Simple question to anger your doctor to get the care you deserve
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- How (and why) should you respectfully irritate your doctor using this simple question? I'll share 2 patients that raised this point, and how they benefitted from it. Our unmeasurable consciousness is exposed with anesthesia and psychedelic medicine, bringing this long overdue reality to the spotlight in healthcare.
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We'll discuss the crucial topic of patient-doctor communication and how you can empower yourself to receive better care. We explore the importance of asking questions about meaning and happiness in the doctor's office and how addressing the root causes of health and happiness, even if they are unmeasurable by current medical standards, can lead to improved overall well-being.
We also uncover the truth about the role of consciousness in our emotions and behaviors, and how huge industries have built their empires around the unmeasurable concept of consciousness by selling products that target serotonin (SSRIs), thyroid hormone replacements, testosterone and estrogen, vitality supplements, and more.
As patients, it's crucial to remember that our health is our own responsibility and we should be proactive in advocating for ourselves. By asking questions and engaging in open communication with our doctor, we can work together to address the underlying factors that contribute to our health and happiness, including consciousness.
In this video, we will provide specific tips and techniques for respectfully expressing your concerns and needs to your doctor, including how to prepare for your appointment, how to initiate a conversation about meaning and happiness, and how to effectively communicate your needs. We will also discuss common obstacles and challenges that may arise during these conversations and provide strategies for overcoming them.
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I've had 20+ major surgeries, and not one time has an anesthesiologist called me the night before to see how I was doing. I didn't realize until now that was even a thing they did!
Melissa Wingfield Wouldn't that be WONDERFUL! THIS DR. ANESTHESIOLOGIST SHOULD BE TIME MAGAZINE DOCTOR OF THE YEAR!!!!!
I agree with you I have had over 60 operations in my life time and I count on one hand how many times I have been called before my surgery. When I am called it all business no show of concern for how I feel😪
@@lindadove8298 Right ... exactly how I've experienced it too. And I have to have an appt for them to call. They don't really care on a personal level ... it's more that it's their job so they have to do it.
@@melissawingfield8666 right, what I do now is advocate for myself and ask surgeons who are going to be my doctor for anesthesia & I always ask if they will be willing to reach out to them so I can have met in my doctor office or meet them at the hospital 3-5 days before surgery. Most are cool about it. If they can't, then I at least ask if I can have a zoom meeting with them 5 days before my surgery plus the day of. That way, they can see me as a human and not the #2 next in line for surgery. That I have face to my name. Even though I know they will probably forget after surgery. I always give the staff that I works with I get their names ahead of time, bring them handwritten thank you cards or gift cards, coffee donuts, or whatever I can afford at the time. I am always nice and respectful to everyone. I only have surgeries in hospitals, no surgical centers; they want your money. Normally everyone goes home before you leave except maybe the nurse. I will never do that again. You have to advocate for yourself and be honest; if they are rude, tell the surgeon you want that doctor touching you. Trust is key.. If the surgeon can not understand why I don't feel comfortable, I won't have the surgery by the doctor. I am not going to allow more doctors to give me more added trauma then what I already have by them that includes, including nurses, techs, etc.
@@lindadove8298 You give them thank you cards before or after?
I chose the orthopedic surgeon who walked into the room and said "your knee is toast! What are your plans for the coming year?" I wasn't an arthritic knee. I was a person with a full life who happened to have this problem. We planned out injections and meds to get me through the trip I'd been planning for years, and set a date for surgery so I'd be back on my feet for my niece's wedding. His team has been very approachable through the whole process. Being treated like a person is huge.
When I go to a new physician, I don't say that I am a dentist, even though it's in the paperwork. Most of the md's miss it anyway. I let the appointment proceed & if it's going fine, I still don't say anything. I have noticed when I bring up questions & I will then say I'm a dentist, I understand what you are talking about-I'm a dentist- then I do notice I usually get a big "Ohhhh!!!" & then a more in depth answer.... When I go to the doctor with my 90 year old dad who can't hear very well (plus I am in charge of his medications & appointments), I always just say "I'm his daughter" & let the appointment proceed. I only pull out the "I'm a dentist" when necessary. 😉
I was in prison, something I’m not proud of but I had a foot surgery done and all the doctors and nurses treated me so well before my surgery. Especially that I was not allowed any family or support before or after my surgery so they were the only support I had and they got me through it. 💕
They probably supported you extra and they usually do because they know friends and family are in allowed to support
Because nurses are the ones that make the emotional connection to the patient of the doctors treat them like a case to solve or ignore
Because I swear there’s only two kinds of doctors out there a doctor that wants to solve every problem they can, and a doctor that only solve the problems that they know they can solve
My answer is as simple as that. You want to make tons if money? Go, work on Wall Street. This job here is not for you! I walked out the door. We need universal health care! Corporate is trash.
