A & i answer your gender and college questions

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  • @graveyardpansy
    @graveyardpansy  4 роки тому +264

    just a PSA note: this was filmed about a month ago, before our school was shut down. we're both safe and isolating right now, we aren't being bad ppl in this video don't worry!

    • @erenrodriguez8768
      @erenrodriguez8768 4 роки тому +6

      I was worried ngl 😭😭

    • @S5S5066
      @S5S5066 3 роки тому +3

      i know this was 9months ago but id be interested in you talking with a again

    • @MIurbex
      @MIurbex Рік тому

      such anarchist rebels!!!!
      "WE WEREN'T BREAKING THE RULES GUYS, PLEASE DON'T SHAME US"
      SHELTER IN PLACE, WEAR MASK, TAKE VACCINE

  • @Liam-cb7ui
    @Liam-cb7ui 4 роки тому +114

    Honestly A’s pigtails are such a vibe, I wish my hair did that 🤧

  • @ClownGathering
    @ClownGathering 4 роки тому +94

    To add on to the confidence thing, back when I ID'd as a transguy, and was like a mere 2 months on T, I went to a public bathroom in the break of a concert. The bathrooms were one big elongated room, left mens cublicles right womens cubicles, no urinals. There were sooo many people there, and 1 staff-person. I was waiting in the mens line, and right as I'm about to enter the cubicle the staff-person stands in front of me, and declares loudly that I'm at the wrong side. Like, theres men all around me, did they think I didn't notice?
    Anyway I declared: "No, I don't think so." and they were extremely flustered, profusely apologised and blaimed it on my stretchers because "I see earring, I think girl...". So yeah, try to believe in yourself, and people wont know your heart is hammering in your chest

  • @13gudadod
    @13gudadod 4 роки тому +214

    "Books on gender"
    "Karl Marx ...the Bible"
    Lmao

  • @graycl0ud
    @graycl0ud 4 роки тому +155

    okay wtf A is literally so sick

  • @atecerealwithchopsticks7341
    @atecerealwithchopsticks7341 4 роки тому +104

    AYE FELLOW 6 FOOT TALL NONBINARY PERSON!

  • @artiec2129
    @artiec2129 4 роки тому +89

    I adore the dynamic between you two. I'm heading off to college soon and I hope I'm able to make connections like the one you and A have :)

  • @deadboy5678
    @deadboy5678 4 роки тому +43

    Wow I love A???? This friendship warms my heart so much 🥺✨

  • @RaeDole
    @RaeDole 4 роки тому +36

    What podcast did Ashtons friend recomend I can't figure out what they're saying

  • @cameronwarmerdam4251
    @cameronwarmerdam4251 3 роки тому +9

    ashton talking about his squishes warmed my heart so much lmao

  • @banishedbary5239
    @banishedbary5239 4 роки тому +42

    A: “Find people who dress the way that you wanna dress and go from there”
    Me: watching Ashton’s videos

  • @lilacforest4826
    @lilacforest4826 4 роки тому +14

    Another non-faceboook way to find local LGBT groups and friends is this app called Meet Up! they have a whole section for the community and you find a wide variety of groups from a dinner club to an LGBT art club =)

  • @aaronexists4308
    @aaronexists4308 4 роки тому +36

    Who is that sitting in the background? Did anyone even notice that?

    • @graveyardpansy
      @graveyardpansy  4 роки тому +61

      that's our pal whose room we were filming in, he was writing an essay and listening to bagpipe music

    • @aaronexists4308
      @aaronexists4308 4 роки тому +7

      Ashton Daniel okay thank you. I pay attention to the wrong things

    • @lyonclaws5737
      @lyonclaws5737 4 роки тому +8

      @@graveyardpansy he seems cool lmao, i totally forgot bagpipe music was a thing!!

    • @thedukeofweasels6870
      @thedukeofweasels6870 4 роки тому +12

      Don't take this the wrong way I mean it as a compliment but his hair looks like a Minecraft grass block XD

  • @micky2708
    @micky2708 4 роки тому +13

    Loved this video! It was great to meet A! Also I’m super excited for the cryptid video

  • @abmb9084
    @abmb9084 4 роки тому +19

    this video is girl defined’s equal and opposite reaction u know like newton’s law

  • @alleeshirrell8770
    @alleeshirrell8770 4 роки тому +37

    Hello I’m also a cisgender man -Ashton 2020

    • @glittergrains5155
      @glittergrains5155 4 роки тому +1

      i think he said 'cisgendered' but yeah it should be 'cisgender'.

    • @r4y903
      @r4y903 2 роки тому

      @@glittergrains5155 i mean it could be on purpose cause some trans people like to say cisgendered as a joke to mock cis people who refer to trans people as transgendered

  • @trans_yoga
    @trans_yoga 4 роки тому +17

    When they said their name was "A" my first thought was 'Please tell me I've left quarantine and woken up in my fav. Levithan novel!!!' Has A read 'Everyday'? It'd be an amusing coincidence if they hadn't.

