Anxiety: Everyone's judging me because I'm terrible at everything Depression: dude, why the fuck would anyone even care about you enough to give you a second thought..? Hence why you can't be both depressed and anxious at the same time xD
I always hate it when people say you're not trying hard enough when literally everyone on this planet is doing their best. Feeling like shit can be doing your best as well because it's not like we want to be miserable on purpose. We might do it unintentionally but everyone is trying to their best to be happy
Honestly one of the worst things to hear, buts kind of valid. Reminds of a quote, forgot how it went, but it went like "You can bring a horse to water, but you can't force it to drink"
@@yalrdyknow What would even be considered "drinking" in this scenario? Not everyone can afford therapy, and therapy is a gamble because there are so many people who don't actually care & just want money in that profession.
@Zazco Thats awful, I thought most creators cut ties and weren't promoting it to protect their reputation (respect to the rare few who actually cared for those they made the mistake of promoting it to)
@Toki-np3xj Yeah, no, there are less than before, but still a huge amount of very large creators that still promote BetterHelp. ::( A few reasons that I guess could be why they still do are that... They either forgot (I doubt it), never heard about the issues in the first place (more reasonable), signed a long-term contract before all the shady stuff come out about it, or (most likely in my opinion) just want the money and better help gives them a lot of money. ::)
its funny because compared to other mental illnesses it feels like depression and anxiety are the only ones people want to acknowledge, especially not those scary personality disorders that "make you a monster."
If you're one of those folks with a personality disorder, please know that there are so many people out there who would support you. They're a minority, but you're not alone. I've been diagnosed with depression, generalized anxiety, insomnia, and ADHD, all relatively socially acceptable disorders that have nonetheless left me feeling broken all my life. There's a certain solidarity that often forms between folks with profound disorders of all kinds. Most of us have thoroughly researched ourselves and our issues, and we know better than anyone how messy and nuanced these things are. We know we should do our research and give all folks the benefit of the doubt when they come to us with a condition we're largely ignorant about. For whatever it's worth from some random internet stranger, I'm in your corner. I'll be here if you want to talk or rant if you need it.
google schizotypal personality disorder. the rabbit hole goes deeeeeeeeeeeeep. im up to my neck in mental illness but susan on facebook says "if you think you're crazy then you're not crazy!" like self-awareness is a fucking alien concept to common people
as a cluster b haver myself im so damn glad someone has the sense to talk about this 👏👏 being a monster isnt exclusive to any disorder, its always a choice
@@birb7353just offering an alternative idea, might sound counter intuitive but sometimes the answer is to let go of mental health altogether. From personal experience and watching my friends get one diagnosis to getting another then immediately switching behaviour to match the symptoms, in some cases having identifiers can be detrimental in that regard. Strangely enough after letting go and a decent of time passes, the behaviours and symptoms naturally go away. Not trying to downplay mental health in any way it’s just that I think there’s a lot more to the nature mental illnesses and disorders than the current consensus of modern psychology’s understanding of them. Certain ideas can be like pathogens and building a good mental immune system can go a long way in preventing them from spreading and better suited to fighting them off.
My maternal grandfather was on the Russian side of the siege of Leningrad in WWII. When I was a kid, he was already in his eighties, but he remembered a lot of stuff. For example red fireworks freaked him out, I remember one time on New Year’s he saw a bunch of red fireworks and a celebratory bonfire. His first instinct was to drop down, crawl into his study and pull out the rifle he kept in the safe.. it’s only after he heard that people weren’t speaking German that he realized what was going on. He hugged me, told me he was sorry.
Literally it's like "mental health is the most important thing in the world, that's why you're a bad person if you don't fix it. All the options are extremely expensive. You're a bad person if you're poor.'
I'm 90% sure I have ADHD, even my psych thinks so and she has it. The problem is diagnoses and getting on treatment is like $1500 I don't have. It feels pretty stupid that the government pays for these "job search cheerleaders" But you can never get the actual support needed. At least I don't live in america.
@blakearius oh that sucks. Diagnosis limbo, people can be so sure they have something, but then the process of getting a diagnosis is so ridiculously expensive.
And at the same time, there’s people who are absolutely unqualified to diagnose serious conditions telling people that completely normal things are symptoms of severe depression and autism and all that, which makes it even harder for people with actual undiagnosed conditions to be taken seriously.
@@blakeariusADHD doesn’t exist. Saved you $1500. This isn’t a joke. You don’t have ADHD. It isn’t real. It’s all in your head. Whatever symptoms you think you have, you don’t. I have them too. Everyone has them. There is nothing about ADHD that isn’t shared with every human on earth. You aren’t special. You don’t need treatment. You don’t need to worry about it anymore. Because it doesn’t exist. ADHD is made up for people to make money off of you. It doesn’t exist. Be free. Be happy. Be you. There’s nothing wrong with you.
@@blakearius I have, but it isn't super bad. I just use coping mechanism and NAC to get by. Works. My medical scientist sis also has this problem and does the same thing. We both agree that we don't want to take the literal drug they give you when you see a doc. Coz it is a type of methamphetamine. It's true, look it up. Not safe in the long run.
"I love you and I want you to stop telling me that you're depressed because it makes me sad." - My mom Edit: A lot of you seem to be making assumptions based on my one sentence comment so I will give you more context: I have never, not once, gone up to her and randomly told her I was depressed. Every single time I have tried to talk to her about it, it was after she asked me if I felt loved or if I was happy. Let's stop talking about it.
that is a very common sentiment parents have about their children's mental health, sadly "when i decided i wanted to have children, it was happy children i wanted. stop being sad"
As someone who gets call stoic and nonchalant a lot because I go with the flow of stuff and have terrible facial reactions sometimes, somehow that definition feels like it fits me better😂😂
@@HeartsSleep I don't know, the Stoic ideal always came across to me as an exercise in utter loneliness. Distancing yourself emotionally from any form of deeply felt bonding may be an effective way of protecting yourself against emotional discomfort, but there is a sense of intellectual coldness and a kind of affectional asymmetry in there that puts me off. I guess some of us just have to live life the regular way, with all the conflicting emotions that it brings, and find ways to deal with the inevitable blows simply by experiencing some of these blows and in the process build up emotional resources that will enable them to find their own inner balance in matters of love, loss and grief.
The emotional rollercoaster was exhausting. One minute I was soaring, the next spiraling into a black hole of self-doubt and rage. My relationships suffered, my work was a mess. Then I started microdosing. The emotional swings weren't completely gone, but they were less frequent, less intense. I could think more clearly, make better decisions, and connect with others in a more authentic way. For the first time in a long time, I felt a sense of stability, a glimmer of hope that maybe, just maybe, I could live a life less defined by chaos.
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Just want to add in a comment about just *how* accurate the "have you tried alcohol" thing was for the 50's. My great grandfather (Who was in both world wars-did NOT have a good time) went to the doctor for shell shock (It was 1000% ptsd), and was literally prescribed alcohol to help with that. Talking to my family, in a shocking twist, it didn't seem to help him very much, though it *did* make him fucking miserable to be around. Things definitely still aren't great regarding mental health, but at least we don't do that any more.
Did you know that back during the great depression when workers were laid off they would resort to alcohol to deal with their problems and because they would drink so much their tolerances would go up so they would have to resort to harder alcohols like vodka, whiskey etc to get drunk. When they would have these drinks people would say "oh trying to raise your spirits huh?" And that's why today we refer to hard alcohols as spirits
@@Cupoforangejuice15 this just... Isn't true? Unless that's meant to be a joke? The term comes from middle eastern alchemy and imported into Europe / European alchemy. Referring to the vapour given off and collected in processes such as distillation - which was called the "spirit" of the original material. Like essence, soul, etc. Also spirit is a much more common term in the UK, compared to Liqour in the US.
@@totallycarbon2106 yeah it's fully a lie. I like telling it at parties to see how many people I fool. Thanks for letting me know about the true origins though! I never knew that!
Jokes aside, I'm personally biased because Better"Help" fucked me up real bad both financially AND mentally when I was in a really low spot in my life. So no matter how many times I see people dunk on that scam of a service I will never get tired of it.
BetterHelp doesnt even fucking vet their "therapists" and will hire literally anyone if they speak clear english. Theres a video (thats been delisted due to a pending lawsuit) Where a youtuber posed as someone else snd applied
absolutely genius writing! lets break this down step by step: denial: the word “let’s” implies a mutual agreement - the implication that everything is “together” and orderly as it should be, denying the truth of a broken system. anger: the word “stop” is a command, a harsh word in a gambit to control the situation. anger is expressed as an attempt is made to establish control through force. bargaining: “talking” is, quite simply, a manner of bargaining in itself. it is used here as a tool to again, try to manage the situation, attempt to establish any form of middle ground. depression: “about” shows how grief is all-consuming. in depression, all wakes of life are consumed - it’s quite frankly impossible to escape no matter where you turn, because it’s everywhere, seeps into everything you do and see. acceptance: “it” shows the acknowledgement that comes with acceptance. the awareness that it will always be there to haunt you, but the abolishment of its power over the self by only referring to it as an “it” - removing its name and the power that comes alongside it.
I'm so sorry for you guys that that's your experience. Like any profession, some people do it for the money, other people do it because they love their job. I've been seeing a psychologist for the past year, and it has completely changed my life for the better. I happen to have a psychologist who has helped hundreds of people for over 30 years, because he loves his job, and because he is lucky enough to get paid to do something he loves. I also recognize that he has a business and bills to pay, so I respect him for working hard for his living. By that same logic, no doctor actually cares about their patients and only do it for the money. And the only reason people care about you is because they happen to go to your school or are in your family. I happen to believe that people care about people, because people are valuable.
