TOXIC FRIENDS vs REAL FRIENDS
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- Опубліковано 5 лют 2025
- Toxic Friends VS Real Friends is a wojak animation about the life of a young man who, as he grows up, finds out that the people who are close to him are really just there to bring him down. Knowing that he realizes that the only escape from his current lifestyle is to cut ties with former childhood friends.
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Did your friends pull you down?
Have you stopped answering their calls or do they stop answering yours?
BTW...Help me get 100k subs for the whole 1 Million on a wojak animation channel...you can't make this...s...up.
I don't know what should I do on 1M? Any suggestions?
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Other than deleting my channel of course.
You should make voice or face reveal or edit compilation of best and most viewed videos you got
Just enjoy it.
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Those aren’t friends, because with “friends” like them, who needs enemies?
They stopped answering my calls because i was too cool for them 😎
“Leave being lazy for your old age.” What a wonderful quote.
I guess you live to work.
@@Htycto4u7gcvkuy if you can’t imagine any alternative to being lazy other than work, I almost pity you
@@Htycto4u7gcvkuythere is more than work you know
@@fastaskirby2414mostly work though
@@SillyLittleNuke The fact that you are here says otherwise
Having no friends is better than having toxic friends.
Having no friends is better than having friends
agree
Yes, chasing what's "normal" is pathetic and shallow
That's true, but I'd rather have friends that think like you
Same, having none is paradise
The contrast between the toxic and real friends when asking about joining an internship was striking. While the toxic friends discouraged ambition, the real friend provided encouragement and valuable perspective. It highlighted the difference unhealthy and supportive relationships can make in shaping someone's outlook.
I think the blonde haired guy was more supportive, the girl seemed a bit condescending and even triggered at the possibility that nepotism does in fact exist.
Just recently got a new job I wanted for the past few years. Good pay, but I have to move to a big city. Some Friends were happy for me, others said it will be awful moving to a larger town because of traffic and other issues. Never listen to those who will try to put you down.
It's sad how accurate it is though. Reminds me of my early 20s.
The notion that you can "make it" is delusional. Unironically making an improover video is just silly.
@@cmb4tw2800I don't believe they were putting you down for your achievement but rather pointing out an obvious downside to living in large cities. They definitely could've just congratulates you but I think it's beneficial to have atl one person to keep grounded I reality. If you only think of the positives you won't be prepared for the negatives.
There is a happy medium between the two. The "toxic" friends want him to unwind a little and have some enjoyment out of life, while the "real" friends were more like mentors who are more into the career than the friendship. Neither extreme is a decent friendship, IMO. It is good to find enjoyment out of life and have fun, just don't let it mix with business.
The disciplined pursuit of a passion project is the best enjoyment a person can have. The people who just chill and relax are consuming the works of those who had higher ambitions.
unwind a little and enjoy the life doesn't mean pointless drinking and procastinating for long years
My thoughts exactly. Both are an example of toxicity. People idolize this hustle culture for some reason. Like you just aren't allowed to be content with your life. "How dare you be happy while making minimum wage, not looking like a greek god and being single?". Idk man I'm satisfied with my situation. Why can't you be?
@@venominonbg1740 Well said. Maybe he should do a combo and hang out with the guys who hustle while at college and only hang with the losers on the weekend.
I think in the end it all boils down to what's good for you. In my experience, I find it harder when balancing it, times were better when I was struggling for something. Balancing out hustling with playing around just made me more miserable
Blondie lectures hoodie about not always needing connections to get ahead but literally hooked up hoodie and the woman due to his connections.
Nepo kid: "Connections aren't important just work harder"
Nepo kid: Get's into a top company right after graduating
Kid who got into tech and graduated: "I've been trying my hardest but no company will accept me (because of the demand being the same, tech being laid off, internet making jobs more competitive and so they will only accept overqualified or people they know, etc)"
It's awesome if you can somehow get in but if you can't, it's better to find a different route with your knowledge that you can take.
You just have to make friends and talk to people to figure in uni. You never know who might have useful connection that might end up helping you as well.
wasnt the point that anon was actively making connections instead of sitting around whining about people having connections?
"He.....moved on."
Damn, that hit like a truck.
Saddest moment 2023
I was looking for this I kinda felt bad for em at the end
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@@justsomeloser3561 nah, if they were real friends they would have upgraded with him. They dragged him down and he moved up.
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Don't let your procrastinating friends slow you down guys, get to the top
You are your own best friend. Treat yourself well.
@@AeroshogunU re not ur friend, you re your whole world
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What's weird is those who procastrinate tries to give the impression that they've got everything under control and are making progress, at least in my circle. What's telling is the weekend binge-drinking, always being low on money and sadly some hooked on substances stronger than weed or alcohol.
But... I am the procrastinating one...
You don't have to have toxic friends to pull you down. You can have toxic family members or even be toxic yourself.
Nah toxicity always comes to somebody else. Good parents will do everything to put you in the right place.
@neutralmilkbaby key word: "GOOD" parents.
Some don't give half shits about their children or want to hold control of their lives.
@@SCTR-ic5ky a lot of parents to be honest.
@@neutralmilkbaby Not all parents are good.
I used to think I had to be loyal to my drug addict family in Ohio. Wasted a few years trying to help them and they bled me dry. I finally told them all goodbye for good.
At 29 years old, this is something I have been learning greatly. A girl at a bar that was with a pretty successful older guy I met said to me "You don't owe anyone anything no matter how long you have known them, if they aren't adding value to your life or motivating you then find yourself"
ask her again when he dumps her in a year or 2 for a younger version if she stil lthinks that :)
Those two are exactly the "friends" I had when I was in school. It's like it's their life mission to keep you down.
