My "Cancer Card" declined (Gloss Over 02)
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Video essay, Gloss Over, Think piece
Yes, whilst I donot have cancer, being disabled means that due to illnesses and treatments you are very behind, your peers, for example getting your first job, or an internships. Even if you say that you are disabled they will still ask you about gaps in your resume. I have tried to cover this by doing courses so the gap on my CV is not to big. Good luck everyone!
16:35 I remember listening to someone who said that whenever a workspace emphasises ‘family’, run away in the opposite direction.
Yeah they’re right on that one
Unless it’s literally a family business it’s a massive red flag 😭
The "cancer card" and similar stuff honestly makes me so SO angry. I was born with a brain tumor. I survived it and I now live with something called a SHUNT (basically a pump that circumvents fluids blocked by the tumor). I turn 32 now, but because of the shame, bullying and ostracization I experienced all throughout my teenage years for "the cancer card" (I was literally bullied into hospital for having extra support) I never even *tried* to seek professional help beyond the initial treatment until late last year. I was taught by my peers that me getting help was bad and unfair and I'm still working through it.
Any help someone gets after having had cancer or any other debilitating condition with permanent effects is not privilege. It's not some ace you pull out. It's supposed to be a failsave for having gotten fucked over by life.
I'm glad this video popped up in my feed. I'm actually currently looking for a job as well (I was self-employed for a few years because nobody would take me) and figuring out how to deal with my condition regarding job hunting is... a thing. I'm lucky my country actually has support networks where I can get input and help, but I shudder at the thought of places that don't have that.
You must have been through a lot and I don't understand people's lack of compassion. I wish you all the best, you got this!
Thank you. To be honest, a lot of what I wrote is stuff I only grasped in the last two years or so, when I finally started actually acknowledging my reality and working with it instead of pushing it (and thus, part of myself) away, so I'm still not fully accustomed to standing my ground like this. I sounded rather resolute up there, but it's been my first time naming it as it is, rather than being sort of submissive to it.
OMG THE ICE PRINCESS MOTIF IN THIS VIDEO >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
As a young healthcare professional in America and cancer survivor I experience all of these things you mentioned so heavily. It’s beyond ironic that our own medical system does not want to hire folks who have disabilities or chronic illnesses. Thank you for advocating-I’m trying to talk about this more, too!
it's just so strange when people who are in the medical industry don't get these things
The set?? Excuse me, Lisa, but you have slayed???
Thank you🙂↕️🥰
It's a lot of plastic
@@NB-lx6gzseems like iridescent fabric to me. She's holding a mic, sitting on a piece of plastic would be a weird choice considering the noise
@@NB-lx6gz it is fabric
I got sick right when I came out of high school so I haven't had my first job (I'm 24) 😳 My parents sold our house to pay for my bills, I'm hoping to get better before that money runs out. People have no idea what disabled people go through. I hate being thought of as lazy when I'm fighting for my life
are your med bills not covered bc you're in America?
@@LisaFevral yes 😔 it sucks
this is honestly so horrible, I can't believe you guys have to suffer with no universal healthcare like this:(
@@LisaFevral Theres also a racism aspect where things like acupuncture, chinese medicine, and native american medicine are almost never covered. Anything other than pharmaceuticals are seen as a scam, even if they have been proven to work for thousands of years
+Another thing worth mentioning; I used to get 1 liter bags of saline every week for POTS. $200 per bag! I eventually had to quit because the temp was making me sick. None of the local IV centers have a bag warmer, it was straight out of the fridge and it felt like hypothermia lmaooo
@@afriend9079I'm Brazilian, and one day I noticed something about medicine in the Bible on clay. I saw videos about clay being medicinal, and that clay was used by ancient indigenous people or even some people used it decades or hundreds of years ago or some people who live in the countryside have the knowledge that clay and clay can cure diseases.
