I've actually been blessed by all of your sermons. The only one I've had issues with was the explanation of open theism. But no one really understands us. Lol.
One day I’d like to address open theism again and to do so in a way where you would say “that’s an accurate representation”, even if we don’t agree at the end of it. Feel free to offer me any insights where you think I got it wrong. I take correction as a kindness.
I know you do! Which is why I love your sermons. There is a book from, the 90s that really defined it called The Openess of God. Open theism is more about creation than God... kind of. It says that God DOES and HAS soverignly intervened in history, eg Jesus, but for the most part the future is unsettled. It also says God knows all possible futures at any given moment. He also knows the end... which He's told us about in Matthew 24 and revelation. I could go on forever. God Bless you, sir. I appreciate your ministry. Keep speaking the truth.
Maybe one day you could find at least one tiny piece of EVIDENCE that your invisible god is real, and show it to everybody. Then you could stop PRETENDING to know things you do not know.
@@framboise595 wow you are really camped out on this video. The bible doesn't command us to get married but it does tell us not to commit adultery so if you want to have sex or have children then you should get married.
@@framboise595 You're correct in the fact that Paul does elevate singleness as a higher calling for the church because a single man focuses on the things of the Lord (see the video for scripture reference), but if you can't handle being single, then get married. The other reason is that in Genesis, God gave Adam and Eve the commandment to be fruitful and multiply, and it makes it clear that the only place we can do that is through the covenant of marriage. I'm not sure why you're so angry over this, I was just commenting my thoughts.
You’ve saved my marriage. I’ve been no husband and I didn’t understand what God called me to in the ministry of my wife. My family is changed because God delivered. He always does. Thank you so much for this video. God bless you brother!
@@framboise595 the hate you spew everywhere... nonstop You really are not a spirit filled, humble, born again Christian, are you? It becomes pretty apparent to anyone reading all the nasty paragraphs you're posting throughout this guys youtube channel
Psalm 18:35 Thou hast also given me the shield of thy salvation: and thy right hand hath holden me up, and thy gentleness hath made me great James 3:17 But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, and easy to be intreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy Psalm 111:4 He hath made his wonderful works to be remembered: the Lord is gracious and full of compassion Matthew 11:28-30 King James Version 28 Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light. Galatians 5:22-23 King James Version 22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, 23 Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law 1 John 4:8 He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love Jeremiah 50:32 And the most proud shall stumble and fall, and none shall raise him up: Malachi 4:1 For, behold, the day cometh, that shall burn as an oven; and all the proud, yea, and all that do wickedly, shall be stubble: and the day that cometh shall burn them up, saith the Lord of hosts, that it shall leave them neither root nor branch James 4:6 But he giveth more grace. Wherefore he saith, God resisteth the proud, but giveth grace unto the humble Proverbs 28:25 He that is of a proud heart stirreth up strife: but he that putteth his trust in the Lord shall be made fat Hosea 5:15 King James Version 15 I will go and return to my place, till they acknowledge their offence, and seek my face: in their affliction they will seek me early
@Slave Of Christ So now you are going to LIE and PRETEND to know what I think as well? What a PATHETIC fraud you are. It is obvious to everyone following along that you are only LYING about what I think because you have ZERO evidence for your invisible god. You aren't fooling anyone.
Nicholas Flamel God exists because the world is sinful, and He is teaching us how to go against the culture to live as a better human being. If God didn’t exist, humans will tear themselves apart because of sin.
Technically he's in the wrong on this one! This is the kind of preaching that we get from 501 c 3 churches whose sermons are pre-approved by the IRS according to the bylaws agreed to in order to stay nonprofit. If he told the biblical truth it would enrage feminist because feminists do not have a goal of equality as men and women are clearly not equal today in fact women will be more likely believed in court without any evidence, I've seen it myself
My husband is like this. His patience and love have revealed a lot of the flaws in my own character. I was kind of young and immature when we got married. God has used him to help me change and grow. I am really grateful for my husband.
My husbands really depressed. I dont feel his active love. I'm trying to follow him and stay on his side. Meaning, I don't want to lose my temper at him or talk down to him. We still fiight, though. Its hard being with someone who rarely has anything positive to say about life and shows very little gratitude or affection. Hes a good man though. He does everything he needs to take care of me and our baby. He has so much weight on his shoulders. Anyone reading this, please pray for my husband. We have a beautiful baby girl that needs his presence.
I’m losing my relationship of 8 years and I feel like if I would follow god’s words from the begging of my marriage I wouldn’t be in this situation. Lord give me the strength to win her love back.
I’m praying for you!! Keep coming to Christ. I mean set aside an hour a day for him. Start your day in the Lords presence of a quiet place with you and him! Repent and put your trust in Christ. Also if there is anyone you haven’t forgiven, forgive them for we are called to forgive because Christ forgave us first.
@@framboise595 I love to converse and my purpose here isn't to tell you that you are wrong but rather to find some middle ground to our views!! There is no doubt that in the Bible you can see the Lords gentleness, but also his judgement and severity. We see that Christ both laid himself down on the cross for his bride willfully, but he will also return in an epic and violent manner to retrieve her. I believe to understand what Mike Winger is saying we should first take a look at the consequences to the fallen nature in Genesis 3 and see how it relates to the redeemed state we now have in Christ. Specific to the woman, her consequences would be that her pain in child bearing would be multiplied. By the style of language it implies it would be more severe pain than the pain that already existed. In addition, it says that her desires would be contrary to her husband, BUT that her husband would rule over her. Again we can imply the opposite that prior to the fallen nature, her desires were once in partnership and in harmony with her husband vs opposing him because of the new presence of the sinful nature. In addition, prior to the fall, her husbands nature with her was in partnership, but now in their fallen and sinful state, her husbands nature is to rule over his wife out of the consequence of Sin. My next point would be to present what Christ did for us on the cross in relation to the original consequences of our fallen nature. His blood is now our representation of purity and righteousness before a God. Through the power of the Holy Spirit, we can operate, think, feel, speak and do as originally intended (Prior to the fall) as Children of God. A wife's desire to be in opposition to her husband is now atoned for by the sacrifice of Christ. Does that mean her sinful nature to be in opposition will no longer be there? ABSOLUTELY NOT! Her case is no longer subject to her husband but rather directly to God because of her redeemed state in Christ. This is why Paul in Romans 8 says we should not abolish the Law but continue to Love it because it reveals to us our fallen state. When our eyes are opened to our sinful and fallen state, it ought to humble us because our destiny should be eternal death vs the present which is full redemption in Christ. As a Husband, I can no longer judge my wife by the standards of our fallen nature but rather that of the atoned state of Christ. Now that doesn't mean we ought to be ignorant of the sinfulness that may exist in a husband and wife relationship, but the manner in which we handle such instances are paved by the example Christ gave us and what Paul directly reference to in Ephesians 5 which is to be self sacrificing (From the POV of a husband). The Washing of her bride is simply making her aware of her sinful nature and the now redeemed state of deliverance we have in Christ (The living word). Personally in my marriage, I have found this model to be most fruitful. Just because I choose to show love and grace to my wife does not mean I will not correct her for her wrongdoings, no differently than she would do to addresses mine. Now...What that person chooses to do with their sin is their own choice and between God and them. For example, let’s say I address my wife for being disrespectful. Let’s say she called me a bad name in front of a group of friends because I disagreed with her view. A Godly response would be that she adheres FIRST to the word that commands her to respect me. BUT if she chooses not to, that is her contempt with the scriptures, not me as her husband. I then will have to ask myself if greater is my desire to be respected, or for my wife to recognize her rebellion towards God. If I ask myself that question first, I can then operate as Christ did. Ideally I will be given supernatural wisdom, knowledge or abilities to convince my wife of her actions. But most of the time its plain old and reliable prayer and dependency on the Holy Spirit that will change the heart of any human being, including my wife. I can go on for pages on this and I would love to further the conversate! Please share with me your view! I only wish to bring context to what has been said to Winger and my respect for his view. Thanks and many blessings to you.
@ Saad Bin Masud that is not Biblically correct at all. If my husband does wrong to me, I will try and show him the love of Jesus. There is nothing wrong with that. I would hope my husband loves me enough to do the same for me.
@@framboise595 You can't really use the results of using power as an argument that women are impressed by power. It's just how power works - _it's power_ - so since women are generally weaker it just trumps rebellion with sheer force. You can't count on taming rebellion in women's hearts this way. And history should tell you that as well. Also, as a woman, love and kindness impresses me, as it is most certainly God who worked in my heart so my heart desires righteousness, and not any guy or any human, and therefore I seek it because I seek God, and therefore a man who acts like God does, i.e. with love and kindness, yet firm on what is right, as God has done in my life time and time again, that is what impresses, and that is what further encourages me to seek righteousness. And of course righteousness is _not_ rebellion against God. I could never be intimate with anyone who just brute forces everything. And I mean that not just in a husband and wife sense, but any type of relationship. Friendship, parent-child relationship, or spouce relationship - I wouldn't be emotionally intimate with such a person. However, I think what you wrote is the fruit of recognizing something very important which many people miss. Some men are kind and loving as a way to get their wife to stop yelling, stop making fights. That alone is disasterous. A man should work on issues. It's not the women's responsibility to take care of emotional issues, it's not a "female thing", it's very much a male thing as well and men should put in effort to work out whatever needs to be worked out. If a man is firmly standing on God's word then there is no need to worry his wife would manipulate him and what not. Just pray, seek God's Kingdom first, be consistent in that, and God will reveal to you whatever you need. God will make you firm in the right ways and sensitive in the right ways. I think you've recognized some men are sensitive in the wrong ways. And that is disasterous. But I think what you call men to be in your comment is to be firm in the wrong ways, not the right ways. I hope this makes sense. Of course, no sin should be tolerated. But deal with it like God does. God is very firm on sins, or would you say He isn't? Yet He helps us to deal with it in so many ways. There is so much mercy, love, kindness, forgiveness always readily available. Yet He is firm. All the best to you. :)
Relationships are difficult. I think it's beautiful that you are devoted to your wife and to God. I don't know what you are dealing with, but my husbands love let me heal from deep pain, pain that came from a lack of love and, while your wife might not change, I'm grateful for the love I received and the way it healed me. He's not even religious, but has the patience of a saint I assure you.
Not a chance in hell was I going to listen to a 50 minute "millennial preacher tell me how to be a husband....Im a 53 year old man who thanks YOU YOUNG MAN for finally opening my eyes to becoming a better husband to my wife..I hated your video so much I watched it to the end. God Bless you and Thank you.
Isabelle M not once did he say in this video husband obey your wife. And this video elaborates very well what it means for the husband to love his wife like Christ love the church. How did Christ demonstrate his love for the church?
Isabelle M Marriage don’t last because of mindsets like yours. Men and women lost biblical, godly morals and principles not only pertaining marriage but also life. You clearly know very little about the role of either the man or the woman. Nothing but love but I haven’t read so much misguided words. The man is the head, he’s not taking away from that. But emphasizing and how the man must lead. A man must love and respect and honor his wife and if she doesn’t and while doing so her eyes may be opened and her heart transformed by the Christ like love the man displays towards her. Luke 6:32 ““If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? Even sinners love those who love them.” In the light of this scripture, so what you love those who love you, if you really want to be like Christ love those who hate you and want to harm you. That’s what’s being taught here. A takes a true man to love when loving seems to be impossible. It’s not taking away from being the head. The rule of the head is to take care of those around him, leading them faithful in sickness and in health, leading them in the right way, and if he goes of the right path the woman doesn’t have to follow him off that path. If you truly read scripture and allow God to open you up you’ll realize the truth being taught in this message. God bless.
