Signs of Lovebombing | Red Flags of Dating
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It’s absolutely mad how gestures we were taught as little girls are romantic are actually toxic and sometimes even dangerous. Like all the romance movies have me messed up 💀
I agree! Rather than a few weeks or months, truer relationships take years to form. More like a multiseason show, not a 90 min movie
One big reason i dont date, cuz what even are relationships? Is it as parasitic and codependent as ive been learning?
They really do skew our view on love and how it’s supposed to be. It really is crazy
Its absolutely mad that women cant find the strength for the most part to think for themselves. But same could be said with guys too.
@@CasualPower87 well the thing is is most of these people don't even take into consideration how wrong it sounds. Most of the stuff is so obviously in-your-face wrong that it is just absolutely jarring to the think that people can't decipher using their own human intellect what is right and what is wrong. But then again I'm really not surprised because humans are fucking dumb.
*When we validate ourselves and give ourselves love, we naturally become less susceptible to craving that attention from others* and more able to discern between that false, deceptive energy & genuine admiration !
Yes! And we have to experience real love from the outside at some point after that to fully heal since it's hard to create something only from the inside. We do our own work and then come together with someone else to come full circle ❤️
@@angelikabatwoman definitely, humans are social and we can't deny our propensity to gravitate towards love & connection. it's nice to think about sharing the love that each person creates for themselves, rather than feeding off one another for it!
@McKenna Haynes hello!! aw that's awesome to hear, thank you! :D
well said :) !!! and loving yourself might be a tough one to achieve but so worth it
I used to be someone who was FLATTERED when someone would love bomb me. I didn't even know what love bombing was, I just thought that someone REAAALLY liked me. However, from personal experience, I have learned to see that as a major red flag and I get out of that situation ASAP
I have been lovebombed at the begining of the year. He said "I love you" after 1 week. And acted like we were a couple after the first night. He expected constant texting, was very jealous of my male friends, wanted to spend all his weekends with me, and showed my picture to all his family + fb...
I tried to set my boundaries with communication, but I felt trapped because he was so eager to get to know me and be with me that I gave up.
6 months after, I broke up, because attraction was not here since the start. I tried too much to meet his excpectation... It felt fake for my part.
I have learned a good lesson. Don't date people who are in a rush to settle. This will backfire you.
I’ll admit I might have done that because I was unaware of what love was but I genuinely cared about her so.
Sounds like you got bullied or very pushed by him into dating him
If attraction was not there from the start, I don't know why you would have slept with him.
as a person who tries not to do all these things in relationships and works on them - just wanted to add that it’s not always narcissistic behavior or manipulation; in my case love bombing is a result of extreme anxiety and fear of abondamment
when i start new relationships i’m always scared that this person will leave me or won’t love me just for me, so i do all these things to get their love; i’m just sure that i’m not enough just as i am so i do all these things unconsciously
so it’s actually really hard to stop doing that because there’s so much fear and hurt; thanks for video tho, informative as always!
i’m so glad you said this because I was starting to feel bad. My intentions aren’t to manipulate. I’m just afraid they’ll leave if I don’t do the most.
It may not be narcissistic but it is manipulation even if you mean no harm and don’t realize it :/ it’s good that you are becoming more self aware though, something narcissists definitely wouldn’t do. I can definitely relate to the fear of abandonment, but it’s a good thing it is something that can be worked on.
I can relate to this comment.
My partner and I both sort of had that at the beginning of our relationship but we are both more self aware now and are working to rebuild a healthier relationship.
We both had/have wounds of abandonment and are highly empathetic (both of us have toxic/narc moms)... so it makes sense that we understood each other and clicked. It’s been about two years of being together and we are both able to unpack / better understand how to cope with being raised in dysfunction and working to move out together to create a better environment to thrive in, essentially wanting to be the opposite of our parents’ relationships.
We are both happy alone and enjoy each others company too. Since we were both raised in a way where there were poor boundaries, I’ve been personally reading up and working with my therapist on how to enforce them properly. When my partner asks for alone time I’ll gladly provide that.
When I ask for some space if I need to think about something before we continue a difficult conversation, he gives me that. I also read a ton of self development books, Ted talks like Brene Brown and podcasts that teach you how to have healthy boundaries and relationships.
