S Barb In the US and most countries parents are required by law and can provide financial support to their child without being married to their other parent. The negative effect of marital tensions in unhappy marriages on children has been studied and found to be profound and lifelong. In many cases, worse than divorce. Children are adversely affected by living with two adults who can' barely stand each other and are unhappy in their lives as a result. It sets up the child for accepting failure and unhappiness in life as their "duty" with a bad marriage as the template for their future relationships. No one is doing their children any favor by staying in a bad marriage.
A relative of mine tried everything with his wife and I know he wasn’t always the kindest man but he supported his wife, she did not have to work. She stayed home in a big, beautiful house. She refused to have intimacies. She refused to talk about why or to talk about their relationship, even after they went to counseling; nothing was solved. He had to go; staying was teaching her and his children that he was not worthy of respect.
This video had some good points, and I see the reasoning for it. On the other hand, as someone who's worked in the field of family law for a while, please allow me to shed some light on some of the realities here. Walking away might very well seem like a great thing to do. It also might feel like a weight has been lifted. However, here are some major uphill battles you will face once you walk away. 1.) You've just left a marriage that had a 54% likely to fail, to enter a new marriage (eventually) that will have a 67% chance of failure. Trending in the wrong direction. 2.) You now go from seeing your kids every single day, to 50% of the time at best. Also, you're now sharing your kids with the very person you left. This can be even worse, because you have no idea what they're saying to the kids while you're away. If the kids googled your names, they will discover that you are the one who filed first. Which can create a space for them to believe that you "broke up the family". Or gave up on the family. 3.) Save your money, because your ex can now take you to court for ANY little thing now, and in most states you are required to respond every single time. That's more days you have to take off work. And more money you have to spend on a revolving door of an issue. 4.) If you and the person you left cannot make decisions together. The powerful person in a robe and gavel will make your decisions for you. They don't know your kids from Adam, but now constructing the plan for your child's future. 5.) The Long lasting emotional effects that divorce has on children. There are 50 year olds out here still walking around with heavy trauma suffered from their parent's divorce. As someone who's experienced divorce, I can say first hand it damn near feels worse than death. It's absolutely tragic. The biggest crime being committed is before people make it to the altar. Individuals are not taking marriage as seriously as it should be taken. When you day I do your life changes forever. Everyone in America considering marriage should take a "Beyond Scared Straight: Divorce Edition" tour. That'll open some eyes. Lol That's the reality.
Thank you for taking the time to share these points! I agree with all of them as realities to be considered when making the decision to leave! Evaluate the pros, cons and your individual reality. Thanks for watching!
I really enjoyed this video. I am going thru my own break up of 8 1/2 years and I am realizing that I checked out over a year ago when key decisions were made without discussing the impact. It still hurts but I know it was the right decision to end the relationship
Do you remember Evil Knievel the guy who jumped over a line of cars on a motorcycle? Leaving a marriage is just the same your either going to land and survive or your going to land and get really banged up bad. Once you leave the ramp you are going to land no matter what you think it isnt going to land the way you think. Prepare for the absolute worst .
I sure wish people would get educate people on the probability of a divorce before they get married. If you get married, 60 percent it ends. 70 percent second marriages. If she is a high earner, or she was fat and loses weight, it's 90 percent she files. Men cannot keep her happy and divorce laws are against men.
I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with a narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my partner's phone, all i did was to share his phone number with (geniustracker) without touching his phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact him to help he is a genius. You can text/call +1 (415) 323-6758 or reach him on WhatsApp +1 (724) 330-3252 and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701) thank me later...
I have the fear of not being able to support myself , if I leave my husband . I had not been able to find employment . I am 59 years old and I want to get some qualifications but one minute he said he will pay for my education then the next minute he won’t pay for my education . He is abusive and I am mentally exhausted . When there is no money there is no freedom .