They're being paid to help you navigate through your emotions and trauma, mapping out the roots your problems, and coming up with a game-plan for you to move on from them or healthily cope with them. Caring isn't necessarily a part of it, and I think any good therapist would be honest that their relationship with you isn't anything beyond you being their patient, and maybe that they care generally about seeing people get better.
"We've made great advancements in mental health advocacy and awarness, and improved the attituted towards mental health disscusion" The advancements and improvements in question:
@@saggyshaggy can gov took me from my home and put me in a school within a hospital. 14 year old roommate was crippled by Electric convulsion weekly, kids died. 'look at us helping the mentally unwell!'
@@Taima it's been modernised. Most people can go through the procedure with minimal effect compared to the day or two it took my room mate to get back up out of bed. Wednesday's, sometimes into Thursday. Lucky if he makes it for Friday hockey The doctor's name was dr. Parsons. His pediatrics psychiatry 'rate my my med' webpage is hilarious and fucked up. Did they send me to a residential school?
"Have you tried therapy?" "Yes but therapy is not a replacement for necessary mutual aid relationships that can be as simple as two peers giving each other the space to share honestly about their lives." "Let's stop talking about it and repost TikToks by therapy influencers who only talk generically about our problems instead."
Like, I totally get the sentiment behind "leave it to the professionals" but if you genuinely care about someone it'll show. Edit: for anyone who's struggling trying to be there for their friend: know that you are your first responsibility, you can't help someone if you can't help yourself. Take a walk or go look at the sky, if you haven't today.
Therapy is for losers and people who don’t have family or friends that they trust. There is nothing, absolutely nothing, that a therapist can tell you that someone in your life that you trust can’t. Here’s what everyone’s chain of command for seeking advice should be: 1. Yourself 2. Your spouse/SO 3. Your parents 4. Your siblings 5. Additional family that you may trust 6. Your friends 7. Random people 8. Only THEN, if I don’t trust any of those people first, would I go to a therapist.
@@vappyreon1176 If you have a problem with your family, you should discuss it with your family only. If you have a problem in your relationship, you should discuss it with your partner only. You shouldn’t ever go to someone else to complain about problems in your family, relationships, or friendships, and seek to validate your position. You shouldn’t even talk and vent with friends if you have a problem with your family or relationship. Let alone paying someone which is even worse.
"I'm not fine we accept I'm lying because that would involve both of us having to confront problems better left unspoken. It's not that we can't talk honestly, it's that talking is counterproductive since we can't do anything thing else about it."
HOLY FUCK THANKYOU. I'm not depressed anymore but was when I was in HS, and the lack of understanding that I lacked options really made it suck to talk to anyone about it. Especially as a minor, a lot of options for your mental health are completely out of your control and you're just expected to raw-dog it while also encountering the regular day-to-day issues as a highschooler or smthn. People actually empathetic to your situation helps a tonnnn
This is so funny but honestly, I think it's because Asian parents have suffered in the past times and made it through, so they have the mindset of "If they could do it, so can you" yeah I don't know though
@@yalrdyknow Humans need problems. When you don't have real problems, your mind creates them. People have been saying this for a while; Carl Jung wrote in one of his books that, in his experience, those who had psychological complexes usually had fairly privileged lives.
@@yalrdyknow my parents are like that and they ain’t Asian. “Back when I was young, I had to eat chip sandwiches so you should count yourself lucky.” “When I was young, I didn’t even get presents on Christmas besides hand-me-down clothes from my cousins.” “I know what it was like being a teenager, because we were all teenagers at one point” WELL YOU PRETTY OBVIOUSLY DON’T GET IT, BECAUSE I STOPPED PLAYING OUTSIDE BEFORE MY TEENS, HAD TO GO THROUGH A PANDEMIC WITHOUT ANY CONTACT WITH MY FRIENDS, AND WAS BORN WITH SO MANY PHYSICAL AND MENTAL ISSUES THAT I AM A PIECE OF GARBAGE TO MYSELF, AND EVEN WORSE, TO YOU. SO DON’T SAY THAT YOU’VE GONE THROUGH THE SAME THING OR WORSE BECAUSE YOU HAVEN’T. anyways, sorry for the rant and i hope you have a good day.
What's the point. You carry thing up a hill. Then thing rolls down hill. Then you walk to bottom of hill and start carrying thing back up hill. And the cycle never stops.
one must imagine chopping wood and carrying water while happy. if you don't you must not have very good control of your imagination. let's stop talking about it.
It's insane how accurate this is, I can't speak for 1950's but I've definitely received an incredible amount of "lets stop talking about it" when one conversation can't solve the issue
The “don’t you want to heal!?” thing is alarmingly accurate. Some people make suggestion that are practically impossible to implement and then act like it’s your fault when you won’t do whatever BS they suggested
Just like the good old days, but with more buzzwords! As long as someone isn't overbearing about their depression (which I myself say as someone struggling quite a lot with my own) and making it about every other encounter we have or something, I try to more openly embrace such people or help talk through their shit with them. I'm basically a pseudo-therapist for one of my best friends (though I of course recommend he seek an actual therapist should things start to get worse, not to mention I'm fucking up by not getting my own too).
@@karlscher5170 I have no achievements that actually matter or objectively matter in the context of humans in my community, country, continent, the developed world nor the undeveloped world. Point is, I don't see why anyone would nor should care that I'm P-ranking ultrakill on brutal or got an A in the first half of Real Analysis
@@bowenjudd1028 If you take pride in it yourself you will find people who will acknowledge it. If you don't take pride in it, then do something where you do.
It sounds like a joke, but that's pretty much what I've read of him sums to. The Enchiridion is probably the most harrowingly barren text that I've ever had to put into my brain.
To be fair, the "Happiness is a choice." thing does have some truth to it. It's just weirdly worded in a way that makes people want to slap people who say it.
@@LagMasterSam The tough thing is that it's much easier to take control of your mind from a position of good mental health. The brain evolved to be really damn good at learning, but unfortunately, it's not just good at learning useful stuff; it's also great at learning completely pointless stuff like how to be depressed. Depression is a particularly nasty mental state because the attendant apathy actively works against any effort to unlearn the depressive mental states so that they can be replaced with healthier ones. Of course, if you're depressed and reading this, remember that you _can_ unlearn it. Like any hard thing, all it takes is one small step at a time.
Your comment sections are generally hilariously sarcastic but I did want to acknowledge and thank you for not making your skits “shorts” despite their length. It makes engaging with your channel more specific and intentional rather than being tempted to a wheel of crap.
I literally watch shorts but I hate them too. Every social media is starting to blend together. Even Amazon on there app added a god damn shorts so you can scroll. The cycle to keep you addicted, spending time and money to SUCK as much as they can out of us never ends unless we end it
In 1850, the recommendation would be diet change, exercise, and travel. Sometimes alcohol would be prescribed. But lobotomies weren’t invented until 1935.
This. And receive validation for talking about it insofar as it serves us and the commodification of it. Like thanks for talking about your mental health it was so brave, here’s a gold star we need more people like you. Now sit down. Oh you want help with that? I thought you already talked about it. Oh it’s not over now? Well get over it. Oh you did but it came back? Well that’s your fault. You’re weak. Just deal with it like everyone else does. You’re not special
This video is a perfect commentary on today's society. When most people say 'mental health is important🥺' its only as important as the veneration they expect to recieve for uttering such a statement.
I do think while many things have a performative nature, it would be disingenuous to assume that’s always the reason. We’re at a point where it’s becoming normalized but we’re still coming off the heels of decades or repression. Some people do genuinely need to be told their feelings matter because they aren’t terminally online or part of circles that would discuss it. Getting help is where the issues start to arise.
even more sadly is that people who say "mental health is important" only mean some mental health is important. basically if your coping mechanisms arent the society approved coping mechanisms or "cute disorders" you're on your own
I hate betterhelp ads so much because it's so messed up to hear a creator say something like "mental health is so important guys" while ADVERTIZING A SERVICE they were PAID TO PROMOTE. It blows my mind how dystopian that stuff is. I feel like I can't take someone seriously after they advertize it
" "mental health is so important guys" while ADVERTIZING A SERVICE they were PAID TO PROMOTE" I don't understand what you are trying to point out. Are you saying that it's messed up that they lie in an ad? Trying to sell an item is the basic premise of advertisements. That is their only purpose. It's the same concept as starting off an ad for food with "Do you ever feel hungry?". It's not very dystopian at all.
@AutisticAndBallistic I am confused on what you don't understand. You don't find it messed up that the people who are contributing to your overall depression (Because being online is not good for you, and 99% of the slop that gets consumed is literally destroying your brain) are selling you a service that doesn't work and is a known scam to then treat that depression? That was what I understand very clearly from this comment.
@@the1prodig432 That wasn't the original message at all, though. "it's so messed up to hear a creator say something like "mental health is so important guys" while ADVERTIZING A SERVICE they were PAID TO PROMOTE." is what OP said. If OP meant to accentuate the fact that better help was a known scam and that youtubers should know not to advertise it, then OP did not properly convey his point. In fact your entire understanding of the comment seems to be completely off. OP even put in caps the issue he had with it, which was that ... influencers were being paid to promote something. Not that they were contributing to the problem or that better help was a scam. Just that they were being paid to promote something. Anyway, youtubers/streamers/any kind of influencer are probably not to blame for your own depression, and if their content is affecting you so much, you should probably get off the internet and touch grass.
