Why this breakup can be a blessing for your Relationship

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  • @sophiachin1262
    @sophiachin1262 Рік тому +31

    All things meant to be will be. Choose wisely and forward. Evil must go and good is welcome to stay. Keep it simple. Relationships and love and all that stuff is not as hard as confused, narcissistic, selfish, damaged, broken, hurt or hateful people make it. The issue is full disclosure, honesty, compatibility, chemistry and all that must be present.

  • @IslandGurl85
    @IslandGurl85 Рік тому +30

    Agree the breakup is a blessing it’s hard I was with a guy he left me as he said he loves me but just doesn’t want the relationship
    14 years of wasted time. But I’m
    Glad I never had kids or married him.
    He was a good guy but not for me.
    I have no hard feelings, just hate that we planned a life brought a house then he decided shit got to hard. No longer wanted to try.
    I don’t miss the arguments, I’m at peace as I no longer have to worry about him one less person to worry about.
    It does get lonely at home but I’m happy. That’s all the matters to me
    Focus on me 2023 is all about me

    • @IsjahhSharifff
      @IsjahhSharifff 5 місяців тому

      How are you now? I’m dealing with the same thing

  • @houseofstories020
    @houseofstories020 Рік тому +16

    At this point, don't care if he comes back. I just want to be okay 😔🥺😓

  • @psnob
    @psnob Рік тому +14

    This break up is the first time in my life I am looking at it as a positive. Yes, it hurts...but when I decided to accept it and sit in the experience...it has become an awakening. Thank you for your knowledge and expertise to shed light on this topic.

  • @bethanyhabs
    @bethanyhabs Рік тому +72

    Broke up yesterday. I really don’t give a f and I’m soo thankful to God about it. I kept on begging for his attention and kept struggling to know where I belonged in his life . He wasn’t even being open with me and everything has been rubbish. I know God cut this off because I’ve learnt the lesson and if I stayed longer, it would have hurt me. I just hope that I won’t start feeling sad about this. I’m feeling soo okay right now and I love it😭💫
    **update
    I clearly see why God took it away. I have never seen such a fluent liar and a mastermind manipulator in my life ever!!!

    • @queensun6059
      @queensun6059 Рік тому +4

      feeln sad 😔is expected but force yourself to push threw it by staying busy and no contact, no matter what. u deserve to be cherished, spoiled, & always treated like the princess 👸u r. anyone who's not doing that needs to stay gone & far away from you. he will only hurt u more bc he doesn't recognize a real diamond💎 he most likely never will. & it ain't your job to teach him anything. it your job to put yourself 1st & get a better man 👨not go back to a trash man.

    • @bethanyhabs
      @bethanyhabs Рік тому +3

      @@queensun6059 😭😭😭this is really really what I needed at the moment thank you soo much you literally have no idea😭😭❤️💫

    • @bethanyhabs
      @bethanyhabs Рік тому +7

      @@queensun6059 I’m still a virgin and I intend to keep it that way😌 God found me earlier on in my life and that I will forever be grateful for. My sister and I have been on the no sex thing and just a few days ago, her friend gave birth with the dad no where to be found. No judgement tho but it always returns back as a slap as I’ve seen soo far. Thanks for the advice I’ll make sure to check the channel out☺️💫 anyone else reading this comment like she said, “IF THE RING FINGER IS NAKED, THE BODY SHOULDN’T BE!!!” 😂😂❤️

    • @gregmoverley7525
      @gregmoverley7525 Рік тому

      Bless You For this Important Information

    • @gregmoverley7525
      @gregmoverley7525 Рік тому +1

      Good Morning Sir. Just want to Say Thank You for Your Peaceful Calm Approach to these Situations ! Very Much Appreciated ! Have a Blessed Day. Your Doi g a Phenomenal Great Job ! Best Wishes Greg. Melbourne Australia.

