3 Powerful Ways To Make Him Chase You

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  • “3 Powerful Ways To Make Him Chase You”
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    In this video, Clayton is going to talk about how to make a man chase you, how to attract a man and position yourself as a valuable, sexy, desirable woman worthy of being chased by the guy that you desire.
    Here are the 3 powerful secrets:
    Secret #1 = Create a Vacuum - Both Internally and Externally [01:33]
    How do you create a vaccum? Creating a vacuum is by having your life set up in a way, both externally and internally, where you have room for another consciousness or another person to enter.
    Secret #2 = Allow Yourself to be Impacted by Him [05:04]
    Allowing yourself impacted by anyone in your life is one of the greatest gifts you can give anybody.
    Clayton is a firm believer that the core of our identity is that “we all want to matter,” and “we all want to know that we exist.” And what better way to know that we exist is to see the impact that we have on others.
    Secret #3 = Give Him the Greenlight while Maintaining Boundaries [08:40]
    This is a play of two opposites that create this cocktail of magnetic attraction in your dynamic with him.
    When you are able to give the greenlight to the guy what you do is to relieve him of the doubt that he might not get you or you relieve him of the accusations inside his mind that he is not good enough.
    Men are incredibly fearful of not being good enough.
    When you bring these dynamics in the dating context, it allows you to be more comfortable. You create this authenticity when you’re around with men.
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  • @TheDenicija
    @TheDenicija 7 років тому +178

    Hi Clayton. I wish to express my admiration for your approach to the subject matter: it is authentic because you do not use or advise usage of psychological manipulation technique, tactics and tricks which actually do not work in the long run. Instead you show genuine interest in helping others get the best out of themselves, their partners and their real or potential relationships. Just so you know - your positive and respectful efforts are noticed and appreciated.

    • @claytonolsoncoaching
      @claytonolsoncoaching  7 років тому +23

      you're a sweetheart. Thank you for this

    • @m_christine8777
      @m_christine8777 7 років тому +6

      Vivian Vandermeer I agree.What a great find here!He's mature,insightful,and ,just wow!thanks so much Clayton,for the advice. I'm going to contact you for coaching.

    • @lisalisa8426
      @lisalisa8426 6 років тому

      Vivian Vandermeer
      Amen... Amen..Amen Brother!!! This is truly Me!! I have to say... If any woman seeing this video; who feels she is a valuable and worthy soul..then doing or being "Yourself" is Truly the way to Go! You may find men.. who have had so many "mind games" played on them..that at the first approach of you doing and having your self and values in place.. may scare the piss out of them..but If they are worth having and you give it time..I am a TRUE witness...This truly works In All Aspects. My Virgo man.. really feel in love with me being me.. Respect to any man and knowing Who You Are.. Can't help but to be sexy, adorable and desired by "Real Mature Men"!
      If he can't it won't value this approach...then Most Likely..He just NOT worth your time. He won't Value you...In any manner if that's the case. Then usually... He's either a "player" or not ready for the deep Dynamics of who YOU really ARE!
      BEST WISHES,
      LISA😘

    • @jameshenderson1953
      @jameshenderson1953 6 років тому

      Vivian Answered

  • @sleepingcinderella
    @sleepingcinderella 6 років тому +195

    So many advices on the net for women how to behave to satisfy men, there should be more advice for men how to be decent and proper human beings and RESPECT WOMEN.
    Edit: Thank you all the wonderful women who agree with me! Wishing you true happiness! 🙏💖🍀🤗

    • @joanofarcxxi
      @joanofarcxxi 5 років тому +17

      You hit the nail on the head. Exactly my thought. Men have viagra, what do we have? Do men have to wax? NO, but we do. Men have pleasure, we have pregnancy. It is about time for us to be treated like queens by someone who has some real skills on how to get a quality woman and keep her happy.

    • @sleepingcinderella
      @sleepingcinderella 5 років тому +10

      PopSugar Sprinkles The industry and media are degrading women more and more. We should love and nourish our authenticity and uniqueness.

    • @fitwithsadia9179
      @fitwithsadia9179 5 років тому +1

      Hahahaj thats so good!!!!

    • @lisabelcher6045
      @lisabelcher6045 5 років тому +1

      So true!

    • @NarnianLady
      @NarnianLady 5 років тому +6

      Yes. Completely agree! Men should also be told to 'give the woman a greenlight' and encourage her to feel that she is good enough...

  • @joanbaczek2575
    @joanbaczek2575 6 років тому +236

    a woman with an open heart easily falls prey to a narcissistic man.

    • @claytonolsoncoaching
      @claytonolsoncoaching  6 років тому +74

      I would more say a women with weak boundaries fall prey to Narcissistic men. An open heart has nothing to do with being weak or prey. Not knowing where your boundaries are or looking for happiness outside yourself is what sets one up to be prey.

    • @soni1109
      @soni1109 6 років тому +3

      Amen !!

    • @claytonolsoncoaching
      @claytonolsoncoaching  6 років тому +50

      This is where you must respect your own boundaries and walk away if violated.

    • @anaacevedo2263
      @anaacevedo2263 6 років тому +8

      @@claytonolsoncoaching 0kay. At the age of forty five I'll look for your video on what bounderies a woman should have.

