Disclaimer: What I am talking about is related to Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder. It is not political in any way. It is not a for or against being gay. To learn more about this subtype of OCD go here: iocdf.org/expert-opinions/sexual-orientation-obsessions
Everything about being LGBTQ in this society is political. You sound utterly clueless as you flippantly steer LGBTQ questioning young people into this detrimental quackery for profit.
What do you even think being "for or against being gay" means? Are you "for or against having gravity"? You desperately need to learn how to address LGBTQ people with respect. There is a reason why you generate legitimate criticism. The problem is you and your ineptitude. Go roll your eyes and put on more fake eyebrows like a bigot.
@@stephenclark7394You obviously don’t know anything about ocd. Theres nothing wrong with being gay, but ocd can make non gay people think they’re gay, even if they’re not. OCD attacks one’s sense of self, even attraction. You can get out of here buddy.
I’m straight but got this HOCD out of nowhere to the point of panick. I love women and never see myself if gay, but these thoughts come out of nowhere and brings weird feelings and anxiety, something I start loosing my breath because it’s scary. It’s like your brain is trying to take away your identity from you with these thought and tricks itself into believing them. It’s terrifying, but I will overcome this and I will be back to normal again
Same bro, Like I'm attracted to females like when I even look at them it turns me on but then my mind just floods me with gay thoughts like I just start worrying and in my minds just chaos. Thoughts like "Can I get hard from a man" "Am I Gay, I don't wanna be gay" but I never imagine myself being gay. In the future I imagine having a beautiful feminine women and kids with her.
Im straight but over 10 years ago I struggled with this type of ocd. It’s funny to me now. I bever used to go outside or watch tv because of triggers. After about 6 months of hell, i gave the thoughts less and less attention and it all just fizzled away like a bad dream. Anyone who has searched for this video has ocd and is looking for reassurance, like i was. It helps short term. Some of you need it because you’re not ready to start accepting the thoughts. When you do get to that point you will find out how ridiculous all of this panic was.
Bro, I've been in this situation for a months now and little by little I'm recovering from it. There are thoughts that made me terrified for months because of this.
I typed in why are some people in denial of being gay... This video pops up , I've been on this side of tube multiple times , and to say my life isn't where I want it to be is , so easy for you to read but hard to understand . I just need to Do my own ERP therapy I suppose
@@enriquecastillo3729 id say don’t do that because your mind is working against you at this point. If i was back in that position, i would just start accepting the thought and have faith that life will return to normal soon. I was in the deep of it , really. I was scared to go out of my house. Since hocd, I have had multiple relationships with women. Im just not into other men. Women do it for me and thats it. I occasionally get a random thought now and then, but i can just brush it off now. Nobody is 100% one way or another. Humans always have a greyzone. If im 95% straight then so what, who cares? Ocd is the problem here. It only exists in the binary. I would try to accept the thoughts and feelings, then carry on with my day. The thoughts will have less and less power. When the fog of anxiety clears you will have your answers but by then it won’t matter to you. Have goals and focus on life.
It's sometimes really hard to live with HOCD. I have some days, where I'm whole days in my bed and can't get out of it because the thoughts drain my energy so much.
Doubt. Doubt man. Ocd loooooooooves doubt. Give it an answer you’ll get 100000 questions in response. Ocd will take .0000000000000-ad infinitim-1% of uncertainty and twist it into near-certainty with compulsions. Only way way to win the game is to stop playing. Best of luck all, there is hope in treatment.
@Phantom S.L looking for answer online only makes it worse. if you don’t like the thoughts and want out stop thinking then. Only you know what you want and that’s looking deep inside your heart. It’s takes a a lot out of you, but just knowing that’s not how you roll and working towards changing the way you perceive things helps.
Just wanted to offer some support to you all going through this. It dominated my mind for a while and while I’m not perfect by any means I can’t believe how much better I’ve gotten with this. Just keeping fighting through, your mind will eventually become bored with the idea and move onto other things.
I'm a straight man, never been attracted to a man at all in my life, but recently my minds starting to try convince me l'm actually 🏳️🌈 , I've watched corn (p) for 6 years, only ever corn (p) involving a woman. I've never had a relationship due to social anxiety. This all started when looked at a man on tv and thought he was good looking, didn't find myself attracted to him, then my mind starts trying to convince me I'm actually gay then I will go and search 🏳️🌈 without shirts on to prove to myself I don't get turned on (which I never do) and even at one point had to put gay corn (p) on just to prove a point that I didn't get turned on by it (which I never I actually felt the opposite) this has been happening a month and I've started talking to myself physically having to deny it and prove myself constantly and it's stopping me being able to live my life, after I prove it to myself my mind says "you're in denial". I wound understand if I actually got turned on from it I would be in denial but I haven't. I also get like weird twitches when I see men, but it’s all men, could even be a 85 year old with no hair so that’s proof it’s fake, but when I see a woman on corn hub I don’t twitch I just instantly get .. hard.
Your videos have helped me immensely (as well as talk therapy). Over a few months I had experience trans OCD, and I would continuously fall for compulsions because in the moment they would make me feel more at ease. They would provide me with an “answer”, but realistically there is no answer. Making an answer irrelevant sounds crazy, but with exposures I’ve created a “yes and” attitude which seriously changed my life for the better
Im actually going through this right now, yesterday was my first session with nocd , Id like to thank you so much Nathan because of your videos and this wonderful community you’ve helped create, im now getting help!
Had a long arse re[ply on this but fricking pc, so im gonna shoten it. I have always loved women and never looked at a man like i want that. I have had many female crushes for my whole life and never a guy. First i hat harm ocd for a weeks and now this. It started because sometimes when in an awkward corner or position I stand like a gay dude or have a gay walk i guess you can say. Its uncomfortable and for some reason this HOOCD has started from it. AND AS A CHRISTIAN I AM VERY ANNOYED. I AM STRAIGHT ALWAYS HAVE BEEN, sure i have said that guy is handsome but nothing more. absolutely nothing more, just saying he is better looking then me. Unlike my friends who are straight and would add to that saying they would smash if they was a women. But not me. Why am I panicking about this. Why?
I have been suffering from it since December. And trust me hocd is a real thing i started showing symptom of it too like gronial response (which i never had before the onset of OCD), remunerations all day long, loss of interest in girls etc. But after February it started to get better and better. I would advise you to stop remunerating, find a hobbie, never Skip school, college or work because of it(i know this is tough but just trust me). See you need to understand that the more you remunerated the more hypothetical scenario you will create which will give you anxiety because you are suffering from an anxiety disorder. And you are so concerned about your sexuality because it is the part of your personality this this the thing that you value the most in your life that why you can't stop thinking about it. You need to go out and realised that Their are other important things in life and sexuality is not the only thing that defines you you are more than than and neither is sexuality just black and white(straight or gay) it very complex. And i would highly recommend you to not take opinions from randos. And for godsakes STOP YOUR ONLINE RESEARCH. It has been three month since i start getting better i am starting to feel like me again because I started focus on my life again. Now i don't bother to find the answer, may be i am gay, may be i am straight, maybe i am bisexual may be i am a potato wtf cares! And i couldn't have done this without the help of mr peterson he is a true healer and a knowledgeable man who know what this disorder is and understands it. Truly a genius. Stay strong folks, this aren't gonna last forever but time that you pass not being productive aren't gonna comeback. #starvethemonster
It is getting better every day. I started suffering from hocd for 2 years and still in recovery every day and getting better every day. Im in a loving relationship for 7 months. Go to therapy and stop trying to figure it out. As you said as far as we concern we can be potato sexual! Love you all and have a great life.
Man I’m back and forth I’m dealing with the anxiety better with it now . But my attraction to opposite sex isn’t what it use to be and my mind is making men stand out when that has never happened. I’ve always looked at guy as cool or hey that’s a good looking guy but never sexual or random in head that guy is hot .
@@hix9306 i know exactly what you are talking about. The fact hocd is the thing you think about almost all the time of course it would happen. I would recommend going to therapy asap and watching ocd mindful.
To anyone Watching this and struggling with this, brother. I'm struggling with this too. And if looks like I'm getting ever so closer to therapy. This OCD has ruined my life and led me down some dark paths. Before I go I'm going to say...if anyone is watching this. If you're in a place where you think you need help. Get it. Call somebody. Text somebody. Coming from experience it's the hardest thing you can do but the bravest. Let's get help together guys. Good luck to all brothers and sisters suffering ❤️
I am literally binge watching all your videos right now and I feel a huge sense of relief. OCD can really make you feel like you’re alone in this world, some thoughts I have (intrusive one’s) really scare me to the point I leave rooms and sit somewhere quiet. I’ve been with my partner just over a year and he makes me so happy, I love him so much. I just wish I didn’t have thoughts that I’m not good enough and he is going to go out and find someone better. Because of the way I am I just feel he’ll lose interest, I always have an intrusive thought that maybe I’m a psycho or crazy… it does scare me to the point I feel I believe it😒
i’ve been trying to incorporate some humor into dealing with this theme. instead of rumination, i respond with something completely different and not a yes or no or an answer even pertaining to the question “am i gay?” or “does this thing i did/saw/felt make me gay?” for example: intrusive thought: “what if you’re just gay and in denial about it?” response: “sorry, we don’t serve coke products here” it’s weird and goofy, but it keeps me from doing compulsions cause i can’t help but laugh as i get more creative with these non-related responses. thanks so much for your content on this!!
I started having HOCD a few weeks ago, it fucked up my trip to San Diego and made it hard for me to even step back into the boxing gym and wrestling practice. I’ve liked women forever but two things happened that I believe triggered my ocd, finding out a close friend was gay (he’ll always be a close friend) and when someone made a gay joke abt me. I am just starting to ignore obsessing over it and I got back into my hobbies and I’m starting to feel great again.
Honestly i got rid of it after 1 week...u have to realize if you were straight your whole life and had tons of crushes on different female actresses or girls in school then you can't just change your sexuality over night 😂 it's just paranoia....stop looking into those thoughts and eventually your brain says "whatever"
Nathan I’m dealing since December with trans ocd, which is really similar to hocd. For almost 4 months I was a shit, thinking about gender all the time, stay all the day in the trans forums to figure something out. Then it start with the feelings, I don’t like anymore my beard, my height, my voice, alL things that I love since puberty. I’m going really better now doing erp, and your videos are really really useful to me. Thanks you Nate!
As someone who has genuinely questioned my sexuality before, AND had SO-OCD, I can clearly feel the difference between them, but for some reason I can’t stop the OCD or being anxious. Ahhhh 😬
I've had hocd ever since covid started. It almost seems like it will never end, and it's a vicious cycle that I can't escape from. These videos have been helping me see some light at the end of the tunnel. Thank you for that!
