It's so crazy that when girls post half-naked pictures or dressing at a certain way, people call them "sluts." Then when guys post half-naked pictures or dresses at a certain way people call them "hot." Like what? I think that the word slut should be turned to a positive way because if women wants to dress a certain way, like why do people need to judge women? The word slut just have so much negative meaning, but we need to change that meaning into a positive way.
I think it's highly improbable to get everyone to stop using the word slut. we should instead, change the definition. I feel like we can; we've changed the definition of thousands of words. we can change this one too.
also, with the whole bad example for kids thing; my thinking, if I were a parent, would be not that it's bad for them to dress in a revealing way, but that they are scared that men will oversexualize their children. like, that's their babies walking around, and some 30 yr old douch is cat calling them. they don't want their kids to live in a world where they don't feel safe so they force their daughters to dress modesty. but that doesn't stop anything. it makes the problem worse, it basically accepts that behavior and makes it "ok" because they aren't "dressing appropriately ." they think that their children seeing a confident, sexy woman is "bad", because of they dress that way they'll get oversexualized by older men and will be in danger.
+grace reynolds I agree. I have been asking myself this question for a while and I could not think of an answer. Your Comment made me wonder. People want their kids to be open minded and of the 21st century, but they also want them to stay close to the past or 'their roots'. Many kids might not understand that and might sway either way. One might become to close minded and one might be 'too welcoming' to new things. The welcoming is a good thing.... But it can really confuse the child itself
But the main question is; What will be the definition of slut after we change it? will it be positive? Or will it stay negative? I don't think it is possible to give a positive meaning to the word slut. And it will stay negative, so after a few years, this will again become a problem. And if the definition of slut will become "person who sleeps with a lot of people" ; does that sound better? i don't think so. I do think that everyone can do what they want with their body, but society thinks that some things (like this) are negative. The only solution to this problem is to try to change the judgement of society. Damn dat is looonng.
Mazie Sharma TRUUUUE tho! Yeah I agree that does make more sense. instead of changing the definition or getting people to completely stop using the word we need to change societies view on sex.
I feel this!!!! The original meaning of slut was a woman who kept a dirty house. I think we should change the perception of a woman who reveals her body
Didn't Adam and Eve (I think that's the names) just wear leafs... That's showy but no one cared. I dunno are world need to be ok with girls not wearing as much Ughh
Preach I love the way you look at stuff, I love your perspective Lilly. You're amazing wonderful and so so motivational, wanting more people like you in this world Much love ❤️
I just have to point out that iisuperwomanii has changed so much! LA has changed her, she used to not talk about such kind of stuff like "slut shaming" she was all about fun stuff and Idk she just different now, guess that's what happens when you have ppl give u money to talk about Stuff like this I just miss the old iisuperwomanii
at one of our class discussions during literature, this idea stuck with me: no matter how much we want to change how things work, it can only be done if we change the base (a.k.a. the system, the root of everything). and i guess it would take so much time to change something that society's have already been accustomed with just because it's considered the "norms". right now, yeah, there is progress. women have a voice now, and so do the LGBTQ+ community but we've still got a long way to go.
This couldn't have been better timing, I had a bad fight with my mom and as soon as I threw myself on the bed to cry I got the notification. ugh thank you so much Lilly 💖💖
Cry as much as you can, it helps and trusts me your mom loves you and she's doing it for your own good and always remember appreciate moments with her now, one day she might not be thereb
Dearest Lilly :) We need to be realistic here. Most legal systems around the world have indecency laws. There is a reason young children shouldn't see pornography. Do you see what I'm trying to get at? Women are physically different from men, and their perception in society of their body parts is different to men. It's just how it is - it's within the human psyche, since time immemorial. Parents reserve the right to not have to have their daughters (and sons) exposed to a way of dressing or exposure of bodies that runs contrary to their ethos and religious views/philosophy. Some families may have no problem, but we have to be respectful that some do and many do. You ask why? Well, why not? Freedom of choice and values :) Being proud of your body does NOT mean you have to expose it, just in the same way if someone CHOOSES to show their body, it doesn't necessarily mean they're a slut in the negative sense of the word. Also, are you trying to insinuate that girls need to dress 'provocatively' in order to attract someone so they can have sex and keep the race going? Like... what?! You're from an Indian background, as am I and you know that Indian society (with it's many faults) is big on dressing modestly and conducting yourself modestly. Indian society is conservative and people have been getting arranged marriages for hundreds of years, and producing families. So, that notion I find is false. You're the only UA-camr who is critical like this, and I love it. For the record, I personally believe modesty and being respectful is how a person conducts themselves rather than how they dress. Much Love.
You may very well be right! (regarding social constructs). And I'm open to the idea that I may be wrong :) For the time being however, that's how I feel. But I like that we're discussing this. Would be good to get some female feedback on my thoughts and feedback from parents too! What do they think?
Ok, so I kind of agree with you. If you are telling me to cover up because it is against some other people's beliefs, that's not cool. But if people choose to dress a certain way based on them, that's completely acceptable. Also, I don't think she's telling people to show more skin, I think she's just trying to shut down people who shame others for doing so. Also, about how the female body is seen differently than a man's body, that's very true. That does not mean, however, that I should have to dress a certain way because I'm going to be viewed as a slut. Do you see what I mean? How I choose to dress should not be limited based on what other people think. To assume so is moving women back years on a timeline where they fought so hard for the rights to be who they want to be. It's like saying "remember when women weren't allowed to show their ankles, lets still that but with less strictness and more backlash." Also, I don't think that she believes that people have to dress a certain way in order to attract people and I don't know where you got that notion from. --Thanks!
I kind of disagree with you on some points. First of all I am also Indian so I get where you're coming from. First of pornography is not being nude. Pornography is someone having sex. If someone is publicly having sex that is something that children should not watch. We were all born naked, we are uncomfortable because we as a society decided to cover the genitals of both men and women and also a woman's breast. If we as a society hadn't created clothes nudity and sluttiness wouldn't be a problem. A movie example is if you've seen PK where he says everyone on his planet is naked. When Anushka asks him isn't that weird he replies with the bird outside is naked, if he wears a tie that is when he'd look weird so that is my simple explanation of that. Second being proud of your body can be anything. Some people like to show off how good they look (say if they've lost weight and are so proud of their accomplishment they're happy to hide their rolls) or its with treating your body "like a temple" i.e. taking good care of it getting massages, makeup for some people etc. We as a society especially older civilisations like Indians feel the need to stick with how things were back in the day. In the olden days women would do a ghoongat (covering their face and every other body part) this was because they lived in joint families and incest was a very easy thing to come. In pretty much every culture incest is one of the biggest sins (now we know because of birth defects). So their solution was to cover the women (instead of teaching the men to NOT stare at the woman or try to avoid making contact to the point that you develop a relationship like that. You used the word modesty so much in your comment. I like your comment that modesty is being respectful on how you conduct yourself rather than how they dress. But what do you deem respectful? We (indians) consider the respectable thing to do is by wearing decent clothes (so people don't stare), not drinking (so people don't judge us), not smoke (again log kya kahenge (What will people say)), not date (again so people don't judge us), what career you want (what will people say? Sharmaji's son is doing Engineering why do you want to become a painter?) and so on. Modesty is within us. Where we are honest individuals who work hard and try to do the right thing whenever we have a choice. It is NOT how society should judge us. What Lilly was saying was in regards to society. Why should we live the way society finds acceptable, why not how we feel. Lilly dresses like a tomboy. Her choice. She wore a sexy dress to the premiere of her movie. Again her choice. I personally am uncomfortable showing cleavage or wearing a short dress but that does not give me the right to say that everyone else should choose their clothing like I do. Do you get my point? Another point to add to the 'Indian' part of the statement. search Brown paperbag (exactly like that) on Facebook and see the comic about the aunties judging the girl. This is the reality of our society. (I just went on didn't I? Hope you had fun reading lol if you actually finished :) ) At the end of the day I'm not arguing but I just wanted to have a discussion. Happy days my friend #onelove
It is not porn for a woman to show some skin. Why should you be able to tell me what to wear? That is so messed up, and I don't need to do what you say. So why do breasts need to be over sexualized? I mean guys can take off their shirt but girls can't? Why have boobs become sexual? The only thing that should be sexual is reproductive organs. I should be able to do whatever i want with my body, but just because I'm female means i don't have equal clothes rights? How in hell is that fair! Think of this topic as if we are out of what you know. My argument makes total sense. I mean guys can show their nipples but girls can't. Tell me how that is fair. and don't say, "because that is how society is" because that is crude. I mean, in AREAS where females are able to walk around shirtless, can get ARRESTED for turning a guy on. Seriously. So, young children should be exposed to female body acceptance to help change society.
I think that you should have the right to wear whatever you want BUT show a little RESPECT for others when you're in the public eye. Because I don't like walking around with my lil cousin and half of these girls/guys are having half of there ass hang out, And yes I said guys. I think that we COULD change the meaning of the word "slut" to a more positive meaning but will it happen? Probably not because how fucked up today's society is. But thats just my opinion. #GIRL&BOYLUV no need to bash other genders for what they believe in. 😋 P.S ~ I respect all genders! This isn't just based to a certain person/group. ❤️🦄
Why is it a problem that your little cousin sees ass hanging out? It's just the human body. We all have body parts. Please don't read this with attitude, I am curious as to why people are very protective of children seeing boobs/ass/waists/legs - changes for every culture but you get the gist.
I don't think people are going to stop saying slut. same as every other horrible things people say. maybe one day it'll happen. but until then, I definitely think changing the meaning is a great idea. own it. make it positive.
Here is a bit of my part of the conversation: changing the meaning of the word will not solve the problem, they'll come up with a new word and as as long as they want to shame, they will shame a girl for wearing whatever. now I want to emphasize on the solution: we need to teach girls to love themselves , and that SHAME, is what you let yourself feel. if you feel ashamed from wearing a clothes cuz you can't stand what people are saying, then IT'S YOUR WEAKNESS & IT's YOUR PROBLEM, yes being kind is important but again if you don't respect your self and your clothes then you shouldn't be out wearing them anyways, whatever you wear, you should be okay with it because nomatter what you wear people can critsize you and you cant stop it. you cannot please everyone,you dont need to please people with what you're wearing and having that butthurt mentality is THE REAL PROBLEM.
I agree, the real problem is in the mentality of wanting everyone to accept you, it'll never happen, you'll always find people against you, and they're not the majority even tough they seem so, it's just the nasty obnoxious loud ones, just ignore them and be proud of your self like amber rose or whatever she's called.
