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I believe there are good men out there and I am glad to have listen to these five questions After been married and with someone for 35 years that failed I was a little apprehensive about wanting to start over. Right now I am trying to heal because now I feel as though this person is now my enemy too much bad blood between us.
@@saniyyahbrown6291 Just know that you are not alone. It’s a painful process but you will recover. I’m coming out of a nearly 20 year marriage, so I understand your pain, and the time is no joke because that’s time you won’t ever be able to recover; what was once given to something we saw as eternal. Thank God though, He will make all things new and give us beauty for our ashes. Be encouraged Sis!💕💕
"When you're healed, you hear better and see better" - I can't remember where I heard it. And when you start loving yourself - you start honoring yourself.
Absolutely agree! Include him in EVERYTHING! From simple things like what color to paint your toe nails, what should you eat, what projects you must complete..... all the way to asking God should you go on this date or are you ready for a serious relationship? Life becomes less stressful and God will lead you on the right path because you SEEK him! ❤️🙌🙏
I consider myself to be a good woman. Therefore, yes there are good man out there. I refuse to think there isn't. He will manifest himself in God's time. Not mine.
Ask them straight away what they’re looking for. The second they say they don’t want a relationship or not ready. Hit the eject button. They will not change their mind. Lesson learned.
@@kendrick8749 True but if it happens that you weren’t the right one you’ll have wasted a ton of time when you could have found the right one for you and you can’t even say much at that point because they did tell you they weren’t looking for a relationship.
#5 is the kicker. Women are guilty of trying to heal the man she's with or wants with her love. We get heartbroken and upset when they don't receive it. But, technically they are incapable of receiving it at that moment. Personally, I've learned that I can't love a man to healing. Only the Lord can.
Great advice! I remember when I was young and not ready I wanted to get married but at the time I didn’t realize how a deep connection is formed and what it feels like. And if I was on a date and someone said they never wanted to get married I wish I would’ve believed them because if you think you can change them you’re wasting your time. Once I finally met my husband at 29 I was in a good place and could identify an amazing relationship. Good people are out there but it starts with us first and our healing processes and outlook
Thank you Stephan for this teaching. I was in a marriage for 48 years. Before he was my ex, became someone bad. And is paying for it in prison. His actions hurt a child of Ours and a grandchild. ...All of our Family.! I went thru therapy... And am healed from that past. God has brought me together with a Godly man. I now know how love should be. I am very Thankful. Everything you said, is truth. And it still helps to always have positive affirmations and words around. Thank you again. God bless you in your coaching.
The last one is tricky. You will always have baggage. But at least work enough on your baggage to learn to put your ego a side. I officially started to date a guy now and appart from being highly sensitive (me to touch) I suffered from sexual abuse as a kid. I worked on it for years, but still now sex and even affection for me sometimes makes me scared and wanting to run away; that's why I asked him for time to grow the affection slowly. I'm working on it; but sometimes you just don't know that something still affects you on some areas until you start or develop a relationship. Just learn to work on the problems when thry appear and don't blame your partner.
I just came across your content and I'm extremely impressed. The insights, wisdom, compassion, understanding and life experience your teaching me is incredible. If I was a millionaire I'd hire you as a life coach for sure 👏. Thanks for all that you do.
Great message Stephan!! I agree with all 5 Questions , but #4 & #5 resonates so much more with my spirit.The sad thing about us humans is that we are ignorant about how our childhood traumas shape our decisions. We think we are good until we get in a relationship and suddenly things fall apart. As a woman, I’ve found that it’s not always the man’s fault. We have to face our reality and deal with the traumas that keep us from choosing and being in a great relationship.
Self worth and love for ones self is so so important to have in place before dating...I want to be my best so I can attract the best and truly be with the one God has for me....
This was awesome! We need more self-love workshops cause we have too many people bleeding all over people who haven’t even hurt them. We need to really heal as a people so our lives can be purposeful.
I believe good men exist. But, it hasn’t been easy to find the one I truly connect with. After 2 failed marriages, I’ve had a lot of healing to do and I’ve had to really ask myself what I want and need from a partner. No more settling. Once I’m truly healed and in a really good place, I’m certain that God will present an amazing partner to me and I’ll be able to recognize him.
God really want me to hear this! Thanks couch! I was asking God for date opportunity while I’m super tight and busy with my nursing school! No social life at all! So God knows I don’t really the time to invest on that person!
In my last relationship, it brought up some issues within me that I thought I was healed from. Whew chile 🤦🏾♀️, This last relationship was something else!
This is so true. Everything Stephan is saying resonate with me so much. I needed to hear this. God just been revealing ME to Myself, Myself to ME. Full circle 💫 Thanks 😊🙏🏾
I can strongly say yes to all 5 questions that I have asked myself! These questions was and is a big part in my healing!!! It's important for me to be honest with myself. For whenever I start dating again! Stephan 👑 thank you have a blessed day ❤! Ramona
There's a lot of men that are no good and don't know how to really love, appreciate and treat a good woman but I also believe there's a lot of good men out there💯
I really needed to hear this thank you. I have an opportunity for something really amazing but I'm almost self sabotaging in my thoughts. I will stop that and give this a proper chance
Spot on!!! Especially question #2, intentionally creating time and space for someone coming into our life. Creating balance to pour into someone and invest in the relationship!!