I’ve got HOCD combined with internal homophobia. I’m definitely not straight but I constantly obsess over whether I’m gay or bi and constantly contemplate various scenarios in my head to try and prove one or the other. It’s funny because I’ve known for a while I’m not straight and I used to rarely even think anything of it. I’m 18 now and it’s completely taken over my mind the past few months and it’s hard to even imagine my thoughts going back to how they were. This video is great though I agree on the themes part as I’ve had other “themes” I’ve obsessed over in my mind just not to the same degree. I just have to try to not even engage these thoughts a bit before they get too strong to control. Hopefully I see this comment later and be happy I’m over this
HOCD has been happening to me since two weeks ago, where it became newly formed, I don’t understand what caused it, but it made me mentally breakdown, I am a guy and I’m terrified of the thought of turning gay, because I seriously and wholeheartedly don’t want to be that, and throughout my young childhood, I was always deeply attracted to woman, but it just doesn’t feel the same anymore, I’m afraid the accept any thoughts or groinal responses. I’m seriously afraid to look at anything that has the littlest of homosexuality or anything that resembles it, I’ve become obsessed with looking for ways to cure it and find reassurance in who i am, I can’t stop and it’s making me extremely depressed.
Great video! I remember you made a short video similar to this and it changed my life. The commitment to not figure out my sexuality took a huge burden off my back. The freedom not to figure it out is wonderful.
It's been 10 months since the onset of my hocd and i can confidently say it'll get better for you as well. Im not fully cured yet and it still gets bad whenever im depressed, i start having doubts again. It happened when i turned 30 for some weird reason i wont discuss. I was sure of myself before this event so it's really twisting me of what could have happened Edit: Im going out again to get some training and ive been falling in love to girls and the female form all over again. Sometimes hocd would make me too self conscious and look at dudes but its gone now Edit 2: It's back and terrible again. It roots down to overall anxiety disorder. Ffs i never had any romantic or sexual desire towards men nor im in denial either. I guess i have to take care of the anxiety first
This was triggered for me with a girl I met for the first time. I had a lot of pressure on me to “do it” with the girl that day from my friends and even found out that she wanted to also “do it”. I’m a pretty nervous and anxious guy when it comes to girls especially if I meet them for the first time. Eventually we spent the night together and I wasn’t able to get it “up” with her and that’s when HOCD was triggered for me. I wasn’t in the mood that night to really have sex but i know she did and I felt pressure from my friends to do it. Thanks for help last couple of days have been rough.
@@priyalkhurana9763 definitely much better and I’d say it’s gone now as I’m only aroused by women ever haha so you just need to have another experience and that experience will reassure you.
I’m so afraid I won’t get what I want, that everything is supposed to be a struggle. I’m autistic so I’m used to being on the outside. I tell myself that I am gay because nothing will ever be easy for me, that I will always have some type of adversary, and that I don’t deserve what I want. I have become so obsessed with trying to “figure it out” that everywhere I go the mind is constantly racing. “Why did I notice this woman? I must be attracted to her”, “oh look, there is an attractive man. He would never want me because I’m gay. I can hardly even look at him”. I just want to be at peace…
I struggle with sexual orientation ocd. It's been a long ride but its safe to say things get better. In the end life is short so we shouldn't waste time letting it control us.
I went through this as a teenager - for months it overrode my thoughts. As soon as I found out that HOCD was a thing it pretty much went away. Was such a strange and depressing time for me prior to that
I'm 16 and have never been diagnosed with OCD, but I'm convinced that I've got it because of this subset. My entire life I've been attracted by girls (I like one now as a matter of fact) but it was only recently that i started having doubts about myself. They were manageable at first, but now it's gotten to the point where I sit in my bed at night and constantly have to reassure myself that I'm straight. I tried telling my parents about the issue to possibly get me tested for OCD, but they just dismissed it as me questioning who I was and said "everyone goes through it at your age". I genuinely want this to go away and just get back to my normal life
Trust me fam your not alone. I tried telling my mom about it but only gave her a glimpse of it because i feel like shes going to take it the wrong way.
I Had HOCD from 2 years and i was so doubt if i was gay but then i read about HOCD because i was 100% sure that i am not gay but i have weird thoughts (sexual thoughts) about literally everyone it was very hard on me and it is still hard till now and i can not even talk about this with anyone
My OCD thoughts are telling me right now that NO YOU ARE USING OCD AS AN EXCUSE NO YOU DO NOT HAVE OCD YOU THINK YOU HAVE OCD, MAYBE YOU WERE LIVING THROUGH A LIE i have medically diagnosed as an OCD patient i was even taking medicines for it, NOW i think the monster is back, everything looks so real also looks like imagination,what should i do HELP MEEEEEEE
Does anyone else feels afraid of being afraid of homophobia? Like for example in my head, if I'm afraid of being gay, then I have OCD but if I'm afraid of homophobia then I'm gay. So I think now I'm afraid of being afraid of homophobia, and sometimes I can't tell if I'm actually afraid of being afraid of it or I'm just afraid of it.
Hey just curious, have you experienced any relief? I've been suffering with what I believe is TOCD and its causing me endless amounts of dread and anxiety and I hate it so much, just wanna be my old self again.
@@charlesroberson1387 yeah, I actually am. I still sometimes have the thoughts of being trans but I don't feel dread anymore. ERP and other cognitive behavioral therapies really work. (At least for me)
@@crusaderguy2 Okay that's promising to hear, I still think about old obsessions that used to fill me with dread, and they no longer do. I'm feeling a bit better today even, thank you
im so frustrated. i’ve been dealing with this off and on for almost 2 years and now right after i start liking this guy/getting serious with him, the socd comes back harder (it had always been in the back of my mind) and now my brain is like “break it off with him, you probably like girls” and i hate it. i have so much to rant about dealing with this topic and i just want to scream.
I've liked girls my whole life as far as I can remember and now this anxiety thing is ruining my life. I've broken up with girls because of it, I'm still romantically and sexually attracted to women but some days I feel like I have no interest in anything because of what I have. Started getting serious with this girl a while ago and out of nowhere my brain is like "I'm gay I'm gay I'm gay" constantly in the back of my mind soon as I started developing feelings for her. Because of my thoughts I just completely avoided her. I also have this anxiety where I constantly clear my throat because of it as if I'm now trying to give myself reassurance that I'm straight. Anyone going through that also?
When i say to myself i am not gay, my mind reply you saying this because of society you live, then i answer i don't care about society but i don't want to be gay. And these thoughts continue for over a year... sorry for my english
Nathan I have a great video idea for you. Can you do a video on Dream OCD? It's basically where you have a dream and you believe that it may be like a warning for you. Maybe God is warning you about something. "I saw this in my dream, this is what it means, so I better not do this!". Compulsions include avoidance for me.
As a straight man and a Christian I KNOW this is OCD I pray to God daily on Why am I getting these thoughts and I think about it daily and it makes me cry because I have a beautiful amazing girlfriend and yet I have these unwanted never ask for thoughts that has literally put me into a depressive state in my life. And I think about it 24/7 because I DONT WANT IT but why do I have it
Hey bro I have had it for 3 years I had finally dated a girl I had been liking for a long time but we broke but anyways I had recovered I was good for 2 years it just came back 2 weeks ago im having a hard time with it but ik it will eventually go away
Whenever im stressed out i get intrusive thoughts i can go weeks without them , then suddenly a new theme. I cried watching this reading how many others are plagued by OCD, i got diagnosed when i was 12 years old im 32. Yes intrusive thoughts still bother me but im trying to cope
Anyone struggling with this look into the presence process book, ocd is simply our inner child’s way of gaining our attention because of built of fear and anxiety. Feeling your way through is key !!
I've been going through this since the beginning of 2019. Today i feel like i might just be bisexuel but it dosent feel right anyway. I know that i am attracted to women, but i still feel like im attracted to men in a way i dont want to. I keep shaking my head every time i think about the question.
The difficult thing about SOOCD for me is that there isn't anything inherently wrong with being gay/bi. For stuff like POCD I can always fall back on the fact that I find the thoughts it causes morally reprehensible, betraying that it's 'just ocd'. For SOOCD it's like "I don't like the thoughts of being gay/bi" "why don't you like that, are you homophobic?" "No I'm not" "Well if you're not homophobic then you must have no problem with the thoughts and therefore be in denial" "but I do have problems with the thought" .... I've been made to feel like saying that I'm unequivocally straight is homophobic in itself because people keep talking about how people who value their 'straightness' are actually insecure bigots who are probably also in denial.
I'm a straight man, never been attracted to a man at all in my life, but recently my minds starting to try convince me l'm actually 🏳️🌈 , I've watched corn (p) for 6 years, only ever corn (p) involving a woman. I've never had a relationship due to social anxiety. This all started when looked at a man on tv and thought he was good looking, didn't find myself attracted to him, then my mind starts trying to convince me I'm actually gay then I will go and search 🏳️🌈 without shirts on to prove to myself I don't get turned on (which I never do) and even at one point had to put gay corn (p) on just to prove a point that I didn't get turned on by it (which I never I actually felt the opposite) this has been happening a month and I've started talking to myself physically having to deny it and prove myself constantly and it's stopping me being able to live my life, after I prove it to myself my mind says "you're in denial". I wound understand if I actually got turned on from it I would be in denial but I haven't. I also get like weird twitches when I see men, but it’s all men, could even be a 85 year old with no hair so that’s proof it’s fake, but when I see a woman on corn hub I don’t twitch I just instantly get .. hard.
Is it normal that when I do feel comfort and I’m not stressing over these thoughts. My brain says what if it’s because I’m accepting that I’m gay. Which sends me into an even worse spiral down
this is not acceptance and ive dealt with for a while. Its hard to understand that the calms doesn't mean ur accepting the thoughts but in fact, seeing how useless they are. Trust me, ive dealing with it for over a year now
I don’t understand it ever since I was born I was straight but these feelings have made me believe that I am I’ve always said that I am straight but it feels like I’m lying to myself. Sometimes the feelings get so convincing I feel like I want to be gay and I’m not in reality that I’m straight and it’s really torturing me. Like sometimes I’ll sit here and say “maybe I should just accept it and be gay” but then the thought of actually accepting something like that makes me go mental saying “no no no I can’t I can’t do it” and I can’t do anything but think about going mental and breaking things
I suffered w this til v recently between whether I was bi or lesbian, and came to the realisation that even if I knew or didn’t know, it wouldn’t make a difference since I would like the people who I liked anyways whether I knew or not, that realisation rlly helped me
@@justincrackedatfort793 since I still don’t know for certain but I’m okay with that, but having this realisation has helped me come to more definite conclusions about my sexuality
me having an existential crisis a year and a half ago discovering I'm gay to end up getting diagnosed two weeks ago with ocd and question myself again is honestly so 🤡🤡 that I have to just laugh about it...