@Isabelle M I think you are well intentioned, but you seem quite misguided. First are foremost, as a woman calling for the greater authority and control of men over women, you sure do preach a lot at men as a woman. "A woman must quietly receive instruction with entire submissiveness. But I do not allow a woman to teach or exercise authority over a man, but to remain quiet." (1 Tim 2:11-12) Where is your husband? Why are you here trying to teach and instruct instead of him? Is the internet really the ministry field you should be working in? Beyond that, you misunderstand who Christ is and what He did as the example husbands must imitate. Pastor Mike covered this passage, but it may have gone completely over your head: "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless." (Eph 5:25-27) Likewise, "But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us." (Rom 5:8) The Jews expected the messiah to come as a king, a mighty ruler who would defeat their enemies and reign over them and establish God's kingdom among them. Yet Jesus defied their expectations, coming as a servant and a man (Phil 2:5-8), and they crucified Him. By your own standard of manliness, Jesus Himself--the Son of God, the Incarnate Word of God, the Fullness of Deity in bodily form--even He fell short of being a godly man because he did not properly control His unruly bride. Is this truly what you believe? Christ came not to a submissive and obedient wife, but to a world of sinners who rejected Him and crucified Him. And to them He laid down His life to purchase through His own blood a bride for Himself. The husband lays down his life for his wife, whether she is submissive to him or not. That is the undeniable example of Christ. You can see it in Hosea too, if you will read it. And if indeed a man is married to a believing, godly wife, she will submit to his God-given authority as her head. Yet if she is not believing and unsubmissive, the husband must still love her as Christ loved and died for him. Now that love may manifest itself in control, not permitting her to pursue that which is sinful and against God though she herself does not submit to God. I can think of at least one example where even a believing wife was not controlled/disciplined by her husband to the detriment of the church. But that does not mean control is the highest ethic and standard in marriage. Nowhere in Scripture (as far as I am aware, please correct me if I'm wrong) does it teach that a husband must "control" his wife. I think this comes out of your view of headship, but I challenge and encourage you to let the Bible shape your understanding of headship, not to let your own experiences and ideas dictate its meaning. I haven't read all of your comments on this video, but I see a distinct lack of Scripture in what I have read so far. Another thought: is Christ the head of non-believers? No, He is the head of His bride, His body, the Church. So what business does Christ have with those who deny and reject Him? Instead of controlling them to believe, it says in Romans 1:24, "Therefore God gave them over in the lusts of their hearts to impurity, so that their bodies would be dishonored among them." It is a similar story when considering passages that speak on church discipline (Matt 18:15-17, 1 Cor 5:11-13, 1 Tim 1:20, etc.) So then, if a believing man is married to an unbelieving wife (not encouraging unequal yoking, but if a man becomes Christian while already married), how should he be her head? Is it by controlling her? I do not see this as biblical at all. But if she will not submit to him, should he divorce her? Neither should he do this, as Jesus teaches in Mark 10:2-9, "What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate," and Paul in 1 Cor 7:12-16, "if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he must not divorce her." So what should a man do with an unbelieving, unsubmissive wife, who still consents to live with him? He should again look to Christ who loved and served and gave His life for an unruly and rebellious people, hoping and praying that his wife would be saved and come to know Christ through him. Finally, I once again want to bring to your attention Ephesians 5:25-27. Christ sanctified His bride, cleasing her by the washing of water with the word. Is this true in your life? Are you being sanctified by the Word of God? Or do you prove yourself to be in rebellion to the very Truth you declare? I don't say all of this because I want to dismantle your argument or put you down, but if you are my sister in Christ, you must present yourself as one in word and deed, showing the Lord as your Lord through obedience to Him. Certainly Christian men in our society have a long way to go to rediscover biblical manhood (I am doing this myself as I prepare myself hopefully for a woman God will place in my life), but the same can be said of the Christian women. God bless.
I gotta be honest... I started watching this a few days ago and stopped at min 10 and said, "this isn't what i need". Today I am re-watching it and THANK GOD for it! God is so mercyful and full of GRACE
@@framboise595 “The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.” That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.” Genesis 2:18, 23-24 NIV “Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church- for we are members of his body. “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” This is a profound mystery-but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.” Ephesians 5:21-33 NIV
God bless you!! So often Satan tries to turn me away from videos that God clearly wants me to see. That cynical voice interrupts God's calm and quiet one, trying to deceive me and drive me away from it. PRAISE GOD that you saw it and may God bless you and your marriage!
@@framboise595 it says wives submit not husbands force, it is an action of the wife that shows her fruits. Husbands are told to love and love is not forced. God has proven as much, he wants us to choose him, as forced love is not love at all. Christ died for our sins, husbands represent Christ as the head of the church(wife). Men must lead and if a wife chooses not to submit God is just and righteous and true and he knows the full story. Vengeance is for the Lord and him alone right? So we continue in our personal walk even though others may sin and fall short. Meeting sin with sin is never what we are called to do.
@@framboise595 who said anyone is scared of their wives? That's pathetic we should fear the Lord alone. Simp men who excuse sin to stay in good favor for women are pathetic. Equally pathetic is a man who has to force his wife to "submit" instead of her submitting to the authority herself. We should call out sin and if they repent not, confront them with a fellow in Christ. Unrepentant still? Bring an Elder. Still unrepentant? Then they've made their bed and you can rest knowing you did your part. We are called to love everyone, enemies included. No where do we force people to submit to the Gospel though it is the authority, Christ did not force anyone to submit to his authority though he'd be the most justified in doing so. Instead he proclaimed the truth and whoever did not submit to the authority he allowed them to stray and sin. Those who understood and submitted to the authority he anointed. If you have an issue with forgiveness and loving all you have an issue with the Word of the Lord. Men and women need to stand up for the truth. What should a woman do if her husband commands her to go against God's word? Should she submit even then? Women are told to submit no matter the qualifications of the husband as to win him over with faith and men are to love their wives as Christ loved the church(unconditionally) so as to win them over by faith. This seems like a faith issue. You don't have faith that God will honor you humbling yourself and keeping your hands from sin though the closest around you may sin. Women should submit as commanded by God's word but they have to submit. Forcing the Gospel or forcing submissions just shows how much you've failed to spread the light of the truth and be an example. Even if you were perfect some women will still refuse obedience and that is their problem God will correct them for. Vengeance is the Lord's do you not have faith that he will honor sacrifice and bring justice to you? Another faith issue. Let's be clear just because you can force someone to do something doesn't mean they submitted to your authority especially if they do so begrudgingly and with resentment. They can obey in the body and rebel in the mind and nothing you can do can get them to submit they must do it of their own accord. The same way no one can be forced to believe in Christ even if someone compels a prayer at gunpoint. They must accept and believe within for it to truly honor God's commandments. To be clear women should submit to the Word which tells them to submit to their husbands but you cannot force them to submit and you should never sin because others do so don't think a rebellious wife is an excuse to be rebellious to God's word. Otherwise how are they any different? Faith and submission to the word is required of all of us.
Having a husband that tries his best to do what the Pastor explained is an absolute blessing. It makes me want to be a better wife and partner every day so I can "reward" his love for me
When the man acts like a Godly husband toward his wife (and vice versa), the children have a superb example to follow and their future will be much brighter. I wish my parents were like this, it would have made a huge difference in my life. Kids love to see their parents loving and respecting each other.
Yes, but you just said a key part. Respecting each other. No offense toward you but so many women feel they have the blank check to just dismiss their clumsy ignorant men and show so little respect.
Coming up on my 2 year wedding anniversary. I watched this video the week before I got married to prepare myself and this is the 3rd or 4th time since being married I've watched it to remind myself. In my short time of being a husband I've learned that sometimes this is the easiest thing to do, love your wife as Christ loved the church. I've also learned that in the times that it seems like the hardest thing to do, in those times it is the most genuinely beautiful out come I've ever seen. We shouldn't do right simply for the reward, but when you selflessly love your wife in the hard times, the most beautiful thing happens and trust blooms stronger.
This was a great break down, 7 years in to my marriage and I can say with all certainty that love is a choice. A choice we are called to make every day
Just hearing someone say "your primary ministry is your spouse" is a pretty radical concept these days, but it needs to be said, especially nowadays when marriage is treated with the same devotion as casual dating.
@@azurephoenix9546 I agree with you 100% If we cannot even take care of the people in our own home how can we be ready when God calls us to minister to the ones out side our homes
I cannot identify with feeling in love and not feeling in love later in marriage. I have always been in love with my wife. I think it is just a gift of God and I am thankful for it. I can remember waiting for the time when I am.not in love anymore, where the thrill was gone. It never happened. We are married 28 years now.
I think we need to be more careful with how we speak, how we say things really matters. Jesus calls us to love, not be in love. Love and in love are two different things and when you try to define them I believe you will see why it's not ok to be in love with your wife, but to love her as your wife. If you make the distinction you can help educate people on what makes a good marriage.
@@framboise595 I can't take credit. Reading the Bible showed me how important words truly are. Since Jesus is God's words and we are to worship him, words are literally what saves us. Psalms 138:2" I will worship toward thy holy temple, and praise thy name for thy lovingkindness and for thy truth: for thou hast magnified thy word above all thy name." As for sex in such an effeminate society, have you ever seen how beautiful women are? Not even the Instagram ones, just regular women l. Remember I. Genesis when God presented Eve to Adam, he knew about her, just saw her beauty and said, this is good. He also defied God because she told him too. I will never again under estimate the beauty of a woman :)
@@lakeland01 a Christian husbands play the same role as Christ did for his bride the church. He took on the burden on the cross while his bride was redeemed.
Watching this actually helped me understand how I too need to always choose to love my husband. Even when it’s difficult and he may do very stupid things I get to display the love of God to him. Not that we don’t practice this at all but I recognize we need to practice loving one another when it’s not easy. Not just when it’s reciprocated but when I may feel offense or upset about something to choose him over the silly things.
Hi Pastor Mike. Love your ministry! Scripture tells us to confess our sins to each other...I was a terrible husband. I was the sole provider and held that against my wife. I wasnt compassionate...wasn't understanding to her struggles in life. After 10 years (3 and a half years of marriage) and two beautiful daughters, she has understandingly so, left me. I'm asking for your prayers..for whatever God's will is in our marriage, but also that I turn to Christ every moment of the day to be the kind of husband the Scriptures commands me to be. The kind you discussed in this lecture. Much love brother.
@@haploid2k I think you may have misunderstood his message. No, it is not a woman's place to order her man around and in ANY way emasculate her husband. I think he simply wanted to focus on the husband's role and what the bible specifically says about how a man is to love his wife. He gave examples of how one can do this. It is still by all means a choice, but isn't choosing to love your wife and show that love through simple actions and being courteous such a wonderful way to demonstrate God's love for us? There is always so much focus on a wife's role to of course support her man and to allow him as the head of the household to be that strong leader. We don't have to do things for one another in a marriage, but when we CHOOSE to show love in a selfless way it makes the other person want to do the same. Don't you think? No hate or mal judgment here. Just a thought to consider. Be blessed.
@@framboise595 I think you may have misunderstood his message. No, it is not a woman's place to order her man around and in ANY way emasculate her husband. I think he simply wanted to focus on the husband's role and what the bible specifically says about how a man is to love his wife. He gave examples of how one can do this. It is still by all means a choice, but isn't choosing to love your wife and show that love through simple actions and being courteous such a wonderful way to demonstrate God's love for us? There is always so much focus on a wife's role to of course support her man and to allow him as the head of the household to be that strong leader. We don't have to do things for one another in a marriage, but when we CHOOSE to show love in a selfless way it makes the other person want to do the same. Don't you think? No hate or mal judgment here. Just a thought to consider. Be blessed.
@@framboise595 As far as feminisation, I too am actually in agreement with you that our biological (and other) differences with men are what make us stronger together. We complete eachother, and the differences shouldn't be seen as something negative. I don't like how there is according to this new era of feminists a new 'feminisation' of men in certain aspects of life. I didn't gather though from this pastor's lecture that what he is explaining is that men should be submissive. I think he was simply explaining how men can show their love and then see the fruits of that love... to "Love your wife as Christ loves the Church." - Ephesians 5:25 As a Latina I can tell you that in our culture there is still a lot of Machismo, and while women are expected to still love and honor their husband (despite sometimes being abused and taken for granted), there is not always a focus on explaining to men this part of the bible and what that can look like. It brings the two closer when not all the responsibility to show love and be a devoted spouse is so one sided. Curious to know what you think though.
I never understood the meaning of love the way you described it. You’ve given me a brand new understanding through this teaching. By the way, I am a Christ-following woman who prays daily for my husband also to come to Christ. Although he is not watching this video with me right now, I am hopeful that the Lord will begin to touch his heart, and in the meantime, this video is still very helpful, and I’ll be sure to share with my three sons as well! 🙏🙏🙏
This was so liberating..... No wonder I stopped feeling safe enough to submit in my marriage. I forgot who my God was, as I was trying to survive being sick in an unsupportive and hostile environment.
@@framboise595 it seems unseemly that my emotional honesty was misinterpreted for your own purposes. What might be happening within your thoughts and feelings that caused you to respond that way judgmentally? I see a lack of empathy and no compassion, and my heart goes out to you currently. I stated that I was in an unsupportive and hostile environment, while sick and married. Yet, somehow you focused on my emotional honesty to validate a cognitive distortion of your own making about me. If you go back to my reply, I never mentioned what my actions were as a result of my feelings, nor any specific actions of his. I said that I stopped feeling safe enough to submit. My point was that I stopped feeling safe with him, as he had proven to be self centered, and made reckless decision that injured me and my children as well. I am accountable myself due to my indiscretion in not knowing what I needed in a man, for being out of alignment with God before marriage, and for my codependency tendencies. This sermon was excellent for me, and it resonated very much with me. Yet, somehow my emotional transparency triggered counter attacks from you. Have you asked yourself why is it that you are disputing, invalidating, and counter attacking various comments? I wonder if the Scripture, "do all things without disputing..." and let every man be persuaded in his own mind", need to be revisited. May God's Holy Spirit cleanse us all!
What a beautiful testimony for the Lord and about your wife! I was blessed to have a husband who was better than I ever deserved (just like the Lord is better than I'll ever deserve). God gave us 32 years together before He called my husband home. I'm still counting time, waiting to see him again when I get home. God Bless You.
Thank you mike, you really helped. Ive been struggling as a godly man with a wife who continues to lose her way, not talking or wanting help, just thinking she can do it on her own to the point of being shut out all together. I gave up friday because i was at the point where i was the only one left who valued our family as a unit (kids off doing their thing, wife always busy doing her thing or head stuck to a screen) we had a fight and i threw my wedding ring out the car window and said i cant do it anymore. When you said i need to pay the price for her fall and failures (sins) i cried.. you gave me strength and advice to not give up just yet. Thank you
I hope things have healed in your marriage. Just as you are to love your wife, she is to submit to you. It is very sad that your godly roles were compromised. If you are still struggling, keep in mind that the Lord has a plan for you. God bless
@@BasedZoomer hi mate, Thank you for the reply. My marriage while a work in process has been completly transformed. Its funny i just got notified and forgot i had wrote this message... and i cant believe how things have changed. God has transfered my wife heart as she was going through so much from past.
