I totally relate dude. I'm in my 30s too and I stutter. It's manageable and mild for the most part but it can fluctuate wildly depending on the situation. This condition is very isolating and this isolation really hurts the pysche. I've managed to get ahead in life and I've done well career wise but the amount of extra hoops I had to jump and the added hardships I had to endure almost broke me. I currently live alone and I really don't have friends. I like interacting with ppl but they usually end up disliking me because they almost always develop the perception that I'm weird, stupid, and anti-social and that's painful. Nowadays I don't even try to socialize, it's too emotionally draining. Thank you for sharing your story. It's nice to know we aren't alone in this.
Man im crying cause imm at work and I been stuttering all day they have me answering phones which easy for them but really hard for me being a stutter cause when I’m nerves omg you can’t understand what I’m saying thank you so much for sharing yo story you have really up lift my spirt and I’m learning to understand that this is me and I’m just happy I can talk cause some people can’t omg thank you so much
Yeah man I've been a stutter as long as I can remember. It sucks because I hear my family and friends talk good, and I just want that. But from what I know I'm the only one in my family that stutters. It's sucks because they don't really hangout with me, and I know it's because of that. It hurts sometimes alot, but I have a beautiful wife and son, and they are my world. But you so brave to post video's, not a lot of people can do that. Proud of you brother. God bless you and your familu
I’ve just come across this video while lying in my bed in England, I have a very bad stammer and it’s ruined my life, I was looking on UA-cam for help or to find people who feel how I feel every day, worried about the the day ahead, hoping they won’t make a fool of themselves. Thank you for your videos, I could never have the courage to do this ❤
Hey mate, great to see you're still making videos- a lot of us wouldn't have the balls to do what you do. Its awesome to see your wonderful family growing up as well, I'm really jealous of the relationship you seem to have with them. I am a closet stutterer (I can hide it from most people by avoiding trigger words or sounds) as mine isn't as severe. I don't know why I feel like I have to keep it a secret from people- maybe it would be easier to deal with if it was more obvious. I always hated that people don't seem to think that stuttering is a big issue, I guess because unless you stutter in front of them they would never know that you have a disability.. Maybe we should walk around with a big sign saying "I CAN'T TALK PROPERLY". It's something that really can take over your whole life- I haven't answered my phone for years, never socialise with people outside of being at work- I even avoid going shopping unless I literally run out of food due to the social anxiety it can cause. When you say you would give anything to be able to speak like a normal person, I understand exactly what you mean, like how different could life have been if you could speak up in class, ask out that girl on a date, etc. actually pursue what you want to do and never be held back especially as a kid and as a teenager. But I think having a stutter makes you become a more loving and empathetic person. I wonder if I'd be a real jerk if I never stuttered, perhaps stuttering has made you a better person, and a better dad for your kids :)
Much love ,my brother. I know how you feel. I'm so glad I finally overcame stuttering. Anyone can do it. We all deserve the best quality of life. I'm sending you tons of good energy.
Thank you so much for posting and giving insight into what life is like for you on the daily. Your bravery is evident and I’m super grateful to learn from you!
As a person without a stutter and who wants to know more, thank you so much, your video and your insights on the way your daily life is impacted are extremely educational and eye opening for others and to help everyone understand these challenges a little better. You are doing a great thing, thank you for sharing your story!
Good video. Most ppl have no fucking idea what it means to us, those who stutter. I wish I could accept it. I wish I didn’t care about it. But I can’t see it that way. It’s embarrassing. It’s shameful.
I am 71 years old, and have stuttered since early childhood. Based on my own experience and a very large amount of reading about stuttering over the years, I would say the following. In many instances, children who begin stuttering in early childhood (age 4), for reasons not fully understood by experts in this field, will permanently cease stuttering WITHOUT speech therapy. In my opinion, it depends in part on the parenting abilities of the parents, the degree to which they have educated themselves about raising children who stutter, overall conditions within the home, bullying at school, and the severity of the biological basis of the child’s stuttering. If your child’s stuttering does not improve AND IF it becomes a problem, I recommend speech therapy. If the child seems to “be ok” with his stuttering, it is probably best to not obtain speech therapy, just try to be a good parent. If you do decide to obtain speech therapy, try VERY strongly to find a speech therapist who has been trained how to treat stuttering, and few of them have. A better option is an approach that does not treat the stuttering, but the child who stutters. This is sometimes call the “holistic” approach. The “holistic” approach may also be helpful as a young adult. If a person has stuttered since early childhood and still does by his early 20’s, the continued stuttering and related stressful experiences may have caused mental health disorders. No type of therapy will be effective until those disorders have been adequately addressed. The disorders may be depression, PTSD, generalized anxiety, or some type of personality disorder regarding having normal relationships with other people. If so, he needs help from a psychologist or even a psychiatrist. In either case, try to find one who has patients who stutter. I "have been there".
