I’m the girl that came up to you ice skating the other week! I felt like I couldn’t get my words out but I wanted to tell you how much of a difference you made during a really turbulent time with everything in my life ❤ your pep talks make all the difference on a bad day!
i love this new podcast series so much, especially the first episode. your not only great at providing advice as well as just the comfort from just watching your videos, but also just the fact that you are so entertaining and never fail to uplift my spirits as well as others during tough times. i absolutely love all of your videos and i love you and the community you have built.
Omggg 😭💗💗💗I was bullied as a child, and that time I didn’t even know I was getting bullied…I thought everyone goes through this but once I grew up I realised I was a victim, and yes I don’t want any sympathy as well!!! And you spoke my mind! I was a people pleaser and I still kinda am but I’m trying my best to set boundaries and I’m way stronger now! Thank you so much for sharing your story! It heals me in a way 💗🎀🐇🤞🏻 No waittt I was half way through writing this comment and you’re taking about a girl who copied everything you did and boy when I say that happened to me as well!!!! I’m sorry if I’m sounding creepy but I had the same experience, she changed everything about herself to look like me! And mind you If she was taking an inspiration that’s ok but straight up cloning!!! I have all the receipts and she use to do that all Infront of me!!! But yea I’ve cut her off and so much happier now
this really resonates with me today. i’ve just made it to the top ten in a business competition i’m in, and realized that I only have like two friends to invite to come watch me. At first I was really sad about it, but then I realized that i’m perfectly happy with my life. I’m still in high school so a lot of the time I feel pressured to have a ton of friends and always be going out and doing something, but really I don’t want that. I want to sit at home and dream about my future, and crochet, and learn about investing more. that type of shit makes me happy. basically what i’m trying to say is I really needed to hear that that’s normal, and i’m not alone for that. thanks lumma, your videos are awesome and I really admire this mindset and energy.
wow this is crazy i resonate :( i realized i was a people pleaser and i never had friends in high school. i would talk to maybe 1 or 2 people and some days i would eat lunch in the washroom (like in the movies)… fast forward now i don’t think anyone would’ve guessed. i have such a cool vibe and aura around me because i did a lot of inner work.
I’m 30 and I have been subscribed to you for a couple of years now. I truly learn so much from you and I appreciate your work. I really resonated with this video.. I recently cut off a best friend that I had been BEST friends with since we were 4 years old. Literally. Grew up together and were basically inseparable. She was like a sister. Over the years, it just became worse and worse. She became very toxic, and I constantly felt like she was never pleased with me. It was bizarre almost like she would complain that I never ask her how she is that I never do this or that meanwhile, proof was in texts that I would literally would text this girl every day. I also always had the same feelings of guilt or just all-around bad vibes just because it was very obvious that she was jealous. I always got the jealous vibes ever since we were young but more so as we got older actually especially once I finished school and landed a really good job in a hospital and then started my small business. It really went downhill from there. She never once congratulated me asked me how I was doing nothing. She wouldn’t answer texts … and I mean like ever. Unless it was to complain Meanwhile, I would always be asking her how her days or weeks are going and I would be her biggest fan for every accomplishment yet she still would have me feeling guilty After 26 years of friendship, I really just couldn’t do it anymore. The toxicity became too much and it’s been five months now and honestly I feel totally fine and in fact, I feel better without that type of energy in my life. I’d rather have no friends at all than friends like that thank you for this video we are not alone. 💕
Girl never stop your podcast I always wait for your podcast it hold a special space in my heart I love you Lumma you literally had a positive impact on me 🥺🥺 ILY from 🇮🇳
I just watched this pep talk last night, because the title really relates to what I just experience right now; "dealing with friend break up". A little story, I just had an argument with my close friend, at first I thought it was just a misunderstanding, but I understand my friend's character who likes to escalate problems and spread bad thing if she's having a problem with someone. and until one day I was the victim. my friend spread bad thing behind my back. At first I tried to make peace with her, i tried to resolve the problem with a cold head and tried to talk to her nicely, but she cut me off first, blocked all my social media and never greeted me again in class. At first it was very painful, because I knew I was very close to her, but then she broke off our friendship and didn't want to talk to me, thinking I didn't exist. until finally I thought, why was I so adamant about wanting to make peace with her when she didn't want to make peace with me from the start, she also didn't feel lost while at the same time I felt like I had lost her when our friendship became strained. after watching this podcast, I thought again that maybe what I should do is accept the fact that she can't be my friend anymore, and because of that incident I also realized that from the start my friend was always jealous of me, for whatever reason but she always felt jealous of my achievements. I hope one day I can accept the fact that she can no longer be my friend. this is so painful, but I would rather lose someone else than choose to lose myself. Anyways, thanks Lumma for enlighten me. you have no idea how much this video helps me 🥺 I've been following you since the beginning and this is my first time commenting here, sorry. I hope you're always healthy and happy, Lumma ❤️✨
I realized that not all friendships are worth it because it's always me who's been doing all the effort and obviously my efforts were never reciprocated. I'm done with them and everyone.