Jesus! I know this is over 5 years ago. Such a hard pill to swallow😳. I’ve been married 13 years. Been with the same woman for 20 years. It’s EXTREMELY hard. I cry all the time when I’m alone because it hurts SO much. The fact that I’ve made my wife cry over something stupid that I’ve done. Yet, she’s still here. Wondering what am I doing. Talking to God while crying out, “LORD I’M NOT CUT OUT FOR THIS😭.” As of now, I’m in my work truck just listening to this. Sometimes I wonder have I made a huge mistake in getting married😣. I’ve ALWAYS recognized the good and faithful woman that God has brought to me. I just told my wife yesterday, “it’s not you, it’s me. I’m the problem.” I’m always bringing this up to God. This was definitely a great video. Very inspiring. I have SO much work to do😮💨. May the good Lord bless you, and your wife. Thanks again for sharing 🙏🏽
I hear you. God bless you brother. You have conviction and I see that you want to repent. God knows your heart. I have faith you will grow as the Holy Spirit guides you in the way you and your wife needs it.
It’s really quite simple, whether you’re a man or a woman, the idea is to empty yourself of your own selfishness. For a man to love a woman so deeply that he would lay his life down for her as Jesus did, requires him to humble himself and lay aside all selfishness. He will come to know and understand his wife better than she knows herself. For a woman to submit to her husband also requires her to lay aside her own will and self-centered ambition. She will naturally seek and desire his strength and leadership and look for ways to honor and please him. She will help him build a home of peace and love and he will fortify the walls with godly strength and protection. They are both called to be kind, respectful and honoring to each other which requires humble hearts, the fruit of the Spirit manifesting in their marriage. If you can’t do this, then don’t get married. Outside of marriage, whether you’re male or female, Jesus Christ is your head.
I wish I could give this comment 100 thumbs up. Well said. We are called to love, and love is putting the best interest of the other before our own desires.
If you can’t do this, then don’t get married. --- You do realize that most won’t know this until after getting married (even with the best of intentions). It’s a Catch-22.
@@s1n4m1n that's why the divorce rate is as high in the church as it is in secular society. People need to read their bibles with a heart that is quick to repent when they miss the mark and do better.
But you would enter the marriage with the desire to do so, and would be, presumably, willing to have Christ make up for you weaknesses in meeting the standard. The OG post is likely saying if you're not willing to make the attempt then you shouldn't get married. If you're willing to make the attempt, you'll be aware of the refining process of marriage and willing to let God work in your life.
Thanks for this video Mike. I showed it to my wife and she reassured me that I am doing a good job as a husband. We both loved how you articulated what biblical manhood is. There are definitely areas I fall short and could improve on, but I feel like I have a renewed hope to be a better husband everyday. Keep doing what you are doing brothaman! Thanks for lovingly telling difficult truth that every married couple needs to hear.
I couldn't sleep when I first started dating my husband he worked the night shift and I would stay up texting him late into the night and I also couldn't sleep because of the excitement of knowing he was the one. And then he told me that he's been sleeping BETTER because he feels secure and happy in our relationship and honestly that helped me sleep better knowing that HE was sleeping better because of ME 🤣🤣🤣💕💕💕💕
@@framboise595 If the one who serves is always under the one who is served, (which is contrabiblical and false) then Jesus was under almost every person he ever interacted with. For he said of himself that the son of man did not come to be served, but to serve.
@LN Jesus is Lord, we are his servants and friends, not the other way round. Remember Jesus said how servants are expected to serve their Lord without expectation of reward because it's their duty? He washed the feet of disciples that submitted to his Lordship. A woman should submit to her husband likewise.
@@framboise595 stopping going about and preaching this version of falseness. A man is the ruler of the house, and which of us thats to lead must become a servant. It’s a self sacrificial love.
@@framboise595 if you watch the video before this, he speaks of the duties of the wife, which is to submit to the husband. And That was which you call ludicrous is a Quote form Christ, A man leads by serving, who ever wants to lead shall become a servant, the point of leading is not to do what you please to house and to your family, but to lead is do and decide whatever is pleasing to them. A man doesn’t do whatever the wife wants, that’s the point of the video.
@@framboise595me and you are not disagreeing on this but leading is self sacrifice and Sex doesn’t change that. You are not leading you for you, the leading is for the person who is being led. The wife doesn’t need to be out in “check” for sun to be purged out. And they are instances where the wife shouldn’t submit, if you didn’t read the Bible with your own interpretation instead of letting the text speak you would know this. Authority is given for many groups, church leaders, secular leaders, and the husband, in all of them you are obeying to glorify God, if the authority these people have exercise goes against God, no one shouldn’t submit.
@@framboise595 the first part is literally a quote from Christ. You should stop reading your thoughts onto the Bible and the book speak. I get that you have a problem with feminist, or seems like women. But Christianity is not anti feminist. Stop projecting your political views on Christianity. And again she doesn’t rule over him, He chooses to do things that pleases her, it’s not worship it’s love, A SELF SACRIFICING LOVE. Joining that with Satan is a absurd. A husband is not a domineering figure in marriage who orders around the wife as he pleases. All things you mentions like feminism, emasculation in this particular case are all conservative views projected onto the word of God. I want to have this conversation with you, but you keep writing whole books, and I don’t think this is ever going to end.
Mike you are probably one of my favorite Bible teachers. Not only because of this content, but because of a lot of your content. Your approach to the Bible is honest, humble, and as someone who leans heavily toward the reformed Calvinist camp, I greatly admire your teaching! I’ve listened to many of your teachings and I always am humbled. God bless you, sir.
I'm a neurology student. There is a difference between men and women on a neurological scale. On average, the neural pathways of men and women differ in directional pattern. Men's neural paths are linked back to front, meanwhile women have more interaction between the hemispheres when their neurons fire back to front. Men have a more direct pathway to the frontal cortex, like a laser; women are more like a pinball machine. They're different, but one isn't better than the other. Men think faster and women think more. I think this supports the notion that men are leaders and women are nurturers. It also supports the notion that men are too impulsive and women are too sensitive. Checks and balances. It's hard to say whether these pathways are innate or reinforced by socialization, but they are there. There is a difference, on average.
On average, but there are still lots of people who aren't average, which means that we can't have "rules" designed around an average. My husband is a very quick thinker, and somewhat impulsive. My father is a slow, thorough thinker.
I'm at a point in my life and marriage where I realize I am selfish and not doing my part. This has been a godsend to get me back in line and inform me what my responsibilities are. Ty!
The weaker vessel meaning body... so nice. As a woman, I was forced to wrestle and compete with my step-dad and brother. I would be so hurt that I would pull away from both of them. Men please don’t try to physically injure your daughters in order to show dominance, they are not sons!
❤ WOW 😮!!! My friends and I have often and most recently discussed how the roles and purpose of marriage have never been properly represented in any message. It’s always about women submitting (which has given men more “authority” to be abusers) but never on how men ought to love the wife as Christ loves the church. Finally a truly biblical representation of both roles focusing on how the leader should truly lead after Christ’s example. THANK YOU 🙏🏽 will be sharing will others, first within my home with my sons and daughters. BLESSINGS!!!
I watch married with children every day before work. I love your teaching Pastor Mike. ♥ I'm living in a different state than my wife for my daughter's sake. She's 18 in 6 months and when she is I plan to finally reunite with my wife. Being apart is killing us and it's Love and our commitment to Jesus and our vows to God that keeps us going. Please pray for us.
Amen paster Mike. I understand more clearly now why all of my relationships have failed. First, I wasn't living with god, and secondly, I was't with any woman that believed in god. I have met the most wonderful, god believing, woman and I want nothing more than to be a good husband to her, and god willing, a good father to our children. This gives me faithe I can do that. Thank you lord Jesus, and thank you paster Mike for peaching his word in a way I was able to understand it. god bless you, and your family.
Joseph was a good husband. When he thought maybe Mary had been with another man, he intended to keep quiet about it to save her reputation. I wish we new more about him.
@@Melissa-gn3dvShe probably did,and probably whit a man but whit many other women her "Friends" thouch" kiss whit tounge since all women are eather bi or lesbian,but ya'll only be against gay men Who 75% have masculine type behaviour ,they dont put lipstic and act like a women,but more masculine that streight men,cuz they dont have to deal whit hoex foids,he Is putting men down and tellin em to love women even if dey behave bad,misandry matriachy sexism gynocentrism feminist BS he Is spreading, using the part of the Bibble he want to not be hated by a men hating country like shitty America
I think we know a lot from the two things he did. 1. Tried not to put her in trouble even though it seems like she cheated and betrayed his trust, cos adultery can get one stoned (cares about the safety of others, even if they hurt him ) 2. Obeyed God and raised the child.(Submits to God)
I really enjoyed hearing you speak. I needed to hear this today. Especially the verse about kindness - that is exactly what I lack as a husband and father.
I just found this in my search engine on UA-cam and blessed to find this . I wanted to stop this video , because I’m hearing things that I didn’t wanna hear . But my heart said no keep listening . I will be more thankful for listening to this !
@@framboise595 I know I am 5 months late but that is just so utterly incorrect. It litterally says the wife shall respect and submit to her husband who is the ruler of the home. But yes I agree the bible does not pay woman on the back it treats them as the counterpart to man as they are.
This is AMAZING! I searched for years after my divorce to “ find” this type of guy. God HUGELY blessed me with a godly husband like this. Tears drop as I hear this video - I HAVE this guy. I am so thankful to him and to God for this blessing. So many of my single friends are looking for this man. Some realize it is the christian way to love and some don’t even know it. But MEN ,we are seeking this….. I just got blessed. Thank you for this video!
Mike, sorry nobody laughed at your OT “bringing home the bacon” joke. For what it’s worth you got a laugh out of me. This is great teaching. I especially liked when you said “well you’re called to make the decisions” “well then I’m going to do what blesses her.” Thank you for this timeless reminder about biblical husbandry. It’s also neat to see the progression of your teaching style. Blessing brother. -Kasey O
@@framboise595 What men, such as yourself, don't get, is that when a good or godly woman is consistently truly adored, loved, and cherished... her heart melts completely and she becomes ultimately respectful, softer, more relaxed, more willing, more generous. She will follow his LOVING lead with RESPECT. When a man isn't holding a safe space for a woman, isn't consistent, is demanding, controlling, and uncaribg for HER needs, she realizes that no one gives a flip about her and that she has to get stronger (more masculine/agressive) to look out for her well being within an environment seeking to use her up and wear her out like an appliance. That means resistance to him and power struggles will arise, eventually she will confront and then leave him if her needs are not taken into account alongside his. If she cannot or does not physically leave, she will emotionally leave and just go through the minimal motions like a robot and whether she pretends to go along or not, she will NOT feel any genuine respect for her husband. I know this as before I became Christian I was with one of each of these two kinds of men. If an outsider had looked in, I would have looked like 2 TOTALLY DIFFERENT WOMEN!!! With the loving one, I was like an angel and with the controlling one, I looked like a fighter. Women are often the reflection of the men they marry. You think a woman is "acting crazy?" Ask yourself what he did to make her go crazy. The jerk I was with was cheating and drinking and verbally abusing while at the same time demanding I submit to his leadership. Where would a man like that lead me to except to hell? How could I put my faith or trust in him to care about my well-being? I couldn't. I left. Now that I have become a Christian, I am looking for a husband that would treat me like the first guy. If not, I would rather be single.
@@framboise595 Pardon for assuming you're male. My point is NOT emasculating men. It is looking for win/win options by what the Bible describes as "submitting to one another" and certainly respecting men is vital but that does not require squashing women at all UNLESS it is a demonic/violent/narcissistic or manipulative woman. Men or women like that need to be called out and their behavior squashed by the church leaders and authority figures, not enabled.
I have work to do. I just got engaged for the first time. Nervous, anxious, excited, motivated , & beyond blessed to have finally met my soulmate at 33
Praise God for Mike and his ministry. I needed this so desperately right now. I’m 28 and in a 2 year relationship with a woman who’s a total anomaly. Just gorgeous, so caring, loving, so many things I could say. I have to admit I smoked weed and drank so much in my early to mid 20’s and I just recently in the last year broke away from it all but I’m still dealing with the lingering effects of laziness, selfishness, etc. God came into my life in March and has moved me. I’m learning to be less selfish but this sermon has taught me I don’t need to be less selfish, I need to be completely SELFLESS. I want to marry this woman and I can’t do it if I don’t treat her like a Godly man would. Thank you again so much, Mike.
It would have been nice to have found Christ BEFORE i got married. I am in an unequally yoked marriage and finding that I have to honor that covenant regardless of what he does. It would have been better for my marriage if I had known this at least a year ago. I am following the Lord and doing as he asks of me but I must tell you it hurts. I praise GOd that he will be working all things out for the good since I Love God.
