I’m really glad I watched this video cuz I had my own opinions abt and talked to my gf abt and she said she heard it from actual trans ppl’s perspective so I decided to do that and gain a sense of what’s it’s like for them and this video was perfect, thank you for talking abt this
This was a joke/a rhetorical question. However, I have seen some folks (unironiclly) say that it would still count as that. Which is crazy. But hey, when it comes to SJWs logic there's a lot of paradoxes.
@@natasha5553 it's not a stupid question because many trans people will NOT date another trans so what about them. They ARE trans so they're clearly not transphobic but they refuse to date another trans so they ARE transphobic? How?
Also another question I had on my mind if you don’t mind, so we all know that trans men and women are men and women, but my query is that do trans people feel a kind of way when refered to as a trans-man/woman bcuz y’all are men and women, so would you prefer to be refered to as just a man or woman or do you prefer to be preferred to as a man or woman but think that the “trans” is important so as to represent who you are and what you’ve been through?
I'd say it depends on the context. If me being trans does not play a role, I just refer to myself as a man. You can think of trans as a describing adjective you can use if you need to specify something a little more, that means you use trans man just like for example tall man, old man, blonde man and so on. But of course, being trans is also a part of my identity and my experience is different than the experience of cis men. So if that's important I add that I'm a trans man.
Hello from France , i hope you are fine . As a trans people , I want to know your opinion . Do we agree that your inside didn’t change a bit , That your a still the same person inside of you ? That said , what if the difference between a Trans-people and somebody wearing a permanent Disguise ? I honestly don’t see any difference . Surgery change your body , but your mindset , your brain , your cells all the inside is changing . And hormones is not an answer , because a cis women taking the same hormones will have similar results … That’s my point . To me Trans-Identity is comparable to Disguise . No joke , no shame , everyone is free to live his life as he wants . But I don’t understand why is that important to act like it’s exactly the same thing as it’s not .
I think it's more about the presentation than the statement itself. If you write it in your online dating profile in a derogatory manner just to upset trans people then it's kind of transphobic
@@Envision_ Yeah agreed. No need to write “no black, no trans, no XYZ” just swipe left or say not interested instead of pointing out why. It’s okay to have any preference- weight, hair color, race, gender, sex, genitals, etc
@@1232-e7b in a normal world it wouldn't be an issue to have preferences, but right now transactivists are pushing an agenda of fear and intimidation that is particularly hostile towards lesbians. Check out the "cotton ceiling" or the "boxer ceiling"
I do think racial preferences are lowkey racist though, as unlike with being trans, race is completely irrelevant to your sex organs or secondary sex characteristics. I mean, you can sleep with whoever you want, but I honestly think more race mixing and less race isolated dating couldn’t hurt.
@@punkgrl325 Im mean some people are just more attracted to certain races (usually their own) or prefer dating within their own culture. I dont see anything wrong with that.
I am a heterosexual man And I would not date a mtf even if said person had surgery and looks very feminine. It is just my preference. I can be friends with mtf . in fact I have a mtf friend.
“Attraction” is by its very nature discriminatory, since as individuals we’re not going to be attracted to everyone; for any numerous reasons. That’s not a bad thing, some kind of discernment is necessary if you hope to have a successful relationship.
To be fair theres are several forms of Attraction. And not all of them deal with physical appearance nor what's in the person's pants. And why you hear people say "I would never have thought I would be with a person like -so&so- in a million year, but something just cliked and we know enjoying our 3rd year together" so often. Edit: It's quite wholesome when you think about it. 🙂
@@KaeganThornhillTheCyberRaven yhhh i have never heard that from a trans couple , I have never seen anyone saying this about trans people . Trans people should date themselves , if they are just like everyone else . They don’t even see themselves as the same . That’s why they don’t feels attracted by each other …
@@rainy1822 were you trying to make a point ? Actually do you know a Transgender Couple ? I’m sick entire of those trans people who don’t treat other transgenders as they want Cisgenders to treat them . Why is that even a question to know that somebody doesn’t want to date you ? Si the only valid reason to not date another transPerson is to have a dis phobia too ?? What an easy argument to avoid such an important point dont you think ?… She is a TransMan ? Then if transpeople are so beautiful , and are the same . Why does she say that she would rather like to date a Cisgender ? That means She-he is not seeing trans the same way she is seeing « Normal » People .
I stopped listening at 4:44. So as a straight man who does not want to date a trans-female, you would call me transphobic. So my question is, if a lesbian does not want to date me is she straightphobic? What about a tall women, is she heightphobic?
your comment implies that a trans woman is a man for you, so yeah, that's transphobic. you can be a straight man, see trans women as women, and still not wat to date them. i mean, if you're into blonde women, the fact that there are also women with brown hair doesn't change the fact that your straight either, right? i didn't say that you can't have preferences or whatever. maybe watch the whole video next time, lol.
@@einjans A trans woman is a man to me.I'm not dating someone with a foot long bulging in there pants after seeing me.I have a preference,and it's people who were never males and don't have snakes coming out of there zippers.
No .... date who you want ...... a trans person is not the sex they think they are . The key here is think you are . Just because you think does not make it real .
It does depend. It is if you won't date them BECAUSE they are trans and DISLIKE trans people. It's not when it's just a preference and they absolutely SUPPORT you.
though, i don't think that you can generalize that. in the end, i personally don't care whether someone wants to date trans people or not, but have they met every single trans person? no, so how are they supposed to know. why not say "i don't wanna date this person specifically". why do we always have to reduce trans people to their transness?
@@einjans I totally support that. There could be someone that I or someone else could find really attractive, and although I would be shocked if they were trans, I would still consider them attractive.
No, it isn't transphobic. And I think what you mean by transphobic is actually discriminatory as phobic by definition implies a phobia or fear. It is like any other sexual preference. I personally wouldn't just outright not date a trans person but the likelihood is very low that I would be compatible with them long term. As a straight man, if a trans person has a penis, and is extremely passable I would not outright say no to a sexual relationship, but it likely wouldn't go any farther than that. I would like to have children with my biological material at some point, so that isn't going to work long term for me. I know all about adoption, I was adopted, but If I have a choice I would rather not go that route. It's really a preference like anything else and I think it is unfair to label someone a disgusting bigot because they may not be ABLE or comfortable being sexually intimate with someone who has the same "setup" that they have.
What ? You would not say no to someone who had a penis ? In other words a man ? Any way as a man you cannot have a child with a trans woman because they cannot give birth lol you didn’t know about that ???