I find that I have to humanize myself to my doctors often. They see so many people and deal with so many varieties of cases. The most important thing to me is that while helping me to solve or address my health challenges, I want them to see me. Me as a wife, mother, grandmother, friend, 6:11 university prof, school principal….
In Prescott, AZ the medical cultural is insensitive and retaliatory. They know you rely on medical care to live (paraplegics) and you respectfully let them know about how you're not being served, they'll drop you as a patient before they change their narcissistic behavior.
The local hospital, a for profit hospital taking over a supposed to be Yavapai County Hospital and not-for-profit is now called The Slaughter House by local residents.
We need trustworthy healthcare providers. If everyone was similar to you Dr. Kaveh, in their consciousness, it would be a healing art, not an industry.
Thank you so much for your time and energy in doing these videos. I learn so much! ❤🙏🏽
Well, pressure Congress for universal health care!
It's really nice to know there is at least one doc out there that is aware of patient's emotional well being.
My relatively new to me primary doctor wasn't happy that I had been taking a drug for anxiety. "You should have no problems or worries, you're retired now".
He never let me explain that retirement was a huge part of my problem.
The arrogance :-/
I hope your PCP either learns to listen to and respect you, or that you find a better one.
Only once have I had a dr. ask a truly important (to me) question. During a well woman visit my dr. (also a woman) asked "so, how are your kids doing in school?" I knew instantly that she cared about more than just body pars. She cared about all the things that have a direct impact on my well being. I loved her.
I’ve had 8 plus surgeries. The first five I was not told what was going to happen or when. It was like BAM! Then I was waking up. I felt like a number. The last three surgeries I felt like I was an actual person. They talked to me as the team went step by step. I wished that ALL OR personal from the surgeon down to the porter who brings you to your room would remember, I AM A HUMAN WITH A BRAIN AND FEELINGS. Thank you for the wonderful informational videos. I know they help many new surgical patients.
I'm so sorry that happened to you once, but I'm so happy you had better experiences the following times!
When I hAD my first baby it was an age with no books or info the drs told me nothing didn't want to answer any questions yelled if I gained extra weight one month yelled at me in the hospital after birth etc why? I was curious needed answers they totally care less- once a dr ran in room left fast but I heard him on the phone trying to get a gun for his son to go hunting for a good half hour I cried after every visit needless to say I went to another group
I know an Internal medicine doctor who gets angry, vocally abusive, when asked by patient: " May I tell you what has happened since last visit?" Doctor answered " I'm not interested." What?
Sounds like the cardiologists group I have to use. If the problem isn't basically served to them on a silver platter with a flashing neon sign, they will say its in my head instead of putting some effort in to find out what's going on. It's easier for them to say it's in my head than to put any time in to figure it out. I hate them and despite having heart failure, I don't go in. Things have progressed with it, I haven't seen them in 4 years because of how they treat me. They're literally taking years off of my life because they're so lazy and rude if I try to advocate for myself. I'm on medicaid because I can't work due to all of my physical problems, so they treat me like I'm something stuck on the bottoms of their shoes that they want off. No concern at all that they're taking years away from me because they're not being paid as much as they'd get from a patient with better insurance. Guess because I'm poor I'm not worth their time or actual effort.
LOL, that's actually my kind of doctor. Just give me what I need and let me get out of this place!
Dr. You are an exceptional man and doctor. What a blessing you are to your patients ❤
That's what I'm talking about. Patients need to be honest. It helps the Dr.
Absolutely, trust in both directions
You’re an awesome person. More doctors ought to be like you. It’s a huge responsibility and a great honor to be selected as the person they trust for their well-being and life. So many healthcare providers, social workers, politicians, and other public servants abuse people's trust.
I have had over 15 surgeries and no one has ever done this for me. Young doctor I wish you were here at my hospital. Learning a lot from you.
It can be so easy to get caught up in where the pain is, and now negatively certain symptoms impact our lives as patients that our health problems can start to define us so much that we often lose sight of what we really want from life, and what gives us meaning and purpose as we begin to spend all of our free time focusing on how sick we are or how much we suffer.