It's called the Crab Bucket Mentality. Most people in big cities & poor areas act like that.
Unfortunately I'm one of those procrastinating friends and thinks life is somewhat rigged
Welp, start doing something with your whole heart and you'll see. @@veiserexab1428
@@veiserexab1428 It is actually rigged. Ain't no way it ain't? But you gotta make great decisions.
@@Ratio429 true 💯
This is incredibly relatable. I used to be in a really toxic friend group that went nowhere in life. They remained static, doing nothing but playing games and not learning or growing. They were always toxic and arguing amongst each other. I care about them, but I can’t stay around that. I hope they’re doing well now, but I don’t know the greater details anymore. I’m with a better group now that’s closer to who I am now rather than who I was. Don’t be scared to move on from the past, and find people who’ll love and support you
What if you can’t find the people that you’re looking for?
@@jokerpilled2535I think your old friend group can still be good for company, but don’t spend too much time with them.
Don't worry man, most of us are doing just fine. We know our cards that we've been dealt with. Its a different path for us that we fight for ourself. Maybe in some case we felt betrayed. But we don't regret knowing you.
I think this speaks for most of us
@@OHOHOHCOME eventually they will drift apart, people can sense when you no longer want to be around them anymore.
@@jokerpilled2535 I’d start by pushing your comfort zone. If you want to find people to be a part of your life, then you need to bring something to their life too. Put yourself put there, and try talking to people. It may seem cliche, but if you aren’t confident socially, its honestly good to start random conversations and learn how to talk without being so nervous. The more you do something, the easier it gets. I would focus less on online spaces and try finding places IRL, I met a good group of people at my MMA gym, and we watch fights every weekend now. Get a hobby that takes you out of the home, and start mingling with regulars. I even go to a local Warhammer shop for games, and know the shopkeeper personally. There is always someone who has the same interests, passions, or goals as you!
It's fascinating how much your life changes when the people around you change. It's hard to think about initially but change will often benefit you in ways you can't imagine. (For better or for worse)
Yeah it’s shockingly true but it’s reality. Our outcome is determined on genetics + environment. We can’t change our genetics and that’s fine but we can change our environment and relationships are a big part of that.
This is why it’s so difficult to find people that don’t fit into stereotypes and videos like these expose these stereotypes so well.
So damn true
@@kev2fuego Genetics + Environment + Effort/Discipline/Skill = Outcome
@@ugne6144 Exactly this! Effort and Environment, both can be changed in most cases ✔️
not having people around = not having problems 😁😁😁
And the irony of it all is those toxic friends will get their life together and be the ones to drop you after leading you down that path of procrastination and dgaf attitude.
True, i was gonna say that
I had a "friend" wherever he wanted drugs and weed he'll come to me with attitude, whenever i try to quit he laughed at me, then he would gossip to other "friends" about me going downhill.
He also got this temporary job in a hotel (something like quantity control) where they suggest him to bring other people to work with him, he would bring some friends he randomly met, meanwhile im his childhood friend he never called me, although i have experience with management and hotels, this was like 5 years ago, nowadays he makes 10k monthly, good for him but you didn't had to pull me down and sabotage me with negativity while you were building yourself.
@@Trybical i hope you broke contact with him & now healing, working towards your ambitions....praying for your success & his karma 🤲
Wow dude. That’s what it is, literally my situation last year. I wish I caught it at first glance man…
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I don't wish Karma for anyone, but honestly deep inside i really wanna see him fucked up cause he hurt me this bad like real bad, like you can't imagine the level of hypocrisy, double standards fake humbleness and uncovered hate that was inside him, when he was talking shit behind me wherever he finds someone that also hates me he feels satisfied but when someone else is neutral or defends me and starts looking at his true nature he just quickly changes the subject or worse he starts to justify why treating me bad and bullying me is good and normal, i used to call him "surfer" cause he was just riding every wave possible just to stay on the winning side and not seem alone
It's kinda hard to have that positive mindset when you're unsure about the path that you are on
Or if you’re unsure on how to move forward, to get to where you wanna be. You don’t wanna be static but, you also wanna try to be independent.
As someone who has no friends, I see this as an absolute win!
It is better than having toxic friends, but worse than having good friends who actually want you to improve. Of course reality is not black and white and seldomly you will find „the“ perfect friends. But you can choose wether you hang out with people who will motivate you and care what happens to you or hang with those who tend to do the contrary
How can a person not have a single friend?
@@somebee9506 not interacting with others/not finding people that have the same chemistry that you do, its way more common than you would think
man I'm kinda in your same situation rn but you cant just give up, put yourself out there and meet new people. You cannot live alone
It is all right not to have friends but make sure to socialize from time to time.
No friends > Toxic friends. If quality people are scarce or non existent, learn to enjoy your own company until that scenario changes for you. I used to be obsessed with having friends in school so I would hopefully be left alone by bullies and such but being autistic that made things worse. My best friend was myself all along and I neglected him too much.
How is everyone on the internet autistic? Strange.
True, though people differ from people. Some like me and you enjoy loneliness, others like company. I can't help but think about the people who needs friends to push on, but can't find any in real life.
@@tower5499 absolutely right, hence why I said “until that scenario changes for you” because not everyone can be self validated or self actualized. I just hope they find what they are ultimately looking for without judgement.
without toxic friends you cant learn how to handle trash people
@@E77er the best way to deal with trash is to take it out and not deal with it at all.
