Perry Menopause vs Sleep 😴
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- Опубліковано 2 лют 2025
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We definitely need a Perry playlist because this is worth a series!
you're so right. good idea
Yes please
@@holdernessfamilylaughs Perry may need a rap battle against your other or the household's conditions... it plays out a bit like "Highlander" (film/series) doesn't it. Dolly Parton had "PMS Blues", Lisa Koch "I'm a Middle-aged Woman" and let's just forget the various hippie dippy to allegedly sensitive feminist songs that instead bizarrely discuss quarantining them to their own bare prison huts or looking forward to death (seriously, wtf? the bleak outlook seems to be the most popular from the 60s onward in womynist circles. expected in folk music, I guess, but not even in punk. Which leaves one with films, a few are decent but minimize... the parking lot scene from Fried Green Tomatoes comes to mind. Oh, and in r/l, great therapy are destructo rooms/yards, if you need it less destructive add kintsugi to it. For husbands vs wives at this stage, I've found overall, husbands become as emotionally stable as most teenage girls (oh, and the insecurities as much as the moods.) and wives akin to most teenage boys (I would say with less starched towels, but then one mate likens it to the Snow White (or Rose Red) and the awkward Seven Dwarfs with having certain moods taking over but yet catharsis being just out of reach or not meshing with their bodily variation, or finding their spouse having more headaches. ahem. Oh, never mind when more than one Peri exists in the same place, though that just amounts to setting down bin liner under their feet and seats, in case, anyone sneezes) ... for snoring, one has to trade off the noise from a c-pap vs the snoring, though is the audio as bad as the overgrown nose hair that reaches out to with one of it's many tentacles to drag you into the abyss as every time he breaths, they lash out wildly.) ... we also need a product rundown of items that make aging less awkward. One has to wonder if there's any peri subscription boxes. It's a pain and a half trying to locate products for it... esp. cooling pajamas that you don't have to choose between college tuition for the kids or sleeping a little more comfortably. One also has to wonder if there's a card game to prepare the family for the potential changes with these feral, werewolf, life stages... and how awkward when one is going thru similar kind of growing pains and fluctuations as their kids.
Also, is Midwestern Neighbor affected or like most of her ilk, refuse to believe in it.... until authorities discover the bodies. Ask the lass to verify the cultural aspect of this. . . it causes their stepford programming to glitch. The south, it's celebrated, albeit becoming eccentrics they set up on the front porch instead of sequestering to the attic or basement. The west/southwest try to outrun it by activities.. idle hands. Northeast, they let it all hang out but it becomes a uniform of sorts or tenured with a degree in literature, also adopting a celebrated eccentric motif but more muted and less traditional quirks. (see blog "Writing As Jo(e)" And the midwest seems wrapped in repression and denials to ever being human. . . but again, many glitches in the matrix there. I suspect they try to quell it with quilting which seem as broody as the most nail biting poker games. Not stoic in the least, the cracks all the more apparent.
100% Agree!!!
"Look at him over there just sleeping, what a butthole, huh?" 😂😂😂
I dont know whether to laugh or cry at the accuracy of this video 😂😢. Its my current life in a nutshell 😅
Ain't life grand?
Let’s cry together 😅
This has become my new support group for this phase of my life 😅 I made sure to send this video to my husband for understanding 🤣
Same! I both laughed and cried....
You're going to laugh AND cry, alternatively! Now, roll your eyes.. You'll feel better. 🙄
The anxiety in the middle of the night is the worst!! I was up for hours wondering if my son had his retainers in which turned into “Im a bad mom” 🤣🤦♀️
What do people do that don't have crushing anxiety in the middle of the night?
I don’t know if I could function on a full nights sleep… it’s been too long and I would be anxious because I wasn’t anxious 🤣
I thought about my daughter's retainers all night two nights ago!!
The last week or so, my nighttime obsessions have turned away from money, people problems, rage, etc - and now just focus on two to three Taylor Swift songs. #winning?