So what happens to these women after they leave their long term husbands. Are they happy do they have a sexfest with multiple partners. Do they eventually find someone they really like but won't commit or do some eventually marry to find themselves back in the same situation
Guilt has the potential to destroy a great marriage. I know from personal first hand experience and I am still loaded with GUILT . Because I did have choices at my disposal.
I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with a narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my partner's phone, all i did was to share his phone number with (geniustracker) without touching his phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact him to help he is a genius. You can text/call +1 (415) 323-6758 or reach him on WhatsApp +1 (724) 330-3252 and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701) thank me later...
Sin imposes guilt. Guilt subdues a marriage. It is one thing that CHRIST paid the sin debt. But Only You have to either take on guilt or release it. Only You Can Forgive Yourself.
i also hate relationship, man always think that woman is just a doll and maid. Woman should dressed like exactly what he want and do all the chores while man stay on the bed with his phone.
I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with a narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my partner's phone, all i did was to share his phone number with (geniustracker) without touching his phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact him to help he is a genius. You can text/call +1 (415) 323-6758 or reach him on WhatsApp +1 (724) 330-3252 and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701) thank me later...
The ongoing work of karma, reincarnation in relation to a marriage . Only You Can Forgive Yourself . The ETERNAL will not take Your Personal guilt from You.
interesting points ,if anyone else trying to find out stand for your marriage try Nadazma Repair Partner Helper (should be on google have a look ) ? Ive heard some extraordinary things about it and my brother in law got great success with it.
Generally, if the other person has actually kept their vows in more than the letter, the other person doesn't have any desire to want to leave. People act for all the world as if the only vows are those of physical fidelity and 'til death do us part" and they will rail and whine when those are broken while giving no weight to the others that are necessary to support them. Love, in the marital context is not merely a feeling. Love is wanting the best for your mate as much as you want the best for yourself and taking action to achieve that. It means being unselfish. Cherish means "to take care of lovingly". Honor means to recognize and respect that every decision you make or action you take, directly or indirectly, impacts your partner and your relationship, and that must always be at the forefront in your mind and heart. This doesn't mean you aren't entitled to any private thoughts or moments but it means every decision you make, every action you take everything you say impacts the marriage. These vows, which could also be called affirmative duties of marriage are frequently flouted and abused sometimes for decades, long before the other person decides to leave. The person responsible for flouting those other parts of the marital contract has breached it and with that breach, they have opened the door for their partner to leave. They have broken the marital contract first by their action or inaction. The failure to acknowledge that emotional neglect and abandonment are as serious in their effect on the marriage as other kinds of betrayal is the common logic failure we see in these discussions. Marriage is not intended to be an emotional prison or torture chamber that one person keeps another person in with the lock of a marriage vow. Accepting a "Now we're married so I can do whatever I like to you" attitude so many people take toward their spouse is becoming a thing of the past. You actually have to be a good partner to maintain your marriage contract nowadays. "For better or for worse" is intended to refer to sharing outside adversity as partners. It does NOT refer to the idea that marriage is an obligation that continues however badly one spouse decides to treat the other. It is not a license for neglect or abuse, emotional or otherwise.
@@angelablackthorne3026 marriage is a 💩deal that only gets worse! An outdated concept that has had it's day. Less ppl getting married than ever before! Men are walking away from traditional roles.
@@angelablackthorne3026 Thank You Angela!! I hope MANY narcissistic and abusive people read this BRILLIANT letter; recognize themselves and change their ways! But in the strong likelihood that they DON'T!...🤣(being narcissistic, and therefore unable or unwilling to self reflect or take responsibility), I hope that it provides hope to the sufferers; who have tried everything, but will NEVER get anywhere,as they are not seen as an "equal partner" by that narcissist. Be strong in yourself and focus on GOD instead.
Could they get some women that aren't so good looking talking so that it is more relate able? Let's see some average women talking about how they survived the divorce only to find a great new man and life.
