What It's Like to Date in Japan as a Foreigner
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the Belarusian girl who had been only for a few months yet speaks Japanese is very impressive
Tbh she was probably one of the rarest types of foreigners in Japan - the one that actually learned at least the basics back home in Belarus.
that Belarusian girl is incredible
@@MrBejkovec Its so unfortunate that people who move to Japan don't bother with learning the language beforehand. I feel like a decision like moving to japan is a well thought out one and in light of preparation i feel like its important to know the language of the country you are moving to, or at least the basics.
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believes in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” John 3:16
@@MrBejkovec I can understand taking a vacation in a country where you don't speak the language, but if you are going to be there for a while, its kind of incumbent on you to start learning the language.
I could definitely see cultural and religious differences being the hardest parts for alot of people in these relationships.
Specially the religious part is extremely hard
@@xPoisonDashx ikr !! It's hard everywhere tbh
most Japanese are not very religious, I'd say the "religion" is more a part of culture but they aren't really "religious"
Between 30 and 39 per cent of the people on the Japanese islands say they are "convinced atheists".
I'm from Belarus. It was amazing to see belarusian girl in Japan with so good knowledge of language. Felt so proud of it.
Made me laugh to see everyone mentioning bumble. I met my husband off the app my 2nd year living in Japan, and somehow here we are. For me, I'd say the hardest thing we struggle with from time to time is actually cultural differences and family values. Our listening comprehension of each other's language is fairly high, so rarely do we not understand one another when talking. It's mainly been me getting used to the more closed off dynamic of his family compared to my overly connected and over sharing family, and him learning to be more active and less passive during discussions, or when informing me if I've hurt his feelings. My family loves him, and his family truly cares about and loves me, and I feel lucky that we managed to meet and continue to work together to overcome our international differences to be where we are today.
What app is it?
@Daenack Dranils what masochism?
@Daenack Dranils ouh now I get it
My wife was a motorcycle cop. I got pulled over on my bike for reckless driving. I got a ticket, she got my phone number, we have 5 kids.
bro really living the life lmaoo
Stop the cap!! 🧢
And then everyone clapped
Insert “my nigga” meme here
Ignore this Daenack Dranils guy...He scours the Internet for Japan content to insult the Japanese and gets ruffled when he gets called out on his bigotry...Just type in his name in Google and see his history of comments. Cheers!
Dating is straightforward in Japan. No friendzone or let’s get to know each kind of thing. Yes or No. And you’ll know right away. They either show good emotion/compliance (green light) or ghost out (red light). No waste of time. I like it
I wish everywhere was like that no games just straight forward
@@loganwisnieski4913 Blame the stupid media for that.
@Daenack Dranils could you please elaborate?
korea too 😭😭😭 I’m in england rn and cannot get used to this dating culture
why don’t they officially see each other even they both have good feelings and attachment?
Dude, first you say in Japan is either "yes or no", then you say you either get a good feedback or they ghost you out, ghosting isn't a "no", ghosting is ghosting. I'd rather get a "no" than being ghosted.
You’re so close to 100k CONGRATS! I’ve learned so much about Japanese from your videos which has allowed me to keep trying to learn the language so thank you ❤
Why you learng japonese?
@@milleis because they know
You’re a very likeable guy, content great as always. Keep up the grind!
What an amazing vid as always!!; ❤️ Plz more of this!!
