My Mother betrayed me. Who is my father ?| I’ve Been Through the Most | Sylvester Mashilo
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- Опубліковано 11 вер 2024
- centTWINZ Innocent Sadiki and Millicent Mashile are the producers of their second online show 'I have been through the most'. It's a documentary series that profiles victims who have been through the most in their life's and are now sharing it with the rest of the world to encourage and to hopeful inspire for the better.
This week on the show, we profile Sylvester Mashilo, he doesn't know the real truth about his father.
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Dear Friends. I have purposefully not read the comments on this post. A 17min video sometimes is not able to tell the whole story and in hindsight I can accept that there are many omissions and glossing over some key aspects of this story. Firstly, the title of the video would not have been my choice of descriptive words. I may have felt betrayed by my mother when I first discovered that my life was somewhat of a lie but I would not say that she has betrayed me. Secondly, and this is important and did not come across in the video. I am a product of rape. When you consider the second point then it goes without reason why my mother would have deemed it necessary to protect me by not disclosing the identity of my father or the manner in which I was conceived. I may not agree with all her decisions but she is one person whose love I can never doubt. She could have dumped me in a dustbin but chose the difficult route to keep me. When I say I may have not been my mothers choice but I know that God wanted me to exist for a purpose (that I’m everyday discovering) I don’t take such a declaration lightly. While some parts of the world may treat me on the basis of my sordid past it is not their affirmation or validation that I seek. I have dedicated this part of my life to only do that which is pleasing to my God (not men). Because I know who I am in Christ I do not bow to mortals. I for a better part of a decade sought validation in woman and that nearly destroyed me. You cannot look for another human being to fulfill or complete you. Your happiness comes from within. My infidelity probably did more damage to me than it may have done to my x wife. Yet, I acknowledge that I wronged her. My decision to ask for a divorce was based on the fact that I married for the wrong reasons. I stayed for all the wrong reasons and if I stayed I ran the risk of relapsing. I could not allow myself to go back to the same emptiness I felt in my marriage. I stayed married for as long as I did because I knew I was getting ‘satisfied’ elsewhere. I had ‘distractions’. But when I decided to turn my back on that life I realized that the relationship was not good for me and I had stayed for all the wrong reasons. I should have divorced in the first year. I should not have ignored the warning signs that my partner and I were incompatible and couldn’t build together. When you stop living according to the standards of the ‘Instagram’ life you realize that being vulnerable does not make you weak. You cannot begin to correct any wrong without acknowledging first that the wrong exists. I am loving the person I am today. This person is a closer reflection of who I was before 2008 (the year I married). Marriage should get the best out of you, not the worst. In saying this I do not apportion blame to my x wife. I bear the scars of my wrongs and can only speak for my own wrongs. On a lighter and more upbeat note - my book “This is my story - a product of rape but God’s choice” is nearly 50% done and on track for launch in the first quarter of 2021.
Wow! Love and light!💖🌻May God grant you more strength. Patiently waiting for the book
So touching and very encouraging. All the best with everything.
Psalm 50:15 God is telling us to call upon Him in times of trouble and He will deliver us.
Thank you for sharing. I know you personally from Cida. You used to be my lecture. I'm currently living in the UK. I have so much respect for you and I think that people shouldn't judge you based on your past. God bless
Eva Lee thank you. I appreciate it. All the best in the UK and keep safe. We serve a living God. A God of infinite 2nd chances
Wow! Great educative master piece son. It's quite deep but we are happy you reached a turning point where you realized that God's purpose in you was profound. Everything happens for a reason not in vain.
Now, though you have clarified some key issues I wanted to raise, let me ask you two or three for the sake of clarification and coherence in your wonderful story. I am from kenya and a coach like you.
First and foremost I wish you could have asked the channel admins to edit the Title of the story to read something else like "The unwanted child " A product of rape", Challenges of step children face" "The blessed hand of God" "Price of rejection" " Generational curse" etc. The headline as it is isolates and demonises your lovely mother through whom you are whole and happy enjoying and mentoring millions. I wish you could do that because your clarification on your written narrative does not help matters. Listeners will identify more with the headline than your explanation somewhere in between comments. If you love your mom as you rightly claim, do her that justice for those who know you, your church and friends from your home area shall condemn your step father together with your blood mother that worked so hard to protect you to the extent she did based on the circumstances she was in at that time. Unknown to you then, she silently kept praying for you as a result of which you became this well educated and eloquent son of the soil. Your masterly of English, articulation of your story and the coherence there in tells the world you are a product of a selfless Mom.
