I’m the same way I have a great relationship with my parents but as I get older I really like having my own privacy and time to myself kinda hard to do that with other people in the house
I am 36 but have a great job make 110,000 have saving but my parents are disabled and since I was 18 I worked 2 jobs to provide 😢 now looking back I’ve never lived my own life and I have nothing to remember besides money
But you did an honorable thing by providing and doing everything you could. That sacrifice you made speaks volumes about your character and strength 🫡 🤝
29 and I find myself in a similar situation. My mom is a survivor of domestic violence, and suffers with depression, and I'm the one who keeps an eye on her because no one else will. You will be truly blessed for taking care of your parents.
I am currently 25 turning 26 soon I wasted my early 20s working dead end jobs and choosing the wrong major. Now that I am going back to college since 2022 I have chosen business major since it’s the one I really want to pursue a career in finance. I still live with my parents which is ok for me but it is looked down upon by my peers but f*** them they don’t know what I have been through, the childhood trauma I endured but now I am a grown I have cut toxic relationships with people and some family members (most of my cousins). I have learned to move in silence and let my actions speak louder! I am on a spiritual journey and I am trying to better myself with the path I am going for. I am gonna bet on myself to take action on my plans to execute the goals I have set out for myself. I have to make my own path to be successful I have too. I can’t let myself down and be stagnant.
Moving in silence is one of the best things you can do. It keeps you focused and grounded. I’ve done it and it has only propelled me to my goals faster. You got this!! Keep your head up and keep moving forward. I’m rooting for you 🤝
My next goal is to be out by the end of 2025. I’m good on saving and I’m not very materialistic. I actually like my job so I have no problem being on the grind anymore. Going to start building my credit, I’m completely debt free and trying to keep it that way. My main issue is I love hanging out with friends but some of my friends spend lots of money 😭
Grew up in a average city went through some rough shit at 17 years old friends came up with the idea to move to Arizona , best decision I ever made . Literally moved away for a year and a half and the one time I come back some fuck shit happened and I ended up staying for like close to 2 years then moved to california for a couple months trynna shoot for the stars only to end up moving back home . Then I tried AGAIN , left for a week and came back …. This time I’m 23 years old I’ve seen the luxury of the 1% lifestyle and how to not only get there but now I’m At the point where I’m just working to get there while Now being disciplined in my day to day life to maintain it. From 18 I’ve met and hung around guys who pretty much had the lifestyle I wanted they had the money and the cars and could talk good game from pretty em much any female they wanted . I’ll say to those who are shooting for the stars . Keep working and grinding man and you will get there . Once you get there remember what got you there to keep you there. Nobody ever told me you could get lost in the sauce . And that’s a real thing not even talking about partying or drinking etc. you can literally get lost in the lifestyle your living and sooner or later you’ll question yourself “ wait a second why am I here ? I know I grinded to get here but now that I’ve been here for a minute what’s next “ that last part is ultimately will decide on if you move back home or if you keep pushing . Keep pushing . Had I not moved back home I would be so much farther . Stay down grind hard and don’t tell anyone you’re moving until your about a month out. Once you say it people will doubt and talk about it until you show them. Once you show them then all of a sudden they become supporters and number one fans. Fuck that and them . Play hard , work even harder ! You got this young gents
I'm turning 18 but i just want my freedom and happiness and to immediately start life the moment in legally an adult. Plus i just wanna see the real world. I'm in a small town in the middle of nowhere with zero opportunities
That’s good to know 💯. With all that said, I highly recommend you watch my video I posted yesterday because it goes in depth on what that’s like. It’s called how to be financially stable and beyond
Yes join the military study for the asvab don't join the army or marines. If I could do it all over again I would have joined at 18 aimed to get e5 asap and invest the whole time while you're in. You'll be ahead of the curve after 1 or 2 contracts and if you pick a job that can translate to the real world you'll be debt free in a career. I joined at 26 got kind of screwed with the pay for almost 2 years and I still came out with about 40kish networth. 1 year out and I'm at about 70k trying to get to 100k by my 33rd birthday and 300k+ by 38. Joined with student loan debt and by the time I joined bootcamp I had just enough to pay certain bills and have less than $100 in my checkings.
