If their families n friends don't intervene n turn them against each other It can work Or they can move to another country Where left vs right doesn't exist
My wife is a Lib and I’m conservative. She is my best friend on earth and I love her and respect her view points as she does mine. Don’t make politics bigger than loving one another and this should never be a problem.
A good marriage is always hard work, and "Christians" are also getting divorced. Even if the rates are not as high - not getting divorced does not mean they have a happy home. Lots of dysfunction going on, and with people of faith there is a pressure to uphold appearances.
In politics what ever is going to happen is going to happen whether you pay attention to it or not. Not discussing politics is a sure fire way to not be part of that statistic.
@@derek4412 all you said is correct and actually too my point, they dont have the same values but they are in love which is why they are overlooking the shared value proposition.
As someone who is a hardcore libertarian athiest, I fell in love with a hippie liberal and 3 years in the difference in morals and core beliefs, as well as finacne and politics starting rearing their head in the ugliest way possible and now its falling apart all around me
I'm a conservative, my wife is a liberal. I'm caucasian, she's middle eastern. I came from a Christian family, she came from a Muslim family. We've been together and in love for 14 years. It's not always easy, but just be a normal person and respect, listen to, and love each other.
And I wish nothing more than the best for you. But a spouse isn’t just a frivolous friend. It’s the person you’re supposed to be one with. The person you’re supposed to raise a family with. I would feel horrible if I felt my husband would teach my children things I vehemently disagree with. Or vice versa. Obviously we can have different interests. But when it comes to the big things like faith, morals and values. You absolutely need to be on the same page about it!
@@alqoshgirl You're right about that, I wouldn't recommend anyone go out and seek their opposite. We got together when we were still in high school. As time went on we grew and matured, and in some aspects in different directions. Like I said it isnt always easy, but we have never once in 15 years let our differences get in the way of our love for one another (and now our two year old daughter ❤️). Totally understand your point though, you're not wrong.
My advice would be to avoid having a relationship with your opposite politically speaking. You will spend your lives fighting undermining and irritating each other. It’s a misery that’s best avoided.
This guys is awesome and an amazing addition to Dave’s team! If you can’t see people as people instead of “sheeple” it’s time to look internally at that negativity.
It is not just about opinions. For example, if one parent wants to allow their toddler to be non-binary and not choose a gender and the other thinks that is child abuse that marriage will not work. There are values in politics as well that is not just only a matter of opinion.
If you want your marriage to work you need to agree (at least mostly) on four things: Religion, politics, finances, kids. It is normal to not be 100% in agreement on all those things but to be polar opposites wont work. There are other fish in the sea to go find. I've known married couples who disagree(d) on politics, but they decided they didn't actually care about certain things prior to getting married and have found middle ground. This is what marriage is. But if you can't find middle grounds on the four majors then it likely will end in heartache.
We're no longer in a situation where Liberal vs. Conservative are people who want to implement essentially the same core values by different means. We're now in a situation where Liberal vs. Conservative means people have incompatible core values. Getting into a relationship like that is like a dumpster that's on fire, on a train that's about to get in a wreck, all on the deck of the Titanic, a hundred feet out from that iceberg.
Yeah I think this is a fair take. I think in a prior time the political sides aligned for a decent amount of things, or could compromise on some stuff, but that isn’t the world as it exists now. People have dove into political parties so deeply and made it so much of who they are to the point where it would be s challenge to be married and work through that. But politics aside you can’t make a marriage work if you have different core values even if you want to because those values are so important you can’t compromise them. Even if you tried the other would disrespect you because how do you respect a person who says something je a core value but will walk from it.
No they can't. Also, how can a Christian claim to be a Christian when they embrace policies that are contradictory to faith? How can that be reconciled?
"Be not yoked together with unbelievers," refers more to issues of worship, rather than marriage. It's not disobedience to marry outside the faith. Keep the faith, though.
I'm asking myself that same thing!! Christianity seems to be synonymous with blue jeans wearer. I don't understand it. If you'd even entertain a romantic relationship with someone not a follower of Christ, HOW can you honestly call yourself a Christian??
Never date anyone who doesn't share your core values, because love is often not rational and you can fall for someone who is a bad match for you. This lady is setting herself up for failure - this is clearly a disaster in the making.
Not necessarily… I have found that nearly all Christians will move towards conservatism once presented with actual FACTS. Which would become possible should she ever learn to listen.
@@sarahalderman3126 Actually the Christian faith has been highly divided for about 1400 years. Around 500 years ago they split because of constant war. Literally
@@beng4647 actually most Catholic’s are conservative or right wing, though unfortunately there are some prominent left wing Catholic’s such as biden, the pope, and say pelosi who have attempted to sway the populace but it has been largely ineffective. As for protestants, Ill take your word for it since I don’t know any myself. In the US anyway many of the nondenominational christian groups tend to lean left as their congregations tend to be largely uninformed though, which is probably where I was headed with that comment…
@@sarahalderman3126 To say Catholics are right wing is fair. I was more saying they are left of protestants. Read about Martin Luther and you will understand the split.
Yeah it didn't work between my parents. Apparently one of the first times my mother realized it wasn't going to work was when my father suggested aborting my sister. He didn't really push it, but the fact he did at all really stuck with her. Of course my sister is now very pro life.
Crazy how polarized people are on that. My ex hated that I wouldn't completely dismiss the possibility of abortion if we were to unexpectedly get pregnant early in college, while my current girlfriend hates that I believe there should be limits on late term abortion. Can't win it seems. :/
I’m a pro-life liberal. I’d love to live in a world in which no woman or family was so desperate that they thought abortion was their best option. Again, the difference between values vs beliefs. Abortion is heartbreaking but making it illegal doesn’t seem to be the answer, making it unnecessary for those in desperate situations is the key to me.
My husband and I are of different nationality. I'm Nepalese and he's an American. I am a nerd and he is a free spirit. I am an engineer and he is in sales. I'm a Hindu and he's not. I'm a vegetarian and hes not. But.. heres what we agree on - we both respect all religions. We both celebrate all holidays. We both have a plan for our future. We both come from strong close knit families and want the same for ourselves. We are both financially conservative and socially liberal. So you can fight about little things, but you can't fight about what you want for life. Marriage is like being on one boat rowing towards one destination. You can change the pace, you can have obstacles but you can't be in one boat and go towards different directions.
Your advice is spot on. I was married to an American man. My parents came from south of China, Laos. Yes we both have our differences. Instead of fighting about those differences we both learn to accept them. We made our marriage work.
Socially liberal has become much different meaning than 10 years ago. It means you truly, deeply believe in 10+ genders, honoring made up fake pronouns, sex change chemicals for children, unrestricted abortions, obscene content for kids, drag shows for children
For friendship, you don't have to agree on how to get there, but you have to agree on where you're trying to go. But if you want to marry and have a family, you really need to have both.
those who are not compatible with political views are more likely not on the same page when it come to money, child rearing, family and those are normally main causes of divorce.