I totally feel you on the on-the-spot stuff. Pre-meditated speech I'm fine but on the spot. Lawd have mercy, I can't get a word out. It really sucks living with this condition. Sending you a lot of virtual hugs!
Agree that it sucks to stutter. I thought that today as I was trying to make a phone call. If I could change it and take it away for both of us I def would.
Yea I stutter like him when I was younger kids and my teacher through I could read and kids laugh and it hurt my feeling no one ever knew cause if I didn’t know you I wouldn’t hold a conversation with you it’s really hard for us specially being adults it really can put you in a deep depression but over the years I learned to just take a deep breath and take my time but I can’t answer phone at work with out stuttering
Hey there my stuttering is severely bad aswell don't be discouraged because I believe God can do so much more and heal you. As Moses Came up with the excuses because of his stuttering But God still used him and spoke through him.
After I started stuttering after damage to my vocal cords after having ACDF surgery on my cervical spine I've learned to just accept that I have it. It took a couple of years to just accept it. I'm tired of searching for people who stutter and all these sites that claim be cured in 10 minutes. I've just accepted that it's my life now and it sets me apart from everyone else.
I hate it having to leave a voicemail with someone or some place and it's usually only about 30 seconds you just can't say what you want to in that time.
I used to stutter until I was about 5, I really do not know how I got out of it? But there are still very rare occasional stutters like any normal person does.
Thank you for sharing! My brother stutters and no one else in the family does. With Joe Biden running for president, maybe things will get better for people who stutter and the people that love them.
Hey dude, maybe you stutter because you put fluent speech on a pedestal? I stutter myself, but I stuttered a lot more severely in my teens. In my own experience (and possibly yours too), I have noted that the desire for fluency is counterproductive. Also, the fact that you hate your stutter so much kind of shows that you do put fluent speech on a pedastal. When I use to stutter more severely, I hated my stutter and I would try very hard to not stutter. I think that trying hard not to stutter actually causes stuttering. (i.e. stuttering is an attempt to prevent stuttering). My solution is to just think to yourself "fuck it". Don't try and talk well, just let it go man. This is obviously easily said, but difficult to do. However, I feel like that "fuck it" mentality towards your speech is the beginning of the end of stuttering. Also, look into a guy called Dr. Mort Cooper on youtube or even check out my vids man, I talk about how I have improved my speech and one of the biggest things that helped is I just stopped looking at fluent speech as the holy grail of life. Peace dude!
So there's this device that plays your voice back into your ear at a different pitch that's supposed to help reduce the stutter. Have you tried anything like that?
rsuave109 i have actually, i own one. I just don’t use it because it just slightly helps. It’s not a cure. And I don’t like wearing it. I’m sure it helps some people more than others.
I'm really curious, do you like it when people finish your words and sentences for you or does it make it worse? Would you rather somebody would simply wait for you to finish your words?
@@asterphy sadly yes. All my life. Some days actually aren’t bad and most people wouldn’t even notice but other days I can’t get out one word. It’s worse when I speak in front of a group or I read out loud. If I’m by myself talking to myself usually won’t stutter, also when I sing ( which I’m terrible at ) I won’t stutter. But I’ve been in speech thereapy most of my life, and I’ve had 2 different speech devices and I’ve been to the best speech school in the world. They are seemed to help for a little bit then I’m always right back to my stutter no matter what.
I totally relate dude. I'm in my 30s too and I stutter. It's manageable and mild for the most part but it can fluctuate wildly depending on the situation. This condition is very isolating and this isolation really hurts the pysche. I've managed to get ahead in life and I've done well career wise but the amount of extra hoops I had to jump and the added hardships I had to endure almost broke me. I currently live alone and I really don't have friends. I like interacting with ppl but they usually end up disliking me because they almost always develop the perception that I'm weird, stupid, and anti-social and that's painful. Nowadays I don't even try to socialize, it's too emotionally draining. Thank you for sharing your story. It's nice to know we aren't alone in this.