Parents who care for you, will always support your choice to leave early Those who do not care, will ridicule you or make you feel guilty for leaving them
I was ridiculed, talked about, they wosh a lot of bad upon me, and bad things happened and now I'm back to square freaking one, living with family. I hate life
@@livelife9644 It happened to me numerous time This is because they've always enabled you not to your benefit Narcissist parents do not want you to succeed on your own, never Still move out. When you pay for your own place, your own morning coffee, your beater car payment. Even with all the hardships, it hits differently. You enjoy the tough journey, because it's yours. Being with a family, that doesn't really like you and keeping around for their own ego, never pays.
It should be a crime to kick your kids out in this type of economy. I have 2 kids (12 and 16) Set your kids up for success by letting them stay and save. Teach them how to invest and save and live below their means, taxes, and budgeting, and having discipline. Have them show you a monthly budget and accounts to make sure they apply what you teach. Heck even make them pay a little rent each month and then secretly keep it all and give it all back to them when they do leave the nest as a gift. If they chose to leave thats one thing, and if they leave at 18 we should be supporting them (not financially), but its not like it was in the 90s when i was 18, either. And i have no debt and a paid off house. These kids toady at 18 have ZERO guidance are paying 50% or more of their take-home pay on rent and stand no chance.
Kids aren’t paying 50% of their paycheck on rent because of a lack of guidance, they’re doing it because wages haven’t kept up with rent prices. It’s just how it is now. Glad youre so supportive of your child :)
How about move out and put in your head you can not go back home! Sink or swim. When you know you can go back to your moms house you will definitely go out onto the world and under preform and underachieve because yall know you have a fallback
Have a rent account and a regular account.Eveytime you get paid Have half of the rent go towards the rent account . At end of month you have the rent to pay for the upcoming month
I moved out, then back in with my kid. I love my parents, but I’m the same, I need space for my kid and I and I don’t want to let this set back control me. Add on top of getting unsolicited parenting advice when I’m just minding my business is irritating, knowing the way I was raised lol. I know it’s a lot more challenging this time around, but to sit back and do nothing while I have my kid watching me is not an option!
Hoping to get out this year about to reach the 26 year mark and reached the 80k salary just planning to eliminate my small debt (which I’m almost finished doing) then start saving for rent. Finally feel like I can start moving out toward the end of the year it feels good!
im 18 and freshly graduated highschool, i do understand/know how/am currently doing a lot of these things in this video (aside from investing and paying bills because im in school and keeping my money in a HYSA), i do like watching your vids nonetheless. Im on track to get my bachelors in software engineering at 19, and i will move out at 19-20 once i am well prepared to do so, because yea i like having control over the good and bad, and having no one to answer to, and the silence of an empty home. I was one of the lucky ones who loves learning about these things and finding the path i wanted to go down after years of research and trying out things.
Wow thank you for this video. I feel like being on your own and being independent itself is easy. Its when the people at your workplaces secretly conspire against you while smiling in your face because of jealousy or immaturity and affect your life and finances by kicking you to the curb is what is difficult to deal with. Exactly as you said, undervalued but one of the best performers at the job. I have to believe it all happened for a reason for me to move back home even though it wasn’t by choice. The world literally beat me down, and at the end of it all I had was God because everything was taken away from me. I have grown a lot in my faith while living at my parents house. It hasn’t been easy, but I know God still loves me despite it all. Thank you for this video. I feel i’m very independent and good financially, but the world hates the chosen while also admiring them. Its a mind game and really messes you up. But the timing is good i’m back home because the economy is horrible right now.