I was very liberal when i married my conservative husband, After years of talking about why we felt certain ways, we somewhat meet in the middle on most things. But i have also become much more conservative.
@@grod805 Conservatives believe in the constitution. Todays democrats generally disagree with it. Proof is with the current withdraw from afgan. The same people who scream womens rights are sitting back silent when the taliban is marring 12yr olds and raping women. Thats where the intense divide comes from. You can have a rational conversation with a "woke" leftist and thats the problem. The squeaky wheel gets the grease.
The Ramsey Personalities are Amazing. They need t-shirts or something. I would wear Dr. Delony's t-shirt/or use his mug. Dave Ramsey - "Live like no one else so you can live and give like no one else." Chris Hogan - "Focused and not finished." Rachel Cruze - "Love your life not theirs." Anthony O'Niel - "Speak what you seek until you see what you speak." Christy Wright - "Build confidence in yourself." Ken Coleman - "Life is too short for a boring 9-5 job." Dr. John Delony - "Y'all need to go to breakfast and talk about this." We love you on the team Dr. Delony. You are the best.
This is such a good show. I'm extremely impressed. As a liberal surrounded by a sea of conservatives Dr. John did a great job of explaining why a partner with your values is more important than someone who votes the same.
4:27 THIS is why it won't work: his s beliefs were "for his convenience" while hers were to "protect her family." 🙄 ffs She can't look down on someone else and make herself superior and expect to have a relationship with them.
That would wourk great for a friendship. But when your values are opposite it tends to be a loss of respect for hearing one another. It will NOT improve overtime.
I’m Mexican, naturally we are conservative even though many of us have come to believe we are liberals here in the US, my girlfriend was very liberal when we started dating and as time has gone she’s become conservative herself. I don’t consider myself a religious person but I do have “religious” values and upbringing.
Liberals are not respectful they rather intolerant, I don’t know how is that going to work. My husband used to be a democrat but he woke up. Thanks God!
@@TotyVale Many conservatives are the same way. Very intolerant. I have run across many of them. If you don't think like they do, then you are completely wrong. Both sides have jerks on them.
This is exactly my husband and I. But we have a strong faith foundation and we are always willing to listen to each other, and we always show respect and try to find what parts we agree on. Like I dont really like the idea of guns in the home, but I can understand that he enjoys the gun hobby and wants to protect our home. And we came to compromise due to mutual respect. It’s not always easy, but with respect and strong values it’s possible :)
@@Cathy-xi8cb The fact that you even make this comment in this tone demonstrates a couple things. 1: You think that a gun wouldn't be locked up or on someone's person in the first place. When you tell this to gun owners we will look at you the, "no da sherlock" look for saying a stupid thing, and you will deserve it. I don't have kids, and all firearms are either on my person, or in the safe. There's a small loophole for transportation but there they're cased up, unloaded and so forth. If I ever break this I would put money down that ALL my gun owning friend would jump down my throat for stupidity, and if I was dump enough to break that rule, I'd deserve it. 2: You think firearms randomly discharge. Firearm's are machines, not pets. They won't move or do anything unless acted upon by another force. My dog will run and jump around all excited and scratch the wood floor if someone says the w word (walk) in his hearing. There is nothing I can say, no image I can put in front of it that'll cause a firearm to discharge. In order for it to discharge several actions have to happen together. 1: a round in the chamber. 2: the safety is turned off. 3: the trigger is pulled 4: the target is in the path of the bullet. Unless all 4 conditions are met at the same time, it's an expensive and awkward paperweight. But out of respect for what CAN happen if all 4 situations are met the above rule is followed. I feel perfectly safe tossing a round up in the air and catching it. The round will not go off randomly. That's not a thing with anything close to modern firearms/ammo. Now playing catch with ammo is a waste of perfectly good ammo, but that's a different topic. 3: Kids will shoot themselves because they're curious. You know what's the best prevention for kids hurting themselves with firearms? Take the mystery out of it through education. Teach the kids firearm safety just like we teach them knife safety, or pick any other tool of your choice safety. I know a kid who when he was 6 watched a politician give a gun control speech. The politician waved an AK at the reporters as a scare tactic. This 6 year old kid instantly rattled off every gun safety violation this politician was making. (finger on the trigger, pointing at someone/thing you don't intend to destroy, not clearing the firearm before showing it to others, and so forth.) He ended it with. "Daddy, why is that person being so stupid with that firearm? I'm 6 and I know better." It was beautiful. There are other issues with your comment but you get the gist of it.
No secret that the right took a heavy right and the left took a heavy left over the last several years. It’s never been more difficult for the two to get along. Anyone still doubting that they want us divided?
Gee...I wish someone would talk about me that way...not. Let's hope you are writing that for clicks and not because that is what you think of this woman.
What makes you think their "values" differ. Lots of self congratulating bible thumpers around that are anything but Christian. And that family that so "stongly" feels about religion and politics very likely leans in the direction of intolerance. And they fear their daughter might get less fundamentalistic when she is exposed to the moderating influence of her partner / husband. The sisters says in passing "she likes him". So the man has obviously something going for him, but the parents can't muster the curiosity or openness of heart to see who he is as a human. "Christian" marriages get less divorced but that does not mean they are healthy or happy. At least that couple is not going to slide into complacency. They have to defend / nurture their love when they differ on opinions (likely not even on values).
I’ve noticed more and more that values are intertwined with politics. I personally choose to have as few points of contention in the women I chose in dating as possible.
@@gloriack7976 lol, to say the least. Lots of things don't really surprise me anymore. We have to mentally tune out all the noise around us, and stay focused on what God has set out for us.
I'd say no it will not work out. My brother married someone with different values than him and she left after he finished paying for her college and everything else she wanted. She was so cool and liberal and accepting when she needed money but she quickly got tired of being with a not so trendy black Christian man. As soon as she has every last Penn she slept with his higher status white liberal friend. If two people don't want the same things they should break up sooner than later. It's sad now because he watches all three of the kids 90percent of the time and the little girl wonders why her mommy doesn't wanna play with her anymore. Breaks your heart.
As a European it’s so funny reading the comments referring to the Democrats as left wing! They’d be a centre right party in most countries in Europe and a slightly right of centre right party in a couple 😂
I was very liberal and dated conservative men during my vegan, feminist, anarchy phase and now, as a conservative, I'm good friends with liberals, though I've never dated a liberal as a conservative. The thing I've found is that the conservatives are very open to having their beliefs challenged as long as they feel respected in the process, but the liberals will cast you out or talk down to you if you make the mistake of casually mentioning you disagree about something. It's weird because in brain studies, there are suggestions that liberals are more creative and thus, more open-minded, but my experience has been opposite that.
