I thought I was over it at 21 , then I had kids and it got 2x worse. Seeing exactly what my father walked out on.... I just can't imagine not being here with my sons! I'll never understand
It's sad, i lost my father when i was 10, i always see him drinking, that's why i always avoid him. And my mother died when i was 1 year old. No parents to teach me. And im here learning how to be a good man. I'm 14
My father abandoned me and my mother from my birth .now I'm 17 and growing up with my own hard work and mindset. Yah it is hard to not getting any thing from dad what everyone gets.But I will be rich by my own hardwork.and i will always keep my mother happy 🙂
hey man i’m 17 too todays father’s day and it never really bothered me before but i finally was honest with myself today and cried over it and finally texted him today after cutting him off i just wanted to reply or something
I've never my dad. I think about it every single day. I've always lacked guidance, just turned 34, I'm a mess. Appreciate your video, love to everyone.
I’m 31 and my life is a wreck, father left when I was 6, mother moved out to another country at age 13, no language . I’ve floating around for too long, i just want my soul to get resting.
28 years old and still get in my feelings that my punk ass father ain’t wanna be around me. I never had a dad and I have a lot of problems that I think may stem from it, but my daughter, my beautiful life changing daughter, will never know the pain I feel. I’m not perfect I’m learning and teaching myself how to be a strong patient leading husband and father to my tribe.
My dad just died because of stroke while he's in duty, I salute my father for his job to protect and provide the foods and money we need, the lessons we learned, right now we are still in debt we are lack of money to pay the right amount of money for his coffin, I'm broke, I'm sad, I grieved in pain, he's a very strong person I know, I'll make sure i will follow his step and continue his journey amd dream, prayers for my father🙏😢
The child with no father can be the best father for their child &he is great that protective ,feeding,pillar support like father often not there with him but he survived in the society where the other people are like eagerly waiting foxes for killing the baby deer .I am facing it too
What evidence of a fatherless boy becoming the best dad? It's rare because the collective of fatherless men are to damaged to be good dads. Stop being naive.
Exactly, how can a father raise teach and discipline his son if his father wasn't there to do the same for him. It's sad, especially when your dad comes back into your when your already coming into adulthood. I definitely understand that along with others.
@@jeremyborno6502 not a lot but few can grow up to be a fine man I see myself as a piece of rugged metal that will eventually become a fine blade maybe one that eventually becomes sharper than the ones that started out nicer
Not exactly not all guys without a father become a good father. My father lost his dad wen he was 11 and he grew up without him and he couldn't at all connect with me, he was ambitious and emotionally absent, never had a conversation with me apart from asking about school. And then he died wen I was 12. So I worry if the cycle continues.
As someone who has been struggling with abusive father, this does help! And yes, there are good men who can be your role models and show you kindness. That's what I needed, and I luckily got it. Thank you for sharing Daniel!
Thank you for this amazing video. I’m over 50 and never saw my father again after I was 12 years old. After a lot of current failures, I finally decided to search for videos dealing with men who haven’t had fathers in their lives. Better late than never, I hope.
Me too. But it won’t always be like that if you strive to fix it. Consider it (just being a solid man) part of your personality. Be honest with others. People are more understanding than we give credit to.
Thank you so much for making this! Wish I heard this when I was a younger dude. Growing up, I felt like I had to be my own man and just “figure it out” on my own. Perhaps you can relate. Without guidance from a proper father figure, I felt rudderless and made many mistakes...still do. But I keep pushing and try not to be too hard on myself. Rise above the urge to use growing up w/out a dad as an excuse/crutch. Another thing... I was blessed with a wise and loving mother; but no matter how much perspective and life advice you get from your mom, it’s important to seek additional advice from a man. Whether a role model, relative, boss, neighbor, or even in books or videos like this... A man’s advice and life lessons will often differ from a woman’s. It will make you a stronger, wiser and more confident man. I can only hope that young dudes head this advice. Never stop seeking - it is our unique responsibility.
I grew up without a father,I was raised by two beautiful women,my mum and my grand mum,I used to question who my dad was but she didn't tell me so I chose to be quite,kids made fun of me,it was so hectic to me,I accepted my self,chose not to hurt mum coz may be that man hutted her,and by asking I was opening up the wound,mum died with the secret,till now I don't know who my dad is,I respect mum and my grand mum for the love they showed me,rest in peace mum,my grand mum is still alive and I love her so much.
I know it's been a year and all but I just couldn't scroll down without saying anything. I know the pain of not having a father and had cried countless nights justing wishing nothing but something which many people have, a father. Please do your best, make your grandma and your mom in heaven proud. They would have struggled a lot for you. I just had my mom and no one else. The pain has never left my heart it just caused eternal depression I guess. Sorry for being too emotional. Have a great day ❤️
I’m literally on the same boat trying to figure out how come my mom hasn’t told me about my father? But i assume that he must’ve done something really bad for her to not tell me who he was.
Mine passed when i was 12 and the most heartbreaking part was that he died after 4 days after my birthday :'( Why this happened? 😭 , Now i am gonna be 20 soon but i still cant get over his death that's why I dont celebrate my birthday and see it as my fault
Keep your word, fulfill the obligations you agreed to, don't speak ill of others, be on time, accept responsibility, practice restraint and discipline, never give up, forgive yourself,.and most of all respect yourself and insist that other respect you as well.
I've heard most of this a thousand times. Maybe it hit harder because I was looking for it, but... Hearing what you need to hear at the right time can be liberating... My father was a suicide .. "I am not him", I keep telling myself... My mother raised me. The strongest person I know. Half of me is her. I think half of me says to keep going... Interpret the rest as you see fit. Yes, I did need to hear this. Thank you, DLM.
My dad never cared about me, taught me anything, or wanted me around. I spent years trying to be a better man than him; I’ve tried to do honorable and admirable things. I still have a ways to go, but I’ll never quit or give up. Great video.
