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Thanks, Meshidasan! I am born and raised in the US but ethnically Japanese. While I am mostly culturally American, I do retain some Japanese culture from my parents and grandparents. The one thing that I don't care for in Japanese culture is that they don't want to appear impolite or rude, so they will actually lie to avoid that. Tatemae is a good example. It's not malicious and I know it's to prevent hurt feelings but for me, I rather save time and be told the truth up front.
@daenackdranils5624 it’s western-style comedy and arguably very educational for those who see Japan through rose-colored glasses. Personally, I love Japan and appreciate how well he sees both sides. (There are definitely 2 sides). He has a unique perspective.
Tatemae: "Meshida-san, you are very impressive. At 34, you have an interesting job, and you took me on a unique restaurant for this date." Honne: "Ken-san, I don't care if you have a small banana. All the women in the retirement village will be jealous when they see me dating you."
Thank God. Japan doesn’t need anymore Weeaboos and Anime Otaku. It helps separate those who are going there for something more honest and respectful and those who are just wastes of space
Meshida, you're the funniest Japanese I've ever seen and you are so informative at the same time. Had I known this earlier my life in Japan would have been easier.
This is one of the main reasons 98% of women in Japan are still wearing masks: it relieves them of the painful obligation to smile all the time while telling flattering lies. They still feel obligated to tell the gentle lies, but at least they don't have to fake a smile. I'm serious about this.
No it's not, they're conforming to society wearing masks. in the majority like ALL Japanese. The Japanese have been wearing masks in public since the early 00's and SARS. Women across the world fake-smile all the time so there's nothing special about Japanese women in this regard. In fact women smile more than men is another statistic as they generally have stronger social skills such as dissimulation, mirroring, reading body language, picking up on cues such as vocal or emotional state etc.
We need just enough tatemae to keep us from clawing each other's eyes out. But I swear, putting on a public face and keeping it on all the damn time is a prison. You get old enough, you appreciate the liberating honesty of just saying and hearing the weirdness in everyone's heart.
An interesting thing about the use of “tatamae” in interactions is that it’s not really seen as dishonest. The speaker is just using the socially appropriate communication style for that situation. Anyway, people usually give clues to let you know when they’re not saying their true feeling but just being polite… it’s up to the listener to pick up on these cues. Tone of voice, facial expression, level of formality… subtleties that are definitely harder to pick up if you weren’t raised in Japan. (Or if you’re just “KY”. 😆 )
We never learn to breath the air as the same we never learn about reading the air especially when things already complicated letter system romaji katakana hiragana and kanji, and in what letter exactly is they write the air and is it in keigo teneigo sonkeigo kenjougo form. Joke aside as an artist now I understand why there's wabisabi and zen, it's because to balance with kodawari.
3:52 Ahhh...This hurts so bad. I once actually believed a woman when she said that she will contact me when she has time, and was waiting for her to contact me within a few days. It slowly sunk in that was just her way of politely refusing my invitation. I have now grown up and don't fall for false promises.
@@neotimekeeper6592 Agreed especially when cultures differ so much i.e. US culture and Japanese culture but maybe this is also what makes experiencing the Otherness so cool. You start questioning your certainties and ways of thinking, making you grow as person
@@microraptorguyxu_et_al2431 Exactly! To be honest, that is the problem with most westerners, they expected the country to adapt to their comfort zone, they wanted to experience the luxury they have at their home country instead of trying to enjoy the uniqueness of the country they are visiting.
I don’t understand how Meshida isn’t drowning in women! He is so good at pointing out behavior and being charming. Then again I‘m a man so my opinion doesn’t count.
Thanks Meshida for another wonderful and exciting video. Just wanted to let all of the wonderful and beautiful ladies there in Japan that " I am very susceptible to flattery ", so please continue to say all the wonderful things to me that are not true. 😢😢😢
I used to watch your videos when i was interested in Japan. Your videos are informative. I love your videos. I still like Japanese women do to their kind nature
If someone asks what your job is (wanting to know your salary), and then keeps saying "how interesting" (not caring about the details), they literally asked for it, and then encouraged it. Entirely their own fault. it should be a lesson to them to not be so deceptive and indirect.
