WITHDRAWAL from toxic relationships is real.
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WITHDRAWL from toxic relationships is real.
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It's awful. This withdrawal feeling. I go from okay to absolutely not okay, full of anxiety, depression, physically hurting and feeling sick. It's very difficult to not speak to her. Even my therapist said it's an addiction in recovering from. It's been less than a week and I want it to end already. I'm trying to stay active, work, still go to the gym, watch videos, talk to friends and family, meditation, practice breathing correctly. Pretty much anything to ride out these sudden massive waves of hurt.
Omygosh same! How are you now? For me it's only been 3 days. :"(
I truly know just how you feel. Stay strong brotha don’t let this addiction Ruin your life.
It did mine :(
I made it through day 1. Understanding that this hurt isn’t from love but rather withdrawals like a drug helps. There’s no way I love the way this boy treated me.
how are you oday? Im living the same right now
It definitely feels like a drug, I use to wonder why I kept going back to the toxic relationship and realized I wanted to feel certain things from that person and wanted him to change. This is good advice thank you!
I feel the same way. I would constantly go back to that person because i was addicted to the validation I received from them.
It was so frustrating because I knew I shouldn’t have been with them and yet I couldn’t seem to stay away smh
Such perfect timing. Very important for me to understand it isn't love, it's withdrawl - this makes a huge difference! I don't hear that often enough when people talk about healing from narc abuse. I'm finally seeing it truly is addiction and requires the same approach of sorts as substance addiction. Your suggestions were helpful too. Going to rewatch this as many times as it takes. Thank you!!
Same
This almost brought a tear to my eye because finally not only have I found a video that explains how I feel and what I went through
But I’ve found others who can truly relate.
Thank you so much
thank you so much. this has calmed me down during a withdrawal crisis. it really does make u feel like crazy, the fact it involves physical pain even is absurd. i was hyperventilating, feeling my stomach empty and my knees collapsing, wondering if this was a sign of "true love". I feel calmer now knowing that this step is necessary for me to fully heal
That’s the same thing I would think. If it feels this bad it must be love smh
I went through a period of not sleeping well but it wasn’t because pulling myself out of the situation was a mistake.
Doesn’t sound like it
That’s good because it’s easy to think it was a mistake because of that . I used to
Man I am so glad I found this video today. I was in love with a fearful avoidant woman push pull relationship. It’s nearly been two months since we’ve spoke. She was a literal drug to me and now I’m grieving. The withdrawal from her is terrible and an anxious attachment and abandonment issue makes it worse. This shit is very real !
I hope that woman wasn’t me. Eek
Currently on week one of the exact same scenario...
@@JenSummaYou’re cruel for this!!!
Wow. Watching this video ans then reading the comment section is so helpfull. I was feeling crazy for having all these emotions and also for gaving thought he was THE ONE.
I feel weirdly validated thanks everyone.
Im on week one. Feel like absolute crap. Very triggering. High anxiety, low motivation, nausea, thinking about him.
This video needs to be saved through all of man kind. Wow. Thank you
Sending to a friend. It really does get worse the more you go back whether its partnership, friendship.. When you recognize things have gotten toxic or even suspect it has, take a break and re-evaluate.
Its been about a year for me of recovering so far. Finally feeling normalish. Its best to aknowledge the relationship is harmful and the best thing you can do is break it off, learn from it, and become a better person yourself. Let the rest go.
I kept trying to end it. I just couldn’t get away in time. Smh
nodding the whole way through, AMEN, i've been through this and i'm really THRIVING at the moment. My life has got sooooo much better since I finally quit my narcisstic relationship. Took me over a year to leave. But I did it.
Thank you very much for this video, Cadace! How about if the person is your own mother. OMG I have been in a gerbil weel with this woman. Would be nice if I don't ever have to deal with her, but it is my mother. I am going no contact and I go in visit overseas for 6 weeks and comeback like a loony person and my husband has to pick up the pieces. Takes me forever to recuperate. I cannot do this again, she is so F sick and selfish when it comes to me, but to people that are not the closest, she laughs, smiles and treats them nicely. I was shocked few months ago when I visited that she was even having a great time and with me she always complains about pretty much everything, never have any money and feels tired. I do not understand this woman at all, and looking back NO WONDER WHY I LEFT HOME, nothing has change.
