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More married men in India are now staying with their parents. Why?
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- Опубліковано 14 сер 2024
- The modernization theory predicts that as a country develops, the share of joint/stem families would decrease and nuclear families would increase. India, however, seems to be an exception. What explains this phenomenon?
Special thanks to Dr Alice Evans, whose article was useful in making this video.
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Script: Priyanshu Sinha (Twitter/@bol_priyanshu)
Thumbnail: Ayushman Khare (Instagram/@ayushman27)
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0:00 Introduction
1:15 Modernization theory
2:15 Family types
2:47 Asian societies
3:56 Fertility rate and life expectancy
4:47 Family businesses
6:57 Low female employment
8:30 Family variation
9:36 Conclusion
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Three things:
1. At 2:47: I say that there is a higher chance of married couples staying with their parents due to higher fertility. Instead, it should be a higher chance of parents staying with their children. Higher chances of married couples staying with their parents occur due to lower fertility, not higher
2. Would also like to hear interesting stories from you if your family or a family that you know doesn't abide by conventional societal norms. E.g., parents staying with married daughter. Have something to share?
3. Yes, I have a wife. That colourful bookshelf is because of her #WifeOP
Ye Banda Shadi Shuda hai
Dhruv bhai Girlfriend leke ghum rahe hai abhi bhi
😅😅
Aur ye unse chote lagte hai
You are so cute
hey man can u talk about depression in india, and also i heard that indians are more vulnerable to depression because of our genes.
Sir apki to bacchi bhi hai
I recently, before this video release, came to know that you're married. Happy life ahead.
I hope I'm not the only one got surprised when he mentioned his WIFE😅
Yes😂😂
Same here bro I to got surprised 😅
Same
Same bro
I was surprised.........
plot twist : Mohak's wife forced him to tell everyone that he is married so that girls stop messaging him.
Correct
Yeah ! I also observed that he was emphasining the point repeatedly haha
@kay kay have you ever heard of sarcasm?
😂😂😂
Desi Rapchaundu... U mean he using video and his viewers for sending message across... ??!!
One another reason why parents in India stay with their children is that parents are not financially independent. Often lower middle class families spent all their money on children’s education and marriage and during their old age they are left with nothing. Mostly in western countries senior citizens do get a good amount as pension and they get all medical coverage. In UK even public transportation is free for 60+. India being a developing country is not able to provide these facilities and poor parents are dependent upon their children. Great topic btw.
100% true
i am in 3rd year and i starting to think college is scam
@@Rohankumar-dd2ss It is bro.
@prak problem with our college is that they teach all thing java,c++,python,web development,networking,data structure, mpi, and many more. instead they should give option, so i can choose my own field, i want to go into.
Yeah
He missed this one
next topic: why more and more adult indian men look like teenagers these days.
Yeah, I'm really curious about this!
🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣
Tum logo ko teen age chahiye...... ya manwala chahiye
@@anjalimali06 actally he dont look like teenager, but atleast minimum of 25 yrs or around it. But simultaneously, he even look as old as, he is married
😂
He is married n I thought he is a college student, my whole life was a lie😢
He did tell he works as an accountant
Was he your life ? 😱
Toh married hone se koi buddha ho jayega kya ?
@@kanishkasolanki4876 That's the question?
🙄😂
Economically Joint families are OK but on the other hand Joint Families are biggest reason behind many Mental health issues.. Joint families literally butchers Personal aspirations.
True, especially for the daughter in law. She is supposed to understand, and adjust, and appreciated the nature of all the members of the family from day one!! She should show respect to her mother in law even if the Mil is mean, manuplative and a total jerk!!
Freedom and privacy go out of the window. Not fair.
@@athensmajnoo3661 Worst thing is that Joint Family System is also responsible for Sexual abuse of Children's & Women's.. & there are documentary evidence which shows How close relatives do Sexual abuse with Children who doesn't even know what Sex is..
I have a mixture of them. My grandparents live in an apartment whereas my family lives in another apartment next to it. I get both the joint and nuclear experience
@@krateproductions4872 you seem to be really lucky, may the good luck continue !!
@@krateproductions4872 my also grandma lives in a diffrent apartment she has maids to help her we fully financially support her but we live directly next to her in a house
I am a 25 years old woman, will complete my B.Ed within next year, wanna live single for whole life, just trying for a settled job so that I can move out from my parents' house... Don't know if there are many women like me in India. Even though our family isn't that big ( 2 younger brothers and parents), but I think living in a big family can create rift between hearts...
Me too
Same here. Don't want to marry & I have taken whole responsibility of my parents. Planing to moving in metro city.
What a stupid mindset.I don't know where the young generation is moving towards
@@KingKhan-bi7kb why is that so?
Meri didi sooch bhi kuch aaisi woh bhi 24 ki hai aue she also complained her B. Ed
Comment section is flooded with "Mohak being married and how much girls are hurt" rather on his content......
Yes everyone is notesing
Exactly
Its because it caught them off gaurd
I'm a boy and I'm hurt lmao
@@shajeedaahmed9527 he posted on Insta if you check his earlier posts
Did he just said "wife"-? 🤔 Mere ko to teenager lagatha
Mujhe bhi
Hoti bola, maybe.
Lmao
nahi conformed he his married
I don't know why am I jealous after seeing this 😞😞😞
Everyone talking about his wife but why is no one talking about his amazing book collection? That too color-coded!
Phhh true Krate you are the only Bookworm here and rest are Fuckworms...