Have not been diagnosed with OCD, but have had a tendency to ruminate and become overly concerned with things I cannot control or am unsure of. This was the last one, came in like a shot from darkness just short of a week ago. I genuinely do not think I am in denial, I am genuinely sure I am heterosexual or bisexual. But I can never be certain, and I find myself asking at random times. It's like I need to interrogate myself, even though I know the logical answer and what feels right to me. But this thing does not let out. Is it denial? Who knows. I do not think it is. Are you gay? Who knows, doubt it, but could be. OCD? Unsure. OCD-like? Most likely.
UGHHHH! HAD A DREAM OF KISSING A GIRL, AND I THINK IT WAS A LUCID DREAM SO I HAD CONTROL OVER IT. I think I was even happy about it. I WANT TO SELF HARM. IM PANICKING AND ITS RUINING MY DAY
In this video, he gets to the point, makes sense. He cannot answer your sexuality preference. But he can answer just as he did here, that your ocd will always make you question yourself in one way or another. And not to really over analyze your thoughts if you can do so, and not to put a title immediately on your thoughts. Imo. I’ve liked girls my entire life, but all bc someone made a gay joke at me 17 years ago when I was at a vulnerable unstable time in my life, it’s haunted me ever since. Crazy what one comment someone makes in your life impacts your for years to come.
Yeah back in 2017, I was thinking about George Washington and had a intrusive thought that asked "what are you gay for him" and that has has haunted me for a year until I danced with a girl at a ball and had enough of constantly questioning myself, getting a answer then not being satisfied with said answer when its rock solid
I hear you bro, same happened to me. But I’ve had people question my sexuality my whole life, which never bothered me much until HOCD hit and now it’s just fuel on the fire. Really sucks.
same ..I was suffering from anxiety disorder at that time and my friend joked about my sexuality ..I took it very easy but as days months passed , that thing stuck me with such force ..I couldn't stop thinking about it .
Bro your not alone it's been a while since this girl from my class made a joke on me too ... I'm suffering from this but I'll fight back I know I can do it and so can everyone here !
I don't know if I have it because I haven’t talked about it with my therapist yet... out of fear she might tell me that I'm actually straight in denial. I've been continuously struggling with this since my teens, questioning myself if I made the correct choice by labeling myself as bi, checking my childhood, my past experiences, my fashion, my hobbies; spending hours trying to figure out if I'm really attached to both genders. But maaaan this video is such a relief! I never thought there were more people like me going through this. Thank you so much seriously!
Been struggling with this for the better part of 3 years, as well as random spurts throughout growing up. It’s been hell and I am so much more damaged of a person than I was before it.
Try medications and erp(on your own)by not figuring it out...........believe as the days will go u will feel better.😊......and also you don't deserve this.---- by ex hocd sufferer.
i think this is all in my form of anxiety because not only is this messing with me, my girlfriend cheating, thoughts about death, and many more dumb things i think it’s because i don’t leave the house often, maybe i should get back into school or something because it’s very annoying at this point, i go on the internet and all that tells me is to accepting that i might be gay, i don’t have thoughts of men, it’s the fact what if i am or what if i might be in the future, it scares me at night, it’s all stress and i have to fix my sleep schedule soon.
I am friends with many in the LGBT community. I have had signs of OCD in the past but never seemed as bad as this, although I have autism (linked to OCD) and health anxiety and other anxieties. It was actually watching an LGBT themed movie that my girlfriend recommended to me about love and friendship that triggered the latest round of questioning who I am to the point that I have felt the need to look at people to decide if I’m really attracted to a random stranger, to go back through my memories etc etc... then my mind snapped and I realised what it could be and looked up videos like this and now I’m learning to do what I have done before with anxieties and obsessions around getting illnesses or having a car crash and just say oh well it may be true, it may not be, how about we (my brain and this annoying disorder) discuss this later but for now we will just carry on with the day. Don’t try to figure it out, that’s what the anxiety feeds on... and thinking about it doesn’t change reality either. I feel like I’m starting to recover but it will take as long as it takes.... it’s also hard for me to distinguish what habits I do as both a human (creature of habit) and an autistic human (likes routine) and what I do out of fear and compulsion, but tbh I think even if it’s not an OCD compulsion some habits are good to break if they feel like they aren’t fun anymore.
I have a question, I'm struggling through this and when this happens I don't think am I gay or not , I think I'm not gay I don't wanna be gay and someone said I'm just homophobic and I don't wanna accept myself but I don't have a problem or see a problem with lgbt I just don't wanna be gay and the thought I could be gives me anxiety and I'm glad I'm not in denial but I'm afraid that I'm just not accepting it, please anybody tell me that I'm not gay, and alot of people say to just accept the thoughts and I tried but I just can't get myself to accept them because it's makes me feel like I'm gay
I started going through this in December of 2020 and it’s gotten significantly better. For the past 6 months it’s been pretty non-existent but yesterday I’ve had the first flare up in a while. It’s not exactly intrusive thoughts, but more like physical feelings and fear that I’ll lose attraction again. I’ve sat with it since yesterday and feel better for the most part, but some anxiety is still there and I’m definitely looking at people to check if I’m attracted to them or not, which I know is the compulsion that’s making me not feel attraction. Any advice to stop checking? It’s just been a while since a relapse
Just know that you are not your thoughts, know that it is impossible for OCD to change your sexuality 💯what u were before you had OCD is what you are and will forever be💯
I'm the opposite I'm gay but I get intrusive thoughts about guys and I get a pit in my stomach when I think of guys and makes me feel anxious so I don't know what to do.
Same as a gay guy, it's really annoying because it's just been rotting my brain for forever and has confused me so many times. Just hold on sister 😭 try to separate those thoughts from yourself
Thanks mate I needed this video I’ve struggled I’ve always ya know worried that I’m serious Ill or I have a “sign” of something and I get really worried I also struggle with ocd from time to time and I woke up one day having thoughts that to me didn’t seem right and felt like they shouldn’t of been there like I wasnt thinking them but they were just there and I started hiding from people stopped talking to friends avoided social media had really bad anxiety about it panic attacks etc constantly was seeking reassurance from people but this video has really helped me with these struggles so I just wanna say thank u again
How can I know if the thought of getting involved in a relationship with a man causes me distress or pleasure but I feel distress because I like that thought?
Hey! I had HOCD for long but after long, the anxiety and thoughts are going down quite a bit but I feel scared that maybe I am changing because no thoughts, no anxiety, etc. Does this mean I’m getting better? I don’t even feel the need to do compulsions anymore but I don’t even feel like I know ny sexuality anymore. Ugh, no anxiety but also weird! Please help!
I had this and I had HOCD a few months back. It made my life hell. I have different OCD now but it came to the point where I genuinely thought I was gay. When I didn’t get anxiety anymore I thought I changed. I sort of just tried to ignore it and it suddenly just went away and just always knew I wasn’t anymore. It will get better
@@sweetlimesoda98 I remember people telling me this and me thinking I was different but if what you just told me is true then you are 100 percent not gay, one day you will ,like me, just know your not gay come back to this when you’ve recovered:)
The anxiety thing is real. I thought I was straight but I think I have feelings for this girl, she says she likes me and now everytime I think about her or talk to her, I get shaky, heart beats faster and harder, I feel like I wanna scream, like an anxiety attack. I know I have feelings for her but at the same time I keep telling myself its not true, so denial. Idk what to do, I think I've come to a conclusion of being bi curious but I still want to know the answer for sure, am I really attracted to girls or what? And why is it that I've never reacted this way towards guys before? Its so frustrating to not know the answer right now
Are you getting confused between friendship and homosexuality ? Because close friends are really close like family, so i think that OCD might attack on it
Hi sir .Is it still hocd if you feel something in your groinal or the anal part twitching and moving when I see men..my brain always tells me I got anal sex..I'm a straight guy I've never have sex with same sex..sorry for my English sir..thanks a lot..
It sometimes gets into my mind like a normal thought like, when I'm discussing with my boyfriend it goes like"i don't even like man" makes me go insane..
You know something very weird, I have actually struggled with HOCD thoughts while fantasizing about the opposite sex. It sounds weird but I've had thoughts like "Even though you are fantasizing about a woman doing this to you, no truly straight man would be into this." and things like that, can anyone relate?
@@wengadeeaider7362 Ah man, not too good, but not in my worse stage. Whats bothering me rn is that im afraid to catch feelings for a boy and loose interest on girls... what about u bro?
About like 90% bro but the other 10% is my stomach anxiety everytime I see a slightly attractive guy or gay guy my stomach literally starts to feel like knots and hurts
Can someone help me with this my hocd started around 4 months ago with everyday and every second of the day having intrusive thoughts that were very repulsive to me causing lots of anxiety and stress but after around 2 months the anxiety and thoughts died down and i would feel a quick zap in my chest when i would get a thought but then it would go away now im not getting many thoughts and there is no anxiety with them and its scaring me im only 16 but have like girls my whole life even like a few days before my hocd started me and my friends were talking about what girls look good and with what is going on right it is freaking me out but there are days that i do have attractions to girls and somedays i don't and when i don't it freaks me out
I'm a 14 year old boy and my ive had hocd for the last two months but from the past week I have been feeling like it is denial and i get nervous to talk to my own male classmates and idont get intrusive thoughts anymore and even if i do get it just doesn't affect me anymore and now I just can't describe what real Or fake attraction is but i still feel sexually attracted to women like I used to please help I don't want to be gay Or bia
When you went through this did you loose attraction to women. It suddenly came into my head and it was like a switch. I don’t get that feeling looking at girls anymore. And when I look at guys I get a feeling but is this just hocd playing tricks?
It coming out of nowhere is actually the biggest sign of it being OCD in my opinion. Because it means it was just an intrusive thought and feeling until your OCD made you latch on to it. All my themes have the same exact thing where it comes out of nowhere like that and I start obsessing over it like crazy
My brain literally makes no since cuz I don’t get turned on by guys or want to have sex with guys but I still get uncomfortable around guys and nervous and red and clammy around good looking guys and brains like your bi but like I know that’s not true cuz I don’t wanna have sex or do anything with guys
Bro I'm like that. I remember it all started because 2 years ago this one guy smiled at me in public, I just looked away and didn't think anything then after that I started getting anxious ever day about that moment. I sometimes even anticipate anxiety when I'm going to do things in public. It's hard to live in the moment and I feel it's trauma.
