How To Use Stoicism To Control Your Anger | Ryan Holiday | Daily Stoic
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- Anger is antithetical to Stoicism, so naturally, the Stoics had methods of dealing with it. In this video, Ryan Holiday walks us through the various tools Marcus Aurelius used to avoid anger. If you'd like to learn more, go to dailystoic.com/anger
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"An angry man opens his mouth and closes his eyes."-Buddha
Holding on to hate is like holding on a burning coal with the intention to throw it on someone, but you are the only one who gets burned.
~ Buddha (if I remember correctly lol)
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He speaks of many of todays global leaders
Here's a great quote from Stoic philosopher Seneca the young: "We suffer more often in imagination than in reality". I have started to ignore my doubts and take action. After 4 years of delay, I have finally started my own UA-cam channel, which is already growing. Take consistent action. Never quit.
100%. + ´´ Ryan Holiday has been practicing stoicism and writing about stoicism for more than a decade and his insights will give you guidance to practicing stoicism in your day to day life.´´
Awesome music, totally right to start that channel. I am listening to your concentration track now. So grateful your post on Daily stoic brought me to you.
@@Paul-eb2cl Glad you like it Paul
This is dope! Perfect for when I am at work, thank you.
Subscribed! So glad you posted.
The Dali Lama said bearing a grudge is like drinking poison, and expecting the other person to die.
That's a wonderful statement and so true, figuratively speaking, in my case, when I get angry. Thank you. I will remember that.
Yep. One of my favorite sayings.
I'm pretty sure that he was quoting the buddha
I found a similar quote on google images
“Being angry is making yourself feel bad for other’s mistakes.”
"Dwelling in anger is like holding onto a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone. Only you get burned."
Took a death and dying course in college many years ago. The theme throughout the course was - You cannot truly live life until you come to terms with your own inevitable death. It was eye opening to plan your own funeral. Perspectives and priorities change. Life is too short to be pissed off and outraged all the time.
writeronthestorm kyushu
I took the same course. It was very interesting, and helped me see things much clearer.
We did this in high school, even visited a mortuary. Eye opening.
I died five times in 2012 in 7 days I'm no longer the same I think differently deeper. a near-death experience
Class what did you see. Every moment of your life is extremely important fill it with joy. Help a stranger. And don't tell anybody about it.
Oh yes, you can truly live life until you come to terms with your own ability to accent to your own godhood that's beyond the influences of death itself & claim the latent immortality we all have & awaken it. However, if you perceive your reality as what you are perceiving now, then “unreality of your own inevitable so-death” believes that's perceiving now will come true & become the part of your reality‥ & what that happens, that'll be exactly the only thing you will get. I strongly believe, in my opinion, that life is only as long or short as we make or desire it to be.
"The single most important practice in Stoic philosophy is differentiating between what we can change and what we can’t. What we have influence over and what we do not.". I still get angry over things out of my control-- for example, a flat tire driving to work BUT my anger is much less than it use to be and I always make sure I reflect back on these moments in a positive way. I think the important thing is, is that these things don't happen over night. It is hard but you quickly realize how far you have come.
What you are referring to , by accepting there are things out of our control and it's when these things hit us it's how we think about them ,has really changed how I am . I'm more relaxed and able to accept my fate .
Anger doesn't go from 0 to 100, it's a gradual process and one has to take care of it proactively.
Don't feed it when triggered, step back, reassess and act rationally.
Easier said than done - If you knew me you'd have to reconsider the "0-100" theory.
Wrong. Anger is an instantaneous reaction - very, VERY often unable to be reflected upon or at least controlled. It is more of a reflex action. This is where a Stoic point of view is utterly naive.