Hahaha. 😂 . Meshida San. U r really a champion. Best of the best. I just can't stop laughing watching your videos. Even by looking at your face I already started laughing 😂. Well done. Keep it up.
Tatemae always reminded me of American country euphemisms, especially ones like "Bless your heart," "Over the shoulder boulder holder," and "Me-n-you are gonna mix." The only difference is where Tatemae keeps everything modest; euphemisms let colorful descriptors paint a picture.
So, how would someone point out Tatemai, or the other social conventions that produce…. well lies that are being told to us by a Japanese speaker? What is the format to express the understanding of these social conventions and while I’m on Rome, I still don’t want to to use the vomitorium?
This is less common in Kansai women as they don't care about being rude. But reading the air is still important. If you get angry with them or use honne they will ghost you.
I can see why so many Japanese woman are home alone type or un-marriage type. Arigato for showing the real meaning behind these tatemae language. Does this also part of birth rate decline happen in Japan also?
Hilarious. I love this. Actually all women are the same. Just women in America use something like sweet talk or pillow talk. At least Japanese women are polite about it. But it is good to know what they are really thinking.
😂 this dictionary is very useful. I desire honesty more than politeness so I probably would remain single for life. On a similar note, how is it possible for them to keep up this facade when they aren’t even professional actresses.
Very funny - especially Ken-San's "STFU!" The bes translator I've ever heard ! Oddly, I admire how the Japanese adhere to politeness - are Western women rude in comparison? One might appreciate the attentiveness (perhaps in a strange way).
i feel like this is more informative than a comedy cause i seen many japanese shows where some japanese tend not to be honest on giving answers even if it obvious just in order not to hurt others :(
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Your videos are amazing.
Western women do the same thing. It is called ghosting.
What about the women from Osaka that are from the Kansi(Kinki) region? Same kind of bitches?
Meshida-san practices tatemae with all his viewers by liking all their comments
I actually think it is Ken-san
@@raul0ca Ken-san is a pimp
He really does
😂
Thanks, Meshidasan! I am born and raised in the US but ethnically Japanese. While I am mostly culturally American, I do retain some Japanese culture from my parents and grandparents. The one thing that I don't care for in Japanese culture is that they don't want to appear impolite or rude, so they will actually lie to avoid that. Tatemae is a good example. It's not malicious and I know it's to prevent hurt feelings but for me, I rather save time and be told the truth up front.
The biggest surprise to western men is that Japanese women are ... women. Thanks for performing this holy duty, Meshida san.
some of them are anyway.
Same 💩 different country.
Yeah… you’ve peeled away the first 3-4 layers of the onion. Maybe. Lol
100% agreed, they are, in the first place, women. Once a Japanese woman said that to me.
@daenackdranils5624 it’s western-style comedy and arguably very educational for those who see Japan through rose-colored glasses. Personally, I love Japan and appreciate how well he sees both sides. (There are definitely 2 sides). He has a unique perspective.
Tatemae: "Meshida-san, you are very impressive. At 34, you have an interesting job, and you took me on a unique restaurant for this date."
Honne: "Ken-san, I don't care if you have a small banana. All the women in the retirement village will be jealous when they see me dating you."
😂😂😂
Why you want to bringing a banana to begin with so she can tell you how small your banana is?
Ha! Ha! Ha! Ha!
I bet Ken-San is packing a unit. He speaks softly but carries a big stick.
Those are both good things
3:39 - Meshida-san, that's not only in Japan)))
Thank you)
Meshida slowly dismantling the fairy tale fantasy we westerners have about Japan.
Once you date one, then you'll see their skeletons coming out of their closet
Even me i got more and more shocked. They are Like different breed!
Yep, jav is not at all. Let'$ focus on real. Honestly, i laugh a lot watching subtitles..ha ha😂
Thank God. Japan doesn’t need anymore Weeaboos and Anime Otaku. It helps separate those who are going there for something more honest and respectful and those who are just wastes of space
Very funny and it was good to see Ken Suzuki make an appearance
I friggin love Ken, lol
Groucho Marx: "When I invite a woman to dinner, I expect her to look at my face. That's the price she has to pay."