I think that if we don’t bring this up with our doctors or ask ourselves what matters to us in life or brings us happiness, it can be hard to make changes in our lives that help bring us closer to the life we really want to be living, so thank you for making us aware of this with your refreshing and much-needed perspective.
I appreciate that perspective! That might be the topic of an upcoming video!
My favorite surgeon (I've had 3 abdominal surgeries with him, all non-related, just so you don't think he had to fix something he messed up 😂) is just that because he's not afraid to answer questions like I asked him what attracted him to the surgeries he focuses on - I do think he was caught off guard, not being used to patients asking a more personal question like that. We've always had a good rapport because he really takes time to listen to his patients and dialogue with them.
I have never had an any phone call before surgery
I'm sorry about that :(
I'm scared. I'm about to go in. I have CPTSD. My new surgeon won't listen. What do I do??????????
Please take care of your voice. A much needed voice.😊
doctors often never asked me anything, told me anything, it was so scary. i tried to ask any questions, but they just quickly got angry because they could not answer. fast forward to now when ive gone to someone else, and he answers so many questions. i know he gets uncomfortable and it is hard to measure things especially for my disability, but it is nice to finally receive proper care.
Your former doctor didn't know. And again, a person in the wrong profession.
Great video. Only once had a Dr. with your philosophy. I, (and all his patients) were so grateful for him. My PCP said he can only spend 10-12 minutes with each patient. I am having an ablation in 2 weeks, I met the Electrophysiologist Cardiologist for 20 minutes and Cardiac Anesthesiologist for 10 minutes to talk about my severe lung disease and I.C.U... 😩 I am scared to death.....
What's ablation?
I'm wishing you the best for your ablation 🙏 were the other doctors helpful?
It's a burning of nerves in the conduction system of the heart
@@MedicalSecrets Even though I've suffered for a year, 2 months in hospital with cardio adversion, heart meds not working, blood thinners, suffered , I only met with new Electrophysiologist for 20 minutes. The Cardiac Anesthesiologist said I will go to I.C.U. with no promise of when the breathing tube (severe lung disease)can come out. But, he will keep me "comfortable"(??). PLEASE PRAY FOR ME.
@@savanahasargent4856 Hi Savanaha. I had an ablation for Afib 3 months ago. I had educated myself through excellent patient forums, had consults with the Electrophysiologist and his NP, so I knew what to expect. Aside from the expected nervousness, the whole experience was really good, with excellent care from everyone in the hospital resulting in consistent normal sinus rhythm. Sorry that you have the extra lung complications. Wishing you the best-a modern Electrophysiology lab looks even more like a space station than a typical operating room. I found that watching UA-cam videos on the equipment helped a lot as it was fascinating and decreased nervousness.
I've never had this problem. throughout my life and the places I've lived, I've had super kind and helpful doctors who were willing to share their vulnerability with me and just sit with me in my trauma. I was never really parented and my GPs have filled some of those gaps. they've taught me so much about how to exist in the world and what it means to be human. as I've grown into the woman I am, I've come to appreciate the doctor-patient relationship more and more. I told my current GP that I was thankful for his telling me things I needed to hear from my dad (who just can't be there for me even though he tries) and he said "it's part of the job, being that for people when they need it."
all that to say, I've been having conversations like you've described with my doctors for years and it has been extremely valuable in my personal development. 💙
your lucky
I'm so happy to hear you've found a GP like that! 🙏
Sounds like you know how fortunate you are. I've only had one doctor as you've described. Other Doctors in my area are 10 minutes- then next cattle through the pen $$$$. Except my Cardiac Anesthesiologist and Cardiologist who understand CPTSD/TRAUMA DISORDER. I was so grateful for them. My PCP, not so much/sucks .
Your lucky! That’s the way it should be. :)
Consider yourself extremely blessed 💕💕💕👏👏👏
I think a doctor would kindly respond that they're not a therapist or counselling service.
2nd video in a row I caught live, NICE! stay safe, I hope you feel better soon Dr. Kaveh
Hope to see you again next time!