I also saw on a UA-cam channel called Sempre Bonita or Sempre Bela that a man was cured of bronchitis, because his mother was a healer and used clay on him.
I also saw a video of UA-cam from a physicist called Física Afins or Física e Afins, who is to be careful with white clay or red clay that is sold commercially, as some clay is contaminated by mining extraction, or because the soil has been contaminated by something.
If you live in the countryside or rural area, near a river or stream with no soil or contaminated land. The probability of clay being good and pure for recovery or curing illnesses is high.
I was the one who wrote on the survey about having Pendred Syndrome and Enlarge Vestibular Aqueduct which are unfortunately rare and considered an invisible disability, and the moment you said we all feel like criminals for not wanting to disclose our disabilities/sickness was so on point. It’s not even something I try to think about much because it feels so depressing. Thank you for making this video and making every single person feel seen, Lisa.
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The actual hypocrisy I've witness to in a workplace. I personally have no ability to claim actual disabilities, but my mental health struggles in itself allows me to experience some aspects of that life. People just do not, will not, or choose not to understand and it's 😭 humanity is so cruel
The sole fact that some people still think that the free circulation can in any way benefit the common good when we have already seen that it just progressively concentrates money on some individuals (obvsly in accordance to the pre existing caste and colonial systems)😭world is crazy
it's such a mess
I am also disabled, and have had to develop my skills etc on my own because of rigid views surrounding disabled people working. I'm so glad you're talking about this my smol fashion icon
I can no longer work, but even before that it was almost impossible for me to get a job. I couldn't work in my field because my poor health stopped me from getting the degree classification I needed, the jobs I was intellectually capable of didn't want me because they were unwilling to accommodate my physical issues, and the jobs I was physically capable of doing didn't want me because I was overqualified. In my experience, any company who says they are disability friendly are only interested in hiring people with disabilities that don't affect their output. Which is basically none of them, or it wouldn't be called a disability in the first place.
they seem to treat it as an afterthought, rather than a statistical reality(the existence of people that are capable of work with reasonable accommodations)
That is actually crazy that they would even use that as a reason to dismiss you
Yes, I'm chronically ill due to an incurable autoimmune disease and I for sure feel this. My current employment is very understanding BECAUSE I build a repport with them before I developed my disease - therefore they know I'm not a the type of person who would 'take advantage of my diagnosis', I just need a few accommodations on some days. I'm terrified of the day when I'll need move to a new company (as the company will eventually be sold). No one takes adavantage of their illness, no one wants to be chronically ill, it ruins your life.
hopefully the long term employment history will be enough for future rehiring!
Tangential to the "criminal" rant: I've expressed to loved ones that after my second battle with cancer, I can sympathize with prisoners who exit a maximum security prison only to face the daunting task of figuring out how to push their lives back on track. Thank you for putting these frustrations into brilliantly sharp focus, Miss Lady!
oh yeah I can see the parallel, it's like reintegrating after being ripped out from your own life
i learned so much from this video. growing up as a healthy individual (aside from asthma rip), in a country where health care is free, and disability accommodations aren’t super rare, this was definitely eye opening. i’m not at the age where i can work full time yet, but to think i could suddenly get sick and ‘lose’ all the progress i have made is truly terrifying. we all know we live in a greedy society where capitalism is rampant and equality/equity is mirage, but seeing it solidified and encapsulated in a person’s experience definitely reminds me just how privileged i am, (just for being able-bodied, let alone everything else). i can’t express enough how much i adore your think-pieces, lisa. thank you for sharing your experiences with us! it’s nice to see these kinds of topics discussed on youtube!! thank you for all of your work
i kinda had the same experience you had with the gallery but worse because it was a fkn callcenter something i'm not even passionate about but i needed a job to fkn exist, this company advertise themselves like the most inclusive, calm and open minded company, claiming that the salary is the best with bonuses and that sh; so me, a person under the autism spectrum, applied and got called for an in person interview; when i tell you that mf doing the interview didn't even try to hide the disappointment on his face during the interview... at the end all i got was a "we'll call you 😊"
edit because i just finished the video: thank you for sharing your experience with us and for doing all this amazing work ❤
oh damn, wth was he acting disappointed for? did he find out about autism during the call?