I found that if you come from dysfunction it’s possible to learn how to be better if you and your partner have self awareness and an interest in self development and growth. It’s definitely possible to break the cycles our parents passed down to us.
i agree that it’s a manipulation, even if not fully realized but the thing i didn’t like about the video is objectifying of people with certain harmful traits and behaviors; people are complex and can have different traits that work in different ways, they can love bomb/be emotionally unavailable/be caring and wonderful at the same time, just don’t think this dynamic should be portrayed like that (and i agree that all of it is harmful but people who love bomb are not defined by this one specific trait)
I think it’s wonderful that you are now aware of some unhealthy behaviors.
Love bombing whether from fear, anxious attachment, etc- is still harmful and manipulative; irregardless of intention.
Being fearful or anxious does not excuse us from the responsibility of having to unlearn those behaviors.
Instead of feeling shame, thank that emotion and see beyond it bc isn’t it wonderful that we have agency-
Let that new awareness, instead: guide you with grace as you seek resources to unlearn.
Our history of anxiety or fear...does not actually make projecting harmful behaviors on others, okay.
Behaviors are things we can change.
Trauma and wounds are things we can learn to heal so we can both give and receive the kind of genuine love we seek. I hope this helps 🌿
i feel like me and my bf lovebombed each other at first but not in a malicious way. it was the first serious relationship for both of us. we’re just clingy and obsessed with each other lmao but it’s been 4 years now and we’ve definitely chilled out and set boundaries with each other. neither of us are very material driven so most of it was spending long time periods together and physical affection. but everyone has different points where it’s too much. just a note that ppl may not be doing this intentionally to manipulate you, having discussions about boundaries can help so they understand how you feel. very idealistic ppl and dreamers tend to imagine futures together with friends/partners before knowing them fully, and I know this is something I personally need to work on when meeting new people!
You are attached to this person but that’s not genuine love.
god I wish I would have watched this video five years ago lmao
Same...it hits differently now
Sameee.🤣
Me tooooo🤣
SAME!
i’ve been lovebombed twice by two men and it really makes me think... are they aware that they’re being manipulative? does lovebombing make them a bad person? bec these things are ingrained in our culture, and they could be just acting out on what they learned from all these books/films/wisdom passed down from family
Im a guy and love bombed recently September a bit but that was before I even knew the term love bomb and I had genuine interest for this person.
Just sharing my experience here! When my fiancé and I first started seeing each other, we kept a healthy, communicated distance between us. I was preparing for my undergrad thesis, and he was going through an incredibly rough patch (car accident, bad job, dealing with an awful landlord, etc.). We recognized that we weren’t ready to jump into a relationship, so we spent time slowly getting to know each other. We aren’t perfect, but we were real with each other about where we were at the time. You can start a relationship (or the beginnings of one) and not reveal/share every single thing about yourself immediately, and that really, really needs to be normalized, especially for women. Boundaries matter. Creating space for yourself while navigating relationships matters. Whether the person you’re seeing is potentially “lovebombing” you or not, it’s important to remember that your boundaries and needs absolutely matter!
I started a relationship this year where I started to do this and didn’t realize/mean harm, that doesn’t mean it is a healthy way to start a genuine relationship with someone. I really admire the person for being really honest about what they wanted and I clearly need help to learn how to build good relationships with solid foundations.
Youre not alone.. me too!
I was in a relationship with a guy for 9 months and he love bombed me. It was intense. Once he realized I was not going to give him sex he broke up with me. That happened back in 2019. I am still recovering and healing from that. I blame not only him but myself too because I kept taking him back because I thought we were in love.
Don’t blame or shame yourself. You had your best intentions on what you believed to be true. Honor that instead of the self critic. Stay true to what you set out to find, use this as just another tool in the tool box. Not a hole in the wall.
@@skelellele4256 omg thank you so much! You just made my day Molly! Have a amazing day! I really needed to hear that.💗
Look at that from a positive perspective. At least you didn’t pressure yourself to have sex with him so you don’t regret that now. Also you learned a lot from that experience so you will be wiser next time. Don’t blame yourself past is in the past we are growing from it that’s a good thing😘
@@adna2989 Well I am Biromantic Asexual. So that may have something to do with me not wanting to have sex with him. Thanks for the positive comment!
Don’t blame yourself he was a loser that just wanted sex I have a bpd “friend” who wanted that but out of respect to her I didn’t because I genuinely cared about her.
I don’t particularly think that this behavior means that these people are automatically narcissists. I think that some of this is due to the fact that maybe this person has been abandonned or emotionally neglected by one of their parents and is simply just afraid to lose the person they „love“. They act out of fear. In my opinion there is a massive difference between that, however I respect your point of view!