I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with a narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my partner's phone, all i did was to share his phone number with (geniustracker) without touching his phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact him to help he is a genius. You can text/call +1 (415) 323-6758 or reach him on WhatsApp +1 (724) 330-3252 and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701) thank me later...
At age 29 I turned to my wife Geri at our front door to say, “Upon my return we will be getting a divorce.” On my business trip I ran into a man I hadn’t seen in seven years. At length he spoke to me of Christ. When finished he asked, “Ken, I feel led of the Holy Spirit to ask if you want to place your faith in Christ as Savior and Lord?” There in his office with humility and repentance for my sins, I yielded to the Lord Jesus Christ. I stood up and heard myself say, “Hallelujah!” With sins forgiven, I was born again! God‘s power changed me inside and out. What about my wife, you ask? The entire story is told here: Ken's Story: ua-cam.com/video/IkhLW5uzCWo/v-deo.html Geri's Story: ua-cam.com/video/JnFKXEJdU_g/v-deo.html
Angela Blackthorne Or I recognize the same old song and dance and the same old two and four and the same old filler words that doesn’t mean anything to those with experience.
Please allow me to speak my thoughts since I am a genius! Number one! If Big Foot was real then why don't they invite one to church? Then Jesus could save him and he would probably take a bath and not stink! Think about it!
“You’re hurting the other person by not being honest.”
Bingo.
Knowing is one thing. Being able to afford to leave when you have a child that depends on you is another
S Barb
In the US and most countries
parents are required by law and can provide financial support to their child without being married to their other parent.
The negative effect of marital tensions in unhappy marriages on children has been studied and found to be profound and lifelong. In many cases, worse than divorce.
Children are adversely affected by living with two adults who can' barely stand each other and are unhappy in their lives as a result.
It sets up the child for accepting failure and unhappiness in life as their "duty" with a bad marriage as the template for their future relationships. No one is doing their children any favor by staying in a bad marriage.
I am 71, I’m being verbally abused. How can I physically move? Where do I go? Who will help me
A relative of mine tried everything with his wife and I know he wasn’t always the kindest man but he supported his wife, she did not have to work. She stayed home in a big, beautiful house. She refused to have intimacies. She refused to talk about why or to talk about their relationship, even after they went to counseling; nothing was solved.
He had to go; staying was teaching her and his children that he was not worthy of respect.
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Real talk tho: what if u follow ur knowing and it leads u into a worse hell of poverty, custody battles and depression?????
This video had some good points, and I see the reasoning for it.
On the other hand, as someone who's worked in the field of family law for a while, please allow me to shed some light on some of the realities here. Walking away might very well seem like a great thing to do. It also might feel like a weight has been lifted. However, here are some major uphill battles you will face once you walk away.
1.) You've just left a marriage that had a 54% likely to fail, to enter a new marriage (eventually) that will have a 67% chance of failure. Trending in the wrong direction.
2.) You now go from seeing your kids every single day, to 50% of the time at best. Also, you're now sharing your kids with the very person you left. This can be even worse, because you have no idea what they're saying to the kids while you're away. If the kids googled your names, they will discover that you are the one who filed first. Which can create a space for them to believe that you "broke up the family". Or gave up on the family.
3.) Save your money, because your ex can now take you to court for ANY little thing now, and in most states you are required to respond every single time. That's more days you have to take off work. And more money you have to spend on a revolving door of an issue.
4.) If you and the person you left cannot make decisions together. The powerful person in a robe and gavel will make your decisions for you. They don't know your kids from Adam, but now constructing the plan for your child's future.
5.) The Long lasting emotional effects that divorce has on children. There are 50 year olds out here still walking around with heavy trauma suffered from their parent's divorce. As someone who's experienced divorce, I can say first hand it damn near feels worse than death. It's absolutely tragic.
The biggest crime being committed is before people make it to the altar. Individuals are not taking marriage as seriously as it should be taken. When you day I do your life changes forever. Everyone in America considering marriage should take a "Beyond Scared Straight: Divorce Edition" tour. That'll open some eyes. Lol
That's the reality.
