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  • Jordan Peterson's advice on marriage, relationships, life.
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    ⚠️ ABOUT DR. JORDAN PETERSON
    Jordan Peterson is a renowned Canadian psychologist, author, and professor, widely acclaimed for his profound insights into the human psyche and his contributions to the field of psychology. With an illustrious career spanning several decades, Peterson has earned a remarkable reputation for his thought-provoking ideas and transformative teachings.
    Peterson's academic achievements are truly exceptional. He holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology from the University of Alberta and has served as a professor at the University of Toronto. Throughout his career, he has published numerous influential papers and articles, making significant contributions to the field. Notably, his work on personality psychology and the psychology of religious and ideological belief systems has garnered widespread recognition.
    One of the striking indicators of Peterson's impact is his exceptional citation count on Google Scholar of over 20,000 citations. His research has been cited by scholars and researchers worldwide, highlighting the significance and relevance of his ideas. This recognition reflects the profound influence he has had on the academic community and the intellectual discourse surrounding psychology.
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  • @judithanntoole8900
    @judithanntoole8900 3 місяці тому +970

    My husband and I have been married for 41 years now. We still laugh and fool around like kids. We both came from very difficult upbringings and at one point I really thought our marriage wouldn’t make it.
    There are three things that saved us. One …and please don’t slam me , was Jesus Christ..I’m not trying to be preachy …that’s just the way it was for us…the ability to have fun…and the hope that He gave us, because we had lost any hope of our own.
    I feel so grateful.

    • @JoeSmith-gb4ng
      @JoeSmith-gb4ng 3 місяці тому +143

      Don't be ashamed about mentioning Christ, even if they do slam you. If more people would pay attention that relationships work best when God is the center of them then divorce wouldn't be so rampant in our society.
      God Bless you and your husband and here's to forever being together for you two.

    • @bbaer5442
      @bbaer5442 3 місяці тому +63

      I can honestly say the.same ... 25 yrs in and all Glory goes to Our God ❤

    • @bernaridho
      @bernaridho 3 місяці тому +37

      Yes, don't be ashamed. Even if some people feel it's preachy. Gods urge us not be ashamed of Them/Him.

    • @rosemarysanders1105
      @rosemarysanders1105 3 місяці тому +22

      Beautifully said, I can relate. An attitude of gratitude is a very good thing!

    • @BenWeeks-ca
      @BenWeeks-ca 3 місяці тому +10

      Were there 2 other things that saved you or was it a trinity thing entirely? (Am a believer too. :) )

  • @jordanfine7272
    @jordanfine7272 3 місяці тому +1765

    It's amazing that he played the piano the whole time he was talking.

    • @Hypothetical-Being
      @Hypothetical-Being 3 місяці тому +37

      That music was overlayed on his speech, he wasn’t playing it 🤓

    • @jenniferv
      @jenniferv 3 місяці тому +31

      hahahah right? wow! stop playin

    • @justicemoody
      @justicemoody 3 місяці тому +80

      @@Hypothetical-Being He was kidding.

    • @Dhruvbala
      @Dhruvbala 3 місяці тому +31

      @@Hypothetical-Being Haha. Subtle self parody with the ‘🤓’

    • @olibrooke7114
      @olibrooke7114 3 місяці тому +3

      I've seen people sing and play the piano, blew my mind

  • @derrickrr5516
    @derrickrr5516 3 місяці тому +430

    I’m 46. My wife and I had our first kiss 29 years ago. Play has been difficult for her. Her father was a MAD alcoholic. Never physically abusive but the emotional abuse and fear he instilled left its mark. She slowly became him, worse than him in some ways. I was playful and full of energy and optimism for so long. Eventually she broke me. Now I often feel like a pessimistic, negative person inside while trying to put on a happy face for my kids and my wife. But I never lost my persistence. I never completely give up. Almost every day I pick my wife up off her feet and give her a big huge hug for at least 30 seconds before setting her down. Sometimes I joke that I have to carry her around the house like a princess to get my daily cardio in. She won’t really let me tickle her and she has limited interests so I have to take what I can get. It helps, I think. Her mom once told me her heart is like an onion and you have to peel away the layers. I think when I pick her up and carry her around I peel away one layer. I don’t feel like I reach her heart often but I’m always one layer closer.

    • @beverlypearson5332
      @beverlypearson5332 3 місяці тому +9

    • @constancemasterson9582
      @constancemasterson9582 3 місяці тому +54

      You have a strong character. Thank you for sharing this word.

    • @Marie16240
      @Marie16240 3 місяці тому +23

      You are amazing to have so much hope in your heart for both of you ❤️‍🩹thank you for being you.
      I realized that my husband wouldn’t be there for me in this way and when I did all became broken and lost. We are still together, sort of, but I am suppressing heavy feelings of loneliness and sadness. I am not sure I’ll be able to do this for long.
      Take a good care of yourself! If you break, everything you’re holding together will to ❤️‍🩹

    • @figure15skater
      @figure15skater 3 місяці тому +22

      Being an adult child of an alcoholic is hard & your wife may benefit from Al anon. She’s so blessed to have you as her partner and I’m glad you posted this comment.