Codependents!!!
So true people tend to throw around the word narcissist when a lot of the time it’s just a reaction to their own trauma that needs healing
i thought exaclty the same!! preach! u said it perfectly
Maybe an unpopular opinion, but I think you can grow and break away from that. It explains the root but you can definitely work with it and not let that define you too
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Having a history of neglect or abuse does not excuse using these harmful behaviors on others. And if doing it unconsciously, once you become aware:
Heal those wounds, unlearn that trauma and unlearn those behaviors that are harmful to both you and your partner.
Being abused or neglected does not make using these harmful behaviors on others, “okay.”
Just wanted to state that while everything stated in the video is true, not everyone that love bombs you is a narcissist, I think actually only 5% of the population actually has NPD. Often times love bombing happens because the person does not know how to love, yes it is a red flag, but a love bomber also is a person with low self-esteem someone who does not love themselves and so they seek this validation from other people. They don’t mean to do it to hurt you or to control you (on purpose) instead, they often do it to keep you from leaving because they are terrified of being alone. Most of us have gone through the trauma of being abandoned as a child and so, as a child tends to do, they will try to seek this attention by attaching to anyone that will give them the time of day.
The best way to avoid a love bomber or to stop being a love bomber is to learn the beauty that comes with being alone. Learn to truly love yourself and heal the parent wound that lead you to seek validation from outside sources in the first place.
What looks like lovebombing can actually be cultural and that's how men usually display their interest in a romantic pursuit.
It's just that we are used to such low investment and romance in courtship fase that it's now a manipulation technique.
In Asia men do lovebomb, or I would call it, romantic pursue, but that's not just talk and "you are the love of my life", they set dates, they try to impress with nice restaurants, nice activities together, small gifts and there's really nothing wrong with that. If a man isn't acting like that he isn't really interested.
As someone who started a relationship in high school, I was never thought about love bombing. All I knew was movies or shows. I feel like I participated in love bombing a little bit.
omg thats the thing! its kinda hard not to give into that initial infatuation and to give someone a lot of attention at first, and then the pace changes later on? eek maybe thats a problem?
@@k_drive Yeah maybe pop culture has skewed young people's expectations of what love is supposed to look like?
i feel like ive lovebombed someone before and thats an anxious feeling for me to confront wow i have done this. im so happy im aware of my actions now atleast i can start changing 😱🙏🏼
Was love bombed last week, and after we split I could not stop crying...it's scary that this is a thing...
Yes! "Don't confuse chaos for passion" That's a big awareness in the love bombing phase.
“I have no time for shame” YES GIRL
Currently experiencing this, my ex has anxious attachment style. He got jealous since the second date. I got lovebombed and he ghosted me in the third months. He always think that i dont love him enough as I didn’t act the same way as him. When we are hooked, they tend to say… if you love me, you would… Should have trusted my intuition.
Omg that was exactly my situation!!!
This was so informative. I just can't seem to find a non toxic relationship :(
I prefer a person that says "I like you, you are interesting..Le'ts see how it goes" than one that after the first dates constantly tells me "I love you, omg I know we are soulmates". Because to love someone like that you need to get to know the person and need a lot of time. What do you love about me, the version of me I showed you?? You dont even know my real self.
Now that Im wiser I find suspicious that type of person, even a bit childish, and I dont like that much attention on me. Over time
I experienced this and getting out of the relationship with the narcissist, cutting them off, moving forward is like the hardest thing to do, I never experienced anything as difficult as that even though I was discarded like trash by him. It is very difficult because you are so confused and keep holding on because you think the person you fell in love with during the love bomb is going to come back again when in reality they never will because who they were during that time wasn't really real. My heart goes out to everyone who is dealing with this. It truly sucks.
I soooo get you! The first 2 weeks I received so much love and attention (it was clearly love bombing) and it felt so good, and then the next 2 months it all disappeared... I stayed hoping it would come back but when I realised it would never come back I left. But it felt horrible and it took me months to feel better... Good luck to you who goes through this ❤
I feel you, I’ve been healing the past 6 months
I’m setting my boundaries, I hate people who are clingy from the start or rely on me too much. I’m doing this for myself because as an empath I tend to feel too much, people oversharing from the start set me off
I totally find that other than just love bombing, if someone comes across that they think you’re completely perfect, whether it’s in a romantic or platonic relationship, that doesn’t mean everything is going to go great. I’m really interested in understanding other people’s views of me and knowing what they see me as, and I’ll often ask my friends for their opinion on if something I do annoys them or comes across in a certain way. If there isn’t at least one thing you do that gets on someones nerves and they seem infatuated, it’s a red flag... especially if they’re not just lying to you about how they feel about you, but have deluded them self into thinking of others in that way....