Lol...I was just going to talk about it...shows some next level OCD 😂😂😂
Venk tesh XD
Good observations.
I’ll bet his wife did that 😼
Joint family survives on the silent labour of daughter in laws. If they have a choice they won't do it. But I do know many working women, who after having children, want a joint family - but only if in laws are decent.
Correct..I too 2nd this thought
So true!!
Exactly. My mom HATES that we’re in a joint family, because she forced to do work that she dislikes or is forced to do too much work
As a child we depend on our parents, as a senior citizen we depend on our sons or daughters, 2/3 of our life's we need someone to support us emotionally or financially or through physical labour but when we became young like self sufficient we start thinking about independence & willingness to do things etc
I agree if MIL or FIL are psychopaths or willingly torture a DIL I can understand her concern but most of our generation feed with Western thoughts of liberty freedom equality e.t.c are unable to adjust to family needs..even husbands have problems in their lives.. Indian marriage system is a time tested social mechanism where people find it worthy of some compromises
In Meghalaya we have a matrilineal society. Where the youngest daughter inherits the property from the parents and the parents stays with the daughter. We have a good example that even parents staying with their daughters are more than happy family.
That's so good 😍
Shouldn't have written the word "even".
I like your comment, of course.
Okay!
That's gender inequality
@@scientificatheist9381 Matrilineal is not matriarchy
Puchta h bharat
Nation wants to know
Tum ne shadi kb ki
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😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Mujhe tho yeh baccha dikhta tha
😂😂
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I would love to see women also bringing their parents to stay with her after marriage after all we women also got good education,job,money we have responsibilities towards our parents and we worry about their well-being.That would lead to happy married life.
True, I remember that after marriage I got a new job and it was very wellpaid and my dream job. I was very fair and said to my husband that I want to gift something to our elders....so we had the same budget for both my Mother In Law and my own mum. But by God the way I was spoken to (and the tamasha that happened)for giving gift to my mum was an eye-opener(because naive me showed it in the sasural too) jab ki fact is that it was my parents who supported me to get good education and ultimately get that job. This is the mind set they want educated, intelligent,good-looking girl who earn a good salary, but does not talk back, and is good at house work too aur marriage ke baad aapne parents ko nahi bas sasural walo ki seva kare.
Blue Bird 122 : you are always your parents daughter, an individual with her own feelings. Don’t listen/ bend over to your sasuraal walas who want someone with her mouth shut. Because no one ought to be live like that.
My mom faced something similar. She wasn't even "allowed" to meet her mother who was living by herself. Screw patriarchy. You do you girl! Just ignore them. It's difficult to change thinking of people in their 50s or 60s.
@@bluebird1227 All r right in their own way. Boys support their parents but they get ancestoral property. Girls still rarely get it in India..
pata hai kya hona hain?? 2 flats chahiye....ek mein Ladka aur ladki...aur dusrein mein Ladke ki parents aur ladki ki parents....problem solved...community bhi hain privacy bhi hain.
Its a problem when your in laws have a different mindset, they don't give freedom to their kids to take their own decision and many don't give freedom to their daughter in law.
It is the case most of the time. The generation gap between the parents in law and daughter in law makes it difficult to accept each others ideas. Asking for little freedom and privacy is a sin on the part of a bahu !!
The different mindset implies only on DILs. In our society, guys get a pass which apparently guys have no clue about until they voluntarily choose to pay attention. This is rare like finding Koala bears anywhere else in the world. :) It's a sad truth. I hope women understand the meaning of financial freedom.
Freedom is in your blood. There is no one who gives it to you. It is OK to break some rules for it.
-Taslima Nasrren.
@@markjuliuspratchardpratcha1550 you took the words right out of my mouth. No one can 'give' me something that has always been mine. Not certainly someone else's parents.
99% comments :- Mohak's wife
1% comments :- 99.9% comments are about Mohak is married
Just watch the video,"WHAT MAKES INDIAN SOCIETY SO RACIST", at the end(till very end), you will notice a woman sitting between Mohak & Swapnil, she might be Mohak 'S WIFE.
@@div2954 😂😂
Yes that's biggest Surprise
@@div2954 No she is not her wife
people in comment box be like bhai shadi me nhi bulaya 😂
Reception mein bulana hota hai
@@shubhamjoshi8762 😂
@@shubhamjoshi8762
Log shadi me bhi ghus jate hai🤪
This comment section is the reason why bigg boss is so famous in india
@@champdanish7114 crazy people
Why women still not living with their parents ! Why only men can take care and stay with their parents but women can't !
Agar ladki ka bhai hoga.. To uski biwi bi yhi bolegi
so? her parents can also live with her.
My mental health was compromised a lot when I stayed with my in-laws for 6 months. Those little taunts here and there shattered me completely and I had to go see a therapist a few days back. I never want to live with them now ever, they can live next door or nearby but not under one roof.
Exactly i was depressed when i stay with them n now doing meditation to stable my mind
@@Babirawat89 take care dear. Don't let their comments haunt you, I wasn't that mentally strong but now I am trying to become one.
Exactly ...they can live nearby but not with us .... It always always creates rifts ...
Thank you after reading your comment I am happy I am not alone
I'm so sorry you had to face such problems.
The best way to escape this puzzle is to stay unmarried. Lol
Yess😂😂😂
I have decided on that too. But it hurts as i think two like minded individuals can make a great life together.