Hi, i dont understand people who are in denial push feelings or thoughts, they dont like them? I have hocd i dont like my thoughts or feelings, what is diffrence? Sorry for bad english
Hocd is afraid of being gay and hating and disgusted by the thoughts, however people in denial like the thoughts, they are just too afraid to admit they do maybe because of a homophobic environment or afraid their parents won't accept them
or about a month now ive had alot of Hocd symptoms and the intrusive thoughts. Now before I go on I just want to say I have not been diagnosed with OCD but I have had recent harm-ocd themes and hocd themes beforehand. This may not be connected but I recently sat my year 11 GCSE exams and before they started I had harm-ocd thoughts about killing my mother and it absolutely tore me apart. Looking back on it now I can see how ridiculous it was but at the time the feelings and urges felt so real. After I overcame this theme I had about one or two weeks before the theme shifted and now its hocd themes. I have been having them for about a month and prior to this I have had a few episodes but none have been as extreme as this. at the start of this new episode i had extreme anxiety and panic and guilt but now i'm about three to four weeks in i have not got much of a reaction to it anymore and it's worried me as the feelings and the ideas i get feel so real and like i like them when deep down i know i don't but the feeling of me 'liking' them overpowers the realistic idea of my knowing i don't like them. This has also resulted in a next to none libido and feels like I've lost all attraction to guys. I've spoken to one of my friends who has gone through a similar thing but I feel like mine is different and it just feels so draining and gives me this feeling of numbness to it and I feel like everything used to trigger me but now the thoughts are just there and will not budge. i have always had the idea of what i want and what i enjoy and now im doubting all of it and everytime i look at another girl i over analyze it think maybe i did that on purpose and or maybe i want to be with a girl. this is really taking its toll on me and eventhough i know so many people who are part of the LGBTQ+ community i just dont want to be that sexualality and i feel like since i am rairly in a relationship im always the friend when someone first meeets my group that people think im gay due to that fact and i do act more ladish as i grew up with brothers and this all makes me overanalys my past also and like i said i feel drained now and dont have any reaction to this anymore but the thoughts are still there and i just cant shift them and without the fight or flight feeling kits makes me believe even more that this is all true. i just really wanted a professional opinion on this as going to a theripist does scare me as alot of poeple experiencing ocd that i know have been misdiagnosed due to the lack of understanding on this topic and i dont really have the money or time to see a theripist so i just really need a nother out look on this.
@@carolinaalvarado8482 I did after a while and I'm not going to lie it has come back and this time there is no anxiety at all but I know myself deep down and the keep part it this could be meta ocd and you know yourself and I am now in a happy relationship and ocd has no boundaries so you can do the recovery but you can always relapse you just need to keep doing it over and over tull the effects are so minor. Hope this helped x
I'm currently suffering of hocd( I hope it's just that) and i remember when I was like 9 or 10 there was this other boy that i felt anxious around him,i don't remember much about that time but i think at that time i might have dreamt about him and was anxious during the dream( just like I was in real life), could i be gay? I've never had any other incidents. But I did get aroused by women and fell in love 4 times before what i hope is hocd kicked in.
Please someone help me. Im 13 years old and im pretty sure i have POCD i cant stop having these intrusive thoughts and i hate it!!!! Thats not me i dont even get aroused its just the THOUGHTS i dont like them maybe its just puberty i dont know BUT HELP its just thoughts literally thats all and its been happening recently i dont know why i have a girlfriend and i feel extremely guilty who am i??? Why why why someome help please!!!! I hate thid i woulf never do such thing i have little sisters and i love tjem i would never do that why why someome help i dont want these thoughts.
@@aaronpalmer3580 has it stopped? I keep questioning if I am gay because we did a gay challenge with the homies about whos dick went hard was gay but I felt like my dick was going to harden when it wasn't meanwhile I was also reaaaally grossed out by the gay sex. I thankfully don't have thoughts of having sex with another dude and I (hopefully) don't feel attraction to men and I am sad that this mood has taken away my attracrion towards women rn. I did this challenge 5 times myself and my dick won't get hard but my mind is tricking me into believing that it will
Can someone please help me. I’ve had ocd for around 6-7 years due to trauma and have had other themes before. This is one is like no other. It feels so real and I’ve watched videos on hocd and denial. When I get these thoughts I feel sick and like I want to die. I know something is wrong here and I’ve tried to dig deep and think if it’s denial or not but it makes it worse. I can’t deal with this anymore it’s nearly Christmas and I thought I was recovering and my therapist does too. I’m happy when I don’t have these thoughts and I truly believe I’m straight. Then I suddenly get stuck on one thing and I can’t shake it. I need more help but I’m only 15 and already have a therapist but she’s online and I don’t want to ask my parents because everything costs so much nowadays. If you have any advice or a way to help please reply to me.
I have a problem and I don't really know if it's 100% OCD or not, but anyway there was something that happened from like a month ago and it was that there was someone and he's really impolite and likes watching inappropriate stuff and all that, so he told me "hey I wanna tell you something" so I looked at him and he showed me an inappropriate photo so I looked away and yelled at him and left. So my OCD (at least I think it's my OCD) keeps on blaming everything on him and keeps on saying "you would've been so much better and almost perfect but because of that kid you're nothing." and it's also reminding me of that photo. And those thoughts are really distracting especially when I study and I just keep on thinking of them and it keeps getting worse and worse everyday so should I keep doing erp or is there anything that I can do? But anyway thank you so so much for making these videos it really makes some hope for me in this journey.
I don’t believe I’m not gay I just hope I’m not- I just don’t want to love anyone like that I want only friends and family but there’ high chance I’m Bi I don’t want to be straight either but I probably am, I wish to be ace and not like anyone.
Haha, this video helped me a lot... I have both Hetero and Homo OCD and this video helps go about my day without checking. The downside is, I still don't know what I am
at 3:25, you said "Saying may be-may be not gives our brain the answer like I'm accepting that I don't know. I'm learning to be ok with this as long as I continue living life, doing the things I want." My question is, when should I consider that I shouldn't sit with only this answer-may be,may be not? When should I go further questioning?
Just don’t. My therapist told me that I can have ‘5 minuites of worry time’ to think about sexuality but I did and it got out of hand. Live life and accept that sexuality is a topic that you’ll never know
tbh ive had other themes in the past but idk if it was ocd or anxiety because i remember my first time when i was 7 years old i was extremally scared of killing my little brother but i only had obsessions then but now im getting obsessions and compulsions with this theme.
I'm a straight man, never been attracted to a man at all in my life, but recently my minds starting to try convince me l'm actually 🏳️🌈 , I've watched corn (p) for 6 years, only ever corn (p) involving a woman. I've never had a relationship due to social anxiety. This all started when looked at a man on tv and thought he was good looking, didn't find myself attracted to him, then my mind starts trying to convince me I'm actually gay then I will go and search 🏳️🌈 without shirts on to prove to myself I don't get turned on (which I never do) and even at one point had to put gay corn (p) on just to prove a point that I didn't get turned on by it (which I never I actually felt the opposite) this has been happening a month and I've started talking to myself physically having to deny it and prove myself constantly and it's stopping me being able to live my life, after I prove it to myself my mind says "you're in denial". I wound understand if I actually got turned on from it I would be in denial but I haven't. I also get like weird twitches when I see men, but it’s all men, could even be a 85 year old with no hair so that’s proof it’s fake, but when I see a woman on corn hub I don’t twitch I just instantly get .. hard.
Disclaimer: What I am talking about is related to Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder. It is not political in any way. It is not a for or against being gay. To learn more about this subtype of OCD go here: iocdf.org/expert-opinions/sexual-orientation-obsessions
Everything about being LGBTQ in this society is political. You sound utterly clueless as you flippantly steer LGBTQ questioning young people into this detrimental quackery for profit.
What do you even think being "for or against being gay" means? Are you "for or against having gravity"? You desperately need to learn how to address LGBTQ people with respect. There is a reason why you generate legitimate criticism. The problem is you and your ineptitude. Go roll your eyes and put on more fake eyebrows like a bigot.
@@stephenclark7394You obviously don’t know anything about ocd. Theres nothing wrong with being gay, but ocd can make non gay people think they’re gay, even if they’re not. OCD attacks one’s sense of self, even attraction. You can get out of here buddy.
I’m straight but got this HOCD out of nowhere to the point of panick. I love women and never see myself if gay, but these thoughts come out of nowhere and brings weird feelings and anxiety, something I start loosing my breath because it’s scary. It’s like your brain is trying to take away your identity from you with these thought and tricks itself into believing them. It’s terrifying, but I will overcome this and I will be back to normal again
like do u have attraction to same gender like false thougts feelings about same gender that u dont want to have?
@@hesybabdy yes. That’s literally what HOCD is
Same bro, Like I'm attracted to females like when I even look at them it turns me on but then my mind just floods me with gay thoughts like I just start worrying and in my minds just chaos. Thoughts like "Can I get hard from a man" "Am I Gay, I don't wanna be gay" but I never imagine myself being gay. In the future I imagine having a beautiful feminine women and kids with her.
Same bro
@@AnkitSaileshsame brother how are you now
Im straight but over 10 years ago I struggled with this type of ocd. It’s funny to me now. I bever used to go outside or watch tv because of triggers. After about 6 months of hell, i gave the thoughts less and less attention and it all just fizzled away like a bad dream. Anyone who has searched for this video has ocd and is looking for reassurance, like i was. It helps short term. Some of you need it because you’re not ready to start accepting the thoughts. When you do get to that point you will find out how ridiculous all of this panic was.
Bro, I've been in this situation for a months now and little by little I'm recovering from it. There are thoughts that made me terrified for months because of this.
So you would sometimes think, am I gay ? Even tho you like women
@@diegomedrano9445 yeah, i have a girlfriend bro
I typed in why are some people in denial of being gay... This video pops up , I've been on this side of tube multiple times , and to say my life isn't where I want it to be is , so easy for you to read but hard to understand . I just need to Do my own ERP therapy I suppose
@@enriquecastillo3729 id say don’t do that because your mind is working against you at this point. If i was back in that position, i would just start accepting the thought and have faith that life will return to normal soon. I was in the deep of it , really. I was scared to go out of my house. Since hocd, I have had multiple relationships with women. Im just not into other men. Women do it for me and thats it. I occasionally get a random thought now and then, but i can just brush it off now. Nobody is 100% one way or another. Humans always have a greyzone. If im 95% straight then so what, who cares? Ocd is the problem here. It only exists in the binary. I would try to accept the thoughts and feelings, then carry on with my day. The thoughts will have less and less power. When the fog of anxiety clears you will have your answers but by then it won’t matter to you. Have goals and focus on life.
It's sometimes really hard to live with HOCD. I have some days, where I'm whole days in my bed and can't get out of it because the thoughts drain my energy so much.
Not alone friend'
me too bro 😵
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Doubt. Doubt man. Ocd loooooooooves doubt. Give it an answer you’ll get 100000 questions in response. Ocd will take .0000000000000-ad infinitim-1% of uncertainty and twist it into near-certainty with compulsions. Only way way to win the game is to stop playing. Best of luck all, there is hope in treatment.
Fuck OCD
@Phantom S.L looking for answer online only makes it worse. if you don’t like the thoughts and want out stop thinking then. Only you know what you want and that’s looking deep inside your heart. It’s takes a a lot out of you, but just knowing that’s not how you roll and working towards changing the way you perceive things helps.