    • @mikec2845
      @mikec2845 3 місяці тому +7

      You sound a lot like my Dad, and it didn't end well in the end, but we had a lot of good times growing up.
      Sometimes people need to know the blunt, yet loving reality of your heart. Consider showing her this comment!

  • @MikoAnch
    @MikoAnch Місяць тому +28

    Been with my wife for 10 years now. Married 7. Still madly in love with her - still obsessed. She's all I think about when I'm not with her. Even when I fantasize about random things, I unconsciously always include her in there. The mother of my boys. The woman of my dreams. I am absolutely the luckiest man in the world.

    • @AnselGrey
      @AnselGrey 2 години тому

      That's amazing bless you man

  • @jread3312
    @jread3312 3 місяці тому +174

    This touched my heart deeply. At 80 years old, one of the treasures I have discovered about aging is the realization that I also can love others from every age that I have ever been. Now I know I'm not alone in this. :) God Bless

    • @AlwaysOn702
      @AlwaysOn702 3 місяці тому +2

      @jread3312 Say more about that. You can love others from every age? Are you referring to memories or people who you have met through your years?

    • @4.0.4
      @4.0.4 2 місяці тому +2

      At 80 you pretty much watched the downfall of civilization, and maybe even helped it (no judging), but rest easy knowing it's not gonna stay this bad for long.

    • @LaFonteCheVi
      @LaFonteCheVi 2 місяці тому

      Wise words

    • @Youtubeuser1aa
      @Youtubeuser1aa Місяць тому +1

      @@4.0.4well the actual downfall happened in the 1940s (saying that has happened now is silly and dramatic) so I guess if you’re 80 you missed that.

    • @Youtubeuser1aa
      @Youtubeuser1aa Місяць тому

      When do you have peaceful acceptance of death? Have you?

  • @OzSafe1
    @OzSafe1 3 місяці тому +103

    Our family (6 kids, 10 grandkids) and friends laugh at our endless play. My wife and I have our own unique language filled with certain looks, words and sayings. We laugh at our own quirky habits and idiosyncrasies which too, are part of our play. Normal, healthy children play when they know their father loves them and my wife and I know we have a Father in heaven who loves us, and that’s why we’re always playing.

    • @TheLazyLifterr
      @TheLazyLifterr 3 місяці тому +2

      Gosh that word idiosyncrasies brings me back to the first time I watched Good Will Hunting. God bless you and your family 🙏🏼

    • @judithanntoole8900
      @judithanntoole8900 3 місяці тому +1

      It’s a blessing to have such a happy way with each other. Thanks for sharing.😊

    • @frozenrogue8970
      @frozenrogue8970 2 місяці тому

      I love that: healthy children play..

  • @stephanienonyabeezwax1288
    @stephanienonyabeezwax1288 2 місяці тому +50

    My husband and I still play. Making each other smile in the moments the other isn’t expecting it, is perfect. Last wk we left my parents house when our 6yr old yells from the back that her brother, 1 yr old, pooped. So we pulled over at the end of the neighborhood street. I got out and checked, so my husband said he’ll pull over into the grass more. I walked a few ft away, he back backed up, and as he started forward, I threw my hand on my hip, straightened one leg, and popped my thumb up for a ride. He went from 😐😏😄. His whole mood changed after that. Not that he was in a bad mood, but it was lighter now. Doesn’t take much. We as adults, can get stuck in a groove. Work, survive, keep kids alive, clean house repeat repeat.. remember to have fun ❤

  • @Milestonemonger
    @Milestonemonger 3 місяці тому +80

    We've been married for 41 years. My husband and I love traveling and laughing together...at ourselves and each other 💘

  • @timpan0
    @timpan0 3 місяці тому +193

    How can you not like Jordan Peterson?
    Greetings from Sweden!

    • @Sloimer
      @Sloimer 2 місяці тому

      Kermit the Fraud

    • @MichelleNovalee
      @MichelleNovalee 2 місяці тому +12

      Hateful people hate good people.

    • @D1M1T
      @D1M1T 2 місяці тому +2

      some people are realists and have a balanced view. I overall like what ive seen from him, however he's fell into the addiction much like us so he's not beyond criticism, no one is. I could talk about his connection to Israel that's my main concern but make up your own minds.

    • @Mr.Ambrose_Dyer_Armitage_Esq.
      @Mr.Ambrose_Dyer_Armitage_Esq. 2 місяці тому

      He talks all about tyrannical evil and power dynamics but, fails to see or refuses to acknowledged that baleful influence via social and emotional manipulation on the part of XX used to exploit XY. He's unwittingly Guy Know Cent Rick and his daughter and wife are gradually taking over his platform and message to make millions and "return him to the fold". He began by caring about men and now he condemns those who advocate their sovereignty.

    • @StableColonel
      @StableColonel Місяць тому +1

      It really boggles the mind. They hated Jesus too.

