To Be A Softer, Feminine Woman: Practical Ways I Have Softened Myself
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- Опубліковано 28 лип 2024
- Today I am sharing 8 practical ways that I have learned to soften myself over time, and live a softer more gentle life that glorifies God.
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I'm so happy to see there's still feminine women left out there, as a man I just started wearing sport coats, dress pants and suits again recently and instantly felt more masculine
Ooooo I love that!
@@AnnaDysett Amen! We need the return of Ephesians 5 men and Proverbs 31 women
My heart has softened so very much this year, Glory to my Jesus ❤️
We couldn’t do it without Him!
I prayed for years for the Lord to soften my heart. Now I’m in the season of building healthy boundaries around my heart! Because it becomes a bit of a challenge when your heart becomes softer, people taking advantage of your kindness! ❤
I've always felt ashamed of being 100% financially supported by my husband, while also becoming more home and family-oriented and peaceful, thanks to that support. After watching your video, something just clicked, and I'm looking at this from another perspective. Maybe this feeling of shame is exactly what Satan wants to create in us, so that we cannot fully embrace or enjoy our husband's leadership in our marriage and discover our own role as a helpmeet (which is God's original plan for us.)
I’m so sorry you’ve been led to feel that way. Society absolutely wants us to be ashamed. Like “oh you’re just a mom” and “you stay at home all day - what do you do?” But there is nothing more important than raising our children to be godly and nothing separates, stresses, and divides the foundations of a home more than two overworked people. I honestly find myself so much more attracted to my husband knowing he is loving and providing for me and my children. I’m excited that the veil is being lifted for you ♥️
Amen
Ask your husband what he would prefer - you going out to work or staying home. I suspect he greatly values your staying home. You are being of service to him and your family, He (hopefully ) comes home to a calm and clean, organised home, a happy smiley wife (most of the time) who has time to keep herself attractive for him, home cooked meals. My Mum in the 70's was a stay at home wife, as were most women at that time. Our home was well run and my Mum always wore dresses. Everyone's gardens were done, today many housing estates look like 3rd world slums.
I am in my 50's, after decades of working and exhausting myself, I have returned to the home - still work 10 hours a week, and enjoy being a feminine homemaker. When I am in my feminine energy, my husband loves it, you can see him visibly relax.
@@aysu3541 you just don't realize how many wives would love to be in your place and wish that their husbands would lead the home
Im so happy I came across your channel, I was praying for guidance. I became so ghetto and ungodly wife with my bitterness, blaming my thyroid and hormones for outbursts. This channel is so gentle and beautiful.
Praise God! I’m grateful He found me worthy to help you ♥️
I cry at baptisms too. They can be complete strangers. Thank you for sharing this important aspect of being a daughter of Father God. Femininity has been lost in so many ways. Be blessed.
Even in my roughened and back slid state, I cry tears of joy when I see someone getting baptized, saved, or births as well. I ball like a baby ❤
My husband does not see the benefit of me quitting my job, but unfortunately we have created bills that require both our incomes but I plan to sell my car and look into a work from home job to help with the transition
I really stuggle with cursing as well, I grew up in a household where everyone cursed and then I went off to the Marine Corps and they definitely cuss like no other there 😅 But it's something I desperately want to get ahold of because preverse language does not glorify the Lord
Same! Mine used to be every other word 🫣
💕you will get there 🙏🏻💕👸🏻
I resonate so much with everything you described. What beautiful and practical ways we can soften ourselves in a world demanding us to be hard. Thank you for this video!
Thank you so much for watching and listening in ♥️
I just found your channel and led me to other channels as well. I know exactly why the timing. I have such an internal fight right now. I bought the whole “feminist” movement since I was little… and I’m talking about the latest movement. It’s just soooo in me but now I know it’s all been a lie. I’ve been struggling with this for a couple of years now and I just don’t know what to do. But these videos and podcasts are helping me so much! ❤ thank you 🙏
It sounds like the Lord is really pursuing you. Keep asking Him to help you. He is an incredible way maker ♥️ I’m grateful he saw me fit to be a vessel to help you. I’m really glad you are here!
@@AnnaDysett thank you ❤️ happy to be here!
I'm 57, been embracing my softer side for a couple of years now.
I would say...............
Set aside a whole day to have and test out "A feminine Day"
Maybe do it on a Sunday?
A week beforehand, sit down, think about it and plan it out. Let your imagination run wild. What would your day look like? Feel like?
What would you wear? What would you do? What would you eat and drink and how?
What would your home look like?
How would you feel? What self care would you do? What hobbies would you do?
Spend a few days before hand getting ready for it. eg buy a bunch of pretty flowers, or buy a pretty and feminine magazine to read, or borrow a lovely book from the library.
If there are items you would like to have but don't create a shopping list and gradually buy them over time. If you are on a tight budget, try 2nd hand shops.
