My opinion about the marriage has always been that date the guy/girl for atleast six months before marriage even if it is arranged one and you will know enough truth about your prospective spouse and his/her family. Bcz Truth can't be hid for so long.
@@RaushanK_Arjun its easier for u. If after 6 months of talking to the guy u say no all hell broke loose. People start calling girls names. I know that coz my own parents did that to girls. And they r against it. They expect u to say yes after one meeting. It ain't easy.
@@kanikagaral7637 yeah i know its difficult especially for girls. But its your life and you and only you should decide who you want to spend the rest of your life with. Talk to your parents and make them understand that what if you got married to the wrong guy, the one who is irresponsible, doesnt respect you, sexist, does domestic violence or in a relationship with multiple girls. Will they be able handle it and legal trauma that comes with it? I hope they will understand bcoz Parents love their children and cannot see them in trouble. Sorry it got longer 🙂
@@RaushanK_Arjun plx u think parents care. After u turn over 25 they just want u to get married. And when u turn 30 and girls younger than u get married they become different of desperate. They don't want u to say or ask anything that could jeopardise ur chances of getting a husband. I am speaking this from experience.
Topics discussed in the video: #1 Financial Expectations/ Dowry #2 Nature of relationship with the family, role of parents in person's life and disputes within the family #3 Sharing responsibility for daily chores #4 Tackling issues arising out of work commitments of the Spouse #5 Kids #6 Reasons for getting married #7 Personality, Ideology, Habits, Conflict Resolution, etc. #8 Planning about future finances and how to support dependent parents #9 About Love Life - Past relationships, sex and virginity, compatibility #10 Medical History #11 Stand on Feminism I think men would also like to ask* same questions to women (suitors). Great presentation.
Yeaahh i agree n dey joke ohh that car scratch also did by female.. Males do such things.. Laugh unnecessarily on our driving skills as if dey only know that😁😁😁
I wud like to say that since centuries, women have been made to jus handle household work n men handling outside work.. evolutionary our neurons get adapted to wt we see around n the work we do. Now females have very good management skills n its easy for them to do tasks with procedures n males have quick n fast reflex taking decisions.. some areas of female brain have not been used evolutionary for very long time.. now for driving bicycle, its equal n easy for both genders n scooty too.. but when it comes to car.. females see it as procedural like one task after another (start den clutch den gear den leave clutch..den speed..) , indicator n den turn.. but prob is males who drive very confidently n in speed try to overtake from anywhere that too without horn n that really is a trouble. If everybody starts following driving rules sincerely.. i guess there wont b a prob anymore.
... also be open to the fact that he can also ask you the same question and ask you to take the medical tests.. at that time it should not be viewed as he is attacking you..
Yes, transperancy is important in any relationship from both sides, why should one get angry at all? People with ego problems (mostly most men) get angry, not the ones who are genuinely interested to share a life together
@@riyameera5936 coz dey want 2 stick their idiot relative guy in ur lyf Ask 'em 2 remarry n plan a vacation wid deir new hubby n not 2 forget sending tour pix
Very true.. I also have the same thoughts.. Once I met a guy for arranged marriage and asked similar questions.. Although his family took my questions in negative ways, modified those and considered me wrong for their family.. They said "Ladki bht Tej hai" 😀 and rejected me.. But I still believe that we should stand for ourselves and I am gonna ask the same questions next time I will meet another guy 😜😜
@@pawan4815 and if you don't change your behaviour you won't get a wife. I was about to say "get a life" jokingly but then I realised it must be true. Why else would someone go about pushing their primitive patriarchal views on people who already know how to deal with fools like him??
to tell you the fact only a crook loafer wanderer to tell you the fact only a crook is potent to structure such a thing . She is not testing the guy , but rather getting examined/tested herself is potent to structure such a thing . She is not testing the guy , but rather getting examined/tested herself
when I asked about finance related questions, she said I'm money minded person!!! its different when a boy asks vs when a girl asks. I have had few incidents where girl's family stopped answering our calls when these questions were asked and to be honest I was happy.
@ribanno kitano marry a girl who thinks that marriages are business deal.. then you both can split all food bills equally including the paise after decimal point
@ribanno kitano I told you find someone you can "split the bill with".. and who thinks similar. I agree with you that partners should contribute in the house expenses but your comment is just all about splitting.if you really want to marry like that. May be it is better just to have roommates. Why to marry buddy..be free from splitting activity Mind it you are not talking about taking equal responsibility.. it is just splitting bills Yes marriages are for having a partner and having children ..the societal norms are like that. Many societal manners I do not agree with and things change as well..
@ribanno kitano did you have some bad experience?? If you had then it is not like everyone is bad, it is just that you need to find the right one for you. Or you are just speaking like that talking about it in logical manner? Because you will grow terrible kids later if you put your this thought inside them. Let your kids choose their thoughts please
As a dad of two daughters, one advise, find your own mate. If you are bold enough to ask these questions, then sure, you can find a great guy. Good Luck kids.
All your questions are to the point and good, but I just want you to realize that if you are willing to ask these questions, be prepared to answer some of the same when he starts asking some. Compromise is a two-way street. If you want him to compromise his situation and tell you all the right answers, you should have the courage to compromise and answer some of his.
As a member of MALES ASSOCIATION GROUP I'm believe that she's a Red flag. Better not listen to what the internet says. Listen to your heart (This advice is for all the women who's watching this)
I wish boys can also ask such questions like u r virgin i will support my parents n all they just start judging that boy, If boy don't have his owned house to uska shadi kabhi nai hoga that is bitter truth.
Yes good questions to ask, and please tell her that in case of separation if you are going to beg for alimony or not, in case you are independent enough give it to him in writing( in due process) for additional peace of mind for both of you.
payment for unpaid household work and compensation for mental trauma, give back the dowry also included in alimony and girls usually don't get a share in the property and told you will get from your husband, so give a share of the property to your sister too and don't ask a girl to leave her parent's house if you are not ready to leave yours that also included in alimony include child support at least you don't have to carry them 9 months and going through other suicidal thought after postpartum depression. But if the girl didn't do overburden unpaid household chores and earn more than you that she won't get alimony then you will get the alimony because alimony is genderless according to the law says spouse not the woman. So if you do not want to give alimony then marry a girl for the same parameters then girls have for guys thinking beyond her looks and other temporary things
My opinion about the marriage has always been that date the guy/girl for atleast six months before marriage even if it is arranged one and you will know enough truth about your prospective spouse and his/her family. Bcz Truth can't be hid for so long.
I agree but I'll tell you a problem with this. After 6 months, if both parties agree then its all good. But even if one disagrees then it gets too complicated and they say "why did you waste my time if you wanted to say no". It's not that easy trust me.....Anything that is arranged and forced, is very messy.
This just makes me think that arranged marriage lets you check and verify every aspect in a respectful manner without any emotion attachment and thus less problematic .
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Exactly, u get almost 1 year to know each other after engagement
Not always, but you know the big things upfront. One of the biggest causes for divorce is finances. They report the general income range on the website, usually. And it's the first question.
Not at all , arrange marriage is a stupid concept , even companies don't trust others in such a small amount of time , it is very much possible that the person you are getting married to , you wouldn't even go on a second date with him/her because of many reasons like thinking , goals etc
Great video, I am a guy and I am looking for a virgin girl... not because I judge people for their sexual choices, but because I personally have preserved my virginity even after getting multiple chances and I want to share it with only my wife and I would appreciate if I will be her 1st too, I am not judging, it's just a personal preference, I completely respect the people who took different choices.
@Eternal World don't try to be a grammar analyst here ...dude . Lie and act comment was done by Ms saujanya ...my reply was intended to her about" men she was referring..she haven't used the word "he" ...check with your own eyes. "We" referred to those men ...
He should be prepared. Thats the reason you are asking right. Only thing is he should not lie and convey his actual thoughts and so should bride. It all starts with trust and without trust it may not end well.
