Couple of things.. 1. I'm sad that I didn't know about you before Anthony's panel because you're now my internet older sister or cousin lol 2. This series has been such a huge blessing to me --on so many levels. I've shared this series with friends 3. I love love love that you ask the clarifying questions that I wish other hosts/moderators should ask 4. I love your honesty and transparency Ok so more than a couple lol 5. You've encouraged me to figure out a way to seek like minded Christians who I could have similar conversations with (in this new heightened reality) 6. Please say that you're working on another type of panel Most importantly thank you (and your team) so very much for moving forward with this series!
1 Peter 4:8 New Living Translation Most important of all, continue to show deep love for each other, for love covers a multitude of sins. I would not judge person divorce or etc but focus on prayer ask God who your spouse should be in obedience and not from a selfish posture!
That topic is definitely something to study! I personally don’t think it’s okay to marry someone who is divorced, but that doesn’t mean I treat them any different. I know people tend to put people down or condemn and that’s not what I’m trying to do. I think Jesus clearly says in His Word that it is wrong and I know that is something our flesh doesn’t like hearing, but I think it is so important to pray about it and walk in the spirit. Because when someone gets married they become one, they are no longer 2 individuals, and I think Jesus says what He says in Word because not only is it wrong but it is a lot of heartbreak, I definitely recommend relationships goals by Pastor Mike Todd, a lot of what he says is spot on! But thank you for sharing your honesty, because it is definitely a heavy topic, and I’ll be praying for you, for God to give you discernment, anyways thank you for making those videos and I hope you have a bless day!
Mandisa.......This series has been awesome. I have been married for 25 years and was so thrilled to be able to watch this series. I especially loved the input from your male friends, it makes me realize how they feel about certain topics and where they're coming from. It was refreshing to hear their perspective. Sometimes, when you are married for as long as I have been, a couple gets very complacent with each other and we start taking each other for granted. Thank you for pointing some of those areas out to me, where I have taken my blessings (my husband, and our special needs daughter) for granted. I REALLY LOVE YOU, MANDISA. Your music has changed my life in so many ways, especially "OVERCOMER." I hope you know that. God's riches blessings to you, my friend and thanks for such a wonderful internet friendship. YOU ROCK!! Tammy Lynn Schulz. ☝️👍❤😊
Wow this series was amazing. I think for the longest of time, I had drawn a line, and said I would never date someone who has a kid. I am 26, but when you talk about redemption and the posture of Christ. I am more open to learning and hearing about people's past life. At the end of the day, Im reminded that I am not perfect. Everyone has a story. Will be praying about this.
Yes God hates divorce but he Doesn't hate the divorcee.God is full of grace and forgiveness. One sin is not greater than the other. He restored the woman who had five husbands and was living with a man. God loves the divorced person to the point he can make them whole again and let them marry again. Grace Grace Grace.
When Elizabeth Chan mentioned the book "Redeeming love" I literally did a little hoop🥳😂😂. My love for that book is just beyond. And I honestly have loved this whole series ❤️❤️.
There IS perfection. Every Christian is perfect in Christ. There is not one standard of perfection everyone is at their own level of perfection. Yay for Redeeming love becoming a movie!
Mandisa; you are so full of wisdom. I hope that you will continue to film. And I cannot wait to see the man who will have the privilege of marrying you! Much love from Kenya! God do you good.
Wow Mandisa, I am so happy I found your UA-cam channel! "What if we were real talk show" has been encouraging. You and your guest have echoed some of my thoughts and have given me somethings to think about. I LOVE your transparency and honesty, not only for this format but for the other content you share. Thanks!!! On the matter of divorce - where a person stands in their individual growth is key, and I believe GOD'S GRACE is sufficient.
I have thoroughly enjoyed and appreciated this series. As are many of us, I am also sad to see it ending. It has been eye opening for me and has also been an encouragement for me as well. Thank you for taking the time, hopefully you choose to do this once again.