    • @Rubiastraify
      @Rubiastraify 6 років тому +11

      I used to think the same way, because I believe I have an open heart, and sometimes give my affection too soon, without the guy really having to earn it. I, too, got involved with a narc - but there WERE flags that I *chose* to ignore. Now, I have my boundaries. And, I pay attention to my gut; my intuition is usually spot on - I just have to listen. I've also done a lot of work to develop my own "tests", and what works for me is 1) does he have a sense of entitlement? and 2) does he lack empathy?. Either of these are red flags, and I will not allow the guy into my life. So, yes, I feel more relaxed and have more of a sense of freedom - I can be warm to complete strangers without being fearful that he might take advantage of me. It's the principle that someone who is highly trained in self-defense is the least likely to get into a fight; they're calm and relaxed and will try to calm the situation down. Sometimes it can be challenging to be single, but to live with someone - like a narc - who CANNOT love, is simply torture. Check out the book, "The Gift of Fear" - it's an eye-opener.

  • @tinatangos
    @tinatangos 6 років тому +18

    About creating a vacuum...
    I listened to this the other day and realized that ever since my ex moved out some months ago, and took his pillow with him, I never got a second pillow. I have been sleeping with this one pillow on my big bed. I made the decision to get a second pillow, and I did, and I kind of cried when I did it. It may seem silly, a pillow of all things, but this really meant a lot to me! I feel like it's the first step.
    Thank you! Great channel.

    • @claytonolsoncoaching
      @claytonolsoncoaching  6 років тому +2

      You are precious. Thank you for sharing.

    • @Miswhitness0520
      @Miswhitness0520 3 роки тому

      I understand how you feel. When my ex moved out he wanted to take the bed with him… the freaking bed! As if I’m not already in enough pain..

  • @sstan2419
    @sstan2419 5 років тому +12

    Open heart?! What does that even mean? My experience has been that the instant you show a guy you’re remotely interested in him, he shuts down or completely disappears from your life.

  • @mariamoreno3785
    @mariamoreno3785 7 років тому +116

    Wow, this guy is brilliant. It's like he understands woman with a type of maturity I wish I could find. Hopefully I meet someone like him someday.

    • @jamilakadaki5734
      @jamilakadaki5734 6 років тому +2

      his not scripted. very good advice. thank you

    • @MrMkayultra
      @MrMkayultra 4 роки тому

      Maria Moreno @ Maria you will sister! You are loved

  • @earthangel3108
    @earthangel3108 4 роки тому +1

    If the guy doesn’t want to protect and love that little girl that is a red flag. If you play or cry a little or express yourself and he just makes fun or scoffs at your tears he is not being a good man and it will get worse and worse. I need to make some serious boundaries and stick to them no matter what. I’ve destroyed my life and lost myself because of it. This advice is soooooo right on.

  • @smileys1816
    @smileys1816 7 років тому +95

    You're easy on the ears (and the eyes) in that you don't talk like an action movie would sound, like a bunch of mainstream dating coaches out there that are bursting with outbursts about FIVE WAYS!! to WIN the guy RIGHT NOW!and then CLICK here for my BOOK!! BAM!! lol So, thanks for some serenity in your approach.

    • @robyn9513
      @robyn9513 7 років тому +14

      Smileys You're so right especially about the,"click the link below to get my book" and the fact that those other videos dont give you any clear answers unless you buy their book...which I wont! This guy makes so much more sense and I feel a sense of clarity after watching his videos. Thats a great feeling! Finally! So tired of feeling empty.

    • @claytonolsoncoaching
      @claytonolsoncoaching  7 років тому +7

      Wow. Thank you for sharing. Really feeling honored.

    • @onelifeoneloveonedream1658
      @onelifeoneloveonedream1658 6 років тому +1

      Lol

    • @keshakellogg5995
      @keshakellogg5995 3 роки тому +2

      This is true. Love listening to this content while I wind down my day. Wonderful, peaceful energy is so appreciated. 🙏❤️

    • @prettydisabled9060
      @prettydisabled9060 2 роки тому +1

      You're right. ♥️

  • @josephinemukeni8574
    @josephinemukeni8574 6 років тому +33

    The man who is chasing me told me last Tuesday that he now has a green light to dating me,because I sent him a flirtatious message after playing hard to get.He drove over two hours just to meet me and It was magical...

    • @cjsmomom
      @cjsmomom 5 років тому

      That's great! How's it going?

    • @Serel25
      @Serel25 4 роки тому

      Gwarrnnn girlll 😘👌

  • @anewloveofficial9137
    @anewloveofficial9137 6 років тому +11

    If you know your worth as a woman you will never be taken for granted by a man. Keep it in mind that you are worth chasing so never make yourself too available because it makes a man lost interest in you.

  • @robyn9513
    @robyn9513 7 років тому +7

    Out of all the videos I watched about heartache,no contact, getting your ex back,etc...yours is the only one that makes complete sense. and believe me, Ive watched several!

