Son of a Mobster-Kurt Calabrese
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- Опубліковано 16 жов 2024
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to see so many comments filled with empathy and appreciation for my father truly means the world. I love you dad ❤
He seems like a great guy 👌 when I was little, I used to be embarrassed being part Italian because of alleged ties my great grandfather had to the mafia.
A man who disproves the idea that you are destined to become what your parents make you. He set a better course for himself and you, it seems!
Oh hey 👋
Damn thats your pops? Looks like he broke the cycle of being a shitty father-good for you, sorry how for his childhood, no kid deserves to get beat by his father, by the person who should be protecting the child, especially no child deserves to pray for death at 7 years old, that is horrifying, that is really sad. I love my son soo much I could not even picture hurting him like that. Looks like your grandfather didn’t have fatherly instinct, probably total lack of feelings, a psychopath.
I’m in love with this man. If he’s ever available for dinner….im there ❤. Such a real man.
It's good to finally see a mob interview that isn't glorifying it.
yeah man fuck the mob - nice mustache by the way
So true!
Amen!
Correct
It’s all part of the story
Kurt, you touched on something that people rarely do. Lots of us were abused, and that's horrible. But the thing that really messes with your self-worth is the meanness. Feeling that your own parent doesn't even LIKE you. That they made you feel like no one will like you. I was a good kid, too. Yet, I felt totally worthless. I remember not wanting to live when I was in kindergarten.
Thank you so much for your story.
I understand the meanness. When I was a child I asked my mom why she didn’t like me. I figured she’d say Oh, honey. I love you and I’m sorry if you feel that way. But I got BECAUSE YOU’RE SISTER IS EASIER. WOW. She said she didn’t like me. I think I was probably nine or 10.
Being a parent now, having lived through my own share of parental selfishness, I habitually hit the pause-count-to-10 button, and I don't always hit the mark, but I vowed not to bring the meanness into parenting. 🦾💪🏻🦾💪🏻🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Exactly. My dad would be so mean to me as a little boy, 4 to teenager until he split finally, but as a little kid he would pick on me and when I would cry HE would get mad at me for getting upset because “he was just playing”. His way of joking and playing with me was thumping me on the head or calling me names over and over until I would cry and he’d get mad. Being grown I see now how insecure of a child he was inside to do that to his only son.
I'm convinced that at least 75% of people are not parent material. I wish my parents would've put me up for adoption. I would've gladly taken my chances on being given to a couple that wanted a child to love and be a family. There's nothing more valuable in the world than that. Nothing.
my mother wonders why I seldom reach out.
Poor guy has a good heart and was dragged into a world of bull shit. Keep pushing Kurt! You’re a good guy, father, brother, and son. The way you speak I can tell you’re truthful and have a lot of pain. You will help a lot of people and I look forward to your podcast. You sir got a fan in me! You’re the man Kurt!!
Yes
We’re all living in a world of bullshit nowadays.
I agree. I don’t have to say any more.
What a gentle man. I feel so bad for him. There is nothing worse than an abusive parent. These are the people you are supposed to trust the most. Devastating. I wish him only the BEST. I hope he finds peace and happiness. He deserves it.
@@bentheredonethat-lx6nh He never said he was.
@@bentheredonethat-lx6nh Good for you you won...won what??? Who cares what you think. He is trying to survive being brought into the violent family... Were you abused by your parents???
@@bentheredonethat-lx6nhhow can you have a choice at young age.
Unless you have been through it you don’t know what this does to you mind you can’t think and act like you should because you don’t trust anything when your beat down so long. So let’s not show grace because we all need it!
When your a little child your innocent and it’s a shame for this man that he had to endure this. He’s not alone I to was raised by very evil parents who were so very abusive in every way. It’s something that scars you for life. God Bless this sweet man. I pray he finds peace and I pray he finds good people who understand and he gets saved by Jesus Christ.
Kurt is a fabulous and solid individual. He tells his family story as it is and truthfully. I’m happy to call him a friend!
This is a great channel with a large following. Awesome interview Kurt! ⭐️🎥⭐️
Oh, dear I can feel your emotions. You are such a gentle soul. I'm sorry you had to go through that. I also had a turbulent up bringing as well. I hope you find peace within you. I pray that your inner child finds you and you find him and heal. Much love and respect ❤️
What a beautifully kind comment🎉.