There was a great UA-cam video of a young woman who did a "Life in the day of a 1950's housewife" that I found useful. She started her day by having a bath, pampering herself and getting dressed in a feminine way.
At the end of the day, review it, what did you like or didn't like?
What can you easily incorporate into your current lifestyle?
What do you wish you had had that you may need to go out and buy?
I think as you go on this journey of transformation, having a feminine day on a regular basis, say weekly, will gradually help you to have a more softer and feminine lifestyle.
I really enjoy your videos 💕📚✝️ Thanks for doing what you do.
Anna, I know that I don't know you but you come across as a soft and feminine woman through the screen. I think we are all judgemental about people we don't know, especially online.
I hope your weekend is good. 🙏
Thank you! I was not always this way and I could not have done it without the Holy Spirit working on me every day ♥️
We all struggle. Today I was hurt buy someone who has treated me bad for a while. I started praying for the person I feel so much better. Thank you for sure. The Lord is my strength.
Amazing! It can be really hard sometimes ♥️ we really couldn’t do it without Him!
@@AnnaDysett Amen!
Love this dress!
So much yes to all of this. I agree with you. Especially on point one.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts on becoming a softer, more feminine woman. Your insights are beautiful and very inspiring. You are a lovely example to all women.
Thank you so much. I’m so grateful that you found them helpful ♥️
Anna thank you so much for this video. I used to go to the gym and heavy lift cause I also idolized the muscular body type, but hearing you speak on being gentle with your body I realized I can be gentle with mine as well.
I think social media did that to us! Seeing super fit muscular tan bodies glorified everywhere - but what we forget to realize is that the gym and muscles are their God, and I never went it to be mine ever again.
I love,love,love it. you are so right.God bless you 🙏
So happy to find this channel. ❤
Cursing! I must say becoming a nurse, going through covid as a nurse, then reaching mid life, hormonal changes, going through the change, I have allowed my mouth to say whatever! Anger, frustrations, last couple years for me have been very difficult and those were all my excuses. This is one of the many things that must change right now!
Praying that the Holy Spirit gently convicts you and helps you! It’s a process, but you can do it with His power! ♥️
This is amazing, I am journaling your words so I can work on softening❤ thank you
I’m grateful God even found me worthy to help you with that ♥️
I love your examples!! They are so very helpful. Thank you for your channel. I always look forward to your vidoes!🥰
I’m so glad you got something out of it. Thank you so much for coming back time and time again ♥️🤗
Hi Anna your words of wisdom
Is always touching and makes one search there heart and see the way they represent Christ by there dress and actions. In word and thought ...thank you for sharing your Heart with everyone ...may God continue to bless and lead you in all his
Ways ...
I struggle so much with being soft. I adore dresses and flowers and things like that, I used to be soft as a child but the empathy I had back then was painful to deal with and I had a lot of traumatic things happen that have really hardened me. I lack patience with my kids, I lack connection with them, I’m short tempered, I’m always so overwhelmed with everything and even yelling a lot. I don’t know how to fix it:(
Are you asking God to help you, or are you trying to fix it yourself? You really can’t do it alone.. it’s not possible without the Holy Spirit. I encourage you to wake up and have an open discussion with the Father all day long ♥️ every time something upsets you.. ask for Him to soften your heart, ask Him for patience, ask Him to help you to be slow to speak and slow to anger. It sounds like you really just need to lean in.
Wonderful video, inspiring! Even at my age I still speak sometimes (most times ) before checking in to see if it’s thoughtful or necessary. God has been dealing with me in this area lately. Thank you for the reminder. ❤
It’s a hard practice for sure!
Thank you so much for your content, your videos are always a pleasant and gentle reminder of the things that are important and that I need/want to be focusing on ❤
I also need the reminder ♥️ it’s why I make the videos.
God has softened my heart, helping me to forgive and think of my own ego less often! I love this change! Also, funny enough, I have been embracing streetwear MORE as of late. It actually helps me feel more feminine in that I have a sense of style that allows me to escape the temptation to dress immodestly. For example, I have a hard time feeling put together if I am not showing skin. But, as a dancer, the streetwear style allows me to feel comfortable and put together while covering up. Now, when getting dressed, I can focus on cool color combinations as opposed to how "sexy" my body can look. I feel MUCH more feminine because I put time into my appearance without dressing provocatively. Very interesting to hear others' perspectives on this!
I love that!! God works on us all individually in different ways ♥️
Good video Anna. I used to just tell the truth without regard of how it might sound. I didn’t realize I was really rough around the edges. Speaking with love and kindness is something that I do now. If I feel that what I have to say may come out wrong, then I don’t or I at least tell the other person my thoughts are coming from a place of love. Blessings
Isn’t it funny how we used to pride ourselves on being that person too? A little humility goes a long way!