While at 8yrs your eyes are abit open and your conscience can guide you to determine whether that man your mother moved in with you was not your biological father, your mother did no wrong at this point. Your plight and your wellbeing was within her mind, problem was, she didn't know how to bring it out openly due to circumstances.
Coming back to your step father, as heinous and barbaric he was to your situation, at this point learn to forgive him fully because through his shelter you are who you are. As a child of God hatred doesn't exist in the scriptures. Forgive 7x77.
On your promiscuity angle, its could have occured due to generational curse but after accepting jesus as your personal saviour and allowing the holy spirit to guide you, you are in a better place. Confess your sins and move on with the holy spirit.
On divorce issue, it's a sorry thing to hear especially after you discovered who you are. The only thing you didn't bring out clear is whether there are children involved and whether your wife freely consented to it now that the person engaging on it was you, the person that initiated it was also you. My take could be if she forgave you after confessing, you had not maybe infected her with any terminal disease like AIDs(God forbid) you may review your conscience and withdraw the divorce proceedings. Pick up the pieces and live a very happy reformed and fulfilled life. You might not get anyone better than that who knows your strengths and weaknesses in equal measure. We have worse cases than yours. If you listen to each individual's story, you will realise that many suffer in silence but their story is worse son.
In conclusion, those who live by His Grace shall sure enjoy the fruits of the spirit.
Be blessed brother
This guy is a wordsmith, very well spoken! Smart too!
Your childhood almost identically mirrors mine... It's soothing to know that am not alone... Thank you brother
He's so well spoken. I wish nothing but the best for him 👌🏽
This is absolutely beautiful, You were my Hero in school and you remain to be 👌👏. You are held up in prayer Sylvester buddy..You have a father in heaven who cares. Your story and journey has blessed me and I am certain it will touch and uplift millions of men in our generation..... I am SUPER PROUD OF YOU!!!
I wish more men could watch this
May the good LORD continue to bless you dear brother 😊
Not because women are Angels right?
Hey brother this is so touching l can’t finish watching but l might come back to it l went through this all my life as a woman the difference on my life both parents weren’t there specially my mother the first time I knew it’s her and she’s my mother I remember trying to get that attention from her calling her (mummy can l have water she nearly closed door on my face whispering who told you l’m your mother? Then l ran out and play with other kids the following day she left without telling me nothing mind you the people l was staying with them it was the family that she was related to she never knew the abuse l was going through daily when l started school l don’t know my family Name and my date of birth I remember when I was in high school when we are going home they will be talking what their mother will cook for them and l remember one day in my heart asking myself when will I used that word (mum) because l know l have a mother but l’m not be able to call her mama there was this time a friend of mine told me heyy my father knows your mother where she is in Johannesburg when we are going on June holidays come with us then she came to me the driver is here to pick us Are you coming l quickly get my few clothes put them in a plastic bag and we left l remember we arrived in Johannesburg at around 12:00 early hours of the morning and then my friend dad gave the driver my mom address then we got there heyyyi driver knock the door mum open Yhooo That was the Seen l will never forget she opened the door and see my face yhooo Heyyi her face changed immediately And used her hands what do you want here I said go goo gooo goooo yhooo l just crossed the street walk l remember seeing this huge electric pole l sat down there confused scared at the same time then the driver came to me and told me my daughter there’s nothing I can do then he left....l sat there not knowing what l will do one woman was coming from night shift saw me sitting there confused she asked me and then l show her the house that my mother was then she told me she knows her and l should wait she’s going to talk to her later she came and took me to her house then my mother came later the following day it was Wednesday then Friday she bought me a ticket to go back where l’m coming from l never shared this with no one l was scared to be a laughing stock l kept it to myself I can go on and on my childhood was a nightmare but both parents were alive and my father was doing well like he was working Sanlam insurance company earning well my mom denied my rights from my father it was something they should have sat down or she should have drop me in front of his door because Of their issues l was the victim of all Name it ...when I met my father l remember he was like he won lottery asking me on the phone where are you?are you going to school OMG he couldn’t wait my father needed me the most l love them both specially my mother and I was the one looks after her soo much close to her despite the whole mess she put me through...l truly believe God exist and His always there for those who are abandoned specially by their parents!
