anyone get into bed and get really happy cuz you can just t h i nk and daydream about anything (create new book plots in ur head, imaginate real-life senarios, etc.) without having to worry about external stuff like social interaction? like, its something i literally look forward to every day and its kinda concerning. no? just me??
To me, it's not concerning AT ALL. It's too much fun and it's so relaxing, it helps me get over bad things, and it's free. I don't see how it would be concerning, enjoy it and use it to your advantage.
So everyone knows, its normal to day dream. Maladaptive daydreaming is an entirely different thing. It consumes my life. I daydream at work, its like im just waiting for time to pass so i can get home to daydream more. I listen to music and pace around for hours and its like im really there in my day dream. I can be doing something else, like cleaning, reading, playing a game and I'll get the urge to stop what im doing and start daydreaming, and longing to go back to the comfort of my made up world. I'd rather be home daydreaming than actually living. I use it to cope with the abuse i faced as a child. You don't need to be concerned if you daydream occasionally. It becomes maladaptive if its harming your real life.
wow i use to do the music pacing daydream for hours and hours on end. sometimes repeating a song multiple times cause it made the daydream come to life more. it stopped back in 2022 because i ended up getting on mental health medicine. now i can’t get lost in a intense daydream like that without hard effort. Also no more pacing and my relationship with music is completely different. a lot of my favorite songs im not attached to anymore bc the daydreams stopped.🤣
yeaah bro and personally it became really harmful because its like creating a false live and a lot of time I get down because I realise that my daydreaming is not true and I realised that i've come to a point where i need to do less daydreaming bcs it can alternate my vision of reality and it create a lot of problem
or WE can use this imagination to put it in real life with art, i suggest you to often wright those daydreaming thoughts so that its not a time loose and can even help to think more, i just thought of that right now, what do you think about?
it’s so exhausting. whether i’m at school, or hanging out with my friends, or by myself at home, i can’t stop it. it’s like i’m watching everything happen like a movie. they’re just always there with me.
I find myself daydreaming 90% of the day. Even when I walk down the street, when I'm having dinner, when I'm taking a shower, when I'm in class, at all time. I can't enjoy nature, I can't enjoy friends, i am constantly in my head. I spend hours imagining things, I can't sleep because I can make up things in my mind for hours and not take account of time. It is so difficult to deal with, I have to wake up hours before any appointment. If I have work at 9am, I have to wake up at 6 am and I still find myself rushing out the door to not be late. It is ruining my life. I barely have friends, I'm isolated.
I guess maladaptive daydreaming started when I was young, maybe 8 or something, and it quickly added fake scenarios to its list. I used to look forward to creating fake scenarios every night before sleeping. It gradually became even stronger. So strong that I could not even sleep without fake scenarios. I lost my focus on my studies during high school. My responses to the external world became slow. I was also mocked for that many times. It pushed me even further into daydreaming as it had now become my coping mechanism. Nowadays, after almost 20 years I am so lost in my own chain of thoughts that I don't even register what goes around me. I don't remember how I crossed the street or if I locked the room or not (this is quite common, I know but the point is). I want to remain focused on my work, I want to remain present in the situation, and I want to be quick with responses but I also want to explore my thoughts. If I could just balance these I hope I could keep my mind sane.
it has been 1000 days since I have started meditating. This led to multiple changes in how I perceive myself and the world. I have dropped most of the thought trains, or do not even enter them, or notice riding them early. It helped me a a lot. It takes time, because it is literally a retraining of our minds. Or like learning to walk again. I hope you are having a decent day and can manage to spend some time simply being. Blessings
I have done that ever since I've come to myself, to my senses. I am consumed by this phenomenon. When I was young I used to call those plays/stories- 'films' that constantly ran in my head. Once my mother asked 'what are you thinking about' and I gave her these *imaginary batteries* and asked her 'can you see what I see?' and she said no and I had no idea how to answer or explain it any further. Also it's true when I disconnect and knead stories and create characters in my head. They are not real people around me. Sometimes they are faceless and sometimes they are movie characters. I can go on and on about these stories, about it's climax for hrs and hrs or on breaks. When I am doing nothing. I keep thinking of new segments which can be added to the script. It's genuinely so fun. Also helps me withdraw myself from overthinking. And to think that this is one good reason why cinema exist is so wonderful. Someone cooked up something in their head and really brought their imagination to life. How cool is that.
