, I find it shameful that people in positions of influence seem to always avoid difficult situations like this and default to what a man's duties are within marriage, not what a woman is supposed to do when they're not being fulfilled. Most just default to showing disrespect and dishonor towards their husbands because they don't know better, which leads to further complications and women filing over 70% of divorces because they're not taught how to deal with a less than optimal husband.
Copying this here from a reply I made elsewhere:
My understanding of “submitting to your husband” first assumes you took the time and trouble to discern and choose a husband whose faith and goals are the same as yours. The problem is we’ve grown up with a fairy tale understanding of marriage instead of the Church’s understanding of the Sacrament. Marriage is not supposed to be a fulfillment of whatever romantic notions or ambitions we’ve come up with for ourselves. Marriage and family are the vocations God intended for SOME of us (not ALL of us) to be able to make this pilgrim journey through life and get to heaven!
Ok, so let’s say I made all the wrong choices in my youth, chose a husband who was NOT the perfect Christ-like bridegroom, but now I want him to be because THAT’s who I want to submit myself to. Now it becomes a question of discernment after the fact. Submission means not making decisions that affect your whole family without discussing with your husband how it will affect the whole family - like taking a job just because it fulfills MY ambition for my life/career without any thought for the consequences to my children, or buying property that would cripple the household, or pursuing any activity just because it makes ME and me alone feel good.
Submission in this sense is NOT being a doormat or letting your husband make all the decisions because he’s in charge and you get no say. Leaving aside scenarios of actual abuse, most people find themselves in imperfect marriages and have to compromise. What we have to discern is whether the compromise is actually compromising our dignity, integrity, faith and morals or just compromising our personal desires and preferences. Husbands and wives are not always going to have the same desires and preferences. But if we keep in mind that the whole point is to help our partner in life and our children get to heaven, that’s the compass. To become a saint, and to help those around us become saints. That’s the goal. We’re not always going to be able to change our spouse’s mind or behavior, but we can pray and discern whether it’s really our own heart and mind or our behavior that should change.
Glory to Christ!🙏♥♥
And may our Heavenly Mother bless and protect all of you people and your families and your closest ones!🙏♥♥ AMEN!🙏☺
Beautiful, just as God intended.
You are a blessing to hear this father. I am in distress.
So sorry to hear you are in distress. Get the help you need and pray to Mary.
wow. thank you for this.
Well said!
🥰Amén!
I genuinely wonder why Paul used those words, submission and love. After all my years, I don’t see a difference between love and submission. I have to think Paul understood that as well. There are times when my husband leads, and times when I lead. It depends on the situation. But we both bend to the will of the other, because that’s what you do when you love.
the Church doesn't lead Christ just as a woman does not lead her husband.
Likewise Christ doesn't obey the Church just as men don't obey their wives
St. Paul was very clear. If you want, I can give you 7 or 8 other passages that make the role of man and wife perfectly clear
@@mathieuconklin3146ew. I definitely don’t obey my husband and he doesn’t obey me. Unless we’re talking sex, obeying each other sounds awful. He’s not my dad and I’m not his mother. No wonder Christian men expect their wife to cook and clean for them. Cus they can’t do it themselves and need a second mother.
Amen, Amen
I wish I heard that from either my father or husband
We all want to submit to Jesus. A man who imitates Jesus will inspire his wife to be one with him in every way.
That is probly one of the best interpretations I've ever heard. It paints a beautiful picture ... but ... I'm skeptical and don't think it will happen in today's world.
Amen 🙏
This is awesome. I never met that man. Probably because i was not dating a Godly ma
If i had understood early in my life absolutely. I was thinking differently. Because most men wanted the submissive woman but not being a God fearing man.
YES!!...I most certainly would. In a heartbeat! 💓
And what if he falters sometimes, like all humans do?
The catholic view on marriage and their responsibilities despite being centuries old still is more progressive and inclusive that some protestant stances
Thank you Fr. Mike. It’s sometimes difficult but what is t. I didn’t marry till late do I was on my own for a while, but what about woman who never marry. What does the church say?
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ABSOLUTELY!
Excellent explanation!
Yes,yes, and yes! If I had a husband who loves me like that, I definitely have no problem in being the most submitted wife. But sadly, they just want the submission and forgot the next line of the holy scripture. 😞
God help me to be the best boyfriend/husband at your appointed time
They would have...then we had the modern age, everyday more and more will not
Yes, women will submit to a perfect husband. That isn't the problem. Women need to know what to do if they're stuck in a less than ideal situation.
@BysoWills But they don't. My wife submits to me as the leader of my family, so I'm not talking about my marriage here. However, I see this problem all the time in my friends and family's marriages where the husband is pouring himself out for his family and the wife is dishonorable, disrespectful, undermines his authority over his children, and is frequently argumentative. I hate to see it and just wish people in positions of influence would acknowledge the problem that has been growing since 60s and stop telling men that their wives would submit to them if they were better husbands.