I use to be a toxic friend, now I am a good friend.
I am thankful that I learned and decided to change.
If you were surrounded by toxic people either friends of family you will normalize their toxic behavior too.
Heh your pfp is toxic, literally 😂
lmao I just realized that @xoxoheartz 😅
How do you know if you're being toxic to ur freinds
@@smallpotatoesinc observe your own actions, are you making them feel bad, putting them down or talk them out of their ambitions?
I had something similar.
I talked with friends who are a little older than me, but they did not go to college, and I studied and educated myself. Yes, there were moments when friends were "toxic" and wanted me to pay a little more attention to them than to my future / education. But I continued to do my job.
Some time passed and I noticed that I began to move away from my friends. Not because they have changed and become worse, no, it is I who have changed and become better. My friends still remained cool and funny, but now I'm not interested in being with them. This upsets me. I didn’t want to move away from them and I don’t want to leave them, but at the same time I understand that I can’t go along with them already and I can’t do anything about it. It is a pity that in life it is done so that when you go forward, some people may already be left behind and it does not matter whether you want it or not.
This black-haired guy is lucky to have met such people in college and is generally capable of learning, this is a rare luck, and usually people think only of themselves and will not help others
Yep. Like I stated in a diff comment. The blonde haired dude is a rare occurrence. Even if they do happen, they usually want people who they can use to get themselves up the corporate ladder. You would have a better chance finding a gym bro who can teach you to become physically better. Doesn't mean they have connections though. They would still be way easier to find.
This really speaks to me, I wish I had more people back then to push me forward and not just slow me down..
Why is it that every character with Nathan's voice just turns out to be unintentionally funny? 😭
you are projecting
@@thomas.thomaswtf are you talking about
Man, we obviously know which friends were the toxic ones, but being around people who just have to hustle every moment of their lives tends to be stressful and tiring for me. I think I prefer to make progress at my own, steady pace. Being in presence of such people might be very beneficial in short bursts, but too long, and I'm getting overwhelmed.
You lack determination. You need passion to grind at that level and maybe you haven't found something to be passionate about
@@nervonablissLive and let live my friend, not everyone desires materialism. Some people just want good friends and communities and to enjoy the time they have left on this earth.
@@nervonabliss Sorry, but you know nothing about who I am and how hard I grind. I just prefer internal drive from external one - it keeps my mind healthy and free from burnout, which I already suffered once. External pressure and expectations just tends to cripple some people, no matter the passion and talent.
True. At the end of the day though, you can do some progress to better yourself but y'know... "always grinding" and all that, can get tiring sometimes
@makutas-v261 bro had a stroke mid-comment 💀
Wouldn't say toxic or bad friends. Just a difference in priorities and life path. Some people are ambitious, some people don't care. Find who you gel with and go with that. Lots of friends throughout life will develop new outlooks and priorities and people you hung out with every day will become total strangers to you in time. It just happens. No problem. Just surround yourself with people who align with what you're about. Get out and meet new people who like who you are.
Friends never last because they either leave you or you have to fade away. The only good friend doesn't stay a friend they become someone you would consider part of your family.
This hit home for me. 13 years ago I ditched my toxic friends and went to college at the ripe age of 27. Met new friends who were certified geniuses and I graduated with a bachelors in physics in 2015. Been working as a software dev ever since. Totally beats spending my miserable part-time check at the bar with those old bad influences.
This helped motivate me, thank you. @futtbucker96
Im happy for you! You can do it!
People can join college in late 20s? 😮
@@chakraborty1989 ofc
@@chakraborty1989 they can join at any age there is no law against that...
“Do the hard work especially when you don’t feel like it.” - some wise dude
If I remember right. He said, that he has problems with too much casual sex. Not so wise in my opinion
@Zen2k4r2 Every advice of those "guru's" is like this. Just listen to yourself bro.
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mwah !
Misery likes company, don't allow yourself to get dragged down into other peoples' issues.
Humans need company, no matter the mental condition.
The "fake" friends in the video are so much cooler than my "fake" friends who looked down on me, asked me for 1 sided favors and gas lit me all the time.
how they gas lit u
Not the devil may crybaby profile💀
"Leave being lazy for your old age" Such a simple but impactful quote. At least to me
Even in college there a lot of people that can drag you down if you value friendships over your own growth
Happens a lot in party schools still
Although his toxic friends are very toxic and will keep him down from bettering himself. His "real friend" is also toxic, maybe just as toxic, with his work hustle culture and always needing to move up in the corporate ladder. The self improvement aspect of him is great, but people who are very business oriented tend to be nut cases on the side. I'm talking from 4 years of business school which only taught me that I want nothing to do with the business sector lol.
I didn’t like how his new friend TOLD him that he can’t eat sugary beverages or drink or basically have any fun, there’s levels to everything.. his new friend seems controlling
@@Artkenny284 even the coffee...what is seriously wrong with it. of course, it can have some side effects but doesn't everything? this robotic lifestyle is so empty
@@moymelia it is not empty at all, lmao
i only dring water, tea or milk - is my life less fun because i don't drink stimulants like caffeine that you get used to after a while anyway? no
did that friend tell him he can't have any fun? haven't seen it in the video
plenty of people enjoy going to the gym, plenty actually are interested in the topic they are studying and like to learn
yes maybe that guy is too work oriented, there are other important things in life as well - like family, not sugary beverages
Most colleagues in business school are wolves dressed in sheep's clothing still
@@thomas.thomas Odd thing to get overly defensive over. Did coffee murder someone close to you?