  • @PowerRedBullTypology
    @PowerRedBullTypology 3 місяці тому +126

    You need 2 things: play and depth. Play for the easy times and dept for the long term (obstacles)

    • @robhulson
      @robhulson 3 місяці тому +6

      And then you have this moment of realization that many obstacles could be overcome if the right play were employed.
      Then life starts opening up its secrets to you.

    • @sharkfinn6469
      @sharkfinn6469 2 місяці тому +2

      And girth. It makes a huge difference

    • @Jules-740
      @Jules-740 2 місяці тому

      Play for the hard times and humor.

    • @robhulson
      @robhulson 2 місяці тому

      @@sharkfinn6469 And being able to stay hard and knock her in all the right places, with force. It’s like finding your own vampire energy, and vampire is one of the top five female fantasies.
      I like getting hungry for my woman and consuming her. I like being selfish. And that includes rocking her world.
      I won’t mention my own stats because I’m not a lunatic. But suffice it to say that the woman I’m with, who is a damn honest woman, has said that of all the “male energy rod” she has had, mine is the best she’s *ever* been given.
      I go from the heart AND the wolf.
      And we talk really frankly and honestly with each other.
      She’s quite the amazon woman herself. Speaks more truth than any woman I’ve been with. Remarkable lady I deeply admire.

    • @PhilosopherKing161
      @PhilosopherKing161 13 днів тому

      What’s ur socionics type? Cause I do remember seeing your comments to every single typology content here

  • @gwenaguilar7049
    @gwenaguilar7049 3 місяці тому +142

    Met my hubby at 14 and became instant best friends. My one constant. Took me 4yrs to see he was the one. We've been through a lot. I tell everyone that there are times I've wanted to to divorce my husband, but never have i wanted to give my best friend. We spend hours talking, sitting together watching tv and laugh hysterically. This is priceless. Jesus said that we must be like the children for the children will inherit the Earth. He was telling us to enjoy life and be like them.

    • @judithanntoole8900
      @judithanntoole8900 3 місяці тому +8

      Such a beautiful story, ours is much the same. Jesus is so good. His divine enablement carry’s is through the difficult seasons. Blessings ❤️to you and your beloved.

    • @nyquilsleepah
      @nyquilsleepah 2 місяці тому +4

      Also to trust in God as a Child would trust their parent.

    • @jeffhiggins808
      @jeffhiggins808 2 місяці тому +1

      Playful, innocent, honest, and no arrogance or pretense

    • @kelly4187
      @kelly4187 2 місяці тому +1

      My wife and I speak to young couples in our parish, and one of our important key messages we want to get across is “divorce should not be a word in your vocabulary”. Don’t even use it in jest, and if you are dissing your husband behind his back to your friends then that needs to stop: it is a sign of bad dysfunction. You are married for life… one of you has to die for this to end. Live intentionally like it.

    • @judithanntoole8900
      @judithanntoole8900 2 місяці тому

      @@kelly4187 Such great advice! I remember during that pivotal time in our relationship that was a decision that changed the trajectory of our marriage…divorce was off the table, and we also chose not to speak of it at all.
      I think when couples threaten each other, at first it really hurts but after a while of continually escalating…hearts harden …and they think this is where we’re going to end up, let’s just get it over with.
      Speaking well of your spouse…Amen!
      I am so happy to hear that you are helping married couples! That is something we need more of today, people like you and your wife believing that it is possible to turn the worst situation into the best situation. I can honestly say that if we hadn’t had a community believers we would have quit…because I know I truly had no hope.
      God loves marriage, He loves family. Keep doing what you’re doing your changing the lives of generations to come.
      Blessings to both you and your beloved.😊

  • @racothran
    @racothran 3 місяці тому +49

    "What do you see in someone you love when you see them with love?" 😢❤
    After having my first child, I have felt more love in my heart than ever. I am beyond ecstatic because of it, but now I see the gaps I have allowed in so many other relationships. My husband is one of them. (I have such a wonderful man in my life!!) Don't take them for granted, even if you feel like they have done the same to you. Be the START of change, always love with more ferocity. It only comes with intention!!
    I really really wish Jordan Peterson had a larger female following. I always feel so at ease when he speaks about enhancing your relationships. If what he says is his lifestyle, you can tell he really loves his wife.

    • @judithanntoole8900
      @judithanntoole8900 3 місяці тому +1

      Such a good word! Thanks for sharing. ❤

    • @Brigsgirl22
      @Brigsgirl22 3 місяці тому +3

      I'm a woman and I have followed him for a decade. There are quite a number of us out there. But yes, he definitely has a much wider audience of men following

    • @aprildawn82
      @aprildawn82 3 місяці тому +2

      There's something about becoming a parent that shows a person what true love is. It happened to me as well. ❤️

  • @KyleCollins-ny4em
    @KyleCollins-ny4em 3 місяці тому +245

    What a fairytale he’s gotten to live. Knowing his love since childhood.