Man im crying cause imm at work and I been stuttering all day they have me answering phones which easy for them but really hard for me being a stutter cause when I’m nerves omg you can’t understand what I’m saying thank you so much for sharing yo story you have really up lift my spirt and I’m learning to understand that this is me and I’m just happy I can talk cause some people can’t omg thank you so much
I am leaving an unhappy life because of my stammering, it really affect my life in so many ways 😭😭😭
Yeah man I've been a stutter as long as I can remember. It sucks because I hear my family and friends talk good, and I just want that. But from what I know I'm the only one in my family that stutters. It's sucks because they don't really hangout with me, and I know it's because of that. It hurts sometimes alot, but I have a beautiful wife and son, and they are my world. But you so brave to post video's, not a lot of people can do that. Proud of you brother. God bless you and your familu
mike Prieto you should add me on Facebook. Lance lambert or lancelambert@hotmail.com my profile pic is me and my daughter
Mike, it's awesome that you now have a great support system (i.e., your family) and only keep positive people in your life! You rock !
I’ve just come across this video while lying in my bed in England, I have a very bad stammer and it’s ruined my life, I was looking on UA-cam for help or to find people who feel how I feel every day, worried about the the day ahead, hoping they won’t make a fool of themselves. Thank you for your videos, I could never have the courage to do this ❤
@@user-qg9gm6wh3t thank you. Goodluck to you.
Hey mate, great to see you're still making videos- a lot of us wouldn't have the balls to do what you do. Its awesome to see your wonderful family growing up as well, I'm really jealous of the relationship you seem to have with them.
I am a closet stutterer (I can hide it from most people by avoiding trigger words or sounds) as mine isn't as severe. I don't know why I feel like I have to keep it a secret from people- maybe it would be easier to deal with if it was more obvious.
I always hated that people don't seem to think that stuttering is a big issue, I guess because unless you stutter in front of them they would never know that you have a disability.. Maybe we should walk around with a big sign saying "I CAN'T TALK PROPERLY". It's something that really can take over your whole life- I haven't answered my phone for years, never socialise with people outside of being at work- I even avoid going shopping unless I literally run out of food due to the social anxiety it can cause.
When you say you would give anything to be able to speak like a normal person, I understand exactly what you mean, like how different could life have been if you could speak up in class, ask out that girl on a date, etc. actually pursue what you want to do and never be held back especially as a kid and as a teenager. But I think having a stutter makes you become a more loving and empathetic person. I wonder if I'd be a real jerk if I never stuttered, perhaps stuttering has made you a better person, and a better dad for your kids :)
Much love ,my brother. I know how you feel. I'm so glad I finally overcame stuttering. Anyone can do it. We all deserve the best quality of life. I'm sending you tons of good energy.
Was your stutter bad and did u plans words
Thank you so much for posting and giving insight into what life is like for you on the daily. Your bravery is evident and I’m super grateful to learn from you!
As a person without a stutter and who wants to know more, thank you so much, your video and your insights on the way your daily life is impacted are extremely educational and eye opening for others and to help everyone understand these challenges a little better. You are doing a great thing, thank you for sharing your story!
Good video.
Most ppl have no fucking idea what it means to us, those who stutter.
I wish I could accept it. I wish I didn’t care about it.
But I can’t see it that way. It’s embarrassing. It’s shameful.
I am 71 years old, and have stuttered since early childhood. Based on my own experience and a very large amount of reading about stuttering over the years, I would say the following.
In many instances, children who begin stuttering in early childhood (age 4), for reasons not fully understood by experts in this field, will permanently cease stuttering WITHOUT speech therapy. In my opinion, it depends in part on the parenting abilities of the parents, the degree to which they have educated themselves about raising children who stutter, overall conditions within the home, bullying at school, and the severity of the biological basis of the child’s stuttering. If your child’s stuttering does not improve AND IF it becomes a problem, I recommend speech therapy. If the child seems to “be ok” with his stuttering, it is probably best to not obtain speech therapy, just try to be a good parent. If you do decide to obtain speech therapy, try VERY strongly to find a speech therapist who has been trained how to treat stuttering, and few of them have.
A better option is an approach that does not treat the stuttering, but the child who stutters. This is sometimes call the “holistic” approach.
The “holistic” approach may also be helpful as a young adult.
If a person has stuttered since early childhood and still does by his early 20’s, the continued stuttering and related stressful experiences may have caused mental health disorders. No type of therapy will be effective until those disorders have been adequately addressed. The disorders may be depression, PTSD, generalized anxiety, or some type of personality disorder regarding having normal relationships with other people. If so, he needs help from a psychologist or even a psychiatrist. In either case, try to find one who has patients who stutter.