Wow! My sister I don't know what to say. All I can do is pray for God to strengthen you. I love you ❤️
I love when when show vulnerability, there’s something admirable about it! Bringing more men to tell their story is such a nice touch. Hopefully this will also inspire other men to share and see there’s no shame in being human and that this is not a sign of weakness but of strength!
I wish many men could watch this clip because Sylvester has such a strong couragous message to most who are lost!Thanks for sharing your story😊!!
Wow i love the fact that you say you are God's choice. He is the best father anyone can ever have. May God bless you and may you heal to the core. Much love brother
As a young Man I can definitely understand fully where he is coming from , especially the part of being judgemental? Life will humble u, life will give u thorough beating that any wiff of pride or arrogance will not be found in u
"God called you into life!!!!" Amen!!!! And you had to live a life that was pleasing to him. YOU, young man are grace.
What a Touching Story. Some of us are designed to be teh LESSON for others.
It's hard for any man to grow without a father. " You don't live once,you live everyday and die once"
Wow “you live everyday but you only die once “ that’s deep
I struggle with suicidal thoughts, this helped me a lot. Thank you for sharing ❤️❤️❤️🙏
Praying for you, and sending you love!
Have faith u strong
@@millymashile 🙏😭😭❤️❤️ thank you so much for your kind words. May God continue to sustain, support, protect and bless you Queens and your families✨
@@Missforexcharts not strong enough ❤️🙏 but thank you so much for your encouragement. God's endless blessings and love in your life ✨
@Red Carded Dear Red Carded, WOW 😭I really appreciate the time you took to reason with me and advise me. You've imparted words of wisdom that I am going to take to heart. I love the illustration you used of tending to a wound before it gets severely infected or worse amputated, likening to cutting off the causes of my pain and suicidal pain. Meghan is like so many shame whose families are too toxic to keep in one's life. I really appreciate you for giving me such uplifting encouragement ❤️🙏✨ May God continue to bless, sustain and support you abundantly in everything you do dear
Thank you for your transparency, brother.
The most inspiring human being I've met in my life. I will never forget him.
"Life can humble you" I felt that, I feel life is humbling me now.7yrs of childless marriage,infertility has taken a toll on me that I'm starting to dought if indeed Jesus care abt us.its sad😭 especially when everything is falling apart almost every year.fortunately for me I never think of suicide but just fight thru life.
Cc Cc do not despair, God is faithful please just believe me right now when I say God is faithful. I know exactly what you’re going through but believe when i say you will have a testimony to tell!❤️❤️
May the good Lord remember you, like how He remembered Rebekah (mother of twin boys) the wife of Isaac. May all people rejoice with your pregnancy and may you become the mother of nations. May people receive salvation through your pregnancy In Jesus Christ Name. I am also waiting on God and it's 7 years now. However may God remember you first.. Keep on holding on, we serve a Covanent Keeping God. I AM PRAYING FOR DEAR SISTER. JESUS CHRIST IS THE WAY..
By this time next year, may you be holding a child in your arms
Sorry hun about and never loose hope.I pray that God opens your womb and don't give up on life.You're stronger than you can imagine and may God hear your cries like Hannah!If you need to talk,please leave your email.
Never doubt his love and abilities God will see you through never stop believing
Thank YOU LORD 🙏🏾 for the wisdom of this man.
The enemy meant it for evil when you were abused BUT GOD made it GOOD.
I wish you'd be a mentor to my son. May GOD bless you & your family.
#IfGod'sFavor was a person. Wow, as a woman and a mother bringing up two boys (19&14) I salute you son, brother, nephew, uncle and above all child of GOD. I am halfway through your story yet i am compelled to comment. You are highly favored.