@BysoWillsWhy is the woman's role conditional on the man being good, but the man must love regardless of the woman?
I know without a doubt my husband would lay down his life for me. I try to submit in most everything but sometimes I have trouble.
It's everyday things. Example: We're building a deck and I have more experience building things, so I don't always submit when he wants to do something that will be crooked. Lol
It sounds like a silly thing, but it's an everyday life thing. Sometimes, the woman is better at something or has more knowledge of something than her husband. How does that work?
God bless❤
So how and why are wives supposed to submit to their husbands? Still looking for someone brave enough to answer the question and not default to what the husband is supposed to do😕
In all things that isn’t sin. That’s the answer given by the fathers, saints, and Scripture.
By relying on her husband and submitting to his lead, men take on the responsibility of facing the world, and women need to be his support, in genesis, Eve is called a "helpmate".
Its a parallel relationship, the two opposites work very well together
I’m not sure what sort of “brave” answer you’re looking for here. My understanding of “submitting to your husband” first assumes you took the time and trouble to discern and choose a husband whose faith and goals are the same as yours. The problem is we’ve grown up with a fairy tale understanding of marriage instead of the Church’s understanding of the Sacrament. Marriage is not supposed to be a fulfillment of whatever romantic notions or ambitions we’ve come up with for ourselves. Marriage and family are the vocations God intended for SOME of us (not ALL of us) to be able to make this pilgrim journey through life and get to heaven!
Ok, so let’s say I made all the wrong choices in my youth, chose a husband who was NOT the perfect Christ-like bridegroom, but now I want him to be because THAT’s who I want to submit myself to. Now it becomes a question of discernment after the fact. Submission means not making decisions that affect your whole family without discussing with your husband how it will affect the whole family - like taking a job just because it fulfills MY ambition for my life/career without any thought for the consequences to my children, or buying property that would cripple the household, or pursuing any activity just because it makes ME and me alone feel good.
Submission in this sense is NOT being a doormat or letting your husband make all the decisions because he’s in charge and you get no say. Leaving aside scenarios of actual abuse, most people find themselves in imperfect marriages and have to compromise. What we have to discern is whether the compromise is actually compromising our dignity, integrity, faith and morals or just compromising our personal desires and preferences. Husbands and wives are not always going to have the same desires and preferences. But if we keep in mind that the whole point is to help our partner in life and our children get to heaven, that’s the compass. To become a saint, and to help those around us become saints. That’s the goal. We’re not always going to be able to change our spouse’s mind or behavior, but we can pray and discern whether it’s really our own heart and mind or our behavior that should change.
@@powerhouse8310 Yes, I agree! I just wish someone in a position of influence would say it instead of trying to modify the meaning of "submit" or avoiding the woman's responsibility in marriage entirely.
@@joe5959 I agree! I just wish people of influence within the Church would say this instead of making it more complicated than it is and confusing people.
it's quite amusing when you think about it. Jesus, being the ultimate figure in charge, ended up being crucified. So, if we're striving to be like him, does that mean we're in for some 'crucifixion' of our own? Food for thought, isn't it?
Yes, we're in for some crucifixion. We are not called to relax in our salvation, but to take up HIS CROSS and follow Him. Very explicit.
Every time we suffer, we are contributing to the cross. The Cross paid for our sins overabundantly, but we pitch in every single time we suffer for following the Lord.
"Offer it up" is often overused but it's very important
The problem is... where are these men?
Their wives are leaving them because of female empowerment
What happened you have given your whole self to your wife, but she does not return the same. And will not let you grow to be a better leader for your family and God.
It just works best!❤
Further, if the Vicar of Christ is the head of the church then we the laity bride should submit.
Heresy! Christ alone is the head of the Church. The Pope is his representative, but is not infallible in all things. Therefore, the pope is capable and has led people astray in history. We must always be wary of those in power here on earth.
@@traddydad1997 No, the Pope is the head of the Catholic Church on Jesus's authority. Do you know what heresy is? You are actually expressing heresy.
Amen
No, I will not submit. We are equals in the sight of God.
No I wouldn’t. My husband does not submit to me nor I to him. There is no hierarchy in our marriage. Zero submission. We are 100% a team. A partnership. We freely and totally support and love each other. Sometimes it’s a little give and take but never ever does one of us take decisions into our own hands, whether that’s spiritual, financial, or otherwise. Compromising and making decisions together is how we thrive. The only submission there is is that we cannot control everything but we can control ourselves.
What if husband don’t but the wives are more like the role of the husband what then father Mike??