@@LisaFevral ikr, i left feeling like shit because he kept sighing and giving me condescending looks
Thank-you for this video. I am autistic with ADHD and I dont feel comfortable disclosing anything to the companies I apply to. Due to my job role I have been part of hiring process of candidates and its so sad to see how corrupt everything is. I was literally fired because I tried to hire someone who is disabled and fully qualified for the job. The company told me it's risky to keep me onboard because I am not making profitable descions. Even though the candidate I selected was qualified.
That’s so messed up that they fired you for that! We should file complaints about these companies or post that info online so ppl know
@@LisaFevral i tried actually to expose them. I wrote an article but then the country I am in the general norm is that if someone exposes a company other companies blacklist them as they don’t wanna be exposed as well. I wish I was financially stable to take the stand and expose them but I am not so I stayed quiet. At the end of the day I need a job and cannot afford to not work for a while.
Yeah I totally get it, it’s so messed up! Maybe there’s some kind of place you can report them to? Not a public article as much as a tip to the government or something
I just want people to stop babying people with such conditions so much as long as accomodations are given. I hate it when people try to be uncomfortable or even feel sorry about our condition. We can perfectly manage our problems, no need to shove it in our faces. It feels condensending and rude even when they are acting on good faith...
I think that's part of the reason why those people are convinced that disabled folks can't do the jobs they apply for - they think they literally need to be babied
Oh my god you're so right. From a different perspective my mother died of cancer just before I started highschool and genuinely all my school did was call me brave with a pitying face and tell me to read the fault in our stars. then got annoyed when I suffered the mental, academic and social consequences of it at age 11 onwards like HUH?? Literally all the sick, disabled, refugee, poor or mentally ill kids at my school had to either take matters into our own hands to get a damn education (which only some had the privilege to do) or just fail- and it happened time and time again. claiming people are privileged for the bad things they have gone through in life is a tool of the oppressors AND really fucking irritating. Thank you so much for making this video
Good for you speaking up!! 👏🙏 My friend has long covid, she wants to work but she can't. Terrible
I have long Covid too :( I couldn’t even sit up from may-September of last year. I’m still sick but able to take some college courses now. Still don’t feel well enough to work full time or outside of the house
@planetaryray7119 what was causing the inability to sit up? I am seeing a wide range of effects of covid, seems like it's way beyond pneumonia effects (if you don't mind me asking)
@@LisaFevral hey! so basically i had muscle and nerve pain all over my body, as well as extreme fatigue. i just had no strength or energy to pull myself up, someone else had to help me sit up. i've only been able to get up stairs without assistance recently
oh damn I really hope your condition gets better! have they figured out how covid caused this? it's really unsettling how we know nothing about it, yet we allow it to spread further
@@LisaFevralthank you! It’s been slowly getting better over the past year, but still not 100%. The medical community doesn’t really know anything, but all viruses are capable of giving you serious chronic illness. I agree that letting it spread has been catastrophic
I have given up on trying to be disabled and neurodiverse in normal work and have started freelancing instead to choose my own hours and work.
I literally worked for an org that helped young disadvantaged people get work and they loved to encourage diversity and inclusivity, but me being diverse i was completrly unaccomodated for and excluded and had to quit.
Full time work being 40+ hrs and the norm in our current capitalist society is so unsustainable and damaging all of us.
The fact that it was the whole point of that company and they still chose to act like this is really something
First of all, you look stunning. Secondly, I agree with every single thing you said. It really sucks that we live in a capitalist hellhole that doesn’t give a shit about their employees. I truly thought things would change after Covid, but nope. Worst yet, it makes people who are chronically ill/disabled even more isolated than we already feel we are :(
I'm going to be fully honest. One of the reasons I got my disability card was to get discounts in stores and so I'd have a legal ID I could use to buy alcohol. That doesn't mean that my disability isn't absolutely horrendous to go through, but that IS one reason I'm not completely down and out about it.