  • @IslandGurl85
    @IslandGurl85 Рік тому +9

    The relationship breakup is a blessing we no longer are together. As I have realised I will no longer tolerate a weak man. I deserve better once you walk out of my life no 2nd chances

  • @_Arisupdates
    @_Arisupdates Рік тому +25

    You are such a gift. I’ve been watching ur videos for awhile.
    Good men still exist. ❤

    • @blacademic
      @blacademic  Рік тому +5

      Thank you Ari! You are too kind

    • @vik1974
      @vik1974 3 місяці тому

      I’m doing a martathon of these videos on repeat. Helping me a lot

  • @christoffervik9997
    @christoffervik9997 Рік тому +18

    Your calmness made me stop hyperventilating and crying

    • @danielevans6127
      @danielevans6127 Рік тому +1

      I feel this bro

    • @thomesc6214
      @thomesc6214 Рік тому

      Watch Coach Lee videos as well. Hope you are doing better.

    • @christoffervik9997
      @christoffervik9997 Рік тому +1

      @@thomesc6214 yeah man.

    • @thomesc6214
      @thomesc6214 Рік тому

      @@christoffervik9997 best of luck I know it is hard. Today was a difficult day but I am getting stronger everyday. Stay strong!

    • @christoffervik9997
      @christoffervik9997 Рік тому +1

      @@thomesc6214 we made a New beginning, stronger than ever. It was HELL for 11 weeks before we could agree and resovle our matters. Hope you are doing well.

  • @Wittylee8828
    @Wittylee8828 Рік тому +7

    Am done with that bad guy
    I know my worth now

  • @ac800
    @ac800 Рік тому +9

    Your amazing and your voice is so comforting. Been listening to you every day . Thank you for making us feel a bit better during this challenging time.

  • @noraammirati1136
    @noraammirati1136 Рік тому +3

    Got dumped about a week ago. Haven't felt this good in years! Best thing that has happened in a while. Just disappointed that I stayed as long as I did. Many wasted years!! Never again.

  • @lakshmanmp
    @lakshmanmp Рік тому

    Thank you so much for your videos. I am 47 now, and I still remember my Ex every day. I went no-contact on , at 16 after I was into her for 2 years. She contacted me on Facebook when I was 38, sending me condolences after my father left us . But since I was badly pissed off with her, I did not reciprocate. It's a consolation to know that she hasn't forgotten me. Thank you again, for letting me know that.

  • @KXXNG5
    @KXXNG5 Рік тому +4

    Whatever this guy says please listen to him , trust me he knows what he’s saying

  • @chrishardy7781
    @chrishardy7781 Рік тому +40

    Broke up just over 3 months ago we have a kid together but she moved on by talking to someone less than a month after we broke up and there dating now she avoided sitting down and talking with me and she gave me a lot of confusion of I have love for you but not in love with you and I just need space and time and I miss the little things but yet she bare face lied to me about not talking or seeing someone else like I’m here second choice not only that I feel disrespected because I know she was lying so tbh right it’s probably has been a blessing in disguise as I was gonna propose to her last year

    • @Claire.999
      @Claire.999 Рік тому +3

      Damn bro I'm going thru the same. And it's my first child smfh.

    • @Claire.999
      @Claire.999 Рік тому +5

      They will never tell the fuckin truth. And we be feeling they lying the whole time

    • @obiej17
      @obiej17 Рік тому

      Dang. I literally got told the exact same stuff and she avoided me to no end. I have my Suspicions shes lying to me and is talking to someone although she denies it.

    • @chrismthethwaglen3172
      @chrismthethwaglen3172 Рік тому +2

      It's good that you forget with that nonsense!! Respect yourself my friend

    • @roothelegend182
      @roothelegend182 Рік тому +2

      That’s rough man I’m sorry to just know what she’s doing won’t last it never does it’s just to make you feel like shit inside and hopefully you fall apart you just have to stay strong and watch in time how things will plan out

  • @loiswambugu3738
    @loiswambugu3738 Рік тому +3

    Thank you for everything you’re doing to make this difficult journey easier! Your advice is right on.