"You have no right to judge a woman's character on the basis of the clothes she wears" that's all I want to say. Thank you Lilly for being such a great icon...😊 Always spread the positivity...!👍👼
paused video at 4:55 to say this: wether u call someone a slut or not, certain ways of dressing and certain clothes or lack thereof, are going to cause consequences. ..usually negative. and when i get children im going to teach them to dress confidently but not in a way thats going to attract negative attention. you can change the word slut but the meaning behind it will never change. however, we do need to realize that some girls dont get taught properly in life and they might not realise how they are dressing. but most girls do. society calls niki minaj a hero for women yet the consequences of dressing or acting like her in real life doesn't really work positivly. and dont say oh well guys should stop being dirty. most of them arent even but their brains are wired differently to our and thats just basic science. so if u want to dress a certain way yeah ur entitled but your also not entirely wise. being womanly or a little flirty is a lot different to being a slut and neither should be confused with the empowerment of women.
ps. ppl who come up with these arguments are literally looking for an excuse to not feel guilty for what they are doing. they want to feel good about dressing bad or exposed. there are better ways to show yourself off and all your doing is playing into the hands of history repeating itself ....this time its the women degrading the woman.
Katherine Mortifine i agree. But we are living in this day and age and im pretty sure letting our children both male and female act or dress certain ways have not been helping but more so hindering the plight of society. Theres not much hope that the world will get better and even though rapists or pedos will strike no matter what , I kinda dont want to feed them by enticing them woth my kids or teenagers just because I am arguing about a little bit more clothes and covering up a little better. Or deciding the tightness of the clothes etc. I agree with what your saying. But I think that ship has very nearly much sailed.
Yes, I agree with you..... we are told to dress properly only because we have to be aware of what might happen to us or the way people look at us so, maybe if their perspective changes we don't have to be afraid or think about our decisions twice!
i was watching your old, old, old... vlogs yesterday night, I'm so freak out by this, but in one of them you started the vlog with the same quote! "life is a tragedy for those who feel, and a comedy for those who think." i thought, interesting quote; but didn't truly thought about it until you re-said it now in this 2016 vlog, and it just makes so much sense to me now! so much sense that I'm planning on living my life by this quote till the day I die. i don't believe in coincidence. love you Lilly.
I think we should change the meaning of the word slut. We have the power to do that because we are basically the media. The word slut is USUALLY, NOT ALWAYS, BUT USUALLY associated with us females. I don't understand why males cannot be called sluts as well because I have seen pictures on instagram of men showing off their abs and a some of their V Line. or maybe they are wearing boxes. They are not usually named slut, in fact people find that sexy. so if women want a woman wants to show off her body, so be it!! Don't judge a woman because of what she does. Like Lilly said, because she doesn't dress the way you dress doesn't mean you can have the right judge her!
Don't get me wrong. I am very guilty of calling someone a slut. I am not saying that I haven't but I just wanted to put that out there. The way Lilly explained it just got me thinking
I take a lot of pride in saying that I have seen EVERY SINGLE vlog, as I'm sure many unicorns have. However, I have to say that this is my favorite. I always love hearing you talk passionately about things because I think you have such a good head on your shoulders and you're such a positive and loving person, but you always want to get people talking and get people thinking about things. Also, seeing the ways that you completely turn your day around make me think about what the eff I'm doing with MY life. OF COURSE you were upset that you couldn't go to the engagement party, I don't blame you, but even though you were upset, you got a ton of work done and turned it into something good. I (and all the other unicorns) hate seeing you sad but knowing that you can turn yourself around is so inspirational and wonderful. I may not know you personally, but I'm so proud of who you are as a person and now I'm rambling I'm sorry but I love you
Slut=a PERSON with multiple sexual partners. I dress and show my stomach and legs all the time that does NOT make me a slut. It's not at all a bad thing at all. Guys walk around with their shirts off all the damn time, no one calls them sluts in fact they are called sexy?! So why is it only targeted towards girls. Dressing a certain way does not mean I sleep with multiple people. Honestly I feel like the word should be used at all.
The thing about it, unless a man is an exclusive relationship with one of the women, he is not typically even stigmatized for having multiple sexual partners. He certainly won't be called a slut, or any masculine parallel word (because there actually isn't one). He be seen in a positive light by other men, a player or a stud.
And even in that definition, no one should be called names. If a woman wants to sleep with multiple people... who is that affecting? Why is she a "slut". What are men who sleep with multiple women called? I call them human beings who are living their life how they want.
Hey Lilly! Just wanted to quickly leave this here: I really appreciate it that you are a vegetarian and that you're also mindful about trying to avood other animal products! It makes me really happy and I appreciate the fact that you are also open and vocal about it! And on top of that I think it is great that you are addressing more abd more topics with regard to our society .. I feel like you have some really important thoughts inside you're head that the world needs to hear! You're great! Lot's of love☺️
I've been thinking about this for a while now and here's my conclusion that I think applies to everyone: Everyone will have their own beliefs and opinions on how someone should dress and act. I do, and they are based on my religion, how I've been raised, and my own personal conclusions. But everyone, EVERYONE, needs to be respectful and helpful. Who are you helping by calling that girl on Instagram a slut? No one. You're not giving constructive criticism. You're not trying to help her live a better life (if you think she should be). You're just being rude! No one should be called a slut. No one should judge someone they don't even know. If you know someone personally and you think they are making a bad choice, you would give them some constructive criticism to try and help them. You wouldn't just say "girl you're a slut." Calling someone a slut is helping no one and getting no where. I hope everyone has a great day and God bless❤️
now iv 2016 we are showing more and more of our bodies, I understand if its a "trend" but you still need to respect your body and also to others. Like if you go to a movie and your wearing a sports bra and super short shorts then your showing everything to the world. Now people miss use the word slut were its kind of stupid people are just jealous of others and they out all lot of negativity into it which also leads to bulling, depression and suicide.MORAL OF IT ALL just be proud of who you are and have inner beauty.P.S sorry if this was wrong
Respecting one's body means different things to different people - wearing short shorts and a sports bra to the movies is something I would do if it made sense in the weather conditions - that's respect for my body. I'm taking care of it. Covering it to a certain extent just because society can't handle seeing naked skin is not respecting one's body. Listening to it and doing what feels right is.
Lily I completely agree with u!!! A woman can do whatever the hell she wants and women should be proud of their bodies and not be shamed for who they are and who they want to be!!! Keep spreading the positivity girl!! Proud to stand by u!!
when I was in highschool, there was a really atractive girl and all the other girls hated her, she only had male friends. she was very social and nice ( she was never mean with the girls who were mean to her). I hated her too, and a gym class when we were running we would go near her and howl ( as she was a bitch). months latter I had a fight with my best friend and all my group of friends stoped talking to me. surprisingly, the atractive girl approach me and we started talking and became friends, then I found out that she was a very nice and humble person, that she was in fact a virgin and had only had one boyfriend. this make me think, and now I never judge anyone by their looks, I don't use my jelosy to create an irrational hate for someone I don't even know. (sorry for my english, it is not my first language)
In my opinion, I think people should be able to do whatever they want and they should fight for it because doing what we want is being happy and not being allowed to do what we want = not happy, and "the only thing in life that we need to fight for it happiness".
+Fabby Duck Agreed. Life is way too dam short to not live it happily. I dont agree with all the different ways people feel they need to be happy (e.g. killing others who they belieive are "polluting" our world), but if their happiness harms no one else they should have the right to pursue their happiness
I do not think that people will stop using the word "slut". Just like how there will always be racism and homophobes. Sad, but true. People are ignorant and small-minded. I personally think a woman can do whatever the F she wants. BE PROUD OF YOUR BODY!! Society has always told us to be conservative, yet there is so much sexualization in the media of women. People will always have a problem with something.
As a Muslim I would think that girls parents don't want them to see the mini skirts or cleavage because in our religion everyone isn't allowed to show most of their bodies (although a lot of people don't obey this including me) but I'm guessing parents don't want them to be like them or get sexuallised which I find hypocritical but if I wasn't a Muslim I would think it's just that a lot of people have been brought up to think that it is wrong to show yourself. I'm also deep in thought but it is too much to text, sorry Lilly xx
Lilly if you ever want a neutral opinion from different perspectives I'm always open to talk to you my twitter is @OmarPatel12 btw I'm a huge feminist because I appreciate being brought up only by women
I'm Muslim too and this is what I was thinking as well. Muslim girls are brought up to wear modest clothing and cover up as much as we can. I've been brought up to think that showing skin is bad and against Islamic laws (with the whole modest clothing and such). It's gotten embedded into my brain so much that if I see some girl dress provocatively or photos of them dressing like that, I think it's bad. :s But I think Lilly's vlog today has made me think a little about this topic. 😮
+SugarBubbles2000 same!! it took me years to teach myself out of that mentality. now i have to teach myself out of cringing at myself when i wear something that's a bit too tight on my boobs because I've been taught that that's wrong my whole life. one step at a time ✨
+SugarBubbles2000 I'm not the best Muslim but I still get told off for wearing skinny jeans although I'm quite opinionated and have been like "FINALLY SOMEONE TALKED ABOUT THIS" lok
Lilly I love you. "Friends - not everything is a fight. Sometimes I just want to have critical conversations". YESSSSS I think society has us think about what is wrong or right, and "sluts" is one of those things! We're told one thing is wrong and believe it's the only way to think. It requires a lot of will power to go against this, but it's definitely worth it. I hope we can make this world a better place promoting open-mindedness instead of believing what we believe is true. Subjectivity is all around, we just forget about it. Thank you Lilly for, once again, bringing up topics and questions that matter. The other day you asked why we watched your vlogs even though some days you're just sitting in front of your computer... This video is an example to why. Same with the previous vlog, with your rant on #Heterosexualprideday, #AllLivesMatter and #LikeaBoy. People like me watch your vlogs in order not to miss these moments when we feel like we could have a conversation with you. Honestly I'd just love to talk about these things one day with you, in real life. One can dream and work at their dreams, right? :D Sending a big and meaningful hug all the way from Europe. Keep spreading these questions and that positivity :-) We love it and NEED MORE OF IT IN THIS WORLD! Ely P.s. Have you tried rice cakes but made with corn (which I supposed should be called corn cakes, hmhm)? It's so good, it tastes like popcorn. You should try them!!!
Also I live in Arizona I'm not giving up shorts and tank tops and get called a slut for it all the time . Like dude it's 115 degrees im not going be in a damn parka
So true- everyone is always saying how girls need to be confident and proud of their body. They say your perfect no matter what you where or your body shape. However, as soon as one of these girls shows some body and finally grows some confidence, they get called a 'slut' or a 'whore'. How does this happen?! A slut should be known as someone who puts other people down by comparing their 'perfect' body to others. Or ,even better, sluts shouldn't exist. We need to spread #girllove and stop putting other people down. Boost their confidence and compliment them. Lily you're a legend for spreading this. You're so kind and passionate. It's time we all stood up to this and excepted ourselves and others choice. Love you so much xxxx
I personally wouldn't show my body because it's mine and no one has the right to see it. Also, I hate this sexualisation of women in the West - women are told to dress in a certain way, viewed as objects, sexual objects. And it's disgusting. Everyone should be judged on their heart and mind and character and not their physical body.