Ive been love bombed a few months ago before he cheated on me and broke up (I found it out after he broke up though). When I read through stuff and found out about love bombing everything made sense. But it hurts so much since you really hoped and assumed that person loved you:(
Thank you for this. I grew up thinking that love bombing was "romantic" and not only was I manipulated by older men this way, but I also used these techniques not realizing that they were toxic. Its especially common in the sapphic community to use these techniques when finding a romantic interest and it's something I will be more cautious of NOT doing anymore.
Dang... this help me realize that I have codependent tendencies when it comes to dating. My impatient moments are a problem. So glad I’ve seen this video.
I really love how you mentioned how common it is that we see this in movies like the Notebook. Love bombing seemed like a fantasy, that it would be "rare" and "special", and that's how someone loves you, but now growing up I realize those expectations are not realistic whatsoever 😂. I also, have an anxious attachment style, and a lot of people who love bomb probably have this type of attachment style. I'm glad I am working towards a secure attachment style now because I would've probably been emotionally abusive myself continuing the cycle to my future partner and possibly my future kids. Thank you, Amy❤️🌼
Lol he told me after two days that he wanted to be my boyfriend. He also wanted to drop off coffee and beef jerky, asked for constant communication. He also did the mirroring technique.
I could only deal with it for a week. It was literally draining my energy just as you had mentioned of an emotional overload.
If the love is genuine then it could be ok but depends. When you said coffee or beef jerky I laughed lol tf
You have articulated EVERYTHING I have been thinking and feeling. It’s been 5 years!!!!! And I’ve always seen these red flags and disnt listen to my gut feeling 🚩 🤯
My daughter met this guy and after 2 weeks, she moved him into my home without asking. She’s lost her innocence to this guy - she’s 19 years old. I’ve asked that he move back home which is only 5 minutes away but they feel that they can’t be apart; that they’re soul mates and that they need to always be together. The relationship is so unbalanced but she seems in a trance and she can’t see how unnatural all this attention he’s giving her is. She’s blocked out the friends she had and only wants him in her world. There’s so many inconsistencies about him and he’s the master of subtle mind games and I can see it but she’s too inexperienced to realise what is happening. We’re at the 3 month mark since they met and I’m waiting for him to turn. In the meantime, I’m trying to move him out of my house but she feels that if he goes, she goes too and they have no money and they both barely work; they just spend all their time together in her room.
My experience has taught me that it's easy to see the bad in anyone but it takes patience and understanding to see the good.
I think I was lovebombed in my last relationship, which was also my first relationship. I thought that was what relationships were like lol and my parents relationship was and still is definitely not a healthy example of one. From the beginning, he would profess his love for me, put me on a pedestal, always wanting to be in communication with me, even find some way to come and hang with me and my friends and constantly talk about the future. I had such low self- esteem at the time, so it did make me feel good at times. However, I did have that feeling that it isn't right and I just dismissed and went along with it. I definitely reciprocated but deep down I knew I didn't mean it. Towards the end of the relationship, I started to see that all that wasn't for me, as well as the fact I felt 0 connection to him and didn't love him, and I broke up with him. It is weird that when I broke up with him, I couldn't verbally express what was wrong and felt INCREDIBLY GUILTY but now seeing this and reflecting a lot more on it, I can put words to it and know I did the right thing!
Just met a guy after not dating for a long time due to an emotionally abusive relationship and this confirms I’m being loved bombed. Im grossed out but so happy Im healthy now and can see it and be turned off by it right away.
Love seeing these pop up! Going through a break up right now and your last video is helping me so much
having experienced and currently healing from an emotionally abusive relationship, and myself recognizing all these forms as told by you, just made me feel heard and supported somehow. just to know that someone else has been working through and continues to normalize talking about this makes me feel hopeful. thank you for that amy ❤️
my question is how do i make myself attracted to non love bombing situations? i find myself constantly friend zoning really genuinely sweet and caring people because im not used to that type of love or communication
I friigggin love your butterfly clips🥺🥺
Omg i wish i had known this before sliding into THIS EXACT RELATIONSHIP two years ago. Luckily I got out of this hell a few months later but I still have intense flasbacks every now and then. Thank you for your video, I really feel validated in my experience now 💕
Good for you now you are wiser !