@@angelariebli4843oh my gosh, the many times have I laid awake with one or two songs running through my brain on repeat!
I have never felt so seen. 😂
I'm so glad to know that the rage over the husband snoring is a "side effect" and I'm not just bats$ crazy
Well in my case, I'm 😢the one who snores...
this explains why my bed has 6 pillows....2 for actually sleeping with and 4 to smother him with when he snores. 😂
My Perry wakes me up at 3am with a sweaty pillow and a list of everything I’m NOT doing but should. 😂
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Yeessss!!!!
O M Gosh I thought it was me!!!!
I'm not Perry. I'm Post. I still wake up at 2 or 3 a.m., & I don't have a husband to deal with!!!
Thank you for these Perry videos! I'm 39 and she & I have already been together for 2 years, so the laughs are much needed! 🤣💕
I was the same - started perimenopause at 37 and was completely through menopause by 42. It absolutely gets better once you are through it.
You nailed the pharmaceutical vibe by slowly spinning around in fields.
It would have been perfect had you posted this at 2am 😂. I'm glad I'm not the only one battling intrusive thoughts and getting angry at my family for nothing.
we really should time the release of these things better.
She probably couldn’t post it at 2am because Penn helps with editing, and he was SLEEPING! 😊
Me too!
I'm going to make my husband watch this. Seriously, no one ever tells you how crazy this is. I can't focus AT ALL at work and the random thoughts that make you panic, and the lack of sleep... ugh! 😭 If men had this, there would be a solution for it already.
they would have a magic pill that erased all of this. I'm sure of it.
Seriously
Ohmygosh that's so TRUE!!!
@@holdernessfamilylaughs medicine takes decades to acknowledge that women are different than men and have serious health concerns. Case in point - heart attacks
I wish it wasn’t true but too often women are still treated as persona non grata. We are not thankfully but the struggle is real.
Kim, if you’re feeling peri menopause is tough try being surgically menopaused at 32 and left hung out to dry by all the male gynecologists. That’s a level of crazy and suffering no woman should have to endure.
Btw - you’re going to be fine. This too will pass. As long as you let Penn survive everything will work out eventually. You are blessed he is better than most husbands for hanging in there.
My apologies for the rant. Lol. Some things don’t change even in menopause.
Blessings to the Holdernii 😊
Us men had already figured out the cure, but we are hiding it from all of the women. Sweet dreams. 😈😜🤣
Here's another little thing to know that I had no idea about when I went through menopause. To have gone completely through menopause, you have to go 12 consecutive months without a period. Be prepared to go through your period stopping for a few months & then starting back up again for a few months. I wish they would prepare us for menopause like they do for menstruation!!!
Ah yes, being lulled into a false sense of security for like 6 months, then 🔴! At least my doctor warned me!
I am 45 and my periods come every 20 days now. WTF
If it happens too much or you get very crampy, ask you gyn about fibroids. Usually an ultrasound can see them or a lookin loo with a camera. Pain left when they were removed.
Only symptoms were mostly on and off bleeding and cramps.
Thanks to these Perry videos my husband is finally understanding what I’m going through!!
I'm so glad they help!
This is 100% accurate! Love this series, keep them coming! Thank you for helping me laugh about something so difficult and frustrating. I feel seen. Great work!
Gotta make a video where Peri gets in a fight with Aunt Flo! lol 😂
The vaginal dryness scene! 🤣🤣🤣
All that except it’s 3am for me…and I’m in full menopause with the same symptoms, I’m sorry to say!
So glad I’m not the only one!!!😅
Being a guy in my 50's with a wife in her 40's I can REALLY feel sorry for ANY woman going through all of this,
and even if...IF...your doctor is willing to help then you have to deal with the "possible side effects" of anything they prescribe.
Some people who have used ANTI-PERRY have described the following side effects...trouble breathing, memory loss, severe
mood swings, breast size irregularity, an IQ drop, swelling of appendages on the left side of the body, blindness and inability to see, taste, feel, smell or hear. Please call your doctor immediately if you experience any of these...