You two seem to be a gentle soul....takes one to know one 🙂.
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I can tell Kurt has faced abuse in his life. His posture, hand movements indicate abuse. He really seems like a sincere man. I wish him the best in life .
he needs to forgive his dad, give it to Christ
@@michaelklaus3633 the same baby Jeebus that allows little babies to be brutalized? Nah, not buying it.
A emotionnal testimony from a decent man, thank you very much sir for your courage to speak
“…a part of me died.” My heart goes out to him. So relatable. A good man, put in a very bad situation, to say the least.
My father wasn’t in the mob, but I don’t think I’ve heard another SWU that’s more relatable. Thanks for being vulnerable and sharing your story.
I learned about Kurt's story from his interview with Michael Francese and have been waiting for another in-depth interview with him ever since! And this one not only didn't disappoint, but exceeded my expectations. It was so honest and touching! It was heartbreaking to watch him tell his story. Especially when he talked about his mom - I couldn't hold back my tears it was so emotional. It's clear he has a good heart. And it's clear he is beaten and broken by life, but you can still hear the hope in him to feel better. So I applaud Kurt's honesty and courage in telling his life story and hope he finds the peace he seeks! And I can't wait to watch his podcast!
My speculation is Kurt’s father Could not understand how someone so evil could create someone so inherently good.
Profound analysis. Facts.
Right that's why he did everything to crush his spirit. Owned him even after prison. Imagine-- your own parent. Some of the things he says remind me of the sex trafficking victims I've worked with. No good options, and catastrophic outcomes regardless of choice. Many many people who have been saved by a hair's width of Grace from God❤
The weaker you seem, the more aggressive they'll get
Deep you see,into his soul;more then speculation. Your "seeing" is clear and tight;don't waste your gains
He has TERRIBLE PTSD - look at his eyes . Man. It’s all up in his body. Brutal . Life is weird. Sociopathy is a genetic thing mixed with a bad childhood / it’s got to have both things. This poor guy got a raw deal 😅
About time we got more of Kurt Calabrese. I’m honestly bored with hearing his brother tell the same story.
The Majority of us would like to hear from Kurt rather than Frank Jr. his less than Truthful brother.
@@redwemette5942 Don't know about Jr but from the little told here it sounds like he's a psychopath like his dad.
@@redwemette5942is there an interview on this channel with Junior? I can’t seem to find it.
Leave the gun, take the cannoli. Great job Mark
I read the book. His father was a vicious dude. He’s also right about dirty cops in Chicago.
The pain in this man’s voice is so genuine, his anxiety is through the roof. Good for him for getting out of the life and getting all these feelings out. I too have nothing to do with my father because of similar circumstances.
The mob didn't want crime in their neighborhood. But were very happy to have it in yours.
@@rickalarcon7988 Anti competition because they lose at anything that requires actual skills as opposed to bullying, theft and corruption.
They don’t ruin neighborhoods. They run vice like he said, strip clubs, porn movies, gambling, loan sharking.
@@ourinvisibleenemies7779 right and that doesn't ruin neighborhoods. Bonehead
@@ourinvisibleenemies7779And?
Those establishments weren't built on top of a mountain. They were built next to someones home or on their path to the grocery store or work.
I mean yes they supply a demand but commit crime to create supply. Like they are doing their neighbors a favor. Real good fellas😅
Thank you for a video that isn’t a prostitute or pimp. Love all the other videos.
These mobsters aren't much better.
No doubt!.... I've seen enough m€thd out prostitutes to last me a a lifetime... 😂
Quit complaining
@@tydupont8084 I hope you have a great day.
@@tydupont8084hey hey, aren’t YOU complaining?! By bitching about THEIR complaining? Here’s a tip, TY: quit READING the comments. That’s what I should’ve done and what I’m gonna do right now…..
It’s nice to hear someone speak of their time in the mafia who isn’t trying to make it seem like a grand old time
How many of them lived to ride off into the sunset, I wonder? Every story I see is of them going to prison, getting off'd or left with nothing to show for it all. You are right, it wasn't as grand as movies make it out to be.
He seems like a genuinely good man. I have c-ptsd, and it's an extremely difficult thing to live with. You have to move through life with a broken mind and nervous system, and every day can be a war with yourself. To make the conscious choice to be a good person and help others, even when you're suffering, is the epitome of goodness. Much respect to him.