If you're emotionally well adjusted and conscious or emotionally aware, then yes you can stamp on the breaks. But for a lot of people ANGER is like the car suddenly accelerating, a stuck accelerator. most of us are in re-action to our anger, feelings in general
I agree with el dragon and alan jensen. I am that guy that can go nuclear in a nanosecond, stepping back is not an option, but I've been working on controlling it the latter part of my life, I'm 56 now. I used to fight a lot and just destroy whatever was in my path when I went off, and then regret it once I calmed down. Now i still get enraged, most always at myself for not performing well at whatever I am competing in, but nothing gets broke and haven't fought in 20 years. I just stumbled onto this site and stoicism and am thinking i can apply it to my life, we will see, for I bowl tonight and surely I will be tested ! lol
I have ADHD so for me it is very unpredictable if it goes from 0 - 100 or gradually. Sometimes it accelerates from 0 to 100 very fast.
Dear Ryan, you have help me so much to understand about Stoicism.
I am Nurse.I’ve been dealing with bullies at work on a daily basis.I was at one point quit because I was immersed of my own miseries .I realized those people don’t care and I was having a pity party of one.Then I read your book.It changed my perspective.I came back to the same place I work because I love my job and I love my patients.I still deal with those bullies .But I learned to stand my ground and not let them get into me anymore.
But how much patience I have for these kind people who wants nothing but to destroy my peace? My answer is...I don’t know.All I know is that I look at things differently now.Whenever they attack me....it is an opportunity for me to remain calm and be objective and walk away from an ugly situation.
At the end of the day,it is not what others have done to me that matters,it is what I have done to others.
This week,one of the Nurse,threw a sharpie on me for selfish reasons ....and I wanted to throw back that sharpie to her but I chose not to.Because I don’t want to be like her.But I acknowledge her wrong doings and walked away from that situation.
My inner peace is more important than thinking about human beings who wants nothing but to do evil works.
I hope you’ll continue to share wisdom to others.
T.
tbh I would report that behaviour-walking away without setting boundaries won't help nor these advices-set boundaries first cos whatever you allow will continue (find another video that deals with this)
Wow, nurses acting like they’re in high school smh
What is the link to book it ? It wouldn't load for me
isn't there an HR dept?
5:30 “It’s impossible to be angry and grateful at the same time.” -Marcus Aurelius
“Blame yourself, or blame no one” 🤯😱👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
i just wana say how cool it is that you casually drop a wise quote from your wife amidst all these quotes from humanity's only philosopher king. relationship goals 👏
Use to struggle with anger, being impatient. This channel has helped tons with those both. Continue to practice and make wise choices moving forward.
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For me personally, at this point in my life, I need these lessons and it is the most important thing in the internet. Thank you for the work you are doing.
Love this channel so much. Really helping me be a better person
You are helping you be a true human. Just know that. The information presented to you helps. But it is you who takes action. I'm proud of you.
Tru dat
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So far it’s working for me been anger for over 20 years over negitive energy that attacks me from others and myself
I blame myself and my actions.
Marcus Aurelius: "The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts."
I have no problems handling my anger, compared to my student peers, but I am no match to Marcus Aurelius. He is just incredible. Thanks
This video really amazed me , the stories we tell ourselves about people cause us pain , we suffer in our heads
i don´t know if the stoics where the first to come up with these ideas...but definitely they teach an almost flawless way to live this imperfect life in the most balance way possible
Marcos A. Read Ecclesiastes.
Its always a pleasure to hear you explain this thoughts, a bit as an auto-reflection, a repetition or meditation, not to forget what is so easily forgotten in our every day. Thank you.🌺
Marta Sousa é isso aí
My mom is bipolar and struggling with serious anger issues (directed at me and my family). This is very helpful thank you sir.
Thanks needed this
Love this channel and love this video.
I want this. I need this. My anger has made my life miserable.
The first is acknowledgement.You got this!
I needed this video today. Thanks Ryan
Always a good talk, Ryan. Thanks.
My anger was out of control. I was breaking things, punching things, fighting 3 people at once for fun and the bar, over stupid crap. I couldn't figure out why, but now it seems from my abusive childhood from my step dad... I'm so much better now but still dealing with things at 46....
great to be honest! keep pushing forward and your impact on the world will be great.
The past can't change and will never go away. How you deal with it can change... your life.
