5 WAYS INFJs KEEP SHOCKING EVERYONE
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INFJ Life Coach Lesson: INFJs have a habit of unexpectedly surprising people! With depths beyond the typical stereotypes, INFJs are so much more than mere snowflakes or counselors. Today we’ll look at 5 ways they always seem to catch others off guard - So get ready for some interesting surprises and take a guess if you can relate to all five!
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What are some of the ways you seem to shock people left and right?
They seem shocked every time I finally stop talking in a way they're comfortable with and start express my own unique thoughts lol
Always have a backup plan. The world is constantly changing. You have to be adaptable to each situation and figure it all out. Don't fight the river, flow with the river. Adversity is a great teacher by force. Being determined and having the courage to go it alone shocks many.
Most people are surprised when i actually show them how smart I can really be when I want to. Because I’m laidback, most people think I’m actually not as dedicated or smart.
When listening to others have a conversation, I rarely add anything to the chatter. It's a waste of time and oxygen. When I choose to speak, it is usually in an attempt to help each side better understand the other. What "shocks" is the entirely different perspective the respective parties have most certainly either missed or ignored. The reaction from the room can vary, but all too often, the result is at least a moment or so of contemplative silence. I enjoy convincing others to see the world outside whatever foundational views they may hold. It keeps people on their toes.
I show them songs.
I like your hair, Ms. Wenzes.
P.S. I changed my mind about the song.
Garbage - Push it
Under-rated, underestimated. Unpredictable....Legendary
Perfect description!!!!
Wonderful comment
I geuss people are shocked because they stay in their box, It is safer….and it takes less courage thad is why ……in my modest opinion Offcause 😏☮️🇬🇧💕♐️♌️♊️❤️
I think INFP is just an INFJ with ADD
Incognito
1. Know about others & u can’t hide from infj
2. Strong minded do what needs to get done
3. Make plans we r great visionaries
4. Lived multiple lives we re-invent ourselves often = stronger & more mature
5. Fiercely independent=door slam often
Love u Wenzes!
Yes. Reinvent a few times
I don't need to slam the door, I'm already out of the room. You know he we are lol. J/k
@@Chill-mm4pn ha/ha
I love having a blank cover on my book until I let them open it. I have figured a person out long before they knew I was there.
Resilience ❤️ We get knocked down, we get right back up😍
Yes all the time 🙌
I literally have a tattoo of something resembling the same meaning, because I've always been very strong minded and resilient. Recently discovered that I'm a "INFJ" and learned so much more about myself with this channel it's insane. I thought I was always alone, I guess not?
People are really shocked when I finally tell them the truth about themselves. The horror!!
Be careful with that please. For those people's sake😂
@@funnyguy1256_ lol
There was one time In Highschool where all my friends had a group realization that I knew everything about their inner personal lives but they all knew next to nothing about mine. Which left them shocked. I thought at that time that would be a clue for them to start taking interest in my inner life for once. Nope lmao. Ten years later. DOORSLAM
thanks for the comment @darkaral I always wondered the same thing. why is that? why they don't see the same things we see? I call my eyes parietal eyes (insects/snakes) and they are all over my self. I just have to pick and choose which to focus on. But I am a sexagenarian infj. so I probably have triple the lifetime any of you precious souls reading this have. I could be wrong. I remember once as a tween-age girl I had a seance down cellar with all my little other tween girlfriends. We were dark wizards in training so we thoougt. But I had a record player and played my favorite song BACH'S TOCATTA AND FUGUE IN DMINOR. The room got quiet they all held hands candle burning, no one knows what is going to transpire. I dropped the needle. If you know this classical piece of music in Bach tuning it starts with a BANG. I didn't expect them to literally jump out of their seats and all scream at the same time. OOPS. Ya, that left a mark. the ~ Mystic
@@mysticmardi lol, You sure surprised them. I may have reacted the same way if I was in their shoes and didn't know the song. 😆 Ya, why don't people see the same things we see? Why don't more people think out of the box and use empathy? Age old questions I'm afraid. Maybe it's because they're young souls as you've put it. Maybe because a unique or difficult childhood forced us to think in different ways? maybe we're just wired different? All I know is I'd rather be a self thinker and try my best to do right by others even if it seems lonely at times. However, I believe like you the Universe is " the all "and we're all just aspects in the great play of creation. So in that way we're never alone!