I wonder if that’s what I’m experiencing? I left my toxic partner of 5 years over a year ago. I was feeling amazing because I was focusing on myself. But anytime I tried dating, I started feeling this insane fear, depression, confusion, panic. I was dating this guy who tried to help me through it for a few months but I pushed him away because I didn’t know what was happening to me. I felt crazy! But I really am experiencing the not-getting-out-of-bed type of depression. Does it happen after such a long time? I think maybe because I didn’t give myself permission to process the breakup and now I finally have.
Finally someone gets it!!! THANK YOU ☺️
I went through this withdrawal around 8 months ago when I realized I was in a codependent narc. abusive relationship with a family member. It was very painful to break things off- body, mind, and soul! I did a lot of inner work in the months following, and am now in a better place. We did rekindle the connection, but I am at this point more guarded with what I share, and keep stronger boundaries. Overall it helped my spiritual growth.
You literally saved me just now...I am going through this just as I see this!!!
Same here. . Confusing but still thanking God
@@codiejade5273 Just knowing that there's someone else as well,makes me feel better cause now I can tell myself, for sure I am not the only one going through this. Thus the pinch of embarrassment that comes with feeling like this has subsided. Thanks for sharing your experience. 💙
Me too, I'm going through exactly the same. Sending you both much love at this difficult time but we'll get there.🙏❤️💫💪
Mee tooo and just got caught back in the cycle though caught it faster doesn't help...have to redetox
Definitely not alone. Lets keep feeling and healing fam
I can totally relate to the "Opinion Detox" T_T
Sometimes I just want to shut down all the noises outside me so I can hear my own opinion without the biases of others.
Exactly when I talked to certain family about this. They would judge me and look at me like I’m a selfish person for constantly leaving and coming back to my ex.
I wasn’t a bad person. Just a addict
Spot on. I did all.these things. I love listening to you Candace. I find my peace
Wow all of this was just what I needed to hear. Never heard it explained this way. Thank you ❤️
Wow I literally cannot tell you how much this has helped me. Thank you so so much you are amazing.
Thanks I needed this. Got people trying to creep in my life I’ve got no interest chilling with.
Exactly what I need to see today Candace! I had a lapse and went back to a trauma bond relationship. I am in withdrawal again because he left again so thank you! Have to learn to fill the void on my own.
This reminded me of your EFT vid. Ill have to go back and give that another watch. Gong through this topic with family right now. Thanks Candace
I just found your channel. Love this video. I have an old, old relationship that I'm still obsessing on. I think there may still be withdrawal I need to deal with. Self love and trauma work is the solution I think. Thank you ❤
Boom! Relief is possible ❤️
Thank you Candy! your videos helps me a lot! I'm HSP . Hugs from Argentina!
Thank you for this powerful message that I needed to hear this to validate the toxic relationship I tore away from 4 years ago. It was a few toxic family members that were overly critical and judgmental.
your videos make me feel that I shouldnt need anyone to a point where now i cannot talk or connect with anyone about anything cause its all mundane stuff and I can only connect on deep level
Wow how timely holy moly. This is soooo helpful and thank you 😊 🙏
I get so mad at myself
Thank you Candace, new subscriber. Appreciate you keepin’ it real and acknowledging that we need to release the trauma. 🙌🏻✨💖
Watched twice, took notes and shared. In flow tonight and grateful to be guided to this...exactly what I needed to hear!
Thank you for your work. I am currently going through withdrawals and it sucks. I've been reading about addiction and trauma and what you say is true. Dr. Gabor Mate is exceptional in talking about trauma and yet I feel that having a channel like yours is beneficial because I didn't know I could be addicted to my partner and the toxicity of a relationship. Thank you again. 🙏
Just stumbled upod this vid randomly. I needed this. Thank you!!
Thank you Candace....I needed to hear this today!
Omg yes, that’s so true. I’m in this right now. Thank you!
Ty that makes so much sense.
This is important to address.Couldn't turn anywhere when I was going through this.Just like with substances.I got really sick. Sweating, Vomiting and feeling totally drained. Took time. Also to get the pain out of my body. Called and tried to get help. To dependent units. They only accepted for drugs and alcohol.