This hit way too close to home. I just went back to school after 11 years, and I managed to land a paid internship. You will have an easier time finding an entry-level job in the field you studied for if you land one of those internships. The paid ones are heavily coveted, and yes, there are people who received them simply because they knew someone. It's the sad reality but that should not persuade you to give up on higher education altogether. I left behind the friends I had growing up years ago, but I never had friends hold me back.
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What should persuade you into not going into higher education is the fact you'll spend an entire class learning what division is in a fourth year cryptography class.
It's daycare that costs 10 grand a term.
At 10 grand a term, I would not recommend higher education to anyone. However, at community college where the terms are closer to $1750, it's a more manageable debt. One of my fellow apprentices, who is 5 years my junior, actually worked full-time straight out of high school until he had enough money for his associate degree.@@ImperialFool
There's just something about that blonde guy, I feel like he's the one with connections ironically saying that they don't matter
I mean they don't matter when you already have the connections lol.
Just like how money doesn't matter to Jeff Bezos since he has a ton of it.
People who have privileges always see others as "lazy". I mean look at Kim Kardashian. She said "people these days don't want to work". Meanwhile, tons of people are working a lot and can barely pay their bills. While she has had a privileged life from the day she was born, her parents/family had enough money to get a TV show made, she became more famous just because of a s*x tape, and her "business" is just paying others to make the decisions and products for her while she puts her face on everything and takes in most of the money. Oh and she can just put on some lip gloss, post a picture, and get paid tens of thousands of dollars for a picture.
I don't care about people that have it easy but it's incredibly annoying when they talk down to others as if everyone is just laying down and nothing is wrong. That's when privilege makes these people out of touch and ignorant. So nepo kid telling you "oh just get your dad to get you into the company" doesn't work for someone with parents that are poor/aren't well connected so it sounds absurd.
@@return7898 Welp she's not wrong, people are lazy from her perspective since she never saw those who worked hard for bills, but still.
I love how relatable this is, but I think the hardest hitting part about this video was realizing that I have some of the traits of those toxic friends and I never even realized. For that, I have to thank you, I'm gonna work on being a more supportive friend
Letting you know that your video made an impact on someone, me, and probably many others!
I have a friend similar to what the blonde guy's representing. Lately I've realized his disciplines are more structured and reassuring than what my parents or anyone eles has given me, I'm lucky but that only goes so far I'm taking all of the great things for granted and only lament all day
Bro. I've got a literally blond friend like this, with a difference, I know him for my entire life.
He's the best friend I could ever dreamed of. He's pro active life position. He studies, and grows very intensive and want me to grow up too and be successful at my goals. He's always supportive, helps me with my self studying, encourages me at every sphere where I may improve, he accepts me at my bad or unlike sides. When I almost got broken it was him being able to help me finencially, even he's a student, from average family, was there for me, giving his last earned money to save a friend. After 4 months I managed to normalize, and give him money back, and he's right away spending part of it, to buy a guitar for me at my birthday, so I can try myself at music, cause he always knew I dreamed of it.
This is friendship
@astridallenmand917 I'm in tears reading this. so glad for you to have such friend. I wish you the best for your future and his. cherish your friendship and never leave each other's side, okay?
I feel like the blonde guy is actually the CHAD character when he was younger
A simp is still a simp
"Personally I'd rather sit here on the bench" - Lao Tzu
Lol
Both friends can be toxic if you think about it, the “loser” friends don’t want to encourage any positive growth, whereas the “winner” friends won’t accept any criticism or limitations which can be a roadblock for some people. I’ve had both types of friends so I know neither are really “true friends”. You should only use people like these as needed, don’t get too personal with them. At the end of the day, you can only count on yourself.
So…..how far has that philosophy taken you?
@@jakd2962I think I saw them take a single step yesterday... I stopped waiting for another after 15 years
@@jakd2962 I’m in a much better place now than in my 20s. But if success is the only thing that matters to you, then sucking up to “successful” people is probably your best bet.
Sounds like you got a bad shake from "winner" friends. Really, what is the value of offering your criticism or stating these supposed limitations to them? I'm not saying you should kiss their ass, but if they're letting you be a part of their in-group, good chance you will reap some benefits. Don't rock the boat for no reason, unless you're so brainrotted you have to spew your ideology and beliefs at all times and can't hold a normal relationship with them.
big cope
This one hit hard. My friend circle from high school split in half in college. One half were the people doing something with their lives, whether that be college for advanced careers or working in civil service jobs with benefits, and the other half were the people doing straight up nothing with their lives with zero ambition. I believe the slow recognition of the difference in one half of our friend's goals in life compared to the other led to this gradual divide. I think like the character in the video, it is tempting to answer those phone calls from old friends but in the long run, they're trying to hold you back from your full potential. Even though I'm not close with that other half, I miss the friendship we shared and it is unfortunate that we split.
Have you ever considered that the no ambition friends maybe are happy anyways? Maybe people are happy by doing the farmer or the waiter.
More like unmotivated friends vs colleagues
I had this experience earlier. I went to a different HS than my neighborhood friends, who were not as interested in school as I was. That leads to having to choose to stay home and study versus just hanging out with the local friends. Lots of peer pressure to hang out and being called disloyal if you don't.
It seems some people have internal drive that helps them through difficult situations while others need external motivation to catch the fire of ambition.
