I fell off as soon as she said “I have a family that loves me”. ALR has flaws but her backstory should never be weaponized. Her family situation is not her fault.
@@MikasRhetoric the whole rant is gross but that part stuck with me. Someone so steeped in ALR lore would know her history and to bring up “I have a family that loves me” is a low blow
Yeah that rant is what did it for me too. Its fucking grim that she's blaming ALR's bullshit upbringing on ALR herself. ALR has a lot of problems, hell I'd even call her a bad person, but she would never (to my knowledge) say something like that.
Yeah same, I've gone through some shit in my life, and when she said that, I knew she was the type who would blame me for my kidnapping&rape n stuff if we got into a fight. She's someone who goes as dirty and hurtful as she can, and I really don't like those kinds of people.
As someone with a degree, i cannot stand when people throw their BA Psychology degree around and think that gives them special license to diagnose and talk about people. A degree doesn’t just make you a professional where you can just speak on those things.
Don't you need more than a Bachelor's to even have those credentials to begin with, or am I misinformed? Because I could've sworn most psychologists need a Master's or a Doctorate to pursue a solid position in that field...
Yep, and most states don’t even formally allow you to identify as a clinical psychologist i.e., it is against ethical standards to name yourself that without a doctoral degree + thousands of hours of clinical training usually through an accredited body + passing the licensing exam and fulfilling any requirements for jurisprudence testing pertinent to that state’s laws. So yeah, it’s pure BS when people claim they are “psychologists” with a bachelor’s or even master’s degrees.
I'm shocked you didn't know YDHB totally lied about medical school. She didn't go at all. She admitted it after one of her mods accidentally let the cat out of the bag. Her excuse was she "didn't want to dox herself", which made no sense. She wasn't working full time during that rant either and wasn't last year though she lies about it. Reddit has a Snark sub about her with receipts.
RIGHT like I’m studying to be a teacher and just the entrance exam that checks your ethical stances (Casper) shows that these ideas are not for people working in the public
I used to watch YDHB back when she had maybe 10k or less and I saw the famous rant in all its glory. I couldn’t believe it. Her videos just became her searching for any reason to blow up on Amber and humiliate her and I just couldn’t do it. Unsubscribed like a more than a year ago and now I hear only terrible things about her and I have to say, I’m not surprised. She’s VERY pseudo-intellectual
I remember this, god I used to watch her religiously 2019ish and idk when exactly but sometimes in 2020 she became fully unwatchable to me for these exact reasons I just couldn’t word it myself
"I have a family that loves me". Is that a personal achievement? Is she implying that Amberlynn's parents were addicted to drugs etc because she's a bad person? I don't understand? Like is amber not having a good family situation somehow a moral failing on her part?
That’s like saying “I have parents who love each other” or “I have a mom/dad who stayed” as if that’s somehow the child’s fault for their parents martial problems. Smh
You predicted it perfectly. 3 months later we get a "Why I'm leaving the left" video from her. Disappointing but not surprising. Good job calling her out months ago
As a psych student, I have trouble understanding how she can put down people that way. Most of our education is based on taking time to understand people, holding off from judging them and coming from a place of kindness. I guess I just wished she'd stop bragging about her education if she can't even put it to good use
@@luciefrn459 for real! it's scary to see it from someone who should actually understand how diagnosing someone over the internet is wrong. Yet she does it without shame, furthering the stigma around certain mental health disorders
She has made comments like ALR having a crush on her etc because she’s a lesbian (like jokingly) but it’s SO harming.. as someone who was closeted growing up for fear of women thinking ‘I must be I to them’ she really bothers me
She was also trying to get people to feel bad for her by saying something along the lines of “don’t assume I’m cis” when she got backlash about this. I agree completely, her jabs at people’s sexuality are disgusting. Especially when it’s being weaponized against amber trying to stand up for herself against YDHBs harassment that had been going on for so long.
I fell off her channel because it became more controversial. she started to sound angry and personally offended by the things she reacted to. This is not the energy I want to surround myself with.
I love how you worded this- this is exactly it! She was so snarky about it and seems genuinely affected by Amber doing something menial like staying home and colouring in. Lol
@@peaches8864 I agree! she was always angry at very petty things, and I am not the person to nitpick and complain about every little detail. Ambers not perfect,but she didn't need to get so much negativity thrown her way over nothing.
I remember ydhb went on a rant about how well she can cook because she was brought up in a home where everyone cooked... it was used in an argument against Amber. Everyone knows Ambers history in the foster system so the comparison was in such poor taste. Since then I have not been a big fan and recently I’ve considering unsubscribing.
Yeah the time to cook and then the time teaching children to cook is definitely something not everyone has. My single grandmother who raised me alone while working as a teacher didn’t have time to cook, she basically had 30 kids to take care of. So that’s a mean spirited thing to say when you know someone grew up in a very unstable environment
Her saying that trans people and trans women in particular will be “protected” because of their trans identity when trans women face such high levels of assault and murder is wild. I haven’t heard of this person before but it sounds like she’s already fallen down the right wing pipeline :/
This I’m a cis woman so I keep my mouth out of conversations when it comes to trans people sharing their struggles and voicing their discrimination. The fact Sara, as another cis woman, can say that absolutely blows my mind - she really has no idea
I stopped watching YDHB when I found the YDHB subreddit lol, it was right around the time she made a remark that taking Ozempic was "taking the easy way out" Another thing, in my experience people who claim to be "apolitical" are usually conservative but mingle in "mixed" communities (i.e., interact with people who have different political ideologies)
I havent seen this yet but yeah... I recently had to unsubscribe. as a member of the LGBTQIA+ community, her videos on things like neopronouns, and the way she allowed her comment section to run wild, was incredibly awful to see. I was so surprised. I used to watch her every video.
this is what finally made me realize how fucked up her channels gotten. as a trans person who uses neopronouns? shit felt like a slap in the face. everything came full circle then tho
@@mondolyssand6984 totally!! it was the ignorance, disrespect, and misrepresentation which did it for me. I'm agender, and call myself a clown all the time, and for that to be literally one of the ones being made fun of? was really awful to sit through. I don't use neo-pronouns because of this exact attitude, "it" being as far as I go, because I don't think i'd be able to handle being made fun of like this. I was hoping it was a mistake but her comment section was full of her hearting comments from others doing the same, whilst the ones who tried to help out were ignored. it's not like those from outside the LGBTQIA+ community can't talk on these things, but at least do it with a modicum of respect and an attempt at understanding to those involved.
It's a very disappointing thing, seeing her become the very thing she criticizes: someone speaking on topics they're not educated about in the slightest.
Talks about how women are over sexualized, continues to the sexualize the person that is the subject of the discussion. She’s talking in circles. That always gives me the impression that 1. they don’t understand what they are saying, where they’re usually just parroting shock-value talking points; or 2. Is trying to capitalize off “dude-bro/pick-me” content.
I recently saw someone make the argument that these right-wing/conservative transphobic arguments about propriety and normalcy aren't about the metaphysics of what a woman actually is, it's about having control of what is considered "normal". What expressions, and what bodies. That really stuck with me. (If I can find the person again I'll credit them but it was in a recent "leftist TikTok compilation" by the UA-cam channel "a dude")
Yeah...the transphobia was the final straw for me. Came out that it was an "anti-woke prank" and she just says "no it wasnt, i dont believe that' with...what evidence?? Because a trans-fetish predator conspiracy is more believable to her...? I was already leaning away from Sara and her community, her perspective and bragging, and especially in livestreams, her community doing the same en mass had started to make me feel really bad about myself (not intentional and no one's fault, but as someone so disabled I have dropped out of school twice, can't hold a job, and have very few people in my social circle, an entire stream of people superchatting to platform their social/academic/career achievements felt super isolating) I was side-eyeing her for a while, with some of the "these people identify this way and you HAVE to accept it" rhetoric and videos more mean-spirited about fat-acceptance, but this is when it ended up being impossible to ignore. It's incredibly disappointing...
Hey friend this comment really highlighted things to me about her channel I hadn’t realised we’re starting to make me uncomfortable. I slowed watching her content as someone with a neurological health condition I felt similarly isolated. Hadn’t seen much of her content recently but this video has definitely made me think harder about her recent content I have s en. Just wanted to say as a fellow disabled person who has dropped out of school due to my health too pls don’t let that community make you feel bad; your accomplishment are not comparable to anyone’s(none of us are people are so vastly different) but they are still there. Everyone has different struggles (and spoons) and accomplishments look different for us all. I hope you are being kind to yourself and I wish you the very best ❤
;;;;w;;;; omg thank you, this is so sweet 💖 yeah, i relate a lot, i hope you're doing well, too🔆I'm sorry you had to go through that too, both with ydhb and with irl struggles; it can be really hard but knowing there's others out there who share similar experiences helps, and we can always help lift each other up. thank you for such a lovely reply, made my morning 🔆💖
I was so disappointed when I saw the recent shift in videos because I really liked her too. I had no idea about her controversies outside of ALR so that was new to me. Honestly, she comes across as insecure and bitter now when I watch her.