@@boyindicadid u get better
Just wanted to offer some support to you all going through this. It dominated my mind for a while and while I’m not perfect by any means I can’t believe how much better I’ve gotten with this. Just keeping fighting through, your mind will eventually become bored with the idea and move onto other things.
I'm a straight man, never been attracted to a man at all in my life, but recently my minds starting to try convince me l'm actually 🏳️🌈 , I've watched corn (p) for 6 years, only ever corn (p) involving a woman. I've never had a relationship due to social anxiety. This all started when looked at a man on tv and thought he was good looking, didn't find myself attracted to him, then my mind starts trying to convince me I'm actually gay then I will go and search 🏳️🌈 without shirts on to prove to myself I don't get turned on (which I never do) and even at one point had to put gay corn (p) on just to prove a point that I didn't get turned on by it (which I never I actually felt the opposite) this has been happening a month and I've started talking to myself physically having to deny it and prove myself constantly and it's stopping me being able to live my life, after I prove it to myself my mind says "you're in denial". I wound understand if I actually got turned on from it I would be in denial but I haven't. I also get like weird twitches when I see men, but it’s all men, could even be a 85 year old with no hair so that’s proof it’s fake, but when I see a woman on corn hub I don’t twitch I just instantly get .. hard.
Your videos have helped me immensely (as well as talk therapy).
Over a few months I had experience trans OCD, and I would continuously fall for compulsions because in the moment they would make me feel more at ease. They would provide me with an “answer”, but realistically there is no answer. Making an answer irrelevant sounds crazy, but with exposures I’ve created a “yes and” attitude which seriously changed my life for the better
Im actually going through this right now, yesterday was my first session with nocd , Id like to thank you so much Nathan because of your videos and this wonderful community you’ve helped create, im now getting help!
YES! That's awesome! I hope your journey goes well. I feel honored to be apart of it!
Had a long arse re[ply on this but fricking pc, so im gonna shoten it. I have always loved women and never looked at a man like i want that. I have had many female crushes for my whole life and never a guy. First i hat harm ocd for a weeks and now this. It started because sometimes when in an awkward corner or position I stand like a gay dude or have a gay walk i guess you can say. Its uncomfortable and for some reason this HOOCD has started from it. AND AS A CHRISTIAN I AM VERY ANNOYED. I AM STRAIGHT ALWAYS HAVE BEEN, sure i have said that guy is handsome but nothing more. absolutely nothing more, just saying he is better looking then me. Unlike my friends who are straight and would add to that saying they would smash if they was a women. But not me. Why am I panicking about this. Why?
as a christian I am going to say I will refuse to think mabey and im ok with it, not mad at ya, just saying
@ocdandanxiety noocd doesn't work outside USA? Can you suggest a forum where people outside USA can also get good counseling from the best therapists
I have been suffering from it since December. And trust me hocd is a real thing i started showing symptom of it too like gronial response (which i never had before the onset of OCD), remunerations all day long, loss of interest in girls etc. But after February it started to get better and better. I would advise you to stop remunerating, find a hobbie, never Skip school, college or work because of it(i know this is tough but just trust me). See you need to understand that the more you remunerated the more hypothetical scenario you will create which will give you anxiety because you are suffering from an anxiety disorder. And you are so concerned about your sexuality because it is the part of your personality this this the thing that you value the most in your life that why you can't stop thinking about it. You need to go out and realised that Their are other important things in life and sexuality is not the only thing that defines you you are more than than and neither is sexuality just black and white(straight or gay) it very complex. And i would highly recommend you to not take opinions from randos. And for godsakes STOP YOUR ONLINE RESEARCH.
It has been three month since i start getting better i am starting to feel like me again because I started focus on my life again. Now i don't bother to find the answer, may be i am gay, may be i am straight, maybe i am bisexual may be i am a potato wtf cares! And i couldn't have done this without the help of mr peterson he is a true healer and a knowledgeable man who know what this disorder is and understands it. Truly a genius.
Stay strong folks, this aren't gonna last forever but time that you pass not being productive aren't gonna comeback. #starvethemonster
It is getting better every day. I started suffering from hocd for 2 years and still in recovery every day and getting better every day. Im in a loving relationship for 7 months. Go to therapy and stop trying to figure it out. As you said as far as we concern we can be potato sexual! Love you all and have a great life.
Yes, this is the only true solution. Just live your life, focus on your goals, make new goals, and stop go with the thoughts.
Man I’m back and forth I’m dealing with the anxiety better with it now . But my attraction to opposite sex isn’t what it use to be and my mind is making men stand out when that has never happened. I’ve always looked at guy as cool or hey that’s a good looking guy but never sexual or random in head that guy is hot .
@@hix9306 i know exactly what you are talking about. The fact hocd is the thing you think about almost all the time of course it would happen. I would recommend going to therapy asap and watching ocd mindful.
@@מיכאלמאירוביץ do you deal with it ?
To anyone Watching this and struggling with this, brother. I'm struggling with this too. And if looks like I'm getting ever so closer to therapy. This OCD has ruined my life and led me down some dark paths. Before I go I'm going to say...if anyone is watching this. If you're in a place where you think you need help. Get it. Call somebody. Text somebody. Coming from experience it's the hardest thing you can do but the bravest. Let's get help together guys. Good luck to all brothers and sisters suffering ❤️
I am literally binge watching all your videos right now and I feel a huge sense of relief. OCD can really make you feel like you’re alone in this world, some thoughts I have (intrusive one’s) really scare me to the point I leave rooms and sit somewhere quiet. I’ve been with my partner just over a year and he makes me so happy, I love him so much. I just wish I didn’t have thoughts that I’m not good enough and he is going to go out and find someone better. Because of the way I am I just feel he’ll lose interest, I always have an intrusive thought that maybe I’m a psycho or crazy… it does scare me to the point I feel I believe it😒
i’ve been trying to incorporate some humor into dealing with this theme. instead of rumination, i respond with something completely different and not a yes or no or an answer even pertaining to the question “am i gay?” or “does this thing i did/saw/felt make me gay?”
for example:
intrusive thought: “what if you’re just gay and in denial about it?”
response: “sorry, we don’t serve coke products here”
it’s weird and goofy, but it keeps me from doing compulsions cause i can’t help but laugh as i get more creative with these non-related responses. thanks so much for your content on this!!
I LOVE LOVE that! Those are my favorite type of responses. It's pretty much taking all the value away from it. Way to go!
I love this 😂💕
I do the same thing when I am at work. It works, and then it doesn't, but at least it helps somewhat.
I started having HOCD a few weeks ago, it fucked up my trip to San Diego and made it hard for me to even step back into the boxing gym and wrestling practice. I’ve liked women forever but two things happened that I believe triggered my ocd, finding out a close friend was gay (he’ll always be a close friend) and when someone made a gay joke abt me. I am just starting to ignore obsessing over it and I got back into my hobbies and I’m starting to feel great again.
How are you doing
@@lukeydukey2680 It’s getting better, a few times I get mad anxiety and go into questioning whenever I see anything “gay”
How much time did it take to get better r u ok now??
@@vivansharmam4028r u okay now?
@@vivansharmam4028do you suffer from HOCD?
Honestly i got rid of it after 1 week...u have to realize if you were straight your whole life and had tons of crushes on different female actresses or girls in school then you can't just change your sexuality over night 😂 it's just paranoia....stop looking into those thoughts and eventually your brain says "whatever"
So whenever those thoughts come to mind, what should I do?
@@nickyalwaysfabthe easiest way is to not give the thoughts any attention,atleast it was for me
Nathan I’m dealing since December with trans ocd, which is really similar to hocd. For almost 4 months I was a shit, thinking about gender all the time, stay all the day in the trans forums to figure something out. Then it start with the feelings, I don’t like anymore my beard, my height, my voice, alL things that I love since puberty. I’m going really better now doing erp, and your videos are really really useful to me. Thanks you Nate!
As someone who has genuinely questioned my sexuality before, AND had SO-OCD, I can clearly feel the difference between them, but for some reason I can’t stop the OCD or being anxious. Ahhhh 😬
Can you give us a brief breakdown of the two please
Can you explain ? please
I've had hocd ever since covid started. It almost seems like it will never end, and it's a vicious cycle that I can't escape from. These videos have been helping me see some light at the end of the tunnel. Thank you for that!
Same it's been 2 years for me with it. Some months I feel it's gone but then the anxiety, thoughts return
Same with me. It all started in 2020 lockdown. Since then, I'm still recovering from this.
Same with me. Mine started 2 years ago when COVID began.
Hey bro I hope you have gotten better
Same here
I’ve got HOCD combined with internal homophobia. I’m definitely not straight but I constantly obsess over whether I’m gay or bi and constantly contemplate various scenarios in my head to try and prove one or the other. It’s funny because I’ve known for a while I’m not straight and I used to rarely even think anything of it. I’m 18 now and it’s completely taken over my mind the past few months and it’s hard to even imagine my thoughts going back to how they were. This video is great though I agree on the themes part as I’ve had other “themes” I’ve obsessed over in my mind just not to the same degree. I just have to try to not even engage these thoughts a bit before they get too strong to control. Hopefully I see this comment later and be happy I’m over this
I relate to you
Thanks a ton Nathan ! You're a god sent ! You have no idea how much this video means to me ... keep growing and im so proud of you
HOCD has been happening to me since two weeks ago, where it became newly formed, I don’t understand what caused it, but it made me mentally breakdown, I am a guy and I’m terrified of the thought of turning gay, because I seriously and wholeheartedly don’t want to be that, and throughout my young childhood, I was always deeply attracted to woman, but it just doesn’t feel the same anymore, I’m afraid the accept any thoughts or groinal responses. I’m seriously afraid to look at anything that has the littlest of homosexuality or anything that resembles it, I’ve become obsessed with looking for ways to cure it and find reassurance in who i am, I can’t stop and it’s making me extremely depressed.
yes
Can you add me too please
@@lukeydukey2680 can you add me to please
I am right there with you buddy, and how did it end up going for you?
How are you noww
Great video! I remember you made a short video similar to this and it changed my life. The commitment to not figure out my sexuality took a huge burden off my back. The freedom not to figure it out is wonderful.
For some bisexuals myself included this never stops unless you just stop caring lol
I can't tell you enough how much I needed this. Thank you Sir.
I struggle with SOOCD, false atracttion and groinals are what's keeping me
It's been 10 months since the onset of my hocd and i can confidently say it'll get better for you as well.
Im not fully cured yet and it still gets bad whenever im depressed, i start having doubts again.
It happened when i turned 30 for some weird reason i wont discuss.
I was sure of myself before this event so it's really twisting me of what could have happened
Edit: Im going out again to get some training and ive been falling in love to girls and the female form all over again.