I was knowing my father is dying in front of me I couldn’t kiss him and hug him for the last time in my life just bec I didn’t want him to fell that he is dying 😰 he was my real hero he was my everything ... miss you so much dad 😓
I'm a 26 years old struggling with depression, after many months of introspection I came to understand that most of the problems I've had throughout my life are because of my father completely abandoning my family when I was 4 (maybe less). I mean problems like lack of social skills, impossibility to excel at anything I do, always feeling inappropriate in each context (I didn't even give a shit about my father, I made as he never existed because I hated him). Imagine living like that troughs all your adolescence and early adult life. Realising what brought me down all my life is what ultimately worsened my depression. Now because of this I'm living through the worst challenge of my life and this video really helped. Some of the things might seem corny but they're true and it's nice to hear them said by someone who ACTUALLY BELIEVES them.
Bro I have the exact same issues. Mine left after I was born or even earlier. I am similar in ways like him from the bad: womanizer( but cant hold a relationship or develop) social skills that are pretty good but where non existent if not my urge to better them, never excelling at anything. I dropped out of high school, sunstance abuse. You name it
I'm 12 and a strong boy raised without a father, I'm preparing for the future since am going to become a teenager in a year. I have decided to act now and do the right things to become a man. This video is going to boost me to become the person, The man I desire to be and the man I need to become.
Thank you for making this video bro I've been looking for something like this video for a long as I lost my father in 2018. I'm 17 right now I'm trying to be responsible but I have been feeling a lack of guidance in my life. Thank you so much sir. No one makes videos like these in UA-cam. Thank you so much.
Thank you for taking this difficult subject, Daniel. This is sadly very true. Having worked with school children in Special Ed, after gaining my trust, they told me their life stories.
My father died when I was 9 of a heart attack right in front of me dropped dead. At 25 now it’s still hard I don’t ever forget that day always think about it every day. But I use his absence as motivation as he was a great man as I strive to be the same. Work hard on yourself your education and physical health. Best of luck everyone happy holidays.
Even though we disagree at times, I know and understand how lucky I am to have a father. My heart earnestly goes out to all those people who had to grow up without a father (or with a father who just doesn't give a sh*t). Hold strong. It'll be okay.
The ones that nope out really piss me off. I struggle with international problems. I've jumped the freaking border to reach my son,...and I remain on the edge of NY just in case I need to do it again . Because my own father noped out early for my birthday. Permanently. So when I meet a boy that noped out on his...it is visceral , my disdain. To those left behind, keep walking forward. Never give up. It WILL BE OK. Just keep on putting one foot in front of the other and keep moving forward.
Fatherless son here…lol all the things he said could happen and he hopes doesn’t happened to me. I am every statistic. Then I started to get better at life. Went and found military and financial success while keeping my father wound invisible to myself. Now that I have 2 kids I’m trying to fix the parent wounds. I am every statistic here and today I have a family I loved more than anything and can nearly retired at 36. I’m broken but for the love of god I’m trying to make my kids so much better.
I’m 34 and I’ve been let down by 4 father figures I thought I had in my life one including my actual father. It hurts pretty bad deep down, but the Heavenly Father is always there for me. Put your trust into him and he will comfort your hurting heart
God the Father can fill those desires! I have a dad but he is emotionally unavailable, and one day I was praying and telling God about my pain and I heard this soft voice say “I am proud of you” and instantly I felt like my heart was full of all the things I craved from my dad.
My dad passed at 6, I am now turning 15, I wish I could find someone who was like him, he was a good man who could team someone how to be a real successful man, with real respect.
Same, my dad passed away when I was 7 years old. I still remember the good times I had with him when I was still a kid. I'm 21 years old now and everyday is hard not to think about how my life would be if he was still here with me.
Thank you for such beautiful word...its been 15 years since my fathet died. I was 10 and the youngest brother was 3. My mother worked very hard for us and she still use kind words for her husbend although he was not ideal husband or a fathet figer...I thank God that besides his negative habits,i nevet saw him hitting my mother. I sometime wish that he could have givin us more time so i could be more confident in life.
thanks daniel, i a victim also of abuse from my father, growing up as a kid miserably but now i am really happy that i accepted christ as my Lord and saviour, i dont want to elaborate my story, but guys, God Loves you and He is waiting for you.
I’m 36 years old and my father wasn’t in my own life, i want to learn how to be a man! To become the best version of myself! It hurts, I think about it a lot but I’m pushing to not let it define me!
Thank you. I am not a man, but I have a dad who is a horrible man. The relationship is abusive, toxic, gaslighting, and more. I finally got out of my relationship with him forgiving him but moving forward without him. I feel more confident in doing the right thing now. Thank you.
Just got in on my flight waiting for take off, however, mid aged man sat next me, I got that feeling what if this is my father and we are on our way home, this feeling led me to search on UA-cam“how it feels to have a father “, oh god I swear I won’t shed a tear, for all guys out there who raised up and they didn’t even meet there father stay strong where are not alone we all can make our own families.
My father died when I was young. You hit the mark on a lot of things there. Older brother tried. An I listen to some of the things. I also looked at some friends dads . How they interacted with their sons. It’s hard.
I’m 60 years old and my dad split when I was 3 and he never looked back. I’m still pissed off. I’m a parent and a grandparent now and I love my family more than anything. I would never do what my dad did to me.
Your absolutely correct boys who grow up with an absent father or an abusive father or an ignorant father are far more likely to drop out of school, to drop out of college, to get kicked out of the military, they are far more likely to not be motivated into playing sports to become athletes, they are far more likely to lose their jobs, they are far more likely to be evicted from their homes, they are far more likely to end up being homeless, they are far more likely to get addicted to alcohol & drugs, they are far more likely to join cult groups, gang groups, hate groups, terrorist groups, they are far more likely to commit violent crimes, mistreat women, bully other men, abuse children, they are far more likely to be arrested & mistreated by corrupted cops, they are far more likely to get harsher longer sentences in prison by the criminal justice system, they are far more likely to be physically abused, raped, sexually assaulted in prison, they are far more likely to get the death penalty, they are far more likely to be put on death row & to be executed to death and that would be the end of their life. When I mean far more likely I do not really mean they will completely just saying that they will mostly end up that way because male nature is wild most obviously contains sex and violence. That is why compassionate responsible fathers matter it is very important thank you very much.