    • @PowerRedBullTypology
      @PowerRedBullTypology 3 місяці тому +17

      @@KyleCollins-ny4em any fairy tale while being as depressed as him and his daughter were does not automatically seem like a fairy tale to me

    • @jazay591
      @jazay591 3 місяці тому +3

      I wonder how many guys she dated before she settled down with him

    • @PukikiQuaker
      @PukikiQuaker 3 місяці тому +11

      @@PowerRedBullTypology No matter how stable your home life is… working in healthcare will take an emotional toll. It is so hard that most people burn out.

    • @jdkayak7868
      @jdkayak7868 3 місяці тому +4

      I don't think they dated early on and he was born in the era and traditional location where it wasnt like nowadays e​@@jazay591

    • @christianlassen1577
      @christianlassen1577 3 місяці тому +7

      they've had all the rough scary adventures of a typical fairy tale, too

  • @hammer48ful
    @hammer48ful 3 місяці тому +15

    Been married 52 yrs. and it keeps on getting better. We try to work as a team through good and bad. Having dates is important so you can just enjoy each other. Like kids you can fight and make up and keep on going.

  • @Justyouraverageguy172
    @Justyouraverageguy172 3 місяці тому +41

    Just seeing and hearing this is so….revelatory for lack of better words. It does make sense now instead of treating marriage as a business like modern society lies to us about that it makes sense now with what I had in the 2 romantic relationships I had in my life at 28. There was a balance and it worked.

  • @andres.e.
    @andres.e. 3 місяці тому +87

    "I can see [my wife] at every age I've known her at the same time. What do you see when you see someone you love? - Jordan Peterson

    • @robhulson
      @robhulson 3 місяці тому +8

      This is extremely wise. The more we introduce the play of the various levels of our past into our present, especially from our childhood, the more sides of ourselves we show off to our partner.
      Honestly, and this is going to sound silly, but I feel like I have a harem with a single woman. My woman shows me so many sides of her personality that I find hopelessly mesmerizing and endlessly attractive, or sometimes just plain darn cute.
      This is what you don't get with an actual harem, whether simultaneous or sequential.

    • @andres.e.
      @andres.e. 3 місяці тому +1

      @@robhulson Interesting idea, the 'harem' thing.

    • @andres.e.
      @andres.e. 3 місяці тому +1

      @@robhulson And now that I think of it, the original JP comment can also be applied to our children, parents, siblings, long-time friends… It happens to me with my children sometimes.

    • @jeseljams9956
      @jeseljams9956 3 місяці тому +1

      I totally get this with my husband of 28 yrs. ❤️‍🔥💖💗

    • @maxonmendel5757
      @maxonmendel5757 2 місяці тому +1

      age play is fun

  • @martinlewandowski8782
    @martinlewandowski8782 3 місяці тому +19

    This man is what we need. Knowledge with a purpose to be better and help others with it ...

  • @davec.3198
    @davec.3198 2 місяці тому +7

    My wife and i have this and it allows us to laugh and joke no matter what happens. Life is absolutely wonderful and tragic at the same time. You have to cling to each other no matter what.

  • @HarmonicWave
    @HarmonicWave 3 місяці тому +18

    I didn't meet my wife until we were in our late twenties, but today is our 13th anniversary and we're still in love like when we first got married, feels like just a few years ago. We're just getting started with our life together.

  • @3lit3gn0m3
    @3lit3gn0m3 3 місяці тому +19

    When I was younger, one of the most important pre-conditions for a partner for me was always "It needs to be someone I'm friends with." To me, seeing people who are not friends, but are still a couple...has always seemed awkward and forced. When I hear them call eachother "honey" it seems forced, because that doesn't seem like something I'd call someone I'm genuinely close to.
    I'm not going to police what people call one another, it just seems strange to me. Being genuine seems to be the only way into a good relationship, and friendship is often one of the most telling things. If you don't like being around someone, you won't really be friends with them. If all you want from someone is to spend time with them and perhaps have fun, how is that not the ultimate pre-condition for marriage?
    To this day, I hold the same opinion. Friendship and being close outside of intimacy is the first requirement for things to continue.
    All that said, I'm not really searching anymore. Videos like this remind me of when I did, and it's interesting to think about, but there's no point stressing over something I can't force in the first place. Perhaps I'll never meet that person, but I think that's better than forcing a relationship with someone I can barely stand purely because I want to 'settle.'
    Hearing Jordan say something I've felt for a very long time was refreshing. He's a lucky guy to have met his wife when he did, and a smart guy for realizing what he needed to make of it when he did.

  • @createwithbarbbl4125
    @createwithbarbbl4125 2 місяці тому +3

    This is why I will always listen to this man. These are my favourite Jordan Peterson type talks.

  • @MarMaxGaming
    @MarMaxGaming Місяць тому +2

    “Prioritize Love, Truth, & Play” - Jordan Peterson
    Words to live by!

  • @michaelmarcus509
    @michaelmarcus509 3 місяці тому +10

    Thank you Mr. Peterson you’ve changed my life, I mean that truly. God bless you good sir.

  • @AprilSunshine
    @AprilSunshine 3 місяці тому +30

    Have you heard about the study of rats and play?
    They introduced just the smell of a cat, the smell of peril... and the rats never played the same again.