@@olivieraton9591 I’m a cisgender straight man but I wouldn’t have a relationship with a trans woman because of the whole genitalia not being natural. Plus the Statement “I don’t want to” is all that is needed no explanation required. You could not want to date someone for having a certain hair type or for having crooked teeth so the notion that not wanting to have a relationship with someone who has undergone surgery to have a vagina is utterly fanciful. I wouldn’t even date a cisgender woman who has plastic surgery, I’m just picky that’s all, so no it’s not transphobic. I’m a progressive Democrat and I support the lgbtq community but it is utterly bigoted for them to claim transphobia for the latter. I only want to date cisgender women and there’s nothing wrong with that.
Single biological mothers get turn down every second simply because they have children.A lot of straight men do not fell comfortable dating a women with kids regardless how attractive the woman is. The dating world is brutal out there. It hurts but we need to respect the person right to choose who they want to date.
Honestly im watching this in 2021 and i wish more people were as understanding as you when it comes to some of us just having our own preferences for who we wanna date. I has Aspergers so my mind is a bit more logic based not feelings so the gender identity thing is still hard for me to understand in certain areas but i always try to respect peoples pronouns even if i dont believe what they believe.
Let's put it this way, if I am attractive to men, that does not make me sexist against woman. It's my permanent sexual orientation. The biggest turn on are their gentials naturally, so there is a difference when someone doesn't want to be force to date a trans vs bullying and harassing them & unfriending them. Pansexuals is something that are available to trans in order to be happy romantically in addition to dating other trans of opposite gender or not.
even trans woman do not that want to date a trans men so are they transphobic ? just my saying... I am open for discussion, because why is it always that straight man or women should be open for both sides but not always the other side.
@@einjans if you are okay with an unpopular opinion, I can tell you a truth. but I hope you do not delete the comment, because either you are deleting it or YT is immediately, just an Unpopular Opinion on the West I want to know your opinion,Trans woman have been hooking up with men for a long time, it is not a secret. Trans woman were so called "Discriminated" used to take only Sex jobs, who do you think? clogged them all the time? it was Trans woman, if a man is being secure in a sexual relationship with a trans woman because there are reasons, first men pref to hump with raw than with plastic (yes I said it, but that is so true.) when you are a trans woman, it is a complex for men and science that they would not get pregnant. so that is why in sexual places at least men were fine with have that kind of relationship with trans woman, even now I am saying as a straight male, that Trans Woman are not a treat to Men they are a treat to Women, especially in this Climate. Because first, Men will not have to pay any kind of Child Support or Alimony, Men are more secure with Trans woman then Women ( Yes an Unpopular opinion ). while Trans woman are having less options first they will not cheat, Second they will not apply for a Divorce Third, they kind of understand Men's mind than women do, it is a fact!. So the more and more, Men and Transwoman get into a Relationship, the more and more the laws against a men become one sided, Trans woman always have a chance with men, yes, the more and more Trans woman start looking like a Female the more and more the Men will accept and More and more the women, will reject it because Men not preferring them over Trans woman will become a treat. Yes, Women were the ones to start accepting Trans Woman but they will be the last ones to hate you, while Men were the ones to start Hating it, but in the end they will be the ones to start accepting it. It is more like a Open Relationship scenario, Women start it and then when Men start becoming over comfortable with it then it is not okay with women. even the Religion I practice openly supports Transgenders , even we have some knowledge but if we can tamper with Nature a bit even there is a possibility that men can get pregnant as well that means there will not be a need of women, this is very dangerous to be infact, and Hinduism is one of the oldest religions in the World that have a Bisexual God that have relationship with another male God and actually gets pregnant and gives birth but you might think because he is biologically female but he is not, at the same time he even pro creates with his wives and at the same time make them pregnant as well. we did not dive so much into science because there will be a thought for men is that they will no longer need women aswell.
@@einjans I even would not be surprised if you have deleted the comment. because I know it so nuance to the western society. that is why some truth is better to be remained untold. If you think I am spreading some kind of Conspiracy, Check or Research yourself what Hinduism says about Transgender, we do not even tell it is Unnatural but it is a kind of Idea what will make the other gender disappear entirely. Transgender and Gay are not a new concept it is really an ancient concept that was only exclusive to Men even in Greek Empire there were Gay men in the Military not for War but to favor men for their sexual needs.
Some of us don't like males with male parts and are not attracted to males that changed their sex and take hormones. This alone,the lack of attraction is not transphobic. Don't confuse what happens in the bedroom with social interactions.
I'm sorry but even with the best surgeries and hormonal treatments you'll never be fully 100% physically the gender you identify with. If you can find a trans woman just as attractive as a biological female who was always a female, that's great but everyone is built differently with different preferences. I've never seen a trans woman that didn't appear masculine in any way. Doesn't mean you hate them or invalidate their experiences. You can't choose sexual attraction. I respect people for who they are. I can have a connection with anyone but it's platonic.
@@einjans Also ich hab jetzt so anderthalb Minuten geschafft mit den Untertiteln, mache das aber eher morgen fertig. 🤷♂️ Ich amüsiere mich aber, könnte so fucking witzige Untertitel schreiben, einfach indem ich alles wörtlich übersetze, bin teilweise n bisschen zwiegespalten ob ich ernsthaft gute Untertitel schreiben soll, oder es mir n bisschen einfacher mache (und die Untertitel ein bisschen witziger) 😂 Also ich versuche bisher es möglichst gut zu machen, außer halt an Stellen wo ich mir wirklich nicht zu helfen weiß, es geht aber teilweise auch echt verdammt viel Stilistik und so flöten dabei 😅
@@einjans Ich wollte ja ursprünglich das Video einfach nur gucken und hab das einfach noch nicht mal gemacht, nur das, was ich übersetzt hab, bin einfach straight (so straight ich halt kann) ins translaten gegangen 😂
Genitals are a deciding factor if I wanna date someone. Gender identity is a deciding factor if I wanna date someone. The closest il date to a trans person is a non binary who is born a female
Nobody has to date anyone they aren't attracted to. Whether it will hurt or not is irrelevant, because you can't ask people to enter a relationship without attraction. That would be saying "You must surrender your right to have a relationship that fulfills your needs because It would deny me the right to have my needs fulfilled by you."
Plain and simple, no it’s not . We all have a preference . Straight date straight , trans date trans . You can’t get mad at someone for having a preference
Sex and Gender are two different things!! What if I am not attracted to a trans person as much as I am attracted to a cis gender person... You can't force me to date someone who I am not attracted to.... I am not saying that a trans man is less of a man I am just saying I am not attracted to them. Does that make me transphobic? Should I force myself to be attracted to someone I am not? Being cis gendered and trans are two different things....Stop making these two things similar!! If you are a trans man or woman or non binary I respect that.... I am so sorry....I really am.... that I am not attracted to trans people as much as I am too cis gender people but just because I am not attracted to you doesn't mean I don't respect you or love you as a trans person.... I am attracted to the opposite sex and gender
having a preference is nothing you need to be sorry for. you seem to see trans people as their gender, so i don't think it's transphobic. i was talking about people who say they wouldn't date trans people because they still see them as their assigned gender.