Wow, really enjoyed this and I have two comments to share: 1. The first statement about the D. Replace that D with an F for forgiven through repentance and now redeemed. 2. Mandisa your final comments with the reading of scripture, see what a blessing your singleness is and be sure to keep God's Word close to you so you do not stray from it. Thank all of you for sharing and if you are single, don't forget to keep those married couples in your prayers for strength in their unity. Amen Now that I read the scripture to myself, and I read N.K.J.V. I am happy that I am able to have a relationship with the living God through His Word. Amen. Again, thank you all for sharing your thoughts. I am really enjoying the comments and am very thankful for God's word.
This is a topic that I would have loved to hear more about! I am divorced. It was because of abuse and adultery on his part, but, I do want to say that, divorce is not always a choice that someone makes. A lot of times, it is a choice that is made for them. The Bible does give reasons that divorce is permissible, but beyond that, divorce is not any more of a sin than any other sin. We all fall short and makes mistakes, but, praise God He is faithful and just to forgive us and restore us. The best thing I ever heard, in church, about divorce and remarriage was from Kris Valloton. He said, “Jesus came to redeem. So if you don’t have a redemptive answer, you don’t have the answer.” YES. Across the board, YES! All I know is that I am not in any place to pass judgement on someone else’s past. I will judge the heck out of where you are currently at and if you aren’t showing me that you have grown and done the hard work of healing and allowed the Holy Spirit to work on you, then it’s a hard pass regardless. I just have to rest in the truth that God alone is writing my story, and whatever my life is or isn’t, it’s all for His glory anyways, so I know it will be beautiful.
I have loved this series too and I’m so sad it’s coming to an end! I love the groups you picked and you are a great host! Thanks for keeping things real!
Wow. I’m a 42 year old divorced woman with a child with Down syndrome. I want a Godly marriage more than anything. But I think you helped me realize I probably won’t ever have that.
Mandisa,I loved every episode of "What if we were real!" 💖🎉You are very intelligent,very insightful! Thank-you! I agree with Jon,saying single,instead of divorced.That didn't come right away.Looking to God and developing my own love relationship with Jesus,growing with Him helped me to grow and heal! I am so grateful that God saved me out of an unhealthy relationship to start a new life filled with hope and joy❣🤠💝🙏💖
This so beautiful presented I wish it was longer . But sister I really appreciate what you did to guide us in to deep knowledge. Thank u for that....stay blessed ❤️
I’m an divorcée. It’s way too long to say all I’ve studied. Jesus referred to Moses because the Pharisees asked Him the law. At the core, God is about forgiveness & grace. As Paul says we shouldn’t go about intentionally sinning knowing God will show us grace, but His grace is there when we come with a sincere heart. It’s important to note, it only takes one person to walk out & file for divorce leaving the other to pick up the pieces alone. Also, the word divorce in the Bible doesn’t always mean leave the the partner in a formal divorce. It can also mean one spouse who stops supporting or want to be with the other & marries or lives with a different person.
I agree on the last comment about both truth and grace. I interpret it as how Jesus never wanted divorce in the beginning and want his people to love, although relationships are a lot more complicated and I don’t want to judge. At the same time, I don’t think Jesus wants us to give up on marriage that easily like how Newsom’s ex-wife divorced twice and dating Donald Trump Jr now who also divorced, and then talk about praying in her recent speech like she has a vibrant relationship with Jesus.
I really believe His command was for people who were frivolously divorcing. Adultery can be of the mind too. Adultery can be spiritual (if they leave the faith.) God also says if men don't support their family they are worse than an infidel(I my opinion reason for divorce.) Of course if the sinning party decides to change and the sinned against chooses to accept the others changed person I think that's were the power of forgiveness is manifested. Divorce is not a decision to be made rashly. Even if someone did rashly divorced in their past we have to judge the person on their present state.
