How to Know Whether it's Time to Move In or Move On | Relationship Theory

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  • Опубліковано 2 лис 2024

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  • @TinaLeder
    @TinaLeder 4 роки тому +33

    Tom really laid it down, it feels like be just felt something in his gut like DANG.

  • @H00P0N0P0N0
    @H00P0N0P0N0 3 роки тому +28

    I saw this a few times with people I know. Mid twenties, start a relationship, no living together, no marriage, no kids, no shared future... All this "I'm developing, I need space, we have a lifetime to live together in the future".... Fast forward seven years, woman is now 34, relationship ends (or did it ever exist) she had to find a new partner and in the best case scenario she can discuss with that partner if they want kids when she's 37. Het ex on the other hand has long time settled with someone else. Women need commitment earlier than men do.
    (No men bashing, just biology)

  • @michelereho6267
    @michelereho6267 4 роки тому +18

    The "no bullshit what would it take" is the best thing ever, it makes me gain so much clarity!!

    • @tonyjohn3826
      @tonyjohn3826 4 роки тому

      *+2348124002333 ... this is the number of a very powerful spell caster who helped bring me my ex-husband, who left me for years and now my ex-husband has come back to me, .....* 💌❤❤...❤

  • @flash12319
    @flash12319 Місяць тому +1

    I’m in this same EXACT situation right now!

  • @basiaramona68
    @basiaramona68 Рік тому +5

    I wouldn't say: that he's not into you but rather he's not into anybody. It's fear of intimacy that holds him back.
    You cannot fix him he must do the work.

  • @SomeBody-ce3gq
    @SomeBody-ce3gq 3 роки тому +5

    When you want to get closer and you hear the old "I don't want to hold you back", it's as good as a break-up imo

    • @Michael-im3yc
      @Michael-im3yc 3 роки тому

      Hello dear I know of a powerful man who can make your ex to come back to you begging you for a second chance.
      He helped me to get back with my ex and we are living happily together so far..

    • @Michael-im3yc
      @Michael-im3yc 3 роки тому

      Wh@t's@pp himg

  • @mya3050
    @mya3050 4 роки тому +12

    I think Tom is just calling out that man on his shit! I mean men understand the mentality of men

    • @max_rove
      @max_rove 3 місяці тому

      Yeah but men are different from each other. They are not a monolith. He is just projecting his own feelings.
      You have to evaluate the relationship as a whole to know if a guy is serious about you or not. But I do agree, that there has to be a reasonable timeline in which the guy has to make a decision.
      I just don't agree that the guy has to immediately agree to moving in with a woman when the woman asks for it, after only 2 months of knowing each other!!

  • @coreyking8801
    @coreyking8801 4 роки тому +4

    Toms reaction to Lisa at 8:15 is totally me at times. Love these two and glad relationship theory is back.

    • @tonyjohn3826
      @tonyjohn3826 4 роки тому

      *+2348124002333 ... this is the number of a very powerful spell caster who helped bring me my ex-husband, who left me for years and now my ex-husband has come back to me, .....* 💌❤❤...❤

    • @coreyking8801
      @coreyking8801 4 роки тому +1

      @@tonyjohn3826 I dont have an ex-husband tho...

    • @coreyking8801
      @coreyking8801 4 роки тому +1

      🐒 hee hee

  • @mcee555
    @mcee555 4 роки тому +8

    Lisa, you're looking like such a darling today! Awesome talk, loved hearing both perspectives! :) xx

    • @tonyjohn3826
      @tonyjohn3826 4 роки тому

      *+2348124002333 ... this is the number of a very powerful spell caster who helped bring me my ex-husband, who left me for years and now my ex-husband has come back to me, .....* 💌❤❤...❤

  • @Chris-ut5ih
    @Chris-ut5ih 10 місяців тому

    Thank god for Lisa. She seems much more level headed

  • @indyangeltouch
    @indyangeltouch 4 роки тому +5

    I think that when someone fall in love and knows, that with that relationship, that person will fulfill all the areas, like real trued passionate love, dreams, goals, respect, stability, and purposes, with someone that is far away in other States or country, in my opinion I will do what ever it takes to make my dreams come true, even moving as soon as possible and left families and friends to make my dreams come true and look for the happiness and fulfillment of the relationship with my partners. That's my opinion.