People badmouth betterhelp all the time, but I for one had a good experience with them. The meals are always fresh, and yeah, they may be a bit expensive, but it's cheaper than eating out all the time.
"It's when you don't feel things and you're happy about it" I was just thinking "I don't think that's what it is" and then man carried the words right out of my mouth
I, too, like to pretend I care much about important topics when in reality I only care a little and give up when it gets hard to commit to it. But let's stop talking about it
Damn I love how true this is, I once got blocked by someone for saying I have always been too poor for therapy rip, 24 and I'm a perma shut in loner, people say it's important but no one really cares still
I think most people don't care because there isn't anything they can do about you being depressed. While there is a few things they can do to help, most of it is things you have to do yourself.
That's what you get for having health problems, how dare you be poor and also need help. /S because the two previous comments on this thread probably would think I wasn't joking.
@@BladedEdge Since you seem to think what I said was blaming the poster, what can you do to help a depressed person? Genuinely want to know. I've been depressed before and everytime I try to think about what I might say to my past self that would actually break through the self hatred, nothing comes to mind. Becoming depressed again is a huge fear of mine, I am always checking in on myself to avoid that.
@@bluemark25 Just listen to them. Don't try to think you're some kind of hero that can solve their problems with words or actions. Just listen to them, it's all a therapist does 90% of the time anyway - they're just qualified to ask the right questions. Ask people 'how' they feel not 'why', get them to talk. You're not going to solve their problems, sometimes they might not be able to either, some things are unsolvable. Do little things for the person to help them out. Most importantly: If they don't to talk or want your help, do not give it to them. It's not that they don't like you, but their feelings may be sensitive. You may have already lost their trust in these matters, they may not feel comfortable talking to you about it - and that's okay! Just continue treating them as best you can, just try to make life a little easier for them. Make them tea, help change their sheets, whatever. Source: I have chronic depression that's been with me my whole life and comes in phases. I've been to therapy multiple times. I 'beat' depression when I was at my lowest point and planning on doing *things*. Still depressed, but no longer in that state. It all came from within, however what helped was my family & friends just being there for me. Just showing me love and not trying to 'fix' the problems. It was enough to keep me going.
Experiencing depression is one of the hardest times anyone can go through. It can feel like you're trapped in a dark, heavy place, where even the simplest tasks feel overwhelming ❤
@@rkrkrk999 UA-cam selects words that they might think you would search up, the weird thing is that it searches on youtube and not Google. (Also it is way too sensitive)
A lot of people need to realize it's possible to recover from mental illness without the help of therapy. You need to build a support system (friends or family) and learn ways to cope in a healthy way. Eventually, life will become more manageable along with the illness or stress you suffer from. I'm saying this as someone that has dealt with mental illnesses for much of my life and have gone to several therapists in the past. They aren't magic, they only steer you in the right direction. The one doing all the work is you.
Agreed. I was in therapy for years and while EMDR helped, no other therapy measures were helpful and I was still depressed. The therapist even told me at one point that there really was no way to fix my issues and I should just get on antidepressants. You know what helped me? Living with someone who was supportive after years of isolation and having supportive relationships. This is something I told the therapist all along, but they couldn't help with connection and essentially told me that connection would be impossible because I "clearly" had a high IQ which is bullshit (I don't think I do have a high IQ -- I just like to read and I don't necessarily think that was the issue).
@@science1644I'm happy to hear you found someone that genuinely cares for you and makes your life better. Also, no therapist that believes in IQ to that extent is worth trusting. IQ means nothing in the context of life.
The unfortunate reality is that people don't really care. Also, for some reason "have you tried talking to someone"/"do you have someone to talk to" really just pisses me off in a way that nothing else does. And I *have* been diagnosed with clinical depression before, so no I'm not just acting like I can relate.
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, steve.porss_, I can relate to your experiences with anxiety, depression, PTSD, and addiction. Using mushrooms has significantly contributed to my journey towards staying clean today.
I wish those were more accessible here. Microdosing was the next thing I planned for my husband. He's 59 & facing many mental health issues, probably CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma for 8 days. Sadly, I had to get a TPO because he's 6'6, over 300 pounds, and displaying violent behavior, always talking about hurting others. He's really aggressive. If anyone out there knows about BPD, is it common to have an obsession with violence?
"I'm depressed." "Sounds like we don't understand depression." "That doesn't help. me" " Well shit, I tried, man." "What type of try was that?" He shrugs it off and then walks.
I’ll give modern times at least this: it’s being addressed a lot more and taken more seriously. When my mom (bipolar with severe PTSD from an extremely abusive childhood) was growing up in the late 60s, no body believed in mental illnesses like depression. They would tell you that it’s not real and it’s your fault if it is.
Therapists be like: 'Are you going to harm yourself or anyone else after today's session?' I mean I am not but now you've put the thought in my head....
yeah...this is why when i was depressed i didn't tell anyone. i just reigned myself in and fought my brain at every turn to try and live a half decent life. i don't remember what i thought that fixed it but i did and i've been trying to get out ahead of any more depressive spirals ever since. i didn't tell anyone because i knew that they wouldn't have anything to say that i hadn't already seen elsewhere. when you're depressed everyone around you is lying to you, at least that's what you think. so the only voice you can trust is your own and you've just got to fake it til you make it, tell yourself positive stuff that you believe is false until you actually believe it.
how did you know you were depressed if you didn’t tell anyone Just curious cuz if you had a bunch of symptoms and there weren’t any other disorders or mental health stuff that could be mistaken I get it. It’s just lots of people lie
@@jgsgamergfdgfdgfd1137 at that time in life i had heard enough about depression symptoms via the internet. I had a combination of wanting to sleep more than normal, not wanting to really do anything new and fun or even productive like my school work, i also for the first time in my life was genuinely considering ending it. everything just felt sluggish and like there wasn't a point in any of it. i kept doing everything i was doing just to keep the habits and schedules but it all just sucked. this was back in early highschool when i was also discovering that i'm prone to anxiety attacks but well before i connected the dots that i'm neurodivergent(not mood based disorders). so i guess it's possible that something in those created a perfect storm to make me feel like shit for months on end, but at the time depression seemed like it was the reason. i didn't have many close friends at the time in my physical vicinity and if i told my mom i wanted to die i knew she wouldn't like that or really know what to do about it so i just said nothing. i'd also talked a few friends out of killing themselves at that point so i also knew how stressful hearing that was and how little power it felt you could have outside of saying "please no". Having been on the other side of those conversations really just taught me that speaking up was bad because i knew what i'd say to myself and i didn't want to burden or concern anyone with it. I think i just got out of it out of a frustration of feeling like shit and mentally beating up my anxiety and depression, that time also led to a mental separation between me and "my brain" so...did i "cure" it for good? probably not, but i stopped wanting to die and haven't felt that level of shit since so i consider that a success. i still should go to therapy someday, but that's for other reasons.
@@jgsgamergfdgfdgfd1137 See, that immediate impulse to accuse people of lying or being mistaken or just because you have the symptoms of depression doesn't mean you're depressed how ridiculous that you would dare to assess yourself, as the person actually experiencing the emotions and mental state, instead of paying someone else money to asses you. That's why a lot of people with depression don't tell people that they have depression.
@ I didn’t accuse you? I just wanted to make sure you weren’t seeking attention, and I know you are and I really wish you can get better sometime, and you can’t go around explaining to me stuff as if I’m some 3 year old who has no concept of life and death. I know what depression is, but the resurface in many people faking it for attention has made me wary of whether to actually support people or not. And also, I said symptoms as an example. You could have also said your emotional state but it’s fine you didn’t have to. And yeah I understand that last part, in fact I had depression and still do but I didn’t even believe it myself. You’re the one throwing accusations at me atp, and I’m sorry that I had to doubt you having depression, and I also understand that the people faking it are part of the reason why others don’t say it. But still. Now can we just end this?
As someone with deep mental health issues that has been reminded by his dad how expensive the bills are from recently being in a psych ward, this video goes so hard.
Wish your dad had said this instead of guilt-tripping you, but I hope you're feeling in a slightly better place now. That shit is really hard to go through.
Okay I'm super glad you spoke about better health and then I read all these comments... Man I actually lowkey considered getting it since the advertisements seemed so pure and earnest... Dodged a bullet ig, thank your for protecting me for once internet lol.
My former employers at the British civil service were always keen to promote Mental Health Awareness Week - I sure was aware of my mental health working there, let me tell you
"I'm depressed." "Nothing bad even happened to you. You have no reason to be depressed." "That's…not how depression wo-" "Let's stop talking about it."
All therapy is a scam. People need friends and family that they trust. Not a random person who has a degree in feelings that is trying to sell you something. Someone that you can trust and is looking out for you will give you the help you need. ALL therapists have an incentive to not help you, because then they get more money. You shouldn’t have to pay someone to help you. That’s what family is for. That’s what friends are for. Get more of those. Don’t be a loser.
This was how it was for me too. Every time I try to reach out to doctors about my mental health they almost immediately try to get me into medication. It's rather annoying.
Therapists (at least in the US I don't know how it works elsewhere) aren't supposed to be offering medication as treatment. That's something only psychiatrists can prescribe. You might just be going to the wrong type of professional.