Like I said, I feel for any couple going through a visit from Perry.
Thank you for that pharmaceutical list of warnings.. 😆💕
@@cookiemama4 😂 You're so welcome.
Whoever thought of the drain pipe shot almost owed me a new Ipad. Was unprepared for that. Still howling with laughter.
😊 I just turned 48.Cannot tell you how much these videos mean to Me. I am currently having hair issues. Dry, different texture and hair loss with Perry. Your videos are helping my teen daughter, my husband and myself have a better understanding of Perry. We joined your channel long ago for all the fun and laughter. Now you are educating the masses. Please Do More!❤ I LOVE THEM! They make me feel great and understood. Laughter is a Blessing 😊 Thank you both
This is so true! And the itchy ears.... oh my word! I'm glad someone confirmed this is a thing with peri for me. Drives me nuts!
Yes, the itchy ears!! Why does that happen? It's so strange.
THANK YOU for saying this! My ears have been itching for almost a year and my doctor couldn't find anything. I was just getting ready to go back. Now I know, it's just part of my life now 😢
I sent this to my husband to help him understand me better. This video was spot on!
I would be laughing but here it is almost midnight and I’ve been in bed listening to my husband snore for over 2 hours. My “Perry” is making me watch this video instead of getting the much needed shut-eye I need!!! Too relatable🥴
2:06 - 2:22 - the continued "outdoor" montage of rolling down a hill, sweeping one's arm across the view, and...THE DRAINAGE PIPE!!! 😂😂😂 Perfect and hilarious. Peak Holderness humor! (But tbh, their vids always are!)😂🤗👍♥️
Your vids are always amazing, but I gotta say that Kim's acting in both characters was some of her best work.
The shot for the "vaginal dryness" symptom...🤣🤣 I'm a good 10 years into menopause, and I gotta tell you, the days of a solid night's sleep seem to be behind me. It's definitely better than when Perry was hanging around, but I only sleep through the night about once every month or two. I am trying to remember those years of great sleep (after my son was a toddler and before he started driving), and it seems like they happened to another person.
10+ yrs for me too but now right after I eat dinner, I fall asleep and wake up around 12 or 1. Ugh!
@@ellec2206 Yes! I thought it was wine or caffeine, but cutting those out doesn't seem to make any difference. The only thing that seems to help at all is completely not eating after about 4 pm, which kinda takes the fun out of most evenings. Also, the bedroom has to be the perfect temperature and level of darkness, my pajamas can't be uncomfortable, and I can't be stressed or worried about anything. Well...
Ah, I will try to eat less, good idea. But still have to make dinner for hubby. And we already sleep separately cuz he is a night owl and I'm a morning bird. Happy days!
@@ellec2206 I do sleep better when I'm not digesting. And there are no dishes to clean at night, plus my grocery bills are smaller. But my days often get away from me, and it's hard to get a big meal in earlier. Plus I enjoy something tasty and a glass of wine at the end of the day. I live alone, so at least I don't have to worry about cooking for someone else anymore. I hear from lots of people that separate bedrooms is the key to a happy relationship!
This is sooooo true! Glad to know I'm not alone. Wish I had more support during this phase of life.
This actually made me laugh out loud - my husband snores and I'm wide awake getting annoyed he's sleeping! But it gets better - I'm in Menopause and don't miss my Aunt Flo coming every dang month!
In my case I'm the one who snores 😢😢
We just moved to different rooms, 😅😅😅😅😅so much better. He can snore away and I'm peaceful where I am.
Thank you for your perimenopause videos! They are so relatable! We're not alone in this sleepless, anxiety-riddled, intrusive thought-laden time of life!
THANK YOU! I feel seen!!!! I just had a week of such a bad nights waking up at 4am for no reason and going through all the things that WILL go horribly wrong I JUST KNOW IT!!! Omg this video just felt like a support group lol Thank you SO much!