  • @celissewillis9399
    @celissewillis9399 7 років тому +83

    I totally agree with this! Even in basic law of attraction, it states that if you want to attract a new lover/soul mate, etc that you need to prepare your space with expectancy of that person coming to be a part of your life, even if you don't have a specific person in mind, it's like telling the universe "I'm ready" but if you keep saying you want it but aren't taking basic necessary actions, then you'll be hard pressed to manifest that person because you're not willing to align your energy with them.

    • @claytonolsoncoaching
      @claytonolsoncoaching  7 років тому +14

      Boom.

    • @hunny585
      @hunny585 6 років тому +2

      Clayton Olson Coaching but i dont know how to create physical space...making bed bigger and creating space in closet not possible for me as i live wid my family...wat do i do

    • @tanyastevens9553
      @tanyastevens9553 6 років тому

      Celisse Willis Well said!

    • @maryknowles5566
      @maryknowles5566 6 років тому

      Celisse Willis 6bio

    • @fishautawater73
      @fishautawater73 5 років тому +3

      Be careful which man u attract into that space. If u r just out of a relationship or had a recent loss that space is there like a vacuum...a narc will smell that need/desperation and like the parassite he is will fill that space nicely pretending to be all u asked for...till he has established connection to your core...then to get rid of him will be like removing a tumor and u will lose such huge part of yourself in the process.

  • @carolpastorino8208
    @carolpastorino8208 5 років тому +15

    When you really fall in love this games and manipulation does not exist. You love them for who they are. Who cares what kind of job or car he has. Love is not about who is smarter ect.

    • @oscarwilliamson1264
      @oscarwilliamson1264 4 роки тому

      Carol pastorino,you are so beautiful 🌹 🌹🌷 🌷🌺🥀🥀🥀🌺🌺🌹🌹🌹🌹

  • @blessedchica1746
    @blessedchica1746 5 років тому +46

    When a man is emotionally available these are great ways/ ideas. The problem is men are NOT. They are intimidated by a successful independent woman

    • @Serel25
      @Serel25 4 роки тому +3

      Not all men, when you find the right guy they will want only you and will do anything to make it work

    • @ivia_ol8356
      @ivia_ol8356 3 роки тому

      True

  • @mist__4974
    @mist__4974 6 років тому +21

    Finally real advice that does not involve games

  • @MzKdMcT
    @MzKdMcT 7 років тому +364

    I love the sincerity of your advice. I get so tired about hearing how to play games. Refreshing to listen to this. :)

    • @claytonolsoncoaching
      @claytonolsoncoaching  7 років тому +11

      Thank you. And you're welcome.

    • @Markrosenfeld
      @Markrosenfeld 7 років тому +7

      100%!

    • @kathrynrussell6246
      @kathrynrussell6246 7 років тому +4

      Clayton Olson Coaching hi I'm new to channel and I was wondering how do women with disabilities like attract the man they like are attracted to and how do they know if that man is attracted to them

    • @toninadsouza6640
      @toninadsouza6640 7 років тому

      Krissy McTavish NMNM

    • @yasminhabibti721
      @yasminhabibti721 6 років тому +1

      No shit.

  • @Markrosenfeld
    @Markrosenfeld 7 років тому +103

    This is fucking fantastic content

    • @SharonChristineAZ
      @SharonChristineAZ 7 років тому +4

      Mark Rosenfeld how do you handle a guy who travels for a living? he's gone for 4 to 5 days a week as a pilot. he wants a relationship with me but is gone alot!

    • @flyandshy00
      @flyandshy00 7 років тому +3

      He probably has a secret life, that's why he is going a lot.

  • @cindypowell6358
    @cindypowell6358 5 років тому +1

    I have to say, this is the MOST TRUE inspirational down to earth HONEST open advice I’ve ever heard on relationship advice. Thank you. You were very thorough & spoke from the heart. I literally just saw you on UA-cam for the 1st time last night & was able to watch this today. I’m so glad I did. What a gift you have in giving SINCERE advice to others. I actually will be watching this again as it was so encouraging to me. I do most of what you mentioned on here & was starting to wonder if I was going about things wrong to attract a good man. Clearly I’m doing a lot right & it’s refreshing to hear it from a guys standpoint that’s my qualities are attractive & can/will attract LOVE.

  • @meyatacena9332
    @meyatacena9332 5 років тому +17

    Well,im 32 and patiently waiting for the right guy.😂

  • @renwoody3894
    @renwoody3894 6 років тому +1

    This is what every human should allow themselves to feel. You are so right and I love how you are speaking on this. Men do not want to be vulnerable these days with one woman, they are too busy trying to woo all they come across. Which only allows part of him to be shared with multiple women.
    But everyone is into all types of games.
    Do you want quanity or quality that is the question? You only have so much to offer why not share it with one man or one woman.

  • @nyeshacooke6341
    @nyeshacooke6341 6 років тому +5

    You provide a sense of relief, self-awareness and understanding. The science behind interaction is so fascinating and you provide such a beautiful explanation of it. Thank you for this video.

  • @claytonolson1991
    @claytonolson1991 7 років тому +89

    Fixed the audio. Please like and share if it helped.

  • @gina9517
    @gina9517 7 років тому +45

    You're a genius man woah. I can't stop watching your vids for some reason!! Keep it up!