I don't tend to read about people who daydream like you, I've seen many experiences where people imagine their own life in a positive way, in my case it is very similar to your case, I think more about characters and stories I cook in my head and they are a resume of every stimulating detail I've seen like the ambience of the stories, movie frames, music, clothes, character design. That's why watching movies or series triggers MDD to me
@@paz9487 I'm glad to know that you find this relatable. Indeed I can cook full length movies- say for eg with Wang Kar Wai project themes in bg. For some time now I've been in awe of Indie/Hollywood classics for their cinematography. And jdramas too cos they remind me of old Bollywood movies and the impact Lighting techniques had on characters during filmography. At times it's a series- set in different time zones. It's all together a very refreshing way to lighten up my mood. And what you said is true, everything I imagine or have imagined is borrowed inspiration, borrowed art and emotions. But there's so much to discover. Lol I can zone out while watching the movie itself, my head's always brimming with ideas. Instant inspiration. Just a single scene is enough to trigger this state of thinking in me.
I think, I used to do this a LOT when I was a kid, because I always knew I had a wild imagination. It then became a coping mechanism for other reasons, as I need to 'foresee' what will happen to be able to adapt, as my disability causes and triggers anxiety severely. I have learned through communication (with my parents, and currently mostly my boyfriend) that I do not necessarily *need* to foresee what will happen, I just need to be ready. I don't need to 'daydream' about various things and outcomes of a situation, I just need to be ready when faced with them. And I did this without therapy, because I am luckily in a social environment, where I am reminded to communicate my thoughts, and never suppress them.
I daydream all the time because it's easier, I'm able to connect to my truest self or at least who I want to be I guess, and it just makes the world much more bearable, knowing that I'm the creator of the world in my head. But these daydreams may not always be positive... I guess that's the catch
for me it becomes suffocating i make this world to avoid the things i hate about myself, where i am the main character who knows how to do things(when i actually dont i just act) is a lovably person and i have people that love me but people arent people which makes it eh and then i just exist there and then when i finally wake up from it i realize i am no where near that person i don't get what it means to be them i am actually kind of the opposite but i deny it because of how disassociated i am i am insecure i dont know how to talk with people cause idk how to view them as actual people and i feel as if i am just someone unbearable to be around i mean this voice is always there holding me down when i am not daydreaming and using my phone to distract myself i just dont know how to deal with it people have told me i am actually nice i also got my fare share also of being in a suffocating relationship being told otherwise but they also had a problem ngl too but either way any little thing that happenes breaks me anything that doesnt validate me is taken in a bad way i overthink, i mean its so hard to believe that maybe it doesnt have to be personal and maybe its okay to be imperfect i just dint know and maybe its oya to be selfish in a way and not feel bad for everything and take it as if its all my fault i am a human and this is my first time i dont have to have everything figure out i dont have te feel okay all the time i am still young i dont have to act as i know everything and have it figured cause then i ignore the actual thongs i need to work on like my fears insecurities and how its human to feel not okay at certain parts and realize maybe its okay to feel like a loser rn but that doesnt mean i am i gotta figure out how to build my life other than living another shallow one also sorry for venting just wanted a moment to vent it out u dont even have to read i just wanna get whats going on with me out to connect what i have to do lol srry again
does anyone daydream about themselves, or a made-up character like an OC? I daydream about characters but never myself because I cant see myself in those environments
I relate to this in a way I think. My daydreams heavily revolve around who I would like to be, or who I want my "true self" to be. In my mind I can connect with this version of myself easier because I do not have to worry about external factors. It's like, what my life would look like if I was playing in "creative mode".