It is true I never had a good example in relationships! DAMN this is an eye opener. My ex husband truly didn't love me it to was just obsession and I did not recognize that until now 😩 This is powerful an eye opener I'm so blessed to have this information at the palm of my hands ! ThNk you STephan & thank you lord for getting me to this point in my life !
I think you are getting me ready to start back dating🙂 I did some soul searching, God started revealing, and I'm in counseling. I thought I was over a past relationship, but now I'm digging and finding out what spirits had me bound with someone I ready didn't want to be with, but I kept running back for the safety that I found being in the relationship. I'm still waiting for my book to arrive, Love After Heartbreak. I'm putting in the work to free myself up for me and Mr. Right 💪
Thank You for the advice. After listening and personally answering this question for myself. I could only say yes to two of the questions. Your advice has let me know and understand what I need to work on.
Been binge watching all his videos and I gotta say, I love how Stephan holds us accountable but he does it in such a way that it makes you WANT to change and be better. Its the combo of soft/tough love for meeeee 😍💕💕💕💕💕💕💯 *well done*
I think this goes hand in hand with all the tips addressed in this video. Do you know what type of person your looking for? Do you have discernment to spot them? Granted this comes with experience, wisdom and patience ..and especially knowing yourself. Also what have you set intentions on what type of relationship your looking for? Are you looking for marriage ? Are you looking for just a relationship? Usually we just tell our selves that we are just "dating" testing the waters then we end up in situationships and with time wasters. I think its important to have the intent already set within yourself so that you know what your looking for to eliminate wasting your time and getting into difficult situations. Have you spent adequate time alone without dating or having someone on the side ..legit single ? Because this gives you time to reflect, heal , get to know yourself etc...I think its important to have a period where you're truly single not relying on anyone emotionally or physically. This shows strength of character and lowers chances of being codependent. Thank you Stephan!
Perfect advice !!! Bless you !! Still healing at 56, loving God and single for two years , love and need this for myself ! Love being single and learning 🙏
Excellent advice again Stephan. I do believe good men do exist. I believe that when you meet someone you will be able to see the red flags 🚩 🚩🚩 if any exists ( Now what you decide to do about them is totally up to you). I also believe people will make time for what’s important to them. Asking yourself theses (5) questions will definitely be beneficial to you. We owe it to ourselves to be of carrying luggage , garbage & baggage.
Great stuff Stephan!! 1 more thing I think is pivotal is the Motive/reason for dating. Lust, loneliness, peer pressure, fomo, "fo the gram", etc are things to be addressed before one dates. Going into relationships from a wholesome, healed and emotionally independent place make it that more fulfilling. Big💖
These 5 ways in meeting a mans needs, reminds me of how important healing is If your mindset is not in a place, u may not be able to embrace it in a healthy way Before I can move forward in any future relationship, a man truly liking me is important If he does not even like me the remaining list won’t really matter in the long run liking someone allows affective communication A man following through and embracing what I need and want is such a turn on and my natural reaction to it is to give him what he needs and wants in abundance Being aware and embracing my feminine energy onto him can only enhance what we already have Ladies remember, if a man is going above and beyond for us Please and thank you and anything in between goes a long way A man feeling valued and appreciated is huge
Good to know. I’ve been trying to start dating again but something doesn’t feel right, almost like I’m forcing it. I said no to almost all of these questions. Thanks for the advice.
1) I do believe that good/great men still exist, some more patient than others, but they exist.. 2) Flexibility can be met as communicated between the two, keeping each other abreast, as efforts are made moving forward.. 3) Yes! I truly believe in real/genuine Love!! I was at one point, the female internally saying: "Nah, Lord🙏🏽, I got dis' but obviously didn't have it.." 4) I do, Love myself 😌. Trying to get much deeper into my self Love; striving to be the best me, that I can be, with improvements in some areas... I've initiated the steps by, reading more self help books, including-"Love after Heartbreak", improving workouts, changing the families 👀 eating habits, and just in completion of the 7day(water) Cleansing & Praying😌 5)what I'm unwilling to accept, is entertaining a relationship that wouldn't accept me (& offsprings🥰) as a package... so, that's the 5 QUESTIONS that I fill...
1. What are you looking for in a relationship with me. Like looking to getting married etc. 2. How long did your last relationship last. 3. What roles do you think a woman and a man play in a relationship. 4. Are u a Christian and do you serve God's Will. 5. Do you want or have kids and do u enjoy being around kids. 6. Are you gay, bisexual or straight. 7. What are your future goals and aspirations in life. 8. Where do you see yourself 10 yrs. from now. 9. Have u ever been married and how long. Did u divorce? When did u divorce. U don't have to ask all the questions at one time during the vetting process of dating.
THANK YOU 🙌🏾!! Such a confirmation of all the things I have taken inventory of over the past year. May God continue to bless you and give you the insight and wisdom to impart into his people. ❤️
I have the e book & I encourage others to add this to their collection! What resonates me- Include The Most High in the process, Do we have the time for a relationship, Do you love yourself, & Be careful who you entertain.