  • @nn8103
    @nn8103 7 років тому +15

    This is the most powerful video I have seen and it has put so many things into perspective for me. Thank you so much, Clayton. This has not only helped me to understand myself better...it has helped me to understand why struggles occur in relationships in general.
    Why the dance just didn't seem quite right. At this stage of my life....it's so important to have that true essence and you just explained this so eloquently.

    • @claytonolsoncoaching
      @claytonolsoncoaching  7 років тому +3

      Thank you, Laurie. I appreciate you watching and the reflection.

    • @m_christine8777
      @m_christine8777 7 років тому

      How could there be only 20k subs?I've watched advice videos for two days and you're the most genuine and helpful and I'm not moving on to anyone else now.

  • @trishataylor2837
    @trishataylor2837 5 років тому +40

    I'm sick of hearing about how I have to be in order for a man to want to be with me. Men need to stop acting like they need a mommy and a nurse and a maid. These kind of vids r always how the woman has to be the one to make changes and they literally turn my stomach!

    • @oscarwilliamson1264
      @oscarwilliamson1264 4 роки тому

      Trisha Taylor,you are absolutely gorgeous 🌹 🌹🌷 🌷🥀🌷🌺

  • @ellieon
    @ellieon 7 років тому +4

    I watch all the dating videos. I mean all of them. While I am a confident woman I often misinterpret men's behavior. It is nice to get more of an emotional insight into what makes a man tick and how to connect rather then some sort of manipulative anchoring the media teaches.
    That said, I enjoyed this video and the insight into boundaries, and that a man really does fall in love with a combination of strength and vulnerability(the little girl inside). Very interesting and nice to see and exprience someone being honest.

  • @sequoiasilver
    @sequoiasilver 7 років тому +1

    Oh Clayton!! Where to begin...your vocal tone...so warm, so intimate; somehow trust worthy. It's like they said in broadcasting...NOT sexy so that someone invites you to dinner. Just a Lunch date voice...
    I REALLY needed help with THIS TOPIC. Dating used to feel like a game I could not win.
    I HAD to HEAL my heart...I had to open it. I had to learn about guys.
    Man I discovered Matt Boggs but YOU, you SPEAK directly to my heart. Your word choice resonates with my soul. Helps me understand THIS guy...
    You put my fears to rest when I feel over-exposed, TOO playful.
    You give me HOPE that I can create space for my crush- it is not too late, I can still be TAUGHT.
    I can apply ALL of this bc/I truly DO admire others today.
    I am still HOPEFUL.
    Thank you so much. I CAN be confident AND vulnerable, too.
    This is a SMART guy, I can be me.

  • @katrinanorton3633
    @katrinanorton3633 6 років тому +1

    When you work with a big variety of men who are married and they chase you. Stick your ground and be a good coworker but also show them that they are in the work zone and keep it as such. I have had men hit on me even at work that are married.

  • @missysorganics1258
    @missysorganics1258 5 років тому +4

    It stops him in his thoughts when I say I like a specific quality and then ends up bringing it out the next time

  • @chacharas81
    @chacharas81 7 років тому +35

    Im incredible dumb in relationship matters. So Im constantly learning, investigating and trying to do it better. Its always great, to find a coach that obviously talks from the heart! I got that vibe from you. Thank you. Now, dont forget, that some of us are scared to death of being open to a new guy, you know why? Because most of them are very cruel. I had experienced 3 relationships in a row with narcissist (yeah, Im an empath and im working on it). The world its running out of love, and for me its really hard to express interest in new guys. Maybe time will help. 😊

    • @prettydisabled9060
      @prettydisabled9060 2 роки тому

      If you're learning, you're not dumb in it. That's what life is about: learning. ♥️

  • @rovielynulnagan
    @rovielynulnagan 6 років тому

    Tired of relationships that u try everything to make it better but still not enough.. sometimes its good to be single..

  • @takotako3750
    @takotako3750 7 років тому +10

    every single word is so true because I have experienced everything myself

  • @lovemecom3832
    @lovemecom3832 6 років тому

    Thanks for these great advice, men cant stop chasing with you when he have deepest feelings with you and just be yourself.

  • @ichooseme4life
    @ichooseme4life 6 років тому +12

    You and Derrick Jackson should get together and do a video. Very similar values and great energy!

  • @bvntzu1
    @bvntzu1 7 років тому +119

    So beautiful what you've said about the little girl inside of us.really touched my heart.

  • @sabrinanascimento5248
    @sabrinanascimento5248 7 років тому

    Create vacuum, open heart . Impact.confidence Green light, smile, Boundary.

  • @drewdaking5521
    @drewdaking5521 6 років тому +30

    People NEED to stay single for a few years. Don't want to be too needy and that is just what you are when you hook up right away!!!!

    • @laurieparis2203
      @laurieparis2203 5 років тому

      Denny Smith Agree! You've gotta work on your self/issues, be independent, learn how to balance job, play, bills, so that you know what you want in a partner and truly appreciate the right one when you find him/her.

    • @kerrisabato2711
      @kerrisabato2711 5 років тому

      When you fall in love with mentor

    • @Phoephoey
      @Phoephoey 5 років тому +3

      Denny Smith but on the other hand, if you’re single for too long, you get used to it. And the other person won’t be able to stand it and will walk away eventually. LOL

    • @soni1109
      @soni1109 3 роки тому

      @@Phoephoey
      Yes but that not your problem.