Kurt: you come across as a really nice guy who got dealt a bad hand in life.. I live in Las Vegas...Oscar Goodman promoted the Mob Museum..I refuse to ever walk into that structure....I do that as respect to you and everyone who suffered like you. Keep fighting...what you went through should never have happened to anyone.
That is noble, thank you for planting the seed of thought.
😂
He has obviously been traumatized from an early age apparently by his father. My heart goes out to him
Ironic, they didn't want any CRIME where THEY lived. We know the feeling.
😅
That's exactly what I thought too, very ironic. Hypocritical too. But it is also completely normal for areas where organised crime gang operates to have less petty crime.
In Colombia too, there are some areas where there is no street theft and things like that because it created problems for the big fish in the pond.
Thanks for the ALL CAPS I WOULD NEVER HAD UNDERSTOOD WHAT YOU WERE SAYING
Hello Mark ! Thank you for another amazing interview ❤️🙏
Its not hard for me to find some sympathy for Kurt, I grew up with friends that came from abusive households as most people would have, but this was some next level trauma. Essentially he got raised by a serial killer father and somehow came out the other end with some integrity. But I think if he can dig down and tap into that discipline and integrity he has, then he can start putting that past behind him and find comfort in who he is, good luck Kurt
Growing up & having two protective, nurturing & loving parents I can't even comprehend what this poor man had to go through & still trying to deal with. All the very best Kurt, stay strong. YOU ARE A GOOD MAN!
Cheers & stay safe😊
My favorite interview on your show ever, Kurt....youre a real one
Makes me think of another mobster interview where he said something like “the mob didn’t do right by my family”…. 🤦♀️ Kurt I wish you and your family well and peace and joy. Thanks for sharing your story.
Therapy session. Thank you, Mark for hosting
A gentle and kind man who was living a nightmare of violence that he could not get away from. He has survived but the impact of years and years of abuse take a heavy toll - i wish you the best and all the peace in the world to take away your pain.
You can hear in his voice that these events still bother him and forever will leave a effect on his life. But thanks to your opportunity for him to talk about it.
Really appreciated this interview. Such a great demonstration of courage and perseverance. CPTSD is so challenging but I hope he can find some peace and sleep.
Absolutely love the mob related interviews - such a fascinating world to get an insiders perspective of how it actually was. Wish Kurt all the best and continued healing
Kurt, if you read this. Hang tough and continue fighting the good fight.
John C Reilly should play him if ever a movie comes out.
This is a broken man. I wish you luck sir. Get busy, stay busy.
my dad was a local 714 teamster at mccormick place, he used to play cards with your uncle back in the day. Its so surreal to see this on youtube, i used to hear stories about how scary and abusive your father was
I went to grade/high-school with 2 Hogan boys.
@@leeving3954Oak Park or Oakbrook I believe.
This interview really resonated with me. I was raised up around a one percent motorcycle club (whose name will never cross my lips) during the mid-late 80's into the early 90's in Jacksonville, Florida. My mom was with a patched "upper level member." Occasionally, other patched members would have me do odd jobs (no directly "club related" tasks) cleaning up after club events, taking out trash, mowing members' yards, washing cars, and whatnot. Any time he would observe other members kinda "grooming" me for the "club life," he would tell them to back off and talk to me, carefully explaining the negative and unsustainable aspects of that "life".
He and most everyone else I knew ultimately went to federal prison, and I imagine probably died of old age in there. But I'll always appreciate how he looked out for me, and I'll never forget what he taught me about what it takes to be a good man.
I hear ya and I can relate. I've seen enough bullschitt from the psychopaths in the Sons of Silence.
I can literally feel the pain he projects. I can't imagine the lifestyle he was brought up in and the fact that his father was so horrible to him. Kurt, you deserve the love and support and I hope you continue to share your story for your healing and hopefully to help others who have been in the same situation as you. Prayers for your future happiness.
The Mob have a code of honor based on omertà, which you can only ignore if offered a book deal.
I think the superceding mob code is to make money, regardless of the way. Book deals are a lot less dangerous for all involved.
The pen is mightier than the sword.
Honor amongst killers and sociopaths is laughable.
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Ratting on competition is ok too. Loyalty is to money not crew, family or community. Go to school and start a real family young bulls.