@@einjans Yes but a trans-woman is still a man. Though I will remain respectful to what she wants to be called, you and I both know that "most" men are attracted to that of the opposite sex (furthermore genitalia). Whether or not she underwent surgery, rejecting a trans woman because she once had/has a shaft in her pants is a perfectly valid reason.
Call.it what you want I wouldn't date a trans because I'm not homosexual I a man , man was created to be with a woman and woman was created to be with a man ..
Es würde mich natürlich nicht stören ein Mädchen zu daten, das trans ist, nur weil sie Mal als Junge geboren wurde. Allerdings ist es schon etwas sehr anderes (im Endeffekt auch körperlich) als Cis-Typ eine Trans-Freundin zu haben als eine Cis-Freundin. Ich wüsste also echt nicht, wie ich reagieren sollte, wenn ich so etwas erst etwas später bei einem Mädchen erfahren würde. Würde sie und generell Trans-Personen nicht verletzen wollen.
It depends, for some reasons and it depends on the way you say it? Are you kidding me?! Plain and simple, NO. Why does your kind always have to over complicate issues and give a grand freaking theater?
"it depends on the reason" That's the thing, absolutely nobody should have to explain themselves why they don't want to date anybody, "i don't want to" is all that's nedded as an explanation, end of discussion
thank you. you explained this so well and are understanding and logical. everywhere on social media if ppl say they don’t want to date a trans person or a bi person ppl will get enraged. call you transphobia/biphobic. i care about trans and bi ppl. i would be their friend and help them in any way that i can. but they are just not my preference to date. yet ppl will get so angry and will bully and harrass you online for it. there’s no compassion. it genuinely hurt my feelings when ppl are like this. it’s like they feel like they have the right to tell me who to date or else. like it gave me anxiety. bc i don’t want ppl to think i’m transphobic when i’m not. they are just not my preference to date. ppl today can be bullies and i feel like this hurts trans ppl bc it makes cis ppl feel like they are being attacked and their feelings don’t matter. they will say stuff like “just say you’re transphobic and go”, “you’re a terrible person” “bigot” etc. i really appreciate this video.
@@einjans how is it transphobic to want to date only a cis straight person? you even said it in your video that a lot of trans ppl don’t want to date other trans ppl and saw nothing wrong with it? and why does everyone else get to have a preference except straight cis ppl don’t? i don’t understand. why are our feelings dismissed? a lot of us respect lgbt+ members and their preferences. why do you guys feel you have the authority to tell us that if trans ppl aren’t our preference to DATE we are transphobic. it’s absurd how you guys want us to care about your feelings yet you completely disregard ours. dating in its self is discriminatory. women humiliate short men and say they aren’t masculine and gays and women applaud that thinking. rejection is a part of dating and it can be hurtful as a plus size woman i can tell you i have been discriminated for being fat. did it hurt my feelings? yes. but i didn’t yell fatphobia to them just bc they didn’t want a fat woman. i understood i wasn’t their preference even though i could offer anything a skinny woman can. they just wanted a woman’s with a skiny body. i know there are others that will accept me for who i am. i don’t try to cancel or harass men and call them fat phonic. that’s something trans and bi ppls need to learn. learn to deal with rejection in a healthy non accusatory way. ✌️
It is perfectly fine and civil if you want to break up with somebody if their trans cause first of all they basically lied to and didn’t tell you from the start second its not transphobic to not wanna date a trans person you can’t make people like trans people.
No, it's not. The fact that this is even a regular conversation is seriously baffling. This is akin to someone calling you a racist because you don't care for Indian food.
I respect this video, thank you for sharing your opinion! I never really got to know about the topic so I was curious about various perspectives on it. I have one question/comment though. When picking a partner, you should be hyper selective. If your goal of dating is to marry your partner and forever be with them, you should really make sure that you are fully compatible with eachother! This even goes for things as "insignificant" as diet. For example, I am a terrible cook. If my partner couldn't cook for whatever reason, and she had some important diet she has to follow, it'd just cause a lot of problems later on. The point at 4:58 is one I can't really get behind. I think that genital preference is completely okay to have. As much as it could hurt to get rejected, being hyper-selective is part of looking for a partner whom you want you spend your life with. For me, I have no attraction to guys. In the future I'd like to become a father once I am financially stable enough for the opportunity to present itself. For those reasons I would not date a trans person. Creating the "next generation" is something extremely important in my culture. Having grandchildren is something every grandfather dreams of. I really want to experience being a father myself as well! I don't hate transgender people, trans women for example, at all. I don't hold any ill will against them nor does it hold me back from starting a friendship with them. In the situation where if I was dating my girlfriend for 5+ years and then I would find out that she is trans, I'd feel very sad but end the relationship because being biological parents is something that I want to achieve with my girlfriend. It is better to end the relationship early, rather than confront the problem later on when the opportunities are not so pleasant. Transparency and trust are incredibly important factors. Under the circumstances you described, I would be transphobic. However, I do not hate people who are transgender at all. I think it is very important to differenciate between not wanting to start a friendship because they are trans and not wanting to start a relationship because they are trans. A relationship is often intimate. Getting rejected is painful, but not everything is mine to have. People should still have the freedom to choose who they want as their partner, and also who they don't want as their partner, regardless of how stupid the reason is.
Not being attracted to trans people is just preference. It‘s perfectly fine to care about genitalia. Even if they had it changed, you might only be into “the real thing“. Nobody is to question that. If I‘d be attracted to someone and they‘d reveal that they are trans, I wouldn‘t be attracted to them anymore, because I prefer natural female genitalia.
Maybe its easier for me because im bisexueal but i couldn't imagine how the fact that someone is trans would affect my feelings for them. Sometimes i might not even notice that someone is trans and i never fell in love with someone's genitals but with their personality and maybe their gender but never with their sex. And if i catched feelings for someone these feelings wouldn't suddenly change if they come out to me and tell me their trans.
@fredrica gordon hm you might be right. Maybe its different for everyone, but i have a question: you said you tried and its a no-go for you. Did you fall in love with a trans* person and your feeling towards them go away when you found out about them being trans*? Because thats the part i'm not understanding. That being in love or feeling sexual attraction immediately goes away...