Thank you another
Great hit
I needed this on friday.
Amazing content! Thank you Ryan!
I love the channel brother. Thanks for the excellent content.
Your awesome Ryan! Thanks for helping so many people!
This is great stuff Totally true
Great video, thank you for putting in the time and effort with these videos.
Man I needed this one today. Thank you.
Thanks Ryan, your awesome!
Thank you for your videos and insights, I really appreciate all of them 😊
this made me feel so much better thank you so much ♥
So happy I have found your channel and stoicism 👍💕
Thank you for your content.
There are moments of spontaneous uncontrollable anger with no possibly for reflection.
Thank you so much. I really really needed this message this morning...
Greatly put 😊
An enlightening channel , well done Sir
Great videos man well explained. GREAT WORK 👍👍👏
Yes I subscribed, thank you
The most helpful insights to a productive, happy life. Thank you.
Thank you!
Great video. 💯
Thank you, Ryan. Your study in stoic wisdom and presentation is a great reminder on how to approach daily living which sometimes is hard. These strategies are reminders to give yourself and others grace. Definitely need to not let anger and hurt take up so much space.
This video helped me a lot, thank you
I thank you kindly.
Excellent!
This helped me go through ostracism at work. Thank you.
wow this hits deep...thank you Ryan and Daily Stoic
Absolutely powerful, epictitus & Marcus Aurelius.
Momento Mori ... Most powerful 🙏👌🏻
Very helpful. You are going a lot of good.
This is a video you post on your wall and “look at” every day 😌
Dope Video!
thank you Ryan.. this channel is really helping me to be more optimist in life and being better person every day
GOD BLESS U brother
I am an ancient Grinch who has used anger as motivation my entire life. Now that I have been retired for a few years, I want to let it go. I hope this channel and this thought process will help me let my anger go. Semper Fi to all my fellow Warriors.
One of the best videos I’ve seen on anger and frustration. Good job!
Yes facts very helpful in understanding and healing from anger .
Is it possible to know who did the Daily Stoic's new graphic charter? I really like it-)
You changed my life Ryan.
Anger is a gift
blaming yourself, that was an eye opener for me. thank you
Investing a small portion of time on watching these videos and more importantly to make them reach your mindset and soul, can make you be a day to day better person.
Which was the most important of these lessons to you?
For more, check out the 11 Day Taming Your Temper Challenge at: dailystoic.com/anger
´´Which was the most important of these lessons to you?´´ Answer: I do not control other people, I control how I respond to them. or My interpretation. or My story. or When have I done that before?. or Is a world without shameless people possible? (no)= this is that 1 out of 100 people. or We are all going to die soon= us or event. or Take steps to reduce anger. END.
bonus: I want to be happy and wiser.
Never be afraid of quoting a bad author if the line is good!!!
This is very helpful especially when I started to apply the lessons more intentionally.. the first lesson from the video was about accepting responsibility.. thanks Ryan. keep it up...
great meditation to start the day=]
Subscribed! I got into Stoicism thanks to Derren Brown who centrals in on that in his book "Happy". It's a must read- a life changer. It changed my perspective in life.
This is the most valuable, bestest vlog from you , Incredible ♥🌷,..
Happy new year, wish you all the best,..
Nice vid
Great chanel. Great messages. But i also love the camera, lens and lighting setup used for the studio work. Can i ask what you use please?
SO HAPPY I FOUND THAT VIDEO!!.. GREETINGS FROM GREECE!!
Greetings. How is Stoicism in Greece? Where it all began.
THERE ARE AUTONOMOUS GROUPS OF PHILOSOPHY, BUT IT HAPPENS WHAT HAPPENS GLOBALLY : EITHER FAMILY OR MENTOR INSPIRE US OR AT A CERTAIN POINT IN TIME WE FEEL THE URGE FOR MORE MEANINGFUL KNOWLEDGE - MAYBE THAT WAS WHY THAT BOOK "PLATO INSTEAD OF PROSAC" CAME OUT...I WISH YOU THE BEST!!