I stumbled upon this video today & WOW. I was married to a toxic person for 16 years together for 20 with 3 kids. I finally filed for divorce. I’ve been trying to figure out what’s wrong with me. This explains it!
Literally what I needed to hear this very moment ❤️
I really appreciate this video because it is the one video I’ve found on UA-cam that fully explains what I was dealing with with my ex. Other vids came close. But this one is spot on
Now I know I’m not crazy.
Thank you Candace
I really can't thank you enough for this! Thankyou so so much.
How do you know if it's love? Cause isn't it true that you will feel depressed after love? .. Gah... it's all so hard...but thank you for all of these insights!!
True, this happened once more in life. But it also became an awakening that is not enough. But had pain in the body that was tough and a sadness. Which consisted of old truaman that came up. But this also became the way to myself.
THIS IS A HELP 👍🏽 thanks 😊💯
Thank you for this content. So valuable.
Thank you so much omg , I just left my house last year and the holidays are always the worst .. my dad was very narcissistic and my mom was very manipulative and guilt tripped me SO much
My biological family is worse toxic than my ex with whom I’ve been involved for about 8y (him coming and leaving) and I leave in a country with little to no emotional support cause I’m not the type of person to connect with anyone.
So the process of leaving for me and no contact it’s almost comparable with hell
So helpful. Thank you.
This is amazingly true! ❤️
I needed this. Thank you
Everything you have said is so accurate. 😢
I’m going through this now😔
for some reason I find it easier to withdraw yourself day by day until it ends naturally vs just getting up and leave
I needed this right now
I have never loved anyone as I did her. Never had anyone express the amount of love and affection she did. It was almost overwhelming. She raised one red flag after another over time, until the last one revealed that I was being manipulated the entire time.
Knowing this has made it so easy to write her a goodbye letter and not feel any pain inside. Cheat on me. Lie to me. Manipulate me. Ignore me. Any of these will kill all of the love I once had inside and replace it with anger and resentment which will prevent me from suffering at all. Good riddance.
After listening and searching for ways to improve self love and maintaining true value and independence in myself and to my inner child, I’m struggling with this and I can’t really get past this question:
How do you deal with the guilt of knowing you weren’t healthy and healed enough to be in a relationship, caused some turmoil, (in addition to the other persons unhealed traumas) and the relationship ended in a toxic way?
I gave an ultimatum for a boundary that I needed and asked him if he could meet it.
I think my emotional volume was up way too loud, because I was learning how to regulate the volume of emotions and how to communicate the boundary being crossed in a loving way.
How should I approach this conversation with myself in a forgiving way?
I still struggle to forgive myself for the part I played in. For being a unhealthy person
So spot on. Feel like death then depression. Work is off.
Speaking into my soul
Yes it does hurt
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Thanks
One of the best
Thank yooou
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Candace that intro no 😂
Speak to me. I am getting better.
Is it normal for your mind to go blank? I broke up with my boyfriend... ex boyfriend a few days ago... and my mind is empty. I can't really think of anything. I don't really want to do anything... I can't focus... I'm barely eating and... and I'm soo tired
Eight minutes of pure brilliance. This well-spoken, beautiful woman knows what she's talking about. Through your knowledge and wisdom, you are helping so many people get through some of the hardest times of their lives 🩷🙏🏼.
Drinking a lot..haha. Nope, not me
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How do u go no contact when u have to co parent with young kids
Minimal and very surface level. Try to have a third party communicate for you
I’m in this boat. It’s hard especially when your ex wants you back desperately
But does this mean I have to door slam my daughter ? She is a covert narcissist ??
Why couldn’t I find this video a year ago smh
What if you dont have any friends and no contact with any family members?
I’m in the same boat, good luck
Maybe it is sharing is caring between You - Love and Steve - one of possibility too. Stay strong you both, after all raining will come again the sun 💚
Start working on yourself...self growth mentally physically emotionally...people will come because you start to radiate positive energy. You'll become a magnet.
@@breezyboost I have been doing that for years, and its like since then I "lost" a lot of people and family cuz I start standing for myself. Even though I dont want to go back(I wont) it would be nice to have some people to talk to!
@@lovetobe30have you worked with a therapist? Sometimes you have to release everything before you build new relationships.
L❤️VE
I can’t sleep
I know just what you’re going through