  • @kittylikesmilk
    @kittylikesmilk 7 років тому +11

    I love the lighting and setting of your video here :) thank you for the amazing advice too!

    • @claytonolsoncoaching
      @claytonolsoncoaching  7 років тому +8

      Thank you! Yes, recorded in a beautiful park right by my home.

  • @poppyorangeflower
    @poppyorangeflower 6 років тому

    Be genuine. Be genuine. Be genuine. Anything else is unsustainable.
    And will hurt you sooner or later.

  • @ReneClayton
    @ReneClayton 7 років тому +8

    This is one of the best videos of its kind I have ever seen !

  • @sylviataylor9874
    @sylviataylor9874 5 років тому

    Thank You!!! I have done ALL this from the moment we met. When our relationship developed and bonded on a Spiritual level, he started creating distances like he had not felt before, he opened up and had such a playful relationship. Then he started looking and bombing other woman and told me he made a point to try not to be so connected to me!!! Please explain this to me. We are So much alike and love almost everything that we were passionate about. Don’t understand !!!

  • @bwelty09
    @bwelty09 7 років тому

    Hi. So, I have been seeing this guy for 2 weeks and we have so much in common and he is so thoughtful .. not just to me but everyone. He is funny, fun, hardworking and it's great. The other night we went out and usually I don't drink, but I did and too much. It was a hang out with a ton of friends so we weren't attached at the hip all night.. anyway I got sick and started crying because I was embarrassed he would see me that way and telling his/my friends how amazing he was and that I was afraid of him seeing me that way. I was drunk. He said I maybe a couple years ahead of him in what we want. The thing is I'm not.... I have huge plans right now I'm wrapping up for me. I've only known him 2 weeks.... I don't want kids and a family tomorrow. But I would like the comfort back and the fun. I apologized for the other night assured him I have a lot in my life to finish first... and I have not contacted him since. What can I do for him to see me that way again?

  • @thecatalist9117
    @thecatalist9117 6 років тому +1

    You are a breath of fresh air,..so nice to see and hear a man speak truly from the heart. Got to Respect that . 💋 Mwah hope you find what you are looking for!

    • @oscarwilliamson1264
      @oscarwilliamson1264 4 роки тому

      Sue Johnson, you look stunning 🌹 🌹🌷 🌷🌺🌹🌹🌹🌹

  • @magzsara9892
    @magzsara9892 7 років тому +1

    follow the Law of Attraction.. Once you connect with your true vibration you will attract someone else on the right vibration for you.. In fact you will attract lots of them.. and life will be a joy.

  • @rashida7777
    @rashida7777 5 років тому +1

    I can listen to him talk all night.

  • @barbaratucker2924
    @barbaratucker2924 5 років тому +2

    Clayton...u are the BEST speaker of all relationship coaches!!

  • @Viyama1
    @Viyama1 7 років тому +11

    I'm loving your advice. You are absolutely touching me at the core. Thank you!

  • @Miss_M85
    @Miss_M85 7 років тому +13

    Best relationship advice I've ever heard.

  • @puneetkaur5376
    @puneetkaur5376 6 років тому

    U don't hv entrepreneur's vibes....
    U hv dis angelic aura
    As if I m listening to some angel's advice😇

  • @sandragomez7905
    @sandragomez7905 4 роки тому +1

    I'm married and I think your advise hits the nail right on the head 😉. Thank you Clayton.

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      @liamolsenski1161 4 роки тому

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  • @sw3566
    @sw3566 6 років тому +1

    I think it's really important to love yourself first. It's a challenge for sure. I agree with you about asking a women how she sees herself. If she's willing to open that to a man whom she's dating and able to talk about her past, present, future and she can be confident to express her wants out of life and not be someone she isn't is very important. Communication is so important.

    • @sw3566
      @sw3566 4 роки тому

      @@oscarwilliamson1264 thanks

    • @oscarwilliamson1264
      @oscarwilliamson1264 4 роки тому

      @@sw3566 which country are you from?

  • @passiondiverone2752
    @passiondiverone2752 5 років тому

    Appreciate your channel , I'm an expat living in Dubai , so dating is extremely challenging here , however, yes I keep an open heart and living in the Middle East makes one more flexible of the many cultures and nationals. Remain always positive with compassion and I always try to create open spaces for that special man ! Wishing you peace and love always !

  • @victoriat8481
    @victoriat8481 5 років тому +1

    You know a guy is wrong when he tries to get you in the back seat of his car on the first date..when you just thought it would be a simple drop off to your house....I was stupid enough to keep seeing this guy...then he dumped me lol

    • @oscarwilliamson1264
      @oscarwilliamson1264 4 роки тому

      Victoria Temnoff,you look gorgeous 🌹 🌹🌹🌹🥀🥀🌷🌷🌺🌺🌺

  • @iabelanger
    @iabelanger 6 років тому

    You have a beautiful authentic soul and personality. Therefore you attract many people who respect you and listen to you. Your advice is very much appreciated.