Thank you for taking the time to share these points! I agree with all of them as realities to be considered when making the decision to leave! Evaluate the pros, cons and your individual reality. Thanks for watching!
I really enjoyed this video. I am going thru my own break up of 8 1/2 years and I am realizing that I checked out over a year ago when key decisions were made without discussing the impact.
It still hurts but I know it was the right decision to end the relationship
Do you remember Evil Knievel the guy who jumped over a line of cars on a motorcycle? Leaving a marriage is just the same your either going to land and survive or your going to land and get really banged up bad. Once you leave the ramp you are going to land no matter what you think it isnt going to land the way you think. Prepare for the absolute worst .
I sure wish people would get educate people on the probability of a divorce before they get married. If you get married, 60 percent it ends. 70 percent second marriages. If she is a high earner, or she was fat and loses weight, it's 90 percent she files. Men cannot keep her happy and divorce laws are against men.
Thank you.
I relate to everything she said 100%
I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with a narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my partner's phone, all i did was to share his phone number with (geniustracker) without touching his phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact him to help he is a genius. You can text/call +1 (415) 323-6758 or reach him on WhatsApp +1 (724) 330-3252 and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701) thank me later...
I have the fear of not being able to support myself , if I leave my husband . I had not been able to find employment . I am 59 years old and I want to get some qualifications but one minute he said he will pay for my education then the next minute he won’t pay for my education . He is abusive and I am mentally exhausted . When there is no money there is no freedom .
Agree on all the points. This is so powerful.
Thanks for your feedback Stacy!
So what happens to these women after they leave their long term husbands. Are they happy do they have a sexfest with multiple partners. Do they eventually find someone they really like but won't commit or do some eventually marry to find themselves back in the same situation
Very good this is
That was amazing and helped me
Glad you thought it was helpful! Thanks for watching!
Guilt has the potential to destroy a great marriage. I know from personal first hand experience and I am still loaded with GUILT . Because I did have choices at my disposal.
Paige, great video....Thanks a million.
I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with a narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my partner's phone, all i did was to share his phone number with (geniustracker) without touching his phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact him to help he is a genius. You can text/call +1 (415) 323-6758 or reach him on WhatsApp +1 (724) 330-3252 and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701) thank me later...
Sin imposes guilt. Guilt subdues a marriage. It is one thing that CHRIST paid the sin debt. But Only You have to either take on guilt or release it. Only You Can Forgive Yourself.
Everybody be in open marriage
Thanks D, they're ready when u are!?😍
This is good
I fucking hate relationships if you good the woman takes advantage of you, if you bad you out the door
i also hate relationship, man always think that woman is just a doll and maid.
Woman should dressed like exactly what he want and do all the chores while man stay on the bed with his phone.
I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with a narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my partner's phone, all i did was to share his phone number with (geniustracker) without touching his phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact him to help he is a genius. You can text/call +1 (415) 323-6758 or reach him on WhatsApp +1 (724) 330-3252 and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701) thank me later...
The ongoing work of karma, reincarnation in relation to a marriage . Only You Can Forgive Yourself . The ETERNAL will not take Your Personal guilt from You.
interesting points ,if anyone else trying to find out stand for your marriage try Nadazma Repair Partner Helper (should be on google have a look ) ? Ive heard some extraordinary things about it and my brother in law got great success with it.
The knowing? Lol that is the biggest crock that allows someone to break a vow for some sense of a murky self good!
Generally, if the other person has actually kept their vows in more than the letter, the other person doesn't have any desire to want to leave. People act for all the world as if the only vows are those of physical fidelity and 'til death do us part" and they will rail and whine when those are broken while giving no weight to the others that are necessary to support them.