The way I dress is similar to Kim k I love the way she dresses sexy but classy in some outfits and I get called a slut for dressing that way but I love my body and it's been a while since I felt confident about it I agree with everything that lily is saying
Don't focus on the haters. In fact, them calling you a slut should be a compliment because every girl that is confident in her body is called the word. Anyway, just do whatever boosts your confidence and happiness.
The way that you stick up for what you believe in is probably my favorite things about you and honestly I think that it is a very good idea to change the definition of the word
I agree with you Lilly when you say that girls should be able to wear whatever they want, but, with all due respect, I would like to add on by saying that, mothers don't want their daughters to wear certain clothing because of some men and sometimes, even women. These men/women catfish/bully/rape/assault girls wearing certain clothes. I feel like this is the reason mothers don't want their daughters wearing certain clothes. For example, In India, where I live, men tend to stare/catfish/rape/assault women who wear short clothes. This is just my opinion and I am not trying to hate on Lilly. I agree with Lilly and I am just putting my opinion out there.
i've gone for two eye procedures/ operations if you will, and have missed out on so many vlogs. it feels so amazing to watch superwoman after such a long time. #constant #inspiration #onelovesuperwoman #loveher
I think that people should stop saying being a slut "is a bad thing". Every women had the right to do what they want and dress how they want. You might think they are a bad influence, but how come when a men does the same its bad?
Dear Lilly, I think it is possible to change the meaning of 'slut'. Take for example, the word 'bloody' it used to be one of the worst curse words in the olden days ( well that's what my parents told me ) and now it is safe to use it in a normal setting. So if we can just use hashtags and get the word around to the point where Oxford dictionary changes the definition in their dictionary, the future generation will use this word and hopefully other words like whore in a different way. It is very difficult to discard of a word so widely used. Rather let's change the meaning of this word. Amber Rose started it. Let's continue.
Lilly has so many things in her head and I'm so happy that one of those great things is she thinks that people shouldn't be called words like that . I love you superwoman 😍😘😊
I used to do porn, because I really loved it!!! I loved to show myself off, and I think I look good, I think I am hot and I loved, loved, loved the feeling that I could give pleasure to people. just by letting them look at me! And I was hated so much by so many people.... It was so wierd to me. I can't see what the fuck is wrong with me, choosing, what I like to do. I just felt awesome doing porn and showing me off. It makes me so confused how people react to that kind of things. I love you Lilly!!!
Heh' charming. :) Well, I never got that big outside of Denmark, so I doubt you can find any of my stuff on the internet, but I remember once seeing some of my pictures float around on Grayvee.com, but that is like 8 years ago so....
As long as it was safe, legal, and consensual, who cares? Even though not everyone would chose a certain type of job that doesn't mean they should judge. The human body is beautiful and shouldn't be shunned or shamed. I wish you luck in future endeavors both personal and public and thanks for being so brave and putting yourself out there 💙
Your opinion. You teach your children to be modest. But what if they want to wear something you don't agree with? You think modest clothing is necessary. Nice. But others don't. So they shouldn't be stopped, is the point here.
***** that's so true! it doasn't matter what you wear if you 're rotten inside. very well said. i have the same problem with "modest" girls who talk behind everyones back
I personally think we need to change the definition. It would be nice if we could all stop useing the word but I don't believe that's going to ever happen. The fact woman get called sluts for what they wear, etc is fucked up. I find that women are placed in these boxes full of expectations by society that are not only controlled by male influnishin if it but by women who use these expectations on each other. I hear more woman call other woman sluts and whores then I do men but when I hear guys use it, they use it in a whole different meaning. I don't know if I'm makeing sense or not but I think if we're talking about just the word slut and how it's used then the definition needs to change one way or another....
I feel that if people started looking at women that wear less clothing intention as feeling comfortable about themselves and the way they look instead of interpreting it as wanting to show of, the major part of the problem would be solved... another thing I don't really understand is why is it okay for a guy to take his shirt of and feel proud of their body and women and men don't see any problem with it, but when a girl does it guys don't really mind but when it comes to most girls they're bothered about it. I feel that women can be either really good supporters of each other or be really mean and often bitchy to other girls.
How about everyone stop being so oversensitive over words? That'd destroy it's power quicker than just demolishing it. It IS a bad thing to be a slut, it spreads STDs like wildfire and can cause internal damage from literally too much sex. Raw skin and dry friction are not kind things. Whether you're a dude or a chick, either be a slut and own it or be monogamous and own it. And yeah, women do throw around "slut" more often than men do.At least in my experience.
your talking about sex though, we're talking about how the word slut is used to degrade women and how its used just when women wear "too much make up" or wearing clothing that is reveling. that is what we are talking about, we aren't focusing on sex. and yes woman do use slut alot but so do men, its hard to determine who uses it more, both use it just as much as the other
omg the example u just made lilly about gays is so true i was literally thinking the exact same thing. if someone wants to show their body. dont shame them it is what they want to do. now superwoman. u r amazing. keep preaching girl!!
the label "slut" is often used to describe a woman who dresses provocatively and sleeps with a bunch of guys. In my view, the term is just a characteristic that describes a person who is frankly a slut. you mentioned gays and in other ways, the term "gay" is a characteristic of a person who is gay. so if someone is a slut through the way they dress or act, why do you believe that it is wrong for others to call that person a slut if it is what they is? is it wrong to call someone gay if that is what they is? you can't force people to not say something or change the definition of something just because it seems shameful. just change your perception of the term slut into a positive thing like "oh, i'm a slut but i dont give an f" like how gay people as you mentioned dont view the term gay as a bad thing.. thanks if you had the time to read through this it's pretty long oh god...
+NeedMoreCoffee Im not judging. im saying people will and its wrong but changing the meaning wont stop people... in the comment i said above i was saying look what people called miley. just because she expressed herself
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girl power!!! I'm over 40 and I have a daughter...i was lucky to be raised by a woman that truly taught me to dress how I felt good...and didn't demonize the word "slut" ...my woman friends and I use the term as a joke about OURSELVES...so yes the meaning loses its power...i applaud you for bringing up this issue because so many young girls watch you and it's important to bring up the fact that this is mostly girl on girl hate.... I strive to teach my daughter to be herself. period...and to understand that other people deserve to be themselves...period!! ❤❤
I think that Moms don't like their daughters showing too much cleavage and mini skirts because there's a lot of bad people out there. Moms maybe just are trying to protect their kids? I'm saying this with all respect😊Comment ur opinions
I agree. Personally, I believe modesty is important and you don't need to post your business for the world to see, but it certainly shouldn't be SHAMED. No woman should be.
+Femily Forever yea I agree but no woman should be labeled a "slut" or "hoe" it's a cruel label that is used often, for small reasons. No woman should be shamed bcz of what she wears, who she sleeps with and /or dates, and what pictures she takes and if she wants to post it somewhere, LET HER! ITS NOT ANYONES RIGHT TO TELL US WHAT WE CANT AND CANT DO, WEAR, OR DATE
Angie. Personally, I don't think women should get offended with such words (if its true). For instance, if a female does sleep with a lot of guys, then i think it's fine to call her a slut. But it shouldn't be a complete bad thing, people should just own up to it. However, if people are spreading rumours that's when I think they should get offended.
Well they should be proud of their bodies, but we have brain , we do not live in a jungle, we must cover ourselves, at least in areas that do not have to show up, I feel bad when we talk about these things! to where you want to get after this talk, get out Naked !! You are talking with millions of teenagers, be more responsible, I love you but this is not classy at all
When you give an example should be worth! , What will I benefit when you give me an example of someone maximum reached to show us his\her body or to tell people that they are sluts :| , it doesn't make sense , and we should be behave as animal with each other , without respect !
not to sound rude, but your grammar isn't all that great, which is fine, but it makes it a little difficult for me to respond to everything perfectly. Apologies. Okay, the thing is public nudity is illegal. Public wearing mini skirts and having boobs is perfectly fine. I don't know who decided this in the first place but the view is archaic. It's demeaning to women and puts us back centuries of a fight for gender equity when we tell girls to be modest in public, especially for the sake of men. A woman can be who she wants and dress how she wants and should not face adversity.
i totally agree with you! Covering ur body is a way of showing how much manners you have and how you've been brought up. im sorry lilly nut i disagree with you on this
has anyone noticed that because of lilly's vlog, more people went over to that amber rose video and spread all their love and positivity and now there are no negative comments to be seen. Lilly is truly spreading love everywhere :)
Lilly is super pretty, people say she to weird and they say I watch her to much. But Lilly inspires me and makes me smile, so I don't care what they say cause I'm a unicorn and I'm in team super. I just love her so much, she's the reason I am who I am. A proud weird 13 year old and unicorn lover girl
I 100% agree. I think why some people think it's a bad example is because kids will obviously do the same thing and then attract people who only care about their body. But I for sure see and agree with your point and think we should change the definition. More power to you!
So many props to Amber Rose! She's not afraid to show skin and isn't afraid of facing those who want to push her down. She is bursting with confidence and it's the best!
Thank you for bringing this up Lilly and I just want to say, from experience, to any girls out there who have ever called another girl a slut: the sooner you learn to love and respect all other women, the more you will learn to love and respect yourself unconditionally. You will be happier in yourselves and your relationships, and you'll discover a whole new world of new perspectives and possibilities. I hope all girls out there, sluts, virgins, and otherwise, are having an amazing day :) you're all wonderful
@iisuperwomanii I feel that open-mindedness comes with the years. The shock a person feels towards a vulgar word, or a woman showing cleavage has decreased in today's times. Sure, there are so many people who still feel like they HAVE to comment on another person's choices. And then they go on and call themselves 'modernistic' and stuff like that. Such people should just keep quiet about their judgments and get on with life. Also, as Lilly said in the video as to whether we should ban vulgar words or change their meaning, i feel that changing it would really help. For example if we change the alleged meaning of slut to, say, a person who is sexy and confidant, the person who is the recipient of such words will feel better and more confident about herself rather than not be herself and suffer anxiety. Change has always been good and it will continue to be.