I get that I'm giving an opinion nobody asked for, and I'm not trying to offend anyone, but I think that the dysphoria is the issue. That discontent seems to be present even after transition. I feel like the solution is to understand and address the underlying neurological issue rather than try to become the oposite gender. That seems like putting lidocaine on a gunshot wound. It will only pretend to help, and only for a little while. Understanding and repairing the injury is the only way to save people suffering from this. I feel like we as a society have been denying that there is some underlying problem that causes gender dysphoria simply because it seems more social/politically expedient to believe that there isn't anything wrong. It's easier to claim that a person with gender dysphoria really is the opposite gender, and that transition will solve the pain, than study and treat the condition. No matter how you slice it, not being able to accept or recognize your biological sex isn't normal. That's a sign that wires are crossed. We don't pretend that obsessive compulsive disorder isn't neurological. We don't pretend that major depression doesn't have a cause in the brain. It's the same with schizophrenia, panic disorder, and dozens more. We could be trying to actually treat the disease, but instead we validate the symptoms. That isn't a sane or ethical thing for us to be doing.
I really like your video. It gave me a good perspective. The only thing I would disagree with is this. As a straight man I don’t think that not wanting to date someone because they have a penis isn’t transphobic even if you think they are attractive. There’s nothing wrong with being friends but if the man has no desire to be sexually involved with the other, then that’s just preference. Good luck though💪🏾
I wouldn't date a trans, but I hope all transexual are able to find true love. Let's all try to move forward and not put out energy to harm a group of people trying to live their lives.
How is this still an issue. You simply don’t owe anybody an explanation. You date who you want to date and can say no to all the rest. If anybody demands an explanation on why you don’t want to date them, call the police on that idiot and get a restraining order.
I disagree In the nicest possible way. Not commenting on this to hate on you or anything because I have many trans friends that are awesome and fully I support. But I feel like your love life is totally up to you. Personally, I rather date a biological woman (sorry if that was an offensive way to say it, can't think of the real word) But I say this because in the future I want to have children. Others' opinions might differ because some people don't want to date a girl who was biologically once a guy. at the end of the day it's all preference. and its totally up to the person who wants to date. that being said, I know this video was made in 2019 but I'm proud of you for coming out as trans and ANYONE who else is trans. Please don't take this as a transphobic comment, these are just my thoughts and opinion.
Is it transphobic to not date a trans person? No. Just like its not homophobic cause a straight guy doesnt want to date a gay or a gay guy refuses to date a certain gay guy. If it is, then this could be applied to ALL genders and sexual orientations - such as a lesbian/gay being called straightphobic for not dating the opposite sex. Simply reason they don't want to date you? They're not interested in you. If you have to find a better reason, you're just gonna find answers you don't want and will hate yourself for it. Just move on, that's it. I'm straight an plenty of women passed me up. Should I start assuming some ridiculous phobia? No, that would be irrational, immature, and deeply insecure. I'm not their type, i'm not attractive enough, whatever, it doesn't matter.
This is a good exemple as a man i want to know If the Date Person is trans because i will Not Date this Person. So its better to know the real pronounce because i would felt tricked
I am always happy to call people by the gender pronouns they have chosen, that does not change the fact that to me they are not a biological female. Yes a person is more than just their genitalia but realistically speaking genitalia play a big part in the happiness of both parties. Saying that “if you are no longer attracted to someone because they are trans makes you transphobic” is generally wrong. Transphobia is the general disliking and discrimination towards trans people, not being attracted to someone is not discriminatory the word for that is preference. I’m sorry to sound harsh but its hard or even impossible to replace biology, and no matter how good looking a mtf is i will always chose a true biological female over them. People seem to try and push their dating view on others but tend to forget that what works for them doesn’t work for everyone. You are allowed your own preference no matter how stupid or specific it is and you should not be called phobic anything for it. Some people will reject others for hair colour, even if that person dyed their hair it doesn’t change the biology that naturally they are blonde for example. If you don’t care about the stuff i mentioned thats great! I’m happy for you and wish you and your future partner the best.
@@paloma4444 its not transphobic, I don’t dislike trans people I just wouldn’t date one. You seem to have a really misconstrued view of what “phobia” really means, sadly nowadays having any preference is classified as bigotry or transphobia.
How? People are stating the truth. If people don’t want to date a transgender then you have to respect because it’s people’s preference which is their human rights. Everyone has human rights!
if someone i date reveals that abt themselves i would take a step back... to u it seems like not a big deal but to me it is.... transphobic, maybe but i would say it's more of a preference **I would say someone who refuses to date other races a racist
Not transphobic, you can date or not date anyone for whatever personal reasons you may have.
I’m really glad I watched this video cuz I had my own opinions abt and talked to my gf abt and she said she heard it from actual trans ppl’s perspective so I decided to do that and gain a sense of what’s it’s like for them and this video was perfect, thank you for talking abt this
The Bigger Question is : Is it Transphoic if a Trans person refuse to date another Trans person? 🤔🤔
No...
This is such a stupid question
This was a joke/a rhetorical question.
However, I have seen some folks (unironiclly) say that it would still count as that. Which is crazy. But hey, when it comes to SJWs logic there's a lot of paradoxes.
@@natasha5553 it's not a stupid question because many trans people will NOT date another trans so what about them. They ARE trans so they're clearly not transphobic but they refuse to date another trans so they ARE transphobic? How?
@@KaeganThornhillTheCyberRaven that blasted ever moving finish line, am I right😏
@@q.t.gamingfamily Indeed it does. And thickened every glass ceiling. Sad times we live in.
Also another question I had on my mind if you don’t mind, so we all know that trans men and women are men and women, but my query is that do trans people feel a kind of way when refered to as a trans-man/woman bcuz y’all are men and women, so would you prefer to be refered to as just a man or woman or do you prefer to be preferred to as a man or woman but think that the “trans” is important so as to represent who you are and what you’ve been through?
I'd say it depends on the context. If me being trans does not play a role, I just refer to myself as a man. You can think of trans as a describing adjective you can use if you need to specify something a little more, that means you use trans man just like for example tall man, old man, blonde man and so on. But of course, being trans is also a part of my identity and my experience is different than the experience of cis men. So if that's important I add that I'm a trans man.
Hello from France , i hope you are fine .
As a trans people , I want to know your opinion .
Do we agree that your inside didn’t change a bit , That your a still the same person inside of you ?
That said , what if the difference between a Trans-people and somebody wearing a permanent Disguise ?
I honestly don’t see any difference .
Surgery change your body , but your mindset , your brain , your cells all the inside is changing .
And hormones is not an answer , because a cis women taking the same hormones will have similar results …
That’s my point .
To me Trans-Identity is comparable to Disguise .
No joke , no shame , everyone is free to live his life as he wants .
But I don’t understand why is that important to act like it’s exactly the same thing as it’s not .
No, it doesn’t. Why would a straight guy want to date a biological man or why would a straight girl want to date a biological woman?