How could my life ever have mattered when the ANASTASIALOGIST wasn't even present as I bleed out when the neurologist cut the common illiac artery and vein durn a simple back surgury. I bleed out from that wound till I awoke in post op screaming. Where was he? Why didn't they check my blood pressure when I was transfered to the staff in post op? I still relive this negelct as it as yesterday. And no one has ever apologized. Dr. Michael Calhoun blamed me for his error stating I was too small to suceed his surgical (I'm 5.0 feet tall) procedure
Man I got surgery tommorow on my knee and it just makes me anxious they are gonna have full control over my body it doesnt feel right but ime gonna try my best to stay calm as to not mess with the medication
I'm wishing you the best 🙏 let us know how it goes! If you haven't already, you can check out my other videos on how to relax before surgery
@@MedicalSecrets Man it went great went to the childrens healthcare in atlanta Your videos helped a lot to ease the stress the gave me percocet and some other liquid to ease the anxious thoughts i had and i dont evem remember falling asleep you do great thing for people!!🎉
Sir get well soon. And am thinking about it as well ... very I formative content
Thank you for the wishes! 🙏
With having EDS and dozens of surgeries, with lots of anesthesia problems due to high tolerance, I cannot tell you HOW MUCH IT WOULD MEAN TO ME IF MY ANESTHESIOLOGIST CALLED ME THE NIGHT BEFORE SO I COULD TALK TO THEM!!! Talk about easing preop anxiety. That would do it
I know! Right? I'm so sorry to hear about what your challenges though, and I hope that if you ever need surgery again that you are paired with a doctor who understands
I hear you hear you I hate being treated like a case study and not believed because my body can't show or respond the way they want it. Now I was Diagnosed with FND which neuro disorder that I can't control. I tried to avoid ER at all cost unless I know have to go have to bring someone to make sure I don't get mistreated or neglected. I have 100 stories that doctors and staff have done to me. That now I have to ask for special things everytime I have surgery I feel like a B++++ but I am not I am very nice. But the sad thing I use to work in the medical field and now being on the other end.. I have been almost killed twice do to medical errors and not be listen to..
I just love those "impossible" rectangular boxes in your background Dr Kaveh.
It reminds of those pictures made by the famous artist M.C. Escher.
Thank you 🙏
Great video and great loogies at 5:32, hocking loogies is a guy thing 😂! I learned a lot! Happy anesthesiologist Physician week! I’m celebrating anesthesiologist Physician week by having a steak dinner! I really wanted to be a anesthesiologist, I really enjoy donating to the anesthesiologist Foundation, since it was hard for me to go to college because of my cerebral palsy! I hope you feel better
Thank you! 🙏 🤒
@@MedicalSecrets you welcome
New “Deal” sucks! Twice after being admitted to a hospital by a high ranking specialist, after their procedure my care was turned over to a hospitalist! Never saw either specialist again! I was told this was mandatory policy in each case! Be hip surgery and 1 gastroenterologist scope esophagus blockage! Nuts
My friend is an anesthesiologist who practiced in Massachusetts big hospitals for 5 years before she turned to a small one, still trauma one tho. She said too much pressure was on them 😢
I have done this for this reason. If I hadn't I would of been a little worse off. This is correct.
Good point !
I think I kinda scared my doctor one time. I had an infection in a jaw tooth that had gotten so bad, they learned through a scan that it was in my jawbone. The pain was something I can't describe. I didnt have dental insurance so my MD was prescribing antibiotics and pain meds. I ran out of pain meds and the infection was still going strong. I called him and spoke to his nurse (please keep in mind that this man has been my doctor for over 25 years). She told him I needed more pain meds and he said no. I told his nurse....YES. I said "tell him he's going to give me more pain meds or I'm coming up there and rearranging his office furniture." He gave me the pain meds LOL Also...he laughed when he walked in the room and said "you'd probably do it, wouldnt you?" I said "yep."
Bravo!
Does that resonate with you?