I dont really have a father figure in life and i havent since i was 4 because my parents divorced and as soon as i heard the beginning i almost cried man.
I am forty years old,and I'm still hurt and had mental, interaction with other males,anger sadness really fuxked my head up!! Please if you have boys,be there for them more,or too a boy who needs you,you can be the best role model..please it's not hard to give a lil boy that looks sad a great compliment to make him feel better about himself,it always helps! Spend time with them ✊🪖 the fatherless turn out to be lost souls!!
Damn, I feel you... Lots of us out there just like you. Keep his life/memories alive and just do whatever you can to be a good dude. What else can you do, ya know? His legacy will live on in your good life - mistakes and all.
@@luka888. Absolutely! It’s a secret/burden guys like us carry - but that weight makes us stronger in life. Stay true and be good - there’s someone out there pulling for you.
@@luka888. My parents got divorced not long after I was born. I just found out he passed away 3 years ago. But always remember, everytime you look in the mirror, he is staring back at you. 🙂..God bless.
I lost my father since 5 year old is a Sad thing but you should now that you gonna have way more strong mindset but you Cannot let that affect your life you have to keep going stay safe brothers and sisters🙏
This video is what I needed 10 years ago, I had low self-esteem all my life Now I'm 24 and I feel broken, too late for me. Young people take advantage!
@@BrajnandanSinghChauhan-yn6gl Thanks Bro! It's just I Really feel Old, If I was 16 or 18 I could try it. Now in the "Adult World" is more difficult, responsabilities, Work, real problems, its frustrating to realize at this age
You are doing the right thing now. Reaching out and admitting your situation. Wayne Dyer said it best. When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change. Do it now. God is your father.
I'm 34 and my father left the family when I was around 8, I can barely remember him. But I use to see him passing by on a rusty old bicycle every day, I assumed he was coming back from work or something. I never said something to that person, he never said something to me, he didn't even look at me, but you could tell he was looking straight at the front, like forcibly ignoring his surroundings. I never knew if he was my real father or not, I remember we called him by one name, but some years ago I was looking through some documents and my birth certificate says a different name. I'm 34, and I can't find my inner voice, that moment when I saw him every day, and I didn't say anything, and he didn't do anything, I was there on the sidewalk, and he just swift passed right beside his son. That mute moment stuck with me all this time. Now I can't face some situations, I find it very hard to stand for myself, like if I was waiting on him to say something, and try hard to endure life. I send a big hug to everyone that is going through this situation. You are awesome and no person, father or not, will make a difference in you. And know this, facing situations "like a man" means not blaming others for your actions and life choices. Not to take it on your wife, son, mother, or friends. Life is hard, but no matter what happens, only you can come out of "that" place where you are, and no one else is to blame, not even you. Perhaps that friend didn't advise you well, that boss didn't hire you, that girl didn't write you back... well it's not their fault, is no one's fault. You followed that advice because you didn't know better, now you do, you didn't get the job because you didn't what it took, now you know what you want and need. That girl didn't give you a chance, now you know what type of partner to look for. Look past them and keep on living, know to receive a word and use it with your will.
Mother is a happy of eyes. Father is the extra hand of life. If you have father you can do much more in your life. If you have father without mother you can get everythings. But you can't get much more happy in your life.
I needed this video dearly. I'm so grateful. My dad never been in my life has led me to weird paths away from God. I have faced unbelievable challenges in my life. Never Let noone deceive you into thinking differently. Being fatherless means sometimes you don't have that base and you might be fragile in certain situations. Believe God and your path will be set clear. I'm coming back to read the bible now. From today I'm changing to become better and i do hope everyone watching this video is making necessary efforts to change today that is if you've been led astray. Love defeats everything. Thanks for making this video
I grew up in an upper middle class family, but my parents were pretty much absent throughout my life growing up. They were nothing but bill payers for me. They always expect me to figure everything out by myself, and if I mess up, I would get yelled at and sometimes even get an ass whooping (especially with my dad when he just came home from work). I became a troubled teenager because of that and I remember very clearly I had thoughts of ending my life every now and then since I was 13 because I feel like I was born in the wrong family and grew up in the wrong environment. Having abusive & extremely toxic older sister + getting bullied in school almost on the daily basis for my height helped with messing up my mental health (thanks to these experience I became a nihilistic anti social throughout my teenage years). As expected, almost every single aspects in my life went downhill. I suffered with depression, I used to be an excellent student but somehow during senior highschool I struggle so much up until college, I had no dreams, no goals, my life was meaningless and full of suffering both from the past and present
But I'm so extremely grateful 2 years ago I watched a video of david goggins. I was always obsessed with the military (because they're cool and the fact that they were willing to sacrifice their life to protect those who they care about amazes me), especially the special forces and I always dreamt of enlisting in my country's military but due to height limitation I couldn't join any branches here. Anyway that video that I watched was david goggins' interview with lewis howes. That video just popped on my youtube homepage for no reason, I never even bother searching for motivational videos up until that time. I saw how goggins tell about his childhood, how he almost became a lost cause just like me, until he adopted what he called a "dog mentality". It sparked a fire inside of me. Something that I've never felt before. I didn't even know what a role model is, or how important and impactful these figures can be for any human being. David goggins ultimately became a role model for me
After I found goggins, I found jordan peterson. He don't only tell you how to get out of your suffering, but he teaches values, morality, and how as men we should strive to be virtrous. I implemented his teachings in my life since then and it turned my life 180°. That's when I realize the importance of a father figure / role models. Without these people, we just wander throughlife aimlessly with no direction and no purpose. Living a meaningless life which often times will lead to depression and other mental problems
My father died from cancer when I was 11 years old. He was the first man in our entire country to start a business with bathroom tiles. He was extremely ambitious, extremely loving and extremely helpful to everyone in need. He was never greedy, he never loved money more than anything else and he always put his family first. I'm 25 now and a lot of years have passed, I've grown a lot mentally but not physically. I'm still the skinny kid I used to be, but I have maturity, self-respect and thirst to go forward in life for my family. I have tons of friends, tons of people who respect me, tons of success that I built on my own, but for some reason I still cry for my father, sometimes I will cry for hours for him like I am doing right now. It's been so many years and oh I miss him so... I cannot put it in words. He was superman, the best business man and loveliest man I ever met, until he was gone... I hate myself and I constantly have self harming thoughts and I cry for him a lot... If anyone has ever been in a situation like me I want some help, please. How do I stop being so depressed even after all these years, it feels like it will never end this depression I have...