I met my Japanese husband at a Denny's in Japan. I tried following the Japanese rules while dating, but we ended up doing our own thing 😂. Been married for 5 years ❤
For me, I had a lot of good and bad experiences. My advice for women especially is to be careful about guys that are only interested in you because you're foreign. They'll always mention you're foreign to their friends and take pictures and it just feels like they're only dating you for that purpose. Most of my relationships that ended badly were due to that or cultural differences that we couldn't get past. But I had some good experiences too. I learned to speak Japanese through dating. When I dated people that couldn't speak English, it forced me to learn and speak Japanese more quickly. The guy I'm dating now can only speak Japanese. And it's crazy to see how far my language ability has come from it. 😸
And I agree that bumble is a bit better than tinder in terms of dating. For tinder, the majority of people want hookups. If you're using Tinder, I'd always ask the person directly what their purpose is. Usually they'll tell you directly. And you can just unmatch with people who don't have the same purpose. ☠️
@Daenack Dranils true like how white men treat Asian girls as sex toys
@Daenack Dranils lmao
Kinda reminds me of all the UA-camrs who treat the Japanese like some kind of fascination zoo curiosities
@Daenack Dranils You’re replying to channels that treat Japan like some sort of fascination zoo and the Japanese like some curious animals. You’re especially guilty of this
@Daenack Dranils You scour the Internet to insult the Japanese...please do mute me so I don't have to see your garbage anymore
アップロードしてくれて嬉しい！来月日本に行くから楽しみね！このアドバイス感謝している😄
4:30 So true. Also want to state that even you could speak fluent Japanese doesn’t mean the barrier disappears, SERIOUSLY.
I’ve been in Japan for 8 years since 17 years old, despite of my Japanese speaking sounds just like natives, some of them still gonna look down to me when they found out I’m actually a foreigner, which is pretty obvious 上から目線.
I like the editing style very refreshing
man i get never bored watching your videos ,content creative 100%
Loved this!! I’m going back to japan soon so these were the on point tips lol
You’ve got a lot of interesting content on your channel man, thx for sharing these unique conversations
Great video Jesse! Keep em videos coming!!
Awesome content, as always.
Your content is always very enjoyable to watch, thanks to the algorithms for showing me your channel, thanks for your amazing work too!!
You can teach me japonese?
Almost hitting 100k subscribers! I've been watching u for a while now. Keep up the amazing content!
your videos are always fire, Jesse, always interested in clicking on your vids when i get that notification. Keep it up man!
loved this video
Love the content as always
I love your videos!! They are so much fun to watch~~
Good perspectives. Love the background music.
what a nice content, third video that i watch and i cant stop, keep fresh and cool, your channel is 1 in a million frr
You are gonna be big, keep up the good work👍👍
awesome video man! 🤝🏽💯
As a hungarian, I was surprised to see hungarians in the video. Great content, keep it up!
Have you ever had a date in Hungary where you shared the price of the food? Especially in the first couple of times?
Maybe only in my bubble... but I was surprised that the girl was surprised. I think hungarian guys at least try to pay for the whole.
@@zoli400 Yeah indeed. In my opinion, whoever invited the other person on the date, pays for the whole, which is usually (especially, in the first couple dates) is the guy.
@@zoli400 She is in her own bubble not you. In Hungary and generally in Europe and the USA is expected from the guy to pay. She is on tinder trying to match only with the top 5% of men who has 500 other options for that day so they either split the bill or dont pay anything at all because the girl is desperate to try to keep that 10/10 guy around :D Many woman has crazy high standards nowadays but they willing to break them for the guy they want :D
You’re doing great job bro👍👍👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Buddy love your videos, video quality, the sounds that you add the way you have a conversation is awesome :)
congratulations on 100k!!!!! ❤❤
Keep it up, you were just reintroduced into my feed, continue engaging with the comment section 👍🏾
happy 100k jesse
super interesting video😮
I'm from Poland. Lived in UK for 10 years and honestly like the guy said he met with this girl and after meeting after 2nd, 3rd date you're boyfriend and girlfriend. No games, no messing about, just straight up I like you I want to be with you. I'm the same, I met my boyfriend and tbh after 1 date I was already into him, I was like yup this is it, we together now ahah but this definitely stems from Poland, not UK
I love how he used a periodic table image in one of the transitions XD (chemistry)
The extremely venezuelan way the venezuelan lady said “shibuya” 🥰🥰🥰
can you interview Asians that moved to Japan but that aren't Japanese, like how is it like for them since they can easily blend in and it's not obvious that they're foreigners too.
100k omedeto jesse🥳
A great video, I love it. I LOVE THEIR FASHION AS I DO. A beautiful places as well Good job I enjoy watching it.