I had asked all those questions to the person to whom I have been married with.. And he just damn awesome more den ma all expectations.. Lucky enough 😍😇
Perhaps it would be better to cut to the chase. Just tell him these points. Firstly, I refuse to maintain any relationship with my in-laws after marriage, but you must be warm and affectionate towards yours. Secondly, your income is mine, my income is mine. Thirdly, if ever there is a difference of opinion between your parents and me, I am in the right, they are in the wrong. Remind him that 498A is real. If after that he is still willing to marry you, ask yourself whether you want to marry him.
This should be taken into context. In a successful marriage, there should be equal contribution from both genders. If a guy is sole bread winner then he would expect the girl to cook, clean and take care of their kids. If the girl is also working no matter how much she earns, the guy has to share household responsibility. Likewise if a guy is a virgin, then he would expect the girl to be virgin too.. and that's fair, Girls shouldn't take offence on this issue. if the guy is not a virgin then the question of asking a girl about her virginity shouldn't cross his mind.
I totally agree..bt if can be so that the girl is not a virgin...will that really be a problem? I mean we are marrying the person not their hymen right? And as for virginity..that word is like non existent coz it is only a tissue called hymen and it can tear at any point of time while doing activities like gymnastics or horse riding.
I think same goes for love marriages. Of course we are gonna bump all those questions on our partner beforehand into relationship. For for sure you need to have clear stand on above points before settling.
That's not how relationships work dear.. if it's an 'arranged' marriage or an 'arranged' date, I can understand these questions.. but if you talk about romantic relationships, they develop out of friendships or spending time with people. For that you won't need to straight up ask these kind of questions. These aspects are found out naturally over course of time. If guy or girl is absolutely completely different from your own ideology then relationships break. But in most cases, with minor differences, people of both genders adjust and accept the other person because they care about them as individuals.
u r love.. u know what.. generally men call me from matrimony and just say.."ask me anything u want to".. and I am always like.. what to.. now i got the list of my kind.. thank you :)
On cooking the guy always say oh I can cook so well and have been doing it, but once you get married, the question itself becomes pointless for them LOL
Actually the family only gives five minutes to talk in the first meeting with the man and in that you have to say if you like him or not if you like him you get engage then you can talk for some months and get married. This is what happens but i think all these questions are really important to ask to the boy and to the girl. Some people even might get offended for asking these questions.
In our family they just show a photograph and tell us about what he/she does in life for earning and how they have studied. That's all, now you decide you wanna marry or not😂😂
Hi, I frankly like the questions and I would love to answer them and appreciate them at the same time. But the idea of asking these questions only to arrange marriage is controversial, I think many of these questions can become part of your first date with someone until you know it's not going to be serious in the future. But still question related to medical history, family, the previous relationship can be asked.
Bro what about false dowry cases married women put on husband and his family... Equality should be there but not this feminism.. Indian marriages stood the test of time due to family values not because of fake feminism. It's better to be single than marrying.
Another one is would be future child responsibilities! You should not be the only one responsible and taking care of your kids (physically) day or night.
Itna kuch puchne se accha single 😂😂😂rehna best, sunn ke daar lag gaya socha tha shaddi asan hota hai but itna requirements....anyways last mai khush rehna with financial stability is best ❤🧡💙
@@saurabhmishra4782Koi nahi bhai. Ham samjhate hai aapka dard. Aap is jung me akele nahi hai, bahut sare piss rhe hai. Free ki advice hi meri mano bhag lo.
I got married 2 years back and Point No. 2 seems so relatable to me now. Wish I had come across one such video back then.. Also the 'kids' wala point. I wanted a kid in the first year to which he said yes. But after marriage his parents and sister started objecting this and said that they don't want all that nuisance so early.
We should spend atleast six months with each other before deciding for arrange marriage...it is really very important to know him before deciding for marriage ..
Guess it will be a never ending debate. Cause in todays world both gender are spoiled. And need to come to a normality which again is a point of debate 😂😂
@@riturap123 Shwetabh is a very logical person, he never disrespects any gender and asks both of them to live and earn according to their passions.....
If you are asking so many questions to a guy then he can also ask you some counter questions which can make you equally uncomfortable like did you had any past relationships,are you virgin,do you know cooking etc.
If the woman is in her 30s, it's highly unlikely that she'll be a virgin. Same with men. So people should stop assuming these things about each other. they should just ask. Having a healthy sex life is nothing to be ashamed of
@@silverstarlight9395 bro you are telling me not to assume things but you are assuming many things in your statement 1)girl is in 30s - you cannot say this as most girls marry while they are in the age 25-30 yrs 2)she is most probably not a virgin - bro this is India and not the US,so you can never say whether she is a virgin or not. So basically in the video the girl is telling to ask so many questions to a guy and when I proposed some counter questions people like you become uncomfortable.this is not feminism,this is pseudo feminism.
@@silverstarlight9395 boy's should have right to ask virginity if he is Virgin too if he is non virgin he have right to ask about her past life y would he Marry a girl who was sex worker or escorts college students who provide sex for money too buy fancy clothing which she can't afford or the girl who date 100 people and she finally realised in her 30s she is no more beautiful she used to be now she she is worried will she able to get partner.
Lol As a Guy if a women ask you these questions just ask her: 1)What does she bring to her marriage other than Sex"? 2) Ask her past relationships 3) Ask her if there is No Dowry will she sign a Pre-nup or Declaration?. 4) Ask her Future Goals and Her Ambitions. 6)Ask her is she being Forced to be married. 7) Ask her what happens if the marriage dosen't work out What she will do?
Eighth question should be, "If you continue working after marriage, and have a higher in-hand salary than me, do you have the self-respect to not claim maintenance/alimony from me in a civil court?
You have opened eyes for many of girls whose parents are searching for a guy. In my case I would tag myself as stupid and dumb. To all these questions I got the answer as 'No' indirectly after marriage. Before marriage it was all yes...
i will warn the guy if his answer changes after mairrage or even a minute before mairrage i will call of the mairrage.. I will record everything when discussing.. because being a chartered Accountant i know the importance of documentation... thoug i also know that oral evidence are not sufficient.. Its better to have atleast something thna nothing as a proof
@@studybee9543 you should know the spelling of marriage too aur jese aapka attitude koi shadi ke liye haa hi nahi karenge so you dont have to worry about these things 🤗
I m telling you if any girl asks me all these 11 question I would definitely love to be with her for life. This would just show that the girl is confident and doesn't care about society .And we can focus on our relationship and not be scared of log kya khahenge wala scenes.
@@sharmilaporanki3376 indian society me ye chize practical nahi hai .. bss bolne me , sochne me acchi lgti hai .. tum jaise hi ye sb question puchogi without a though ladka nd uski maa turant soch lenge ladki chalu hai isse nahi karni shaadi .. 😂😂😂
You really nicely structured all the questions. It covered almost everything that how forward we can go with that person. Especially in arranged marriage scenario, we have no chance to find out exactly who the person we are stepping with. These 11 questions could almost help you out with that " is that he ? "
Jab time aayega na koi question ni ata deemag m ye sab faltu k bakavaas hai life kabhi ase ni chalti itna planning karke not possible ho sakta h koi question puchne ki need hi na pade
@@ayushmankumar1483 Mens don't have any problem in anything because they know there responsibilies, But these Fake Feminists want rights without any responsibilities. That's why I asked this question to them.
Ladkyio ke judging skills bhot top ke hote hai , Aur kai cases mai , log badal jate hai time k saath , Kisi chiz ki koi guarentee nahi hoti khas kar ke insano ki . .itna risk lena padta hai .
Didnt she literally just said both parties should be open about it. Ask each other these things, be respectful and honest towards each other when doing so
Pakka ladka bhagh Jayega....guys they hate these kind of women ....but these questions are actually practically and good for a good relationship...thank you
@@KingKhan-bi7kb .. U can't get the emotional intelligence questions from area or neighborhood.. Human behavioural anatomy is way different u can't get it out from other source...
@@maanishaarao6642 I think you can get a clear idea . Because a neighbour who lives with you even for a year knows the behaviour of people in the house and how they behave with everyone.
@@maanishaarao6642 this might happen but in a minority number. The qt that this video suggest and when you ask then the boy will reject you on the first time.