Probably your experience is with more educated and intellectual Liberals and simple minded Conservatives. In DC where both circles have thought about their beliefs it's more 50-50
This couple is a sham. She's 35 and has run out of time for a man to sign that marriage contract. How do you compromise on a gun in the house? Get rid of the lower receiver and keep the upper? Compromise in her mind means he concedes. They aren't close to being right for each other, but he does have an income which is what she is after. If they get divorced thats fine with her she can get the cash and prizes. She has no intention of being his godly biblical loving wife for the rest of her life.
She would be signing up for a life of being married to a man who is more radical than she thinks that he is. He is probably a climate denier who believes that the man is the head of his household (sexist not partner) who doesn’t believe in human rights but blame different classes of people for ruining ‘MERICA!
You believe how many guys I have coming to me recently saying they want to get into guns but they're wife isn't on board...figure these things out before you get married people, because it's much harder after. Things you don't think are a big deal will most likely become a big deal at some point
When she said, "He has a gun, and I won't have one in my house", then she says she wants them to compromise, I would bet money she means he has to give up his guns. I don't think this is going to work.
@@marycarricaburu3683 She says "compromise," but she means conform. It's her way or no way and the way she tries to paint herself as a victim is like nails on a chalkboard. He needs to run.
I think I just recently got divorced for this reason and the comment section is helping more than Dr. John. I agree at the end of the day values and beliefs are intimately tied. As some comments have noted, if one person agrees with abortion and the other doesn’t that is hard to reconcile (literally a question of the value of life). Some issues I agree you can ignore or reconcile but those core issues can a lot about a person.
I haven't watched this yet, I'm about to, but the title caught my eye. And it's honestly a topic I find so disturbing about our society today. The media that you consume brainwashes people on both sides of the political spectrum, and it's up to you as a rational thinking adult to be able to filter through what is truth and what is "click bait ad-revenue"... and a lot of it is the later. Many people simply don't know how the internet, SEO, web crawlers, etc work. But I'm a web engineer and architect, and I've been doing this stuff since I was a little girl. It's baffling to me how many people recognize obvious scams like "the nigerian prince", but they don't recognize the mundane "scams" they fall pray to every day because it's in their face so much they are desensitized to it. People have access to endless amount of information but lack insight to any of it. If you are a Democrat/Liberal who ONLY consumes leftist media and you ASSUME that Republicans are all hillbilly, racists, evil, white, only care about money, etc.. then you will ALWAYS see them as your enemy. And visa versa. If you are a Republican/Conservative who ONLY consumes right wing media and you ASSUME that Democrats are all blue haired, irrational, emotional libtards, etc, then you will ALWAYS see them as your enemy. These stereotypes exists for a reason, but they exist on both sides of the spectrum of literally anything: Atheist vs Religious, Caucasion vs POC, Cat vs Dog, etc I've seen irrational, emotional, illogical Democrats (who don't even realize they are far left) who are only regurgitating what they read online, and I've also seen irrational, emotional, illogical Republicans who don't know they are far-right that are also regurgitating what they read online. When something political happens in the real world, you should consume media from all sides. And you'll start to see the painfully OBVIOUS biases. Filter through the name calling and actually listen to the subject matter. You'll start to recognize who is lying or exaggerating the truth to fit their narrative for that sweet sweet ad revenue. The reality is that Republicans and Democrats face the same issues, they just have different perspectives and different ways of solving the problem. VERY FEW PEOPLE are able to see the cause and effect created by a proposed solution. Far-Left and brainwashed Democrats only see the positive outcome proposed by their solution and refuse to admit the negative effect of their solution that the Republican see. Far-Right and brainwashed Republicans only see the positive outcome proposed by their solution and refuse to admit the negative effect of their solution that the Democrats see. This is why it's so important to communicate and understand each other's points of view. People aren't pulling these points out their ass. They have a legitimate reason for what they're saying. You just have to shut up and listen. You can still be a Republican/Conservative or Democrat/Liberal - but your reasoning for being so should be based off you're own experiences, not what someone TELLS you to think. You can still be a Republican and understand and appreciate the points a Democrat makes. You can still be a Democrat and understand and appreciate the points a Republican makes. You SHOULD be having calm, rational conversations and learning from each other. And you should never start the conversation by being defensive or using talking points from the people who think that "all Dems bad" or "all Reps bad" Do not let those with political power make money off you because you're gullible and easy to manipulate. And for the record: The majority of Politicians at the top are extremely corrupt. INCLUDING YOUR DEMOCRATS. INCLUDING YOUR REPUBLICANS. Your local government officials are probably great. And I'm sure they're not all terrible people at the top.. but you are fooling yourself if you think your political leaders are good people. At least Trump was a snake that told you he was a snake. You know what to expect from a snake. But most politicians at the top on the Dem and Rep side: they're all wolf in sheep's clothing. And waaaay to many sheeple that "baaah" right back.
I definitely want to hear what happened with the first caller! My parents have always had different political views but things have worked out for them.
I’m a liberal. My partner is conservative. You know what doesn’t affect our day-to-day lives at all? Politics. We’ve talked about it. I respect him a lot. He’s a very smart man who comes down on certain issues that are important to him in a different place than I do. He respects my opinion and concedes I have good points on things. It’s just about being an adult who can have a thoughtful discussion with someone that they disagree with without it devolving into nonsense. When I’m older and we settle down someplace (he’s in the military so we bounce around a bit) I want to get involved with local government and he’s all for it and thinks I could do a lot of good.
Me and my husband did. After 7 years we both belong to the same political party and it was me who switched. Only after tons of research of my own and an open mind!
James Carville and Mary Matalin seem to be doing okay. Also, I was a poll worker for awhile and, while I won't hazard a guess on anyone's view of specific issues, I can say for sure that there were several mixed-party married couples in my hometown, at least at that time.
Sounds like she's saying that since he doesn't see things her way so its the wrong way and she wants to try and "fix" him and won't respect him until that happens. This guy needs to run.
Me and my fiancé agree on almost everything going on in the world and in general. We disagree on some spiritual ideas but our values typically match up, I think we just call things different names if that makes sense. I find it intriguing to be in love so deeply with someone that can look show me his perspective and him mine. I think it’s driving our love deeper and teaches you to love unconditionally because nothing will ever be totally perfect, but it can be an even better time when you have challenges to push your growth and relationship in places it couldn’t have gone otherwise.
Personally, I don’t think it’s worth it to marry someone who doesn’t share your political beliefs. They don’t have to agree on everything with you, but having complete opposite viewpoints on basic values and issues will lead to explosive fights and divorce.
I think I get the beliefs vs values thing John is talking about but I feel like you mostly need to agree on the beliefs too, not just the values. And that's for the exact scenario he laid out in front of her
12:55 "(in the context of relationships/how people understand things...) So this whole idea that feelings don't matter--only the facts--that's not actually a fact. The fact is that your feelings influence how you hear facts, and facts influence your feelings. It's reciprocal; they work together. " - Dr. John
Its not so much politics but rather how hard core you take politics and drown yourself in the day to day news. My wife and I disagree in some areas but we just go about our lives being happy.