I have broken up with two used to be besties, because they were very toxic and only cared about male attention and drama. Now they're going around school telling lies, And even reaching out to EX crushes or mine and showing them screenshots. This is so fucked up because I don't deserve this. I'm going straight to parents if they don't say anything I will go straight to our principal and tell her Everything. Not just about the screenshots but about one ex bestie calling me a "N****r" so this is just blowing my mind.
There are too many insecure people in this world. I have good friends but they just don’t wanna move up in life, so I feel alone because I have priorities and goals and have been accomplishing them one by one, and they are focusing on boy drama and partying. My only best friend though is my mom❤
I have constantly getting bullied online since last year by an ex and his gf I don't even know what to do anymore! They posted my kids and me all over Facebook for the whole community to bully it has been hard
Hello dear this was so insightful important and helpful. ❤️💯✨ Would love if you could make an in depth video on how to build long lasting female friendships. ❤️
Lumma i love you alot but... and i mean this respectfully but it kind of sounds like you're also friends with people who you can use? Maybe that's not the case but when you said 'your friendship is not paying my rent, not changing my life, it's not buying me a ticket to new york' at 29:02 it sounds like you're only friends with someone if they benefit you materialistically? But that contradicts with what you said before on how you used to make friends easily because they love you for you. Have you maybe... thought that this mindset you currently (being cut throat) is just changing the way you view friends as a barter system? As soon as your friend flops, you want to drop them? Really, that's your response? Isn't that harsh? I don't mean to sound negative in this comment section but i would be so sad if my friend cut me off because my grades or something dropped for some reason. It gives me more anxiety and I don't think that's the value of friendship. Sorry for ranting so long, I really don't mean any negativity, I swear but I guess this is where my opinion differs from you. Maybe it doesn't I would love to hear more examples of what you meant by cutting them off and being cut throat etc... do you not give chances?
I don't think thats what she was trying to imply but I did kinda get that sense towards the end as well. Maybe we're both misunderstanding what she meant? Idk, felt like I was fully onboard w what she was saying until that part
Hey Lumma, could you make a video on unrequited love and being rejected ? I confessed my feelings to the person I loved and they don’t feel the same , how does one deal with that , and how does one move forward with their life ? I hope you’re doing well, looking forward to your response.
I’m a 17 year old girl and like I’m forgiving myself and forgiving people but it’s so hard I been through a 5 year friendship and sometimes I feel like maybe she will reach out but I’m starting to accept the fact it’s gone and over and I just lost another friend this past January I shared her my deepest darkest secret and her gf they were in a rls for like 2 years which I understand but she will make the friendship about relationships and stuff and her ex gf was like making fun of me but I knew she was playing but at the same time I feel like it was shade thrown and my friend didn’t gaf at all she said she apologized but idk and I try making new friends but it’s so hard like most people got so antisocial after covid and it’s not genuine friendships no more :( I sometimes just wish I had my own group of friends but I don’t talk to no one Im not even close with family at alll :(
I’m the girl that came up to you ice skating the other week! I felt like I couldn’t get my words out but I wanted to tell you how much of a difference you made during a really turbulent time with everything in my life ❤ your pep talks make all the difference on a bad day!
THIS IS LITERALLY SO CUTE 😭 Made my day honestly!! ❤
Hey please where did she say we can communicate with her.....is that a app or
i love this new podcast series so much, especially the first episode. your not only great at providing advice as well as just the comfort from just watching your videos, but also just the fact that you are so entertaining and never fail to uplift my spirits as well as others during tough times. i absolutely love all of your videos and i love you and the community you have built.
Thank you for watching! 🤍
I’m 30 & literally learning it’s ok to be alone
i love the independence aspect from friendships. Such an undervalued topic, Ty Lumma
You're so welcome!