You forgot the part where 1950s guy gets electroshock treatment and a lobotomy rendering him unable to speak therefore making "Let's stop talking about it"a much quicker process
Literally the words my best friend said to me. And then I understood that she never was my friend. A hard lesson. My another friend said "Go to a doctor". Turns out she wasn't my friend either. At least I have a third friend who understands. But she rarely has energy to talk... The other side of "the understanding depression and trauma" coin.
@Tito_michi I'm sorry, man. You deserved better. I hate when people instantly guilt-trip people for struggling mentally. I wish u all the best and absolute happiness
If i had advice for whenever a friend told you or hinted that they were depressed, i would say you could ask if you can show them something funny so they can skip past the feeling, like a meme you found around that reminded you of your friend's interests for example. If that doesn't work and they say no, here's plan B: Be an actual friend and listen. Communication is key, make an effort.
*I'm favoured only God knows how much I praise Him,* $230k every 4weeks! | now have a big mansion and can now afford anything and also support God's work and the church.
Only God knows how much grateful i am. After so much struggles I now own a new house and my family is happy once again everything is finally falling into place!!
I started pretty low, though, $5000 thereabouts. The return came massive. Joey is in school doing well, telling me of new friends he's meeting in school. Thank you Evelyn Vera, you're a miracle.
Wow...I know her too she is a licensed broker and a FINRA agent she is popular in US and Canada she is really amazing woman with good skills and experience.
The problem is that to deal with issues like these, to actually have a positive consequence, you need to have a shred of empathy or sympathy. Empathy, as in the ability to understand and feel what they're feeling, is overvalued - it is treated as the default "good to have" relationship quality. As a consequence, because people struggle to empathise with chronic depression, anxiety, OCD, bipolar, personality disorders or suicidal thoughts if they've not had similar, they then believe they're not ready to talk about it or be useful, and will instead say to go to a specialist. Which is usually a terrible thing to say if you really think about it - please have your recovery off-screen and when you're ready, we can then re-enage. Generally speaking, I'd rather people had more sympathy, the ability to care and feel compassion for others even if they don't feel the same. I might not know what my friends feel when they're undergoing a break-up, or being fired, or being gaslit by a coworker - but I can still be there for them. Eat together. Watch some stuff. Listen. It's honestly better to just treat it the same - I wouldn't want someone to be empathetic to depression, that'd be useless and unpleasant. The people who say, "let's stop talking about it" seem to have missed both empathy and sympathy, making them especially pointless. It's hard to forget later.
Too much emphasis on talk therapy. In the end, it's about people like you willing to be there. I saw a comic a while ago. A person approaches someone noticing they look sad. He asks if they want to talk, they said no, so he just sat down with him. Sitting here reason through these comments and typing this one now. I would rather be in a silence with some who cares, versus typing to strangers while I'm alone in my apartment. At least I'm fed.
Especially when you're actively in a crisis, the fact you might need professional help EVENTUALLY is something you're likely already aware of- but in that moment all you want is to survive the crisis without being alone / having your loved ones freeze you out because you aren't 'getting help' right now as your world collapses. Ask them what is happening, not what are they doing to fix it- you have to take more steps to escape the eye of the storm than that. Hand in hand.
The 1950s one could have also gone something like:
"I'm depressed."
"Have you considered going to war?"
"Let's take a piece of brain out"
the russian government rn
"Have you considered taking it out on your wife?"
Don't have time to feel sad when you're feeling the exhilarating rush of nearly dying every day!
“I’m depressed.”
“Here, have a steak and doughnut sandwich with cigarettes on top.”
“That actually made me feel a little better.”
"Just be yourself"
"No, not like that"
Average advice for men
@joshwilner5622 Let's stop talking about it.
@@madidason3574 Let’s stop talking about it
It actually should be: "be the best version of yourself". Because sometimes you're a piece of sh... and you actually need to change.
Yes yourself is suck
"I'm depressed"
"Have you tried being anxious instead?"
Yes!
@@rbarreira2 but have you tried being anxious as well ?
Great now I’m anxious but also depressed
¿Por qué no los dos?
Anxiety: Everyone's judging me because I'm terrible at everything
Depression: dude, why the fuck would anyone even care about you enough to give you a second thought..?
Hence why you can't be both depressed and anxious at the same time xD
“It sounds like you aren’t willing to get better” …Man. That hits hard… really hard.
My previous therapist said that to me a lot. It was the best decision to ditch her. Hope you can eventually heal from this like I did
It always sucks when they say that, like, how is telling me I'm the problem supposed to help??
I always hate it when people say you're not trying hard enough when literally everyone on this planet is doing their best. Feeling like shit can be doing your best as well because it's not like we want to be miserable on purpose. We might do it unintentionally but everyone is trying to their best to be happy
Honestly one of the worst things to hear, buts kind of valid. Reminds of a quote, forgot how it went, but it went like "You can bring a horse to water, but you can't force it to drink"
@@yalrdyknow What would even be considered "drinking" in this scenario? Not everyone can afford therapy, and therapy is a gamble because there are so many people who don't actually care & just want money in that profession.
The best treatment for depression is community. Our society can't provide that, but it *can* provide season 2 of Community on dvd
Close enough
@@literallyap0tat0-q7q it can. It won't.
Edit stop talking about it and buy community (S2 blue ray special)
friends?
@@Someone-sc2hk Sorry, society can't provide friends either, but it can provide season 5 of Friends on Blu-ray
did anybody say community? *queue the soviet anthem*
Love the BetterHelp callout, absolutely hate that scam and how many people promoted it without caring
Promote*
They never stopped promoting it.
and now there's a new wave of people bring sponsored by it
@Zazco Thats awful, I thought most creators cut ties and weren't promoting it to protect their reputation (respect to the rare few who actually cared for those they made the mistake of promoting it to)
@Toki-np3xj Yeah, no, there are less than before, but still a huge amount of very large creators that still promote BetterHelp. ::(
A few reasons that I guess could be why they still do are that... They either forgot (I doubt it), never heard about the issues in the first place (more reasonable), signed a long-term contract before all the shady stuff come out about it, or (most likely in my opinion) just want the money and better help gives them a lot of money. ::)
How is it a scam, just out of interest?
Maybe the real better help was the depression we made along the way
With a side of honey
Let's stop talking about it
this meme is never not funny. maybe the real meme was the funny along the way. Did i do it right?
Great
@@danny8063Be careful not to overuse it. Wouldn't want to ruin an eternally funny meme.
0:25 ngl you scared me for a moment
PTSD got triggered
Man Carrying Paycheck
@112VZ I mean ProZD pulls it off?
@@joshuasgameplays9850Man Carrying Scam
Lol
its funny because compared to other mental illnesses it feels like depression and anxiety are the only ones people want to acknowledge, especially not those scary personality disorders that "make you a monster."
If you're one of those folks with a personality disorder, please know that there are so many people out there who would support you. They're a minority, but you're not alone. I've been diagnosed with depression, generalized anxiety, insomnia, and ADHD, all relatively socially acceptable disorders that have nonetheless left me feeling broken all my life. There's a certain solidarity that often forms between folks with profound disorders of all kinds. Most of us have thoroughly researched ourselves and our issues, and we know better than anyone how messy and nuanced these things are. We know we should do our research and give all folks the benefit of the doubt when they come to us with a condition we're largely ignorant about. For whatever it's worth from some random internet stranger, I'm in your corner. I'll be here if you want to talk or rant if you need it.
google schizotypal personality disorder. the rabbit hole goes deeeeeeeeeeeeep. im up to my neck in mental illness but susan on facebook says "if you think you're crazy then you're not crazy!" like self-awareness is a fucking alien concept to common people
as a cluster b haver myself im so damn glad someone has the sense to talk about this 👏👏 being a monster isnt exclusive to any disorder, its always a choice
@@birb7353just offering an alternative idea, might sound counter intuitive but sometimes the answer is to let go of mental health altogether. From personal experience and watching my friends get one diagnosis to getting another then immediately switching behaviour to match the symptoms, in some cases having identifiers can be detrimental in that regard.
Strangely enough after letting go and a decent of time passes, the behaviours and symptoms naturally go away.
Not trying to downplay mental health in any way it’s just that I think there’s a lot more to the nature mental illnesses and disorders than the current consensus of modern psychology’s understanding of them. Certain ideas can be like pathogens and building a good mental immune system can go a long way in preventing them from spreading and better suited to fighting them off.
very true unfortunately
My maternal grandfather was on the Russian side of the siege of Leningrad in WWII. When I was a kid, he was already in his eighties, but he remembered a lot of stuff. For example red fireworks freaked him out, I remember one time on New Year’s he saw a bunch of red fireworks and a celebratory bonfire. His first instinct was to drop down, crawl into his study and pull out the rifle he kept in the safe.. it’s only after he heard that people weren’t speaking German that he realized what was going on. He hugged me, told me he was sorry.
that's f*** up
Fue como en las peliculas
God bless his soul.
I hope he found some peace before the end.
Man carrying immense emotional baggage
eMOTIONAl BAGGAGE!
Let's stop talking about it
Man carrying Steven He
Cue "emotional damage" meme
@@CathrineMacNiel Made me read it in Steven's voice.
Literally it's like "mental health is the most important thing in the world, that's why you're a bad person if you don't fix it. All the options are extremely expensive. You're a bad person if you're poor.'