Talk about triggering. Thank you for helping women out there!
What about us good genuine men with feelings don’t be exclusive!
i didnt know i needed this video but thankkkkk you !! the dots have been contected and the learning, growth and healing continues
I truly love this series Amy! thank you for being so open and helping a lot of people!
he always wants me to “need” him and as an independent person i feel overwhelmed
currently on my getting-to-know-me and self love journey!
Thank you for your videos 💌 🙏🏾 this one hits hard
When I see Amy uploaded a new video, I DROP EVERYTHING
I needed this so much. I was currently going through one and had so many doubts and second thoughts and I found myself constantly giving them another chance and basically I was gaslighting myself. But I'm trusting my gut instinct now. I really needed this video. Amy you always save my ass omg
This helped me so much. Amy you are my favorite creator of all time. I appreciate you and your content, thank you for all these years.
was the little animated outro always there? Cute! I love it. Also, girl you are just out here existing on Divine timing. Your videos are always in sync with what I need to hear or where I'm at in my life. Thank for always taking the time and energy to educate and enlighten. So happy I found your channel!
This video was excellent Amy! I'm really grateful that you make videos. I think you are a really good role model in communication and boundaries. Keep doing you're thing girl! 화이팅!
So true what you said about roller coaster vs lake! Also I hope you're feeling well, got an exhausted vibe from you today ❤️
Absolutely loved this video. It really made me reflect on some of my previous relationships
This definitely made my Monday a whole lot better. Thanks Amy ❤️
You r such a ray of sunshineeee so appreciate your presence
Going thru this and an emotionally abusive relationship myself, it’s definitely made me realize how sacred my self trust is. How sacred my peace, my dreams and energy is. And has made me realize how important it is to have discernment and healthy boundaries for my empathy.
I had never encountered someone before this who could want to take advantage of my compassion like that, it has definitely made me more aware of the type of men who are emotionally unsafe but will pretend otherwise to get close to you.
I love that validation check you give yourself, “I am not here to blame anyone but I know I never deserved that and take responsibility for that.” Thank you 🕊
This was VERY informative. Thank you for this 🙌🏽
as always... so much insight, inspiration and helpfulness Amy ♡
Ngl you actually made me realise that i have co-dependent tendencies... im shook. Ive had codependent partners before, and grew up with an emotionally manipulative parent. Its all i know, its all ive ever known.
I seriously need time to digest this.... wow..looks like i have alot of healing to do.
Thank you for sharing your experience! The timestamps and examples are really helpful. I wish I watched something like this but I hope future young girls and ladies get taught the timeline of a healthy relationship. Movies and TV really lead us astray with expectations and we don't get exposed to how real ones happen
All this shit happened to me in 72 hours. All it took was an awkward FaceTime call and a google search for me to cut that that dude off
I love that you share us your personnal story while explaining us a subject
Thank you for your videos. I recognise myself in almost all of them: codependence, love bombing... It's sometimes hard to hear but it feels good to feel understood. And I always tended to think I was the problem, that I wasn't good enough but now I understand that it's both our fault and that he manipulated me a lot. So now I feel really stupid and a fool to not have seen it coming, but at the same time I know that I did my best with what I knew at the time. Anyway, thanks a lot for your videos, you help me (and I imagine a lot og other people) a lot ❤❤❤
this!!!!!! video!!!!!!!!!!! thank you so much for educating us and bringing to light this topics!!!
AHHH I’ve had a very similar experience about an ex partner who loved bombed me and got a tattoo dedicated to me without my knowledge. We were always on rocky terms and one day they decided to send me a picture of a diamond (My middle name) I was so in shock and upset he thought I’d be flattered but the gesture made me very uncomfortable not to mention he had other tattoos dedicated to his exes in the past. I eventually told him to cover it up
There’s nothing special about getting tattoos for every person you date ... you’ll end up looking like library card 😬😬
🤮🤮🤢🥴 that’s a looney tune oh hell no
This videos deserves a lot more views, Thank you for the advice
Thank you so much Amy❤️ this has definitely helped a lot:)
you're the sister i've always wanted.. thank you for sharing a piece of your mind and heart!!!!
Hey girl! love you and be seeing you grow for a good minute now. I appreciate and admire your honesty. Love how you want to help others. we love you and looking great and healthy babe!