Everyone has right to ask whatever they want because it's lifetime matter u can't take it for granted and if he/she rejects u then leave it u deserve much better or the best.
Arranged marriage sounds like Business Deal ... girls have self respect... work hard be independent.. then find an independent life partner... when both parties are financially independent there is NO POWER GAME ....
me too arrange marriage sell for body to specific individual or safe method for his money that you can get to were fancy clothing if he is rich enough.
Very very important and relevant questions. Thank you for compiling these. Hope many women see these before they make decisions on choosing a life partner.
First thing I will reduce my salary & see her reaction & her opinion on that what she will do if I lost my job. Single question & I will decide to marry that girl or not
Another question to ask should be "If you continue working after marriage, and have a higher in-hand salary than me, would you have the self-respect to not claim maintenance/alimony from me in the family court during divorce?
Didi agar itna satyawachan Wala ladke hota to India me 90% arrange marriage wale abhi khush hote! Ye to wahi baat ho gai Jahan daru pine Wala coat pant pehen k aaye aur bole me BHT saskaari Hun😂
A lot of these are long answer type questions, even if a person lies, their body language will have a lot of truth to say. And reading between the lines is also important.
Marriage even love marriages don't come with guarantee card . You can't get true person until you both live together and take decisions jointly , because after marriage both of your lives are connected... your decisions will impact his life and vice versa. Husband or wife is not machine that comes with some guarantee card. Person changes time to time as per situation and experiences and beliefs... In worst case if marriage don't turn out well just get out of it. But despite all questions and precaution you can't guarantee. And yes lastly marriage is much depends on us too as how you takle issues after marriages , how you bond with him and his family . I am very much happily arranged married since mast 10 years and I do realize it's not always girl who adjust boys do make adjustments too. The same kind of questions list boys too can have .
What if you get a perfect partner who respects you and have you all your freedom of choices. And he looses his job after marriage and them it's you who had to take financial responsibility of him and his family will you? What if his sister get divorced and starts living with you in your house with her two kids and now you and your husband ,and her brother had to take care of them ? What of he get promotion and sent to UK but your company wanted you to go USA? Marriage is companionship you should develop that trust on each other . And that happens over time. And need your investment in it. Life is unpredictable . Even you can't guarantee good life while.switching jobs. You need to take risks in life . If you don't want to then dont get married at all. Because there is nothing like perfect husband or perfect wife or perfect relationship.
Well conversation is very important. Agar aap dono ek dusre se ache se baat kar sakte ho to ye jada sahi hai, apne aap ko ek dusre k saamne actual terms mai rakho, jo aap ho, taki kisi ko bhi problems na ho, and ye baat to sahi hai ki sabse pehle aap ye confirm kar lo ki aap shaadi k liye tyar ho ya nahi, ya phir aap logon ko kitna time chahiye... Agar koi insan aapke liye wait karne k liye tyar hai and aapki care karta hai, to possibly aap ek-dusre k saath achi life spend kar sako.
2:12 - a slight two-sided effect comes in here. When u ask the guy if he knows all this basic skills(cooking, cleaning, etc) , it should be with the assumption that even the girl knows these basic skills. In today's day, each person should know of it and it doesnt apply to a specific gender. Lol even im working on these stuff from now at 18, cause many people nowadays know ghanta
Point no. 3 So, the guy has to do job to support the family and also has to do household works as well.. Waah 👏👏🙂 Also, there's nothing wrong with someone wanting a virgin partner if they're virgin themselves. It isn't regressive. Aur shaadi ka main basis hi hai sexual relationship, so of course the couple must consummate their marriage, if the girl keeps being "uncomfortable sexually" for too long then that isn't right to the guy, especially if he's ready.
There's no such thing as too long it depends on the husband if she ever becomes comfortable or not even if it takes a year the right guy won't leave you just because of his urge to have sex while the girl feels uncomfortable. It's husband's responsibility to make her comfortable also if there's no love how can one have sexual relationship love doesn't happen in days or months it takes time and patience to earn trust . What u said it's absurd
I am against dowry but also believe women who don't want to give dowry should sigh prenup while marrying. Gold diggers is real issue in modern alimony law.
@@meenuvincent1979 sorry never heard of any women paying her ex husband alimony. Not only in India but also first world countries like US where during divorce women get half of the man's property (of his own hard work). Btw I would agree that no-one should pay alimony irrespective of gender, everybody should be capable earning for his/her living if they don't want be with a person
Acc. To hindu marriage act 1955 husband and wife both claim for the alimony to her/his spouses but not entitled with special marriage act 1954 mean two different religions male and female ... Wife also pay the alimony case in Gujarat state team circket player .. he got 10k monthly to his wife as alimony... Thera are ample for example in modern day society ... There wife give alimony
Problem is if it goes wrong you can't blame your parents. For making a choice for you cause in the end decision was yours. If everything goes good you are lucky or you know how to manage problems.
I think this is very important video in the perspective of a women. I guess generally women dont ask much and they perceive that the man will understand without she having to say anything. But as a modern women you need to ask everything before committing to a serious relationship as mostly women have their vulnerability like during pregnancy, childbirth, periods etc etc and its very important for a women to know how her man will treat her in her ups and downs..
Question are good if someone has dare to ask me these questions and answer counter question that i will ask then we have very good chance of being together. I think we should look for qualites like curiousity, acceptability ,confidence,ability to consider others while taking decision, flexibility in thought,taking a stand for oneself,honesty, Clarity in thought, diverse range of interst.
@@manishbisht693 marriage isnt necessary.. true love is important n we do that n it will b forever.. baki if after 3 yrs we both r on the same page..yes we will marry
@@tanshika11 I hope that your views matches that with you father because he is more mature in knowing that there is no such thing called "True Love" or how their innocent girls are exploited in the name of love. Everything is about compromises here and then over which love can take place. You will come to know all about this in coming years ,though I hope not.
I will ask this points to new guy whom I met on matrimonial site, to know him in detail. Thanks for such logical video. Apart from She the people I also watch video of Mr Anubhav Jain Sir
Nice question lists you have given. Most of these questions are found in other UA-cam channels as well. But you have given some others which I haven't found in any other channel- marital rape, feminism & children. Hats off to you.
What if he says he doesn't like to pay for the bills house and all the shit what u gonna do then if u refuse to something he can refuse too what if someone enters the house and attacks u and he says I don't like protecting u
@@rithicknavariya4937 I'll pay. I don't like to do but that doesn't mean I don't have to. You are fine when women cook without question but when you are asked to do the same thing, you don't like it. Many women manage both job and kitchen but men get offended when even hinted about it
@@sharmilaporanki3376 yes and ur going to protect him against robbers who got into ur house if that happens ur leaving him next day what's unfair is him putting his life in threat to protect u and u can't cook for him which will hardly take half an hour
@@sharmilaporanki3376 if he doesn't protect u ur leaving divorcing him next day if u say no Im strong independent women I can break some bones of some robbers that's all bullshit that's cap
Lol, test waala, gay lesbo waala aur feminism waala to pura chutiyaap tha. Aajkal pata hai sabko ki feminism ke naam par kya chalta hai. Women empowerment ko support karo to aaj jati hai aise ladkiya jo gaali galoj karti hai, dusro mardo ke sath soti hai, drink karti hai. Aur ghar ke kaam nahi sambhal sakte to bai bhi hai na india mein.
@@gohan12991 U never curse? Ghar ke kaam mei kabhi help karte ho? Kisi din yeh Darr se nikle ho ghar se ki pata nahi sham ko sahi salamat ghar aayenge ke nahi
@@vidishashah1799 Jyadatar murders aur assault mardo pe hota hai. Crimes ke jyada shikaar mard hote hai compared to women. Aur main to abhi job k liye PG mein rehta hu lekin shaadi ke baad to ghar ki jimmedari to patni pe hi aa jaegi. Chalo agar maine bol bhi dia ki ghar ke kaamo me madad karunga lekin kaam bhi to karna hai na, career bhi to hai. Agar weekends pe time milega to karunga warna patni ko maid hi hire karna padega. Aur sab ladke curse karte hai lekin ladkiyo ko wo shobha nahi deta. Upar se agar tum ladkiyo se pucha ki tumhare kitne affair the shaadi ke phehle to tum log offend ho jaoge na. Shaadi se phehle boyfriend ke sath enjoy karna hai, uske sath sona hai lekin shaadi ke baad tumhe adjust nahi karna, ladke ke parents ke sath nahi rehna, ghar nahi sambhalna, career pe focus karna hai. Ye sab shaadi se phehle jab boyfriend ke sath Oyo mein jaa rahe the tab nai socha na? Par shaadi ke baad tumhare nakhre shuru ho jaate hai.