I’m not there yet but when I do this video will honestly be so helpful. Thank you for sharing your experience Kim so that we can all get through this together! ❤
Thank you for posting this-I’m not crazy, this is really all happening thanks to Perry!
Genius. Every bit of it. I never experienced any of that during perimenopause, but my consolation prize is ongoing hot flashes ever since. Eighteen years and counting. Grrrr.
I can't tell you how much I enjoy your videos!
So accurate. 1am for me today! I woke up stressing about our Easter plans. After going to bed feeling like crap because I was a total wench to two of my favorite people.
And that's great that you have a great husband that's by your side no matter what
I'm a lucky, lucky girl
@@holdernessfamilylaughsyou truly are, the fact that he's such a good sport and supportive 👏 ❤
This is so me right now 😂 the accuracy!!! My hubby will fall asleep as soon as his head hits the pillow 😂 HOW??? You nailed it 👏 this has been my life for a few months!
My 80 year old father falls asleep sitting in a chair and has been able to do so since his 50s. Doc says he's fine. He's even a worry wort so idk how he's able to just pass out like that. It's truly amazing.
This is so dead on! Thank you for making the video.
We 💯 need a series on this 😂 Put a fun spin on something not so fun. I'm 40, I started to experience some of the symptoms around 36. Not sleeping is so bad, I love sleeping 😅 Thanks for this video, keep them coming!
Same here, I am 40, I started having symptoms around 36-37.
Word, Kim. You nailed it.
The accuracy 😅and the full moon/eclipse season is playing me too! 😂I’m fine…totally fine 🙃😅😭🤓
At least it’s a little harder to commit someone to an asylum nowadays. When my great grandmother was going through perimenopause, her husband committed her! True story.
I’m in post menopause and still going through it….on and off…SO accurate! Thanks for the laugh! 😂
Thank you so much for making me feel seen! 😂😂 love to you all! Happy Easter!
I plan to rewatch this video tonight at 2am. Yep, gotta love how the husbands instantly go back to snoring! Nice work Penn, Kim and Perry.
You're not alone! The things that have helped me a lot are magnesium and melatonin at night, and amberen plus extra iron in the morning. It's improved a lot with those measures for me, hope it helps someone else.
I just watched this 1:05 AM with a desk fan pointed at me going full blast. The thermostat says it's 69 degrees, but my body says it's at least 114. My brain won't shut up. My anti-anxiety medication is keeping me sane.
I just keep reminding myself that, when I come through the other side of this, I will never have a period again, and it all seems worth it.
I'm crying and laughing at the truth of it all - I'm in the same boat right now and reverse puberty sucks! Love you guys, keep up the awesomeness
I'm doing this with a girl going through puberty. Heaven help us. 😂
Mine started at around age 35.
I didn't have hot flashes, I had the feeling of being doused with gas then set on fire.
Seriously. I would literally jump up from sitting or laying down to running around trying not to scream in pain, flapping my clothes trying to cool off.
Bright red in the face, rivers of sweat...
At nearly 66... They still happen, just not as intense... mostly.
The monthly nonsense stops. That's the good part.
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Mine started early 30s too with horrible cold flashes! Middle of August and id be shivering so hard my bones were cold!
There is a small part of me that is so happy I am not the only one struggling with this but then I feel so bad for everyone else. I don't know what is worse, not sleeping or the night sweats. A double whammy and who knows when it gets better.
This is fantastically true. You know what would be great. A menopause song parody to Bruce Springsteen’s I’m on Fire. I know he’s singing about something else but I completely relate to “at night I wake up with my sheets soaking wet and a freight train running through the middle of my head” in a different way now😂
And the snoring bit-so true!!
Honey HRT will fix you right up. Trust me, one week later you no longer go through the nightmare.
Yeassss !!! Love the Perry videos , I send them to my husband so he doesn’t feel so alone and I feel like my craziness is somewhat validated 😂
Bestie - you do not need to suffer. Check out the latest info on HRT, specifically Dr. Heather Hirsch. Her book is life changing and eye opening. The myths about HRT are antiquated. I suffered for soooo long and finally found the light!