Lilly you're amazing for bringing this subject up. In my environment 'slut' is mostly used by jealous girls who see a really pretty girl who is confident in her own body and has a lot of attention from boys. From women that word comes with great jealously because they feel insecure about themselves. From men perspective - there is still double standard about sleeping with different people. Guys think that's their right to brag about sleeping with multiple people because it makes them 'cool' but if a girl is winning that contest they think their manhood is in question and they start shaming her for being her confident self. That girl has done nothing wrong in her own eyes - she chose to be this way - confident and sexy but people around her with insecurities about themselves they want to bring her down to make feel better about themselves. Trust me I know. My sister is better looking, gets more attention from boys than I ever had and for a long time I felt bad and tried to bring her down. But it was my problem not hers so I realised that and it doesn't bother me anymore. My advise to all 'slut' shamers - man/ woman up, it's not her fault that you feel insecure. Fix your attitude and her confident self won't make you any less sexy or desirable. So be yourself and don't judge other people for being themselves
Nothing wrong with wearing what you're comfortable with. Nothing stop you, and Amber is right doing what she wants and I respect her. She's comfortable with herself and some people can't handle that.
This video really made me think. Because I dress very reserved so I can't really understand why people would want to show their bodies. But at the same time I have had many really close friends who didn't care about their imperfections or what other people thought and wore whatever they wanted to. I think that is a really brave thing to do, and most of those people were really nice and sweet and you know people. So thank you Superwoman for making me think about this.
I think the reason why some people think "oh I don't want my daughter to dress like her" is because some parents are scared. 1) some parents are scared that their children will outshine them in terms or beauty and self loving their own body, because some mothers are scared of their daughters beauty (kinda hear about things like that & honestly think it's stupid to be jealous of your own daughter but hey-ho) and 2) some are scared that if their daughter is dressed in is what seems to be a "provocative" manner, that they are most likely to be sexually assaulted since that's the type of messed up world we live in & what makes me angry is that its not even their fault when something as terrible as that happens! I agree with you Lilly, women should be able to express their body in confidence however they want & they shouldn't be called a "slut" for their own self expression, they shouldn't be judged for wanting to dress however they want. This is just my opinion and people ar entitles to think and feel however they want
one of the most inspirational videos I've watched in a very very long time. The other day my mum said that she didn't like Kim Kardashian for posing with little clothing on, because it was a bad influence to me making me think that was the right way to dress. I questioned her, why is that not the right way to dress? Why is there a certain way you have to dress? Shouldn't we be teaching girls to love theirs bodies and be proud of them not hide them because it's 'not right'. Just because you don't like what she is wearing doesn't mean its not right. Also I think we should change the definition of slut, and make it a compliment. If people use it as a negative girls should be trained to see the positive in the word.
I think the first step to ending slut shaming is teaching everyone, girls and boys that shut shaming isn't right and that girls should be able to wear whatever they want. parents don't want their younger daughters wearing revealing clothes because there are so many people who judge, say negative things and are basically creeps and parents don't want their daughters being exposed to that at a young age. if everyone learns to stop using the words "sl*ts or wh**es then maybe more girls would feel comfortable wearing more revealing clothes
Ok, I just have one response to this which is that when we were raised we were programed a certain mentality of how to be an idea "women/girl". But when we get introduced to something out of the norm, then we begin to judge. Which I not right!!! We should remember,that everyone has the right to be happy regardless of what it is.....
I (almost) completely agree with you Lilly. The only part I don't really is with ''Oh I don't want my younger daughter dressed like that' Why?' and that's because with that I personally believe there is an age limit. I guess it depends on the age but I mean... 13 and under is like okay stick to the cute sweatshirts and a low skirt because the younger you know, the more vulnerable and I think it is important to teach your younger daughters to yes be happy and comfortable with their body, but also self aware. There can always be (sorry if this is too inappropriate for your comment section) Pedophiles or rapists and you don't want your daughter to be in danger of that. But that's just my opinion I agree 100% on everything else although. Keep doing what you do I love your videos and can't wait to see more!
There is a lot of anxiety surrounding sex in general, I think. The ways in which we socialize people into categories of gender imply so much about the anxieties surrounding sexual intercourse, too. Our schools that lack proper sex education and the silence surrounding how we talk about sex/sexuality also say a lot about how we define and assign the word "slut." When people use the term in a derogatory way toward women, it is a verbal tool to degrade the woman who has agency regarding her sexuality/her appearance. To put it plainly, people are shaming a woman for having agency with her sexuality. But, it's not just that. Not only is the word "slut" saying "because she dresses/behaves a certain way she is morally corrupt and bad," but it is also saying, "look at her, at least I am not her, I am better than her." This part is socialized, too. When a man calls a woman a slut, it often means, "this woman acts on her sexual agency, and I don't like that because she should only be a slut for one man." All of this, of course, is also under the assumption that this word is used under heterosexual/heteronormative situations. When we call a woman a slut, we deny and reject her agency regarding sex, and in the process we deem her unworthy of human respect. Our societal tendency to keep sex silent and distill sex from the everyday create these situations. In reality, the most innocent child is born out of sex. Sex permeates everything, and we choose to actively ignore it for the convenience of keeping everything "clean." All sorts of broad structural hierarchies are connected just from this one word, and it comes out of such degradation that I wouldn't opt for reclaiming the word. I hope this comment helps somehow.
"I have often said, and oftener think, that this world is a comedy to those that think, a tragedy to those that feel - a solution of why Democritus laughed and Heraclitus wept." - Horatio Walpole My favourite quote too.
I totally agree, I am someone who feels very passionate about 'slut-shaming' and treating everyone with respect no matter what. It really pissing me off when people say these sorts of things because why aren't women allowed to feel comfortable being who they wanna be and wearing what they wanna wear. I mean some guys wear shirts and some wear those vest tops, and no one calls them "sluts" or anything because they are showing more skin than what other men like to wear but as soon as girls decide to wear a crop top instead of a normal t-shirt, that's not ok. That just doesn't make any sense to me what so ever!!
I think as humans, we're so tuned to categorising things into good and bad. So, when someone sees the consequences of a lady confidently showing off their body, it makes them feel like they have the right to judge and generalise that the kind of attitude will definitely lead to a negative outcome. Perhaps, it's all about perspectives and how someone had been raised all their lives. It plays a huge role in how they perceive certain issues. If the person were to come from a conservative family, perhaps, the thought process is that, "I don't show off my body for the world to see, but I still feel empowered within." Empowerment is different for every woman. However, being judgemental towards how other women who portray their confidence publicly is most likely a sign that the individual feels a tinge of insecurity or jealousy within. This is where #GirlLove can be a strong advocate for such issues. ❤️
It makes me so happy that we can just have a civilized conversation about this without anyone making a stupid, thoughtless comment. Good job team super.
My personal belief is that language is one of the greatest virtues. Being able to share our thoughts and opinions through words with others probably contributes most the progression of society. However the when words are used improperly or used to describe something so subjective that almost everyone that reads it will interpret what was said differently it most likely doesn't need to be said; and what was said often shows more about the speaker's character than they intended it to. I think that the word "slut" being used to shame women into thinking that showing ("to much of") their body automatically must mean that they are trying to attract attention or show off is not the only way that is could be used. The word most likely will not stop being used however the definition or words are constantly being slightly altered to mean different things. Who knows one day "slut" could be used to describe a persons outward confidence about the way they choose to dress and show their body.
Okay so I totally agree with you lily it's just that alot of ppl are hardwired to think that and you speaking out about it makes ppl think and it brings upon change a lot of ppl don't like change
I think society has just adapted to that form of thinking. But I 100% believe that we should change the meaning of "slut" to something like "a woman who is confident and proud of her body". That's my opinion do what you want with it! Btw I love you Lilly and you positive outlook on life so much!
Can I just say the part when you were talking to your friends that are all in Canada actually made me cry a little... Because I live in Scotland right now and I haven't seen my family and friends since Christmas and my plan to go home this summer is most probably not even gonna happen, so I won't see them till next year. :( :( :(
It's so crazy that when girls post half-naked pictures or dressing at a certain way, people call them "sluts." Then when guys post half-naked pictures or dresses at a certain way people call them "hot." Like what? I think that the word slut should be turned to a positive way because if women wants to dress a certain way, like why do people need to judge women? The word slut just have so much negative meaning, but we need to change that meaning into a positive way.
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I think it's highly improbable to get everyone to stop using the word slut. we should instead, change the definition. I feel like we can; we've changed the definition of thousands of words. we can change this one too.
also, with the whole bad example for kids thing; my thinking, if I were a parent, would be not that it's bad for them to dress in a revealing way, but that they are scared that men will oversexualize their children. like, that's their babies walking around, and some 30 yr old douch is cat calling them.
they don't want their kids to live in a world where they don't feel safe so they force their daughters to dress modesty. but that doesn't stop anything. it makes the problem worse, it basically accepts that behavior and makes it "ok" because they aren't "dressing appropriately ." they think that their children seeing a confident, sexy woman is "bad", because of they dress that way they'll get oversexualized by older men and will be in danger.
+grace reynolds I agree. I have been asking myself this question for a while and I could not think of an answer. Your Comment made me wonder. People want their kids to be open minded and of the 21st century, but they also want them to stay close to the past or 'their roots'. Many kids might not understand that and might sway either way. One might become to close minded and one might be 'too welcoming' to new things. The welcoming is a good thing.... But it can really confuse the child itself
But the main question is; What will be the definition of slut after we change it? will it be positive? Or will it stay negative? I don't think it is possible to give a positive meaning to the word slut. And it will stay negative, so after a few years, this will again become a problem. And if the definition of slut will become "person who sleeps with a lot of people" ; does that sound better? i don't think so. I do think that everyone can do what they want with their body, but society thinks that some things (like this) are negative. The only solution to this problem is to try to change the judgement of society. Damn dat is looonng.
Mazie Sharma TRUUUUE tho! Yeah I agree that does make more sense. instead of changing the definition or getting people to completely stop using the word we need to change societies view on sex.
the new meaning for slut is confident and confident in your body
I'm always told to love my body. That I shouldn't be insecure. Yet if I show my body and I'm confident I'm a "slut" or "whore."
I feel this!!!! The original meaning of slut was a woman who kept a dirty house. I think we should change the perception of a woman who reveals her body
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Same! Like it's my body, I can wear what I feel comfortable wearing and what makes me feel good.
Didn't Adam and Eve (I think that's the names) just wear leafs... That's showy but no one cared. I dunno are world need to be ok with girls not wearing as much Ughh
It's the patriarchy's way of shutting down females and preventing them from speaking up at all.
