Orthodox Dating Inspired Us To Become Religious | Story of Devorah & Reuven Kigel
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- Опубліковано 7 лют 2025
- From atheist to advocate, Devora's journey is a powerful story of transformation. Once navigating her own dating struggles, she was drawn to religion through shomer negiah, the Jewish law of refraining from physical contact outside family and marriage. Since then, Devora has helped hundreds find clarity in dating.
Her husband, Reuven, an inspiring Judaic leader from Ukraine, had his own extraordinary path - nearly losing his life, and sharing his unique path to becoming an observant Jew. With heartfelt emotion, He shares how fate brought him to Devora, noting that “time actually froze”, the first time he first met her. Together, they dedicate their lives to teaching and welcoming others to Jewish wisdom. As a dating coach, Devora empowers women to believe true love is real, and achievable without compromise. Discover their journey and the insights that inspire so many.
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I watch 'Stories of Hope' every week with my mother. I'm in my 30's and still single. When Devorah started talking about her experiences and how she understands the struggles of singles, I started crying. My mother looked over at me and asked if I was crying, and I responded, "Yes. For once...I felt seen and heard." Thank you, Hashem for Stories of Hope, Tzipora Grodko and Meaningful Minute...each week, they help fortify my emunah in Hashem and undying hope that my bashert IS out there. It's all about timing.
He is out there!! Everything is perfectly designed by Hashem.
I was 37 when I met my husband, and as it turns out he is 10 years younger than I am. While I was in Israel dancing at my friends weddings wondering when I would get married, he was in NY dancing at his friends Bar Mitzvahs 😅
Timing is everything!!!!
Btw we do shidduchim if you are interested ❤
@@healthymom8112 Reminds me of a story from Yeshiva Shaar HaTorah in Kew Gardens Queens. May we keep on seeing Hashems awesome blessings
@@healthymom8112 where can you be reached?
Thank you for sharing this heartfelt message; your feedback means so much to me and truly captures what I hoped our podcast would bring. Your words went straight to my heart. Sending you warmth, strength, and, as always, boundless hope. ❤️
@@healthymom8112help me get married! Haha
I am in Jerusalem but originally from Australia. Looking for a native English speaker 🤭
This was one of the best podcasts I have EVER listened to!! It was truly incredible! Thank you for being so open and sharing your journey with everyone. I so appreciate hearing Devorah tell all the single women that we are amazing with all the qualities we have and shouldn’t bend or have to settle. Thank you for highlighting the fact that there are things that needs to change in the Shidduch system. I can’t wait to read your book and share it with the world.
Thank you!! Thank you!! Thank you!!
Wow, thank you so much for your feedback! IT means a lot to me. It's not easy to be so open but I feel it's really worth it. Never settle! :)
Wow really a great episode so much to take in and learn from
i always watch your episodes and was so excited to see a new one this morning! i wait for them each week! I am the same age as devorah was when she married reuven. this episode really gives me so much hope that i will find the right one who "checks all of the boxes", no matter what people say. Hashem has my back!
What a special couple! you can clearly see how much love and respect they have for each other. they are doing amazing work for Klal Yisroel and i am so happy you had them on to share their story. thank you to the Kigels, Tzipora, and MM!
Thank you so much for sharing! That’s exactly what I hoped our podcast would do! Your feedback is incredibly meaningful to us. ❤️
@@TziporaGrodko-iu2xz May you merit to find your true love very soon!
Thank you so much! Hang in there! Hashem is the Shatchan :)
@@artbya613 Don't worry about it your still young. I thought you would want to know. I've noticed a lot of 32 year olds lately getting married. It's beautiful to watch. Now I hope you find the right one sooner. But I thought you would want to have this info. I think it will help you stay focused on your journey.
Peace for Jerusalem. And stay safe.
@@devorahkigel Thank you for your kind words Devorah! Yes- Hashem runs the world!
Thank you for this amazing experience! ❤️
Just finished reaading your book!! Very helpful and truthful
Wow, what a beautiful article in the Ami magazine yom tov issue by Tziporah. A must read!!!
Totally agree!!!
This was a really beautiful episode! I loved their story and their messages. (And I already set my alarm for a Breathe in Hashem moment.) Thank you!
So happy our episode resonated! And love that we're starting a "Breathe in Hashem" movement :)
This episode just left me saying Buitiful. Devorah hit the nail on the head. The shiduch world is so confusing and it's amazing that so many find that right one so fast. But the ones left behind to find their Mister right, is so challenging. Tzipora thank you for finding this couple. Their message is right on. Hashem knows what we need and can handle. And they are a perfect example of not just being the shleach, but also the perfect example. May Hashem keep on giving them and you koach. And may you be able to keep on using your talents in a way that shines out. As I say, Ze Kaylie Veanvy Hoo.