We’re the fools on the hill sadly. Most people are a waste of time for us.
Had my wife listen to this video and asked her if it described me. It’s been my observations, people don’t like INFJ,s But when SHIT hits the fan in their lives I’m the first one they call. It should make me bitter, but I always come to the rescue. We should require an Interview to be part of society but that sounds like a cult. The next reset that society’s repeat is very close, I take joy in it lol.
Not that they don't like us, just that we're so often overlooked and underestimated.
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Hey what are these societal patterns you talk about?The one we're in and what it is?🔥
I am an INFJ too
We would Door Slam eachother
I have a feeling I was seen in the radar for the first time. 😂
Thanks again for this video - I made a long term plan 5 years ago to become a digital nomad. And now I reached my goal. As you said in the video, nobody understood what I was doing but now they see the result, they are shocked and... also a bit jealous - Sarah (databasenomad)
I remember there were comments that I've said about a lot of certain people to friends. They didn't believe me and questioned me deeply. It was difficult for me to answer these questions. Some of these friends got defensive, but it was hard to pull myself out of it. People did underestimate me, and I gave them the DOORSLAM! 😊
Go ahead. Underestimate me. That will be fun.😅
I'm really happy about my ability to "doorslam"! So useful! 😊
I love you. I do this often and it saves me soo much stress and heartache.
Yeah but some people are really difficult to doorslam…..for personal raisons !
@@vivianeprudentiabuelens9142 yep, I know the feeling. It's not always what you want to do in certain situations or with certain people. There's a saying that you don't know what you had until it's gone, and it hurts a lot more when you did it, because you blame yourself for it.
How friendly and a good listener I am to others without judgment. Generally being a good person I think.
Until they turn twisted. 😂
Be careful with that. Not always a good thing, coming from an infj.
@@jessmason2112 true 🤣🤭
@@sparkdorable You know what I mean 😏. You try to be kind and do the right thing. Once you get wind of BS or taking advantage of the kindness the tides can turn quickly.
I've probably surprised a lot of people with each one of these five points at some time or another. But the one that I know has surprised them is #5: "We're fiercely independent." It fits in well with #2: "We're strong minded deep down."
I have a hunch that our independence doesn't show right away because our strong-mindedness is deep down. It doesn't just jump out right away. And yes, I do like to work out compromises and try do things in a way for both sides will benefit, and this gets noticed a lot more than my independent streak. However, for me, the independence shows up when people (1) tell me what I "should" think, feel, or do or (2) try to make me believe. In fact, sometimes I almost feel sorry for people who have tried and failed to convince me. 🙂
My usual response is just to keep doing what I'm doing the way I believe it needs to be done.
After a lifetime I'm childhood my father narcissistic verbal physical and sexual abuse I always knew I was different, to everything I don't feel like a Survivor or a victim! Almost 56 years old as a woman mother and daughter I've spent 30 of those years as a black sheep having been disowned it's sad to say that doesn't bother me I like being alone I would rather struggle alone don't rely on anyone for anyting. Basically this whole video disguised me I stay away from people because I don't want to be pushed to the Limit and yet they still push me I've been diagnosed with PTSD with social stressors anxiety and depression
Hi Robin. I am around the same age. Not the same abuse background but I was diagnosed at a crisis center as having come from alcoholic parents though I didn't. But something in their parenting of me and my experience of severe bullying in elementary school caused me trauma. I consider it childhood emotional neglect now. Probably some PTSD as well. I have always been a black sheep in my family and it only continues as I age. But the difference is now that I know I am INFJ and that I see the world differently anyway, its not such a big deal. Stress is caused by wanting things a certain way and not being able to control them to make them that way. But once we start making our own path (beating down the stalks of corn to make a new path like Wenzes likes to use as an example) we start to feel much better about our life and our choices. And we can cut off those relationships that just cause us to stress and hold us back from progress. I wish for you and me the epic life that she is pointing us towards!
I shocked an ESTP by informing him I actually bought a new house and yes I just signed the deed.