All the questions are good .If the girl asks such questions boys may run away from such intelligent girl .The girl will have to face many rejections. 6:49
Seeing the comment section, where boys saying, "itne question h toh shaadi mat karo" "ias ka interview h kya" "tumse karega bhi nhi koi". Guys, we can marry someone outside this country too. Who r ready to treat equally. Aap apna dekhiye! Waise hi kahan milti h aajkal. Haina?
Sadly some guys think that women still will shut Their mouth and obey them 🤣🤣 of course questions krne chyaie.. even boys should ask all the questions he has in their mind
Mere ghar me blood test karke Shadi hoti hai. I'm proud of my family that they are so progressive and also they suggestes others. Shadi mein dowry important nehi hai medical checkup karna zaruri hai Indians ko samajhna chahiye.
@@disharidas555 Go to know all women's have not turned hypocrites? Although I've met only opposite kinds in my life so it's very unlikely to accept such.
Very good n eye opening video, I think it is useful for the girls but even more for the boys. It will teach the boys about the rights, concerns and feelings of the girls before arrange marriage which our patriarchal society don't want them to learn.🙏👌💐
I am very very sure that even half of the questions being asked by the 'guy' to any girl she will get offended and shall declare that the guy doesn't know what to ask on the first meeting... 😂🤪
The challenge isn't asking these questions, it is whether he will answer these questions honestly and how we will verify if he is being honest
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My opinion about the marriage has always been that date the guy/girl for atleast six months before marriage even if it is arranged one and you will know enough truth about your prospective spouse and his/her family. Bcz Truth can't be hid for so long.
@@RaushanK_Arjun its easier for u. If after 6 months of talking to the guy u say no all hell broke loose. People start calling girls names. I know that coz my own parents did that to girls. And they r against it. They expect u to say yes after one meeting. It ain't easy.
@@kanikagaral7637 yeah i know its difficult especially for girls. But its your life and you and only you should decide who you want to spend the rest of your life with. Talk to your parents and make them understand that what if you got married to the wrong guy, the one who is irresponsible, doesnt respect you, sexist, does domestic violence or in a relationship with multiple girls. Will they be able handle it and legal trauma that comes with it? I hope they will understand bcoz Parents love their children and cannot see them in trouble.
Sorry it got longer 🙂
@@RaushanK_Arjun plx u think parents care. After u turn over 25 they just want u to get married. And when u turn 30 and girls younger than u get married they become different of desperate. They don't want u to say or ask anything that could jeopardise ur chances of getting a husband. I am speaking this from experience.
Even though there are no chances of getting married in coming 7-8 years. I'm watching it and loving it! I've even downloaded it.😅
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I sooo agree🔥💕💕thanks Raina
Same
same here😅
Same here... 😝😝
I'm done, I'm gonna be a monk!
Ill jion as a nun
@@gururajbsavakar7154 me too
Same here 😆
male monk???
😂 same thought! 🖐🏼
Topics
discussed in the video:
#1 Financial Expectations/ Dowry
#2 Nature of relationship with the family, role of parents in person's life and disputes within the family
#3 Sharing responsibility for daily chores
#4 Tackling issues arising out of work commitments of the Spouse
#5 Kids
#6 Reasons for getting married
#7 Personality, Ideology, Habits, Conflict Resolution, etc.
#8 Planning about future finances and how to support dependent parents
#9 About Love Life - Past relationships, sex and virginity, compatibility
#10 Medical History
#11 Stand on Feminism
I think men would also like to ask* same questions to women (suitors). Great presentation.
Totally ❤️
I came to comments section to search for this.. 😂😂
Thank you
Agreed.
@@DrRohiniM same here...😇😇
One question I would ask is what is his opinion on women's driving? There are so many who do casually joke on Women's driving.
Yeaahh i agree n dey joke ohh that car scratch also did by female.. Males do such things.. Laugh unnecessarily on our driving skills as if dey only know that😁😁😁
I don't crack jokes on women driving rather i am very serious about female drivers / riders, atleast on road.
In India there is more women piolet then any other countries and then also some people think that girls can't drive ...🙃😆😆
Girls sb kuch kr skti h
I wud like to say that since centuries, women have been made to jus handle household work n men handling outside work.. evolutionary our neurons get adapted to wt we see around n the work we do. Now females have very good management skills n its easy for them to do tasks with procedures n males have quick n fast reflex taking decisions.. some areas of female brain have not been used evolutionary for very long time.. now for driving bicycle, its equal n easy for both genders n scooty too.. but when it comes to car.. females see it as procedural like one task after another (start den clutch den gear den leave clutch..den speed..) , indicator n den turn.. but prob is males who drive very confidently n in speed try to overtake from anywhere that too without horn n that really is a trouble. If everybody starts following driving rules sincerely.. i guess there wont b a prob anymore.
True
... also be open to the fact that he can also ask you the same question and ask you to take the medical tests.. at that time it should not be viewed as he is attacking you..
Yes of course he can
Yes, transperancy is important in any relationship from both sides, why should one get angry at all? People with ego problems (mostly most men) get angry, not the ones who are genuinely interested to share a life together
@@miniaturecreature yeahhh
Medical tests for what?
If medical test is for virginity its has mo medical significance and proof ?
If it's for medical infections yess u and should go for it
My mom nd aunty were discussing about my marriage, i got irritated nd opened YT..nd this vedio appeared. 😂
This is a message from Universe for you to get ready 😂 good luck 👍
Lol. girls I'm just 19. Idk why these aunts are so desperate for my marriage
@@VinieStories UA-cam creators laughing in silence
@@riyameera5936 coz dey want 2 stick their idiot relative guy in ur lyf
Ask 'em 2 remarry n plan a vacation wid deir new hubby n not 2 forget sending tour pix
@@riyameera5936 better ignore them... and focus on your life.
Very true.. I also have the same thoughts.. Once I met a guy for arranged marriage and asked similar questions.. Although his family took my questions in negative ways, modified those and considered me wrong for their family.. They said "Ladki bht Tej hai" 😀 and rejected me.. But I still believe that we should stand for ourselves and I am gonna ask the same questions next time I will meet another guy 😜😜
All the best!
Same questions means same result
Good...
Change your behaviour if you will not change you will not get husband.
@@pawan4815 and if you don't change your behaviour you won't get a wife. I was about to say "get a life" jokingly but then I realised it must be true. Why else would someone go about pushing their primitive patriarchal views on people who already know how to deal with fools like him??
I think her parents must be awesome for growing her into such confident person🥰🥰🥰🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗
to tell you the fact only a crook loafer wanderer to tell you the fact only a crook is potent to structure such a thing . She is not testing the guy , but rather getting examined/tested herself is potent to structure such a thing . She is not testing the guy , but rather getting examined/tested herself
me too
Hahahah 6 month sala 2 month m sab khatam ho jayega
People need to spend time together for at least 6 moths together for deciding for arranged marriage
They can be together, to understand each other but not for physical entities
No doubt that's a great idea but I still wonder if 6months is enough to know a person in and out 🤔
@@anonymousaniie8361 it's not enough but in arranged marriages it max time that we can bargain from parents
But I doesn't happen in our family 😏
The best thing to do is:
After your engagement,have a 6month or 1year gap until marriage
when I asked about finance related questions, she said I'm money minded person!!! its different when a boy asks vs when a girl asks.
I have had few incidents where girl's family stopped answering our calls when these questions were asked and to be honest I was happy.