1. Yes, there are good people in this world. 2-6 working on loving and healing myself..... It's a struggle, because while I'm working on myself, then I'm pushed down 10 feet by unrevealent people at church and work..... 🤔🙄🤔
I've been working on myself for the last few years and the thing that held me back the most was holding on to negative energy!! I've did studies on so many different things and have come very far from the person I was before! God has been blessing me in so many ways and he recently put the love of my life/first love we met when we we're 13 and I'm we're 28 now. I never thought I would ever see or talk to her again and it's still very shocking and overwhelming in a good way! She met family that no one else has ever met shes back at home and she is a very special person and I will do anything to make sure I'm taking the necessary steps not to win her over but to do the right thing! I messed up pretty bad when we were young but as adults we both got damaged by our mates! My mind is completely clear and alot of things that you mentioned I have done! The last question was the one that I'm wondering about but yet I have had to cope with some of the worse things imaginable so something that's healing to me Is actually making things right!
I came to the realization this year that time is an issue for me and what time I do have for leisure, I’ve been investing in myself. I’ve been having a wonderful time and when my load lightens, I’m looking forward to dating. I feel the best about myself since I’ve gotten to know myself lol. It was scary initially but honestly it’s the best decision I made and I encourage you to dig deep. But back to that timing issue… there’s so much truth to that and work life balance is paramount to me being my best version. So I’m working on that while enjoying my own company. I love swinging by this channel for the stimulation & motivation. 🙌🏾
People stay in bad situations because of fear, whatever that may be, and stepping out their comfort zone. Convenience is another reason also. People know there are good people out there, but don't feel they deserve to be with one. This where self reflecting & healing comes into play.
Sooo POWERFUL! Incredibly timely for me. I wouldn't have been able to answer these questions affirmatively a year or ago, but I couldn't be more grateful for the process...I am finally manifesting the kind of life that I want and deserve!
Yes all powerful questions. A lot of the time people consider how a potential partner would benefit themselves, but when it’s the right person you’re going to ask how can I be a benefit to my partner, you are going want to GIVE them them YOUR best rather than just ‘what can they bring to me.’ So I agree no is perfect but if you can ask yourself ‘am I bringing my best self to the table’ then that’s an indication that you’re ready to embrace dating.
Great points! I’m still struggling to get back into dating but I’m probably not ready just yet. It’s starting to take over my brain but I need to focus on myself before putting myself out there again.
Well... this was very enlighten or me. I was good up until #4 and 5. I do realize I still have a lot of healing to do bcuz I accepted this new relationship knowing and seeing all the signs and the red flags from my previous relationship but I really wanted it to work bcuz he was someone I reconnected with after 30 years. I had so many hopes and dreams about our “love story” in the making. And of course since I did t fully heal all of my triggers kept popping up and anxiety and self sabotage and I think now I’m just ready to move on. Thank you so much for this. Now if I only I had the strength to let him go again.
This is a fantastic collation of advice. The guys who want women 'on tap'....spot on observation!The youtube ads every two minutes make it very hard to fully enjoy though which is a shame.
I wish I could send this to the guy I used to date. Specially the part where you talk about making time for your partner. He never wanted to make actual time and his excuse was always that he had his kids with him and that his kids play sports. The only time he would give me was a few hours once a week and had to go quickly. I took it for 2 months but got tired of him saying and not doing. I think we only saw each other like 5 times in those 2 months. He would get upset with me when I would tell him he doesn’t have time to date. That was a situationship not a relationship.
This video was so on point! When he mentioned god in the process that resognated with me 100%..when you learn your self and love your self a video like this definitely takes the words right out your mouth.
I'm a good woman and the love that I have within me is real. I also believe that there are good men out there. I believe that those 5 questions you've mentioned in this video that people should ask themselves before dating are very important.
Damn. I'm speechless. I've never heard better pre-dating advice in my life. My parents didn't give me the best example of what a relationship should look like, so I'm super scared that I won't manage to get into a healthy one in the future. I'm only 17 and I've never dated, because I feel that I'm not ready yet, bc I have to learn what true love really means before entering one since I don't have many people to look up to lol. I'm really thankful for such an eye-opening advice and I will try to apply it into my life and become a better person. All the best~! Btw I subbed to your channel
Yes there are good men out here just like there are good women out here but we won't meet them at our time only at GOD'S timing Always Remember Good Things Come 2 Those That Wait Patiently On The Lord 💯🙏🙏🙏
Some questions I thought of adding that all kind of stem from the same branch.... - Am I willing to carry another persons baggage if they are not healed? -What do I feel I deserve? -What is my tolerance level? -What is my (or your) definition of love? -Whats my goal? What do I want from this relationship? Thank you for this wisdom !!