    • @dix_pack_of_sixie
      @dix_pack_of_sixie 3 місяці тому +11

      Damn, this shook the framework of everything I thought I knew. The truth at face value alone is stunning, but when you roll this through your mind for a bit, you realize, on just how many levels peril, stress, bills, etc, has fundamentally transformed you - for better or for worse. Sad that we have built and still maintain a society that works in opposition of everything we are and were meant to be. And all for profits to a few.

    • @theusher2893
      @theusher2893 2 місяці тому +1

      Rats are one of the VERY few animals to genuinely and probably show empathy (alongside ceteceans and select higher primates) so this isn't surprising.

  • @Bromarrr
    @Bromarrr 3 місяці тому +6

    So much wisdom every time I hear Dr. Peterson talk. Money doesn’t bring you happiness. Such a simple saying but people will devote their whole lives to it. Prioritize truth & love 🙌🏼

  • @MonsieurWhojee
    @MonsieurWhojee 3 місяці тому +5

    I had a similar vision of the afterlife (Paradise) in the hospital. I struggled to explain what I saw and felt. Jordan describes it perfectly. "Paradise is a place you play forever. And the play gets better and better."

  • @GaryTremblay-z7d
    @GaryTremblay-z7d 2 місяці тому +4

    I literally got a chill in my spine. I was married 25 years and had a wonderful marriage. Sadly she passed away 7 years ago. I am getting remarried in less than 2 weeks to a wonderful friend. Jordan hit the nail on the head. With my late wife and my fiancé we play. We always cook together and clean up the dishes together, we have fun together in everything we do. When you have it, it is wonderful

    • @ry2yb
      @ry2yb 2 місяці тому

      Happy for you!

  • @self0078
    @self0078 3 місяці тому +6

    Very beautiful message. God bless you JP and anyone on here!

  • @yakarin
    @yakarin 3 місяці тому +15

    That's so sweet and tender

  • @bitset3741
    @bitset3741 2 місяці тому +3

    Years ago my someone asked me who my best friend was, right in front of my wife, and she responded with "Me, of course"
    And I said "I think he means besides you"
    And after, I though NO, not besides her, She is me best friend, period.
    She is the closest friend I have ever had, and she should never be 2nd, or "besides", never taken for granted or overlooked.
    Since then I have thought about that tons of times, and really settled into and love the fact that she is my friend, my best friend.
    When I was younger I wished that we had been childhood sweethearts, but I was an idiot and would have messed that all up.
    We met when she was 18, and our friendship has been amazing for over 28 years now.
    Now I need to think about this "play" thing. We love to spend time together, and we do joke around and stuff.

  • @andreatorluemke4982
    @andreatorluemke4982 3 місяці тому +8

    One can always choose to see the person in front of them through the eyes of love. Amen❤❤❤

  • @bubbythebrow153
    @bubbythebrow153 2 місяці тому +4

    My wife and I get along really well. And after watching this it made me realize we play all the time. Sometimes we’ll be grocery shopping and I’ll just start running around the store and she will chase me. It’s childish but we laugh the entire time we’re doing it.

  • @grimjhaixus
    @grimjhaixus 3 місяці тому +5

    Needed this. Thank you.

  • @theusher2893
    @theusher2893 2 місяці тому +4

    Every woman I've tried a relationship with couldn't do this. There was something fundamentally broken in them that made them either controlling or cold or desirous of something that I couldn't give them, like the love of their father. They were roadblocks to becoming a whole person, and they attempted to shortcut that goal by filling in those gaps with a relationship. And every time, I'd have to tell them that I couldn't give them what it was that they needed to heal.

  • @friendlypiranha774
    @friendlypiranha774 2 місяці тому +1

    This message is so beautiful. Unfortunately I see very little of it in my friend's marriages. Most of them are just stuck with one another.
    Fortunately, I love and absolutely adore my Wife... because we play together. We share many hobbies. When she plays her scrapbooking, I'm right there with her helping her with the cutting out and sorting and arranging. I absolutely love watching her as she completely immerses herself into it and let's all her stress and worries go. When I play model trains, she is right there with me having fun with me. Because I let her 'into' my (railway) space, she completely embraced it. We have several other hobbies and interests that we share. And we share them equally. We've been doing this for donkey's years and it is always fun. There are no rules; we just immerse ourselves into each other and play like children. It is so fulfilling. Highly recommend it to all married couples.
    PS: She once tried my new radio controlled speedboat and wrecked it. She felt bad, but I just made her laugh and told her maybe that's not for us then. I love her to bits and I do know that if she had to go before me, I'd just wither away within 3 months. Love you My Baby 😍

  • @EnigmaticMindLLC
    @EnigmaticMindLLC 3 місяці тому +28

    Do you remember The Field of Dreams? The baseball player asked if that was heaven, because he got to play.