I’m so glad you post this content, your channel is perfect because your beautiful/articulate/quirky personality will reach so many young people before they get into relationships ! I wish I saw this when I was a teenager still lol
early squaaad~ yaas the queen is back! (growing youtube)
Thank you for this, this helped me so much 🙏🏾✨✨
This has helped me so much! Thank you Amy 💖
thank you for your videos Amy 💓💓✨🧚♀️ have a nice day!!!!! ☀️
I was in an abusive relationship. It reached the point that I didn't want them touching me (sexually or otherwise) but felf guilty refusing. Thank you for speaking about this! You helped me understand that I wasn't stupid for not realising this was happening to me.
Gurl, I feel you. Youre telling my story. Thank you for sharing xo 😚
in love with this hair Amy! before I say anything.
ur videos are the best, amy ❤️
When you deal with a narcissist it changes you. The small gifts were not the problem. It was the intent to control.
I needed this. I needed to seeeeeeee this
thank you for speaking on the hidden tactics instead of just saying “i love you too fast” bc it can move so quickly you miss a lot of things. very informative! :)
I love this video. Thank you!
I first learned about love bombing from Shannon Boodram's(love/relationship expert and sexologist) channel-glad that you're also spreading this message!
i wish i had known about this 6 months ago lol. but definitely a great video!!
Is it odd that a week ago I imagined you making a video about relationships only to notice there wasn't anything when I came here. Now to my surprise you just dropped one. AMAZING I TELL YOU>>>
as a person who was in an emotionally abusive relationship with a narcissist.. this really resonates with what i’ve been through
i was love bombed so many times i thought thats what love was until my ex. im so grateful for your content and this video especially!
Thank you so much, Amy🥺❤❤❤❤❤❤
I didn’t even know love bombing was a thing! Thanks for this video
Great video!!
Thank you SO MUCH for helping me understand the last relationship I had
When I say you are my big sister on the internet. Thank you for all ur wisdom🥺🌞
this was super helpful thank you! you word things in a way that makes sense to me. i had a gut feeling that this guy is love bombing me. i was like is he just being super nice and am i being a bitch? but then u posted this and it confirms what my gut was trying to tell me! that i am being loved bombed! all of those things on the love bomb list he does to me and it makes me feel uncomfy. like i was confused how he had every single thing in common with me and then he was making travel plans for the future and he even said he knew we had all these things in common all along! like how do u even know me like when u don’t even know me? anyway thanks again for this!
I've been in a couple of abusive relationships which started off with love-bombing.
It's so hard to realise what is happening as they seem like the perfect partner. But all those cute little gestures slowly drop off and overtime, this person is no longer the sweet, romantic, chivalrous person they were in the beginning.
In my experience, a genuine person (not a narcissist or abuser) will continue with the affection, attention and compliments. An abuser is only sweet temporarily.
Do you have a podcast? That'd be amazing ^^💓
I 💯 percent needed this today lpl
What you said about movies twisting our idea of a healthy relationship gets a big YES from me!!! I remember watching sex and the city when i was 15 thinking this must be it, this must be being a strong independent woman handling life and relationships. I revisited the show 4-5 years later and i was shocked by all the toxicity promoted through it and started seeing how i subconsciously had adopted certain harmful behavioral patterns. The way the whole carrie and mr big situation was put on a pedestal makes me sick and this is just one of maaaaany shows ive noticed idealizing toxic relationships [cough] Friends...
Aaaaaaaah I love it how this video shows up exacly I am (First time) meeting a really nice guy and it feels like Im enterring a healthy relationship! The Universe gots my Back! Thanks Amy! ✨💪🏽
I met a guy on a dating app and he already tries to overanalyze my text messages and gets mad/double texts if I don't respond in a certain amount of time. He talks about how much he likes me and even talks about our future together, we barely met 3 days ago. I'm like IMMEDIATELY NO lol.
YAYYYYYY! Another real talk ♥️ thanks for sharing your insight, Amy! I would really like to hear what you think about toxic friendship and how you deal with it
Agree with all of this. Just ended a relationship after one month because he did alllll this… and i tried to explain how it’s unhealthy but he can’t understand. Or chooses to pretend he still in love
I recognize this things when I left my past relationship
its been just about time and introspection... then I noticed I've done a lot of this things too
now i don't feel like just a victim anymore and I take full responsibility for the things that I did too
I feel proud of myself that I can be this honest with myself
Thank you, Amy 💕💕💕