One thing the vid missed, it's less about the bosses son at work and more about how to play corporate politics. You can have lazy people in the office making more than you and acting like the lazy friends in this vid, but they are smooth talkers and are friends with the boss or management so they get to slide by and they get to assign their work to others but take credit for it. Navigating that is the true challenge in the workplace.
I empathize with those two toxic friends. They probably had their hopes and dreams crushed by the world. Some people just can't recover from that trauma. They probably didn't have support when they needed it the most. It makes it much more possible to overcome trauma in general when you have a healthy support system. I feel for the people who never have had that in their lives.
Maby they dont had the Hopes crushed because they already see the world as wonderful and keep happy together without slaving away 6 or more hours per day for some work
What's the difference anyway? wageslave for 8 hours or doing nothing with your life both of them are the worst
@@Jakkaribik1That sounds more like an excuse for lazy people
So you rather Slave Away for some Big Company where you lose your lifetime than stick with good Friends ok gotcha Money > Friends for you@@JoseRamirez-rq2gj
@@Jakkaribik1Just like Big Lebowski 😎
Its crazy how they complain that you won't go anywhere in life without connections, yet say college is only for meeting other people
This UA-cam channel needs more publicity because these types of lessons need to be taught to our generation. And the reason I say our is because I am a fifteen year old kid who understands how laziness effects me and how I need discipline to go anywhere in life right now I am about to start college courses in high school for the second time (thanks to my mom) and I am going to push through so I can live a life I dreamed of. And for all you old bats it really is never too late for success in life in fact I believe success is when you can settle down and live without distractions such as alcohol or money or any other things. All I’m saying is that I believe in you even if my candle of inspiration burns out, I’d have 100 matches ready to light yours. You pick your destiny, friends and foes, and most importantly your fate. Thank you
2:30. I had so many former friends like this, trying to drag me down.
This video hit really hard for me and felt very personal because i am in a very similar situation right now, thank you for continuing to make such good content for so long
When you live all your life in that kind of enviorment you still feel it pulling at you and being engrained into you even in other enviorments and with different people, this video really showed that perfectly
i used to have a friend who would tell me he didn't study for the exam either so i would feel good that im not alone and give it up but when the scores came, he had the best score in class. world is cruel, we need to be careful
Yea, a lot of the times people also lie about this to seem cool. In reality behind close doors even if they don’t study long, they may be reading notes or have better memory. Eventually the people that don’t study struggle later in college because it’s almost impossible to pass without independent study. Good luck to you
That sucks homs however you really should have studied (unless you had some real emergency going on). Either way hope your doing better and remember better alone than in bad company
@@kev2fuego Me and my best friend in uni were like this, we would always ask each other if we studied which the response was always no to feel better about ourselves. One day before the class we had same talk in which he responded no as usual but later that day during class he slipped up and straight up exposed himself while other dude asked him the same question in which he said he's been studying for the past week. He immediately realized that I heard what he said and was too embarrased to talk about it.
fuck man that hurt, you know sometimes people lie about it just to gain advantage.
Well in my old friend group I would always say "oh I didn't study" because I didn't wanna look boring or like a looser for taking school seriously. Still, very obvious I was lying because I got good grades.
I used to be that kind of 'friend' myself, but in a completely honest way. I don't tell my friends that to hinder them, but matter-of-factly, and they know that. I don't like to do revisions in my free time, and I really don't do it until the very last moment (a quick browse before I sleep, the night before the test/exam). But managed to score decently, if not top the class sometimes. I paid attention during lessons. I've long lost that ability past that point in time.
Even if you dont want to become like them and you just wanna hang out,
you will eventually end up like them.
So true.And the hardest part is that you won't even notice it happening.
Elaborate at least 💀
Thank you for this. It's hard to make that decision to be on your own, when saying yes and sticking to those friends seems like the easier way out. This video reminded me why I made the choice I did, and it honestly makes me feel better about myself looking back. Much love
Made me realize that I had a lot of toxic friends that were exactly like the ones in this video. Sure, they believed in working out but that was it. It was until I hung out with people from my church who were in college that I realized how badly I was handling life. I got back into college and have been hanging out with my church friends more and it's such a refreshing way of living and looking at life. They're not nihilistic or angry. They make me feel hopeful for my future. So yeah, friends are very important they can change your life.
But mostly the ambitious or "good" friends I've met only cares about themselves, they only seeking friend for networking rather than helps someone life to be better
Exactly. If they can map and tactic the benefits in their life, im sure they will 2+2 and see that is no need to spend time on some,, loser" doomer, they are not a charity after all
@@ironman8257Yep. People think that after High School appearances and cliques go away. Even at a good college in my state, the "nerds" would outcast the nerds that looked like nerds or if they looked like losers. Even in a nerdy school, there's a hierarchy, it's insane.
0:50 I believe this is my favorite scene in this. Just looking on into the outside world and just for a moment having peace and quiet.
7:34 it’s the reality of growing up and growing apart. We get to decide whether or not we want the circle of people we have around us.
-This one really got me thinking cuz friends, family, etc. eventually drift apart the older they get for various reasons. Great work dude.
i frankly don't know what to do with my life
@@Peakferstart slow. Try exercise and meditation. Exercise makes you feel good. Meditation flushes the bad thoughts away. Start with push ups first then weighrs. Meditation start with 5 minutes a day then up to 10 minutes. After that look for a goal focus on it. Also read stoicism.
@@neutralmilkbaby thanks, I’ll try it out. But I don’t know what to do after that. I guess I’m just afraid of being useless and a failure.
@@Peakferlol what's your stat spread looking like? I'm sure you can find a practical path in life to move you forward.