Sometimes hocd would make me too self conscious and look at dudes but its gone now
Edit 2: It's back and terrible again. It roots down to overall anxiety disorder.
Ffs i never had any romantic or sexual desire towards men nor im in denial either.
I guess i have to take care of the anxiety first
I'm going through the same thing but i've gave up porn, watching less tv and will let time sort it out.
❤😊
Are you not straight are you gay? you have to accept it.
This was triggered for me with a girl I met for the first time. I had a lot of pressure on me to “do it” with the girl that day from my friends and even found out that she wanted to also “do it”. I’m a pretty nervous and anxious guy when it comes to girls especially if I meet them for the first time. Eventually we spent the night together and I wasn’t able to get it “up” with her and that’s when HOCD was triggered for me. I wasn’t in the mood that night to really have sex but i know she did and I felt pressure from my friends to do it. Thanks for help last couple of days have been rough.
Started in the middle of the pandemic.
@@mediaboxcorporationsdid it go away? r u better
I'm better brother
@@alex604-7
I hope that you're okay (:
@@priyalkhurana9763 definitely much better and I’d say it’s gone now as I’m only aroused by women ever haha so you just need to have another experience and that experience will reassure you.
I’m so afraid I won’t get what I want, that everything is supposed to be a struggle. I’m autistic so I’m used to being on the outside. I tell myself that I am gay because nothing will ever be easy for me, that I will always have some type of adversary, and that I don’t deserve what I want. I have become so obsessed with trying to “figure it out” that everywhere I go the mind is constantly racing. “Why did I notice this woman? I must be attracted to her”, “oh look, there is an attractive man. He would never want me because I’m gay. I can hardly even look at him”. I just want to be at peace…
I struggle with sexual orientation ocd. It's been a long ride but its safe to say things get better. In the end life is short so we shouldn't waste time letting it control us.
I went through this as a teenager - for months it overrode my thoughts. As soon as I found out that HOCD was a thing it pretty much went away. Was such a strange and depressing time for me prior to that
I'm 16 and have never been diagnosed with OCD, but I'm convinced that I've got it because of this subset. My entire life I've been attracted by girls (I like one now as a matter of fact) but it was only recently that i started having doubts about myself. They were manageable at first, but now it's gotten to the point where I sit in my bed at night and constantly have to reassure myself that I'm straight. I tried telling my parents about the issue to possibly get me tested for OCD, but they just dismissed it as me questioning who I was and said "everyone goes through it at your age". I genuinely want this to go away and just get back to my normal life
Yes broo the same exact thing is happening to me
I’m also 16
Me too bro. This happens to everyone in there teenages. It goes away. No worries.🦁
Trust me fam your not alone. I tried telling my mom about it but only gave her a glimpse of it because i feel like shes going to take it the wrong way.
@@bustdownrollieavalanche9217are u okay now
I Had HOCD from 2 years and i was so doubt if i was gay but then i read about HOCD because i was 100% sure that i am not gay but i have weird thoughts (sexual thoughts) about literally everyone it was very hard on me and it is still hard till now and i can not even talk about this with anyone
Hey wanna talk?
Same sounds like me
Can u help me??
My OCD thoughts are telling me right now that NO YOU ARE USING OCD AS AN EXCUSE NO YOU DO NOT HAVE OCD YOU THINK YOU HAVE OCD, MAYBE YOU WERE LIVING THROUGH A LIE
i have medically diagnosed as an OCD patient i was even taking medicines for it, NOW i think the monster is back, everything looks so real also looks like imagination,what should i do HELP MEEEEEEE
I've had HOCD but turns out, it's not that i'm scared of being gay, but scared that i might stop being attracted to women.
Does anyone else feels afraid of being afraid of homophobia? Like for example in my head, if I'm afraid of being gay, then I have OCD but if I'm afraid of homophobia then I'm gay. So I think now I'm afraid of being afraid of homophobia, and sometimes I can't tell if I'm actually afraid of being afraid of it or I'm just afraid of it.
It’s all ocd
Are u good now bro?
I know I'm a hocd but the idea that I developed this to suppress my homosexuality scares me
Thank you so much Nathan, I have been dealing with transgender OCD for some time now, and just watching your videos makes me feel better! :)
Hey just curious, have you experienced any relief? I've been suffering with what I believe is TOCD and its causing me endless amounts of dread and anxiety and I hate it so much, just wanna be my old self again.
@@charlesroberson1387 yeah, I actually am. I still sometimes have the thoughts of being trans but I don't feel dread anymore. ERP and other cognitive behavioral therapies really work. (At least for me)
@@crusaderguy2 Okay that's promising to hear, I still think about old obsessions that used to fill me with dread, and they no longer do. I'm feeling a bit better today even, thank you
@@charlesroberson1387 I am glad to help, I hope everything goes well for you in your OCD recovery.
@@charlesroberson1387 heyy can we talk about this? I'm passing through the same 😭
im so frustrated. i’ve been dealing with this off and on for almost 2 years and now right after i start liking this guy/getting serious with him, the socd comes back harder (it had always been in the back of my mind) and now my brain is like “break it off with him, you probably like girls” and i hate it. i have so much to rant about dealing with this topic and i just want to scream.
The same exact thing is happening to me right now, I am so tired of this
@@maylis4506 i am tired too :(
@@fal8111 how are you now?
@@thelife_ofkhushi im a little better, i still have some triggering thoughts but im doing ok
I've liked girls my whole life as far as I can remember and now this anxiety thing is ruining my life. I've broken up with girls because of it, I'm still romantically and sexually attracted to women but some days I feel like I have no interest in anything because of what I have. Started getting serious with this girl a while ago and out of nowhere my brain is like "I'm gay I'm gay I'm gay" constantly in the back of my mind soon as I started developing feelings for her. Because of my thoughts I just completely avoided her. I also have this anxiety where I constantly clear my throat because of it as if I'm now trying to give myself reassurance that I'm straight. Anyone going through that also?
When i say to myself i am not gay, my mind reply you saying this because of society you live, then i answer i don't care about society but i don't want to be gay. And these thoughts continue for over a year... sorry for my english
Nathan I have a great video idea for you. Can you do a video on Dream OCD? It's basically where you have a dream and you believe that it may be like a warning for you. Maybe God is warning you about something. "I saw this in my dream, this is what it means, so I better not do this!". Compulsions include avoidance for me.
Whoa! Great idea! I hope he does this one. I am writing my memoir about OCD and a big theme is dreams and God's "voice" in dreams.
It's taken me so long to figure out what is going on in my head. This is amazing. Thankyou
As a straight man and a Christian I KNOW this is OCD I pray to God daily on Why am I getting these thoughts and I think about it daily and it makes me cry because I have a beautiful amazing girlfriend and yet I have these unwanted never ask for thoughts that has literally put me into a depressive state in my life. And I think about it 24/7 because I DONT WANT IT but why do I have it
Hey bro I have had it for 3 years I had finally dated a girl I had been liking for a long time but we broke but anyways I had recovered I was good for 2 years it just came back 2 weeks ago im having a hard time with it but ik it will eventually go away
@@jaystiggers5853 my girl just broke up with my last night was gonna propose to her soon. All of this and then that pushing me over the edge
Because are you gay and you do not want accept it. Go look for fun with a guy and you will see it.
@@KeatonganusmmaU good now bro?
@@raschidmalik464shut up 💀💀💀
Whenever im stressed out i get intrusive thoughts i can go weeks without them , then suddenly a new theme. I cried watching this reading how many others are plagued by OCD, i got diagnosed when i was 12 years old im 32. Yes intrusive thoughts still bother me but im trying to cope
Anyone struggling with this look into the presence process book, ocd is simply our inner child’s way of gaining our attention because of built of fear and anxiety. Feeling your way through is key !!
I've been going through this since the beginning of 2019. Today i feel like i might just be bisexuel but it dosent feel right anyway. I know that i am attracted to women, but i still feel like im attracted to men in a way i dont want to. I keep shaking my head every time i think about the question.
Same here man
It's like, I know there's nothing wrong with it, but I just doesn't feel right, Even with groinal and all of that
@@nicolas19676 how are you bro
same. it doesn't feel right. i understand
The difficult thing about SOOCD for me is that there isn't anything inherently wrong with being gay/bi. For stuff like POCD I can always fall back on the fact that I find the thoughts it causes morally reprehensible, betraying that it's 'just ocd'. For SOOCD it's like "I don't like the thoughts of being gay/bi" "why don't you like that, are you homophobic?" "No I'm not" "Well if you're not homophobic then you must have no problem with the thoughts and therefore be in denial" "but I do have problems with the thought" .... I've been made to feel like saying that I'm unequivocally straight is homophobic in itself because people keep talking about how people who value their 'straightness' are actually insecure bigots who are probably also in denial.
YES! I've experienced this before. Thanks for normalizing it.
Ah, this is something that I have been dealing with for years and yet I'm still convinced that I must be in denial.
Thanks for clearing that up.
I'm a straight man, never been attracted to a man at all in my life, but recently my minds starting to try convince me l'm actually 🏳️🌈 , I've watched corn (p) for 6 years, only ever corn (p) involving a woman. I've never had a relationship due to social anxiety. This all started when looked at a man on tv and thought he was good looking, didn't find myself attracted to him, then my mind starts trying to convince me I'm actually gay then I will go and search 🏳️🌈 without shirts on to prove to myself I don't get turned on (which I never do) and even at one point had to put gay corn (p) on just to prove a point that I didn't get turned on by it (which I never I actually felt the opposite) this has been happening a month and I've started talking to myself physically having to deny it and prove myself constantly and it's stopping me being able to live my life, after I prove it to myself my mind says "you're in denial". I wound understand if I actually got turned on from it I would be in denial but I haven't. I also get like weird twitches when I see men, but it’s all men, could even be a 85 year old with no hair so that’s proof it’s fake, but when I see a woman on corn hub I don’t twitch I just instantly get .. hard.
Is it normal that when I do feel comfort and I’m not stressing over these thoughts. My brain says what if it’s because I’m accepting that I’m gay. Which sends me into an even worse spiral down
this is not acceptance and ive dealt with for a while. Its hard to understand that the calms doesn't mean ur accepting the thoughts but in fact, seeing how useless they are. Trust me, ive dealing with it for over a year now
I don’t understand it ever since I was born I was straight but these feelings have made me believe that I am I’ve always said that I am straight but it feels like I’m lying to myself. Sometimes the feelings get so convincing I feel like I want to be gay and I’m not in reality that I’m straight and it’s really torturing me. Like sometimes I’ll sit here and say “maybe I should just accept it and be gay” but then the thought of actually accepting something like that makes me go mental saying “no no no I can’t I can’t do it” and I can’t do anything but think about going mental and breaking things
same with me how are you doing now?