@@foodandrecipes6195 you can stay as a boyfriend and girlfriend forever. There isnt a need to put a legal bond on top of it
@@maedre9330 THIS!! exactly
For how long..😉😉
Okay so you're saying you're a MARRIED MAN!
Ha e married che Mahima😂😂
@@tony-pc4kd hello tony
@@tony-pc4kd kya bol rahe the tum
Print
Wire
Ne modi govt ko Pareshan kar rakha hai?
Accha majak tha
Heartbroken😂
F
I would love to stay with my parents and in laws. My sister is a psychiatrists in US and she always talks about how more and more people are giving up lives and going into depression due to extreme loneliness . Its not much talked in india because we want the other , to have some free time. lol . But yeah , its a huge problem in US , even Japan and China . But if your in-laws are not supportive or sometimes, lets accept it, some people do have toxic parents, then its ok to live outside. But if not , give it a thought. I would never send my parents to old house , or dont ever want to be far away from them in their old age, when they were present for me in my young days.
You can be lonely even when people are around you. I live with my in-laws and husband, and i never felt more lonely in my entire life.
@Amandeep Wahi well my bf and me have decided to do just that. We both are one child and we understand the importance of parents. Maybe try to find better men rather than blaming all men.
@@stardust2531 you said you are living with your parents but from whose side parents? Are you living with your in-laws?
Help
@@stardust2531 nice to hear that😊
I am a single daughter of my parents. They both have provided me a lot, i was raised in quite a well to do family. Today i am a doctor and i do not want to leave my parents to get married and move to my husband's house. Also I am the sole descendent of my whole family as my father is a single son himself. I do not know what to do. Any views anyone?
U can live with your parents as well as your husband & with their family 🙄 what's wrong with it .....
But u need a 3bhk house 🥱
@@The_Pradhan_The_Headstrong 🤣🤣🤣 great solution
And this is why , patrilocal system shouldn't be practiced - because it favours only men .
@@gold29327 bruh same case like you, i m the only son and my father is an air force officer tho he is serving right now, he always tells me to not worry about us but sometimes i think if i start living indipendently far from my parents then who will gonna look after them, they are getting old and even tho they act like they are strong and can live without me but as an only son it's my responsibilty to support them mentally and physically so i decided that wherever i will go my parents will stay with me, my parents are more important to me than my personal space so i don't mind that and imo if i get married in future to a girl who is an only daughter of her family then her parents are also most welcome to live with us too that way both our problems will be sorted out🙂
Marry a unemployed guy and live happily with your parents 😂and😂
0:56 He stressed on "haa mari naani" but he should have done it for "haan meri wife"
No, I don't agree... Maybe he meant to stress the fact that in generations before us, there were already some people who had the courage to do things beyond mainstream. :-)
Lol
😂😂
Because indian tradition ke according.... Beti ke ghar ka to hum pani bhi nhi pi sakte 🤷
@@archiem654 omg really ? Why though ?
people in comment section are more interested in mohak's wife than real topic .. 😝😝
Yaa😁😁😁😁
Sahi bat ha.....
@Swapnil he deliberately introduced his gf
@@__weirdonerd__116 Yas. Great business tactics.
@@AnmolTheRationalist mene dekha he ye video
I remember seeing that video of Americans feeling shocked to know that Aishwarya Rai lives with her parents
she does not live with her parents. She lives with her husband's parents, her in laws
@@rinapaul8936 no the interview was done when she was unmarried
Haan maine bhi recently dobara dekha! David letterman tha shayad interviewer ka naam
Every man and women in india live with there parents and Americans feel ashamed when they live with there parents after 18 it's cultural difference😅😅
@@batuklal that is false info, a massive exaggeration. Every man and woman in India doesn't live with their parents. Many couples nowadays and for a long time have been living in homes of their own with privacy. And if you are talking about the young Indians, well even then many under 20 ppl have to live somewhere else for work reasons.
BUT WHAT ABOUT THE WOMEN!!! WHY DO WE LEAVE OUR FAMILY WHILE HE GETS TO STAY WITH HS FAMILY. SO LAME
Yes
Don't leave.. it's one's choice ultimately...but ask mother's.. they want to be alone for a while with their husbands finally..need some space after a period of time
@@rakshithaabalasubramanian4688 then sons should also not live together isnt it...?
True n one has to go through hell ..
Yep lame. Entire north India is mostly lame
Had a mini heart attack when you said wife!🤪
Still cant digest it sis.
He has a wife and a child.
😁😁😁
His wife watching this👀
I thought he is young for that
that was a suprise that u are married!
LOCKDOWN mein shaadi kiya hoga bavuuuth SOCH ke......
@Astor gaming he is 28
Hey how did you get that emoji in your name?
@@krateproductions4872 By Joining his channel
The information we want: Why most married men stay with their parents in India.
The information we get:Mohak is married 😭😂
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How about the girl's parents? You know they grow old too. They need someone to lean on. Will the 'joint family' system 'join' the girl's family too?
No one have guts to talk about that because it's all about men in India. In foreign countries both men and women leave home after 18 age and take care of parents as well but look how women have become second class citizen in India!
@coco 07 Ok. So where the fuck is it talked abou man and his family. Tell me. Give me some sources
@@akkshitaakkshita9591 So true. It's a 'taboo' topic and a sad 'hidden' reality.
They have their own son and their own daughter in law fr that...simple common sense which u don't have.
@@rama7966 Not everybody has a son. A narrow minded perspective that you have!
Soch is just a great channel... Learning a lot from this....