My mom is very liberal and my dad is ultra conservative and they have been happily married for forty years. It’s all about respecting differences and finding a middle ground
I am an ex liberal that married a conservative. I would have described myself as a democratic socialist. He is Republican. Out of all of it, he was super serious about his guns. The only way to make it work is to stick to facts. Facts don't have an opinion. And don't touch the mans guns.
I am right in the middle of the political spectrum and my fiance is a garden-variety liberal and it is totally fine. We both share a common strong Christian faith. Our values are totally aligned. How we think those values need to be expressed in the world is different about half of the time. It is about how you handle disagreement and eventually compromise, not the fact that you disagree. I think totally opposite would be more difficult; however, if you need your partner to agree with your politics to feel good about the relationship, you are being childish. I would never want to be with someone who agrees with me all the time, it would simply just be too boring for me.
Actually, if you are the kind of person that needs. your partner to agree with you politically then you need to marry someone that agrees with you 100 percent on politics. Although it may be childish to you, it will never work out if that is a requirement/need for one of the partners.
Having similar religious view is definitely desirable in marriage. I don't want to be with someone who believes that I deserve to be thrown in the lake of fire for eternity simply I don't worship their deity.
There are definitely different types of Christians ~ of the more LEFT and of the more Conservative Christians. It is not enough to “marry a good Christian”
Regarding the second call, the rehab place will work with families. The dad can call the rehab place for support services for family counseling. If the son participates and signs off on sharing hippa info with the parents then he is on board. If the son doesn’t participate then he has no intention of stopping the behavior and that is a difficult circumstance. The problem is most if the time, an addict’s mind is still cloudy when they are done with rehab. No matter how old they are, they might actually need a lot of help to completely recover. It is a tough road, but if you want that addict to get better be prepared to dedicate yourself to the issue for at least a year to 18 months.
The question I would ask them is: Can they agree to remain respectful of each other's opinions and beliefs WITHOUT shutting out the opportunity for conversation and debates. If they can't balance those two things, they will grow to resent each other very quickly.
Well it depends. An important thing to remember is to always treat the person with love and as if they arent a monster. For example Im more liberal and belive in universal Healthcare and i have a friend and we talk politics all the time and hes conservative and thinks universal healthcare is crazy. But we go in with good assumptions of each other. He doesnt talk to me as if im some asshole who wants the government to buy me 3 sports cars because i believe medical bills shouldn't ruin people. And i in return dont treat him as a callous monster who wants the poor to die of preventable medical conditions. The same would need to be true in a relationship. You can have a different view of the world but you have to in a romantic relationship put your partnership first and in any relationship you have to recognize that this partner isnt a monster. I think a lot of conservatives and liberals look at each other as scary when really deep down they want the same things as we do. Of course the politicians dont count in that last statement, as we all know they are just lizards
I agree with Delony. What business is it that her sister is going to marry someone she is 'unequally yoked" with. The sister and family is toxic. This is a toxic religion but very common.
"Can they fall in love?" Sure... anybody can fall in love with anybody. "Will they STAY in love?" Now that is a different question.
If their families n friends don't intervene n turn them against each other
It can work
Or they can move to another country
Where left vs right doesn't exist
when they have a baby, she will become more conservative so i give it a chance
@@Traumatised311 Where is this country?
My wife is a Lib and I’m conservative. She is my best friend on earth and I love her and respect her view points as she does mine.
Don’t make politics bigger than loving one another and this should never be a problem.
Same situation here. 16 years together and we love each other more with each passing day. The secret is being a normal person lol
It’s so much better to marry someone who has your same beliefs regarding politics and religion. Save yourselves the headache.
That is true and I have seen couples share those two things initially and then change after married.
People change parties. You have to be able to discover the truth, what's behind the curtain, together.
A good marriage is always hard work, and "Christians" are also getting divorced. Even if the rates are not as high - not getting divorced does not mean they have a happy home. Lots of dysfunction going on, and with people of faith there is a pressure to uphold appearances.
It is so much better to be a tolerant person than to be a self rightous "Christian"
No it is not better. It’s just more convenient. marriage is hard regardless of your beliefs and values. You just get different kind of hard.
This isn't going to work. It's tough enough to live with someone with whom you agree with on a lot of things.
Exactly! I don’t know how they can coexist! My husband and I agree on 95% of religious, political, money topics but that 5% can get us HEATED!
@@AMK544 Some people just want to argue all the time. Some people just don't take themselves so seriously.
In politics what ever is going to happen is going to happen whether you pay attention to it or not. Not discussing politics is a sure fire way to not be part of that statistic.
Exactly! Perfectly said!
It can work but you have to patient understanding people
They may fall in love but goodluck keeping it together.
@@derek4412 all you said is correct and actually too my point, they dont have the same values but they are in love which is why they are overlooking the shared value proposition.
As someone who is a hardcore libertarian athiest, I fell in love with a hippie liberal and 3 years in the difference in morals and core beliefs, as well as finacne and politics starting rearing their head in the ugliest way possible and now its falling apart all around me
My mom was a liberal and my dad a conservative. They were married until she died. The arguments were always fun to listen to.
Women generally want a little more conservative guy. Makes sense considering there are more conservative guys and wayy more democrat women.
Fall in *lust*
I'm a conservative, my wife is a liberal. I'm caucasian, she's middle eastern. I came from a Christian family, she came from a Muslim family. We've been together and in love for 14 years. It's not always easy, but just be a normal person and respect, listen to, and love each other.
❤️
A liberal who is a Muslim, interesting.
Glad to see you work it out
And I wish nothing more than the best for you. But a spouse isn’t just a frivolous friend. It’s the person you’re supposed to be one with. The person you’re supposed to raise a family with. I would feel horrible if I felt my husband would teach my children things I vehemently disagree with. Or vice versa. Obviously we can have different interests. But when it comes to the big things like faith, morals and values. You absolutely need to be on the same page about it!
@@alqoshgirl You're right about that, I wouldn't recommend anyone go out and seek their opposite. We got together when we were still in high school. As time went on we grew and matured, and in some aspects in different directions. Like I said it isnt always easy, but we have never once in 15 years let our differences get in the way of our love for one another (and now our two year old daughter ❤️). Totally understand your point though, you're not wrong.
just wanted to ask...did she tell you to convert or something?
My advice would be to avoid having a relationship with your opposite politically speaking. You will spend your lives fighting undermining and irritating each other. It’s a misery that’s best avoided.
Also, democrats are pro grooming.
This guys is awesome and an amazing addition to Dave’s team! If you can’t see people as people instead of “sheeple” it’s time to look internally at that negativity.
The only time it’s not okay, is when two people do not allow each other to have their own opinions.
@Danny Bowen this reply is beyond ironic...
Everyone is allowed to have their opinion. Its only ome opinion that counts...
It is not just about opinions. For example, if one parent wants to allow their toddler to be non-binary and not choose a gender and the other thinks that is child abuse that marriage will not work. There are values in politics as well that is not just only a matter of opinion.