Great video! I would just like to say, yes I wanted you closer to me but that’s just being mama. You made a wise decision and I’m so proud of you. Love this video. Your #1 Fan-Mom❤
Move out. If you have parents who are happy to have you stay with them. You have a major advantage. You can go out on your own. Fail horribly and have a safety net.
This is just dumb advice. People if you can stay home with your parents then do it. STAY HOME AND STACK YOUR MONEY! Thats why most Americans are struggling because they always want to try to keep up with the jones and follow what society says. Staying at home has done wonders for me and has allowed me the chance to pay for my first home in cash and vehicles paid in cash! You keep listening to what Dave Ramsey says. This man is a real estate investor so of course hes gonna tell young adults to leave their parents house and get an apartment because oh let me guess....it improves your physiology. LOL the dumbest thing I ever heard. Let me tell you what improves your physiology. Staying at home and stacking your money and not having to settle on making payments on an apartment paying on something you'll never own when can stay at home and save that money to create assets. You should read the bible instead of listening to what man says ( Dave Ramsey) biblical speaking one isnt required to move from their parents home until they are actually married anyways. Yall keep listening to what modern society tell yall they gonna have yall broke.
So you were living with mommy and saving money while she was having to go to a crappy job all day to pay the mortgage and buy the food? My mom was a cashier at a grocery store I felt guilty mooching off her but if your parents are rich then I guess it's a different story.
@@imveryhungry112 Maybe you are the one that had a shitty relationship with your parents. But some people enjoy being with family. This guys right, most people are broke because they’re looking for “space and freedom” before they can afford it. Indian families see the highest earners in this country because they stay together until someone gets married and has their own family. You saying “staying at home while your parents work a shit job” sounds demeaning and trashy of you.
@@HotepOurobo it should be that very controlling energy alone that motivates you to be out on your own. I had to pay rent when I was 18 and at home. But it was my mother that I paid. She never told my father that I was giving her money. One day, while she was in the next room LISTENING, he cussed me out for being a freeloader living at home and not paying rent. She never opened her mouth. And when I told him that I was paying, he was genuinely shocked. He didn’t know. I made up my mind right then I was moving out and not coming back. I found an actually really nice house that rented rooms to Christian young adults. I lived there until I could afford my own studio apartment. I worked hard, put myself through college but most importantly I lived way under my means until I could do better each step of the way. You can do it. You deserve the good life but you gotta be in position to give it to yourself.
Stay at home until you can afford to leave. When you are at home stack your money, support fam and appreciate their presence
Correct!! ✅
I’m the same way I have a great relationship with my parents but as I get older I really like having my own privacy and time to myself kinda hard to do that with other people in the house
Facts 💯
Depends on the house you got
Same
Do it, simple as that parents are annoying and can hold you back tremendously 😂
😂
Depends on the parents ya got
Exactly 😂
I am 36 but have a great job make 110,000 have saving but my parents are disabled and since I was 18 I worked 2 jobs to provide 😢 now looking back I’ve never lived my own life and I have nothing to remember besides money
But you did an honorable thing by providing and doing everything you could. That sacrifice you made speaks volumes about your character and strength 🫡 🤝
@@ReggieBryant word thanks mate-!
29 and I find myself in a similar situation. My mom is a survivor of domestic violence, and suffers with depression, and I'm the one who keeps an eye on her because no one else will. You will be truly blessed for taking care of your parents.
@@daenerystargaryen6400 💯
@@daenerystargaryen6400 but when does my life start I’m soo embarrassed of being 36
All my friends married and have kids I have nothing
I am currently 25 turning 26 soon I wasted my early 20s working dead end jobs and choosing the wrong major. Now that I am going back to college since 2022 I have chosen business major since it’s the one I really want to pursue a career in finance. I still live with my parents which is ok for me but it is looked down upon by my peers but f*** them they don’t know what I have been through, the childhood trauma I endured but now I am a grown I have cut toxic relationships with people and some family members (most of my cousins). I have learned to move in silence and let my actions speak louder! I am on a spiritual journey and I am trying to better myself with the path I am going for. I am gonna bet on myself to take action on my plans to execute the goals I have set out for myself. I have to make my own path to be successful I have too. I can’t let myself down and be stagnant.