  • @naturalmystique3830
    @naturalmystique3830 3 роки тому +2

    I do love these two. Tom has absolutely nailed it! Lisa is a total romantic, like me, bless her heart. 😂

    • @Michael-im3yc
      @Michael-im3yc 3 роки тому

      Hello dear I know of a powerful man who can make your ex to come back to you begging you for a second chance.
      He helped me to get back with my ex and we are living happily together so far..

    • @Michael-im3yc
      @Michael-im3yc 3 роки тому

      Wh@t's@pp him,

  • @lilamnbdh967
    @lilamnbdh967 4 роки тому +3

    That was amazing , thank you so much Tom and Lisa ❤️!!

    • @tonyjohn3826
      @tonyjohn3826 4 роки тому

      *+2348124002333 ... this is the number of a very powerful spell caster who helped bring me my ex-husband, who left me for years and now my ex-husband has come back to me, .....* 💌❤❤...❤

  • @rosaredapino980
    @rosaredapino980 2 роки тому

    I agree on Tom with this, the man actually turned out to be with somebody else already. He just wanted me to be #2... When I found out, I was shocked but it solved the puzzle.

  • @Lori.D.
    @Lori.D. 3 роки тому +1

    I 100% agree with Tom's point of view. The guy is not being honest first and foremost with himself.. he is used to this girl, and perhaps the familiarity of the relationship makes everything predictable for someone who perhaps does not likes loosing control, also not being able to be on his own long term. Take responsibility of your belief, and acknowledge that you are "using" someone's feelings as a guarantee of knowing your worth. A tad narcissistic.
    I'm so like laid down the pros and cons to the core!!
    Im contracting and clear communication!!
    YOU NEED TO HEAR THINGS OUT LOUD not because you don't know the answer or the truth, but because who makes the claims needs to hear themself outloud, either the white lies or maybe to actually chew on their own reality
    Love this show!

    • @Michael-im3yc
      @Michael-im3yc 3 роки тому

      Hello dear I know of a powerful man who can make your ex to come back to you begging you for a second chance.
      He helped me to get back with my ex and we are living happily together so far..

    • @Michael-im3yc
      @Michael-im3yc 3 роки тому

      Wh@t's@pp him:

  • @trentonholmquist
    @trentonholmquist 4 роки тому +1

    Tom is spot on, and I'm glad he said it

    • @tonyjohn3826
      @tonyjohn3826 4 роки тому

      *+2348124002333 ... this is the number of a very powerful spell caster who helped bring me my ex-husband, who left me for years and now my ex-husband has come back to me, .....* 💌❤❤...💌..❤...💌..❤...❤

  • @katiie7
    @katiie7 4 роки тому +8

    Maybe its a cleanliness ocd thing or habits that can outweigh parts of beneficial areas in the relationship. Or fear of money issues being more meshed. Or like you don’t have aspects of yourself left if you’re really open and empathic when sharing everything with another. Some crave solitude for sanity more than others

  • @dalebock3226
    @dalebock3226 Рік тому

    Excellent presentation, thank you.

  • @SeanMcDonnell33
    @SeanMcDonnell33 4 роки тому +3

    Loved this! New subscriber! (would love to see Tom give his wife just a littttle bit more time to finish and express her thoughts. It's great that he has so much confidence in his perspective but it made me cringe to watch a relationship video where the expert is not a patient listener with his partner)

  • @indyangeltouch
    @indyangeltouch 4 роки тому

    I really love that conversation and I think that is that amazing idea what you both said in the end of the conversation. I agree 100 % with everything that both of you say and I respect that. 🙏💖🤗 Sending to both of you rays of light, peace, healing energys and much love. But direct communication is really important to have the relationship growing and strong in any kind of relationship, partnership, or friendships. That is part of a strong and beautiful connections with each other. Much love to both of you
    💖💖💖

  • @indyangeltouch
    @indyangeltouch 4 роки тому +2

    I really love kids but I respect people who decided to stay without having kids. That's a personal decision, not a community or family decision.