If you want your marriage to work you need to agree (at least mostly) on four things: Religion, politics, finances, kids. It is normal to not be 100% in agreement on all those things but to be polar opposites wont work. There are other fish in the sea to go find. I've known married couples who disagree(d) on politics, but they decided they didn't actually care about certain things prior to getting married and have found middle ground. This is what marriage is. But if you can't find middle grounds on the four majors then it likely will end in heartache.
No sports? 😁
It's not a mathermatical formula
We're no longer in a situation where Liberal vs. Conservative are people who want to implement essentially the same core values by different means. We're now in a situation where Liberal vs. Conservative means people have incompatible core values. Getting into a relationship like that is like a dumpster that's on fire, on a train that's about to get in a wreck, all on the deck of the Titanic, a hundred feet out from that iceberg.
Its sad
Yeah I think this is a fair take. I think in a prior time the political sides aligned for a decent amount of things, or could compromise on some stuff, but that isn’t the world as it exists now. People have dove into political parties so deeply and made it so much of who they are to the point where it would be s challenge to be married and work through that. But politics aside you can’t make a marriage work if you have different core values even if you want to because those values are so important you can’t compromise them. Even if you tried the other would disrespect you because how do you respect a person who says something je a core value but will walk from it.
Im very liberal and a relationship with a hardcore conservative absolutely would not work. Core values can't be compromised.
No they can't. Also, how can a Christian claim to be a Christian when they embrace policies that are contradictory to faith? How can that be reconciled?
They have faith
"Be not yoked together with unbelievers," refers more to issues of worship, rather than marriage. It's not disobedience to marry outside the faith. Keep the faith, though.
Agreed I think a classical liberal might be able to be a Christian (they just want higher taxes, more welfare etc not a big deal)
Jesus was a hippy, get over it.
I'm asking myself that same thing!! Christianity seems to be synonymous with blue jeans wearer. I don't understand it. If you'd even entertain a romantic relationship with someone not a follower of Christ, HOW can you honestly call yourself a Christian??
Never date anyone who doesn't share your core values, because love is often not rational and you can fall for someone who is a bad match for you. This lady is setting herself up for failure - this is clearly a disaster in the making.
Not necessarily… I have found that nearly all Christians will move towards conservatism once presented with actual FACTS. Which would become possible should she ever learn to listen.
@@sarahalderman3126 Actually the Christian faith has been highly divided for about 1400 years. Around 500 years ago they split because of constant war. Literally
@@sarahalderman3126 Protestants are right wing and Catholics are left wing. The KKK were all Protestants and killed more Catholics than black people.
@@beng4647 actually most Catholic’s are conservative or right wing, though unfortunately there are some prominent left wing Catholic’s such as biden, the pope, and say pelosi who have attempted to sway the populace but it has been largely ineffective. As for protestants, Ill take your word for it since I don’t know any myself. In the US anyway many of the nondenominational christian groups tend to lean left as their congregations tend to be largely uninformed though, which is probably where I was headed with that comment…
@@sarahalderman3126 To say Catholics are right wing is fair. I was more saying they are left of protestants. Read about Martin Luther and you will understand the split.
Yeah it didn't work between my parents. Apparently one of the first times my mother realized it wasn't going to work was when my father suggested aborting my sister. He didn't really push it, but the fact he did at all really stuck with her. Of course my sister is now very pro life.
@Jb berry She realizes that now
Crazy how polarized people are on that. My ex hated that I wouldn't completely dismiss the possibility of abortion if we were to unexpectedly get pregnant early in college, while my current girlfriend hates that I believe there should be limits on late term abortion. Can't win it seems. :/
@@TheSterlingArcher16 your mistake was taking a position with actual nuance. Most people can’t comprehend that lol
I’m a pro-life liberal. I’d love to live in a world in which no woman or family was so desperate that they thought abortion was their best option. Again, the difference between values vs beliefs. Abortion is heartbreaking but making it illegal doesn’t seem to be the answer, making it unnecessary for those in desperate situations is the key to me.
Exactly these are very big difference of values and beliefs. Things like that will never work out.
My husband and I are of different nationality. I'm Nepalese and he's an American. I am a nerd and he is a free spirit. I am an engineer and he is in sales. I'm a Hindu and he's not. I'm a vegetarian and hes not. But.. heres what we agree on - we both respect all religions. We both celebrate all holidays. We both have a plan for our future. We both come from strong close knit families and want the same for ourselves. We are both financially conservative and socially liberal. So you can fight about little things, but you can't fight about what you want for life. Marriage is like being on one boat rowing towards one destination. You can change the pace, you can have obstacles but you can't be in one boat and go towards different directions.
Your advice is spot on. I was married to an American man. My parents came from south of China, Laos. Yes we both have our differences. Instead of fighting about those differences we both learn to accept them. We made our marriage work.
lol
Socially liberal has become much different meaning than 10 years ago. It means you truly, deeply believe in 10+ genders, honoring made up fake pronouns, sex change chemicals for children, unrestricted abortions, obscene content for kids, drag shows for children
I would say... don't marry someone who you disagree with on religion, politics, money or children.
For friendship, you don't have to agree on how to get there, but you have to agree on where you're trying to go. But if you want to marry and have a family, you really need to have both.
It’s not going to last! Run now before your heart gets too invested.
those who are not compatible with political views are more likely not on the same page when it come to money, child rearing, family and those are normally main causes of divorce.
No way. You can’t date someone successfully with different morals and foundational truths
Never date or marry someone that you want to change.
I was very liberal when i married my conservative husband, After years of talking about why we felt certain ways, we somewhat meet in the middle on most things. But i have also become much more conservative.
How can you become conserva after 2016 to 2021. Conservatives aren't even patriotics at this point. They are in a cult
@@grod805 we could literally say the same thing about liberals
@@grod805 Conservatives believe in the constitution. Todays democrats generally disagree with it. Proof is with the current withdraw from afgan. The same people who scream womens rights are sitting back silent when the taliban is marring 12yr olds and raping women. Thats where the intense divide comes from. You can have a rational conversation with a "woke" leftist and thats the problem. The squeaky wheel gets the grease.
Has he moved any?
Same. I was ultra leftist he conservative now I’ve surpassed him conservative speaking.
My husband is a libertarian and I am a Democrat. We have been together for years and learn to agree to disagree or respectfully disagree.
The Ramsey Personalities are Amazing. They need t-shirts or something. I would wear Dr. Delony's t-shirt/or use his mug.
Dave Ramsey - "Live like no one else so you can live and give like no one else."
Chris Hogan - "Focused and not finished."
Rachel Cruze - "Love your life not theirs."
Anthony O'Niel - "Speak what you seek until you see what you speak."
Christy Wright - "Build confidence in yourself."
Ken Coleman - "Life is too short for a boring 9-5 job."
Dr. John Delony - "Y'all need to go to breakfast and talk about this."