I'm 90% sure I have ADHD, even my psych thinks so and she has it. The problem is diagnoses and getting on treatment is like $1500 I don't have. It feels pretty stupid that the government pays for these "job search cheerleaders" But you can never get the actual support needed. At least I don't live in america.
@blakearius oh that sucks. Diagnosis limbo, people can be so sure they have something, but then the process of getting a diagnosis is so ridiculously expensive.
And at the same time, there’s people who are absolutely unqualified to diagnose serious conditions telling people that completely normal things are symptoms of severe depression and autism and all that, which makes it even harder for people with actual undiagnosed conditions to be taken seriously.
@@blakeariusADHD doesn’t exist. Saved you $1500. This isn’t a joke. You don’t have ADHD. It isn’t real. It’s all in your head. Whatever symptoms you think you have, you don’t. I have them too. Everyone has them. There is nothing about ADHD that isn’t shared with every human on earth. You aren’t special. You don’t need treatment. You don’t need to worry about it anymore. Because it doesn’t exist. ADHD is made up for people to make money off of you. It doesn’t exist. Be free. Be happy. Be you. There’s nothing wrong with you.
@@blakearius I have, but it isn't super bad. I just use coping mechanism and NAC to get by. Works. My medical scientist sis also has this problem and does the same thing. We both agree that we don't want to take the literal drug they give you when you see a doc. Coz it is a type of methamphetamine. It's true, look it up. Not safe in the long run.
"I love you and I want you to stop telling me that you're depressed because it makes me sad." - My mom
Edit: A lot of you seem to be making assumptions based on my one sentence comment so I will give you more context: I have never, not once, gone up to her and randomly told her I was depressed. Every single time I have tried to talk to her about it, it was after she asked me if I felt loved or if I was happy.
Let's stop talking about it.
Relatable fr fr
that is a very common sentiment parents have about their children's mental health, sadly
"when i decided i wanted to have children, it was happy children i wanted. stop being sad"
Let's stop talking about it.
Stone cold.
Let's stop talking about it.
0:38 "maybe stoicism is what you need" ended me
"It's when you feel nothing but are happy about it"
Epictetus constantly imagining all of his friends and family dying:
As someone who gets call stoic and nonchalant a lot because I go with the flow of stuff and have terrible facial reactions sometimes, somehow that definition feels like it fits me better😂😂
real actual stoicism does kinda help funny enough
Modern problems require ancient solutions.
@@HeartsSleep I don't know, the Stoic ideal always came across to me as an exercise in utter loneliness. Distancing yourself emotionally from any form of deeply felt bonding may be an effective way of protecting yourself against emotional discomfort, but there is a sense of intellectual coldness and a kind of affectional asymmetry in there that puts me off. I guess some of us just have to live life the regular way, with all the conflicting emotions that it brings, and find ways to deal with the inevitable blows simply by experiencing some of these blows and in the process build up emotional resources that will enable them to find their own inner balance in matters of love, loss and grief.
The emotional rollercoaster was exhausting. One minute I was soaring, the next spiraling into a black hole of self-doubt and rage. My relationships suffered, my work was a mess. Then I started microdosing. The emotional swings weren't completely gone, but they were less frequent, less intense. I could think more clearly, make better decisions, and connect with others in a more authentic way. For the first time in a long time, I felt a sense of stability, a glimmer of hope that maybe, just maybe, I could live a life less defined by chaos.
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
hamidshade43 is the man
On insta?
Yes
Just want to add in a comment about just *how* accurate the "have you tried alcohol" thing was for the 50's.
My great grandfather (Who was in both world wars-did NOT have a good time) went to the doctor for shell shock (It was 1000% ptsd), and was literally prescribed alcohol to help with that.
Talking to my family, in a shocking twist, it didn't seem to help him very much, though it *did* make him fucking miserable to be around.
Things definitely still aren't great regarding mental health, but at least we don't do that any more.
Did you know that back during the great depression when workers were laid off they would resort to alcohol to deal with their problems and because they would drink so much their tolerances would go up so they would have to resort to harder alcohols like vodka, whiskey etc to get drunk. When they would have these drinks people would say "oh trying to raise your spirits huh?" And that's why today we refer to hard alcohols as spirits
@@Cupoforangejuice15 this just... Isn't true? Unless that's meant to be a joke? The term comes from middle eastern alchemy and imported into Europe / European alchemy. Referring to the vapour given off and collected in processes such as distillation - which was called the "spirit" of the original material. Like essence, soul, etc. Also spirit is a much more common term in the UK, compared to Liqour in the US.
@@totallycarbon2106 yeah it's fully a lie. I like telling it at parties to see how many people I fool. Thanks for letting me know about the true origins though! I never knew that!
@@Cupoforangejuice15 there is some truth in that as well probably. that people said it for that reason. nice catch
@@totallycarbon2106Middle Eastern alchemy? Lol, that's not even a real thing.
Jokes aside, I'm personally biased because Better"Help" fucked me up real bad both financially AND mentally when I was in a really low spot in my life. So no matter how many times I see people dunk on that scam of a service I will never get tired of it.
I see more people promoting it. I was watching Dave Coulier's Full House podcast and he promoted and I was like "nooooo, they got Joey too!"
BetterHelp doesnt even fucking vet their "therapists" and will hire literally anyone if they speak clear english.
Theres a video (thats been delisted due to a pending lawsuit)
Where a youtuber posed as someone else snd applied
You should listen to the comic Tim Dillon. There’s plenty of times he’s talk shit about that on his podcast. It’s hilarious.
Not a bias. Has to be in their business model. They are awfully awful.
“I’m biased cause they’re evil” I would be too man
The 5 stages of grief:
1) Let's
2) Stop
3) Talking
4) About
5) It
Pennywise is sad
@@paugirones6083 Let’s stop talking about it
Brilliant
I am currently at stage "Stop".
absolutely genius writing! lets break this down step by step:
denial: the word “let’s” implies a mutual agreement - the implication that everything is “together” and orderly as it should be, denying the truth of a broken system.
anger: the word “stop” is a command, a harsh word in a gambit to control the situation. anger is expressed as an attempt is made to establish control through force.
bargaining: “talking” is, quite simply, a manner of bargaining in itself. it is used here as a tool to again, try to manage the situation, attempt to establish any form of middle ground.
depression: “about” shows how grief is all-consuming. in depression, all wakes of life are consumed - it’s quite frankly impossible to escape no matter where you turn, because it’s everywhere, seeps into everything you do and see.
acceptance: “it” shows the acknowledgement that comes with acceptance. the awareness that it will always be there to haunt you, but the abolishment of its power over the self by only referring to it as an “it” - removing its name and the power that comes alongside it.
"i'm depressed"
"damn, that sucks. have you tried talking to someone who's being paid to care?"
Painfully accurate
Dude that is so true. That's why I don't want to try another therapist, because even being paid to do so, none of the previous ones cared
THIS.
I'm so sorry for you guys that that's your experience. Like any profession, some people do it for the money, other people do it because they love their job.
I've been seeing a psychologist for the past year, and it has completely changed my life for the better. I happen to have a psychologist who has helped hundreds of people for over 30 years, because he loves his job, and because he is lucky enough to get paid to do something he loves. I also recognize that he has a business and bills to pay, so I respect him for working hard for his living.
By that same logic, no doctor actually cares about their patients and only do it for the money. And the only reason people care about you is because they happen to go to your school or are in your family. I happen to believe that people care about people, because people are valuable.
They're being paid to help you navigate through your emotions and trauma, mapping out the roots your problems, and coming up with a game-plan for you to move on from them or healthily cope with them. Caring isn't necessarily a part of it, and I think any good therapist would be honest that their relationship with you isn't anything beyond you being their patient, and maybe that they care generally about seeing people get better.
"We've made great advancements in mental health advocacy and awarness, and improved the attituted towards mental health disscusion"
The advancements and improvements in question:
Whoever is saying that clearly hasn't seen the rate at which people are getting canadian healthcare.
Ну... Да, раньше было так же, просто теперь это не везде законо.
@@saggyshaggy can gov took me from my home and put me in a school within a hospital. 14 year old roommate was crippled by Electric convulsion weekly, kids died.
'look at us helping the mentally unwell!'
@@PlaidHiker Classic 1940s-70s style mental treatments
@@Taima it's been modernised. Most people can go through the procedure with minimal effect compared to the day or two it took my room mate to get back up out of bed. Wednesday's, sometimes into Thursday. Lucky if he makes it for Friday hockey
The doctor's name was dr. Parsons. His pediatrics psychiatry 'rate my my med' webpage is hilarious and fucked up.
Did they send me to a residential school?
"Have you tried therapy?"
"Yes but therapy is not a replacement for necessary mutual aid relationships that can be as simple as two peers giving each other the space to share honestly about their lives."
"Let's stop talking about it and repost TikToks by therapy influencers who only talk generically about our problems instead."
For profit therapy is gross, and altruistic therapy, or "friends" as I have heard they're called, is some nonexistent unicorn.
Like, I totally get the sentiment behind "leave it to the professionals" but if you genuinely care about someone it'll show.
Edit: for anyone who's struggling trying to be there for their friend: know that you are your first responsibility, you can't help someone if you can't help yourself. Take a walk or go look at the sky, if you haven't today.
@@planescapednot a fan of therapy, but "friends" are definitely not a substitute for therapy if you actually need one.