That girl is not the one for you bro. Glad she rejected you, you deserve better. Happy to see an open minded guy, best wishes 😊
There are double standards on this UA-cam channel bro...bdw you deserve better
@ribanno kitano marry a girl who thinks that marriages are business deal.. then you both can split all food bills equally including the paise after decimal point
@ribanno kitano I told you find someone you can "split the bill with".. and who thinks similar.
I agree with you that partners should contribute in the house expenses but your comment is just all about splitting.if you really want to marry like that. May be it is better just to have roommates. Why to marry buddy..be free from splitting activity
Mind it you are not talking about taking equal responsibility.. it is just splitting bills
Yes marriages are for having a partner and having children ..the societal norms are like that. Many societal manners I do not agree with and things change as well..
@ribanno kitano did you have some bad experience?? If you had then it is not like everyone is bad, it is just that you need to find the right one for you.
Or you are just speaking like that talking about it in logical manner? Because you will grow terrible kids later if you put your this thought inside them. Let your kids choose their thoughts please
As a dad of two daughters, one advise, find your own mate. If you are bold enough to ask these questions, then sure, you can find a great guy. Good Luck kids.
Kudos to your channel name
You used a perfect word, BOLD. Nobody asks these questions, maybe some.
All your questions are to the point and good, but I just want you to realize that if you are willing to ask these questions, be prepared to answer some of the same when he starts asking some. Compromise is a two-way street. If you want him to compromise his situation and tell you all the right answers, you should have the courage to compromise and answer some of his.
Well she did say both to be open about everything and discuss openly.
@@priyanshisingh9589 Will girls tell their body count. LOL
@@Adup5724 definitely not😂😂😂
As a member of MALES ASSOCIATION GROUP I'm believe that she's a Red flag. Better not listen to what the internet says.
Listen to your heart (This advice is for all the women who's watching this)
I wish boys can also ask such questions like u r virgin i will support my parents n all they just start judging that boy, If boy don't have his owned house to uska shadi kabhi nai hoga that is bitter truth.
Yes good questions to ask, and please tell her that in case of separation if you are going to beg for alimony or not, in case you are independent enough give it to him in writing( in due process) for additional peace of mind for both of you.
Then why do men take dowry ha?
@@veda8780 Dowry is unjustifiable & evil but what alimony is??
As per law system Dwary is illegal and alimony is legal
payment for unpaid household work and compensation for mental trauma, give back the dowry also included in alimony and girls usually don't get a share in the property and told you will get from your husband, so give a share of the property to your sister too and don't ask a girl to leave her parent's house if you are not ready to leave yours that also included in alimony include child support at least you don't have to carry them 9 months and going through other suicidal thought after postpartum depression. But if the girl didn't do overburden unpaid household chores and earn more than you that she won't get alimony then you will get the alimony because alimony is genderless according to the law says spouse not the woman. So if you do not want to give alimony then marry a girl for the same parameters then girls have for guys thinking beyond her looks and other temporary things
Alimony for unpaid sex .... bs aukat se jyada nhi.... sex worker ko dena padata hai bhai
My opinion about the marriage has always been that date the guy/girl for atleast six months before marriage even if it is arranged one and you will know enough truth about your prospective spouse and his/her family. Bcz Truth can't be hid for so long.
I dated my guy for 4 years and I got to know things he's been hiding after 1 and a half years
Exactly. If you take it this way,arrange marriages are quite good
people who are goos at hiding will hide anyway
Exactly !!!!!
I agree but I'll tell you a problem with this. After 6 months, if both parties agree then its all good. But even if one disagrees then it gets too complicated and they say "why did you waste my time if you wanted to say no". It's not that easy trust me.....Anything that is arranged and forced, is very messy.
Great. She's to the point and clear about her perspective on marriage.
This just makes me think that arranged marriage lets you check and verify every aspect in a respectful manner without any emotion attachment and thus less problematic .
Exactly, u get almost 1 year to know each other after engagement
Not always, but you know the big things upfront. One of the biggest causes for divorce is finances. They report the general income range on the website, usually. And it's the first question.
Not at all , arrange marriage is a stupid concept , even companies don't trust others in such a small amount of time , it is very much possible that the person you are getting married to , you wouldn't even go on a second date with him/her because of many reasons like thinking , goals etc
Great video, I am a guy and I am looking for a virgin girl... not because I judge people for their sexual choices, but because I personally have preserved my virginity even after getting multiple chances and I want to share it with only my wife and I would appreciate if I will be her 1st too, I am not judging, it's just a personal preference, I completely respect the people who took different choices.
But the risk is who would say lies in these questions
Woahhh! Finally found someone with the same surname! "Patni" is rare😂
@@Cat_tiee Yes we are rare. Also we have same initial name A.
@@akankshapatni7234
If i am not wrong you roots are from kumaon or garwhal region.
@@manishbisht693 well I am a Kumaoni :)
Are behen phle yeh question toh yaad krle
Bold of you to assume he'll answer them all honestly
True not all men are honest they lie and act
Stay with him for a year...no one can fake for 1 year
@@soujanyaakkineni9417 i will ask questions on Virginity too 😃😃
Off course we will lie And act ,no matter what ....😒
@Eternal World don't try to be a grammar analyst here ...dude .
Lie and act comment was done by Ms saujanya ...my reply was intended to her about" men she was referring..she haven't used the word "he" ...check with your own eyes.
"We" referred to those men ...
Imagine if the groom watches this
Won't he get prepared 😂
No not at all 😊
He will only remember few memes of nawajuddin sidiqui movies 🤣🤣🤣
@@rohitnarayan6509 😎😂
Then it's good no
🤣🤣ryt
He should be prepared. Thats the reason you are asking right. Only thing is he should not lie and convey his actual thoughts and so should bride. It all starts with trust and without trust it may not end well.
I had asked all those questions to the person to whom I have been married with.. And he just damn awesome more den ma all expectations.. Lucky enough 😍😇
Perhaps it would be better to cut to the chase. Just tell him these points. Firstly, I refuse to maintain any relationship with my in-laws after marriage, but you must be warm and affectionate towards yours. Secondly, your income is mine, my income is mine. Thirdly, if ever there is a difference of opinion between your parents and me, I am in the right, they are in the wrong. Remind him that 498A is real. If after that he is still willing to marry you, ask yourself whether you want to marry him.
🤣🤣 nailed it
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As a guy searching for a bride, I am making notes. Will ask the same questions to the girls.
This should be taken into context. In a successful marriage, there should be equal contribution from both genders. If a guy is sole bread winner then he would expect the girl to cook, clean and take care of their kids. If the girl is also working no matter how much she earns, the guy has to share household responsibility. Likewise if a guy is a virgin, then he would expect the girl to be virgin too.. and that's fair, Girls shouldn't take offence on this issue. if the guy is not a virgin then the question of asking a girl about her virginity shouldn't cross his mind.
@Mohemmed Nawaz: bilkul sahi kaha apne yahi soch rakhani hain aur life mein aage badhani hain tabhi jeena ka matlab samajh mein aayega
Absolutely,I agree
Very well said.
I totally agree..bt if can be so that the girl is not a virgin...will that really be a problem? I mean we are marrying the person not their hymen right? And as for virginity..that word is like non existent coz it is only a tissue called hymen and it can tear at any point of time while doing activities like gymnastics or horse riding.
@@jayantisen7174 Virginity and hymen are 2 different things bruh...
I think same goes for love marriages. Of course we are gonna bump all those questions on our partner beforehand into relationship. For for sure you need to have clear stand on above points before settling.
That's not how relationships work dear.. if it's an 'arranged' marriage or an 'arranged' date, I can understand these questions.. but if you talk about romantic relationships, they develop out of friendships or spending time with people. For that you won't need to straight up ask these kind of questions. These aspects are found out naturally over course of time. If guy or girl is absolutely completely different from your own ideology then relationships break. But in most cases, with minor differences, people of both genders adjust and accept the other person because they care about them as individuals.
u r love.. u know what.. generally men call me from matrimony and just say.."ask me anything u want to".. and I am always like.. what to.. now i got the list of my kind.. thank you :)
As a man i say God bless getting married (if u can).