  • @SentilongJamir777
    @SentilongJamir777 7 місяців тому

    For me it's a blessing i told her straight i will be working on myself but if she goes around dating someone i will never take her back. She left because i became comfortable in my own space i lost myself and the Spark I was kinda abusive with words so i made the situation worse learning to work on my bad mouth and start a better life. Taking this opportunity to find myself and work on myself.

    • @alishabogan7557
      @alishabogan7557 2 місяці тому

      It’s good you identified you were the problem, but it sounds a bit manipulative to tell her you won’t take her back if she doesn’t wait for you to heal yourself.

  • @seanpmick6374
    @seanpmick6374 Рік тому +5

    The best advice, hands-down

  • @Qhy-sn1xp
    @Qhy-sn1xp Рік тому +1

    Thanks king keep blessing us with this positive knowledge

  • @titanniki412
    @titanniki412 Рік тому +8

    my Ex GF suffers from Bi Polar. After 2 1/2 months of research she has all the traits of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. I use to blame her actions on her illness. New Years day, I went for a long drive, had a talk with myself. I said BS, she knew exactly what she was doing. I'm holding her accountable for her actions. When I got home I watched a video from Diagnosed NPD Lee Hammock, Mental Healing. The video had just came in when I was driving. Topic was Does a Narcissist know what they are Doing? Is answer was YES!!! This came from a Diagnosed NPD. It validated my feelings!!!

    • @starttakinnotez
      @starttakinnotez Рік тому +2

      Bro me too! Lmfao. My ex knows what she's doing. She's trying to triangulate me with the new supply but I've gone radio silent. I'm adding a lot of songs to a playlist she can see on Spotify if she looks me up and it's all about being happy. I'm not letting her ruin my mood anymore. She's going to regret losing what she had and I'm going to make it look like I'll be open to taking her back when she goes to therapy for narcissism. & I won't take her back. I just want her to get the damn diagnosis and to leave people alone.

  • @gracemat9474
    @gracemat9474 Рік тому

    There is no point in going back because they never change

  • @jeaneengant6771
    @jeaneengant6771 Рік тому +1

    I’m listening now while at the gym

  • @jameswilcox8920
    @jameswilcox8920 Рік тому +3

    Coach Black you are the man bro I'm enjoying your video and getting something out of it

  • @JK-xo1pd
    @JK-xo1pd Рік тому +6

    It been over a month since the break up. I don’t think she care about me anymore, 4 years of being there for her and 4 years of relationship … it hurt like hell. I am suffering everyday while she probably doesn’t even care anymore.

    • @marksmangamingchannel6838
      @marksmangamingchannel6838 9 місяців тому

      9 years for me broke up 6 wks ago.. we have a 6 yr old hard doin no contact but only txt for our son.. tryin to be the best me an best dad i can be.. i made mistakes but im correcting them.. hopefully one day ill get her back .. feelings an love i have for her ive never felt for any one

  • @shanawazahamed3759
    @shanawazahamed3759 Рік тому +2

    God bless you

  • @andraumidawoodard60
    @andraumidawoodard60 Рік тому

    Do you have one on yourfirst date after healing from an ex and moving on? How you know you are ready and how to identify red flags?

  • @thomesc6214
    @thomesc6214 Рік тому

    Another brilliant video. Thank you mate your kind words are necessary and uplifting.

  • @gregmoverley7525
    @gregmoverley7525 Рік тому

    Thank You Coach Black for Your Sage Wise Advice ! You make Perfect Sense To me !

  • @shivangigohil4183
    @shivangigohil4183 Рік тому

    Thank you ❤so very much....hope my gratitude and love is reaching to you❤

  • @Snakelds
    @Snakelds Рік тому +3

    We broke up 3 months ago and now she in a two month relationship where she met mr. perfect and in love. We have a child together and she have blocked me on everything bc I decided to not chase and moved on. So she keeping my child from me while promoting her new man as a perfect stepdad and even talking about marriage and so in love with each other after he met her family.