It really feels like she’s arguing against someone she just made up. It starts out with her talking about a real subject, but then she makes so many assumptions and hasty generalizations that she’s no longer talking about a real person. She goes on and on about this supposed cis man exploiting trans rights to act out a fetish, but all of that is purely speculation, it’s an imagined narrative. Her entire argument is based on a theoretical scenario because there’s no evidence that it actually happened the way she says it did.
I watched Young Dumb Honey Bun for some time as well, but I realized she is often unnecessarily mean, like she just needs an excuse to feel moral high groud and she just says whatever comes to her mind without filter. She didn't pass the vibe check at the end of the day
As a librarian, thank you for talking about credibility! I teach en entire course on this, and it’s sad how many people don’t understand credibility at all.
i used to enjoy her videos, but she became so unwatchable after she would never shut up about how much better her life was. its horrible how she has almost become the onision to eugina for amber. relentless bullying, bordereline obsessive comparisons, etc etc.
I love that my favorite youtuber is talking about old channels I used to watch and had no one to talk to about it with at the time. I watched ydhb from like the beginning of her channel and watched her for month before I really started to feel like I was in a mean girl club and bailed.
thanks for making this video! The way she talks about trans people and other minorities has been rubbing me the wrong way. She takes right-wing rhetoric at face value while painting herself as unbiased and well researched, it's so frustrating and leads to so many people being misinformed, especially considering her platform has a decent amount of reach. I'm so tired of the ''trans people are predators'' idea that that video is eerily reminiscent of
@@MikasRhetoric Yeah that too, it's scary to think that people will automatically believe her because she has such a focus on ''I'm so educated guys, I went to medical school, I'm so academic''. She acts like she's so much smarter and superior to other people because of it, when her words don't hold any weight if she doesn't actually do any research. The fact that you could do more research than her within 5 minutes is so telling lmao 😭
exactly, when there’s significant evidence that predators are more often than not a blood family member, family friend, or religious or authority figure. your kids chances getting sa by their step dad under your own roof is way higher than by a random trans woman just trying to 🚽 at panera bread. 🙄
All these amberlynn react channels make me so sick tbh I used to be an avid watcher of all of them till I realized that all of us were aiding amberlynns addiction. They give her the money and attention she needs to keep feeding herself while they sit there and act like they are better than her. I just had to stop watching the whole community altogether. They’re like WE GOT HER WE CAUGHT HER IN A LIE like yeah bro no shit
Omg she rubbed me the wrong way when in a live stream she was saying "only Americans care about race/ethnicity" while simultaneously saying how she always stood out and was bullied for being an immigrant. For a lot of people being an immigrant is not the only hurdle you face when being in a new country. Racism usually plays a huge factor in that. It just came across incredibly tone deaf for someone to say both and not see how they are two sides of the same coin. A lot of people who dismiss bipoc people like myself hide behind this sneaky comment. Gee I wonder why the person who has to deal with racism keeps bringing it up 🤔 i could never really criticize from a medical stand point because thats not my field but when I heard that it just struck me incredibly hard just how biased this "unbiased" person is. I am not an immigrant but I've been through racism so I always had sympathy/empathy for those who have to experience both. So I was surprised she just used her experience to invalidate the other side. Like how do u of all people not get it babe?? She wasn't even criticizing racists in that generalization she was just saying it annoyed like why do y'all care about race so much it's weird. Yeah babe racism is weird. Also, European accents and blue eyes is literally exoticized and put on a pedestal so much I can actually see how she might've just never experienced racism from American audiences. Literally born and raised in America but people don't think my vote should count in free elections. Love the channel keep up the good work finals is around the corner I need my Mika videos 💗💗
Thank you so much! And that is why I brought up intersectionality because Sara doesn’t seem to understand that. Also, my program in grad school doesn’t have finals so lots of videos in December!
it was funny when she was posting little meme edits of ALR but then she just.... well, suffice to say that somebody's personality always shines through at the end of the day.
The final straw for me was the time ALR expressed that she might be looking into an ADHD assessment. Personally, I'm of the opinion that ALR seems to display certain patterns of symptoms that wouldn't be out of place for an AFAB person with ADHD, and I don't really mind if ppl disagree with me because it's something none of us are ever going to know for sure. But the thing that really disgusted me was when I watched YDHB's reaction, and she completely dismissed the possibility of something like that based mainly on "she's just looking for an excuse/she's just lazy and wants an appetite suppressant/she's taken all of this off the internet and it's 100% garbage" or something along those lines. I can't remember exactly what she said because I have ADHD myself and that means I live with a goldfish brain, but I do remember being incredibly angry and upset because it was straight ableism from someone who claims to be educated and empathetic. The shit she said in that video was exactly the same logic as comments that people have made to me when I was undiagnosed and unable to function, and it showed me how truly ignorant she is. She can talk all day long about seeing a doctor and going to therapy and taking care of your anxiety and depression, but she has no qualms and no remorse about spreading misinformation and stigma around about conditions where we suffer medical stigma and bias for the nature of our medication. Sorry if this is a wall of text, but it's one of the things I just don't hear ppl discussing within the gorlverse, and it hurt a lot to hear her go from somewhat reasonable to being so discriminatory and dismissive of a condition like ADHD. People don't know how subtle ADHD can be and how drastically a diagnosis and meds can change your life, and it's so hypocritical of her to claim she wants people to be well, yet she shuts down the idea of ALR literally trying to get help, regardless of whether or not we think ALR will go through with it.
@@MikasRhetoric the scary part isn't just that the harm doesn't go away, it's the fact that these kinds of statements can kill. Especially when it comes to ADHD, there is no active way for you to escape from a mind that won't let you function properly without seeking outside help, and the whole mindset that you should "just try harder" has ruined and taken so many lives.
My comment is sorta ignorant but it would be also a wall of text to fully go into in all but as Amber was told she has OCPD (which she doesn’t do anything for) and Bipolar (which she also doesn’t do anything for) they have “crossover symptoms” of ADHD So yes you’re correct that she does because ADHD like you know is never just ADHD there’s always often something else. OCPD and bipolar in ambers case
I used to also really like YDHB but I simply cannot fathom HOW she is possibly a therapist/has ever been a therapist. I have a couple of friends who are licensed therapists and have been in therapy myself for a long time & I simply can’t imagine any other therapist making videos and claims like she does. Also, one of the reasons I liked her is because I am a Ukrainian woman in America and thought I could relate a little to her but the way she speaks about being an “immigrant woman” is so strange to me. My Ukrainian friends and I never talk about ourselves in this way.
Her leaving hearts on comments thanking her for that video as if it’s some life or death situation that needed to be talked about.. old, reactionary article
Beening mad at all ages drag shows is so stupid, when she lives in the UK and all pantos have a drag queen. The proof that it's fine is in your face every christmas!
i unsubscribed from her because of everything you mentioned, i also felt like her whole “i have a degree” was so defensive like…. she’s projecting her own issues
You can always tell these reactors are gonna turn into cows when they’re response to criticism is always “look how pretty I am, look how successful I am, y’all could NEVER.” Reminds me a lot of a certain lyfe of a free spirit….
Early on in her channel she used to say that if you drew fan art of her she would post them at the end of videos. I noticed time after time she wouldn’t tag or mention the creators of the art so I left a comment complementing her video while politely suggesting she tag the creators. She responded nicely but said “I do! I just forgot this time” or something to that effect. I only commented after like 5+ videos certainly did not have tags. Not ground breaking by any means but certainly was a turn off and early signs that she is simply unable to admit she’s less than perfect. Like why lie about that.
Wtf did the whole respecting womanhood thing mean??? Isn’t it down to everyone’s interpretation of what a woman should be. Are we going into Terf territories now???
When it comes to the trans talking points, I fully believe there are predatory trans people just as there are predatory cis people. You will absolutely find a predator in any demographic if you look for one.
In regards to Sara taking other content, etc... If you look at her video upload timing, shes frequently a day or more behind the other reaction channels, and if you listen closely, you can hear not just similar points as other creators, but alot of times it is almost like she has taken 3 or 4 creators exact sentences, stitched them together and then records herself reciting the end product. Oh! And she also likes to take opinions from her comment sections too. Its super interesting. 🙄 Edit to add- she absolutely does watch and or reads things about herself. She probably will watch this and she might not address it directly, but she'll take jabs at what she doesn't like. Just like anyone else that's got the same personality and superiority complex, imo. 😁
Another great video! Thank you. I used to watch ydhb, but I got tired of hearing about her study of psychology, while she showed a complete failure to grasp psychological ethics.
Not to mention that she constantly posts about being a fan of Russell Brand and Ricky Gervais-- if it talks like a transphobe, walks like a transphobe...
She also loves to throw her "how do you know I'm cis?" card when queer people in the comments say the opinions of a cis straight woman don't matter when it comes to LGBTQ issues. Bun if you are trans you are doing a disservice to yourself, get a therapist and stop watching jordan peterson's vídeos.
I’m a trans person going into education and starting prac next year. I’m non binary but present fem and due to cases of people like her I never intend on going by preferred pronouns or gender for my job security. It’s real scary and I’m super nervous about it.
I used to watch her a few years back but completely forgot about her to be honest. It’s crazy to see how much her content coverage has changed. Also, with hindsight, I can see the red flags that were within her content beforehand that I definitely glossed over previously.