This has been very helpful, my dad isn’t abusive but he is old and lazy and throughout my life I felt as though he always treated me like I was a little kid or a joke when he himself has accomplished nothing
The older I get the more I understand the profound impact that not having a father had on my life. Not only good I don't have a father I had zero male role models, was incredibly poorly socialized and had an incredibly tumultuous childhood. Im 28 and trying to put the pieces together before its too late.
21 years old and I still ask myself why I can't get over it 😊
Ur not alone
My father dead when I was 16 years old and now I'm 22 .. it's hard man
I thought I was over it at 21 , then I had kids and it got 2x worse. Seeing exactly what my father walked out on.... I just can't imagine not being here with my sons! I'll never understand
Hits hard😊
Me too man
It's sad, i lost my father when i was 10, i always see him drinking, that's why i always avoid him. And my mother died when i was 1 year old. No parents to teach me. And im here learning how to be a good man. I'm 14
You got this bro
Stay strong little bro...stay strong and trust no one
With JESUS YOU WILL SUCCEED
I gotchu bro watch spriitual so videos he also has no dad like me
God bless you dear stay strong and stay safe.
My father abandoned me and my mother from my birth .now I'm 17 and growing up with my own hard work and mindset. Yah it is hard to not getting any thing from dad what everyone gets.But I will be rich by my own hardwork.and i will always keep my mother happy 🙂
You a dream Stan?
hey man i’m 17 too todays father’s day and it never really bothered me before but i finally was honest with myself today and cried over it and finally texted him today after cutting him off i just wanted to reply or something
Keep going bro u got this🥺🥰🥰
@@jeykies3745. idiot. Why do you like those kindmof memes
Same. I am 17 too
I've never my dad. I think about it every single day. I've always lacked guidance, just turned 34, I'm a mess. Appreciate your video, love to everyone.
Same!
Me too bro!
Same 😞
I’m 31 same here, but we can’t give up.
I’m 31 and my life is a wreck, father left when I was 6, mother moved out to another country at age 13, no language . I’ve floating around for too long, i just want my soul to get resting.
God has been my Father never met my dad till I was 40 years old God is a father to the fatherless rise up my brother and sisters 🙏
28 years old and still get in my feelings that my punk ass father ain’t wanna be around me. I never had a dad and I have a lot of problems that I think may stem from it, but my daughter, my beautiful life changing daughter, will never know the pain I feel. I’m not perfect I’m learning and teaching myself how to be a strong patient leading husband and father to my tribe.
Respect
💕💕💕💕
You a G 💯 👊🏾 nothing but respect
Love your comment. Loving your partner and children will bring you a wonderful life.
@@margareth1504 year later we’re still in love she’s still the one and my daughter sees everyday how a man should love and respect a woman. Thank u.
My dad just died because of stroke while he's in duty, I salute my father for his job to protect and provide the foods and money we need, the lessons we learned, right now we are still in debt we are lack of money to pay the right amount of money for his coffin, I'm broke, I'm sad, I grieved in pain, he's a very strong person I know, I'll make sure i will follow his step and continue his journey amd dream, prayers for my father🙏😢
28 years without my dad in my life and its eating me up everyday this video gave me a light I haven't seen in awhile 🙏💙💔
I’m 21 and for my 20th he didn’t even wish me a happy birthday I feel so sad 😭 lonely unloved by him
@@CollinDC51 I’m sorry to hear that keep your head up man your not alone 🙏
@@killickhunter2902 thanks man Im trying but I feel very lonely
@@CollinDC51 I feel you, it’s so heartbreaking 💔
@@kevincruz-hernandez6321 I know right it sucks
The child with no father can be the best father for their child &he is great that protective ,feeding,pillar support like father often not there with him but he survived in the society where the other people are like eagerly waiting foxes for killing the baby deer .I am facing it too
What evidence of a fatherless boy becoming the best dad? It's rare because the collective of fatherless men are to damaged to be good dads. Stop being naive.
Exactly, how can a father raise teach and discipline his son if his father wasn't there to do the same for him. It's sad, especially when your dad comes back into your when your already coming into adulthood. I definitely understand that along with others.
@@jeremyborno6502 not a lot but few can grow up to be a fine man I see myself as a piece of rugged metal that will eventually become a fine blade maybe one that eventually becomes sharper than the ones that started out nicer
I am a 12 year kid I don't have father thanks guys for motivating me 😊
Not exactly not all guys without a father become a good father. My father lost his dad wen he was 11 and he grew up without him and he couldn't at all connect with me, he was ambitious and emotionally absent, never had a conversation with me apart from asking about school. And then he died wen I was 12. So I worry if the cycle continues.
As someone who has been struggling with abusive father, this does help! And yes, there are good men who can be your role models and show you kindness. That's what I needed, and I luckily got it.
Thank you for sharing Daniel!
Not all men are abusive like that - and you are proof! Show the world that you are rising above.