Moving in silence is one of the best things you can do. It keeps you focused and grounded. I’ve done it and it has only propelled me to my goals faster. You got this!! Keep your head up and keep moving forward. I’m rooting for you 🤝
Hurrr I want a finance degree
@@user-jj2dj4gb9g got for it
This guy is 100 percent right. I try to tell my sister this because she is 28 and miserable living with my parents.
🤝
My next goal is to be out by the end of 2025. I’m good on saving and I’m not very materialistic. I actually like my job so I have no problem being on the grind anymore. Going to start building my credit, I’m completely debt free and trying to keep it that way. My main issue is I love hanging out with friends but some of my friends spend lots of money 😭
I feel that. The good thing is, you’re off to a great start!! Keep up the great work 💪🏾
What kind of job do you have? If it’s ok to ask.
@@tsavojackal5941 I have a management position in the manufacturing industry
Grew up in a average city went through some rough shit at 17 years old friends came up with the idea to move to Arizona , best decision I ever made . Literally moved away for a year and a half and the one time I come back some fuck shit happened and I ended up staying for like close to 2 years then moved to california for a couple months trynna shoot for the stars only to end up moving back home . Then I tried AGAIN , left for a week and came back …. This time I’m 23 years old I’ve seen the luxury of the 1% lifestyle and how to not only get there but now I’m
At the point where I’m just working to get there while
Now being disciplined in my day to day life to maintain it. From 18 I’ve met and hung around guys who pretty much had the lifestyle I wanted they had the money and the cars and could talk good game from pretty em much any female they wanted . I’ll say to those who are shooting for the stars . Keep working and grinding man and you will get there . Once you get there remember what got you there to keep you there. Nobody ever told me you could get lost in the sauce . And that’s a real thing not even talking about partying or drinking etc. you can literally get lost in the lifestyle your living and sooner or later you’ll question yourself “ wait a second why am I here ? I know I grinded to get here but now that I’ve been here for a minute what’s next “ that last part is ultimately will decide on if you move back home or if you keep pushing . Keep pushing . Had I not moved back home I would be so much farther . Stay down grind hard and don’t tell anyone you’re moving until your about a month out. Once you say it people will doubt and talk about it until you show them. Once you show them then all of a sudden they become supporters and number one fans. Fuck that and them . Play hard , work even harder ! You got this young gents
Thank you for sharing! Keep grinding 🫡
I'm turning 18 but i just want my freedom and happiness and to immediately start life the moment in legally an adult. Plus i just wanna see the real world. I'm in a small town in the middle of nowhere with zero opportunities
That’s good to know 💯. With all that said, I highly recommend you watch my video I posted yesterday because it goes in depth on what that’s like. It’s called how to be financially stable and beyond
Join the Air Force and travel for free and have your own dorm for free
Yes join the military study for the asvab don't join the army or marines. If I could do it all over again I would have joined at 18 aimed to get e5 asap and invest the whole time while you're in. You'll be ahead of the curve after 1 or 2 contracts and if you pick a job that can translate to the real world you'll be debt free in a career. I joined at 26 got kind of screwed with the pay for almost 2 years and I still came out with about 40kish networth. 1 year out and I'm at about 70k trying to get to 100k by my 33rd birthday and 300k+ by 38. Joined with student loan debt and by the time I joined bootcamp I had just enough to pay certain bills and have less than $100 in my checkings.
Parents who care for you, will always support your choice to leave early
Those who do not care, will ridicule you or make you feel guilty for leaving them
Unfortunate, but true. I’ve seen it 💯
I had to stop what I was doing to reply to this comment: thank god for saying this. Many people do not realize.