Here thinking am ready like all my 33yrs of my life I’ve never been in relationship hopefully now that am ready I will be lucky to find real man ready to start a life with❤
Self evaluation is definitely necessary for a healthy relationship....once you’re ready for something real and long term you should always do some self reflecting great video 👍🏾
Stephan!!!! You nailed it with this piece. Your questions deal with "what is the state of YOUR heart?" Honestly, these are the main things that only we can control. And everything starts with me / us / you...... I am the product of two people that loved each other in the most amazing way. My parents were the perfect example of true love. They were married for 50 years before my father just passed last year. I find that I believe that there are good men out there, however, most of my relationships have failed because of one of your questions not having a healthy answer. Because of me looking for someone that loves themselves in a healthy way and not finding it, I slipped into a place of feeling like something was wrong with me... Your questions confirm that I have been wanting the right things, I just have to pray to manifest the right man for me. Thank you THANK you thank YOU!!!!! Keep doing what you are doing, you are providing FOOD FOR OUR SOULS!!!
I do my best reflections while journaling. You provided great questions and insight into those questions for me to reflect on. I realized there was one particular area that really resonated with me. So, I’ll be exploring that a bit further. But, I’ve always been a firm believer in self development. In fact, my first book that helped me during my early college years was “Battlefield of the Mind” by Joyce Meyer. Truly blessed me during a time when I needed guidance and didn’t really know how to articulate that need. In any case, thank you for sharing this information whether through personal experiences or Divine guidance. God Bless ❤️
I just bought your audiobook and have finished listening to it. Time to do the exercises! Thank you for sharing your healing process. Looking forward to the next book
Thanks for this video 🙏🏽 Super poignant questions. I'm definitely using this framework on myself. I'm responsible for my own happiness, mindset and healing.
Thank you Stephan for the helpful video. The questions what I need to work on it is knowing who I am and loving myself. It’s good being aware about your issues. now I started dating I am in the beginning, but the good idea what I have is it’s not necessary to say that he is the man , and if we don’t continue there are a lot of good man’s outside he is not only the one.
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I'm just waiting for my book to arrive🥰
I believe there are good men out there and I am glad to have listen to these five questions After been married and with someone for 35 years that failed I was a little apprehensive about wanting to start over. Right now I am trying to heal because now I feel as though this person is now my enemy too much bad blood between us.
We can all overcome if we just commit to changing and growing❤
@@saniyyahbrown6291 Just know that you are not alone. It’s a painful process but you will recover. I’m coming out of a nearly 20 year marriage, so I understand your pain, and the time is no joke because that’s time you won’t ever be able to recover; what was once given to something we saw as eternal. Thank God though, He will make all things new and give us beauty for our ashes. Be encouraged Sis!💕💕
Thank you Stephan. Love you Brother.
"When you're healed, you hear better and see better" - I can't remember where I heard it. And when you start loving yourself - you start honoring yourself.
@@allsmiles2160 you're very welcome ☺️
I love this!! Never heard, thanks for sharing! 💕💕💕
@@tarao4382 you're very welcome ☺️
@@patriciascorner4686 hello
so true
Bonus: Including God in all aspect of your life. Including relationships.
Amen 🙏
Amen, Amen 🙏🏾
Absolutely agree! Include him in EVERYTHING! From simple things like what color to paint your toe nails, what should you eat, what projects you must complete..... all the way to asking God should you go on this date or are you ready for a serious relationship? Life becomes less stressful and God will lead you on the right path because you SEEK him! ❤️🙌🙏
Amen
@@PhaMa1002 💯💯🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥💥
I consider myself to be a good woman. Therefore, yes there are good man out there. I refuse to think there isn't. He will manifest himself in God's time. Not mine.
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Amen
Just because I am a good woman does not mean there are good men. There are not. If there are, they are not my age or generation or they are taken etc.
Yes!!!
Redz Amen I agree 🙏🏽♥️
5.Remember, people only rain on your parade because they're jealous of your sun and tired of their shade.
Well said.... I love it.
Hello mermaid
Dang Sis, this Slaps!
Ask them straight away what they’re looking for. The second they say they don’t want a relationship or not ready. Hit the eject button. They will not change their mind. Lesson learned.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.
Right . At least they say it up front vs those who play games and then disappear
That is not true. Ppl change their mind for the right one.
@@kendrick8749 True but if it happens that you weren’t the right one you’ll have wasted a ton of time when you could have found the right one for you and you can’t even say much at that point because they did tell you they weren’t looking for a relationship.
Facts this is what I usually do!
True love= genuine and deep connection + attraction
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Facts!
yes!
The moment I become ok with not dating, you go and drop this video. Thank you. Perfect timing.
Sometimes it is hard being single but I know he's waiting for me.
I am enjoying my celibacy now, totally worth it. He will be there one day, with God's timing 🥰
@@jennysuggs1473 I know that's right
Amen im getting myself together after 20 years of a relationship that went down hill. So starting over at 45 is all new again!!
Hello
That's great Maria. I'm glad u didn't give up on love. Blessings
It happens. Date yourself and spend time with those you love.
Good for you!!! How is it going? 45 is a great age!!
@@CarolinHauser Its going fine so far just reading and getting my life back....
#5 is the kicker. Women are guilty of trying to heal the man she's with or wants with her love. We get heartbroken and upset when they don't receive it. But, technically they are incapable of receiving it at that moment. Personally, I've learned that I can't love a man to healing. Only the Lord can.