Yaa👌👌
He is a leftist channel protecting Islam and spreading fake new about hinduism
@@soulabric you're free to watch mujhe drugs do buddy no one is forcing you to watch soch
@@soulabric kaha se dekha whatapp ya local news 😂
@@soulabric Bina kisi proof ke bhoka mat Karo
You said in rich countries people produce less children
No,
They use condom
Hmm very true. In India, knowledge about contraceptive methods and STDs is very less among men and women. Unprotected consensual sex between partners is steadily on the rise😭😭
@@shreyasimandal1679in India65 %of 70s generation don't know what is condom
@@thanzeer_24 70s generation is on a 'sexual' decline right now where women's are approaching menopause so i dont think so "educating" them would be of much use
Ultimately they do produce less children's but sometimes they overdo it for example Japan and western Europe where there population is "ageing", lacking younger population is not a good thing in economic sense
😂
Put these men with their parents for 48 hrs . Then see them run away. They expect their wife to live all their life with these people and play Balaji serial ki wonderful wife.
😂
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Living 48 hours with someone like you is even tougher I guess. Men die sooner when the are married to women like you .
It’s a problem of income being too low to buy property and live independently. Nobody likes to live in a joint family if they have a choice.
Not really. In India, many people like living in a joint family. Remember, humans are social animals
@@Nimish204 So does that mean I am not a human?😅😅😭😭😭😭
@@bhargavsai8014 no, you are just built different
@@Nimish204 only if the ppl ur living with are kind and considerate... generally it's not the case and many have an opinion on how to live ur own life... consider it like having a bad roomate but their blood related
I am from Lahore Pakistan and I have never seen a married boy living separately from his parents. Joint families are the culture of subcontinent. Parents would never allow their boys to settle separately as they consider them their assets. Rich or poor precedent remains the same. By the way great content mohak.
So true.
@Bibin Thomas he's just stating what the society believes in. Although this is changing fast.
true
Isn't it amazing how it's so evident how conservative narrow minded attitude isnt landing these messed up southeast asian countries anywhere still they have to adhere to traditional f*cked up values,,while adoring the West???
To live separately, to give space to an individual won't mean that the parents will forego their asset. A parent remains a parent for life.
It’s all acceptable until and unless a problem arises. As simple as that.
Bro I've seen you on some other videos too
I have seen Pandurang guy literally everywhere
You forgot the most important thing about the WEST:
"The Health care system".
about europe. us has a good but very expensive system
I too am growing up in a family where I live with my maternal grandparents and not my paternal grandparents and yes I am very proud of it. According to me it's the duty of the child irrespective of their gender to look after their parents after they attain a certain age and live with them if possible.
This has great advantages. Both my parents are working so there have been many such instances where they both had gone out of station for their work and didn't have to worry about our whereabouts much since we were living with our grandparents.
I definitely agree wit you there bro. A child should look after their parent during their weak years. They sacrifice a lot for us. The least, the absolute least we can do is be there for them.
Yes. As a daughter of doctor parents I can relate to this. Infact ours was a joint family of 8. My grandmother would take care of me when parents would be out for work or when traveling for academic conferences. Also in grandmother's sickness both my parents could take care of her.
What is good career option rn if one doesn't have any passion and job is needed badly
I agree n I have this setup from quite sometime .
Looking at comment section :
Expectation - Some valid Points related to video.
Reality - Bhaiya apne shaadi karli wooww.
00:56 wife?! U r married bro?🙌 Congrats 🎉
No , I think this was just a example
Sir ki ek bacchi bhi hai shadi to bahut phele hi ho chuki hai
@@UchihaItachi-df2mb Really, what's his age?
@@UchihaItachi-df2mb a tu fake news faila raha hai kya?
@@ideasynthesis9827 No no, it's true. He is married for real.
I have some thoughts:
1. Nope. Even if the individual would like to live separately, some parents would just emotionally force them to stay with them. It is because here in India, they like to view us as their property. I'm not saying all parents are like that, but it happens more than you'd like to believe.
2. Jobless growth in economy? Damn, that's the first time I thought about it, and I think our family businesses need to step up their game and enter into the big industry leagues.
3. Women empowerment and their quality higher education can singlehandedly lead to big strides in the nation's future. --
=>> How? More of these women would want to have better husbands, leading to a change in the attitude of men. Also, they would want to work as well, which means, a higher purchasing power for the family, and that also means they can afford a better education for their children. Mother plays a major role in the upbringing of children, so they would be brought up with better morals and more modern beliefs. They will set the standards higher for the betterment of society, and that is key to more people having ideas for giant industries and a healthier economy.
Knowledge is power.
Knowledge is not power.
@@AKASHSingh-ku7fi It is, if you know you can use it.
I think we should stay with mom and dad because they may need us ....❤ and they did everything for us to grow up ...... so we should take care of them too when they are old ...❤️❤️❤️❤️
What if lifestyle doesn’t match ? Then better not to marry I guess. Because we can stay with husband but not in laws if that happens. Old ppl should know that they have lived their life. And now should allow us to live ours.
@@aparnam5524 I know....but we also should not abandon them or to.send them to old age home.....
@@rupkathabanerjee2918 you have a very poor thinking
@@realworld1626 why so sir...... I know People at adulthood do need some personal time..... But what about our mother and father who brought us up ??????
@@rupkathabanerjee2918 so you will kill your dreams for your parents?
Btw You don't look like married!
Stereotype 😂🤦
He is married and it's a inter religion marriage.