If they’re pansexual or heterosexual and like trans people as well
Pansexuality and heterosexuality could be viewed as polar opposites but ok
@@morganfae5227 some heterosexuals like trans people that fit to their standards, dimwit.
@@gracesmelodys gay
@no no no they are if the person they’re with have gotten surgery
I saw an Instagram post about this and it basically implied that you should date trans people as a straight or you are transphobic🤦♂️
They got the wrong idea. There is a thing as pansexuals which they are attractive anyone across the spectrum regardless of gender.
It's becoming a more popular opinion in that community. It's a bullshit opinion IMO, But it's happening.
I don't agree with them trying to change the meaning of being straight
Most of the time they bring this up when it comes to Dating TransWomen.
Since by their logic TransMen have a "slighly" easier time finding dates.
Bruh
Calling ppl transphobic for not wanting to date a trans person is kinda like how ppl call racial preferences in dating racist.
I think it's more about the presentation than the statement itself. If you write it in your online dating profile in a derogatory manner just to upset trans people then it's kind of transphobic
@@Envision_
Yeah agreed. No need to write “no black, no trans, no XYZ” just swipe left or say not interested instead of pointing out why. It’s okay to have any preference- weight, hair color, race, gender, sex, genitals, etc
@@1232-e7b in a normal world it wouldn't be an issue to have preferences, but right now transactivists are pushing an agenda of fear and intimidation that is particularly hostile towards lesbians. Check out the "cotton ceiling" or the "boxer ceiling"
I do think racial preferences are lowkey racist though, as unlike with being trans, race is completely irrelevant to your sex organs or secondary sex characteristics. I mean, you can sleep with whoever you want, but I honestly think more race mixing and less race isolated dating couldn’t hurt.
@@punkgrl325 Im mean some people are just more attracted to certain races (usually their own) or prefer dating within their own culture. I dont see anything wrong with that.
I am a heterosexual man
And I would not date a mtf even if said person had surgery and looks very feminine. It is just my preference.
I can be friends with mtf . in fact I have a mtf friend.
That friend still thinks like a guy and is only befriending you to fuck you eventually.
@@MONKEYSCHANNEL327 You realize two people can be friends right?
@@MONKEYSCHANNEL327 this man knows the game
The bigger question is, would date you a FTM? 🤔
But why are you not attracted to someone that looks like a woman and identifies as one
Fake genitalia or same set genetalia just turns me off alot.
“Attraction” is by its very nature discriminatory, since as individuals we’re not going to be attracted to everyone; for any numerous reasons.
That’s not a bad thing, some kind of discernment is necessary if you hope to have a successful relationship.
To be fair theres are several forms of Attraction. And not all of them deal with physical appearance nor what's in the person's pants.
And why you hear people say "I would never have thought I would be with a person like -so&so- in a million year, but something just cliked and we know enjoying our 3rd year together" so often.
Edit: It's quite wholesome when you think about it. 🙂
@@KaeganThornhillTheCyberRaven It's more of them already being one thing and not realizing it until later than a sudden switch.
@@KaeganThornhillTheCyberRaven yhhh i have never heard that from a trans couple , I have never seen anyone saying this about trans people .
Trans people should date themselves , if they are just like everyone else .
They don’t even see themselves as the same .
That’s why they don’t feels attracted by each other …
@@olivieraton9591 You musst be an expert on trans People. Hah?
@@rainy1822 were you trying to make a point ?
Actually do you know a Transgender Couple ?
I’m sick entire of those trans people who don’t treat other transgenders as they want Cisgenders to treat them .
Why is that even a question to know that somebody doesn’t want to date you ?
Si the only valid reason to not date another transPerson is to have a dis phobia too ??
What an easy argument to avoid such an important point dont you think ?…
She is a TransMan ? Then if transpeople are so beautiful , and are the same .
Why does she say that she would rather like to date a Cisgender ?
That means She-he is not seeing trans the same way she is seeing « Normal » People .
I stopped listening at 4:44. So as a straight man who does not want to date a trans-female, you would call me transphobic. So my question is, if a lesbian does not want to date me is she straightphobic? What about a tall women, is she heightphobic?
your comment implies that a trans woman is a man for you, so yeah, that's transphobic. you can be a straight man, see trans women as women, and still not wat to date them. i mean, if you're into blonde women, the fact that there are also women with brown hair doesn't change the fact that your straight either, right? i didn't say that you can't have preferences or whatever. maybe watch the whole video next time, lol.
@@einjans A trans woman is a man to me.I'm not dating someone with a foot long bulging in there pants after seeing me.I have a preference,and it's people who were never males and don't have snakes coming out of there zippers.
@@waxenable2467 no ❤
@@einjans ...You can't just reply no with 0 evidence.
@@einjans I don't like pp
No means no.
Goddamn 🙏
No .... date who you want ...... a trans person is not the sex they think they are . The key here is think you are . Just because you think does not make it real .
It does depend. It is if you won't date them BECAUSE they are trans and DISLIKE trans people.
It's not when it's just a preference and they absolutely SUPPORT you.
though, i don't think that you can generalize that. in the end, i personally don't care whether someone wants to date trans people or not, but have they met every single trans person? no, so how are they supposed to know. why not say "i don't wanna date this person specifically". why do we always have to reduce trans people to their transness?
@@einjans I totally support that. There could be someone that I or someone else could find really attractive, and although I would be shocked if they were trans, I would still consider them attractive.
@@gracesmelodys I think this statement is far more transphobic than simply stating that you don't want to date a trans person
It doesn't depend, if you don't want to date a trans person that's you're preference. No one can or should tell you who to date.
No, it isn't transphobic. And I think what you mean by transphobic is actually discriminatory as phobic by definition implies a phobia or fear. It is like any other sexual preference. I personally wouldn't just outright not date a trans person but the likelihood is very low that I would be compatible with them long term. As a straight man, if a trans person has a penis, and is extremely passable I would not outright say no to a sexual relationship, but it likely wouldn't go any farther than that. I would like to have children with my biological material at some point, so that isn't going to work long term for me. I know all about adoption, I was adopted, but If I have a choice I would rather not go that route. It's really a preference like anything else and I think it is unfair to label someone a disgusting bigot because they may not be ABLE or comfortable being sexually intimate with someone who has the same "setup" that they have.
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What ? You would not say no to someone who had a penis ?
In other words a man ?
Any way as a man you cannot have a child with a trans woman because they cannot give birth lol you didn’t know about that ???