Therapy is for losers and people who don’t have family or friends that they trust. There is nothing, absolutely nothing, that a therapist can tell you that someone in your life that you trust can’t. Here’s what everyone’s chain of command for seeking advice should be:
1. Yourself
2. Your spouse/SO
3. Your parents
4. Your siblings
5. Additional family that you may trust
6. Your friends
7. Random people
8. Only THEN, if I don’t trust any of those people first, would I go to a therapist.
@@vappyreon1176 If you have a problem with your family, you should discuss it with your family only. If you have a problem in your relationship, you should discuss it with your partner only. You shouldn’t ever go to someone else to complain about problems in your family, relationships, or friendships, and seek to validate your position. You shouldn’t even talk and vent with friends if you have a problem with your family or relationship. Let alone paying someone which is even worse.
I used to think drinking was bad so i stopped thinking
alcohol pilled and reverse tolerance maxing
Only alcoholics quit drinking, so I'm gonna keep drinking lest people think I'm an alcoholic.
Periodddd
@@clausluger4570 😂
@@clausluger4570 The BP guys saying BP slang
“I’m fine.” -Then
“I’m fine.” -Now
Then: "Let's stop talking about it"
Now: "Let's stop talking about it"
I like your persistence.
@@Salsa_Shark Persistence reveals the path.
"I'm not fine
we accept I'm lying because that would involve both of us having to confront problems better left unspoken. It's not that we can't talk honestly, it's that talking is counterproductive since we can't do anything thing else about it."
@@Salsa_Shark Persistence reveals the path.
HOLY FUCK THANKYOU. I'm not depressed anymore but was when I was in HS, and the lack of understanding that I lacked options really made it suck to talk to anyone about it. Especially as a minor, a lot of options for your mental health are completely out of your control and you're just expected to raw-dog it while also encountering the regular day-to-day issues as a highschooler or smthn. People actually empathetic to your situation helps a tonnnn
In an Asian household:
"I'm depressed"
"Go do your homework and cook the rice when you're done"
This is so funny but honestly, I think it's because Asian parents have suffered in the past times and made it through, so they have the mindset of "If they could do it, so can you" yeah I don't know though
@@yalrdyknow Humans need problems. When you don't have real problems, your mind creates them. People have been saying this for a while; Carl Jung wrote in one of his books that, in his experience, those who had psychological complexes usually had fairly privileged lives.
@@yalrdyknow my parents are like that and they ain’t Asian. “Back when I was young, I had to eat chip sandwiches so you should count yourself lucky.”
“When I was young, I didn’t even get presents on Christmas besides hand-me-down clothes from my cousins.”
“I know what it was like being a teenager, because we were all teenagers at one point”
WELL YOU PRETTY OBVIOUSLY DON’T GET IT, BECAUSE I STOPPED PLAYING OUTSIDE BEFORE MY TEENS, HAD TO GO THROUGH A PANDEMIC WITHOUT ANY CONTACT WITH MY FRIENDS, AND WAS BORN WITH SO MANY PHYSICAL AND MENTAL ISSUES THAT I AM A PIECE OF GARBAGE TO MYSELF, AND EVEN WORSE, TO YOU. SO DON’T SAY THAT YOU’VE GONE THROUGH THE SAME THING OR WORSE BECAUSE YOU HAVEN’T.
anyways, sorry for the rant and i hope you have a good day.
@Themoo_atcowsYou know what a chip sandwich really doesn’t sound all that bad
I like your persistence.
YOUVE GOT THE JOB
@@zbsfm Let's stop talking about it.
Buzzword central over here
I accept the position @@zbsfm
“I’m depressed”
“Have you tried Carrying Thing?”
What's the point. You carry thing up a hill. Then thing rolls down hill. Then you walk to bottom of hill and start carrying thing back up hill. And the cycle never stops.
One must imagine man carrying thing happy
Nah pushing 🅿️ is where its at.
(I still dont know what it means)
@@brightwafi1291 Pretty sure it has something to do with male genitalia
one must imagine chopping wood and carrying water while happy.
if you don't you must not have very good control of your imagination.
let's stop talking about it.
It's insane how accurate this is, I can't speak for 1950's but I've definitely received an incredible amount of "lets stop talking about it" when one conversation can't solve the issue
The “don’t you want to heal!?” thing is alarmingly accurate. Some people make suggestion that are practically impossible to implement and then act like it’s your fault when you won’t do whatever BS they suggested
Should have become a billionaire like I said would help.
It's literally just that people seem to avoid me as soon as I open up, so I started getting better alone, and stoped talking about it.
Just like the good old days, but with more buzzwords! As long as someone isn't overbearing about their depression (which I myself say as someone struggling quite a lot with my own) and making it about every other encounter we have or something, I try to more openly embrace such people or help talk through their shit with them. I'm basically a pseudo-therapist for one of my best friends (though I of course recommend he seek an actual therapist should things start to get worse, not to mention I'm fucking up by not getting my own too).
@@Taima You're a fine person.
You build yourself with every action you do. Start telling people what you are proud of.
@@karlscher5170 I have no achievements that actually matter or objectively matter in the context of humans in my community, country, continent, the developed world nor the undeveloped world. Point is, I don't see why anyone would nor should care that I'm P-ranking ultrakill on brutal or got an A in the first half of Real Analysis
@@bowenjudd1028 If you take pride in it yourself you will find people who will acknowledge it. If you don't take pride in it, then do something where you do.
Are you sad? Just be happy instead!
- Epictetus
It sounds like a joke, but that's pretty much what I've read of him sums to. The Enchiridion is probably the most harrowingly barren text that I've ever had to put into my brain.
@@MMurine No matter how difficult it is, you ultimately have to take control of your own mind. There's really no way around it.
To be fair, the "Happiness is a choice." thing does have some truth to it. It's just weirdly worded in a way that makes people want to slap people who say it.
@@LagMasterSam well yeah but if my body says I'm hungry I'm hungry. Whether or not you worry about it doesn't change how bad your situation is.
@@LagMasterSam The tough thing is that it's much easier to take control of your mind from a position of good mental health.
The brain evolved to be really damn good at learning, but unfortunately, it's not just good at learning useful stuff; it's also great at learning completely pointless stuff like how to be depressed. Depression is a particularly nasty mental state because the attendant apathy actively works against any effort to unlearn the depressive mental states so that they can be replaced with healthier ones.
Of course, if you're depressed and reading this, remember that you _can_ unlearn it. Like any hard thing, all it takes is one small step at a time.
DON'T THINK ABOUT IT
*GLaDOS voice* "don't think abour it don't think about it don't think about it don't think about it"
Your comment sections are generally hilariously sarcastic but I did want to acknowledge and thank you for not making your skits “shorts” despite their length. It makes engaging with your channel more specific and intentional rather than being tempted to a wheel of crap.
Yes I back this 1000%
Thank you I hate shorts. Its fine if its the sort of thing that only needs a few seconds, but the wheel of crap as you say sucks.
I literally watch shorts but I hate them too. Every social media is starting to blend together. Even Amazon on there app added a god damn shorts so you can scroll. The cycle to keep you addicted, spending time and money to SUCK as much as they can out of us never ends unless we end it
Absolutely this.
I thought 2025 will be
"I'm depressed."
"Same."
1935:
-I'm depressed
-Have you tried this thing called "lobotomy"?
1950*
In 1850, the recommendation would be diet change, exercise, and travel. Sometimes alcohol would be prescribed. But lobotomies weren’t invented until 1935.
@@saraghhh I actually thought that this was invented much earlier, but that's a fact, thx
the typa shit they pulled on francis farmer
My brains already stupid. Don’t need one
There's a comfort in finding something all generations have in common.
Let's stop talking about it.
Let's stop talking about it.
At least anti war stances are still met with derision
That corps are bad? Yep, universal across all generations! Lol
Let's talk about mental health but only as far as we can commodify it and weaponize it against actual accountability ❤️🤗
This. And receive validation for talking about it insofar as it serves us and the commodification of it. Like thanks for talking about your mental health it was so brave, here’s a gold star we need more people like you. Now sit down. Oh you want help with that? I thought you already talked about it. Oh it’s not over now? Well get over it. Oh you did but it came back? Well that’s your fault. You’re weak. Just deal with it like everyone else does. You’re not special
This video is a perfect commentary on today's society. When most people say 'mental health is important🥺' its only as important as the veneration they expect to recieve for uttering such a statement.
I do think while many things have a performative nature, it would be disingenuous to assume that’s always the reason.
We’re at a point where it’s becoming normalized but we’re still coming off the heels of decades or repression.
Some people do genuinely need to be told their feelings matter because they aren’t terminally online or part of circles that would discuss it.
Getting help is where the issues start to arise.
@@AnimatedTerror Social media is inherently performative and it is changing people's brains
I thought mental health was only important to american politicians explaining why they don't want to pass any gun control laws.
even more sadly is that people who say "mental health is important" only mean some mental health is important. basically if your coping mechanisms arent the society approved coping mechanisms or "cute disorders" you're on your own
We care about your mental health unless it’s anything beyond mild anxiety/depression
I hate betterhelp ads so much because it's so messed up to hear a creator say something like "mental health is so important guys" while ADVERTIZING A SERVICE they were PAID TO PROMOTE. It blows my mind how dystopian that stuff is. I feel like I can't take someone seriously after they advertize it
" "mental health is so important guys" while ADVERTIZING A SERVICE they were PAID TO PROMOTE"
I don't understand what you are trying to point out. Are you saying that it's messed up that they lie in an ad? Trying to sell an item is the basic premise of advertisements. That is their only purpose. It's the same concept as starting off an ad for food with "Do you ever feel hungry?". It's not very dystopian at all.