Love, in the marital context is not merely a feeling. Love is wanting the best for your mate as much as you want the best for yourself and taking action to achieve that. It means being unselfish. Cherish means "to take care of lovingly". Honor means to recognize and respect that every decision you make or action you take, directly or indirectly, impacts your partner and your relationship, and that must always be at the forefront in your mind and heart. This doesn't mean you aren't entitled to any private thoughts or moments but it means every decision you make, every action you take everything you say impacts the marriage.
These vows, which could also be called affirmative duties of marriage are frequently flouted and abused sometimes for decades, long before the other person decides to leave. The person responsible for flouting those other parts of the marital contract has breached it and with that breach, they have opened the door for their partner to leave. They have broken the marital contract first by their action or inaction.
The failure to acknowledge that emotional neglect and abandonment are as serious in their effect on the marriage as other kinds of betrayal is the common logic failure we see in these discussions. Marriage is not intended to be an emotional prison or torture chamber that one person keeps another person in with the lock of a marriage vow. Accepting a "Now we're married so I can do whatever I like to you" attitude so many people take toward their spouse is becoming a thing of the past. You actually have to be a good partner to maintain your marriage contract nowadays. "For better or for worse" is intended to refer to sharing outside adversity as partners. It does NOT refer to the idea that marriage is an obligation that continues however badly one spouse decides to treat the other. It is not a license for neglect or abuse, emotional or otherwise.
@@angelablackthorne3026 marriage is a 💩deal that only gets worse! An outdated concept that has had it's day. Less ppl getting married than ever before! Men are walking away from traditional roles.
@@angelablackthorne3026 Thank You Angela!! I hope MANY narcissistic and abusive people read this BRILLIANT letter; recognize themselves and change their ways! But in the strong likelihood that they DON'T!...🤣(being narcissistic, and therefore unable or unwilling to self reflect or take responsibility), I hope that it provides hope to the sufferers; who have tried everything, but will NEVER get anywhere,as they are not seen as an "equal partner" by that narcissist. Be strong in yourself and focus on GOD instead.
@@angelablackthorne3026 OMG THANK YOU! You have just so eloquently said exactly what I've felt for so long! Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!
Could they get some women that aren't so good looking talking so that it is more relate able? Let's see some average women talking about how they survived the divorce only to find a great new man and life.
I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with a narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my partner's phone, all i did was to share his phone number with (geniustracker) without touching his phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact him to help he is a genius. You can text/call +1 (415) 323-6758 or reach him on WhatsApp +1 (724) 330-3252 and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701) thank me later...
Looks are unimportant. If someones unhappy, prety, homely, doesnt matter.
It's all in knowing what your knowing. That being women are both hypergamous and fickle. With a 70% quit rate at the end.
At age 29 I turned to my wife Geri at our front door to say, “Upon my return we will be getting a divorce.” On my business trip I ran into a man I hadn’t seen in seven years. At length he spoke to me of Christ. When finished he asked, “Ken, I feel led of the Holy Spirit to ask if you want to place your faith in Christ as Savior and Lord?” There in his office with humility and repentance for my sins, I yielded to the Lord Jesus Christ. I stood up and heard myself say, “Hallelujah!” With sins forgiven, I was born again! God‘s power changed me inside and out. What about my wife, you ask? The entire story is told here:
Ken's Story: ua-cam.com/video/IkhLW5uzCWo/v-deo.html
Geri's Story: ua-cam.com/video/JnFKXEJdU_g/v-deo.html
I just need to divorce my husband because he is on the Autistic Spectrum
Women on average gain 5 lbs a yr.
In 10 yrs she is 50 lbs overweight.
Blah blah blah!
Words mean nothing to the ignorant. Maybe that's why all you hear is noise.
Angela Blackthorne Or I recognize the same old song and dance and the same old two and four and the same old filler words that doesn’t mean anything to those with experience.
Please allow me to speak my thoughts since I am a genius! Number one! If Big Foot was real then why don't they invite one to church? Then Jesus could save him and he would probably take a bath and not stink! Think about it!