Omggg 😭💗💗💗I was bullied as a child, and that time I didn’t even know I was getting bullied…I thought everyone goes through this but once I grew up I realised I was a victim, and yes I don’t want any sympathy as well!!! And you spoke my mind! I was a people pleaser and I still kinda am but I’m trying my best to set boundaries and I’m way stronger now! Thank you so much for sharing your story! It heals me in a way 💗🎀🐇🤞🏻
No waittt I was half way through writing this comment and you’re taking about a girl who copied everything you did and boy when I say that happened to me as well!!!! I’m sorry if I’m sounding creepy but I had the same experience, she changed everything about herself to look like me! And mind you If she was taking an inspiration that’s ok but straight up cloning!!! I have all the receipts and she use to do that all Infront of me!!! But yea I’ve cut her off and so much happier now
this really resonates with me today. i’ve just made it to the top ten in a business competition i’m in, and realized that I only have like two friends to invite to come watch me. At first I was really sad about it, but then I realized that i’m perfectly happy with my life. I’m still in high school so a lot of the time I feel pressured to have a ton of friends and always be going out and doing something, but really I don’t want that. I want to sit at home and dream about my future, and crochet, and learn about investing more. that type of shit makes me happy. basically what i’m trying to say is I really needed to hear that that’s normal, and i’m not alone for that. thanks lumma, your videos are awesome and I really admire this mindset and energy.
I love this. Thank you for watching! 🤍
I was feeling down and she posted this haha she is my comfort person
❤
I like your systematic checklist approach to forming new friendships. It’s very smart
And the “they don’t have access to me” line ate
wow this is crazy i resonate :( i realized i was a people pleaser and i never had friends in high school. i would talk to maybe 1 or 2 people and some days i would eat lunch in the washroom (like in the movies)… fast forward now i don’t think anyone would’ve guessed. i have such a cool vibe and aura around me because i did a lot of inner work.
i love you soo much Lumma. Thank you for being the elder sister for me that I never had.
As a teenager this is so so helpful. Thank you so much Lumma you’re such an inspiration xx
I’m 30 and I have been subscribed to you for a couple of years now. I truly learn so much from you and I appreciate your work. I really resonated with this video.. I recently cut off a best friend that I had been BEST friends with since we were 4 years old. Literally. Grew up together and were basically inseparable. She was like a sister. Over the years, it just became worse and worse. She became very toxic, and I constantly felt like she was never pleased with me. It was bizarre almost like she would complain that I never ask her how she is that I never do this or that meanwhile, proof was in texts that I would literally would text this girl every day. I also always had the same feelings of guilt or just all-around bad vibes just because it was very obvious that she was jealous. I always got the jealous vibes ever since we were young but more so as we got older actually especially once I finished school and landed a really good job in a hospital and then started my small business. It really went downhill from there. She never once congratulated me asked me how I was doing nothing. She wouldn’t answer texts … and I mean like ever. Unless it was to complain Meanwhile, I would always be asking her how her days or weeks are going and I would be her biggest fan for every accomplishment yet she still would have me feeling guilty After 26 years of friendship, I really just couldn’t do it anymore. The toxicity became too much and it’s been five months now and honestly I feel totally fine and in fact, I feel better without that type of energy in my life. I’d rather have no friends at all than friends like that thank you for this video we are not alone. 💕
Girl never stop your podcast I always wait for your podcast it hold a special space in my heart I love you Lumma you literally had a positive impact on me 🥺🥺 ILY from 🇮🇳
Aww ❤
i’m seeing this months after it’s been posted but this has helped me so much
I just watched this pep talk last night, because the title really relates to what I just experience right now; "dealing with friend break up". A little story, I just had an argument with my close friend, at first I thought it was just a misunderstanding, but I understand my friend's character who likes to escalate problems and spread bad thing if she's having a problem with someone. and until one day I was the victim. my friend spread bad thing behind my back. At first I tried to make peace with her, i tried to resolve the problem with a cold head and tried to talk to her nicely, but she cut me off first, blocked all my social media and never greeted me again in class. At first it was very painful, because I knew I was very close to her, but then she broke off our friendship and didn't want to talk to me, thinking I didn't exist. until finally I thought, why was I so adamant about wanting to make peace with her when she didn't want to make peace with me from the start, she also didn't feel lost while at the same time I felt like I had lost her when our friendship became strained. after watching this podcast, I thought again that maybe what I should do is accept the fact that she can't be my friend anymore, and because of that incident I also realized that from the start my friend was always jealous of me, for whatever reason but she always felt jealous of my achievements. I hope one day I can accept the fact that she can no longer be my friend. this is so painful, but I would rather lose someone else than choose to lose myself.
Anyways, thanks Lumma for enlighten me. you have no idea how much this video helps me 🥺 I've been following you since the beginning and this is my first time commenting here, sorry. I hope you're always healthy and happy, Lumma ❤️✨
Thank you for this video! I can relate, sending you so much love 🩵
i really needed this thank you so much lumma sooo much!
Im learning from you as to how to love myself and understand myself and understand that it is about me.