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I love the way you look at stuff, I love your perspective Lilly. You're amazing wonderful and so so motivational, wanting more people like you in this world
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I just have to point out that iisuperwomanii has changed so much! LA has changed her, she used to not talk about such kind of stuff like "slut shaming" she was all about fun stuff and Idk she just different now, guess that's what happens when you have ppl give u money to talk about Stuff like this I just miss the old iisuperwomanii
at one of our class discussions during literature, this idea stuck with me: no matter how much we want to change how things work, it can only be done if we change the base (a.k.a. the system, the root of everything). and i guess it would take so much time to change something that society's have already been accustomed with just because it's considered the "norms". right now, yeah, there is progress. women have a voice now, and so do the LGBTQ+ community but we've still got a long way to go.
This couldn't have been better timing, I had a bad fight with my mom and as soon as I threw myself on the bed to cry I got the notification. ugh thank you so much Lilly 💖💖
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Cry as much as you can, it helps and trusts me your mom loves you and she's doing it for your own good and always remember appreciate moments with her now, one day she might not be thereb
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We need to be realistic here. Most legal systems around the world have indecency laws. There is a reason young children shouldn't see pornography. Do you see what I'm trying to get at? Women are physically different from men, and their perception in society of their body parts is different to men. It's just how it is - it's within the human psyche, since time immemorial. Parents reserve the right to not have to have their daughters (and sons) exposed to a way of dressing or exposure of bodies that runs contrary to their ethos and religious views/philosophy. Some families may have no problem, but we have to be respectful that some do and many do. You ask why? Well, why not? Freedom of choice and values :) Being proud of your body does NOT mean you have to expose it, just in the same way if someone CHOOSES to show their body, it doesn't necessarily mean they're a slut in the negative sense of the word.
Also, are you trying to insinuate that girls need to dress 'provocatively' in order to attract someone so they can have sex and keep the race going? Like... what?! You're from an Indian background, as am I and you know that Indian society (with it's many faults) is big on dressing modestly and conducting yourself modestly. Indian society is conservative and people have been getting arranged marriages for hundreds of years, and producing families. So, that notion I find is false.
You're the only UA-camr who is critical like this, and I love it. For the record, I personally believe modesty and being respectful is how a person conducts themselves rather than how they dress.
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You may very well be right! (regarding social constructs). And I'm open to the idea that I may be wrong :) For the time being however, that's how I feel. But I like that we're discussing this. Would be good to get some female feedback on my thoughts and feedback from parents too! What do they think?
Ok, so I kind of agree with you. If you are telling me to cover up because it is against some other people's beliefs, that's not cool. But if people choose to dress a certain way based on them, that's completely acceptable. Also, I don't think she's telling people to show more skin, I think she's just trying to shut down people who shame others for doing so.
Also, about how the female body is seen differently than a man's body, that's very true. That does not mean, however, that I should have to dress a certain way because I'm going to be viewed as a slut. Do you see what I mean? How I choose to dress should not be limited based on what other people think. To assume so is moving women back years on a timeline where they fought so hard for the rights to be who they want to be. It's like saying "remember when women weren't allowed to show their ankles, lets still that but with less strictness and more backlash."
Also, I don't think that she believes that people have to dress a certain way in order to attract people and I don't know where you got that notion from.
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I kind of disagree with you on some points. First of all I am also Indian so I get where you're coming from.
First of pornography is not being nude. Pornography is someone having sex. If someone is publicly having sex that is something that children should not watch. We were all born naked, we are uncomfortable because we as a society decided to cover the genitals of both men and women and also a woman's breast. If we as a society hadn't created clothes nudity and sluttiness wouldn't be a problem. A movie example is if you've seen PK where he says everyone on his planet is naked. When Anushka asks him isn't that weird he replies with the bird outside is naked, if he wears a tie that is when he'd look weird so that is my simple explanation of that.
Second being proud of your body can be anything. Some people like to show off how good they look (say if they've lost weight and are so proud of their accomplishment they're happy to hide their rolls) or its with treating your body "like a temple" i.e. taking good care of it getting massages, makeup for some people etc.
We as a society especially older civilisations like Indians feel the need to stick with how things were back in the day. In the olden days women would do a ghoongat (covering their face and every other body part) this was because they lived in joint families and incest was a very easy thing to come. In pretty much every culture incest is one of the biggest sins (now we know because of birth defects). So their solution was to cover the women (instead of teaching the men to NOT stare at the woman or try to avoid making contact to the point that you develop a relationship like that.
You used the word modesty so much in your comment. I like your comment that modesty is being respectful on how you conduct yourself rather than how they dress. But what do you deem respectful? We (indians) consider the respectable thing to do is by wearing decent clothes (so people don't stare), not drinking (so people don't judge us), not smoke (again log kya kahenge (What will people say)), not date (again so people don't judge us), what career you want (what will people say? Sharmaji's son is doing Engineering why do you want to become a painter?) and so on. Modesty is within us. Where we are honest individuals who work hard and try to do the right thing whenever we have a choice. It is NOT how society should judge us.
What Lilly was saying was in regards to society. Why should we live the way society finds acceptable, why not how we feel. Lilly dresses like a tomboy. Her choice. She wore a sexy dress to the premiere of her movie. Again her choice. I personally am uncomfortable showing cleavage or wearing a short dress but that does not give me the right to say that everyone else should choose their clothing like I do. Do you get my point?
Another point to add to the 'Indian' part of the statement. search Brown paperbag (exactly like that) on Facebook and see the comic about the aunties judging the girl. This is the reality of our society. (I just went on didn't I? Hope you had fun reading lol if you actually finished :) )
At the end of the day I'm not arguing but I just wanted to have a discussion. Happy days my friend #onelove
It is not porn for a woman to show some skin. Why should you be able to tell me what to wear? That is so messed up, and I don't need to do what you say. So why do breasts need to be over sexualized? I mean guys can take off their shirt but girls can't? Why have boobs become sexual? The only thing that should be sexual is reproductive organs. I should be able to do whatever i want with my body, but just because I'm female means i don't have equal clothes rights? How in hell is that fair! Think of this topic as if we are out of what you know. My argument makes total sense. I mean guys can show their nipples but girls can't. Tell me how that is fair. and don't say, "because that is how society is" because that is crude. I mean, in AREAS where females are able to walk around shirtless, can get ARRESTED for turning a guy on. Seriously. So, young children should be exposed to female body acceptance to help change society.
I think that you should have the right to wear whatever you want BUT show a little RESPECT for others when you're in the public eye. Because I don't like walking around with my lil cousin and half of these girls/guys are having half of there ass hang out, And yes I said guys. I think that we COULD change the meaning of the word "slut" to a more positive meaning but will it happen? Probably not because how fucked up today's society is. But thats just my opinion. #GIRL&BOYLUV no need to bash other genders for what they believe in. 😋 P.S ~ I respect all genders! This isn't just based to a certain person/group. ❤️🦄
p.s I love everybody equally!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️ ~ Forgot to add that in to my lil rant. ~
Why is it a problem that your little cousin sees ass hanging out? It's just the human body. We all have body parts. Please don't read this with attitude, I am curious as to why people are very protective of children seeing boobs/ass/waists/legs - changes for every culture but you get the gist.
+Andrea Coloma Ikr
I don't think people are going to stop saying slut. same as every other horrible things people say. maybe one day it'll happen. but until then, I definitely think changing the meaning is a great idea. own it. make it positive.
Here is a bit of my part of the conversation:
changing the meaning of the word will not solve the problem, they'll come up with a new word and as as long as they want to shame, they will shame a girl for wearing whatever.
now I want to emphasize on the solution: we need to teach girls to love themselves , and that SHAME, is what you let yourself feel. if you feel ashamed from wearing a clothes cuz you can't stand what people are saying, then IT'S YOUR WEAKNESS & IT's YOUR PROBLEM, yes being kind is important but again if you don't respect your self and your clothes then you shouldn't be out wearing them anyways, whatever you wear, you should be okay with it because nomatter what you wear people can critsize you and you cant stop it. you cannot please everyone,you dont need to please people with what you're wearing and having that butthurt mentality is THE REAL PROBLEM.
I agree, the real problem is in the mentality of wanting everyone to accept you, it'll never happen, you'll always find people against you, and they're not the majority even tough they seem so, it's just the nasty obnoxious loud ones, just ignore them and be proud of your self like amber rose or whatever she's called.
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+Hareth Nasser oh boy, you completely missed the point.
"You have no right to judge a woman's character on the basis of the clothes she wears" that's all I want to say.
Thank you Lilly for being such a great icon...😊
Always spread the positivity...!👍👼
paused video at 4:55 to say this: wether u call someone a slut or not, certain ways of dressing and certain clothes or lack thereof, are going to cause consequences. ..usually negative. and when i get children im going to teach them to dress confidently but not in a way thats going to attract negative attention. you can change the word slut but the meaning behind it will never change. however, we do need to realize that some girls dont get taught properly in life and they might not realise how they are dressing. but most girls do. society calls niki minaj a hero for women yet the consequences of dressing or acting like her in real life doesn't really work positivly. and dont say oh well guys should stop being dirty. most of them arent even but their brains are wired differently to our and thats just basic science. so if u want to dress a certain way yeah ur entitled but your also not entirely wise. being womanly or a little flirty is a lot different to being a slut and neither should be confused with the empowerment of women.
ps. ppl who come up with these arguments are literally looking for an excuse to not feel guilty for what they are doing. they want to feel good about dressing bad or exposed. there are better ways to show yourself off and all your doing is playing into the hands of history repeating itself ....this time its the women degrading the woman.
i agree
***** well we will never meet but promise me to remember this comment of yours in 5 years.
Katherine Mortifine i agree. But we are living in this day and age and im pretty sure letting our children both male and female act or dress certain ways have not been helping but more so hindering the plight of society. Theres not much hope that the world will get better and even though rapists or pedos will strike no matter what , I kinda dont want to feed them by enticing them woth my kids or teenagers just because I am arguing about a little bit more clothes and covering up a little better. Or deciding the tightness of the clothes etc. I agree with what your saying. But I think that ship has very nearly much sailed.
the problem is men we need to change them not us.
Yes, I agree with you..... we are told to dress properly only because we have to be aware of what might happen to us or the way people look at us so, maybe if their perspective changes we don't have to be afraid or think about our decisions twice!
But there are also so many women who judge other women.
men are wired differently, mentally physically emotionally. its not them initially being sickos.
Honestly most slut shaming comes from women.
+Turtle Soup yup I think we women first need to stick together before pointing fingers at men. If we dont respect our fellow women why will they..
i was watching your old, old, old... vlogs yesterday night, I'm so freak out by this, but in one of them you started the vlog with the same quote! "life is a tragedy for those who feel, and a comedy for those who think." i thought, interesting quote; but didn't truly thought about it until you re-said it now in this 2016 vlog, and it just makes so much sense to me now! so much sense that I'm planning on living my life by this quote till the day I die. i don't believe in coincidence. love you Lilly.
a woman is not a bad example for being proud of there body IT IS SUCH A GOOD EXAMPLE TO SHOW THAT WOMEN SHOULD BE PROUD OF THEIR BODIES!!