Such a good lesson!!
Amen ❤️
Thank you for this.
Yes!! You gotta see examples of good relationships in order to believe that they actually exist.
Most definitely!
Hello tiffany
@@michealdimakos2949 Hi
@@beaustisings101b5 how are you doing?? I would like to chat with you on gmail if you don't mind okay
Sad part is there are people whose parents are in happy relationships for 40+ years who aren't finding suitable mates .
Great advice! I remember when I was young and not ready I wanted to get married but at the time I didn’t realize how a deep connection is formed and what it feels like. And if I was on a date and someone said they never wanted to get married I wish I would’ve believed them because if you think you can change them you’re wasting your time. Once I finally met my husband at 29 I was in a good place and could identify an amazing relationship. Good people are out there but it starts with us first and our healing processes and outlook
Thank you for sharing. I appreciate that!
Beautiful!!
Thank you Stephan for this teaching. I was in a marriage for 48 years. Before he was my ex, became someone bad.
And is paying for it in prison. His actions hurt a child of Ours and a grandchild. ...All of our Family.! I went thru therapy... And am healed from that past.
God has brought me together with a Godly man. I now know how love should be. I am very Thankful. Everything you said, is truth. And it still helps to always have positive affirmations and words around. Thank you again. God bless you in your coaching.
The last one is tricky. You will always have baggage. But at least work enough on your baggage to learn to put your ego a side.
I officially started to date a guy now and appart from being highly sensitive (me to touch) I suffered from sexual abuse as a kid. I worked on it for years, but still now sex and even affection for me sometimes makes me scared and wanting to run away; that's why I asked him for time to grow the affection slowly. I'm working on it; but sometimes you just don't know that something still affects you on some areas until you start or develop a relationship. Just learn to work on the problems when thry appear and don't blame your partner.
Yes good men and women still exist and I'm one of them.
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
Me too sis!
I love your first point, It makes sense not to go into dating thinking all the options are no good. That is very toxic when you think about it!
You're absolutely right!
I just came across your content and I'm extremely impressed. The insights, wisdom, compassion, understanding and life experience your teaching me is incredible. If I was a millionaire I'd hire you as a life coach for sure 👏. Thanks for all that you do.
My pleasure ❤
He’s definitely pretty gd
Isn't he great?!
Great message Stephan!! I agree with all 5 Questions , but #4 & #5 resonates so much more with my spirit.The sad thing about us humans is that we are ignorant about how our childhood traumas shape our decisions. We think we are good until we get in a relationship and suddenly things fall apart. As a woman, I’ve found that it’s not always the man’s fault. We have to face our reality and deal with the traumas that keep us from choosing and being in a great relationship.
Healing is definitely key!
yup we all have child hood wounds that need healing
So true
Yes, we accept the love we think we deserve & that we believe exists.
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you! ❤️
@@MeetStephanSpeaks thanks for inspiring women. I wanted to ask of you believe in attachment style theories?
@@elizabethjones8465 hello
unconsciously yes..so we need to change our unconscious mind
Fantasy? Imaginative?
WOW! Sensibility. Grounded. Sane. Reasonableness. Manners,etc.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback!
Self worth and love for ones self is so so important to have in place before dating...I want to be my best so I can attract the best and truly be with the one God has for me....
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you! ❤️
Everything was so spot on. If one keeps expecting the worst that is indeed what they’ll attract 💯
Thank you for this great video 😊
You are most welcome!
BOOM!!! Once again dear friend you hit the nail on the head. Stay blessed
Thank you 🙂
Hello
This was awesome! We need more self-love workshops cause we have too many people bleeding all over people who haven’t even hurt them. We need to really heal as a people so our lives can be purposeful.
Healing is definitely key!
so true
Yes good men exist!
Yes indeed!
Yes they do!
I believe good men exist. But, it hasn’t been easy to find the one I truly connect with. After 2 failed marriages, I’ve had a lot of healing to do and I’ve had to really ask myself what I want and need from a partner. No more settling. Once I’m truly healed and in a really good place, I’m certain that God will present an amazing partner to me and I’ll be able to recognize him.
I pray that you heal all you have been through and that you may find the man who is truly best for you! 🙏
Thank you ❤️
@@esavaiano hello
@@michealdimakos2949 Shoot that shot Sir 🙌🏼
Yes, don't give up on true love
When I see it I will believe & embrace it
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
Nice!
God really want me to hear this! Thanks couch! I was asking God for date opportunity while I’m super tight and busy with my nursing school! No social life at all! So God knows I don’t really the time to invest on that person!
Glad I could help!
In my last relationship, it brought up some issues within me that I thought I was healed from. Whew chile 🤦🏾♀️, This last relationship was something else!
@Robert Drake Very
I hear you..there always seem to be levels
This is so true. Everything Stephan is saying resonate with me so much. I needed to hear this. God just been revealing ME to Myself, Myself to ME.