    • @acook4616
      @acook4616 4 роки тому +7

      I have! My name choice was completely unrelated though, I remembered the book a few years after I came out and was like.... “huh” lol

    • @Ickymunches
      @Ickymunches 2 роки тому

      Yesss that's one of my favorite books of all time.

  • @sofia6899
    @sofia6899 4 роки тому +15

    I havent watched the full video yet but A looks really cool :)

  • @SkyeID
    @SkyeID Рік тому +1

    This relationship makes me feel warm & fuzzy. I wish I had friends like them. 😕

  • @reesemalo
    @reesemalo 3 роки тому +5

    While I am happier growing my hair out again, it's a little stressful since having long hair as an nb person makes people immediately assume I'm a girl lmao

  • @lucidthomas4402
    @lucidthomas4402 4 роки тому +7

    This video made me realize I'm a werewolf gay

  • @allgodsnomasters2822
    @allgodsnomasters2822 4 роки тому +3

  • @ianbennett2443
    @ianbennett2443 3 роки тому +3

    homeboy just there in the background

  • @ilikebread757
    @ilikebread757 2 роки тому +2

    I got a doc martens ad on this video. UA-cam knows.

  • @xXeatingtoastersXx
    @xXeatingtoastersXx Рік тому +1

    A's pigtails are my gender

  • @nualahalpin6119
    @nualahalpin6119 4 роки тому +4

    my bookvibe gender is one of the two plotlines in the second book in my favourite series by my favourite author: A Closed And Common Orbit by Becky Chambers. It's a sci-fi about an newly-rebooted android coming to terms with her sentience and the conflict between her android brain and her humanoid body. So much of it is relatable from an autistic and trans perspective, and it just has such a positive message about found family and self acceptance and love. Also,the way she picks her name is just fucking awesome. She basically looks on a baby name website, picks one at and just that simplicity and how immediately her friends start calling her by her name, and I think it was explicitly stated that she doesn't need a Reason for her name, it just needs to Feel Right. its also just a fucking amazing book has so many wonderful, brilliant characters and CANONICAL LGBT+ CHARACTERS and gender nonconformity and just. wow. Everything Becky Chambers writes is pure fucking gold in my eyes.
    apologies for the rant but that question sparked something inside me. I think I'm gonna reread that book sometime in the next few days.

  • @scoobydude1999
    @scoobydude1999 4 роки тому +4

    I liked this video a lot! Also I love A's hair!

  • @ollieshinn3967
    @ollieshinn3967 4 роки тому +2

    when i lived in a hall style our showers had 1 curtain so either you got in the shower and endured freezing water or get naked in front of people.... i showered at like 2 am to compensate

  • @m1les_live899
    @m1les_live899 4 роки тому +2

    yall are awesome together-

  • @ellaella2346
    @ellaella2346 4 роки тому +9

    A seems like such a nice person (: What podcast were they talking about at 35:00?

  • @jacobbaylis
    @jacobbaylis 4 роки тому +5

    I have the same Dungarees to A

  • @str4ng3-b34ut1ful
    @str4ng3-b34ut1ful 4 роки тому +11

    I converted the bathrooms on my hall into gender-neutral bathrooms! (with the assent of everyone else on the floor)
    ...and then had to leave :(

  • @userAl9893
    @userAl9893 4 роки тому +4

    I'm sewing my jacket listening to you guys, and after like half the video I first looked at the screen AND I GOT SO SCARED OF THIS PERSON IN THE BACKGROUND LASJASJOIXUUI

  • @tallsockclown
    @tallsockclown 3 роки тому +1

    The Last Unicorn is my favorite book and I absolutely love it. I would absolutely say it reminds me of my gender. The book has a lot of stuff in it you can pull out as critiques of society and I adore it so much. The writing style is a bit funky though so I had a hard tome reading it at times, but I highly recommend reading it.

  • @nyxusrune
    @nyxusrune 4 роки тому +1

    In the game hollow knight you play as a night that is considered to have no gender. (And like thousands of siblings so that’s fun)

  • @sammiisdead8965
    @sammiisdead8965 3 роки тому +2

    it took me like 4days to watch this video 😭

  • @alexisflory6496
    @alexisflory6496 2 роки тому +1

    23:15 trash goblin is my fashion sense. My gender is where the webpage doesn't load but exists anyways. Ya know where the dinosaur game lives😂-this is the only way I can describe it, except ya know with gender and not web pages.

  • @warrenriley1383
    @warrenriley1383 4 роки тому +2

    malvolio in yellow stockings is my fucken gender FIGHT ME KALVIN

  • @clumsybugg
    @clumsybugg 4 роки тому +1

    I love you both sm and I just wish you 2 were my friends cuz I need more cool ppl like you in my life🥺👉🏼👈🏼 Also like if anyone who comes across my comment needs a friend I'm here! Insta: @glitterpops_n_deathdrops
    Edit: Also, off topic but I so wanna be 6 feet tall like A. I'm jealous asf💞

  • @crackhead6926
    @crackhead6926 4 роки тому +14

    bruhs i look quite androgynous but i still get misgendered, people call me a she, even though im not actually female, big need help time

    • @oliveroliveroliver
      @oliveroliveroliver 4 роки тому +7

      possibly wear pins with your pronouns on them? also, if somebody misgenders you, don’t be afraid to correct them! you could say “i use they/them pronouns, please refer to me using they instead of she.” or something along those lines.