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That just made me 10x more confident about myself😘😘😘
+EverythingDance5678 you should be so confident in your beautiful self!!❤❤❤
+Emma Duerr exactly! Women who are confident with their bodies in today's society is Amazing! It's very rare, it's like seeing a unicorn! x
+Dominika Rekawek YESS but whenever I'm on Lilly's channel I see millions of unicorns just like u!!
I think we should change the meaning of the word slut. We have the power to do that because we are basically the media. The word slut is USUALLY, NOT ALWAYS, BUT USUALLY associated with us females. I don't understand why males cannot be called sluts as well because I have seen pictures on instagram of men showing off their abs and a some of their V Line. or maybe they are wearing boxes. They are not usually named slut, in fact people find that sexy. so if women want a woman wants to show off her body, so be it!! Don't judge a woman because of what she does. Like Lilly said, because she doesn't dress the way you dress doesn't mean you can have the right judge her!
Don't get me wrong. I am very guilty of calling someone a slut. I am not saying that I haven't but I just wanted to put that out there. The way Lilly explained it just got me thinking
I take a lot of pride in saying that I have seen EVERY SINGLE vlog, as I'm sure many unicorns have. However, I have to say that this is my favorite. I always love hearing you talk passionately about things because I think you have such a good head on your shoulders and you're such a positive and loving person, but you always want to get people talking and get people thinking about things. Also, seeing the ways that you completely turn your day around make me think about what the eff I'm doing with MY life. OF COURSE you were upset that you couldn't go to the engagement party, I don't blame you, but even though you were upset, you got a ton of work done and turned it into something good. I (and all the other unicorns) hate seeing you sad but knowing that you can turn yourself around is so inspirational and wonderful. I may not know you personally, but I'm so proud of who you are as a person and now I'm rambling I'm sorry but I love you
Slut=a PERSON with multiple sexual partners.
I dress and show my stomach and legs all the time that does NOT make me a slut. It's not at all a bad thing at all. Guys walk around with their shirts off all the damn time, no one calls them sluts in fact they are called sexy?! So why is it only targeted towards girls. Dressing a certain way does not mean I sleep with multiple people.
Honestly I feel like the word should be used at all.
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Amen
I like this one
The thing about it, unless a man is an exclusive relationship with one of the women, he is not typically even stigmatized for having multiple sexual partners. He certainly won't be called a slut, or any masculine parallel word (because there actually isn't one). He be seen in a positive light by other men, a player or a stud.
And even in that definition, no one should be called names. If a woman wants to sleep with multiple people... who is that affecting? Why is she a "slut". What are men who sleep with multiple women called? I call them human beings who are living their life how they want.
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Hey Lilly! Just wanted to quickly leave this here: I really appreciate it that you are a vegetarian and that you're also mindful about trying to avood other animal products! It makes me really happy and I appreciate the fact that you are also open and vocal about it! And on top of that I think it is great that you are addressing more abd more topics with regard to our society .. I feel like you have some really important thoughts inside you're head that the world needs to hear! You're great! Lot's of love☺️
I've been thinking about this for a while now and here's my conclusion that I think applies to everyone: Everyone will have their own beliefs and opinions on how someone should dress and act. I do, and they are based on my religion, how I've been raised, and my own personal conclusions. But everyone, EVERYONE, needs to be respectful and helpful. Who are you helping by calling that girl on Instagram a slut? No one. You're not giving constructive criticism. You're not trying to help her live a better life (if you think she should be). You're just being rude! No one should be called a slut. No one should judge someone they don't even know. If you know someone personally and you think they are making a bad choice, you would give them some constructive criticism to try and help them. You wouldn't just say "girl you're a slut." Calling someone a slut is helping no one and getting no where. I hope everyone has a great day and God bless❤️
truly i agree with u love, i see from the point ur seeing at.
now iv 2016 we are showing more and more of our bodies, I understand if its a "trend" but you still need to respect your body and also to others. Like if you go to a movie and your wearing a sports bra and super short shorts then your showing everything to the world. Now people miss use the word slut were its kind of stupid people are just jealous of others and they out all lot of negativity into it which also leads to bulling, depression and suicide.MORAL OF IT ALL just be proud of who you are and have inner beauty.P.S sorry if this was wrong
I mean long
Respecting one's body means different things to different people - wearing short shorts and a sports bra to the movies is something I would do if it made sense in the weather conditions - that's respect for my body. I'm taking care of it. Covering it to a certain extent just because society can't handle seeing naked skin is not respecting one's body. Listening to it and doing what feels right is.
+Nevelina Aleksandrova true you do make a good point I see your view
Lily I completely agree with u!!! A woman can do whatever the hell she wants and women should be proud of their bodies and not be shamed for who they are and who they want to be!!! Keep spreading the positivity girl!! Proud to stand by u!!
when I was in highschool, there was a really atractive girl and all the other girls hated her, she only had male friends. she was very social and nice ( she was never mean with the girls who were mean to her). I hated her too, and a gym class when we were running we would go near her and howl ( as she was a bitch). months latter I had a fight with my best friend and all my group of friends stoped talking to me.
surprisingly, the atractive girl approach me and we started talking and became friends, then I found out that she was a very nice and humble person, that she was in fact a virgin and had only had one boyfriend. this make me think, and now I never judge anyone by their looks, I don't use my jelosy to create an irrational hate for someone I don't even know. (sorry for my english, it is not my first language)
In my opinion, I think people should be able to do whatever they want and they should fight for it because doing what we want is being happy and not being allowed to do what we want = not happy, and "the only thing in life that we need to fight for it happiness".
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+Fabby Duck Agreed. Life is way too dam short to not live it happily. I dont agree with all the different ways people feel they need to be happy (e.g. killing others who they belieive are "polluting" our world), but if their happiness harms no one else they should have the right to pursue their happiness
R a y C h e L So damn right
lilly is so positive wenever i hve hard times i think bout how she deals with em n smile you make my day
I do not think that people will stop using the word "slut". Just like how there will always be racism and homophobes. Sad, but true. People are ignorant and small-minded. I personally think a woman can do whatever the F she wants. BE PROUD OF YOUR BODY!! Society has always told us to be conservative, yet there is so much sexualization in the media of women. People will always have a problem with something.
Preeeaaaccchhhhh!!!!!
As a Muslim I would think that girls parents don't want them to see the mini skirts or cleavage because in our religion everyone isn't allowed to show most of their bodies (although a lot of people don't obey this including me) but I'm guessing parents don't want them to be like them or get sexuallised which I find hypocritical but if I wasn't a Muslim I would think it's just that a lot of people have been brought up to think that it is wrong to show yourself. I'm also deep in thought but it is too much to text, sorry Lilly xx
Lilly if you ever want a neutral opinion from different perspectives I'm always open to talk to you my twitter is @OmarPatel12 btw I'm a huge feminist because I appreciate being brought up only by women
I'm Muslim too and this is what I was thinking as well. Muslim girls are brought up to wear modest clothing and cover up as much as we can. I've been brought up to think that showing skin is bad and against Islamic laws (with the whole modest clothing and such). It's gotten embedded into my brain so much that if I see some girl dress provocatively or photos of them dressing like that, I think it's bad. :s But I think Lilly's vlog today has made me think a little about this topic. 😮
+SugarBubbles2000 same!! it took me years to teach myself out of that mentality. now i have to teach myself out of cringing at myself when i wear something that's a bit too tight on my boobs because I've been taught that that's wrong my whole life. one step at a time ✨
+SugarBubbles2000 I'm not the best Muslim but I still get told off for wearing skinny jeans although I'm quite opinionated and have been like "FINALLY SOMEONE TALKED ABOUT THIS" lok
+Omar Patel lol
Lilly I love you. "Friends - not everything is a fight. Sometimes I just want to have critical conversations". YESSSSS
I think society has us think about what is wrong or right, and "sluts" is one of those things! We're told one thing is wrong and believe it's the only way to think. It requires a lot of will power to go against this, but it's definitely worth it. I hope we can make this world a better place promoting open-mindedness instead of believing what we believe is true. Subjectivity is all around, we just forget about it.
Thank you Lilly for, once again, bringing up topics and questions that matter. The other day you asked why we watched your vlogs even though some days you're just sitting in front of your computer... This video is an example to why. Same with the previous vlog, with your rant on #Heterosexualprideday, #AllLivesMatter and #LikeaBoy. People like me watch your vlogs in order not to miss these moments when we feel like we could have a conversation with you.
Honestly I'd just love to talk about these things one day with you, in real life. One can dream and work at their dreams, right? :D
Sending a big and meaningful hug all the way from Europe.
Keep spreading these questions and that positivity :-) We love it and NEED MORE OF IT IN THIS WORLD!
Ely
P.s. Have you tried rice cakes but made with corn (which I supposed should be called corn cakes, hmhm)? It's so good, it tastes like popcorn. You should try them!!!
When I have a daughter my job will be to teach her to be safe and happy and to be a good person. Not whose she's sleeping with.
Also I live in Arizona I'm not giving up shorts and tank tops and get called a slut for it all the time . Like dude it's 115 degrees im not going be in a damn parka
i think we should stop using the word 'slut' you cant label someone in a bad way if thats what they want to do...its their LIFE!
That is the same thing I think
i dont think it is:)
It doesn't matter if someone kills themselves they can do whatever they want it's their life
So true- everyone is always saying how girls need to be confident and proud of their body. They say your perfect no matter what you where or your body shape. However, as soon as one of these girls shows some body and finally grows some confidence, they get called a 'slut' or a 'whore'. How does this happen?! A slut should be known as someone who puts other people down by comparing their 'perfect' body to others. Or ,even better, sluts shouldn't exist. We need to spread #girllove and stop putting other people down. Boost their confidence and compliment them. Lily you're a legend for spreading this. You're so kind and passionate. It's time we all stood up to this and excepted ourselves and others choice. Love you so much xxxx
I personally wouldn't show my body because it's mine and no one has the right to see it. Also, I hate this sexualisation of women in the West - women are told to dress in a certain way, viewed as objects, sexual objects. And it's disgusting. Everyone should be judged on their heart and mind and character and not their physical body.
The way I dress is similar to Kim k I love the way she dresses sexy but classy in some outfits and I get called a slut for dressing that way but I love my body and it's been a while since I felt confident about it I agree with everything that lily is saying
And I lost so much weight and I'm proud of how my body looks so I like showing it off
You should be proud of how your body looks. It is just beautiful, love it for me
Don't focus on the haters. In fact, them calling you a slut should be a compliment because every girl that is confident in her body is called the word. Anyway, just do whatever boosts your confidence and happiness.