  • @ceciliabortoluzzi2301
    @ceciliabortoluzzi2301 4 роки тому +2

    Absolutely brilliant! I agree with everything you say here... you really do have a very clear understanding of both female and male needs and behaviour. I have actually never heard it expressed quite so accurately before 🌸💜

  • @m_christine8777
    @m_christine8777 7 років тому +33

    Can you just be cloned? You're amazing,wow,great insight and advice.

  • @brendahall8461
    @brendahall8461 4 роки тому

    Wow… The way you put the words around boundaries made a world of difference for me. I’ve always had strong boundaries however, recently I’ve met someone that pushed my boundaries and I succumbed. Very unlike me… I love your descriptions of the feminine’ yet with strength from within. I will follow your channel. You are very inspiring and have a wealth of great information. Thank you, Namaste’ 🙏

  • @bsims4993
    @bsims4993 7 років тому

    Clayton, I just came across your videos today. I listen to quite a few of them and you nail everyone of them right on the head. OMGoodness, I needed to find these much earlier. Very helpful and informative. I feel like I've been in the dark because I have not dated for over 4 years plus I've also been celibate for the same time. I recently met this wonderful patient guy that I might have ran away because every time he flirts with me sexually, I thought he just wanted to have sex, though he was patient. Now I know the basics. I will keep listening to your videos and hopefully he will call me back. He stopped communicating with me about 2 weeks now. Met him in Feb. Thanks BCS

  • @delythparker3688
    @delythparker3688 7 років тому

    Nahhh
    Ain't no one entering me again.
    Gave up it all and opened my heart and was abused for two years.
    Single...fiercely independent...heart molton rock
    How do you let someone in again?....
    Never

  • @jwilber8049
    @jwilber8049 6 років тому +2

    Thank you for being so honest and sincere in your advice. You're by far my favorite relationship coach. :)

    • @oscarwilliamson1264
      @oscarwilliamson1264 4 роки тому

      J wilber,you look gorgeous 🌹 🌹🌷 🌷🌺🥀🥀🥀🌺🌹🌹🌹🌹🌷🌷🌷🌹🌹

  • @fanidimitrova7736
    @fanidimitrova7736 6 років тому

    Isn't it better to become first friend with the potential boyfriend, in order to explore each other as individuals and set those boundaries first. I think rushing into relationships without knowing the person creates the huge problems.

  • @MelisJoy
    @MelisJoy 7 років тому +2

    Hey Clayton thank u so much for your amazingly concise & yet deep subjects. I love how u take a real approach to relationships..with honesty & integrity instead of some other coaches I see who give tips on how to "make" a man do something. You can't "make" someone fall in love & even if you could I dnt see how that wld make someone happy. I wld want the man I spend my life with to love me for me, not bc I did anything to manipulate that. I love that your vids are more centered around bringing out the natural magnatism a woman has & so many other key things we may not know we're doing wrong.

  • @rhondaperry6085
    @rhondaperry6085 5 років тому +3

    This wisdom was on time for me. I love the clear and easy to follow insight. Thank you!

  • @BP-fh8np
    @BP-fh8np 7 років тому +32

    So a guy that backs off from a woman that he truly likes and pursues could have possibly felt that he is not able to satisfy that particular woman (a hit to his ego) based on the woman's responses or lack thereof to his efforts? Could the woman gain this particular man's interest ever again to reestablish his efforts to chase? Was the interest in the woman truly ever lost or was he so hurt by her lack of reception that he went into 'safe mode' as a means of his protection and closed himself off from her? In essence, men who chase could actually translate into men wanting to be with a particular woman that he feels HE can satisfy/provide for as SHE is open to receiving it? Thanks
    *Sorry for all of the questions...just trying to understand the male perspective*

    • @claytonolsoncoaching
      @claytonolsoncoaching  7 років тому +16

      Question 1: Yes.
      Question 2: Yes. And, she may have to show a little more interest to get the ball moving again. The guy may also just feel to rejected to continue and say it's not worth it. More than likely, she will have to be more explicit with why she's suddenly back in it.
      Question 3: It definitely can be lost. Men write off women as being cold and unavailable as a defense against not feeling good enough for her.
      Question 4: I like your take on that. Sure. :)

    • @BP-fh8np
      @BP-fh8np 7 років тому +11

      Clayton Olson Coaching Such an overthinker and analyzer can't you tell lol. Its the main reason as to why my love interest left, I'm too stuck in the logic of things instead of being present in the moment. Thanks Clay

    • @nganhan596
      @nganhan596 7 років тому +1

      nohi

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      @veronicamiletsky3541 7 років тому +1

      Animal husbandry

    • @janicehowells4450
      @janicehowells4450 6 років тому +3

      I'm in this situation now , the guy was so full on he practically had our weekend planned and future dates then he was so busy he couldn't say when he could call or txt ?...

  • @flyandshy00
    @flyandshy00 7 років тому

    I am afraid to show even a little attention to my colleague, he was always smiling, sometimes laughing if I say something, one day he is smiling, other day he looks sad. I want to say something nice to him, but I'm afraid to look like I'm head over heels about him... How to make it safe? What if he doesn't like me? Then he will avoid me and I will feel even worse.

  • @KiKi-te9yd
    @KiKi-te9yd 6 років тому

    I have boundaries, i have plenty of room for a nice man to come into my life and im confident enough to show my vulnerable side. Still cant keep a guy interested. Fail.