Full circle 💫 Thanks 😊🙏🏾
Thanks for sharing! 🙏
I can strongly say yes to all 5 questions that I have asked myself! These questions was and is a big part in my healing!!! It's important for me to be honest with myself. For whenever I start dating again! Stephan 👑 thank you have a blessed day ❤! Ramona
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
There's a lot of men that are no good and don't know how to really love, appreciate and treat a good woman but I also believe there's a lot of good men out there💯
You are absolutely right there are a lot of good men out there.
I really needed to hear this thank you. I have an opportunity for something really amazing but I'm almost self sabotaging in my thoughts. I will stop that and give this a proper chance
🙏 I’m glad it was helpful to you
@@MeetStephanSpeaks you a real one 🙏🙏🙏
Yessss SELF LOVE is so important!!!!!!!! ❤❤❤❤❤💯🙌🏽 ...being the best version of myself ❤❤
It most definitely is!
Hello
I need to make time for a partner and meet her needs. When you said looking for someone to be convenient and fit into my life, that was eye opening.
Spot on!!! Especially question #2, intentionally creating time and space for someone coming into our life. Creating balance to pour into someone and invest in the relationship!!
It is true I never had a good example in relationships! DAMN this is an eye opener. My ex husband truly didn't love me it to was just obsession and I did not recognize that until now 😩 This is powerful an eye opener I'm so blessed to have this information at the palm of my hands ! ThNk you STephan & thank you lord for getting me to this point in my life !
I'm happy this has been helpful to you and I pray that you heal all you have been through.
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I think you are getting me ready to start back dating🙂 I did some soul searching, God started revealing, and I'm in counseling. I thought I was over a past relationship, but now I'm digging and finding out what spirits had me bound with someone I ready didn't want to be with, but I kept running back for the safety that I found being in the relationship. I'm still waiting for my book to arrive, Love After Heartbreak. I'm putting in the work to free myself up for me and Mr. Right 💪
Sooo important to also reflect on YOURSELF before dating, loved this video 🙏🏾
Absolutely!
I believe that good men exist. Thanks Stephan, stay blessed! 🙏🏾🙏🏾
🙌 I'm glad to hear that
I was not ready to date a few years ago. I am happy to say that I believe I am ready now 🙏🏽
Thank you for sharing I'm happy to hear that 🙌
That's awesome!!
Thank You for the advice. After listening and personally answering this question for myself. I could only say yes to two of the questions. Your advice has let me know and understand what I need to work on.
These videos be saving my life. Made me really evaluate the situations I be putting myself in.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback!
Been binge watching all his videos and I gotta say, I love how Stephan holds us accountable but he does it in such a way that it makes you WANT to change and be better. Its the combo of soft/tough love for meeeee 😍💕💕💕💕💕💕💯 *well done*
I think this goes hand in hand with all the tips addressed in this video. Do you know what type of person your looking for? Do you have discernment to spot them? Granted this comes with experience, wisdom and patience ..and especially knowing yourself. Also what have you set intentions on what type of relationship your looking for? Are you looking for marriage ? Are you looking for just a relationship? Usually we just tell our selves that we are just "dating" testing the waters then we end up in situationships and with time wasters. I think its important to have the intent already set within yourself so that you know what your looking for to eliminate wasting your time and getting into difficult situations. Have you spent adequate time alone without dating or having someone on the side ..legit single ? Because this gives you time to reflect, heal , get to know yourself etc...I think its important to have a period where you're truly single not relying on anyone emotionally or physically. This shows strength of character and lowers chances of being codependent. Thank you Stephan!
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Perfect advice !!! Bless you !! Still healing at 56, loving God and single for two years , love and need this for myself ! Love being single and learning 🙏
Excellent advice again Stephan. I do believe good men do exist. I believe that when you meet someone you will be able to see the red flags 🚩 🚩🚩 if any exists ( Now what you decide to do about them is totally up to you). I also believe people will make time for what’s important to them. Asking yourself theses (5) questions will definitely be beneficial to you. We owe it to ourselves to be of carrying luggage , garbage & baggage.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!
Great stuff Stephan!! 1 more thing I think is pivotal is the Motive/reason for dating. Lust, loneliness, peer pressure, fomo, "fo the gram", etc are things to be addressed before one dates. Going into relationships from a wholesome, healed and emotionally independent place make it that more fulfilling. Big💖
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These 5 ways in meeting a mans needs, reminds me of how important healing is If your mindset is not in a place, u may not be able to embrace it in a healthy way Before I can move forward in any future relationship, a man truly liking me is important If he does not even like me the remaining list won’t really matter in the long run liking someone allows affective communication A man following through and embracing what I need and want is such a turn on and my natural reaction to it is to give him what he needs and wants in abundance Being aware and embracing my feminine energy onto him can only enhance what we already have Ladies remember, if a man is going above and beyond for us Please and thank you and anything in between goes a long way A man feeling valued and appreciated is huge
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
Good to know. I’ve been trying to start dating again but something doesn’t feel right, almost like I’m forcing it. I said no to almost all of these questions. Thanks for the advice.
Everything is true, you should know yourself, what you want in your life.
1) I do believe that good/great men still exist, some more patient than others, but they exist..
2) Flexibility can be met as communicated between the two, keeping each other abreast, as efforts are made moving forward..