Old video but I just heard (was reminded) about Young Dumb Honey Bun and feel the need to share my experience. She used to have a Tumblr where she was an "ana coach" she encouraged and helped young girls (I was even underage at the time) to have anorexia and various EDs Idk if this is common knowledge but if this also happened to you pls reply this messed me up for a very long time
This made me look at her trans teacher video, and in the comments YDHB recently linked a Brett Cooper video under a very transphobic comment from someone that was calling transwomen men?? She didn't even correct the transphobic comment?? I am losing my mind 😭 she's fully going down the alt-right pipeline now, not even trying to hide it atp
@@MikasRhetoric also the exact copy of the comment from the person that she linked it under: ----- THANK YOU!!! Just thank you for uploading a video on things like this. I usually don't relate to the "offended" culture, but it indeed wrecks my nerve when I see and hear men say things like "we are women and we have everything a woman has, period, cramps, emotional outbursts, and so on." Essentially stereotypes and cliches, nothing else. And THE AUDACITY to say they're the same because yes, I'm gonna say it even if it's beyond obvious and and logical: THEY'RE NOT! It makes me SICK to see people like that. The entitlement and obvious signs of exponentially rising narcissistic traits are beyond me.... ----- LIKE BRO????? WHY WOULD YOU LET THAT SLIDE????? this is actually disgusting, Sara could've at least just said ''transwomen aren't men btw'' but nah, BRETT COOPER VIDEO
I used to watch YDHB but stopped watching after a month when I felt like she became more and more hostile. Haven't watched her in more than 2 years so curious what this video is going to be
i was a big fan of sara for a good few years but recently all the right wing bait she has been falling for and posting content on has rubbed me the wrong way because a lot of it is transphobe bait and i felt so isolated and alienated as a trans viewer. i think she has been getting pettier and pettier with the amber content recently; she is now so unbelievably petty, hateful and is slowly becoming a bigot imo. She is also very very easily riled and always has been. I just can no longer stand her and think she needs a major humbling in one way or another
Hi Mika love your videos, especially this one. But I do have a tad bit of info for you. There is huge xenophobia against eastern Europeans in Britain. Especially with the whole brexit movement. I learned about this from Angelika Oles, who like the person in this video, is a polish immigrant in the UK. I learned that this xenophobia affected her very negatively. So while I agree with most of your arguments, I think the xenophobia she faces may be a bit more impactful than what was said in this video. As some people think poles and other eastern european are not white. So the comparison you made to the US with Mexican immigrants may actually be more similar than you think. If you look up Eastern Europeans, brexit, and racism there is a short article by the British Sociological Association that shows the xenophobia against Eastern Europeans. As a fellow Canadian this doesn't make sense as poles and brits are both white, but as we both know race is a social construct that seems to change with the wind. And how we define a race is depends on the culture (and government definitions) in which we love. Edit: spelled Angelika wrong
You are correct that she barely faces any intersectionality though. Just pointing out that the xenophobia is more prevalent in the UK than it would be here (in Canada)
Thank you so much for educating me, I wanted to make sure that I wasn’t speaking on it like an authority because I felt I was not sure. I do think she is valid in her experiences and wanted to make that clear as well
@@MikasRhetoric Yes, truthfully my concerns were only a very small part of a long video, and I did enjoy the rest of the video as the main news story covered happened in a town close to both of us. Keep up with the good work! I'm glad I could educate you and that you received my comment well. I believe you have the best intentions, my only suggestion is to be a bit more discerning when it comes to other countries and looking at racism through a Canadian lense. Honestly I would know nothing about this if not for Angelika. Love you Mika! Have a good day
Obsessed with how good your under eye concealer looks, and how dewy & soft-looking your skin looks. I love reading the YDHB snark subreddit, so the fact that my favorite creator made a video about Sara is the cherry on top.
My under eyes have the Too Faced Born This Way concealer and the Becca Under-eye powder. I apply the concealer with the Sephora pro concealer brush (idk if you cared but I thought I’d share my secret 🤫)
Thank you so much for making this. I've been watching her for a long time and the toxicity only becomes more apparent every time I watch. Squish gang looking fresh! Love the makeup! keep up the GOOOOOOD work
Just finished watching the video, I’ve never really watched her content frequently only a few videos every now and then but this is absolutely disgusting. I find it baffling how she makes stuff up just to make it fit her transphobic narrative, no sources, no nothing. It’s very telling how she only keeps comments agreeing with her, and those who are are very obviously transphobic so… what a shame, truly wasted potential. As a trans person myself it’s sickening to see the lengths people will go to just paint us out to be bad all the time, it’s nearly impossible for them to not call us groomers and other disgusting things. They wouldn’t last a day in our shoes.
That is why I wanted to include the real time reaction in this video to show how you can truly pick it apart and how surface level her arguments were. I am happy that this video, where I point out transphobia, is already getting better views than her transphobia
I was a fan of hers maybe 3/4 years ago when all she, at that point, was a compilation channel. I got blocked by YDHB for liking a positive comment on her Instagram. Yes I was testing her. The comment was like 2 weeks old. I just find it funny how she expects to have open, healthy conversations but has a block list longer than ALRs receipt after ordering Door Dash. Educated, strong women can debate and talk about things without needing to block. People with thick skin don’t mind a bit of criticism and does need yes men walking on egg shells to do that. I remember seeing a screenshot of a comment on the Reddit page once say (roughly) “hey, I love you so much, but _____, again it’s not out of hate, much love❤” she liked and replied to it. I don’t disagree with talking about the subjects she’s talking about. But I would expect her to do more research and to be more critical of the sources she used. To be a “middle man” when having an open conversation, you can’t have a clear bias. She wants to pretend she’s a centralist, like many left and right wingers do, but has a tendency to slip up and show her bias. Politics doesn’t need to be 100% of one way or 100% the other. But she’s clearly around the central right and should just own it.
Wow Mika, this is the second video of yours that I've watched. I am SO impressed with the way you explain things and how articulate you are. So impressive. Well done! I'll be unsubscribing from YDHB.
I'm glad I'm not the only one who's seen how...downhill she's gone. I was so excited when I saw you posted this video! Great job! And asking the right questions as well as making fantastic points! ❤️❤️❤️
@@MikasRhetoric I think you did it perfectly. I started watching her for her amberlynn commentary, but after her video she just posted today shitting on the body positivity movement...I'm over it, and I've been over it for a while lol. I'm so glad I found your channel! I've been binging everything.
I had watched her for a while but that rant was ridiculous, it also gave me an uncomfortable feeling when she would talk about working with children with disabilities, her tone of voice when talking about them just felt off to me.
As a trans person it saddens me to see to see who the real Sara is :( I guess looking back the signs were always there. Thanks for your analysis and bringing awareness to this Mika
You bring up such a good point with the referencing in videos! I remember I was subbed back when she used to make reactions that included references to academic materials and had a legitimate psych perspective. Nowadays it seems like she values her own opinion on matters more than actual stats and facts! I kinda stopped watching after she went on that whole rant about alrs family and how she’s better than everyone because it seemed very mean girl, and it’s weird to see that she didn’t really grow much after that…
THANK YOU FOR THIS VIDEO i just unsubbed from her after watching this vid. i watched her ALR stuff and skipped the social commentary vids out of disinterest, so i had no clue she had said all this foul garbage. much love as always Mika
thank you so much for this video and the conversation. Your content about rhetoric is really cool in general! hopefully ydhb will watch this one day and considers your points. I expected more from her honestly
thank you for standing up for our trans sisters here, its so upsetting hearing the same anti-trans talking points over and over and trying to pass it off as progressive or logical. none of these people have any lived experience, none of these people have any authority over community discourse, and none of these people have any right to question the validity of someone's transness based on assumptions and stereotypes. it just sucks these views have such a prominent spotlight in media, its hard to escape from it :o(
"4 personality disorder your narcissistic guy probably has" made me lose it idk why. the absurdity that they try to present as factual and grounded is so comical if it wasn't sadly effective
its so funny how she criticises other's tendencies to use self serving argumentation and rhetoric while she literally invents this woman's lore without knowing anything about her just to prove a point. also the blair white rhetoric of "these people are giving trans people a bad rep" is so yesterday omfg. it's 2017 all over again jesus ducking christ.