Heh yeah I feel like I could be the one I want to be but sometimes. . . often. . I just project myself to be the "tragic bad guy" who gets a chance. . . maybe it's because I always doubted and hated myself. . .
1:20🙌 great advice i need to stop doing that too. i literally ruminate over people in my life and its so harmful, i want to start daydreaming about more positive things, be more creative with it instead of replaying the same scenarios with the same people
i used to be a malaprive daydreamer as an physically/mentally abused child it became my escape. it started when i was 7 i literally act out and talk to imaginary people pretending that i was being treated harshly but in different perspective like im fkn cinderela i didn’t realise it until now i have known how to control it
I am really happy to see more people talking about this because it's a real issue that effects the lifestyle of many people, and yes, including myslef. I am glad that I found about it early. I strarted 5 months ago to try to get rid of it and now I am making progress. Now I do not daydream that much anymore. If you are also a maladaptive daydreamer that wants to get rid of maladaptive daydreaming, I am supporting and encouraging you!! I hope for the best for all of us. NEVER GIVE UP, seriously!!! I believe in you all!!
Daydreaming started to grow more in Highschool. The scenarios would always be the same repeating in my mind and I be struggling to focus. I started to forget the simplest things, couldn't understand a single lesson (pretend that i understood), overthink, and grew unpatient with myself. Daydreaming was a coping mechanism to forget the situations around me and suppress my emotions. when i listen to music, it would trigger it easily, and it would be the same music on loop playing for hours with a different or similar scenario from 1hr earlier or the day before that. Tho I would snap out of it , socialize more wit the ppl around me, and take a little break.
I pretty much started maladaptive daydreaming when i was 5 i think, i lived on pretty strict grandparents and i was always isolated, our family was kind of a mess too, when they're all fighting i can't run anywhere, i just had to watch everything, i guess that's the reason i got into maladaptive daydreaming, it was just a coping mechanism that became an dependency part of my life. Until i became a teenager where reality hit harder and made it clear going to daydream was the awful thing to do, but no matter how i run away from it i find myself going back to it
I day dream like all the time it starts as soon as i wake up and stays as long as i go to sleep. Its like doing multitasking all the time, its frustrating and make my mind numb.
How peaceful and mysteriously thoughtful is the animations and the topics .. I didn't knew I was MadD until now..I can connect now..what damage it caused until now. I hope u guys make more content❤❤
I have been stopping myself from daydreaming lately its a bit hard you have to focus on being in the moment. I have to put a stop to it since it ruining me I cant wait for the day to be pass so i can go back to my bed and daydreams for hours until i pass out, if im bored in a social settings im gone, it gets worse when i daydream about something i wanna achieve cuz if i do i will give up on it and stop chasing it maybe because i already got the validation while dreaming or somethig else idk. its fucking hard to stop it
@@georgerobertson9703 yeah I just focus on the current moment and see how things are, sometimes I names things that are happening around me, someone is taking a bus, a kid is crying, nice coffee shops, etc.
I had this since I was a child and yes it's really affecting my life, I can't go with one day without daydreaming and it's like almost 24/7 , always thinking about bad and good scenarios in my head and it will be literally like in a movie, like watching my life in a movie or something, it's really hard for me and I wish one day I could go to good therapy that idk probably make them less but it's just so enjoyable for me, I could cope with my stress with that, Idk how my life would be without my social anxiety people pleasing and the daydreaming.. it's just so consistent and Idk myself anymore without them..