I suffered w this til v recently between whether I was bi or lesbian, and came to the realisation that even if I knew or didn’t know, it wouldn’t make a difference since I would like the people who I liked anyways whether I knew or not, that realisation rlly helped me
What’s happened since?
@@justincrackedatfort793 since I still don’t know for certain but I’m okay with that, but having this realisation has helped me come to more definite conclusions about my sexuality
That's a great way of looking at it! Why didn't I think of that? 😅
@@kellys9202 honestly that one realisation helped me so so much
@@livharding875 can we talk plssss
me having an existential crisis a year and a half ago discovering I'm gay to end up getting diagnosed two weeks ago with ocd and question myself again is honestly so 🤡🤡 that I have to just laugh about it...
Hard to say if this is bisexuality or ocd..basically idk
Fr bro
Have not been diagnosed with OCD, but have had a tendency to ruminate and become overly concerned with things I cannot control or am unsure of. This was the last one, came in like a shot from darkness just short of a week ago.
I genuinely do not think I am in denial, I am genuinely sure I am heterosexual or bisexual. But I can never be certain, and I find myself asking at random times. It's like I need to interrogate myself, even though I know the logical answer and what feels right to me. But this thing does not let out.
Is it denial? Who knows. I do not think it is.
Are you gay? Who knows, doubt it, but could be.
OCD? Unsure. OCD-like? Most likely.
UGHHHH! HAD A DREAM OF KISSING A GIRL, AND I THINK IT WAS A LUCID DREAM SO I HAD CONTROL OVER IT. I think I was even happy about it.
I WANT TO SELF HARM.
IM PANICKING AND ITS RUINING MY DAY
Calm down
It's just OCD
Calm dowm, I don't know if you are a straigh girl or a gay dude but an OCD dream it's nothing especial, it doesn't have to mean anything
I have been through that before Bestie your dreams are something your brain has cooked up it is just a another form of OCD
In this video, he gets to the point, makes sense. He cannot answer your sexuality preference. But he can answer just as he did here, that your ocd will always make you question yourself in one way or another. And not to really over analyze your thoughts if you can do so, and not to put a title immediately on your thoughts. Imo. I’ve liked girls my entire life, but all bc someone made a gay joke at me 17 years ago when I was at a vulnerable unstable time in my life, it’s haunted me ever since. Crazy what one comment someone makes in your life impacts your for years to come.
Yeah back in 2017, I was thinking about George Washington and had a intrusive thought that asked "what are you gay for him" and that has has haunted me for a year until I danced with a girl at a ball and had enough of constantly questioning myself, getting a answer then not being satisfied with said answer when its rock solid
I hear you bro, same happened to me. But I’ve had people question my sexuality my whole life, which never bothered me much until HOCD hit and now it’s just fuel on the fire. Really sucks.
Mines unfortunately got triggered by someone I know who thought it’d be nice to send their nasty ass nudes
same ..I was suffering from anxiety disorder at that time and my friend joked about my sexuality ..I took it very easy but as days months passed , that thing stuck me with such force ..I couldn't stop thinking about it .
Bro your not alone it's been a while since this girl from my class made a joke on me too ... I'm suffering from this but I'll fight back I know I can do it and so can everyone here !
Being gay or transgender does not disturb me the only thing that does disturb me is pocd and driving ocd.
OCD never stops.
I don't know if I have it because I haven’t talked about it with my therapist yet... out of fear she might tell me that I'm actually straight in denial. I've been continuously struggling with this since my teens, questioning myself if I made the correct choice by labeling myself as bi, checking my childhood, my past experiences, my fashion, my hobbies; spending hours trying to figure out if I'm really attached to both genders.
But maaaan this video is such a relief! I never thought there were more people like me going through this. Thank you so much seriously!
Been struggling with this for the better part of 3 years, as well as random spurts throughout growing up. It’s been hell and I am so much more damaged of a person than I was before it.
I'm sorry to hear that. I hope you can gain some support with our community here. I'm glad you're here.
Try medications and erp(on your own)by not figuring it out...........believe as the days will go u will feel better.😊......and also you don't deserve this.---- by ex hocd sufferer.
@@kartikeydubey9010u okay now?
@@kartikeydubey9010bro kya tum theek hue please help
@@alex604-7 haa bhai
i think this is all in my form of anxiety because not only is this messing with me, my girlfriend cheating, thoughts about death, and many more dumb things i think it’s because i don’t leave the house often, maybe i should get back into school or something because it’s very annoying at this point, i go on the internet and all that tells me is to accepting that i might be gay, i don’t have thoughts of men, it’s the fact what if i am or what if i might be in the future, it scares me at night, it’s all stress and i have to fix my sleep schedule soon.
I am friends with many in the LGBT community. I have had signs of OCD in the past but never seemed as bad as this, although I have autism (linked to OCD) and health anxiety and other anxieties. It was actually watching an LGBT themed movie that my girlfriend recommended to me about love and friendship that triggered the latest round of questioning who I am to the point that I have felt the need to look at people to decide if I’m really attracted to a random stranger, to go back through my memories etc etc... then my mind snapped and I realised what it could be and looked up videos like this and now I’m learning to do what I have done before with anxieties and obsessions around getting illnesses or having a car crash and just say oh well it may be true, it may not be, how about we (my brain and this annoying disorder) discuss this later but for now we will just carry on with the day.
Don’t try to figure it out, that’s what the anxiety feeds on... and thinking about it doesn’t change reality either. I feel like I’m starting to recover but it will take as long as it takes.... it’s also hard for me to distinguish what habits I do as both a human (creature of habit) and an autistic human (likes routine) and what I do out of fear and compulsion, but tbh I think even if it’s not an OCD compulsion some habits are good to break if they feel like they aren’t fun anymore.
I have a question, I'm struggling through this and when this happens I don't think am I gay or not , I think I'm not gay I don't wanna be gay and someone said I'm just homophobic and I don't wanna accept myself but I don't have a problem or see a problem with lgbt I just don't wanna be gay and the thought I could be gives me anxiety and I'm glad I'm not in denial but I'm afraid that I'm just not accepting it, please anybody tell me that I'm not gay, and alot of people say to just accept the thoughts and I tried but I just can't get myself to accept them because it's makes me feel like I'm gay
How are you feeling?
I started going through this in December of 2020 and it’s gotten significantly better. For the past 6 months it’s been pretty non-existent but yesterday I’ve had the first flare up in a while. It’s not exactly intrusive thoughts, but more like physical feelings and fear that I’ll lose attraction again. I’ve sat with it since yesterday and feel better for the most part, but some anxiety is still there and I’m definitely looking at people to check if I’m attracted to them or not, which I know is the compulsion that’s making me not feel attraction. Any advice to stop checking? It’s just been a while since a relapse
Just know that you are not your thoughts, know that it is impossible for OCD to change your sexuality 💯what u were before you had OCD is what you are and will forever be💯
@@djprunty5750 thank you for that
@@beastperson2950 no problem bro, is urs getting any better?
@@djprunty5750 thanks for that bro
I'm the opposite I'm gay but I get intrusive thoughts about guys and I get a pit in my stomach when I think of guys and makes me feel anxious so I don't know what to do.
Same as a gay guy, it's really annoying because it's just been rotting my brain for forever and has confused me so many times. Just hold on sister 😭 try to separate those thoughts from yourself
@bushmorel7343 hey I m in the same case can we talk about ?
Thanks mate I needed this video I’ve struggled I’ve always ya know worried that I’m serious Ill or I have a “sign” of something and I get really worried I also struggle with ocd from time to time and I woke up one day having thoughts that to me didn’t seem right and felt like they shouldn’t of been there like I wasnt thinking them but they were just there and I started hiding from people stopped talking to friends avoided social media had really bad anxiety about it panic attacks etc constantly was seeking reassurance from people but this video has really helped me with these struggles so I just wanna say thank u again
Your videos always hit the pointy. No matter what topic my OCD takes up the pattern is quite like you discribe.
How can I know if the thought of getting involved in a relationship with a man causes me distress or pleasure but I feel distress because I like that thought?
Hey! I had HOCD for long but after long, the anxiety and thoughts are going down quite a bit but I feel scared that maybe I am changing because no thoughts, no anxiety, etc. Does this mean I’m getting better? I don’t even feel the need to do compulsions anymore but I don’t even feel like I know ny sexuality anymore. Ugh, no anxiety but also weird! Please help!
I had this and I had HOCD a few months back. It made my life hell. I have different OCD now but it came to the point where I genuinely thought I was gay. When I didn’t get anxiety anymore I thought I changed. I sort of just tried to ignore it and it suddenly just went away and just always knew I wasn’t anymore. It will get better
How r u now?
@@thelife_ofkhushi hey thanks for asking. Definitely better. Only the no anxiety makes the thoughts feel super real. :/
@@joel00891 yes that’s exactly how I feel. Like changed. Even I have the urges, wants, images and false attractions without any anxiety. Scary. :/
@@sweetlimesoda98 I remember people telling me this and me thinking I was different but if what you just told me is true then you are 100 percent not gay, one day you will ,like me, just know your not gay come back to this when you’ve recovered:)
I hate OCD so freaking much
Same bro kiling now
This really helped me discover myselft, thanks a lot! I smashed the like button
Discovered yourself or accepted the thoughts?
The anxiety thing is real. I thought I was straight but I think I have feelings for this girl, she says she likes me and now everytime I think about her or talk to her, I get shaky, heart beats faster and harder, I feel like I wanna scream, like an anxiety attack. I know I have feelings for her but at the same time I keep telling myself its not true, so denial. Idk what to do, I think I've come to a conclusion of being bi curious but I still want to know the answer for sure, am I really attracted to girls or what? And why is it that I've never reacted this way towards guys before? Its so frustrating to not know the answer right now
Are you getting confused between friendship and homosexuality ? Because close friends are really close like family, so i think that OCD might attack on it
u good now?
This sucks cause I've been going through it for so long that it doesn't bring anxiety anymore but feels real
How are you doing today? 💜
Hi sir .Is it still hocd if you feel something in your groinal or the anal part twitching and moving when I see men..my brain always tells me I got anal sex..I'm a straight guy I've never have sex with same sex..sorry for my English sir..thanks a lot..
My exams are ongoing i m in this situation how can i be focused its very hard time for me . Help
@@vinit4911 where you from?
@@vinit4911 do you experienced same situation as mine?..
@@anyajoy5259 maybe
Do you know if being obsessed with coincidences and noticing them is a theme of ocd?
For sure is for me and my HOCD. It’s called ‘magical thinking’ and is quite common.
thats me
It sometimes gets into my mind like a normal thought like, when I'm discussing with my boyfriend it goes like"i don't even like man" makes me go insane..
You know something very weird, I have actually struggled with HOCD thoughts while fantasizing about the opposite sex. It sounds weird but I've had thoughts like "Even though you are fantasizing about a woman doing this to you, no truly straight man would be into this." and things like that, can anyone relate?