Although I don't believe in cloning, if I did, I'd clone you x100! Lol! You need to start doing seminars around the world. So many doctors need to better understand what's best for their patient. Oh, I also wanted to say that it's fantastic that you're teaching the world to advocate for themselves. I learned the hard way. By that, I mean I used to look at some doctors like they were God. Like they knew exactly what was best for me.. I used to think that they had all the correct answers for my illness. Geez, was I wrong... I learned to speak up and ask questions, and I have a lot of questions. I made sure they knew what I was talking about, what my symptoms were, where my mental state was at, and so on. You know your body the best. The doctors don't know anything about you.. I've learned never to listen to someone when they say, "You need to go to my doctor. He's great. He spent a lot of time with me to understand all my health issues." I've learned from experience that 9 times out of 10, that's an incorrect statement. My sisters doctor treated me so poorly. He would swear(the F word) during a regular conversation, accuse me of selling my pain medication because the lab didn't detect any opioid in my urine. Why? Because the nurse told me it's OK that I wasn't able to urinate up to line marked on the cup after I argued with her saying I'd be more comfortable drinking enough water to fill my bladder and wait till I was ready to urinate. The nurse insisted I had given her enough urine even when there was a picture on the wall in the bathroom showing how much urine was needed in the cup. So I told the doctor his nurse screwed it up. I also (because I educated myself) asked him if the urine test was done in his facility or sent out. He replied in his facility. So I told him again that it was his own staff that screwed up, not me, and to never have my urine tested in-house again! Because I guaranteed you that if it was sent out, the outcome would have been inconclusive due to the lack of enough urine!! He also spoke so negatively of my lawyer whom he had never met. He said all lawyers are the same. They're lazy and want me to do the work for them. I looked at him and said, "What are you even talking about?" OK, I don't need to say anymore... I also learned to have someone with me at all times... I had a pain mgt doctor who asked me for a hug when the nurse left the room. I can't tell you how freaked out he made me feel. He did this for the next 5 appointments before I had the nerve to tell someone. I didn't want to lose him as a doctor because he was the only doctor that specialized in my disease and I had to wait 13 months to get in to see him and he was fine the first 3 years until I started going alone to my appointments.
So..in summary, I wanted everyone to know that what you are teaching us in your videos is "power." Because knowledge is POWER! it's a game changer for sure...so do whatever you need to do to make sure your health is understood and being taken seriously!
Dr. Kaveh, do you have any advice for people who suffer with diseases like Lyme and Bartonella (long term) in the context of this video? I think there is controversy about sensitivity and credibility of different tests and these complicated diseases can make a patient feel dismissed, crazy or gaslit when they are having symptoms for years and can’t find proper care and support. Do you have any tips for talking to providers respectfully, assertively and effectively? Also, do you think a psychedelic experience would help a patient like this to find some answers to their own healing?
Hi Ashen, that's a great question. You're absolutely correct about the credibility of many of these tests, in addition to the ambiguity of the diagnosis. While very real, we simply don't have a good understanding of why these happen to certain people (at least I don't!). That being said, psychedelic experiences often help us find our own solutions to these chronic, non-urgent conditions. Once serious, life-threatening conditions have been ruled out, a psychedelic experience may prove very helpful. This is how I run my clinic, too 👍
@@MedicalSecrets Dr Kaveh, I just discovered your channel. Wonderful! Thank you for all that you do. I have the same question as Ashen. "Do you have any tips for talking to providers respectfully, assertively and effectively?" I would really love to hear your take on this. Perhaps an idea for another video, someday?
This is my take on medical gaslighting, based on my own personal experience:
Medical gaslighting is the denial that the patient is able to correctly feel what he feels, and to report it correctly. It is the denial of a medical problem. And this on the basis of a so-called psychological or even psychiatric problem, which would make the patient unreliable as a source of information about his own physical symptoms. Medical gaslighting occurs most often in complex medical cases, in conditions that are difficult to diagnose/treat (for example orphan diseases / rare diseases, chronic pain problems, all kinds of syndromes that the medical science community does not yet know how to deal with, etc.). In fact, the doctor's problem, which consists in a kind of not-knowing (inability to reconcile reported symptoms with his (limited) knowledge of a condition) is projected onto the patient. The doctor's problem is externalized to a patient's problem, namely a psychological problem.
The problem of medical gaslighting becomes even more acute when the patient honestly admits that he is being treated by a psychologist/psychiatrist. The fact that the problem involved (in my case: PTSD) is completely separate, and says absolutely nothing about the presence of a possible problem of hypochondria / Münchhausen syndrome, is often completely ignored. Many doctors consider themselves, even without studies in psychiatry, to be completely capable of making this kind of diagnosis based on their own 'intuition' (in fact, they think they are even smarter than psychiatrists who do not dare to draw such conclusions without several conversations with the patient and without conducting tests). And so, they judge that the patient has a specific anxiety disorder that is so severe, and that so severely distorts his awareness of physical sensations, that it prevents the physical complaints reported by the patient from being taken too seriously. And that the health system, which is already under great pressure, both budgetary and in terms of staffing, is being done a great service by putting this patient at the door as quickly as possible, without treatment (or only a superficial treatment, preceded by a handful of irrelevant tests, to appease the patient.) The patient is often prescribed antidepressants and is referred to a psychiatrist if he is not already being treated there.