You must not have paid attention. This guy says the husband is required to love REGARDLESS of your actions. You have no obligations. Go cheat on him. Take his kids to drag queen story hour. According to this heretic’s video, you can do whatever you feel like and he has to love you unconditionally. Satanic feminism from the mouth of someone who claims to speak for God.
@@haploid2k not an appropriate comment for the thread. You could have posted this as a lone comment as opposed to spewing your disdain for the preacher on a random woman's post on an entirely different subject.
@@haploid2k well the bible says to love one another and forgive and not hold things against people. To love like jesus who died for people who mistreated him and hated him and still to this day do. Like people mess up a lot even Christians and God doesn't leave nor forsake them. He's always trying to draw people near to him. I mean I wouldnt stay with someone who cheated but If someone wants to show mercy and grace to someone and stay with that person let them. There is not harm in that.
@@haploid2k Mike is NOT a feminist. He already covered the wife's responsibility, and now he's talking about the husband's. He's reading what the Bible says, and teaching people to apply it. Be careful who you call a Heretic, especially when they are actually teaching the word of God. If you don't like it, pray to God about it and ask for clarity. If his teaching offended you, it might be conviction from the Holy Spirit. Blessings to you.
This touched a part of me that I thought was never to be again. Thank you and God richly, richly bless you and your bride, and family, in Jesus name, Amen.
Wow. Great teaching Pastor Mike. This is a masterclass in how to biblically love and treat one's wife. I will definitely apply this to my marriage. Thank you and greetings from Mexico.
Amazing word :) However, for those watching who are in actual abusive scenarios, ie. domestic abuse (physical, emotional, psychological, etc.,) should heed carefully when hearing marital advice (and use discernment/wisdom for what you must do). There are some relationships you simply do not stay for - you can be loving till you are blue in the face and still have an abusive partner...abusive relationships are not safe.
Jesus says to love that person as well as a spouse. Obviously physical abuse warrants separating from that person for safey reasons but not to abandon the marriage or to stop loving them.
Great teaching. I needed these reminders and appreciate the perspective. That part about the weaker vessel and how only the external vessel (the body) is weaker but NOT its contents was especially interesting and beneficial to see.
im a chef and i have to lead a bunch of guys that are pretty tough to lead at times and through that ive gained a way of speaking and leading that can be pretty short and commanding rather than soft and leading with kindness or love out front. although im not mean or rude, my fiance does remind me sometimes, "hey, before you have that talk with your mother, remember to be soft with her" or she'll remind me with a single tear or a look of sadness which breaks my heart when we had a tough conversation and i forgot to be more gentle and less matter of fact with her. i know that moment of seeing her hurt, even if it wasnt intentional or even anything rude, was enough to really show me how different she is than me and how differently she needs to be treated to feel loved at all times. im so thankful for her and im glad shes helping me grow into a better man of God and into a better husband as well. shes one of Gods greatest creations and i hope i can make her know that every day and that i can lead her in a way that pleases her and more importantly, pleases God. what a blessing my wife is. ill thank God for her every single day.
This is so informative. People usually just talk about how the man is biblically supposed to have authority over the wife and how that's "unfair," but this brings to light how the husband has just as much of a responsibility to obey and submit to his family's needs as the wife does on top of bearing the burden of suffering for his family's shortcomings.
@loveoflife709 When you realise that authority and submissions are to achieve the same result. And one doesn't have an extra bonus over the other. You won't feel the need to fight about who must listen to who like someone trying to steal a treasure from men. Both are sacrificial.
I loved this video . Been having some trouble on understanding how to be a man and what the husbands role is. This has been so clear of what my role is in my future marriage. Thank You. keep It up!
I've never heard a teaching on how to be a husband taught so well and thoroughly. At times I feel I'm left to figure it out on my own, but you've provided great content for me to go back and study more! Thanks, Mike! I needed this teaching!
To Pastors and church "Leaders" : If you think God needs your help , you are over-impressed with your own importance. God is inviting you to come along on an adventure with HIM - and HE does the work . You are HIS witnesses !
great teaching Pastor Winger, also that’s a tough crowd. In my opinion all your jokes landed, especially the “bring home the bacon” bit lol God bless. I’ve learned a lot today.
The Euphoric phase in relationships wear off when things are no longer fresh and new. People tend to use this as a sign to get out and run for the hills. When you said “Love isn’t a feeling but love has feelings” I completely understood that.
I am not a religious woman but i have been looking up videos on how to be a good wife/husband after watching a video on my feed. It’s refreshing to hear a man say HOW to love your wife. A lot of comments I see on other videos is that the men think that being the head of the household means they are able to tell the woman what to do and she must comply. She lives to serve him and her needs do not matter. That’s why I have such a hard time with religion.
Kuroi Hana, please understand that Christ was persecuted by religion. Spiritual people seek God, religious people such as the scribes and pharasee were not after the heart of God, they were after power. Please do not let the pride of man keep you from seeking God. GOD BLESS YOU
I really needed to hear this. Been struggling with roles and leadership in the home... some of this was extremely hard to hear, but I'm hearing the honest to God truth and it's exactly the guidance and understanding I needed. Now I need HIS strength to follow through. God bless you!
This is absolutely one of my favorite teachings you have done. It’s also the first teaching I listened to of yours. I have watched this one and the one for wives 5 or 6 times. Still just as good as it was the first time I saw it ❤️❤️❤️❤️
@@gigahorse1475 Hi! I haven’t been on Discord because I landed in the hospital after a severe mental breakdown, and afterward I couldn’t handle being there at the moment. Hoping to be back by the end of summer at latest...
Had a conversation with my mother on what the Bible says about marriage since I'm not religious. Lead me to this video and definitely challenged my perspective. I will definitely give this a lot of thought and I hope to be a good husband if one day i get there. Thank you !
Mike I must say I consome a lot of your content and this is the best video by far I am 1 month in on Christ changing my life and I praise God for your leadership 🙏 don't ever stop doing what you do
I just love you Mike 😅 sound and engaging teaching. God is teaching me on marriage in this season and this is so insightful. Thank you. I appreciate your ministry. God bless you
Really challenging. Thank you for this message. I have been married for 3 years and we have 2 beautiful boys. Great reminder to love my wife in every circumstance and focus on what God expects me to do!
@@framboise595 as I've been scrolling through comments, I've noticed anything with the reply also has your name attached with a wall of text. You seem awfully opinionated for someone that claims to believe in God oh, you're a very judgemental person. I think you're getting mixed messages on the whole pedestal thing and saying how you're supposed to put your wife first and she will do the same and that way your needs are met and so are hers. I believe you're looking at this in the wrong light
@@framboise595 you took what I said and twisted it, please re-read my reply to your original comment. You spent it off in a different way saying that God should be cut first when that was not the original intent, if you're going to argue please get the facts straight. Being right does not mean that you want an argument. You seem to want to be right in your own mind rather than achieving a common goal with the person that you are starting an argument with
Awesome video tons of great tips!! I draw the line at, women in the military not having to perform the same as men. If they can't count on the woman to do the same activities,they can't count on them to be in battle with men.
This was encouraging for me and opened my eyes to see how I've been a bad husband and as a minister for Jesus Christ I was quick to repent and ask God to forgive me and my wife because I have to love the wife and treat her right thanks I appreciate this word of God
Dang man!! Best message I’ve ever heard on the biblical role of a husband!! Great great job! Praise God for you and your ministry! May God continue to bless you!
This video opened my eyes.. Been having marital problems for a while (mostly my fault) but as of today.. no more! I just went out to buy some flowers for her.. Thank you!
@@framboise595 hi Isabelle. Have you repented of your sins and turned to Jesus Christ, the only way to heaven? He who died and rose again on the third day to pay for our sins. Do you trust in him alone and not in your own works for your salvation?
@@framboise595 your comments seem so ignorant of husband responsibility I have doubts about your seriousness or about your beliefs. It is like you don't understand the concept that husbands can do anything wrong which is utterly ridiculous. For my marriage some problems have been because of my wife not submitting. But many problems are specifically my fault. We are commanded to love our wives and 1 Corinthians 13 details what love is along with many other verses. But your comments don't give me confidence you understand that. We are called to love regardless of whether our wives submit or not. You also talk about beta vs alpha males and about men needing to be dominant, which are both very worldly and unbiblical ideas. Men are commanded to be leaders but not force submission. And you look at a husband serving his wife with disdain while that's exactly what Jesus did when he was on earth with serving others around him, meanwhile he is God in human form. There are many more issues I see in the things you say that are contrary to scripture, but if you have disagreements with everything I just said then I don't see the point in going through them.
@@framboise595 I really think you have deeper problems then men and women and you have an issue submitting to truth. Besides for your personal feelings, what did Mike say in the video that is actually contrary to scripture? Because pretty much everything I heard him say was him sharing scripture and helping people understand. Are you married? What kind of church do you attend?
@@framboise595 everything you just said was unrelated to what I asked Besides for your personal feelings, what did Mike say in the video that is actually contrary to scripture? I want you to take a specific point in the video where he brings up a passage in the Bible and then tell me why he is incorrect in his understanding.
@@framboise595 again, I want you to take a specific point in the video where he reads scripture. At that point he will say what the scripture means. Then you tell me why he is incorrect in his statement. Reference the time stamp and the scripture he reads from. Then I can have a real response to you based off scripture.
Thank you Mike! I needed to hear this so much! I shed tears of awe and joy when you spoke about the husband who took his wife back his wife who was unloyal to him! What a love that is, and one that I will work to show my girlfriend, soon to be wife and an absolute gift from God!
This was good for me. I hated it, but it was good for me.
That’s such a blessing to hear, Joseph. God bless you and make you the model of Christ in your marriage!
I've actually been blessed by all of your sermons. The only one I've had issues with was the explanation of open theism. But no one really understands us. Lol.
One day I’d like to address open theism again and to do so in a way where you would say “that’s an accurate representation”, even if we don’t agree at the end of it. Feel free to offer me any insights where you think I got it wrong. I take correction as a kindness.
I know you do! Which is why I love your sermons. There is a book from, the 90s that really defined it called The Openess of God. Open theism is more about creation than God... kind of. It says that God DOES and HAS soverignly intervened in history, eg Jesus, but for the most part the future is unsettled. It also says God knows all possible futures at any given moment. He also knows the end... which He's told us about in Matthew 24 and revelation. I could go on forever. God Bless you, sir. I appreciate your ministry. Keep speaking the truth.
Maybe one day you could find at least one tiny piece of EVIDENCE that your invisible god is real, and show it to everybody. Then you could stop PRETENDING to know things you do not know.
I'm only 19 and nowhere close to being married, but I'm saving this to remind myself what I need to be. Thank you, Pastor Mike
Its good to watch before you get married too as a reminder of what you are signing up for.
@@framboise595 wow you are really camped out on this video. The bible doesn't command us to get married but it does tell us not to commit adultery so if you want to have sex or have children then you should get married.
Same bro :)
@@framboise595 You're correct in the fact that Paul does elevate singleness as a higher calling for the church because a single man focuses on the things of the Lord (see the video for scripture reference), but if you can't handle being single, then get married. The other reason is that in Genesis, God gave Adam and Eve the commandment to be fruitful and multiply, and it makes it clear that the only place we can do that is through the covenant of marriage. I'm not sure why you're so angry over this, I was just commenting my thoughts.
@@framboise595 so why are you taking this out on me?
You’ve saved my marriage. I’ve been no husband and I didn’t understand what God called me to in the ministry of my wife. My family is changed because God delivered. He always does. Thank you so much for this video. God bless you brother!
God bless you!
@@framboise595 the hate you spew everywhere... nonstop
You really are not a spirit filled, humble, born again Christian, are you? It becomes pretty apparent to anyone reading all the nasty paragraphs you're posting throughout this guys youtube channel
Psalm 18:35
Thou hast also given me the shield of thy salvation: and thy right hand hath holden me up, and thy gentleness hath made me great
James 3:17
But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, and easy to be intreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy
Psalm 111:4
He hath made his wonderful works to be remembered: the Lord is gracious and full of compassion
Matthew 11:28-30
King James Version
28 Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.
29 Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls.
30 For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.
Galatians 5:22-23
King James Version
22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith,
23 Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law
1 John 4:8
He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love
Jeremiah 50:32
And the most proud shall stumble and fall, and none shall raise him up:
Malachi 4:1
For, behold, the day cometh, that shall burn as an oven; and all the proud, yea, and all that do wickedly, shall be stubble: and the day that cometh shall burn them up, saith the Lord of hosts, that it shall leave them neither root nor branch
James 4:6
But he giveth more grace. Wherefore he saith, God resisteth the proud, but giveth grace unto the humble
Proverbs 28:25
He that is of a proud heart stirreth up strife: but he that putteth his trust in the Lord shall be made fat
Hosea 5:15
King James Version
15 I will go and return to my place, till they acknowledge their offence, and seek my face: in their affliction they will seek me early
Amen brother, same for me as well
@@framboise595 tf
Watching this as a woman helped me understand the actions of a godly man and a godly husband.
You have ZERO evidence that a god even exists, so it is pretty meaningless to call someone "godly".
@Slave Of Christ So now you are going to LIE and PRETEND to know what I think as well? What a PATHETIC fraud you are. It is obvious to everyone following along that you are only LYING about what I think because you have ZERO evidence for your invisible god. You aren't fooling anyone.