Same to you
@@Aditi-mb3qm no thanks, i am not marrying😠😠😠
On cooking the guy always say oh I can cook so well and have been doing it, but once you get married, the question itself becomes pointless for them LOL
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Yeah that's true lol. After marriage most men give the cooking and household job to women and they can hire a maid if they want.
Actually the family only gives five minutes to talk in the first meeting with the man and in that you have to say if you like him or not if you like him you get engage then you can talk for some months and get married. This is what happens but i think all these questions are really important to ask to the boy and to the girl. Some people even might get offended for asking these questions.
Rightly said...
In our family they just show a photograph and tell us about what he/she does in life for earning and how they have studied. That's all, now you decide you wanna marry or not😂😂
@ nope i live in a village with very conservative people
@@ranjini1828 i feel sad for u..show them this video. i hope they will understand. 🙂🙂
@ All of them educated but when its come to marriage , things are different , but i am educated and independent so they listen to my decision .
Hi, I frankly like the questions and I would love to answer them and appreciate them at the same time. But the idea of asking these questions only to arrange marriage is controversial, I think many of these questions can become part of your first date with someone until you know it's not going to be serious in the future. But still question related to medical history, family, the previous relationship can be asked.
Bro what about false dowry cases married women put on husband and his family... Equality should be there but not this feminism.. Indian marriages stood the test of time due to family values not because of fake feminism. It's better to be single than marrying.
Every girl is a Gangsta till the groom says Now it's my turn 😂
Another one is would be future child responsibilities! You should not be the only one responsible and taking care of your kids (physically) day or night.
I agree bills and finances must be equally split between parents and so do child responsibilities.
Itna kuch puchne se accha single 😂😂😂rehna best, sunn ke daar lag gaya socha tha shaddi asan hota hai but itna requirements....anyways last mai khush rehna with financial stability is best ❤🧡💙
Equal right, equal opportunity but what about equal responsibility?
RIGHTS AND DUTIES, OPPORTUNITIES AND RESPONSIBILITIES GO HAND IN HAND.....IF SHE ISN'T READY FOR THE LATTERS....ITS A RED FLAG FOR YOU BOYS
@@chhavi7280 You commented late, abhi to jhel chuka...😔
@@saurabhmishra4782Koi nahi bhai. Ham samjhate hai aapka dard. Aap is jung me akele nahi hai, bahut sare piss rhe hai. Free ki advice hi meri mano bhag lo.
I got married 2 years back and Point No. 2 seems so relatable to me now. Wish I had come across one such video back then..
Also the 'kids' wala point. I wanted a kid in the first year to which he said yes. But after marriage his parents and sister started objecting this and said that they don't want all that nuisance so early.
All the questions are on point! Many of them were already in my mind 😄
Yayy I'm glad they're on your mind ❤️
We should spend atleast six months with each other before deciding for arrange marriage...it is really very important to know him before deciding for marriage ..
A chat between this girl and Shwetabh mensutra would be awesome 😁🔥
Yes🤣
Guess it will be a never ending debate. Cause in todays world both gender are spoiled. And need to come to a normality which again is a point of debate 😂😂
Kaha compare kar dia tune ise 😂
@@riturap123 Shwetabh is a very logical person, he never disrespects any gender and asks both of them to live and earn according to their passions.....
If you are asking so many questions to a guy then he can also ask you some counter questions which can make you equally uncomfortable like did you had any past relationships,are you virgin,do you know cooking etc.
If the woman is in her 30s, it's highly unlikely that she'll be a virgin. Same with men. So people should stop assuming these things about each other. they should just ask. Having a healthy sex life is nothing to be ashamed of
@@silverstarlight9395 bro you are telling me not to assume things but you are assuming many things in your statement
1)girl is in 30s - you cannot say this as most girls marry while they are in the age 25-30 yrs
2)she is most probably not a virgin - bro this is India and not the US,so you can never say whether she is a virgin or not.
So basically in the video the girl is telling to ask so many questions to a guy and when I proposed some counter questions people like you become uncomfortable.this is not feminism,this is pseudo feminism.
@@silverstarlight9395 boy's should have right to ask virginity if he is Virgin too if he is non virgin he have right to ask about her past life y would he Marry a girl who was sex worker or escorts college students who provide sex for money too buy fancy clothing which she can't afford or the girl who date 100 people and she finally realised in her 30s she is no more beautiful she used to be now she she is worried will she able to get partner.
Fuck virginity loyalty is important guys.
@@riturap123like Mia Khalifa 😂
Lol As a Guy if a women ask you these questions just ask her:
1)What does she bring to her marriage other than Sex"?
2) Ask her past relationships
3) Ask her if there is No Dowry will she sign a Pre-nup or Declaration?.
4) Ask her Future Goals and Her Ambitions.
6)Ask her is she being Forced to be married.
7) Ask her what happens if the marriage dosen't work out What she will do?
Stay single n be happy
@@lokeshgouda4167 Exactly
YOU SURELY CAN ASK THE GIRL WHATEVER YOU WANT TO. IT GOES BOTH WAYS. LIKE OBVIOUSLY??!!
Great . You can many more things. But these are important ones
Eighth question should be, "If you continue working after marriage, and have a higher in-hand salary than me, do you have the self-respect to not claim maintenance/alimony from me in a civil court?
i asked about madical history she rejected me😂 lol.
UA-cam ज्ञान don't work in real life
Bach gaya tu😂😂
Woman mindset is a spectrum. Some are hypocrites and opportunists masquedering as feminists
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Congrats after asking all these question she can remain happily single forever!!!!
Equal rights equal opportunity but unequal responsibility
And 50% of your wealth when divorced
You have opened eyes for many of girls whose parents are searching for a guy. In my case I would tag myself as stupid and dumb. To all these questions I got the answer as 'No' indirectly after marriage. Before marriage it was all yes...
True.. Same happened with my friend..
i will warn the guy if his answer changes after mairrage or even a minute before mairrage i will call of the mairrage.. I will record everything when discussing.. because being a chartered Accountant i know the importance of documentation...
thoug i also know that oral evidence are not sufficient..
Its better to have atleast something thna nothing as a proof
This is a problem too. Men often pretend to be good just for the sake of getting a wife.
@@studybee9543 lol,
@@studybee9543 you should know the spelling of marriage too aur jese aapka attitude koi shadi ke liye haa hi nahi karenge so you dont have to worry about these things 🤗
I m telling you if any girl asks me all these 11 question I would definitely love to be with her for life. This would just show that the girl is confident and doesn't care about society .And we can focus on our relationship and not be scared of log kya khahenge wala scenes.
RIP 😂
nice. I kind of ask these question and guess what, still unmarried
@@ankit8115 thanks dude atleast praying for me. ❤ you man
@@sharmilaporanki3376 indian society me ye chize practical nahi hai .. bss bolne me , sochne me acchi lgti hai .. tum jaise hi ye sb question puchogi without a though ladka nd uski maa turant soch lenge ladki chalu hai isse nahi karni shaadi .. 😂😂😂
@@ankit8115 agar nahi poocha toh outcome aur bhi disastrous ho sakti hai.
who knows.
You really nicely structured all the questions. It covered almost everything that how forward we can go with that person. Especially in arranged marriage scenario, we have no chance to find out exactly who the person we are stepping with. These 11 questions could almost help you out with that " is that he ? "
Jab time aayega na koi question ni ata deemag m ye sab faltu k bakavaas hai life kabhi ase ni chalti itna planning karke not possible ho sakta h koi question puchne ki need hi na pade
And what about questions to ask from bride before marriage???
You should make a video on that also
No bro. This is SheThePeopleTV. There should be a HeThePeopleTV channel to make video on what questions to ask a girl before marrying her.
@@ayushmankumar1483 Mens don't have any problem in anything because they know there responsibilies, But these Fake Feminists want rights without any responsibilities. That's why I asked this question to them.
What if a groom asks questions to u ?? It will u tagged as misogyny... Matriachy. 🤡🙄
I cant stop myself from liking this video💯😘
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What if he lie?many boys lie before marriage.then khulte hai asli chhithe after marriage
Right
Watch their way of phrasing those questions (if asked via tests) or even their facial expressions or time taken between the answers..