@AutisticAndBallistic We must use the word dystopian when it comes to anything involving marketing.
This comment section is something else.
@AutisticAndBallistic I am confused on what you don't understand. You don't find it messed up that the people who are contributing to your overall depression (Because being online is not good for you, and 99% of the slop that gets consumed is literally destroying your brain) are selling you a service that doesn't work and is a known scam to then treat that depression? That was what I understand very clearly from this comment.
@@the1prodig432 That wasn't the original message at all, though.
"it's so messed up to hear a creator say something like "mental health is so important guys" while ADVERTIZING A SERVICE they were PAID TO PROMOTE."
is what OP said. If OP meant to accentuate the fact that better help was a known scam and that youtubers should know not to advertise it, then OP did not properly convey his point. In fact your entire understanding of the comment seems to be completely off. OP even put in caps the issue he had with it, which was that ... influencers were being paid to promote something. Not that they were contributing to the problem or that better help was a scam. Just that they were being paid to promote something.
Anyway, youtubers/streamers/any kind of influencer are probably not to blame for your own depression, and if their content is affecting you so much, you should probably get off the internet and touch grass.
ahh, an anti-ad for betterhelp is all I needed to see today, their ads are such cancer
People badmouth betterhelp all the time, but I for one had a good experience with them. The meals are always fresh, and yeah, they may be a bit expensive, but it's cheaper than eating out all the time.
Had me in the first half
This is so fucking funny
Oohhh 😂😂😂 bastard, you...
I've been playing it F2P for three years and am at Lvl 237 no regrets.
Plus, you can protect your location from anywhere in the world and get 10% off every check out when you buy a tree in Scotland.
It's amazing that you managed to convince Ed Kemper to appear in your video in such a short period of time. The absolute legend, he never misses
You could say he’s aHEAD above the others. Or a CUT above
I think we should stop talking about it
What?
@Pro0Active Let's stop talking about it.
I'm pretty sure we should stop talking about it.
@HellfireJerk What?
@@mandsx8197 What?
Betterhelp's been real quiet since this dropped.
"It's when you don't feel things and you're happy about it"
I was just thinking "I don't think that's what it is" and then man carried the words right out of my mouth
I, too, like to pretend I care much about important topics when in reality I only care a little and give up when it gets hard to commit to it. But let's stop talking about it
You're so healthy. I wish I could just stop talking about it, like you 😊
That's just how it is sometimes, sadly
@@vincee32 'thats how it is' 😀 is good advice. Just be happy.
I will stop talking about it, Takodachi.
"it's when you don't feel things, but you're happy about it" 😅😅😅
Damn I love how true this is, I once got blocked by someone for saying I have always been too poor for therapy rip, 24 and I'm a perma shut in loner, people say it's important but no one really cares still
Okay but like why were you messaging someone online telling them you're too poor for therapy?
And you could just go outside, like, right now.
I think most people don't care because there isn't anything they can do about you being depressed. While there is a few things they can do to help, most of it is things you have to do yourself.
That's what you get for having health problems, how dare you be poor and also need help.
/S because the two previous comments on this thread probably would think I wasn't joking.
@@BladedEdge Since you seem to think what I said was blaming the poster, what can you do to help a depressed person? Genuinely want to know.
I've been depressed before and everytime I try to think about what I might say to my past self that would actually break through the self hatred, nothing comes to mind. Becoming depressed again is a huge fear of mine, I am always checking in on myself to avoid that.
@@bluemark25 Just listen to them. Don't try to think you're some kind of hero that can solve their problems with words or actions. Just listen to them, it's all a therapist does 90% of the time anyway - they're just qualified to ask the right questions. Ask people 'how' they feel not 'why', get them to talk. You're not going to solve their problems, sometimes they might not be able to either, some things are unsolvable. Do little things for the person to help them out. Most importantly: If they don't to talk or want your help, do not give it to them. It's not that they don't like you, but their feelings may be sensitive. You may have already lost their trust in these matters, they may not feel comfortable talking to you about it - and that's okay! Just continue treating them as best you can, just try to make life a little easier for them. Make them tea, help change their sheets, whatever.
Source: I have chronic depression that's been with me my whole life and comes in phases. I've been to therapy multiple times. I 'beat' depression when I was at my lowest point and planning on doing *things*. Still depressed, but no longer in that state. It all came from within, however what helped was my family & friends just being there for me. Just showing me love and not trying to 'fix' the problems. It was enough to keep me going.
0:16 I like your persistent
Experiencing depression is one of the hardest times anyone can go through. It can feel like you're trapped in a dark, heavy place, where even the simplest tasks feel overwhelming ❤
God mental health support has gotten so much better since the 50s, now we remind people they have friends as well as telling them not to be depressed.
Even when they don’t have friends! :)
at least we stopped doing lobotomies
@@GillfigGarstang Gotta shift responsibility somehow :D
I deadass have a Better Help ad underneath this video, im dying thinking that this is when it decides to show up
Thumbs up for the better help call out. Scam artists preying on the downtrodden
Why is the word "thumbs" highlighted in blue
@@rkrkrk999Bad UA-cam "feature."
@@rkrkrk999UA-cam’s latest useless feature where you can tap certain words in the comments and search videos for them
@@rkrkrk999 UA-cam selects words that they might think you would search up, the weird thing is that it searches on youtube and not Google. (Also it is way too sensitive)
@@cobwebblocks ...Thumbs?
A lot of people need to realize it's possible to recover from mental illness without the help of therapy. You need to build a support system (friends or family) and learn ways to cope in a healthy way. Eventually, life will become more manageable along with the illness or stress you suffer from. I'm saying this as someone that has dealt with mental illnesses for much of my life and have gone to several therapists in the past. They aren't magic, they only steer you in the right direction. The one doing all the work is you.
We are recovering from mental illness through sheer power of a middle finger
Agreed. I was in therapy for years and while EMDR helped, no other therapy measures were helpful and I was still depressed. The therapist even told me at one point that there really was no way to fix my issues and I should just get on antidepressants.
You know what helped me? Living with someone who was supportive after years of isolation and having supportive relationships. This is something I told the therapist all along, but they couldn't help with connection and essentially told me that connection would be impossible because I "clearly" had a high IQ which is bullshit (I don't think I do have a high IQ -- I just like to read and I don't necessarily think that was the issue).
@@science1644 What, there's something about having high IQ and not being able to find people who can support you?? Whadahell
Most men do it without any of that, they just don't announce it like women do.
@@science1644I'm happy to hear you found someone that genuinely cares for you and makes your life better. Also, no therapist that believes in IQ to that extent is worth trusting. IQ means nothing in the context of life.
2025:
-"I'm depressed"
"-Yeah welcome to the fucking club, bud. We all are."
This man is living in life, the real one
obligatory i like your persistence
The unfortunate reality is that people don't really care. Also, for some reason "have you tried talking to someone"/"do you have someone to talk to" really just pisses me off in a way that nothing else does. And I *have* been diagnosed with clinical depression before, so no I'm not just acting like I can relate.
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, steve.porss_, I can relate to your experiences with anxiety, depression, PTSD, and addiction. Using mushrooms has significantly contributed to my journey towards staying clean today.
I wish those were more accessible here.
Microdosing was the next thing I planned for my husband. He's 59 & facing many mental health issues, probably CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma for 8 days. Sadly, I had to get a TPO because he's 6'6, over 300 pounds, and displaying violent behavior, always talking about hurting others. He's really aggressive. If anyone out there knows about BPD, is it common to have an obsession with violence?
Is he on instagram?
Steve.porss_ is the man
Damn called BetterHelp out
Stopped watching several channels that still take sponsorships from them, don't understand why anyone still does.
@BladedEdge money
@@spuffles2104 Ah, yes, of course. The money. I had forgotten.
"I'm depressed."
"Sounds like we don't understand depression."
"That doesn't help. me"
" Well shit, I tried, man."
"What type of try was that?" He shrugs it off and then walks.
Have you tried not wearing these ridiculous ties?
I’ll give modern times at least this: it’s being addressed a lot more and taken more seriously. When my mom (bipolar with severe PTSD from an extremely abusive childhood) was growing up in the late 60s, no body believed in mental illnesses like depression. They would tell you that it’s not real and it’s your fault if it is.
To be fair, it's a very difficult and complex issue that is hard to address
Therapists be like:
'Are you going to harm yourself or anyone else after today's session?'
I mean I am not but now you've put the thought in my head....