@@peterzelaya9948 tbh the only thing I would say I’m “moderately good at” is mathematics, but I don’t really enjoy it.
It's not only about connections, hard working and mere luck affect your life too. Good message.
Fantastic channel, can't get enough of your content.
This video mirrors my life far too accurately. The only difference is the blonde positive guy didn't exist and his friend whining about connections is accurate. I graduated college for IT while trying to stay in touch with my weed smoking video game childhood friends. Hard work wasn't enough and people with superior social lives and connections always were ahead.
I ended up working at a supermarket as a manager funny enough, and despite being paid alright I injured my body. Now I'm injured for life, all that studying and internship bs was a waste of time and IT sucked, and now I don't even have my old "loser" friends because I thought I would be happier without them.
I was wrong.
This has exactly been what I've been experiencing with my friend group. None of them are trying to better themselves, so I had to quit the group the hard way. It's tough "growing apart", but it is necessary to sever ties that will only harm you mentally and spiritually.
i love these videos because they show the thruth and can help someone with important live decisions
the good friend says "let me introduce you to some people" , but then the guy doesnt let his "bad" friend come along to meet his good friend.
So true, I didn’t even think of that
Sometimes you just have to know when to move on.
Yeah he is the most toxic one indeed.
studying at college
bringing stagnant people
yeah let's indroduce them
what a way to ruin everyone's day
I think we all know people like this in terms of lacking ambition, but I don't think I've ever met someone who actively DISCOURAGES one from doing better things.
You're lucky then. Some people in their older 20s or early 30s who didn't make it very far will try and drag young people down, whether they know theyre doing it or not. Subtle things like discouraging education, or trash talking "friends" who don't hang out all the time, just like this video portrayed. These people 100% exist and need to be avoided like the plague.
often it is subtle and you might not notice it right away
someone making fun of you for wanting to go to bed early or telling you to not bother with going to the gym
You are lucky, I've had many toxic friends who get pissed when you cant be on video games 24/7
Who needs enemies when you have friends
I met mostly toxic friends at college. The old, local friends of mine were always the better: hardworking, down to earth, and already have a family.
Depends on the place/country.
In my country you really do need connections otherwise playing by the book and doing things legally will never get you anywhere.
Europe, even Eastern, has it a lot easier than most.
Just TRY getting anywhere by the book in Latin America, for example
@@umcaraqualquer3640or literally anywhere in africa or most of asia
@@umcaraqualquer3640You definetely don't know Romania. Imagine that we have the highest number of Parliament members in the EU and more state secretaries than the US...
Lol that's why Andrew Tate moved there, the corruption@@TheGreyPeregrine
Qazaqstan?
True friends are the ones that act in not only in their best interest but also yours as well. Many times our goals and ambitions do overlap. Those unwilling to change will reap the consequences eventually. Always be the best you can, but know when it's healthy to breakaway.
This whole situation feels so so familiar to me. This is honestly very motivating to watch. Keep it up :)
This one is my favorite bc most us been thru this one. “Friends” are what you make it but to me a good friend is a person who can help themselves and help you.
0:34 "Will it always be like this?"
"Hopefully."
I almost fell out of my chair laughing
High school was weird with covid and I think I had a situation like this, but I was the guy who wanted to do stuff and move forward in life. I didn't care much for maintaining relations outside of school so one guy who kept insisting on talking with me became my friend. He was getting all that advice and encouragement for me not to do stupid shit while he was just tagging along and enjoying the benefits. At some point I was busy so I couldn't bail his ass out at school so he started gossiping behind my back and getting me in trouble with the teachers. I discussed it with him and he didn't admit to doing anything wrong. I kept noticing how he was lying to me and withholding useful info about certifications. Then a good friend from middle school told me once again how he was talking shit about me at a party and advised me to move places. So I did and asked another classmate to move in as my new desk mate. Best decision ever to cut him out without drama. I was lazy about keeping friends so I got left only with the leeches. It served me a good lesson and so should it you. Guys, try to keep in contact with good people and don't be lazy like me.
ALL of the friends in this video are TOXIC. His old friends are stuck in the past. His new friends are stuck in the future. Encouragement is good. Ambition is good. An addiction to obsessive self-improvement is, ironically, really self-destructive. The line "You gotta work hard now so that things will be easy in future" really sums up for me everything wrong with the new friend. The new friend sees happiness as being somewhere else. If you work all day every day now then that's all you'll ever know how to do and so it's all you'll ever do and all the money and muscles in the world will never make it easy for you ever.
Dude, I love watching these skits and I hate watching them at the same time lol. They feel so real and speak to me.
SIMPLE ANIMATIONS WITH DEEP MEANINGS.
100/10 content.
Honestly i half agree with you, sure procrastinating friends are bad and looking out for your future is good but i also know the toxic side of just looking towards the future hoping to not make mistakes, id say both are equally bad because on one hand the friends that are slackers will push you down with them but friends who are always looking in the future are blinded and will only care if you keep up with them. So id like to pick a middle ground where i can have friends that care about me and my future but also can just relax at a cafe or something
i love you millennia. thanks for making these great videos. never stop doing what you do
Idk but for me it was the opposite. I'm from the Balkans and I entered college very optimistic, ignoring all these critics about nepotism. Met some new people who seemed nice and I thought I had found a fine circle of friends. But after graduation the Pandemic hit and I applied left and right without any result while those former colleagues I had cared for got hired over night in public institutions. Recently I found out their relatives were working in the same places. That's how I became very skeptical of the labour market.
what country is that? CAUSE I LIVE IN MOROCCO AND WE HAVE THE SAME PROBLEM
@@hassanbirbir6363 Romania
I had the same realization but it wasn't good enough for me to quit on life like they did in this video
@@hassanbirbir6363you need better wasta
it's good you became skeptical, but the next step would be to use and built upon your connections and leverage them for yourself
Honestly, really insipiring, i've been very lazy lately, playing cyberpunk, drinking energy drinks and coffee 24/7, stopped working out, i gotta start working again, thank you for this, you might have changed my life today, that's worth something right>)?