“Always been this way” & rigid admiration for traditionalist values stresses me out bc it’s basically rooted in otherism & envy. The 1% lizards wishing to maintain power is one thing, bigots feeling entitled to superiority and exclusive power is another, but I am just disgusted by people buying transphobic propaganda for no self serving reason, while it actively harms entire communities. It’s worse than ignorance, it’s hatred. (All of these examples are terrible, the first two are just normalized imo)
I will never forget when Young Dumb threw a huge fit about people "canceling" Jenna marbles for doing blckface... when Jenna was just so embarassed about doing blckface that she *chose* to log off on her own. That always rubbed me the wrong way bc it made me feel like "wow, this white girl who uses so much aave, is mad af that a different white girl isnt.... unapologetic about blckface?? 🫠🙃"
On the "bottom of the barrell content" point: that's a good one, I didn't think about it but like, she recently started doing these voiceover videos, claiming that she doesn't have the time to properly setup and edit everything, and that's fair, but she also rants pointlessly in the majority of those videos (she herself admitted it). I would prefer if she just recorded less stuff, but more scripted and edited, I would enjoy it more
Hey Mika, while it is true that she is a white immigrant, there is something to be said for slavophobia (antislavisme) in Western Europe, especially in England. Brexit based a lot of its argumentation around "the job-thieving Poles and Rumanians won't be able to enter the country anymore". After the Brexit vote there has been a recorded spike in hate crimes against Polish immigrants. Personal experiences that can absolutely be skipped: As a Polish woman myself, I grew up in Germany and I have the privilege of not being read as Slavic as much, especially since my parents were advised when immigrating to West Germany to change their last name into German (and my dad's entire name, first and second), as it was "too hard" to pronounce and made them "un-employable". My mom has been belittled during my parent-teacher conferences, by patients while working as a nurse, etc. for her Slavic accent. I've been accused of stealing, endured jokes about my possibly stealing bc Polish, being sexualized based on my nationality, jokingly been called a mail-order wife, etc. I'm not saying this to criticise or attack you at all, I'm aware that as a Canadian you do not have any intimate experience with European -phobias and -isms. I just wanted to offer a lived perspective on where her pride might come from. This is, however, very subjective. And since I do not have a Polish accent and I mostly don't go by my Polish first name now, I've mostly been able to coast, so I won"t say that there isn't still a big privilege of whiteness at play. That being said, I also think she's giving Blair White. I was never able to watch much of her content. I absolutely agree with your assessment of her pandering to a more right wing audience, as well. It starts feeling like a rather unsuccessful, not yet fully committed to grift. (edited bc I wanted to sound less trauma dumpy haha)
Thank you for your criticism, I did not want to discount her experience of xenophobia but also wanted to state that I was not sure of the extent of it. However, there is still privilege, especially online, from being a white woman. That was the point I wanted to make but I did not do that as effectively as I thought
@@MikasRhetoric No, no need to apologise! I don’t believe many will take offence at all. I also still understood the point you were making regarding her privilege and I’m in no way shape or form denying that. It’s all an issue of intersectionality. Just wanted to point out that in Europe not all whiteness is considered equal and that her living in England could put her in a more vulnerable/marginalised position and thought maybe it is interesting. Personally, I think that you pointing out that she was a well-off white immigrant with an academic background was a more effective way of illustrating her privilege in online spaces.
I've seen the photos from the articles she uses for her statement about "biological women" (hate that wording) teachers being fired for being "too sexy." Those articles are dime-a-dozen garbage and often the photos are edited out the ass, no pun intended. If you pause on a couple of the screenshots she uses it's very easy to tell from the curve of their arms for example that someone edited those photos to make those women's butts look bigger, waists skinnier, etc.
I only watched a few videos of hers before I checked out. I’ve been following UA-cam drama for a very long time and one of the earliest controversies within the drama community was John Kuckian. However long before his first massive controversy, he would use his education to place himself above the people he was criticizing. It was a lot of “unlike me, who is studying medical chemistry and working to cure rare diseases…” or “when I launch my line of make up, I won’t have the same problems because I am working on my degree in chemistry.” At the time he seemed very credible, but eventually, everything he said about himself came into question and he ended up doing some very harmful things to a lot of different people. I’m getting a lot of similar feelings from YDHB. I’m not saying she’s lying about her credentials, nor do I think referencing your education is necessarily bad or wrong, but when it becomes a point of comparison, a way to elevate yourself above others, it feels very off. That and a lot of what she says overlaps with Angelika Oles, who not only uses her education to elevate herself, but also repeatedly ignores and belittles marginalized groups, I had to stop watching. If you invoke those two, I have to give some distance until it’s confirmed it was a fluke. Seems it might not have been imagined on my part…
I used to really enjoy the psychology elements of YDHB’s videos but lately I’ve found that sources seem to be amended to fit her narrative. She recently posted a screenshot of an article about Scottish police using the term ‘MAP’ which turned out to be a whole load of nonsense and didn’t correct herself explicitly. It’s so harmful!
I have a tough time articulating my thoughts or understanding how I feel about something. I knew when I stopped watching this video from Sara a minute in that something felt icky. I didn't think about why though until I saw this one from you - thanks!!
Mika, I gotta say, I do love your videos so much. Your line “it’s not that! It’s your phrasing!” Is so important! Phrasing and positioning are absolutely everything and I’m glad you’re calling people out so articulately. Anyway yeah you’re super smart and put this into words so well!!
i fell away from ydhb's videos before her "rebrand" because i started to notice that she was getting more and more bitter and hateful towards people like alr. granted, alr isn't perfect and she can be infuriating in her own way at times. but i really don't think that the way sara reacted to amber was necessary and she was just becoming angry and looking for things to be upset about. sometimes sara still pops up in my recommended and her new videos have struck me the wrong way. i don't want to watch them and i doubt i ever will. i used to think she was such a sweet person who just didn't put up with bullshit--but it's clear to me now that she's just bitter and falling down the alt right pipeline.
@@MikasRhetoric yeah exactly! like i get people are frustrating but to flat out mock and demean someone you've never even met outside of youtube is beyond me
I've been subscribed to ydhb for about a couple of years now, and I feel as though the channel's going in circles with Amberlynn? Like yeah, Amberlynn has been a terrible person for years now and a lot of us know that? Idk man. Either way subscribed to your channel!
I fell off as soon as she said “I have a family that loves me”. ALR has flaws but her backstory should never be weaponized. Her family situation is not her fault.
I did not even make that connection that is horrible
@@MikasRhetoric the whole rant is gross but that part stuck with me. Someone so steeped in ALR lore would know her history and to bring up “I have a family that loves me” is a low blow
That really turned me off too. Having a family that loves you is fortunate, but people who don't have one are no less deserving.
Yeah that rant is what did it for me too. Its fucking grim that she's blaming ALR's bullshit upbringing on ALR herself.
ALR has a lot of problems, hell I'd even call her a bad person, but she would never (to my knowledge) say something like that.
Yeah same, I've gone through some shit in my life, and when she said that, I knew she was the type who would blame me for my kidnapping&rape n stuff if we got into a fight. She's someone who goes as dirty and hurtful as she can, and I really don't like those kinds of people.
As someone with a degree, i cannot stand when people throw their BA Psychology degree around and think that gives them special license to diagnose and talk about people. A degree doesn’t just make you a professional where you can just speak on those things.
Don't you need more than a Bachelor's to even have those credentials to begin with, or am I misinformed? Because I could've sworn most psychologists need a Master's or a Doctorate to pursue a solid position in that field...
@@paigemosher8697 yup!
Yep, and most states don’t even formally allow you to identify as a clinical psychologist i.e., it is against ethical standards to name yourself that without a doctoral degree + thousands of hours of clinical training usually through an accredited body + passing the licensing exam and fulfilling any requirements for jurisprudence testing pertinent to that state’s laws. So yeah, it’s pure BS when people claim they are “psychologists” with a bachelor’s or even master’s degrees.
I'm shocked you didn't know YDHB totally lied about medical school. She didn't go at all. She admitted it after one of her mods accidentally let the cat out of the bag. Her excuse was she "didn't want to dox herself", which made no sense. She wasn't working full time during that rant either and wasn't last year though she lies about it. Reddit has a Snark sub about her with receipts.
Woahh, it's just that she said all this with such conviction
Oh damn
“I’m in med school” we’ll babes why does it sound like you’ve never once attended your ethics in professional practice classes 🥴
RIGHT like I’m studying to be a teacher and just the entrance exam that checks your ethical stances (Casper) shows that these ideas are not for people working in the public
I used to watch YDHB back when she had maybe 10k or less and I saw the famous rant in all its glory. I couldn’t believe it. Her videos just became her searching for any reason to blow up on Amber and humiliate her and I just couldn’t do it. Unsubscribed like a more than a year ago and now I hear only terrible things about her and I have to say, I’m not surprised. She’s VERY pseudo-intellectual
I also remember seeing the rant in its glory but I blocked it from my mind tbh
I remember this, god I used to watch her religiously 2019ish and idk when exactly but sometimes in 2020 she became fully unwatchable to me for these exact reasons I just couldn’t word it myself
Kinda similar to her current content: invent an imaginary enemy to attack
@@Iluvmitski_ I gave up on her alot later. It was not unlike my blair white phase which I regard as even more embarrassing
It’s interesting (maybe?) to note that she’s originally from Poland. Poland has really poor rights for LGBTQ+ people. Not good.
"I have a family that loves me". Is that a personal achievement? Is she implying that Amberlynn's parents were addicted to drugs etc because she's a bad person? I don't understand? Like is amber not having a good family situation somehow a moral failing on her part?