Lmao, i relate with this SO MUCH. I started feeling like its gay to like women, jesus. Also avoided sum words that might be considered gay..
@@Saytsee how are you bro
@@wengadeeaider7362 Ah man, not too good, but not in my worse stage. Whats bothering me rn is that im afraid to catch feelings for a boy and loose interest on girls... what about u bro?
About like 90% bro but the other 10% is my stomach anxiety everytime I see a slightly attractive guy or gay guy my stomach literally starts to feel like knots and hurts
@@wengadeeaider7362 Bro.. Same, i feel like im gonna vomit every time i see a guy
Can someone help me with this my hocd started around 4 months ago with everyday and every second of the day having intrusive thoughts that were very repulsive to me causing lots of anxiety and stress but after around 2 months the anxiety and thoughts died down and i would feel a quick zap in my chest when i would get a thought but then it would go away now im not getting many thoughts and there is no anxiety with them and its scaring me im only 16 but have like girls my whole life even like a few days before my hocd started me and my friends were talking about what girls look good and with what is going on right it is freaking me out but there are days that i do have attractions to girls and somedays i don't and when i don't it freaks me out
I'm a 14 year old boy and my ive had hocd for the last two months but from the past week I have been feeling like it is denial and i get nervous to talk to my own male classmates and idont get intrusive thoughts anymore and even if i do get it just doesn't affect me anymore and now I just can't describe what real Or fake attraction is but i still feel sexually attracted to women like I used to please help I don't want to be gay Or bia
How you feeling now bro
are u good now bro
I think I went through this back in 2017 and the ridiculous thing is that it came out of nowhere
When you went through this did you loose attraction to women. It suddenly came into my head and it was like a switch. I don’t get that feeling looking at girls anymore. And when I look at guys I get a feeling but is this just hocd playing tricks?
@@bentucker9389 has it changed or still the same ?
It coming out of nowhere is actually the biggest sign of it being OCD in my opinion. Because it means it was just an intrusive thought and feeling until your OCD made you latch on to it. All my themes have the same exact thing where it comes out of nowhere like that and I start obsessing over it like crazy
My brain literally makes no since cuz I don’t get turned on by guys or want to have sex with guys but I still get uncomfortable around guys and nervous and red and clammy around good looking guys and brains like your bi but like I know that’s not true cuz I don’t wanna have sex or do anything with guys
Thats normal bro, i feel the same thing
i used to be the same. it gets better and i wish you the best
Bro I'm like that. I remember it all started because 2 years ago this one guy smiled at me in public, I just looked away and didn't think anything then after that I started getting anxious ever day about that moment. I sometimes even anticipate anxiety when I'm going to do things in public. It's hard to live in the moment and I feel it's trauma.
Hi, i dont understand people who are in denial push feelings or thoughts, they dont like them? I have hocd i dont like my thoughts or feelings, what is diffrence? Sorry for bad english
Hocd is afraid of being gay and hating and disgusted by the thoughts, however people in denial like the thoughts, they are just too afraid to admit they do maybe because of a homophobic environment or afraid their parents won't accept them
or about a month now ive had alot of Hocd symptoms and the intrusive thoughts. Now before I go on I just want to say I have not been diagnosed with OCD but I have had recent harm-ocd themes and hocd themes beforehand. This may not be connected but I recently sat my year 11 GCSE exams and before they started I had harm-ocd thoughts about killing my mother and it absolutely tore me apart. Looking back on it now I can see how ridiculous it was but at the time the feelings and urges felt so real. After I overcame this theme I had about one or two weeks before the theme shifted and now its hocd themes. I have been having them for about a month and prior to this I have had a few episodes but none have been as extreme as this. at the start of this new episode i had extreme anxiety and panic and guilt but now i'm about three to four weeks in i have not got much of a reaction to it anymore and it's worried me as the feelings and the ideas i get feel so real and like i like them when deep down i know i don't but the feeling of me 'liking' them overpowers the realistic idea of my knowing i don't like them. This has also resulted in a next to none libido and feels like I've lost all attraction to guys. I've spoken to one of my friends who has gone through a similar thing but I feel like mine is different and it just feels so draining and gives me this feeling of numbness to it and I feel like everything used to trigger me but now the thoughts are just there and will not budge. i have always had the idea of what i want and what i enjoy and now im doubting all of it and everytime i look at another girl i over analyze it think maybe i did that on purpose and or maybe i want to be with a girl. this is really taking its toll on me and eventhough i know so many people who are part of the LGBTQ+ community i just dont want to be that sexualality and i feel like since i am rairly in a relationship im always the friend when someone first meeets my group that people think im gay due to that fact and i do act more ladish as i grew up with brothers and this all makes me overanalys my past also and like i said i feel drained now and dont have any reaction to this anymore but the thoughts are still there and i just cant shift them and without the fight or flight feeling kits makes me believe even more that this is all true. i just really wanted a professional opinion on this as going to a theripist does scare me as alot of poeple experiencing ocd that i know have been misdiagnosed due to the lack of understanding on this topic and i dont really have the money or time to see a theripist so i just really need a nother out look on this.
This happen to me to. I feel so sad that i dont have the feeling of fight or flight but also I dont want to be. Did you figure ir out? Pls help
@@carolinaalvarado8482 I did after a while and I'm not going to lie it has come back and this time there is no anxiety at all but I know myself deep down and the keep part it this could be meta ocd and you know yourself and I am now in a happy relationship and ocd has no boundaries so you can do the recovery but you can always relapse you just need to keep doing it over and over tull the effects are so minor. Hope this helped x
I'm currently suffering of hocd( I hope it's just that) and i remember when I was like 9 or 10 there was this other boy that i felt anxious around him,i don't remember much about that time but i think at that time i might have dreamt about him and was anxious during the dream( just like I was in real life), could i be gay? I've never had any other incidents. But I did get aroused by women and fell in love 4 times before what i hope is hocd kicked in.
Commenting just to say that this is common for LGBT people too, which I think we often push aside when discussing this theme.
Please someone help me. Im 13 years old and im pretty sure i have POCD i cant stop having these intrusive thoughts and i hate it!!!! Thats not me i dont even get aroused its just the THOUGHTS i dont like them maybe its just puberty i dont know BUT HELP its just thoughts literally thats all and its been happening recently i dont know why i have a girlfriend and i feel extremely guilty who am i??? Why why why someome help please!!!! I hate thid i woulf never do such thing i have little sisters and i love tjem i would never do that why why someome help i dont want these thoughts.
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@@aaronpalmer3580 has it stopped? I keep questioning if I am gay because we did a gay challenge with the homies about whos dick went hard was gay but I felt like my dick was going to harden when it wasn't meanwhile I was also reaaaally grossed out by the gay sex. I thankfully don't have thoughts of having sex with another dude and I (hopefully) don't feel attraction to men and I am sad that this mood has taken away my attracrion towards women rn. I did this challenge 5 times myself and my dick won't get hard but my mind is tricking me into believing that it will
Don’t worry bro! Its ocd dw
Can someone please help me. I’ve had ocd for around 6-7 years due to trauma and have had other themes before. This is one is like no other. It feels so real and I’ve watched videos on hocd and denial. When I get these thoughts I feel sick and like I want to die. I know something is wrong here and I’ve tried to dig deep and think if it’s denial or not but it makes it worse. I can’t deal with this anymore it’s nearly Christmas and I thought I was recovering and my therapist does too. I’m happy when I don’t have these thoughts and I truly believe I’m straight. Then I suddenly get stuck on one thing and I can’t shake it. I need more help but I’m only 15 and already have a therapist but she’s online and I don’t want to ask my parents because everything costs so much nowadays. If you have any advice or a way to help please reply to me.
ive had this for over 3 years now and im just 15 and it literally ruined my social. T_T
I have a problem and I don't really know if it's 100% OCD or not, but anyway there was something that happened from like a month ago and it was that there was someone and he's really impolite and likes watching inappropriate stuff and all that, so he told me "hey I wanna tell you something" so I looked at him and he showed me an inappropriate photo so I looked away and yelled at him and left. So my OCD (at least I think it's my OCD) keeps on blaming everything on him and keeps on saying "you would've been so much better and almost perfect but because of that kid you're nothing." and it's also reminding me of that photo. And those thoughts are really distracting especially when I study and I just keep on thinking of them and it keeps getting worse and worse everyday so should I keep doing erp or is there anything that I can do? But anyway thank you so so much for making these videos it really makes some hope for me in this journey.
How is moving forward and not figuring out different from being indenial? Also i have HOCD and i’m just curious…
Wow... Very helpful. Definitely in denial... Anyone else?
I don’t believe I’m not gay I just hope I’m not- I just don’t want to love anyone like that I want only friends and family but there’ high chance I’m Bi I don’t want to be straight either but I probably am, I wish to be ace and not like anyone.
im not gay btw
i didn't know about HOCD... nice video!
Hey I'm back AGAIN. I'm kinda into you
You are talking about denial and pushing thought away, does it mean that just because i try to push the tjoughts away i am in denial?
Haha, this video helped me a lot... I have both Hetero and Homo OCD and this video helps go about my day without checking. The downside is, I still don't know what I am
at 3:25, you said "Saying may be-may be not gives our brain the answer like I'm accepting that I don't know. I'm learning to be ok with this as long as I continue living life, doing the things I want." My question is, when should I consider that I shouldn't sit with only this answer-may be,may be not? When should I go further questioning?
Just don’t. My therapist told me that I can have ‘5 minuites of worry time’ to think about sexuality but I did and it got out of hand. Live life and accept that sexuality is a topic that you’ll never know
tbh ive had other themes in the past but idk if it was ocd or anxiety because i remember my first time when i was 7 years old i was extremally scared of killing my little brother but i only had obsessions then but now im getting obsessions and compulsions with this theme.
Heyyy I'm back still discovering myself with new sensations ;).
I'm a straight man, never been attracted to a man at all in my life, but recently my minds starting to try convince me l'm actually 🏳️🌈 , I've watched corn (p) for 6 years, only ever corn (p) involving a woman. I've never had a relationship due to social anxiety. This all started when looked at a man on tv and thought he was good looking, didn't find myself attracted to him, then my mind starts trying to convince me I'm actually gay then I will go and search 🏳️🌈 without shirts on to prove to myself I don't get turned on (which I never do) and even at one point had to put gay corn (p) on just to prove a point that I didn't get turned on by it (which I never I actually felt the opposite) this has been happening a month and I've started talking to myself physically having to deny it and prove myself constantly and it's stopping me being able to live my life, after I prove it to myself my mind says "you're in denial". I wound understand if I actually got turned on from it I would be in denial but I haven't. I also get like weird twitches when I see men, but it’s all men, could even be a 85 year old with no hair so that’s proof it’s fake, but when I see a woman on corn hub I don’t twitch I just instantly get .. hard.