The wife then has usurped that role and she must choose to be meek and submissive and not fill in that space. And pray to the Lord for any issues. Pray to the Lord that the husband will take that first spot. It is not until wives vacate that spot and yield to their husbands that the Lord then can move His hand. Wives must pray that their husbands become the spiritual head of house and physical head of house. God will answer your prayers if you earnestly seek His will. We just have to get out of our own way and let go and let God. 🙏🏾✝️💓
@@terrorists-are-among-us if you as a woman chose a weak man you have no one to blame but yourself. But God can change hearts and wives must pray but their husbands to become leaders. They can still take care of the children and take care of business but still submit to their husbands. Without action, humility and submission nothing will change.
@YHWHlovesyou it been 41 years and I have tried but he doesn’t do his role as God states that the male is the head and wives are to summit I have but I do all the household things I manage the bills,kids,everything am just tried I do pray but it goes beyond that .Believe me I would live a husband that takes charges of all I do it all it not only him bringing the $$$ but I do it all I can’t take it no more
@@priscillasantiago7970Your husband should manage the bills and bring in the income for the household, but the rest is really up to you. I'm sorry it seems overwhelming for you. Maybe you should seek help from a fellow mother who seems to be handling things better.
The husband has authority whether he is weak or not. It is God given objective authority that solely belongs to the man
Submit how?
Now Mike present a message that will lead people to accept Jesus Christ as their personal Lord and Savior. And be born again. So they could have a personal relationship with God not religion. And by the way there is no such place as purgatory. And don't teach them man-made traditions.
The Church isn't a religion. It is the bride of Christ. Protestants follow a man made religion which ignores the words of Jesus to follow the words of man. God bless
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“Be subordinate to one another out of reverence for Christ." 🤔 You missed that part 😂
Remember God Said Not To Put Any Name Above Him Or Next To Him Or Beside Him
Heaven God Doesn’t share His Glory With Anyone and On Earth , There Is No Name Above Him 👍
@@chrisnorcutt9060 you are implying Ephesians should have said to only be subordinate to God?
I always thought husbands had the more difficult role
This is beautiful ♥️ when I was married, neither of us were actually walking with the Lord. First I have to say, you can’t truly love until Jesus shows you how. Most people love from their wounded souls. I have been taking care of myself most of my life. So as a wife I was incredibly controlling and always had to have the last word. No honor or respect. There is a heavenly hierarchy…Jesus is the head, then the husband, then the wife, then the children. This has nothing to do with abuse, manipulation, control, the man being better than the wife…oh man, has the world got it twisted. Some don’t see it because they can’t see it or comprehend it through the eyes of their wounded hearts/souls. This veils the eyes of our heart ❤️ we must allow the Lord to deliver us, cleanse us and open our spiritual eyes. If I get married again, our house will serve the Lord ❤I believe this is why the divorce rate is so high, the Lords not it
Jesus? You mean Joshua or Yeshua...our King is Not Greek...the scribes are in error
Our King isn’t English, so why do you say King instead of “malka?” Maybe because the original name isn’t that important. Yeshua was transliterated to Greek as Iesus, then to English as Jesus. It’s not an error, just a different language. St. Paul wrote His name in Greek, so why can’t we?
@@madmech153 Proper names never change...shua means saves Yeh or Yah is short for God YHVHS name...God Saves... Jesus means nothing close. Paul and the deciples back then would have said who is Jesus? They spoke Hebrew and knew him as Yeshua. Paul was blinded on the road and heard Messiah speak in a Hebrew tongue. Coin Greek shows Johns revelation of 666....chezus... Jesus... beware this false name and false image
Father Mike, your coloring on the video looks orange like. Is this an outside suntan?
I've noticed this on several videos.
Maybe a bit of powder would even out your skin tone for close up videos.
Your messages however, aren't spotty or colored.😊
The only false thing said is that the husband isn't in charge. The husband is definitely in charge, just like how Jesus is in charge of the church (head of the church)
The focus is the leadership not the charge.
The husband is still the head but he's telling the husbands to not focus on being in charge but, rather, being the sacrificial head of the family.
@@patman_for_sureperhaps the focus today needs to be reminding the husband that he is in charge, since it's the aspect of himself he's most forgotten.
The husband is in charge and he should be submitted to Christ. That is key. And if he's not yet really submitted to Christ the wife must pray into his submission to Christ. God answers our prayers especially when wives submit and show humility. The devil hates humility.
@@patman_for_sure fair enough. I've no idea with that nuanced explanation. My concern is the people who mistakenly believe that the man also doesn't inherently hold the natural role of the leader of
When both the man and the woman, the husband and the wife, understands their respective roles in the marriage - the outpouring of the self in a daily sacrifice for the husband, as well as for the wife, in their respective, complementary way, there is then no need to explain natural law to either of them, since it comes naturally to God-fearing couples.