I didn’t make that connection before but it seems like it
That’s like saying “I have parents who love each other” or “I have a mom/dad who stayed” as if that’s somehow the child’s fault for their parents martial problems. Smh
You predicted it perfectly. 3 months later we get a "Why I'm leaving the left" video from her. Disappointing but not surprising. Good job calling her out months ago
As a psych student, I have trouble understanding how she can put down people that way. Most of our education is based on taking time to understand people, holding off from judging them and coming from a place of kindness. I guess I just wished she'd stop bragging about her education if she can't even put it to good use
I agree, I’ve only taken a couple of psyche courses but that was the sentiment I got from them as well
Same, she has no empathy, that's scary for her future patients :/ and the way she keeps diagnosing Amber as a narcissist.. 🤦
@@luciefrn459 for real! it's scary to see it from someone who should actually understand how diagnosing someone over the internet is wrong. Yet she does it without shame, furthering the stigma around certain mental health disorders
@@vkllpi6177 yes exactly! :( And some people take her word for it because they think she's ''educated'' and everything..
LMAO if she gets a job after this
That speech at the beginning just makes me think of Cassie's bathroom speech in euphoria I HAVE NEVER EVER BEEN HAPPIER
THAT IS SUCH A GOOD COMPAIRISON
She has made comments like ALR having a crush on her etc because she’s a lesbian (like jokingly) but it’s SO harming.. as someone who was closeted growing up for fear of women thinking ‘I must be I to them’ she really bothers me
She was also trying to get people to feel bad for her by saying something along the lines of “don’t assume I’m cis” when she got backlash about this. I agree completely, her jabs at people’s sexuality are disgusting. Especially when it’s being weaponized against amber trying to stand up for herself against YDHBs harassment that had been going on for so long.
I fell off her channel because it became more controversial. she started to sound angry and personally offended by the things she reacted to. This is not the energy I want to surround myself with.
Yeah it is a very negative channel
i stopped as soon as i got the Creepshow vibes from her. im not about to get fooled twice
Same! It’s so negative. She seems to really search for anything she can have criticism on
I love how you worded this- this is exactly it! She was so snarky about it and seems genuinely affected by Amber doing something menial like staying home and colouring in. Lol
@@peaches8864 I agree! she was always angry at very petty things, and I am not the person to nitpick and complain about every little detail. Ambers not perfect,but she didn't need to get so much negativity thrown her way over nothing.
I remember ydhb went on a rant about how well she can cook because she was brought up in a home where everyone cooked... it was used in an argument against Amber. Everyone knows Ambers history in the foster system so the comparison was in such poor taste. Since then I have not been a big fan and recently I’ve considering unsubscribing.
That is a really cheap blow I agree
Yeah the time to cook and then the time teaching children to cook is definitely something not everyone has. My single grandmother who raised me alone while working as a teacher didn’t have time to cook, she basically had 30 kids to take care of. So that’s a mean spirited thing to say when you know someone grew up in a very unstable environment
Her saying that trans people and trans women in particular will be “protected” because of their trans identity when trans women face such high levels of assault and murder is wild. I haven’t heard of this person before but it sounds like she’s already fallen down the right wing pipeline :/
I feel that way too
This
I’m a cis woman so I keep my mouth out of conversations when it comes to trans people sharing their struggles and voicing their discrimination. The fact Sara, as another cis woman, can say that absolutely blows my mind - she really has no idea
They are high because they are fabricated. Real women and girls suffer from real hate crimes including from transwomen. Every day and every hour.
for a psych major, she sure does ignore a lot of ethics.
I stopped watching YDHB when I found the YDHB subreddit lol, it was right around the time she made a remark that taking Ozempic was "taking the easy way out"
Another thing, in my experience people who claim to be "apolitical" are usually conservative but mingle in "mixed" communities (i.e., interact with people who have different political ideologies)
That’s true!
I havent seen this yet but yeah... I recently had to unsubscribe. as a member of the LGBTQIA+ community, her videos on things like neopronouns, and the way she allowed her comment section to run wild, was incredibly awful to see. I was so surprised. I used to watch her every video.
i talk about her trans teacher video in part 2
oh my god I didn't even see the trans teacher one. disgusting
She will delete criticism towards her but leave up bigoted comments lol
this is what finally made me realize how fucked up her channels gotten. as a trans person who uses neopronouns? shit felt like a slap in the face. everything came full circle then tho
@@mondolyssand6984 totally!! it was the ignorance, disrespect, and misrepresentation which did it for me. I'm agender, and call myself a clown all the time, and for that to be literally one of the ones being made fun of? was really awful to sit through. I don't use neo-pronouns because of this exact attitude, "it" being as far as I go, because I don't think i'd be able to handle being made fun of like this. I was hoping it was a mistake but her comment section was full of her hearting comments from others doing the same, whilst the ones who tried to help out were ignored.
it's not like those from outside the LGBTQIA+ community can't talk on these things, but at least do it with a modicum of respect and an attempt at understanding to those involved.
Just here to say Mika has been serving LOOKS recently!!
No facts
Thank you!!
ALL FACTS! Mika you are a real makeup guru 😂💚 LOVE this video, you bring so much joy to all of us when you upload!
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It's a very disappointing thing, seeing her become the very thing she criticizes: someone speaking on topics they're not educated about in the slightest.
Talks about how women are over sexualized, continues to the sexualize the person that is the subject of the discussion. She’s talking in circles. That always gives me the impression that 1. they don’t understand what they are saying, where they’re usually just parroting shock-value talking points; or 2. Is trying to capitalize off “dude-bro/pick-me” content.
I think it’s both
I recently saw someone make the argument that these right-wing/conservative transphobic arguments about propriety and normalcy aren't about the metaphysics of what a woman actually is, it's about having control of what is considered "normal". What expressions, and what bodies. That really stuck with me.
(If I can find the person again I'll credit them but it was in a recent "leftist TikTok compilation" by the UA-cam channel "a dude")
Normative society just means holding a hierarchy that is based on disenfranchising many to benefit the few
Yeah...the transphobia was the final straw for me. Came out that it was an "anti-woke prank" and she just says "no it wasnt, i dont believe that' with...what evidence?? Because a trans-fetish predator conspiracy is more believable to her...? I was already leaning away from Sara and her community, her perspective and bragging, and especially in livestreams, her community doing the same en mass had started to make me feel really bad about myself (not intentional and no one's fault, but as someone so disabled I have dropped out of school twice, can't hold a job, and have very few people in my social circle, an entire stream of people superchatting to platform their social/academic/career achievements felt super isolating) I was side-eyeing her for a while, with some of the "these people identify this way and you HAVE to accept it" rhetoric and videos more mean-spirited about fat-acceptance, but this is when it ended up being impossible to ignore. It's incredibly disappointing...
The social commentary really pushed me over the edge quickly
Hey friend this comment really highlighted things to me about her channel I hadn’t realised we’re starting to make me uncomfortable. I slowed watching her content as someone with a neurological health condition I felt similarly isolated. Hadn’t seen much of her content recently but this video has definitely made me think harder about her recent content I have s en. Just wanted to say as a fellow disabled person who has dropped out of school due to my health too pls don’t let that community make you feel bad; your accomplishment are not comparable to anyone’s(none of us are people are so vastly different) but they are still there. Everyone has different struggles (and spoons) and accomplishments look different for us all. I hope you are being kind to yourself and I wish you the very best ❤
;;;;w;;;; omg thank you, this is so sweet 💖
yeah, i relate a lot, i hope you're doing well, too🔆I'm sorry you had to go through that too, both with ydhb and with irl struggles; it can be really hard but knowing there's others out there who share similar experiences helps, and we can always help lift each other up. thank you for such a lovely reply, made my morning 🔆💖
I was so disappointed when I saw the recent shift in videos because I really liked her too. I had no idea about her controversies outside of ALR so that was new to me. Honestly, she comes across as insecure and bitter now when I watch her.
I feel like the new content brought forth her personality in the worst way possible
I totally agree, I used to love her so much, and as a trans viewer I just can’t watch her videos on like topics :(
It really feels like she’s arguing against someone she just made up. It starts out with her talking about a real subject, but then she makes so many assumptions and hasty generalizations that she’s no longer talking about a real person. She goes on and on about this supposed cis man exploiting trans rights to act out a fetish, but all of that is purely speculation, it’s an imagined narrative. Her entire argument is based on a theoretical scenario because there’s no evidence that it actually happened the way she says it did.
That’s the way of a lot of inflammatory conservative content creators approach conversations like that, people like Crowder do that all the time
I watched Young Dumb Honey Bun for some time as well, but I realized she is often unnecessarily mean, like she just needs an excuse to feel moral high groud and she just says whatever comes to her mind without filter. She didn't pass the vibe check at the end of the day
I agree that the vibe check was not passed
She's kind of like Amberlynn sometimes.
As a librarian, thank you for talking about credibility! I teach en entire course on this, and it’s sad how many people don’t understand credibility at all.
YES! When I work with students I make sure to teach this too
i used to enjoy her videos, but she became so unwatchable after she would never shut up about how much better her life was. its horrible how she has almost become the onision to eugina for amber. relentless bullying, bordereline obsessive comparisons, etc etc.
I love that my favorite youtuber is talking about old channels I used to watch and had no one to talk to about it with at the time. I watched ydhb from like the beginning of her channel and watched her for month before I really started to feel like I was in a mean girl club and bailed.