I have ADHD and I do use maladaptive daydreaming as a way to cope to just imagine an amazing videogame or just thinking of myself as some popular person, It also tends to happen when a really interesting idea comes up I find this to be a double edge sword thankfully I don't involve real people most of the time but when it happens I usually have to stop it, Even then I just disconnect from reality because there's not much to do, and sometimes I come up with ideas that even I'm proud of and That's just my personal experience I don't really know a lot about this stuff
There where times when I would dream to make myself feel better about life. At some point I had a day dream where eveything was working out and I could feel my emotional state lift. I know its time wasted so I dont do it often anymore, only when my emotional state needs lifting. If there are parts of my life that need changing I know to put time and effort into that instead. Life can be difficult, personal development takes work too. There is a part of me that says that day dreaming is a positive part of personal development because it can have positive affects. When it becomes a constant soap opera in our heads, thats when its becoming a negative. Anything that lets us avoid the necessary work in our lives can hinder us from growing.
I was 19 when it got so bad I was willing to off myself just to be with "them". Harry Potter world consumed me during 2019-2022 locked down. I still think about my life there but I'm slowing letting it go but I can't and I do not know why. I feel like I'm stuck being like this when I'm already 22. I feel old and ready "to go", not to death but something to happen for me to "wake me up" and start "living".
Can someone have this condition but with more negative narratives? Meaning I think I've always coped this way, especially when I was younger but most of the time the stories in my head where I'd be standing were many times not positive for me
Yes I mean I always imagined myself as the "bad guy" who gone from good to bad it just felt so like "Me" I mean in my eyes I was once a happy creative child, Now I'm this depressed teen who's losing friends. . . Even then I still want them it's better than being nothing. . .
I had this since I was a child and yes it's really affecting my life, I can't go with one day without daydreaming and it's like almost 24/7 , always thinking about bad and good scenarios in my head and it will be literally like in a movie, like watching my life in a movie or something, it's really hard for me and I wish one day I could go to good therapy that idk probably make them less but it's just so enjoyable for me, I could cope with my stress with that, Idk how my life would be without my social anxiety people pleasing and the daydreaming.. it's just so consistent and Idk myself anymore without them..
Same.. I also struggle with same problems as you..I glad that I am not alone..I am trying all of the methods to avoid this but I easily get distracted. It’s also affecting my daily life. I couldn’t concentrate on anything because of it. I also developed this in my childhood because of my loneliness.
Great!!! I wish you best too….do you still have maladaptive daydreaming?? And struggle like me..we can help each other..I have studied lots methods from my therapist and books..
anyone get into bed and get really happy cuz you can just t h i nk and daydream about anything (create new book plots in ur head, imaginate real-life senarios, etc.) without having to worry about external stuff like social interaction? like, its something i literally look forward to every day and its kinda concerning. no? just me??
It's me too. I feel the happiest when i leave to the bed due to this exact reason and then you fall asleep unknowingly.
usually wen im in bed and listening to music
To me, it's not concerning AT ALL. It's too much fun and it's so relaxing, it helps me get over bad things, and it's free. I don't see how it would be concerning, enjoy it and use it to your advantage.
Me too!!
@@KinikosWorldit is concerning when it gets in the way of your sleep and your responsibilities.
So everyone knows, its normal to day dream. Maladaptive daydreaming is an entirely different thing. It consumes my life. I daydream at work, its like im just waiting for time to pass so i can get home to daydream more. I listen to music and pace around for hours and its like im really there in my day dream. I can be doing something else, like cleaning, reading, playing a game and I'll get the urge to stop what im doing and start daydreaming, and longing to go back to the comfort of my made up world. I'd rather be home daydreaming than actually living. I use it to cope with the abuse i faced as a child. You don't need to be concerned if you daydream occasionally. It becomes maladaptive if its harming your real life.
wow i use to do the music pacing daydream for hours and hours on end. sometimes repeating a song multiple times cause it made the daydream come to life more.