  • @jameskahn6556
    @jameskahn6556 Рік тому +1

    Big fan. Thank you Coach

  • @najmahabrahams856
    @najmahabrahams856 Рік тому +4

    You amazing 🎉thank you coach Blac ✨

  • @donnamaly7168
    @donnamaly7168 Рік тому +1

    Love your channel. Thank you!

  • @naomirivera4837
    @naomirivera4837 Рік тому

    Yes it was a blessing thank God

  • @andreatorluemke4982
    @andreatorluemke4982 Рік тому +1

    You are amazing!❤

  • @donaldmurchison7549
    @donaldmurchison7549 Рік тому

    Thank you.

  • @oscarsaucedo1310
    @oscarsaucedo1310 7 місяців тому +1

    the problem with the woman I use to date is the age

  • @bonniemorgan7215
    @bonniemorgan7215 Рік тому +1

    Nah...he does not miss me nor going through pain. He is a narcissist and we have been thru the cycle many times. He always has a hooch lined up. Done this time. Bye Felicia

  • @vernasmith1108
    @vernasmith1108 Рік тому

    It scares him to death that I can move on with someone else. I It also scares him to death. That another man could be living in this house and it's not him.

  • @KendraWalker-z4t
    @KendraWalker-z4t Рік тому

    Well this might sound crazy put my ex aint even tell me he break up with me until i ask because he was acting funny i just dont understand how can u was with 1yr i dont know how long he wanted to do this was talking bout building a life together everything I'm hurt but I'm slowly healing

  • @lets_win_shine
    @lets_win_shine Рік тому +4

    I like ur content in videos, very Understable☺. Now I am ur fan😄🤩🤞🙌

    • @blacademic
      @blacademic  Рік тому +1

      Thank you! I appreciate it

    • @DetroitNative313
      @DetroitNative313 Рік тому

      Yea me too. Keep the content coming. You're helping a lot of brothers out here including me.

  • @Parth-du1dt
    @Parth-du1dt Рік тому +4

    I got unblocked 3 months after breakup. She contacted me asking for forgiveness and was sorry for breaking up. What should I do ?

    • @typicalsigmamale4908
      @typicalsigmamale4908 Рік тому

      You should not act to excited. Act like you are cool about the break up and if you want to get back together with her I would wait a little bit and give her a short response.

    • @MuhammadIdrees-og1el
      @MuhammadIdrees-og1el Рік тому +1

      Act like casual and show her you are happy without her, tell her I will think about it, thats way your future will be very bright and she will be the one who is investing
      Watch coach lee on youtube " what to do when your ex reaches out"

    • @queensun6059
      @queensun6059 Рік тому +1

      she will dump u again guaranteed esp. w/o proof that she's done massive personal development to significantly risks working thru relationship issues👏

    • @IslandGurl85
      @IslandGurl85 Рік тому

      Don’t forgive her because of her. Forgiveness is for you. If you don’t want to then dont.
      Just dont respond keep to the no contact
      Sorry doesn’t do anything , she just wants closure to feel better.

  • @dang9269
    @dang9269 Рік тому +1

    Was with a woman for 2 years I made alot of mistakes to which she blocked I chased she unblocked to get blocked again we got back together got then a few months go by we argue she blocks I chased blocked unblocked then back together this is the 3 rd time Iv been blocked after an argument what do I do if I want her back?

    • @Causetonight
      @Causetonight Рік тому +1

      Nothing let her come to you or move on bro sounds toxic

    • @dang9269
      @dang9269 Рік тому

      @@Causetonight she toxic or me?