@@shaazbeg3703 he have daughter too
@@UchihaItachi-df2mb 😨💔
@@UchihaItachi-df2mb what how do you know that?
@@Mohak_16 😂😂
There is another strand of research which noticed that joint families after taking a dip have returned to the fore because of:
1. High cost of urban living
2. If both parents are working, grandparents are deemed to be best suited to take care of the small kids.
True! (One of the many things which we can observe in daily life. Even without a study being made on it....) :-D
I am from West Bengal , I have seen my grandmother took all the decisions in our family being a house wife and its not an exception . Its quite normal here that women took most of the decisions in the falimy.
West Bengal does not have the same level of conservatism like other Northern states, because the history is very diverse here, especially politically. Communism and the avoidance of publicizing rituals was a huge factor.
That's because she is your grandmother, mother of the head of the family. Women in our family only have the say when they have an earning son, and in that case, she rules over other women, like his wife and others.
I love when men talks about the women's issues, i feel women participation is decreasing workforce due to societal. Norm to stay at home to take care of parents
Female littracy rate is increasing amd they are more aware so how can it's possible that reason is due to societal..i know there is still problem in rural area but society conservative thinking is decreasing not increasing..
@@user-jb4ei8mq7l yes i agree but women still have challange to juggle as caregiver for child and elderly and work when their counterparts /husband haven't change or empowered that they are. Yes change is happening but very slow by the way i am from nepal and the situation is similar but the this fight against mentality not men
@@sharmilaacharya2224 i know..i am also live in rural area from rajasthan.. but nowdays parents are doing focus on girls education and job..i hope it will change completely in some years
@@user-jb4ei8mq7l first step is education, all stages of women as well as men have their own challenges by the society norms.hope we will see a better future and for this we should be against mentality.
@@sharmilaacharya2224 yeh ! Sure 👏
Salaries remains the same for years and the real estate rental and sale prices in the city are too damn expensive. Even if my salary is 40k per month a flat in Mumbai would cost 20-25k and around 15k in Pune.
exactly...... yours is the most practical reason I read in the entire comment section
To problem kya hai.....tumhare ik mahine ki salary me ghar le e ke baad bhi 15k bach jayenge....le lo flat......😂😂😂😂😂
@@vinodadhana2595 Inflation be like: Am I joke to you?
20-25 lack in Mumbai? kaha milega Bhai mujhebhi batade. Puri life yehi rahahu. 40 lack to chal me room ka rate hai hamre yaha. if you want to buy a flat in building 60+ lack needed (for 1bhk).
source: I am from Mumbai and my 'family' recently bought a flat a few years ago.
@@siddheshkakade2888 Bro even in Pune a good flat is over 30lakh( at good neighborhood), even in Aurangabad which is smaller than Pune, many row houses are now between 20 - 30 lakh outside city without water and drainage system and roads.
My brother bought house and wanted our parents to move with him as his children will get an emotional growth(her wife got office job too)but they plainly denied as they hate to be in metro cities (no clean water as they don't like the taste of filtered water, pollution etc)😂
From where he shifted
@@berserk322 we are village people and he got his work in Delhi
rajesh maurya what city are you from, sir
@rajesh maurya it's people of Delhi who do that...so no one else can be blamed...also Delhi along with 14 others are the most polluted cities of the world.so I don't think any more explanation is needed😑
True.. would also like to add even parents want their kids to stay with them so that their business legacy is continued. My husband joined the family business and at the same time he started his own venture as well and is successful.. I joined the family business and multiplied the branch. Parents get income security and health as well that at 2am if they have any health issue we are there for them and same I get security they will take care of my kids in my absence.. if done in the right way then both the parties can benifit from each other.
Plz make a separate video on why indian women are forced to leave their jobs after marriage
One thing that I have personally observed is that the in laws expect them to do literally everything. They act like letting her having a career is a "favour". I have literally seen a case where one relative after doing 12 hour shifts had to come home an do everything- cooking, laundry, dish washing, taking care of the child while the husband literally does nothing. And god forbid If she has a child, the in laws pressurize her to give up her career to raise a child.
@@tanzaf4094 true yar kuch nhi ho sakta is society ka
@@juhikumari9385 Exactly but hopefully we will break this cycle. Hopefully my generation won't impose this on their daughter in laws.
@@tanzaf4094 yes
Women empowerment is increasing
And women unemployment is also increasing
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Finally women can get the job done .
Because women empowerment means power of choice to women, not necessarily employment. So its fine
Time to empower men. Not women
@@thecontrarycontrarian4230 oh really
@@iamrajatgoyal this 'power of choice' has never been afforded to men even in the supposed 'patriarchal' society.
Khas ladkiya saadi ke baad bhi apne maa papa ke pass reh pati jese ladke rahte hai. 😔😔
Agr india ka esa culture or ladkiya bhi apne maaa papa ko apne pass rakh pati to sayad India's beto ke saath saath beti hone ki bhi mannat magte
Yes true
I would never marry a guy who lives with his parents. It would kill all the attraction and sexual vibe
how will you feel if your children i mean your boy's wife say that to you... parents are everything.. just for some sexual vibe or attraction you can't separate a men from his family like this.. i mean he passed all his life with them.. if you marry a guy ,, your just a person who just entered his life.. it's really unfair you do this, it's like your'e snatching him from his real family.. and their love. i dont have to explain it to you....... i just wanna say that just put yourself in your mother in laws place... and you will feel that.. you will know how it feel to have your own child neglect you.. even i'm a girl.. so i really feel that.