Nicholas Flamel God exists because the world is sinful, and He is teaching us how to go against the culture to live as a better human being. If God didn’t exist, humans will tear themselves apart because of sin.
@@Guyfrom-dg7ek exactly
Technically he's in the wrong on this one! This is the kind of preaching that we get from 501 c 3 churches whose sermons are pre-approved by the IRS according to the bylaws agreed to in order to stay nonprofit. If he told the biblical truth it would enrage feminist because feminists do not have a goal of equality as men and women are clearly not equal today in fact women will be more likely believed in court without any evidence, I've seen it myself
My husband is like this. His patience and love have revealed a lot of the flaws in my own character. I was kind of young and immature when we got married. God has used him to help me change and grow. I am really grateful for my husband.
Great to hear that but some unfortunates will never hear this from their wives but their reward is from god.
Wow, I wish God could bless me with a man like this
Oh that is so true I believe I'm with a man of God too and he has helped me see my flaws and grow and change.
That's awesome to read, glory to God!.
Same!! I’m very blessed.
My husbands really depressed. I dont feel his active love. I'm trying to follow him and stay on his side. Meaning, I don't want to lose my temper at him or talk down to him. We still fiight, though. Its hard being with someone who rarely has anything positive to say about life and shows very little gratitude or affection. Hes a good man though. He does everything he needs to take care of me and our baby. He has so much weight on his shoulders. Anyone reading this, please pray for my husband. We have a beautiful baby girl that needs his presence.
I’m losing my relationship of 8 years and I feel like if I would follow god’s words from the begging of my marriage I wouldn’t be in this situation. Lord give me the strength to win her love back.
Keep praying, stay faithful, follow the lord.
🙏🏽
Same my brother
All the best bro
I’m praying for you!! Keep coming to Christ. I mean set aside an hour a day for him. Start your day in the Lords presence of a quiet place with you and him! Repent and put your trust in Christ. Also if there is anyone you haven’t forgiven, forgive them for we are called to forgive because Christ forgave us first.
When your wife mistreats you, that is your chance to show the love of Christ to her...Wow
Hosea gives us a great example of this as well!!
@@framboise595 I love to converse and my purpose here isn't to tell you that you are wrong but rather to find some middle ground to our views!! There is no doubt that in the Bible you can see the Lords gentleness, but also his judgement and severity. We see that Christ both laid himself down on the cross for his bride willfully, but he will also return in an epic and violent manner to retrieve her.
I believe to understand what Mike Winger is saying we should first take a look at the consequences to the fallen nature in Genesis 3 and see how it relates to the redeemed state we now have in Christ.
Specific to the woman, her consequences would be that her pain in child bearing would be multiplied. By the style of language it implies it would be more severe pain than the pain that already existed. In addition, it says that her desires would be contrary to her husband, BUT that her husband would rule over her. Again we can imply the opposite that prior to the fallen nature, her desires were once in partnership and in harmony with her husband vs opposing him because of the new presence of the sinful nature. In addition, prior to the fall, her husbands nature with her was in partnership, but now in their fallen and sinful state, her husbands nature is to rule over his wife out of the consequence of Sin.
My next point would be to present what Christ did for us on the cross in relation to the original consequences of our fallen nature. His blood is now our representation of purity and righteousness before a God. Through the power of the Holy Spirit, we can operate, think, feel, speak and do as originally intended (Prior to the fall) as Children of God. A wife's desire to be in opposition to her husband is now atoned for by the sacrifice of Christ. Does that mean her sinful nature to be in opposition will no longer be there? ABSOLUTELY NOT! Her case is no longer subject to her husband but rather directly to God because of her redeemed state in Christ. This is why Paul in Romans 8 says we should not abolish the Law but continue to Love it because it reveals to us our fallen state. When our eyes are opened to our sinful and fallen state, it ought to humble us because our destiny should be eternal death vs the present which is full redemption in Christ.
As a Husband, I can no longer judge my wife by the standards of our fallen nature but rather that of the atoned state of Christ. Now that doesn't mean we ought to be ignorant of the sinfulness that may exist in a husband and wife relationship, but the manner in which we handle such instances are paved by the example Christ gave us and what Paul directly reference to in Ephesians 5 which is to be self sacrificing (From the POV of a husband). The Washing of her bride is simply making her aware of her sinful nature and the now redeemed state of deliverance we have in Christ (The living word).
Personally in my marriage, I have found this model to be most fruitful. Just because I choose to show love and grace to my wife does not mean I will not correct her for her wrongdoings, no differently than she would do to addresses mine. Now...What that person chooses to do with their sin is their own choice and between God and them.
For example, let’s say I address my wife for being disrespectful. Let’s say she called me a bad name in front of a group of friends because I disagreed with her view. A Godly response would be that she adheres FIRST to the word that commands her to respect me. BUT if she chooses not to, that is her contempt with the scriptures, not me as her husband. I then will have to ask myself if greater is my desire to be respected, or for my wife to recognize her rebellion towards God. If I ask myself that question first, I can then operate as Christ did. Ideally I will be given supernatural wisdom, knowledge or abilities to convince my wife of her actions. But most of the time its plain old and reliable prayer and dependency on the Holy Spirit that will change the heart of any human being, including my wife. I can go on for pages on this and I would love to further the conversate! Please share with me your view! I only wish to bring context to what has been said to Winger and my respect for his view.
Thanks and many blessings to you.
@ Saad Bin Masud that is not Biblically correct at all.
If my husband does wrong to me, I will try and show him the love of Jesus. There is nothing wrong with that. I would hope my husband loves me enough to do the same for me.
They (men and women) will know you by your fruits. @isabelle M
@@framboise595 You can't really use the results of using power as an argument that women are impressed by power. It's just how power works - _it's power_ - so since women are generally weaker it just trumps rebellion with sheer force. You can't count on taming rebellion in women's hearts this way. And history should tell you that as well.
Also, as a woman, love and kindness impresses me, as it is most certainly God who worked in my heart so my heart desires righteousness, and not any guy or any human, and therefore I seek it because I seek God, and therefore a man who acts like God does, i.e. with love and kindness, yet firm on what is right, as God has done in my life time and time again, that is what impresses, and that is what further encourages me to seek righteousness. And of course righteousness is _not_ rebellion against God. I could never be intimate with anyone who just brute forces everything. And I mean that not just in a husband and wife sense, but any type of relationship. Friendship, parent-child relationship, or spouce relationship - I wouldn't be emotionally intimate with such a person.
However, I think what you wrote is the fruit of recognizing something very important which many people miss. Some men are kind and loving as a way to get their wife to stop yelling, stop making fights. That alone is disasterous. A man should work on issues. It's not the women's responsibility to take care of emotional issues, it's not a "female thing", it's very much a male thing as well and men should put in effort to work out whatever needs to be worked out. If a man is firmly standing on God's word then there is no need to worry his wife would manipulate him and what not. Just pray, seek God's Kingdom first, be consistent in that, and God will reveal to you whatever you need. God will make you firm in the right ways and sensitive in the right ways.
I think you've recognized some men are sensitive in the wrong ways. And that is disasterous. But I think what you call men to be in your comment is to be firm in the wrong ways, not the right ways. I hope this makes sense.
Of course, no sin should be tolerated. But deal with it like God does. God is very firm on sins, or would you say He isn't? Yet He helps us to deal with it in so many ways. There is so much mercy, love, kindness, forgiveness always readily available. Yet He is firm.
All the best to you. :)
I watch this video once a month. It's a message I need to hear regularly. Thank you
@Isabelle M You seem to have forgotten that Samson and Delilah were not husband and wife, Samson should have some kind of discernment toward Delilah.
Isabelle M lady, calm down.
Relationships are difficult. I think it's beautiful that you are devoted to your wife and to God.
I don't know what you are dealing with, but my husbands love let me heal from deep pain, pain that came from a lack of love and, while your wife might not change, I'm grateful for the love I received and the way it healed me. He's not even religious, but has the patience of a saint I assure you.
@@framboise595 A turn of phrase 🙄. You probably know what the bible says about loving your wife.
@@framboise595 Right... well, you've got some issues you might want help with.
Not a chance in hell was I going to listen to a 50 minute "millennial preacher tell me how to be a husband....Im a 53 year old man who thanks YOU YOUNG MAN for finally opening my eyes to becoming a better husband to my wife..I hated your video so much I watched it to the end. God Bless you and Thank you.
Proverbs 9:8
Do not correct a scoffer, lest he hate you; Rebuke a wise man, and he will love you. :)
@@framboise595 3. Proverbs 12:15 The way of a fool is right in his own eyes: but he that hearkeneth unto counsel is wise.
@@framboise595 Get behind me Satanas!!!
Isabelle M not once did he say in this video husband obey your wife. And this video elaborates very well what it means for the husband to love his wife like Christ love the church. How did Christ demonstrate his love for the church?
Isabelle M Marriage don’t last because of mindsets like yours. Men and women lost biblical, godly morals and principles not only pertaining marriage but also life. You clearly know very little about the role of either the man or the woman. Nothing but love but I haven’t read so much misguided words. The man is the head, he’s not taking away from that. But emphasizing and how the man must lead. A man must love and respect and honor his wife and if she doesn’t and while doing so her eyes may be opened and her heart transformed by the Christ like love the man displays towards her. Luke 6:32 ““If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? Even sinners love those who love them.” In the light of this scripture, so what you love those who love you, if you really want to be like Christ love those who hate you and want to harm you. That’s what’s being taught here. A takes a true man to love when loving seems to be impossible. It’s not taking away from being the head. The rule of the head is to take care of those around him, leading them faithful in sickness and in health, leading them in the right way, and if he goes of the right path the woman doesn’t have to follow him off that path. If you truly read scripture and allow God to open you up you’ll realize the truth being taught in this message. God bless.
Still single but worth listening to it.
Let our marriage glorify God.
Isabelle M You never fail.
That is the best time to listen to marriage teachings! 😊
@Isabelle M
I think you are well intentioned, but you seem quite misguided. First are foremost, as a woman calling for the greater authority and control of men over women, you sure do preach a lot at men as a woman.
"A woman must quietly receive instruction with entire submissiveness. But I do not allow a woman to teach or exercise authority over a man, but to remain quiet." (1 Tim 2:11-12)
Where is your husband? Why are you here trying to teach and instruct instead of him? Is the internet really the ministry field you should be working in?
Beyond that, you misunderstand who Christ is and what He did as the example husbands must imitate. Pastor Mike covered this passage, but it may have gone completely over your head: "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless." (Eph 5:25-27)
Likewise, "But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us." (Rom 5:8)
The Jews expected the messiah to come as a king, a mighty ruler who would defeat their enemies and reign over them and establish God's kingdom among them. Yet Jesus defied their expectations, coming as a servant and a man (Phil 2:5-8), and they crucified Him. By your own standard of manliness, Jesus Himself--the Son of God, the Incarnate Word of God, the Fullness of Deity in bodily form--even He fell short of being a godly man because he did not properly control His unruly bride. Is this truly what you believe?
Christ came not to a submissive and obedient wife, but to a world of sinners who rejected Him and crucified Him. And to them He laid down His life to purchase through His own blood a bride for Himself. The husband lays down his life for his wife, whether she is submissive to him or not. That is the undeniable example of Christ. You can see it in Hosea too, if you will read it. And if indeed a man is married to a believing, godly wife, she will submit to his God-given authority as her head. Yet if she is not believing and unsubmissive, the husband must still love her as Christ loved and died for him. Now that love may manifest itself in control, not permitting her to pursue that which is sinful and against God though she herself does not submit to God. I can think of at least one example where even a believing wife was not controlled/disciplined by her husband to the detriment of the church. But that does not mean control is the highest ethic and standard in marriage. Nowhere in Scripture (as far as I am aware, please correct me if I'm wrong) does it teach that a husband must "control" his wife. I think this comes out of your view of headship, but I challenge and encourage you to let the Bible shape your understanding of headship, not to let your own experiences and ideas dictate its meaning. I haven't read all of your comments on this video, but I see a distinct lack of Scripture in what I have read so far.
Another thought: is Christ the head of non-believers? No, He is the head of His bride, His body, the Church. So what business does Christ have with those who deny and reject Him? Instead of controlling them to believe, it says in Romans 1:24, "Therefore God gave them over in the lusts of their hearts to impurity, so that their bodies would be dishonored among them." It is a similar story when considering passages that speak on church discipline (Matt 18:15-17, 1 Cor 5:11-13, 1 Tim 1:20, etc.)
So then, if a believing man is married to an unbelieving wife (not encouraging unequal yoking, but if a man becomes Christian while already married), how should he be her head? Is it by controlling her? I do not see this as biblical at all.
But if she will not submit to him, should he divorce her? Neither should he do this, as Jesus teaches in Mark 10:2-9, "What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate," and Paul in 1 Cor 7:12-16, "if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he must not divorce her."
So what should a man do with an unbelieving, unsubmissive wife, who still consents to live with him? He should again look to Christ who loved and served and gave His life for an unruly and rebellious people, hoping and praying that his wife would be saved and come to know Christ through him.