3) Yes! I truly believe in real/genuine Love!! I was at one point, the female internally saying: "Nah, Lord🙏🏽, I got dis' but obviously didn't have it.."
4) I do, Love myself 😌. Trying to get much deeper into my self Love; striving to be the best me, that I can be, with improvements in some areas...
I've initiated the steps by, reading more self help books, including-"Love after Heartbreak", improving workouts, changing the families 👀 eating habits, and just in completion of the 7day(water) Cleansing & Praying😌
5)what I'm unwilling to accept, is entertaining a relationship that wouldn't accept me (& offsprings🥰) as a package... so, that's the 5 QUESTIONS that I fill...
Perfectly said great advice
1. What are you looking for in a relationship with me. Like looking to getting married etc.
2. How long did your last relationship last.
3. What roles do you think a woman and a man play in a relationship.
4. Are u a Christian and do you serve God's Will.
5. Do you want or have kids and do u enjoy being around kids.
6. Are you gay, bisexual or straight.
7. What are your future goals and aspirations in life.
8. Where do you see yourself 10 yrs. from now.
9. Have u ever been married and how long. Did u divorce? When did u divorce.
U don't have to ask all the questions at one time during the vetting process of dating.
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Good questions
THANK YOU 🙌🏾!! Such a confirmation of all the things I have taken inventory of over the past year. May God continue to bless you and give you the insight and wisdom to impart into his people. ❤️
Thank you very much I'm happy to hear that 🙌
I have the e book & I encourage others to add this to their collection!
What resonates me- Include The Most High in the process, Do we have the time for a relationship, Do you love yourself, & Be careful who you entertain.
1. Yes, there are good people in this world.
2-6 working on loving and healing myself..... It's a struggle, because while I'm working on myself, then I'm pushed down 10 feet by unrevealent people at church and work..... 🤔🙄🤔
Thank you for sharing, I pray that you heal all that you have been through!
I've been working on myself for the last few years and the thing that held me back the most was holding on to negative energy!! I've did studies on so many different things and have come very far from the person I was before! God has been blessing me in so many ways and he recently put the love of my life/first love we met when we we're 13 and I'm we're 28 now. I never thought I would ever see or talk to her again and it's still very shocking and overwhelming in a good way! She met family that no one else has ever met shes back at home and she is a very special person and I will do anything to make sure I'm taking the necessary steps not to win her over but to do the right thing! I messed up pretty bad when we were young but as adults we both got damaged by our mates! My mind is completely clear and alot of things that you mentioned I have done! The last question was the one that I'm wondering about but yet I have had to cope with some of the worse things imaginable so something that's healing to me Is actually making things right!
Observe before you go deeply
I came to the realization this year that time is an issue for me and what time I do have for leisure, I’ve been investing in myself. I’ve been having a wonderful time and when my load lightens, I’m looking forward to dating. I feel the best about myself since I’ve gotten to know myself lol. It was scary initially but honestly it’s the best decision I made and I encourage you to dig deep. But back to that timing issue… there’s so much truth to that and work life balance is paramount to me being my best version. So I’m working on that while enjoying my own company. I love swinging by this channel for the stimulation & motivation. 🙌🏾
People stay in bad situations because of fear, whatever that may be, and stepping out their comfort zone. Convenience is another reason also. People know there are good people out there, but don't feel they deserve to be with one. This where self reflecting & healing comes into play.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!
I know I'm a good genuine woman; just not come across any good genuine men as yet but I am still hopeful praying
Sooo POWERFUL! Incredibly timely for me. I wouldn't have been able to answer these questions affirmatively a year or ago, but I couldn't be more grateful for the process...I am finally manifesting the kind of life that I want and deserve!
Yes all powerful questions. A lot of the time people consider how a potential partner would benefit themselves, but when it’s the right person you’re going to ask how can I be a benefit to my partner, you are going want to GIVE them them YOUR best rather than just ‘what can they bring to me.’ So I agree no is perfect but if you can ask yourself ‘am I bringing my best self to the table’ then that’s an indication that you’re ready to embrace dating.
Great points! I’m still struggling to get back into dating but I’m probably not ready just yet. It’s starting to take over my brain but I need to focus on myself before putting myself out there again.
Well... this was very enlighten or me. I was good up until #4 and 5. I do realize I still have a lot of healing to do bcuz I accepted this new relationship knowing and seeing all the signs and the red flags from my previous relationship but I really wanted it to work bcuz he was someone I reconnected with after 30 years. I had so many hopes and dreams about our “love story” in the making. And of course since I did t fully heal all of my triggers kept popping up and anxiety and self sabotage and I think now I’m just ready to move on. Thank you so much for this. Now if I only I had the strength to let him go again.
I definitely was guilty of number 1 But I recognized it and worked on changing it.. Peace and Blessings! 😍
This is a fantastic collation of advice. The guys who want women 'on tap'....spot on observation!The youtube ads every two minutes make it very hard to fully enjoy though which is a shame.