We love you on the team Dr. Delony. You are the best.
Oh my! That’s awesome! Lol
There definitely needs to be a beans and rice shirt
Except Hogan is gone now….
This is such a good show. I'm extremely impressed. As a liberal surrounded by a sea of conservatives Dr. John did a great job of explaining why a partner with your values is more important than someone who votes the same.
If you can’t respect the man, where does it go from there. Doesn’t sound good.
4:27 THIS is why it won't work: his s beliefs were "for his convenience" while hers were to "protect her family." 🙄 ffs
She can't look down on someone else and make herself superior and expect to have a relationship with them.
That would wourk great for a friendship. But when your values are opposite it tends to be a loss of respect for hearing one another. It will NOT improve overtime.
I’m Mexican, naturally we are conservative even though many of us have come to believe we are liberals here in the US, my girlfriend was very liberal when we started dating and as time has gone she’s become conservative herself. I don’t consider myself a religious person but I do have “religious” values and upbringing.
It depends on how open minded and respectful two people are.
Liberals are not respectful they rather intolerant, I don’t know how is that going to work. My husband used to be a democrat but he woke up. Thanks God!
@@TotyVale Your comment has so many layers of irony.
@@TotyVale Many conservatives are the same way. Very intolerant. I have run across many of them. If you don't think like they do, then you are completely wrong. Both sides have jerks on them.
@@TotyVale My husband was. But now he's being stubborn.
@@TotyVale Of course, you conservatives are always "tolerant", particularly when religious liberty is concerned 🤮
She is going to annoy the crap out of him. No. Just no. Married 33 years with SHARED values.
This is exactly my husband and I. But we have a strong faith foundation and we are always willing to listen to each other, and we always show respect and try to find what parts we agree on. Like I dont really like the idea of guns in the home, but I can understand that he enjoys the gun hobby and wants to protect our home. And we came to compromise due to mutual respect. It’s not always easy, but with respect and strong values it’s possible :)
Lock up those guns real well if you have kids. Please.
@@Cathy-xi8cb The fact that you even make this comment in this tone demonstrates a couple things.
1: You think that a gun wouldn't be locked up or on someone's person in the first place. When you tell this to gun owners we will look at you the, "no da sherlock" look for saying a stupid thing, and you will deserve it. I don't have kids, and all firearms are either on my person, or in the safe. There's a small loophole for transportation but there they're cased up, unloaded and so forth. If I ever break this I would put money down that ALL my gun owning friend would jump down my throat for stupidity, and if I was dump enough to break that rule, I'd deserve it.
2: You think firearms randomly discharge. Firearm's are machines, not pets. They won't move or do anything unless acted upon by another force. My dog will run and jump around all excited and scratch the wood floor if someone says the w word (walk) in his hearing. There is nothing I can say, no image I can put in front of it that'll cause a firearm to discharge. In order for it to discharge several actions have to happen together. 1: a round in the chamber. 2: the safety is turned off. 3: the trigger is pulled 4: the target is in the path of the bullet. Unless all 4 conditions are met at the same time, it's an expensive and awkward paperweight. But out of respect for what CAN happen if all 4 situations are met the above rule is followed. I feel perfectly safe tossing a round up in the air and catching it. The round will not go off randomly. That's not a thing with anything close to modern firearms/ammo. Now playing catch with ammo is a waste of perfectly good ammo, but that's a different topic.
3: Kids will shoot themselves because they're curious. You know what's the best prevention for kids hurting themselves with firearms? Take the mystery out of it through education. Teach the kids firearm safety just like we teach them knife safety, or pick any other tool of your choice safety. I know a kid who when he was 6 watched a politician give a gun control speech. The politician waved an AK at the reporters as a scare tactic. This 6 year old kid instantly rattled off every gun safety violation this politician was making. (finger on the trigger, pointing at someone/thing you don't intend to destroy, not clearing the firearm before showing it to others, and so forth.) He ended it with. "Daddy, why is that person being so stupid with that firearm? I'm 6 and I know better." It was beautiful.
There are other issues with your comment but you get the gist of it.
Exactly
@@Cathy-xi8cb Relax, Karen.
No secret that the right took a heavy right and the left took a heavy left over the last several years.
It’s never been more difficult for the two to get along.
Anyone still doubting that they want us divided?
"Feelings influence how you hear facts, and facts influence your feelings."
The answer is no
I am in love with the craziest looney bin Liberal I have met but she is the greatest gift in my life and I love her more every day!
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Yikes, couldn’t be me though
Gee...I wish someone would talk about me that way...not. Let's hope you are writing that for clicks and not because that is what you think of this woman.
@@Cathy-xi8cb you sound like a really sad person. And no, she is crazy but in the best ways possible.
"looney bin Lberal" x D made me chuckle haha
Of course it’s okay but I don’t see how it’s possible. Why would you marry someone with different life values?
What makes you think their "values" differ. Lots of self congratulating bible thumpers around that are anything but Christian. And that family that so "stongly" feels about religion and politics very likely leans in the direction of intolerance. And they fear their daughter might get less fundamentalistic when she is exposed to the moderating influence of her partner / husband. The sisters says in passing "she likes him". So the man has obviously something going for him, but the parents can't muster the curiosity or openness of heart to see who he is as a human.
"Christian" marriages get less divorced but that does not mean they are healthy or happy.
At least that couple is not going to slide into complacency. They have to defend / nurture their love when they differ on opinions (likely not even on values).
Just break this off. The chances of it working out are miniscule. Not impossible, but highly improbable.
I would run. Don't count on him being able to correct your political views. 😀
Bahaha, nailed it.
Couldn't have said it better myself, haha
Of course a conservative jerk would say this.
Girl pass him to me, its tough find a good conservative man.
What's wrong with him that he would pick her?
Gross he sounds like an a-hole
We as Christians should reflect the love of Christ and be a good example of how he loves us no matter what. Should be praying for them not gossiping
Idea - once a week or month @JohnDelony should share what he's currently reading!
Awesome contents Dr Delony. & the staff!
Oh man it would be so hard if my husband was a liberal. So many things they’re for go against my values.
I’ve noticed more and more that values are intertwined with politics. I personally choose to have as few points of contention in the women I chose in dating as possible.
No. Facts are facts. They don't change because of feelings.
Oh boy... how do you compromise on a gun... or law abiding imigration vs illegal immigration.... shes delusional, that guy needs to run.
She wants to defund the police, and doesn't want a gun in the house🤔
LOL my dude.
Right?? Lol but she wants to protect her family with a mask so hey they both agree on protecting people.... 🤔
@@gloriack7976 yeah.......people's thought process nowadays is interesting. Sure makes you wonder, and scratch your head
@@Josh-by9fv it's rather scary.
@@gloriack7976 lol, to say the least. Lots of things don't really surprise me anymore. We have to mentally tune out all the noise around us, and stay focused on what God has set out for us.