it stopped back in 2022 because i ended up getting on mental health medicine. now i can’t get lost in a intense daydream like that without hard effort. Also no more pacing and my relationship with music is completely different. a lot of my favorite songs im not attached to anymore bc the daydreams stopped.🤣
yeaah bro and personally it became really harmful because its like creating a false live and a lot of time I get down because I realise that my daydreaming is not true and I realised that i've come to a point where i need to do less daydreaming bcs it can alternate my vision of reality and it create a lot of problem
+ the fact that its kinda my comfort place so i have this urge too of stopping what im doing for dreaming, its litteraly a way to stop existing kinda
i think for me, dont know for you, i should everytime remind myself that what im doing is not true and try to focus on what's really happening
or WE can use this imagination to put it in real life with art, i suggest you to often wright those daydreaming thoughts so that its not a time loose and can even help to think more, i just thought of that right now, what do you think about?
it’s so exhausting. whether i’m at school, or hanging out with my friends, or by myself at home, i can’t stop it. it’s like i’m watching everything happen like a movie. they’re just always there with me.
same man, mine just happens and I would take a while to notice that I am day dreaming again. the struggles.
I find myself daydreaming 90% of the day. Even when I walk down the street, when I'm having dinner, when I'm taking a shower, when I'm in class, at all time. I can't enjoy nature, I can't enjoy friends, i am constantly in my head. I spend hours imagining things, I can't sleep because I can make up things in my mind for hours and not take account of time. It is so difficult to deal with, I have to wake up hours before any appointment. If I have work at 9am, I have to wake up at 6 am and I still find myself rushing out the door to not be late. It is ruining my life. I barely have friends, I'm isolated.
I guess maladaptive daydreaming started when I was young, maybe 8 or something, and it quickly added fake scenarios to its list. I used to look forward to creating fake scenarios every night before sleeping. It gradually became even stronger. So strong that I could not even sleep without fake scenarios. I lost my focus on my studies during high school. My responses to the external world became slow. I was also mocked for that many times. It pushed me even further into daydreaming as it had now become my coping mechanism. Nowadays, after almost 20 years I am so lost in my own chain of thoughts that I don't even register what goes around me. I don't remember how I crossed the street or if I locked the room or not (this is quite common, I know but the point is). I want to remain focused on my work, I want to remain present in the situation, and I want to be quick with responses but I also want to explore my thoughts. If I could just balance these I hope I could keep my mind sane.
it has been 1000 days since I have started meditating. This led to multiple changes in how I perceive myself and the world. I have dropped most of the thought trains, or do not even enter them, or notice riding them early. It helped me a a lot. It takes time, because it is literally a retraining of our minds. Or like learning to walk again. I hope you are having a decent day and can manage to spend some time simply being. Blessings
I have done that ever since I've come to myself, to my senses. I am consumed by this phenomenon. When I was young I used to call those plays/stories- 'films' that constantly ran in my head. Once my mother asked 'what are you thinking about' and I gave her these *imaginary batteries* and asked her 'can you see what I see?' and she said no and I had no idea how to answer or explain it any further.
Also it's true when I disconnect and knead stories and create characters in my head. They are not real people around me. Sometimes they are faceless and sometimes they are movie characters. I can go on and on about these stories, about it's climax for hrs and hrs or on breaks. When I am doing nothing. I keep thinking of new segments which can be added to the script. It's genuinely so fun. Also helps me withdraw myself from overthinking.
And to think that this is one good reason why cinema exist is so wonderful. Someone cooked up something in their head and really brought their imagination to life. How cool is that.
I don't tend to read about people who daydream like you, I've seen many experiences where people imagine their own life in a positive way, in my case it is very similar to your case, I think more about characters and stories I cook in my head and they are a resume of every stimulating detail I've seen like the ambience of the stories, movie frames, music, clothes, character design. That's why watching movies or series triggers MDD to me
@@paz9487 I'm glad to know that you find this relatable. Indeed I can cook full length movies- say for eg with Wang Kar Wai project themes in bg. For some time now I've been in awe of Indie/Hollywood classics for their cinematography. And jdramas too cos they remind me of old Bollywood movies and the impact Lighting techniques had on characters during filmography. At times it's a series- set in different time zones. It's all together a very refreshing way to lighten up my mood. And what you said is true, everything I imagine or have imagined is borrowed inspiration, borrowed art and emotions. But there's so much to discover. Lol I can zone out while watching the movie itself, my head's always brimming with ideas. Instant inspiration. Just a single scene is enough to trigger this state of thinking in me.