"We accept the love we think we deserve." ❤ love yourself enough to know what you truly deserve and everything else will follow and fall into place 🙏😊
I wish I could send this to the guy I used to date. Specially the part where you talk about making time for your partner. He never wanted to make actual time and his excuse was always that he had his kids with him and that his kids play sports. The only time he would give me was a few hours once a week and had to go quickly. I took it for 2 months but got tired of him saying and not doing. I think we only saw each other like 5 times in those 2 months. He would get upset with me when I would tell him he doesn’t have time to date. That was a situationship not a relationship.
I pray that you heal all you have been through!
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@@MeetStephanSpeaks thank you I am taking care of myself
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Good for you!!
Time is very important! Last relationship he couldn’t make time, it fell apart
This video was so on point! When he mentioned god in the process that resognated with me 100%..when you learn your self and love your self a video like this definitely takes the words right out your mouth.
I'm a good woman and the love that I have within me is real. I also believe that there are good men out there. I believe that those 5 questions you've mentioned in this video that people should ask themselves before dating are very important.
I like to watch you because you DONT CURSE!
Thanks for sharing
Thank you for this video. It has really helped me to understand if I’m ready to date again or ready for another relationship
I am so grateful I found your channel. You are a gift
Damn. I'm speechless. I've never heard better pre-dating advice in my life. My parents didn't give me the best example of what a relationship should look like, so I'm super scared that I won't manage to get into a healthy one in the future. I'm only 17 and I've never dated, because I feel that I'm not ready yet, bc I have to learn what true love really means before entering one since I don't have many people to look up to lol. I'm really thankful for such an eye-opening advice and I will try to apply it into my life and become a better person. All the best~!
Btw I subbed to your channel
Yes there are good men out here just like there are good women out here but we won't meet them at our time only at GOD'S timing Always Remember Good Things Come 2 Those That Wait Patiently On The Lord 💯🙏🙏🙏
💯 Yes! 🙏
Some questions I thought of adding that all kind of stem from the same branch....
- Am I willing to carry another persons baggage if they are not healed?
-What do I feel I deserve?
-What is my tolerance level?
-What is my (or your) definition of love?
-Whats my goal? What do I want from this relationship?
Thank you for this wisdom !!
Thank you for this. I see myself in all these situations, I still need to heal and get over somethings before moving forward.
I love your delivery with faith, conviction,and love.
Thank you 😊💙🦋
One word ‘Preach’!
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
I now have complete healing bc I chose to deal with myself and the people who hurt me.
Thank you very much I'm happy to hear that 🙌
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Thanks for all your knowledge King 🤴🏾☺️ GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY ☺️🙂🥰
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Here thinking am ready like all my 33yrs of my life I’ve never been in relationship hopefully now that am ready I will be lucky to find real man ready to start a life with❤
I will share this video with my community. Thank you Brother Stephen, I appreciate you being a Lightworker.
Thank you ❤️ I appreciate that
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Thank you Stephan, great tips!🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
My pleasure 🙂
Self evaluation is definitely necessary for a healthy relationship....once you’re ready for something real and long term you should always do some self reflecting great video 👍🏾
So true
Stephan!!!! You nailed it with this piece. Your questions deal with "what is the state of YOUR heart?" Honestly, these are the main things that only we can control. And everything starts with me / us / you......
I am the product of two people that loved each other in the most amazing way. My parents were the perfect example of true love. They were married for 50 years before my father just passed last year. I find that I believe that there are good men out there, however, most of my relationships have failed because of one of your questions not having a healthy answer. Because of me looking for someone that loves themselves in a healthy way and not finding it, I slipped into a place of feeling like something was wrong with me... Your questions confirm that I have been wanting the right things, I just have to pray to manifest the right man for me. Thank you THANK you thank YOU!!!!! Keep doing what you are doing, you are providing FOOD FOR OUR SOULS!!!
Super inspirational video I have I haven’t rewind a video in so long over and over again
I do my best reflections while journaling. You provided great questions and insight into those questions for me to reflect on. I realized there was one particular area that really resonated with me. So, I’ll be exploring that a bit further. But, I’ve always been a firm believer in self development. In fact, my first book that helped me during my early college years was “Battlefield of the Mind” by Joyce Meyer. Truly blessed me during a time when I needed guidance and didn’t really know how to articulate that need. In any case, thank you for sharing this information whether through personal experiences or Divine guidance. God Bless ❤️
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I just bought your audiobook and have finished listening to it. Time to do the exercises! Thank you for sharing your healing process. Looking forward to the next book
man, the healing thing, I should have considered this before. Thank you
Thanks for this video 🙏🏽 Super poignant questions. I'm definitely using this framework on myself. I'm responsible for my own happiness, mindset and healing.
You're absolutely right!
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Thank you Stephan for the helpful video. The questions what I need to work on it is knowing who I am and loving myself. It’s good being aware about your issues. now I started dating I am in the beginning, but the good idea what I have is it’s not necessary to say that he is the man , and if we don’t continue there are a lot of good man’s outside he is not only the one.
Stop yelling at me sir 🫣😅. The message was loud & clear. Exactly what I needed to hear. Message received ❤
This is so timely and full of great information!!
Hello
Perfect tools to bring the Light in...many thanks for all your advice
My pleasure ❤