I shocked an ISTP one step later, by telling him Yes I am holding a Housewarming.
yes, ESTP and ISTP are very curious about us. They are actually very good for us in the short term.
Well done!
@@matilda4406 Who would you say is good for us in the long term?
@@aniokay Other INFJs, healthy INTPs, healthy ENTPs any intuitive really that is healthy. Sensors probably not.
ISTP may be the only sensor exception..
Any other weed loving infj's out there?
nope, you're on your own
Being underestimated is a great tactical skill. For example, if you are trying to take on a violent sociopathic extremist culture, it helps to be ignored and discounted. Especially at the beginning. Such kind are really good at recognizing ideas to co-opt, plagiarise, and purport as they own. Also, those who need to be "bought" "into the system". They despise and destroy anything they cannot co-oopt or control. So, for example, you have a plethora of paradigms offer alternative ways of thinking that identify, neutralize, and overturn sociopathic constructions and cultures - they are going to really double down to destroy you and those paradigms. One of my hypothesis is the kick *s prophets are sigma INFJs. They know how to scenario crunch, with intention, and identify the pathways and systems that can create redemptive nurturing systems and paradigms. If you follow the traditional methods and teachings, then the sociopathic lookouts see you coming and contrive to co-opt or destroy you. So how to start that rolling stone whilst ducking under their radars? Well, one thing is sociopaths do not really understand social and emotional intelligence. A lot of them have gone through training (adverse behaviors in educational, work, familial, or justice systems have called for them to be "reformed"). Most of them know that they do not become more socially or emotionally intelligent (in that they do not internalise empathy or remorse). What they do do is become better at playing the game, avoiding getting caught, acting contrite with crocodile tears when busted. So we had 2-3 years simply working on social and emotional intelligence and some feel good stuff about affirming peoples and nature. Wishy washy and irrelevant to these kind. They did not know there was a playbook "An Incovenient God." Then they lost the 2020 US elections, and were surprised, so did data mining. Sociopaths are really good at going over past events and picking out the patterns. They realized the wave had come from social and emotional intelligence, so they are now doubling down on censorship, propaganda, coercion and aggression enabling legislations and court determinations. The irony is that we can now be completely upfront about our agenda (message me if you want a copy of the book). Our agenda was written and set in stone December 2020-January 2021. They did not know our agenda but knew we were moving so they upped the ante on the most powerful and credible proof of authority. We won. We won because we got them to play their cards and demonstrate to the world their true characters, objectives, and methodologies. They might want to swing around and use the words of love, peace, nurturing - but their legislations and recordings prove them to be deceitful actors. The funny thing at this point in the game is they are like a shark that has taken the bait and it is now in their guts. The more they thrash and try to wrest control, the more they prove what they are and lose even more credibility. Sometimes, when you are trying to catch a big fish, you do not pull the hook too soon. You want to make sure it is well embedded, and you have made sure you have used the right fishing tackle so they cannot bite through the line or break the cords. You have also ensured there is a team of fishing folk who collectively have the strength and determination required to land that dangeous beast.
I suffered through all that, I agree with what I could understand. You need to slim that way down, compress the info into less sentences. I hope your living well.
I enjoy reinventing myself, and falling off the radar. Only to spring up as a completely different person. (Different to others. In my world, it’s merely a healthy growth spurt). I’ve been working extremely hard for the last 10 years. Gradually falling out of view from everyone. But I’m growing and improving. I do love it when people are floored when they discover I’m not the person they used to know. Especially after going dormant for a life season or two. You struck a chord with me in this one and it really resonated with me and my life. Thank you!
Nice video! I learned from Wenzes, being myself and speaking my truth gives me happiness more than anything else! It's difficult for me but I'm trying and changing myself... and i love the progress. I love this channel, thank you Wenzes! ❤
This hit home
#3 I can truly relate to. When I was doing my nursing internship, that was about 20 years ago, I was on a certain location and I saw persons drawing blood and I said, I would like to do that and voila! I did the course last year and graduated at the top of my class. So, I never lost focus on what I planned to do in the long run.
This is so true, we can read ppl so well, they have no idea what they reveal during a simple conversation. So much more than just a few words.
I don't usually tell ppl what I see in them, they would be so intimidated, I never want to do that to anyone.