I know it's just a simple wojack youtube video to most people, but I have to say I haven't stopped thinking about this video since I saw it a few days ago
I find myself reflecting on my past, with different moments causing me to relate to both the main character in this video, and his "loser" friends. I wonder how often I was perceived as the bad friend, how many times I actually was, how many times "better friends" tried to help me improve myself but I stayed behind with the "losers"
I'm not sure what point this reflection serves other than encouraging "what if" and "I should've done this instead" thoughts, but I'm left with a sense of awe over your work. Thank you for making these videos, I just wish I could've seen them 10-15 years ago...
Cheers 💚
Those "real" friends didn't care about Wojak, they just pretended they were better than him to stroke their self-esteem. Like pretty girls choose ugly friends. They will not be happy if Wojak will achieve something. Actually, when you become old you will not remember your education or sports, only bright moments of life
Just yesterday I happened to break up with an old friend because I thought he was a toxic person, amazing how everything seems connected
I love your writing Millennia. It can be taken in a variety of ways, which I think is the point. Imo, both friend groups are toxic here. One side represents the endless excuses of the procrastinator. Basically, their own personal insecurities make them habitually try to drag down others around them. Since life dealt them an unfair hand, they must do all that they can to sabotage the hand of others, so they don't feel alone. Meanwhile, the other side represents the cold and callous grindset. The personal insecurities of these friends cause them to habitually treat those close to them as robots, who must adhere to their strict standards or else they're not good enough. Though a lot of it may come from an earnest place, that competitive nature often will turn friends against one another and perhaps even refuse to foster that more emotional connection. This forces these friends to drift apart over time, and though they carry with them success, they are perhaps alone in the end whereas the prior group sticks together, but perhaps in perpetual unhappiness which isn't good either. It's all very interesting and nuanced, and personally, I feel a healthy balance of both is needed.
Out of all the videos ive watched on this channel this one really made me change my outlook on things, rather than being stubborn and thinking that my life is perfect and its going well, thank you.
Bro this shit highkey motivated me to do better for myself each day to continue being a good friend to my people.
Jeden z niewielu kanałów który uczy podstaw życia. Robisz niesamowitą robotę przekazując informacje które powinny być przekazane przez rodziców/środowisko...czasem próbują....wszyscy wiemy jak to wychodzi....
I to jeszcze polak
I disagree. That blonde guy is not a "real friend", he's just an idealized parental figure. Nobody never ever was like "bro be the best version of you" and "i know life bro you just gotta do this bro". By that definition everyone who don't improoooov 24/7 is a toxic friend, which is untrue.
agreed 100%
I have one "friend" like this...
Never wasting time in building a deeper connection with us outside of what he/she needs.
Are we going to celebrate a Birthday? Wanna take a break now that the exams are out of the way? No bro, you have to focus on the future, don't drink alcohol, dont go to a dance club, don't waste time, leave your 5 year long relatioship if your girls/boy-friend is not improving her/his life... You are sad and having low self-steem? Go to the gym, dont be lazy... Don't do this, don't do that
It's like a constant reminder of Radiohead's "Fitter Happier"...
He/she will probably have a good salary and a good economic life, but will probably also have no friends to enjoy his achievements... I just want him/her to realize this and be happy at the end...
@@RamuhOusrrabngl i would listen to him/her, your comment backfired 😭💀
@@ErykRoll NGL if your friend's mother recently died and this ""good friend"" says "go to the gym" (real) for him to "feel better"...
That's not a "good friend" at all. That's a guy with no fucking affection...
@@RamuhOusrrab oh chill not that way, put it in a different perspective and you will see how it somewhat backfires
I'm so glad the protagonist of this video did not "relapse"
These videos are all so savage and absolutely dead on bro. You're creating art that is underappreciated. This is up there with Michelangelo and Da Vinci.
"Leave being lazy for your old age" thank u for this
The feels less like advocating for the future, and more like a nuanced view of both the future, and staying in the present. Some of those wojak animations can be so confusing because I feel as if Milennia's getting ahead of himself artistically.
His “real friend” just cares about doing college projects, they are probably not having a great time with each other as they are only talking about college and self-growth. he will likely forget about the main guy after finishing the college as they don’t have the same goals and career
at least the main character (if he dont attach) will gain a good mindset
define great time. Is it playing video games and drinking with your friends?
@@cherubeastI didn't know enjoying the little moments was bad...
Don’t leave your friends behind. Even how toxic. Change them for better. Be a real brother.
you can't someone if they don't want to be change lmao and you don't need to fix people (based on my experiences)
its like crab psychology when you put a lot of crabs in a box, and when one tries to get out other ones cath it and pull them back. That's how toxic friendships are, they don't want you to get out of box and discover the world. And when you try that they keep blaming you
I needed that final message. Thank you, honestly. I'll keep telling me that and working on some of my projects. Even when I come home tired from my job. Not that I will forget my resting, but I also won't forget my projects.