I had a few coworkers who were on that. Then they went off of it at age 60. Then it started all over again! So, I decided against it and toughed it out. I'm 61 now and doing fine.
I love Kim and Penn! I knew a girl named Peri. I wish they had spelled it that way. It would be cute and appropriate, but that’s just my weird need for accuracy. 😀
Kim,
You hit that hammer right on the head, Perry is such a beach! LOL! :D
God bless you and your wonderful family. Have an awesome day my fabulous friend! :D
Oh lord, I remember those days. When I first started peri, I told my doctor that my skin looked weird and asked if that was normal. He looked at me like I had 3 heads. By God, my skin did look abnormal and now I know why. It was preparing to be grandma skin! No colleges, dry and scaly. The hot flashes are hysterical looking back on some of them like one that happened in December (under 30 degrees outside) and I stripped down to my underwear and stood in the screened porch fanning myself with the ceiling fan going on high while my husband and kids who were inside the house laughed at me through the window. Fun times!
This was so comforting, ha! To know it’s not just me! Thank you:) So fun!!
Brilliant. Better to laugh than cry. I identify with everything you’re experiencing.
Carry on, we must! Thank you for this!
This helps so many ppl love it, we have to laugh at lifes challenges
I told my doctor that I have so much more rage than I ever had. She said “oh yeah that’s the perimenopause”. And the hot flashes are such a treat when you’re in the middle of a strategic planning session. Or when your legs sweat while you’re sleeping and not just the parts that get sweaty in the summer. Your whole leg is damp. Why can’t our bodies just go back to normal instead of totally off the deep end when the hormones change?
So sad how spot on this is!!!😂
I just came across this video because I gave up on trying to sleep!! 😂😭
😂😂😂😂😂 thank you for effing NAILING this. I needed a good laugh.
I really need this video on menopause. Thank you.
I’m 36 and it’s so nice knowing I’m not the only one on the struggle bus 😂❤
Magnesium glycinate + taurine powder every evening. Plus valerian tablets extra strength with hops on the bad nights. Still doesn't get rid of the constant hot 🥵 some nights ... but a fan and cracked windows do help somewhat for that.
Have you mentioned how super fun it is to have Perry and also endometriosis? I keep thinking that I'm dying because the pain is so bad but it's just the same pain I've had for years just like times 1000.
Hugs. Yes. This is all true. The anxiety is such a PARTY. I can't even ride in the car going more than 55 MPH without freaking out (unless I hide in the back with headphones and games). And the gaslighting will come from doctors who should know better. I brought the three most quality of life impacting issues to my OBGyn and she was like, "we can pick one to focus on." She's fired. The world needs nicer tank tops and suitable sleeveless + button/zip options for the BOILING/fine/BOILING cycle.
Oh my gosh. She named every single symptom I have in Perimenopause and Menopause lol ❤😂🎉😢😅
Omg the itchy ears and sore gums is so real!! 3:17
Right?! Wtf?!
100% me right now! Thanks Perry 🙄🤦
Oh Perry.
Really appreciate this info!!
My daughter is pregnant with an IFV baby at 42 which not too many years until she has Perry menopause with a 3 1/2 and a 2 year old children. I applaud her journey!
Over 50 and a HIT workout before bed gives me the best sleep ever. Sleep is so important. Take care
What's that? HITTING stuff? Sounds intriguing...😁
It’s sooo amazing to not sleep at night and feel exhausted all day here in the UK. It really helps me! 😂🤦♀️… god help us 🙏 x
Perry is kicking my ass 😭😭😭😂
Living in post menopause is fantastic! Hang in there!
I love all your videos, but this one…chef’s kiss! I am post menopausal and am now on HRT, but lived through all of this. You nailed it! ❤
Oh how I feel this and live it.
What is sleep? I don't remember.