When asked on the Inspire forum about my 2 cents on how to improve hospitals, I answered this, with regard to medical gaslighting: www.inspire.com/m/Brian/journal/how-should-we-improve-hospitals/reply/12610445807636934656?s_item=3455744&s_token=9F7FA872&s_type=social&.
Now that I see your videos, I'm pretty certain that you know what I meant in that comment. Patients AND doctors have more influence on difficult situations than they think. Just by remaining open and kind.
I really think there is a message that can be sent here, to patients as well as doctors, that is empowering. Not just blaming.
There's so much awareness work to be done here.
FYI: I have a chronic CSF leak that's hard to detect on scans (post-dural puncture leak). There are only a handful of real CSF leak specialists worldwide. And they're not based in my little country...
@@ilsevdg1194 Thank you for sharing your experience and resulting insights, it is inspiring to many others, including myself 🙏 perhaps we can discuss on a future live stream. Maybe we can have you as a guest?
@@MedicalSecrets Oh, I'd love to discuss this further with you and all the other patients/ fans of yours! We have to brainstorm! I have so many ideas popping up in my head about this... I know you'll understand where I'm coming from as a patient. But you'll also be able to cut through some BS in my reasoning because... I am NOT a doctor.
@@ilsevdg1194 Yes! 1,000 times YES!
I had surgery end of last year. I was not informed that l would awake with a belly full of tubes. (YES, this happens quite often.) I would not have had to wonder or attempt to touch if l had known. Then all nurses freak out like you're trying to pull them out. Just mere curiosity at what are these. Odd
considering most of my care nurses had had multiple tubes to after their surgeries.
Hi doctor, just came across your channel! What’s the best way to treat anemia? Thanks
My motivation for living is to proof to my adopted mom that I will not be like what she was always insulted me😂😂😂 It is a sad motivation😅😅😅
My prayers are with you. You dont need to prove anything to anyone. GOD is on your side and will help if you ask HIM.
@@Tk-iz2ws Thank you very much. I need to get to know God then.
My doctor doesn’t take me seriously because my mom works with him so I have a feeling he probably treats me like a patient. If there was something wrong, my mom would’ve brought me in
But the problem with me isn’t physical that my mom can help because my mom is not a doctor. She’s a nurse I need a doctor to help diagnose my mental issues and my physical pain. Because I’m pretty sure if you have back pain for more than three years the doctor should be taking you seriously but all he didn’t send me to another doctor that told me to do a few stretches that didn’t help.
Any advice on how to handle a surgeon who has an ego so large I'm surprised he can make his way through the operating room door? I mean--crap happens in medicine that isn't anyone's fault. For example--shunts. They're great when they work, but make life hell when they're malfunctioning. So many times, this particular neurosurgeon has insisted that my shunt is fine--that my symptoms have nothing to do with the shunt. Yet, every single time, my suspicion of a malfunction has been proven to be correct. I'm positive that I'm in the middle of another malfunction--same symptoms as all of the other malfunctions. I have to meet with this neurosurgeon again this week to discuss it. In the past, I have had to raise my voice and tell him--"I don't care what the shunt tests are showing, I know there is something wrong." Every time I've stuck up for myself and convinced him to do an exploratory to actually check the shunt, my suspicion has been proven to be correct. I'm a nervous wreck because I have to meet with him this week about my suspicion that I have another shunt malfunction. I mean--He actually rolls his eyes when I'm detailing my symptoms. He just can't admit that something might be wrong. How the hell are patients supposed to deal with cocky surgeons?
EXACTLY!!! Why on earth? A pill for one thing which causes side effects and given another pill to treat the side effect of the first pill. CONSTIPATION!!! It HURTS!!! A good Dr gave the option of MOM. I pour it in my cereal, my coffee, soups and as salad dressing. BIT THATs STILL ANOTHER "PILL"!
Doc... older docs got to know their patients and let their patients to know them. Sad. that went away. Modern docs are immature. If ya'll get angry questioned don't get angry if patients get angry being asked questions. Thyroid issues use to be dismissed more. M arr
That is one of the biggest differences between Eastern and Western Medicine.
If you already have night terrors every night do you think the ketamine will make them worse. Ppl ha e said they had bad nightmares after getting it but not as bad as aa night terror. This is the main reason I ha ent tried it for my rsd pain
So what is the one simple question please?
What exactly do we ask them again?
Ask them about how to be HAPPY, MOTIVATED.. how to find your guiding forces, etc! THOSE are the questions good medicine should help us ultimately discover!