Thank you for this amazing video. I’m over 50 and never saw my father again after I was 12 years old. After a lot of current failures, I finally decided to search for videos dealing with men who haven’t had fathers in their lives. Better late than never, I hope.
I'm fatherless and happened to experience bad relationships socially....thanks Daniel for this video.
Me too. But it won’t always be like that if you strive to fix it. Consider it (just being a solid man) part of your personality. Be honest with others. People are more understanding than we give credit to.
I never had a dad for me it feels terrible
@@perrolocoytso the car is the reason u don't see each other?
Thank you so much for making this! Wish I heard this when I was a younger dude. Growing up, I felt like I had to be my own man and just “figure it out” on my own. Perhaps you can relate.
Without guidance from a proper father figure, I felt rudderless and made many mistakes...still do. But I keep pushing and try not to be too hard on myself.
Rise above the urge to use growing up w/out a dad as an excuse/crutch.
Another thing... I was blessed with a wise and loving mother; but no matter how much perspective and life advice you get from your mom, it’s important to seek additional advice from a man.
Whether a role model, relative, boss, neighbor, or even in books or videos like this... A man’s advice and life lessons will often differ from a woman’s. It will make you a stronger, wiser and more confident man.
I can only hope that young dudes head this advice.
Never stop seeking - it is our unique responsibility.
I grew up without a father,I was raised by two beautiful women,my mum and my grand mum,I used to question who my dad was but she didn't tell me so I chose to be quite,kids made fun of me,it was so hectic to me,I accepted my self,chose not to hurt mum coz may be that man hutted her,and by asking I was opening up the wound,mum died with the secret,till now I don't know who my dad is,I respect mum and my grand mum for the love they showed me,rest in peace mum,my grand mum is still alive and I love her so much.
I know it's been a year and all but I just couldn't scroll down without saying anything. I know the pain of not having a father and had cried countless nights justing wishing nothing but something which many people have, a father. Please do your best, make your grandma and your mom in heaven proud. They would have struggled a lot for you. I just had my mom and no one else. The pain has never left my heart it just caused eternal depression I guess. Sorry for being too emotional. Have a great day ❤️
@@rahulm4187 thanks so much,may God give you strength to overcome it all, just be strong,I know it's not easy.
I dont know how to say it
But my life story is the same as yours @Nancy Auma
@@virajhetti1977 hugs bro,may God be with us,the best thing to do is to accept the reality however how much it hurts.
I’m literally on the same boat trying to figure out how come my mom hasn’t told me about my father? But i assume that he must’ve done something really bad for her to not tell me who he was.
Thanks for this man he passed on when I was 5
So sad i can understand this pain i was in 3rd that time we can create a whatsap facebook group to motivate each others.
@@sagarmeenaa0808 Can I join
Mine passed when I was 5 and now I’m 18 and it feels like It is harder than ever right now
I'm 24 now. About to be 25 soon. I lost my Father when I was 2. I remember him everyday. I have to remember to be Strong without him.
Mine passed when i was 12 and the most heartbreaking part was that he died after 4 days after my birthday :'(
Why this happened? 😭 ,
Now i am gonna be 20 soon but i still cant get over his death that's why I dont celebrate my birthday and see it as my fault
Keep your word, fulfill the obligations you agreed to, don't speak ill of others, be on time, accept responsibility, practice restraint and discipline, never give up, forgive yourself,.and most of all respect yourself and insist that other respect you as well.
I've heard most of this a thousand times. Maybe it hit harder because I was looking for it, but... Hearing what you need to hear at the right time can be liberating... My father was a suicide .. "I am not him", I keep telling myself... My mother raised me. The strongest person I know. Half of me is her. I think half of me says to keep going... Interpret the rest as you see fit.
Yes, I did need to hear this. Thank you, DLM.
Me and my dad were playing hide and seek .....,...i still cant find the guy
That's sad 🤭😔
Me 2 😅
Do you think they are hiding together
@@olibarahosasa1137 it sucks a lot but i cant wait to have my own children like you so i can guve them a childhood with a dad like i wanted
You suck in that game
That was great! 🤣
My dad never cared about me, taught me anything, or wanted me around. I spent years trying to be a better man than him; I’ve tried to do honorable and admirable things. I still have a ways to go, but I’ll never quit or give up. Great video.
Me too. I never see him until now.
@@mmchavez1972heyy you're not a man this video ain't for you illegal
Same
Never knew who my father was and as a father of a 11 yr old daughter I know I will always be better than he was as I'm there for my daughter.
I didnt grow up with a father figure cause mine was killed when i was 6 and everyday i pray that we can re unite together as father and son.
I never know my father, and looking for the right friends made me literally without friends
Better to be alone, than in bad company.
@@URKCEHinoSuu true ❤️
They arnt real friends then
I was knowing my father is dying in front of me I couldn’t kiss him and hug him for the last time in my life just bec I didn’t want him to fell that he is dying 😰 he was my real hero he was my everything ... miss you so much dad 😓
This gives me self confidence... May i lost my dad.... But I'll be a Best for my son....
Thank you brother... ❤
I wish you strength and wisdom to become the kind of man you would admire and the kind of man your son would look up to. All the best to you!
@@MasteryOrder yes bro.... I'll be the best for my son.....
My father was the best .
He can't show me how much he love me but understand him feelings and
I love my dad.✌️✌️✌️
Let him know. Maybe just show him your comment here. Don’t expect a bunch of mushy emotions, but he will appreciate.
@@lunarvision Thanks for your concern .
You would be such a good father figure
Marry him first.
Sorry for the PJ.😂
He really would be. He is the definition of healthy masculinity.
He's model.
I love this man😭 feels like he's talking to me directly,I wouldn't wanna be that man😭
I'm a 26 years old struggling with depression, after many months of introspection I came to understand that most of the problems I've had throughout my life are because of my father completely abandoning my family when I was 4 (maybe less).