I went through the same thing too,find out wen I was 21 ,I am 37 now, but just healed a year ago,I struggled a lot. I feel u brother
*They always say the first healing starts wen u admit ur fault too, although it wasn't ur fault*
It can take so very long to heal
@@achatwithgoitse very long😭😭
"He had been my truly only father, he had carried me" 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
But when I think back in my life there were times I thought ki right I would not find a light. Thank you God for referring me to this page to strengthen my self.
Wow! Great educative master piece son. It's quite deep but we are happy you reached a turning point where you realized that God's purpose in you was profound. Everything happens for a reason not in vain.
Now, though you have clarified some key issues I wanted to raise, let me ask you two or three for the sake of clarification and coherence in your wonderful story. I am from kenya and a coach like you.
First and foremost I wish you could have asked the channel admins to edit the Title of the story to read something else like "The unwanted child " A product of rape", Challenges of step children face" "The blessed hand of God" "Price of rejection" " Generational curse" etc. The headline as it is isolates and demonises your lovely mother through whom you are whole and happy enjoying and mentoring millions. I wish you could do that because your clarification on your written narrative does not help matters. Listeners will identify more with the headline than your explanation somewhere in between comments. If you love your mom as you rightly claim, do her that justice for those who know you, your church and friends from your home area shall condemn your step father together with your blood mother that worked so hard to protect you to the extent she did based on the circumstances she was in at that time. Unknown to you then, she silently kept praying for you as a result of which you became this well educated and eloquent son of the soil. Your masterly of English, articulation of your story and the coherence there in tells the world you are a product of a selfless Mom.
While at 8yrs your eyes are abit open and your conscience can guide you to determine whether that man your mother moved in with you was not your biological father, your mother did no wrong at this point. Your plight and your wellbeing was within her mind, problem was, she didn't know how to bring it out openly due to circumstances.
Coming back to your step father, as heinous and barbaric he was to your situation, at this point learn to forgive him fully because through his shelter you are who you are. As a child of God hatred doesn't exist in the scriptures. Forgive 7x77.
On your promiscuity angle, its could have occured due to generational curse but after accepting jesus as your personal saviour and allowing the holy spirit to guide you, you are in a better place. Confess your sins and move on with the holy spirit.
On divorce issue, it's a sorry thing to hear especially after you discovered who you are. The only thing you didn't bring out clear is whether there are children involved and whether your wife freely consented to it now that the person engaging on it was you, the person that initiated it was also you. My take could be if she forgave you after confessing, you had not maybe infected her with any terminal disease like AIDs(God forbid) you may review your conscience and withdraw the divorce proceedings. Pick up the pieces and live a very happy reformed and fulfilled life. You might not get anyone better than that who knows your strengths and weaknesses in equal measure. We have worse cases than yours. If you listen to each individual's story, you will realise that many suffer in silence but their story is worse son.
In conclusion, those who live by His Grace shall sure enjoy the fruits of the spirit.
Be blessed brother
Anyone who has God has it all he is the one and only perfect father.
you live everyday but you only die once - A PROFOUND TRUTH
Thanks for sharing your story. Congratulations for finding yourself and making your circumstances a springboard for personal growth. All the best to your forgiving wife. She's truly special.
We thank God honestly, if it wasnt for His Love and Mercy I don't know where we will be. Thank you for sharing with us. You're an inspiration 💯✋
An excellent poignant speaker with more to tell than most men ever conceive of admitting to
Brave man stay blessed with your family!!!
Am really touched....all i can say is that you deserve the best. All the ones that disappointed you do not deserve a beautiful soul like you. Sail on brother and always remember that GOD is 'The father of fatherless children ' Psalm 68:5.Amen
Am a victim of life humbless, Changes really forced me to accept that life can get you in a line it needs! How humble I always feel even when I believe am right! I respect life! God is the answer and life is full of questions
We have indeed found inspiration from your story Mr Moepya 💯😊
Well spoken & articulated story. Thanks for your brutal honesty. Sylvester, so how is your relationship with your Mother right now?
When there is an emptiness inside no amount of joy, wealth and fun can fill. It can only be a temporary fix. The lasting solution is God within. Thank you for sharing your life and encouraging us. That's being authentic! God be praised.