@@olivieraton9591 I’m a cisgender straight man but I wouldn’t have a relationship with a trans woman because of the whole genitalia not being natural. Plus the Statement “I don’t want to” is all that is needed no explanation required. You could not want to date someone for having a certain hair type or for having crooked teeth so the notion that not wanting to have a relationship with someone who has undergone surgery to have a vagina is utterly fanciful. I wouldn’t even date a cisgender woman who has plastic surgery, I’m just picky that’s all, so no it’s not transphobic. I’m a progressive Democrat and I support the lgbtq community but it is utterly bigoted for them to claim transphobia for the latter. I only want to date cisgender women and there’s nothing wrong with that.
@@metalreignz6557 ?
@@Sub-om7hq your mom nigga
No. Not transphobic at all.
Single biological mothers get turn down every second simply because they have children.A lot of straight men do not fell comfortable dating a women with kids regardless how attractive the woman is. The dating world is brutal out there. It hurts but we need to respect the person right to choose who they want to date.
Honestly im watching this in 2021 and i wish more people were as understanding as you when it comes to some of us just having our own preferences for who we wanna date. I has Aspergers so my mind is a bit more logic based not feelings so the gender identity thing is still hard for me to understand in certain areas but i always try to respect peoples pronouns even if i dont believe what they believe.
Let's put it this way, if I am attractive to men, that does not make me sexist against woman. It's my permanent sexual orientation. The biggest turn on are their gentials naturally, so there is a difference when someone doesn't want to be force to date a trans vs bullying and harassing them & unfriending them. Pansexuals is something that are available to trans in order to be happy romantically in addition to dating other trans of opposite gender or not.
even trans woman do not that want to date a trans men so are they transphobic ? just my saying... I am open for discussion, because why is it always that straight man or women should be open for both sides but not always the other side.
bro, maybe you should watch the video, i literally talked about that wtf
@@einjans if you are okay with an unpopular opinion, I can tell you a truth. but I hope you do not delete the comment, because either you are deleting it or YT is immediately, just an Unpopular Opinion on the West I want to know your opinion,Trans woman have been hooking up with men for a long time, it is not a secret. Trans woman were so called "Discriminated" used to take only Sex jobs, who do you think? clogged them all the time? it was Trans woman, if a man is being secure in a sexual relationship with a trans woman because there are reasons, first men pref to hump with raw than with plastic (yes I said it, but that is so true.) when you are a trans woman, it is a complex for men and science that they would not get pregnant. so that is why in sexual places at least men were fine with have that kind of relationship with trans woman, even now I am saying as a straight male, that Trans Woman are not a treat to Men they are a treat to Women, especially in this Climate. Because first, Men will not have to pay any kind of Child Support or Alimony, Men are more secure with Trans woman then Women ( Yes an Unpopular opinion ). while Trans woman are having less options first they will not cheat, Second they will not apply for a Divorce Third, they kind of understand Men's mind than women do, it is a fact!. So the more and more, Men and Transwoman get into a Relationship, the more and more the laws against a men become one sided, Trans woman always have a chance with men, yes, the more and more Trans woman start looking like a Female the more and more the Men will accept and More and more the women, will reject it because Men not preferring them over Trans woman will become a treat. Yes, Women were the ones to start accepting Trans Woman but they will be the last ones to hate you, while Men were the ones to start Hating it, but in the end they will be the ones to start accepting it. It is more like a Open Relationship scenario, Women start it and then when Men start becoming over comfortable with it then it is not okay with women. even the Religion I practice openly supports Transgenders , even we have some knowledge but if we can tamper with Nature a bit even there is a possibility that men can get pregnant as well that means there will not be a need of women, this is very dangerous to be infact, and Hinduism is one of the oldest religions in the World that have a Bisexual God that have relationship with another male God and actually gets pregnant and gives birth but you might think because he is biologically female but he is not, at the same time he even pro creates with his wives and at the same time make them pregnant as well. we did not dive so much into science because there will be a thought for men is that they will no longer need women aswell.
@@einjans I even would not be surprised if you have deleted the comment. because I know it so nuance to the western society. that is why some truth is better to be remained untold. If you think I am spreading some kind of Conspiracy, Check or Research yourself what Hinduism says about Transgender, we do not even tell it is Unnatural but it is a kind of Idea what will make the other gender disappear entirely. Transgender and Gay are not a new concept it is really an ancient concept that was only exclusive to Men even in Greek Empire there were Gay men in the Military not for War but to favor men for their sexual needs.
Some of us don't like males with male parts and are not attracted to males that changed their sex and take hormones.
This alone,the lack of attraction is not transphobic.
Don't confuse what happens in the bedroom with social interactions.
I'm sorry but even with the best surgeries and hormonal treatments you'll never be fully 100% physically the gender you identify with. If you can find a trans woman just as attractive as a biological female who was always a female, that's great but everyone is built differently with different preferences. I've never seen a trans woman that didn't appear masculine in any way. Doesn't mean you hate them or invalidate their experiences. You can't choose sexual attraction. I respect people for who they are. I can have a connection with anyone but it's platonic.
Omg mir ist grade erst bewusst geworden, dass im Hintergrund das Schloss Einstein Intro läuft 😂
muss!
@@einjans Also ich hab jetzt so anderthalb Minuten geschafft mit den Untertiteln, mache das aber eher morgen fertig. 🤷♂️ Ich amüsiere mich aber, könnte so fucking witzige Untertitel schreiben, einfach indem ich alles wörtlich übersetze, bin teilweise n bisschen zwiegespalten ob ich ernsthaft gute Untertitel schreiben soll, oder es mir n bisschen einfacher mache (und die Untertitel ein bisschen witziger) 😂 Also ich versuche bisher es möglichst gut zu machen, außer halt an Stellen wo ich mir wirklich nicht zu helfen weiß, es geht aber teilweise auch echt verdammt viel Stilistik und so flöten dabei 😅
@@einjans Ich wollte ja ursprünglich das Video einfach nur gucken und hab das einfach noch nicht mal gemacht, nur das, was ich übersetzt hab, bin einfach straight (so straight ich halt kann) ins translaten gegangen 😂
Genitals are a deciding factor if I wanna date someone. Gender identity is a deciding factor if I wanna date someone. The closest il date to a trans person is a non binary who is born a female
Nobody has to date anyone they aren't attracted to. Whether it will hurt or not is irrelevant, because you can't ask people to enter a relationship without attraction. That would be saying "You must surrender your right to have a relationship that fulfills your needs because It would deny me the right to have my needs fulfilled by you."
Plain and simple, no it’s not . We all have a preference . Straight date straight , trans date trans . You can’t get mad at someone for having a preference
Yes you can also you are a moron
Sex and Gender are two different things!!
What if I am not attracted to a trans person as much as I am attracted to a cis gender person...
You can't force me to date someone who I am not attracted to....