There is no shame in being divorsed. People all have a past. We are not living in our pasts. The past can't be changed, so we just need to learn from our past and move forward.
Well, like the Word says, "What God has joined together, let no man separate." If God puts people together, that means there are people together that He DIDN'T put together. The second group is why there's so much divorce in the Church. 🤷🏾
I don't have an answer for what Scripture says about divorce... I am still studying the matter out. Listening to Mandisa contrast the 2 personalities it struck me that the Pharisees came to trap Jesus in His words. They were zealous in their rigid form of spirituality and thought themselves better followers of the Law than Jesus. I find Jesus' answer so interesting because it highlighted the fact even their Law did not attain the level of purity and perfection God intended. Jesus' answer showed the human flaw and hardness of human hearts, it showed that Jesus' was not bound by human reasoning but was so much more holy and pure... I wonder if this scripture is so much about attaining perfection, or if it is an example of how gracious God has been to our failures.
Look at Matthew 5:32, " But I tell you anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, makes her the victim of adultery, and anyone who marries a divorced woman commits adultery." By this verse, I believe divorce is wrong unless your spouse cheats on you. If they did not cheat, you have no right to divorce them , because you would become an adulterer and you would force the next person they were involved with after you to commit adultery as well. I believe the Lord Jesus said this because He knows that we are but dust and there is only so much we can bear. He is good. He is not cruel, but kind. But, He also expects Christians to stand by His Word. It is not the same if one is not a Christian. They don't have Christ to follow, but those of us who do are supposed to know better. Don't marry someone who divorced his wife just because they "couldn't get along." You know why. Because if you marry someone like that, they will turn around and do it to you. For me, it is alright to have like one date with a divorced person, just so you can find out what happened to their marriage and whose idea was the divorce and why. Then, pray and make a decision on whether you should continue to go out with this person.
Have you ever studied in the Bible where Jesus meets the woman at the well and tells her all about herself? It is all so incredibly amazing. Every detail of the Bible.
Yes its adultery its a sin, when someone date someone who was married and wife and husband is still alive. It is what Jesus says not what your pastor says.
Couple of things..
1. I'm sad that I didn't know about you before Anthony's panel because you're now my internet older sister or cousin lol
2. This series has been such a huge blessing to me --on so many levels. I've shared this series with friends
3. I love love love that you ask the clarifying questions that I wish other hosts/moderators should ask
4. I love your honesty and transparency
Ok so more than a couple lol
5. You've encouraged me to figure out a way to seek like minded Christians who I could have similar conversations with (in this new heightened reality)
6. Please say that you're working on another type of panel
Most importantly thank you (and your team) so very much for moving forward with this series!
I wholeheartedly enjoyed this entire series!! A million thanks Mandisa for putting this all together and blessing our lives with it!! ❤️
1 Peter 4:8 New Living Translation
Most important of all, continue to show deep love for each other, for love covers a multitude of sins. I would not judge person divorce or etc but focus on prayer ask God who your spouse should be in obedience and not from a selfish posture!
The way I look at it is this: If the Bible says it’s a sin, it’s a sin.
I truly miss your What If We Were Real talk shows girl! We need MORE. 🙌🏾
I am going to miss you Mandisa and your friend's. Every week it's been so interesting listening to each person point of view.
That topic is definitely something to study! I personally don’t think it’s okay to marry someone who is divorced, but that doesn’t mean I treat them any different. I know people tend to put people down or condemn and that’s not what I’m trying to do. I think Jesus clearly says in His Word that it is wrong and I know that is something our flesh doesn’t like hearing, but I think it is so important to pray about it and walk in the spirit. Because when someone gets married they become one, they are no longer 2 individuals, and I think Jesus says what He says in Word because not only is it wrong but it is a lot of heartbreak, I definitely recommend relationships goals by Pastor Mike Todd, a lot of what he says is spot on! But thank you for sharing your honesty, because it is definitely a heavy topic, and I’ll be praying for you, for God to give you discernment, anyways thank you for making those videos and I hope you have a bless day!