I mean problems like lack of social skills, impossibility to excel at anything I do, always feeling inappropriate in each context (I didn't even give a shit about my father, I made as he never existed because I hated him).
Imagine living like that troughs all your adolescence and early adult life.
Realising what brought me down all my life is what ultimately worsened my depression.
Now because of this I'm living through the worst challenge of my life and this video really helped.
Some of the things might seem corny but they're true and it's nice to hear them said by someone who ACTUALLY BELIEVES them.
Bro I have the exact same issues. Mine left after I was born or even earlier. I am similar in ways like him from the bad: womanizer( but cant hold a relationship or develop) social skills that are pretty good but where non existent if not my urge to better them, never excelling at anything. I dropped out of high school, sunstance abuse. You name it
@@Acid22X🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️
I'm 12 and a strong boy raised without a father, I'm preparing for the future since am going to become a teenager in a year. I have decided to act now and do the right things to become a man. This video is going to boost me to become the person, The man I desire to be and the man I need to become.
Same here brother, we are strong, we're gonna go trough it!
This is great!
It’s late to comment, but I just wanted to say thank you, I’ve never met my dad. It’s hard, and it’s nice knowing I’m not alone here.
Thank you for making this video bro I've been looking for something like this video for a long as I lost my father in 2018. I'm 17 right now I'm trying to be responsible but I have been feeling a lack of guidance in my life. Thank you so much sir. No one makes videos like these in UA-cam. Thank you so much.
Thank you for taking this difficult subject, Daniel. This is sadly very true. Having worked with school children in Special Ed, after gaining my trust, they told me their life stories.
"you are not your father" that line is a blessing ...❤️
My father died when I was 9 of a heart attack right in front of me dropped dead. At 25 now it’s still hard I don’t ever forget that day always think about it every day. But I use his absence as motivation as he was a great man as I strive to be the same. Work hard on yourself your education and physical health. Best of luck everyone happy holidays.
Even though we disagree at times, I know and understand how lucky I am to have a father.
My heart earnestly goes out to all those people who had to grow up without a father (or with a father who just doesn't give a sh*t).
Hold strong. It'll be okay.
The ones that nope out really piss me off. I struggle with international problems. I've jumped the freaking border to reach my son,...and I remain on the edge of NY just in case I need to do it again . Because my own father noped out early for my birthday. Permanently. So when I meet a boy that noped out on his...it is visceral , my disdain.
To those left behind, keep walking forward. Never give up. It WILL BE OK. Just keep on putting one foot in front of the other and keep moving forward.
@@ATSucks1 you're a great dad Russell
Same
Lucky
I agree
U r a beautiful soul... Love from 🇮🇳🇮🇳
society needs a brother like u..
Thankyou for such a video it was very helpful as I have no father plz leave a heart brother❤️😌
YoU do have one brother in UK
@@ragulmanohar305 thankyou brother💪✌️
@@pankajpawar9736 thanks mere bhaii💪❤️✌️
@@ragulmanohar305 @Pankaj pawar means alot ❤️❤️
Same here sister ... I lost my father when I was only 19 ..😔😔
Fatherless son here…lol all the things he said could happen and he hopes doesn’t happened to me. I am every statistic.
Then I started to get better at life. Went and found military and financial success while keeping my father wound invisible to myself. Now that I have 2 kids I’m trying to fix the parent wounds.
I am every statistic here and today I have a family I loved more than anything and can nearly retired at 36. I’m broken but for the love of god I’m trying to make my kids so much better.
This video is so motivational and it helps me through tough times knowing I don’t have a dad to count on
My role model.
Daniel Maritz always giving good advice on both channels
Why do we always try to be happy but feel broken when we suddenly talk about our father, why does it hurt so much
Facts man
that's life. we all must stop breeding and end humanity
I’m 34 and I’ve been let down by 4 father figures I thought I had in my life one including my actual father. It hurts pretty bad deep down, but the Heavenly Father is always there for me. Put your trust into him and he will comfort your hurting heart
It's kinda sad that fatherless is an insult these days
Yeah, it hurts us real hard
@@R0DBS2fr. It just stings when I hear it that’s the truth
This made me cry i wish my dad was around he's been in prison for all my life
Me too man
same man
God the Father can fill those desires!
I have a dad but he is emotionally unavailable, and one day I was praying and telling God about my pain and I heard this soft voice say “I am proud of you” and instantly I felt like my heart was full of all the things I craved from my dad.
My dad passed at 6, I am now turning 15, I wish I could find someone who was like him, he was a good man who could team someone how to be a real successful man, with real respect.
Same, my dad passed away when I was 7 years old. I still remember the good times I had with him when I was still a kid. I'm 21 years old now and everyday is hard not to think about how my life would be if he was still here with me.
This is called called a 'gem of a content'😊❤️🙏
Thank you for such beautiful word...its been 15 years since my fathet died. I was 10 and the youngest brother was 3.
My mother worked very hard for us and she still use kind words for her husbend although he was not ideal husband or a fathet figer...I thank God that besides his negative habits,i nevet saw him hitting my mother. I sometime wish that he could have givin us more time so i could be more confident in life.
Amazing video, Daniel, deserves a million views. I'm a dad who had no father and you summed it up perfectly. .
Big fan bro love from india 🇮🇳
thanks daniel, i a victim also of abuse from my father, growing up as a kid miserably but now i am really happy that i accepted christ as my Lord and saviour, i dont want to elaborate my story, but guys, God Loves you and He is waiting for you.
I’m 36 years old and my father wasn’t in my own life, i want to learn how to be a man! To become the best version of myself! It hurts, I think about it a lot but I’m pushing to not let it define me!
Thank you. I am not a man, but I have a dad who is a horrible man. The relationship is abusive, toxic, gaslighting, and more. I finally got out of my relationship with him forgiving him but moving forward without him. I feel more confident in doing the right thing now. Thank you.