I'd say no it will not work out. My brother married someone with different values than him and she left after he finished paying for her college and everything else she wanted. She was so cool and liberal and accepting when she needed money but she quickly got tired of being with a not so trendy black Christian man. As soon as she has every last Penn she slept with his higher status white liberal friend. If two people don't want the same things they should break up sooner than later. It's sad now because he watches all three of the kids 90percent of the time and the little girl wonders why her mommy doesn't wanna play with her anymore. Breaks your heart.
Dude, you rock!!! Love that you have your own show now
As a European it’s so funny reading the comments referring to the Democrats as left wing! They’d be a centre right party in most countries in Europe and a slightly right of centre right party in a couple 😂
I was very liberal and dated conservative men during my vegan, feminist, anarchy phase and now, as a conservative, I'm good friends with liberals, though I've never dated a liberal as a conservative. The thing I've found is that the conservatives are very open to having their beliefs challenged as long as they feel respected in the process, but the liberals will cast you out or talk down to you if you make the mistake of casually mentioning you disagree about something. It's weird because in brain studies, there are suggestions that liberals are more creative and thus, more open-minded, but my experience has been opposite that.
Probably your experience is with more educated and intellectual Liberals and simple minded Conservatives. In DC where both circles have thought about their beliefs it's more 50-50
This couple is a sham. She's 35 and has run out of time for a man to sign that marriage contract. How do you compromise on a gun in the house? Get rid of the lower receiver and keep the upper? Compromise in her mind means he concedes. They aren't close to being right for each other, but he does have an income which is what she is after. If they get divorced thats fine with her she can get the cash and prizes. She has no intention of being his godly biblical loving wife for the rest of her life.
Don't forget kids - her clock is ticking, he's there (for now).
Buy a gun with a wooden appearance. Apparently liberals think they look pretty.
@@jordanl4805 absolutely! those are 18 year annuities.
She would be signing up for a life of being married to a man who is more radical than she thinks that he is. He is probably a climate denier who believes that the man is the head of his household (sexist not partner) who doesn’t believe in human rights but blame different classes of people for ruining ‘MERICA!
Someone must have done you bad! This is a really judgmental comment. Just because she is 35 is she not allowed to keep her values and beliefs?
How do you compromise between having a gun an not allowing guns? There is no in between.
Maybe a gun safe….?
I love the emphasis on respect
Yup just like selling cars. Respect is key :)
You believe how many guys I have coming to me recently saying they want to get into guns but they're wife isn't on board...figure these things out before you get married people, because it's much harder after. Things you don't think are a big deal will most likely become a big deal at some point
When she said, "He has a gun, and I won't have one in my house", then she says she wants them to compromise, I would bet money she means he has to give up his guns. I don't think this is going to work.
@@marycarricaburu3683 She says "compromise," but she means conform. It's her way or no way and the way she tries to paint herself as a victim is like nails on a chalkboard. He needs to run.
@@animezinglife I totally agree.
I think I just recently got divorced for this reason and the comment section is helping more than Dr. John. I agree at the end of the day values and beliefs are intimately tied. As some comments have noted, if one person agrees with abortion and the other doesn’t that is hard to reconcile (literally a question of the value of life). Some issues I agree you can ignore or reconcile but those core issues can a lot about a person.
This man should run
I think SHE should run.
I haven't watched this yet, I'm about to, but the title caught my eye. And it's honestly a topic I find so disturbing about our society today.
The media that you consume brainwashes people on both sides of the political spectrum, and it's up to you as a rational thinking adult to be able to filter through what is truth and what is "click bait ad-revenue"... and a lot of it is the later.
Many people simply don't know how the internet, SEO, web crawlers, etc work.
But I'm a web engineer and architect, and I've been doing this stuff since I was a little girl.
It's baffling to me how many people recognize obvious scams like "the nigerian prince", but they don't recognize the mundane "scams" they fall pray to every day because it's in their face so much they are desensitized to it.
People have access to endless amount of information but lack insight to any of it.
If you are a Democrat/Liberal who ONLY consumes leftist media and you ASSUME that Republicans are all hillbilly, racists, evil, white, only care about money, etc.. then you will ALWAYS see them as your enemy.
And visa versa.
If you are a Republican/Conservative who ONLY consumes right wing media and you ASSUME that Democrats are all blue haired, irrational, emotional libtards, etc, then you will ALWAYS see them as your enemy.
These stereotypes exists for a reason, but they exist on both sides of the spectrum of literally anything: Atheist vs Religious, Caucasion vs POC, Cat vs Dog, etc
I've seen irrational, emotional, illogical Democrats (who don't even realize they are far left) who are only regurgitating what they read online,
and I've also seen irrational, emotional, illogical Republicans who don't know they are far-right that are also regurgitating what they read online.
When something political happens in the real world, you should consume media from all sides. And you'll start to see the painfully OBVIOUS biases. Filter through the name calling and actually listen to the subject matter. You'll start to recognize who is lying or exaggerating the truth to fit their narrative for that sweet sweet ad revenue.
The reality is that Republicans and Democrats face the same issues, they just have different perspectives and different ways of solving the problem.
VERY FEW PEOPLE are able to see the cause and effect created by a proposed solution.
Far-Left and brainwashed Democrats only see the positive outcome proposed by their solution and refuse to admit the negative effect of their solution that the Republican see.
Far-Right and brainwashed Republicans only see the positive outcome proposed by their solution and refuse to admit the negative effect of their solution that the Democrats see.
This is why it's so important to communicate and understand each other's points of view. People aren't pulling these points out their ass. They have a legitimate reason for what they're saying. You just have to shut up and listen.
You can still be a Republican/Conservative or Democrat/Liberal - but your reasoning for being so should be based off you're own experiences, not what someone TELLS you to think.
You can still be a Republican and understand and appreciate the points a Democrat makes.
You can still be a Democrat and understand and appreciate the points a Republican makes.
You SHOULD be having calm, rational conversations and learning from each other.
And you should never start the conversation by being defensive or using talking points from the people who think that "all Dems bad" or "all Reps bad"
Do not let those with political power make money off you because you're gullible and easy to manipulate.
And for the record: The majority of Politicians at the top are extremely corrupt. INCLUDING YOUR DEMOCRATS. INCLUDING YOUR REPUBLICANS.
Your local government officials are probably great. And I'm sure they're not all terrible people at the top.. but you are fooling yourself if you think your political leaders are good people.
At least Trump was a snake that told you he was a snake. You know what to expect from a snake.
But most politicians at the top on the Dem and Rep side: they're all wolf in sheep's clothing. And waaaay to many sheeple that "baaah" right back.
Life is too complicated for a husband and wife not to be on the same page on politically
You’re not getting him to let go of his gun. That gun is for you, not him.
Better yet that guy should run for his life
Yup. She’s a liberal. Run.
I definitely want to hear what happened with the first caller! My parents have always had different political views but things have worked out for them.