I am fully in menopause now. But when I was in peri menopause I looked for natural remedies that I use to this day. For the mood swings Chaste berry extract in capsule form! Fabulous! No more mood swings and it's great for acne! Amber acid tablets for the hot flashes! If it works great! Now I am taking DHEA 25 megs. That is a master hormone which helps to make testosterone and estrogen after menopause safely. It makes me skin softer and my attention span longer! Good luck!
When Penn said "It's great, honey" I was reminded of what my dad says: the husband always gets the last words, and if he's smart they usually end up being "Yes dear" 😉
Oh gawd!! I’m in my 40s and going through this exact same thing right now. I thought I was going crazy. My poor husband!! 😢thank you for promoting this because this is a real thing and based on data ~ there’s not enough info about this and we are NOT “little men”. And We are also not really pmsing or showing full signs of menapause. It’s called PERIMENOPAUSE!!
So someday you will have to make a film for Post Menopause, the older sister who is also loads of fun!
I think we need a support group. It’s no joke being a complete mess most of the time. Praying it’s a short(ish) journey for us all! ❤️
Problem with me is I suffer all of those mental issues already (anxiety, depression, panic attacks, among others. But the no sleep and the always sleeping and snoring partner is the worst.
Things you didn't have unstoppable weight gain, erratic periods, sudden strange unexplainable pains that come and go in a matter of minutes, and random feelings of something crawling on ya when nothing is there.
Yup... 10 years of flashing so far. I'm menopausal now. But the flashes started with Perry.... My whole sleep schedule went upside down. I go to bed at 2am when the flashes stop. Wake up at 10am when they begin again. Stopped fighting that years ago.
Sigh. I'm 52 and going through this. 😬
So accurate! 😂
I feel a lot less alone now after seeing this and reading comments. ❤
Perry's being so mean to me as of late. Looking forward to Part 3!
Yup! I had what they call "surgical menopause" which is when you have a hysterectomy and the ovaries removed and your body goes into complete shock. It's a hormonal catastrophe. I feel your pain. All you can do is wait it out. Thankfully it does eventually pass. Good luck Kim. You got this! 🤞🙏 ❤😊
What I do when Perry keeps me up... watch the Holderness Family.😂
YES!!!!!!!!!!! I have started a couple weeks ago and just got punched in the face with it. It's the night sweats, and angry mood swings for me.
Funny! I know I said this last time. But please realize ladies it does not have to be bad. I did not have bad symptoms. I did however really focus on staying away from alcohol , added sugar, too much caffeine, I eat mostly plants & get exercise each day. I just don’t want women to believe this always happens regardless. It may seem boring no alcohol but alcohol is poison to your body. So if someone handed you a glass of poison I think everyone would have no issue turning it down.
AGHH! Why do I wake up at two a m and obsess over the most insane things?! I will be 50 this year, and I feel crazy!
She’s not keeping me up at night yet, but I definitely have worsening depression, wild mood swings, headaches, and occasional night sweats (I guess? I wake up drenched in sweat… I’m guessing that’s night sweats?) and have already been gaslighted by my doctor and told they don’t help with hormones except for men (because women’s hormones are “too complicated” - from a FEMALE doctor!!!). Why did nobody tell me about any of this?
Smash the taboo! Every person who has ovaries or interacts with someone who has ovaries NEEDS to learn about perimenopause!
"Yell at him", bahahaha.
YELL AT HIM
The three-hours-awake-in-the-middle-of-the-night resulted in me retiring from the practice of medicine
I’m so over this. And I swear my husband has perimenopause symptoms, too! His mood swings are worse than mine.
This was perfect!!! Thank you, Kim, for letting all of us know we are not alone. I am up from around 11:30pm - 3am, & it is the WORST. Freaking LOVED the "vaginal dryness' shot! Fucking hysterical! 😂😂😂 Keep these coming, please! (But of course, no pressure, bc I know life is hard sometimes!) Hugs to you!
2:19 was perfection.