Great!
Meshida, you're the funniest Japanese I've ever seen and you are so informative at the same time. Had I known this earlier my life in Japan would have been easier.
This is one of the main reasons 98% of women in Japan are still wearing masks: it relieves them of the painful obligation to smile all the time while telling flattering lies. They still feel obligated to tell the gentle lies, but at least they don't have to fake a smile. I'm serious about this.
Yes it is serious. There's even a video about it by "Japan Reporter" here on YT.
Wow, thanks man
yes, since in Japan smiling, laughing means nothing, it's on the same level as breathing.
No it's not, they're conforming to society wearing masks. in the majority like ALL Japanese. The Japanese have been wearing masks in public since the early 00's and SARS.
Women across the world fake-smile all the time so there's nothing special about Japanese women in this regard. In fact women smile more than men is another statistic as they generally have stronger social skills such as dissimulation, mirroring, reading body language, picking up on cues such as vocal or emotional state etc.
I thought it was because it can make a 4 look like an 8.
We need just enough tatemae to keep us from clawing each other's eyes out. But I swear, putting on a public face and keeping it on all the damn time is a prison. You get old enough, you appreciate the liberating honesty of just saying and hearing the weirdness in everyone's heart.
An interesting thing about the use of “tatamae” in interactions is that it’s not really seen as dishonest. The speaker is just using the socially appropriate communication style for that situation. Anyway, people usually give clues to let you know when they’re not saying their true feeling but just being polite… it’s up to the listener to pick up on these cues. Tone of voice, facial expression, level of formality… subtleties that are definitely harder to pick up if you weren’t raised in Japan.
(Or if you’re just “KY”. 😆 )
Couldn't Japanese people just have subtitles for their "tatemae" ? Would make things so much easier 😂
We never learn to breath the air as the same we never learn about reading the air especially when things already complicated letter system romaji katakana hiragana and kanji, and in what letter exactly is they write the air and is it in keigo teneigo sonkeigo kenjougo form. Joke aside as an artist now I understand why there's wabisabi and zen, it's because to balance with kodawari.
Kiken yochi? 😅
@@JonahReidJessar “Kuuki Yomenai” 空気-読めない。 (Can’t ‘read the air’. ie people who are unable to pick up on social clues.)
早く入れて tatemae got me cracking up.
Thank you for your words of wisdom Meshida-San 🫡
3:52 Ahhh...This hurts so bad. I once actually believed a woman when she said that she will contact me when she has time, and was waiting for her to contact me within a few days.
It slowly sunk in that was just her way of politely refusing my invitation. I have now grown up and don't fall for false promises.
Very funny and educational, Meshida-sensei! The language of love maybe universal but it still has different accents :)
We need more of this.
Praise our man of culture for doing a great service to humanity.
Thank you so much with these golden videos, every video feels like obtaining cheat codes to unlock Japan gameplay
Hahaha
And then understand Japan gameplay is difficult af just like a mix of a business simulation game and a graphic novel in the shape of a Dark Soul game
@@microraptorguyxu_et_al2431 True, going to a different country just really feels like that, as if entering into an unknown territory.
@@neotimekeeper6592 Agreed especially when cultures differ so much i.e. US culture and Japanese culture but maybe this is also what makes experiencing the Otherness so cool. You start questioning your certainties and ways of thinking, making you grow as person
@@microraptorguyxu_et_al2431 Exactly! To be honest, that is the problem with most westerners, they expected the country to adapt to their comfort zone, they wanted to experience the luxury they have at their home country instead of trying to enjoy the uniqueness of the country they are visiting.
I don’t understand how Meshida isn’t drowning in women! He is so good at pointing out behavior and being charming. Then again I‘m a man so my opinion doesn’t count.
he should ask lie chan
Imagine Meshida-sensei work as host in host club, it will ended up he is the one who paying for champagne call LoL
How to get rid of Tatemae from a girl:
Split a bill
Drink too much
Finish too quickly
😂😂😂😂
Generally if you do 1 and 2 you’ll never get to 3! 😂😂😂
@@06dak69 Just no. 1 is enough. You won't even have the chance to do 2 and 3. 😂
and marry her...