In my experience it’s really hard. There are factors like income, what family you come from, and being Japanese. Of course there are Japanese girls that marry sailors and foreigners yes, but in my experience, dating in Japan isn’t really welcoming. It’s really difficult, I’d rather go casual dating in the US than in Japan.
Loving the content my man
For an easier East Asian experience, foreigners should go to Korea instead. Seoul is like Tokyo without the language barrier or social awkwardness. Most of the people I met in Seoul spoke English an are easily approachable. Comparing my visits to both Seoul and Tokyo, I'd give Seoul the advantage, by far.
I remember seeing you on Tik tok first. Glad your channel was on recommended
your videos always have a nice positive aura
keep going
日本語字ありがたすぎる。内容おもろいしリスニングの練習になる！
@Jesse where do you get your fades in Japan my guy? Gonna be teaching English there next year!
This is a dope channel.
I love love your channel.. as a Nigerian girl in Japan, I would like to know what it’s like for girls of African descent (both African American) in the dating pool in Japan
More of this series please
I would say Language is Nr. 1. If you're both from non English speaking country there are gonna be lots of misunderstandings. If at least 1 is speaking in their mother tongue it's starting of easier if there is a base level.
But once you get close to that you just reached the first Plateau and notice that the culture difference is the real challange.
7:06 lol that was hilarious!
Im living in Tokyo and it's been 2 month I'm dating a japanese. I kinda disagree with the person saying that the japanese speaking only japanese are close minded. Quite the opposite ! They feel frustrated not being able to speak any foregin language so they do want to learn. Im french and I'm learning japanese thanks to my girlfriend and she's learning english (and a little bit of french) thanks to me.
It's true that it is difficult to cummunicate sometimes but you dont learn anything from someone speaking the same language than you...
teach her french tongue
You can definitely learn from people who speak the same language as you. There’s this thing called “Teachers”
@@SonicSega0964 Obviously you can learn in many others ways. It's so obvious that I wasn't expecting this kind of answer. Your teacher ain't h24 with you and it's easier to learn a language when your family or GF use it every time. That's my point. Why should have even explained that isn't it obvious ? 😅
good job ~
Another Juicy video, yeah!😊
Met my GF in University. lots of cultural differences but thankfully I speak some Japanese so we were able to talk about it. the hardest concept for me to get is 気をつかう where you have to consider other people's feelings. Great content Jesse! ALMOST 100K!!!!!
thats called empathy and youre meant to have it anyway
日本語字幕ほんとたすかる
Busuu? That's hilarious!
That naming for the app though LOL
u got 100k!
Great video :)
I haven’t been to Japan. But even experiences dating (trying to 😂) Japanese in Australia. They are by far the shyest country I have met
Hmmm, "The Language Barrier is Real"...I guess I'll have to be the Bridge, I'll commit to learning it before I go in 2024. (Fingers Cross). I can kinda practice it in person months from now in an area/business with japanese people here where I live if I'm lucky.
Last advice is true
Ever since I read somewhere that when Americans introduce themselves they usually never just say "I'm from the US" or something they say "I'm from (insert US state)". I find that interesting.
Yes, we tend to identify with our state first, country second. If you look at the geographical size, American states are about the same size as European countries. Wouldn't someone say "I'm from Switzerland" rather than "I'm from Europe"?
@@earlysda On the other hand, I'm from Canada, but I just usually say that. I don't tell them my province or hometown. Maybe that's because I doubt they would recognize the names anyway...
@@kobecanuck78 That's cool, Peter. Most people don't know my state either, but once in a while I'll meet somebody who has been there and their face will really light up!
@@earlysda Europe is not a country, but the US is. To me, telling me your state first feels like there's a subtext of "you should know all the states of my country, because it is the cultural default".
@@woutertron woutertron, that's fine that you don't understand America.
man, I love the background music. May I know the song?
Darude-Sandstorm
These people are fun. I would like to be their friend
What’s up Broski 🦋,
VICTORIA IS A DEFINATION OF BEAUTY 10/10 FOSHO💯
I lived in Korea, China and now in Japan due to my job, in my very personal opinion asian girls ask too much compared to what they give.