I was ridiculed, talked about, they wosh a lot of bad upon me, and bad things happened and now I'm back to square freaking one, living with family. I hate life
@@livelife9644 It happened to me numerous time
This is because they've always enabled you not to your benefit
Narcissist parents do not want you to succeed on your own, never
Still move out. When you pay for your own place, your own morning coffee, your beater car payment. Even with all the hardships, it hits differently. You enjoy the tough journey, because it's yours.
Being with a family, that doesn't really like you and keeping around for their own ego, never pays.
@@Thomas.Bolleiro all of this. Its sad that really sad.
Smh. I'm now a single a mom so its a bit harder, its like the harder i try the more I fail
It should be a crime to kick your kids out in this type of economy. I have 2 kids (12 and 16)
Set your kids up for success by letting them stay and save. Teach them how to invest and save and live below their means, taxes, and budgeting, and having discipline. Have them show you a monthly budget and accounts to make sure they apply what you teach. Heck even make them pay a little rent each month and then secretly keep it all and give it all back to them when they do leave the nest as a gift.
If they chose to leave thats one thing, and if they leave at 18 we should be supporting them (not financially), but its not like it was in the 90s when i was 18, either. And i have no debt and a paid off house. These kids toady at 18 have ZERO guidance are paying 50% or more of their take-home pay on rent and stand no chance.
Facts 💯
Kids aren’t paying 50% of their paycheck on rent because of a lack of guidance, they’re doing it because wages haven’t kept up with rent prices. It’s just how it is now. Glad youre so supportive of your child :)
How about move out and put in your head you can not go back home! Sink or swim. When you know you can go back to your moms house you will definitely go out onto the world and under preform and underachieve because yall know you have a fallback
That’s a winner mentality 🥇. Failure is not an option 💯
Have a rent account and a regular account.Eveytime you get paid Have half of the rent go towards the rent account . At end of month you have the rent to pay for the upcoming month
Solid idea! 💡
I moved out, then back in with my kid. I love my parents, but I’m the same, I need space for my kid and I and I don’t want to let this set back control me. Add on top of getting unsolicited parenting advice when I’m just minding my business is irritating, knowing the way I was raised lol. I know it’s a lot more challenging this time around, but to sit back and do nothing while I have my kid watching me is not an option!
Hang in there. You got this!! 💪🏾
Hoping to get out this year about to reach the 26 year mark and reached the 80k salary just planning to eliminate my small debt (which I’m almost finished doing) then start saving for rent. Finally feel like I can start moving out toward the end of the year it feels good!
@@imanigordon6803 that’s great! I’m very happy for you!!
5:06 forget about the shiny objects. yes dont live above your means but every once in a while its nice to treat yourself
@@fluffyfeather39 that’s absolutely right!
im 18 and freshly graduated highschool, i do understand/know how/am currently doing a lot of these things in this video (aside from investing and paying bills because im in school and keeping my money in a HYSA), i do like watching your vids nonetheless.
Im on track to get my bachelors in software engineering at 19, and i will move out at 19-20 once i am well prepared to do so, because yea i like having control over the good and bad, and having no one to answer to, and the silence of an empty home.
I was one of the lucky ones who loves learning about these things and finding the path i wanted to go down after years of research and trying out things.
@@Captaine_Crunche that’s excellent! Keep up the hard work 💪🏾
Wow thank you for this video. I feel like being on your own and being independent itself is easy. Its when the people at your workplaces secretly conspire against you while smiling in your face because of jealousy or immaturity and affect your life and finances by kicking you to the curb is what is difficult to deal with. Exactly as you said, undervalued but one of the best performers at the job. I have to believe it all happened for a reason for me to move back home even though it wasn’t by choice. The world literally beat me down, and at the end of it all I had was God because everything was taken away from me. I have grown a lot in my faith while living at my parents house. It hasn’t been easy, but I know God still loves me despite it all. Thank you for this video. I feel i’m very independent and good financially, but the world hates the chosen while also admiring them. Its a mind game and really messes you up. But the timing is good i’m back home because the economy is horrible right now.