Just wanted to say that when you give examples of yourself I notice that we are extremely similar❤ This video and your other video’s have been very valuable to me! Thank you for sharing this sister 🙏🏼
I love that. God is good about bringing his people together. Looking forward to growing with you, sister! ♥️
Hello! This is a wonderful video it was refreshing to hear someone mention the struggle with swearing as it's really the one area that's hardest for me. Could you expand on or give us some tips on what you did to change that? Thx❤
I really just slowed down and thought about what I was going to say before saying it. It was very hard. I also prayed often that the Lord would take the desire to swear away from me. I think He certainly did more than me ♥️
Thank you Anna for sharing some practical ways that you do and did to soften your heart!!! You are so beautiful insight out!! God did His beautiful work in your heart and it is such an encouraging testimony to all! I thank God for such a beautiful sister in Christ that He sent into my life to inspire me to continue embracing femininity. You are a gem!🤍 God bless you!!
P.S. i am working on transitioning into more dreses, you are my true inspiration 🌸
I said this earlier but I’m grateful God even found me worthy to help or inspire you! He is still at work ♥️
Thank you for this video, it is inspiring ❤ 🙏
I’m so glad you enjoyed it! 🥰
Everything you said was so true 😘… sometimes I find when I’m around people that bring the worst out in me.. I don’t feel as feminine as I should :(((
I feel the same way. That’s why it’s so important to surround ourselves with godly women to keep us accountable ♥️
I love this video.
Thank you! I’m so glad!
I do try to speak less when I'm around other women so that they can be heard. This is working quite well.
I would appreciate some tips on relating to a man in conversation too.
You are really helpful and I thank you for your video.
Hi Anna👋Thank you for sharing 💐I stop wearing 👖out...I subscribe 😊
Wonderful! Welcome! I’m so happy you are here 😊♥️
I have this video saved and have watched other videos of yours where you do daily chores while you talk. Those videos have your chores mixed in. To me they are distracting. I was wondering if you have more videos like this where you are sitting and talking? They are perfect to me❤
I just started making more sit down videos recently. I try to do one Homemaking video and one sit down chat video weekly ♥️ I’m not perfect, but it’s always the weekly goal. Thanks so much for your feedback! It means a lot.
I love wearing dresses & skirts, my husband loves seeing them on me too. I wanted to ask where you buy your pretty dresses & tops?
I usually purchase all my clothes at thrift stores or on secondhand platforms like eBay and Poshmark 😊 a lot of keywords I use are floral, maxi, puff sleeves, sweetheart neckline, and prairie dress. Hope this helps you!
Hi! Lovely video! Where did you buy this dress? x
Thank you! The brand is flying tomato. It’s an older dress so I don’t believe it’s available on their site anymore, but definitely worth checking them out!
@@AnnaDysett Thank you darling! Great video xx
Cursing is so so hard. I hate hearing it and I hate when I do it. I do not understand why this is so hard for me!
You are not alone! It’s so normalized and very hard to get away from.
I need to work on this. I find myself being SO angry about the state of the world. It's not a good look for a Christian woman.
You sound so much like me. ❤
God is so good at bringing His people together ♥️
@@AnnaDysett He sure is!
Ive never felt so feminine in my entire life,till today, when i tryed a dress on❤ i have NEVER done the swirl that girls do in a dress and today was the first time for me,i felt soo feminine and nice 😂 im almost 34(i say 24 because till last year i was in a very dark place and it began 2014-i feel like i was in a nightmare-so im yet 24 🫶🏼😁)
Oh my goodness! So grateful you are back to YOU 🙌🏻 that is wonderful! Thank you for sharing!
Thank you for sharing . This is my first video of yours I’ve seen and it was just what I was looking for . I’ve not worn a dress for 30 years but last year I brought quite a few and people definitely respond to it even though I have an eating disorder and I’m big..I was longing to dress more feminine because I’d got frumpy during the lockdowns . I was scared to wear a dress because of my size but I just decided if I look frumpy I might as well look frumpy in a dress…but I actually don’t now that I’ve worn them 😀 .
I have also been trying so hard to not swear..my problem is if I say drop something I will mutter a horrible swear word..it’s more of a quick fire reaction and I am trying to replace it with one word that will automatically come out so it will be like a habit..hopefully . How do you try not to quick fire swear ? I’ve looked for videos and actually it’s been all men..you are the first woman I’ve seen mention it .
I’ve 👍🏻🔔 and look forward to watching your other videos . Tracey. 🇬🇧💛🤍
That is wonderful! I think we all got a little complacent in our sweat pants and lounge wear 2020. We are all sinners so what matters is that we are really trying to be better! I’d be flat out lying to you if I said I also did not quick fire swear occasionally - especially if something really hurts! I’m working on it and I pray that the Lord remove that temptation from me. As far as just casually cursing, I’ve finally gotten rid that from my life and it took so much time and patience. I’m so excited that you are here and we can learn together ♥️
Embrace the frump!! Nothing wrong with looking a little frumpy, but I bet you actually don't.