I am really tapping into my audience’s psyche (no pun intended)
thanks for making this video! The way she talks about trans people and other minorities has been rubbing me the wrong way. She takes right-wing rhetoric at face value while painting herself as unbiased and well researched, it's so frustrating and leads to so many people being misinformed, especially considering her platform has a decent amount of reach. I'm so tired of the ''trans people are predators'' idea that that video is eerily reminiscent of
And it is especially harmful because she is weaponizing her credibility
@@MikasRhetoric Yeah that too, it's scary to think that people will automatically believe her because she has such a focus on ''I'm so educated guys, I went to medical school, I'm so academic''. She acts like she's so much smarter and superior to other people because of it, when her words don't hold any weight if she doesn't actually do any research. The fact that you could do more research than her within 5 minutes is so telling lmao 😭
exactly, when there’s significant evidence that predators are more often than not a blood family member, family friend, or religious or authority figure. your kids chances getting sa by their step dad under your own roof is way higher than by a random trans woman just trying to 🚽 at panera bread. 🙄
I don't know her, but I'm here for the rhetoric content. :) It's good to see an intelligent woman discussing how words and how we frame things matter.
Thank you so much and it was fun seeing you in the premier
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All these amberlynn react channels make me so sick tbh I used to be an avid watcher of all of them till I realized that all of us were aiding amberlynns addiction. They give her the money and attention she needs to keep feeding herself while they sit there and act like they are better than her. I just had to stop watching the whole community altogether. They’re like WE GOT HER WE CAUGHT HER IN A LIE like yeah bro no shit
The constant reaction cycle is what is keeping Amber afloat for realll
i hate how they nitpick everything she does and body shames her. Its gross
Omg she rubbed me the wrong way when in a live stream she was saying "only Americans care about race/ethnicity" while simultaneously saying how she always stood out and was bullied for being an immigrant. For a lot of people being an immigrant is not the only hurdle you face when being in a new country. Racism usually plays a huge factor in that. It just came across incredibly tone deaf for someone to say both and not see how they are two sides of the same coin. A lot of people who dismiss bipoc people like myself hide behind this sneaky comment. Gee I wonder why the person who has to deal with racism keeps bringing it up 🤔 i could never really criticize from a medical stand point because thats not my field but when I heard that it just struck me incredibly hard just how biased this "unbiased" person is. I am not an immigrant but I've been through racism so I always had sympathy/empathy for those who have to experience both. So I was surprised she just used her experience to invalidate the other side. Like how do u of all people not get it babe?? She wasn't even criticizing racists in that generalization she was just saying it annoyed like why do y'all care about race so much it's weird. Yeah babe racism is weird. Also, European accents and blue eyes is literally exoticized and put on a pedestal so much I can actually see how she might've just never experienced racism from American audiences. Literally born and raised in America but people don't think my vote should count in free elections. Love the channel keep up the good work finals is around the corner I need my Mika videos 💗💗
Thank you so much! And that is why I brought up intersectionality because Sara doesn’t seem to understand that. Also, my program in grad school doesn’t have finals so lots of videos in December!
it was funny when she was posting little meme edits of ALR but then she just....
well, suffice to say that somebody's personality always shines through at the end of the day.
So much changed its wild
Yeah, i wish she stayed doing the compilations
The final straw for me was the time ALR expressed that she might be looking into an ADHD assessment. Personally, I'm of the opinion that ALR seems to display certain patterns of symptoms that wouldn't be out of place for an AFAB person with ADHD, and I don't really mind if ppl disagree with me because it's something none of us are ever going to know for sure. But the thing that really disgusted me was when I watched YDHB's reaction, and she completely dismissed the possibility of something like that based mainly on "she's just looking for an excuse/she's just lazy and wants an appetite suppressant/she's taken all of this off the internet and it's 100% garbage" or something along those lines.
I can't remember exactly what she said because I have ADHD myself and that means I live with a goldfish brain, but I do remember being incredibly angry and upset because it was straight ableism from someone who claims to be educated and empathetic. The shit she said in that video was exactly the same logic as comments that people have made to me when I was undiagnosed and unable to function, and it showed me how truly ignorant she is. She can talk all day long about seeing a doctor and going to therapy and taking care of your anxiety and depression, but she has no qualms and no remorse about spreading misinformation and stigma around about conditions where we suffer medical stigma and bias for the nature of our medication.
Sorry if this is a wall of text, but it's one of the things I just don't hear ppl discussing within the gorlverse, and it hurt a lot to hear her go from somewhat reasonable to being so discriminatory and dismissive of a condition like ADHD. People don't know how subtle ADHD can be and how drastically a diagnosis and meds can change your life, and it's so hypocritical of her to claim she wants people to be well, yet she shuts down the idea of ALR literally trying to get help, regardless of whether or not we think ALR will go through with it.
And even after these rants she always qualifies with ‘I’m talking about AMBER not anyone else’ as if it makes all the harm go away
@@MikasRhetoric the scary part isn't just that the harm doesn't go away, it's the fact that these kinds of statements can kill. Especially when it comes to ADHD, there is no active way for you to escape from a mind that won't let you function properly without seeking outside help, and the whole mindset that you should "just try harder" has ruined and taken so many lives.
My comment is sorta ignorant but it would be also a wall of text to fully go into in all but as Amber was told she has OCPD (which she doesn’t do anything for) and Bipolar (which she also doesn’t do anything for) they have “crossover symptoms” of ADHD
So yes you’re correct that she does because ADHD like you know is never just ADHD there’s always often something else.
OCPD and bipolar in ambers case
I used to also really like YDHB but I simply cannot fathom HOW she is possibly a therapist/has ever been a therapist. I have a couple of friends who are licensed therapists and have been in therapy myself for a long time & I simply can’t imagine any other therapist making videos and claims like she does. Also, one of the reasons I liked her is because I am a Ukrainian woman in America and thought I could relate a little to her but the way she speaks about being an “immigrant woman” is so strange to me. My Ukrainian friends and I never talk about ourselves in this way.
31:30 The way she refers to cis women as "**women**" smacks of transphobia to me
Her leaving hearts on comments thanking her for that video as if it’s some life or death situation that needed to be talked about.. old, reactionary article
I think she just really wants to feel like the new content is important
Beening mad at all ages drag shows is so stupid, when she lives in the UK and all pantos have a drag queen. The proof that it's fine is in your face every christmas!
And also what is the purpose of trying to get right wing people to be mad about the drag shows in her comments
i unsubscribed from her because of everything you mentioned, i also felt like her whole “i have a degree” was so defensive like…. she’s projecting her own issues
makes sense
You can always tell these reactors are gonna turn into cows when they’re response to criticism is always “look how pretty I am, look how successful I am, y’all could NEVER.” Reminds me a lot of a certain lyfe of a free spirit….
Early on in her channel she used to say that if you drew fan art of her she would post them at the end of videos. I noticed time after time she wouldn’t tag or mention the creators of the art so I left a comment complementing her video while politely suggesting she tag the creators. She responded nicely but said “I do! I just forgot this time” or something to that effect. I only commented after like 5+ videos certainly did not have tags. Not ground breaking by any means but certainly was a turn off and early signs that she is simply unable to admit she’s less than perfect. Like why lie about that.
She went to posting them on her stories
Wtf did the whole respecting womanhood thing mean??? Isn’t it down to everyone’s interpretation of what a woman should be. Are we going into Terf territories now???
That’s how I felt too
When it comes to the trans talking points, I fully believe there are predatory trans people just as there are predatory cis people. You will absolutely find a predator in any demographic if you look for one.
In regards to Sara taking other content, etc... If you look at her video upload timing, shes frequently a day or more behind the other reaction channels, and if you listen closely, you can hear not just similar points as other creators, but alot of times it is almost like she has taken 3 or 4 creators exact sentences, stitched them together and then records herself reciting the end product. Oh! And she also likes to take opinions from her comment sections too. Its super interesting. 🙄
Edit to add- she absolutely does watch and or reads things about herself. She probably will watch this and she might not address it directly, but she'll take jabs at what she doesn't like. Just like anyone else that's got the same personality and superiority complex, imo. 😁
She TOTALLY searches her name religiously to see what people are saying about her. Classic Narcissist sht
Well I wonder what she’ll say, but I’m sure no one’s gonna see it 🤭
@@MikasRhetoric don't sell yourself short. Besides if she doesn't find it in her own, in sure someone will make sure she gets it 🙊
I just can't watch YDHB videos on Amberlynnn, like react to her content but shit like "I have a family that loves me" is uncalled for
I didn’t realize that connection until these comments and it makes me feel so yucky
Another great video! Thank you. I used to watch ydhb, but I got tired of hearing about her study of psychology, while she showed a complete failure to grasp psychological ethics.
I can understand that yeah
Not to mention that she constantly posts about being a fan of Russell Brand and Ricky Gervais-- if it talks like a transphobe, walks like a transphobe...
I mean even ignoring everything else, liking Ricky Gervais is a red flag immediately.
I know my remark sounds flippant but it’s often a slippery slope
She also loves to throw her "how do you know I'm cis?" card when queer people in the comments say the opinions of a cis straight woman don't matter when it comes to LGBTQ issues. Bun if you are trans you are doing a disservice to yourself, get a therapist and stop watching jordan peterson's vídeos.
Mika, you've been killing it with the content lately! You deserve all the channel growth
Thank you!!