Your comment is very compelling. Thank you for sharing! Keep going 💪🏾
Great video! I would just like to say, yes I wanted you closer to me but that’s just being mama. You made a wise decision and I’m so proud of you. Love this video. Your #1 Fan-Mom❤
😃 thank you
Move out. If you have parents who are happy to have you stay with them. You have a major advantage. You can go out on your own. Fail horribly and have a safety net.
Do t leave till your car is paid off and you have a great emergency fund
Agreed 😃
the only difference is that now I can fully wear headphones and not have to worry abt parents barging in 😂😂
@@sigmamalegrindset132 pretty big difference if you ask me 😂
Unc motivating the youth
💪🏾
Thank you for your wisdom
Thank you for your kind words and thank you for watching 😃
This is just dumb advice. People if you can stay home with your parents then do it. STAY HOME AND STACK YOUR MONEY! Thats why most Americans are struggling because they always want to try to keep up with the jones and follow what society says. Staying at home has done wonders for me and has allowed me the chance to pay for my first home in cash and vehicles paid in cash! You keep listening to what Dave Ramsey says. This man is a real estate investor so of course hes gonna tell young adults to leave their parents house and get an apartment because oh let me guess....it improves your physiology. LOL the dumbest thing I ever heard. Let me tell you what improves your physiology. Staying at home and stacking your money and not having to settle on making payments on an apartment paying on something you'll never own when can stay at home and save that money to create assets. You should read the bible instead of listening to what man says ( Dave Ramsey) biblical speaking one isnt required to move from their parents home until they are actually married anyways. Yall keep listening to what modern society tell yall they gonna have yall broke.
Thank you for the engagement on my channel! Sure does help this video get more views 🫡
So you were living with mommy and saving money while she was having to go to a crappy job all day to pay the mortgage and buy the food? My mom was a cashier at a grocery store I felt guilty mooching off her but if your parents are rich then I guess it's a different story.
@@imveryhungry112 y’all gotta relax! It’s not that deep I promise.
@@ReggieBryant Anytime! The more people who see my comment the better.
@@imveryhungry112 Maybe you are the one that had a shitty relationship with your parents. But some people enjoy being with family. This guys right, most people are broke because they’re looking for “space and freedom” before they can afford it. Indian families see the highest earners in this country because they stay together until someone gets married and has their own family. You saying “staying at home while your parents work a shit job” sounds demeaning and trashy of you.
This is some good advice thank u for sharing
@@naturalbeauty8901 you’re very welcome!
Enjoyed this video.
I’m glad to hear it!!
Do you pay rent at home?
If not, I can’t relate. 🙄
@@HotepOurobo when I lived with my parents several years ago, no, I did not pay rent. Some people however, do
@@ReggieBryant Cool.
I was forced to as well as told if I left I wasn't welcome back. Lucky yall to have parents that actually care.
@@HotepOurobo when are you allowed to leave then?
@@britneyt9253 when I actually have a secure gig/job and my credit is right. Until then, never.
@@HotepOurobo it should be that very controlling energy alone that motivates you to be out on your own. I had to pay rent when I was 18 and at home. But it was my mother that I paid. She never told my father that I was giving her money. One day, while she was in the next room LISTENING, he cussed me out for being a freeloader living at home and not paying rent. She never opened her mouth. And when I told him that I was paying, he was genuinely shocked. He didn’t know. I made up my mind right then I was moving out and not coming back. I found an actually really nice house that rented rooms to Christian young adults. I lived there until I could afford my own studio apartment. I worked hard, put myself through college but most importantly I lived way under my means until I could do better each step of the way. You can do it. You deserve the good life but you gotta be in position to give it to yourself.
No reason I just want to live a luxury lifestyle
no. Just stay at home with your parents.
@@ohhhhhnooooo I respectfully disagree. But everyone is free to do what they want 😃
@@ReggieBryant why? To impress who? Nobody cares.