Finally, I once again want to bring to your attention Ephesians 5:25-27. Christ sanctified His bride, cleasing her by the washing of water with the word. Is this true in your life? Are you being sanctified by the Word of God? Or do you prove yourself to be in rebellion to the very Truth you declare? I don't say all of this because I want to dismantle your argument or put you down, but if you are my sister in Christ, you must present yourself as one in word and deed, showing the Lord as your Lord through obedience to Him. Certainly Christian men in our society have a long way to go to rediscover biblical manhood (I am doing this myself as I prepare myself hopefully for a woman God will place in my life), but the same can be said of the Christian women.
God bless.
Still single?
@@framboise595 wow you’re still commenting on this video 3 years later.
I gotta be honest... I started watching this a few days ago and stopped at min 10 and said, "this isn't what i need". Today I am re-watching it and THANK GOD for it! God is so mercyful and full of GRACE
Luciano Camacho i did the same thing
@@framboise595 “The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”
The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.” That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.”
Genesis 2:18, 23-24 NIV
“Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church- for we are members of his body. “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” This is a profound mystery-but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.”
Ephesians 5:21-33 NIV
God bless you!! So often Satan tries to turn me away from videos that God clearly wants me to see. That cynical voice interrupts God's calm and quiet one, trying to deceive me and drive me away from it. PRAISE GOD that you saw it and may God bless you and your marriage!
@@framboise595 it says wives submit not husbands force, it is an action of the wife that shows her fruits. Husbands are told to love and love is not forced. God has proven as much, he wants us to choose him, as forced love is not love at all. Christ died for our sins, husbands represent Christ as the head of the church(wife). Men must lead and if a wife chooses not to submit God is just and righteous and true and he knows the full story. Vengeance is for the Lord and him alone right? So we continue in our personal walk even though others may sin and fall short. Meeting sin with sin is never what we are called to do.
@@framboise595 who said anyone is scared of their wives? That's pathetic we should fear the Lord alone. Simp men who excuse sin to stay in good favor for women are pathetic. Equally pathetic is a man who has to force his wife to "submit" instead of her submitting to the authority herself. We should call out sin and if they repent not, confront them with a fellow in Christ. Unrepentant still? Bring an Elder. Still unrepentant? Then they've made their bed and you can rest knowing you did your part. We are called to love everyone, enemies included. No where do we force people to submit to the Gospel though it is the authority, Christ did not force anyone to submit to his authority though he'd be the most justified in doing so. Instead he proclaimed the truth and whoever did not submit to the authority he allowed them to stray and sin. Those who understood and submitted to the authority he anointed. If you have an issue with forgiveness and loving all you have an issue with the Word of the Lord. Men and women need to stand up for the truth. What should a woman do if her husband commands her to go against God's word? Should she submit even then? Women are told to submit no matter the qualifications of the husband as to win him over with faith and men are to love their wives as Christ loved the church(unconditionally) so as to win them over by faith. This seems like a faith issue. You don't have faith that God will honor you humbling yourself and keeping your hands from sin though the closest around you may sin. Women should submit as commanded by God's word but they have to submit. Forcing the Gospel or forcing submissions just shows how much you've failed to spread the light of the truth and be an example. Even if you were perfect some women will still refuse obedience and that is their problem God will correct them for. Vengeance is the Lord's do you not have faith that he will honor sacrifice and bring justice to you? Another faith issue. Let's be clear just because you can force someone to do something doesn't mean they submitted to your authority especially if they do so begrudgingly and with resentment. They can obey in the body and rebel in the mind and nothing you can do can get them to submit they must do it of their own accord. The same way no one can be forced to believe in Christ even if someone compels a prayer at gunpoint. They must accept and believe within for it to truly honor God's commandments. To be clear women should submit to the Word which tells them to submit to their husbands but you cannot force them to submit and you should never sin because others do so don't think a rebellious wife is an excuse to be rebellious to God's word. Otherwise how are they any different? Faith and submission to the word is required of all of us.
Having a husband that tries his best to do what the Pastor explained is an absolute blessing. It makes me want to be a better wife and partner every day so I can "reward" his love for me
@framboise595 You need to learn how to write before criticizing someone else's statement
@@framboise595 tend your own garden
Mr winger I am a 19 year old male, and this message has been such a blessing to me. Thank You
I'm 18 👀
When the man acts like a Godly husband toward his wife (and vice versa), the children have a superb example to follow and their future will be much brighter. I wish my parents were like this, it would have made a huge difference in my life. Kids love to see their parents loving and respecting each other.
Yes, but you just said a key part. Respecting each other.
No offense toward you but so many women feel they have the blank check to just dismiss their clumsy ignorant men and show so little respect.
@@mo-215 Has to be mutual always, otherwise it's not a real partnership!
Now you can have a heavenly father you can look up to. He adopts us into daughership and Sonship if we accept Jesus.
Coming up on my 2 year wedding anniversary. I watched this video the week before I got married to prepare myself and this is the 3rd or 4th time since being married I've watched it to remind myself. In my short time of being a husband I've learned that sometimes this is the easiest thing to do, love your wife as Christ loved the church. I've also learned that in the times that it seems like the hardest thing to do, in those times it is the most genuinely beautiful out come I've ever seen. We shouldn't do right simply for the reward, but when you selflessly love your wife in the hard times, the most beautiful thing happens and trust blooms stronger.
This was a great break down, 7 years in to my marriage and I can say with all certainty that love is a choice. A choice we are called to make every day
Just hearing someone say "your primary ministry is your spouse" is a pretty radical concept these days, but it needs to be said, especially nowadays when marriage is treated with the same devotion as casual dating.
@@azurephoenix9546 I agree with you 100% If we cannot even take care of the people in our own home how can we be ready when God calls us to minister to the ones out side our homes
As a man about to get married, this is one of the best things I could have heard. It's hard, but it's needed. Thank you Mike!
Congrats man, God bless your marriage
I hope you got a prenup
I cannot identify with feeling in love and not feeling in love later in marriage. I have always been in love with my wife. I think it is just a gift of God and I am thankful for it. I can remember waiting for the time when I am.not in love anymore, where the thrill was gone. It never happened. We are married 28 years now.
I want this for me and my husband 💗
That is amazing. I can relate because I am able to maintain being in love. Unfortunately the men I have been with have not been able to do so for me
Hallelujah
I think we need to be more careful with how we speak, how we say things really matters. Jesus calls us to love, not be in love. Love and in love are two different things and when you try to define them I believe you will see why it's not ok to be in love with your wife, but to love her as your wife. If you make the distinction you can help educate people on what makes a good marriage.
@@framboise595 I can't take credit. Reading the Bible showed me how important words truly are. Since Jesus is God's words and we are to worship him, words are literally what saves us. Psalms 138:2" I will worship toward thy holy temple, and praise thy name for thy lovingkindness and for thy truth: for thou hast magnified thy word above all thy name." As for sex in such an effeminate society, have you ever seen how beautiful women are? Not even the Instagram ones, just regular women l. Remember I. Genesis when God presented Eve to Adam, he knew about her, just saw her beauty and said, this is good. He also defied God because she told him too. I will never again under estimate the beauty of a woman :)
“That’s when it hit me, that love is a verb”
-dc talk
Mike Zeke showing you age there my friend. That album was my Jam 😂
Look out we got us one of them Jesus freaks lol
The best thing we can do guys is make sure our son's know this information!!
Actually the best thing you could do is tell them not to do what’s in this video. Feminism disguised as Christianity.
@@lakeland01 actually, the law of submission is directed at women. We do not subject our wives, they submit themselves
@@lakeland01 a Christian husbands play the same role as Christ did for his bride the church. He took on the burden on the cross while his bride was redeemed.
Watching this actually helped me understand how I too need to always choose to love my husband. Even when it’s difficult and he may do very stupid things I get to display the love of God to him. Not that we don’t practice this at all but I recognize we need to practice loving one another when it’s not easy. Not just when it’s reciprocated but when I may feel offense or upset about something to choose him over the silly things.
Hi Pastor Mike. Love your ministry! Scripture tells us to confess our sins to each other...I was a terrible husband. I was the sole provider and held that against my wife. I wasnt compassionate...wasn't understanding to her struggles in life. After 10 years (3 and a half years of marriage) and two beautiful daughters, she has understandingly so, left me. I'm asking for your prayers..for whatever God's will is in our marriage, but also that I turn to Christ every moment of the day to be the kind of husband the Scriptures commands me to be. The kind you discussed in this lecture. Much love brother.
I think God really spoke through this guy. What a beautiful message.
“Do whatever your wife orders you to do” is a beautiful message? Ok.
How do you know that god speaks through anybody? You have no evidence that your god even exists.
@@haploid2k I think you may have misunderstood his message. No, it is not a woman's place to order her man around and in ANY way emasculate her husband. I think he simply wanted to focus on the husband's role and what the bible specifically says about how a man is to love his wife. He gave examples of how one can do this. It is still by all means a choice, but isn't choosing to love your wife and show that love through simple actions and being courteous such a wonderful way to demonstrate God's love for us? There is always so much focus on a wife's role to of course support her man and to allow him as the head of the household to be that strong leader. We don't have to do things for one another in a marriage, but when we CHOOSE to show love in a selfless way it makes the other person want to do the same. Don't you think? No hate or mal judgment here. Just a thought to consider. Be blessed.
@@framboise595 I think you may have misunderstood his message. No, it is not a woman's place to order her man around and in ANY way emasculate her husband. I think he simply wanted to focus on the husband's role and what the bible specifically says about how a man is to love his wife. He gave examples of how one can do this. It is still by all means a choice, but isn't choosing to love your wife and show that love through simple actions and being courteous such a wonderful way to demonstrate God's love for us? There is always so much focus on a wife's role to of course support her man and to allow him as the head of the household to be that strong leader. We don't have to do things for one another in a marriage, but when we CHOOSE to show love in a selfless way it makes the other person want to do the same. Don't you think? No hate or mal judgment here. Just a thought to consider. Be blessed.
@@framboise595 As far as feminisation, I too am actually in agreement with you that our biological (and other) differences with men are what make us stronger together. We complete eachother, and the differences shouldn't be seen as something negative. I don't like how there is according to this new era of feminists a new 'feminisation' of men in certain aspects of life. I didn't gather though from this pastor's lecture that what he is explaining is that men should be submissive. I think he was simply explaining how men can show their love and then see the fruits of that love... to "Love your wife as Christ loves the Church." - Ephesians 5:25 As a Latina I can tell you that in our culture there is still a lot of Machismo, and while women are expected to still love and honor their husband (despite sometimes being abused and taken for granted), there is not always a focus on explaining to men this part of the bible and what that can look like. It brings the two closer when not all the responsibility to show love and be a devoted spouse is so one sided. Curious to know what you think though.
"No matter what, it's always time to love my bride" --excellent vision for me as a husband and Christian.
I never understood the meaning of love the way you described it. You’ve given me a brand new understanding through this teaching. By the way, I am a Christ-following woman who prays daily for my husband also to come to Christ. Although he is not watching this video with me right now, I am hopeful that the Lord will begin to touch his heart, and in the meantime, this video is still very helpful, and I’ll be sure to share with my three sons as well! 🙏🙏🙏
This was so liberating.....
No wonder I stopped feeling safe enough to submit in my marriage. I forgot who my God was, as I was trying to survive being sick in an unsupportive and hostile environment.
@@framboise595 it seems unseemly that my emotional honesty was misinterpreted for your own purposes.
What might be happening within your thoughts and feelings that caused you to respond that way judgmentally? I see a lack of empathy and no compassion, and my heart goes out to you currently.
I stated that I was in an unsupportive and hostile environment, while sick and married. Yet, somehow you focused on my emotional honesty to validate a cognitive distortion of your own making about me. If you go back to my reply, I never mentioned what my actions were as a result of my feelings, nor any specific actions of his. I said that I stopped feeling safe enough to submit.
My point was that I stopped feeling safe with him, as he had proven to be self centered, and made reckless decision that injured me and my children as well. I am accountable myself due to my indiscretion in not knowing what I needed in a man, for being out of alignment with God before marriage, and for my codependency tendencies.
This sermon was excellent for me, and it resonated very much with me. Yet, somehow my emotional transparency triggered counter attacks from you.
Have you asked yourself why is it that you are disputing, invalidating, and counter attacking various comments?
I wonder if the Scripture, "do all things without disputing..." and let every man be persuaded in his own mind", need to be revisited.
May God's Holy Spirit cleanse us all!
Thanks Mike. Been there did that!! She has gone home to be with Her Lord and Savior! We had 60 beautiful years together!
The biblical formula works!
What a beautiful testimony for the Lord and about your wife! I was blessed to have a husband who was better than I ever deserved (just like the Lord is better than I'll ever deserve). God gave us 32 years together before He called my husband home. I'm still counting time, waiting to see him again when I get home.
God Bless You.
Hosea, talk about having immense grace for his wife and being a fantastic example.
Thank you mike, you really helped. Ive been struggling as a godly man with a wife who continues to lose her way, not talking or wanting help, just thinking she can do it on her own to the point of being shut out all together. I gave up friday because i was at the point where i was the only one left who valued our family as a unit (kids off doing their thing, wife always busy doing her thing or head stuck to a screen) we had a fight and i threw my wedding ring out the car window and said i cant do it anymore. When you said i need to pay the price for her fall and failures (sins) i cried.. you gave me strength and advice to not give up just yet.
Thank you
I hope things have healed in your marriage. Just as you are to love your wife, she is to submit to you. It is very sad that your godly roles were compromised.