I do my best to avoid overly judgemental ppl. They are the ones who have no value in my life.
Shedding is a good word.
I can relate to sticking to a plan that requires time to get done. I like to write poems and lyrics, but also want to set those lyrics to music someday. I've done some songwriting and recording with a friend, but the pandemic put those goals on hold and it will probably take even more time before life returns to enough normalcy to get those goals done. Us INFJs know about patience.
Hahahaha my friend is always mindblown that I remember about her more that she does, it happens almost on a daily basis!
I have spent a lifetime feeling alien. Thank you for helping me understand that I am what I am and I am not the only one. It gives me comfort.
Wenze's you completely explained me!!!Wenze's I'm looking forward to your guidance and teachings,you're the best!!!Jerome
5 midlife’s crisis…sound about right and I’m not even 50 yet 😂
Sad that i was together with an INFJ girl and she turned out to be fake and disloyal... Never expected that... I am an INFJ myself and i know a couple more INFJs and actually we are the most loyal people ever... Good Video :)
As an INFJ I can see myself in all those 5 ways , which INFJ keep shocking others. You actually described me. Just few weeks ago I found out I am an INFJ...so I am just getting used to it.......finally I know who I am and starting to get ideas what to do with it. Thank you for your input and videos on this subject.
This is shockingly accurate. I agree with it in every level. I have all of these in an extreme form. thanks for pointing it out. I wasn’t aware of it until you make it clear to me.
People are always …..say what !!!😊. ?❤ 4:30
As an INFJ, I can say you are a genuine same kind of mine
From UA-cam I thought I was a Sigma Male a week ago. Then someone posted Briggs-Myers.
These 5 points hit home.
My brothers/sisters don't understand me so I "door slammed" 5 of 6 of them.
I sold my house yesterday and will move country to get away from paying taxes for 'woke'.
I've studied a new career for 6 months that will fund my new life.
This plan has been years in the making, yet everyone is shocked when I told them: sold home, going another country, new career. Bye. Years in the planning but just didn't tell anyone.
🍃 Yes all five. Good observation and willingness to express. Wish you the Greatest.
👍 I am independent. Sew, mend, chief cook and bottle washer, fix the car, fix the house, fix the people around me. Hahaha 🤣 thank you Wenzes!
I subconsciously project sincere kindness, being a pushover, and being weak. I observe how people treat that persona that I project. I then act accordingly to how I will deal with this person moving forward. It’s funny how people who I thought was rough and tough avoid me, or they treat me totally different and more kind than ever before.
So accurate and nicely said 😅. Awesome 💯 ❤👍💫
Wenzes, thank you for articulating so clearly and thoroughly these deep attributes of INFJ that are hidden, yet always a part of INFJs makeup. I’ve never felt so known! You help all of us INFJs understand, appreciate, and (dare I say) be proud of our personalities at our cores. Now in my ‘40s I finally feel acceptance of myself. We truly do benefit from aging and maturing into embracing ourselves instead of the outsider feeling when we are young. ❤ Love this channel, Wenzes.
Thank you
Amazing.
Need to hear this! ❤
Thank you.
3:38 exactly 💯 correct. Usually it's so lame that I just roll my eyes & enjoy my anger in peace. But sometimes I am inspired to go outside myself for selfish fulfilment: like princess kissing handbook writing.
I love you for your positive words and perspective. Thank you so much for that!
Those ways are so true.
Thank you 🤍
We are the genuine truth🤩
It shocks people that I actually keep my promises walk the walk so to say not only talk the talk as an INFJ it makes me proud of being an INFJ I wouldn't break myself or mold myself or dim my own light anymore I'll stay positive and optimistic as if I'm an ESTP even though I'm not an ESTP I don't have to rely on my physical force anymore true power is that I'm my own leader and my own alpha nobody truly has power over me only me no more fear
Wenzes i’m so grateful for your contribution to understand and appreciate myself. 💙
You popped up into my life in the midst of my dark night of the soul.
I don’t have to add more..
About us living many lives, super true.
You know what Matt Kahn says about who materialises nightmares into their lives?
Congratulations you are intuitive.
I passed out in the hospital twice and survived now I'm thriving that's how I shock people
Wow!!! I feel understood!!!!!