I’m a trans person going into education and starting prac next year. I’m non binary but present fem and due to cases of people like her I never intend on going by preferred pronouns or gender for my job security. It’s real scary and I’m super nervous about it.
I hope your internship goes well
The world can be harsh, stay strong and good luck. You'll be ok😊
I used to watch her a few years back but completely forgot about her to be honest. It’s crazy to see how much her content coverage has changed. Also, with hindsight, I can see the red flags that were within her content beforehand that I definitely glossed over previously.
I feel that too
Old video but I just heard (was reminded) about Young Dumb Honey Bun and feel the need to share my experience. She used to have a Tumblr where she was an "ana coach" she encouraged and helped young girls (I was even underage at the time) to have anorexia and various EDs
Idk if this is common knowledge but if this also happened to you pls reply this messed me up for a very long time
This made me look at her trans teacher video, and in the comments YDHB recently linked a Brett Cooper video under a very transphobic comment from someone that was calling transwomen men?? She didn't even correct the transphobic comment?? I am losing my mind 😭 she's fully going down the alt-right pipeline now, not even trying to hide it atp
SHE LINKED A DAILY WIRE VIDEO?!!?!
@@MikasRhetoric also the exact copy of the comment from the person that she linked it under:
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THANK YOU!!! Just thank you for uploading a video on things like this.
I usually don't relate to the "offended" culture, but it indeed wrecks my nerve when I see and hear men say things like "we are women and we have everything a woman has, period, cramps, emotional outbursts, and so on."
Essentially stereotypes and cliches, nothing else.
And THE AUDACITY to say they're the same because yes, I'm gonna say it even if it's beyond obvious and and logical:
THEY'RE NOT!
It makes me SICK to see people like that. The entitlement and obvious signs of exponentially rising narcissistic traits are beyond me....
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LIKE BRO????? WHY WOULD YOU LET THAT SLIDE????? this is actually disgusting, Sara could've at least just said ''transwomen aren't men btw'' but nah, BRETT COOPER VIDEO
@@MikasRhetoric YEAH. UNBELIEVABLE.
ua-cam.com/users/shortsBDF1y6FtGDY?feature=share THIS ONE
The yellow looks SO GOOD ON YOU 💛
I appreciate that thank you!!
Me watching this: NO SHE DIDN'T
Also me: *has never heard of any of these people before*
I like to cover many different types of people
Won’t be long till YDHB is trying to sell us crypto
I used to watch YDHB but stopped watching after a month when I felt like she became more and more hostile. Haven't watched her in more than 2 years so curious what this video is going to be
She was mean and then a little nicer for a while but now she is mean again
i was a big fan of sara for a good few years but recently all the right wing bait she has been falling for and posting content on has rubbed me the wrong way because a lot of it is transphobe bait and i felt so isolated and alienated as a trans viewer. i think she has been getting pettier and pettier with the amber content recently; she is now so unbelievably petty, hateful and is slowly becoming a bigot imo. She is also very very easily riled and always has been. I just can no longer stand her and think she needs a major humbling in one way or another
This is exactly how I feel
I watched her for a brief period but pretty quickly realised just how horrible a person she is. I completely forgot about her until today.
Hi Mika love your videos, especially this one. But I do have a tad bit of info for you. There is huge xenophobia against eastern Europeans in Britain. Especially with the whole brexit movement. I learned about this from Angelika Oles, who like the person in this video, is a polish immigrant in the UK. I learned that this xenophobia affected her very negatively. So while I agree with most of your arguments, I think the xenophobia she faces may be a bit more impactful than what was said in this video. As some people think poles and other eastern european are not white. So the comparison you made to the US with Mexican immigrants may actually be more similar than you think. If you look up Eastern Europeans, brexit, and racism there is a short article by the British Sociological Association that shows the xenophobia against Eastern Europeans.
As a fellow Canadian this doesn't make sense as poles and brits are both white, but as we both know race is a social construct that seems to change with the wind. And how we define a race is depends on the culture (and government definitions) in which we love.
Edit: spelled Angelika wrong
You are correct that she barely faces any intersectionality though. Just pointing out that the xenophobia is more prevalent in the UK than it would be here (in Canada)
Thank you so much for educating me, I wanted to make sure that I wasn’t speaking on it like an authority because I felt I was not sure. I do think she is valid in her experiences and wanted to make that clear as well
@@MikasRhetoric Yes, truthfully my concerns were only a very small part of a long video, and I did enjoy the rest of the video as the main news story covered happened in a town close to both of us. Keep up with the good work! I'm glad I could educate you and that you received my comment well. I believe you have the best intentions, my only suggestion is to be a bit more discerning when it comes to other countries and looking at racism through a Canadian lense. Honestly I would know nothing about this if not for Angelika.
Love you Mika! Have a good day
my profs back in undergrad: 16:45 “Where is this from. No sourcing”
RIGHT!!!
Obsessed with how good your under eye concealer looks, and how dewy & soft-looking your skin looks. I love reading the YDHB snark subreddit, so the fact that my favorite creator made a video about Sara is the cherry on top.
My under eyes have the Too Faced Born This Way concealer and the Becca Under-eye powder. I apply the concealer with the Sephora pro concealer brush (idk if you cared but I thought I’d share my secret 🤫)
Thank you so much for making this. I've been watching her for a long time and the toxicity only becomes more apparent every time I watch. Squish gang looking fresh! Love the makeup! keep up the GOOOOOOD work
Thank you!!!
Just finished watching the video, I’ve never really watched her content frequently only a few videos every now and then but this is absolutely disgusting. I find it baffling how she makes stuff up just to make it fit her transphobic narrative, no sources, no nothing. It’s very telling how she only keeps comments agreeing with her, and those who are are very obviously transphobic so… what a shame, truly wasted potential. As a trans person myself it’s sickening to see the lengths people will go to just paint us out to be bad all the time, it’s nearly impossible for them to not call us groomers and other disgusting things. They wouldn’t last a day in our shoes.
That is why I wanted to include the real time reaction in this video to show how you can truly pick it apart and how surface level her arguments were. I am happy that this video, where I point out transphobia, is already getting better views than her transphobia
I was a fan of hers maybe 3/4 years ago when all she, at that point, was a compilation channel.
I got blocked by YDHB for liking a positive comment on her Instagram. Yes I was testing her. The comment was like 2 weeks old.
I just find it funny how she expects to have open, healthy conversations but has a block list longer than ALRs receipt after ordering Door Dash. Educated, strong women can debate and talk about things without needing to block. People with thick skin don’t mind a bit of criticism and does need yes men walking on egg shells to do that. I remember seeing a screenshot of a comment on the Reddit page once say (roughly) “hey, I love you so much, but _____, again it’s not out of hate, much love❤” she liked and replied to it.
I don’t disagree with talking about the subjects she’s talking about. But I would expect her to do more research and to be more critical of the sources she used. To be a “middle man” when having an open conversation, you can’t have a clear bias. She wants to pretend she’s a centralist, like many left and right wingers do, but has a tendency to slip up and show her bias. Politics doesn’t need to be 100% of one way or 100% the other. But she’s clearly around the central right and should just own it.
that is so strange, I also totally believe that she should just own her political views
i love that you’re wearing yellow it’s definitely the colour i associate you with :D either this or midnight blue (my favourite)
I don’t think I own anything in midnight blue actually
@@MikasRhetoric would suit you so well especially with silver make up you’d look like a mermaid!
Wow Mika, this is the second video of yours that I've watched. I am SO impressed with the way you explain things and how articulate you are. So impressive. Well done! I'll be unsubscribing from YDHB.
Thank you so much I’m happy you are sticking around
I'm glad I'm not the only one who's seen how...downhill she's gone. I was so excited when I saw you posted this video! Great job! And asking the right questions as well as making fantastic points! ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you, I wanted to do with this video what Sara thinks she was doing with the recent content. But ya know, without the right wing grift
@@MikasRhetoric I think you did it perfectly. I started watching her for her amberlynn commentary, but after her video she just posted today shitting on the body positivity movement...I'm over it, and I've been over it for a while lol. I'm so glad I found your channel! I've been binging everything.
I had watched her for a while but that rant was ridiculous, it also gave me an uncomfortable feeling when she would talk about working with children with disabilities, her tone of voice when talking about them just felt off to me.
will admit i use to watch couple of her videos. but i started realise she would pick on the pettiest of small things, so i just stopped watching
It got really old
Wait I thought she dropped out of both "medical schools" (a school that offered a medical program) that she went to?
Honestly I lost track of all the schooling stuff at this point it is so confusing
Correct. YDHB never finished her education.