Mandisa.......This series has been awesome. I have been married for 25 years and was so thrilled to be able to watch this series. I especially loved the input from your male friends, it makes me realize how they feel about certain topics and where they're coming from. It was refreshing to hear their perspective. Sometimes, when you are married for as long as I have been, a couple gets very complacent with each other and we start taking each other for granted. Thank you for pointing some of those areas out to me, where I have taken my blessings (my husband, and our special needs daughter) for granted. I REALLY LOVE YOU, MANDISA. Your music has changed my life in so many ways, especially "OVERCOMER." I hope you know that. God's riches blessings to you, my friend and thanks for such a wonderful internet friendship. YOU ROCK!!
Tammy Lynn Schulz. ☝️👍❤😊
Wow this series was amazing. I think for the longest of time, I had drawn a line, and said I would never date someone who has a kid. I am 26, but when you talk about redemption and the posture of Christ. I am more open to learning and hearing about people's past life. At the end of the day, Im reminded that I am not perfect. Everyone has a story. Will be praying about this.
Yes God hates divorce but he Doesn't hate the divorcee.God is full of grace and forgiveness. One sin is not greater than the other. He restored the woman who had five husbands and was living with a man. God loves the divorced person to the point he can make them whole again and let them marry again. Grace Grace Grace.
This topic was timely for me. Mandisa- continue this series! I don’t want it to end. This perspective is needed!!
When Elizabeth Chan mentioned the book "Redeeming love" I literally did a little hoop🥳😂😂. My love for that book is just beyond. And I honestly have loved this whole series ❤️❤️.
Omg! Please do another series!!! I loved this 💜
I hope God graces you with a wonderful marriage Mandisa in the near future and maybe it be very fruitful...he repays the years the locusts have eaten
There IS perfection. Every Christian is perfect in Christ. There is not one standard of perfection everyone is at their own level of perfection.
Yay for Redeeming love becoming a movie!
This was too short😳
I felt the same way
Me three
Mandisa you have incredible Grace and strength. Thank you for sharing this series with us. Blessings to the whole panel. Love y'all
Awww, its been great and informative.😁 Sad it's ending😭
Mandisa; you are so full of wisdom.
I hope that you will continue to film.
And I cannot wait to see the man who will have the privilege of marrying you! Much love from Kenya! God do you good.
Lol, we don't just like you, we LOVE you sister! So sad the series is coming to an end! Such great perspective, conversations, loving it!
I absolutely loved this serie. I don't want it to end. 😭
Great content mandisa !!! I really enjoyed this series ! I hope you do more
That divorce subject is a tough word. But I honestly don't think there is anything to figure out about it. The Word says what its says.
Wow Mandisa, I am so happy I found your UA-cam channel! "What if we were real talk show" has been encouraging. You and your guest have echoed some of my thoughts and have given me somethings to think about. I LOVE your transparency and honesty, not only for this format but for the other content you share. Thanks!!! On the matter of divorce - where a person stands in their individual growth is key, and I believe GOD'S GRACE is sufficient.
I love this series! ♥️
I have thoroughly enjoyed and appreciated this series. As are many of us, I am also sad to see it ending. It has been eye opening for me and has also been an encouragement for me as well. Thank you for taking the time, hopefully you choose to do this once again.
This whole series has been a blessing! Thank you for being real. Blessings to you and your friends.
We want more Mandisa. Much love.. this has been very enlightening
I'm Really Enjoying The Relationship Series's!😁😁😁😁😁😁😁
Wow, really enjoyed this and I have two comments to share:
1. The first statement about the D. Replace that D with an F for forgiven through repentance and now redeemed.
2. Mandisa your final comments with the reading of scripture, see what a blessing your singleness is and be sure to keep God's Word close to you so you do not stray from it. Thank all of you for sharing and if you are single, don't forget to keep those married couples in your prayers for strength in their unity. Amen
Now that I read the scripture to myself, and I read N.K.J.V. I am happy that I am able to have a relationship with the living God through His Word. Amen. Again, thank you all for sharing your thoughts. I am really enjoying the comments and am very thankful for God's word.