Also, I kept dropping out of school because of my disability and since I still want to get into college, I'm currently going back to high school a THIRD time. It's exhausting, but I still have to live despite it.
Another thing, disability is suchhh a nuanced topic. There really isn't one way to "be" disabled. Invisible disabilities aren't any less detrimental than physical disabilities- but if there is one thing we can all agree on, it's that ableism is such a prevailing issue even to this day where people can do it so casually and not even think about it.
Also also, ur so prettyy, icy blue is so good on you
thank you❤
I totally relate with my disabilities too, and having invisible illnesses.
Im not sure if I have misinterpreted you but wanted to mention the 'card' Lisa is talking about is not an actual card, it's a metaphor people use to say that we use our disability (or cancer as Lisa is saying) to get privileges (which is totally wrong imo)
4:34 It’s like employers didn’t learn anything. Also, just a short while back, we saw commuters going through a stampede due to lack of a contingency plan.
P.S. People disregarding masks is honestly nauseating.
I think they should become the norm to wear if you're under the weather, that will already cut down on the spread of stuff
10:03 We’re drenched in ableism before anyone of us enter this world.
The sad reality of being disabled in America is that you often do have to lie to get a job and even then it’s not guaranteed you can keep it because if they perceive your productivity to be even slightly lower or if you get sicker while on the job, they’ll force you out of the company. Most companies spiel about valuing any kind of diversity including disability is window dressing. They’ll choose the easier option to get rid of you or not hire you at all. I’m living in a country that basically incorporated masking into their everyday lives and at work people will mask if they’re sick or simply to protect their health and classes will suspended by the health department if too many kids are sick. It’s in such stark contrast to America where we decided to ignore covid and long covid and just let tons of children and adults become disabled when it was entirely possible to not do that.
It was so avoidable, yet billionaires’ interests were put above human lives and rights
There is a youtuber called Petal Palmer(she recently did a TEDx talk) who talked about how all her friends just turned away from her after she got diagnosed with cancer. I’ve never had cancer but I have another chronic illness but bringing up your illness or being visibly sick doesn’t make people sympathize with you or give you things, it makes them turn away from you.
100% agree with you, people don't even want to talk about it with you
Also your set looks so nice!! Looking forward to the rest of this series
thank you hehe❤
Thanks for using your energy to discuss this and start this conversation - so frustrating to hear about how this is something that hirers do
abelism is insidious. thank you for sharing your experiences and hopefully this helps in opening up the realities of disabled life to the able bodied.
I have been disabled since highschool and haven't been able to get a new job since graduating college. Employers seem to want either someone willing to lie about their disability or to just not have any. I am not a cancer survivor, but it is horrendous that this happens to anyone, including someone who has had to pay for and go through cancer treatment. It is financial death to be disabled.
I hope this is going to be different soon!
as a disabled person (who includes cancer in the disability umbrella), my literal disability card is the only thing that *might count as a "disability card" but even that's a stretch.
no the rudeness is warranted. seriously thank you for this video
Maintaining resistance is hard to do because there’s only that much status quo s**t you can take.
there's only so much energy to spare ahah
i dont have chronic illness nor cancer but right before graduation, i did have corneal erosion and the treatment was 2 months and had plans to travel and learn other stuff before graduation, i only applied for jobs after graduation due to all that. during interviews when they asked what ive been doing, i'd just say the above mentioned, they will suddenly fixate on whether my eyes are better, it's weird tbh. of course its better like duhhh how am i supposed to apply for jobs if im not.