    • @Av-vd3wk
      @Av-vd3wk 3 місяці тому +3

      @@EnigmaticMindLLC no, it’s Iowa…

    • @MarshAgobert
      @MarshAgobert 3 місяці тому

      I don’t see that in the Gospels. I’m not all the way through it. I’ll take some direction. Point me in the right direction. Please. 🙏🏽

  • @Cuppatime-mj5rb
    @Cuppatime-mj5rb 3 місяці тому +5

    True and ‘of the essence.’ Pure good advice.

  • @APOStLEpaulie
    @APOStLEpaulie Місяць тому +2

    Married 13 years tomorrow...God's grace and mercy has carried us, play is the proof❤ BE GOOfY TOGETHER ❤️

  • @kendra7540
    @kendra7540 3 місяці тому +6

    Healed so glad you mentioned through the eyes of a child 🎯

  • @FirstLordFury
    @FirstLordFury 2 місяці тому +1

    This is a very beautiful video. I watched it at work without music, but I love it!

  • @MetaSiren
    @MetaSiren 2 місяці тому +3

    What about too much play, especially when something requires a serious mindset? My husband “plays” to the point where responsibilities take a back seat.

  • @jeffreyjohnston2445
    @jeffreyjohnston2445 3 місяці тому +10

    Play is important but I would suggest working together more important. Everything in life is to be worked at-including play.

    • @stevenholden2814
      @stevenholden2814 2 місяці тому

      Start filming all your lectures bro.

    • @jeffreyjohnston2445
      @jeffreyjohnston2445 2 місяці тому

      @@stevenholden2814 Lol! My missus barely lets me lecture let alone filming them!

  • @bettyhaines2570
    @bettyhaines2570 3 місяці тому +6

    Thank you Jordan Peterson 😊❤🙏💝

  • @badusername321
    @badusername321 3 місяці тому +4

    genuinely nice things to say sir. nice.

  • @jonathanwilson672
    @jonathanwilson672 3 місяці тому +6

    That is such a wonderful thing to know about you both Dr. Peterson...to have met as children and became lifetime friends in matrimony...i always thought regarding females..."if you don't like her first as a person...you can never truly love her"😂❤😂❤

  • @void6714
    @void6714 Місяць тому +1

    dude almost made my cry 4 times in one video. damnit peterson

  • @aguyandhiscomputer
    @aguyandhiscomputer 2 місяці тому +3

    Wife putting her arms around her husband, her head on his shoulder, her head on his stomach.
    I bet that feels wonderful.

  • @HolyBibleIsaiah43v15
    @HolyBibleIsaiah43v15 Місяць тому +1

    He said what you prioritize you worship. You should prioritize love & truth and not worship money. Great advice.

  • @gerrymcintosh4477
    @gerrymcintosh4477 3 місяці тому +4

    Thank you Dr. Peterson. Wish you well. 🇨🇦💝🙏🥩🥰

  • @amandanelson5067
    @amandanelson5067 3 місяці тому +2

    I really like some of the messages you share. There are things I don't and disagree with on judgements of people's pasts. Sometimes people go through hard times in life and have unpleasant chapters. That doesn't mean they are not capable of repairing themselves to make a better chapter come next. THIS message resonates with me. My soon to be ex-husband and I did not have this and he was a tyrant to me. Some relationships are like that... and some of life's lessons are a part of a season, or chapter, along the story... but that doesn't mean my story needs to end. As long as I have air in my lungs... THIS is where it is. When one accepts the other for who they are and embraces all of it to learn together and remember to have fun along the journey... that is sustainable and to be cherished in this fleeting world. 🙏💖

  • @lukenath6983
    @lukenath6983 3 місяці тому +3

    What a beautiful truth here

  • @jonathanadams4169
    @jonathanadams4169 2 місяці тому +3

    Some wives will say they want you to flirt more. I think play is effectively the same thing.

  • @ytmndan
    @ytmndan 2 місяці тому +5

    A fun game I like to play with mine is changing the default setting of the smart lights every few days, and then deny outright that the lights have gotten any dimmer. She's gonna laugh so hard when I finally tell her.

    • @JennaJanexxx
      @JennaJanexxx 12 днів тому

      Who knew Gaslighting could be wholesome 😇😂

  • @maryj7423
    @maryj7423 3 місяці тому +10

    The giggle 🥲😍

  • @rachelhendrickson7555
    @rachelhendrickson7555 3 місяці тому +3

    I agree with the parent first part but spouces should be friends first and elevate it to spouse

  • @artsie8282
    @artsie8282 3 місяці тому +3

    Love this video. My husband loves me to golf with him. We also hold hands and watch tv for two hours a night.

  • @shannoncaines1482
    @shannoncaines1482 2 місяці тому

    I needed this video so much! Thank you, Jordan Peterson!!!!

  • @mabelidove6813
    @mabelidove6813 Місяць тому

    Note to self: Prioritizing love and play 💖 do everything with love

  • @kyrareneeLOA
    @kyrareneeLOA 2 місяці тому +1

    Jordan, My lovely partner and friend turned to me and said..." but he didn't say "how to play.. why did he not give examples. I (men) need examples." Love this topic.💞 Please make more. 👏

  • @michaelrfalkowski2446
    @michaelrfalkowski2446 2 місяці тому

    Paradise is a place where you play forever. My kids sure agree. Thanks Doc.