Maybe you two should consider becoming writers/film creators
I think, I used to do this a LOT when I was a kid, because I always knew I had a wild imagination. It then became a coping mechanism for other reasons, as I need to 'foresee' what will happen to be able to adapt, as my disability causes and triggers anxiety severely. I have learned through communication (with my parents, and currently mostly my boyfriend) that I do not necessarily *need* to foresee what will happen, I just need to be ready. I don't need to 'daydream' about various things and outcomes of a situation, I just need to be ready when faced with them. And I did this without therapy, because I am luckily in a social environment, where I am reminded to communicate my thoughts, and never suppress them.
I daydream all the time because it's easier, I'm able to connect to my truest self or at least who I want to be I guess, and it just makes the world much more bearable, knowing that I'm the creator of the world in my head. But these daydreams may not always be positive... I guess that's the catch
for me it becomes suffocating i make this world to avoid the things i hate about myself, where i am the main character who knows how to do things(when i actually dont i just act) is a lovably person and i have people that love me but people arent people which makes it eh and then i just exist there and then when i finally wake up from it i realize i am no where near that person i don't get what it means to be them i am actually kind of the opposite but i deny it because of how disassociated i am i am insecure i dont know how to talk with people cause idk how to view them as actual people and i feel as if i am just someone unbearable to be around i mean this voice is always there holding me down when i am not daydreaming and using my phone to distract myself i just dont know how to deal with it people have told me i am actually nice i also got my fare share also of being in a suffocating relationship being told otherwise but they also had a problem ngl too but either way any little thing that happenes breaks me anything that doesnt validate me is taken in a bad way i overthink, i mean its so hard to believe that maybe it doesnt have to be personal and maybe its okay to be imperfect i just dint know and maybe its oya to be selfish in a way and not feel bad for everything and take it as if its all my fault i am a human and this is my first time i dont have to have everything figure out i dont have te feel okay all the time i am still young i dont have to act as i know everything and have it figured cause then i ignore the actual thongs i need to work on like my fears insecurities and how its human to feel not okay at certain parts and realize maybe its okay to feel like a loser rn but that doesnt mean i am i gotta figure out how to build my life other than living another shallow one
also sorry for venting just wanted a moment to vent it out u dont even have to read i just wanna get whats going on with me out to connect what i have to do lol srry again
does anyone daydream about themselves, or a made-up character like an OC? I daydream about characters but never myself because I cant see myself in those environments
I relate to this in a way I think. My daydreams heavily revolve around who I would like to be, or who I want my "true self" to be. In my mind I can connect with this version of myself easier because I do not have to worry about external factors. It's like, what my life would look like if I was playing in "creative mode".
Heh yeah I feel like I could be the one I want to be but sometimes. . . often. . I just project myself to be the "tragic bad guy" who gets a chance. . . maybe it's because I always doubted and hated myself. . .
1:20🙌 great advice i need to stop doing that too. i literally ruminate over people in my life and its so harmful, i want to start daydreaming about more positive things, be more creative with it instead of replaying the same scenarios with the same people
i used to be a malaprive daydreamer as an physically/mentally abused child it became my escape. it started when i was 7 i literally act out and talk to imaginary people pretending that i was being treated harshly but in different perspective like im fkn cinderela i didn’t realise it until now i have known how to control it
I am really happy to see more people talking about this because it's a real issue that effects the lifestyle of many people, and yes, including myslef. I am glad that I found about it early. I strarted 5 months ago to try to get rid of it and now I am making progress. Now I do not daydream that much anymore.