Thank you so much for sharing this! We were so honored to be featured on Tzippora's podcast and I hope it helps so many people!
@devorahkigel Im a believer that even if it only help one person it was worth it. But I'm sure it has helped much much more.
Thank you and keep up the amazing work.
Wow, what an incredible episode! The moment that alarm went off, i ran to set my own before even returning and finishing the episode. It's such a beautiful way to be mindful throughout the day! ❤
So happy! will tell my husband what an impact it made!
Amazing episode. My 2 favorite lines are HaShem is the shadchan and we’re not in it for the dates❤
Thx for sharing your fav moments!
Such a beautiful interview. I literally became tearful with how inspiring they are.
Thank you!
WOW!! just WOW!!! so so powerful and encouraging! SOH gets better and better each week! although my challenge right now is not with shidduchim, these episodes are jam packed with inspiration and hope for getting through any situation-and they are the most perfect reminders that Hashem is in charge. Tons of continued Hatzlacah with this podcast and in your personal endeavors!
My favorite message from this episode is that our format of dating actually works. As a civilian (i.e. non professional) shadchan, and as someone who got married as an "older single", I agree that specific individuals sometimes don't know how to be tactful or how to say the right things, but for the most part our system does work, and it makes so much sense.
And I 100% agree with the fact that there needs to be one partner who's willing to jump in, because oftentimes one party is terrified to do that, especially as people get older and develop more "attachment" to singlehood (without realizing it!).
Thank you for a beautiful episode!
yes, our system is way better than the alternative, even with its problems. Keep making matches!
Great work
Ur podcast brings renewed hope and infuses the not yet redeemed persons with a conviction to keep believing, pursuing and to never give up!
Thank u!
I’ve been attending shiurim in Passaic, Clifton with Devorah, for years. Always Beautiful & Confidant
I walt for ur podcasts every week!! U make everyone feel so comfortable and are the most amazing interviewer!!! Keep flying the flag for strong independent women...UR FAB xx
This is such a powerful episode! What a bammmm message!
Thx!
Great episode. You could have this couple on for more episodes. There is sooo much to unpack and learn from their experiences.
Happy to come back to MM ;)
You have a Big Fan in Clifton, NJ. We got talking on a walk, & recognized my tag name from comments on one of your episodes. 🙏🏻😃😀😂🙏🏻💙
This episode!!!! ❤ so much richness! I have to get this book!!
Love all the stories so far but this couple is just wow!!
Thank you!
Thank you for the inspiring strong Emuna messages.
What an amazing couple! I love how they discuss how emunah in realizing Hashem is in charge and Tefillah are so important in shidduchim! So inspiring!
Thank you glad you enjoyed!!
Powerful Episode,thank you!
Fabulous! Just fabulous! So much emunah and practical advice
Thx!!!
Love the authenticity. Learn so much. Ty
Loved this episode!!❤
Really beautiful couple ❤May Hashem continue to send them hatzlacha in all that they do! Keep inspiring!!
amen! thank you!
best of all the "stories"" , so far.
Wow, this episode was incredible
Eating my popcorn before you even said it, looking forward to watching :)
Awesome episode & awesome couple!! Ty!
thank you!
Loved this couple! They are both represent perfection!
aww thank you!
I was listening to your background and I was amazed how similar it was to my sto😢ry. Then I heard you were a "Main Line girl from Swarthmore! I also was a "Main Line" girl from Lower Merion. You described the scene there exactly...totally assimlated, no connection to Yiddishkeit. I am probably around 20 years older than you, but I also became religious in the 70's, and made aliyah in '76. This was a lovely interview, I bless you with success in everything.
wow small world! Thankyou!
Alarm to breathe in HaShem=Genius! Also, great podcast! In prayer and looking for zevug while residing in Israel.
Wow amazing inspiring episode and special couple
thank you! glad you enjoyed
amazing episode!
Amazing episode ❤
Great conversation!
Love this ❤ this one was so inspiring
thank you! glad you enjoyed
What a beautiful brilliant couple! I love this story and all of your stories. Deborah- you are just a rock star!!! Thank you for doing this holy and powerful work!
How do I get the book?
Wow!!! so so beautiful, and yes we read Tziporahs article in the Ami, so well written!!!
Such a cute couple!! Soooo real nd down to earth❤
thank you!
Wow beautiful episode thanks Devora ❤
thanks!
This episode was amazing!
Your an inspiration
I wait every week for this amazing
We love the kigels here in passaic!!
aww
25:15 "Don't be a wife to a boyfriend"....one of the wisest lines ever. Life lesson.
lol thanks! it does encapsulate so much, doesnt it? :)
Incredible!!!!
Wow amazing
Great episode! Very stron emuna.