Tell her you got fired from your job.
こんなビデオ初めて観たわ！😉
I've never watched a video like this before!
As a woman, I understand why one would do this. But this is just next lvl. 😂
0:20 "If you are..." Shows image with title "lolicon". I see what you did there, Meshida-san.
I wish I had seen this video before I went to Japan the first time. 😅 面白かったです
Informative and funny 😂
The words are dry but your delivery and facial expressions make them so darn funny.
thank you for this insightful and informative video. I refer now to men and pets.
I really want to hear more about it on the next episode 😊
best channel to learn about japan!
😂 your facial expressions are killing me 😂😂😂 what a trait!!!
I've experienced a few of those things when I've gone to Japan. Thanks for teaching me.
Thanks Meshida for another wonderful and exciting video.
Just wanted to let all of the wonderful and beautiful ladies there in Japan that " I am very susceptible to flattery ", so please continue to say all the wonderful things to me that are not true. 😢😢😢
It's make me laugh all day, thank you Meshida-san.
Thank you for that video it's very funny (and useful too 😊)
Fun video Meshida :) you deserve more views
Life lessons learned from meshida san , Arigato 🙏
I feel like Meshida-san is, slowly but steady, digging his own grave with women.
Greetings from Spain!!
I used to watch your videos when i was interested in Japan. Your videos are informative. I love your videos. I still like Japanese women do to their kind nature
Thanks for the video Meshida-san
I'm crying...from laughter.
Meshida the best Japanese stand up comedian.
Owww Ken Suzuki- san❤ also japanese men use "you should be very popular". I have experienced that😂
Ken-san cameo was perfect
Meshida Sama, thank 😊 for the great video 📹 and informative nature. #Thursdaya
Good content again Meshida san
This was hella hilarious. I guess some things are consistent no matter what country or culture 🤣.
If someone asks what your job is (wanting to know your salary), and then keeps saying "how interesting" (not caring about the details), they literally asked for it, and then encouraged it. Entirely their own fault. it should be a lesson to them to not be so deceptive and indirect.
Hahaha. 😂 . Meshida San. U r really a champion. Best of the best. I just can't stop laughing watching your videos. Even by looking at your face I already started laughing 😂. Well done. Keep it up.
Ken Suzuki San too. Very funny and cool. 1st class comedians
Confirmed 100% correct.
Este video me rompió el corazón www, great video Tomodachi Meshida.
1:32
Reminds me:
I've heard about a guy, who was something like 30, but pretended to be 50, to receive compliments on "how young" he looked.
参考になった！今回の知識と留意を以て活かしたいと思います
This explains a lot.
🤣🤣🤣🤣
Meshida-san what about Japanese men? What kind of Tatemae do they? Please make a video about it 🙏 😅
Totally agree. I was thinking about the same😄
All I got from this is to take everything that is told to you like sarcasm.
Will there be a follow up video of the tatamae of the Japanese man? This is important information.
Tatemae always reminded me of American country euphemisms, especially ones like "Bless your heart," "Over the shoulder boulder holder," and "Me-n-you are gonna mix."
The only difference is where Tatemae keeps everything modest; euphemisms let colorful descriptors paint a picture.
There is a lot of similarity between southern usa culture and japanese. Both honor/shame cultures.
Thank you for the explanation Meshida-san ❤ I watched till the end. Very informative and relatable.
“Don’t worry once you get married…..”. Guttural giggle.
Never understood those mysteries of the mind in Japanese women. Meshida sensei arigatou!
Very interesting 🧐. This explains the plethora of videos about male Japanese virgins.
Correct me if I'm wrong but is that not almost international? 👀 Except in some countries they are more direct.