  • @healinginnately2816
    @healinginnately2816 7 років тому +2

    I appreciate the wisdom of your heartfelt message and the clean tasteful way you choose to convey these principles. I am hopeful this is an accurate representation of your presentations! I want to share this with my daughter and other faith based friends! I know that I have dated men that while they didn't share my convictions of intimacy (to me even a kiss is sacred!) they were still way into me, wanted to marry me, and spend time with me. I have found the more true I am to myself in my words and actions the better things are and better I feel about myself... I was born in 1964 and I only have time for joy and happiness, caring... Thank you! :)

  • @Shasha8674
    @Shasha8674 7 років тому +1

    I don't agree with a certain person. Opposites may attract, but a person has to stay safe, can't always do things HIS way since he may not understand what is needed.

    • @claytonolsoncoaching
      @claytonolsoncoaching  7 років тому

      +Shasha8674 thank you for sharing your input. I always welcome them. 🙂

  • @sneharecites
    @sneharecites 5 років тому +1

    Thank you. I have learnt something today that was deep seated in my heart. Your words were so inspiring and affirmative, not only to make a relationship happen but also to make a person better.

  • @user-rm3rg1pf7v
    @user-rm3rg1pf7v 6 років тому

    I'm pretty sure the guy I'm thinking about while listening to this will never like me back, but this is some really sound advice that I hope to carry with me for years to come. Nice video :)

  • @pattilane6111
    @pattilane6111 7 років тому

    I've fallen in love and thought we had a relationship... I hold nothing back and give freely, and suddenly I see another woman posting pictures and laying claim to him saying he is hers and I'm crushed... what is wrong with me? We have shared our fantasies with each other and have felt powerful attachment to him. I don't understand what I need to do to get his interest back and have him chase me.

  • @Chandra-fm3vp
    @Chandra-fm3vp 7 років тому +6

    I just want a guy like you - ha ha. You're not afraid to go deep. Thanks!

  • @actualfactualwoman2199
    @actualfactualwoman2199 7 років тому +11

    You're an old soul ! Wise ...

  • @elainehoward1569
    @elainehoward1569 4 роки тому +1

    This made me cry. In a good way. Love is beautiful ❤️❤️

    • @oscarwilliamson1264
      @oscarwilliamson1264 4 роки тому

      Elaine Howard,Yeah 🤙,you are absolutely right.True love is beautiful 🌹 🌹🌷 🌷🌺🌹🌹🌹🌹

  • @sonyapierce7748
    @sonyapierce7748 6 років тому

    I have a question, I’ve been with my husband for almost 30 years and in our conversation yesterday, I asked him how he viewed us as husband and wife or as partners? About 5 years ago? He said he views us as partners, I asked, partners? With no love? He replied, there was love just not new love? I asked him, new love? He got quiet? I’m lost? According to man, what’s new love?

  • @snappyo4708
    @snappyo4708 6 років тому

    Thank you SO much. As Muslims we can't free mix or date so we have to communicate a lot in public, in brief meetings surrounded by people, with just looks and body language. I don't know how to give the green light but I will try smiling more and being more brave in interactions.

  • @brailine140
    @brailine140 5 років тому

    I'm with this guy who was hurt before. He told me that he didnt want a relationship the first time we met. Than after a couple of months he finally said that he wants to try. But I'm the one who initiate our conversation. I already met his mom. He also asked me why I like him so much. Any opinions?

  • @iamherpoetry6273
    @iamherpoetry6273 4 роки тому

    I don't know where you are about to go with this message, but I do want to be in that park right now. I miss outdoors like never before.

  • @Katteraxx
    @Katteraxx 5 років тому

    YOU ARE A BEAUTIFUL PERSON!!! thank you for helping me realize what I have in my own life and understanding that the healing begins within too. virtual hugs!!

  • @mimimimi377
    @mimimimi377 5 років тому +1

    Thank you so much. You gave me hope again. So many other dating coaches In carriage manipulation, and playing games. I want to be authentic. You would give me the courage to do that. You are so sweet

  • @jennifermichener5200
    @jennifermichener5200 6 років тому

    WOW !!! That was such an amazing video !!! The way u tlk, the emotion behind ur voice, the look in ur eyes, the words, I mean everything was absolutely amazing !!! U made me cry a little bc I never knew that I was actually "chasing" material. I grew up being abused my whole life & put dwn & treated like dirt by my dad, sister, & boyfriends. So u know how all that can make someone have very low self esteem. & I really, actually felt like u were tlkng to me personally. I dnt want or need any pity or anything, I just want u to know how much this video really meant to someone like me.
    Thank u very very very much !!! I def subscribed !!!!

  • @internetgirl100
    @internetgirl100 7 років тому +9

    How does a woman know when to give a man encouragement and when to back off? I went on a date with a man and I felt a definite connection. But I think I messed it up when I got really busy for the next month or so. Then when things got less hectic, he turned me down for another meeting because apparently he got busy too. I feel like he might be doing that to teach me a lesson. :(

    • @iam6Machine
      @iam6Machine 6 років тому +2

      internetgirl100 well, if he retaliated for what you did, it means he is not a man but a boy. Real men don’t play games, only boys. So don’t invest your time with that kind of person.