If you are still struggling, keep in mind that the Lord has a plan for you.
God bless
@@BasedZoomer hi mate, Thank you for the reply. My marriage while a work in process has been completly transformed. Its funny i just got notified and forgot i had wrote this message... and i cant believe how things have changed. God has transfered my wife heart as she was going through so much from past.
Any updates?
Jesus! I know this is over 5 years ago. Such a hard pill to swallow😳. I’ve been married 13 years. Been with the same woman for 20 years. It’s EXTREMELY hard. I cry all the time when I’m alone because it hurts SO much. The fact that I’ve made my wife cry over something stupid that I’ve done. Yet, she’s still here. Wondering what am I doing. Talking to God while crying out, “LORD I’M NOT CUT OUT FOR THIS😭.” As of now, I’m in my work truck just listening to this. Sometimes I wonder have I made a huge mistake in getting married😣. I’ve ALWAYS recognized the good and faithful woman that God has brought to me. I just told my wife yesterday, “it’s not you, it’s me. I’m the problem.” I’m always bringing this up to God. This was definitely a great video. Very inspiring. I have SO much work to do😮💨. May the good Lord bless you, and your wife. Thanks again for sharing 🙏🏽
I hear you. God bless you brother. You have conviction and I see that you want to repent. God knows your heart. I have faith you will grow as the Holy Spirit guides you in the way you and your wife needs it.
It’s really quite simple, whether you’re a man or a woman, the idea is to empty yourself of your own selfishness. For a man to love a woman so deeply that he would lay his life down for her as Jesus did, requires him to humble himself and lay aside all selfishness. He will come to know and understand his wife better than she knows herself. For a woman to submit to her husband also requires her to lay aside her own will and self-centered ambition. She will naturally seek and desire his strength and leadership and look for ways to honor and please him. She will help him build a home of peace and love and he will fortify the walls with godly strength and protection. They are both called to be kind, respectful and honoring to each other which requires humble hearts, the fruit of the Spirit manifesting in their marriage. If you can’t do this, then don’t get married. Outside of marriage, whether you’re male or female, Jesus Christ is your head.
I wish I could give this comment 100 thumbs up. Well said. We are called to love, and love is putting the best interest of the other before our own desires.
If you can’t do this, then don’t get married.
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You do realize that most won’t know this until after getting married (even with the best of intentions). It’s a Catch-22.
@@s1n4m1n that's why the divorce rate is as high in the church as it is in secular society. People need to read their bibles with a heart that is quick to repent when they miss the mark and do better.
But you would enter the marriage with the desire to do so, and would be, presumably, willing to have Christ make up for you weaknesses in meeting the standard. The OG post is likely saying if you're not willing to make the attempt then you shouldn't get married. If you're willing to make the attempt, you'll be aware of the refining process of marriage and willing to let God work in your life.
Thanks for this video Mike. I showed it to my wife and she reassured me that I am doing a good job as a husband. We both loved how you articulated what biblical manhood is. There are definitely areas I fall short and could improve on, but I feel like I have a renewed hope to be a better husband everyday. Keep doing what you are doing brothaman! Thanks for lovingly telling difficult truth that every married couple needs to hear.
I couldn't sleep when I first started dating my husband he worked the night shift and I would stay up texting him late into the night and I also couldn't sleep because of the excitement of knowing he was the one. And then he told me that he's been sleeping BETTER because he feels secure and happy in our relationship and honestly that helped me sleep better knowing that HE was sleeping better because of ME 🤣🤣🤣💕💕💕💕
I love my wife and being able to serve her is a blessing from God 🙏 thank you Jesus
@@framboise595 If the one who serves is always under the one who is served, (which is contrabiblical and false) then Jesus was under almost every person he ever interacted with. For he said of himself that the son of man did not come to be served, but to serve.
@@TheTrenchesYT good luck with him. He is literally everywhere in the comments teaching that men should control women
You serve your wife? Ew
@@loveoflife709Would you say "Ew" when Jesus Christ Himself wash the feets of his disciples? Shame on you
@LN Jesus is Lord, we are his servants and friends, not the other way round. Remember Jesus said how servants are expected to serve their Lord without expectation of reward because it's their duty? He washed the feet of disciples that submitted to his Lordship. A woman should submit to her husband likewise.
"I decide to do whatever blesses her." So perfectly well said.
@@framboise595 stopping going about and preaching this version of falseness. A man is the ruler of the house, and which of us thats to lead must become a servant. It’s a self sacrificial love.
@@framboise595 if you watch the video before this, he speaks of the duties of the wife, which is to submit to the husband. And That was which you call ludicrous is a Quote form Christ, A man leads by serving, who ever wants to lead shall become a servant, the point of leading is not to do what you please to house and to your family, but to lead is do and decide whatever is pleasing to them. A man doesn’t do whatever the wife wants, that’s the point of the video.
@@framboise595me and you are not disagreeing on this but leading is self sacrifice and Sex doesn’t change that. You are not leading you for you, the leading is for the person who is being led. The wife doesn’t need to be out in “check” for sun to be purged out. And they are instances where the wife shouldn’t submit, if you didn’t read the Bible with your own interpretation instead of letting the text speak you would know this. Authority is given for many groups, church leaders, secular leaders, and the husband, in all of them you are obeying to glorify God, if the authority these people have exercise goes against God, no one shouldn’t submit.
@@framboise595 the first part is literally a quote from Christ. You should stop reading your thoughts onto the Bible and the book speak. I get that you have a problem with feminist, or seems like women. But Christianity is not anti feminist. Stop projecting your political views on Christianity.
And again she doesn’t rule over him, He chooses to do things that pleases her, it’s not worship it’s love, A SELF SACRIFICING LOVE. Joining that with Satan is a absurd.
A husband is not a domineering figure in marriage who orders around the wife as he pleases.
All things you mentions like feminism, emasculation in this particular case are all conservative views projected onto the word of God.
I want to have this conversation with you, but you keep writing whole books, and I don’t think this is ever going to end.
Mike you are probably one of my favorite Bible teachers. Not only because of this content, but because of a lot of your content. Your approach to the Bible is honest, humble, and as someone who leans heavily toward the reformed Calvinist camp, I greatly admire your teaching! I’ve listened to many of your teachings and I always am humbled. God bless you, sir.
I agree. 👏👏👏
I'm a neurology student. There is a difference between men and women on a neurological scale. On average, the neural pathways of men and women differ in directional pattern. Men's neural paths are linked back to front, meanwhile women have more interaction between the hemispheres when their neurons fire back to front. Men have a more direct pathway to the frontal cortex, like a laser; women are more like a pinball machine. They're different, but one isn't better than the other. Men think faster and women think more. I think this supports the notion that men are leaders and women are nurturers. It also supports the notion that men are too impulsive and women are too sensitive. Checks and balances. It's hard to say whether these pathways are innate or reinforced by socialization, but they are there. There is a difference, on average.
On average, but there are still lots of people who aren't average, which means that we can't have "rules" designed around an average. My husband is a very quick thinker, and somewhat impulsive. My father is a slow, thorough thinker.
I'm at a point in my life and marriage where I realize I am selfish and not doing my part. This has been a godsend to get me back in line and inform me what my responsibilities are. Ty!
I Pray more young men see this. Thank you Lord for sound doctrine
The weaker vessel meaning body... so nice. As a woman, I was forced to wrestle and compete with my step-dad and brother. I would be so hurt that I would pull away from both of them. Men please don’t try to physically injure your daughters in order to show dominance, they are not sons!
Then they shouldnt act like sons.
❤ WOW 😮!!! My friends and I have often and most recently discussed how the roles and purpose of marriage have never been properly represented in any message. It’s always about women submitting (which has given men more “authority” to be abusers) but never on how men ought to love the wife as Christ loves the church. Finally a truly biblical representation of both roles focusing on how the leader should truly lead after Christ’s example. THANK YOU 🙏🏽 will be sharing will others, first within my home with my sons and daughters. BLESSINGS!!!
I watch married with children every day before work. I love your teaching Pastor Mike. ♥
I'm living in a different state than my wife for my daughter's sake. She's 18 in 6 months and when she is I plan to finally reunite with my wife. Being apart is killing us and it's Love and our commitment to Jesus and our vows to God that keeps us going. Please pray for us.
Amen paster Mike. I understand more clearly now why all of my relationships have failed. First, I wasn't living with god, and secondly, I was't with any woman that believed in god. I have met the most wonderful, god believing, woman and I want nothing more than to be a good husband to her, and god willing, a good father to our children. This gives me faithe I can do that. Thank you lord Jesus, and thank you paster Mike for peaching his word in a way I was able to understand it. god bless you, and your family.
Joseph was a good husband. When he thought maybe Mary had been with another man, he intended to keep quiet about it to save her reputation. I wish we new more about him.
Joseph was planning on ditching her until an angel from God set him straight.
@@deborahjackson6108 Yes, but he wanted to spare her as much harm as possible by doing it quietly. Naturally, he thought she cheated on him.
@@Melissa-gn3dvShe probably did,and probably whit a man but whit many other women her "Friends" thouch" kiss whit tounge since all women are eather bi or lesbian,but ya'll only be against gay men Who 75% have masculine type behaviour ,they dont put lipstic and act like a women,but more masculine that streight men,cuz they dont have to deal whit hoex foids,he Is putting men down and tellin em to love women even if dey behave bad,misandry matriachy sexism gynocentrism feminist BS he Is spreading, using the part of the Bibble he want to not be hated by a men hating country like shitty America
I think we know a lot from the two things he did.
1. Tried not to put her in trouble even though it seems like she cheated and betrayed his trust, cos adultery can get one stoned (cares about the safety of others, even if they hurt him )
2. Obeyed God and raised the child.(Submits to God)
I really enjoyed hearing you speak. I needed to hear this today. Especially the verse about kindness - that is exactly what I lack as a husband and father.
I just found this in my search engine on UA-cam and blessed to find this . I wanted to stop this video , because I’m hearing things that I didn’t wanna hear . But my heart said no keep listening . I will be more thankful for listening to this !
@@framboise595 I know I am 5 months late but that is just so utterly incorrect. It litterally says the wife shall respect and submit to her husband who is the ruler of the home. But yes I agree the bible does not pay woman on the back it treats them as the counterpart to man as they are.
I didn’t know I was being a bad husband this hurts so bad to know I’ve been letting god down. I will be a better husband. Starting now
Good luck! You can do it! ❤✝️👏👏👏
I’m not married but I still watch this once a month and ready the Bible almost daily to better myself for my future wife.
God bless you.
@@jenninscho1980as well as you
This is AMAZING! I searched for years after my divorce to “ find” this type of guy. God HUGELY blessed me with a godly husband like this. Tears drop as I hear this video - I HAVE this guy. I am so thankful to him and to God for this blessing. So many of my single friends are looking for this man. Some realize it is the christian way to love and some don’t even know it. But MEN ,we are seeking this….. I just got blessed. Thank you for this video!
Mike, sorry nobody laughed at your OT “bringing home the bacon” joke. For what it’s worth you got a laugh out of me. This is great teaching. I especially liked when you said “well you’re called to make the decisions” “well then I’m going to do what blesses her.” Thank you for this timeless reminder about biblical husbandry. It’s also neat to see the progression of your teaching style. Blessing brother. -Kasey O
I thought the joke was funny also!
mike is my favorite comedian
@@framboise595 What men, such as yourself, don't get, is that when a good or godly woman is consistently truly adored, loved, and cherished... her heart melts completely and she becomes ultimately respectful, softer, more relaxed, more willing, more generous. She will follow his LOVING lead with RESPECT.
When a man isn't holding a safe space for a woman, isn't consistent, is demanding, controlling, and uncaribg for HER needs, she realizes that no one gives a flip about her and that she has to get stronger (more masculine/agressive) to look out for her well being within an environment seeking to use her up and wear her out like an appliance. That means resistance to him and power struggles will arise, eventually she will confront and then leave him if her needs are not taken into account alongside his. If she cannot or does not physically leave, she will emotionally leave and just go through the minimal motions like a robot and whether she pretends to go along or not, she will NOT feel any genuine respect for her husband.
I know this as before I became Christian I was with one of each of these two kinds of men. If an outsider had looked in, I would have looked like 2 TOTALLY DIFFERENT WOMEN!!! With the loving one, I was like an angel and with the controlling one, I looked like a fighter. Women are often the reflection of the men they marry. You think a woman is "acting crazy?" Ask yourself what he did to make her go crazy. The jerk I was with was cheating and drinking and verbally abusing while at the same time demanding I submit to his leadership. Where would a man like that lead me to except to hell? How could I put my faith or trust in him to care about my well-being? I couldn't. I left.
Now that I have become a Christian, I am looking for a husband that would treat me like the first guy. If not, I would rather be single.
@@framboise595 Pardon for assuming you're male. My point is NOT emasculating men. It is looking for win/win options by what the Bible describes as "submitting to one another" and certainly respecting men is vital but that does not require squashing women at all UNLESS it is a demonic/violent/narcissistic or manipulative woman. Men or women like that need to be called out and their behavior squashed by the church leaders and authority figures, not enabled.
As a housewife: Thank. You. And I thank God for this sermon.
Romeo and Juliet was originally written to be a warning story. If I remember correctly.