If you are also a maladaptive daydreamer that wants to get rid of maladaptive daydreaming, I am supporting and encouraging you!! I hope for the best for all of us. NEVER GIVE UP, seriously!!! I believe in you all!!
holy shit thank you for this i didn't know it had a name and i didn't know how to search for anything like this so thank you
I'm 62 years old and just realized I wasn't the only one who did this.
Daydreaming started to grow more in Highschool. The scenarios would always be the same repeating in my mind and I be struggling to focus. I started to forget the simplest things, couldn't understand a single lesson (pretend that i understood), overthink, and grew unpatient with myself. Daydreaming was a coping mechanism to forget the situations around me and suppress my emotions. when i listen to music, it would trigger it easily, and it would be the same music on loop playing for hours with a different or similar scenario from 1hr earlier or the day before that. Tho I would snap out of it , socialize more wit the ppl around me, and take a little break.
I pretty much started maladaptive daydreaming when i was 5 i think, i lived on pretty strict grandparents and i was always isolated, our family was kind of a mess too, when they're all fighting i can't run anywhere, i just had to watch everything, i guess that's the reason i got into maladaptive daydreaming, it was just a coping mechanism that became an dependency part of my life. Until i became a teenager where reality hit harder and made it clear going to daydream was the awful thing to do, but no matter how i run away from it i find myself going back to it
I day dream like all the time it starts as soon as i wake up and stays as long as i go to sleep. Its like doing multitasking all the time, its frustrating and make my mind numb.
How peaceful and mysteriously thoughtful is the animations and the topics .. I didn't knew I was MadD until now..I can connect now..what damage it caused until now. I hope u guys make more content❤❤
I have been stopping myself from daydreaming lately its a bit hard you have to focus on being in the moment. I have to put a stop to it since it ruining me I cant wait for the day to be pass so i can go back to my bed and daydreams for hours until i pass out, if im bored in a social settings im gone, it gets worse when i daydream about something i wanna achieve cuz if i do i will give up on it and stop chasing it maybe because i already got the validation while dreaming or somethig else idk. its fucking hard to stop it
I've been there, i bring my attention back to my physical body and feel my surroundings, there is hope
@@georgerobertson9703 yeah I just focus on the current moment and see how things are, sometimes I names things that are happening around me, someone is taking a bus, a kid is crying, nice coffee shops, etc.
I had this since I was a child and yes it's really affecting my life, I can't go with one day without daydreaming and it's like almost 24/7 , always thinking about bad and good scenarios in my head and it will be literally like in a movie, like watching my life in a movie or something, it's really hard for me and I wish one day I could go to good therapy that idk probably make them less but it's just so enjoyable for me, I could cope with my stress with that, Idk how my life would be without my social anxiety people pleasing and the daydreaming.. it's just so consistent and Idk myself anymore without them..
I have ADHD and I do use maladaptive daydreaming as a way to cope to just imagine an amazing videogame or just thinking of myself as some popular person, It also tends to happen when a really interesting idea comes up I find this to be a double edge sword thankfully I don't involve real people most of the time but when it happens I usually have to stop it, Even then I just disconnect from reality because there's not much to do, and sometimes I come up with ideas that even I'm proud of and That's just my personal experience I don't really know a lot about this stuff
The problem is my life is boring. So avoiding daydreaming is not an option for me.
There where times when I would dream to make myself feel better about life. At some point I had a day dream where eveything was working out and I could feel my emotional state lift. I know its time wasted so I dont do it often anymore, only when my emotional state needs lifting. If there are parts of my life that need changing I know to put time and effort into that instead. Life can be difficult, personal development takes work too. There is a part of me that says that day dreaming is a positive part of personal development because it can have positive affects. When it becomes a constant soap opera in our heads, thats when its becoming a negative. Anything that lets us avoid the necessary work in our lives can hinder us from growing.