Trafiasz aż za bardzo z tymi animacjami. Naprawdę masz talent. Pozdro z świętego miasta.
Man I had the worst combination of these two types of friends before. Imagine someone who is lazy as shit and doesn't want to work and cheating their way through college, also preaching about grinding and hustling. Absolutely maddening
I had a handful of close-knit good friends who always look out and encourage each other, and we knew each other way back. They've always been candid to share job offers over school holidays, asking if I'm interested etc, but I'd consistently turn them down (because I didn't feel like working). Gradually, I cut them out of my life after they started graduating and getting into good careers. I know I am lazy myself but I just can't find the energy to move forward. And seeing their success makes me feel even more useless. So I chose to turn a blind eye in order feel a bit better about myself. At least, I sincerely hope that I haven't been a bad company for any of them. I don't like seeing my friends fail either. I guess in some sense, I am that "toxic" friend all along, but not intentionally being so.
Side note: The appearance of MC wojak in black really reminds me of myself right now. I literally look like that, after having gone almost a year without haircut, and 2 wks between shaves. The only difference is that my situation is opposite, and I dropped out of college and not found a proper job since last year. Pretty much given up on life before it even started. And it's all my own doing. "What's the point of working?" like that toxic wojak friend said. I'd spend my days in front of the monitor, getting by with bare minimum, all while being nagged at by my parents. I don't feel good living off of them, but then, oh well... I'm not dead yet, but I certainly don't look forward to waking up the next day.
The scariest aspect isn't about surviving, but the awareness that I have absolutely no ambition or aim in life to help keep pushing me forward. Nothing excites me anymore. I wake up to a new day simply because I can't stay asleep anymore. I go to sleep, not because I'm resting up to a new day ahead, but simply because I'm tired from being awake. Whatever I do in between is simply to stave off insanity from knowing my life is meaningless, and I won't find the meaning.
sounds like a skill issue
I'm going through the same thing, you're not alone in this.
I was expecting then a leap into the future and his classmate turns out to be his boss's son, lol.
It's nice to have a good ending for once, I've had several friends who were and are going nowhere in life, but they never tried to agressively drag me down, the only one who kinda did I still consider a friend but we only see each other like every 2 years, when I happen to go around the town where he's living with his elderly mother. We always have a good time, and he seems content living like that, but I still feel sad for him.
I have no friends - I've given up lol - nothing wrong with taking life easy - I have a good job and contribute meaningfully; also working hard in education upto university was a waste of time for me - I wish I'd spent more time making friends and memories personally. Work & video games is my life now and I don't see that changing anytime soon.
If that makes you happy, then there's really nothing wrong with it. Don't get caught up in the whole money chase and collecting stuff. The wisest people throughout history actually lived with little, not because they were lazy, but because they understood that what's truly worth pursuing and working for goes beyond just material things, fame, and how others see you. Put a premium on knowledge, good judgment, and most importantly, chipping in for your community. Oh, and if you're religious, put that at the top of your list.
Can relate, I have a few people I meet once every few months but thats about it, dropped out of collage after my first year. Now I work as a sysadmin with some devops elements and programming mixed in at a government institution at 21. Most of my day is spent sitting in front of my computer at home working and after that sitting in front of my computer doing personal projects or gaming. Its a simple life but it’s comfy, I haven’t really regretted dropping out of collage yet but who knows what the future will bring. After all my experiences with people during both school and college I somehow don’t regret having a almost non existent social life, most people are just assholes nowadays, they will try to bring you down to their level, they will be insecure when you achieve more than them faster, sometimes its just better to be alone.
Not worth having male friends, because if they're not great looking, they will tear you down to increase their LMS. And you can have female friends because of your attraction to them and lack of relatablility. Can't have a gf either because it's finished for bellow average looking western men.
It's like that. Some people are better suited for College and some are not. Some people will live easier lives than others but you just do what you can day by day. If you want friends, I'm not sure if apps will help. Other than that, you could try and find other friends into video games by going to video game hangouts. I've never done it but I've heard of others doing it.
Investing in yourself is limited in scope. One needs a solid foundation before one starts building up.
Lol the "smart" friends talk exactly like kids who don't know how the world works. His old friends will be the ones he remembers fondly as he gets older and regrets not hanging out more with them
It's called being optimistic and having a not giving up attitude my dude
Yes, but his old friends are macking a mockery of his struggles instead of supporting him. True friends will promote and help you with your self improvement.
@@TwistedViewer"True friends " people have jealously unconsciously they are not the ones to blame it's the environment. You would understand this and try to make the point across your friends that way they can improve together not just abandon them in the dust. That's a bastard right there he just move-on bitch.
i wouldnt be so sure about that, will he miss being talked down on by friends he only drinks alcohol with?
,The “He…moved on” was so sad, I think they don’t want to live like that neither, but they can’t stop, or in other words, they already gave up.
I relate to this a lot, not because i think i had friends like that but i feel like the two groups shown in this video are all me, my thoughts, always fighting on how i will be in any day.
Beautiful story. Putting yourself in the right circle of people can go a long way. There are many people who are in similar positions of struggling but it's those that come together with good intention that make it to the top. Find happiness in the good things.
One day I've been so desperate for having friends I've just started to go online and hang out with anyone I met on discord, I've became toxic myself, now trying to be just a tiny bit better... It sure is tough, no friends is better than friends who pull you down to shape your future to their liking.
Damn I just realized this creator is from Poland, so am I and it hits right in the feels, trzymaj się. ❤🎉