So true
May God bless you and your family. This is a bold move, continue having Christ at the center of your life
I saw you in the midest of a great suffering,thank you it helped!
Your story is so inspiring sir. God bless you and your family.
You are an inspiration my bro...thank you for your honesty
You are a courageous an a trailblazer. We need more men as role modelos in this cándid fashion. GOD blesa you Sylvester I can tell you young man the best is yet to come.
I was God's choice - enough said ❤️
You have said it all Sylvester. Please find comfort in the Lord for he saved you for a purpose. Forward ever, backward never.
I would love to hear more from Sylvester. Want part 2 of his story especially about the fact that his wife says he is a good man separate and apart from the infidelity............then he said something about he may be going through a divorce but.........
Thank you for realizing your purpose in life though and not taking your own life. Happy you failed at that🙂
You have made a mark ... suicide is not an option. I trust in Gods purpose over my life . My babies need me more and God is staring a testimony
Let's share this one it must trend
I have cousin that went through the same thing. He grew up with a step father. For reasons only known to his mother she chose not to tell him about his father. The sad part was everyone knew about her secret and it was only him in the dark.
I believe women should tell their children who their fathers are. In the bid to protect them from rejection more harm is done.
Red Carded I totally agree with what you have stated above. But like the gentleman said in the video the way he found out was horrible and eventually his mother told him how he was conceived. The main issue that led to his self esteem issue was the treatment he received from his alleged father. It will be a very painful thing for a child to discover they’re a product of rape, incest or their father rejected them. But the issue is that the people surrounding the child ( family, community)often know the details surrounding their conception. It is not a nice feeling for everyone to know about your life and it’s only you that’s in the dark.
My comment earlier about my cousin, he eventually found out about his father but it wasn’t through his mother. Other family members told him. At some point his step father started to reject him and didn’t want him around. These situations are sad but it’s important to be open with your children about their parents
@@nashiicee4936 totally agree. its selfishness of the mothers to delay that talk. they place their own shame and emotions above the child but expect the child to totally trust and love them just because they provide food and shelter
Amen n Amen! Very inspiring and encouraging 🙏🙏🙏
Kudos to your wife!
Tomorrow can be a better day. Thank you Sir for sharing.
We love you Sylvester. God bless you
Correct. GOD is the Father of the fatherless.
"I knew I was God's choice!!"😭👏🙏
Wow am so touched by this , I couldn't help myself but I found myself singing the song Sylvester vester, Sylvester vester ,Sylvester ohooooo lol ( singing n clapping my hands like we used to), if you ever get to read this message ul probably laugh and remember the song, this was the song we used to sing in high school every time you got on the track to run , I remember like it was yesterday you were so comfortable on the track but very shy n withdrawn in every day life , it all makes sense now , it's sadden to realize that so many ppl went thru a lot during high school years but we all had to act so tough cause you know how popularity n fame was a thing at clapham. With everything you have been thru I want to say am proud of you , keep learning ,keep growing and keep believing
You just took me back many years ago..He was our Sporting Hero man!!!
God is using you my brother, we go through hardship in our lives for a reason that 1 day we can be an inspiration to others.. May God continue to bless you and grant you peace as you go through your journey with Him.. Jeremiah 29:11 🙌🏻
I wish all children they don't know their fathers can watch this. You are a good man your wife was right. All I can say thanks that you change your life and you will change others.
I love this story.You are one of a kind.God loves you!!!
Hopefully this will touch somebody.......Thanks so much for sharing!
Wow. Thanks my brother for sharing! Your story. 🙏🏾
Hope one day it shall be me to be interviewed?
I have a story to tell!
Please find their email, and inform them about your story to tell. They will definitely consider you. .
committing suicide is one of devil tricks, because he knows the commandment about life, so he uses this type of manipulation to still people lives.
Well, this story was told in the point of view of the listener rather than the one telling it. He told it as though he is telling somebody's story.
Praise the you know the Lord. He had and still have a plan for you
Wow
inspired
Thank you
Wooow such a moving story may God bless you .
You are handsome, with good English
Hehehe wow
Work girl,work
The English is on the highest level😙😙😙
So eloquent.....