I’m lonely so maladaptive daydreaming helps me cope. With life depression with anxiety, and no friends
I even take my favorite day dreams to sleep. I can lucid dream easily and keep taking it to bed too. Need to STOP!
Its also very common in autistic people. I used to do it ALOT.
i feel like it ruined me in a way idk how to speak with people and i use it to cover my insecurities
How did you reduce it
I was 19 when it got so bad I was willing to off myself just to be with "them". Harry Potter world consumed me during 2019-2022 locked down. I still think about my life there but I'm slowing letting it go but I can't and I do not know why. I feel like I'm stuck being like this when I'm already 22. I feel old and ready "to go", not to death but something to happen for me to "wake me up" and start "living".
This used to be one of my biggest struggles ❤ now I’m healing
Listening to music can worsen mdd in my experience
Reminds me of the movie "Ingrid Goes West" w/ Aubrey Plaza.
Basically delulu is the solulu with extra steps
I'm literally writing a paper on this!!! This video will be very helpful to support.
most of my life is spent dreaming. i havent lived in this real world
I just can't go through this video without having the thought of baymax just "on a scale from 1 to 10, how would you rate your daydream?"
Honestly.. I don't want to finish this video, it feels like it's reaching me, please help.
I just heard about this and can someone explain the difference between this and just fantasizing a lot
great thank you
Can someone have this condition but with more negative narratives? Meaning I think I've always coped this way, especially when I was younger but most of the time the stories in my head where I'd be standing were many times not positive for me
but I still liked them and felt attatched and wanted to come home to it in a way
Yes I mean I always imagined myself as the "bad guy" who gone from good to bad it just felt so like "Me" I mean in my eyes I was once a happy creative child, Now I'm this depressed teen who's losing friends. . . Even then I still want them it's better than being nothing. . .
I daydream so much
yeah...
such a good video
Sometimes I can’t tell if something really happened or if it was a daydream.
My life in one video
omg its baymax
Ritalin did wonders for me. Sadly, Adderall is the only med like it that's available in my area.
so the discord server doesn't exist...? it's fictional ?
and then it hits u how alone u feel lol
1:18 Saaaame
Is there no link to the discord?
daydreaming is a coping mechanism XDD ok
i do this!!!!
Hiw can you XHANGE and STOP when Life SUCKS though..
i hate it i can't focus
0:34 Zac, who is the female who talks here? How did you get a passing grade on this project without basic edits for the viewer? Sorry, but you fail
Come on it's my only hobby. Don't make it sound so bad bro.
Don't ppl more of call it an addictive thing? If its a hobby maybe its not maladaptive daydreams
I didn't know this was a thing. I totally do this.
Whats daydreaming did you just make that up
I had this since I was a child and yes it's really affecting my life, I can't go with one day without daydreaming and it's like almost 24/7 , always thinking about bad and good scenarios in my head and it will be literally like in a movie, like watching my life in a movie or something, it's really hard for me and I wish one day I could go to good therapy that idk probably make them less but it's just so enjoyable for me, I could cope with my stress with that, Idk how my life would be without my social anxiety people pleasing and the daydreaming.. it's just so consistent and Idk myself anymore without them..
Same.. I also struggle with same problems as you..I glad that I am not alone..I am trying all of the methods to avoid this but I easily get distracted. It’s also affecting my daily life. I couldn’t concentrate on anything because of it. I also developed this in my childhood because of my loneliness.
I also developed it because of loneliness, power to you I really hope you the best because you deserve it my friend!❤️
@@MSMS-mb6vm I don’t want to get into your personal space..just curious..what’s your age? I am 18 btw..
It's totally okay, I'm 21
Great!!! I wish you best too….do you still have maladaptive daydreaming?? And struggle like me..we can help each other..I have studied lots methods from my therapist and books..