I have work to do. I just got engaged for the first time. Nervous, anxious, excited, motivated , & beyond blessed to have finally met my soulmate at 33
Praise God for Mike and his ministry. I needed this so desperately right now. I’m 28 and in a 2 year relationship with a woman who’s a total anomaly. Just gorgeous, so caring, loving, so many things I could say. I have to admit I smoked weed and drank so much in my early to mid 20’s and I just recently in the last year broke away from it all but I’m still dealing with the lingering effects of laziness, selfishness, etc. God came into my life in March and has moved me. I’m learning to be less selfish but this sermon has taught me I don’t need to be less selfish, I need to be completely SELFLESS. I want to marry this woman and I can’t do it if I don’t treat her like a Godly man would. Thank you again so much, Mike.
It would have been nice to have found Christ BEFORE i got married. I am in an unequally yoked marriage and finding that I have to honor that covenant regardless of what he does. It would have been better for my marriage if I had known this at least a year ago. I am following the Lord and doing as he asks of me but I must tell you it hurts. I praise GOd that he will be working all things out for the good since I Love God.
DeeM cSweeney My prayers are with you! It’s a hard calling. Have you read “The Love Dare” or seen its movie, “Fire Proof?” It might be worth a shot.
You must not have paid attention. This guy says the husband is required to love REGARDLESS of your actions. You have no obligations. Go cheat on him. Take his kids to drag queen story hour. According to this heretic’s video, you can do whatever you feel like and he has to love you unconditionally. Satanic feminism from the mouth of someone who claims to speak for God.
@@haploid2k not an appropriate comment for the thread. You could have posted this as a lone comment as opposed to spewing your disdain for the preacher on a random woman's post on an entirely different subject.
@@haploid2k well the bible says to love one another and forgive and not hold things against people. To love like jesus who died for people who mistreated him and hated him and still to this day do. Like people mess up a lot even Christians and God doesn't leave nor forsake them. He's always trying to draw people near to him. I mean I wouldnt stay with someone who cheated but If someone wants to show mercy and grace to someone and stay with that person let them. There is not harm in that.
@@haploid2k Mike is NOT a feminist. He already covered the wife's responsibility, and now he's talking about the husband's. He's reading what the Bible says, and teaching people to apply it. Be careful who you call a Heretic, especially when they are actually teaching the word of God. If you don't like it, pray to God about it and ask for clarity. If his teaching offended you, it might be conviction from the Holy Spirit. Blessings to you.
This touched a part of me that I thought was never to be again. Thank you and God richly, richly bless you and your bride, and family, in Jesus name, Amen.
2018 and these videos do not get old!!! You are a blessed man Mike. I can't get enough of your videos.
Get pin n burst ants overgrown honey filled abdomen causing chaos n confusion in all it's surroundings
How powerful it is that it never is about having a good marriage but doing Gods command.
Wow. Great teaching Pastor Mike. This is a masterclass in how to biblically love and treat one's wife. I will definitely apply this to my marriage. Thank you and greetings from Mexico.
You said this 7 years ago. But it’s crazy how much worst it’s got taking about men and women
Amazing word :) However, for those watching who are in actual abusive scenarios, ie. domestic abuse (physical, emotional, psychological, etc.,) should heed carefully when hearing marital advice (and use discernment/wisdom for what you must do). There are some relationships you simply do not stay for - you can be loving till you are blue in the face and still have an abusive partner...abusive relationships are not safe.
Jesus says to love that person as well as a spouse. Obviously physical abuse warrants separating from that person for safey reasons but not to abandon the marriage or to stop loving them.
Great teaching. I needed these reminders and appreciate the perspective. That part about the weaker vessel and how only the external vessel (the body) is weaker but NOT its contents was especially interesting and beneficial to see.
im a chef and i have to lead a bunch of guys that are pretty tough to lead at times and through that ive gained a way of speaking and leading that can be pretty short and commanding rather than soft and leading with kindness or love out front. although im not mean or rude, my fiance does remind me sometimes, "hey, before you have that talk with your mother, remember to be soft with her" or she'll remind me with a single tear or a look of sadness which breaks my heart when we had a tough conversation and i forgot to be more gentle and less matter of fact with her. i know that moment of seeing her hurt, even if it wasnt intentional or even anything rude, was enough to really show me how different she is than me and how differently she needs to be treated to feel loved at all times. im so thankful for her and im glad shes helping me grow into a better man of God and into a better husband as well. shes one of Gods greatest creations and i hope i can make her know that every day and that i can lead her in a way that pleases her and more importantly, pleases God. what a blessing my wife is. ill thank God for her every single day.
One of the best messages on marriage I've ever heard. ❤️
This is so informative. People usually just talk about how the man is biblically supposed to have authority over the wife and how that's "unfair," but this brings to light how the husband has just as much of a responsibility to obey and submit to his family's needs as the wife does on top of bearing the burden of suffering for his family's shortcomings.
A man submits to and obeys Christ, not his wife, not his family
@@loveoflife709it literally says to submit to ONE ANOTHER
@loveoflife709
When you realise that authority and submissions are to achieve the same result. And one doesn't have an extra bonus over the other.
You won't feel the need to fight about who must listen to who like someone trying to steal a treasure from men. Both are sacrificial.
I loved this video . Been having some trouble on understanding how to be a man and what the husbands role is. This has been so clear of what my role is in my future marriage. Thank You. keep It up!
Isabelle M WE SEE YOU! Stop LYING and TROLLING people. Not that anyone takes you seriously. You are a sex starved MGTOW man. That’s called a loser.
@@framboise595 then how do you have children? How do you explain “be fruitful and multiply?”
I've never heard a teaching on how to be a husband taught so well and thoroughly. At times I feel I'm left to figure it out on my own, but you've provided great content for me to go back and study more! Thanks, Mike! I needed this teaching!
This was so good even 8 years later, thank you for doing Gods work and preaching his Word 🙏🏽
To Pastors and church "Leaders" : If you think God needs your help , you are over-impressed with your own importance. God is inviting you to come along on an adventure with HIM - and HE does the work . You are HIS witnesses !
great teaching Pastor Winger, also that’s a tough crowd. In my opinion all your jokes landed, especially the “bring home the bacon” bit lol God bless. I’ve learned a lot today.
This sermon is a game-changer. Every Christian husband needs to listen to this. Thanks for posting
Isabelle M YOU ARE A MAN! Stop lying, trolling people and spreading hate.
Thanl you for sharing. This is what I needed to hear today.
Keep up the lords work
The Euphoric phase in relationships wear off when things are no longer fresh and new. People tend to use this as a sign to get out and run for the hills. When you said “Love isn’t a feeling but love has feelings” I completely understood that.
I am not a religious woman but i have been looking up videos on how to be a good wife/husband after watching a video on my feed. It’s refreshing to hear a man say HOW to love your wife. A lot of comments I see on other videos is that the men think that being the head of the household means they are able to tell the woman what to do and she must comply. She lives to serve him and her needs do not matter. That’s why I have such a hard time with religion.
@Isabelle M think you need to rematch the sermon.
Rewatch
Kuroi Hana, please understand that Christ was persecuted by religion. Spiritual people seek God, religious people such as the scribes and pharasee were not after the heart of God, they were after power. Please do not let the pride of man keep you from seeking God. GOD BLESS YOU
I really needed to hear this. Been struggling with roles and leadership in the home... some of this was extremely hard to hear, but I'm hearing the honest to God truth and it's exactly the guidance and understanding I needed. Now I need HIS strength to follow through. God bless you!
This is absolutely one of my favorite teachings you have done. It’s also the first teaching I listened to of yours. I have watched this one and the one for wives 5 or 6 times. Still just as good as it was the first time I saw it ❤️❤️❤️❤️
I love how you actually address what the husband should do because so many sermons only focus on the wife. Love from a sister in Christ!
Heeeyyy long time no see!
@@gigahorse1475 Hi! I haven’t been on Discord because I landed in the hospital after a severe mental breakdown, and afterward I couldn’t handle being there at the moment. Hoping to be back by the end of summer at latest...
Needed this in a way I can’t describe. God’s perfect timing (as per always) this morning. Thank you, so, so much, Mike. God Bless you.
"Men and women are wonderfully different by design!" Love that say it for the people in the back.
Love your biblically based teaching mixed with your goofy humor. ❤
Had a conversation with my mother on what the Bible says about marriage since I'm not religious. Lead me to this video and definitely challenged my perspective. I will definitely give this a lot of thought and I hope to be a good husband if one day i get there. Thank you !
Mike I must say I consome a lot of your content and this is the best video by far I am 1 month in on Christ changing my life and I praise God for your leadership 🙏 don't ever stop doing what you do
Welcome to the family!
Praise the Lord!
This is so good! Thank you so much. You broke being a Husband down to practical life.
I just love you Mike 😅 sound and engaging teaching. God is teaching me on marriage in this season and this is so insightful. Thank you. I appreciate your ministry. God bless you
Really challenging. Thank you for this message. I have been married for 3 years and we have 2 beautiful boys.
Great reminder to love my wife in every circumstance and focus on what God expects me to do!
@@framboise595 What are you going on about? 😂 Nut job please make sense
That story about who the Bible says to love hit me like a freight train.
This message is so needed for myself who is striving to be a better husband
Wow man... I'm soo happy and blessed to have run across this. Thank you for investing back into the kingdom and sharing this.
I pray that my husband will come across this video one day 🙏🏼
Me too
The "to put her needs before our own" striked me hard ! I think I still haven't recovered because it's so powerfull ! Thanks for that one
@@framboise595 as I've been scrolling through comments, I've noticed anything with the reply also has your name attached with a wall of text. You seem awfully opinionated for someone that claims to believe in God oh, you're a very judgemental person. I think you're getting mixed messages on the whole pedestal thing and saying how you're supposed to put your wife first and she will do the same and that way your needs are met and so are hers. I believe you're looking at this in the wrong light
@@framboise595 YOU TELLING THE TRUTH!
@@framboise595 you took what I said and twisted it, please re-read my reply to your original comment. You spent it off in a different way saying that God should be cut first when that was not the original intent, if you're going to argue please get the facts straight. Being right does not mean that you want an argument. You seem to want to be right in your own mind rather than achieving a common goal with the person that you are starting an argument with
@@framboise595 your still getting it twisted. You have preconceived ideas of you're talking points.
You are truly a blessing.....you did a great job from both sides... my God continue to use you in wisdom.
Romeo and Juliet were fools ! Lol..so true
Awesome video tons of great tips!! I draw the line at, women in the military not having to perform the same as men. If they can't count on the woman to do the same activities,they can't count on them to be in battle with men.
This was encouraging for me and opened my eyes to see how I've been a bad husband and as a minister for Jesus Christ I was quick to repent and ask God to forgive me and my wife because I have to love the wife and treat her right thanks I appreciate this word of God
Dang man!! Best message I’ve ever heard on the biblical role of a husband!! Great great job! Praise God for you and your ministry! May God continue to bless you!
This video opened my eyes..
Been having marital problems for a while (mostly my fault) but as of today.. no more!
I just went out to buy some flowers for her..
Thank you!
@@framboise595 hi Isabelle. Have you repented of your sins and turned to Jesus Christ, the only way to heaven? He who died and rose again on the third day to pay for our sins. Do you trust in him alone and not in your own works for your salvation?
@@framboise595 your comments seem so ignorant of husband responsibility I have doubts about your seriousness or about your beliefs. It is like you don't understand the concept that husbands can do anything wrong which is utterly ridiculous. For my marriage some problems have been because of my wife not submitting. But many problems are specifically my fault.
We are commanded to love our wives and 1 Corinthians 13 details what love is along with many other verses. But your comments don't give me confidence you understand that. We are called to love regardless of whether our wives submit or not. You also talk about beta vs alpha males and about men needing to be dominant, which are both very worldly and unbiblical ideas. Men are commanded to be leaders but not force submission. And you look at a husband serving his wife with disdain while that's exactly what Jesus did when he was on earth with serving others around him, meanwhile he is God in human form.
There are many more issues I see in the things you say that are contrary to scripture, but if you have disagreements with everything I just said then I don't see the point in going through them.
@@framboise595 I really think you have deeper problems then men and women and you have an issue submitting to truth. Besides for your personal feelings, what did Mike say in the video that is actually contrary to scripture? Because pretty much everything I heard him say was him sharing scripture and helping people understand. Are you married? What kind of church do you attend?
@@framboise595 everything you just said was unrelated to what I asked
Besides for your personal feelings, what did Mike say in the video that is actually contrary to scripture? I want you to take a specific point in the video where he brings up a passage in the Bible and then tell me why he is incorrect in his understanding.
@@framboise595 again, I want you to take a specific point in the video where he reads scripture. At that point he will say what the scripture means. Then you tell me why he is incorrect in his statement. Reference the time stamp and the scripture he reads from. Then I can have a real response to you based off scripture.
Thank you Mike! I needed to hear this so much! I shed tears of awe and joy when you spoke about the husband who took his wife back his wife who was unloyal to him! What a love that is, and one that I will work to show my girlfriend, soon to be wife and an absolute gift from God!
Thank you thank you thank you.
I am so grateful for this message because this makes my marriage EVEN better!
Recently divorced woman this Really makes me hopeful.