As a trans person it saddens me to see to see who the real Sara is :( I guess looking back the signs were always there. Thanks for your analysis and bringing awareness to this Mika
I am really happy that this video has done better than the transphobic one
Her and DC Media Girl outing themselves as TERFS made me so sad
Cut hateful people out of your life and stay strong ❣️
I love learning about all these people I would have never ever learned about otherwise
Well I hope you still like the video
You bring up such a good point with the referencing in videos! I remember I was subbed back when she used to make reactions that included references to academic materials and had a legitimate psych perspective. Nowadays it seems like she values her own opinion on matters more than actual stats and facts! I kinda stopped watching after she went on that whole rant about alrs family and how she’s better than everyone because it seemed very mean girl, and it’s weird to see that she didn’t really grow much after that…
It seems like things only got worse after that
THANK YOU FOR THIS VIDEO i just unsubbed from her after watching this vid. i watched her ALR stuff and skipped the social commentary vids out of disinterest, so i had no clue she had said all this foul garbage. much love as always Mika
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god i love your entrance into gorl world
I like to dabble once in a while
thank you so much for this video and the conversation. Your content about rhetoric is really cool in general! hopefully ydhb will watch this one day and considers your points. I expected more from her honestly
I doubt she will but I am happy I was able to say my piece
My day just got 10x better that you uploaded this
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THE WAY I JUST GASPED. OMG LOVE YOU FOR THIS
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GURL that shade of yellow looks so good on youuuuuu 💛💫
Thank you it was fun to pair with the line green
mean girl to med student to alt right pipeline
thank you for standing up for our trans sisters here, its so upsetting hearing the same anti-trans talking points over and over and trying to pass it off as progressive or logical. none of these people have any lived experience, none of these people have any authority over community discourse, and none of these people have any right to question the validity of someone's transness based on assumptions and stereotypes. it just sucks these views have such a prominent spotlight in media, its hard to escape from it :o(
Of course! I don’t stand for any bigotry no matter how people try to spin it
"4 personality disorder your narcissistic guy probably has" made me lose it idk why. the absurdity that they try to present as factual and grounded is so comical if it wasn't sadly effective
I laughed at it too I was like???? That’s why I put in the cis man rant after
its so funny how she criticises other's tendencies to use self serving argumentation and rhetoric while she literally invents this woman's lore without knowing anything about her just to prove a point. also the blair white rhetoric of "these people are giving trans people a bad rep" is so yesterday omfg. it's 2017 all over again jesus ducking christ.
Yup I hate it here sometimes
I’ve been waiting for someone to analyze this content. Thank you!
Glad you enjoyed it!
“Always been this way” & rigid admiration for traditionalist values stresses me out bc it’s basically rooted in otherism & envy. The 1% lizards wishing to maintain power is one thing, bigots feeling entitled to superiority and exclusive power is another, but I am just disgusted by people buying transphobic propaganda for no self serving reason, while it actively harms entire communities. It’s worse than ignorance, it’s hatred.
(All of these examples are terrible, the first two are just normalized imo)
I still understand what you meant don't worry
Seeing you reply to everyone is so sweet 😭
I always try to if the comments aren’t going too wild
never heard of this person until now, never watched any of her videos. and i’m quite glad about that lol
Her content used to be so much better :/
I will never forget when Young Dumb threw a huge fit about people "canceling" Jenna marbles for doing blckface... when Jenna was just so embarassed about doing blckface that she *chose* to log off on her own. That always rubbed me the wrong way bc it made me feel like "wow, this white girl who uses so much aave, is mad af that a different white girl isnt.... unapologetic about blckface?? 🫠🙃"
People often forget the acknowledge that Jenna made the choice to leave herself
@@MikasRhetoric that and infantilized her for making that choice.
On the "bottom of the barrell content" point: that's a good one, I didn't think about it but like, she recently started doing these voiceover videos, claiming that she doesn't have the time to properly setup and edit everything, and that's fair, but she also rants pointlessly in the majority of those videos (she herself admitted it). I would prefer if she just recorded less stuff, but more scripted and edited, I would enjoy it more
Hey Mika, while it is true that she is a white immigrant, there is something to be said for slavophobia (antislavisme) in Western Europe, especially in England. Brexit based a lot of its argumentation around "the job-thieving Poles and Rumanians won't be able to enter the country anymore". After the Brexit vote there has been a recorded spike in hate crimes against Polish immigrants.
Personal experiences that can absolutely be skipped: As a Polish woman myself, I grew up in Germany and I have the privilege of not being read as Slavic as much, especially since my parents were advised when immigrating to West Germany to change their last name into German (and my dad's entire name, first and second), as it was "too hard" to pronounce and made them "un-employable". My mom has been belittled during my parent-teacher conferences, by patients while working as a nurse, etc. for her Slavic accent. I've been accused of stealing, endured jokes about my possibly stealing bc Polish, being sexualized based on my nationality, jokingly been called a mail-order wife, etc.
I'm not saying this to criticise or attack you at all, I'm aware that as a Canadian you do not have any intimate experience with European -phobias and -isms. I just wanted to offer a lived perspective on where her pride might come from. This is, however, very subjective. And since I do not have a Polish accent and I mostly don't go by my Polish first name now, I've mostly been able to coast, so I won"t say that there isn't still a big privilege of whiteness at play.
That being said, I also think she's giving Blair White. I was never able to watch much of her content. I absolutely agree with your assessment of her pandering to a more right wing audience, as well. It starts feeling like a rather unsuccessful, not yet fully committed to grift.
(edited bc I wanted to sound less trauma dumpy haha)
Thank you for your criticism, I did not want to discount her experience of xenophobia but also wanted to state that I was not sure of the extent of it. However, there is still privilege, especially online, from being a white woman. That was the point I wanted to make but I did not do that as effectively as I thought
@@MikasRhetoric No, no need to apologise! I don’t believe many will take offence at all. I also still understood the point you were making regarding her privilege and I’m in no way shape or form denying that. It’s all an issue of intersectionality. Just wanted to point out that in Europe not all whiteness is considered equal and that her living in England could put her in a more vulnerable/marginalised position and thought maybe it is interesting.
Personally, I think that you pointing out that she was a well-off white immigrant with an academic background was a more effective way of illustrating her privilege in online spaces.
@@MikasRhetoric also thank you for taking the time to read this and being kind! I hope I did not overstep in any way. 💕
I asked her about her source for her claim that brain tumors are related to nutrition... Never got a response.
An anomaly case doesn’t make it a universal fact that’s for sure
I've seen the photos from the articles she uses for her statement about "biological women" (hate that wording) teachers being fired for being "too sexy." Those articles are dime-a-dozen garbage and often the photos are edited out the ass, no pun intended. If you pause on a couple of the screenshots she uses it's very easy to tell from the curve of their arms for example that someone edited those photos to make those women's butts look bigger, waists skinnier, etc.
Biological women are the only kind of women there is
I only watched a few videos of hers before I checked out. I’ve been following UA-cam drama for a very long time and one of the earliest controversies within the drama community was John Kuckian. However long before his first massive controversy, he would use his education to place himself above the people he was criticizing. It was a lot of “unlike me, who is studying medical chemistry and working to cure rare diseases…” or “when I launch my line of make up, I won’t have the same problems because I am working on my degree in chemistry.” At the time he seemed very credible, but eventually, everything he said about himself came into question and he ended up doing some very harmful things to a lot of different people. I’m getting a lot of similar feelings from YDHB. I’m not saying she’s lying about her credentials, nor do I think referencing your education is necessarily bad or wrong, but when it becomes a point of comparison, a way to elevate yourself above others, it feels very off. That and a lot of what she says overlaps with Angelika Oles, who not only uses her education to elevate herself, but also repeatedly ignores and belittles marginalized groups, I had to stop watching. If you invoke those two, I have to give some distance until it’s confirmed it was a fluke. Seems it might not have been imagined on my part…
Those are such interesting connections and I think they’re pretty accurate
I used to really enjoy the psychology elements of YDHB’s videos but lately I’ve found that sources seem to be amended to fit her narrative. She recently posted a screenshot of an article about Scottish police using the term ‘MAP’ which turned out to be a whole load of nonsense and didn’t correct herself explicitly. It’s so harmful!
I have a tough time articulating my thoughts or understanding how I feel about something. I knew when I stopped watching this video from Sara a minute in that something felt icky. I didn't think about why though until I saw this one from you - thanks!!
Mika, I gotta say, I do love your videos so much. Your line “it’s not that! It’s your phrasing!” Is so important! Phrasing and positioning are absolutely everything and I’m glad you’re calling people out so articulately. Anyway yeah you’re super smart and put this into words so well!!
Thank you!!!
i fell away from ydhb's videos before her "rebrand" because i started to notice that she was getting more and more bitter and hateful towards people like alr. granted, alr isn't perfect and she can be infuriating in her own way at times. but i really don't think that the way sara reacted to amber was necessary and she was just becoming angry and looking for things to be upset about. sometimes sara still pops up in my recommended and her new videos have struck me the wrong way. i don't want to watch them and i doubt i ever will. i used to think she was such a sweet person who just didn't put up with bullshit--but it's clear to me now that she's just bitter and falling down the alt right pipeline.
It’s so strange to me to be so hateful to someone that you’ve never actually met like???
@@MikasRhetoric yeah exactly! like i get people are frustrating but to flat out mock and demean someone you've never even met outside of youtube is beyond me
Thank you for covering ydhb. This is probably old news, but I'm so glad you were able to get your channel back
I still appreciate the comment regardless
I've been subscribed to ydhb for about a couple of years now, and I feel as though the channel's going in circles with Amberlynn? Like yeah, Amberlynn has been a terrible person for years now and a lot of us know that? Idk man. Either way subscribed to your channel!
Thank you!!
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