@Medical Secrets good idea except more times than not if we asked these questions we'd get a referral for a psychiatric evaluation faster than we'd get answers.
You're a rare human and physician. ❤️
@@MrsEyes512 I say we ask anyway and see what their response is. We might be surprised! But yes I could see my doctor saying, counseling or a psychiatrist might be good for that.
@@MedicalSecrets Dr. Kaveh, I truly don't mean any disrespect by this, but I hope you talk to someone you trust about the possibility that you may be experiencing a mental health issue. This advice is so removed from reality it's potentially dangerous. The concern MrsEyes512 mentioned is real, and once a patient is branded with psychological issues it can become hard to impossible to have their actual medical issues correctly evaluated by doctors.
@@bellaluce7088 I think the average healthcare system and the people working in it is the thing that is being far removed from reality. Yes, it's a real concern that one would be labelled as crazy if asking these kinds of questions, but it only demonstrates that we need people in the system to learn more about the actual reality where the human being is an interconnected whole being where everything is connected and tied together, rather than people remaining in their numbness and unreality, in a splintered and segregated system that does not regard the human being as a whole.
I can't hear you
It's not woo-woo. It's the MIND/BODY/SPIRIT connection- which has been proven by science for a long time. I don't expect my orthopedic surgeon to make those connections for me, it's my job, it's MY mind/body/spirit. Hopefully he will just bring his expertise of "body" to the situation and respect my individual needs and requests.
I remember asking a P.A working for my MD and his additude was awful.
Feel better!! Rats I thought you were going to be on for 30min shoot.😂
Never been asked and seen many drs. and too many surgeries.
Who in the hell would ask their doctor what their purpose in life is.... What is the path they were meant to take in life? Good grief....
Men have been encouraged since the 1960s to open up, be more transparent with their feelings. As a therapist I was part of that and when a man is stuffing feelings, he should open up TO A SAFE CAREGIVER/CARETAKER.
The problem now seems to be that with dispute over patriarchal dominance, men have been, for the most part, kind and caregiving and have transitioned a great amount of power to women.
This is not bad, per se, but it’s a bit of a slap in the face to well meaning men and boys who have deferred more to women in the name of equality only to be CRITICIZED for being weak, not working hard enough, not being the strong protector.
Well, women seemed to make it clear that they wanted to do those things, but a majority seem not to want the life that strategy leaves them with.
All of this to say that there are a lot of men and women out there that have been told to be a certain way then punished when they are that way, or find they don’t know their role/feel unfulfilled.
We live in a time when many people of both genders are, more than anything, confused about what is expected of them. Confusion as to expectations of you and your boundaries lead to…ANXIETY.
I have treated children most of my career. The confusion that I talk about effects Children’s both directly and through their parents. If daddy doesn’t quite get what is expected of a man, how can he teach that?
Please help the people you serve to develop a clear understanding of their purpose and role in life.
You are great. I like what you do. I would like to know more about the physiopsychology of Ketamine therapy. If there is a reference that you like, please advise.
Keep up the great work Dr. Kaveh!
Dr. R W
Thank you for the kind comments! What part about the ketamine therapy, specifically?
@@MedicalSecrets Thanks! Re: ketamine, I would like to know more about what state you are aiming for in the patient. I am assuming some level of mild hallucination. I have seen children in in-office dental sedation using ketamine. I never chose to use it. So, is the goal to put the patient just dissociated enough to consider their depressive or anxious thought/emotion/behavior pathways that they have not been able to consider doing a different way…I’m not sure though how you go about that…therapist in the room? Do you give patient suggestions to consider? Thanks for your time and input!
Bob
@@EVAdventuesRob you actually nailed it pretty well! Yes to nearly all of what you said!
@@MedicalSecrets Thanks! Any articles or texts that you would recommend on this? I’m a recently retired pediatric dentist and my first career was as a psychotherapist. Now just interested.
Thanks for all you do!
Bob
@@EVAdventuesRobI have MANY articles with sources on my website, have you read them? www.harmonyinfusion.com let me know what you think (hit the "learn" button at the top)
How often do you get Debriefed, for these procedures you are performing?
, I understand that Adrenaline addiction, I've been there, but Your mental state must be affected, I notice you discuss THE PATIENTS mental state, but what about yours?