im from southeast asia, so shit is def more discriminatory & ignorant to any minority groups
Yeah they just kinda try to write you off as soon as they can
Thanks for talking about this! I’m newly disabled as of getting mono and Covid last may. Seeing the lack of care in every aspect of life towards disabled peeps (especially not masking right now) really makes me sad but also pisses me off
I am so proud of you.
the set reminds me of itzy icy photoshoot
omg hell yeah ehehe
I’m so sorry that you’re experiencing all of this right now, and you’re right, it’s absolutely not fair. No matter what you decide to do in terms of making content to help change the system and society as a whole, just know that you have supporters and at least 1 guaranteed viewer/subscriber (but like, also 1,000s of others lol). I really hope that you find what you’re looking for, best of luck ❤
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I just love this video. My sister in law just got out OR, they removed a brain tumor. She is awake, no side effects, she is young, athlete, a good person, intelligent. I send you a hug and sorry for the society stigma.
The corporate greed is so real. Back when I lived in the US, one company I worked for would apply to win work from other companies, governments, etc, and in my state, you got preference if your business was woman, POC, and/or person with a disability owned (bonus points for more than one). We were minority owned for a while, but did that trickle down to hiring more minorities or women or people with disabilities? Of course not. At least not where I worked. (So many companies like to boast diversity at the top, but it almost never trickles down.)
We were mostly white (and got whiter the longer I worked there), no one mentioned they were disabled (to be fair, it was an engineering company, so that does make some sense), and we only had a max. of 4 women working. One of whom was bullied into quitting and another of whom experienced harassment. (We were connected on LinkedIn, so after I left, I checked to see if she was still there a year later, and I was happy to see she'd switched companies.)
I’m so glad you made this video. Everything you say is spot on. I developed POTS as a result of COVID (so it’s under the long COVID umbrella). I was in the process of applying and interviewing for jobs at the time I was being diagnosed and all I could think about was “how am I supposed to get a job now? If I start a new job and they realise I’m sick, they’ll fire me.” And I shouldn’t have had to worry about that on top of everything else.
Previous place I worked, it was on my file that I had mental health conditions. And yet I got yelled at by our HR director for going to the doctor too much. I was going for reviews of my medication that they knew I needed for the condition they knew I had because it was on my record.
unsurprisingly they were a company who wanted everyone back in the office ASAP during the pandemic and would’ve preferred we never locked down in the first place.
The system is so broken.
But hell yeah you’re right. You kicked cancer’s ass and you don’t need to listen to any lil bitch’s opinion. You are badass ❤
Only Lisa can get away with setting up an ice theme set like that in mid may ✨
I relate to this in the sense that I've always been a sickly person (think victorian child one cough away from leaving this world). My immunity system is just really crap at its job. It must be a family thing, since it's the same with my brother. Doctors have tried to figure out the reason behind it, but ultimately came up with the great answer of "idk man". I wouldn't call my life hard, but there are plenty of annoying things I need to take into consideration. I have to sleep at least 8h a night, otherwise I'll catch a cold the next day. I have to make sure to not experience temperature jumps, otherwise I'll catch a cold immediately. I have to make sure I eat a balanced diet, otherwise I'll catch a cold immediately. I have to stay warm, otherwise I immediately develop muscle pains. And even with doing all of that, I'm still under the weather at least one day per week. On top of that I caught covid twice (that I know of) in 2021, which brought my asthma back. I have IBS, anxiety and I am on the spectrum. Again, these are not by any means the hardest things a person has to deal with. Still, they are a nuisance and they do affect my day to day. I'm lucky enough that I can work remotely (I'm self-employed, I teach English and French and most of my classes are online). However, after 7 years of doing that I would like to change something, but the idea of looking for a job at a company is quite daunting. What employer will seriously treat a worker who has to call in sick every week? Or can't stay after-hours because overworked = sick=can't do the rest of my duties? Again, I am privileged, because none of these issues are visible to the naked eye, so most of my worries revolve around being hired and not getting hired. I feel for everyone who has to deal with the true cannonball of the bullshit that is current the working culture. Capitalism will drive us all into early graves and the corporate overlords will throw a feast at the graveyard...