@@sparklingstar2045 Lol what if she'll have daughter? Why are you assuming male child?
@@sparklingstar2045 What about your parents? Will your husband live with them?
@@sparklingstar2045 the son will live with his wife and we will live with ours 💕
@@sparklingstar2045 why is the boy separating the girl with her family dude? You can't separate her with her family you hypocrite
Because of patrilocal system , only men tends to live with his parents not women. So in thought of oldage security that son will live with his parents till oldage - every parents tends to have atleast one son . This creates gender favouriblity and people perform heinous trends like female foeticide. Dowry culture wouldn't even exist if patrilocal system isn't there.
Everyone's takeaway from this was the fact that ur married, haha. On a serious note, while everyone's busy talking on trending topics, i am glad you came up with something new. It's very easy access for anyone to know about trending topics, I would appreciate a youtube channel that rather speaks on things that usually no one would've thought about. We were of the fact that India has a collective family oriented structure, but we didnt know that it's only increasing, contrary to our expectations.
Most millenials can not self-sustain without the help of the parents of either stakeholder of a marriage, especially when to plan to have a child. The traditional maternal practices in this country also dictates the importance of motherhood and deep rooted into us. Due to this most mothers are not comfortable with the concept of leaving their child with professionals just because they are strangers, and are getting more and more dependent on parents. Apart from the real estate affordability issue, this, in my experience is one of the major reasons of stem families. To conclude, millennials are incapable of most things in regular life yet they are getting married without having any idea about it and shamelessly gets more dependant on parents.
Joint family with girl parents and girl side siblings will be Soo much peaceful and happy and satisfying I wish I could see such revolution in the society where men go to girls house after marriage....
Role reversal and reverse discrimination can only hurt gender equality. Never forget that there are a number of working women who prefer to stay in joint families.
Family dynamics are varied and complex. A blanket statement that joint family is the best or nuclear is the best is short sighted.
However, it is increasingly being seen in urban areas that families that live in separate homes but close together in the same complex or neighbourhood are the happiest rather than all under one roof.
I think life will be more peaceful in join family setting if living with woman's parents rather than the man's. Men usually are not involved in household matters and since the burden usually fall on the woman, if the older and younger women are on same page, life is much more peaceful in the household overall.. ideally parents who need to live with children should live with daughters not sons..
Exactly so. My most favorite comment on youtube. Love you, dear.
And we should teach Men's to get involved in household chores as these are basic daily nesicity
Lol no
@@Coolguy-or8ex excuse me whom you said no ??
@@yug4883 I don't agree that it will be better to live with the women's parents than men's parents its sexist if you ask me
I really love how he mixes the nuances of Indian culture and hierarchy with religions and social strata, jobs and employment, healthcare and econometrics; through very well-put research. Very few people understand the very concept of India after all
India is very diverse from every point be it historical, geographical, political, social or economical aspect...... That is why 'paradox' has become more of a salient feature of India that is why deep knowledge is required in case of India.
@@shajeedaahmed9527 thats why people who live in india have a paradoxical life
In some north east India it men who go to wife's house and live with the in laws so not everything applies to everyone he is wrong here...
@@Picalopapito I'll go and live in NE India then, it sounds like heaven on earth. XD
3 out 5 women feels that domestic violence is justified.. 😳 this is insane 😥
Stockholm Syndrome goes brrrrrr
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Guys and girl's from my schools and college's are still single, We all are 30 years old and we have jobs both guys and girls
The state is called KERALA
2020
Dhruv: I got a girlfriend
Mohak: got a wife
Comming up
India becomes the richest country in the world
In which video dhruv rathee had mentioned that ?
@@preetisrivastva1917
he have a complete vlog series with her!!!!
😂😂
@@adityakumarsingh437 really???!!!!! I didn't knew that omg!!!!!
Modi he to mumkin he
@@preetisrivastva1917 😨 apko nahi phata?
For resource management, joint family is good but if people fight each other , do not like each other then should live separately
why should they fight?
@@randompie5558 he has written if*
Grow some brain cells. Do you don't even know that how common is chaos in joint family system?
@@randompie5558 jealously
Thank u for being more productive these day.. n we appreciate your content as well as ur hard work.. thank u
Are you relating his marital life as HARD WORK???
This topic is very unique... Other youtubers can't even think about it
He is making fool of people by quoting some researchers who know nothing about india
This topic is not at all necessary
@@souravkumar3452 but it is interesting
The number of misogynistic comments I've come across in here is terrifying
But I hope you didn't miss the great point made in this video that you should abandon your old parents and live with your wife.
@@SrMway so inspired that I'm on my way to give my parents up for adoption rn
@@rey4059 😂 they should've done the same. Oh well, too late for that now! Fyi your feminist friends will shun you if you disagree with them on anything btw, not kidding, do research. Later ✊
@@SrMway ah another one who does get what the heck feminism even is. I would recommend you to do your research first but some people just choose to stay ignorant
@rey I do know what feminism is and I don't have any issues with the defenition of the word "feminism". An idea and the execution of it are two different things. It's amusing when feminists use the comeback "oh you don't know the definition of feminism" as if anyone is stupid enough to get annoyed at women having the same rights as men. smh
Don't listen to me, watch Sam Harris (atheist, neuroscientist) interview with McWhorter where they talk about this issue. Dude feminism is officially a problem for free people everywhere 👍
The shocking thing for me was that there was fall 2 crores woman who are not working . Strange to be honest .