CAUTION⛔BEWARE 🚫*PLEASE* don't follow this terrible advice! Asking a medical doctor metaphysical questions about how to find meaning and happiness is a great way to be seen as not only irritating and disrespectful, but out of touch with REALITY---aka "crazy." And once a patient is tainted with the "crazy" label, it becomes exponentially harder (sometimes impossible) to have your actual medical issues correctly evaluated.
Yes. Don't talk to doctors about happiness, or search for one who will listen to your concerns. Be just another body, and ignore this doctor talking about taking control of your own health.
Listen to bella, the neurotic youtube commenter with no credentials and excessive cynicism.
@@oxydoxxo Contrary to the sarcasm and personal attacks in your comment, I believe strongly that everyone should search for a doctor who will listen to their concerns. Indeed, that’s the only reason my semi-rare condition was diagnosed despite *multiple* doctors ignoring objective test results.
My comment IS about taking control of our health, in part by remembering that doctors are as prone to bias and mistakes as the rest of us (see below). That is well-documented, as is the human tendency to defer to experts even when they’re wrong.
That’s why actively calling on our common sense and critical thinking skills when dealing with *any* expert is an important life skill, perhaps even more so when their confidence, charisma, and academic credentials tempt us to abdicate responsibility.
GOOD advice can always withstand scrutiny.
There are countless studies on the information I referenced above, but the key takeaway from my original comment is the concept of DIAGNOSTIC MOMENTUM and helping doctors avoid it. This video is a good introduction to the topic: "Jake Tapper shares harrowing story of daughter's near-fatal misdiagnosis | CNN"
Medicine has a long history of incorrectly ascribing biological symptoms to mental illness. And since doctors often won't tell a patient directly that that's their working theory, it's important to raise awareness about this issue and how to avoid it.
For anyone reading this without having watched the video, Dr. Kaveh's advice I disagree with is summed up in his response to S L below. They wrote, "What exactly do we ask them again?"
He replied:
"Ask them about how to be HAPPY, MOTIVATED.. how to find your guiding forces, etc! THOSE are the questions good medicine should help us ultimately discover!"
Those are great questions to ask an *appropriate* person (psychologist, life coach...).
But advising people to ask an expert questions outside their field in an already too-short medical appointment to "anger your doctor to get you the care you deserve" is as irrational as telling someone to get good car repairs by angering their plumber with questions about spark plugs and headlights.
That's the kind of thing that makes people question someone's sanity, and mental health issues are a well-documented source of bias in medicine.
And unlike with a mechanic or plumber, you can't just switch doctors without leaving a trail.
With the advent of electronic medical records that are starting to be shared across insurance platforms automatically without patient consent, being labeled a delusional (and irritating!) patient could have literally lifelong consequences.
Proceed with caution! Being respectful, prepared, and concise is a much better recipe for getting good care, even with actual mental health issues.
Wow... asking a doctor a humanizing question is considered crazy? I should fear what goes into my "charts"? 😂 Helps me pinpoint which docs are the crazy ones for not being able to connect. Next!
You will get BETTER RESULTS if you ask "What symptoms once I get home should compel me to be seen right away by a provider?" If people with COVID-19 had asked that question and listened to the answer carefully we would not have lost so many people.
If you have the time and interest to be "the psychologist" , then go ahead. The comment that " no one ever asked this", etc,
Is reflective of a phone life, and not an introspective, reading, therapy life. I recommend therapy for growth!! And putting the phone down A LOT. But you are a caring MD!!
Dr. Do not about the. Patient mental health the target is just the surgery!
What's that?
Terrible advice that will get your doctor to not take you seriously while also accomplishing nothing. Purely harmful advice. Your video is also pointlessly meandering and merely serves to pat yourself on the back for your unscientific approach to medicine. At best you are not in a good place mentally and need some help, and at worst you are intentionally trying to attract less mentally fit clients that are more receptive to your questionable methods of treatment. Stay safe everyone.
Sounds like you need some continuing education to brush up on modern medicine because you seem to have a 1990s attitude towards "mental fitness". Go study the nervous system, with modern science we can see how it works. You probably live in a medically underserved area where the standards are in the toilet.
How could my life ever have mattered when the ANASTASIALOGIST wasn't even present as I bleed out when the neurologist cut the common illiac artery and vein durn a simple back surgury. I bleed out from that wound till I awoke in post op screaming. Where was he? Why didn't they check my blood pressure when I was transfered to the staff in post op? I still relive this negelct as it as yesterday. And no one has ever apologized. Dr. Michael Calhoun blamed me for his error stating I was too small to succeed in his surgical (I'm 5.0 feet tall) procedure