  • @dawntie
    @dawntie 3 місяці тому +6

    Play is in the heart:
    Headed Heart
    Dismiss not,
    indifference felt,
    stoic and smart,
    sad to an art,
    his mind stole his heart.

  • @dutchcreek1
    @dutchcreek1 2 місяці тому

    Appreciative inquiry. Repeat the things that facilitate wellbeing. With specificity. Pay attention to the wins. Put whatever’s got you there on repeat. Binge watch that victory. Repeat.

  • @vladislavkaras491
    @vladislavkaras491 2 місяці тому

    Great speech!
    Thanks for the video!

  • @miriamstea6426
    @miriamstea6426 2 місяці тому +3

    My husband is way too serious, he has forgotten how to play! This makes me sad🥲

    • @ry2yb
      @ry2yb 2 місяці тому

      I understand.

    • @MarMaxGaming
      @MarMaxGaming Місяць тому +1

      It sucks when people become such hard asses, sometimes it happens over time with a lot of stress and responsibilities

  • @Pathfinder8789
    @Pathfinder8789 2 місяці тому

    Learn each other's love languages. That's not everything, but it greatly helps with understanding and grace.

  • @indepcalifvoter
    @indepcalifvoter 3 місяці тому +2

    Heaven as Field of Dreams. We have had fantastic water fights, hikes and walks and bike rides. 41 years and the happiest as a pair of kids!

  • @WarriorsPhoto
    @WarriorsPhoto 2 місяці тому +2

    Prioritize play. The lesson I was looking for. 😢
    It’s really that simple and I see those that are playing. 😮They do actually enjoy life so much more. 😊

  • @2009galactica
    @2009galactica 24 дні тому

    That was my live until my husband got dementia. He is basically a plant now. Not talking, not moving. 2 years already. I don’t know how to continue living my life. I still love him. 😢. I wish I could get JP advice

  • @qt4298
    @qt4298 13 днів тому

    My partner struggle to play for fun. We tried so many times to play together, always ends up she being upset, about losing or about negative things from the environment (for example other people she doesn’t like), till the point we don’t play often anymore, and this relationship is about to end imo. But playing is not giving us anything good neither since she is the one always like 100% will get mad in the end, we would also end up having argument or conflict with she trying to unleash the pressure on me, which makes both of us hurt. Just here to share one of my experience.

  • @markd774
    @markd774 3 місяці тому +3

    I keep inviting her to play but she seems to have an extremely long lasting headache 😂

  • @steventroyer1463
    @steventroyer1463 2 місяці тому

    Delightful.

  • @NahuelTomasViking
    @NahuelTomasViking 3 місяці тому +3

    I'd like this video to be seen for all the world we living. All people shall have 4 minutes to pay attention. I love Dr. Jordan B. Peterson with all my heart and Soul 🥹💖

  • @paul7000
    @paul7000 2 місяці тому

    Can I get this video without the music? Is it available? Thank you

  • @ronashman8463
    @ronashman8463 3 місяці тому +1

    Dear Lord, thou hast poured wonderful wisdom into this man.

  • @ArlindoBuriti
    @ArlindoBuriti 2 місяці тому +2

    Just like me and my wife... 5 years as a girlfriend and 3 as a wife... since day one we even said that it was like we knew one another because how we played and even to this day we laugh and fool around with one another... she always has a smile on her face when she is with me... yeah bro, this is true... all I see around me and her are people with their faces shut no smile... but we are happy , her mother even say that we are like a dorama couple. Hahahaha

  • @Eatbutternow
    @Eatbutternow 3 місяці тому +4

    I don’t like playing. I guess that must be why I suck at relationships.

    • @MarMaxGaming
      @MarMaxGaming Місяць тому +1

      People do enjoy some fun, and bring around folks that are fun

    • @odelekevictor3895
      @odelekevictor3895 Місяць тому +1

      You have the power to change. We have the power to evolve. You will be better for it.

    • @shaddjimenez4524
      @shaddjimenez4524 Місяць тому

      How about as a kid? When you were a kid?

  • @jeremyn.1000
    @jeremyn.1000 2 місяці тому

    Jordan has saved so many things in my life. Things I haven’t even lost yet.

  • @josebotelho427
    @josebotelho427 2 місяці тому

    I thought it was about play as in the word "forePLAY" but this is so much better, as you can keep it going on and on and on for centuries to come... Love is eternal

  • @sparrowhawk5673
    @sparrowhawk5673 2 місяці тому +3

    I spent years trying to prioritize love and it just didn't work out for me I got too much rejection that it just ate me up from the inside out.
    Now deleting the need to have someone else approval or acceptance has brought so much more peace for me. Not that I'm mean I'm not. Yet God's approval and love is all I need. Will never reject me and will always over love me.
    ********
    As for prioritizing play... it took me years to grow up. 35 years old and was still with the mind of kid. For many years I usually got along better with kids than people my own age. Yet giving that up allowed me to let go of foolishness and Fantasies and brought me to reality. Allowing me to finally take what I didn't have desires I wasn't going to get anymore. Everyone else grew up and didn't want to be with someone unlike their age.