Aage peeche walo se pucho na rishtedaar aise b hrami hote bta deinge✌🏻
@@viciouskiwi3765 bhaisaab.. So true😂
Ladkyio ke judging skills bhot top ke hote hai ,
Aur kai cases mai , log badal jate hai time k saath ,
Kisi chiz ki koi guarentee nahi hoti khas kar ke insano ki . .itna risk lena padta hai .
If men will start asking questions to girl about her past relationships and virginity you will OK with that 😂🤣🤣
Didnt she literally just said both parties should be open about it. Ask each other these things, be respectful and honest towards each other when doing so
@@06.aishanawal10 Didi ye sab videos banane ka content ke liye accha hai, reality kuch alag hi hotihy
Bus ho gai shadi phir to bc kya chutiyapa questions hai mann lo shadi k agle 2 din baad ladke ko kucch ho gaya to kya karoge
Reject used girls guys please
Embrace masculinity
Reject used males also.
@@darkknight1845
You can ask your potential life partner anything you want, just in a more humble way than shown in this video.
Pakka ladka bhagh Jayega....guys they hate these kind of women ....but these questions are actually practically and good for a good relationship...thank you
Many of the answers you can getting by his neighbour or people in his area
@@KingKhan-bi7kb .. U can't get the emotional intelligence questions from area or neighborhood.. Human behavioural anatomy is way different u can't get it out from other source...
@@maanishaarao6642 I think you can get a clear idea . Because a neighbour who lives with you even for a year knows the behaviour of people in the house and how they behave with everyone.
@@KingKhan-bi7kb no certainly not.. They know what u show ... Not everything they see will be true or false...
@@maanishaarao6642 this might happen but in a minority number. The qt that this video suggest and when you ask then the boy will reject you on the first time.
Everyone has right to ask whatever they want because it's lifetime matter u can't take it for granted and if he/she rejects u then leave it u deserve much better or the best.
How will feminist react if men ask women about their blood tests?
I won't feel bad honestly, and even I want to have such tests.
Honestly I have no problem 😊
Feminists doesn't mean women alone, it means both men and women😅adyam ath manasilakk bro/sis
@@ushaseemandal8299 Mam jab Love krte ho e sare test krte ho kya ? Bas daily daily OYO visit krte ho us time koi dikat nehi
No problem at all. Happy to do it, as long the other party is willing to do the test.
This one 💜💜💜 Thank you. I think these questions should be asked by both potential bride & groom.
These are the best questions ever - no matter what culture your are originated in 🏆
Arranged marriage sounds like Business Deal ... girls have self respect... work hard be independent.. then find an independent life partner... when both parties are financially independent there is NO POWER GAME ....
me too arrange marriage sell for body to specific individual or safe method for his money that you can get to were fancy clothing if he is rich enough.
Most of them, even real gentlemen say this : 'women are supposed to be the ones who are more accomodating, compromising, adjusting and accepting'.
@Movies then there is no gentlemen
Ofc women have power to either make or break the house
Very very important and relevant questions. Thank you for compiling these. Hope many women see these before they make decisions on choosing a life partner.
You Will be a ideal bride 🤪😀
So logical and analytical
Well it's true. Point to hai. I am going to ask my future wife about this questions. Well thanks for the questionnaire. Kudos 🤙🏻
First thing I will reduce my salary & see her reaction & her opinion on that what she will do if I lost my job. Single question & I will decide to marry that girl or not
Good do it 👏👏👏
Perfect 😂😂😂
Another question to ask should be "If you continue working after marriage, and have a higher in-hand salary than me, would you have the self-respect to not claim maintenance/alimony from me in the family court during divorce?
Didi agar itna satyawachan Wala ladke hota to India me 90% arrange marriage wale abhi khush hote! Ye to wahi baat ho gai Jahan daru pine Wala coat pant pehen k aaye aur bole me BHT saskaari Hun😂
A lot of these are long answer type questions, even if a person lies, their body language will have a lot of truth to say. And reading between the lines is also important.
Exactly
Marriage even love marriages don't come with guarantee card . You can't get true person until you both live together and take decisions jointly , because after marriage both of your lives are connected... your decisions will impact his life and vice versa. Husband or wife is not machine that comes with some guarantee card. Person changes time to time as per situation and experiences and beliefs... In worst case if marriage don't turn out well just get out of it. But despite all questions and precaution you can't guarantee. And yes lastly marriage is much depends on us too as how you takle issues after marriages , how you bond with him and his family . I am very much happily arranged married since mast 10 years and I do realize it's not always girl who adjust boys do make adjustments too. The same kind of questions list boys too can have .
What if you get a perfect partner who respects you and have you all your freedom of choices. And he looses his job after marriage and them it's you who had to take financial responsibility of him and his family will you? What if his sister get divorced and starts living with you in your house with her two kids and now you and your husband ,and her brother had to take care of them ? What of he get promotion and sent to UK but your company wanted you to go USA? Marriage is companionship you should develop that trust on each other . And that happens over time. And need your investment in it. Life is unpredictable . Even you can't guarantee good life while.switching jobs. You need to take risks in life . If you don't want to then dont get married at all. Because there is nothing like perfect husband or perfect wife or perfect relationship.
@@MsCvb85 thankyou Ma'am.
Well conversation is very important. Agar aap dono ek dusre se ache se baat kar sakte ho to ye jada sahi hai, apne aap ko ek dusre k saamne actual terms mai rakho, jo aap ho, taki kisi ko bhi problems na ho, and ye baat to sahi hai ki sabse pehle aap ye confirm kar lo ki aap shaadi k liye tyar ho ya nahi, ya phir aap logon ko kitna time chahiye... Agar koi insan aapke liye wait karne k liye tyar hai and aapki care karta hai, to possibly aap ek-dusre k saath achi life spend kar sako.
2:12 - a slight two-sided effect comes in here. When u ask the guy if he knows all this basic skills(cooking, cleaning, etc) , it should be with the assumption that even the girl knows these basic skills. In today's day, each person should know of it and it doesnt apply to a specific gender. Lol even im working on these stuff from now at 18, cause many people nowadays know ghanta
Ea agar tum khud esab na jante ho to boy ko ask karne ka koi haq nehi hai tumhe
@@sayanhalder6752 obviously
That's the woke feminism that this lady want to propagate.
It's actually good..I will get engaged in 3-4 yrs so I downloaded this video helpful 🤩🤭
Point no. 3
So, the guy has to do job to support the family and also has to do household works as well..
Waah 👏👏🙂
Also, there's nothing wrong with someone wanting a virgin partner if they're virgin themselves. It isn't regressive.
Aur shaadi ka main basis hi hai sexual relationship, so of course the couple must consummate their marriage, if the girl keeps being "uncomfortable sexually" for too long then that isn't right to the guy, especially if he's ready.
If the woman is working then you should help her
@@sangyaamalhotra6512 yes if having the same salary level 20k kamaegi aur kaam v nai krna h 😂
There's no such thing as too long it depends on the husband if she ever becomes comfortable or not even if it takes a year the right guy won't leave you just because of his urge to have sex while the girl feels uncomfortable. It's husband's responsibility to make her comfortable also if there's no love how can one have sexual relationship love doesn't happen in days or months it takes time and patience to earn trust . What u said it's absurd
@@Iamnoone56wo kitni kamegi usse mtlb nhi h jitna ldka time de rha h utna wo bhi de rhi h. Time sbse zyada matter krta h
I am against dowry but also believe women who don't want to give dowry should sigh prenup while marrying. Gold diggers is real issue in modern alimony law.
Why women who are not giving dowry? Not only women men shld also sign it. Always remember equality✌️
@@meenuvincent1979 sorry never heard of any women paying her ex husband alimony. Not only in India but also first world countries like US where during divorce women get half of the man's property (of his own hard work). Btw I would agree that no-one should pay alimony irrespective of gender, everybody should be capable earning for his/her living if they don't want be with a person
Alimony ko hi khtm krdena chahye. But you're right. Prenup should be considered too
Agreed. I am a girl and alimony laws are fucking bullshit. Kitne crimes to alimony ke wajah se hi hote hain men pe.