"Be the father you Never had"- my mama dukes 🤍💯🤜
Just got in on my flight waiting for take off, however, mid aged man sat next me, I got that feeling what if this is my father and we are on our way home, this feeling led me to search on UA-cam“how it feels to have a father “, oh god I swear I won’t shed a tear, for all guys out there who raised up and they didn’t even meet there father stay strong where are not alone we all can make our own families.
My father died when I was young. You hit the mark on a lot of things there. Older brother tried. An I listen to some of the things. I also looked at some friends dads . How they interacted with their sons. It’s hard.
Jimmy Same here.
I’m 60 years old and my dad split when I was 3 and he never looked back. I’m still pissed off. I’m a parent and a grandparent now and I love my family more than anything. I would never do what my dad did to me.
Your absolutely correct boys who grow up with an absent father or an abusive father or an ignorant father are far more likely to drop out of school, to drop out of college, to get kicked out of the military, they are far more likely to not be motivated into playing sports to become athletes, they are far more likely to lose their jobs, they are far more likely to be evicted from their homes, they are far more likely to end up being homeless, they are far more likely to get addicted to alcohol & drugs, they are far more likely to join cult groups, gang groups, hate groups, terrorist groups, they are far more likely to commit violent crimes, mistreat women, bully other men, abuse children, they are far more likely to be arrested & mistreated by corrupted cops, they are far more likely to get harsher longer sentences in prison by the criminal justice system, they are far more likely to be physically abused, raped, sexually assaulted in prison, they are far more likely to get the death penalty, they are far more likely to be put on death row & to be executed to death and that would be the end of their life. When I mean far more likely I do not really mean they will completely just saying that they will mostly end up that way because male nature is wild most obviously contains sex and violence. That is why compassionate responsible fathers matter it is very important thank you very much.
@Ky Jelly We need compassionate fathers and compassionate mothers period.
Appreciate it the advice man needed this as a 21 year old
I dont really have a father figure in life and i havent since i was 4 because my parents divorced and as soon as i heard the beginning i almost cried man.
You have a strong motivational voice bruh , hats off
You are very grateful and good man Daniel
I am forty years old,and I'm still hurt and had mental, interaction with other males,anger sadness really fuxked my head up!! Please if you have boys,be there for them more,or too a boy who needs you,you can be the best role model..please it's not hard to give a lil boy that looks sad a great compliment to make him feel better about himself,it always helps! Spend time with them ✊🪖 the fatherless turn out to be lost souls!!
This was so beautiful. Made me cry but I'm sending to my sun because he's an amazing young man! My Baby Genius!!!
Thank you for this. It can be hard to find father figures in your life but I know that one will come eventually. Thank you!
💙
I've never seen my father in my life, he died when I born, and I don't know the feeling of having a father, I wish I could see him in my life one time
Damn, I feel you... Lots of us out there just like you. Keep his life/memories alive and just do whatever you can to be a good dude. What else can you do, ya know? His legacy will live on in your good life - mistakes and all.
@@lunarvision sure thing man, thanks for saying that bro
@@luka888. Absolutely! It’s a secret/burden guys like us carry - but that weight makes us stronger in life. Stay true and be good - there’s someone out there pulling for you.
@@luka888. My parents got divorced not long after I was born. I just found out he passed away 3 years ago. But always remember, everytime you look in the mirror, he is staring back at you. 🙂..God bless.
@@markhewitt4307 God bless you too, my man I feel ya
I lost my father since 5 year old is a Sad thing but you should now that you gonna have way more strong mindset but you Cannot let that affect your life you have to keep going stay safe brothers and sisters🙏
Father died when I was 17. I was lucky enough to have him here. R.I.P.
Thank you so much brother for this video. We orphans appreciate it. May God bless you.
This video is what I needed 10 years ago, I had low self-esteem all my life
Now I'm 24 and I feel broken, too late for me.
Young people take advantage!
U r not that late bro... Something is always better than nothing... U have life to come... Live 🤗
@@BrajnandanSinghChauhan-yn6gl Thanks Bro! It's just I Really feel Old, If I was 16 or 18 I could try it.
Now in the "Adult World" is more difficult, responsabilities, Work, real problems, its frustrating to realize at this age
@@alexvg7662 yes... Your situation is obvious.... But bro that's what life is 🤷🏻♂️... Keep going keep breathing keep living 😉🤗
You’re young !!! Start now , 20 years from now you’ll regret not taking a chance
You are doing the right thing now. Reaching out and admitting your situation. Wayne Dyer said it best. When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change. Do it now. God is your father.
This show is more valuable than Alpha M on UA-cam. Love it 👍
My father died of cancer when I was in 4th grade in 2013 when I was 10. He left not even a single dime and we still are living a life of misery
Also, My father Died When I was in 4th grade in 2015 when I was 11, we were rich but now our condition is not good bas chal rha hai...
I'm 34 and my father left the family when I was around 8, I can barely remember him. But I use to see him passing by on a rusty old bicycle every day, I assumed he was coming back from work or something. I never said something to that person, he never said something to me, he didn't even look at me, but you could tell he was looking straight at the front, like forcibly ignoring his surroundings.
I never knew if he was my real father or not, I remember we called him by one name, but some years ago I was looking through some documents and my birth certificate says a different name.
I'm 34, and I can't find my inner voice, that moment when I saw him every day, and I didn't say anything, and he didn't do anything, I was there on the sidewalk, and he just swift passed right beside his son. That mute moment stuck with me all this time. Now I can't face some situations, I find it very hard to stand for myself, like if I was waiting on him to say something, and try hard to endure life.
I send a big hug to everyone that is going through this situation. You are awesome and no person, father or not, will make a difference in you.
And know this, facing situations "like a man" means not blaming others for your actions and life choices. Not to take it on your wife, son, mother, or friends. Life is hard, but no matter what happens, only you can come out of "that" place where you are, and no one else is to blame, not even you.