I've been blessed by this series. Thank you so much! ❤
Whew, very thought provoking. God is good anyhow.
This has been a blessing. Please continue these conversations.
I wish I could meet Mandisa in person I just love her😭
Amazing perspectives! Thanks for sharing! 💜
Thank you for this series 🙏🏽 God bless you and your friends Mandisa 🤎✨
Loved this series! Thank you for being so authentic and open!
This is so awesome, keep it up. I'm here for all of it!
This is a topic that I would have loved to hear more about! I am divorced. It was because of abuse and adultery on his part, but, I do want to say that, divorce is not always a choice that someone makes. A lot of times, it is a choice that is made for them. The Bible does give reasons that divorce is permissible, but beyond that, divorce is not any more of a sin than any other sin. We all fall short and makes mistakes, but, praise God He is faithful and just to forgive us and restore us. The best thing I ever heard, in church, about divorce and remarriage was from Kris Valloton. He said, “Jesus came to redeem. So if you don’t have a redemptive answer, you don’t have the answer.” YES. Across the board, YES! All I know is that I am not in any place to pass judgement on someone else’s past. I will judge the heck out of where you are currently at and if you aren’t showing me that you have grown and done the hard work of healing and allowed the Holy Spirit to work on you, then it’s a hard pass regardless. I just have to rest in the truth that God alone is writing my story, and whatever my life is or isn’t, it’s all for His glory anyways, so I know it will be beautiful.
I have loved this series too and I’m so sad it’s coming to an end! I love the groups you picked and you are a great host! Thanks for keeping things real!
Best series, ever Mandisa. I learned so much from all episodes. Love you
These episodes have been such a blessing💜💜💜🙏🙏🙏
Oh Mandisa, we will miss you... 💔
It’s over?? Nooo!! 😭
I really enjoyed this series, thank you Mandisa! 😊
We need more of these.
Wow. I’m a 42 year old divorced woman with a child with Down syndrome. I want a Godly marriage more than anything. But I think you helped me realize I probably won’t ever have that.
If God says it is possible, then it is. If we believe, we will receive. Do not lose hope.
Susan Wheeler please do not give up on that dream unless God has told you there is a better, different plan for you.
Ummm when are you doing the next series!?
This was too awesome. I wish you did an episode on online dating in the church.
Thank you so much for this conversations! It's been a real blessing ❤
Such great guests. Great conversations.
Great episode of your talk show mandisa it was interesting!!!🤗🙏🏻💞❤️
Mandisa,I loved every episode of "What if we were real!" 💖🎉You are very intelligent,very insightful! Thank-you! I agree with Jon,saying single,instead of divorced.That didn't come right away.Looking to God and developing my own love relationship with Jesus,growing with Him helped me to grow and heal! I am so grateful that God saved me out of an unhealthy relationship to start a new life filled with hope and joy❣🤠💝🙏💖
This so beautiful presented I wish it was longer .
But sister I really appreciate what you did to guide us in to deep knowledge.
Thank u for that....stay blessed ❤️
I’m an divorcée. It’s way too long to say all I’ve studied. Jesus referred to Moses because the Pharisees asked Him the law. At the core, God is about forgiveness & grace. As Paul says we shouldn’t go about intentionally sinning knowing God will show us grace, but His grace is there when we come with a sincere heart. It’s important to note, it only takes one person to walk out & file for divorce leaving the other to pick up the pieces alone. Also, the word divorce in the Bible doesn’t always mean leave the the partner in a formal divorce. It can also mean one spouse who stops supporting or want to be with the other & marries or lives with a different person.