@@polyxenikoutla134 Perhaps that is how it should be, the motivation should come from within. Institutionalising philosophy will harm it's spirit.
Hope that the Greeks will continue to find inspiration from your ancient heritage.
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Sometimes anger has to be unleashed.
Its evolved in humans for a reason
And what is that reason
@@loonah714 informing folks that you were already in a queue before them $%/=÷×%$$
Jung would say getting in touch with your dark side to be more integrated.
Carlos 22 get in touch not carry through
@@thekiwisqu33z34 in the case you said - absolutely yes.
but in modern day our anger doesnt serve much unless we know how to hendle it. we cant just punch anyone that upsets us.
i think there is a diffrence between using your anger in a productive way than to let it destroy your life
Its all about our interpretation. Be objective and ignore nonsense and check your ego.
very good
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greetings from Minnesota
Steve-O !! I'm so glad you decided to become a stoic.
Haven't spoken to either parent in over 10 years. One is a 10 on the narcissistic scale and the other is a full blown psychopath who constantly drifts from town to town looking for their next victim. Have tried numerous times over the years to find common ground but both are extremely abusive. Given this, contact tends to result in negative energy being directed my way. Yes, I'm angry...but at the root is deep fear and sadness. No matter how much I've relied on and studied stoicism (and Buddhism) over the years all the perspectives mentioned in this video are still a challenge. Being aware of them has definitely helped with the suffering though. Thanks for the great videos!
Great, I need to practice these... I tend to get in heated debates on a regular
This video couldn't come at a better time. I'm handling some responsibilities that I'm catching myself become angry and frustrated.
Dennis perego was the one that said it's impossible to be angry and grateful the same time. It's in his book happiness is a serious problem.
This is exactly what we teach at ocd recovery. It’s the premise of recovering from the disorder.
I HAVE 3 of Ryan Holiday Book's.....I LIKE HIM
great content ryan. the vintage montages kinda distract from you narrating - but really like the audible content and the quote flashes. keep it up!👍🏽
Watching this video with all the protests that are going on is a tough experience.
Make a video on free will, moral responsibility and the scientific view of it.
Wow I'm hella early! Ryan I love your books and videos.
I needed this video today. My temper was slipping a little today.
I recently discovered your channel. Thank you. If I may ask, "This too, shall pass." is a phrase that helps me let anger pass. Is this in keeping Stoicism?
So happy I found your channel! 😍
i love your shorter videos
ANGER DESTROY EVERYTHING!
How do we get things to change for the better if we accept everything “as is” without righteous anger?
YES!
If there is one out of one hundred, what keeps it from turning into ten out of a hundred and is seventy out of a hundred possible? Looking at anger differently and taking control on how one responds to it. Your a light in the dark. Thank you teacher. Wishing nothing but good for you.
Don’t try to control your emotions, let anger persist then watch it pass
The problem is when we are in real life getting in an angry situation ,we don't have the time or patience to do what you are saying now .But it is really nice to listen them before you get angry 😀😜
So here is a question I would like to ask. In the view of Stoicism, how should one handle someone who lies, denying that they did something, and the blame then falls on you (you being the only alternative), especially in a scenario where you have no feasible manner of proving that you did not do that thing. I understand that anger is not beneficial, but should the stoic's treatment of that person and attitude towards change?
Also sometimes doing things that are obviously walking slowly in the middle of the sidewalk. You can get pissed and yell: “MOVE” or just say nicely “ excuse me” and more than likely they will be very sorry and express that. Just say… “its not prob! Hope you are doing well”
I would just like to ask what translation of on Meditation did you use?
It's important to clarify that anger has to be released in some way, it can't just be "ignored".
You can't think your way out of anger, it doesn't go away and it always finds a way out.
But practicing stoicism will help with finding inner peace and building a fortress within so that the anger is controlled rather than surpressed, ignored or displayed through lashing out.
My feeling favorite is “ When you invite a fool to your house, why do you get upset when he acts like a fool”.