The way that you stick up for what you believe in is probably my favorite things about you and honestly I think that it is a very good idea to change the definition of the word
I agree with you Lilly when you say that girls should be able to wear whatever they want, but, with all due respect, I would like to add on by saying that, mothers don't want their daughters to wear certain clothing because of some men and sometimes, even women. These men/women catfish/bully/rape/assault girls wearing certain clothes. I feel like this is the reason mothers don't want their daughters wearing certain clothes. For example, In India, where I live, men tend to stare/catfish/rape/assault women who wear short clothes.
This is just my opinion and I am not trying to hate on Lilly. I agree with Lilly and I am just putting my opinion out there.
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I think that people should stop saying being a slut "is a bad thing". Every women had the right to do what they want and dress how they want. You might think they are a bad influence, but how come when a men does the same its bad?
I meant it's not its
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It is bad when a dude does the same thing. The only place where people act like it's normal is Tumblr and retarded dude-bros
+Crayola Candy no it's not bad when a dude goes shirtless for an insta post
Omg exactly
Dear Lilly, I think it is possible to change the meaning of 'slut'. Take for example, the word 'bloody' it used to be one of the worst curse words in the olden days ( well that's what my parents told me ) and now it is safe to use it in a normal setting. So if we can just use hashtags and get the word around to the point where Oxford dictionary changes the definition in their dictionary, the future generation will use this word and hopefully other words like whore in a different way. It is very difficult to discard of a word so widely used. Rather let's change the meaning of this word. Amber Rose started it. Let's continue.
Whose with me ? ;)
+Sharon Kuruvilla me!
+Gabriella Stein Yay ! ♡
But what do we change it to? What's the meaning/definition going to be? :)
+M0onGirl a girl who's confident and happy with her body.
Lilly has so many things in her head and I'm so happy that one of those great things is she thinks that people shouldn't be called words like that .
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im early for once in my life. its 1:17 am in london and i am watching this 💖
I'm in London too
I'm in Yorkshire
I'm in USA
02:08 in London 😀
"I never stop listening to a guy if he's showing cleavage!" 😂 😂 😂
i love it when she says "about" lmao #AccentsAreSexy
haha truee
Bruhhhhhh
i thought i was the only one. lol
When?
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I used to do porn, because I really loved it!!! I loved to show myself off, and I think I look good, I think I am hot and I loved, loved, loved the feeling that I could give pleasure to people. just by letting them look at me! And I was hated so much by so many people.... It was so wierd to me. I can't see what the fuck is wrong with me, choosing, what I like to do. I just felt awesome doing porn and showing me off. It makes me so confused how people react to that kind of things. I love you Lilly!!!
Heh' charming. :) Well, I never got that big outside of Denmark, so I doubt you can find any of my stuff on the internet, but I remember once seeing some of my pictures float around on Grayvee.com, but that is like 8 years ago so....
good for u for putting ur self out there
As long as it was safe, legal, and consensual, who cares? Even though not everyone would chose a certain type of job that doesn't mean they should judge. The human body is beautiful and shouldn't be shunned or shamed. I wish you luck in future endeavors both personal and public and thanks for being so brave and putting yourself out there 💙
As long as you're comfortable with it.
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I seriously love her little inspirational rants, it's like an eye opener👏👏👏👌
I think modesty is important. What are we saying to our children?
Your opinion. You teach your children to be modest. But what if they want to wear something you don't agree with? You think modest clothing is necessary. Nice. But others don't. So they shouldn't be stopped, is the point here.
But that's your choice. If others don't want to dress modestly then we cannot judge and shame them for how they want to express themselves.
***** that's so true! it doasn't matter what you wear if you 're rotten inside. very well said. i have the same problem with "modest" girls who talk behind everyones back
I personally think we need to change the definition. It would be nice if we could all stop useing the word but I don't believe that's going to ever happen. The fact woman get called sluts for what they wear, etc is fucked up. I find that women are placed in these boxes full of expectations by society that are not only controlled by male influnishin if it but by women who use these expectations on each other. I hear more woman call other woman sluts and whores then I do men but when I hear guys use it, they use it in a whole different meaning. I don't know if I'm makeing sense or not but I think if we're talking about just the word slut and how it's used then the definition needs to change one way or another....
influencing it ****
I feel that if people started looking at women that wear less clothing intention as feeling comfortable about themselves and the way they look instead of interpreting it as wanting to show of, the major part of the problem would be solved... another thing I don't really understand is why is it okay for a guy to take his shirt of and feel proud of their body and women and men don't see any problem with it, but when a girl does it guys don't really mind but when it comes to most girls they're bothered about it.
I feel that women can be either really good supporters of each other or be really mean and often bitchy to other girls.
How about everyone stop being so oversensitive over words? That'd destroy it's power quicker than just demolishing it.
It IS a bad thing to be a slut, it spreads STDs like wildfire and can cause internal damage from literally too much sex. Raw skin and dry friction are not kind things. Whether you're a dude or a chick, either be a slut and own it or be monogamous and own it.
And yeah, women do throw around "slut" more often than men do.At least in my experience.
your talking about sex though, we're talking about how the word slut is used to degrade women and how its used just when women wear "too much make up" or wearing clothing that is reveling. that is what we are talking about, we aren't focusing on sex. and yes woman do use slut alot but so do men, its hard to determine who uses it more, both use it just as much as the other
omg the example u just made lilly about gays is so true i was literally thinking the exact same thing. if someone wants to show their body. dont shame them it is what they want to do. now superwoman. u r amazing. keep preaching girl!!
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the label "slut" is often used to describe a woman who dresses provocatively and sleeps with a bunch of guys. In my view, the term is just a characteristic that describes a person who is frankly a slut. you mentioned gays and in other ways, the term "gay" is a characteristic of a person who is gay. so if someone is a slut through the way they dress or act, why do you believe that it is wrong for others to call that person a slut if it is what they is? is it wrong to call someone gay if that is what they is? you can't force people to not say something or change the definition of something just because it seems shameful. just change your perception of the term slut into a positive thing like "oh, i'm a slut but i dont give an f" like how gay people as you mentioned dont view the term gay as a bad thing..
thanks if you had the time to read through this it's pretty long oh god...
I LOVE YOU SO MUCH FOR BRINGING THIS SUBJECT UP!
A woman showing her body off is not a bad example. If anything it's amazing to see a woman be proud and confident in her own skin.
You notice men are always celebrated for posting provocative or almost nude pictures, but when a woman does it she's a slut.
Yes I'm having a conversation with myself rn. don't mind me. I love you.
iiSuperwomanii i think u missed the mark on this one
I don't think she did I think she nailed it we need to be more open minded
+Iloveunicorns Thatswhyimalillycorn thats just a matter of opinion
+Iloveunicorns Thatswhyimalillycorn I completely agree people NEED TO BE AWARE of this
+NeedMoreCoffee Im not judging. im saying people will and its wrong but changing the meaning wont stop people... in the comment i said above i was saying look what people called miley. just because she expressed herself
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Superwoman do you speak Tamil
one of her good friend is a Tamilian
+Sphoorthy Hegde she was singing Tamil song
+Irfan Azwan she listens to Tamil songs a lot!:D
When did she sing Tamil song?
+Suresh Woo she did on one of her vlog..I dont remeber which vlog.
girl power!!! I'm over 40 and I have a daughter...i was lucky to be raised by a woman that truly taught me to dress how I felt good...and didn't demonize the word "slut" ...my woman friends and I use the term as a joke about OURSELVES...so yes the meaning loses its power...i applaud you for bringing up this issue because so many young girls watch you and it's important to bring up the fact that this is mostly girl on girl hate.... I strive to teach my daughter to be herself. period...and to understand that other people deserve to be themselves...period!! ❤❤
I think that Moms don't like their daughters showing too much cleavage and mini skirts because there's a lot of bad people out there. Moms maybe just are trying to protect their kids? I'm saying this with all respect😊Comment ur opinions
but dont get me wrong I totally agree with her opinions, questions, and statements😊😍😗😜
I agree. Personally, I believe modesty is important and you don't need to post your business for the world to see, but it certainly shouldn't be SHAMED. No woman should be.
+Femily Forever yea I agree but no woman should be labeled a "slut" or "hoe" it's a cruel label that is used often, for small reasons. No woman should be shamed bcz of what she wears, who she sleeps with and /or dates, and what pictures she takes and if she wants to post it somewhere, LET HER! ITS NOT ANYONES RIGHT TO TELL US WHAT WE CANT AND CANT DO, WEAR, OR DATE
Angie. Personally, I don't think women should get offended with such words (if its true). For instance, if a female does sleep with a lot of guys, then i think it's fine to call her a slut. But it shouldn't be a complete bad thing, people should just own up to it. However, if people are spreading rumours that's when I think they should get offended.
+AllNightAllen I Honestly completely agree and I like how you thought outside the box🤗u thought about it differently I like ur statement
Agh first time in early 😊😊
me too!
+AquariusTheUnicorn i totally agree
+AquariusTheUnicorn I somehow agree with ur point, u r having a solid point in this issue......
+AquariusTheUnicorn I totally agree with that statement
you have great speechs or rants in your vlogs like seriously this why i love you
Well they should be proud of their bodies, but we have brain , we do not live in a jungle, we must cover ourselves, at least in areas that do not have to show up, I feel bad when we talk about these things! to where you want to get after this talk, get out Naked !! You are talking with millions of teenagers, be more responsible, I love you but this is not classy at all
When you give an example should be worth! , What will I benefit when you give me an example of someone maximum reached to show us his\her body or to tell people that they are sluts :| , it doesn't make sense , and we should be behave as animal with each other , without respect !
not to sound rude, but your grammar isn't all that great, which is fine, but it makes it a little difficult for me to respond to everything perfectly. Apologies. Okay, the thing is public nudity is illegal. Public wearing mini skirts and having boobs is perfectly fine. I don't know who decided this in the first place but the view is archaic. It's demeaning to women and puts us back centuries of a fight for gender equity when we tell girls to be modest in public, especially for the sake of men. A woman can be who she wants and dress how she wants and should not face adversity.
i apologize for that , because english it is not my native language , but i was try , i respect your opinion and thanx for reply me
i totally agree with you! Covering ur body is a way of showing how much manners you have and how you've been brought up. im sorry lilly nut i disagree with you on this
thank u , lilly is awsome , but we have an opinion also
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but I was 2nd lol#one love #team super!
has anyone noticed that because of lilly's vlog, more people went over to that amber rose video and spread all their love and positivity and now there are no negative comments to be seen. Lilly is truly spreading love everywhere :)
I would love to sit down and face time Lilly and talk about all of these topics so much! ❤️ Love you Lilly ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Lilly is super pretty, people say she to weird and they say I watch her to much. But Lilly inspires me and makes me smile, so I don't care what they say cause I'm a unicorn and I'm in team super. I just love her so much, she's the reason I am who I am. A proud weird 13 year old and unicorn lover girl
I 100% agree. I think why some people think it's a bad example is because kids will obviously do the same thing and then attract people who only care about their body. But I for sure see and agree with your point and think we should change the definition. More power to you!