And yes family business ki vagh se log sath h .
And yes still many couples depend on their parents for finances , i have many examples in my relatives and friends .
There is a lot of hidden employment amongst women
@@Nimish204 well same goes for men 🤷
Its all because every married couple can't afford their own separate house in India.so, they willing or forcefully have to live in the joint family.
YOu are Putting a big FULLSTOP to all fuckin research etc.,
Specially not in my city thank God my daddy already has a house here lmao
Sometimes parents just don't wish to let go their children. The young couple has to adjust accordingly and to leave great job opportunities bcoz mummy royengi papa nahi manenge. Bhale vo khud apne parents se dur rahe ho. Selfish generation of parents
True .
Then one can't prosper...I guess that's why Western countries n NRIs r very well off compared to us . Thank God..not every family is the same . We r nuclear family with brilliant women.
So true. My own mother in law is like 'I will never let my son settle abroad, if you have to go, go after I die'- which is impossible because we will be close to retirement age by then. It's not a problem cuz both me and my husband are government employees, but if we had aspirations to go abroad, it would have been a major issue.
Could you please make a video about why more and more women are staying at home rather than joining the work force?? Your content is so informative and objective, we stan
Hi, Do you have any stats to prove the same. Cause in metros at least, almost every girl has a job.
Social pressure and no ambition
@@jenniekim718 illiteracy?
Really lol not in my place
hi I'm 23 and i live in village of gujarat, where domestic violence is acceptable by everyone. but now things are changing because many daughters of our village are now working so they don't accept the behaviour of their parents. society is still morally corrupt but i can see little changes. 🙂
Then you lecture others
You need to change your viallage
I guess it depends on what you missed out growing up.
If u grew up seeing many problems in ur family u would want to live alone depending on how complicated and troublesome they were.
If u grew up with hardly any family interactions you would want to live with a huge family.
I belong to the former.
To each their own.
''He never asked my to bring me in this world. It was my own decision. I educated him, cared for him because it was my responsibility. I don't own him anything nor does he own me anything.'' I remember my grandfather saying this to my father when I was a kid. I remember these words.
@@slyddle Taking care of Family is not bad...
@@uditraj8290 I never said it was wrong
In india many old people are extremist and hell bent on creating a world that works on their ideals . Although not every old people ae like this I still don't want to risk the probability.
• In India kids don't move out after growing up and choose to live with family/parents...
• when you don't move out you stop looking for opportunities outside your comfort zone...
• when you don't look for opportunities outside there no expansion of growth...
• when there is no expansion of growth there is no development...
That's why there are no/few cities being developed in India
You summed it up really well but a Left-liberals would sum it up in a way that put all the blames of BJP
Right.
@Mcvvggdc Hgfces bro everyone in our country is not ambani and bacchan. They leave with there parents because they got and will get opportunities from there parents.
But from middle-class families we can't expect this. So there is difference.
@Mcvvggdc Hgfces that's the problem. most of the Indians live with parents, choose career according to them, marry person of their choice, give birth to child as per there wish and after that they do the same with there children.
Where is the individual life?
It's not only about inheritance it's about living the life on your own to the fullest. In certain stage of life you need your own space to lead a life independently that's my point.
90 % India use parents money for there education, wedding.
It's not right thing that's why we are still developing country since 70 years.
No dear it is ,lack of Government initiative in developing infrastructure in smaller cities. Is moving to bigger cities and saturating them only the way? Why not all places
I request you do such in depth research on how and why Indian women have been impacted by "modernisation" - just taking an example of what you mentioned in this video itself - why are so many women leaving the work force despite better access to education? Most Indian parents prefer to stay with their sons - what happens to the ageing parents who don't have sons? It would be great if you could speak to the impact of our society on modern Indian women.
As for me I belong to a stem family despite being in a DINK (double income no kids) couple. I know many such couples - true expensive housing might be one of the main factors but certainly there is more to this than meets the eye and this puzzle cannot be solved without analysing things from the perspective of Indian women. I strongly feel that's a topic many would like to know more about.
I am a guy and want to stay with either my parents or her parents or both . Nothing reasonable i just like joint family ☺
@Amandeep Wahi 😊😊
you might like to stay with your wife's family, good for you and your partner, your parents might not. :)
@@Anki8801 but mam shaadi ke baad toh ladki ladke ke ghar aati hai.....its responsibility of boy toh provide girl....not to ask house from girls parents
@@sabyasachipramanik1451 bro live with your parents.....
@@pk417 Traditions need to be changed. This is one of the big reasons India leads in female infanticide. Guys have to forgo their ego and agree to live with Girl or her parents if needed. There should be no shame in asking for financial help from a girl or her parents. Gender Equality is all about this.
I replied to your story. About this I stand corrected. Joint Family.
i think living with parents is a good thing, it reduces stress as you have someone to talk to when you come back from the office or that when you come back after a long day of work you have someone to help you with the house chores, whether you live with the wife's parents or the husband's parents, it doesnt matter.
But yes, this does not apply to some toxic parents/children, who do not care about anyone but themselves, and do not help others, or have a habit of commenting or controlling every single thing.
But where i am from , except 2-3 cases, i have seen that the relationship between parents and children is very strong both with the son and daughter, and they both take equal responsibility of their parents, and like staying with them, even if they live abroad.
Unlike in the movies, not every parent- child or mother in law- daughter in law relationship is toxic, for what ive seen around me, they are both very supportive of each other, and the bond is strong.