As I said is my personal opinion after living more than 20 years in asia.
Yeah but the passport bros dont know that. In east asia they want a provider, a supportive husband that help them do the housework and hand them all the paycheck
Nice
nice video bud
I’ve been trying to learn Japanese for a year. On and off , I never have chances to use it tho so I have no experience
Different language and culture is definitely hard but love is love so if you find that right person those barriers will not matter ☺️
Asian mentality is that, if you wanna try out if this works out, you stay as a friend first. Dating is a stage where both already confessed their feelings to each other, hence is official.
I saw this phrase "confess one's feelings" in Terrace House a lot and to me it's so odd. First off, if you're asking someone to go out, your feelings should be fairly obvious. Second, there's the word "confess", making it sound like telling someone you're attracted to them is some terrible secret that you're revealing. Puts way too much pressure on the whole thing. Maybe I'm reading too much into the wording but this is the sense I got watching stuff like TH.
@@woutertron Back then, dating means leading to marriage. If they don't have this understanding, they should not date or even face backlash from the community. These days, dating can be casual but many people still see confession as part of the beginning phase.
I am surprised no one mentioned their partner's parents as a hurdle in the relationship.
*The last lady has a dark story* 😶
Mrs Belarus is beautiful and very sincere ❤️
Jesse to 100K
I’d love to meet a girl in Japan, but I don’t think meeting other lesbians would be easy. Especially for someone half black half white.
🤣🤣🤣
One word: Abundance
Bumble IT IS!!
This is my first time seeing black japanesse, that is really cool
Christina the Belarusian girl is inspirational for some reason...
I had a wonderful experience little bit over four years ago. Japanese ladies seemed to be far more open-minded and kind than in my country (Finland). After that experience dating in Finland hadn't felt anything. I am very happy that in this world there is a country where women appreciate kind and polite gentlemen.
Thats nice dude, tell more about it.
I was in busan korea for a bit and Ive never met more rude people in my life.
I feel you, I'm coming back to Finland in 3 months and i'm already feeling like "Noo i don't want to date no finnish girls" haha
@@WassupWassup420 Kantsii nauttii vielä ku pystyy ;) sitten Suomeen palaessa saattaa iskeekki hirvee kulttuurishokki. Tai näin ainaki mulle kävi!
@@ne0wa Thanks, kyl kuullostaa suomeen paluu semi laimeelta täl hetkel. Pakko päästä johoki töihi mitä voi tehä Japanista käsin
@@WassupWassup420 Tai vaan työnhakuun Japanin päässä? Sulla on vielä kolme kuukautta aikaa löytää töitä! Japanissa on tällä hetkellä kauhee työvoimapula kaikenlisäksi! Missä päin Japania muuten asustelet?
its not easy to date Japanese women...but foreigners or hafu are easy...many one night stands
What is the background song name please??
If it is so difficult to get a bf in Japan that even that Belarusian woman has to use dating apps, it must be hopelessly difficult for other "foreign" women...
I’m a Belarusian girl from this video haha! Happily dating for almost 9 months already ☺️ ps. every “foreign” woman is gorgeous in her own way. I would recommend to use dating apps for those who want serious relationships, because as foreigners we don’t have much opportunities to find it “naturally” like Japanese women, who usually find partners from their community like school, university, work. So foreigners who not belong to such communities in Japan have only two options like meeting someone at bars or clubs, or dating apps. From my experience it’s really hard to find someone with serious intentions in a bar or club so apps are a good way to go 🫶 (only if it’s not a tinder)
This is making me so nervous to move their :(
They say exactly the same about Scandinavian countries.... Cold
5:40😂😂😂😂
The busuu caught me because its meaning in japanese lol
What is "dating"?
A Malawian in Japanese soil , that's amazing , you have made proud can we become friends please !!!!!
Whats the background song?
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Hi Brian. 🤣
to the girl saying she not a model
girl U ARE A MODEL 🔥
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