I "have been there".
I totally feel you on the on-the-spot stuff. Pre-meditated speech I'm fine but on the spot. Lawd have mercy, I can't get a word out. It really sucks living with this condition. Sending you a lot of virtual hugs!
Agree that it sucks to stutter. I thought that today as I was trying to make a phone call. If I could change it and take it away for both of us I def would.
that's me on a daily basis
You have strong confidence Lance doing these life videos and sharing your life
Hey i stutter too,i dont know if its gonna get better or not,but im here with you
Yea I stutter like him when I was younger kids and my teacher through I could read and kids laugh and it hurt my feeling no one ever knew cause if I didn’t know you I wouldn’t hold a conversation with you it’s really hard for us specially being adults it really can put you in a deep depression but over the years I learned to just take a deep breath and take my time but I can’t answer phone at work with out stuttering
Hey there my stuttering is severely bad aswell don't be discouraged because I believe God can do so much more and heal you. As Moses Came up with the excuses because of his stuttering But God still used him and spoke through him.
Yes, S words trigger me and being put on the spot I find really difficult how to respond back to a question or I end up giving an unrelated answer.
yes bro, it is really f'''' we have just to truth our self
After I started stuttering after damage to my vocal cords after having ACDF surgery on my cervical spine I've learned to just accept that I have it. It took a couple of years to just accept it. I'm tired of searching for people who stutter and all these sites that claim be cured in 10 minutes. I've just accepted that it's my life now and it sets me apart from everyone else.
I hate it having to leave a voicemail with someone or some place and it's usually only about 30 seconds you just can't say what you want to in that time.
Thanks for sharing 🌷
I used to stutter until I was about 5, I really do not know how I got out of it? But there are still very rare occasional stutters like any normal person does.
Thank you for sharing! My brother stutters and no one else in the family does. With Joe Biden running for president, maybe things will get better for people who stutter and the people that love them.
💚
Hey dude, maybe you stutter because you put fluent speech on a pedestal? I stutter myself, but I stuttered a lot more severely in my teens. In my own experience (and possibly yours too), I have noted that the desire for fluency is counterproductive. Also, the fact that you hate your stutter so much kind of shows that you do put fluent speech on a pedastal. When I use to stutter more severely, I hated my stutter and I would try very hard to not stutter. I think that trying hard not to stutter actually causes stuttering. (i.e. stuttering is an attempt to prevent stuttering). My solution is to just think to yourself "fuck it". Don't try and talk well, just let it go man. This is obviously easily said, but difficult to do. However, I feel like that "fuck it" mentality towards your speech is the beginning of the end of stuttering. Also, look into a guy called Dr. Mort Cooper on youtube or even check out my vids man, I talk about how I have improved my speech and one of the biggest things that helped is I just stopped looking at fluent speech as the holy grail of life. Peace dude!
Let's Solve Stuttering thank you !
That is something i really understand
So there's this device that plays your voice back into your ear at a different pitch that's supposed to help reduce the stutter. Have you tried anything like that?
rsuave109 i have actually, i own one. I just don’t use it because it just slightly helps. It’s not a cure. And I don’t like wearing it. I’m sure it helps some people more than others.
I've had over 20 years of speech therapy and I did use that device but I still stutter.
I'm really curious, do you like it when people finish your words and sentences for you or does it make it worse? Would you rather somebody would simply wait for you to finish your words?
Salem I have never minded people finishing my sentences when I get stuck.. but that’s a personal preference.
Interesting, thanks for the reply 😊
HELL....FUCKING....NO....(and im a 30year old stutterer, not to mentio they usually get it wrong)
i love when they finish it
How could I get to know more about you Lance?
What do you wanna know?
@@lancelambert87have you always stuttered?
@@asterphy sadly yes. All my life. Some days actually aren’t bad and most people wouldn’t even notice but other days I can’t get out one word. It’s worse when I speak in front of a group or I read out loud. If I’m by myself talking to myself usually won’t stutter, also when I sing ( which I’m terrible at ) I won’t stutter. But I’ve been in speech thereapy most of my life, and I’ve had 2 different speech devices and I’ve been to the best speech school in the world. They are seemed to help for a little bit then I’m always right back to my stutter no matter what.
it's difficult to say the words which starts with R and L
I hope this isnt weird to say dude, but you are so damn attractive. Holy cow, what a beefy hunk!
Thank you buddy.