The husband needs to take charge then through sacrifice. Not by acting as a leader, but by acting as a caretaker. Only then will the wife "submit" and then in turn take care of the husband. It's not a matter of having separate rolls, but one takes the role first and offers a reign to the other. When the other feels safe and secure enough to take it, then a balance is found and a team is formed.
This sounds nice, but doesn't work in reality.
It does actually.
Marriages are this right now.
Divorces are plentiful yes, but I also see beautiful thriving couples built on decades of mutual selflessness. It can work if it's two healthy individuals coming together to love and benefit each other.
Then you are calling God a liar. This does work but most people's ego and pride get in the way. And there are so much freedom in a wife giving up control and that first place in a marriage. It is amazingly freeing. And the wife ends up feeling secure in actuality.
@@sandstorm7768Agreed, but Fr. Mike makes no reference to how a wife is to serve and submit to her husband. He just talks about everything the man is supposed to do and basically avoids the topic like everyone else does in our time. St Paul doesn't write "wives should submit to their husbands (if said husband loves the wife perfectly in all things as Christ loves the Church)." It is the wife's duty within marriage to follow her husband's lead and do as he asks her "everything," finances, public relations, child rearing, homemaking, etc. And it is the husbands duty to tend to the wife's every NEED(not want), physically, emotionally, and spiritually. It is also a husband's duty to make their wives holy by educating her in the Christian faith, correcting her secular tendencies(which women are more prone to than men), and maintaining the faith within the family through family prayer, penance, and participation with the local faith community. Nobody will be able to fulfill their duties perfectly all the time, but the message Fr. Mike is giving here let's wives off the hook if they convince themselves that their husband is not loving them to the level they think they deserve.
@@YHWHLovesYouI agree with you❤️
I don't like the modernist idea that Fr. Mike is espousing here that wives are to submit to their husbands IF the wife believes her husband is giving his all to her as Jesus did for the Church. It is reciprocal and both sides need to do their duty to the best of their ability, regardless of if they feel it's 50/50 or not. Everyone feels shortchanged in a relationship/ marriage sometimes, but that doesn't let you off the hook from your duties. If my wife shows me disrespect, I'm not going to falter on paying the power bill and make my wife freeze in the house, so why should she get to show me disrespect or dishonor if I'm not perfect in my duties as a husband at all times.
Nope. Not submitting to anyone based on their anatomy.
Not based on anatomy but on the directive of God.
You don't have to? Marriage is/should a voluntary act done out of love for the other person.
I heard a priest say once.. The English translation of scripture is sometimes, lacking... He went on to say that a better translation is, wives, relate to your husbands..
Heresy! Look at all the other language's translations and look up the words meaning. It is definitely a long the lines of submit/be subordinate/follow/be under.
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🤣 I relate to my relate comment.
Husband and wife are equal in dignity.. their roles are different yet complement each other.
I'll stick with my comment..
Why do Popes don't live like servants, instead they live like kings?
Well a King would also be bound by this same concept, and it’s epitomized by the ceremony of the washing of the feet. All true hierarchy is a hierarchy of service. That being said, their mission of service, in the case of the Pope, is to govern the Church and to protect the Church’s teaching and tradition, and in order to do that effectively, they have to wield the authority given to them by God for that purpose. It’s not for self glorification that they do this, though it’s a very easy temptation for us imperfect humans to fall into, but to show the dignity of the office which Christ Himself established and ultimately to give glory to God by making manifest the divine order and hierarchy that is part of God’s creation. Hope this helps brother
@@Jeff-fn2ww mere washing feet a day don't make a person servant. I've seen videos where people have to prostrate before Popes, that's not serving rather making someone serve.
Roman Catholicism promotes that all regions lead to the same God. It cannot be Jesus Christ's Church.
Pope Francis is actually a great example of a humble pope. He wears simpler less flashy clothes, wishes to sit on wooden chairs instead of golden ones, lives in an appartment in Vatican City, etc.
This question is one I wish to look into more. A friend of my pointed out the church loses approachability when it looks more like government than religion, and that struck me 👍
@@sandstorm7768 well, in that respect sort of, but I actually disagree with a lot of his reasoning for it. The office still needs to maintain a certain dignity, because people are by nature attracted to that and don’t respect authority without it. Francis tends to actually wield power very arbitrarily which isn’t a great look and seems to be forgetting that he is supposed to protect the Church’s doctrine, not form it.
@@sandstorm7768 no, Francis is a wolf in sheep's clothing. Just wearing simple clothes doesn't make a man simple. He is cunningly bending the truth like that of the bent cross.
He even injected the idea into people mind that Jesus Christ's cross was a failure, all religions lead to the same God, muslim worship Jesus Christ's Father etc. Blasphemous!
Amen