I am not saying that a trans man is less of a man
I am just saying I am not attracted to them.
Does that make me transphobic?
Should I force myself to be attracted to someone I am not?
Being cis gendered and trans are two different things....Stop making these two things similar!!
If you are a trans man or woman or non binary I respect that....
I am so sorry....I really am.... that I am not attracted to trans people as much as I am too cis gender people but just because I am not attracted to you doesn't mean I don't respect you or love you as a trans person....
I am attracted to the opposite sex and gender
having a preference is nothing you need to be sorry for. you seem to see trans people as their gender, so i don't think it's transphobic. i was talking about people who say they wouldn't date trans people because they still see them as their assigned gender.
@@einjans Yes but a trans-woman is still a man. Though I will remain respectful to what she wants to be called, you and I both know that "most" men are attracted to that of the opposite sex (furthermore genitalia). Whether or not she underwent surgery, rejecting a trans woman because she once had/has a shaft in her pants is a perfectly valid reason.
Call.it what you want I wouldn't date a trans because I'm not homosexual I a man , man was created to be with a woman and woman was created to be with a man ..
Not a difficult topic. It may be difficult for the trans person. But not for the one who doesnt want to date with a trans person.
Es würde mich natürlich nicht stören ein Mädchen zu daten, das trans ist, nur weil sie Mal als Junge geboren wurde.
Allerdings ist es schon etwas sehr anderes (im Endeffekt auch körperlich) als Cis-Typ eine Trans-Freundin zu haben als eine Cis-Freundin.
Ich wüsste also echt nicht, wie ich reagieren sollte, wenn ich so etwas erst etwas später bei einem Mädchen erfahren würde.
Würde sie und generell Trans-Personen nicht verletzen wollen.
It depends, for some reasons and it depends on the way you say it? Are you kidding me?! Plain and simple, NO. Why does your kind always have to over complicate issues and give a grand freaking theater?
"it depends on the reason"
That's the thing, absolutely nobody should have to explain themselves why they don't want to date anybody, "i don't want to" is all that's nedded as an explanation, end of discussion
thank you. you explained this so well and are understanding and logical. everywhere on social media if ppl say they don’t want to date a trans person or a bi person ppl will get enraged. call you transphobia/biphobic. i care about trans and bi ppl. i would be their friend and help them in any way that i can. but they are just not my preference to date. yet ppl will get so angry and will bully and harrass you online for it. there’s no compassion. it genuinely hurt my feelings when ppl are like this. it’s like they feel like they have the right to tell me who to date or else. like it gave me anxiety. bc i don’t want ppl to think i’m transphobic when i’m not. they are just not my preference to date. ppl today can be bullies and i feel like this hurts trans ppl bc it makes cis ppl feel like they are being attacked and their feelings don’t matter. they will say stuff like “just say you’re transphobic and go”, “you’re a terrible person” “bigot” etc. i really appreciate this video.
no one is forcing anyone to date someone they don't want to date but why wouldn't you date a bi person, like, that sounds biphobic to me.
@@einjans how is it transphobic to want to date only a cis straight person? you even said it in your video that a lot of trans ppl don’t want to date other trans ppl and saw nothing wrong with it? and why does everyone else get to have a preference except straight cis ppl don’t? i don’t understand. why are our feelings dismissed? a lot of us respect lgbt+ members and their preferences. why do you guys feel you have the authority to tell us that if trans ppl aren’t our preference to DATE we are transphobic. it’s absurd how you guys want us to care about your feelings yet you completely disregard ours. dating in its self is discriminatory. women humiliate short men and say they aren’t masculine and gays and women applaud that thinking. rejection is a part of dating and it can be hurtful as a plus size woman i can tell you i have been discriminated for being fat. did it hurt my feelings? yes. but i didn’t yell fatphobia to them just bc they didn’t want a fat woman. i understood i wasn’t their preference even though i could offer anything a skinny woman can. they just wanted a woman’s with a skiny body. i know there are others that will accept me for who i am. i don’t try to cancel or harass men and call them fat phonic. that’s something trans and bi ppls need to learn. learn to deal with rejection in a healthy non accusatory way. ✌️
@@jonathan__BBE well said my girl well said hope you find a person that loves you
Its called preference
It is perfectly fine and civil if you want to break up with somebody if their trans cause first of all they basically lied to and didn’t tell you from the start second its not transphobic to not wanna date a trans person you can’t make people like trans people.
Nope not transphobic. But if it is then I’m proud of it :3
@Ds0661 here’s a catch I’m a gay male 💀
No, it's not. The fact that this is even a regular conversation is seriously baffling. This is akin to someone calling you a racist because you don't care for Indian food.
Its mot transphobic its straight
A honest person, is always likable. Even if you disagree with him/her. She is nice.
There is no wrong reasons for not being attractive to someone.
You have the right to reject any person for any reason. It's not transphobic in any case.
I respect this video, thank you for sharing your opinion! I never really got to know about the topic so I was curious about various perspectives on it.
I have one question/comment though. When picking a partner, you should be hyper selective. If your goal of dating is to marry your partner and forever be with them, you should really make sure that you are fully compatible with eachother! This even goes for things as "insignificant" as diet. For example, I am a terrible cook. If my partner couldn't cook for whatever reason, and she had some important diet she has to follow, it'd just cause a lot of problems later on.
The point at 4:58 is one I can't really get behind. I think that genital preference is completely okay to have. As much as it could hurt to get rejected, being hyper-selective is part of looking for a partner whom you want you spend your life with.
For me, I have no attraction to guys. In the future I'd like to become a father once I am financially stable enough for the opportunity to present itself. For those reasons I would not date a trans person. Creating the "next generation" is something extremely important in my culture. Having grandchildren is something every grandfather dreams of. I really want to experience being a father myself as well!
I don't hate transgender people, trans women for example, at all. I don't hold any ill will against them nor does it hold me back from starting a friendship with them. In the situation where if I was dating my girlfriend for 5+ years and then I would find out that she is trans, I'd feel very sad but end the relationship because being biological parents is something that I want to achieve with my girlfriend. It is better to end the relationship early, rather than confront the problem later on when the opportunities are not so pleasant. Transparency and trust are incredibly important factors.
Under the circumstances you described, I would be transphobic. However, I do not hate people who are transgender at all.
I think it is very important to differenciate between not wanting to start a friendship because they are trans and not wanting to start a relationship because they are trans. A relationship is often intimate.
Getting rejected is painful, but not everything is mine to have. People should still have the freedom to choose who they want as their partner, and also who they don't want as their partner, regardless of how stupid the reason is.
Not being attracted to trans people is just preference. It‘s perfectly fine to care about genitalia. Even if they had it changed, you might only be into “the real thing“. Nobody is to question that.