    • @tonyjohn3826
      @tonyjohn3826 4 роки тому

      *+2348124002333 ... this is the number of a very powerful spell caster who helped bring me my ex-husband, who left me for years and now my ex-husband has come back to me, .....* 💌❤❤...💌..❤...💌..❤...❤

  • @SX-sv6vo
    @SX-sv6vo 3 роки тому +3

    The guy is not ready or not interested enough. Relationships are hard enough as it is. She needs to move on. This is a recipe for resentment and abandonment. There is compromise and meeting halfway. Long distance relationships are hard, and I wouldn't recommend it. We all need physical closeness and the one who is physically close to you is likely the one you will work with the most.

  • @navyamekera8145
    @navyamekera8145 4 роки тому +2

    How can I submit questions?

    • @Vishv2604
      @Vishv2604 4 роки тому

      I don't know about that.. but u've got a great music playlist ❣️💫🔥 I never thought that Rush could be a choice for people in general 🤣

  • @tumelomodutwane6142
    @tumelomodutwane6142 4 роки тому +2

    Is it possible that maybe he was in a relationship where he was stuck and doesn't want to go through the same thing again or he does not want to be a burden financially to her significant other, , he wants to be financial stable before he can move in with her, yes the difficult conversation should be had, that's my opinion though.!!!

    • @tonyjohn3826
      @tonyjohn3826 4 роки тому

      *+2348124002333 ... this is the number of a very powerful spell caster who helped bring me my ex-husband, who left me for years and now my ex-husband has come back to me, .....* 💌❤❤...💌..❤...💌..❤

  • @travelandtash
    @travelandtash 4 роки тому +1

    I like the honesty here. 😎👍

    • @tonyjohn3826
      @tonyjohn3826 4 роки тому

      *+2348124002333 ... this is the number of a very powerful spell caster who helped bring me my ex-husband, who left me for years and now my ex-husband has come back to me, .....* 💌❤❤...❤

  • @itsmaylise
    @itsmaylise 4 роки тому

    This was so helpful

  • @indyangeltouch
    @indyangeltouch 4 роки тому +1

    If a relationship decision is to not have childrens , other people needs to respect that. Period

  • @margreetweistra1538
    @margreetweistra1538 3 роки тому

    so...my boyfriend needs his selfish time and I do to, and we both have children. We dont live together, we have a relationship for 5 years. We see eachother every weekend. I do want to live together, but also...maybe not. We have our freedom and have a great time when we're together. But I feel like I want something to say he is mine. lol what to do...

    • @SomeBody-ce3gq
      @SomeBody-ce3gq 3 роки тому

      5 years relationship and you only see each other on the weekends?

    • @margreetweistra1538
      @margreetweistra1538 3 роки тому

      @@SomeBody-ce3gq yess

    • @SomeBody-ce3gq
      @SomeBody-ce3gq 3 роки тому

      @@margreetweistra1538 My girl ngl that doesn't sound right to me. Does it sound right to you?

    • @Michael-im3yc
      @Michael-im3yc 3 роки тому

      Hello dear I know of a powerful man who can make your ex to come back to you begging you for a second chance.
      He helped me to get back with my ex and we are living happily together so far..

    • @Michael-im3yc
      @Michael-im3yc 3 роки тому

      Wh@t's@pp him::

  • @kar3n35
    @kar3n35 4 роки тому +2

    Yeah that guy sounds wishiwashi. for me is easy. I have my own house. My life my things but i woulnt bring a guy over. My sister would keep the place. And if a guy wants me i could move in with him only if he really wants me to. I can contribute to buying food and pay wifi😅 im not paying rent dough i have my own place i dont need to be paying rent for nobody.

    • @kar3n35
      @kar3n35 4 роки тому

      @@tonyjohn3826 no thank u