Its cray cray that the world is still turning a blind eye towards all of these gaps, especially after the pandemic and going back on dismissing everything left and right whether job oppurtunitists, healthcare and even covid itself !!ヽ(ﾟдﾟヽ)(ﾉﾟдﾟ)ﾉ!!
OOoooOo am i earlyyy, lisa slaying today, like any other day💗 love the top and necklace✨
Thank youuu🙂↕️🤍
Even diagnosis is a privilege. waiting till the healthcare system changes, I dont think its gonna happen within capitalism. And many forms and places of activism aren't accessible as well. Love the lofi Kim possible thing you have going on at the end 💕💖
Yeah currently been waiting for over 4 months just so I can get a first appointment with an actual mental health professional.
Thanks Lisa and keep Slaying.
You’re absolutely right, I think in America the reason why people with disability aren’t seen more commonly is because they’re not given opportunities, because people don’t have patience or no experience dealing with people like that,
I also think that if an American were to work with someone who has a permanent disability that it they would see it as they’re working more than someone who physically can’t;
And so maybe that’s why it’s avoided all together..
But I mean why not offer part time positions for people with disability, like at McDonald’s, cleaning tables? Etc
ur resilience is so admiring!!
Your point about explaining the gap in your CV ... I would assume most people that have a gap, have it because they were sick, no matter if its physical or mental health. And the fact that you have to justify yourself for that is insane to me. At the same time, sadly, its not surprising if you think about the fact that we live in a capitalist system that wants you to work non-stop, otherwise you're regarded worthless.
I'm sorry to hear, you have to go through all that!
yeah, I'm more concerned for people with disabilities that are not temporary, bc they are the ones who have a lot less options than I do, and have to deal with so much nonsense
I have poly arthirits, doctors were not able to figure out why so medication is just painkillers, when i brought up the subject with my team, they just loughed because I'm 23 and have this condition. But i shared it with them because it is so tiring to deal with pain and hoped they would consider it. Luckily, I'm a programmer, so i can work from home some days, but i have no energy after work.
I’m so lucky that I was working for half a year in my first job, when my cancer was back. So that they had to keep me and I have the security of money and having a job to come back to.
Also I’m glad living in Germany, so I don’t have to worry about not having enough money to get healthy.
I have lymphoma too
Are you still going through treatment? I hope this round of treatment is effective forever and you live a long healthy life after!
It's fun (/s) to only be able to work between 30-50% because under capitalism, you have to work 80-120% (they love to make people have multiple jobs or do lots of overtime) to be considered for a postion or you're not worth the time to be a cog in their inhumane machine.
They put humans in and spit out the bones when they've drained the life out of them. As a ND, disabled person, I don't even think this system is humane or sustainable for NT, ablebodied folk.
P. S. Cyclical poverty is basically impossible to get out of when one is different in any way. Doesn't matter if you're queer, a POC, ND, a survivor of trauma, or anything else.
When it comes to [blank] card, the only people who accused me of using them were my own parents, because they're both undiagnosed ND, traumatised people who had to fight themselves through the system and therefore think everyone else should be able to suck it up too. Internalised ableism sucks.
Also, well done. The fact that you were able to pick yourself up, even with the odds being in your favour, is impressive. You shouldn't have had to, but you did.
I loveeeee your videos so much!
Didnt realize how cool your background was until the vid was almost over!! Thank you for putting so much work into your vids!!!💕💕💕💕💕
Thank you so much for watching🤍🤍🤍
Great video❤
im chronically ill enough that i cant do traditional work. im especially delayed because my illness made me drop out of highschool a year and half in so i have like barely any school credits. and i live in ontario where they just got rid of the GED program so even if i did want to find an accommodating job because disability pays you absolute dust, im so undereducated i probably wouldnt qualify for anything. And add to all that the complete lack of work history because im now in my 30s without anything to put on my resume... the really would rather we die than make the bare minimum accomodations for us to even have enough to live nevermind work and flourish
This, this, this!!
on a less serious note, you look gorgeous in this video haha~ the look is looking
I support this!