Kurt, this is one of the bravest mafia related interviews I’ve listened to on SWU. So honest, vulnerable…my heart goes out to you and your family. The commonality of all the sons, their Dads used them, pawns, and that’s on the father, that’s not being a man. A man takes care of his family. You did the right thing to not interfere with your mom, their marriage. You’d be dead and then she would’ve had no one. You did right. I did a mafia tour in Chicago and very sad story, all the same, sons get taken advantage.
A distinguished, well spoken man.
I watched this guy’s father get his ass handed to him by an innocent civilian on a downtown sidewalk in broad daylight. He wasn’t a tough guy . He was a bully. That’s why he took it home to his family.
Really? When did this happen?
Thank you, Kurt, for speaking the truth about being under the thumb of a narcissistic parent, and a professional criminal. You survived the horror, and you will heal from it. Keep talking and keep praying. I'm keeping you in my prayers. I know the abuse of a narcissist parent. It's a lonely feeling, but you know the truth. Don't stop, you are on the right path.
sorry to hear this story Kurt! I hope you have sunny days ahead
Kirsten, your dad is a good man. I can tell bc I had the best dad I could've ever asked for. He passed away unexpectedly 30 yrs ago this December, not a day goes by that I don't think of him & how much I miss him. Cherish the time you have with your dad. All the best to you and your family.🩷
This poor guy is literally shaking. Def ptsd
One of the best interviews ever on this channel.
Kurt, I have C-PTSD and EMDR therapy has been very healing for me.
EMDR has helped me tremendously with a traumatic brain injury from a car accident. I highly recommend anyone with any kind of trauma to do EMDR.
Same ❤️🩹
This is sad. Back in the day I had "uncles" who were mixed up in "stuff," and never did they want their children or other family members in the same "business." They would set them up for school. I'm sorry for you went through this.
Wow. I have chills. Your name instantly gave me chills. My papa (nick spazio) bar called the Redwood lounge, was a part of FBI raid because of the illegal video poker machines. Authorities believe the video poker machines, which produce illegal payouts, tie back to the operation of the late Joseph “Shorty” LaMantia, a top lieutenant in the 26th Street Crew, which operates in Bridgeport and Chinatown.
LaMantia in turn worked under Frank Calabrese Sr.
My papa passed away in 2010 before he was called to testify before a grand jury. We think he passed away from all the stress of going to court. My papa was the most amazing man though and its so crazy he had a tie to your dad. I know my papa had a scary side but he never brought that home to us. Im sorry for all the pain you had to go through growing up but you shared an amazing story and i hope it helps you heal.
Wow, this was a GREAT interview even though it was heartbreaking! It tells you how words and physical abuse can hurt a child for their lifetime! 💔💔💔
The Outfit. Controlled my city for 100 years.
The movies make these people seem cooler than they are evil, but they are not- I wonder if someone else controls things now.
@@alzychoze6591Street gangs do
You have a great voice for a podcast. Ask Mark about the Psilocybin doctor he had on for your CPTSD treatment.
This was an excellent episode such a fascinating and sad story I hope for the best for Kurt.
😢😢😢 how does any mother allow her child to be beaten I will never understand this even if I was terrified of my husband I could not handle seeing my child being beaten😭😭😭😭🙏✝️
What an incredible man to talk about this. So authentic and just incredible person. Amazing person. Thank you for this. You are incredible.
Mark gets the absolute best interviews. This is awesome.
I completely understand how you feel. Maybe not as extreme as you , but I suffer as well. I, like you, keep putting on a smile and put one foot in front of the other one day at a time for my family. I also agree with you when you say that you don't like the world we are living in. I think back 30 or 40 years and it seems like it was a completely different reality back then vs. Now. I don't feel like I belong here, like we shifted dimensions or something. Hang in there Kurt, you're not the only one.
To have your own father treat you like an employee and never a son. That must have been horrible..
We, as a society promote the idea that each of us can choose our own path. Kurt's story demonstrates just how difficult that really is. I hope that Kurt finds peace. He's earned it.
Sometimes the harder the life the sweeter the soul. It’s not easy to even come through the stuff he has seen. I’m sure he still has battles with demons, but to come through that with that attitude and demeanor is amazing. Hats off to ya bud!
Bravo Mark, and Kurt, another fascinating interview, which I had to watch all the way through. 👍
Thank you for your honesty and bravery. It had to be difficult for you to share your story. When the going gets tough, know that you are enough.