Video suggestion : Why many indians don't want to get married?
Because they are not educated about marriage and feel pressure to get married ASAP
Because raising a child is expensive that's the reason countries like japan south korea taiwan birth rate is decreasing
No one wants to get married but everyone is getting married.
Indian culture is marriage culture
Everybody is scared of hearbreak..loss of wealth if divorce happen....and freedom which will get limited in many things especially if u r a girl
@@nehapal93 expecting freedom in india for a girl is just like hoping for water in desert
I want to live and leave my family. Live bcz i love them and they also love me. They support me in my carrier and huge decision but.......Leave bcz my parents really want me to live according to their mind set, which is so tiring mentally.
@@adityakale3052 what the hell are you talking ? Where the husband thing came? And where the religious thing came from?
@@adityakale3052 sry but i never asked... and marriage is not everyone's thing.
@@adityakale3052in my opinion who can take responsibility of marriage. And not everyone obligates to marry.
@Ciel Phantomhive yes, it's like, every different idea from them is not good for anything.
Also... with both working parents , grandparents can take care of the child when needed. So its helpful sometimes
Oh my God your last line....you're simply so thoughtful. Men like you really inspire young women like us to do good in our lives and become independent...I'm so happy for your wife and your family that they've a son who wants to normalize talking about systemic discrimination and oppressive "sanskari values" which is simply degrading us.😊❤
Men like these are called white knights whose wife ditches them for the chad taking half his money and property during divorce after she has had her fun leeching off his money.
Why your are Blaming "Sanskar" here?? I think still you don't understand What's the "Sanskar" mean actually 🙏🙏
@@gammaphoenix5893 haha, totally opposite.
@@uditraj8290, She understood it just correctly, we women also need to stay with our parents, not only men.
My Nani stays with us because she had a divorce before mom was married.
I swear if guys like you become the PM , the whole of India would become utopia :D
The reason is simple
In india people get married too young which explains why they are independent and still stay with their parents
While people in other countries take their time to find their partner
Hence, away from family
But my uncle was married in his 40 and he is living with his mother.
His answer is "I want to take care my mom"
Pipal tree seeds can't grow under the it because of shadow of it.
That's why parents should allow their children to go out and have thier own personal life.
1 more factor can be stress in job. Due to high stress jobs we are deciding to stay with parents and family, so that post office hour life will be stress free.
well said!
Everyone talk about his wife in comment
Fun fact- He is 29 years old 😁😁
guys get married at the age of 25-26 nowadays. Many of my guy friends did. 29 is way too old :D
@Scouts Honor correct
This is a prime example of male privilege because of which women have to suffer.
And also , patrilocal system is the main reason for female foeticide in india.
I so want a video on why women, despite increasing literacy and education rate among women are dropping out of work force and voluntarily? I wanna know why!!
He just made a video on this today
The main reason is marriage and after that responsiblity of child. And after all that If woman want to start
her career no one gives her a chance because for them she is not young enough. Some companies only hire under 25 woman's. After 28 it's really hard for a woman to get a job.
Some time it's not voluntary or force of family but companies gives less opportunities to woman.
@@aayat1331 he made a video on it. I would suggest you to watch it 😁
Thats why this channel name is "SOCH"
This bhai 29 Years old
Dhruv bhai 25 year old
This bhai look 22
Dhruv bhai look 26
So what? ...
(And as for which one of them is more mature, and more intellectual and modest, each one of us may have his/her own opinion.)
He is 28!!
@Rajeswari Ghosh change your spects
Toh isme bura kya he jawaan hi toh lag rha he budhdha toh nhi lag rha
😁
My Nana Nani stayed with my Nani's mother at her home, and when my nana ji's mother grew weak and couldn't take care of herself she joined in and they lived together till both died. my nana ji's mother had 3 sons and 2 lived with her for some time but moved out later. my Nani ji's mother had three daughters who after getting married started living at their in-laws but then because she owned a lot of land and her neighbours during those days would try to scare her and get illegal hold of her land, she requested one of her daughters-in-laws to let the couple stay with her and that's how they lived throughout their life.
I would prefer to live with my parents even if I have a second home. They took care of me now I will have to take care of them. It's my responsibility.
Just because people move out in western countries doesn't mean we also have to do it. Moving out doesn't make anyone more modernise.🙄
When you get married please allow your in-laws to stay with u so that even your wife gets to fulfill her duty of serving her parents.
@@AnupSPai My paternal and maternal grandmothers live with us.
@@A_S_K_95 aur ghar mai dangal nahi hota kya? If so then your family must be given an award.....because you have successfully kept 2 swords in ek Mayan 👏👏👏👏
Your selection of topic is always thoughtful and different . I love this content .
It extended my thoughts...👍👍👍
The intro was also like a Johnny Harris video!❤️❤️❤️
Now the battle has begun between Mohak's wife and Dhruv Rathee's GF!
Namaskar dosto
Leftist women battles 🤣
@@aayushtiwari4357 Jealous? Tere jaise ko toh dheke bhi nahi uske gf lmao
Left wing pseudo feminist chahiye bhi nhi bhai tu hee rakh unhe ☺
@@aayushtiwari4357 Lagta hai aap bahut jealous hoon. Koi nahi arranged marriage to karwa denge aapke papa kisse se looool
Meri joint family me to bss ladai hi hoti rehti hai 😔
those who have money, build a villa and moved out.
You are right. Buying a home in cities is extremely difficult because of cost.
@@MohitKumar-nc6kt rent ??