    • @Causetonight
      @Causetonight Рік тому +1

      @@dang9269 the relationship

  • @lucywood4988
    @lucywood4988 Рік тому +5

    Blocked everywhere what to do

    • @blacademic
      @blacademic  Рік тому +7

      Nothing To do at this point. Love is ALLOWING. Let your ex choose to be in your life or not. When you let go and focus on your own life, they may notice and come back on their own

    • @lucywood4988
      @lucywood4988 Рік тому +1

      @@blacademic thank you 🙏

    • @queensun6059
      @queensun6059 Рік тому +1

      focus on making more money 💰, getting stronger mentally & physically. force yourself toward keep moving forward by staying super busy & you'll forget she blocked 🚫u.

  • @Lovesbule
    @Lovesbule Рік тому

    Any videos or advice on baby mamas?

  • @pamelar4456
    @pamelar4456 Рік тому +4

    Hello I liked and sent a heart ❤️ someone contacted me with a phone number they said they can help me. I was not asking for help I was just praising your channel and you for your insight..

    • @blacademic
      @blacademic  Рік тому +3

      Please be careful. I am not reaching out to ANYONE to offer help. It is a scam. All the people I have coached usually just book a call directly through the link in my video description

    • @benithacalloway8286
      @benithacalloway8286 Рік тому +1

      @@blacademic thank you 🙏🏽❤️😂

    • @martiniloganmartinilogan83
      @martiniloganmartinilogan83 Рік тому

      It's not him so don't call that number

  • @benithacalloway8286
    @benithacalloway8286 Рік тому +2

    I missed it ☺️

  • @Hereforthemusic.
    @Hereforthemusic. Рік тому

    I played this at 1.5x speed and it still sounds a little slower than normal. Did you slow down this video intentionally?

  • @חניאהרון
    @חניאהרון Рік тому

    ❤❤❤❤❤

  • @bequinglenn9456
    @bequinglenn9456 Рік тому +7

    She was the one who dumped me and now she’s suggesting a friendship should I accept it cuz I want her back

    • @Lunaiee
      @Lunaiee Рік тому +13

      never

    • @_VIZIONARY_
      @_VIZIONARY_ Рік тому +2

      Look into this more for answers on this platform if you want her back don’t just deny it

    • @benithacalloway8286
      @benithacalloway8286 Рік тому +4

      Yes!!!! but fake the friendship and go out and kiss her

    • @bequinglenn9456
      @bequinglenn9456 Рік тому +3

      @@benithacalloway8286 we’ve been doing such stuffs except sex

    • @chrismthethwaglen3172
      @chrismthethwaglen3172 Рік тому +6

      Want her back to do what? She left for a reason. Don't recollect dumped waste, respect yourself

  • @etherealexperience4302
    @etherealexperience4302 Рік тому

    does anyone else hear a very annoying buzzing sound

  • @KjDaKiDDo
    @KjDaKiDDo 9 місяців тому

    ✊🏽

  • @Cookie-wt4uz
    @Cookie-wt4uz Рік тому

    He gave me a closure saying he is dating someone else and to forget him , will he still come back?

    • @GalloVerdesFarms
      @GalloVerdesFarms Рік тому +3

      They moved on from us they are people who give up in life easily

    • @queensun6059
      @queensun6059 Рік тому +3

      u should hope not. u deserve a man who'd never leave u. work on raising your self-esteem, goals & staying busy so u don't ever ask about a man who threw u away. instead get a better man

    • @IslandGurl85
      @IslandGurl85 Рік тому +2

      @@GalloVerdesFarms agree fake love they only love you when it’s good and they are happy but real love shows up when times a tough. That’s why when you get dumped it’s because they have given up trying

    • @samia6888
      @samia6888 Рік тому

      He will try to come back after the relationship fails. I hope by then you actually did forget him.

    • @queensun6059
      @queensun6059 Рік тому

      @@GalloVerdesFarms true 👍

  • @chrisprewitt3105
    @chrisprewitt3105 Рік тому

    I will never be with another woman again my heart belongs to one woman and that Jo-Ann Guzman