So many props to Amber Rose! She's not afraid to show skin and isn't afraid of facing those who want to push her down. She is bursting with confidence and it's the best!
Lilly's vlogs are the best. It's so empowering and enlightening
Thank you for bringing this up Lilly and I just want to say, from experience, to any girls out there who have ever called another girl a slut: the sooner you learn to love and respect all other women, the more you will learn to love and respect yourself unconditionally. You will be happier in yourselves and your relationships, and you'll discover a whole new world of new perspectives and possibilities. I hope all girls out there, sluts, virgins, and otherwise, are having an amazing day :) you're all wonderful
honestly people should keep their opinions to theirselves, they themselves have flaws too so they shouldn't be judging but great speech lily ♡♡
I 100% agree with lilly. love the way she thinks.
@iisuperwomanii I feel that open-mindedness comes with the years. The shock a person feels towards a vulgar word, or a woman showing cleavage has decreased in today's times. Sure, there are so many people who still feel like they HAVE to comment on another person's choices. And then they go on and call themselves 'modernistic' and stuff like that. Such people should just keep quiet about their judgments and get on with life. Also, as Lilly said in the video as to whether we should ban vulgar words or change their meaning, i feel that changing it would really help. For example if we change the alleged meaning of slut to, say, a person who is sexy and confidant, the person who is the recipient of such words will feel better and more confident about herself rather than not be herself and suffer anxiety. Change has always been good and it will continue to be.
Lilly you're amazing for bringing this subject up. In my environment 'slut' is mostly used by jealous girls who see a really pretty girl who is confident in her own body and has a lot of attention from boys. From women that word comes with great jealously because they feel insecure about themselves. From men perspective - there is still double standard about sleeping with different people. Guys think that's their right to brag about sleeping with multiple people because it makes them 'cool' but if a girl is winning that contest they think their manhood is in question and they start shaming her for being her confident self. That girl has done nothing wrong in her own eyes - she chose to be this way - confident and sexy but people around her with insecurities about themselves they want to bring her down to make feel better about themselves. Trust me I know. My sister is better looking, gets more attention from boys than I ever had and for a long time I felt bad and tried to bring her down. But it was my problem not hers so I realised that and it doesn't bother me anymore. My advise to all 'slut' shamers - man/ woman up, it's not her fault that you feel insecure. Fix your attitude and her confident self won't make you any less sexy or desirable. So be yourself and don't judge other people for being themselves
Nothing wrong with wearing what you're comfortable with. Nothing stop you, and Amber is right doing what she wants and I respect her. She's comfortable with herself and some people can't handle that.
you are seriously my new inspiration. the way you think is just awsome and #GirlLove is an amazing project! i appreciate your existence a lot
i think that people should do whatever they're comfortable with, so long as it isnt hurting themselves or other people
I have been watching her for like 4 years now but idk why today I kinda fell in love with her.
Lilly, you sacrifice so much of your own life for us❤
This video really made me think. Because I dress very reserved so I can't really understand why people would want to show their bodies. But at the same time I have had many really close friends who didn't care about their imperfections or what other people thought and wore whatever they wanted to. I think that is a really brave thing to do, and most of those people were really nice and sweet and you know people. So thank you Superwoman for making me think about this.
i think you are right iisuperwoman your are the best youtuber ever .......
I think the reason why some people think "oh I don't want my daughter to dress like her" is because some parents are scared. 1) some parents are scared that their children will outshine them in terms or beauty and self loving their own body, because some mothers are scared of their daughters beauty (kinda hear about things like that & honestly think it's stupid to be jealous of your own daughter but hey-ho) and 2) some are scared that if their daughter is dressed in is what seems to be a "provocative" manner, that they are most likely to be sexually assaulted since that's the type of messed up world we live in & what makes me angry is that its not even their fault when something as terrible as that happens! I agree with you Lilly, women should be able to express their body in confidence however they want & they shouldn't be called a "slut" for their own self expression, they shouldn't be judged for wanting to dress however they want. This is just my opinion and people ar entitles to think and feel however they want
Lilly is literally the most REAL person i know of 😂😂👌
We can never take a word away from people but I really do believe a little at a time you can DEFINITELY change the meaning of something like that.
one of the most inspirational videos I've watched in a very very long time. The other day my mum said that she didn't like Kim Kardashian for posing with little clothing on, because it was a bad influence to me making me think that was the right way to dress. I questioned her, why is that not the right way to dress? Why is there a certain way you have to dress? Shouldn't we be teaching girls to love theirs bodies and be proud of them not hide them because it's 'not right'. Just because you don't like what she is wearing doesn't mean its not right. Also I think we should change the definition of slut, and make it a compliment. If people use it as a negative girls should be trained to see the positive in the word.
I think the first step to ending slut shaming is teaching everyone, girls and boys that shut shaming isn't right and that girls should be able to wear whatever they want. parents don't want their younger daughters wearing revealing clothes because there are so many people who judge, say negative things and are basically creeps and parents don't want their daughters being exposed to that at a young age. if everyone learns to stop using the words "sl*ts or wh**es then maybe more girls would feel comfortable wearing more revealing clothes
Ok, I just have one response to this which is that when we were raised we were programed a certain mentality of how to be an idea "women/girl". But when we get introduced to something out of the norm, then we begin to judge. Which I not right!!! We should remember,that everyone has the right to be happy regardless of what it is.....
I (almost) completely agree with you Lilly. The only part I don't really is with ''Oh I don't want my younger daughter dressed like that' Why?' and that's because with that I personally believe there is an age limit. I guess it depends on the age but I mean... 13 and under is like okay stick to the cute sweatshirts and a low skirt because the younger you know, the more vulnerable and I think it is important to teach your younger daughters to yes be happy and comfortable with their body, but also self aware. There can always be (sorry if this is too inappropriate for your comment section) Pedophiles or rapists and you don't want your daughter to be in danger of that. But that's just my opinion I agree 100% on everything else although. Keep doing what you do I love your videos and can't wait to see more!
There is a lot of anxiety surrounding sex in general, I think.
The ways in which we socialize people into categories of gender imply so much about the anxieties surrounding sexual intercourse, too. Our schools that lack proper sex education and the silence surrounding how we talk about sex/sexuality also say a lot about how we define and assign the word "slut."
When people use the term in a derogatory way toward women, it is a verbal tool to degrade the woman who has agency regarding her sexuality/her appearance. To put it plainly, people are shaming a woman for having agency with her sexuality. But, it's not just that.
Not only is the word "slut" saying "because she dresses/behaves a certain way she is morally corrupt and bad," but it is also saying, "look at her, at least I am not her, I am better than her." This part is socialized, too. When a man calls a woman a slut, it often means, "this woman acts on her sexual agency, and I don't like that because she should only be a slut for one man." All of this, of course, is also under the assumption that this word is used under heterosexual/heteronormative situations.
When we call a woman a slut, we deny and reject her agency regarding sex, and in the process we deem her unworthy of human respect. Our societal tendency to keep sex silent and distill sex from the everyday create these situations. In reality, the most innocent child is born out of sex. Sex permeates everything, and we choose to actively ignore it for the convenience of keeping everything "clean."
All sorts of broad structural hierarchies are connected just from this one word, and it comes out of such degradation that I wouldn't opt for reclaiming the word. I hope this comment helps somehow.
Nobody should shame anyone for doing what they want if it isn't harming anyone.
"I have often said, and oftener think, that this world is a comedy to those that think, a tragedy to those that feel - a solution of why Democritus laughed and Heraclitus wept." - Horatio Walpole
My favourite quote too.
I totally agree, I am someone who feels very passionate about 'slut-shaming' and treating everyone with respect no matter what. It really pissing me off when people say these sorts of things because why aren't women allowed to feel comfortable being who they wanna be and wearing what they wanna wear. I mean some guys wear shirts and some wear those vest tops, and no one calls them "sluts" or anything because they are showing more skin than what other men like to wear but as soon as girls decide to wear a crop top instead of a normal t-shirt, that's not ok. That just doesn't make any sense to me what so ever!!
Who else thinks Lilly is the cutest thing ever
I love that quote too!!! It's by Horace Walpole. Love it💚
I think as humans, we're so tuned to categorising things into good and bad. So, when someone sees the consequences of a lady confidently showing off their body, it makes them feel like they have the right to judge and generalise that the kind of attitude will definitely lead to a negative outcome.
Perhaps, it's all about perspectives and how someone had been raised all their lives. It plays a huge role in how they perceive certain issues. If the person were to come from a conservative family, perhaps, the thought process is that, "I don't show off my body for the world to see, but I still feel empowered within." Empowerment is different for every woman. However, being judgemental towards how other women who portray their confidence publicly is most likely a sign that the individual feels a tinge of insecurity or jealousy within. This is where #GirlLove can be a strong advocate for such issues. ❤️
It makes me so happy that we can just have a civilized conversation about this without anyone making a stupid, thoughtless comment. Good job team super.
My personal belief is that language is one of the greatest virtues. Being able to share our thoughts and opinions through words with others probably contributes most the progression of society. However the when words are used improperly or used to describe something so subjective that almost everyone that reads it will interpret what was said differently it most likely doesn't need to be said; and what was said often shows more about the speaker's character than they intended it to. I think that the word "slut" being used to shame women into thinking that showing ("to much of") their body automatically must mean that they are trying to attract attention or show off is not the only way that is could be used. The word most likely will not stop being used however the definition or words are constantly being slightly altered to mean different things. Who knows one day "slut" could be used to describe a persons outward confidence about the way they choose to dress and show their body.
Okay so I totally agree with you lily it's just that alot of ppl are hardwired to think that and you speaking out about it makes ppl think and it brings upon change a lot of ppl don't like change
i swear lil every time u walk past the fridge u say crackalacking hhahah love you!!!! xxx
I think society has just adapted to that form of thinking. But I 100% believe that we should change the meaning of "slut" to something like "a woman who is confident and proud of her body". That's my opinion do what you want with it! Btw I love you Lilly and you positive outlook on life so much!
Can I just say the part when you were talking to your friends that are all in Canada actually made me cry a little... Because I live in Scotland right now and I haven't seen my family and friends since Christmas and my plan to go home this summer is most probably not even gonna happen, so I won't see them till next year. :( :( :(