Thanks my brother for sharing, l like your narrative skills and your good command of the queens language, however l got lost somehow, someone clarify for me... he said the man who was mistreating him was his step father right? who was paying attention to his younger brother was it the step father?.. he mentioned that the man he thought was his biological father was not.. who is that man? he has been through the most because his mother didn't tell him his real father is that right, brother Sly did you manage to get to know about your real father now or its still an unresolved issue?
His mother told him that the step father was his biological father. So the step father paid more attention to his younger brother because he was his biological son. He hinted that he was a product of rape. I am guessing he still doesn't know his paternity.
@@mamacitapurple thank you for clarifying more.
What is saddest in this video is how it seems that noone is challenging the narrative that it is okay for a man to be wicked to a child - particularly child of the woman he was in a relationship with same goes for the normalisation of wicked stepmothers too by the way. Why can't you love a child regardless, especially one living in the same house as you? What would that kindness to the child of someone else cost you? People think that commuters and technology are signs of advancement,how about measuring how we treat others ?
Eli B I noticed it too. And it didn't make sense to me. You don't treat any human being like that. And this the child of the woman you love? Your childs brother? I don't understand how this man was allowed to do that to a child. I felt very sad about that part.
Sometimes it's your own mother
God bless this man for choosing to be the father he never had. We need more testimonies from men, so powerful.
My friend Sly 😭😭😭💔💔💔
Your story pains so much well said 👏👏
Wow... a purposeful God 🙌😭
Wow glory to be to God all it is well shame brother 🤔🤔😞😞💔💔😥😥
I love this
I learn alot from this stories
I wanna marry you Sylvester 😍
ha ha ha ha ha
😂😂
His cute neh😂😂😂
😀😀😀😀😀🤣🤣🤣
Wow😢
Hurt people hurt people
Hei sorry brother God had a purpose for you to go through all this.
... God bless uYou are real man
Second early vandaag
My life is worse than that even today
Nokubonga April May God strengthen you as you pass through these trials. I pray that one day you will testify to inspire and motivate us towards Christ.
Eishh,find a way to heal.Is not easy
Romans 8:28-39
King James Version
28 And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.
Jeremiah 29:11
New International Version
11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
despite going through painful encounters, obstacles, setbacks, or backstabbing; the God's plan for you Nokubonga April is so much greater than what you're going through. Your obstacles will turn into miracles. your tests, will be your testimonies.
The GOODNESS and Mercy shall follow you. Much love for you
Blessings
Thanks for sharing your testimony with such deep clarity and openness. God bless you as you journey on!
Amen brother so encouraging
why did he make u a prisoner, agh! He wasn't your father, you must punish your own kids only.
Wow
I know iv been there jst discovered about my biological father last year February 2nd well im still struggling coz everytime i talk about it i cry its tough 😭😔💔
@Red Carded Thank you this means alot to me coz my older brother sikhule sazi ukuth we share the same dad i was doin grade 8 when my dad walked out of my life but he kept contact with my older brother i always asked myself why he doesn't call me n check how im doin ngaze ngathola ke last year at age 26 years ukuth angizalwa uye, Yes it been years ukuth the pain is still there n the fact that he knew i wasn't his but kept quiet about it uMah on the other hand uthi akazi kanjan so nje iscefe sodwa but i know in due time il heal and once again Thank You 🙏🏼
💯🔥
Did he say he is going through a divorce?
I heard that too
No surprising based on the upbringing
Already divorced as per his comment. Scroll up.
Amen💝
I can't believe born 1984 he looks fifteen years older
Really? He looks exactly his age to me.
Wagafa wena
@@elle_m5457 that's my personal view and learn to respect people don't ever insult other people
Mbongeni Ndaba fock off le personal opinion yamasepa
@@elle_m5457 monna hahahahah d man looks 52
Ooh ok!
Askies shem its life. Maybe she also wished things were different...
♥️
so vele we not gonna question his age? ..fine lol
Maybe it's because we don't see why...
I got a brother born 91,he resemble this guy until he opens mouth😅
@@phindilematebula Perfect answer? What does his age have to do with everything???
Wtf is wrong with his mother though 🙄
😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
Mxm
Hope one day it shall be me to be interviewed?
I have a story to tell!
Here is their email address booking@ishe.co.za
Wow