  • @endasil
    @endasil 2 місяці тому

    Anyone know a version of this without background noise? It's driving me crazy. Way too loud compared to the speech.

  • @LeeElmore-hq6gi
    @LeeElmore-hq6gi 3 місяці тому +2

    Wow. I understand it finally. It’s how I’ve always felt.. but to just find somebody like that. That’s what my marriage just don’t work I’m a lot of fun and I love to play and swim and fish and ride motorcycles and whatever.. just go through the country for a ride.. and then there comes the jealousy that I might be just as smart as the male. that’s always what breaks us apart and their infidelity. They needed a woman to make them feel better. I picked the wrong ones

  • @roqclimber
    @roqclimber 2 місяці тому +8

    I'm not married, so I just Play with Myself!

  • @liguania
    @liguania 3 місяці тому +3

    Love this So Much!

  • @thegamingrelish9272
    @thegamingrelish9272 2 місяці тому

    Fun, intimacy and communication

  • @petermincher4063
    @petermincher4063 2 місяці тому +2

    The book of thomas is not gospel but a religious add on. Great video

  • @SardonicDog
    @SardonicDog 2 місяці тому

    Beautiful thoughts.

  • @musicgroopie1
    @musicgroopie1 14 днів тому

    I just retired and my wife is six years older than me and retired a decade before me. I would always try and leave work at work and come through the door with a playful smile and a hug. Even when she reciprocated, it seemed forced. Whenever fun music comes on in the house I do silly dance moves and I'm constantly trying to make her laugh. She grew up with a not so good step father and her mother emotionally abandoned her. She was responsible for taking care of the house and her baby sister. She got pregnant at 16 and was forced into an adoption. We are both in our second marriage now and have been married 25 years now. She has lost her laugh and smile i remember from when we first started dating. My parents were not very accepting of me marrying an older person. Now that I'm retired I'm home with her all day and I am bound and determined to bring back that smile i fell in love with although at times it wears me out and depresses me. The good news is in Heaven we will be together forever with jesus's promise that all tears will be gone. No more fear, sadness, despair , just eternal life with perfect bodies and minds

  • @CPE-j1u
    @CPE-j1u 3 місяці тому +2

    Jordan - the great man

  • @sharielf
    @sharielf 3 місяці тому +1

    The more I play the more God works. Love you Dr. Peterson and your wonderful family!

  • @nanoplanck
    @nanoplanck 2 місяці тому

    We should consider ourselves lucky to have JBP in our times, what a great human being!

  • @kelly4187
    @kelly4187 2 місяці тому

    This is very interesting to hear after reading Bishop Robert Barron say .”The Mass is one of the most useless things…in the sense that it isn’t something that we do to achieve something for us. It is the supreme form of PLAY… something you do simply out of joy and relationship and love”

  • @kevinsperling4973
    @kevinsperling4973 2 місяці тому

    thank you Jordan

  • @yoramsaul
    @yoramsaul 3 місяці тому +8

    This video would be better without AI “music”

  • @RedRoosterParty
    @RedRoosterParty 2 місяці тому

    This would be better if the background music wasn't overpowering Dr. Peterson's speech.

  • @Bart-Did-it
    @Bart-Did-it 2 місяці тому

    Pixar’s Up explained it well
    play, love , connection ,life and loss.
    I’ve never stopped playing in all aspects of life it’s how I’ve gotten so far in life or I get sad.
    My work is play I build houses and all sorts of things cuz it’s fun never stop playing just keep it real to the situation .

  • @markp.5618
    @markp.5618 2 місяці тому +1

    Loving this and the enthusiasm but got stuck on Gospel of Thomas.😅

  • @krissekrill
    @krissekrill 23 дні тому

    thats deep

  • @Grateful4life4time
    @Grateful4life4time Місяць тому

    Beautiful

  • @SaintMohair
    @SaintMohair 2 місяці тому

    Paradise Is a place where you play forever ♾️
    And the game just gets better and better.

  • @ChristnThms
    @ChristnThms 3 місяці тому +2

    The vast majority of women, a growing majority as the generations teach each other, absolutely hate to see the men in their life having fun unless he's focused entirely on her.
    This isn't just wives. It's daughters, sisters and mothers too.
    In fact, it's even women he doesn't know, though proportional to their awareness of him.
    This idea of play cannot exist when one side resents the other side for their joy.

    • @WadeHarris-v3f
      @WadeHarris-v3f 3 місяці тому +3

      Much truth to that observation, sadly. And true that the play must be unselfish to really be effective glue. The other side of that coin is that one should not play with others or alone more than he/she does with their spouse. I am so grateful that God gave me a wife that is not jealous of me spending time with a friend, my dad, etc. I encourage the same for her. And neither of us abuses that freedom. We make sure we are each other's most frequent playmate.