    • @crackhead6926
      @crackhead6926 4 роки тому +5

      @@oliveroliveroliver
      yes, thank you, thinking about getting a pronouns pin, though it doesn't seem like I'll need them anytime soon.
      sadly i live in a country where the language doesnt have neutral pronouns so i just stick with what's closest to they them, which is usually just interpreted as he him
      stay safe

    • @oliveroliveroliver
      @oliveroliveroliver 4 роки тому +3

      crackhead no problem! you stay safe too (:

    • @paadoxal
      @paadoxal 4 роки тому +2

      @@crackhead6926 lol same:'-(( my language is almost the same and i just have to go with what people assume (usually she:(( ), i reccomend finding the nb community online where you can feel valid:-)

  • @Lualily_
    @Lualily_ 4 роки тому +1

    When I was born I was named after Julian of Norwich

  • @KoatsNGoats
    @KoatsNGoats 4 роки тому +2

    27:56 he'll yeah my question got answered!! Thank you so much

  • @callmewinter1191
    @callmewinter1191 4 роки тому +1

    Hi so like um I just wanted to say
    Your videos have helped me a lot in accepting myself and stuff like that so like yeah um thanks :)

  • @BeccaRaptor94
    @BeccaRaptor94 4 роки тому +1

    Love your friendship!

  • @eaAngelmusic
    @eaAngelmusic 4 роки тому +2

    omg 'A' is such a fucking cool name wtf

  • @acook4616
    @acook4616 4 роки тому +3

    feel like pure shite just want him back xx

  • @BeccaRaptor94
    @BeccaRaptor94 4 роки тому +1

    37:04 someone please make a gif of this XD

  • @Charlie.M.Green1905
    @Charlie.M.Green1905 4 роки тому

    As soon as Twelfth Night was mentioned I knew exactly what was coming next haha.

  • @montanadavis4462
    @montanadavis4462 4 роки тому

    I love the both of you guys and I love video games and all kinds of movies.

  • @metroid_gauntlet
    @metroid_gauntlet 2 роки тому

    as a fellow werefolf gay, yes

  • @paadoxal
    @paadoxal 4 роки тому +1

    aw i like A alot💚

  • @elliebroadhead3592
    @elliebroadhead3592 4 роки тому

    Loved this video💞💚

  • @raver_punk
    @raver_punk 4 роки тому +1

    Great video X3

  • @aubreboone2118
    @aubreboone2118 4 роки тому

    i have... so many... words for my gender.....

  • @montanadavis4462
    @montanadavis4462 4 роки тому

    What wouldsay about my grinder Ashton if you see me in person.

  • @porksoda703
    @porksoda703 4 роки тому +1

    my question at 34:11 :)) thanku sm!!

  • @mollygallon9803
    @mollygallon9803 4 роки тому

    Are you still with jack?

  • @runrenegade7430
    @runrenegade7430 4 роки тому +6

    Caelgender person here! It's so friggin cool to see that other galactian aligned people actually exist 😍🛸
    Ps hearing you two talk about your friendship and how much you love each other is so cute and wholesome

    • @13gudadod
      @13gudadod 4 роки тому +1

      What's caelgender?I'm curious now:)

  • @finngeorgiou3583
    @finngeorgiou3583 4 роки тому +3

    Why tf are there 2 dislikes?

  • @lemonlikethefruit
    @lemonlikethefruit 4 роки тому +1

    ♥️

  • @deonstevenson3959
    @deonstevenson3959 4 роки тому +2

    Wait a god damn minute wtf last video I seen of you was two years ago

  • @marufubi
    @marufubi 4 роки тому

    Hi!!!!

  • @al3x052
    @al3x052 4 роки тому +1

    Do you not go out with Jack anymore?

  • @m1les_live899
    @m1les_live899 4 роки тому +1

    whats a book about your gender?: THE BIBLE
    LMAO

  • @narc3angel
    @narc3angel 4 роки тому +3

    Is A trans fem? Just curious 🤷

  • @callmegreasy9466
    @callmegreasy9466 4 роки тому +2

    It’s a boy and girl

    • @cowboylikeana
      @cowboylikeana 4 роки тому +9

      ashton is a non-binary trans man and a is non-binary. please respect people’s gender :)

    • @callmegreasy9466
      @callmegreasy9466 4 роки тому +2

      @@cowboylikeana boy and girl whether they what to admit it or not

    • @cowboylikeana
      @cowboylikeana 4 роки тому +5

      @@callmegreasy9466 lmao sure you can think that

    • @goodluckgorsky3413
      @goodluckgorsky3413 3 роки тому +2

      Why?

    • @goodluckgorsky3413
      @goodluckgorsky3413 3 роки тому +3

      @@callmegreasy9466 NOT AN ARGUMENT