Heyy Lisa
I feel like I’m making excuses on landing ‘a job’ but also I know that queer people in education can be frowned upon and also queer-friendly workspaces? I’ve found one opportunity among a sea of employers.
There are many factors, this is definitely a part of it
I’m in a similar boat with my mental illness/neurodivergence. i hate thinking that a job is rejecting me cus i wanted to be honest about having depression/anxiety/cptsd. I can’t avoid it on my medical records and needing insurance for my expenses and meds. if that’s the only difference between me and the most qualified candidates, why disqualify me without even meeting me?
You're incredible! About being behind, a similar experience occurrs to the ones with depression, indeed. Or simply queers, who cannot socialize adequately in the them-rejecting society. This is all so gross! Again, you're amazing, and I do hope that this world isn't going to "bend you".
The background is giving Dexter 👀.
Omg girl ahhaha
Diversity cards, i.e. positive prejudice, doesn't exist in the same sense that online communities don't exist. That means they don't exist in the real world, but they are still a thing for people who believe in them so much that they have made them a part of their lives. And some of those people totally do play diversity cards in virtual spaces around others who believe in them, but just like how members of a subreddit or an mmo clan usually never meet in real life, playing diversity cards usually won't work in real life because they are; technically speaking, not real.
12:58 All I wanted was slightly more flexible timings with my work and then…radio silence. I was told by someone else I’m focusing too much on certain things when I can LITERALLY see Workplace Red Flags.
Blame Ben Stiller and ‘Severance’ lol
2 words : Virtue Signaling. That's Employer Mindset and P.R. and H.R.
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Do I get anything for being ginger?
a free beer in an irish bar 😂
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Not using the cancer card… I can’t believe people think that. This is why I never tell people that I’ve gone through it😭😭 I glad that you’re here and still that girl 🫶🏿
The "____ card" is such a foul name for what is clearly a desire and request for grace. If I've struggled for xyz reason then I would appreciate some human understanding and compassion, but we don't have room for that in current society. I have a couple overlapping conditions that I would never disclose to a hiring manager. Even a well meaning person can refuse to hire someone out of a misplaced desire to "spare" a disabled person the difficulty of working. Never mind that we gotta eat too.
Anyways if you haven't read it, I think you might get a lot out of Health Communism: a Surplus Manifesto (Beatrice Adler-Bolton and Artie Vierkant)
You should go full Karen and start guilt tripping them really heavy, ‘WOW so your not hiring me because I had cancer? You’re REALLY going to tell me I’m not allowed to be sick? Hmmmm I hope you know you’re completely morally bankrupt (unless you hire me!)’
I think for most people it is not direct in terms of disclosure of reasons, but I think what’s bothering me is when businesses encourage ppl to apply when they don’t plan to actually look through applications. Encouraging ppl with disabilities to apply to waste energy that they really need for other things is what I think many of them don’t even think about. At least I am back to my usual self so I have the energy(even though it’s still bad to waste ppls time), but for many ppl that’s a huge waste of limited reserves
That is exactly the behavior that gave "diverse" people a bad name.
@@RokuroCarisu HUH??
@littleboyviserys7725 Guilt tripping. It's a disingenuous and amoral way to get ahead, and it has gotten bad actors into places where they did serious damage, to the point where it has become widely expected. "Oh, a disabled person got a job? Must've been because they manipulated the boss!" The last thing that people should do now is to reinforce that stereotype.
@@RokuroCarisu I was only joking lol I obviously don’t think she should do that, sorry if I didn’t make it obvious, I just thought it would be funny
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