  • @carolvevle8190
    @carolvevle8190 5 років тому

    The men that I knew didn't want boundaries & wanted to do what they wanted to do. This natural playfulness that I have drew the worse possible man & we married. To make a long story short it was a marriage of misery. I went no contact 9 months ago. He is still ghosting. My men friends love it & love that I always make them laugh & give them value, but it also draws men that are far from nice!

  • @michellejordan1250
    @michellejordan1250 5 років тому +1

    Hi Clayton question for you. If a man has chased women in the past and didn't have the results he wanted. Now resigned himself not to TRY so hard to go after woman he likes as a coping mecanism not to sabotage a new potential relationship, how are you going to get him to chase you when he now wants to be chased?

  • @mvyang
    @mvyang 5 років тому

    Thanks, Clayton, for your videos. You’ve taught me dating tips that my mom and my girlfriends were never able to teach me. I’ve learned to filter out the bad ones and found my husband.

  • @marisabond2006
    @marisabond2006 4 роки тому

    Its hard for me to even get to know someone when you're a single mom, you're not on your career yet, not financially stable and you live with a roommate so I cant exactly bring anyone over to chill when I have my son full time. I honestly feel like I'm going to be single till my son is old enough to watch himself, he's 5.

  • @brainwasher9528
    @brainwasher9528 3 роки тому

    I’m agreeing with the “so refreshing” comment! Great new concepts about relationships, watched a lot of videos and never run across the idea of actually creating the space for another parter and being so open to influence your self. Good 👍

  • @francinegray9383
    @francinegray9383 5 років тому

    This guy is pretty smart. And knows how to express these ideas.

  • @d.benders2413
    @d.benders2413 5 років тому

    Hi Clayton, this is by far the best youtube video I have enjoyed regarding powerful ways to make a man chase you. Love the way you make it so easy to understand what a man wants or need in a woman, everything is clear as air. Two thumbs up and greetings from the Dutch Caribbean!

  • @Claudia-Sonnenstrahlen
    @Claudia-Sonnenstrahlen 6 років тому +5

    You'r so right. You made me cry about that.

  • @jackie5046
    @jackie5046 2 роки тому

    Brilliant clayton! I never considered any of this it is so smart and makes complete sense. Most interestingly it has illuminated why a particular man who has recently come into my experience has been so attracted to me and has been so forthright in openly pursuing me, without any fear or pretense

  • @memoryrinehart
    @memoryrinehart 5 років тому +1

    When you are sexy, playful or flirtatious within your boundaries, men can accuse you of just teasing them.

  • @Diabeteslovewithdee
    @Diabeteslovewithdee 3 роки тому

    Clayton, This is the best video you have shared with us! You are amazing. I only watch videos from you, Susan Winter, and Jack Butler. Thank you for sharing your insights and teaching us to be authentic.

  • @elizabethmaillet4266
    @elizabethmaillet4266 6 років тому +3

    So how do you fix it when you do all these things, and the only offers you get are from married men??? Or if the few men that approach you, you are not attracted to them at all????? On two different pages. Single for almost 3 years and not one date. I'm never asked.

  • @debrahuddleston1310
    @debrahuddleston1310 7 років тому +1

    This is a nicely described video for making sure one knows their boundaries! Very important! Thank you!

  • @crystalkwok5232
    @crystalkwok5232 6 років тому +1

    Most precise, detailed and constructive advice I have ever heard!! Thank you Clayton

  • @ilsewenzel7227
    @ilsewenzel7227 7 років тому

    Clayton, A close friend (we have not been intimate) has told me several times :Don't fall in love with me Girlies" I don't want to hurt you but my heart is cold and I can't feel anything, all I care about is my daughter, grandson and my dog. Other than that we have a great time together, he treats me great and we can talk about anything
    I find his exclamation unusual and weird, what do you think about this?

  • @JesusSaves77799
    @JesusSaves77799 2 роки тому

    Thank you so much for such a wonderful video! I love the part too where you said that a man loves the “little girl” in us. That’s what he wants to protect [a good man, that is]. Thank you for that!! I also love how you how said that women need to create room and space for a good man to enter as well. Thanks for a peaceful and very great video! If I may say this prayer for you, God bless you (and any of your viewers who would like this prayer) in Jesus’s Holy Name, Amen! 🙏

  • @staceyswope3438
    @staceyswope3438 6 років тому +1

    Advice? I am three months post break up with my ex and on my third round of no contact. This is day nine. I went no contact again because only I initiate communication and he never does. He responds hot/cold to my text. We’ve met up three times but it was only physical and he wasn’t emotionally responsive. So this third round of no contact do I let it continue indefinitely and let him reach out to me or should I reach out after a limited time? His birthday is two days after Valentine’s Day. My biggest encouragement is he told me he’s not dating anyone else and is choosing to be alone.

  • @GimmeGrohl1
    @GimmeGrohl1 6 років тому

    Hi Clayton, i want to thank you so very much for sharing your wisdom and advice and for doing it with integrity and honesty. Also thank you for your generosity. Giving this information to us free of charge speaks volumes of your character. Thank you again. I truly appreciate you