Why is this series ending??? Oh no?!😢😢
Love you and love your songs, God bless you
This has been such an encouragement. Thank you for the REAL
Excellent,
Pointed and Truthful...(DAB)
I have really enjoyed this series.
Really enjoyed this whole series ❤️🙏
To be honest my fiancee is a widower with two kids and to be honest idc he is who he is with Christ
Very Good series.👍🏾
I agree on the last comment about both truth and grace. I interpret it as how Jesus never wanted divorce in the beginning and want his people to love, although relationships are a lot more complicated and I don’t want to judge. At the same time, I don’t think Jesus wants us to give up on marriage that easily like how Newsom’s ex-wife divorced twice and dating Donald Trump Jr now who also divorced, and then talk about praying in her recent speech like she has a vibrant relationship with Jesus.
I really believe His command was for people who were frivolously divorcing. Adultery can be of the mind too. Adultery can be spiritual (if they leave the faith.) God also says if men don't support their family they are worse than an infidel(I my opinion reason for divorce.) Of course if the sinning party decides to change and the sinned against chooses to accept the others changed person I think that's were the power of forgiveness is manifested. Divorce is not a decision to be made rashly. Even if someone did rashly divorced in their past we have to judge the person on their present state.
There is no shame in being divorsed. People all have a past. We are not living in our pasts. The past can't be changed, so we just need to learn from our past and move forward.
Well, like the Word says, "What God has joined together, let no man separate." If God puts people together, that means there are people together that He DIDN'T put together. The second group is why there's so much divorce in the Church. 🤷🏾
Shalom Sister, Please provided English subtitles to understand easily for every video
I'm at the "20s" that Nicole is talking about 😂😂
Nibs Hiii!❤
43 where Sis ?!?!?!?!?!??
There is absolutely judgment in the church. I left my church because of that when I divorced.
Hi
Like and love ❤️ you sister :)
Be like Jesus by following what he says.
What is the name of the book that Elizabeth mentioned?
Redeeming Love by Francine Rivers
@@lovefelix1566 Thank you so much
I don't have an answer for what Scripture says about divorce... I am still studying the matter out. Listening to Mandisa contrast the 2 personalities it struck me that the Pharisees came to trap Jesus in His words. They were zealous in their rigid form of spirituality and thought themselves better followers of the Law than Jesus. I find Jesus' answer so interesting because it highlighted the fact even their Law did not attain the level of purity and perfection God intended. Jesus' answer showed the human flaw and hardness of human hearts, it showed that Jesus' was not bound by human reasoning but was so much more holy and pure... I wonder if this scripture is so much about attaining perfection, or if it is an example of how gracious God has been to our failures.
Look at Matthew 5:32, " But I tell you anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, makes her the victim of adultery, and anyone who marries a divorced woman commits adultery." By this verse, I believe divorce is wrong unless your spouse cheats on you. If they did not cheat, you have no right to divorce them , because you would become an adulterer and you would force the next person they were involved with after you to commit adultery as well. I believe the Lord Jesus said this because He knows that we are but dust and there is only so much we can bear. He is good. He is not cruel, but kind. But, He also expects Christians to stand by His Word. It is not the same if one is not a Christian. They don't have Christ to follow, but those of us who do are supposed to know better. Don't marry someone who divorced his wife just because they "couldn't get along." You know why. Because if you marry someone like that, they will turn around and do it to you. For me, it is alright to have like one date with a divorced person, just so you can find out what happened to their marriage and whose idea was the divorce and why. Then, pray and make a decision on whether you should continue to go out with this person.
Have you ever studied in the Bible where Jesus meets the woman at the well and tells her all about herself? It is all so incredibly amazing. Every detail of the Bible.
Yes its adultery its a sin, when someone date someone who was married and wife and husband is still alive. It is what Jesus says not what your pastor says.