Very useful info. No wonder why so many young Japanese men stay single saying 'why bother with that sh!t when I have the internet whenever I need it'.
not just Japan
MESHIDA
Mashida sun you are the King of Comedy equal to Peter Sellers , Eddie Murphy and Mighty Boosh
So funny but so true! The "ashita shigoto aru kara" is classic 😂😂😂! That's when the say bye bye with what I call "the tokyu hands"!😂😂
I’m addicted to your videos 😂 Please do a male version dictionary for us ladies 🫠
hello Meshida
thank you 👍👍👍👍
think most women do this across the globe. its been done to me. if they are a model or work in service industry they resort to polite b.s.
LOL!! Meshida you are really hilarious! For real, not Tatemae. Keep up the comedy! 👍👍
Super funny.
I pity those fools who spend 10 years learning Japanese and then another 10 years learning it doesn't say what it means :))
Who takes ten years to learn a language even the hardest ones only take a few years like Japanese especially with all the tools.
also can you add some hiragana on top of kanji so I could read it thanks
That's harsh. I know it's comedy, but if the women are that fake I may as well drop the Japanese lessons now.
HAHAHAHAHHA!! THIS WAS GREAT
So, how would someone point out Tatemai, or the other social conventions that produce…. well lies that are being told to us by a Japanese speaker? What is the format to express the understanding of these social conventions and while I’m on Rome, I still don’t want to to use the vomitorium?
So when my Japanese tutor keeps saying I'm doing a good job - she actually thinks I suck - オーマイゴッド!
This is less common in Kansai women as they don't care about being rude. But reading the air is still important. If you get angry with them or use honne they will ghost you.
Tell me about it! I'm married to one. 😅
I thought tatemae was a Kyoto-thing, not the whole country. These explanations are awesome 😂
I can see why so many Japanese woman are home alone type or un-marriage type. Arigato for showing the real meaning behind these tatemae language. Does this also part of birth rate decline happen in Japan also?
brutha you don't have to say that much of true.
Probly
Hahahahahhaah omg lol
I think i can relate to some of it 😂😂😂 dang, must be careful to this tatemae thingy😂😂😂
Again, thanks for opening my eyes 😂😂😂
Man, speaking of Japanese women putting up tattemae, I think all women ghost, but Japanese women take ghosting to the next level. Seriously.
How so? I mean seriously, how do you take silence to the next level?
@@JoshuaGonzalez-nw1vhThey can be especially misleading before ghosting
@deleteme924 that makes sense.
japanese and korean are so similar. in korean, they have this but it's called "ah-bu" phonetically.
Hopefully, you’ll have a Japanese men version of Tatemae.😂
I am single too bro i understand the struggle
Hilarious. I love this. Actually all women are the same. Just women in America use something like sweet talk or pillow talk. At least Japanese women are polite about it. But it is good to know what they are really thinking.
😂 this dictionary is very useful. I desire honesty more than politeness so I probably would remain single for life. On a similar note, how is it possible for them to keep up this facade when they aren’t even professional actresses.
Meshida you are one funny dude.
Very funny - especially Ken-San's "STFU!" The bes translator I've ever heard !
Oddly, I admire how the Japanese adhere to politeness - are Western women rude in comparison? One might appreciate the attentiveness (perhaps in a strange way).
And so you have completely ruined by my self-confidence, Meshida san. SIGH!😓
I can see through not just Japanese women but also other women's Tatamae >_> their flattery does not deceit me
8K views 1 day ago... although it has never worked for me yet...
if a japanese woman says "LET'S SPLIT THE BILL" I will say, YES
Say YES and then pretend you forgot to bring the wallet. This is already in 101 of how to date with japanese women LoL
Honestly, I would say it too.
However, I (as a independent woman) never understood that. Why should I pay for someone else - he probably eat more than me? I prefer separate bills.
Hilarious!
One of my clients is married to a Japanese Woman. Your videos provide humor and insight. Someday, when I go to Japan, I will see you do comedy. 😃
Man 😅 lol it is very hard to understand woman and you made it more difficult by adding tatemae 😂🤣 Rip foreigner love 😅😂😂
i feel like this is more informative than a comedy cause i seen many japanese shows where some japanese tend not to be honest on giving answers even if it obvious just in order not to hurt others :(
So if Japanese woman want to say: don't call your babycorn cob a banana, she would say: what a tasty still growing cucumber?
Not only some Japanese women,in other countries happened too,