He's got a soft heart. Blessings to him and his family. Wishing him all the best with his podcast. I hope it's healing for him. I have CPTSD as well and can relate to how he feels being beaten against the rocks. His emotions are palpable as he recalls his life..🙏
Kurt - I feel you. Like so many others, I also trek through life with PTSD and can relate to many of the effects that you mentioned. Hold on to your Power. Sending you well wishes of Peace, Love and closure. Thanks for sharing your Story. ❤
These people who worship these animals, have never really been in contact with them. Great interview, glad he survived it.
You're amazing how you're opening up and telling your story I look forward to more interviews my friend❤
Good for him, wanting to help others after all the hell he went through his whole life - even down to being diagnosed with C-PTSD & having to deal with that. Kurt, you have a good heart. Wishing you continued healing. ♥️
Makes your own Dysfunctional family look like The Waltons.
Speak your Truth, Kurt. Some of us had monsters for parents. Too bad society feels the need to shame us for saying it out loud.
Any time I hear a person reveal how awful their parents were, I tell them how strong and brave that person had to have been in order to distance themselves!
A very eloquent, intelligent, decent man...Top boy👏👏🤝👏👏
PTSD is so painful. I don’t feel your pain but I understand it and feel my own.
Through all the indignity Kurt manages to let his soul overcome the negative effects of non stop trauma. Kurt said something that rang true to me that when he lost the important people in his life he said he was never the same again. Im having a difficult time from different circumstances but have thought often how the stress has changed me. It blocks one off from society and makes friendships and relationships hard. Kurt, you're gonna be fine brother and will be looking for your podcast. All the best.
Great interview again Kurt. I would like to hear more about the break in at the Wisconsin property as well as how the Las Vegas Mob Museum got a firearm that was tied to your family. I’d be curious about the interactions with the FBI at the Family secrets Trial.
N should do a series on these stories... Just amazing what you are doing ❣️
I love this man, this brought tears to my eyes. Thank you for sharing your story Kurt❤️
The fact he keeps believing his brother shows what a good person he is
This is a great video! Thanks, mark! Wearing my SWU shirt, now!
This is an excellent interview. One of the best I have heard on this. Channel
The only thing safer than living next door to a made man is living next to a judge
Judges, like politicians, are blackmailed pedophiles.
The strength you show is phenomenal Kurt. Thank you for sharing your story. In from Australia mate. God Bless you.
You’re a strong man Kurt! Keep your head up boss. I’d really like to hear your podcast. I myself struggle with and have friends who deal with complex severe PTSD. Good luck man.
you are doing important work here ......thank you.
When the people that should be loyal are not, it destroys you. Keep it up Kurt!
The childhood crap makes you tougher than most when you can face it. Anyone who goes through it knows. Kudos Kurt!
Loved this! You have a beautiful soul! God bless you and your family!
Great video. Such a sad story. Thanks for sharing!
We traded organized crime for unorganized crime
Nah, organized crime hasn't gone anywhere, even if some of the players have changed. Ordinary crime rates are at historic lows, so that's good, but it all still happens
Kurt I’m so sorry that you were raised in such abuse and violence. You certainly deserved none of that and obviously it has taken its toll. I wish you healing and peace in your life.
He borrowed that shirt from Tony Soprano
NatNast , Son , Gangsta Shirt
Looks a bit more Corrado to me
@@Kynaist either one would wear it, but the body size is big galoot, uncle junior is beanpole
@@demivydE it's also the Rodney Dangerfield regular guy look.
@charlesbaldo great movie! Joe Pesci at his best lol
Nice to see a real man being interviewed for once! 👍👍
Being loyal to your abuser can slowly kill some….
I grew up in a similar household. Was miserable as a kid worrying every evening for when Dad got home.
Thanks for sharing. Make sure the podcast is on UA-cam.
Kurt, if you happen to read this, pick up the book 'Your Erroneous Zones' by Dr. Wayne Dyer. I never read 'self help' books but I accidently came across this one at a bad point in my life back in 1978 and it changed my life. I had to read it a few times for it all to sink in but when it did, wow.
So sorry you went through all that, so glad to see you are working on it
I loved this episode. Good luck to you man, hopefully you find your footing and gain peace.
Id be super interested in an Irish mob related interview, maybe a Russian one too. Just curious