Thanks💚💚💐💐
Love the asymmetrical bob, it looks nice on you. Very true facts.
Wow, so true 😁
Very accurate 😮
Every type goes through traumatic situations and can bounce back and be resilient not just INFJ'S INFJ'S make mistakes like everyone else they're are put on pedestals and everyone tells them they are special every type is special in their own unique way .
Guilty of all charges! ;-) I rarely felt so understood.
Thanks. You help me to learn how my mind works and how my life works.
💚💚💚💚You are amazing and so smart and good, thank you
We live in the moment 🙃
Nailed it 😁😁😁😁
BAMM! Nailed it once again! ♥️🤗🙏🔥☝️
This is exactly on point about me
❤❤you are love!!
Once again you are dead on. In the world of dating there are so many women afraid of commitment. To scary for them.
We are the Holy Spirit, God blessed you😇
Get out of your head and in your heart like you were created to be!
We're basically secret psychics.
Num 4 blew my mind, so me Omg🎉🎉🎉🎉❤ I feel like celebrating😊😊😊 Thank you God for this channel 😁
I really like this channel. I wish there was also a channel specifically for INFPs.
Very recognisable...
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Hi Wenzes, I hope you're well. I myself am an INFJ, but one of things I think might make a good discussion here is about the Myers-Briggs test itself. There are two really big ideas there that stand out to me that I hope you would talk about.
1. What is the relation between the INFJ and other types.
2. What about the test as a whole? Does it stand up to others personality tests like the big 5 or the MMPI. Myers-Briggs was designed in the 1930s I believe and although the foundation is true today there are strong similarities to other tests. Ironically I have scored similarly on other tests. But what does that mean?
YES 5/5
I will go on your next round
.. I am an INFJ .. my score is 5/5 .. tq for the explanation
Every single word makes sense 🙃✨️
Would you ever do a q&a?
I keep my distance from everyone. Nobody knows me. I am not just introverted, but reclusive, as well. I am not risking a repeat of past events that caused me to become introverted and reclusive.
you look shockingly good today... 😅
It's sad when even a group of therapists pow wow around to try and break me and knock me down but this just goes to show just how much we are underestimated. People can be so gross.😬🙄 Glad to be having an appointment today with a real doctor that doesn't gaslight his patients smh. 🙄
INFJ here. 👋🏼 You look like Helena Christensen. Thank you for videos.
#3 - Most are blown away that I’m a real yoga instructor. It’s something they never would have seen coming.
I belong...THE MISUNDERSTOOD.
I am a very quiet person in the beginning, but if I'm the one approaching people, I'm incredibly bubbly and chatty (but once my battery dies off it quiets down ;P). MOST people call me quiet, but they find themselves asking me for advice or how to approach a situation or even be vulnerable about a situation.
And when a a situation occurs, everyone panics and remains confused. And there has been times when everyone attempts to contribute but doesn't listen to each other - I understand everyone and contribute all their ideas in one.
If there is conflict or panic in the air, everyone gets worried but I kick straight into action not scared to act the leader. And maybe... no one expects me the quiet on the act when disaster strikes. But after that...their perception of me changes, they understand that I choose to be quiet.
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you are beautiful human❤
People don't get just how deeply things affect us it may look like nothing or the other way going through unimanigable stuff with ease its how we cope we turn everything in on itself and our consciousness is prepared for anything everything and the insane extremes which we conjour and conquer in how minds first prepared for it in 3d so when stuff does happen we make it look effortless , its second nature
Mmm
Alhamde liAllah الحمد لله
They are convinced that I'm all about "GOOD" but I can turn to "DEVIL ON EARTH" anytime anyday. And their reaction when I do, "i don't know who you truly are anymore" LMAO people are so sticky on 1 dimension life. go figure.
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7 lifetimes was no Freudian slip and you know it I know it. Our goal is to learn. so who are we? how do you know this and what is the backstory which is all I am interested in. Handholding not required. A direct answer would be marvelous if in email thats fine too. thanks for the in-depth video sounds like the constellation of the seven sisters.
I was actually reborn
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You look like Wanda Maximoff with that hair cut.
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I lived like 10 lifetimes laready