50'solutions don't work today either, being an alcoholic is also expensive
Yeah being addicted to a substance isnt cheap
and it'll definitely make things worse in the long run
yeah...this is why when i was depressed i didn't tell anyone. i just reigned myself in and fought my brain at every turn to try and live a half decent life. i don't remember what i thought that fixed it but i did and i've been trying to get out ahead of any more depressive spirals ever since. i didn't tell anyone because i knew that they wouldn't have anything to say that i hadn't already seen elsewhere. when you're depressed everyone around you is lying to you, at least that's what you think. so the only voice you can trust is your own and you've just got to fake it til you make it, tell yourself positive stuff that you believe is false until you actually believe it.
how did you know you were depressed if you didn’t tell anyone
Just curious cuz if you had a bunch of symptoms and there weren’t any other disorders or mental health stuff that could be mistaken I get it. It’s just lots of people lie
@@jgsgamergfdgfdgfd1137 at that time in life i had heard enough about depression symptoms via the internet. I had a combination of wanting to sleep more than normal, not wanting to really do anything new and fun or even productive like my school work, i also for the first time in my life was genuinely considering ending it. everything just felt sluggish and like there wasn't a point in any of it. i kept doing everything i was doing just to keep the habits and schedules but it all just sucked. this was back in early highschool when i was also discovering that i'm prone to anxiety attacks but well before i connected the dots that i'm neurodivergent(not mood based disorders). so i guess it's possible that something in those created a perfect storm to make me feel like shit for months on end, but at the time depression seemed like it was the reason. i didn't have many close friends at the time in my physical vicinity and if i told my mom i wanted to die i knew she wouldn't like that or really know what to do about it so i just said nothing. i'd also talked a few friends out of killing themselves at that point so i also knew how stressful hearing that was and how little power it felt you could have outside of saying "please no". Having been on the other side of those conversations really just taught me that speaking up was bad because i knew what i'd say to myself and i didn't want to burden or concern anyone with it. I think i just got out of it out of a frustration of feeling like shit and mentally beating up my anxiety and depression, that time also led to a mental separation between me and "my brain" so...did i "cure" it for good? probably not, but i stopped wanting to die and haven't felt that level of shit since so i consider that a success. i still should go to therapy someday, but that's for other reasons.
@@jgsgamergfdgfdgfd1137 "how did you know you were depressed" mate... what?
@@jgsgamergfdgfdgfd1137 See, that immediate impulse to accuse people of lying or being mistaken or just because you have the symptoms of depression doesn't mean you're depressed how ridiculous that you would dare to assess yourself, as the person actually experiencing the emotions and mental state, instead of paying someone else money to asses you. That's why a lot of people with depression don't tell people that they have depression.
@ I didn’t accuse you? I just wanted to make sure you weren’t seeking attention, and I know you are and I really wish you can get better sometime, and you can’t go around explaining to me stuff as if I’m some 3 year old who has no concept of life and death. I know what depression is, but the resurface in many people faking it for attention has made me wary of whether to actually support people or not. And also, I said symptoms as an example. You could have also said your emotional state but it’s fine you didn’t have to. And yeah I understand that last part, in fact I had depression and still do but I didn’t even believe it myself. You’re the one throwing accusations at me atp, and I’m sorry that I had to doubt you having depression, and I also understand that the people faking it are part of the reason why others don’t say it. But still. Now can we just end this?
When I’m depressed I comment on Man’s videos
Oh!
oh...
Type stuff
"On this channel: 100+ comments / ❤ 121 received"
Wait but you always comment on Man's vide- oh.
Stop commenting then. There, fixed your depression.
Exercise, good food, great sleep, love, family , connections, financial stability.
I have exercise down and a fragment of others. Nothing else.
True, I noticed that getting out, spending time with loved ones , eating and sleeping good really help with depression (atleast for a while)
As someone with deep mental health issues that has been reminded by his dad how expensive the bills are from recently being in a psych ward, this video goes so hard.
Wish your dad had said this instead of guilt-tripping you, but I hope you're feeling in a slightly better place now. That shit is really hard to go through.
its the only reason im considering suicide before going to one of those places.
Both were pretty accurate without playing off the other. Nice how you didn't just make them opposite.
man carrying... a lot right now
Okay I'm super glad you spoke about better health and then I read all these comments...
Man I actually lowkey considered getting it since the advertisements seemed so pure and earnest...
Dodged a bullet ig, thank your for protecting me for once internet lol.
"I'm depressed,"
"Have you considered a therapy?"
"Medical insurance won't cover it"
Man Carrying BetterHelp
Man Carrying Depression
Literally
My former employers at the British civil service were always keen to promote Mental Health Awareness Week - I sure was aware of my mental health working there, let me tell you
"I'm depressed."
"Nothing bad even happened to you. You have no reason to be depressed."
"That's…not how depression wo-"
"Let's stop talking about it."
Back Then: Didn't Care
Today: Pretend to care.
I remember trying therapy one time, they just ended up trying to persuade me into buying some medication when I just wanted help.
you can ask for a different therapist if the first one sucks it often takes a few people to find someone that works for you
All therapy is a scam. People need friends and family that they trust. Not a random person who has a degree in feelings that is trying to sell you something. Someone that you can trust and is looking out for you will give you the help you need. ALL therapists have an incentive to not help you, because then they get more money. You shouldn’t have to pay someone to help you. That’s what family is for. That’s what friends are for. Get more of those. Don’t be a loser.
This was how it was for me too. Every time I try to reach out to doctors about my mental health they almost immediately try to get me into medication. It's rather annoying.
Therapists (at least in the US I don't know how it works elsewhere) aren't supposed to be offering medication as treatment. That's something only psychiatrists can prescribe. You might just be going to the wrong type of professional.
I've dated three therapists. Either they have a type, or I do.
How does that make you feel ;)
?
Porque no los dos?
I can fix them types?
I'd imagine the last thing a therapist would want to do is talk about feelings since that's what they do all day.
Great work Mr. Thing
“Do you want to talk about it?”
*starts to open up about it*
“Just let it go”
Best way to not be depressed is to not be depressed
The let's stop talking about it made me think of Morrowind dialogue
Holy shit! Is Man Carrying Thing putting 2025 as the current year in his skits to make them more easily relatable for a longer period of time?
You forgot the part where 1950s guy gets electroshock treatment and a lobotomy rendering him unable to speak therefore making "Let's stop talking about it"a much quicker process
"I'm depressed"
"Is it your period?"
Bruh I HATE this one.
If you were depressed back then you just wrote a novel and became history
like a certain moustached man...
Glad more people are bashing "better help", the raid shadow legends of therapy
"I'm depressed"
"You have victim mindset"
Literally the words my best friend said to me. And then I understood that she never was my friend. A hard lesson.
My another friend said "Go to a doctor". Turns out she wasn't my friend either.
At least I have a third friend who understands. But she rarely has energy to talk... The other side of "the understanding depression and trauma" coin.
@Tito_michi I'm sorry, man. You deserved better. I hate when people instantly guilt-trip people for struggling mentally. I wish u all the best and absolute happiness
being depressed future
"Im depressed"
"So am I, everyone is"
The future being now
This actually cheered me up. Thanks.
Congrats on the betterhelp sponsorship
Anon: Why are you depressed?
Me: I live on Planet Earth.
Anon: Oh yeah, my bad.
All I have to say is thank you for making this! This popped up on my recommended feed. It did not disappoint
If i had advice for whenever a friend told you or hinted that they were depressed, i would say you could ask if you can show them something funny so they can skip past the feeling, like a meme you found around that reminded you of your friend's interests for example.
If that doesn't work and they say no, here's plan B:
Be an actual friend and listen. Communication is key, make an effort.
*I'm favoured only God knows how much I praise Him,* $230k every 4weeks! | now have a big mansion and can now afford anything and also support God's work and the church.
Only God knows how much grateful i am. After so much struggles I now own a new house and my family is happy once again everything is finally falling into place!!
Wow that's huge, how do you make that much monthly?.. I have been looking for ways to be successful, please how??
It's Ms. Evelyn Vera doing, she's changed my life.
I started pretty low, though, $5000 thereabouts. The return came massive. Joey is in school doing well, telling me of new friends he's meeting in school. Thank you Evelyn Vera, you're a miracle.
Wow...I know her too she is a licensed broker and a FINRA agent she is popular in
US and Canada she is really amazing woman with good skills and experience.
So painfully true that it makes me want to cry.
The problem is that to deal with issues like these, to actually have a positive consequence, you need to have a shred of empathy or sympathy. Empathy, as in the ability to understand and feel what they're feeling, is overvalued - it is treated as the default "good to have" relationship quality. As a consequence, because people struggle to empathise with chronic depression, anxiety, OCD, bipolar, personality disorders or suicidal thoughts if they've not had similar, they then believe they're not ready to talk about it or be useful, and will instead say to go to a specialist. Which is usually a terrible thing to say if you really think about it - please have your recovery off-screen and when you're ready, we can then re-enage.
Generally speaking, I'd rather people had more sympathy, the ability to care and feel compassion for others even if they don't feel the same. I might not know what my friends feel when they're undergoing a break-up, or being fired, or being gaslit by a coworker - but I can still be there for them. Eat together. Watch some stuff. Listen. It's honestly better to just treat it the same - I wouldn't want someone to be empathetic to depression, that'd be useless and unpleasant.
The people who say, "let's stop talking about it" seem to have missed both empathy and sympathy, making them especially pointless. It's hard to forget later.
Too much emphasis on talk therapy. In the end, it's about people like you willing to be there.
I saw a comic a while ago. A person approaches someone noticing they look sad. He asks if they want to talk, they said no, so he just sat down with him.
Sitting here reason through these comments and typing this one now. I would rather be in a silence with some who cares, versus typing to strangers while I'm alone in my apartment. At least I'm fed.
Especially when you're actively in a crisis, the fact you might need professional help EVENTUALLY is something you're likely already aware of- but in that moment all you want is to survive the crisis without being alone / having your loved ones freeze you out because you aren't 'getting help' right now as your world collapses. Ask them what is happening, not what are they doing to fix it- you have to take more steps to escape the eye of the storm than that. Hand in hand.
All of these skits hit so hard. Goddamn.