Devora i agee with you!! Hashem is yhe shadchan, he created us and will take care of us. But in order to not to take one line out of context and give "permission" to "accept me the way i an" i want to add or specify
We dont have to change our personality but we do have to "fix" it, modifu it and give it direction. We are here to work on ourselves and that is the most important thing in a relationship, the humility to know that.
@@raquelkirszenbaum926 I agree with you. But Life is like an escalator that's going down and we need to try and move up on it. If we stop we fall back. If you and your partner are not moving in the same direction and at the same pace it won't work period.
I believe that is what Devorah meant.
Or as her husband said no pain no gain. One always needs to be working on themselves but if you end up with someone who wants to change you and doesn't respect you for who you are and what you need/want.It's a non starter. Think about it. As an example one might appreciate the way you laugh and one might despise it. You might want to change your laugh for them but it would make more sense to find someone who likes you the way you are so you can work on the important thing of life and not be distracted. But nobody is perfect and maybe just maybe if it's not too difficult to change that one thing it might all work out. I remember back in the day (like third grade) playing around with different laughs. And trying to figure out what I liked the best. Today I don't think about it. So the trick is to try and find a partner that shares the same interests and taste as you. Just imagine remodeling the house and he just hates it. That would be a horrible feeling. In simple words life is always give and take. But you need to make sure that you find someone who is going to want to work with you on your journey and not despise the way you are and want to change you. Your partner is meant to support you on your journey. Not push you around on a journey that is not meant for you.
I hope this was helpful.
@@yitzchakenglard2514 hi, I was not disagreeing or adding at all. The podcast was great!
But for the listener is important to not take things out of context
@@raquelkirszenbaum926 I hear you loud and clear. I think I was out of place. I was interpreting and combining what I understood. And I think we both ended up with more or less the same conclusion.
As the theme goes in the original Les Miserables. Life is to give,not to take. May you keep on growing in the ways of Hashem. And with Hashems help we shouldn't slip up.
ofc we are all here to grow and refine our traits, however we cannot marry someone with a "to-do list" for their improvement :) And also a person should not feel that they need to completely become a diff person in order to get married. The right person for you will appreciate you for who you are.
Rabbi Benzion KLATZKO is a great speaker on this topic. Dating/Marriage Counseling- everyone has 10 things in their baggage
Just so powerful - diamonds
My 2nd Chabad Rabbi was the same shliach at U. Of Michigan- Rabbi A. Goldstein.
Fun installment!
Tziporah, as a granny aged commentator - am daring to suggest you take a break. Less career, more space to find a positive zivug. Maybe a job break for awhile
Meshaneh makom, meshaneh mazal.
Much hatzlochoh in this new year😊
@@k10036 I agree. As we have seen with Tzipora. That she can juggle her career and still have the time for a vacation in England. And I'm confident that if she needs to take off for a few days, she would do so without us noticing. We need to enjoy her amazing work and daven to Hashem. That, just like she is finding ways to give chizuk to klal Yisroel , so too Hashem should give her all that she needs.
May we be zoche to see all the good Hashem has for us and all of klal Yisroel.
Awesome gives me faith to back off from bugging my 30 year old daughter when she is finishing her PhD and beatufu and kind I need to trust in z Hashem and support her Desiree to marry her beshereit I’m yirtza Hashem
Amazing wow wow
I know that it was mentioned on the episode. But rather than rerunning the episode to find it, does anyone know the name of the book Devorah wrote?
Marry a metch
@@AlanEKranz Marry a mensch.
Just wondering did I see you at the kotel on Yom kippur?
Dating coach is a very dangerous job. You don't need to change your personality and you need to be yourself, but at some point you may need to compromise on some things your previously thought were deal breakers. Great episode
yes i work with my clients to determine what is a deal breaker and what is something i can overlook.
Wowowowow!!!!
Yes I love what you said and I also found my husband who was in the third category and I was going to look for a vanilla. Only instead of broken engagements, I had a “broken” marriage aka divorce. I also took a long time until we found each other. We were both in our early sixties, so it’s never too late and Hashem did provide.
BH"!!!
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Rabbi Binny Freedman, of Isralight, spoke to a Passaic class. I was so taken by him, that I offered to drive him to the airport. Binny knows my husband & bro in law from Ramaz
What is the title of the book Dvora wrote?
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Jewish men look top notch with a kippa on, so attractive 😍
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Funny considering how many times Orthodox dating has led to people leaving Orthodoxy
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beware christian missionary " one for israel" ad during this episode. christian missionaries leave us jews alone!
She liked frum dating because it caters to the women. It appealed to the feminist in her.
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Sure find the perfect man with the man doing all the work until they send the fiftieth guy to your house and he's just the one you want. What a beautiful process -- NOT!!!!!
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