Acc. To hindu marriage act 1955 husband and wife both claim for the alimony to her/his spouses but not entitled with special marriage act 1954 mean two different religions male and female ... Wife also pay the alimony case in Gujarat state team circket player .. he got 10k monthly to his wife as alimony... Thera are ample for example in modern day society ... There wife give alimony
The Hmm.. Bol na between 4:05- 4:10 was really your mind and heart out about the question
Brilliant content. This is a video for both genders. As a guy thinking of marrying in next 5 years, this was a great video for me.
What's wrong with parent choice ????!!! Wrong protrait of arrange marriage
Problem is if it goes wrong you can't blame your parents. For making a choice for you cause in the end decision was yours. If everything goes good you are lucky or you know how to manage problems.
I wish I had this vdo 2 years back.
I wish u had enough brain
I think this is very important video in the perspective of a women. I guess generally women dont ask much and they perceive that the man will understand without she having to say anything. But as a modern women you need to ask everything before committing to a serious relationship as mostly women have their vulnerability like during pregnancy, childbirth, periods etc etc and its very important for a women to know how her man will treat her in her ups and downs..
Question are good if someone has dare to ask me these questions and answer counter question that i will ask then we have very good chance of being together. I think we should look for qualites like curiousity, acceptability ,confidence,ability to consider others while taking decision, flexibility in thought,taking a stand for oneself,honesty, Clarity in thought, diverse range of interst.
Meet the intended spouse at your home and theirs ... it would be a good way to judge and observe !!.❤😊😊
I don't think, if he is prepared to lie to me,... he will give answers that might comfort me.
Who knows wether he is lieing or not🙃
Wow... Loved all ques.. n i hv already asked all of them to my bf even before watching this.. i also beleiv same.
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Boyfriend wali ladki spotted .....
Nope.. we are in relation since 8 yrs.. we will marry after 4 yrs
@@manishbisht693 marriage isnt necessary.. true love is important n we do that n it will b forever.. baki if after 3 yrs we both r on the same page..yes we will marry
@@tanshika11
I hope that your views matches that with you father because he is more mature in knowing that there is no such thing called "True Love" or how their innocent girls are exploited in the name of love. Everything is about compromises here and then over which love can take place. You will come to know all about this in coming years ,though I hope not.
Same applies on the boys too prepare your question paper guys
I will ask this points to new guy whom I met on matrimonial site, to know him in detail. Thanks for such logical video. Apart from She the people I also watch video of Mr Anubhav Jain Sir
Nice question lists you have given. Most of these questions are found in other UA-cam channels as well. But you have given some others which I haven't found in any other channel- marital rape, feminism & children. Hats off to you.
Equal rights and opportunities...... But what about equal responsibilities....... Bolo na didi
Sending this video straight to my sister. Great work Raina👍
My common question:
I ask innocently how do they manage to eat? Do they cook or buy food?
Then I state that I don't like cooking everyday. 😁😄
A very healthy , modern thought,!
What if he says he doesn't like to pay for the bills house and all the shit what u gonna do then if u refuse to something he can refuse too what if someone enters the house and attacks u and he says I don't like protecting u
@@rithicknavariya4937 I'll pay.
I don't like to do but that doesn't mean I don't have to.
You are fine when women cook without question but when you are asked to do the same thing, you don't like it.
Many women manage both job and kitchen but men get offended when even hinted about it
@@sharmilaporanki3376 yes and ur going to protect him against robbers who got into ur house if that happens ur leaving him next day what's unfair is him putting his life in threat to protect u and u can't cook for him which will hardly take half an hour
@@sharmilaporanki3376 if he doesn't protect u ur leaving divorcing him next day if u say no Im strong independent women I can break some bones of some robbers that's all bullshit that's cap
I think all the questions she pointed out needs to be asked in any type of marriage...even love..✌️🙌
Lol, test waala, gay lesbo waala aur feminism waala to pura chutiyaap tha. Aajkal pata hai sabko ki feminism ke naam par kya chalta hai. Women empowerment ko support karo to aaj jati hai aise ladkiya jo gaali galoj karti hai, dusro mardo ke sath soti hai, drink karti hai.
Aur ghar ke kaam nahi sambhal sakte to bai bhi hai na india mein.
@@gohan12991 U never curse? Ghar ke kaam mei kabhi help karte ho? Kisi din yeh Darr se nikle ho ghar se ki pata nahi sham ko sahi salamat ghar aayenge ke nahi
@@vidishashah1799 Jyadatar murders aur assault mardo pe hota hai. Crimes ke jyada shikaar mard hote hai compared to women. Aur main to abhi job k liye PG mein rehta hu lekin shaadi ke baad to ghar ki jimmedari to patni pe hi aa jaegi. Chalo agar maine bol bhi dia ki ghar ke kaamo me madad karunga lekin kaam bhi to karna hai na, career bhi to hai. Agar weekends pe time milega to karunga warna patni ko maid hi hire karna padega.
Aur sab ladke curse karte hai lekin ladkiyo ko wo shobha nahi deta.
Upar se agar tum ladkiyo se pucha ki tumhare kitne affair the shaadi ke phehle to tum log offend ho jaoge na. Shaadi se phehle boyfriend ke sath enjoy karna hai, uske sath sona hai lekin shaadi ke baad tumhe adjust nahi karna, ladke ke parents ke sath nahi rehna, ghar nahi sambhalna, career pe focus karna hai. Ye sab shaadi se phehle jab boyfriend ke sath Oyo mein jaa rahe the tab nai socha na? Par shaadi ke baad tumhare nakhre shuru ho jaate hai.
All the questions are good .If the girl asks such questions boys may run away from such intelligent girl .The girl will have to face many rejections. 6:49
Seeing the comment section, where boys saying, "itne question h toh shaadi mat karo" "ias ka interview h kya" "tumse karega bhi nhi koi".
Guys, we can marry someone outside this country too. Who r ready to treat equally.
Aap apna dekhiye! Waise hi kahan milti h aajkal. Haina?
Sadly some guys think that women still will shut Their mouth and obey them 🤣🤣 of course questions krne chyaie.. even boys should ask all the questions he has in their mind
I am a bit sceptical about the part about marrying foreigners
Maybe you could but not everyone can
Badass
Sahi kaha.
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Boys! You will ask the same questions too, we have the right too
Answer hi kyu dena hey reject and move ahead . Khud akal aa jaegi inhen after few rejection
I came across this channel a few days back but after watching this video I directly hit that subscribe n like button❤️
We're glad ❤️ Thanks for the support.
Exactly it's helpful vdo for the future 🤓 thnx for this channel..#satya se parichay
If any girl ask me this many questions, one after other I would walk away....
Only one line: Every fruit cannot be repined on a single tree.
I swear I had these planned for my sister too 😂like all of them ..mere Liye Abhi time hain
Mere ghar me blood test karke Shadi hoti hai. I'm proud of my family that they are so progressive and also they suggestes others. Shadi mein dowry important nehi hai medical checkup karna zaruri hai Indians ko samajhna chahiye.
I guess tumhare family me alimony bhi important nhi hoga?
@@AmishKumar-lc7zs Nehi hoga sab females job karte hai, most of them Govt job. If any uncertainty happens phir bhi koi alimony nehi lega.
@@disharidas555 Go to know all women's have not turned hypocrites? Although I've met only opposite kinds in my life so it's very unlikely to accept such.
Very good n eye opening video, I think it is useful for the girls but even more for the boys. It will teach the boys about the rights, concerns and feelings of the girls before arrange marriage which our patriarchal society don't want them to learn.🙏👌💐
My parents are searching a groom for me..as she said, I'm scared of marrying a total stranger.. thankyou so much for this video❤️❤️❤️
Absolutely Admire your content!!! Extremely relevant and it's time that Women should take charge of their lives!!!
I am very very sure that even half of the questions being asked by the 'guy' to any girl she will get offended and shall declare that the guy doesn't know what to ask on the first meeting... 😂🤪