There’s already enough stuff to argue about why add politics. Just split and call it done.
My parents were married for almost 60 years. My dad was Protestant, Republican and a Yankee fan and my mom was Catholic, Democrat and a Red Sox fan.
Update to my first post: My Girlfriend and I just got engaged! Thank you all for your king words!
I’m a liberal. My partner is conservative. You know what doesn’t affect our day-to-day lives at all? Politics.
We’ve talked about it. I respect him a lot. He’s a very smart man who comes down on certain issues that are important to him in a different place than I do. He respects my opinion and concedes I have good points on things. It’s just about being an adult who can have a thoughtful discussion with someone that they disagree with without it devolving into nonsense. When I’m older and we settle down someplace (he’s in the military so we bounce around a bit) I want to get involved with local government and he’s all for it and thinks I could do a lot of good.
I hope for the sake of their sanity that they didn't get married.
No, it will get personal and affect the marriage.
Depends on how much you make politics part of who you are.
I could never marry someone who won’t allow me to protect my life and carry a gun
Pugs and Sheep Dogs... The Domesticated deny the real world
Amen
Wow. This came at a good time. I'm in a similar situation
I get the feeling that he is going to stonewall her and push his beliefs on her while she tries to be compassionate. Better off cutting it off now.
Me and my husband did. After 7 years we both belong to the same political party and it was me who switched. Only after tons of research of my own and an open mind!
James Carville and Mary Matalin seem to be doing okay.
Also, I was a poll worker for awhile and, while I won't hazard a guess on anyone's view of specific issues, I can say for sure that there were several mixed-party married couples in my hometown, at least at that time.
Sounds like she's saying that since he doesn't see things her way so its the wrong way and she wants to try and "fix" him and won't respect him until that happens. This guy needs to run.
I agree with the boyfriend on everything LOL.
Me and my fiancé agree on almost everything going on in the world and in general. We disagree on some spiritual ideas but our values typically match up, I think we just call things different names if that makes sense. I find it intriguing to be in love so deeply with someone that can look show me his perspective and him mine. I think it’s driving our love deeper and teaches you to love unconditionally because nothing will ever be totally perfect, but it can be an even better time when you have challenges to push your growth and relationship in places it couldn’t have gone otherwise.
Personally, I don’t think it’s worth it to marry someone who doesn’t share your political beliefs. They don’t have to agree on everything with you, but having complete opposite viewpoints on basic values and issues will lead to explosive fights and divorce.
I think I get the beliefs vs values thing John is talking about but I feel like you mostly need to agree on the beliefs too, not just the values. And that's for the exact scenario he laid out in front of her
12:55 "(in the context of relationships/how people understand things...) So this whole idea that feelings don't matter--only the facts--that's not actually a fact. The fact is that your feelings influence how you hear facts, and facts influence your feelings. It's reciprocal; they work together. " - Dr. John
Its not so much politics but rather how hard core you take politics and drown yourself in the day to day news. My wife and I disagree in some areas but we just go about our lives being happy.
Unfortunately, no.
Undocumented? Lol. She means illegal.
Run 🏃♀️ woman ! Run
It’s not about who is right, is about mutual agreement on everything.
My political beliefs represent things that I value. If we value totally different things, we can't make it work
Divorce 100 % values is everything in a marriage. Marriage has enough problems already
Yes, if both are sane rational people who both are able to understand nuisance. Stop all this tribalism
Nuisance 😂😂
It doesn’t work. Poor guy.... He needs to find a good conservative women.
If either resorts to shouting or getting mad, it's a no brainer. Call it off. It will only get worse.
My mom is very liberal and my dad is ultra conservative and they have been happily married for forty years. It’s all about respecting differences and finding a middle ground
@@juliennetully4814 and not a middle finger.
1. I hope they can?
2. In his shoes, I'd be GONE. She's a non-starter for me.
This is great advise as it pertain to values and beliefs🙌🏾
Girl, leave this relationship now
I am an ex liberal that married a conservative. I would have described myself as a democratic socialist. He is Republican. Out of all of it, he was super serious about his guns. The only way to make it work is to stick to facts. Facts don't have an opinion. And don't touch the mans guns.
I am right in the middle of the political spectrum and my fiance is a garden-variety liberal and it is totally fine. We both share a common strong Christian faith. Our values are totally aligned. How we think those values need to be expressed in the world is different about half of the time. It is about how you handle disagreement and eventually compromise, not the fact that you disagree. I think totally opposite would be more difficult; however, if you need your partner to agree with your politics to feel good about the relationship, you are being childish. I would never want to be with someone who agrees with me all the time, it would simply just be too boring for me.
Actually, if you are the kind of person that needs. your partner to agree with you politically then you need to marry someone that agrees with you 100 percent on politics. Although it may be childish to you, it will never work out if that is a requirement/need for one of the partners.
Christine Total agreement should not be a pre-condition for any human relationship, nor is it even possible.
Brandon Koster People who can’t bend have a tough time with long term relationships.
Having similar religious view is definitely desirable in marriage. I don't want to be with someone who believes that I deserve to be thrown in the lake of fire for eternity simply I don't worship their deity.
There are definitely different types of Christians ~ of the more LEFT and of the more Conservative Christians. It is not enough to “marry a good Christian”
Regarding the second call, the rehab place will work with families. The dad can call the rehab place for support services for family counseling. If the son participates and signs off on sharing hippa info with the parents then he is on board. If the son doesn’t participate then he has no intention of stopping the behavior and that is a difficult circumstance. The problem is most if the time, an addict’s mind is still cloudy when they are done with rehab. No matter how old they are, they might actually need a lot of help to completely recover. It is a tough road, but if you want that addict to get better be prepared to dedicate yourself to the issue for at least a year to 18 months.
The question I would ask them is: Can they agree to remain respectful of each other's opinions and beliefs WITHOUT shutting out the opportunity for conversation and debates. If they can't balance those two things, they will grow to resent each other very quickly.
Well it depends. An important thing to remember is to always treat the person with love and as if they arent a monster. For example Im more liberal and belive in universal Healthcare and i have a friend and we talk politics all the time and hes conservative and thinks universal healthcare is crazy. But we go in with good assumptions of each other. He doesnt talk to me as if im some asshole who wants the government to buy me 3 sports cars because i believe medical bills shouldn't ruin people. And i in return dont treat him as a callous monster who wants the poor to die of preventable medical conditions. The same would need to be true in a relationship. You can have a different view of the world but you have to in a romantic relationship put your partnership first and in any relationship you have to recognize that this partner isnt a monster. I think a lot of conservatives and liberals look at each other as scary when really deep down they want the same things as we do. Of course the politicians dont count in that last statement, as we all know they are just lizards
I agree with Delony. What business is it that her sister is going to marry someone she is 'unequally yoked" with. The sister and family is toxic. This is a toxic religion but very common.
I am thinking that THEIR parents PUT her up to “handling her sister and her poor decisions” PRETTY CRAPPY.