Ur vlogs are always my favorite ❤️
I love you! You are just goals❤
I edge to your vids and it helped me get thru my breakup
Omg you always put on relatable content
Soo fucking true! friends that are insecure ----->>> big red flags
I realized that not all friendships are worth it because it's always me who's been doing all the effort and obviously my efforts were never reciprocated. I'm done with them and everyone.
I'm this friend, and then have to wonder why everyone's hearts ain't the same. So I stopped & let's just say I lost alot of "frieeeends"🤦♀️
I feel I am an insecure friend 😢thanks for this podcast! I like this a topic
Hi lumma, can you make a video about, being scared to be replaced, hurting your ego? 💛
Yes! ❤
This was so good to hear ♡ 🙏
I have broken up with two used to be besties, because they were very toxic and only cared about male attention and drama. Now they're going around school telling lies, And even reaching out to EX crushes or mine and showing them screenshots. This is so fucked up because I don't deserve this. I'm going straight to parents if they don't say anything I will go straight to our principal and tell her Everything. Not just about the screenshots but about one ex bestie calling me a "N****r" so this is just blowing my mind.
There are too many insecure people in this world. I have good friends but they just don’t wanna move up in life, so I feel alone because I have priorities and goals and have been accomplishing them one by one, and they are focusing on boy drama and partying. My only best friend though is my mom❤
Love your videos! Sending love from California 💛
i like your videos so much
can you also do a video on how to set boundaries
Thank you for watching! 🤍 Will do
Hi Lumma! Will you be posting your updated makeup routine sooooon! 😅🤗❤️
The Audio is so crisp
Thanks you sooo mush i realy realit im leatrly in it💓💓
I have constantly getting bullied online since last year by an ex and his gf I don't even know what to do anymore! They posted my kids and me all over Facebook for the whole community to bully it has been hard
You built her you go girl 😂
Love you Lumma ❤
Hello dear this was so insightful important and helpful. ❤️💯✨
Would love if you could make an in depth video on how to build long lasting female friendships. ❤️
that’s creepy af! i’m so curious to see what she looks like smh
I love youuu! Thank you
Lumma i love you alot but... and i mean this respectfully but it kind of sounds like you're also friends with people who you can use? Maybe that's not the case but when you said 'your friendship is not paying my rent, not changing my life, it's not buying me a ticket to new york' at 29:02 it sounds like you're only friends with someone if they benefit you materialistically? But that contradicts with what you said before on how you used to make friends easily because they love you for you. Have you maybe... thought that this mindset you currently (being cut throat) is just changing the way you view friends as a barter system? As soon as your friend flops, you want to drop them? Really, that's your response? Isn't that harsh? I don't mean to sound negative in this comment section but i would be so sad if my friend cut me off because my grades or something dropped for some reason. It gives me more anxiety and I don't think that's the value of friendship. Sorry for ranting so long, I really don't mean any negativity, I swear but I guess this is where my opinion differs from you. Maybe it doesn't I would love to hear more examples of what you meant by cutting them off and being cut throat etc... do you not give chances?
I don't think thats what she was trying to imply but I did kinda get that sense towards the end as well. Maybe we're both misunderstanding what she meant? Idk, felt like I was fully onboard w what she was saying until that part
Hey Lumma, could you make a video on unrequited love and being rejected ? I confessed my feelings to the person I loved and they don’t feel the same , how does one deal with that , and how does one move forward with their life ? I hope you’re doing well, looking forward to your response.
I’m headed to the website neoooww thank you
great message!!!
Hii lumma❤can u please make videos about high value women ❤
Tell the truth girl
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I’m a 17 year old girl and like I’m forgiving myself and forgiving people but it’s so hard I been through a 5 year friendship and sometimes I feel like maybe she will reach out but I’m starting to accept the fact it’s gone and over and I just lost another friend this past January I shared her my deepest darkest secret and her gf they were in a rls for like 2 years which I understand but she will make the friendship about relationships and stuff and her ex gf was like making fun of me but I knew she was playing but at the same time I feel like it was shade thrown and my friend didn’t gaf at all she said she apologized but idk and I try making new friends but it’s so hard like most people got so antisocial after covid and it’s not genuine friendships no more :( I sometimes just wish I had my own group of friends but I don’t talk to no one Im not even close with family at alll :(
Where did she say we can communicate with her ,is that an app....i really need to talk to her😢
Haha you totally have the “international school” accent
You're so badass
I wanna meet you some time, if the universe cud just make us meet sometime
DO ASMR!
This video.
Lumma what’s your ethnicity habibti?
Filipino & Armenian
@@authenticityisrare7144 She looks so arab to me!!
First
Im earlyyy