If I‘d be attracted to someone and they‘d reveal that they are trans, I wouldn‘t be attracted to them anymore, because I prefer natural female genitalia.
If not dating trans people transphobic then I'm a proud transphobe.
it's not Transphobic. period...
Maybe its easier for me because im bisexueal but i couldn't imagine how the fact that someone is trans would affect my feelings for them. Sometimes i might not even notice that someone is trans and i never fell in love with someone's genitals but with their personality and maybe their gender but never with their sex. And if i catched feelings for someone these feelings wouldn't suddenly change if they come out to me and tell me their trans.
@fredrica gordon hm you might be right. Maybe its different for everyone, but i have a question: you said you tried and its a no-go for you. Did you fall in love with a trans* person and your feeling towards them go away when you found out about them being trans*? Because thats the part i'm not understanding. That being in love or feeling sexual attraction immediately goes away...
This video just captures it in a nutshell.
I get that I'm giving an opinion nobody asked for, and I'm not trying to offend anyone, but I think that the dysphoria is the issue. That discontent seems to be present even after transition. I feel like the solution is to understand and address the underlying neurological issue rather than try to become the oposite gender. That seems like putting lidocaine on a gunshot wound. It will only pretend to help, and only for a little while. Understanding and repairing the injury is the only way to save people suffering from this. I feel like we as a society have been denying that there is some underlying problem that causes gender dysphoria simply because it seems more social/politically expedient to believe that there isn't anything wrong. It's easier to claim that a person with gender dysphoria really is the opposite gender, and that transition will solve the pain, than study and treat the condition. No matter how you slice it, not being able to accept or recognize your biological sex isn't normal. That's a sign that wires are crossed. We don't pretend that obsessive compulsive disorder isn't neurological. We don't pretend that major depression doesn't have a cause in the brain. It's the same with schizophrenia, panic disorder, and dozens more. We could be trying to actually treat the disease, but instead we validate the symptoms. That isn't a sane or ethical thing for us to be doing.
Because «she’s a woman». She’s not though. I can say that because I can define «woman» and you can’t.
I don’t date anyone. Trans probably have a very tiny dating pool.
I really like your video. It gave me a good perspective. The only thing I would disagree with is this. As a straight man I don’t think that not wanting to date someone because they have a penis isn’t transphobic even if you think they are attractive. There’s nothing wrong with being friends but if the man has no desire to be sexually involved with the other, then that’s just preference.
Good luck though💪🏾
Easy: no.
Ist das Vorstadtkrokodile am Anfang?
No, people have preferences and you can’t just tell people who to date just because your offended
5:14 this is SO wrong. What YOU'RE saying is invalidating an individual's sexual orientation and identity.
I wouldn't date a trans, but I hope all transexual are able to find true love. Let's all try to move forward and not put out energy to harm a group of people trying to live their lives.
Yo, ich habs jetzt auch mal geschafft, das war fucking anstrengend. 😪😂
How is this still an issue. You simply don’t owe anybody an explanation. You date who you want to date and can say no to all the rest. If anybody demands an explanation on why you don’t want to date them, call the police on that idiot and get a restraining order.
Neither would anyone else
I disagree In the nicest possible way. Not commenting on this to hate on you or anything because I have many trans friends that are awesome and fully I support. But I feel like your love life is totally up to you. Personally, I rather date a biological woman (sorry if that was an offensive way to say it, can't think of the real word) But I say this because in the future I want to have children. Others' opinions might differ because some people don't want to date a girl who was biologically once a guy. at the end of the day it's all preference. and its totally up to the person who wants to date.
that being said, I know this video was made in 2019 but I'm proud of you for coming out as trans and ANYONE who else is trans. Please don't take this as a transphobic comment, these are just my thoughts and opinion.
Is it transphobic to not date a trans person? No. Just like its not homophobic cause a straight guy doesnt want to date a gay or a gay guy refuses to date a certain gay guy.
If it is, then this could be applied to ALL genders and sexual orientations - such as a lesbian/gay being called straightphobic for not dating the opposite sex.
Simply reason they don't want to date you? They're not interested in you. If you have to find a better reason, you're just gonna find answers you don't want and will hate yourself for it. Just move on, that's it.
I'm straight an plenty of women passed me up. Should I start assuming some ridiculous phobia? No, that would be irrational, immature, and deeply insecure. I'm not their type, i'm not attractive enough, whatever, it doesn't matter.
here is a crazy idea. how about people are allowed to not waning to date whoever they want? i know, crazy right?
Just date a trans person then.
No means no Bill Cosby
Straight for life, I will date whoever i want
Dont care im not dating a biological man
#superstraight
no one cares
Of course not, its not transphobic, if you not like them its fine.
This is a good exemple as a man i want to know If the Date Person is trans because i will Not Date this Person. So its better to know the real pronounce because i would felt tricked
I am always happy to call people by the gender pronouns they have chosen, that does not change the fact that to me they are not a biological female. Yes a person is more than just their genitalia but realistically speaking genitalia play a big part in the happiness of both parties. Saying that “if you are no longer attracted to someone because they are trans makes you transphobic” is generally wrong. Transphobia is the general disliking and discrimination towards trans people, not being attracted to someone is not discriminatory the word for that is preference. I’m sorry to sound harsh but its hard or even impossible to replace biology, and no matter how good looking a mtf is i will always chose a true biological female over them. People seem to try and push their dating view on others but tend to forget that what works for them doesn’t work for everyone. You are allowed your own preference no matter how stupid or specific it is and you should not be called phobic anything for it. Some people will reject others for hair colour, even if that person dyed their hair it doesn’t change the biology that naturally they are blonde for example. If you don’t care about the stuff i mentioned thats great! I’m happy for you and wish you and your future partner the best.
you don't realize why that's transphobic
@@paloma4444 its not transphobic, I don’t dislike trans people I just wouldn’t date one. You seem to have a really misconstrued view of what “phobia” really means, sadly nowadays having any preference is classified as bigotry or transphobia.
I think I just threw up in my mouth a little
Super Straight
*I hate the comments here.*
@Paola Ramirez Naive? You can't even use the word 'too' correctly. :T
How? People are stating the truth. If people don’t want to date a transgender then you have to respect because it’s people’s preference which is their human rights. Everyone has human rights!
Doesn’t matter if you hate the comments. Feelings don’t matter facts do .
if someone i date reveals that abt themselves i would take a step back... to u it seems like not a big deal but to me it is.... transphobic, maybe but i would say it's more of a preference
**I would say someone who refuses to date other races a racist
I’m sorry your still technically a girl so if a girl dated you they would be a lesbian
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Yikes
To all these lesbians who don't want to date me you are straight phobic