Perhaps that friend didn't advise you well, that boss didn't hire you, that girl didn't write you back... well it's not their fault, is no one's fault. You followed that advice because you didn't know better, now you do, you didn't get the job because you didn't what it took, now you know what you want and need. That girl didn't give you a chance, now you know what type of partner to look for.
Look past them and keep on living, know to receive a word and use it with your will.
Mother is a happy of eyes.
Father is the extra hand of life. If you have father you can do much more in your life. If you have father without mother you can get everythings. But you can't get much more happy in your life.
I needed this video dearly. I'm so grateful. My dad never been in my life has led me to weird paths away from God. I have faced unbelievable challenges in my life. Never Let noone deceive you into thinking differently. Being fatherless means sometimes you don't have that base and you might be fragile in certain situations. Believe God and your path will be set clear. I'm coming back to read the bible now. From today I'm changing to become better and i do hope everyone watching this video is making necessary efforts to change today that is if you've been led astray. Love defeats everything. Thanks for making this video
I pray my son knows how loved he is, and has the courage to fulfill his potential and live contented. I pray my son trusts and fears God 🙏🏻✝️❤️🔥🕊
The most wonderfull video... I hadn't seen before...Thank you so much Daniel....love from India
I grew up in an upper middle class family, but my parents were pretty much absent throughout my life growing up. They were nothing but bill payers for me. They always expect me to figure everything out by myself, and if I mess up, I would get yelled at and sometimes even get an ass whooping (especially with my dad when he just came home from work). I became a troubled teenager because of that and I remember very clearly I had thoughts of ending my life every now and then since I was 13 because I feel like I was born in the wrong family and grew up in the wrong environment. Having abusive & extremely toxic older sister + getting bullied in school almost on the daily basis for my height helped with messing up my mental health (thanks to these experience I became a nihilistic anti social throughout my teenage years). As expected, almost every single aspects in my life went downhill. I suffered with depression, I used to be an excellent student but somehow during senior highschool I struggle so much up until college, I had no dreams, no goals, my life was meaningless and full of suffering both from the past and present
But I'm so extremely grateful 2 years ago I watched a video of david goggins. I was always obsessed with the military (because they're cool and the fact that they were willing to sacrifice their life to protect those who they care about amazes me), especially the special forces and I always dreamt of enlisting in my country's military but due to height limitation I couldn't join any branches here. Anyway that video that I watched was david goggins' interview with lewis howes. That video just popped on my youtube homepage for no reason, I never even bother searching for motivational videos up until that time. I saw how goggins tell about his childhood, how he almost became a lost cause just like me, until he adopted what he called a "dog mentality". It sparked a fire inside of me. Something that I've never felt before. I didn't even know what a role model is, or how important and impactful these figures can be for any human being. David goggins ultimately became a role model for me
After I found goggins, I found jordan peterson. He don't only tell you how to get out of your suffering, but he teaches values, morality, and how as men we should strive to be virtrous. I implemented his teachings in my life since then and it turned my life 180°. That's when I realize the importance of a father figure / role models. Without these people, we just wander throughlife aimlessly with no direction and no purpose. Living a meaningless life which often times will lead to depression and other mental problems
Honestly, at times your videos are boosting me up. And your new look is very cool comparing to your old one. Love & Support from India
My father died from cancer when I was 11 years old. He was the first man in our entire country to start a business with bathroom tiles. He was extremely ambitious, extremely loving and extremely helpful to everyone in need. He was never greedy, he never loved money more than anything else and he always put his family first. I'm 25 now and a lot of years have passed, I've grown a lot mentally but not physically. I'm still the skinny kid I used to be, but I have maturity, self-respect and thirst to go forward in life for my family. I have tons of friends, tons of people who respect me, tons of success that I built on my own, but for some reason I still cry for my father, sometimes I will cry for hours for him like I am doing right now. It's been so many years and oh I miss him so... I cannot put it in words. He was superman, the best business man and loveliest man I ever met, until he was gone... I hate myself and I constantly have self harming thoughts and I cry for him a lot... If anyone has ever been in a situation like me I want some help, please. How do I stop being so depressed even after all these years, it feels like it will never end this depression I have...
I wish it got easier. Almost 40 and I so desperately wish I had a father in my life. I feel so lost and alone
This has been very helpful, my dad isn’t abusive but he is old and lazy and throughout my life I felt as though he always treated me like I was a little kid or a joke when he himself has accomplished nothing
That‘s what people do who don‘t achieve shit in their lives, so keep your head up champ and show them what you‘re all about 💪💪
He was projecting his failures on you
I needed this so much . I AM NOT MY FATHER!!
Thank you so much for the video
I love that there are people like you!!!
Trust Jesus we aren't perfect doing our best is all we can do Daniel you would be a awesome father one day praying for You and Nikita
You are awesome Daniel👍🏼
😁🙏
Personally I wonder how i could have been if a good father had been present. Another part wonders if i care enough.
What a great video! So encouraging! Thank you Daniel!
Wow..
Ive never been this early...
Keep up the good work bro🔥🔥
The older I get the more I understand the profound impact that not having a father had on my life.
Not only good I don't have a father I had zero male role models, was incredibly poorly socialized and had an incredibly tumultuous childhood.
Im 28 and trying to put the pieces together before its too late.
I dint have father this video make me confident and smile
My father left me 6 years ago because of work, but he never gave my family money but only sometime
Perfect video for dream stans
Realy a great motivation video..
I remeber that these type of video's helped me when i lost my father at a jung age..
Needed to see this today brother. Thank you.
When your theme music play i'm having goosebumps ..❤️❤️❤️❤️keep up the good work bro
23 & it hurts more now
Thank You for making this video ❤️
I miss you dad❤ hope to see you again it's been 12+ years now i will never let you down
This video can be a gamechanger in one's life.
Thankyou so much
I'm also a guy that grow without a father. And I'm very happy that I grow without a father since I born. I thankfull to God (Allah)😊😇for this.